Why Men Are Intimidated By You...
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Many weak and scarcely men cannot handle strong women because they feel intimidated by you. In this relationship advice for women video, I will break down for you why you intimidate men who have not walked in their masculine energy and who have not found themselves and their purpose.
Below are reasons why men are intimidated by you that I talk about in this video.
1. You have better options 2:01
Men who are not comfortable with who they are and what they bring to the table are going to feel intimidated by women who can do better than they can. When you are dating a man who you shouldn’t be dating there will reach a time that there is going to be room for intimidation because you could be doing better and having better options. Men who know you can do better and have better options, can self-sabotage, become very toxic, and even become very controlling because he is trying to bring you down to a level where he can control you.
2. You are much accomplished than him 4:22
Many women who have their own education, having achieved many things, and business they become more accomplished than the men. When you’re more accomplished than a man it may make him feel like you have more options over him because he has not accomplished enough in his life. There are plenty of men who won’t get intimidated even if you are more accomplished or you have more options.
3. You make more money 6:30
Men should find their own financial stability. A woman who makes more money than her man does may become a problem causing the man to be intimidated. Usually, money is not the problem but the money will start causing problems because they will start to project into you and they will start to become guarded. They will start thinking they don’t make as much as you, they cannot live the lifestyle you live or they cannot provide you with the lifestyle you live so, they feel less.
4. You don’t tolerate nonsense 9:10
Women who don’t take nonsense cannot be intimidating because they don’t have room for tolerating nonsense. When you set standards for yourself as a woman, you will definitely intimidate men because you don’t tolerate anyone’s nonsense.
Also, you might look intimidating because of the following reasons:
1. You look mean 11:07
The negative energy that you exude or your attitude makes you look mean. You have to let yourself have peace from within, which is always good for you, and let the positivity in you come out because looking mean can be correctable and that can be the reason why men are intimidated by you.
2. You give off too much masculine energy have a bad attitude 13:01
A bad attitude is a hindrance to people wanting to vibe with you, be with you, and to get to know you because it pushes many away. The negative energy and bad attitudes that are not mindful make you intimidating.
Strongmen have hopes and have no need to deal with someone who is difficult and has negative energy. Check your energy, your spirit, and your attitudes, and be honest with yourself if you are a difficult person. The quality of your life will increase if you change these things thus drawing more people, success, and you will become happier.
As a relationship coach and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful and that you will receive the man who is truly best for you.
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I feel they are because the female is doing better in life!
LOL. I'm laughing because you said the man may be intimidated because he knows you can do better.That is so true!!! Lol
Lol
The last guy I dated after we met he told me I deserve someone better - he’s not wrong though ! I’m out of his league for real !
LMBO.. so true
My ex- fiance was so intimidated with my progress and my positive mindset .He suffers insecurity ,isolation and inferiority complex too .He always wants to devalue me,Always showing off Aggressive behaviour etc. Am glad he's out of my life for good
@@ninaspanky2939 yes that’s what guys do n they want to make u feel insecure too !
I believe a man’s ego and past relationship/childhood wounds will prevent him from approaching a high value woman. They would rather seek women that feed their ego then put down their guard for real wish fulfillment. That’s why you’ll see them with many options.
@Cary Sontag would TH-cam management appreciate employees/admins harassing subs?
@@sisis_eyes_wide_open he just wants to smoke weed etc..he is full of bs ..a conformist man looking for a conformist woman..dont worry most of people conform..so you ll find one easily that thinks its great you want to buy your weekly pack of beers in Tesco, and smoke your weed etc
I also know that a woman's respond differently to guys they're find attractive/not attractive. If you're attractive to her she will be open if you're not her type she will avoid you and have dry energy in the conversation. You're not gonna be every woman type so dont even try to chase her validation because youre only doing it because you believe you're entitled to every woman and that every woman should like you which is not the case
@@12Messenger naw a dealbreaker for me is DISRESPECT. If I sense someone is being deceptive towards me. I can assure you that his looks or money won’t save him. There’s a great influencer I follow that once said, “men that hate women is bc of past rejections” and that statement resonates to my core.
@empressadelaide. I agree with you. I dated a man who always wanted to remind me I was one of many. I told him, he was pathetic to wear that as a badge of honor. I said if you can do better, do so and stop calling me otherwise, pipe down And let's enjoy each other's company. I eventually got bored with his demeanor and lack of self esteem and put him in the friend zone. Smh!
Stephan, don’t worry about women who can’t handle the truth. Just tell us the truth anyway. I appreciate it.
Right. We grown.
Me too
Also what's annoying is WOMEN responding telling MEN how MEN thinks! Men sure don't think the way we do so how can we tell them how they think. Smh🙄
Thank you I'm glad to hear that!
@@kizzyrock Exactly
There are men who are insecure with themselves and this is one reason they'll feel intimated.
Exactly
@Great What true, but be confident, positive and secure with yourself.
100%
When I was a teenager, there was this older woman who came up to me and asked me why was I looking mean all the time. She also came up to me and ask me why am I always smiling all the time. The older I've become I realized that no matter how you are as a person people will always find something to criticize you about. That's why you just have to be you!❤️❤️
Yes so true 💯
Women get criticised regardless of what we do or don't do. Just keep working on ourselves, keep being the best we can be, and f**k everybody's opinion
If a man has his "stuff" together he will not be intimidated Ladies........on the other hand if he is looking for a come up he will not care.
What you said
but the issue isn't always about intimidation. make sure you watch the full video
Really depends on what you define as "stuff". For example, there are plenty professionally minded, completely independent men who are among some of the most intimated people socially. Sometimes a hyper awareness of what you are can work against you when you're attracted to someone who is looking for what you aren't.
True. If my bank account is at 6 figures there are things i can enjoy without a woman like my hobbies traveling etc...i just send the invitation to the woman i want
AMEN, Queen!
Yes because they feel like they can’t measure up to you. That’s when they start becoming manipulative and controlling.
Absolutely!
And abusive physically
Yeeees!
Classic narcissistic personality behavior exactly and the gaslighting too omg
The "you look mean" is the "little girl" inside of us that protected us through out our childhood...I had to thank her and advise that I can take it from here...😊
❤...I know her too😅
A strong secure man is much needed😊
Sometimes that is the case, but many other times the issue goes deeper than that
The issue with that statement is security is relative to situation and environment. You can be incredibly socially secure with people who are older than you and incredibly socially insecure with people inside of your own age group. Or you can be incredibly socially secure in general but professionally insecure. It is impossible for anybody, man or woman, to maintain the "full package" of security at all times. We all have our good days and bad, a question that will get you farther is asking yourself what kind of tendencies you are looking for inside of a partner. Shooting for someone with no flaws is a great way to set yourself up for failure.
Truth!
Are you that women, that deserves that type of man? You are what you attract.
@@BihFaca11 I'm that woman and more🙌
As soon as I heard “ weak scary men” I was glued.
Me too
lol 😂
Weakness is a turn off to me. Masculinity and Self Assurance is A turn on. Even more, If He has a Relationship with the Heavenly Father, Submit and Faithfully Obey the Commandments/Laws/Covenant/Union/Bond/Alliance/Agreement and Statues made with the Heavenly Father.
I know he would be able to be Faithful to our Union/Bond/Relationship that I agree to be in with him.
I'll not Join/Unify myself to any other man that one has has "First" Faithfully Honored the Commandments/Laws/Covenant/Promises/Vows and Statues to Their Heavenly Father.
How can you possibly expect him to lead you anywhere that results in Everlasting life.
That's the type of Son of God I want.
That's cancels out 95 to 98 % of them.
So, Yes it intimidates many of them.
The Most High God didn't tolerate the adultery (Unfaithfulness) of Israelite Males and their people; I will not as well.
Him not being a man of order: Obedient to those COMMANDMENTS/Laws and Statues tell me everything.
He'll be unfaithful secretly. Expecting me to show him grace consistently because I simply dated down. Joining myself to a male that didn't meet the qualifications.
Oh...no.
I past. The Heavenly Father gives good gifts.
Scripture says: When man finds a wife (Daughter of God that has submitted to faithfully obeying her Heavenly Father) he findeth a good thing and attains "Favor" from God.
You must first make sure he was raise or at least he's currently exercising being Faithful to keeping those Commandment/Laws and Statues of God.
These are the last days. It's beyond ne why everyone is even marrying and being given in marriage. Instead of turning the hearts of The Sons of God (Scattered Israelite Males) to the Heavenly Father. So that their hearts can return back to their Children and Childrens hearts back to their Father. Instead, Everyone is preaching their own Doctrines in these end times. Not seeing the Heavenly Father has cursed the land as he has stated:
Malachi 4:6
“See, I will send you the prophet Elijah before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.”
◄ Luke 17:27 ►
New King James Version
They ate, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark, and the flood came and destroyed them all.
26Just as it was in the days of Noah, so also will it be in the days of the Son of Man: 27People were eating and drinking, marrying and being given in marriage, up to the day Noah entered the ark. Then the flood came and destroyed them all.
28It was the same in the days of Lot: People were eating and drinking, buying and selling, planting and building. 29But on the day Lot left Sodom, fire and sulfur rained down from heaven and destroyed them all.
30It will be just like that on the day the Son of Man is revealed. 31On that day, let no one on the housetop come down to retrieve his possessions. Likewise, let no one in the field return for anything he has left behind. 32Remember Lot’s wife! 33Whoever tries to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will preserve it. 34I tell you, on that night two people will be in one bed: One will be taken and the other left. 35Two women will be grinding grain together: One will be taken and the other left.”e
@@TouchnotDAnointingof136DZion i assure you this is honestly how I feel. You cannot lead me if you do not follow. I don't even date that 95-98% anymore. It's a waste of time because their ideals don't line up with mine.
I have a friendly feminine energy. I have learned to be more discerning about moving people from friend zone too soon. Club seats and suites aren't for everybody.
That last sentence!!!🤩🤩🤩👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I’m taking that 😁
Love it!! 👍🏼
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Me 2. ...
That last part 💯🥰🥰
Facts! I’ve been told plenty of times that I am too independent. Which I am but I would never intentionally make a man feel like he is not needed. Great video! Loved the fact that you explained both sides!
thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it
It is a tactic..so you do what they want
@@irlandaise5631 That makes sense!
@Tameka Jones Yes, I completely understand that! Being independent doesn’t mean that we won’t allow a man to be a man.
@@irlandaise5631 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 glad someone sees this bcuz I figured it out a long time ago.
This is very true. I work in a male dominated career so I used to come home with a lot of that energy. I worked on softening myself and feel better now. I feel calmer and happier. Regardless of whether or not a man is involved, it is worth it to yourself to work on your own energy.
You're absolutely right!
So true!
Yes, that was me. I’m competitive by nature, not trying to outdo others, but trying to outdo my past self. I slowly realized that men found that energy intimidating. I can’t and don’t want to change myself, I came where I came to in my life with my energy and confidence. However, because I don’t want to be a loser in love, I’ve made the decision to work on my energy and connect with my feminine side and at least learn to be flexible and know when to switch on and off my strong, authoritative energy because I want a masculine man and I know you can’t have two alphas in a team. I’m ready to take the back seat with the right guy behind the steering wheel.
@@Ana-rb7ws Girl, exact same sentiment. I feel this 100%. I agree, I want a masculine man so if I just relax and let him do the driving (within its limits, ofc!!), I’ll be happier. And it’s worked. I’m now in a relationship with a masculine, secure, grown man and let him take the wheel all the time. It’s been good.
What was the field? I might be in one too.
I’m female and I’m surprised at how many times you had to say ‘I’m not trying to be disrespectful or mean’. One of the reasons I follow/listen to you is because of the way you convey information. So I really hope that the ladies don’t drag you that badly...🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️
Yeah. He usually says things in a clear concise non judgemental or accusatory way. But there's still gonna be some very sensitive ppl out there, so I get that he gotta keep saying stuff like that.
Thats VERY POLITE of him saying that. I receive it that its coming from a HUMBLE GOOD HEARTED person. 🙂🙃🙂 NOT in a mean-spirited way
Jay C .........UNFORTUNATELY he CANT PLEASE everyone. But to the person WHOS TOO SENSITIVE then they HAVE A CHOICE, DONT CLICK AND LISTEN to him speak. THAT SIMPLE 🙃🙂🙃🙂🙃🙂 But DONT be putting the man down. I consider him VERY PROFESSIONAL AND HAS A LOT OF COMMON SENSE Advice.
Thank you for your kind words!
*woman
I think it’s dead on the spot. I’ve been heartbroken to find that the man I was interested in didn’t see the greatness in himself that I saw so he pushed me away. In the past I’ve been drawn to men who need my help , it was a spiritual need I had to fulfill, although toxic. I was a fixer. I’m still trying to eradicate that quality entirely. But now, I know my strong and upbeat spirit will intimidate men who don’t feel as good about themselves. These men will make little jabs at you or your appearance in the form of a “joke”. Inside, some of them have toxic relationships with themselves and or their mothers. I’m now very careful to only choose men who are satisfied with their life and have recognized the King in themselves. If they aren’t living a purpose filled life, they will inadvertently or indirectly sabotage the women who come to love them.
💯 Yes!
Accurate men can be better with this
I have also had this struggle! Well written! Thank you!
I used to believe it was that the men were intimidated until I realized that my actions were a reflection of much needed healing on my part. 🤷🏽♀️ But it gets easier to work on once you come to terms with it.
I'm happy to hear you were able to understand and acknowledge this. I pray you heal from all the hurt you have experienced.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks ..Thank you! 🙏🏼
Im greatful that you deliver your messages with love. Prayer is definitely needed and appreciated. Because the Lord knows I need Him to get through...🤦🏽♀️😂🤣
@@allthingsartwmari awesome 👏🏾
@@uncledrew7633 ..Thank you!..😊
Hello, I would say that this is not only a MATTER of intimidation. When a man is really interested in a woman, he will face her.. No MATTER WHAT She responds... Love.. Is love.. ❤️😇
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks You are welcome, Mr. Speaks. Thank you for sharing interesting topics. 😇👌🏆
My family is FILLED with strong women. A lot of us got it from my Great Grandmother. She raised 14 children on her own, while farming, after my Great Grandfather died. The women are so strong that we don't know how to be soft and let a man do much of anything for us. The men in my family, most of them are married. Many times, the strong women see them and feel like they "can't do nothing for themselves." Society doesn't help either when the first attribute our men say about is is how strong we are. Nearly every other ethnicity of women are immediately seen as precious and fragile. Took me a long time to learn that being a "strong black woman" is not a compliment and I got tired. I'll remain resilient and goal-oriented while I pursue the right to be a soft, cherished, and protected woman.
Thank you for sharing, every woman has femininity within her and I pray that you may be able to tap into your feminine energy so that you can be able to attract the man you truly desire.
My sentiments exactly....well said Queen!
Beautifully and attractively spoken
Men say they’re intimidated by me because “i look mean” whatever that means. But I completely disagree. I’m just very serious and don’t have time for BS.
after a while I do tend to get warm towards a person.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
@@itscharine1712 whats your zodiac sign?? That may play a big part as it is for me
@@buffybanks9853 Zodiac sign?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The same with me! I have a natural mean mug,but I am the sweetest person! I find also,that I am able to ward off alot of jokers this way! 😆
I was talking to this guy and things we're going great... Then he seen my house and things that I've worked hard for.. the next day he told me after seeing how I live he couldn't afford me or keep up with me.. to this day I still dont understand 😒
He probably thinks u high maintenance 😅
Queens Don't stress over not understanding stupid .😳 we're not supposed to.. NEXT 👑
He was not for you. You need to make sure you target men that financially better off than you and won’t care about what you possess.
@@unologic And that's so not me lol
@@queenme7595 right! I'm making moves like my parents taught me 🤷🏽♀️
I met a guy who told me I was too much woman for him😂 I questioned him as to why and he said that he knew he had to come correct to be with me. As I dug into who he was I discovered he was that guy that was considered the ultimate catch because of his job and material things and therefore in Gary he was the shit to women who were into that type of guy. I challenged him to take a look at himself and mainly his heart which other women would not. We’ve been friends for 16 years.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Sometimes sneaky people like to call people negative.
You're absolutely right!
Jajaja it's so true
@@WinningFace I have flaws but sneaky isn't one 😅🤣
There the ones who do it the most 💯💯💯💯💯🤣😭
''you look mean' almost took my out HAHAHAHAH
I will never forget. I made eye contact with a man at work (huge building), and said "Hello" as I usually do. He quickly looked me up and down, and said, "There is nothing that I can do for a woman like you". I was like...dude, how about you say, "Hello" back? We just met. I have known you for a full 30 seconds and you don't even know my first name.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
That’s a tactic sis don’t fool for it 😂😂😂
@@Sarah-qc4sp Oh, our conversation stopped. No need to continue when a man admits that he can't or doesn't intend to do much.
I’ve had a guy say that to me as well.
I have a very friendly feminine energy but I also don't take no mess! I smile and am very kind but I don't have time for foolery! And I keep a positive and uplifting energy and attitude.
Good Michelle. Be open when I approach
@@12Messenger Approach only if serious.
I come across as a "I don't tolerate nonsense" type of woman because I point out where they mess up.
You come across as a women who has been programmed by women on the tv on how to act. People got more stuff done and weren’t so insecure back when women were shamed more than men.
I do the same,i don't tolerate nonsense!and that's ok
@Cary Sontag hey be nice!!
@Cary Sontag the reason why people are rude and negative
It's not your job
I hear, "your energy is too strong!" Or, "I know I have to be a man when I come to you." Or they end up leaving me for a low vibrational woman and when that don't work out they try to come back! They all try to come back. It's so bad i'm ready to move to another state. I'm convinced my soulmate was swallowed😩😩😩😩
yes i am currently experiencing this in my current relationship. i once thought he admired my strengths and input but now i see although he will ask for my help or opinion he also then constantly devalues the contribution. I am just learning that he is insecure in himself & therefore intimidated. i always thought i was helping but i realize it has only hurt us because he views everything as a competition for leverage and power in the relationship. the more he feels i have the more distant we have become.
Glad I could help and thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Thank you for explaining the " Strong Man's " view of this discussion. Alpha males exist and we are searching for love as well...Be blessed and respect each other.
Please don't call yourself and Alpha Male. Self proclaimed Alpha Males are weak and low value Players and control freaks. The fact that you are here on this channel shows that you are a man of value, who offers far more to everyone than an angry and loudmouthed "Alpha."
"Check your attitude, check your energy!" 😂👏🏾 I used to have a strong mean-mug. I had to correct that from the inside out though. What's happening inside of you will show up on your face whether you're trying to hide it or not.
“You said PPSD from the last woman into your relationship” is so true. Most of us men and women, have PPSD from our past and last relationships. That is why communication with yourself, yes with yourself is the key. Give yourself time to get over the past traumas before you start new ones. This Is a reason most rebound relationships fail. They fail because we set ourselves up for failure because we don’t want to be alone. I’d rather be alone and fail then fail at being alone in a relationship. Work on yourself.
Thank you I'm glad to hear that!
As a domestic violence advocate one of the top red flags in an abusive partner is insecurity. The other two or control, and jealousy. If a man is insecure for any reason that should be a indicator to look for a pattern of behavior. Insecurity is not a good sign for any reason. If he's intimidated , count it as a blessing that you may have dodged a bullet.
I'm recovering from a guy who was like this towards me and it hurts but I'm glad I knew who he was deep down. He was truly broken and hated his life a lot.and he was trying sabotage mines too.
I was told I'm too independent but when I give guys a chance to handle business they don't. I feel like its a control thing.
It definitely isn't an easy situation.
i share your sentiments
Girl tell me about it!
This is crazy. My ex assumed I would have a line of men pounding my door down when we divorced. Not quite what happened. He always said I was out of his league. This puts everything in perspective. Great insight and advice 🙌🏽
Thank you for sharing, I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all you have been through! 🙏
Yes, several times because I won't tolerate nonsense period.
There is nothing wrong with that. It's a line between not tolerating bs & nagging. We don't have to put up with nothing we don't want to!
@@mythoughtsarenothisthoughts exactly!
If he stay away because he knows I No tolerate non sense he is making me a favor!
Those men stay away because they want to play games and they can tell when they met you, you won't be much fun.
The feminine energy is no joke and so beautiful. I’ve always been soft and encouraging around the man that I love and always doing things like body massages, moisturizing his hair and deep conversations❤️
You don’t wanna give a man the impression that they’re dealing with another man 🤣
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1000%! You can be independent, have a nice place to stay and make good money. But you can't be masculine, IT will ONLY work with feminine man, no REAL mans man will ever tolerate a masculine women far as her behavior.
@J Punisher it boils down to givers and takers. I was raised to give. It honestly makes it hard for me to be in a relationship because not everyone I’ve dealt with is a giver. Masculine women have an insecurity of not having a man give, so then create it for themselves and take from men. That’s why you see successful women that only want men that bring a lot to the table 💯
@J Punisher have a standard for there character. And have more conversations too. Any women that’s self absorbed, bossy or toxic will usually reveal themselves through long conversations. If they can’t even have a long adult conversation.... move on
I’m very approachable any where I go, any man that comes into my life say the same thing. That I’m a good woman and just the Presences it self, they were able to relax. As time went on in every relationship I had, they either became abusive or they walk away. They told me I can do better and that a good women like me should not be held down by a man like them. They do try to come back but I turn them down. I definitely believe that there is a man just for me. Until than I’m going to continue to build me and work on me.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you are very welcome.
@@navistwan4581 I'm sorry to hear that hun, you are so pretty and having positive energy is a great thing. I hope you are doing better these days.
@@AriaPringle9053 Thank you 😊
I’ve found it is not all successful woman..self employed or making a lot of money. I am a Pre- K teacher and trust we make no money..I’m still trying to finish my BS and finishing other goals that I have set for myself and I still have these issues. Like he said: if you are confident, strong willed and optimistic about life because you have a spiritual walk and they don’t know how to handle that it’s going to be a problem.
I’m differently trying to be positive but when I’m approached by bull$@& I know my body language immediately change. Working on it.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Yes! What I’m ready to hear is how men can be a lil more willing to meet us in the middle on things.
All I basically understand these channels suggesting is men get in their alpha, and women, u work on adjusting YOU into a shell of a woman he can , “Deal with”.
Exactly! Same here girl!
In my experience a guy can be intimidated by how a woman who pushes him to be better or move different.
Sometimes women see more in the men than the men see. This is well said👍🏽, but it's a very grey area.
I've have always looked mean when I don't smile.....doesn't stop them for approaching
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback!
Same! I look mean but if they smile at me or they’re checking me out, I smile big... I have a very big beautiful smile.
If not smiling makes a man intimated then that's not a man I want to be approached by. I can see your point about the masculine energy thing it's just that I've been single for so long and had to do it all by myself, its hard to switch into my feminine side when I do meet a man. Especially the men who wants to be cartered to, what about me? I do the same things you do. Cook me a meal, rub my back. Then I'll reciprocate. But I hear you Stephen. I just feel weird for smiling for no reason that's creepy to me and those people who do scare me. Lol
Thank you for sharing, every woman has femininity within her and I pray that you may be able to tap into your feminine energy so that you can be able to attract the man you truly desire.
Ive been seeing men intimidated by me because im on a healing❤...loving self❤...helping others path❤!!!! 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ guess because they can see they wont be able to manipulate me & im smart..smart lol 😊 & in order to deal w me they have to be working on their traumas & healing! Its intimidating 🤷🏽♀️❤#ohwell
I’m a veteran. It’s not so much about thinking. they are intimidated and it shows I’ve seen so many men look for things to be intimidated by. So does their jealousy for women. It’s more jealously than intimidation even with my hvm when we first met.
I currently serve, and Elle you are 100% correct! It's not a woman's purpose to make a GROWN ASS MAN feel comfortable.
@@Nat-mw3bz they don’t understand my man is also a vet and I can tell you being with one is hard, especially a combat vet. But if he’s worth it a woman will put in whatever work necessary. I had to learn to let him lead. Now he understands that his value is just not in his assets. And btw I’m average at best and not in his tax bracket 🤷🏾♀️. You know how things work in the military especially when you separate from service. Hvm are targets for the wrong women. He said this average woman is the best thing that ever happened to him and his life is so much better now. Maybe he is a unicorn but I love him.
A powerful man will ALWAYS attract women. Discernment let's your hear the ulterior motives behind whom you attract, whether they speak or are silent, you can always discern their heart's intent.
Yes it about their true motives.
And discernment is a powerful gift.
Omg! I’ve been through that with my ex-husband. Jealous about everything I was doing.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all you have been through! 🙏
Yep been there as well and he used to cheat. When I finally left he told me it's because I was travelling for work and he is sure I was hooking up with other men when I travelled for work🤣🤣🤣never happened. I was faithful since the day we started dating, even now 2 years after the divorce I haven't even started dating.
Same here.
Yeah I made the mistake of telling a guy that I was in the top 5% of my law school class. I was excited because I got the news and I told him. And he was very intelligent so he was very encouraging. Then things changed very quickly. He started asking me how many dating apps I was on, how many people I was talking to, and the frequency with which I was talking to them. Then boom, he hit me with the "after getting to know you more, I don't actually think we would be that compatible". Not going to lie it stung because I was starting to let my guard down and then he did that. I guess he showed me lol 😆 idk sometimes you just have to laugh that a grown man behaves this way
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Spot on! I recognise myself in the past as coming across tough but actually having no real healthy boundaries. I was given the message as a child that men were stronger and better and women are weak. I had no role models to counter balance this at the time. Now that I have built my self esteem and confidence, I am trusting myself to get into my Sacred feminine energy. This was counter intuitive for most of my life. But I am determined to be balanced in my male and female energies and trust that I can have strong boundaries while sitting in the feminine. Thank you for your video. I resonated with a number of its learning points.
"You look mean!' Lol 😂 So funny and so true.
The dude I was talking to said he feels like I’m too good for him. He wasn’t the first to say this to me.
They don’t tell you they are leaving because they are intimidated
Absolutely!
Truth be told, I smile more then i should but unfortunately being nice has come across to most men (married or single) that I want to jump in bed with them. And friends and family tend to misuse a friendly person... Mean face will have to do for now , the right one will see past it. But thank you for this, it did shed some light #love your advise
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I am speaking from my experience. Some women say men are intimidated when they are not willing to look at their behavior and change. Men have a choice to deal with unwanted behavior in women. Ladies our lack of healthy relationships is not always the man is intimidated by us. Real men don’t want to be bothered with our controlling, strong, dominate, Ms. Independent etc behavior. Men who are insecure will accept that behavior because they have no accountability or responsibility because YOU GOT IT.
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I agree
⚖Having A Daddy In Our Lives Who Raised Us w/A Solid Foundation Is Definitely Intimidating To Most Males.
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Not having one can make women have masculine energy.
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@@ChosenJudaHiTess_TheShemiTess seriously tho. Nobody wants to talk about that. How about understanding the story behind the woman. Women are expected to nurture and understand the man's story and stay dealing with his mess but they run from strong women refusing to understand why she's built the way she is. I believe a certain type of man will bring the feminine side out. She will then naturally become what she needs to be.
Stephan, you are my favorite dating coach. TY so much.
🙂 thank you, I appreciate that
He’s keeping you single. The numbers don’t lie.
@@Slow-Rolling He actually found me a man. A good God loving man. He gives advice and it's up to me to take it and use it to change for the better or leave it and stay the same.
Where my RBF's at? You powerful beings... this was the most loving, sweet and loving video reminding to smile.
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Wow 😯🤔 This is certainly Real. Energy is important. Check yourself, check your Energy. 💯 Make changes. 🙂
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Just Like the human beatboxer legend Doug E. Fresh always says. It's all about the energy!
Wow, Wow and Wow. As stated, from your perspective, OUR ATTITUDES determine our ALTITUDES, We as a people and definitely as women should self examinate as often as needed in order to get our self puzzle together.By doing this we can then become that in which we desire to see in the world, in which we live. PERIOD. Thanks Stephan Speaks.
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Good information to know. I admit I have resting B face but can honestly say it's not because I am upset, intending to come across unapproachable/mean mugging, or in a negative head space. My rest B face and thinking face are one in the same. So 100% of the time I am in my own head and thinking about something I need/have to do.
After listening to all the reasons why men are intimidated, I know that my ex was like that...so many wasted years of my life!
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all you have been through! 🙏
Thank you! I receive it in the name of Jesus! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I receive this message fully. My energy can come across a little masculine and no nonsense. Being from Chicago it’s ingrained. I’ve been really trying to work on this and I appreciate you sharing this wisdom from a man’s perspective I can respect
Thanks for sharing!!
Well I like a guy and I know he likes me he has never told me. However our mutual friends believe the same. I like him just the way he is !
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After a certain age, there is something wrong with you not being together financially and in other aspects of your life.
I totally agree
And most women are trainwreaksooking for help.
@@rbfarrell1 😯 really??? This is true of both sides, I try to look out for the "opportunist"
As a young dude I understand you have to build that foundation because I understand the woman in my life desires that. I don’t get offended. Mostly because I want it for myself
@J Punisher I’m not even going to lie I feel the exact same way but I try to be positive
I have heard from some men that I am intimidating, but that has never stopped other men from pursuing me.
I have NO IDEA why men think I'm intimidating. I'm nice, sweet, friendly I'm always smiling. Being friendly and helping people is literally my job and I love it! I'm happy, I make enough money to pay bills and put some aside. I've never been approached in my whole life (I'm 39 now) and I get called intimidating All. The. Time. The only thing I can chalk it up to is that I'm driven when I have something on my mind and I'm a fast walker🙁🤷
Im the same way and I can tell you from experiencing since I'm recovering from a very verbal and emotional abusive toxic ex of mines. It's usually because that person is broken and hates their life. They hate us because we are a reflection of what they want to be but make no effort to do the progress. Therefore they want to make us weak and control us to make us be broken like them. In other words its called demonic attack because its a very real thing. Read more about it sweetie.
Same thing with me
I notice a huge difference in how I attract attention when I am feeling bouncy and lighthearted. I've been stopped and told "look so happy", shortly after meditating and it was a lovely affirmation. Slowing down, self care, being present, kindness and laughter are such wonderful habits and very much needed right now.
You have to accept to the fact that you’re too much for some people. To be frank, the people that say women are 'intimidating' seem to be living a few decades in the past.
You hit the nail on the head with that one!
I don't know about this. In my natural element I may approach any woman. Making yourself look hard to approach is not often an indication to us that you are strong, or even confident. To younger guys it's a challenge, maybe but as you mature it just doesn't feel worth it.
Some men feel intimated because of a woman's strong religious belief.
I had one to run from me a few weeks ago bc of this
Yup!
@@lisae3357 do you know why?
@@FransceneJK98 why
@@FransceneJK98 in his case when I described what I wanted he knew it was a no go and said he felt God left him as a child. I can’t do anything with him
Honestly I can truly say this is something that I have dealt with all my life. I've had people tell me that I look extremely mean when in all reality I am probably one of the most loving people you could ever meet. I am doing the very best that I can to be more conscious of my face because I don't realize I'm doing it unless somebody says something and most times it's because I'm in deep thought it's not because I'm angry or trying to be a nasty person because that is truly far from my character. Like you said it's all about mindset and I have and will continue to work on the inner me so that what's on the inside can really show up on the outside. Thanks for sharing.
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I actually was a lil disappointed that when he discussed this, he didn’t take into consideration there may be a reason for the face.
Like u, I’m in my head a lot, so I can be thinking abt a million things, or absolutely nothing lol
For me a woman's past relationships can be intimidating. Especially if there is a child involved. You just don't ever know what's really going on. So I only deal with ladies that have never been married/engaged and are childless. I am also what I seek. To me it's more of an even playing field
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I am a woman and I feel the same I don't date men that have kids because I don't have any and I'm not dealing with any other women in my relationship.
Your are so right. It's just for long women had to take care of themselves because men didn't take their position seriously
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That’s me, I walk around here looking mean I’m always told. I’m still not going to take no mans crap!... 🤷🏽♀️
And you don't have to! They want rugs not stands. Ya feel me?!
1ˢᵗ If someone is unkind, like consistently unkind, there is no amt of concealer to hide behind. 2ᶮᵈ Everybody is not going to fit in my life and vice versa. Growth mindset: I'm kind, but my threshold is established.
that should read, *I'm kind and my threshold is established!*
I also find that for some reason I can't be myself for fear of rejection and what people will say not belonging I suppose, I admire and respect people who are their most authentic self out there, falling in love with myself it has and will continue to be a road of growth don't want to be single my whole life but got to work on me before any other person.
Healing is definitely key!
I feel like my energy is good, I'm naturally happy. I am nicknamed "bubbles" "smiley" and people tell me all the time they can hear my smile even over the phone and love my cheerful attitude. I am forward though. I am also ambitious, so when I am interested in a man I don't waste time. I will let them know. Is my forward approach intimidating to men?
My problem also is I am more accomplished. I am a Registered Nurse who works for herself and has 2 other businesses I’m establishing. I have tried to date blue collar guys who are also in healthcare hoping that they can grow with me but I finally had to realize that it is my dream not anyone else.
I am dying at “you look mean”. 😂 😆 😂 Yeap!! It’s a defense mechanism in a way but it’s off-putting for sure...
You're absolutely right!
Yes Yes Yes 🙌🏽 you are speaking FACTS about men and women!!!
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Mature, secure, confident men, that can effectively communicate should add value & the two can elevate & grow together!!!
Thank you Stephan, I need to ask myself and people around me why they are intimidated by me and it has nothing to do with romantic relationship, because I want to have a very good relationship with people around me
Your on 💯Sir! The Holy Spirit told me about being in my masculine side too heavy in a certain situation. He told me to apologize because I was wrong. I apologized in person and gifted with three or two different cards. One of the cards was me praising what the man was getting right. One was a gift to a spa and explaining he deserved it. He opened up to me, I learned he is super wise, and the best part...he forgave me😁💗. Now me are on good terms and for me that's worth more than 🥇 gold.
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Interesting ..... I've been in situations where men have said, "They're intimidated/scared " but I really have no idea why and it has pretty much ruined situations before! One of the reason mentioned is that I have too many male friends.. I can understand that but with that said, once that becomes a concern, I do everything in my power to limit the male friend interaction and that doesn't even work, so I wonder what it is! Some have even mentioned that my spirit is too kindred... It's almost like I'm damned if I'm too happy and damned if I limit socialization !!
It definitely isn't an easy situation.
Everything you said is so true. I didn't think I was intimidating. Until my friends told me. And me looking mean is my issue. I don't even smile in my pictures. I got to do better. Smh
You're absolutely right, you got to do better!
This is why I signed up for your course. I'm tired and I need the help. I'm feeling better already and ready to move forward.
Great video! Sending love to everyone! Hope anyone seeking love right now gets matched with the best partner for them! Remember there are so many fish in the sea, don’t let yourself get stuck on one that isn’t right for you and miss out on all the big kahunas passing by! ♥️💕peace and love 🤙🏽
For someone who’s never been inna relationship, he sure spoke a lot of sense. I like strong women but I’m intimidated by the fact that they’ll look down on me because I’m “too nice”. It’s just the way I am. My niceness is taken as weakness by a lot of ladies I’m friends with and it sucks honestly.
Don't feel like that. Just work on yourself and you will find somebody someday.
Great video! I give off good energy. Nice and open to conversation then they start asking about my money. Then I shut down. Also,Guys try to move in with me and family. I'm like no. Then the sweet feminine energy disappear quickly.
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Great video!!!! Thank you for making this video!!! I have had a man be intimidated by me because of my educational achievements, and my drive for more in life. As I started to realize now he was weak and wanted to leach off a woman I was tangled and in love. Didn’t wanna be lonely, or start over. Not saying I was perfect in our relationship because I was not. However I gave off feminine energy 24/7 and was genuinely myself and sweet and kind. I was naive, and lead myself down a road that was a dead end!! Once I noticed how he was I started to water myself down to make him comfortable, however I destroyed myself in the process. But thank God for healing, love, and grace!! Every day is a process and a journey but I thank God for it and the lessons I’m learning along the way.
I believe 100% there are strong men out there that just want healthy true love, relationships, and marriage. Just waiting for my man.. the man God has for me!
Thanks again can’t wait for the next video💯🖤
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
I'm told that men are intimidated by me because..... I look like I have a man..... the way I walk, the way I carry myself, I'm smiling, I'm cordial, and I float around like a fairy 🤣.... even as I'm writing this I'm laughing..... smooches💋
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Very well expressed and I think you hit the nail squarely on the head. I’ve met a lot of women in the past couple of years. I’m not intimidated by strong, intelligent and successful women. In fact I would love to meet a woman having these traits that is also kind, feminine, thoughtful, etc.... However, my experience with trying to connect with women I would describe as strong, intelligent and successful has been challenging (ie think successful Doctors, lawyers, business owners, etc..). The main problem I see is not that men are intimidated but that women that fall into this category are many times reluctant and not open to partnering with someone who they perceive is on a slightly lower or even the same socioeconomic level than themselves and they bring this negative energy into the interaction. An attraction killer for men. Women tend to want to “date up” in terms of socioeconomic levels and this creates an artificial, limiting and challenging barrier for them the more successful they become as their “pool” of potential partners becomes smaller and smaller (IMHO).
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I've found that men were reluctant to date me because of my career title. And it's no wonder that the man I married, we had the same career. We made the same money and worked at the same place. I've found that my career title intimidates more than just men.
Wow! Perfect timing because it’s a hard pill to swallow but I needed this entire message... Thanks for shedding light on me 🤗
You are so welcome.
Healing, more often than not, is messy and resistance can show up. Our comfort zone can be shaken up. Resistance is the soul's invitation to step up into your power/into your greatness/re-evaluate the direction of your life. When we are reachable, we are teachable. Thank you Stephan, for your compassionate guidance.
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The points you made make complete sense I would have to say my problems are mix of 1/2 😫But I always just view it as it just means those people just are not for me and lol at you talking about the “mean muggin” that was funny but great video ! Thanks for sharing 😀
This is very true & your are right on! I am a dominant type personality, achieving/ doing mode most of the time. I have noticed my face feels harden. I am working on my feminine energy to soften my face. Yin yoga, practicing self-love, meditation, dancing, massage and getting out w the girls is bringing more of that divine femine energy. The one thing I noticed as a result is just random people who passes me, smiles and says hi 😊.
It takes a very strong and honest man to make this video. I totally agree with everything you said because I used to be that woman. I had to change my ways and understand the difference between difficult and strong! I work in a male dominated industry and I learned to bring on masculine energy in my personal life. I had to learn to work that energy differently in certain situations. Thank you, this video confirmed many things for me.
The issue Im having is being attracted to some of these guys. Overall, some of these guys are just not attractive. I get hit on daily, messages nonstop (not bragging at all btw) and many of the guys are successful and seem to be good men but physically are not my type. Im not dating a man who I do not find attractive, you can forget it. WIth that being said, many men automatically think they you will be interested in them because they have money. Which is a turn-off! And yes I find that when I dress professional or classy men and women both get intimidated by that. Which idk why I'm just going to work trying to pay bills like everyone else. Im naturally a very take charge woman at times but it also depends on my mood. When It comes to men, I dont like showing to much dominance because many of them will become lazy and feel like they do not need to help you. There are men out here who are looking for a strong woman to take care of them and I am not of them. I dont play house quickly to these men so soon. Been there and done that, and always got the short end of the mfking stick. No thanks. Im good. That being "nice" gets you taken advantage of, I enjoy being assertive and "a no nonsense person". The dating scene is a complete mess now. But its good we can talk about it on platforms like these now just to vent our thoughts on topics like this.
Perfectly said point blank it’s jealousy and control 💯
I agree and they do nothing..when they are attractive they may not marriage for example I want marriage..but the men that have not many options because they arent attractive will be up for marriage..I dont want to chase again a man..I have done it once..and maybe he was not the right one..and I want that the efforts are matched..
Same here sis, I can't be with a guy if I'm not attracted to him. I'm sorry not sorry..but at least I tell them up front. Instead of leading them on.
@KnineATheart ` yeah they do ..but sometimes..handsome men..go out with many women..it happened once..a man gave me his number and he had a gf..and told me he had one and what will he do..I never called him..I also think that the options doesnt mean they are better..many pretty men and women can be low value ..it really depends...
@KnineATheart ` what about love though? it sounds fake..they arent interested in anyone..In my case he thought I was of value and told me I was a great artist..but I think he doesnt want marriage..he never told me and simply ghosted me..he is 50..I think you are younger and im 37..anyway I genuinely liked him and I told him..he was not honest..and didnt tell me if he liked me..but in this case he may be damaged..as other men dont behave like him..even that guy with the Gf if I d rang him I guess he would have been honest to me..
Thay explains the last 2 years of that ex Narc relationship. I lost 100 lbs and was gettting so much attention from attractive men, and he became so jealous and envious, started love bombing me, then devaluing me, and at the end he did a reverse discard (but I could clearly sense he was using reverse psychology). He kicked me out of our house after i laid it out that I wanted a divorce, and he tried to hoover me 2 days later. That 🐦.. 18 yrs of physical abuse etc is enough wasted time on a boy.
It used to be that a man had a job, a home and a car before he attempted relationships and marriage.
it used to be that woman were virtuous, respectful to men, feminine, virgins, stay home cook, clean and raise kids with pride. Nowadays they value career and money and instagram and twerking. why would a man marry them?
@@Adamsandlerwb Same here - why would we marry them? Many men do not step up to the plate or bring anything to the table. So women HAD to earn a living and take care of themselves. Many of us do not do the social media, etc., so it's highly unlikely that you'll meet us.
I have been told that I look mean and I need to relax more but honestly I feel like I don’t know how. I feel that this is something that I have always done and I don’t know how to change that part of me, especially after dealing with so much crap you kind of build up a defense because you wanna let other men know you not for their bull.
Healing is definitely key! I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all you have been through! 🙏
I feel like men are intimidated by me is because of my confidence
YES! All my life I have been told this by the woman in my life...mom, aunt, grandma. My tolerance level have always been very low lol so I guess they could feel that. Thank God in my 40's He finally sent my man who wasnt intimidated yet cautious and mature enough to seek me. And also when YOUR man finds you, guards can be let down. Waiting to give the right one my attention allowed me to work on me. Maybe I wasnt ready back then to have the type of man I have now. When your dumb your dead to me and I cant react to shenanigans 🤣.