I dumped a girl over "all my relationships have been bad because of them". She cried uncontrollably and blamed me. I was so happy to cut that bullshit out of my life. These "nothing is my fault people" are the ones who cheat on you because "the heart wants what the heart wants". Dump them, dump 'em hard, no mercy.
I had mutual friends one time say, "Six weeks is the longest she's kept a guy around". I wish i'd just said it's you, not me after hearing all her dates had been bad.
Dude tell me about it. I fought regularly with a girl i was seeing up until last week. She ended it and had been on two dates already. I say Good luck brother. You will need it
Yeah I know.. I dated a gal one time who has never been single for more than a few weeks since she was 16. She has to always be in a relationship with somebody. Glad i walked away from that one.
I sadly dated a girl who plays victim, checked out my phone, was jealous, would get mad or question me if I didn’t call her in a few hours, and she was/is a crazy narcissist who didn’t work on anything. It was all my fault! Im better off alone than being back with her.
I think the biggest idea here is not to date somebody who is always looking for what is wrong with you. If this person is always trying to push you down and elevate themselves, it will be impossible for them to trust or respect you. One of those ideas that sounds very obvious when read but is much more subtle in real life.
1 she pointing out negative things in exes and friends always being a narc 2 excessive jealousy 3 she is moving to fast in relation(needy) 4 she is a liar 5 snooping into your privacy (phones, personal stuff and controlling you ) 6 she doesnt have female friends
It's actually pretty scary how this list describes my last relationship although the girl isn't necessarily that bad, it's just her past experience and her family that have impacted such behaviour from her and the insecurity of a girl usually leads to all those negative stuff she's doing. And it's so unhealthy, I swear. At first it's all good, it's lovely, but even then you see some red flags, it's just their nature when a girl is beautiful and you are inlove, you can't always tell if you have to tollerate or not. It's natural to just skip those red flags, but eventually over time it gets worse and worse. Except the privacy stuff, she was not controlling, but was jelaous enough and was also often in defensive mode, like she starts something, then you explain that it doesn't make you feel right and she's going crazy like ''don't blame me'' etc like it's always your fault basically. Those people never learn from past relationships that once you are not single, it's not gonna be just about you anymore. Of course, you don't wanna make it too strict right of the bath, but people have feelings too and in relationship besides the attraction phase, there's a lot to talk about over time. It's never a straight line once the lovely stage is over.
My actual girlfriend have 3 of the 3 signs: obsessive jealousy due to trust issues, she goes too fast and also stalks my social media. She gaslights me a lot and projects. I just broke up with her, I missed my mental peace when I was single.
I was in the exactly same situation and also broke up with her(3 times lol), it's a huge red flag for sure, sad but true but those girls are only good for sex bcs they crazy af and actually good in sex.
The last girl I dated exhibited 5 out of 6 of these behaviors. It sucked because I truly loved her but like you said, she hadn't worked on her issues. Our relationship was doomed from the beginning.
*Spotting behaviors like extreme mood swings, possessiveness, or manipulation tactics can help people avoid toxic dynamics early on. Understanding these signs helps anyone set boundaries and protect their emotional well-being in relationships.*
I have had excruciating first-hand experience with all six of these between two long-term relationships and they are so true. Your wisdom, especially at your age, consistently impresses me Courtney!
only thing i'd say is jealousy tends to be a bit of a natural knee jerk reaction on occasion (obviously depends on context), but i don't think jealousy defines anybody or is an extreme "crazy" flag | I think jealously, in a minimal sense, can let you know how much you care about your significant other - other than that, super accurate and great points!
I was for a couple of years with a narcissistic woman who had all those negative traits amped up to 11 and it was AWFUL, and the breakup became one of the most traumatic experiences in my life, since she used all her venom and negativity to hurt me (and smear me) real bad. Stay away from that kind of people, it will never turn out well for you.
Hey, I’m going through a breakup with a woman that has displayed all of these signs. We were together for 6 years and she recently ended things with me. This has been unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. I feel like I’m not going to survive the ending of this relationship. Can you tell me if this has been your experience, or am I crazy?
@@markcollins3272 Oh, you are definitely not crazy. This seems to be common place for all of us who have experienced this with that kind of person, and it is definitely an awful experience. The best thing I can recommend you is to resist the urge to look at their social media, use a blocking extension such as StayFocusd if necessary. Now you need to really 'detox' from that person, and that means a certaing degree of isolation, in my experience. I needed therapy for a while and the whole process lasted for over a year, so be patient. But you will overcome this, it just takes time while you distance from that person as much as you can (as difficult as it can be sometimes). Be strong and hang in there!
A girl I dated had some of these traits plus some combos. She would explain to me about how bad her exes were and how much they screwed her, "everyone leaves me" attitude, in the process of sending me dozens of messages listing everything they did wrong. Some of the stories had her being the victim so much I doubt most of it was true. So there's 3 red flags in one hit. I had a bad feeling about her and turns out my suspicions were confirmed after I ended our relationship she fell pregnant to another guy just six months later. I felt like I dodged a bullet. I stopped talking to her when she started messaging me with everything he was supposedly doing wrong. Somehow I think she thought having a baby with a rich guy would solve her problems but turns out her new boyfriend is depressed and thinks she's ruined his life. So I guess it's as you said Courtney, these girls have issues and the thing that makes them crazy is their unwillingness to help themselves, only dragging down others. Don't get dragged down with them!
@@mr.e1026 Are body counts really a dealbreaker? What if it's 2 - 5? I can see that being reasonable, but if it's like 30 or 50, that's a cause of concern health wise.
@@Danny328DT "Are body counts really a dealbreaker?" They should be. Especially if you're young. It is not a big accomplishment for a woman to be a ho. Any woman can do it. All they have to do is say "yes". "What if it's 2 - 5?" When I said "Has a *high* body count." what did that mean to you? Or did you just skip over the part in bold? Do you think 2 to 5 is high? Let me introduce to you the calculus called "dick-stacking test". Here's how it works. You take the number of men who have been with her, and divide that number by 2. This number represents feet. (6 inches per guy. 2 of them equal 1 foot). If a woman was to fall from that height and she is likely injured by the fall, that's too many cocks. If she would die from the fall, that is a walk off the lot one. Why? Being a ho demonstrates impulsivity. Impulsivity is the antithesis of loyalty. If you're ok being a cuck, or your wife having a couple boyfriends, eventually she will leave you. Either way, you may end up raising the offspring of another man. These sorts of women are often combative, abuse drugs or alcohol, have multiple bastards, and are financial wrecks. Does that sound appealing to you? "I can see that being reasonable, but if it's like 30 or 50, that's a cause of concern health wise." Health-wise? That is a walk off the lot situation. Keep the street walkers on the street. When it is said that you can't turn a ho into a housewife, you should listen.
Another sign I believe is when even herself admits that she doesn’t even like herself - from a mile you can tell something is wrong. One thing is being self centered but another one is that she doesn’t value herself either.
I was in a relationship with girl who never introduced me to her friends. She would say that she never goes out and she's a homebody. And in direct contradiction to those statements she would be out with guys I never met. She would never say how they met only that they were friends and that there were other people there, so it was not a date but just people hanging out. OBVIOUSLY she was not only a pathological liar she was a cheating narcist who would justify her actions and try to convince me I was crazy. That one took the cake lol.
The way you analyze behaviours and give detailed explanations for the causes behind them makes your videos great to watch. Could you please make one for things to do to keep the spark going once in relationships/how to deepen the connection in long term relationships/things which can cause people to grow apart Courtney?
Great advice that can also apply to non-dating relationships too. My wife and I have a group of friends that came over to our house to hang out every so often in pre-COVID days. One of these laides of this group had several of the traits of this video. Pathlogigal liar, always played the victim card, emotionally manipulative, pointless drama. We ended up breaking ties with her and it was one of the best descisons we ever made. Hard to be sure, but a good one.
I have a teeny problem with the if she doesn't have any female friends rule. What if shes like Carrie white where she wants to have friends but no one else likes her
I agree with everything except for not having friends. I think there is nothing wrong with not having friends. Things happen in life and people we once thought were friends are turning out to be not. Sometimes, people just grew apart and move on.
Healthy relationship is impossible if people are unable to have friends and don't understand the concept of friendship. How to tell if a person is able to be a friend, 3 main qualities are necessary: 1) honesty - the ability to call a spade a spade 2) loyalty - ability to achieve ambitious long-term goals, being true to something for 5 or more years 3) modesty - the ability to respect the dignities of another person, his aspirations, and ultimately his life, above your own Ofc there are exceptions, but generally if someone doesn't have any friends, it means the person is a selfish liar and a traitor. So yeah, it's not about being constantly surrounded by friends but about the ability to be one.
Look i think she needs to dive a bit deeper into this. You are the average of the five people you hang with. So if you hang with losers...guess what. This applies to woman too. Even if her one friend is that manipulative weirdo that she leans on, then thats not good for you
@[bsh]thrasher Not really because I had a narcissist for an ex and it was obvious how horrible she was once she showed her true self, yet people were so loyal to her. She pulled you in being sweet, so I get them getting to know her, but people who have known her for years I don't get.
@@Nephibis, it's hard to judge by your short description, but basically you've described a Siren, a dishonest woman, not a Valkyrie. They sing sweet songs attracting people, but that's a trap. If she's using people for years and they can't see it, that's not friendship tho, it only means she's a master of disguise. Ask yourself, do you think she would die for her so called friends? If the answer is no, then most likely my assessment is right.
I agree with you. It is not necessary to have friends. Just because you don't have any friends doesn't mean you don't understand the concept of friendship. There are people that are just naturally introverted and don't "friends" to pump up their ego. Society has programmed you to believe that you need to have "friends"
Saw this video on my feed (even though its a year old lol). So happy to see you've gone from 85k (at the time of this video) to 409k currently. Congratulations on your success! I really enjoy your content
Good list. I'm not into jealousy. The problem in my past relationships were that I work a lot and they assumed I was out with other women. Or if I didn't answer a text right away. Sometimes, having female friends isn't always a good thing in my experience. Some women can be competitive and purposely will sabotage your relationship and friendships.
I think overly snooping is bad but a lot of cheating happens and the only way to find out sometimes, is by their phone... and lets not pretend that just asking someone if their cheating works, lol. But overall great content as usual!
That is called have clear boundries. Be yourself, don't let her change you, respect yourself and don't be a simp. Ask your self: "Am I better with her or with out her?"
The friends of the opposite sex thing is a tough one. I dont know. Whenever I have dated a girl and she had male friends it always became a problem. Either she was flirting with them or cheating with them or they liked her and would get mad if she didnt respond with flirting or cheating.
Yeah... there's no issue if the guy is a genuine friend but the vast majority of guys that befriend women tend to just be there hoping they're next in line to date/fuck lol
I only dated my ex for two weeks and she did everything you said. Moved to fast, spend everyday with her, she said she loved me on the first day, yelled, lied, hit me, and many more. I ended it because she had lied and gotten me sick so I had to stay home and I told her we couldn’t hang out. She then text me saying that she would cut herself if we didn’t hang out. It was horrible to read that and even worse for me because I had told her that I cut myself before so she knew what she was doing when she said it. She had 4 different people text me after we broke up and one of them was her ex. Even he confirmed everything wrong with how she acted. Best part is after I got home from ending it she text me that I wasn’t allowed to date any other girls lol. So glad I ended it early and had people to help me see the signs before it got to far.
This is literally a prime example of my wife. We are currently seperated but I think it’s over. She is a narcissist and she accuses me, makes everything my fault, goes through my phone, always jealous from my customers. It’s never ending.
It has been hard to not go out and meet women without looking back at the shortcomings of my previous relationship. She was everything this video was about, except she did have girl friends. You may have made a video about moving on, but if it is possible to make a video about moving on from a crazy, toxic relationship would be terrific! I am a subscriber and your videos have given me great advice and have definitely brought it to my personal life. -Steve
I came here from watching Courtney review the 'Hot Crazy Matrix' (to which she gave a fair and honest response). I'm now happily married (for 15 years) . . . but I looked back on one relationship I went through before getting married. Intellignent and beautiful - in public. In private she'd just scream at me, throw things at me, hide my car keys so I couldn't go home and ended up throwing things at me (including knives). I left and had to hide as she kept stalking me until she found someone else.
wow thank you courtney, i know i did the right thing by ending my relationship two months ago when i found my x hiding in the wardrobe worried that when i came home i would be accompanied with another woman, yes snooping on my phone, going through my things, etc.
I dated a girl like this for three months. I overlooked the red flags because she was gorgeous, thought I could help her heal. Eventually I called her out on her behaviour and she cut me off. Glad I did that and got out, but nine months later the whole situation has me still all messed up.
You fell in love with someone's potential, its ok man. I think everyone has to go through that experience once. Its a really important lesson to learn, don't beat yourself up. You had good intentions but people only change for themselves, not others. Keep moving along, it'll get easier. There are so many beautiful women on the planet.
Hate to say - but all the traumatic relationships, highly manipulative, “is she going to file a false police report if I break up with her” type of girls I’ve been with had HORRIBLE relationships with their parents. That’s a big red flag for me now. I’ve dated girls who didn’t really like their parents but it was “resolved” so to speak, those girls are fine. But I mean an ongoing chaotic hostile relationship with parents - red flag. My current gf of 6 years is super chill and calls her mom like 3 times a week to chat, so I think there is something to this.
My baby mom cheated on me multiple times...this was something I heard while dating and confirmed after the break up. She's now been married 4 years and she tries to hook up with me ever few months. She fits everything u said as well. Wish when I saw the red flags I had done something about while dating.
Some solid observations from Courtney here. Gentlemen - take note! Ladies - also take note, since many of these issues are rather prevalent amongst young females of today’s world. A major red flag is how anyone treats servers/wait staff and is usually a good indication of their attitude in life - it doesn’t cost anything to be nice to people that work hard for living (I would know, since I worked as wait/venue staff in my university days), sometimes a simple “thank you” is worth more to a person than a tip.
Hi Courtney, love your videos and you always bring up great points! I do want to say that in my opinion, there should actually be three big points to the last sign you came up with rather than two. The two you brought up are already very valid, but if she actually *does* have female friends and they're all what we'd consider "crazy" as well, that's a bit telling of her too. I think you said this in another video (correct me if I'm wrong) but you are what you hang out with, and so if her friends have all these red flags, that's only gonna make me wonder if she's someone I should be having second thoughts about. Thank you - and again, love your content! I will be subscribing right now.
My ex-girlftiend had 5/6 of these (except snooping), jeesh. So weird I couldn't see it while in the relationship. This video really helped see the signs better, thanks!
A really great video, because all of the “checkmarks” that are mentioned, are in reality the description of a person with narcissistic personal disorder, or at least on that scale of toxicity. So this of cause a really important subject, and Courtney know her stuff I can tell😀 I’m feeling thankful.
well it would be disconcerting if she suddenly started "yo, sup homies? This is Crazy C, now listen up bitches, you want the truth? You can't handle the truth! Grrr"
@@jdanon203 Interesting revelation. Courtney's also self-made a TH-cam community with nearly 100k followers and thousands of views per video and I think that's the important metric, rather than her family name...
Incase ur ever wondering why we watch ur videos, cant speak for every other guy but here are my top reasons: 60% the content / 30% ur attractiveness (incl ur beauty, ur voice, ur femininity) / 5% to support any female who appreciates, respects, wants to help us guys (in a world of growing misandry) / 5% the kind way u treat ur followers (we are all humans, incl celebs & YT influencers, nice to feel like a human & not just a fan or subscriber or potential $). Keep up the good work! Oh & love the vid, I think I was showing too much understanding for many of these points - they ARE red flags & I need to be more careful. Bcz I try very hard not to display these or any other "toxic" traits :)
Another 1 I would add is "she always cries when you leave home for the day while you are still not living together". I always thought that if people constantly cry when saying "goodbye" even knowing that you can meet at any time of any day this week have unhealthy attachment issues. After 3 years of a toxic relationship I constantly got confirmations on those thoughts...
“When people call her crazy they usually mean she has some kind of issues going on or are trying to figure something out” All guys: “or.... she’s actually crazy”
Stop using that pathetic word it doesn't help anybody. Use a different word oh that's right people don't want to actually think of a different word to say because people are lazy
@@lb4581 people are not crazy god I hate when people say that word.people could have me a mental illness or going through emotional stuff and that saying it is what it is I hate that as well but what can you do you know.
One of my exs went through my stuff and found a diary with an entry from many years prior to our dating. The entry talked about how I loved a girl. She got jealous and I was all like, you're really creepy for reading my hidden diary and a weirdo for getting upset about someone I loved years ago.
Yo!whassup Ryan great to see your youtube channel growing. I am 15 and i am seeing your videos for like 1 year. it realy helped me to improve my relationships and myself(in general). So again,Thank you for your advices and keep going!
Needing to work on yourself is fine and not crazy at all. That happens to most human beings. It's when you need to work on yourself, but you also decide it would be awesome to put another person's brain through sadistic torture and call it a relationship that you're deemed, "Crazy". And that's totally appropriate in my books
Narcissism and insecurity are the issues I see most of the time. BTW: what does it mean when a man has no male friends, but several platonic female friends?
Solid points like the vid on girls that guys shouldn't date. "Crazy" is often used inexactly as mentioned at the beginning, perhaps because so many girls demonstrate some of these characteristics. These 6 signs can definitely be traits for the truly crazy girls, however there are distinctions much darker that guys should be aware of. I may need to make a vid...
OMG I dated a girl who fit almost all of these traits thank God we only lasted 6 months but she was hard to get rid of her she was very jealous she lied about everything and insisted she look at my phone every day but I couldn't look at her phone and the world was against her!!! Went through a living hell to get rid of her but thank God I did!!!
Maybe that's just me but the friendship between opposite gender is impossible. Whenever you begin to catch feelings for your female friend and she rejects you. That means she does not see you as a potential partner or you are not enough masculine for her. In other words that is called disrespect. This is why after the girl or guy cannot stay friends after a reveal like that. Because one knows that he is desired by someone he finds doesnt suit him and the other is hurt. Maybe it's just me but whenever I see friendships between guys and girls they all end horribly and for myself that was the same. I even had a girl said to her girls this about me : "Ben ? Don't be silly, it's Ben, he has no dick, but he's very kind and sweet" So not only she annihalated my self esteem that day but she made sure her whole squad would see me as a puppy and not an attractive boy. I ditched her immediatly after that and didnt wanna hear a single word from her again.
Looks like what you've described wasn't even a friendship. Friendship - selfless personal sustainable relationships between people based on sympathy, mutual respect, trust, common interests and goals. Do not expect relationships based on sympathy alone to be something serious. Those who know what friendship is and experienced it, value friendship much higher than passion, desire and sexual relations.
Hey Courtney, signs 1-5 are all traits of someone with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). Often, when we hear someone say "hey, my boyfriend/girlfriend's a narcissist, " we laugh & think they're arrogant jerks, which, is true, but, that's the Grandiose Narcissist, who falls on the low end of the spectrum. Many fall on the much darker end, such as the Covert Narcissist & Malignant Narcissist (also known as the destroyer), which is the last stop on the spectrum train before town of Psychopath. These are people you do not want to be with as they will steal your soul. I'm a survivor. I suffer from severe PNSD (Post Narcissist Stress Disorder) as my mother's a Malignant & boss is a Malignant. I also lost a coworker who took her life because of my Malignant boss & he sees it as a badge of honor. These people are walking the streets all around us & should never be allowed in society. These are people who have very little self empathy & zero empathy for others. They do not have the ability/capacity to self regulate. They get off on seeing others suffer. You may want to take a deeper dive in to the world of narcissism...you will be blown away.
I’m in the same boat. That and I’m at the age where all of my friends have either gotten married or have kids and don’t have time to hang out anymore. It wouldn’t be as big of a deal if I had somebody in my life, but being single and not really having friends is pretty crappy.
@@dknollRX7 Yeah. I had friends when i was a kid and when i was like ~18 i had one friend left, at the same age, but he moved away to his future wife when he was ~20 and has 3 children now. I'm 30 now and i had to realise that having no friends is really bad. I lost them all because of my shyness, introversion and social anxiety. I really hate myself.
@@IxamusMC Don't be so hard on yourself or take what she said to heart. Some people are just not as inherently social as others and that fact doesn't make you a bad person. Does it limit your opportunities with other people? Absolutely. If you want to change that, then you've got to work on it and it is going to be uncomfortable. However, that's your choice and other people don't get to judge you for your own nature. Anyone who does is not the kind of person you want around you. I get what she's trying to say in the video, but she is reaching very hard with that point.
@@gregory6401 This is a good outlook. Like I said above some people are just not nearly inherently social as others. Oftentimes we don't figure this out until our adult lives as all the way through university friends are incredibly accessible. Once real life kicks in, it gets way harder. I do want to acknowledge the way you feel is incredibly relatable. I have been in a very similar situation since I graduated, though I am in my mid twenties and tend to be the younger person. People think this makes it easier but when you struggle to relate to your own age group, it doesn't matter how much older or younger you are.
I would give one caveat to something you said. Not wanting a boyfriend/girlfriend to be friends with an ex is ok. Not wanting them to but also wanting it to be ok for you to be friends with an ex, not ok. My wife wants to be able to keep in touch with exes but if I do, I must be up to no good
Oh man, that reminds me of one.... Every cop knew her. Her boyfriend was moving out. He was walking across the lawn going away from the front door. She's in the doorway screeching, "NO ONE LEAVES ME" (click... Yes, a BAD "click"). His right hand slipped off the end of the coffee table, and he quickly reached down to get it. The he heard a loud noise, and it felt like his left bicep was hit by a sledge hammer. She was going full Dirty Harriet on him. The bullet would have gone through his spine and then his heart but when he quickly reached for the table the bullet went through his arm. He was lying on the ground, turned over and she was above him, hammer back, both hands on the gun, and he was staring down the barrel. He thought, "Well... this is it. It's over." She eased the hammer forward, turned, and walked back into the house. He drove himself to the hospital (good thing. If she took him to the hospital she might have put a brick under the gas pedal, and sent him over a cliff!). The prosecutor asked the victim what he thought should happen to her. He said, "Well don't send he to prison! She will just get crazier!" A week later I saw her out working at a new job. On the hot-crazy matrix (crazy 4-10) she was an 11. On the hot scale she was an 11. "Oh man, she's hot in bed!" No, you're in bed and it's hot because she lit the bed on fire with you in it.
Where were women like you when I got married?! Wow. Great head on your shoulders, logical and insightful… oh and beautiful. You will make someone a very lucky partner. Hope your advice helps many as well!
Jealously is a tricky one. Are we purposely doing things that are making our partner jealous?… then perhaps gaslighting the scenario? I have been with partners who have purposely tried to make me jealous as a manipulation tactic. Toxic for sure. It’s definitely a 2-way street. Snooping is very much related to jealousy. Having friends of opposite sex is very much contextual. There are some boundaries which need to be mature and respected. Lying is a definite no-go! All these points come down to the most important relationship fundamental of mutual TRUST!
Courtney, I made the mistake long ago in my past about trying to fix a girl, I was younger, in Love, and she was really compatible with me but was very promiscuous and I wanted to fix her and wanted it to work but at that time I was a simp and making ALL the mistakes in how to build a great relationship and choosing the right partner. I also was in a very unhealthy relationship when I was younger as well where the girl was trying to change me to fit in her agenda and made me miserable and eventually she left me for another guy and even though I was hurt, in hindsight it was a blessing in disguise for me because even though she was compatible with me as well she had major issues too so it wasn't going to last long between us either. You're right Courtney, if someone has to change for the better then they themselves have to do it, put in that time and effort. I have been with a girl who was super jealous and at first it was kind of cute because I never had a female see me as the prize but it got out of hand later, gotten annoying, and toxic. We later broke up. I personally don't like clingy behaviour because I love my alone time and time for me to self reflect on my own and I'm totally repelled from clingy behaviour. Almost every girl I have been with has been a liar and I even have some relatives that have the same problem too. Almost every girl I have been with has either snooped through my cell phone and things or wanted to and I would get frustrated why I would attract women like that and it gets super annoying to me. I do believe there's nothing wrong with having friends of opposite genders and those that disagree are usually insecure with themselves and lack confidence. Obviously like you said Courtney, there has to be boundaries with being friends of the opposite gender. Great video! Not enough videos about the wrong type of women to be around with accurate information about them to be cautious and stay away.
I would like to say that I love your content Courtney! I mostly agree with everything that you stated in this video. One topic in which I have a different opinion on relates to having friends of the opposite gender. Yes, I do agree that it is acceptable to have a friend of the opposite gender if you have known them for a good part of your life. However, if your partner speaks with this “friend” frequently, speak to them more than you, meets up with them 1 on 1, always includes this “friend” in your conversations, and constantly speaks highly of this “friend,” then it becomes inappropriate. While these platonic relationships may look innocent on the outside, on the inside, there is a possibility that this platonic relationship could lead to infidelity either physically, emotionally, or both. Nevertheless, great video and keep doing what you are doing! 😁
Hey Courtney. Funny how this video shows up after I had to part ways with my ex loved one this week. Summed it up in the first few seconds. She had no interest in getting some help with a few things that was actually crippling her mental health. I'm by no means perfect and also constantly work on myself but she needed a professional. It's very sad to have said goodbye, feels like a ripped a band-aid off. She needs to prioritize her self in her own life for once.
Hmmmn so it was ok with my ex GF to have contact with past boyfriends , but she didn't want me to be in contact with any of MY ex-girlfriends. Gotta love all these double standards with women.
for me i honestly can look at a girl and sorta tell, or at least within a few minutes of seeing her interact with others. A kind person is often easy to spot out in a crowd these days.
*"Its not your place to fix someone they have to want to do that themselves." This statement is not limited to relationships, it applies everywhere.*
I dumped a girl over "all my relationships have been bad because of them". She cried uncontrollably and blamed me. I was so happy to cut that bullshit out of my life. These "nothing is my fault people" are the ones who cheat on you because "the heart wants what the heart wants". Dump them, dump 'em hard, no mercy.
I had mutual friends one time say, "Six weeks is the longest she's kept a guy around". I wish i'd just said it's you, not me after hearing all her dates had been bad.
Well my girlfriend was just like these brother and she cheated me
Mine was the same way. Bye
She keeps the heads of all her exes in her freezer and yells at them when she’s angry.
Lmao!!! That's priceless
Thats normal 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah, that's a red flag!
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omg u make her sound like the female version of mr jeffrey dahmer. hahahaha
“It is better to live in a corner of the roof, than to live with a quarrelsome woman”
~King Solomon~
& here I am living permanently in that corner of roof
Solomon would know he had 700 hundred wife's and 300 concubines..
@@tryingtochangemyways5074 The trick is to keep them quarreling with each other instead of you.
You're probably better off living and sleeping with a Viper, then!! 😳😬😏
Thats true
What I can't stand are the ones who can't be alone. They need to be in a relationship regardless of how toxic it is. It's sick.
THIS. RIGHT. HERE!
Dude tell me about it. I fought regularly with a girl i was seeing up until last week. She ended it and had been on two dates already. I say Good luck brother. You will need it
Yeah I know.. I dated a gal one time who has never been single for more than a few weeks since she was 16. She has to always be in a relationship with somebody. Glad i walked away from that one.
I sadly dated a girl who plays victim, checked out my phone, was jealous, would get mad or question me if I didn’t call her in a few hours, and she was/is a crazy narcissist who didn’t work on anything. It was all my fault! Im better off alone than being back with her.
I think the biggest idea here is not to date somebody who is always looking for what is wrong with you. If this person is always trying to push you down and elevate themselves, it will be impossible for them to trust or respect you. One of those ideas that sounds very obvious when read but is much more subtle in real life.
1 she pointing out negative things in exes and friends always being a narc
2 excessive jealousy
3 she is moving to fast in relation(needy)
4 she is a liar
5 snooping into your privacy (phones, personal stuff and controlling you )
6 she doesnt have female friends
much easier way to tell. only one sign. she is a woman.
@@louiscyfer6944 PRICELESS brother! True words!
@@louiscyfer6944 hahaha
It's actually pretty scary how this list describes my last relationship although the girl isn't necessarily that bad, it's just her past experience and her family that have impacted such behaviour from her and the insecurity of a girl usually leads to all those negative stuff she's doing. And it's so unhealthy, I swear. At first it's all good, it's lovely, but even then you see some red flags, it's just their nature when a girl is beautiful and you are inlove, you can't always tell if you have to tollerate or not. It's natural to just skip those red flags, but eventually over time it gets worse and worse.
Except the privacy stuff, she was not controlling, but was jelaous enough and was also often in defensive mode, like she starts something, then you explain that it doesn't make you feel right and she's going crazy like ''don't blame me'' etc like it's always your fault basically. Those people never learn from past relationships that once you are not single, it's not gonna be just about you anymore. Of course, you don't wanna make it too strict right of the bath, but people have feelings too and in relationship besides the attraction phase, there's a lot to talk about over time. It's never a straight line once the lovely stage is over.
Or she had 5, 6 boyfriends.....Why so many?????
My actual girlfriend have 3 of the 3 signs: obsessive jealousy due to trust issues, she goes too fast and also stalks my social media.
She gaslights me a lot and projects. I just broke up with her, I missed my mental peace when I was single.
Good call
Wise enough to recognize
I was in the exactly same situation and also broke up with her(3 times lol), it's a huge red flag for sure, sad but true but those girls are only good for sex bcs they crazy af and actually good in sex.
There is a beauty in being alone..... Rightly said. One reflects on oneself, one's strengths, and shortcomings during the quiet moments.
The last girl I dated exhibited 5 out of 6 of these behaviors. It sucked because I truly loved her but like you said, she hadn't worked on her issues. Our relationship was doomed from the beginning.
*Spotting behaviors like extreme mood swings, possessiveness, or manipulation tactics can help people avoid toxic dynamics early on. Understanding these signs helps anyone set boundaries and protect their emotional well-being in relationships.*
I just love this girl so feminine and clears my mind of doubts solidly and talks about it so calmly
I have had excruciating first-hand experience with all six of these between two long-term relationships and they are so true. Your wisdom, especially at your age, consistently impresses me Courtney!
only thing i'd say is jealousy tends to be a bit of a natural knee jerk reaction on occasion (obviously depends on context), but i don't think jealousy defines anybody or is an extreme "crazy" flag | I think jealously, in a minimal sense, can let you know how much you care about your significant other - other than that, super accurate and great points!
I was for a couple of years with a narcissistic woman who had all those negative traits amped up to 11 and it was AWFUL, and the breakup became one of the most traumatic experiences in my life, since she used all her venom and negativity to hurt me (and smear me) real bad.
Stay away from that kind of people, it will never turn out well for you.
A narcissist smear campaign is hellish
I feel for you having to live and deal on that. Keep truckin on homie. 🤞🦾
Hey, I’m going through a breakup with a woman that has displayed all of these signs. We were together for 6 years and she recently ended things with me. This has been unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. I feel like I’m not going to survive the ending of this relationship. Can you tell me if this has been your experience, or am I crazy?
@@markcollins3272 Oh, you are definitely not crazy. This seems to be common place for all of us who have experienced this with that kind of person, and it is definitely an awful experience. The best thing I can recommend you is to resist the urge to look at their social media, use a blocking extension such as StayFocusd if necessary.
Now you need to really 'detox' from that person, and that means a certaing degree of isolation, in my experience. I needed therapy for a while and the whole process lasted for over a year, so be patient. But you will overcome this, it just takes time while you distance from that person as much as you can (as difficult as it can be sometimes).
Be strong and hang in there!
Have you considered seeing a therapist? They may be able to help you navigate through it
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Turn the setting from twin to triplet for me please. Thanks in advance
Make it 4
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A girl I dated had some of these traits plus some combos. She would explain to me about how bad her exes were and how much they screwed her, "everyone leaves me" attitude, in the process of sending me dozens of messages listing everything they did wrong. Some of the stories had her being the victim so much I doubt most of it was true. So there's 3 red flags in one hit. I had a bad feeling about her and turns out my suspicions were confirmed after I ended our relationship she fell pregnant to another guy just six months later. I felt like I dodged a bullet. I stopped talking to her when she started messaging me with everything he was supposedly doing wrong. Somehow I think she thought having a baby with a rich guy would solve her problems but turns out her new boyfriend is depressed and thinks she's ruined his life. So I guess it's as you said Courtney, these girls have issues and the thing that makes them crazy is their unwillingness to help themselves, only dragging down others. Don't get dragged down with them!
DUDE! Mine got pregnant 2 months later! Apart from that, the whole story is the same!
#7 If she tends to start an argument/fight in public, no basic decency.
#8 Has a high body count.
@@mr.e1026 Are body counts really a dealbreaker? What if it's 2 - 5? I can see that being reasonable, but if it's like 30 or 50, that's a cause of concern health wise.
@@Danny328DT "Are body counts really a dealbreaker?"
They should be. Especially if you're young. It is not a big accomplishment for a woman to be a ho. Any woman can do it. All they have to do is say "yes".
"What if it's 2 - 5?"
When I said "Has a *high* body count." what did that mean to you? Or did you just skip over the part in bold? Do you think 2 to 5 is high? Let me introduce to you the calculus called "dick-stacking test". Here's how it works. You take the number of men who have been with her, and divide that number by 2. This number represents feet. (6 inches per guy. 2 of them equal 1 foot). If a woman was to fall from that height and she is likely injured by the fall, that's too many cocks. If she would die from the fall, that is a walk off the lot one. Why? Being a ho demonstrates impulsivity. Impulsivity is the antithesis of loyalty. If you're ok being a cuck, or your wife having a couple boyfriends, eventually she will leave you. Either way, you may end up raising the offspring of another man. These sorts of women are often combative, abuse drugs or alcohol, have multiple bastards, and are financial wrecks. Does that sound appealing to you?
"I can see that being reasonable, but if it's like 30 or 50, that's a cause of concern health wise."
Health-wise? That is a walk off the lot situation. Keep the street walkers on the street. When it is said that you can't turn a ho into a housewife, you should listen.
Another sign I believe is when even herself admits that she doesn’t even like herself - from a mile you can tell something is wrong. One thing is being self centered but another one is that she doesn’t value herself either.
@missing no Well no ones is a vessel to be filled with anyone’s negativity.
I was in a relationship with girl who never introduced me to her friends. She would say that she never goes out and she's a homebody. And in direct contradiction to those statements she would be out with guys I never met. She would never say how they met only that they were friends and that there were other people there, so it was not a date but just people hanging out. OBVIOUSLY she was not only a pathological liar she was a cheating narcist who would justify her actions and try to convince me I was crazy. That one took the cake lol.
Wow, this video hits home. 12 years down the drain, not knowing the ex has all of these. Thankyou courtney. Thought I was going crazy. 🤔
It's not down the drain.
You were duped and you won't be duped again.
20 years same.
6 for me bro... we keep moving bro
The way you analyze behaviours and give detailed explanations for the causes behind them makes your videos great to watch. Could you please make one for things to do to keep the spark going once in relationships/how to deepen the connection in long term relationships/things which can cause people to grow apart Courtney?
Thank you so much! That’s an awesome video idea.
"Don't try and understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other." ~ Al Bundy, "Married With Children"
Actually they don't understand themselves either 🤣.
Exactly
Facts!
Wasn't that "Sun Tzu - the art of war " ??? LOL 😁😂🤣
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Courtney I want you to know that I deleted my Onlyfans account yesterday lol
I’ve never been more proud 🥺
Haha you know damn well your lyinggggg. No seassssss manonnnnnn 😂
Ive never had one lol i did not know i what it was until today an i think its a catfishing site
My boi did it...
Good job man
WOW... you described my ex in just 6 signs.
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Sayin your ex was crazy is also turn off for girls. : Courtney Ryan prev. Video 😂
@@md.shaban639 not if she actually is lmao😂😂
@@md.shaban639 I was kinda mocking her first point if you didn`t get it. Aaaaaand you didn`t :D
It's called borderline personality, same here bro.
Ok.. so where does someone go to find another Courtney Ryan ? What a well -rounded girl . I’m impressed! Good job Ryan.
This is her career man, keep that in mind. I'm sure her BF would tell you that she has her days like any other woman.
They are in well educated families
Great advice that can also apply to non-dating relationships too. My wife and I have a group of friends that came over to our house to hang out every so often in pre-COVID days. One of these laides of this group had several of the traits of this video. Pathlogigal liar, always played the victim card, emotionally manipulative, pointless drama. We ended up breaking ties with her and it was one of the best descisons we ever made. Hard to be sure, but a good one.
warn her
I have a teeny problem with the if she doesn't have any female friends rule. What if shes like Carrie white where she wants to have friends but no one else likes her
You have such a kind soul. Your doing higher work...
Sound advice. This is exactly the kind of information that young men in particular need to hear from a woman.
Good list. You hit the nail right on the head. The rule is, if they are crazy, no matter how good looking and sexy, stay away. You cannot cure crazy.
I agree with everything except for not having friends. I think there is nothing wrong with not having friends. Things happen in life and people we once thought were friends are turning out to be not. Sometimes, people just grew apart and move on.
Healthy relationship is impossible if people are unable to have friends and don't understand the concept of friendship.
How to tell if a person is able to be a friend, 3 main qualities are necessary:
1) honesty - the ability to call a spade a spade
2) loyalty - ability to achieve ambitious long-term goals, being true to something for 5 or more years
3) modesty - the ability to respect the dignities of another person, his aspirations, and ultimately his life, above your own
Ofc there are exceptions, but generally if someone doesn't have any friends, it means the person is a selfish liar and a traitor.
So yeah, it's not about being constantly surrounded by friends but about the ability to be one.
Look i think she needs to dive a bit deeper into this. You are the average of the five people you hang with. So if you hang with losers...guess what. This applies to woman too. Even if her one friend is that manipulative weirdo that she leans on, then thats not good for you
@[bsh]thrasher Not really because I had a narcissist for an ex and it was obvious how horrible she was once she showed her true self, yet people were so loyal to her. She pulled you in being sweet, so I get them getting to know her, but people who have known her for years I don't get.
@@Nephibis, it's hard to judge by your short description, but basically you've described a Siren, a dishonest woman, not a Valkyrie. They sing sweet songs attracting people, but that's a trap. If she's using people for years and they can't see it, that's not friendship tho, it only means she's a master of disguise. Ask yourself, do you think she would die for her so called friends? If the answer is no, then most likely my assessment is right.
I agree with you. It is not necessary to have friends. Just because you don't have any friends doesn't mean you don't understand the concept of friendship. There are people that are just naturally introverted and don't "friends" to pump up their ego. Society has programmed you to believe that you need to have "friends"
Saw this video on my feed (even though its a year old lol). So happy to see you've gone from 85k (at the time of this video) to 409k currently. Congratulations on your success! I really enjoy your content
Good list. I'm not into jealousy. The problem in my past relationships were that I work a lot and they assumed I was out with other women. Or if I didn't answer a text right away. Sometimes, having female friends isn't always a good thing in my experience. Some women can be competitive and purposely will sabotage your relationship and friendships.
I think overly snooping is bad but a lot of cheating happens and the only way to find out sometimes, is by their phone... and lets not pretend that just asking someone if their cheating works, lol. But overall great content as usual!
Hey Courtney, can you make a video on not losing yourself in a relationship, and what to do if you realize that you’re losing yourself to it?
That is called have clear boundries. Be yourself, don't let her change you, respect yourself and don't be a simp.
Ask your self: "Am I better with her or with out her?"
Courtney Ryan gives so much insightful information in aspects of females when it comes to dating stuff.
Wow. My ex was 3 out of the 6. The first two and the controlling one. She was a female narc. Great video! It peaked my interest. ❤
The friends of the opposite sex thing is a tough one. I dont know. Whenever I have dated a girl and she had male friends it always became a problem. Either she was flirting with them or cheating with them or they liked her and would get mad if she didnt respond with flirting or cheating.
Yeah... there's no issue if the guy is a genuine friend but the vast majority of guys that befriend women tend to just be there hoping they're next in line to date/fuck lol
"women always play-flirt with guys in their life, it's just what they do, get used to it"
I only dated my ex for two weeks and she did everything you said. Moved to fast, spend everyday with her, she said she loved me on the first day, yelled, lied, hit me, and many more. I ended it because she had lied and gotten me sick so I had to stay home and I told her we couldn’t hang out. She then text me saying that she would cut herself if we didn’t hang out. It was horrible to read that and even worse for me because I had told her that I cut myself before so she knew what she was doing when she said it. She had 4 different people text me after we broke up and one of them was her ex. Even he confirmed everything wrong with how she acted. Best part is after I got home from ending it she text me that I wasn’t allowed to date any other girls lol. So glad I ended it early and had people to help me see the signs before it got to far.
This is literally a prime example of my wife. We are currently seperated but I think it’s over. She is a narcissist and she accuses me, makes everything my fault, goes through my phone, always jealous from my customers. It’s never ending.
Courtney's more like a mature aunt who guides us on selection of good girl in path of life 😝
I watch a lot of the male advice videos, your videos are way more well-rounded, and understanding of both sides.
It has been hard to not go out and meet women without looking back at the shortcomings of my previous relationship. She was everything this video was about, except she did have girl friends. You may have made a video about moving on, but if it is possible to make a video about moving on from a crazy, toxic relationship would be terrific! I am a subscriber and your videos have given me great advice and have definitely brought it to my personal life. -Steve
This can apply to women in relationships with men to but I just love how soothing ur voice is.
I came here from watching Courtney review the 'Hot Crazy Matrix' (to which she gave a fair and honest response). I'm now happily married (for 15 years) . . . but I looked back on one relationship I went through before getting married. Intellignent and beautiful - in public. In private she'd just scream at me, throw things at me, hide my car keys so I couldn't go home and ended up throwing things at me (including knives). I left and had to hide as she kept stalking me until she found someone else.
wow thank you courtney, i know i did the right thing by ending my relationship two months ago when i found my x hiding in the wardrobe worried that when i came home i would be accompanied with another woman, yes snooping on my phone, going through my things, etc.
I once dated a young lady with a huge knife collection, scary ! (red flag ?) Thanks for another informative/great video :)
THIS IS A BRILLIANT EXAMPLE FOR THE REASON THAT MEN HAVE CHOSEN TO GO THEIR OWN WAY , FIND THE FREEDOM, PEACE, HAPPINESS , AND SERENITY !!!!!!!.
I dated a girl like this for three months. I overlooked the red flags because she was gorgeous, thought I could help her heal. Eventually I called her out on her behaviour and she cut me off. Glad I did that and got out, but nine months later the whole situation has me still all messed up.
You fell in love with someone's potential, its ok man. I think everyone has to go through that experience once. Its a really important lesson to learn, don't beat yourself up. You had good intentions but people only change for themselves, not others. Keep moving along, it'll get easier. There are so many beautiful women on the planet.
I'd pay $10,000 to find a girl who isn't running any of these 6
😂😂😂
This guy gets it
Exactly
simp much?
Use that money to fly to Thailand and have a young girlfriend. That way if she is a problem bump her and find another one.
That whole first point....wow. I learned all that the hard way, but you really nailed it
Hate to say - but all the traumatic relationships, highly manipulative, “is she going to file a false police report if I break up with her” type of girls I’ve been with had HORRIBLE relationships
with their parents. That’s a big red flag for me now. I’ve dated girls who didn’t really like their parents but it was “resolved” so to speak, those girls are fine. But I mean an ongoing chaotic hostile relationship with parents - red flag.
My current gf of 6 years is super chill and calls her mom like 3 times a week to chat, so I think there is something to this.
We guys never have more peace of mind than when alone and that is so valuable.
My baby mom cheated on me multiple times...this was something I heard while dating and confirmed after the break up. She's now been married 4 years and she tries to hook up with me ever few months. She fits everything u said as well. Wish when I saw the red flags I had done something about while dating.
Some solid observations from Courtney here. Gentlemen - take note! Ladies - also take note, since many of these issues are rather prevalent amongst young females of today’s world. A major red flag is how anyone treats servers/wait staff and is usually a good indication of their attitude in life - it doesn’t cost anything to be nice to people that work hard for living (I would know, since I worked as wait/venue staff in my university days), sometimes a simple “thank you” is worth more to a person than a tip.
Hi Courtney, love your videos and you always bring up great points! I do want to say that in my opinion, there should actually be three big points to the last sign you came up with rather than two. The two you brought up are already very valid, but if she actually *does* have female friends and they're all what we'd consider "crazy" as well, that's a bit telling of her too. I think you said this in another video (correct me if I'm wrong) but you are what you hang out with, and so if her friends have all these red flags, that's only gonna make me wonder if she's someone I should be having second thoughts about. Thank you - and again, love your content! I will be subscribing right now.
My ex-girlftiend had 5/6 of these (except snooping), jeesh. So weird I couldn't see it while in the relationship. This video really helped see the signs better, thanks!
Ooh I’m interested in hearing what signs to look for! I am hoping I haven’t met many women fitting these criteria 😂
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A really great video, because all of the “checkmarks” that are mentioned, are in reality the description of a person with narcissistic personal disorder, or at least on that scale of toxicity. So this of cause a really important subject, and Courtney know her stuff I can tell😀 I’m feeling thankful.
"Welcome back to the channel if you are new here hi am Courtney Ryan"
The most feminine line ive ever heard 😂❤️
well it would be disconcerting if she suddenly started "yo, sup homies? This is Crazy C, now listen up bitches, you want the truth? You can't handle the truth! Grrr"
@@JoeMercersWay Exactly! What the fuck did he think she would say?
She has two first names - first name is a girl's name and last name is a boy's name.
@@jdanon203 Interesting revelation. Courtney's also self-made a TH-cam community with nearly 100k followers and thousands of views per video and I think that's the important metric, rather than her family name...
i don't get it. at least she's not selling me pube shaving gel.
Don’t be afraid to call out unacceptable behaviors; it shows that you have standards and respect yourself.
How to tell if a girl is crazy: Apparently, if *I* matched with her, *I'm* trying to talk to her, etc. I get the crazies. Always have.
I'm right there with ya
Spot on! Guys you should not bend any of these rules!! I have, it did not go well! Thanks for the pithy video.
Incase ur ever wondering why we watch ur videos, cant speak for every other guy but here are my top reasons: 60% the content / 30% ur attractiveness (incl ur beauty, ur voice, ur femininity) / 5% to support any female who appreciates, respects, wants to help us guys (in a world of growing misandry) / 5% the kind way u treat ur followers (we are all humans, incl celebs & YT influencers, nice to feel like a human & not just a fan or subscriber or potential $). Keep up the good work!
Oh & love the vid, I think I was showing too much understanding for many of these points - they ARE red flags & I need to be more careful. Bcz I try very hard not to display these or any other "toxic" traits :)
Another 1 I would add is "she always cries when you leave home for the day while you are still not living together". I always thought that if people constantly cry when saying "goodbye" even knowing that you can meet at any time of any day this week have unhealthy attachment issues. After 3 years of a toxic relationship I constantly got confirmations on those thoughts...
“When people call her crazy they usually mean she has some kind of issues going on or are trying to figure something out”
All guys: “or.... she’s actually crazy”
Stop using that pathetic word it doesn't help anybody. Use a different word oh that's right people don't want to actually think of a different word to say because people are lazy
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 sometimes people are crazy, is what it is
@@lb4581 people are not crazy god I hate when people say that word.people could have me a mental illness or going through emotional stuff and that saying it is what it is I hate that as well but what can you do you know.
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 sure I mean not all people are crazy but some people are 100% crazy.
Totally agree! Great video! In general a girl that want all people love her, do what she want, and she is the only good girl she is totally crazy!!
One of my exs went through my stuff and found a diary with an entry from many years prior to our dating. The entry talked about how I loved a girl. She got jealous and I was all like, you're really creepy for reading my hidden diary and a weirdo for getting upset about someone I loved years ago.
Yo!whassup Ryan great to see your youtube channel growing. I am 15 and i am seeing your videos for like 1 year. it realy helped me to improve my relationships and myself(in general). So again,Thank you for your advices and keep going!
The thinks we get to know from Courtney's perspective are far away from other men's lifestyle youtubers.Thankyou Courtney for such awesome content.
Needing to work on yourself is fine and not crazy at all. That happens to most human beings. It's when you need to work on yourself, but you also decide it would be awesome to put another person's brain through sadistic torture and call it a relationship that you're deemed, "Crazy". And that's totally appropriate in my books
Narcissism and insecurity are the issues I see most of the time.
BTW: what does it mean when a man has no male friends, but several platonic female friends?
I learned all of this years ago. Your right about all of it. I can pick these women out real fast now!
The moment I see your video I click on it. Love you 1000 times.
Solid points like the vid on girls that guys shouldn't date. "Crazy" is often used inexactly as mentioned at the beginning, perhaps because so many girls demonstrate some of these characteristics. These 6 signs can definitely be traits for the truly crazy girls, however there are distinctions much darker that guys should be aware of. I may need to make a vid...
Number one "screening" question to any potential girlfriend. "What's your relationship like with your parents? Especially your father?"
Next question: "Tell me about your last ex."
OMG I dated a girl who fit almost all of these traits thank God we only lasted 6 months but she was hard to get rid of her she was very jealous she lied about everything and insisted she look at my phone every day but I couldn't look at her phone and the world was against her!!! Went through a living hell to get rid of her but thank God I did!!!
Maybe that's just me but the friendship between opposite gender is impossible. Whenever you begin to catch feelings for your female friend and she rejects you. That means she does not see you as a potential partner or you are not enough masculine for her. In other words that is called disrespect. This is why after the girl or guy cannot stay friends after a reveal like that. Because one knows that he is desired by someone he finds doesnt suit him and the other is hurt. Maybe it's just me but whenever I see friendships between guys and girls they all end horribly and for myself that was the same. I even had a girl said to her girls this about me : "Ben ? Don't be silly, it's Ben, he has no dick, but he's very kind and sweet" So not only she annihalated my self esteem that day but she made sure her whole squad would see me as a puppy and not an attractive boy. I ditched her immediatly after that and didnt wanna hear a single word from her again.
Looks like what you've described wasn't even a friendship.
Friendship - selfless personal sustainable relationships between people based on sympathy, mutual respect, trust, common interests and goals.
Do not expect relationships based on sympathy alone to be something serious. Those who know what friendship is and experienced it, value friendship much higher than passion, desire and sexual relations.
Hey Courtney, signs 1-5 are all traits of someone with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). Often, when we hear someone say "hey, my boyfriend/girlfriend's a narcissist, " we laugh & think they're arrogant jerks, which, is true, but, that's the Grandiose Narcissist, who falls on the low end of the spectrum. Many fall on the much darker end, such as the Covert Narcissist & Malignant Narcissist (also known as the destroyer), which is the last stop on the spectrum train before town of Psychopath. These are people you do not want to be with as they will steal your soul. I'm a survivor. I suffer from severe PNSD (Post Narcissist Stress Disorder) as my mother's a Malignant & boss is a Malignant. I also lost a coworker who took her life because of my Malignant boss & he sees it as a badge of honor. These people are walking the streets all around us & should never be allowed in society. These are people who have very little self empathy & zero empathy for others. They do not have the ability/capacity to self regulate. They get off on seeing others suffer. You may want to take a deeper dive in to the world of narcissism...you will be blown away.
10:56 man that hurts when you have no friends because of being a shy introvert with social anxiety.
I’m in the same boat. That and I’m at the age where all of my friends have either gotten married or have kids and don’t have time to hang out anymore. It wouldn’t be as big of a deal if I had somebody in my life, but being single and not really having friends is pretty crappy.
@@dknollRX7 Yeah. I had friends when i was a kid and when i was like ~18 i had one friend left, at the same age, but he moved away to his future wife when he was ~20 and has 3 children now. I'm 30 now and i had to realise that having no friends is really bad. I lost them all because of my shyness, introversion and social anxiety. I really hate myself.
@@IxamusMC Don't be so hard on yourself or take what she said to heart. Some people are just not as inherently social as others and that fact doesn't make you a bad person. Does it limit your opportunities with other people? Absolutely. If you want to change that, then you've got to work on it and it is going to be uncomfortable. However, that's your choice and other people don't get to judge you for your own nature. Anyone who does is not the kind of person you want around you.
I get what she's trying to say in the video, but she is reaching very hard with that point.
@@gregory6401 This is a good outlook. Like I said above some people are just not nearly inherently social as others. Oftentimes we don't figure this out until our adult lives as all the way through university friends are incredibly accessible. Once real life kicks in, it gets way harder.
I do want to acknowledge the way you feel is incredibly relatable. I have been in a very similar situation since I graduated, though I am in my mid twenties and tend to be the younger person. People think this makes it easier but when you struggle to relate to your own age group, it doesn't matter how much older or younger you are.
I would give one caveat to something you said. Not wanting a boyfriend/girlfriend to be friends with an ex is ok. Not wanting them to but also wanting it to be ok for you to be friends with an ex, not ok. My wife wants to be able to keep in touch with exes but if I do, I must be up to no good
Damn...my current gf has most of the traits. I never heard a story where isn't the victim.
I needed to see this last year. She scored 110% on all these and more. THAT went wrong soon enough
You forgot one small one: Every cop on the force knows her and her address.
Oh man, that reminds me of one....
Every cop knew her.
Her boyfriend was moving out. He was walking across the lawn going away from the front door.
She's in the doorway screeching, "NO ONE LEAVES ME" (click... Yes, a BAD "click").
His right hand slipped off the end of the coffee table, and he quickly reached down to get it.
The he heard a loud noise, and it felt like his left bicep was hit by a sledge hammer.
She was going full Dirty Harriet on him.
The bullet would have gone through his spine and then his heart but when he quickly reached for the
table the bullet went through his arm. He was lying on the ground, turned over and she was above him,
hammer back, both hands on the gun, and he was staring down the barrel. He thought, "Well... this is it.
It's over." She eased the hammer forward, turned, and walked back into the house. He drove himself to
the hospital (good thing. If she took him to the hospital she might have put a brick under the gas pedal,
and sent him over a cliff!). The prosecutor asked the victim what he thought should happen to her. He said,
"Well don't send he to prison! She will just get crazier!" A week later I saw her out working at a new job.
On the hot-crazy matrix (crazy 4-10) she was an 11. On the hot scale she was an 11. "Oh man, she's hot in bed!"
No, you're in bed and it's hot because she lit the bed on fire with you in it.
LOL!! That would do it 🤣
@@maxwellspeedwell2585 see that's why you ALWAYS carry! That's definitely crazy. 👍
Where were women like you when I got married?! Wow. Great head on your shoulders, logical and insightful… oh and beautiful. You will make someone a very lucky partner. Hope your advice helps many as well!
Jealously is a tricky one. Are we purposely doing things that are making our partner jealous?… then perhaps gaslighting the scenario? I have been with partners who have purposely tried to make me jealous as a manipulation tactic. Toxic for sure. It’s definitely a 2-way street.
Snooping is very much related to jealousy.
Having friends of opposite sex is very much contextual. There are some boundaries which need to be mature and respected.
Lying is a definite no-go!
All these points come down to the most important relationship fundamental of mutual TRUST!
Courtney is going to have some of these other women mad at her for helping us men out.
Doubtful...most of them are covert narcs..don't like exposing themselves.
She’s so sweet for doing this! I didn’t know this side of TH-cam existed
The Wedding Crashers reference was amazeballs 🤣
Lol, only 6?
Great message. Thanks courtney. Sometimes some people get bad advice and let their insecurities take over.
The crazier in the head, the crazier in bed.
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Nice
As Brad Pitt found out.......and learned to regret.
Courtney, I made the mistake long ago in my past about trying to fix a girl, I was younger, in Love, and she was really compatible with me but was very promiscuous and I wanted to fix her and wanted it to work but at that time I was a simp and making ALL the mistakes in how to build a great relationship and choosing the right partner. I also was in a very unhealthy relationship when I was younger as well where the girl was trying to change me to fit in her agenda and made me miserable and eventually she left me for another guy and even though I was hurt, in hindsight it was a blessing in disguise for me because even though she was compatible with me as well she had major issues too so it wasn't going to last long between us either. You're right Courtney, if someone has to change for the better then they themselves have to do it, put in that time and effort. I have been with a girl who was super jealous and at first it was kind of cute because I never had a female see me as the prize but it got out of hand later, gotten annoying, and toxic. We later broke up. I personally don't like clingy behaviour because I love my alone time and time for me to self reflect on my own and I'm totally repelled from clingy behaviour. Almost every girl I have been with has been a liar and I even have some relatives that have the same problem too. Almost every girl I have been with has either snooped through my cell phone and things or wanted to and I would get frustrated why I would attract women like that and it gets super annoying to me. I do believe there's nothing wrong with having friends of opposite genders and those that disagree are usually insecure with themselves and lack confidence. Obviously like you said Courtney, there has to be boundaries with being friends of the opposite gender. Great video! Not enough videos about the wrong type of women to be around with accurate information about them to be cautious and stay away.
I would like to say that I love your content Courtney! I mostly agree with everything that you stated in this video.
One topic in which I have a different opinion on relates to having friends of the opposite gender.
Yes, I do agree that it is acceptable to have a friend of the opposite gender if you have known them for a good part of your life.
However, if your partner speaks with this “friend” frequently, speak to them more than you, meets up with them 1 on 1, always includes this “friend” in your conversations, and constantly speaks highly of this “friend,” then it becomes inappropriate.
While these platonic relationships may look innocent on the outside, on the inside, there is a possibility that this platonic relationship could lead to infidelity either physically, emotionally, or both.
Nevertheless, great video and keep doing what you are doing! 😁
Hey Courtney. Funny how this video shows up after I had to part ways with my ex loved one this week. Summed it up in the first few seconds. She had no interest in getting some help with a few things that was actually crippling her mental health. I'm by no means perfect and also constantly work on myself but she needed a professional. It's very sad to have said goodbye, feels like a ripped a band-aid off. She needs to prioritize her self in her own life for once.
Never found a girl like you when I was a young man...bravo!
Hmmmn so it was ok with my ex GF to have contact with past boyfriends , but she didn't want me to be in contact with any of MY ex-girlfriends. Gotta love all these double standards with women.
for me i honestly can look at a girl and sorta tell, or at least within a few minutes of seeing her interact with others. A kind person is often easy to spot out in a crowd these days.
So true… I found out the hard way and wish I had this type of advise 12 years ago.
This...this is the video I needed to watch. Thank you!