Dad Lashes out in anger and frustration over his confusion.

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  • @gutchiespencer2714
    @gutchiespencer2714 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1152

    Walking without assistance, feeds himself, still has his own teeth, uses the bathroom without assistance, reads without glasses, has a great sense of humor, and that smile with those gentle eyes, he's a Gentle man and we all love him, ALOT!!💥

    • @jamoriah
      @jamoriah 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

      Hes doing really well in fairness.

    • @MikeMadison-z7o
      @MikeMadison-z7o 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      I'm 58 my knees and shoulder ache, rugby and construction kill me. 92 he walks better than me

    • @hello3146
      @hello3146 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MikeMadison-z7oI use a topical compounded 10% diclofenac cream prescribed by my md. It is stronger than the commercially available diclofenac mixtures. It cuts back on the oral pain killers and is surprisingly effective and helps with getting restful sleep. Hope it helps.

    • @dianneferguson453
      @dianneferguson453 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      00.0.k​@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesus1

    • @pabloamericano4930
      @pabloamericano4930 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Well said! All solid point. My 92yo Gpa pee’s himself every night and my mom has to wash his clothes and sheets every f-king day.

  • @Purple_911
    @Purple_911 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +274

    If that's lashing out, he's a an angel.

    • @lauramartinez7057
      @lauramartinez7057 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Right??? I’m confused when some of the captions of their videos.

    • @Irene15679
      @Irene15679 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      OMG!!! I speechless Dan , I feel for you with my whole Heart😢😢😢😢❤❤❤

    • @Irene15679
      @Irene15679 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lauramartinez7057.

    • @dianamulroney1532
      @dianamulroney1532 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ed, you are a sweetheart ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

    • @TheodoreRizzo
      @TheodoreRizzo 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I thought the same thing.

  • @vickiegrizzle434
    @vickiegrizzle434 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +238

    I am 71 and 3 years into Alzheimer’s diagnosis. Praise God I am still sharp, knows everyone, and I still drive. Last July my husband passed away. That really took a toll on me. But I am ok. Please keep me in your prayers. I love watching these videos!

    • @debodeeful
      @debodeeful 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤

    • @susanlewis9351
      @susanlewis9351 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      God bless you

    • @sandi2005
      @sandi2005 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🙏❤️

    • @nuraanvankerwel6113
      @nuraanvankerwel6113 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Please eat lots of good fat, like avocados, coconut oil and olive oil, everyday Very good brain food.

    • @sheilacarter7875
      @sheilacarter7875 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Sending prayers❤

  • @cathrynschultz1897
    @cathrynschultz1897 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1213

    After all that forgetfulness “dinner smells good Danielle”❤ I love it.

    • @joanquattrocchi8023
      @joanquattrocchi8023 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +76

      He still has his gentleman card❤

    • @lafondat6352
      @lafondat6352 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +108

      He seems to always remember Danielle's name🙂

    • @saraschneider6781
      @saraschneider6781 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

      He's the least angry angry guy I know.😂

    • @joanquattrocchi8023
      @joanquattrocchi8023 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@saraschneider6781 that part

    • @janepowell1267
      @janepowell1267 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Bless him 💞

  • @Awendell420
    @Awendell420 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +368

    Even when he’s mad or frustrated or confused he’s never mean. What a great father he is

    • @decuevas244
      @decuevas244 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      When people get older they can nicer or meaner. I don't know if their real side is coming out or if they change because of the trauma of getting old but my husband is lucky. I'm on the nice side lol. God bless everyone.

    • @angelgirldebbiejo
      @angelgirldebbiejo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I don't think they purposely mean, the good thing was my mom would forget she was mad at someone and just be nice......

    • @thebadluckboys
      @thebadluckboys 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      How long are you going to exploit your father for money? Turn to Christ, friend. It's not too late. Serving your demented father to the altar of money isn't a good look.

    • @personalcheeses8073
      @personalcheeses8073 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@thebadluckboys Dr Ed is warm, safe and loved, we can see from the videos how well he is cared for. Unlike those poor oldies shoved in care homes and abused by caretakers. Just because you wouldn’t be prepared to care for a parent with dementia don’t judge someone who is prepared to do so, instead of handing him off to strangers. The videos document that he is in great hands.

    • @missp5152
      @missp5152 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      ​@@thebadluckboys 💌 IF Dan was exploiting, he would not attend / speak at Alzheimer's conventions, where he could be the target for criticism. Dan is certainly helping me + others heal from the trauma and recover from society's STIGMA of a mentally unwell parent. Many isolated years for me with no one to turn to. And yes my soul mate died young at 40 + suddenly while l coped with my mom's aggressive baffling, highest level dementia. I was heartbroken for her. Dan is an example for those coping now.
      God bless 💌

  • @janedoe5922
    @janedoe5922 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Dad is so precious🥰

  • @loletamasters1423
    @loletamasters1423 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +322

    Even in his anger and confusion, he is a sweet- mannered man. ❤

  • @lancelotdufrane
    @lancelotdufrane 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +400

    You make call him angry, I don’t see angry. He still has incredible manners, politeness and seems agreeable. Just confused. He’s so sweet. You are lucky to have had such a wonderful man as your Father. Thanks for sharing this journey.

    • @psthisisme
      @psthisisme 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      I didn’t sense anger either. My take was anxiety. I always tried to calm my mom when she was in an anxious state.

    • @iro9486
      @iro9486 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Of course he's clickbaiting him. While making him wear merch. Why are we thanking him for this??

    • @Mr.Oct___
      @Mr.Oct___ 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      You saw 6 min of behavior and interaction that may have even been edited... not the entire hr prior that Dan mentioned... & u speak on it from a distance. You have no idea what the experience is like from their vantage point. I live w/ my grandmother, who is 97. She is a blessing to have. & its a privilege to serve & care for her. But the lifestyle is taxing & comes w/ many flavors. Grandpa is polite bc the values of that generation don't leave them. I've worked w/ seniors since i was 15 yrs old...That group from the early 20th century & prior is just an entirely diff breed. Notice the things that matter the most to grandpa...being prepared in case something happens...having resources available...having done a good job in life...his reputation...family....especially family....& being available & there for those whom he's responsible. These people were/are giants. I call them legends. But they can be equally as headstrong & insufferable once they get on a certain wavelength & frequency. ..I love them dearly, For me, there are more pluses than minuses....As Dan said, it's just a part of it.

    • @christineamlinger5630
      @christineamlinger5630 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      ​@@iro9486 merch? Those are gifts people send him smh.

    • @christineamlinger5630
      @christineamlinger5630 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@Mr.Oct___ true and I also think that given that we do not now him we don't know how Dr Salinger really is as a person and how it is when he is angry and or frustrated. He is ever so polite I think he doesn't lash out.

  • @dipuomputle9295
    @dipuomputle9295 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    I love granddad, I love his son who is taking care of him. Great loving family.

  • @zkyroni
    @zkyroni 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +214

    On behalf of all of us, Thank you for taking care of Him❤

    • @squeekymoon
      @squeekymoon 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    • @debby891
      @debby891 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amen to that. My mom isn’t as pleasant to say the least as his dad

    • @staciballard4987
      @staciballard4987 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It’s a very sad disease,bless his sweet heart ❤

    • @ToniLucas-s6j
      @ToniLucas-s6j 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@debby891so sorry.

  • @bradt6740
    @bradt6740 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +132

    He's a good dad and you're a good son. You're a very good man Dan.

    • @melissachartres3219
      @melissachartres3219 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If his son would just give him his car keys.... he could drive on out of there and not have to deal with all of that!

  • @danyyboye
    @danyyboye 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    " That what worries me mostly " that floored me 😂. Sense of humor right there.

  • @DMG118
    @DMG118 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +146

    I love that he never seems to forget Danielle

    • @CK-bq9rn
      @CK-bq9rn 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Why?? 😂😂😂

    • @loveshell6945
      @loveshell6945 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yeah she’s so sweet, you could hear her yelling all throughout this clip… Especially here 3:57

  • @miamia7633
    @miamia7633 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +230

    The man been working all of his life. I can understand his frustration of not being mobile… Thank God for family.

    • @dsalnorcal1434
      @dsalnorcal1434  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      💯

    • @beverleyellis1869
      @beverleyellis1869 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I sincerely empathize. Sometimes it's a case of "round and round the carousel spins" as the thoughts unfold and replay. We so love this grandpa and his family with their attentive care bestowed upon him.

    • @lessehead
      @lessehead 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      He IS physically mobile! He is doing so much better than my parents were at his age. My father died at 91 and was sick for yrs before he died. My mother had Parkinson’s and was in a wheelchair with terrible osteoporosis. She had Parkinson’s dementia to boot. Both of them fell constantly, breaking bones. They fought with each other and with us constantly. They were in a nursing facility bc they were so sick that no way could I or my sister take care of them.

    • @miamia7633
      @miamia7633 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@lessehead When I stated his frustration about being mobile I’m stating his independence. I’m sorry about your parents may they RIP. I obviously pinch a nerve with you for you to feel you can change my opinion on what I wrote. As we know everyone is different and the disease affects everyone differently.

    • @lessehead
      @lessehead 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@miamia7633 Sorry, to me, when I hear the word mobile as it pertains to an elderly person, I think of it as physically mobile, bc so many of them are wheelchair or bed bound or need assistance from a cane or walker when walking. He gets around great for someone his age. The word independent would be a better fit for what you were trying to say. I’m a retired 30 yr teacher and reading specialist and choose my words carefully!

  • @nancygreen1655
    @nancygreen1655 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    He didn’t lash out. He’s just confused poor thing. Even in his frustration, he’s nice. Bless him.

    • @dsalnorcal1434
      @dsalnorcal1434  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Yes, as I stated in a comment above, he lashed out relative to his typical behavior. I have seen much worse on videos of other people.

  • @Nancy-md7qr
    @Nancy-md7qr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +298

    Awww. When you told him "I'm always with you". That was so very precious.❤

    • @trudyramgren8817
      @trudyramgren8817 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      That's what we do. We are always with them and not abandon them. ❤

    • @Nancy-md7qr
      @Nancy-md7qr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@trudyramgren8817 That is wonderful!!

    • @futurereflections4097
      @futurereflections4097 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      “That’s what I’m worried about.”
      It’s crazy how the humor can cut through sometimes 😂

    • @christinadasilva3940
      @christinadasilva3940 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It must be so hard to be a doctor and then be so confused and forgetful.. at the moment he is listening to Dan. You can see how independent he was.
      my father had Alzheimer’s and it was very difficult for his wife and daughter to look after him. I live in another country so it was difficult for me to visit him every year but I did. Until he passed away with renal failure. 😢

  • @Sharon-ch5bx
    @Sharon-ch5bx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +173

    He’s very sweet. My Mom is 92 with Alzheimer’s and she lives with me now.
    In the beginning of her journey she was belligerent and warlike but after 4 yrs she’s gentle as a lamb now.
    She sleeps a lot but when she’s awake my blood pressure goes off the charts with her constant repetitive questions and arguing with me. All I can do is change the subject and pray. 🙏
    I’m doing the best I can taking care of her. 😢

    • @johnmontgomery8127
      @johnmontgomery8127 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Wow bless you keep up the hard work

    • @thereseburns3309
      @thereseburns3309 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      You won’t regret it ❤

    • @Sharon-ch5bx
      @Sharon-ch5bx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thereseburns3309 👍❤️

    • @sabrinaalston1243
      @sabrinaalston1243 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Be Encouraged ❤❤❤

    • @sabrinaalston1243
      @sabrinaalston1243 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Hang in there GOD OS OUR HELP❤❤❤

  • @joyramospacilan900
    @joyramospacilan900 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Sweetest smile from Dad when Dan said " I am taking care of you"❤

  • @NeCe1933
    @NeCe1933 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +264

    But I truly love his golden heart and kindness.... to take the time to compliment Danielle about dinner. Such a gentleman❤❤❤❤

    • @WatchingYou20241
      @WatchingYou20241 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Exactly what I thought too 💯

    • @marynixon9362
      @marynixon9362 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      That s the way my husband was til they put him on a low dose of Ativan at nite , he did so much better with the hr anger and frustration it breaks your heart that we can’t help them and they’re miserable and they trying to fix it but they can’t

  • @JennyLoveTV1
    @JennyLoveTV1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +311

    I love how much patience you have with your dad. Bless both your hearts!

    • @clairemcmanus9770
      @clairemcmanus9770 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Absolutely😊

    • @Michelle-day
      @Michelle-day 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      💯 ❤🙌🫂

    • @adamNDkipker
      @adamNDkipker 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I love Dan's patience also, what a great man Dan is...

    • @jenkunert5111
      @jenkunert5111 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Absolutely! ❤

    • @rajm.5819
      @rajm.5819 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

  • @Irene15679
    @Irene15679 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Dear Dan , You have been gifted with great Patience. Ed has calmed down , all because of your great caregiving. Thank you for sharing this Journey with the world. ❤❤

  • @rush1er
    @rush1er 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +147

    "You were a Doctor. You helped a lot of people."... "I hope so. Now I'm gonna help myself."😁 That made me smile. You deserve it Pops!

    • @KimberlyLuna-x9y
      @KimberlyLuna-x9y 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Most definitely....well deserved.. he just a wee bit of "short" term memory loss.." long" term he remembered where the pictures of his parents that it is a "safe" spot to put things..just curious...thinking a picture of his grandson "josh" with a "tape measure, retractable" could help him remember him.* ( i mean using objects to help either identify those in the immediate family circle... or like what is it about his brother "bill" that hes looking to find him...or see if hes ok... are there old movies or cds or other media in which bills voi e is present...(*) ok if there was ever a benefit to AI ... i would support this kind.. if it could help DR ED with remembering his brother "Bill"...or when the times that were good, he could experience that moment and be happy...ok getting lengthy..but when you love someone so much like you do dan & others..you just pick youre brain a little bit on ways you might think will fix them.. fix the situation. Cure the. If theres a way...and Dan along w others support..... your taking on a very lovingly courageous task ..may peace be with you n yours ....

    • @oyenations162
      @oyenations162 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      A man of his stature needs to feel autonomy and needs to have keys to a house in his pocket even if he's no longer a homeowner, a car out in the driveway. No one who is a thinking, independent by nature person wants to feel out of control of his hard earned money and symbols of freedom and accomplishments.

    • @Irene15679
      @Irene15679 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@oyenations162

    • @tiaradavies7318
      @tiaradavies7318 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Gnaw this is very upsetting but I love watching your dad!my dad has Parkinson disease and I always worry about him everyday

    • @tiaradavies7318
      @tiaradavies7318 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Irene15679😊 agree

  • @GrannysGarage333
    @GrannysGarage333 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +218

    I love that he still has his sense of humor and cracks on you from time to time! Dan…”I’m always with you… you got nothing to worry about”…. Never missed a beat with a smile on his face… Pop….”That’s what worries me mostly”….. LOL…. he is a blessed man to have so many care for him and y’all are blessed with a loving father!! ❤❤❤

    • @vanyvero2007
      @vanyvero2007 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😂😂😂😂

    • @theathenachannel88
      @theathenachannel88 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      that was such a MOMENT both with dan's exceptional delivery of AAALLLWAYS with you, to Ed making an actual JOKE amazing amazing

    • @robertwhite3992
      @robertwhite3992 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ​@@vanyvero2007Really sweet

    • @theathenachannel88
      @theathenachannel88 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      that HUGE bright smile tho! absolutely beautiful!♥️

    • @pompom11
      @pompom11 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Grandpa can come back with zingers! 😅 👍🏻 My Gramps lived to have his birthday 97, old folks can be hilarious 😊

  • @Sourire-kk9cl
    @Sourire-kk9cl 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This must be so difficult for him to understand what’s happening. So sad to see him like this, he is such a Lovely man.

  • @jefflacey6777
    @jefflacey6777 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +135

    "That's what worries me mostly." and then the laughter 😂. Poor Dan. Great job in patience.

    • @vanessaruiz3230
      @vanessaruiz3230 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      That cracked me up, his wit

    • @dsalnorcal1434
      @dsalnorcal1434  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      😁

    • @jefflacey6777
      @jefflacey6777 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @dsalnorcal1434 My wife and I like to watch a few episodes every night after work. Thank you, and take care of yourself and your family.

    • @audreyguilbeaucalhoun5713
      @audreyguilbeaucalhoun5713 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      THAT part made me laugh! What a great human being , much love!

    • @sharonbrown6595
      @sharonbrown6595 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That was so funny

  • @certainshadeofgreen1733
    @certainshadeofgreen1733 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +247

    "You're 91, almost 92"
    "Thats good! That means I've got alot that I've learned!"
    I LOVE his perspective.
    Thank you for sharing ALL of these moments 💜

    • @qweend2u
      @qweend2u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I really love him!!!! It has to be mentally difficult for him some days but he's still such a gentleman! GOD BLESS HIM!

    • @TheHeirWon
      @TheHeirWon 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      He's the GENUINE ARTICLE as my Mom, who passed at 69, used to say. ❤🙏🏻 His character and heart is ever present irregardless of his memory. He is golden, still shining bright. 🌟 😊

  • @Zatanna22
    @Zatanna22 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    That's the nicest lashing out I ever saw❣️

  • @wafo133
    @wafo133 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +94

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Dan says “I’m always with you” Pop says “ That’s what worries me most” Pop still has jokes 😀

    • @sarahjane8949
      @sarahjane8949 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      😂😂😂😂👍👍👍👍

    • @josephinejonesbrown5784
      @josephinejonesbrown5784 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      HE DO NEED A DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENT SOMETIMES DIFFERENT FACE OF FOLKS HIS AGE JUST TO TALK OR BIRD 🐦 WATCHING HE GET TIRED OF YOU SOMETIMES YOU PUT YOUR SELF IN HIS SHOES 👞 👟 ?????????????

    • @josephinejonesbrown5784
      @josephinejonesbrown5784 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      SOMETIMES HE IS TREATED LIKE A CHILD??????

    • @arelistolentino4486
      @arelistolentino4486 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Love Grandpa♥️

  • @may5588
    @may5588 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    It hurt me when he said “ everything is going away from me”. Bless all of your hearts. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @francismuiruri9064
    @francismuiruri9064 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    That kind of kindness is rare nowadays Ed is from another era.

  • @lmlm3559
    @lmlm3559 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    Grandpa is frustrated because he has lost his power and independence. You are doing a great job taking care of him. And he loves Danielle!!

  • @melaniemcguire8768
    @melaniemcguire8768 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

    Even though he was frustrated he still tells Danielle that dinner smells good. Always a gentleman, and Dan your patience is commendable

  • @marysmith5544
    @marysmith5544 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    It's so difficult for the person with dementia and for the caregivers. Wears everybody down . Peace and patience to all of you!

    • @daliahpitter2737
      @daliahpitter2737 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Blessings to you Dan and family ❤❤❤

  • @Ukedc259
    @Ukedc259 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    So hard to stay patient but your dad’s demeanor helps. Even when he’s mad he’s charming.

  • @stephaniemusialik6747
    @stephaniemusialik6747 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    When u said he was a dr tears welled up in my eyes and when he said he hoped he helped a lot of people they flooded. Please protect this gentle soul.

  • @alicepruitt1463
    @alicepruitt1463 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    He never forgets Danielle. Never. That is amazing to me!

    • @jackiecrawford1032
      @jackiecrawford1032 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      She’s the only woman there.

    • @alicepruitt1463
      @alicepruitt1463 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @jackiecrawford1032 Funny! But more to it than that I think 🤔

  • @alimccally1
    @alimccally1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    Dan, My Dad has Alzheimer’s and is in a memory care facility. He’s a Colonel and sometimes I show up to visit and the nurse will tell me “The Colonels on the warpath!” I just turn right around and visit another day. His anger can be spectacular! Bless you for keeping him home!

    • @melissar.2594
      @melissar.2594 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      As a nursing home administrator with a dementia unit, why wouldn't you help the staff when they need it the most?? Wow!

    • @marshalee4509
      @marshalee4509 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      ​@melissar.2594 sometimes people aren't good with confrontation they know when it's beyond their control maybe that's why he is in that care place

    • @potocatepetl
      @potocatepetl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@melissar.2594 if he could handle the situation, his father would be with him at home. He obviously doesn't! Making assumptions about a situation you obviously know little about shows very poor skills and wonder how good you are at your job. Even if the son could handle the situation in theory, you do not know how the dementia patient would take it. It highly depends on the past and the bond of the dementia patient with the child. Some people had close relationships, others didn't or even worse, had a tense relationship. In that case their presence could to more damage than help! Not to mention that staff is payed to do their job not share the job with family members. The reason for family to be there is to share time with their sick family member, show them love and keep the memories and feelings going as much as they can, not help you! And all that you won't do when they are in aggressive mode! They need someone with authority in that cases and a child will never be able to show a parent (who lives in the past) authority, especially not a parent with his job!

  • @gwenking7700
    @gwenking7700 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    He can still make a joke in his frustration. What a sweetheart. He is so lucky to have you guys. ❤

  • @sarahjane8949
    @sarahjane8949 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

    “I’ve worked all my life “ oh Dr. Ed we know amazing provider and man 💯💯💯👏👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @daliahpitter2737
      @daliahpitter2737 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes he is. Love Dr. Ed and family

  • @TheresaofTheWorld
    @TheresaofTheWorld 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    If this is “lashing out in anger and frustration”, then I’ve been in war zones on a regular day. He seems very calm to me, not angry, but confused. ♥️

  • @lauramartinez7057
    @lauramartinez7057 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I would feel so honored to take care of my father if he was like this man. He must have been a wonderful father. He would be so touched and proud to know you have taken care of him. 🙏

    • @marioncannon9924
      @marioncannon9924 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He deserted Dan when he was young, divorced Joanne & married Danielle's mum

    • @berrymaswikiti3028
      @berrymaswikiti3028 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Really? Is that a fact now!

    • @Jean-e3q
      @Jean-e3q 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I the bought Dan and Danielle were married?

  • @Robyn-r1h
    @Robyn-r1h 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +64

    To be in a state of confusion every single day. I can’t even imagine. He’s such a great guy and I’m so glad he’s with loving, caring, and patient family! ❤

  • @TheBims4real
    @TheBims4real 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +129

    Grandpa's response of "that's what worries me" to Dan's, "I'm always with you" had me in laughing tears😂😂😂😂😂😂Grandpa's so funny....
    And who says Grandpa's angry, no way! I wish this is all anger is ever; then the world would be a sweet place to live in. He's just confused and a bit frustrated😊😊😊. Such a gentleman he is.

    • @getrudasanga9469
      @getrudasanga9469 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😂

    • @BsTheLadynred
      @BsTheLadynred 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      He's his Dad not his Grandfather.

    • @Jackie-plus
      @Jackie-plus 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I gree lol

  • @VidyaOliver-fl2ds
    @VidyaOliver-fl2ds 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    He is so understanding in all this confused state. He was a very good man back in his day and is reaping the benefits of good home care. 👍👏

  • @lorisheheen2198
    @lorisheheen2198 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

    Dan you are an inspiration to many of us who have been and still are caregivers. I admire the way you talk your Dad through his anger and frustration. It's never easy. God Bless.🙏❤

    • @dsalnorcal1434
      @dsalnorcal1434  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ❤️💜

    • @lorisheheen2198
      @lorisheheen2198 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@dsalnorcal1434 ❤️❤️❤️❣️

  • @sandraweening9229
    @sandraweening9229 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    And still a big smile from Grandpa to you Dan ❤. When you say you don't have nothing to worried about you live with me. So sweet😊

  • @lawandalucy3338
    @lawandalucy3338 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    In the midst of the confusion grandpa still has a sense of humor and polite, that smells good Danielle, I love it❤

  • @mclarkin4909
    @mclarkin4909 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Your Dad's hair looks great short! He looks younger. He's still kind when he's frustrated. ❤

  • @cece8650
    @cece8650 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Sweet Ed is showing the will to live. Dan you do such a loving job at redirecting your dad. He's home and ready to eat. All was well waiting for dinner. Love to you all.

  • @sabrinaalston1243
    @sabrinaalston1243 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    No matter how upset Dad may get he ALWAYS HAVE A KIND WORD AND THAT SPEAKS VOLUMES AND TO BE NOTED BLESS HIM AND HIS FAMILY FOREVER❤❤❤

  • @rhondajackson6677
    @rhondajackson6677 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Poor grandpa. How frustrating that must be for him. I’m amazed that he can use the bathroom by himself and at how well he still gets around. Also can get up and down from a sitting position. Awesome 👏!

  • @JoMamaLuvsReptiles
    @JoMamaLuvsReptiles 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Love the shirt. Hang in there Dan. You and your family have shown us and helped those families who suffer through the same thing. Blessed be.❤

    • @theathenachannel88
      @theathenachannel88 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      yes❤

    • @sheilzz0314
      @sheilzz0314 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I hate the shirt. This is my opinion. It's mocking his Dad's illness. My mom had Alzheimer's. This stuff isn't fun.

  • @davidkreider942
    @davidkreider942 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    God Bless you Son! That’s the hardest job in the world!

  • @GabrielsTears
    @GabrielsTears 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    That made me want to put my arms around that precious soul and protect him.

  • @jaylindsay410
    @jaylindsay410 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Grandpa Ed he is so lovely. Even in his frustration, his lovely personality shines through as always. Dan, your patience, care, and concern are evident steering your father through the choppy waters of dementia .

  • @User_8847
    @User_8847 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is precious and reminds me of caring for my dad. He was 74 when he had to go into an ALF, I was 28 when I took on the role and was lucky enough to get a job at his place. He passed away last September and it still hits me in waves. I am so proud of what I was able to do for him. I would do all again if I could. ❤ I miss you dad and I know you’re watching over me now.

  • @lindasansone3345
    @lindasansone3345 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    🥲 After the forgetfulness, comes the real Grandpa " I hope , I helped alot of people." This had me tearing up 🥲🙏 Remembering that he helped in his Dad's Shoestore , then going to a Doctor School and then becoming a Podiatrist 💙🥰 His lucidity is A Blessing 🙌 💙 and HE IS SO DAMN CUTE 😂
    Love The Salingers all the way from Boston, Massachusetts 🥰🙏💖

    • @kerrymartin7557
      @kerrymartin7557 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      God bless him and them.💜

  • @6StringPsychedelic
    @6StringPsychedelic 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    If that’s considered lashing out, that’s amazing. To me it’s frustrated, but not angry. What a good guy!

  • @dana-m9v
    @dana-m9v 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are so patient with him Dan. Precious family!

  • @getmoneygrtnss2969
    @getmoneygrtnss2969 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    “Dass wat worries me mostly” 😂😂😂😂 sharp w/ da jokes & big smile ! Salute OG 💪🏾

    • @carcar7173
      @carcar7173 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      😂😂😂 he didn't lose his humor 😅

    • @dsalnorcal1434
      @dsalnorcal1434  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      😁

    • @Zinniagarden24
      @Zinniagarden24 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Someone should get him an OG sweatshirt to add to his collection

  • @clairestephens4916
    @clairestephens4916 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    Bless his heart he wants to "help myself" but as a doctor he's helpless against this terrible disease.

  • @baileyforever12
    @baileyforever12 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Always a true Gentleman. The disease will not take that away. He may not know where the car, the keys, wallet, checkbook are, but always a Gentleman!!

  • @marygracebeyer2245
    @marygracebeyer2245 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Everyone gets angry and frustrated. You always answer your father with the truth or distract him. Good job.

  • @iwoofyou1227
    @iwoofyou1227 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    My gma has alzheimers too & take care of her 3 days out of the week. I notice he is slurring a bit more today. I stumbled upon you video's but it was hard to watch. Now I love your videos bc you help me prepare for the future. She's 91 also & about to turn 92 feb 8th. You are an inspiration and really appreciate your videos. Thank you!

    • @dsalnorcal1434
      @dsalnorcal1434  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yea this was a bad afternoon for him. He woke up early yesterday and by afternoon he was sundowning

    • @iwoofyou1227
      @iwoofyou1227 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @dsalnorcal1434 my gma forget alot & repeats herself constantly, although it seems alot of the constant repeating has gone down over the last month or so. She was sharp as a tac a couple years ago, but she had a small stroke that they were able to desolve, and symptoms came a few months later. She also does the sundowners & sleeps alot. Your dad is a fair worse than she is, but who knows how fast or slow that can change. You're a true inspiration & will definitely use your experiences to hopefully help down the road. The way your dad seems reminds me alot of how i envision her to be. She has always been so sweet & i pray this disease will not make her that way. It would break my heart even more if she gets violent or mean in the future. Im sure you know but people are looking up to you & appreciate all you do!

  • @tammyaugustus9260
    @tammyaugustus9260 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Dear Dan, I stumbled upon your videos and what a godsend. My dad is on this journey. It has taken what seems like an eternity for me to actually realize how real the memory loss is. Watching these videos of you and your dad is a tremendous help. In your dad I see and hear so much of what my dad is going through. And in you I see and hear hope and joy in the present. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤

  • @ladygirl99
    @ladygirl99 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    That's what worries me mostly lol Grandpa Got Jokes, He's Funny Godbless you Dan Thank you and Danielle, Mark for taking care of him.

  • @karenhamlow7779
    @karenhamlow7779 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    He is the sweetest man around.

  • @coco244110
    @coco244110 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I just love him.....I want to give him a great big hug and tell him everything is going to be okay.....because you have Dan with you. He's such a sweetheart.

  • @IMO0712
    @IMO0712 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Such a terrible disease, bless his heart!
    Dan, there is a special place in heaven for you my friend!

  • @DeeJones-iw7mx
    @DeeJones-iw7mx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    He just melts my heart. Although he gets frustrated, he is still kind as can be. Dan, you and Danielle are doing such a great job with your dad! Dinner looks great!

  • @christineadams9213
    @christineadams9213 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your daily life. Your dad is the sweetest Grandpa around!!

  • @joanquattrocchi8023
    @joanquattrocchi8023 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    You were so smart to say he doesn't need to pay for something he can't use. You could see that register with him. He's all about financial stability. That's how he's hardwired and it definitely re set him a bit

  • @veniagray1209
    @veniagray1209 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Ed is such a wonderful person. Even in his condition, you can see love, care for others, and good humble manners. I enjoy watching him. may God grant him peace.

  • @franhanchi
    @franhanchi 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Ed is so fortunate to have a loving and devoted family taking care of him. Ed is so cute.

  • @KadB-yh9ux
    @KadB-yh9ux 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    He’s so obedient. He says ok I’ll put it back. You guys are so lucky to have him ❤

    • @24KinfO
      @24KinfO 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Obedient? He's the dad. He doesn't have to do anything that they say. Not one thing. If he wants to stay awake all night he can. It's other people who have things to do so they make him do what they want, not what he wants. It's sad to watch sometimes.

  • @stephaniemccollum8019
    @stephaniemccollum8019 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The smile after all the confusion just melts my heart. Danielle’s cooking makes him happy. Thumbs up!

  • @Nataliemosesian333
    @Nataliemosesian333 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Even when he gets frustrated he’s still as sweet as can be! ❤

  • @dave32173
    @dave32173 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    even when hes frustrated hes still just the politest, sweetest man. we all love you and your family for doing what you do for your Father!

  • @LatreaseBoston-g5b
    @LatreaseBoston-g5b 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I just love watching Pop. I hate the disease for him but he is great hands and is so blessed to have son like Dan. At 91 yo Pop is doing great! ❤

  • @dawn4999
    @dawn4999 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sweet man. My dad would get like this and it ended up being a UTI. He was diagnosed, treated and “back to himself”. ❤

  • @andreaidesalvo9738
    @andreaidesalvo9738 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    The patience of a Saint!!! Dan has a lot of love!!! for his father and his father loves him too! So wonderful that this family has taken in their relative at the great age of 91 to live in their beautiful home rather than a nursing home!!!

  • @heatherlindquist1899
    @heatherlindquist1899 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    My dad did this same thing. It’s very frustrating when they can’t retain what you’ve told them one minute ago. Hang in there. You are an amazing caretaker and son. ❤️

  • @joesmith3501
    @joesmith3501 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    We all should be lucky enough to have a son like you Dan. God bless you all.

  • @Kim-rf5et
    @Kim-rf5et 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Him saying I hope I helped a lot of people Dan it made me about cry. That a man who has tried to help so many is battling this disease. Hats off to you Dan and Danielle and your family. You are doing a wonderful thing. Be glad he's here, I'd do anything to bring my dad back even sick and taking care of him, I miss him so.

  • @shirleyashanti3031
    @shirleyashanti3031 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    He manages to throw some humor in once he settles down. Blessings for being there for him. He really does have a good disposition for his age.

  • @cherylkeith5561
    @cherylkeith5561 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I can't believe he's 91.❤ He's such a sweet man. He seems pretty normal for the most part. Very polite and calm. I bet he was an awesome dad and grampa. I'll keep him and the family in my prayers. Gotta love this man ❤

  • @lizsnow1674
    @lizsnow1674 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Omgosh, that's lashing out?! 😊 he's still smiling and laughing..
    So cute and polite.. God bless him, and your entire family for taking such good care of him..❤️

  • @-J-S-P
    @-J-S-P 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Well done Dan your patience and understanding eventually calms him thanks for showing us the devastating effects of dad’s dementia ❤❤

  • @stacieobrien-pr7hn
    @stacieobrien-pr7hn 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He is such a gentle,polite,well mannered man.I love you pop ❤❤❤❤

  • @faithnaidoo7647
    @faithnaidoo7647 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    God bless this wonderful family.❤

  • @adeshe22
    @adeshe22 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Even when he’s distressed he’s nice.

  • @lizzwillro3489
    @lizzwillro3489 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Is very stress sometimes, but when remember what they do for his family, is blessing he got 92 years old

  • @pompom11
    @pompom11 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Hugs, he’s so frustrated. 😘

  • @rosajohnson5212
    @rosajohnson5212 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I understand. Sometimes, you can do all the joking you want, say what you will; they just don't want to hear it.
    It's amazing, though that he still cracks jokes!😂😂😂😂😂😂
    His expression of how he hopes he helped people, just melts my heart.❤

  • @KingTruthSeeker74
    @KingTruthSeeker74 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    God really shined down on your Dad. I ❤ watching him, im becoming obsessed (in a healthy way).. I just admire the elderly because it a wisdom and certainty money can't buy. Peace Be With You all. 😊

  • @gloworm9905
    @gloworm9905 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Even though this is happening to your dad, he seems like he was and is such nice man.

  • @judywiggins5092
    @judywiggins5092 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Give Dan strength to be as kind as he is forever and ever Amen . You're amazing Dan.

    • @sarahjane8949
      @sarahjane8949 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      💯💯💯💯💯💯 agree

  • @mmmmlllljohn
    @mmmmlllljohn 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You’re a good son, Dan. Your dad would be lost in a nursing or retirement home. This is one of the toughest jobs on the planet and you do it with patience and grace. I’m sure you, Danielle and Mark have your moments as you are only human but you all stepped up and that has made all the difference for your dad’s last years. ❤️🇨🇦🙏

  • @johnyancey3857
    @johnyancey3857 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    God bless anyone who takes care of their parents in their latter years at home with family instead of shipping them off to an old folks home where they get neglected ❤

  • @bettymunguia2136
    @bettymunguia2136 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    It's so sad, to watch loved ones go down slowly, I'm 70 and I hope I don't ever get dementia 😢😢