Your wife is the AH for thinking your daughter needs to stay home and watch her grandchildren while your family vacations without her. The 2 step-daughters sound like hateful witches that gang up on your daughter and your wife thinks it is ok. I would move out, and get a divorce.
Wish that Cinderella’s father had been as good a dad as this fellow is. That wicked stepmom and wicked stepsisters should go live in a book in Far Far Away.
@@adams481 Totally disagree with you. The stepdaughters needed to face some consequences for the way they attempted to use OP's daughter. What better consequence than to deny them a vacation, when that is what they tried to do to their stepsister.
NTA, and the step daughters are entitled brats, that need to grow up. They are mothers, and need to be responsible for raising their children, and hiring their own babysitters. They are grown ass women that need to stop taking advantage of their step sister, and their mother needs to stop enabling this behavior.
Now think what will those evil mother daughter trio is gonna do to your daughter behind your back for ruining their vacation ???? Save your daughter before something bad happen to her.
You're not a jerk. They created their own punishment. And personally, id either get family therapy going for you & your wife. Or just divorcing your wife (she sounds severely dysfunctional), and moving on with your life without the Cinderellaesque setting.
25 and 28 living at home. If they have jobs they should have no problem paying babysitters and if they don't work then they have no need of a babysitter and can watch their own children. What worthless leeches.
That kind of betrayal is divorce-worthy. Divorce, force sale of house and division of proceeds. Eff the steps (or rather NOT--they've already got kids).
No! The stepdaughters are manipulative and nasty. If they get away with it this time they will continue to make Jessica’s life a misery and upset the household.
What else are those women are doing to his daughter behind his back? He should take the money saved from the trip and file for divorce. This isn’t a healthy environment for him or his daughter.
Your biological daughter should absolutely be your top priority! Don't let your new wife and step daughters abuse her! My mom let my step dad abuse my sister and I, and also basically made us raise our half sister, we were 11 and 9 when she was born, and it really fucked us both up for a long time.
Yeah, I'm getting a lot of fictionesque feelings lately with these kinds of stories. ESPECIALLY those stories where every hot-button issue of the day shows up, e.g., "Dad is cheating on Mom with Mom's gay sister who only eats vegan food and refuses to discipline her bratty trans son."
Wife has shown him who she really is, he should believe her and divorce her immediately. She doesn’t love him or his child. He is an ATM. He can tell his wife’s morals by the fact that both daughters act the same way. If one was good and the other was sketchy then it might not be her way of raising them. However, they are both self centered, lying, leeches that are cruel to people in their own house.
OP, tell wife to tell step daughters to move out or you will. Your step daughters should have more sense, they're adults. Put your foot down. They need you more than you need them. 28 years old and still living home!!!!
Get a lawyer and sue to force a sale of the house. After the bank gets paid off you and Beth split the proceeds. Of course, you and D need to find a new home, but Beth and SDs will as well. FAFO.
You were definitely NOT the asshole, the mothers were responsible for finding care for their children. It was not your daughter’s responsibility. In addition, your wife is acting only in her daughters’ interests. Your daughter is part of the family. What is wrong with your wife? I don’t blame you for canceling!
Oomph ..no he wasn’t and anyone who has an ounce of sympathy for these horrible girls and their equally horrible mother needs a reality check. If I was him , I would seriously consider what I was doing staying in a toxic relationship at the expense of my child .
1. Your wife is an AH 2. Your stepdaughters are also AH 3. Therapy is recommended for you so that you can identify AH and not doubt yourself 4. Get out while you still can.
NTA the stepdaughters are a couple of entitled overgrown children. And your wife showed where her priorities lie. OP needs to divorce her ASAP. Things aren't going to get any better for his bio daughter, since the three of them will blame her for them losing out on the vacation.
NTA- stepdaughters tried to keep daughter at home, even though she wanted to go. Time for a good long hard talk between you and the mother and stepdaughters.
Divorce and get a property with your daughter.In the meantime a holiday with just you and your daughter seems a good idea.I bet the 2 step daughters do not pay there way so you will save money
This sounds like Cinderella and the steply ugmoth and the steply ugsisters, as Archie Campbell used to say on Hee Haw. OP, you need to either straighten your wife out, or leave with your daughter and let your wife make that house payment and deal with her darling daughters and their kids all by herself. That is one of the worst instances of manipulation I've ever seen! Good on you for cancelling the trip for those brats - all 3 of them. Now book a 3 day weekend for just you and your daughter.
Your wife is the AH for thinking your daughter needs to stay home and watch her grandchildren while your family vacations without her. The 2 step-daughters sound like hateful witches that gang up on your daughter and your wife thinks it is ok.
I would move out, and get a divorce.
Wish that Cinderella’s father had been as good a dad as this fellow is. That wicked stepmom and wicked stepsisters should go live in a book in Far Far Away.
OP should plan a vacation for just him and Jessica, leaving the other three losers home to take care of the kids.
That was my reaction as well.
He should just cancel the wife and step daughters vacation and just op and his bio daughter go with out the other 3 losers
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@@adams481 Totally disagree with you. The stepdaughters needed to face some consequences for the way they attempted to use OP's daughter. What better consequence than to deny them a vacation, when that is what they tried to do to their stepsister.
@@InSearchofaFeministUtopia how are you disagreeing with me…sounds like we are on the same page
Op needs a divorce immediately
NTA, and the step daughters are entitled brats, that need to grow up. They are mothers, and need to be responsible for raising their children, and hiring their own babysitters. They are grown ass women that need to stop taking advantage of their step sister, and their mother needs to stop enabling this behavior.
The mom is probably leeching off op, so it's not hard to see where they get it from.
NTAH! As soon as you described the situation I imagined Cinderella. For your own safety I'd be looking for a new house and wife.
Now think what will those evil mother daughter trio is gonna do to your daughter behind your back for ruining their vacation ????
Save your daughter before something bad happen to her.
You're not a jerk. They created their own punishment.
And personally, id either get family therapy going for you & your wife. Or just divorcing your wife (she sounds severely dysfunctional), and moving on with your life without the Cinderellaesque setting.
I wouldn't have canceled anything I would have took the one daughter and left the other two at home to take care of their own kids.
NTA…the wife and stepdaughters were.
25 and 28 living at home. If they have jobs they should have no problem paying babysitters and if they don't work then they have no need of a babysitter and can watch their own children. What worthless leeches.
That kind of betrayal is divorce-worthy. Divorce, force sale of house and division of proceeds. Eff the steps (or rather NOT--they've already got kids).
No! The stepdaughters are manipulative and nasty. If they get away with it this time they will continue to make Jessica’s life a misery and upset the household.
NTA, remind the stepdaughters that what they did was a federal crime and he could go to the police.
Just what I was going to post
What else are those women are doing to his daughter behind his back? He should take the money saved from the trip and file for divorce. This isn’t a healthy environment for him or his daughter.
Your biological daughter should absolutely be your top priority! Don't let your new wife and step daughters abuse her! My mom let my step dad abuse my sister and I, and also basically made us raise our half sister, we were 11 and 9 when she was born, and it really fucked us both up for a long time.
OP has 3 adult women he needs to scrape off his wallet, old enough to breed
OP didn't ruin the trip; his stepdaughters did.
If they were that worried about their kids the stepsdaughters should have stayed home to watch their kids or just take the kids with them
OP is not NTA, but the wife is. She should have supported your decision, plain an simple
Oh for God's sake, this is simply a remake of Cinderella and of course he's NTA. I'm not even sure this is a real story.
Yeah, I'm getting a lot of fictionesque feelings lately with these kinds of stories. ESPECIALLY those stories where every hot-button issue of the day shows up, e.g., "Dad is cheating on Mom with Mom's gay sister who only eats vegan food and refuses to discipline her bratty trans son."
@@josepherhardt164 Almost spit out my coffee. 🤣
@@jackee1054 :) Whenever I run across one of those, I reply to the poster, "Thanks. Thanks a lot. You owe me a coffee and a keyboard."
:)
Agree that it seems fake. What kind of three-day vacation requires both a passport, and a trip to the airport?
DIVORCE DIVORCE. NOW
Wife has shown him who she really is, he should believe her and divorce her immediately. She doesn’t love him or his child. He is an ATM. He can tell his wife’s morals by the fact that both daughters act the same way. If one was good and the other was sketchy then it might not be her way of raising them. However, they are both self centered, lying, leeches that are cruel to people in their own house.
No, that’s justifiable anger. You weren’t preferentially treating your bio daughter, but they were prejudiced against her.
OP, tell wife to tell step daughters to move out or you will. Your step daughters should have more sense, they're adults. Put your foot down. They need you more than you need them. 28 years old and still living home!!!!
I can see why both daughters are single and yet you enable them. And your daughter still lost her vacation. You ATA
You are, for picking a second wife who doesnt raise her kids right
No
Divorce I get the feeling all this is caused by Beth in the shadows
You should have just canceled the stepdaughters and wife's plane tickets and just you and your daughter go
Get a lawyer and sue to force a sale of the house. After the bank gets paid off you and Beth split the proceeds. Of course, you and D need to find a new home, but Beth and SDs will as well. FAFO.
If I were stepdaughter, my babysitter rates for them just doubled...
Toxic rat’s nest
Cinderella, anyone?
You were definitely NOT the asshole, the mothers were responsible for finding care for their children. It was not your daughter’s responsibility. In addition, your wife is acting only in her daughters’ interests. Your daughter is part of the family. What is wrong with your wife? I don’t blame you for canceling!
Oomph ..no he wasn’t and anyone who has an ounce of sympathy for these horrible girls and their equally horrible mother needs a reality check.
If I was him , I would seriously consider what I was doing staying in a toxic relationship at the expense of my child .
1. Your wife is an AH
2. Your stepdaughters are also AH
3. Therapy is recommended for you so that you can identify AH and not doubt yourself
4. Get out while you still can.
NTA the stepdaughters are a couple of entitled overgrown children. And your wife showed where her priorities lie. OP needs to divorce her ASAP. Things aren't going to get any better for his bio daughter, since the three of them will blame her for them losing out on the vacation.
Well done!
Absolutely not the a-hole. The stepdaughters and your wife are the a-holes: you need a divorce, bro.
NTA- stepdaughters tried to keep daughter at home, even though she wanted to go. Time for a good long hard talk between you and the mother and stepdaughters.
Divorce and get a property with your daughter.In the meantime a holiday with just you and your daughter seems a good idea.I bet the 2 step daughters do not pay there way so you will save money
This sounds like Cinderella and the steply ugmoth and the steply ugsisters, as Archie Campbell used to say on Hee Haw. OP, you need to either straighten your wife out, or leave with your daughter and let your wife make that house payment and deal with her darling daughters and their kids all by herself. That is one of the worst instances of manipulation I've ever seen! Good on you for cancelling the trip for those brats - all 3 of them. Now book a 3 day weekend for just you and your daughter.
How about you watch your own kids at your new house. Then get a devorse.
You are not the Ahole, the step kids and Beth are the a-holes!
Sounds like a Cinderella story
No cancll,the vacation. Then, use the money to upgrade the vacation to someplace better.
And talk to divorce lawyer, living with these three b*these is nor worth it.
No