How do you feel about Your Spouse Making New Friends? | Fridays with Tab and Chance
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 มิ.ย. 2024
- On this episode we are talking about making new friends when you're in a relationship or you're married. How do you feel about your spouse making friends of the opposite sex? Or the same sex? Lets get into it
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There was an older lady in the store who needed help getting something off the top shelf. She asked ME if it was ok for her to borrow my husband to help her. I said sure. After my husband helped her, she thanked him, then looked at me and said, "Thank you too, ma'am." I was very impressed by that woman and had much respect for her.
Yes Ma’am that’s old school respect. I’ve experienced the exact same situation 🥰
I do the same thing and I’ve had the same respect shown to me.
Yes I do this too!!
The for this situation is if the lady asking for help was beautiful, young, and fine as hell?!!! Would your response be the same or be like me...I'll get it😐🤣
Ain’t a thing wrong
"Get the energy like everybody else...off the internet!" 😂
Tell'em Chance!
😂😂😂💯💕
I love how Chance said he’s not playing about his wife and Tab said I wouldn’t even allow these men to be in the space that Chance holds! Such a beautiful, healthy, and solid couple.
Exactly,❤
Solid couple 😊
Very good video!
A Masterclass, A Whooping, A correction, A Sermon and comedy Show in under 30 minutes. 🔥🔥🔥🔥
That part!
Period!!❤😂
Yes....!!!
Agree! 100%!
RESPECT THE MARRIAGE!! AND STAY IN YOUR LANE!!❤ PERIOD!!
Agree 100%
Amen!!
EXACTLY!!!
This because I turn real disrespectful !!!
FACTS!!!!
My husband said, “Chance ain’t taking no chances when it comes to his wife.” 😂😂😂
NONE!!!
😂😂😂
A thing on involving yourself with married people. When I was young (I’m talking around 18) I asked my mama, hypothetically what she would say if I was sleeping with a married man. She told me hypothetically what would I have to offer a married man. I asked her what she meant and she explained that this man already had a wife, children, a house and a business. She told me he had everything he needed so what could I possibly offer him besides my body. It was at that moment that I realized I had more to offer than my body and I deserved more than someone else’s scraps. That is a lesson I will forever hold and pass on to whomever may need it.
Scraps? A man is never scraps. A woman can be.
@@malekkushimuzik3580 who hurt you, beloved? The fact that the word “scraps” triggered you when there was an actual message here is very telling. I’m not sure who made you feel disposable (or like “scraps”) but I would love for you to consider that you are enough. Whoever you are, wherever you are on your life journey, you are enough. And if you’re not, put in the work and become so much that your cup runneth over. Become so much that people become more just by being in your presence. This isn’t a gender issue. It’s a self worth issue…. And to be clear in case comprehension was lost in translation, the man isn’t the scraps, it’s anything he has to offer after he’s expended everything to his family (time, money, energy, intellect, etc). Peace and blessings.
@@kmeeks92987 Love your response to that foolishness!!!
That is a beautiful story, thank you for sharing!
@@HaloHighlightz thank you, beautiful.
Married for 17 years and this advice is golden! 👏🏼👏🏼
Yup
Baby Tab is loving all this energy from Chance behind her! She smiling down! 😂😂😂
😂❤
She sure is. Tab: Very Good. I love me some Tabitha
Every last drop of it and I live😂!!!
That's how it should be. They backed each other up.
Yes, she is!!! 😂😂😂
I am watching this in the bedroom, my fiancé is across the hall yelling, TELLING ‘EM CHANCE!! 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
We get it.. u have a husband lol.. check that Inet history though
@@drummerboi7313 what is wrong with you miserable ppl !? Lmaoo
😂😂😂
“We’ll get the energy like everybody else. Off the internet”. I died laughing off that one. Both of them are hilarious together. I love their vibe.
Boy, I tell you. The people in my age group need to hear this because they’re out playing with their lives & others. Everyone thinks im crazy because I think like this. Thank God for Tab & Chance!
I understand I think the same way
I also think the same way and I recently left my bf because he doesn’t think like this and is too emotionally available for his female friends. I was labelled by him and his friends as insecure and toxic
When they figure it out it will be too late
@@sweetheart9659that's cheaters & flirts favorite line, man and woman. They gaslight you and label you "Insecure" when you have healthy boundaries and standards.
@@Chris-dv5scThanks for the insight. I also just broke up with someone who viewed my boundaries as toxic and insecure. My confidence took a hit after the insults were thrown my way.
"You mention a woman name more than once... red flag for me." 😂
This whole conversation was 100 and absolutely necessary.
May God continue to bless you all, as always.
Definitely part of knowing the person you with. Some men will mention women name multiple times and it not mean a thing, but when they mention it once it's flag. Everybody is different. Learn who you with 😂.
Absolutely
Hello
Vc. C
😂😂😂😂 love this woman
She said “unass my husband” 😭😂😂😂 this episode was so funny.
I HOLLEEEEEERRED 😭🤣🤣🤣🗣️😂
I almost clutched my pearls to hear Tab cuss. 😂😂 But, sometimes it's needed for some folks to get the point.
With her whole chest! 😂😂😂
I almost drove off the road
I literally screamed 😂😂😂 and it just flowed out her mouth so smooth 😂😂😂😂 I had to rewind like did TeeTee Tab just cuss?!! She ain’t wrong either!
"What God has yoked together, let NO ONE pull apart". Its soooo refreshing to see how much those vows continue to mean to you both. You make a beautiful couple.
Chance made me cry with that analogy. People can and will do anything to protect a family they cherish.
Chance don’t wanna be y’all friends chiiiillleeeee!! 🤣🤣🤣 Period..That’s the episode ❤
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
My part was and “I don’t either “😂😂😂😂
💯...all the ho* stay away! Period!
It is so obvious he don’t move like that
I love Chance’s energy for his wife. He does not play about Tab…#PERIODT ❤
Wise MAN....
“Stay out my husband’s DMs!” 😂😂😂 Check’em, Tab!!! They don’t know that Chance come straight to you to show you those DM’s, cause that’s what people in real marriages do! ❤
Tab went from giggly to "What's gud" QUICK when it was her turn to talk ....love it!😆
And you can tell that she’s a serious problem when she’s upset! We can all feel it. The happiest people are the most dangerous! ❤
“You ain’t got nobody….you sure don’t” I felt that in the bottom of my spirit.
LOL. Not over here. Folks need to realize that a super nice person got a flip side that is just as extreme. Like she said, from America's Mom to American Gangster.
That was my favorite part of this video!! 😂😂😂
Deep down in my spirit
16:46 “unass my husband” almost sent me to the upper room. This was one of my favorite episodes, Chance had a lot of wisdom to share.
😂😂😂
If she didn't sound like my momma when she said that. One of MANY of my mom's sayings. R.ise I.n P.ower mom.
😂😂😂
I thought that's what she said, Lol 😆 now I'm dying all over again 😂😂!!
i came back to re-watch just because of that🤣🤣🤣
In yr 8.5 of my marriage, there was a “friend” that kept coming around and calling my husband. He took my minivan (those days, lol) to her father to fix. Up until then, infidelity was not a concern. So, we divorced later and do you know that he was in a relationship with this woman later. I went to his house every weekend to drop off my son and there she was living there. It just goes to show that she was waiting all along for her chance to get in. They didn’t last but still, it was validation that you don’t need any new friends that are not friends with you both.
“You are the bus, you are the train…”
Chance…… wow……just wow…
This is a TRUE MAN.
Love them…
I love it! From American Mom to American Gangsta....PERIODT 🤎🖤🤎
😂
That part!!
Yass “I see yall in the dm”😂😂
Benita was starting to come out when she made that comment lol
They must respect the marriage first
I had no idea until I was about 27 years old that I didn’t truly know what a healthy relationship looked like. We are taught that marriage is the goal but most of us don’t have a healthy real life example of what one looks like so we learn from our trauma filled peers and the toxic media and sit here confused as to why we aren’t happy. These kind of conversations matter soooo much because most of us don’t know what we are doing
Girl right! Almost 32 and still relearning.
Atleast we're learning ❤❤❤
Exactly my husband and I had to do marriage Counsling to learn how to build a healthy marriage.
Chance said, “oh you gonna get that INTERNET ENERGY!” 😂😂😂
And Tab said, “don’t make me go from American Mom to American Gangster!” 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Yes, she did!!! 😂😂😂
I love Chance....he is a real husband and a King to Tab.
Absolutely
Love them ❤❤❤❤
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼💖
Absolutely agree.
Chance ain't never had this much to say after the intro!😂😂 We half way through the episode! 😂
Chance brought it through. That story about his buddy... "You are the bus. You are the train..." 😮💨 Even if this particular thing isn't relative to me, what he said, I felt that! That's a gem that can be applied to all areas of life when you're operating in the flesh (being selfish).
It's why I don't play with people's feelings or time. I don't go out to dinner with a guy because I'm bored or for a free meal. I don't know the level of his investment. Plus, I wouldn't want anyone to do it to me.
Faxxxxxxxx 😂😂
This what I said too. I'm loving it though😂😂😂
This is everything anyone needs to know about marriage and outside friendships, there are none... Chance said won't be none of that. Get your energy like everyone else gets it, off the internet. 🤣🤣🤣
Ok, I don’t think I’ve ever heard Chance talked this early in the show.
Tab’s head tilt was EVERYTHING! 😂😂😂 #DontPlayWithHer
Y’all are true soulmates. 😂 You both super checked everyone with a big smile and then said we can all be friends. Im with you sis. You are class personified.
That pause Tab did after talking about Chance DM’s 🤣🤣🤣
Chance's advice to his friend was EVERYTHING! People don't think about the collateral damage they do when they're committing infidelity.
Love you two 💞
If you're married, YOUR SPOUSE ought to be your BEST FRIEND!!
If you're doing something you can't share with your significant other, then you're already in the wrong!
✊🏾💯✊🏾💯
The way Tab is grinning with PRIDE and puppy eyes when Chance talks about being her king.....🥰😍🥰
I’m a single woman and I totally agree with everything you both said. I don’t feel comfortable being all friendly with married men. I’m not doing it. I’m not blocking my blessings AT ALL!
That's an EXCELLENT boundary warning!! ⚠️ 👍🏾👌🏾💯
I know that’s right!
Respect. I pray GOD blesses you for your integrity 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Same! I have life-long male friends and when they get married, I temper our relationship.
Tabitah stop inviting people to your home ! 😂
This was some GROWN FOLK TALK... Absolutely loved this conversation and the maturity of it all...
Many ppl lack boundaries. A partner who lacks boundaries is a red flag- many ppl ignore it in the beginning.
I love love love this topic. I just had this conversation with my hubby of 30 years just 6 days ago. I have a new friend who talking about cooking for me and my hubby. I said, “the devil is a liar!” No other woman will be cooking for my husband, no ma’am no ham! I cook just fine. Women y’all better watch your husbands sometimes they don’t be seeing 👀 come on Tab!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Lol the devil is a liar 😂
GIRL!
No ham!?! 😂😂😂
The devil is busy! You were very wise! 👏🏾👏🏾🎯
Never let a woman do any special things for your husband or partner! That’s a NO for me!
These two are the most authentic people I've seen in years. I just love how they give advice on literally everything not just marriage! I love how they are with each other as well.
Reminds me of my parents, awesome couple❤️
After 41 years of marriage these sentiments hold true for my husband and I. No personal friendships with anyone of the opposite sex. You must be friends with both or keep it moving.
The same way she couldn’t stop laughing while he was talking, he did the same thing. 😂😅😊🥰
Chance said WHAT NEEDED TO BE SAID. Period. Grown men understand the assignment. #kings
Marriage is sacred and deserves respect.
This is why I’m about to be single now. No boundaries, self regard, respect, nothing with the opposite sex. God bless them and their union!!
Yes sis run for the hills, respect is everything it ties into trust its the foundation of the relationship without it u have nothing...It's plenty of men that will respect & honor your boundaries with the opposite sex, praying for u sis
I've been married 26 years and this was still so, so good to watch.
I am divorced and have to say this conversation is EVERYTHING. I have a new level of respect for the both of you. Bring this to the masses please. God bless you both.
Share the video. I will too. I loved this conversation.
I can see Tab kicking someone's butt then saying very good when she's done! 😂😂😂
I screamed😂
Now that's classic! Love it!
😂😂😂😂
Now go on bout yo business!
You know what, I don't wanna get married. But listening to you, the notion of marriage begins to be appealing to me. Because that's how I view relationship. It is about respect and trust and love. That's all I want.
Well it’s always best to keep your cookie to yourself anyway! You know your worth!
Chance’s advice to his friend was so good.
This is so rare 💎. Couple goals? Nah, this is couple gold. 👏🏽
“It’s worse when I’m alive” 😂😂😂 i know thats right auntie tab!
This was the conversation my soul needed and wanted and the kind of energy I hold and want to bring into my next marriage. Chance don’t play about his wife or his position in her life. And Tab ain’t to be played with about Chance and I love it… this conversation is goals
I’m 100% with Chance and Tabitha. Great discussion!
I agree with Chance 100%. Safeguard the sacred bonds of marriage at all costs. Too many times infidelity happens unexpectedly because there's the sharing of feelings coupled with vulnerability outside the marriage with the opposite sex.
Infidelity never happens unexpectedly. Infidelity happens when grown married people allow a female/male other than their spouse to have access to parts of their life that belong exclusively to the marriage. There's no such thing as innocent flirting or confiding in someone other than your spouse, this opens the door to infidelity.
A man with few words had many today. Well said Sir! Much respect to you.
Indeed!
Indeed
I thought thee exact thing‼️‼️
I rarely him speak😁
“Get that energy like everybody else. . .off the internet!” ~ That part. PERIODT.
I love the way that they look at each other. Chance is a real one! Tab is a breath of fresh air! I loved the episode!❤
When Tab said I’m sorry, but I’m not, I felt that!😂😂😂
It’s dope to see how Chance is all into the intro these days 😂
Right! I was thinking the same thing. He has surely learned to embrace creativity and it's a joy to witness in black men especially.
So true. He was smiling and everything.
That was my thought as well. He's definitely into it now compared to their first beginnings of FWT&C.
First thing I noticed! 😂😂 he used to hate the intro in the beginning lol
Love it! His change is so engaging. HE loves it now.😊
As a blk single woman, I can honestly tell you that I stopped having male friends in college.
And if a married man tried to talk to me, I'd lay him out. Dishonest people, especially cheating men, make me sick to my stomach.
It’s not jealousy it’s RESPECT ❤
Ain't nothing like a kind threat from a North Carolina Woman! I love you Tab and Chance!!!
Hunii, she got NC real quick
Chance was pure comedy this episode. "That's abnormal behavior." They better not play with Chance! 😹😹
I love this side of Tab! No nonsense. Great energy and vibration from these two ❤
Amen to all of this sermon that y'all just preached and I am unmarried. I hate when someone's spouse shows me that their marriage isn't solid by flirting with me. Y'all had me screaming!!! ...From America's Mom to American Gangster!!!!! I shouted LET'EM KNOW TAB!!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Tab said "who you wit!?" Her going in from 13:49 to 14:27 was a whole comedy bit of pure FACTS! "My eyes big...I see it all!" 😂❤
It was giving Country Wayne!!😂😂😂
I have been married for 40 years, and we made a pact to never allow anyone to interfere with our relationship, including family. Boundaries are always set for who we associate with and allow in our home or hang out with. I remember when I was in my 20’s and went to the bathroom in the church, when I returned to the pew this skank was sitting next to my husband (there were plenty of pews that we empty). My husband made sure before I got back that he had moved over and left a gap! 😅😂. That skank got the message and never played that game again! 😅
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 for your husband!!!
Loved this discussion! I smiled the entire time cause you should never put yourself in a position to have your character or loyalty put into question. Chance really drops a lot of wisdom in these videos! Tab you and Chance are such a blessing and we enjoy watching and listening 🙏🏾😍❤️
Tab cracks me up. That smile is contagious... "... I like this".... Her referring to his jealousy.....Fridays with Tab and Chance!!!!! 💯
13:26 😂😂😂, Tab is sooo funny with the stare omg, but I don’t blame her honestly . I love these two together and they make a great example of how a marriage should be. I get tired of people saying your insecure if you don’t want your partner being friends with opposite gender to an extent. Like it really depends on the situation and the nature of that person they are friends with.
Especially if they have no history and you personally don’t know them and haven’t met them. This really is how other people creep in as “friends” and try and ruin your relationship. It’s not being insecure, it’s just the reality of how some people can be sometimes. It’s reasonable not to always trust people you don’t know to respect, value, and honor your relationship.
The ones doing the mental gymnastics to make a secure boundary sound like an insecurity are the very ones with being a CREEP in mind. They tell on themselves that quickly when they call it an insecurity to have boundaries for the comfortability of your relationship and livelihood🤔
They think they’re so smart by using the shaming tactic to guilt you into letting your partner have every or anyone as a friend, so they themselves can creep in. Usually if you check their past behaviors, past relationships, and the way their life is set up, the antics and the fuckery matches up.
When a guy tells your beautiful wife, “we can’t just be friends? What kind of man doesn’t let you have friends that’s insecure!” After he was just trying to get her number 😂😂😂
Unass my husband 😂😂 His statement on infidelity speaks volumes on the love for Tab and family. Tab made her message clear too😂
At 18:46, Chance dropping Gems....Preach Brother Chance! Thank you two for sharing with us. #positiveinfluencers❤
I can feel the chemistry and love between them both even the way they laugh and smile together instinctively is so nice to watch. I have someone in my life like that whom I'm grateful for that I thought of while watching this. ❤
My estranged husband used to let chicks get away with TOO MUCH. It’s a big reason why I had a hard time trusting him. he never stood up for me, defended me or our relationship. Honestly, he didn’t even stand up for himself so how could I expect anything more. 😢
Mine was a punk too. I used to tell him, if you need female friends, why am I here? 🤷🏾♀️
This was a on time messaging. It’s called boundaries! It’s called respect! Just don’t put yourself in any situations that you wouldn’t want to be placed in. Just ask yourself how would you feel if it was you.🙏🏽❤️
💯 I remember one time in college, when my roommate/teammate was out of town. Her boyfriend came to our dorm apartment, as he often did. That night, the energy was weird and he suggested we order some food and just hang out to watch a movie together. I immediately removed myself from the situation and called her. He thought he could have both of us. Wasn’t happening captain! She was/is like a sister to me and I would never! #Boundaries
Exactly!
@@KatWoman12 what was your friend's response?
@@CMcKinney4475 Chile…She and I are still tight. Unfortunately at the time, she was so in love with him that she convinced herself it was nothing to it. They eventually broke up, but it was after he put her through emotional hell with ALL his other infidelities. At one point, I had to break the news to her that he had married a girl that he was cheating on her with while we were in college. All three of us were athletes, I overheard a conversation he was having with one of our sports trainers. The trainer asked about his wife and I was FLOORED. It was a really awful situation.
@@KatWoman12 OMGoodness! I'm so glad you overheard that conversation. Wow, the nerve of some men....it's good you two are still friends.
“He don’t wanna be your friend, and I don’t either”😅😂😂😂 Yasss check ‘em Tab!👏🏾
Someone needed to hear this, because people play with other people's marriage too much and don't understand the consequences. Sometimes sin will have you write a check you can't cash and take your further than you ever planned to go.
You betta say that Chance! I remember a time Chance never wanted to talk on a camera! That’s right!
Chance is a REAL man. And Tab is HIS woman. Loved this!
Yes. There's a difference between insecurity and respect!
Appreciate this so much!
Love yall! Love how you smile and chuckle at your husband! Love it! Black love!
I am a lesbian and fully agree!!! We all can be friends and even with my married straight friends I am always respectful of the husband! Men is not my cup of tea but I am old school!!! I agree with everything y’all said!!! PERIOD!!!!!
Respect is respect. Simple 👍🏽
The stare down that tab gave about Chance's DMs got me hollerin! I know that's right Tab.
ABSOLUTELY LOVE CHANCE VERBALIZING THE RULES IN THEIR KINGDOM & TAB CONFIRMING THEIR TRUTH. DON'T GET IT TWISTED OR IF YOU DIDN'T KNOW, NOW YOU KNOW!👑🌎👑
Yesssss Tab !!! We DON’T do work HUSBANDS or work WIVES at all . I don’t trust them either Tab
“Never had to get her together again” Tab! I love you 😂.
This was a great conversation and so true!! No room for new friends unless we're ALL friends!!!
Wow!! I wasn't expecting her to say...women be in the DM's on the tube! Women can be so disrespectful. Looking at a married man and reaching out. Smh
A future question to address could be, Why is open communication so difficult in relationships? I believe it’s a major key to long lasting/unconditional loving relationships.
Yes, that part
I have this same question.... Folks make stuff hard for no reason.
OMG! This is one of my favorite videos…Tab and Chance I just love your chemistry. Tab I feel you I’m protective of my husband. We have 30plus years. We friends together 😂😂
My little heart was warmed right up with this video. Tab is HILARIOUS and Chance can preach!
I love this conversation. I remember having to explain to my husband what a woman at his was trying to do. I went to his office and had him introduce me to everyone. The woman never said anything crazy to him again 😂
I loved this conversation! Very edifying, I really love how Uncle Chance explained it , very weighty … what I love even more is how Auntie Tab was looking at him while he explained 😊😊😊😊 awww… ppl be warned … we don’t want “ Gangster Tab “ to come out , we can only handle “ Auntie Tab” 😂
Married nearly 28 years and this message is so necessary to say in today's era... I'm a lot like Tab and I have a heart of God always seeing the good in everyone, I have had to learn that when someone I'm vibing with who's befriending me is just a little to friendly and does everything they can to avoid a connection with my husband, it's a huge red flag... I've learned to trust my man, when he sees something I don't and vice versa, so yes these days things are sooo different... Respect our union, befriend us both, or move along! Don't be messing with our union, our covenant with God... Both my husband and I have had to navigate these waters and kick people to the curb... Great episode guys, love you both!
I can appreciate this conversation. I am happily single but enjoy the wisdom of married people. I was raised to respect boundaries and respect your union and how important it is to the both of you. People don't respect Covenants as they should and it is refreshing to hear you and Chance express your thoughts. Love you both and that's right! Stay out of Chance's DM's ! God Bless!
I grew up around this type of healthy marriages….it’s respect. My mom & dad were married for 50yrs (rip)….I know this type of Marriage with God in the middle….TAB & CHANCE, I absolutely support y’all and love your marriage and I pray God continue to cover y’all and your union in Jesus Name Amen Amen Amen! #Arkansas #Michigan
Chance's perspective on marriage, commitment, and soulmate dynamics put it all on an even higher level and gave me an even deeper insight on how things can turn into a CRIME OF PASSION instantly!😳😶🤔👑❤️🔥👑
Yep he let it be known. It’s very well possible death is on the other end of that
Same here
I am Tab and Tab is me!! Nothing but the gospel. ❤ Great episode.
Listen I love how Auntie Tab is so tickled by Chance answers. "Get the energy off the internet "😂😂😂😂😂😂