20 (IMPORTANT) THINGS I WISH I KNEW IN MY 20'S
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- 20 THINGS I WISH I KNEW IN MY 20'S!
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Breeny Lee 20 things I wish I knew in my 20s
1. Slow Down and Smell The Roses 🌹1:30 (Especially With Family)
2. Beauty Without A Kind Heart Is Mere Decoration. 3:31
3. Stop trying to prove yourself 7:29
4. The Age 25 is Not Old 9:00
5. Time & Season For Everything 11:05
6. Attention From Opposite Sex Is Fleeting 12:02
7. Sex is Not Love, Love Is Not Sex 14:08
8. Find Your Tribe of Friends Early On 14:48
9. Choose Quality over Quantity 16:05
10. Be More Adventurous (Travel 🧳) 17:03
11. University Is A Scam 17:44
12. Don't Take Things Personal 20:20
13. It's Okay To Change Your Mind (It's called Growth) 22:03
14. You accidentally skipped this one ‼️
15. Learn to Let Things Go23:46
16. Save, Invest, Manage Money Better 🎯 24:17
17. Opinions Are Like Assholes 25:06
18. Nobody Cares As Much As You Think 26:06
19. Stand Up For Yourself 26:45
20. Young Choices, Become Adult Problems 27:27
I’m 40. One thing that I wish I knew in my 20s is that who you choose as your partner or spouse is one of the most important decisions that you can make. That person can elevate you or drag you down.
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Glad to here the accountability sometimes to often we blame the other person yet we didn’t address our own flaws and defects as humans yet we pass blame on the other person for things that happen to us but we didn’t care about our own personal integrity
A FACT!! 🥳🥳
This is so true 😢
In points:-
1.Slow down and smell the rose
2. Beauty without a kind heart is just decoration
3.Stop trying to prove yourself
4.25 is not a deadline
5.There is a time and season for everything
6. Attention from the opposite sex is nothing
7. Sex is not Love
8.Find your tribe
9. Quality over Quantity(for friends)
10. Be more adventurous
11. University is a big scam
12. Do not take things so personally
13. Its ok to change your mind
14.Dont hold grudges.
15.Learn to let things go
16. Save your coins
17. Opinions are assholes
18. Nobody cares as much as you think they do.
19. Stand up for yourself.
20.Young choices becomes adult problem.
Was looking for this thank you!* 😊
Thankyou
I think the point missed was “dont hold grudges”
Thank you!! It’s # 3 for me 😳🥰
I agree with it, but I don't think university is a big scam lmaoo. It depends on what u do with it. I know I want to get my PhD so I can conduct research and build a network. So it's really up to u, where u wanna put ur time, energy and focus. Your passions first!
“25 is not old.” Thank you. I’m 31 and recently found the career I actually want after going to school and trying different jobs in my 20s. Since I’m a new entrepreneur, I’m not making much $$$ and that can be discouraging as a 31 year old, looking at other women my age who are financially stable. But what I do have is youth, health, peace, the challenge of learning entrepreneurship, more freedom, impact, etc. Trying to count my blessings because while I’m comparing myself to others, they are comparing themselves to me! I am on my own unique, beautiful journey. There are married people jealous of single people, entrepreneurs jealous of 9-5ers…. Keep your eyes set on YOUR path.
It is well sis, God first
You mean, they're entrepreneurs who are jealous of 9-5? Lol, that's so ridiculous 😄
@@entertainmentjungle9030 because of the financial stability. Cause entrepreneurship is usually not an overnight success so you are going to struggle at the beginning.
We can relate to each other. I wish you all the very best ❤
So needed, beauty, thankyou.❤️❤️❤️
The part about "building a solid tribe of female friends" really hit the nail on the head for me!
I too am in my 30's and I don't really have any close knit female friendships. I yearn for those friendships with every fiber of my being. The older we get, the more challenging it is to establish these wonderful friendships. Boyfriends (sometimes even husbands) come and go; we as women need to stop solely focusing on men and take time to develop strong connections with other ladies. This is truly one of the biggest regrets from my 20's and younger years.
Same here..I am 29 years old and I don't have any solid female friendships...I had to separate myself from friendships where I was pouring into their cups and I was left drained and depleted and I work with mostly guys so it's hard to find female friends at work
🥺am trying to make friends but I fail Everytime it's like I don't fit in
Yes cultivating a genuinely loving and supportive sisterhood is so important especially since it gets harder to make new friends or meet new people as you age.
Trust me, its better to be alone than to be with a fickle friendship. You're better off loving people from a distance, as women are just a walking bomb due to explode one way or another
@@michaelnaminga2844 trust me, nothing is wrong with..you just haven't met the right people yet I know it's hard to believe and hard to fight the feeling but you will meet your true friends when it's time..you are strong
I just turned 20 (this month). And what I've learned (got a bit shocked) so far are :
1. Parents can drag you down indirectly. So always be smart to watch the situation
2. You will start to lose "friends" to go out with like how you did in high school
3. Mental health problems is now a normal thing for you. You just gotta improve and forget about the stress because..
4. Stress won't go away unless you rely on your parents 100%
5. Being fake and masking is a different thing. Sometimes you just need to match the vibe with other people to get a lot of connections especially at work.
6. Being grateful is a MUST. Don't ever compare yourself with anybody. Or if you have to, must be in a positive, encouraging way.
7. Sometimes saying "No" is the better than sacrificing your other importances
8. More disciplines will be very helpful. Especially in time.
9. Other people sometimes can understand you better than your family. And it's ok.
10. People are competing at work. They can be your friends but wanna be better than you and "win". As I said, be smart to watch every situations.
11. Last but not least, be wise on who you choose to share your probs with
Way smarter than I was at 20. I was so dumb lol
NO.1 Hit hard ,,black tax is killing me but am slowly learning to put me first 💜💜
You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth
Thank you 💕
God bless you
Amen 😭❤
I love this!
Yesss love it
Whoever's reading this, i pray that whatever you're going through gets better and whatever you're struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen
Amen🙏
Amen!
Bless your heart!
🙏 🙏 🙏
Jesus is with us all the time, just ask him to listen 🙏
I just turned 26 ✨yesterday and I spent it in solitude and with family. No fancy clothes, no clubbing, absolutely nothing and I feel so wholesome and fulfilled in everything. I've learned 🥰so much these past few years about myself, relationships, school, and feeling stuck. Ladies, no matter what please keep going and don't compare yourself because everyone has their own time when it's their time. 💕
Hey! I turned 26 today. Happy Birthday 🎈🎂🎉
Happy belated birthday
Thank you I needed this in about to turn 20 this week 💕
Happy Birthday fellow 26 year old!!
Hello fellow 26. This was how I celebrated my birthday too
I'm 19 now. I'll be 20 in 4 months and I don't know if I'm ready for my 20s. thank you for sharing this video, you are my big sister I've never had 🥺❤️
You’ll be ok
work as hard as you can you will have the most energy in those years. Also have fun because everybody is open and ready for you have s... maybe meet your husband do stuff! you dont need to go fast but if you do it's not the end of the world. my advice ( I am 37 I remember my 20 has good years ... did some funny stuff was in love I remember the good stuffs )
Just remember that everything you do today will affect your tomorrows. Get that education no matter what. Try not to entertain the wrong men/friends as they can be your greatest downfalls and lead you down paths you didn’t want to go down. Have fun and love yourself. You’ll be ok
Turning 20 next month🤧🤧🤧
Same
25 is not old 🙋🏽♀️ I turned 25 this year and I needed to hear that 🥹
Same 😊
Girl you're not old at all 🫶🏻
I thought the same thing at 16. Now I’m 25 and I’m fine 🤷🏾♀️
how could 25 be old when ppl r nowadays able to live 75-80 yrs ? like ur not even halfway. remember that before ur old ur gonna be middle aged, so u got a long road ahead of u still
Turning 25 in a few months and ppl be saying “you getting old” as a joke but yeah I was starting to feel it
📌Young choices become adult problems
📌It's ok to change your mind
📌 don't take things too personally
📌Stand up for yourself, check them
📌25 is not the mark, you still have the rest of your life to be successful
I learnt a lot, Breeny you are my big sis I love you, thanks for the gems♥️🇳🇬
Im only 22 and I feel so much pressure to be great inside and out to the point i feel depressed so i needed to hear several of these points! I also agreed with needing to slow down because I too felt like I would miss people when their gone and regret it. I need to not worry what others think, not rush things, build a tribe, and not think im right about everything, know that it’s ok to change my mind and etc. I saved this video because it resonates with me, I been feeling like my 20s are not good already and I only been in them for 2yrs. 😅 Thanks for another video❤
I pray that God would love to you and that you would no longer feel pressure but you would feel the beauty in every moment including those that are painful which can be hard to do. I pray that God gives you a tribe and a support system and God builds you and make you stronger! May your life be beautiful in Jesus name amen! I am rooting and praying for you sis. The world is so incredible in so many ways and God is going to show you that
Exactly my life and how I feel sometimes. Glad to know am not alone 😊
@@nickandchrismom aww thank you so so much such a kind women I appreciate your prayers☺️❤️
I'm 22 and I share the same mindset! Sometimes I feel kinda anxious, because I know this decade will define my whole life. But sometimes I think that we must do what we can, and dont let that pressure pursue us. ❤️
@@DusaDaily me too. i'm also glad to know that i am not aloner. i wish God help us to improve it.
I'm 55 and I agree 100% with everything you said. The only thing I feel differently about is.. I do NOT regret my University experience. I have never regretted any education I have received whether I paid for it, got it free, or learned it the hard way. Sure, I'd like to have the money it cost me to attend but darn, I would have thrown it away on crap anyway.
1. Slow Down/ Be present in all life moments. Life is moving. (Time cant be gotten back/ cherish times and moments)-everything you want to accomplish/goals is going to happen but take time to cherish moments in life.
2. Beauty without a kind heart is merely decoration. Work on being beautiful inside, out. Not just physical appearance. being pretty is aesthetic, being beautiful is wholesome.
3. Stop trying to prove yourself. (you have nothing to prove.) Be you, be genuine>> stop trying to prove yourself to family, cousins, friends. it does not matter. They see your value.
4. 25 is not old/ 30 is not old. You don't have to have your life figured out at 25/ 30. your not in control of your timeline.
5. There is a time to be, do, have everything you want to have.
6. Attention from opposite sex means absolutely nothing. You cant do anything with male attention. ( watch at >> 12:02 )
7. Sex is not love. ( Any man who wants to sleep with you does not respect you, and in fact is not love.)
8. Find your tribe>> (female friends) and find it early. Be intentional about building a solid tribe of friends.
9. Similarly to # 8 Quality friends over quantity of friends.
10. Be more adventurous. Doing things out of the normal. step outside your comfort zone.
11. University is the biggest scam of life>>>> disclaimer>>> Breeny lee's personal opinion/experience.
12. Don't take things personally and don't hold grudges.
13. It's ok to change your mind. Stop trying to have all the right answers.
14. … (She skipped #14)
15.Learn to let things go. >>>"Its not that deep"
16. save save save. Don't spend everything you earn. Save your money.
17. Opinions of others. (watch >>> @ 25:04
18. in her 20(s) >> she learnt >>>nobody cares. Watch @ 26:11
19. Stand up for yourself.
20.young choices become adult problems.
8. Find your tribe
16. Let things go , this stood out to me so much as I am such an over-thinker , I take things very personal and find it hard to forgive .
Never looked at not getting things at 25 like that. I always felt like people who got to their goals earlier were better, but I never looked at it that way.... you should have something to strive for and grow with. In due time. Thanks for this
Recently turned 21 and I already feel like I didn't do enough to start my 20s right, this video calmed me down and made me excited for them. Thank you for putting out this video Breeny💕
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Me asffff bout to be 21 soon
Me too 😢
“Beauty without a kind heart is merely a decoration” I love this 👏🏼❤️ and I always remind people that beauty isn’t everything, you gotta be humble, respect others, know your value and other people’s values
For me being kind and genuine stood out for. I need to remember that there is a difference between being pretty and being beautiful, you said, "Being pretty is aesthetic, being beautiful is wholesome". I need to work on treating everyone EVERYONE the same as I would treat my loved ones and to be stay humble. Also, I need to remind myself that I mustn't prove myself to anyone, it's me against me and the people that get it, get it and the people that don't, don't.😂 (I actually needed to see this today because I was feeling like I'm not pretty enough since I'm not receiving male attention so thank you, Jesus and thank you for sharing Breeny😘 God bless).
I really needed to hear this. I’m 23 and feeling undoubtedly lost. Thank you, Breeny! So good to see you back 💘
Same sis, same
And me too sis. I feel really lost
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Same sis
Ugh Same this thing we call life is not easy, I'm having trouble with not knowing the how
I'm 25, and I could relate to a lot said. The family dynamics, relationship issues and the fact that I never built a tribe. Tbh it was hard for me as a social outcast, struggled with depression and anxiety and now I'm in position where I'm not so sure about myself fully, it's like I'm stuck in a latter stage of bittersweet adolescence. I know there's a lot more to life but sometimes I feel like I missed out on my best as a child and a teen. I see so many persons my age out with their friends at so many events, and then I get FOMO. Working to be better at the end of the day ofc, cause it's only one life I got and I don't wanna forever live with regrets.
I’m 19 years old and I feel like I have been putting so much pressure on myself to achieve lots of things, finish my career as fast as possible so I can start making money and “live my life” that I have forgotten to stop and smell the roses like you said. I’m learning to take things slow, to have faith that what’s for me will be in my life at the right time. Thank you Breeny for sharing those advices and for always being my virtual older sister I never had 💗
I'm 40 now and I agree with all those things! Especially saving your money. So important!
EVERYTHING you mentioned resonates with me. God really blessed me when I found your channel this year. I just turned 20 recently but I'm so thankful for you and you're still my favorite TH-camr❣
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I just turned 28 and I’m so scared of turning 30 but this video has made me feel much better, thank you ❤
it’s easy to make good genuine friendships regardless of your age. The more you work on yourself, the more you attract the things that are meant for you. Remember, you don’t chase, you only attract.
Slowing down and smelling the roses is so, so important as we are getting older as well as being present in the moment! Too often we are in our heads about our past failures or future dreams that we forget to enjoy the moment with our loved ones! Also being beautiful inside and out as our physical beauty will fade over time but a kind heart never will! Loved all of these tips beautiful Breeny! Sending lot's of love and light! 🙏🏻💞✨
I'm 22 and finding your tribe really struck me mainly because I am experiencing many changes- many to do with location. I moved to a different country with my family, and then once again I moved to another city by myself for uni. I cannot help but feel myself becoming a floater, but I will just trust the process because, at the end of the day, I always find genuine love in good friendships. I think the tribe will form so long as I remain open to it.
Me being 25 right now and learning that I'm not behind. I am just where I need to be & I am perfectly okay with that now.
Young choices become adult problems!!!! Literally spoke to my soul
Really enjoyed listening to this while I was packing... totally agree on the point about not having to have it all figured out in your 20s, it's something I've BEEN saying to myself and others for a long time. I remember being 18 and crying my eyes out feeling like I'd failed for being unemployed, broke and not the "IT" girl. Then I turned 20 and suddenly felt this immense pressure to get all my life's goals achieved by 24 and then took a step back and realised how ridiculous it was. Now I'm 28 and honestly I have never felt more contented. By 22 I became a BBC TV Presenter, by 25 I landed my first TV commission and now this month I'm making my first TV Director and Writer debut for Warner Bros. Discovery. I didn't start off as the girl who all the guys noticed, but now the tables have turned and honestly I realised I wasn't missing out in the first place, half these dudes who may look great on the outside are whispering sweet empty nothings, so it wasn't hard to spot a quality man who found me when I wasn't even looking and loves me for who I am and values my mindset as well as the physical attributes... I say this all not to impress you but to say, LISTEN TO BREENY! It's going to be fine and sometimes you just have to trust the process and enjoy the journey... even when it's not going according to your plan.
PS: To any teenager watching, Breeny has been a source of inspiration since I was 16, you're in good hands😉
I’m 22 and sometimes I can stress myself out waaay too much. Reminding myself that it’s okay to slow down and be more present is something I need to work on. Thank you miss girl for these reminders
I’m turning 21 in a few months and I’ll be graduating college in a year and half and I’ve never been so anxious. Just knowing that I am in my twenties is scary (I was 16 a few days ago). My good girlfriend and I talk about it everytime we meet up - when will we meet our partner, our future career, health, relocation, happinesss - it’s just so much to think about. Comparison is also a huge thing 😫.
Something that I’ve been doing more is journaling to clear my head. I’m enjoying these gems you’re dropping Breeny ❤
Currently working on #3
I'm 25 now and over past 2 years are so I've been spending a lot of time alone and it's been rewarding. I have learnt much in this year of 25 than ever before, allowing God to take control had been best decision I've ever made. What you've shared is so true, the world makes people feel like we are sometimes behind or slow or deviant but we all have a purpose and when times right we all will be were we need to be. 🙏❤️ The years we spend being in our 20s are the most teaching years ever!
Breeny, you're the type of woman who only gets more beautiful as she ages--on the inside and out. You inspire me! ❤️
I’m 29, turn 30 next month and it would’ve been nice to know how unstructured and raggedy your 20’s actually are. Lol my mom had 3 of her 4 kids by her 20’s. I remember her back then and it boggles my mind to realize that she probably barely knew what she was doing. Just figuring it all all like the rest of us are these days.
But another really big one for me is not letting people put me in a box and me actually holding myself there. That’s held me back a lot. I’ve been doing the personal work though and I’m pretty excited for my 30’s. 🥰🤩
This is so inspiring thanks for sharing your story. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I'm now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone "you can start anytime to have a reset it's worth it! I'm striving to continue growing cus it's a journey✅✅✅
Congratulations sis! Thanks for encouraging others with your story, I will love to get tips from you too.
@@mariana23273 Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you.
How did you grow to 6 Figure? I'm honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year.
@@juliet800 ¿l learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.:)
Congratulations to you that's so brave of you thanks for sharing🥰💖💕
I’m 28, and I still feel like a kid lol. I resonated with everything you said- and I’m excited for the future! Will definitely continue to implement these mindsets and continue to grow 😊. Thank you Breeny!
I'm on this table sis. 28 and still feel like a child 😅
Same just turned 28 a week ago and feel really young still lol
I’m 28 also. And my inner child always shines even when I’m like shhh not right now lmaoo.
Your third point made me cry, because I always try to prove myself, even if it’s unconsciously and I absolutely hate that. No one cares at the end of the day. Everybody is worried about their own lives. So you just might do what you love and not care about the view of other ppl. Also, I‘m 25 right now and I’ve nothing figured out yet… thank you for your words.
31 has never looked better B🧡
The point you made in the intro really resonated with me. I have to remind myself that being in my mid-20s is not old. I feel like I started rediscovering myself and redefining success last year when I turned 25.
As soon as I turned 24 everything started to fall into place. Honestly early 20’s is overrated to me at least! Let life begin! I know I can’t wait!🙏
@@purpleviolet9046 my early 20s were a hot mess haha
I miss my 20s too! I learning now to live.
@@CassieJazz96 trial and error 🤷🏾♀️
@@purpleviolet9046 true haha
As someone who is now trying to be a marine biologist in the field of research, university is definitely not a scam for me. However I used to be in fine arts (I know, I am both an art fanatic and a science nerd) and I absolutely thought that wasn't something everyone needed to do. There is an incredible side to being taught new things and discussing ideas with others, but if you cannot afford secondary education it's absolutely possible to be a creative without a degree.
“Young choices become adult problems.” Whewwwwww This one for the win! OMG! This is the BEST advice I can give only second to FIND GOD THROUGH JESUS (the sooner the better)!
The very first thing you mentioned is what I need to work more on. Even though I do spend time with my close family/friends and be in the moment it’s still hard at times not to feel like I’m behind. I’m 29 and still don’t have a career (figuring that out) and I live at home. However, I’m being smart saving my money, got an 401k, Roth IRA and Life Insurance. So I’m blessed to have a grandma who allows me to be able to accomplish these things.
Anywho, I do like being around my granny, mom, lil brother and sis. I have to remind myself that I’m doing just fine and everything that’s meant for me shall be! I’m blessed beyond measure.*
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1) 1:28 Slow down and smell the roses
2) 3:36 Beauty without a kind heart is merely a decoration
3) 7:29 Stop trying to prove yourself
4) 9:00 25 is not a deadline, nor any age
5) 11:04 There is a time and season for everything
6) 12:02 'Attention' from the opposite sex doesn't mean anything
7) 14:07 Sex is not love
8) 14:45 Find your tribe
9) 16:07 Quality > quantity friends
10) 17:03 Be more adventurous
11) 17:43 University isn't necessary especially for creatives
12) 20:15 Don't take things too personally
13) 21:58 It's okay to change your mind
14) Missed
15 23:45 Learn to let things go
16) 24:17 Learn to save money
17) 25:04 Don't take people's opinions too seriously
18) 26:05 Nobody cares as much as you think they do
19) 26:44 Stand up for yourself
20) 27:26 Young choices become adult problems
The girl put in so much efforts creating the video. Do you think the people who would want to listen wouldn't want to waste time listening to her life experiences ? The whole video is literally about slowing down 😑
@@reee7086 I found this comment super helpful! I've already appreciated and watched the video through. Sometimes you have to re-visit something that pertains to you, having a guide is useful.😊
I’m 22 and I’m glad and thankful to have a great solid friendship group since freshman year of college(had to drop only 1) where everyone is genuinely happy and supportive of each other. I’m also still figuring out how to live the life I always wanted and not fall in the comparison trap of feeling like I should’ve already accomplished something major in my life by now
Agreed about university being a scam! A piece of paper and the debt isn’t always worth it at the end of the day.
Hard exterior with a soft heart, don't take things personally, most of what people do is a reflection of who they are and what they are going through in their personal life and nothing to do with you.... "I felt this"
You never disappoint, every single thing you said was on POINT. I’m almost 30 and I’ve learned all of these things too. What resonated with me the most is not trying to prove yourself anymore, and also the decisions you make now become adult problems… and just basically everything else lmao.
Love your videos!! Can’t wait to see your next topic 😍
Love your comment! I’m 30 and just went through a friendship breakup with a close friend and I just realized after reading your comment that I don’t need to prove myself anymore. I’m grown. Whoever wants to leave my life can. I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. I just need to be me. Thanks for the reminder!
@@SS-cu8se yessssss! I love that for you ❤️
Can I be your friend?😊
@@ayokapauleadimi2177 of course❤️
This video was very insightful. Thank you. I have been down lately because I have to repeat a year of uni after putting in so much effort and at 21 I feel “old” and just wanna graduate ASAP. This is a gap year that I didn’t ask for but I have now understood that I have no control over what happens in my life and to basically let go and let God. Thanks Breeny 💕
I got into college at 21, finished highschool in 2016 at 17. So I stayed home for 5 years trying to get into college and in that space my friends from highschool had finished college and were already working. 😂😊. I've never really looked forward to anything in life. Started some form of Entrepreneurship in that period of staying home, about two years before I got the college admission. Did my Internship at 24 (just turned). Now I want to travel to Benin Republic to improve my french. Not the kind of life people who know me (or knew me) would have envisioned for me. I'm learning radical self acceptance.
Turning 20 in 2 months, this came at such a good time! Thank you for being the big sis to my only child self 🫶🏼
I missed u, Breeny!!! At 24, I need to remind myself to slow down and not having to prove myself to anyone. I have to make sure that I know myself and my self-worth.
I'm so glad I have you. I literally grew up with an emotionally absent parent or siblings so I don't get all this sister/mom advice. I felt like you're sent by God to me. Whenever I had doubts like I feel so anxious how all my friends are in relationships or when everyone is moving forward with their life, I will pray and hope for comfort and answers. Then, I will always get recommended videos from TH-cam by Breeny on my current situation. I love you, Breeny! Btw Breeny glowed up so good!
22 now and I’m slowly learning 🙏🏽 patience time management and all about giving myself grace ❤️
I'm 29 and excited about getting older because there is much more to life and wisdom to gain! Your advice was so spot on because it was such a great reminder for me! I am hard on myself because my parents set such high expectations of my siblings and me. But now, I am living my life for me!!
i'm 29 too and i'm not ready to enter my 30's, i felt like i'm having a QLC.
Heavy on the saving. I wish I would’ve saved in my 20s and even as a teen. I would’ve have six figures by my early 30s. I knew to save but didn’t know how so I just ignored the advice. Now that I’m 34, my advice is to put away at least 20% of your paycheck/earnings in a high yield online savings account and let it build up with the interest. Ally bank or Capital one is a great place to start and it takes less than 10 minutes to setup.
Beauty without a kind heart is merely decoration 💙
I feel like the God made u talk about this been going thru alot and i needed answers..this feels like a literal miracle #love u B
Lol was god in the room at the time
Finding my tribe, being more adventurous and learning how to stand up for myself are the key things I’m taking away before I turn 20.
Don’t take things too serious. No body really cares. Don’t try to prove anything to anyone. Invest/save. This is so helpful. Thank you Breeny ❤️
Good info for discussion...decisions now affect your adulthood. Invest/save...something I really wish I did as I am scrambling trying to have a solid retirement and money for my child's college, etc. A little saved goes a long way. Amen!
Definitely what I didn’t know I needed to hear ..my twenties have given me so much anxiety feeling like I’m not up to standard like my peers like I’m just not where I’m supposed to be right now in life...u are definitely the older sister I wish I had to always tell me it’s ok to be where I’m at there’s no rush and I’m definitely not expired...❤❤❤
I'm 21 and I just started my first year in college i feel so lost because i felt old, but this really helped me
What stood out for me: Young choices become adult problems. So true
Number one is my biggest takeaway, my dad died when I was young, I wish I had more time with him. I was so young and didn't know any better when he died. ‼️🎯‼️More time with my dad, especially travel 🧳 with him, take more photos, create more memories!
no need to prove yourself to someone else, don’t people please, and smell the roses is reiterating/ hitting home for me. i need these reassurances because i do it more than i need to. so much more freedoms in letting go fr
I'm turning 36 years this year and I feel like I'm just beginning to live my out best life🥰❣️🙏 ..
Take it easy,breathe, make your life simple just the way you want it,spend time with yourself,work on your inner self, character, listen to your instincts,heal,nature yourself, appreciate yourself,do not go by standards of anyone especially social media..LOVE & RESPECT YOURSELF ,YOU WORTH IT!!!
20 things I wish I knew in my 20s
1. Slow down and smell the Roses
Enjoy the moment ( cherish the moment)
2. Beauty without a Kind heart is merely a decoration
3. Your age does not determine or limit
Your success
Beauty starts within , be genuine and kind
4. There’s a time and a seasons for everything (to be and do )
5. Attention from the opposite sex
Means nothing ,
6. Sex is not love
7. Find your tribe
8. Quality or quantity (friends)
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I’m fix it tomorrow
This is genuinely one of the best videos I've seen in a long time. Thank you. I needed to hear all of this. I'm only 22 but I feel so much pressure to have it all together.
biggest point for me is slow down! Im 19 and I am working so hard to reach my goals but recently realized that I don't have to over work myself because what's meant to be will flow to me . thank you for this
This has been very beneficial. Thanks for looking out for us Breeny Lee.there are many wise people in this world but not everyone can find it in their heart to take time and break down to us what we need to do in order to survive. Thanks for being that Big Sister we all need in our lives. Am a first born of 9 so you can imagine how much your videos have an impact on me
I don't think she is understanding how she is helping people with her inspiring words I love u breeny.🥰
Omg thank you breeny i loved this video ! Im 17 and currently working on creating my little tribe (i recently realized i didn’t have as much friends as i wanted) so im making new friends and im feeling good 🤍
I loved the seize the moment message too because i always feel like i have to have everything figured it out at my age but im realizing im only 17 and im so young its ridiculous
Love this 💕 currently 25 and I needed this video
Same, good luck
Same!!!!
I wish I told my younger self that being high value had nothing to do with your net worth, network, or what people think you should think or become in order to be worthy. High Value is based on the content of your character, how you treat people, how you treat yourself, and the integrity you live and display. What my my heavenly creator defines as worthy not what man says.
"Beauty without and kind and humble heart. Is merely decoration." - Yessss!!!!!!!!!!!! I love that so glad I came across your channel about a year ago. Seriously look up to you like a big sister. ❤
My grandma is 76 and still has goals and dreams!! You’re not old until you decide you are ❤
25 and will 26 in December and this makes me feel like taking it easy and being present in the moment. Allowing God to take control is the best. ❤️
I actually needed this cos 1 months from now I will be 21.i thought I was behind in life bcos nothing goes my way !!love you ❤
I’m about to be 27 & this is what I needed to hear. What connected with me is the girl tribe. I always had a difficult time maintaining friendships due to my trust issues. I wish I would of over came this problem then & learned how to trust & build that strong connection but I love how you explained it’s never to late to start.
This video has been sitting in my watch later playlist for months and idk why I was waiting so long to receive this message. "My friends have friends" hits HARD! I'm 26 so this feels like a big sis talking to her little sis moment
Currently 19 & I’m always so so grateful to come across videos like these!! Thank you so much Breeny!! 🫶🏽🥰🙏🏽
20s are very weird. I'm trying to learn from others and I'm trying to truly cherish everything. To be honest, we could all be gone tomorrow. So if you've got a beating heart and oxygen in your lungs be happy for that. Enjoy shit even if it's small. Like your pets, beautiful flowers, the way the sun shines through trees, rainfall. All the simple shit that you take for granted. We're here, and that's already really good.
I needed to watch this 😭 was having a lot of anxiety
I just turned 20 n I feel a whole lot of pressure to have my life in track and everything
But now that I watched this
It gives me the reassurance that I don’t need to have everything figured out
I just got be patient with myself
N believe in myself
And live in the present and do my best
Well done for sharing this. Many walks around with their ego wrapped up by trauma. When a person walks around with attitude issues, it will only open doors to depression and men who will keep them on a rollercoaster journey of anxiety. Work in humbling yourself. The journey to be classy maybe hard, when you raise your future self, you will have positive seed to leave in the world.
25 & needed it!!
You have nothing to prove, nothing to loose! 🙌🏽
I feel so much better watching this video. I’m 21 and I don’t go school and just work and still stay with my parents, but all the stuff she mentioned have been messing with my mind ever since I graduated high school and I just feel so much better knowing that it’s going to be okay and to just live life and make smart choices
Thankyou so much Breeny, im 24. This cid was def an eye opener!! I think fhe main takeaway i too from this is that no cares, no one is watching me as much as i think they are, the other is live my life, be more adventerous and spontaneous, and lastly you said let things roll off my back like a duck in water!! ❤❤❤
University is a SCCCAAAAMMMMM
😅🙌🏼 I felt thhhhaaattttt
How is uni a scam....
@@Sharon-xg1wb it’s overrated , I’m a graduate and I can tell you there’s more to life than what you studied
the first time I watched your videos, I was 22. Now I'm 25 and I feel I've grown a bit better because I was watching your videos through the last few years. It has been so motivating and eye-opening. Thanks for these tips.
I've watched a lot of 'advice for 20's' videos and this one by far has been the most reassuring, helpful, (funny), and resonating. Exactly what I needed to hear at this time! Thanks for posting ♥
I turn 26 next month and I’ve been feeling very ehh about it but this video helped ALOT! Thank you 🤍
Regrets of the 20s
1. Having extremely poor mental health because of the unnecessary stresses listed by Breeny.
Take it easy guys. Yall still have all the time do what you need to do. There is no linear road map to life. Don’t worry what others think, or feel insecure about wherever your are in life. Embrace yourself and smell the roses and the cheese. Both are fine scents because your character building.
What stick out to me the most is when you said to check people I am actually really guilty of this, I would let people say whatever they want to me and just smile for the sake of being nice and because I have a friendly face they would think that give them a pass to say or do whatever and later on that would just eat me inside well no more I am praying God that I actually stick to this one. Love your channel by the way
I am 19 years old watching videos like these, watching videos about manifesting and the spirituality world i am so blessed that i’ve came across this path on my own, i just know im going to have a great luxurious life❤️
I have loved my friends And considered them my sisters my entire life. I have been betrayed, used, gaslighted, bullied by those same girls. Now I have 0 friends and need lots of recovery time from all that. I have never been treated like that by men. I am not saying this because I need a pitty party, I just wanna share my experience. And God knows it’s the truth. I dont know if the whole “female friendship” thing is for me!
I am about 20 years in 2/3 months (December). I am feeling both happy and more nervous to enter in my 20's❤️😩
Wow Breeny I so relate to everything you spoke about in point 6, I have definitely realised my worth isn’t found in a man🙌🏾 When you never have that male father figure in your life you seek it somewhere else. God is so good with how he brings us up with word & the power of the Holy Spirit.
Screaming young choices become adult problems, I spoke about this on my Channel recently!
I couldn’t agree more Breeny! Thanks for this video 🙌🏾 Literally confirmed things I’m currently learning