PLEASE LISTEN TO SHERA! My aunt helped my uncle pay for and build up a brand new mansion back in their home country. He allowed the women he cheated with to live there for FREE. Then he left her for good and moved in a young woman and gave her the lifestyle that my aunt should have had. Don’t do it ladies. Wait, be patient, and manifest the life you want.
This happens to me. When I was 20 years old I took in a homeless man who was 40. NOw that he’s no longer homeless and has a nice job getting paid more money than even me he gives all of his money to his mom. I said what about me? he said “did u push me out of your coochie?” This is what I get for building a man who was homeless. When he was homesless sleeping on the streets his mother was living it big in her big house with her boyfriend while her child was sleeping on benches and hospitals.
My mom married my father at 21 and had me at 22. Worked a full time job, gave birth to 2 more children, he cheated their entire 20+ year marriage, he built his career and himself off her back and misery. Only to divorce her, have a baby with a woman close to my age buy a house for her and her 2 other children by another man. He's still leveling up and securing that family while my mom still struggles financially. DO NOT BUILD A MAN EVEERRRRRRRRRR
Women today shame other women who like to be spoiled by their men. They feel the woman should be out working her career, buying her own dinner, clothes, house etc. With so many women now a days pushing that Independent Woman most men today feel like they don’t have to put in any work to court a woman more less spoil her.
A lot of these women scream they are independent and don’t need anything from a man or how proud they are to be the breadwinners of their marriages/relationships, in reality it sucks. These women receive gifts from their man/husband and they know off the back he used her money to buy it. These women can’t completely feel feminine with having a man that barely pulls his weight. A lot of them like being breadwinners and being pick me chicks but in reality those women are tired, worn out, stressed maybe even depressed, getting cheated on with other women who don’t have to lift a finger.
Pretty Glowin This is exactly how I keep my sanity as well lol this is the only place I can come to and like minded women think just like me when it comes to men. When I speak this language around friends they think I’m trippin for wanting a man who takes care of me. They always remind me how it isn’t the 1950s anymore and women should be out taking care of themselves without a mans assistance. That mind set alone has a lot of men thinking women should come 100% to the relationship and he doesn’t have to do much but bring his 1/3, 50%. So that leaves less room for him to spoil you. If a man isn’t going 100% for you, I feel he doesn’t truly love you. If he goes 50/50 then that means he loves you as long as you can provide lol
Laura Croft EXACTLY. Why pay half the bills just to come home and take care of the whole house the kids and you know he’ll expect sex at the end of the day. What woman really wants to give up sex to a man she’s having to play roommate with after doing all the work. That’s why a lot of these pick me’s end up in divorce or their man leaves. They do all this building their man up and most likely don’t want to give him sex at the end of the day from doing all the work for him. He’ll eventually cheat, she’ll find out. Either she will leave/take his half and level up or continue to turn a blind eye to his shenanigans and still pay 50/50.
Sorry but she's right. Every guy I date I make it a point to let the next guy know how much the previous guy adored and spoiled me. It never fails the new guy will bend over backwards to treat me better than the last guy
When I was 19 I dated a man that was 40 and he used to spoil me . If I ever bought the least expensive thing for myself he would actually get annoyed and replace that money . Said it made him feel like less of a man . Every minute he’d ask “what do you need?”Literally pushing stuff on me . Real men actually want to spoil you , it makes them feel masculine. I always had to look good though. If I ever showed up without a manicure / my hair not done (long hair) he would ask me to go and do it and then call him later . Also I had to maintain the same figure he met me with. The least increase in weight , he’d say “please you’re gaining weight, check that”. Like shera said , just look good .
DON’T do 50/50!!! (I commented this on another video) I was married at 21. He was 23. He paid my rent for a while. Then we moved together & we split the bills 50/50. Now, 10 years later I am the sole provider & have been for years!!!! Do not fall for it! Idc how “good” he is!! I learned my lesson!! I’m leaving his ass in roughly 2 weeks.
blair zhang 😂😂 ok with the quarantine he is here because I need help with the kids (4 young children) but he does know I want to leave. He will be leaving again once school and daycares open back up. But for my own sanity he is here because I can’t deal with these children by myself 🤦🏾♀️
@@ee6255 Girl you need his help ... You think you do. Better to rely on yourself or family members than to give him box and an excuse to live in your house bill free
Nina Lovely Same here. I’m bossing the hell up! I already have the nice whip and nice neighborhood, so I don’t have time for dusties or dusty mentalities.
this is so true. My aunt had just received her MBA and was working in a big firm. Then she met this guy who was in his second year MBA and she fell in love with him and even got him a position higher than her's so that he would feel like the man in the relationship. WELL, six years after they marry, they have two daughters and he leaves her for a 20 year old college student. He buys her a Range Rover and gets her a loft in the city. My aunt almost went crazy. She's 46 now with two kids and not married.
And this is exactly why Shera says do not ever build with a man. Be the woman he brings his best to, not the woman who helped him build just so he can take his best and give it to another woman
I was in a 50/50 marriage, then got more from him,70/30, then 80/20. Then, when i told him I'm really tired from working that hard and wanted to take a break, he asked for divorce. His manipulation tactics to make me contribute was that I'm an adult, not a kid, and should pay for my part. Don't fall for that ladies. As i was contributing with money in the house, i had a lot to say in the decisions in the house too. He didn't like that.
She is talking real talk. I don’t agree with every single thing but if you want to focus on you and heal from toxic men and have a little fun in your life to build a self respect foundation listen to this woman. I wish I heard this years ago. I didn’t learn til I was 32. I was a doormat for too long. Listen to her 💯
I wish I knew all that when I was younger and had everything to be desired. What happen to older women, what are they suppose to do? If they feel they still got it
Exactly, I was a 50/50 i bought 3 cars, a house thought him all about credit cards, banks and even started a mobile home renting side business. Well thr chicks would think he was THE man little did they know everything was under my name. He ended up bringing a chick to my house and got caught redhanded by me. Soooo i learned my lesson. I will not ever invest or do 50/50.
if a woman can do all this while the man is looking, he aint a man to me i cant respect a an..cos the mascuine m be gone. ima talk trash at him every turn
Well would you help build up a woman? I’m isnoried by your hustle and I’d love some tips from you! I’m young and want to be finically successful like you! I’m sorry that guy took advantage of your help and guidance
I’m so sorry!! I did the same thing hoping he would one day want to do better. I hate that happened to you. We only fk with protector provider types now.
The key is to be willing to “Risk it All”. I used to have issues with this, but now I am so comfortable with walking away if it doesn’t match with what I’m aiming for. 🔑
True! They will ask you to be their girlfriend by the second date, lol. Let them know what you require to become a girlfriend... bills paid, shopping, dates, trips, etc. If you look good enough, most men will agree to your terms!
I did this with a friend. I gave her a bebe skirt and she gave me a sample size of hand lotion. I was pissed. I had her give me another gift. Then I stopped talking to her.
A new girl came to work with us few days ago and she said she don't know how to use the bus etc, and cz she is cute looking, at some point everybody was stressing out to find her solutions, while she was smoking her cigg undisturbed. Shera is soooo right !
Damn My parents been married for twenty years. And last Christmas I watched my mom open her gifts and reject everything lol.. I was like mama why you doing that. Now I get it lol
Wow this works on my husband too, and I didn’t even recognize that I need to continue to do it. I actually would feel bad sometimes, but if he asks me if I like something and I don’t, I’m gonna say no and make a twisted face and shake my head no uncontrollably lol. He just keeps coming back with more gifts, unknowingly begging for a approval. He is always SOOOOO happy when he actually buys something I like. He will bombard me with multiples until I tell him to stop buying it 🤣🤣 the gifts just keep getting better and better!!
@@YourFavoriteRealEstateAgent I gotta get better with saying no or that something doesn’t make me happy when it doesn’t😩😩😩 a people pleaser in recovery
@@Theprincessinyellow I’m a reformed people pleaser too! You can do it. Just start testing and don’t apologize! You will be amazed bc I still am amazed at how Ashera has helped me learned how to EFFECTIVELY deal with my husband, his ego, and ALWAYS getting what I want 😎
Ladies, trust me. It’s time to wise up. I believe what Shera is preaching is simple self-worth. Know your worth ladies, this is not about a dollar value but about having standards. Don’t be so needy to allow a man to walk all over you only to be left broken and broke in the end. Level up your life FAST. If you’re 30 and up speed up your level up I’m do it ASAP. Whatever vision you have of your level up- go higher-create the ultimate version of you- the version that would intimidate your current self. I have an aunt who helped her husband build a house, purchase land and even start a business. She never enjoyed the house because he moved his mistress in there- banned her children from previous relationship from even visiting the house. He then sold it without telling her. When he got sick she funded his medical bills, and helped care for him when he was in need- she allowed him to move back in- he left as soon as he got healthy- she waited for him until he died thinking her prayers would bring him back only for some women he married without her knowing to show up during funeral to claim that’s her husband and she wanted any possession he had. He divorced her and remarried and left her looking stupid. She spent her entire life praying and hoping and he reaped all the benefits of her stupidity. Wise up ladies. This is not about being a gold-digger, this is about knowing your value.
Part of the game is triggering a man's sense of fatherly responsibility to provide. Youth is a trigger for a man. You want a guy who could be your father to trigger that response more easily and into the future. Ladies! You need to be retired (independently financially secure) by 45 off his money.
I love listening to your videos, I didn't grow up being spoiled, I was pretty independent at a pretty young age, being the older sister and being motherly etc, so I grew up not being spoiled. This has hurt me, I have been an I can do it myself woman, but I am done lol. I want to be spoiled now, I know I deserve it.
Me too but this year I finally woke up and men are showering me with gifts and before that I never wanted gifts because I thought they would feel entitled to my body. Newsflash even if you pay for ur own things they still feel entitled to our bodies
Same! I was definitely living in my masculinity, even went after a masculine career in the IT industry but I’m so done now! I’m ready to be spoiled like I deserve 🙌🏾💅🏾💅🏾
Wow! This is the exact reason why I broke up with my Ex-boyfriends too! My last one called me spoiled because I demanded more from him and expressed what I wanted clearly!
Same I just wanted him to take me to Applebee's but that was to much for him...i even said I would pay for dinner but he never took me :( but it'sokay I took myself right after I broke up with him
Ooo this is a beautiful look, may you continue to shine. But, you’re absolutely right. I do carry myself high maintenance and people expect that, even my mom so certain things she wouldn’t give me. People treat you the way you carry yourself!
My mom died when I was18, and I really wish I had a mentor like you back then. Dated losers because I did not understand Laws of the Universe, and didn’t understand that I make my own destiny. I wanted to take care of people, including my ex. I didn’t understand how to be feminine or look for masculine men.
Whoa you are definitely not lying when you said that men put out there stating what they are used to. My ex claimed he was used to his ex taking his shoes off for him and waking at at 3/4 or even 5 am when he came after home after the “club” to cook for him. His ugly ass wore my ass out.
My car is broken. I need a man actually capable willing and able to fix, buy me a new one. Too tired trying to play masculine and feminine roles in life all the way along.
Crazy thing is….I come from a low income household and have ALWAYS been spoiled I am the youngest girl in my family.Currently I’m dating and older gentleman and he recently just asked me to be his girlfriend.Hopefully in the next couple of years I’ll get a ring! Oh and he bought me a car for Valentine’s Day since I wrecked mine💜 it’s definitely a mindset thing more than anything.I’ve been spoiled my whole life and I’m just now figuring it out.lol
It's TRUE !!! I let my husband know and he wants to do better to please me. I'm a stay at home wife/mom. I made sure not to do no 50/50. Because if I wasn't with him, he still be paying Bill's as a man.
I told this to my husband.. (before we started dating)I said “my daddy and uncles spoiled me I was raised around provider types” 🤷🏻♀️ I’m a housewife now. Met husband when he was 35 😂 not rich but generous
This thinner eye-liner and almost no eyeliner look is definitely more elegant and suits you the best. It makes you look younger. Even though, you already look like you're still in your 20's.
I’m only 18 and I love your channel ! ❤️ I lost my femininity around 14/15 because of my masculine mother. She never taught me any other this, I appreciate you 💘.
I wasn't raised like this, far from it, but I wished I was. I've seen this happened, and it works. Men need jobs, and women need someone to do it for them says Dr. Gray who wrote Mars Venus books. Good stuff! Keep up the good work cause we need this.
Yes, PLEASE do a Your-Own-$tash video. We, as women (wives, especially) need reminders, especially the up-and-coming princesses. They are walking blind today. - SheRa, I am a new subbie to your channel. I am old school and put these things to practice way back in the Nineties. Young bucks are not the ticket. I am now married of 15 years and I STILL put these to practice. I have my own business, as he does, but the way of life is just me. I am madly in love with my hubby, but this is what he expects because I was high-maintenence when he married me and he loves all of me. Stop settling, ladies.
I beg to differ Love. I haven’t gone through what your talking about. I’m 51 in a month I turn 52. I’m not over weight nor my skin isn’t horrible. My hair is healthy long and thick. I believe it’s all about the mindset and how you take care of the mind and body.
Looking GOOD 😚 I'm 40 and I dont look crazy either but some of the more mature women just age well naturally. Most do not though . I have never had a problem attracting men with money EVEN when I was overweight . But I dont carry myself like trash either and that makes a huge difference . Blessings to you ☺
I LOVE this video, sis. This falls under my motto to "Act AS IF". If you act it, you will BE it. Law of attraction. You want to attract someone who recognized how you command (not demand) to be treated. Like, a queen. :) The way you treat and respect yourself, is how you are teaching others to treat you. But, always do so with kindness.**All we as women need to do is Show Up** They need to treat us wonderfully. Not that we can't do it ourselves - make no mistake- But, I let a man be a man. Period And stop worrying about if he 'might stop calling me..' If so, Bye and Next!
A big up to Shera for helping us half asleep women a wake up call, I have been stupid my whole life lost alot felt suicidal im telling you LISTEN to her carefully she is telling you the truth DO NOT FEEL SORRY for a man x
.... It did work on my past boyfriend who was young and loved luxury. He wanted to spoil me like crazy. Just drank "waaaay" too much for me to marry him. ;)
20 years ago, I’d say Shera is wrong. Now that I have lived and gone through so stuffff.. she ain’t wrong about any of what is coming out of her mouth. I’ve been the basic chick, the 50/50 chick.. all I got was cheated on, lied to and then left for broke. I put myself through school and am now doing well on my own. I will never again except a man that can’t give me what I want at it’s best! Thank you Shera!
You're not in a position to ask for that anymore, unfortunately. Too old. There's a 20 y/0 version of you that's more agreeable, tighter, fitter, and cuter. #coldhardfacts
@@wasimdbala349 You're not in a position to talk about what men with money want. Too broke. There is a more successful version of you that's more in abundance, wealthy, affluent, and well-off. #makemoremoney
honestly, it's not the advice that makes me feel better/ good it's just going in the comment section seeing women that are actually open-minded and aren't about "all men aren't the same and you shouldn't be with a guy just for his money🙄😤". like it genuinely makes me happy to see that I'm not the only girl tryna be smarter with guys because I'm so used to my friend group being stoopid and falling into the "true love" bs that you see in shows or movie yk
I have to disagree with the point that certain actions don't work on younger guys that only works on older guys. I had a guy paying my bills for well over a year and he was 10 yrs younger than me
Same here. But he is from a country where it is expected for women to not work...AND hire household help to clean and cook for them WHILE they sit at home lol.
LOL... I am actually spoiled, so I wouldn't be lying. But, I'm not spoiled to the point of being rotten and nasty. I grew up with parents, who treated me well. And I never have had to really ask for anything from the men that I dated, because they just wanted to give me things.
I'm late as hell to this video but agreed. I grew up extremely spoiled and privileged. 1st class everything. This isn't even a lifestyle anymore, it's a mindset. Once you taste luxury even once you chase that high in everything you do, the people you meet, and the life you create for yourself.
Yup bc you already “act “ spoiled naturally. That’s what she wants us all to do to have those same results. Believe you are what you want and it will attract just that
You look younger!!!! Maybe its the red lips but you took my breath away in this one.... Yes mommy.... I take everything you say seriously and I feel like I'm making some sort of progress
One thing my mother introduced to me early in life was all nice and expensive things. In high school she used to buy givenchy irresistible for me and j'adore for herself. She used to get facial massages and bring me and my brother's along and we would be very annoyed. Now she is a little older but does not look her age. She takes care of her health and always focuses on quality food and products. Now I'm the same with her and ppl I come across think I'm a little delusional. Well
2:20 What happened to your last relationships: I'm spoiled so a lot of people can't provide the kind of lifestyle that I am used to. 5:25 don't go in there trying to impress them. then stroke his ego. wow you picked a really nice place. you must have read my mind. 12:06 do you want to be my girlfriend? question after 3 dates: well i only date men who do a b and c, ie. pay all my bills. 22:07 a fifty fifty man's thought process on how he starts to stray after a 50-50 relationship. 25:00 easing out of a 50-50 relationship. slowly, over a year. 27:07 you worred about him cheating? tie up all his money
She is spot on, especially about the drink thing.. I was dating a older guy once while in my late twenties and I ordered Prosecco the first dinner date and he was so impressed a few days later he called me and put me on speaker to his friends and asked what that drink was I ordered again...weird flex..but he was impressed and I met the friends lol 🤷🏾♀️
I wish you had an online course based on all of the topics you discuss but what I do is watch your videos and make it seem like I'm in school and takes lots of notes and apply them into my journey.
Please listen .. I’m 34 and literally did everything for my ex since we were 23… he left in 2020 when we had two daughters was paying for vacations and all this stuff for women.. hell took and filed my kids on his taxes and spent that money on woman.. he was the dust king!! Don’t let your emotions get in the was like I did.. umm and he wasn’t cute either so don’t think ugly doesn’t cheat or leave or is a good man.
I’m so happy I found your channel. You’ve got the best advice I’ve ever heard! I’m young and just starting life in college and let me tell you there is no one else I’d rather listen to when I’m looking for guidance, you’re so inspiring, thank you.
So true what you say.....when i was younger I was just like whatever. But when I started to get emotional and fall in love, these guys took advantage of that. They knew i was responsible and it raised their levels not mine. I always thought I would fall in love and lived the fairy tale life we are conditioned to fall for. Wrong. The only thing you do when you help pay those bills is let them spend their money on hoes, dope hoes and strippers. Most of them are not even on your level and have far less than you. All i did was build for the next chick.. When you dip all into his pocket he has no way to go pay to take out someone else. I learned this long ago. However I was always the i love you kind and honest. After years of building and loosing and then having my finances drained to pull some deadass weight. Now I am like hell with this im getting back into the game.
Shera, I ducking love you woman lol, and I know so many others do too. I'm so grateful you post these videos and share this important wisdom with us. Whenever I'm feeling doubtful or don't know what to do, I come look for what you have to say about it and feel peace again with the knowledge you give. From now on, I'm gonna be thinking WWSD what would shera do lmao
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My motto, “l ain’t sellin’ it but it ain’t free”.
That whole part
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PLEASE LISTEN TO SHERA! My aunt helped my uncle pay for and build up a brand new mansion back in their home country. He allowed the women he cheated with to live there for FREE. Then he left her for good and moved in a young woman and gave her the lifestyle that my aunt should have had. Don’t do it ladies. Wait, be patient, and manifest the life you want.
Katia Bella he is an asshole...wooow
Yup happens all the time my dad ended a friendship like this cause his former friend did the same thing
Yeah thats what makes my blood run cold, hearing that takes the rose colour outta the glass
Katia Bella this sounds like Tyler Perry’s ACRIMONY
This happens to me. When I was 20 years old I took in a homeless man who was 40. NOw that he’s no longer homeless and has a nice job getting paid more money than even me he gives all of his money to his mom. I said what about me? he said “did u push me out of your coochie?” This is what I get for building a man who was homeless. When he was homesless sleeping on the streets his mother was living it big in her big house with her boyfriend while her child was sleeping on benches and hospitals.
I can't imagine having to split the rent/mortgage with a husband. I'd rather be single.
That’s why I got dovir
*divorced
I can’t respect it lmao can’t go 50/50 with a man
But but but.. equality
66kaisersoza 😂😂😂
My mom married my father at 21 and had me at 22. Worked a full time job, gave birth to 2 more children, he cheated their entire 20+ year marriage, he built his career and himself off her back and misery. Only to divorce her, have a baby with a woman close to my age buy a house for her and her 2 other children by another man. He's still leveling up and securing that family while my mom still struggles financially. DO NOT BUILD A MAN EVEERRRRRRRRRR
damnn thanks for sharingg! but what to do if a man has low income n we married..how to get him to level up n pay for me
That's so messed up.
Hina B. If he has no money dump him
Hina B. You can do better!
Similar to what my dad did.
Women today shame other women who like to be spoiled by their men. They feel the woman should be out working her career, buying her own dinner, clothes, house etc. With so many women now a days pushing that Independent Woman most men today feel like they don’t have to put in any work to court a woman more less spoil her.
Those are the pick me women she talks about.
A lot of these women scream they are independent and don’t need anything from a man or how proud they are to be the breadwinners of their marriages/relationships, in reality it sucks. These women receive gifts from their man/husband and they know off the back he used her money to buy it. These women can’t completely feel feminine with having a man that barely pulls his weight. A lot of them like being breadwinners and being pick me chicks but in reality those women are tired, worn out, stressed maybe even depressed, getting cheated on with other women who don’t have to lift a finger.
Yup. Women buy their own engagement rings too. It’s ridiculous.
Pretty Glowin This is exactly how I keep my sanity as well lol this is the only place I can come to and like minded women think just like me when it comes to men. When I speak this language around friends they think I’m trippin for wanting a man who takes care of me. They always remind me how it isn’t the 1950s anymore and women should be out taking care of themselves without a mans assistance.
That mind set alone has a lot of men thinking women should come 100% to the relationship and he doesn’t have to do much but bring his 1/3, 50%. So that leaves less room for him to spoil you.
If a man isn’t going 100% for you, I feel he doesn’t truly love you. If he goes 50/50 then that means he loves you as long as you can provide lol
Laura Croft EXACTLY. Why pay half the bills just to come home and take care of the whole house the kids and you know he’ll expect sex at the end of the day. What woman really wants to give up sex to a man she’s having to play roommate with after doing all the work.
That’s why a lot of these pick me’s end up in divorce or their man leaves. They do all this building their man up and most likely don’t want to give him sex at the end of the day from doing all the work for him. He’ll eventually cheat, she’ll find out. Either she will leave/take his half and level up or continue to turn a blind eye to his shenanigans and still pay 50/50.
I freaking died when she said “even if you was broke just lie”.
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if u want to go to hell..lie
It works 😁😁😁👌👌👌👌👌
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Sorry but she's right. Every guy I date I make it a point to let the next guy know how much the previous guy adored and spoiled me. It never fails the new guy will bend over backwards to treat me better than the last guy
When I was 19 I dated a man that was 40 and he used to spoil me . If I ever bought the least expensive thing for myself he would actually get annoyed and replace that money . Said it made him feel like less of a man . Every minute he’d ask “what do you need?”Literally pushing stuff on me . Real men actually want to spoil you , it makes them feel masculine. I always had to look good though. If I ever showed up without a manicure / my hair not done (long hair) he would ask me to go and do it and then call him later . Also I had to maintain the same figure he met me with. The least increase in weight , he’d say “please you’re gaining weight, check that”. Like shera said , just look good .
Feel mimi I like him 😊 congratulations for finding a real man. It just sheds light on how men have changed and it’s sickening.
Feel mimi I always find myself in this situation too. I'm Forever spoiled
Feel mimi This....yesss! Keep that body right , hair n nails done.
Feel mimi true he wants u to look A1 at all times these men want a fly ass woman to parade around with if u want his lifestyle look like it
Spoiling a woman doesnt make a man feel masculine . Actually it's nothing a women can do to make a man feel masculine .
DON’T do 50/50!!! (I commented this on another video)
I was married at 21. He was 23. He paid my rent for a while. Then we moved together & we split the bills 50/50. Now, 10 years later I am the sole provider & have been for years!!!! Do not fall for it! Idc how “good” he is!!
I learned my lesson!! I’m leaving his ass in roughly 2 weeks.
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I hope you have a better man
blair zhang 😂😂 ok with the quarantine he is here because I need help with the kids (4 young children) but he does know I want to leave. He will be leaving again once school and daycares open back up. But for my own sanity he is here because I can’t deal with these children by myself 🤦🏾♀️
Jay Bae not actively looking but I do have a SD.
@@ee6255 Girl you need his help ... You think you do. Better to rely on yourself or family members than to give him box and an excuse to live in your house bill free
I once told a man I was raised spoiled and he told me he was too. By his mama 🗣
I juust left gracefully after that
Lol!😆
Omg what 😂😂😂
Right move!!
Girl he would try and compete with you always lol.
Glad you walked away.
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i don’t even have to pretend i’m spoiled because it’s true. i grew up spoiled and i lowered my standards for a dusty. never again.
Same sis omg never
Same here! I couldn’t even recognize myself. Now I see the light
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Girl same
Same
Fixing the hell out of my life
Nina Lovely same 😂
Nina Lovely bay bae 🗣 when i tell you 😂
Nina Lovely Same here. I’m bossing the hell up! I already have the nice whip and nice neighborhood, so I don’t have time for dusties or dusty mentalities.
Same here🤗
Good for you
this is so true. My aunt had just received her MBA and was working in a big firm. Then she met this guy who was in his second year MBA and she fell in love with him and even got him a position higher than her's so that he would feel like the man in the relationship. WELL, six years after they marry, they have two daughters and he leaves her for a 20 year old college student. He buys her a Range Rover and gets her a loft in the city. My aunt almost went crazy. She's 46 now with two kids and not married.
jupiter 111 this sounds like Tyler Perry’s Acrimony.
Hell no
You better send your auntie over here girl...its never too late to level up!!!
And this is exactly why Shera says do not ever build with a man. Be the woman he brings his best to, not the woman who helped him build just so he can take his best and give it to another woman
jupiter 111
Omg! That’s terrible.
This woman is re-doing my education right now!!!
That part
You are so right, my man can home one time with some cheap costume bracelet. Girl I turned him right around now I only get diamonds
ashleycaresse 😭
Yes sis
😅😅 I’ll feel bad old me , but now days I don’t accept less things , cause I buy myself gold 😊
😂😂😂😂
When I was 18 I was with a 40+year old, and NEVER had to tell him what I needed, it was always provided.
U had a 40 yr old at 18?....damn. I know he had FUN with that.
Because you were 18 and he was 40… 😂
Cuz he knew his place and that's what it is and it should be 😊
Creep detected.
The Dusty will say well I'm spoiled too😂🤣
Truth Teller yes he does. Omg !
Sooooooo true!!!! 😡🤣🤣🤣
He's a princess😂😂😂
All 👏of 👏this!👏....🤣🤣😂😂😂
This is so true.
Teach people how to treat you. He already knows he has to work, it's up to you to give them the job description. Lesson learnt.
I was in a 50/50 marriage, then got more from him,70/30, then 80/20. Then, when i told him I'm really tired from working that hard and wanted to take a break, he asked for divorce.
His manipulation tactics to make me contribute was that I'm an adult, not a kid, and should pay for my part. Don't fall for that ladies.
As i was contributing with money in the house, i had a lot to say in the decisions in the house too. He didn't like that.
She is talking real talk. I don’t agree with every single thing but if you want to focus on you and heal from toxic men and have a little fun in your life to build a self respect foundation listen to this woman. I wish I heard this years ago. I didn’t learn til I was 32. I was a doormat for too long. Listen to her 💯
I wish I knew all that when I was younger and had everything to be desired. What happen to older women, what are they suppose to do? If they feel they still got it
thank u
Then you start making it happen for you
I was 37 when I got a clue, it’s never too late to level up!
Same 😢‼️
Exactly, I was a 50/50 i bought 3 cars, a house thought him all about credit cards, banks and even started a mobile home renting side business. Well thr chicks would think he was THE man little did they know everything was under my name. He ended up bringing a chick to my house and got caught redhanded by me. Soooo i learned my lesson. I will not ever invest or do 50/50.
if a woman can do all this while the man is looking, he aint a man to me i cant respect a an..cos the mascuine m be gone. ima talk trash at him every turn
Well would you help build up a woman? I’m isnoried by your hustle and I’d love some tips from you! I’m young and want to be finically successful like you! I’m sorry that guy took advantage of your help and guidance
I’m so sorry!! I did the same thing hoping he would one day want to do better. I hate that happened to you. We only fk with protector provider types now.
Are you the man ? Why would a woman be interested in hustling and buying everything. Crazy! 🤡
If he was a cheater, he would've cheated whether you went 50/50 or not. Also, 50/50 is two sides contributing, not you doing everything.
The key is to be willing to “Risk it All”. I used to have issues with this, but now I am so comfortable with walking away if it doesn’t match with what I’m aiming for. 🔑
True! They will ask you to be their girlfriend by the second date, lol. Let them know what you require to become a girlfriend... bills paid, shopping, dates, trips, etc. If you look good enough, most men will agree to your terms!
A man tried that "im spoiled" mess with me. He thought i was gonna scramble to prove myself "worthy". 😂😂 He still trying to get back. Nah.
I did this with a friend. I gave her a bebe skirt and she gave me a sample size of hand lotion. I was pissed. I had her give me another gift. Then I stopped talking to her.
Victoria lee You did right
Victoria lee I agree ghost her
Your friend was being cheap! SMH
Was she broke lmao
loooooool
A new girl came to work with us few days ago and she said she don't know how to use the bus etc, and cz she is cute looking, at some point everybody was stressing out to find her solutions, while she was smoking her cigg undisturbed. Shera is soooo right !
If he’s a narcissist this will make him secretly hate you and he will date you only to humble you. Have discernment when you tell a man this!
💯 1st time in 20 years of dating I discovered this and it’s really outrageous the lengths they will go to “humble” you. 🤣🤣 Didn’t work out for him 😂😂
Factssss it’s so common. Scary to discern. Always must pray
What's discernment?
No one can humble Shera's followers. Dismiss them.
Damn My parents been married for twenty years. And last Christmas I watched my mom open her gifts and reject everything lol.. I was like mama why you doing that. Now I get it lol
🤣🤣🤣💯
Lol. Your mom got game👏👏
Wow this works on my husband too, and I didn’t even recognize that I need to continue to do it. I actually would feel bad sometimes, but if he asks me if I like something and I don’t, I’m gonna say no and make a twisted face and shake my head no uncontrollably lol. He just keeps coming back with more gifts, unknowingly begging for a approval. He is always SOOOOO happy when he actually buys something I like. He will bombard me with multiples until I tell him to stop buying it 🤣🤣 the gifts just keep getting better and better!!
@@YourFavoriteRealEstateAgent I gotta get better with saying no or that something doesn’t make me happy when it doesn’t😩😩😩 a people pleaser in recovery
@@Theprincessinyellow I’m a reformed people pleaser too! You can do it. Just start testing and don’t apologize! You will be amazed bc I still am amazed at how Ashera has helped me learned how to EFFECTIVELY deal with my husband, his ego, and ALWAYS getting what I want 😎
Ladies, trust me. It’s time to wise up. I believe what Shera is preaching is simple self-worth. Know your worth ladies, this is not about a dollar value but about having standards.
Don’t be so needy to allow a man to walk all over you only to be left broken and broke in the end. Level up your life FAST. If you’re 30 and up speed up your level up I’m do it ASAP. Whatever vision you have of your level up- go higher-create the ultimate version of you- the version that would intimidate your current self.
I have an aunt who helped her husband build a house, purchase land and even start a business. She never enjoyed the house because he moved his mistress in there- banned her children from previous relationship from even visiting the house. He then sold it without telling her. When he got sick she funded his medical bills, and helped care for him when he was in need- she allowed him to move back in- he left as soon as he got healthy- she waited for him until he died thinking her prayers would bring him back only for some women he married without her knowing to show up during funeral to claim that’s her husband and she wanted any possession he had. He divorced her and remarried and left her looking stupid. She spent her entire life praying and hoping and he reaped all the benefits of her stupidity. Wise up ladies.
This is not about being a gold-digger, this is about knowing your value.
so funny im chatting with the Surgeon and following your advice he's already talking, marraige and blending family.
Trina's World YASSSSS SIS!!!!! GET THAT COIN
❤️❤️❤️
Trina's World So how is it now? Update?
Sis, any update?!
Trina's World talk is cheap
I've been told I'm spoiled by men. I take it as a compliment ☺️
I use to hear this and i didn't know abt leveling up
Part of the game is triggering a man's sense of fatherly responsibility to provide. Youth is a trigger for a man. You want a guy who could be your father to trigger that response more easily and into the future. Ladies! You need to be retired (independently financially secure) by 45 off his money.
This psychology would go over alot of women's head
If I'm 24 and babyfaced and he's 37 will that work???? LOL
@@babyc.3015 It will not in the long run.
@@SovereignQueen9 He said he's looking for a princess 😶😂
@@babyc.3015 Great, be a princess for him and keep your legs closed. Dating is dating, not marriage.
Being spoiled will definitely weed out the Dusty’s.. lol
I love listening to your videos, I didn't grow up being spoiled, I was pretty independent at a pretty young age, being the older sister and being motherly etc, so I grew up not being spoiled. This has hurt me, I have been an I can do it myself woman, but I am done lol. I want to be spoiled now, I know I deserve it.
Same!
How did it turn out? 💋
Me too but this year I finally woke up and men are showering me with gifts and before that I never wanted gifts because I thought they would feel entitled to my body. Newsflash even if you pay for ur own things they still feel entitled to our bodies
This is me
Same! I was definitely living in my masculinity, even went after a masculine career in the IT industry but I’m so done now! I’m ready to be spoiled like I deserve 🙌🏾💅🏾💅🏾
Wow! This is the exact reason why I broke up with my Ex-boyfriends too! My last one called me spoiled because I demanded more from him and expressed what I wanted clearly!
Same I just wanted him to take me to Applebee's but that was to much for him...i even said I would pay for dinner but he never took me :( but it'sokay I took myself right after I broke up with him
Ooo this is a beautiful look, may you continue to shine. But, you’re absolutely right. I do carry myself high maintenance and people expect that, even my mom so certain things she wouldn’t give me. People treat you the way you carry yourself!
Jdore Couture I know she looks better and better every day !
Jdore Couture yup! A few of my bosses call me “stush” and it’s honestly a compliment to me! Yes I am! Don’t you mistake me for anything else! Haha
+SincerelyChelle you must be from Trinidad, love the word "stush".
missjohn316 lol yess I am! Haha
carrying urself means looking polished n good at all times?
My mom died when I was18, and I really wish I had a mentor like you back then. Dated losers because I did not understand Laws of the Universe, and didn’t understand that I make my own destiny. I wanted to take care of people, including my ex. I didn’t understand how to be feminine or look for masculine men.
Erica Copus mother died at age 9 and I was raised around men. Father was not my real father.
It's mean not to let a man looks after u
Same @@Your_favourite_main_character
Not being a millionaire doesn't equal loser.
Whoa you are definitely not lying when you said that men put out there stating what they are used to. My ex claimed he was used to his ex taking his shoes off for him and waking at at 3/4 or even 5 am when he came after home after the “club” to cook for him. His ugly ass wore my ass out.
Girl! I’m so sorry this happened to u but ur post was funny as hell. The audacity of him treating u like a Waffle House!
This man asksd me to just "take the bus" , I was like " I do not take the bus. I don't understand that stuff.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hell no 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂 ohh My!
Girl the nerve of him lmfao. I remember my car battery died and I got a rental for the day just to not do that or right in some random's car 🤣🤣🤣
😹😂😅🤣😹😂😅🤣😹😂🤣
This is so true! I'm living it right now. I wish I could post a pic of the car my honey bought for me last weekend!💅🏽💄💐
DazzleMeRed Rockafella congratulations
Yassssss
DazzleMeRed Rockafella yaaaaaas honey
My car is broken. I need a man actually capable willing and able to fix, buy me a new one. Too tired trying to play masculine and feminine roles in life all the way along.
DazzleMeRed Rockafella congratulations on the new car!!😊
Crazy thing is….I come from a low income household and have ALWAYS been spoiled I am the youngest girl in my family.Currently I’m dating and older gentleman and he recently just asked me to be his girlfriend.Hopefully in the next couple of years I’ll get a ring! Oh and he bought me a car for Valentine’s Day since I wrecked mine💜 it’s definitely a mindset thing more than anything.I’ve been spoiled my whole life and I’m just now figuring it out.lol
Me too. I was low income but a materially spoiled child, I was the only child
How are you doing now
It's TRUE !!! I let my husband know and he wants to do better to please me. I'm a stay at home wife/mom. I made sure not to do no 50/50. Because if I wasn't with him, he still be paying Bill's as a man.
I told this to my husband.. (before we started dating)I said “my daddy and uncles spoiled me I was raised around provider types” 🤷🏻♀️ I’m a housewife now. Met husband when he was 35 😂 not rich but generous
Just wanted to let you know I followed the advice in your videos and it saved my marriage. Thank you!
can u share how pls..i need to save mine too..i feel i put zero efforts in me but leveling up. Can u give more tipss
@@hunny585 continue to level up dear. Work in silence. No nagging. Seduce him Watch more of her videos.
This thinner eye-liner and almost no eyeliner look is definitely more elegant and suits you the best. It makes you look younger. Even though, you already look like you're still in your 20's.
I’m only 18 and I love your channel ! ❤️ I lost my femininity around 14/15 because of my masculine mother. She never taught me any other this, I appreciate you 💘.
Girl you are soooo beautiful
Shalvaaa thank you 💓
I wasn't raised like this, far from it, but I wished I was. I've seen this happened, and it works. Men need jobs, and women need someone to do it for them says Dr. Gray who wrote Mars Venus books. Good stuff! Keep up the good work cause we need this.
My sign to take it off my bookshelf & start reading
@@mariibabyy me too! Lol
My sign to buy it!! 📚 Thank you!
The queen of finessing I see 👌🏽😹 I’m taking notes even thought my boyfriend already spoiled me I could learn some new tips to keep him in
Drinking Hennessy like a dude, talking about "what's good"....DEAD!!!
Y.Esther Moore am on the floor 😂😂😂😂🥰
Y.Esther Moore 😂😂😂
Every time I watch Shera's videos I say "Omg, I love her so much!" 😆😘
My money is my money. His money is our money.
I'm very spoiled. I think that's why I pull back when men don't give me what I want.
Yes, PLEASE do a Your-Own-$tash video. We, as women (wives, especially) need reminders, especially the up-and-coming princesses. They are walking blind today. - SheRa, I am a new subbie to your channel. I am old school and put these things to practice way back in the Nineties. Young bucks are not the ticket. I am now married of 15 years and I STILL put these to practice. I have my own business, as he does, but the way of life is just me. I am madly in love with my hubby, but this is what he expects because I was high-maintenence when he married me and he loves all of me. Stop settling, ladies.
She's right two men in their 50s tried to cheat on their wives with me. One was giving me cash
So u DID accept the cash?? Lol.....
@@percyastronautstatus.8780 😂😂😂😂
That's how we ladies know that we can't fail bc they can always be persuaded. Sometimes it's too easy
I wish I would be known this when I was 21. I should've made my ex husband pay my bills while I saved my income.
I'll make it for you . I'm 20😂😘
I beg to differ Love. I haven’t gone through what your talking about. I’m 51 in a month I turn 52. I’m not over weight nor my skin isn’t horrible. My hair is healthy long and thick. I believe it’s all about the mindset and how you take care of the mind and body.
Looking GOOD 😚 I'm 40 and I dont look crazy either but some of the more mature women just age well naturally. Most do not though . I have never had a problem attracting men with money EVEN when I was overweight . But I dont carry myself like trash either and that makes a huge difference . Blessings to you ☺
BLISSFUL ABUNDANCE That’s Great💯
I agree with you. Some women age faster due to dealing with the stresses of a 50/50 relationship. I'm sure of it! 😁
What are you disagreeing with?
13:51
I LOVE this video, sis. This falls under my motto to "Act AS IF". If you act it, you will BE it. Law of attraction. You want to attract someone who recognized how you command (not demand) to be treated. Like, a queen. :) The way you treat and respect yourself, is how you are teaching others to treat you. But, always do so with kindness.**All we as women need to do is Show Up** They need to treat us wonderfully. Not that we can't do it ourselves - make no mistake- But, I let a man be a man. Period And stop worrying about if he 'might stop calling me..' If so, Bye and Next!
I had a Guy that never gave me nothing, was always in my house without paying nothing I'm shame of myself
real
I don't drink but I think I need a bottle of champagne!
BlackFertilityTV shoot as long as he is paying. $$
yay lol
The best teacher ever on TH-cam .Keep it coming we love your advice💙Sheara
Shera a cold-blooded woman... On that real ish... Love you, girl, you be having me rolling
"Introducing him to being a man".Im speechless! Yes, forget the 50/50 chick status! What you said is the absolute truth.
You crack me up when you laugh without smiling lmaoo Great video
A big up to Shera for helping us half asleep women a wake up call, I have been stupid my whole life lost alot felt suicidal im telling you LISTEN to her carefully she is telling you the truth DO NOT FEEL SORRY for a man x
WASTE OF TIME!!!
Yup
.... It did work on my past boyfriend who was young and loved luxury. He wanted to spoil me like crazy. Just drank "waaaay" too much for me to marry him. ;)
👏💞
20 years ago, I’d say Shera is wrong. Now that I have lived and gone through so stuffff.. she ain’t wrong about any of what is coming out of her mouth. I’ve been the basic chick, the 50/50 chick.. all I got was cheated on, lied to and then left for broke. I put myself through school and am now doing well on my own. I will never again except a man that can’t give me what I want at it’s best! Thank you Shera!
thank you for this comment as well ❤
You're not in a position to ask for that anymore, unfortunately. Too old. There's a 20 y/0 version of you that's more agreeable, tighter, fitter, and cuter. #coldhardfacts
@@wasimdbala349 You're not in a position to talk about what men with money want. Too broke. There is a more successful version of you that's more in abundance, wealthy, affluent, and well-off. #makemoremoney
young girls need to hear this! and some older women 👀
From my experience spoiling yourself matters. It automatically "highly cared for" energy
“Unless he’s an ugly 35 year old and you’re 18”....😂🤣😂🤣😂 OMG I love you hahaha
I screamed cuz why she get the ages right 😢
honestly, it's not the advice that makes me feel better/ good it's just going in the comment section seeing women that are actually open-minded and aren't about "all men aren't the same and you shouldn't be with a guy just for his money🙄😤". like it genuinely makes me happy to see that I'm not the only girl tryna be smarter with guys because I'm so used to my friend group being stoopid and falling into the "true love" bs that you see in shows or movie yk
Same I’m happy to see women waking up
the "all men are not the same" is soo annoying
They're all the same... and I don't care about the exception to the rule.
Yess, she literally just gave us the keys to finding a sugar daddy 🙌🏽
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I have to disagree with the point that certain actions don't work on younger guys that only works on older guys. I had a guy paying my bills for well over a year and he was 10 yrs younger than me
Same here. But he is from a country where it is expected for women to not work...AND hire household help to clean and cook for them WHILE they sit at home lol.
Louise K that’s the acception but that is not typically the case.
Facts ! lol
EnMode what country is he from sis 😂
@@enmodelife what's the country?
Your videos are now my personal daily ritual. Loving every one.💖
If they rap about it don’t order it. Solid advice 🥂
Guuuuuuh! Your clap backs are superb. Yes, Ma'am!
"Im not famous either, believe me"
5 years later: Viral worldwide 🎉
LOL... I am actually spoiled, so I wouldn't be lying. But, I'm not spoiled to the point of being rotten and nasty. I grew up with parents, who treated me well. And I never have had to really ask for anything from the men that I dated, because they just wanted to give me things.
Raven priestess that’s great
I'm late as hell to this video but agreed. I grew up extremely spoiled and privileged. 1st class everything. This isn't even a lifestyle anymore, it's a mindset. Once you taste luxury even once you chase that high in everything you do, the people you meet, and the life you create for yourself.
Yup bc you already “act “ spoiled naturally. That’s what she wants us all to do to have those same results. Believe you are what you want and it will attract just that
I’ve been dating a dusty that keeps giving me excuses...... I always thought being spoilt was a bad thing but now I am proud to be spoilt
You look younger!!!! Maybe its the red lips but you took my breath away in this one.... Yes mommy.... I take everything you say seriously and I feel like I'm making some sort of progress
I love you're reactions of the men responding to the woman. It's so funny. Hahaha love the long hair
One thing my mother introduced to me early in life was all nice and expensive things. In high school she used to buy givenchy irresistible for me and j'adore for herself.
She used to get facial massages and bring me and my brother's along and we would be very annoyed. Now she is a little older but does not look her age.
She takes care of her health and always focuses on quality food and products.
Now I'm the same with her and ppl I come across think I'm a little delusional. Well
2:20
What happened to your last relationships: I'm spoiled so a lot of people can't provide the kind of lifestyle that I am used to.
5:25
don't go in there trying to impress them.
then stroke his ego. wow you picked a really nice place. you must have read my mind.
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do you want to be my girlfriend? question after 3 dates: well i only date men who do a b and c, ie. pay all my bills.
22:07
a fifty fifty man's thought process on how he starts to stray after a 50-50 relationship.
25:00
easing out of a 50-50 relationship. slowly, over a year.
27:07
you worred about him cheating? tie up all his money
I wish I had her videos 10, 12 years ago. Would've saved me a lot of heartache and trauma.
She might tell you a joke but she’ll never say a lie
She is spot on, especially about the drink thing.. I was dating a older guy once while in my late twenties and I ordered Prosecco the first dinner date and he was so impressed a few days later he called me and put me on speaker to his friends and asked what that drink was I ordered again...weird flex..but he was impressed and I met the friends lol 🤷🏾♀️
You gotta train them, thank
You boo for all this knowledge ✨
Lmao “ just lie, even if you broke, lie” lol I love it!
You are so funny! Every video gets better! I have learned the hard way that YES! We teach people how to treat us!!
I wish you had an online course based on all of the topics you discuss but what I do is watch your videos and make it seem like I'm in school and takes lots of notes and apply them into my journey.
This is how I acted as a Child and everyone around me made me forced me to be a pickmesha 😩 gotta get back to my roots 💪🏼
Wow u look so beautiful and I have learned so much from you. Thanks
Please listen .. I’m 34 and literally did everything for my ex since we were 23… he left in 2020 when we had two daughters was paying for vacations and all this stuff for women.. hell took and filed my kids on his taxes and spent that money on woman.. he was the dust king!! Don’t let your emotions get in the was like I did.. umm and he wasn’t cute either so don’t think ugly doesn’t cheat or leave or is a good man.
Thank you. You have changed my life with your wisdom.❤️
I’m so happy I found your channel. You’ve got the best advice I’ve ever heard! I’m young and just starting life in college and let me tell you there is no one else I’d rather listen to when I’m looking for guidance, you’re so inspiring, thank you.
how is college going?
So lucky to have found you, all your advice has helped and uplifted me so much. Thank you 💕
So true what you say.....when i was younger I was just like whatever. But when I started to get emotional and fall in love, these guys took advantage of that. They knew i was responsible and it raised their levels not mine. I always thought I would fall in love and lived the fairy tale life we are conditioned to fall for. Wrong. The only thing you do when you help pay those bills is let them spend their money on hoes, dope hoes and strippers. Most of them are not even on your level and have far less than you. All i did was build for the next chick.. When you dip all into his pocket he has no way to go pay to take out someone else. I learned this long ago. However I was always the i love you kind and honest. After years of building and loosing and then having my finances drained to pull some deadass weight. Now I am like hell with this im getting back into the game.
Shera, I ducking love you woman lol, and I know so many others do too. I'm so grateful you post these videos and share this important wisdom with us. Whenever I'm feeling doubtful or don't know what to do, I come look for what you have to say about it and feel peace again with the knowledge you give. From now on, I'm gonna be thinking WWSD what would shera do lmao
Marriage is for the wealthy…this hit me hard! I finally understand!
Your advice is changing my life!!
I love this. I’m 20 & on Game !💞
You have so many valuable videos ! You are the truth. Sprinkle sprinkle.
"We can be in baggy pants in a rap video and put on lipstick the next day doing a TH-cam video" she is so real, I love it!! Tell it like it is 😂😂😂