I'm 17 and in a transphobic household. In middle school I had transphobia myself, I believed things I heard. It is crazy to think how much I've changed and learned over the last four years, much in part to TH-camrs like you. Thank you
If you were born with XY chromosomes, you're a male. If you were born with XX chromosomes, you're a female. Your family probably doesn't expect falsehoods and don't play along with deceptions
Samantha has really made me feel better about being trans overall and has made me more confident in being trans. She helped me realize that I am valid and loved. Thank you, Samantha
One of my kids is autistic (and perfect), and he likes to talk about what categories things are in. Sometimes he randomly and forcefully tells people, "I'm a boy. I'm NOT a girl!" Memes like the Simpsons one are why I'm always low-key anxious somebody is going to get all like, "Hey, are you telling this kid he has to be a girl?!" I'm not telling him anything either way! He just likes declaring!
I'm more concerned about you not teaching him to work on outbursts for his older years when he's in the body of a grown man screaming at random people. Loving your child despite their flaws is commendable, not telling him either way at 4 is not the same as not telling him when he's 7, or 10, or 16. He just likes declaring, and this world is filled with other types of people who might respond in a way you aren't considering. He could trigger someones PTSD and they start stabbing, he could declare it loudly at a person with a dog who is protective of their owner, he could declare it to a cop who likes to use their badge as a means to abuse the public under the guise of serving.... there are far more important things to be worried about in the long term, than someone being suspicious of you being like Jazz Jennings mom.
Same! 1985: “You’ll never be a real man!” 2020: “You’ll never be a real woman!” Even though I transitioned, it’s like I still have more self-consistency than insecure detractors
I was respectful of other people, but I did feel uncomfortable around trans people. So funny thing there, I was really just me being uncomfortable with myself. Now that I accepted who I am, and I'm living as my authentic self, that kind of disappeared.
I thought it was her real hair in her last video, but I agree, this is totally her colour. If she ever decides to dye her hair, it should be this shade
@@SarastistheSerpent this color is specifically called cherry cola, it's really trendy rn and it does look very good on her! i think she would slay with a black-to-cherry cola ombre!
8:32 I was “dating” someone in middle school and my dad would call “him” my “girlfriend” because we’d do each other’s makeup and play with Barbies. Now, she’s a girl and I’m bisexual. (We’re not dating, but we’re still friends.)
I was transphobic when I was growing up. I didn't know better. I was a product of my time. I've improved a lot and now I'm much more aware of how my thoughts, words, and actions impact others.
Thank you. It warms my heart to hear that. With everything being so polarized these days, I feel like no one is willing to progress. And yet growth and progress are what make this world such an amazing place .
@@konyvnyelv. I’m sorry that you’re feeling so bad. I know how it is to hate. That dark, painful feeling that pulls on you. It makes you feel miserable and makes you want to share that misery with others. Repressing myself lead me to drugs and lots of jail. I hated my existence until I hit a breaking point in my life and decided I either accept myself as the beautiful trans woman that I am, or end it. Fortunately I’m a mother of 3 and decided for them that I’d at least try being myself. And once I came out, the world began to brighten. Now I’m sober, working, raising my kids and for the first time ever I’m actually enjoying this strange and beautiful journey we call life. I’m telling you this because I know how it is, and I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be that way. I’m not sure what your underlying issues are, but they are surmountable. And if you can move past the things that have scarred you, there is a beautiful world out there waiting for you. May live shine down on you😊
@@petervizzini4006 If you believe it so much why don't you go speak to the doctors who are "forcing kids to transition" in person It can't be hard since apparently it's clearly always happening everywhere Yet you are just here complaining about it online Go stop them then
@@petervizzini4006 Let's not forget that mental health professionals and surgeons who go through many years of intense studying and sacrifice to be specialists are giving away $40K - $100K+ cosmetic surgeries and counseling to children, and risk throwing away their careers especially when elective plastic surgery is not even legal until age 18 in most countries globally. Doh!!
I have heard of only ever one case of a cis child being told that they were trans. It happened several years ago in England, where a single mother was so obsessed with the notion that her son was transgender that she dressed him as a girl, and continually told him he was such. Eventually, the police and the local social work department (who handle child protection in the U.K.) became involved, and the child was placed in care. The story only came to light however because the media got hold of it, and the right-wing British press inevitability used it to go on the attack of ALL transgender people, despite the fact that neither the child nor his misguided mother were trans. And of course, the same press also lambasted all single mothers based on this one woman. They also heaped praise on the Social Workers, which was utter hypocrisy, considering that Social Work is usually another favourite target for right-wing hacks.
wait til the transphobes find out cis women have been using HRT to treat menopause for decades ALSO I SAW A MEME that an actual medical journal cited all of the nicknames for transfem HRT like "titty skittles" and "anticistamines" and "antiboyotics" and "the notorious HRT" and i LAUGHED MY ASS OFF Y'ALL ARE SO CLEVER!!
Or until they find out that the Testosterone Replacement Therapy transphobes like Rogan are on is LITERALLY gender affirming care. It's a type of hormone replacement therapy. They think they're body isn't making enough of the man hormone, so they want drugs to replace the missing hormones. But don't worry, that won't be banned as gender affirming care, even though it literally is...
I was never transphobic per se, but I definitely had some wrong ideas (I’m cis btw). I thought trans women kind of were reducing being a woman to things like makeup and dresses, when to me being a woman was other people treating me as a woman, but my understanding of gender has become a lot more nuanced since then
@@konyvnyelv. Whatever you decide 🤔 lmao. Even though they frequently talk about climate change and LGBTQIA+ rights/acceptance and have an episode featuring drag queens including Rupaul, and an episode dedicated to de-stigmatizing sex work.
I'm leftist but by modern woke standards it IS conservative. That's not the fault of right wingers, it's because if you label everything as "far right" then guess what, most people and things are now on the right of the spectrum because you've shifted it so far. Simpsons had a 'brownface' character for years, now that is racist apparently. The show didn't change, society did. I'm not even saying that's a bad thing, just that some people have chosen to make the Simpsons conservative, and it wasn't their creators. Think of it the other way around, if someone say that anyone who believes in free healthcare is a "communist", well they now have to live with the fact that according to them maybe half the country or more are "communist".
@@alliedatheistalliance6776 You are wildly misled and sensitive about things that hardly matter. If this is what you need to tell yourself to sleep at night, you’ve already failed the maturity test.
The "is that a man or a woman" meme... the kid asking is pretty accurate. As a guy with long hair I heard that a lot when I was younger along with "mam why does that man have long hair" so yeah kids do ask that. Most parents I've encountered will usually reply with "why don't you ask them?" Or "because they want to" I still remember o e little girl about 20 years ago in Ireland asking her dad why I had long hair and when he replied "well if you want to know why don't you ask him" then she shyly replied "I don't want to know you do you ask him" me and the dad were both trying our best not to crack up
I was a TERF before I found out I was trans. My anger was directed to trans women because I thought that being a woman was unbearable and that everyone who liked being a woman was lying. (I also thought this about cis women) I was also angry because I didn't understand why you would 'give up' being a guy, because I wanted to be one. Then I said it was in the name of feminism. Luckily, I wasn't active online when I was a TERF, but that's why I held those beliefs.
Have none of you been around kids, they have no filter at all. My Ex was 6' 3" with 64" hips, the amount of kids I heard say "she's really tall" or "that lady has a big butt" was almost daily. So yes kids are saying "is that a boy or girl" or "why is that man wearing a dress". Yes those are teachable moments about manners, but a trans person will still be that teaching moment.
2nd meme: So, my gf of 10 years is trans, and when I started dating her my niece heard her voice over the phone in the background while we were chatting. Out of nowhere my 5 year old nice is like "who was that?" Me: My girlfriend Her: Your girlfriend kinda sounds like she's your boyfriend. Me: Well she's a girl. Lots of girls sound like boys. It does, happen. It's not often, but it does. My sister was going through a divorce at the time with her super conservative ex and we were genuinely worried about her losing my niece if she started talking about trans stuff (NC life man...) so we weren't really explaining things at that point. We'd usually just be like, "nope, this is what it is and you can take it or leave it kiddo." Most of the time though, kids do just love my gf's colorful hair.
I never understood why people need to get it others lives. I also as a mother could never disown my son if he decided that he wanted to transition any parent who could makes me upset. I'm definitely not what my parents expected of me but they love me for me, well most of them lol. Love your content. Thank you for sharing ❤❤
Thank you so much for giving a wonderful, thoughtful voice to these issues and sticking up for a whole community of folks who more often than not are underrepresented or just..demonized. myself I'm just a lil ol' boring cis fella but I'm in love with a woman who happens to be trans, and you offer help and insight sometimes with questions I feel maybe silly asking or don't even know the right way to do so, but..just thank you for being cool!
Me: *has chest dysphoria and thinks about being the opposite gender way too much* im not trans right? Riiighghhhtt?…. Everybody in the trans community: *. . .* Me: *right…?*
I need you to teach me how to make wigs 😭 I feel like that’d be so fun. 2:23 also this part made me think of Disney when Demi was like “this is real, this is me, I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be” and bursted out laughing for no reason at all🌝😭😭😭💀
I’m a trans guy but that meme about the high T woman / men can’t get pregnant meme got me thinking that I might have high T, I have a very masculine face, build and voice for someone who’s biologically female. guess I got a head start lol
5:52 I grew up in a very homophobic and transphobic household, and I listened to and did horrible bigoted things at the encouragement of my adopted parents. Then, my birthmom came out to me as a lesbian, and it shook my worldview to the core. Afterwards, I realized that I could either be completely true to myself, and live as a pan trans guy, or live the rest of my life in that same major depression and unchecked issues, as a straight girl. I’m 21 now, I’ve started medically transitioning, I’ve been to therapy, I’m working with myself, I have other queer people in my life that I love, and I’m so grateful that I was able to grow out of that horrible household
Cheers to Labor day weekend. As always you tell it how it is. People will always have differing opinions and mindsets, we just have to help each other out the best we can! We are all human.
I'm gonna be real: despite living in a transphobic household, my dumb ass didnt know trans people existed because i was somehow ignorant. Until high school, when I befriended a trans kid and realised "oh cool". Anyways i dated a transwoman for 3 years and my transphobic sister always used the wrong pronouns and I disowned her
Honestly I don't think that I was ever transphobic. I don't think that I was the best ally, but I always thought how painful and difficult it would for someone be to be born in the wrong body. Weirdly I was actually a bit homophobic when I was younger (not that it's a sliding scale) and I came out as bisexual a couple of days before my 49th birthday (I'm 51 now). In some ways I wish that I had the courage to come out when I was younger, I think it was fear of being discovered that caused my homophobia, in others way I'm OK with it because I have a wonderful and supportive partner (the first person I came out to) and wonderful and supportive children who I might not have if I had of come out when I was younger.
I came out as a trans woman when I was 47. I wish I could have done it decades earlier. I was never transphobic, but I used to have a lot of toxic opinions about women, simply because I was jealous.
@@electronics-girl It's very easy to say to say don't live with that regret, you have probably heard that a lot, I am happy for you because you are now able to be your true self. Past experience helps make us who we are, sometimes we don't have what we need to do some things (like supportive/understanding people or even being able to accept ourselves). I guess that I am trying to express encouragement and happieness for you, but in an awkward way.
My daughter has asked the “is that a man or a woman?!” Louder than necessary - but that was when we saw someone cross dressing in a very obvious and not drag looking way. To which I just asked her what she thought then taught her about using they/them if you’re not sure. Not that I think it really stuck, but yknow. Baby steps.
I used to be transphobic when I was 13. I believed a lot of shit, which is crazy since I was identifying as a trans boy only two years earlier. Thankfully I began to think for myself and when I was 14 I realised I was non binary.
5:57 I grew up in a home where lgbt+ people were barely even mentioned, so I didn't even really know they existed lol But then when I was 10/11 we moved to a condo, and one of our (our = me and my sister) friend's brother was gay, and very open about it (he wouldn't say anything explicit, we were kids and he was responsible. But he would use he/him pronouns everytime he'd talk about his partner, and was very comfortable dressing and "acting" feminine). And he was such a sweet person, really so so nice, would always bring us some cool snacks and stuff just because. So when my parents started being a bit more vocal about their homophobia (it was 2014, people in general were more vocal about being lgbt, so homophobes started being more vocal too), I was like "but why are people so against it? My friend's brother is so cool and friendly, why would he be a bad person just for liking guys?" And then, let's say I "discovered women" 👀 and was like "ooooh, I like women, cool", then "oh wait, I like boys too", and when I found out about the term pansexual I went "hey this is me!" Then life hit me hard with the realization I was trans, and I was already like "oh well, makes sense". So I never really had the "homophobic because I was secretly lgbt" thing, I was more shocked at how OTHER people were lgbtphobic when it literally changed nothing in their lives I do have to point out tho that I found out recently that I am autistic, and that is probably the reason why I was never fond of societal norms and tradition lmao
Yes! I was homophobic before I came out as gay. I don’t know why. My parents are very pro LGBT, and I didn’t grow up around homophobia. But I just really wanted to be straight for some reason.
Can you make a video about what’s happening in Texas right now? DPS and Vital Statistics just announced that they will no longer allow trans Texans to change the gender marker on their birth certificates or their drivers licenses
I just gotta say, there is something eye-catching about your look today! I love the nude eye paired with the bold Auburn wig...it's a bit of a study in contrast! And it's really making that fun necklace pop! 😍 Thanks for another fun, informative video. I love your content! ❤
I do love your look with this hair, but even more than that, it really made me feel better about my hair to see you wearing a wig. I have to wear one, and sometimes I have mixed feelings about it. Thank you. You're awesome ❤
I love the Simpsons. At some point, I stopped watching the episodes but I'm currently catching up and I'm already in Season 33 :.D To use Waylon for this first meme...the audacity. I hope this isn't too much of a spoiler but he's a drag queen under the name Mysterious Waylon and I love it 😄 I mean there are some "difficult" episodes that kinda aged like mild.
i wasnt transphobic when i was younger bc i didnt even know about it, i was homophobic tho lol until i learned better at 12, a year later i realized i like girls and found out what being transgender was so as i was already accepting of my own sexuality, it was easy to support trans ppl... but ended up being trans too lol
if a kid is asking "is it a man or a woman" its 100% because the parent or some other adult in said kids life goes off on transphobic rants with them in the room often
I am a man and i was pregnant. Transphobes can say what they want but even without t or surgerys people call me he and sir in public so.Its all a social construct to begin with. I mean gender i am not delusional.
@AustinAce-u3k sorry to interject, but not everyone thinks being a man is about being as manly as you can? Being a man isn't about what society deems If society decided you were no longer a man, you wouldn't just stop being a man?
@@rachele183 Yes definitions of what is 'manly' vary according to era, a man isn't always about being a typical chad/jock, working out, big muscles, big loud deep voice, big tats, walking like John Wayne with a stick up the backside and smoking 30 Marlboroughs a day, drinking a keg of beer either. Men have had unfortunate accidents/cancer etc in the past and ended up losing their genitals as a result, they didn't suddenly stop being a man because of that. As the word 'man' is a social construct in that it is a descriptor for expected roles played in society. Attitude and patterns of behavior, the gender one most strongly relates to being and feels they belonging to without a doubt.
Imane Khelif may or may not have high testosterone. We actually don't know. I guess it can be reasonable to infer that it's higher than baseline -- intense physical activity is known to elevate testosterone -- but without a blood test we're just guessing. And a test given by an obviously biased organization doesn't really count as that.
I had a transphobe arc and I've been told it's ok but it really wasn't and I'm always going to feel horrible. I've known since I was two. I've known and I had a transphobe arc anyway. Yes it was to blend in with family and friends but I ditched most of those friends and my family is all supportive now, MOSTLY . . . some are still working through stuff but like I was on every antidepressant, mood stabilizer, and other mental health medication out there and nothing worked and most stuff made my health worse. Started just socially transitioning and taking herbal supplements and low dose E cream and my health improved a bit. Started HRT and it's a lot better. My brother is a massage therapist and tried working on my super knocked muscles for years with no luck. He worked on me after HRT and said he doesn't know what I'm taking but he can feel it works because my muscles are manageable now. So yeah. Between nothing else working and physical evidence of transitioning working, I've made allies out of bigots. Go figure ^_^ A few important points: 1. I'm not "cured" of mental health issues, just able to recover finally, still have depression and severe anxiety . . . maybe that's more a reflection of the world we live in? 2. HRT isn't a cure-all. It helped my mental health without therapy, more so now with therapy, but it isn't a cure-all. It is not a cure-all!! Go to therapy! Please!
One, I had no clue. I saw someone who was funny, sweet and well spoken about issues that I know little about but one that drew me in: injustice. So forgive me if this comes across as offensive or insensitive but I’m just here to applaud your courage and offer hugs and support. Take care.🤗🤗🤗
I’m not a transformer but I can see how a parent would be surprised, doesn’t mean they should shame you or discard you from the family. Surprised? Sure, but be supportive.
i was never transphobic on purpose since i never knew what trans people were, but i would have been super supportive if i knew and i probably would have figured out myself sooner. i did accidentally hurt someone though. they were in my art class and i thought their preferred name was just a nickname. i kept using their deadname because i thought i wasn't close enough to use their "nickname", and i never picked up on how uncomfortable it made everyone. i don't fault them at all but i wish they told me directly that they were trans so that i could have looked it up, but i think they didn't tell me directly to avoid my parents going on a tirade or taking me out of a class. i might have hurt other people but i hope i didn't. my parents weren't necessarily transphobic with hate, but they believe everything fox tells them and i'm sure they never told me in hopes that i'd never find out what it is. i kinda-sorta came out one time and they're supportive of me and my friends, but they still believe everything fox says abt trans people. i'm guessing its an "i can't be transphobic, i have trans friends" type of thing but i can't really change their minds at this point.
3:24 what's so funny about that one is how the "trans" "character" has major Karen energy when the type of person who would actually say that IRL is 100% Karen.
*Looks down* “It feels good to go to therapy. I feel like a real person again.” Maybe try another therapist who will be honest with you? You don’t feel shame, I know, but don’t convince others not to simply not shame them, but to truly love them. I hope you understand like all other de-transitioners!
I'm 17 and in a transphobic household. In middle school I had transphobia myself, I believed things I heard. It is crazy to think how much I've changed and learned over the last four years, much in part to TH-camrs like you. Thank you
Sameeeee
Omg literally same, even down to being 17 :o
I was in the same situation too but I turned 18 a few months ago and now I'm on my own.
Stay strong and ily 💜
If you were born with XY chromosomes, you're a male. If you were born with XX chromosomes, you're a female. Your family probably doesn't expect falsehoods and don't play along with deceptions
I’m literally not at all the same, but I felt left out lol
Samantha has really made me feel better about being trans overall and has made me more confident in being trans. She helped me realize that I am valid and loved. Thank you, Samantha
One of my kids is autistic (and perfect), and he likes to talk about what categories things are in. Sometimes he randomly and forcefully tells people, "I'm a boy. I'm NOT a girl!" Memes like the Simpsons one are why I'm always low-key anxious somebody is going to get all like, "Hey, are you telling this kid he has to be a girl?!"
I'm not telling him anything either way! He just likes declaring!
As a autistic person, I’m trying to understand the context
He is the declarer, he declares. The only context I need
Bad parenting 101
@@thatoneguy58609*good
I'm more concerned about you not teaching him to work on outbursts for his older years when he's in the body of a grown man screaming at random people. Loving your child despite their flaws is commendable, not telling him either way at 4 is not the same as not telling him when he's 7, or 10, or 16. He just likes declaring, and this world is filled with other types of people who might respond in a way you aren't considering. He could trigger someones PTSD and they start stabbing, he could declare it loudly at a person with a dog who is protective of their owner, he could declare it to a cop who likes to use their badge as a means to abuse the public under the guise of serving.... there are far more important things to be worried about in the long term, than someone being suspicious of you being like Jazz Jennings mom.
Exactly. I was severely bullied and called a girl my entire life and once I came out as non-binary it’s been a hard “you’re just a man” ever since…
Same!
1985: “You’ll never be a real man!”
2020: “You’ll never be a real woman!”
Even though I transitioned, it’s like I still have more self-consistency than insecure detractors
Oh I went through the exact same stuff. Now that I’ve transitioned it a different type of hate
LMAO WHYD THEY MAKE THAT SWITCH?
I was respectful of other people, but I did feel uncomfortable around trans people. So funny thing there, I was really just me being uncomfortable with myself. Now that I accepted who I am, and I'm living as my authentic self, that kind of disappeared.
@@voltijuice8576 True, it takes transitioning to make one what they were not considered by anyone beforehand.
THE WIG LOOKS GOOD GIRLL !! 🩷🫶
Wait, it's a wig??
@@illiterate_g0blin did you not watch, like, the first 2 seconds of this vid?
I thought it was her real hair in her last video, but I agree, this is totally her colour. If she ever decides to dye her hair, it should be this shade
@@SarastistheSerpent this color is specifically called cherry cola, it's really trendy rn and it does look very good on her! i think she would slay with a black-to-cherry cola ombre!
literallyyyy i love it but i loveee her black curly hair its so beautiful😫😫
Samantha is just so fun and comforting to watch.
Imagine getting pegged by this dude
8:32 I was “dating” someone in middle school and my dad would call “him” my “girlfriend” because we’d do each other’s makeup and play with Barbies. Now, she’s a girl and I’m bisexual. (We’re not dating, but we’re still friends.)
sweet 😊
I used to be transphobic but now I'm nonbinary. Turns out, I just hated myself and thought being awful to others would help.
I was transphobic when I was growing up. I didn't know better. I was a product of my time. I've improved a lot and now I'm much more aware of how my thoughts, words, and actions impact others.
Thank you. It warms my heart to hear that. With everything being so polarized these days, I feel like no one is willing to progress. And yet growth and progress are what make this world such an amazing place .
I am proudly traanzph0bic
@@konyvnyelv. I’m sorry that you’re feeling so bad. I know how it is to hate. That dark, painful feeling that pulls on you. It makes you feel miserable and makes you want to share that misery with others. Repressing myself lead me to drugs and lots of jail. I hated my existence until I hit a breaking point in my life and decided I either accept myself as the beautiful trans woman that I am, or end it. Fortunately I’m a mother of 3 and decided for them that I’d at least try being myself. And once I came out, the world began to brighten. Now I’m sober, working, raising my kids and for the first time ever I’m actually enjoying this strange and beautiful journey we call life. I’m telling you this because I know how it is, and I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be that way. I’m not sure what your underlying issues are, but they are surmountable. And if you can move past the things that have scarred you, there is a beautiful world out there waiting for you. May live shine down on you😊
@@konyvnyelv.Ewww, stop being so weird.
@@konyvnyelv. Thats not something to be proud of, i hope u change for the better
We don't decide to be trans, we decide to transition.
Let's not forget how you push for kidscto transition as well
@@petervizzini4006
If you believe it so much why don't you go speak to the doctors who are "forcing kids to transition" in person
It can't be hard since apparently it's clearly always happening everywhere
Yet you are just here complaining about it online
Go stop them then
You decide to be tranz
@@petervizzini4006you have decided to be an idiot?
@@petervizzini4006 Let's not forget that mental health professionals and surgeons who go through many years of intense studying and sacrifice to be specialists are giving away $40K - $100K+ cosmetic surgeries and counseling to children, and risk throwing away their careers especially when elective plastic surgery is not even legal until age 18 in most countries globally. Doh!!
I have heard of only ever one case of a cis child being told that they were trans. It happened several years ago in England, where a single mother was so obsessed with the notion that her son was transgender that she dressed him as a girl, and continually told him he was such. Eventually, the police and the local social work department (who handle child protection in the U.K.) became involved, and the child was placed in care.
The story only came to light however because the media got hold of it, and the right-wing British press inevitability used it to go on the attack of ALL transgender people, despite the fact that neither the child nor his misguided mother were trans. And of course, the same press also lambasted all single mothers based on this one woman. They also heaped praise on the Social Workers, which was utter hypocrisy, considering that Social Work is usually another favourite target for right-wing hacks.
Sounds kinda like Munchausen
Samantha you are such a great role model and your example is so needed in the monstrous trans-phobic USA. Love your videos.
wait til the transphobes find out cis women have been using HRT to treat menopause for decades
ALSO I SAW A MEME that an actual medical journal cited all of the nicknames for transfem HRT like "titty skittles" and "anticistamines" and "antiboyotics" and "the notorious HRT" and i LAUGHED MY ASS OFF Y'ALL ARE SO CLEVER!!
"breastmint"
Or until they find out that the Testosterone Replacement Therapy transphobes like Rogan are on is LITERALLY gender affirming care. It's a type of hormone replacement therapy. They think they're body isn't making enough of the man hormone, so they want drugs to replace the missing hormones. But don't worry, that won't be banned as gender affirming care, even though it literally is...
@@electronics-girl ohhhh that's a great one!
I was never transphobic per se, but I definitely had some wrong ideas (I’m cis btw). I thought trans women kind of were reducing being a woman to things like makeup and dresses, when to me being a woman was other people treating me as a woman, but my understanding of gender has become a lot more nuanced since then
I think I was about the same.
I wasn’t really transphobic, but I did hold a lot of transmedicalist views, and was kinda dismissive of non-binary people.
@@SarastistheSerpent I used to watch Ms. Blaire Witch.
@@roxassora2706😬 glad you escaped from her lol
@@SarastistheSerpent Yeah.
Me: THERE'S ONLY 2 GENDERS! BOY OR GIRL! THIS NONBINARY STUFF MAKES NO SENSE!
A few years later
Me: *Agender* ... oh
It always gets me when Simpsons fans try to claim it as conservative. It’s *incredibly* progressive 98% of the time. They even diss Fox.
@@ThatFont no it's conservative
@@konyvnyelv. Whatever you decide 🤔 lmao. Even though they frequently talk about climate change and LGBTQIA+ rights/acceptance and have an episode featuring drag queens including Rupaul, and an episode dedicated to de-stigmatizing sex work.
@@konyvnyelv. Don’t forget the show is anti-establishment, the exact opposite of republican policy.
I'm leftist but by modern woke standards it IS conservative. That's not the fault of right wingers, it's because if you label everything as "far right" then guess what, most people and things are now on the right of the spectrum because you've shifted it so far. Simpsons had a 'brownface' character for years, now that is racist apparently. The show didn't change, society did. I'm not even saying that's a bad thing, just that some people have chosen to make the Simpsons conservative, and it wasn't their creators. Think of it the other way around, if someone say that anyone who believes in free healthcare is a "communist", well they now have to live with the fact that according to them maybe half the country or more are "communist".
@@alliedatheistalliance6776 You are wildly misled and sensitive about things that hardly matter. If this is what you need to tell yourself to sleep at night, you’ve already failed the maturity test.
The "is that a man or a woman" meme... the kid asking is pretty accurate. As a guy with long hair I heard that a lot when I was younger along with "mam why does that man have long hair" so yeah kids do ask that. Most parents I've encountered will usually reply with "why don't you ask them?" Or "because they want to"
I still remember o e little girl about 20 years ago in Ireland asking her dad why I had long hair and when he replied "well if you want to know why don't you ask him" then she shyly replied "I don't want to know you do you ask him" me and the dad were both trying our best not to crack up
the ex-men is killing me lol
EX-men for transfems, XX-men for transmascs..
YOU MADE THE WIG I WOULD HAVE NEVER GUESSED IT WAS HOME-MADE IT LOOKS INCREDIBLE
Not specifically what you were asking for, but I used to be homophobic (and transphobic) and how I'm a lesbian. Funny how life works sometimes.
I was already having a good day and then Samantha posts, it becomes a great day. 😊
Omg please continue with your "british" accent, it's actually so soothing i swear
SAMANTHA’S MAKE UP ALWAYS SLAYYYYS!!!😭🫶✨ I LOVE YOU SAM💕🍓
"the call is coming from inside the house, miss girl" >.< lol I love you Samantha
I was a TERF before I found out I was trans. My anger was directed to trans women because I thought that being a woman was unbearable and that everyone who liked being a woman was lying. (I also thought this about cis women) I was also angry because I didn't understand why you would 'give up' being a guy, because I wanted to be one.
Then I said it was in the name of feminism. Luckily, I wasn't active online when I was a TERF, but that's why I held those beliefs.
Love the wig Samantha ❤️ So happy to see you posted girl!
Have none of you been around kids, they have no filter at all. My Ex was 6' 3" with 64" hips, the amount of kids I heard say "she's really tall" or "that lady has a big butt" was almost daily. So yes kids are saying "is that a boy or girl" or "why is that man wearing a dress". Yes those are teachable moments about manners, but a trans person will still be that teaching moment.
this happens with race as well sometimes (my mom has a story of when i was a kid) but its not malicious
2nd meme: So, my gf of 10 years is trans, and when I started dating her my niece heard her voice over the phone in the background while we were chatting. Out of nowhere my 5 year old nice is like "who was that?"
Me: My girlfriend
Her: Your girlfriend kinda sounds like she's your boyfriend.
Me: Well she's a girl. Lots of girls sound like boys.
It does, happen. It's not often, but it does. My sister was going through a divorce at the time with her super conservative ex and we were genuinely worried about her losing my niece if she started talking about trans stuff (NC life man...) so we weren't really explaining things at that point. We'd usually just be like, "nope, this is what it is and you can take it or leave it kiddo."
Most of the time though, kids do just love my gf's colorful hair.
Sounds gay.
X-MEN lol! That's ironic. As a child I told friends to call me Roge. That was before I was even aware of the X-MEN.
Who else arrived here super early?
💚💜🧡💛💙❤️
Me
Is 3 days early enough 😢
YOUR WIG IS SO CUTE OMG
I love the palette cleanser! Your whole video is a light-hearted vibe though.
I never understood why people need to get it others lives. I also as a mother could never disown my son if he decided that he wanted to transition any parent who could makes me upset. I'm definitely not what my parents expected of me but they love me for me, well most of them lol. Love your content. Thank you for sharing ❤❤
That wig is so seamless!!! Amazing job!!
WIG LOOKS AWESOME💜
Thank you so much for giving a wonderful, thoughtful voice to these issues and sticking up for a whole community of folks who more often than not are underrepresented or just..demonized. myself I'm just a lil ol' boring cis fella but I'm in love with a woman who happens to be trans, and you offer help and insight sometimes with questions I feel maybe silly asking or don't even know the right way to do so, but..just thank you for being cool!
Me: *has chest dysphoria and thinks about being the opposite gender way too much* im not trans right? Riiighghhhtt?….
Everybody in the trans community: *. . .*
Me: *right…?*
Yes I absolutely love it
Omg I love your wig. Really thought it was your natural hair but very cool that you made it!
I need you to teach me how to make wigs 😭 I feel like that’d be so fun. 2:23 also this part made me think of Disney when Demi was like “this is real, this is me, I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be” and bursted out laughing for no reason at all🌝😭😭😭💀
That's right, we trans-women are NOT men, we're X-MEN!!! Love it ♥
You're still a man
GIRL I THOUGHT U WERE FAMOUS 6K OMG U NEED 6M 😭😭
I’m a trans guy but that meme about the high T woman / men can’t get pregnant meme got me thinking that I might have high T, I have a very masculine face, build and voice for someone who’s biologically female.
guess I got a head start lol
WAKE UO EVERYONE OUR QUEEN POSTER A VID
5:52 I grew up in a very homophobic and transphobic household, and I listened to and did horrible bigoted things at the encouragement of my adopted parents. Then, my birthmom came out to me as a lesbian, and it shook my worldview to the core. Afterwards, I realized that I could either be completely true to myself, and live as a pan trans guy, or live the rest of my life in that same major depression and unchecked issues, as a straight girl.
I’m 21 now, I’ve started medically transitioning, I’ve been to therapy, I’m working with myself, I have other queer people in my life that I love, and I’m so grateful that I was able to grow out of that horrible household
Cheers to Labor day weekend. As always you tell it how it is. People will always have differing opinions and mindsets, we just have to help each other out the best we can! We are all human.
the wig slays
I'm gonna be real: despite living in a transphobic household, my dumb ass didnt know trans people existed because i was somehow ignorant. Until high school, when I befriended a trans kid and realised "oh cool". Anyways i dated a transwoman for 3 years and my transphobic sister always used the wrong pronouns and I disowned her
you are definitely one of the sweetest, most comforting people on the internet ❤thank you for all this kindness you are giving us)
I know this is so weird but what’s the necklace? I’m really curious and I was curious what gem it was
Honestly I don't think that I was ever transphobic. I don't think that I was the best ally, but I always thought how painful and difficult it would for someone be to be born in the wrong body. Weirdly I was actually a bit homophobic when I was younger (not that it's a sliding scale) and I came out as bisexual a couple of days before my 49th birthday (I'm 51 now). In some ways I wish that I had the courage to come out when I was younger, I think it was fear of being discovered that caused my homophobia, in others way I'm OK with it because I have a wonderful and supportive partner (the first person I came out to) and wonderful and supportive children who I might not have if I had of come out when I was younger.
I came out as a trans woman when I was 47. I wish I could have done it decades earlier.
I was never transphobic, but I used to have a lot of toxic opinions about women, simply because I was jealous.
@@electronics-girl It's very easy to say to say don't live with that regret, you have probably heard that a lot, I am happy for you because you are now able to be your true self. Past experience helps make us who we are, sometimes we don't have what we need to do some things (like supportive/understanding people or even being able to accept ourselves). I guess that I am trying to express encouragement and happieness for you, but in an awkward way.
My daughter has asked the “is that a man or a woman?!” Louder than necessary - but that was when we saw someone cross dressing in a very obvious and not drag looking way.
To which I just asked her what she thought then taught her about using they/them if you’re not sure.
Not that I think it really stuck, but yknow. Baby steps.
girl youre actually so pretty and that wig is so nice omg ♡
5:47 UNDERTALE TRANS CATGIRL MENTIONED
Just found you yesterday and im already obsessed. Youre gorgeous, and the wig looks amazing 🥰🥰
I’m cis and you are my comfort youtuber
4:10 Best use of that vine I've ever seen. Hands down.
6:30 oh god the high school flashbacks 😭
that wig is by far my favorite, like it gives Jazz Fenton from Danny Phantom (shes gorgeous)
I used to be transphobic when I was 13. I believed a lot of shit, which is crazy since I was identifying as a trans boy only two years earlier. Thankfully I began to think for myself and when I was 14 I realised I was non binary.
5:57 I grew up in a home where lgbt+ people were barely even mentioned, so I didn't even really know they existed lol
But then when I was 10/11 we moved to a condo, and one of our (our = me and my sister) friend's brother was gay, and very open about it (he wouldn't say anything explicit, we were kids and he was responsible. But he would use he/him pronouns everytime he'd talk about his partner, and was very comfortable dressing and "acting" feminine). And he was such a sweet person, really so so nice, would always bring us some cool snacks and stuff just because.
So when my parents started being a bit more vocal about their homophobia (it was 2014, people in general were more vocal about being lgbt, so homophobes started being more vocal too), I was like "but why are people so against it? My friend's brother is so cool and friendly, why would he be a bad person just for liking guys?"
And then, let's say I "discovered women" 👀 and was like "ooooh, I like women, cool", then "oh wait, I like boys too", and when I found out about the term pansexual I went "hey this is me!"
Then life hit me hard with the realization I was trans, and I was already like "oh well, makes sense". So I never really had the "homophobic because I was secretly lgbt" thing, I was more shocked at how OTHER people were lgbtphobic when it literally changed nothing in their lives
I do have to point out tho that I found out recently that I am autistic, and that is probably the reason why I was never fond of societal norms and tradition lmao
Yes! I was homophobic before I came out as gay. I don’t know why. My parents are very pro LGBT, and I didn’t grow up around homophobia. But I just really wanted to be straight for some reason.
Can you make a video about what’s happening in Texas right now? DPS and Vital Statistics just announced that they will no longer allow trans Texans to change the gender marker on their birth certificates or their drivers licenses
GOOD
off topic but youre so prettyyyy
I just gotta say, there is something eye-catching about your look today! I love the nude eye paired with the bold Auburn wig...it's a bit of a study in contrast! And it's really making that fun necklace pop! 😍
Thanks for another fun, informative video. I love your content! ❤
I do love your look with this hair, but even more than that, it really made me feel better about my hair to see you wearing a wig. I have to wear one, and sometimes I have mixed feelings about it. Thank you. You're awesome ❤
I love the Simpsons. At some point, I stopped watching the episodes but I'm currently catching up and I'm already in Season 33 :.D
To use Waylon for this first meme...the audacity. I hope this isn't too much of a spoiler but he's a drag queen under the name Mysterious Waylon and I love it 😄
I mean there are some "difficult" episodes that kinda aged like mild.
You always bring a smile to my face!!! Thank you!!!
TRANSHOUSEN BY PROXY LMAO
I know this is off topic but like your so gorgeous
seeing you watch transphobic memes is the best lmao
I've seen that X-Men meme twice today.
I love it, X-Men is one of my favorites, I had to go listen to the main theme for like half an hour.
Wig is so cool
Fact: a phobia means a FEAR not HATE
2 DIFFERENT THINGS
i wasnt transphobic when i was younger bc i didnt even know about it, i was homophobic tho lol until i learned better at 12, a year later i realized i like girls and found out what being transgender was so as i was already accepting of my own sexuality, it was easy to support trans ppl... but ended up being trans too lol
Oooo! The Appa! It came out amazing! 😍
if a kid is asking "is it a man or a woman" its 100% because the parent or some other adult in said kids life goes off on transphobic rants with them in the room often
I am a man and i was pregnant. Transphobes can say what they want but even without t or surgerys people call me he and sir in public so.Its all a social construct to begin with. I mean gender i am not delusional.
@AustinAce-u3k sorry to interject, but not everyone thinks being a man is about being as manly as you can?
Being a man isn't about what society deems
If society decided you were no longer a man, you wouldn't just stop being a man?
@@rachele183 Yes definitions of what is 'manly' vary according to era, a man isn't always about being a typical chad/jock, working out, big muscles, big loud deep voice, big tats, walking like John Wayne with a stick up the backside and smoking 30 Marlboroughs a day, drinking a keg of beer either.
Men have had unfortunate accidents/cancer etc in the past and ended up losing their genitals as a result, they didn't suddenly stop being a man because of that.
As the word 'man' is a social construct in that it is a descriptor for expected roles played in society. Attitude and patterns of behavior, the gender one most strongly relates to being and feels they belonging to without a doubt.
Imane Khelif may or may not have high testosterone. We actually don't know. I guess it can be reasonable to infer that it's higher than baseline -- intense physical activity is known to elevate testosterone -- but without a blood test we're just guessing. And a test given by an obviously biased organization doesn't really count as that.
I had a transphobe arc and I've been told it's ok but it really wasn't and I'm always going to feel horrible. I've known since I was two. I've known and I had a transphobe arc anyway.
Yes it was to blend in with family and friends but I ditched most of those friends and my family is all supportive now, MOSTLY . . . some are still working through stuff but like I was on every antidepressant, mood stabilizer, and other mental health medication out there and nothing worked and most stuff made my health worse.
Started just socially transitioning and taking herbal supplements and low dose E cream and my health improved a bit. Started HRT and it's a lot better.
My brother is a massage therapist and tried working on my super knocked muscles for years with no luck. He worked on me after HRT and said he doesn't know what I'm taking but he can feel it works because my muscles are manageable now.
So yeah. Between nothing else working and physical evidence of transitioning working, I've made allies out of bigots. Go figure ^_^
A few important points:
1. I'm not "cured" of mental health issues, just able to recover finally, still have depression and severe anxiety . . . maybe that's more a reflection of the world we live in?
2. HRT isn't a cure-all. It helped my mental health without therapy, more so now with therapy, but it isn't a cure-all. It is not a cure-all!! Go to therapy! Please!
aww happy for ur journey so far. good luck
I've seen a trans woman with a sticker of "ex men" in the xmen logo on her laptop
One, I had no clue.
I saw someone who was funny, sweet and well spoken about issues that I know little about but one that drew me in: injustice.
So forgive me if this comes across as offensive or insensitive but I’m just here to applaud your courage and offer hugs and support.
Take care.🤗🤗🤗
It looks great and it is amazing you made it!!! So cool!!!
Omg your necklace is soo pretty!! Where did you get it!?!??
Burnette color suits you, liked the black more tho. STILL BEAUTIFUL
(but I'm biased with black hair, i think black hair is so pretty)
I’m not a transformer but I can see how a parent would be surprised, doesn’t mean they should shame you or discard you from the family. Surprised? Sure, but be supportive.
I love you too bets the way you are easily able to tear does transphobic people apart
My sister is trans, loves silent hill and keeps sending me transphobic silent hill memes. I always tell her get off Facebook!
I was totally transphobe before finding out i'm trans.
i was never transphobic on purpose since i never knew what trans people were, but i would have been super supportive if i knew and i probably would have figured out myself sooner.
i did accidentally hurt someone though. they were in my art class and i thought their preferred name was just a nickname. i kept using their deadname because i thought i wasn't close enough to use their "nickname", and i never picked up on how uncomfortable it made everyone. i don't fault them at all but i wish they told me directly that they were trans so that i could have looked it up, but i think they didn't tell me directly to avoid my parents going on a tirade or taking me out of a class. i might have hurt other people but i hope i didn't.
my parents weren't necessarily transphobic with hate, but they believe everything fox tells them and i'm sure they never told me in hopes that i'd never find out what it is. i kinda-sorta came out one time and they're supportive of me and my friends, but they still believe everything fox says abt trans people. i'm guessing its an "i can't be transphobic, i have trans friends" type of thing but i can't really change their minds at this point.
3:24 what's so funny about that one is how the "trans" "character" has major Karen energy when the type of person who would actually say that IRL is 100% Karen.
Johnny the Walrus
*Looks down* “It feels good to go to therapy. I feel like a real person again.”
Maybe try another therapist who will be honest with you? You don’t feel shame, I know, but don’t convince others not to simply not shame them, but to truly love them.
I hope you understand like all other de-transitioners!
I was a full on terf radfem before being trans
You printed Appa?!!! Love that!!! What printer did you use?
Samantha, you are so sweet and adorable. I wish I had a girl like you. You deserve much love and appreciation.
love the hair!!!!
your british accent is surprisingly good ???
5:22
BILL CIPHER???