I don't usually bother signing in and leaving a comment but I have to point out and show great appreciation to the scene where Jacob and Amber met up for the first time in the bowling alley. 3:59 "Do you believe in love at first sight" - (the bowling ball in his side goes in to the gutter - it was bad game.) 4:10 mark, "Hopefully your game over there is better than your game over here" (Her side hits a strike - a good come back) 4:11 mark, "This isn't going well" - ball goes in the gutter. Finally, around 4:45 - he made her smile and ball on his side hits a strike. Beautiful. Wow.
@@georgehands_ you never know.. during bowling the successful bowls and missed ones in the background is also from the girl's perspective. The boy wouldn't have knows which hitting line impressed her.
I remember saying once that the day I read his wedding announcement to someone else would feel like reading an obituary. Now... Almost 10 years later, married to my best friend with 4 great kids, I wouldn't go back for anything. If this hit you in the feels and you're going through this kind of heartache... Just. Hold. On. Hearts are unbelievably resilient, and yours is still beating to another's rythym. I promise.
Ahh, the story of the one that got away. They usually mean a lot to you when *you* yourself have not yet moved on. And maybe you never move on. But if/when you do, you will find someone that is better than the one that got away, much more better than you can ever imagine. Eventually, you will discover the one that got away left for a reason: you were never really compatible. You were trying to force a square peg into a round hole, or the other way around. Something stopped one of you, or both of you, and either one of you wasn't ready to face that aspect of yourselves, and instead of ever dealing with it, the relationship paid the price, and either both or one of you was left without ever really finding the space to address that one thing. And instead you are left with the unresolved, the one that got away. It wasn't that person. It was the aspect of yourself that you never faced. And the other person moved on because they finally faced it, embraced it, and decided that who they are does not involve you. It might be your turn to do the same. You will be healthier for it. Trust me.
Or people can be less focused on their careers, more focused on loving each other for the sake of their Creator, and less on being selfish. Most divorces today are a product of selfishness and ego by one or the other and most relationships end because of that as well. If you dont really love someone, dont date in the first place. Either be in for the long rundont mess around, or dont go around dating people and breaking their hearts for some whimsical desire.
heavy. so heavy. this reminds me of my teen years. my broken heart has still not healed. this brought tears to my eyes, and returned that pain to my heart, reminding me that what I felt was real. I'll never know if it was one sided or not. But I don't care. I love you, and I always will... “One day, whether you are 14, 28 or 65, you will stumble upon someone who will start a fire in you that cannot die. However, the saddest, most awful truth you will ever come to find-- is they are not always with whom we spend our lives” ― Beau Taplin, Hunting Season
I had to stop the video to read this comment . Twice thrice.. It's true. U never heal. I still try to find him in my dreams. They r nightmares . I live with them.
I met the girl when i was 17. It was her fire, her gaze, her smiles and her eyes at me made her my crush. Although the friendship was short. She chose my friend over me. At 32 i stumbled upon her again. Married to that my friend. I smiled at her but her smiles. Her gaze. Her eyes. Her fire. Have never changed a bit. I stood silent in front of her for like 10sesc. Longest stand still ever in my life.
I apologise if I may sound rude, but the key word is "teen". Every emotion is exaggerated in teen years, so this love could have been not so deep as you imagine. Nevertheless, I could be wrong.
No, I don't think so. At least not mostly. I feel it was mostly him being at the wedding, him recalling memories, and him experiencing emotions. Towards the end though I think it was something of joint daydream (the ocean scene) as they were actually dancing, and they were eventually separated, for the last time and for good.
He was never there but it was played out in both of their heads because neither one really let go. He saw everything via social media that's why he couldn't speak during the ceremony and she imagined him being there because its what she wanted to say and see him again. It's hard letting go of a person you truly love and ending a relationship for whatever reason. Eventually you move on but the love and memories always stay. That was clear when Jacob asked Why did you invite me? and I
I think the part where he couldn't speak during the ceremony was to show he suffered inside but had to supress it. The only indication it could be a social media thing was the part where people chased him with baby photos.
A pretty common story actually -- a woman marrying a man she doesn't love as much as the man she loved before ... who still loves her more than she'll ever know.
Women marry for resources and security initially. She can grow to love the man. Men are the romantics. They marry for love, beauty and romance. A woman will leave a man she loves for a provider because in the ends she desires provisions and security for herself and her young. In other words, whats love gat to do with it! The bottom line is always money.
@@bm9tube That's spot on. We idealize a lost love. That's the premise within the lines - but the broad story captures the emotion of that intrinsic action.
Dreams turn into nightmares when our dream becomes someone elses. Love is a two way street which we must learn to let go of, for when we truely care about someones elses happiness we must learn to live with disapointment. But you will never be just friends as memories last forever... peace!
7:15 I've experienced that moment. My girlfriend and I had turned our seats all the way back and she was singing along to some song with her eyes closed. The streetlamps turned the edges of her skin gold in the light. And I just couldn't stop staring at her. Thinking to myself, "this is the most beautiful girl in the world."
Ok, I am a dancer, multiple types, ballroom, country line dancing, country couple, Ceilidh, hip hop, etc. I have danced with many girls over the years (and many over the past year, I dance a lot, it happens). The way they are dancing in the last scene is not like a couple of friends. If the guys at the club saw me dancing with a girl like that they would automatically assume we were either already in a relationship, or going quickly on our way to one. Hell, the way she was dancing with her husband was more appropriate for friends, proper framing, hands in the right places, how you would dance with anyone that knew the dance. The dance between the two of them was about how close they could get, how much of the other person they could touch, which would make sense if it was the tango, but it was just a general slow dance. Also, that is an absolute shitload of eye contact, I haven't had that much eye contact during a dance with a chick since high school.... and thanks for that memory coming back to the surface (long story, quick version "one that got away").
I remember sitting at the table on a rainy afternoon in Oregon and while talking to my wife I had the realization that after 26 years of marriage she really hated me. We separated soon after and I have never been happier. I now live in the past during the time long before I ever met her when I was a boy in Japan. The course of one's life can hang on a moment.
Theres a certain feeling I get from watching specific films. Where I just feel like I know the characters so well. It's so relatable, so beautiful, so perfect, and so sad that I feel like I can just die. This short film does that for me with so little. Definitely well made, and a great watch.
If you are still in love with a woman who broke up with you, knowing she is getting married to someone else will give you a heart ache like you wouldn’t believe. I remember I chose to go to the office party dinner on the night the girl I was in love with got married, and this woman at the party said I had the look of a kid who just lost his puppy. I couldn’t hide my sadness I guess.
@@Dylan-iz8tw I really hope you were being playful.😂 I intended to highlight the word, we all know that it's not gonna be in CAPS in the middle of the sentence.😂
Spoiler.. probably? What really happened is “yeah,” but the truthful answer was “no,” so while they danced his lingering attachments did suicide and then he left the wedding. The scenes weren’t diverging; they were two things that happened simultaneously.
It is so hard to let go of those we love even when being together is not making us happy like it once did, giving it up is heartbreaking, our memories tie us to an eternal hope . It is a bitter sweet thing to live through a passionate love until it mellows into friendship. So much to both be grateful for & to regret. This film resonates deeply with me , I let go after 23 yrs and thankfully we can still love each other, 12 yrs on and I am grateful for the strength I found to have left and I would happily attend his wedding if it ever happened , but I doubt it will.
Here's the problem with being "just friends", you're both trying to hold on to someone that made you feel happy and you'll accept whatever you can get just so they can stay in your life. Once you've moved on from friends to dating each other you can't go backwards, no matter how much you think you can.
Meh, im best friends with a previous lover, we have both found different partners that we love, and we all hang out without any emotional attachment. It comes with maturity, time and understanding.
@@wassupnomesayin I have a good friend whom I really love, but we know that we're not "In love" now, we need different things out of life, and if one of us starts to feel confused, we just agree not to see each other for awhile. It probably helps that we're middle aged
Someone left me once, and married the next guy just months later. Turned out that she was right to go - I wasn't ready to share the kind of life she wanted - but my god her choice hurt.
This reminds me of what happened last Christmas. I got a visit from the ghost of Christmas past. Life teaches you that if you live long enough every shade of human behavior will parade in front of you. Well, I had an old girlfriend call me! I chalk it up to Christmas. Tracked me down using the modern technology that is the internet. So unexpected. But wisdom comes with age and one learns not to be rude. So we talk and memories come tumbling out, things that I remember about those long lost years that she has forgotten and things that have remained vivid in her memory that are gone from mine. Slowly, I began to see the old, the real Debbie revealed; like an old faded canvas smothered by years of neglect refreshed and restored, colors vibrant once again. I used to go up and see her in Piscataway, NJ and we had whirlwind days of playing tourists in love in what I used to think was one of the most romantic cities in the world, New York. When it was time for me to go home it was a reminder of all the good byes of my young unsettled life as a Navy brat. We would sit and drink hot chocolate on cold winters' nights at the coffee shop, waiting for the plane that would whisk me away. I was always bereft, holding her hand, holding onto her scent, hoping for a few more minutes before I had to go back to my lonely empty life from which she had saved me for a few scant days at a time. Later, she brought life to me when she took the plane from Newark to Florida. She would descend from the platform like some movie star trailed by men anxious to carry whatever piece of luggage they could for the blonde princess. Carelessly throwing her arms around my neck, her body would anchor against mine with so much force I needed a wall behind me not to fall over, and yet her face touched mine with the softness of a cat… all to the disappointment of her impromptu retinue. Looking back now in the clear light of day, although it sure didn’t seem like it then, she was the worldly older woman, and I the proper young man struggling to live up to the obligations of my life and make something of myself. My castle was empty without her. So I lived a wildly unbalanced life, teetering between ecstasy and depression, between loneliness and exultation; all dependent on if I were with her. And now, calling me from out of the blue, she can’t believe it doesn’t matter to me anymore.
That's very poetic, Matt from Florida. I see you've been able to construct your life's narrative in a format similar to that of a novel or film, I imagine you would make a good writer.
The man's nightmares were manifesting at that wedding; there was a feeling of claustrophobia throughout and his abject humiliation was painful to watch.
Once that love is gone, it can never be. I've been invited to a few of my ex-girlfriend's wedding and I tell them we can no longer have any communication ever out of respect, not for her, but for him and their marriage.
One of my friends invited this guy she was banging while engaged to her fiance to her wedding. He didn't show up and was like why did she even want me there ?
@Draw My Culture They mean op is acting childish. Are you that insecure in your relationship, you wouldn't let your partner invite their ex. Then it probably is best you don't marry that person.
it's easier to look at your exes and think why couldn't we have been together forever because you only remember the positive, romantic memories that changed your lives and not all the times you both sucked. It's always harder to admit you have not found real love yet so you look back and think it was real love then
I do remember bad things that happened when I was 23, but it's easy to expect that I'd make different mistakes now, many years later, with someone whom I have forgiven for being young back when I was so very inexperienced myself
@@AMR-zo5ut It's not true, as the number is significantly less than 3.5 billion. Even assuming you could impossibly meet and sort through 3.5 billion people in a single lifetime, you would naturally have to eliminate those who are already married, the very old, the very young, etc. Most people also marry someone who they meet locally, which reduces the original number of 3.5 billion to whatever the populace of your preferred gender in your local area is, not accounting for the prior factors which would further reduce the number. Though of course you realistically won't meet all the people in your area, so the number will be reduced even further by a factor which highly depends upon your social habits. So get stuck on a single person as long as you like. But persistence only wins them over in the movies; so I'd say your point is still valid, just for different reasons.
Nah, idk man. There are relationships where there wasn’t a lack of civility, just a lack of emotion. Those are the cases where you really are just friends
@@RialuCaos As a slightly off-topic nerdy note, if Yuval Harari is right about the way our technologies are developing, some day Google may sort through those 3,5 billion people to find the most compatible for you. You just ask...
I love the maturity of this piece. Here is a man that never quite got over the first great love of his life finally accepting that she has moved on. He had to see it for himself to let it go. The first ending where he tells her they can be friends(knowing that is not going to be possible yet telling her what he thinks she needs to hear) is (I think) how this ends. The second ending(where it descends into fantasy images) is how he(they?) feels. The last few moments where she rejoins her husband as he disappears is (probably entirely) in her head(she had to let him go as well). He left her on the beach, and at that moment as he is completely gone (as she is in her husband's arms)is the moment where she loses any lingering doubts. This is adult in all the best ways a mature and healthy person processes loss and grief. I applaud it.
Bruh she was tripping at the bowling alley, that man’s game was insane. The “how would you know? you don’t believe in love at first sight” line was something else.
4:43, was so underrated, it was too good, it just made the scene perfect. It wasn't extra at all. The scene just needed that. Like to make the sound that they just scored like in the game of love they were playing
100% agree. Notice how they were all gutter balls during there entire dialogue. As if he wasn't getting anywhere and/or not saying the right things. Then he finally makes an impact, and she gives a genuine smile for the first time, or a sign of interest. It's amazing.
A beautiful examination of a man dealing with his emotions. We need more stories that let men have complicated feelings and come to terms with them. It's never easy to move on, but it's important to learn and grow from our experiences, both good and bad.
Great film 👍. I've been married 3 times and can honestly say that i dont think I've ever been truly in love.... I'm now 69 yrs old, I've basically been alone for the better part of 20yrs and being alone is honestly the most happy and content I've ever been. Maybe it's meant for some of us to walk thru life alone...😊
being married three times-I'd say you deserve calm, peace and simplicity in your life. Romantic relationships are always a compromise and complicated. Being alone can bring the stillness and quiet our heart and soul needs. You are the one you've been waiting for.
Beautiful.. Everytime i close my eyes i see my ex looking at me n smiling.. That smile was full of love.. But sadly one day he brought a girl n said she's s gf n broke up.. He easily replaced me. It hurt. Years of love.. Both our families knew.. Whole college knew us for couple goals.. N he replaced with smile
Such love can be "just friends" only in 2 scenarios. Either you are the one deciding you need to split(in which case the other person will struggle), or you find someone else and you are truly happy with that person. Others "just friends" are imo lies and someone has to be masochist to push himself on the wedding of beloved person ;)
The person who decides to split has it rough too.... it might have been the biggest mistake in there life and you cant even go back. Ik this for a fact, trust me.
What does she ask him at 6:06?? Another absolute gem on Omeleto! I used to imagine being at my soulmate’s wedding to the man she was already with when I met her. Imagined her looking at me just before saying the words, and me responding with that only just visible nod of confirmation and a bittersweet smile, like ‘Yes, go ahead. I know you love him.’ Anti-hero altruism. Today, I am actually glad it never came that far. She stopped contacting me. Probably because she could not handle loving two men.
That's why I did not make any regrets to the one I married bc I dont want to think about the possibility of what if in the future while I'm with another person. In life do not expect to recieve the same weight as you provide to another, do not expect the kindness in return bc you believe the singularity as equal treatment to be the same, do not expect the other to live by how you believe a life should be lived or spent, do not expect to give something and have something in return to be more grand later in the future, do not expect your love for someone to have the same weight bc you believe true love can be measurable which it is not true it's something you cannot measure, do not expect the expected from one another its life and you cannot calculate what the other will accurately do to make your life easier or fulfill your respective task. Love comes in many shapes and forms you have to accept the changing form of love bc it comes with hardship, heart aches, head aches, stress, happy, unparalleled hole that never seems to get filled, spontaneous surprises, feeling of of endless satisfaction, etc. Many people will encounter all these issues but if you both walk on the same road knowing all these possibilities you're life will become much easier and you can tolerate each others difference then turning it into something beautiful. That is why you dont expect the expected just live your life as a support beam and hopefully that person that you without realizing it is the other half of your support bc without them you'll fall and without you so will they. Hope this enlightened anyone that came across this message.
The mystery of the heart. It seems to be so common to fall deeply in love; have unconditional love to someone that is not destined to be with you. Me and my ex were and still love each other deeply yet we are not together. Life choices separated us because being together was more of a settle down from my part and his. It is hard when you have to make the choice to walk away. It is hard when that choice is not because you don't love them anymore but because you love yourself more.
The relationship took a toll on them. They decided to leave because self-care was more important. They didn’t want to lose themself while trying to hold on to their lover.
The only Omeleto to make me cry, immediately from the switch at 4:50 from his perspective to hers. I have always been a romantic, there was one girl that I regret ever letting go, I regret whatever made her leave, I understood that feeling of seeing her before she got married looking just as beautiful the last time I saw her. She even told me that she wished I had told her I loved her before she was married, then she would have changed her mind. She died last year of leukemia, I took her to every single one of her chemotherapy appointments because no one else would make the time for her.
i can assure you some things are simpler. Everything else is just delusions of the brain and the ego (like the example of wanting things you dont have and when you have them you want something else,or when u lose it you want it back)
An ex (I broke up with him for cheating with my dad's accountant. She was 50. He was 28. I just turned 23). About 2-3 years go by and he calls me up to say he thinks he's getting married. (To someone esle, who he cheated on and she cheated on him..meant to be..right.) I said, "You think or you know." I then asked him he he was calling so I could sing at his wedding. I then joked it would be akward. I also joked if he wanted the choir to sing at his wedding, but told him they wouldn't because he was not in good graces with them. (We were in the Church Choir together for four years). He said he was calling to let me know? I then asked why. It then dawned on me and I said..oh..don't marry her...I still...". He said "what?" I then started to laugh. I said, " well if you are getting married through the Church don't screw it up." I said I had to go and congratulations. The hold thing was less than five mintues. I was already dating an amazing man who happened to be my best friend. He is now my husband. I am beyond blessed. As for the ex turns out he did get married about a week or two later. What a jerk. I haven't herd or seen him since. At the end I do wish them the best and hope he does not hurt his wife.
I've had a relationship like this. The nightmares of being duct tapped silent at his wedding leave me paralyzed. He's now married with a baby and I have nothing.
Hilarious when the first couple said look at our baby... instant zombie land, and everyone else joins in...night of the living dead....🤣🤣🤣 It was clear the did not want the same things in life like children....
I don't usually bother signing in and leaving a comment but I have to point out and show great appreciation to the scene where Jacob and Amber met up for the first time in the bowling alley. 3:59 "Do you believe in love at first sight" - (the bowling ball in his side goes in to the gutter - it was bad game.) 4:10 mark, "Hopefully your game over there is better than your game over here" (Her side hits a strike - a good come back) 4:11 mark, "This isn't going well" - ball goes in the gutter. Finally, around 4:45 - he made her smile and ball on his side hits a strike. Beautiful. Wow.
I noticed that too ☺️
That was awesome
that's killer observation.. i didn't even notice.
i noticed that
Whoaaaa
Pro tip - never agree to be "just friends" with someone who you are still in love with.
You are already friend with them, there's no need for a spoken agreement.
what did she say when he asked "do u believe in love at first sight?"
Alex Force I agree,
At least he knew why.
yeah
My conclusion: She never invited him, It was all in her head. The last frame tells us that.
OHHH
Good one
So what you're saying is that the girl was the one lamenting, not the guy?
The “Prophecy” of the boy in the bowling come true. You’re right.
@@georgehands_ you never know.. during bowling the successful bowls and missed ones in the background is also from the girl's perspective. The boy wouldn't have knows which hitting line impressed her.
“Hopefully your game over there is better than your game over here”...honestly that man’s game was 10/10
yeah, i cant utter a single word.
Notice the balls behind
The superiority of the dialouges were shown through then.
Yeah, but she wasn't playing. She only got interested when he got her stuck in her own words.
@@Write_with_me_gknotes I love that you picked that up, and also tied it up to the story in an epic way.
@@shersyed3989 yeah it was overall awesome
First of all, you NEVER go to the wedding of someone you nearly married! NEVER!!!
If that's true, then one should never be invited in the first place. Never.
It just depends on how the breakup went
Exactly Vert. I've had friends whose ex-wives invited them when they were re-married.
Often, women have no problem with this, since most marriages are ended by them ^_*
I ABSOLUTELY agree with you!! 1000%
I remember saying once that the day I read his wedding announcement to someone else would feel like reading an obituary.
Now... Almost 10 years later, married to my best friend with 4 great kids, I wouldn't go back for anything. If this hit you in the feels and you're going through this kind of heartache... Just. Hold. On.
Hearts are unbelievably resilient, and yours is still beating to another's rythym.
I promise.
I loved this comment. All the best to you ❤️
Beautiful. Yes, things definitely change with time.
Attack of the ricebirds.
I hope you’re right. I just feel dead inside right now
@@UnfortunateSupper ❤️
The line should have been “and if you beat me, I’ll give you my number. “
absolutely!
Exxxxactly ;)
Yes!!
too predictable.
Same.
I love how it looks like a funeral
RIP life lol
That is a great observation!
Ahh, the story of the one that got away. They usually mean a lot to you when *you* yourself have not yet moved on. And maybe you never move on. But if/when you do, you will find someone that is better than the one that got away, much more better than you can ever imagine. Eventually, you will discover the one that got away left for a reason: you were never really compatible. You were trying to force a square peg into a round hole, or the other way around. Something stopped one of you, or both of you, and either one of you wasn't ready to face that aspect of yourselves, and instead of ever dealing with it, the relationship paid the price, and either both or one of you was left without ever really finding the space to address that one thing. And instead you are left with the unresolved, the one that got away. It wasn't that person. It was the aspect of yourself that you never faced. And the other person moved on because they finally faced it, embraced it, and decided that who they are does not involve you. It might be your turn to do the same. You will be healthier for it. Trust me.
I hope this is truth
Or people can be less focused on their careers, more focused on loving each other for the sake of their Creator, and less on being selfish. Most divorces today are a product of selfishness and ego by one or the other and most relationships end because of that as well. If you dont really love someone, dont date in the first place. Either be in for the long rundont mess around, or dont go around dating people and breaking their hearts for some whimsical desire.
Gregory D Amen ❤️
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thank you for this.
This video made me nostalgic of a relationship I’ve never had.
Anemoia
Same here human.
Lucky you
Same 😭
I have....
heavy. so heavy. this reminds me of my teen years. my broken heart has still not healed. this brought tears to my eyes, and returned that pain to my heart, reminding me that what I felt was real. I'll never know if it was one sided or not. But I don't care. I love you, and I always will...
“One day, whether you are 14, 28 or 65,
you will stumble upon someone who will start a fire in you that cannot die.
However, the saddest, most awful truth you will ever come to find--
is they are not always with whom we spend our lives”
― Beau Taplin, Hunting Season
it can be unhealthy to be stuck on one person :( you should focus on urself more
I had to stop the video to read this comment . Twice thrice.. It's true. U never heal. I still try to find him in my dreams. They r nightmares . I live with them.
I met the girl when i was 17. It was her fire, her gaze, her smiles and her eyes at me made her my crush. Although the friendship was short. She chose my friend over me. At 32 i stumbled upon her again. Married to that my friend. I smiled at her but her smiles. Her gaze. Her eyes. Her fire. Have never changed a bit. I stood silent in front of her for like 10sesc. Longest stand still ever in my life.
@@BonaFide惊人的 what happened then? does it hurt?
I apologise if I may sound rude, but the key word is "teen". Every emotion is exaggerated in teen years, so this love could have been not so deep as you imagine.
Nevertheless, I could be wrong.
He never showed up...it was all in her mind.
No, I don't think so. At least not mostly. I feel it was mostly him being at the wedding, him recalling memories, and him experiencing emotions. Towards the end though I think it was something of joint daydream (the ocean scene) as they were actually dancing, and they were eventually separated, for the last time and for good.
Or he left because he talked to his friend he had tk have been there
Jacob: Why did you invite me?
Amber: Why'd you show up?
...
Amber: I guess maybe they're the same answer.
that dialogue nearly exploded my mind, lots of pain, lots of love, lots of answers to lots of questions...
My favorite line :)
And what is that same answer??
it left my mouth dry
Wasn't that something? It stood out loud and clear.
short version of 500 days of summer
need a sweeter ending in that case.
@@sunilkumarsheoran2 right lol
Plot twist. That's 15 minutes of Autumn Haha. ''Autumn'' the girl he met at the end. The actress kinda even looks like her..
He looks like the main actor
totally
He was never there but it was played out in both of their heads because neither one really let go. He saw everything via social media that's why he couldn't speak during the ceremony and she imagined him being there because its what she wanted to say and see him again.
It's hard letting go of a person you truly love and ending a relationship for whatever reason. Eventually you move on but the love and memories always stay. That was clear when Jacob asked Why did you invite me?
and I
Why does this happen ? I hate to think that one day I may be in the position of that guy . It will hurt .
@@abinothayyilsanoj4182 I wish I knew love is cruel
@@angelajones4900 no , love is not cruel.
I think the part where he couldn't speak during the ceremony was to show he suffered inside but had to supress it. The only indication it could be a social media thing was the part where people chased him with baby photos.
Yes.
A pretty common story actually -- a woman marrying a man she doesn't love as much as the man she loved before ... who still loves her more than she'll ever know.
Women marry for resources and security initially. She can grow to love the man. Men are the romantics. They marry for love, beauty and romance.
A woman will leave a man she loves for a provider because in the ends she desires provisions and security for herself and her young.
In other words, whats love gat to do with it! The bottom line is always money.
@@jayjay-sv6nz well in this particular case it seems like he only remembers the good things, and she seems to have a more balanced view
@@bm9tube
That's spot on.
We idealize a lost love.
That's the premise within the lines - but the broad story captures the emotion of that intrinsic action.
@@jayjay-sv6nz You're absolutely right!
@@jayjay-sv6nz Agreed , women marry for security
Dreams turn into nightmares when our dream becomes someone elses. Love is a two way street which we must learn to let go of, for when we truely care about someones elses happiness we must learn to live with disapointment. But you will never be just friends as memories last forever... peace!
Gary Johnson 💯 True! 😫🙌🏽🙌🏽
Told that to my ex she is happy now two kids. She couldent understand why can't we be friends. Well hit me over head and call me silly 😳
7:15 I've experienced that moment. My girlfriend and I had turned our seats all the way back and she was singing along to some song with her eyes closed. The streetlamps turned the edges of her skin gold in the light. And I just couldn't stop staring at her. Thinking to myself, "this is the most beautiful girl in the world."
We all experience that "how did I get so lucky?" moment at some point in our lives.
@@krashd Sadly not all of us :D
The song at the end is called The Dream Song - Nathan Reich
Thank me later :)
Thank you! 💓
I was searching for it and decided to hit the comments, Amy you the best!
It is later. Thank you.
God bless your soul
I'm thanking you now. This is exactly what I was scrubbing through the comments for.
Ok, I am a dancer, multiple types, ballroom, country line dancing, country couple, Ceilidh, hip hop, etc. I have danced with many girls over the years (and many over the past year, I dance a lot, it happens). The way they are dancing in the last scene is not like a couple of friends. If the guys at the club saw me dancing with a girl like that they would automatically assume we were either already in a relationship, or going quickly on our way to one. Hell, the way she was dancing with her husband was more appropriate for friends, proper framing, hands in the right places, how you would dance with anyone that knew the dance. The dance between the two of them was about how close they could get, how much of the other person they could touch, which would make sense if it was the tango, but it was just a general slow dance. Also, that is an absolute shitload of eye contact, I haven't had that much eye contact during a dance with a chick since high school.... and thanks for that memory coming back to the surface (long story, quick version "one that got away").
Jeremiah... That was a very long way of telling everyone what was obvious to all all along 😆.
Thanks for going out of your way on telling us
I remember sitting at the table on a rainy afternoon in Oregon and while talking to my wife I had the realization that after 26 years of marriage she really hated me. We separated soon after and I have never been happier. I now live in the past during the time long before I ever met her when I was a boy in Japan. The course of one's life can hang on a moment.
😟😟
Theres a certain feeling I get from watching specific films. Where I just feel like I know the characters so well. It's so relatable, so beautiful, so perfect, and so sad that I feel like I can just die. This short film does that for me with so little. Definitely well made, and a great watch.
If you are still in love with a woman who broke up with you, knowing she is getting married to someone else will give you a heart ache like you wouldn’t believe. I remember I chose to go to the office party dinner on the night the girl I was in love with got married, and this woman at the party said I had the look of a kid who just lost his puppy. I couldn’t hide my sadness I guess.
What she said to you.. That must feel so bad for you =(.... If I were in your place I would whack a hot dog in her mouth. 😡
Omeleto you did it again ..... This one hurted
Hurt*
@@sunishthanangal1121 oh shut up...who cares about the frickin grammar..
@@sunishthanangal1121 hurt* H is not in caps :) Not as smart as you think huh? Haha
@@Dylan-iz8tw
I really hope you were being playful.😂
I intended to highlight the word, we all know that it's not gonna be in CAPS in the middle of the sentence.😂
@@arshadsyed6628
Apparently not you... :)
Spoiler.. probably?
What really happened is “yeah,” but the truthful answer was “no,” so while they danced his lingering attachments did suicide and then he left the wedding. The scenes weren’t diverging; they were two things that happened simultaneously.
Wow, a clever insight must say
You make complete sense.. probably?
you're awesome.
He died from the inside
You must be an English teacher lmao!! But now that makes complete sense
Most of us have have experienced not knowing what you have until you don't have it anymore.
It is so hard to let go of those we love even when being together is not making us happy like it once did, giving it up is heartbreaking, our memories tie us to an eternal hope . It is a bitter sweet thing to live through a passionate love until it mellows into friendship. So much to both be grateful for & to regret.
This film resonates deeply with me , I let go after 23 yrs and thankfully we can still love each other, 12 yrs on and I am grateful for the strength I found to have left and I would happily attend his wedding if it ever happened , but I doubt it will.
As we live, we accumulate beautiful, heartbreaking regrets.
@@Matt_from_Florida Very true Matt. 💚☘
imagine watching the person you love say "i do" to someone else right in front of you... i could never
Here's the problem with being "just friends", you're both trying to hold on to someone that made you feel happy and you'll accept whatever you can get just so they can stay in your life. Once you've moved on from friends to dating each other you can't go backwards, no matter how much you think you can.
Meh, im best friends with a previous lover, we have both found different partners that we love, and we all hang out without any emotional attachment. It comes with maturity, time and understanding.
@@zacharysweet1849 I doubt you truly loved that person. You're confusing indifference with " maturity, time and understanding. "
Nicely said.
@@wassupnomesayin I have a good friend whom I really love, but we know that we're not "In love" now, we need different things out of life, and if one of us starts to feel confused, we just agree not to see each other for awhile. It probably helps that we're middle aged
I agree.
Everyone watching this probably has multiple similarly tragic "What Could Have Been" stories.
Yup, I have my fair share
Ken Potter yuuup 😔
Mine are not tragic. They bring a sigh of relief every time I manage to remember.
The under water moment is just magical. ♥️It. It is just like the shape of the water poster. But there's more in the scene.
That is life. You have to make choices, and sometimes you are not the chosen.
I needed to hear that simple truth. Thanks. Broke up on April 5th and it still kinda hurts.
Someone left me once, and married the next guy just months later. Turned out that she was right to go - I wasn't ready to share the kind of life she wanted - but my god her choice hurt.
He turns and leaves knowing he'll never connect with her again.
This comment is true to the video my dude
Well said
Good for him. She's made a conscious decision to make a move that suits what she wants to do.
If the shoe was on the other foot...
@@thomasgardner479 Because I've been in a simular situation believe it or not.
"Because even if it kills you to just be friends. If you really care about someone, you'll take the hit."
Smart phone zombies are a real thing, I see them every day
do you also believe that we live in a society?
I still do, but it's not what it used to be back in the 80's. Not saying that all is bad, but things can be confusing...
Yeah, they are called Smombies.
not as bad as Tablet Vampires though
This reminds me of what happened last Christmas. I got a visit from the ghost of Christmas past. Life teaches you that if you live long enough every shade of human behavior will parade in front of you. Well, I had an old girlfriend call me! I chalk it up to Christmas. Tracked me down using the modern technology that is the internet. So unexpected. But wisdom comes with age and one learns not to be rude. So we talk and memories come tumbling out, things that I remember about those long lost years that she has forgotten and things that have remained vivid in her memory that are gone from mine. Slowly, I began to see the old, the real Debbie revealed; like an old faded canvas smothered by years of neglect refreshed and restored, colors vibrant once again. I used to go up and see her in Piscataway, NJ and we had whirlwind days of playing tourists in love in what I used to think was one of the most romantic cities in the world, New York. When it was time for me to go home it was a reminder of all the good byes of my young unsettled life as a Navy brat. We would sit and drink hot chocolate on cold winters' nights at the coffee shop, waiting for the plane that would whisk me away. I was always bereft, holding her hand, holding onto her scent, hoping for a few more minutes before I had to go back to my lonely empty life from which she had saved me for a few scant days at a time.
Later, she brought life to me when she took the plane from Newark to Florida. She would descend from the platform like some movie star trailed by men anxious to carry whatever piece of luggage they could for the blonde princess. Carelessly throwing her arms around my neck, her body would anchor against mine with so much force I needed a wall behind me not to fall over, and yet her face touched mine with the softness of a cat… all to the disappointment of her impromptu retinue. Looking back now in the clear light of day, although it sure didn’t seem like it then, she was the worldly older woman, and I the proper young man struggling to live up to the obligations of my life and make something of myself. My castle was empty without her. So I lived a wildly unbalanced life, teetering between ecstasy and depression, between loneliness and exultation; all dependent on if I were with her. And now, calling me from out of the blue, she can’t believe it doesn’t matter to me anymore.
This is sad
why it doesn’t matter anymore?
Nice story... part 2?
That's very poetic, Matt from Florida. I see you've been able to construct your life's narrative in a format similar to that of a novel or film, I imagine you would make a good writer.
It seems painful but beautiful at the same time. I don't know why?
Wow, that was painful to watch, but good all the same.
I madly fall in love with a boy in my teen years but then he left. I cried for years. Its over two decades now I think I'm still in love with him.
And this ladies and gentlemen is why prozac was invented.
LOL!
68air 😂
As a psychologist I laughed when I shouldn't have😂🤣😭👈
Here’s a tip: if your spouse to be invites someone to the wedding that they was banging at one point, don’t marry them.
Why? I'm great friends with ex-partners and casual flings...
I'd invite an ex, and I'll go to their wedding if invited.
LostInPA- I totally agree!
b spc This movie it’s why
My thoughts exactly. Red Flag. I would take that as a foreshadowing of things to come and nope out.
Imagine if this short was linked to the other short where the best man was the bride's ex and he hitted it off with one of the guests
*hit it off
I was just thinking that, i thought for a second this was the same short as that one
Yes I did think about that too! In my mind they are the same 😀 so he finds love at first sight after all
when you try to move on, but you always fail.
This shows "Love is beautiful at the same time Painful"
The man's nightmares were manifesting at that wedding; there was a feeling of claustrophobia throughout and his abject humiliation was painful to watch.
Once that love is gone, it can never be. I've been invited to a few of my ex-girlfriend's wedding and I tell them we can no longer have any communication ever out of respect, not for her, but for him and their marriage.
Your Mojo is that potent?
@@krashd LOL
How is it 2am!?
Oh yeh.....
Omeleto.
Right there with you! Lol
3:30am. Time for one more Omeleto.
If my wife wanted to invite an ex to our wedding there wouldn’t have been a wedding.
One of my friends invited this guy she was banging while engaged to her fiance to her wedding. He didn't show up and was like why did she even want me there ?
You are still a small boy ..no i want share my toy..love is not you and me it's we..
@Draw My Culture They mean op is acting childish. Are you that insecure in your relationship, you wouldn't let your partner invite their ex. Then it probably is best you don't marry that person.
@@yennefer440 Childish or controlling, one or the other.
Loving someone isn't always as difficult as living, together or apart.
it's easier to look at your exes and think why couldn't we have been together forever because you only remember the positive, romantic memories that changed your lives and not all the times you both sucked. It's always harder to admit you have not found real love yet so you look back and think it was real love then
I do remember bad things that happened when I was 23, but it's easy to expect that I'd make different mistakes now, many years later, with someone whom I have forgiven for being young back when I was so very inexperienced myself
This is the most underrated short film of all time. I cannot believe it is not more immensely popular!
Move on after a breakup. If you couldn't maintain civility when you were together, what makes you friends? You'll find somebody else.
@@AMR-zo5ut It's not true, as the number is significantly less than 3.5 billion. Even assuming you could impossibly meet and sort through 3.5 billion people in a single lifetime, you would naturally have to eliminate those who are already married, the very old, the very young, etc.
Most people also marry someone who they meet locally, which reduces the original number of 3.5 billion to whatever the populace of your preferred gender in your local area is, not accounting for the prior factors which would further reduce the number. Though of course you realistically won't meet all the people in your area, so the number will be reduced even further by a factor which highly depends upon your social habits.
So get stuck on a single person as long as you like. But persistence only wins them over in the movies; so I'd say your point is still valid, just for different reasons.
I guess I needed to hear that. even 1000 is a lot. thank you.
Nah, idk man. There are relationships where there wasn’t a lack of civility, just a lack of emotion. Those are the cases where you really are just friends
Tash Maxwell Yes, most of the times it has nothing to do with civility, it’s more a matter of reciprocal feelings or perception.
@@RialuCaos
As a slightly off-topic nerdy note, if Yuval Harari is right about the way our technologies are developing, some day Google may sort through those 3,5 billion people to find the most compatible for you. You just ask...
I love the maturity of this piece. Here is a man that never quite got over the first great love of his life finally accepting that she has moved on. He had to see it for himself to let it go. The first ending where he tells her they can be friends(knowing that is not going to be possible yet telling her what he thinks she needs to hear) is (I think) how this ends. The second ending(where it descends into fantasy images) is how he(they?) feels. The last few moments where she rejoins her husband as he disappears is (probably entirely) in her head(she had to let him go as well). He left her on the beach, and at that moment as he is completely gone (as she is in her husband's arms)is the moment where she loses any lingering doubts. This is adult in all the best ways a mature and healthy person processes loss and grief. I applaud it.
This hit me so hard in the most relatable way ever. Damn made me cry, good job guys. Kudos to whoever made this exactly.
This short brought me to tears. It was beautifully put together and very powerful. Bravo
They were her dreams, weren't they?
That underwater scene was absolutely STUNNING. Well Done!!!!!!!!!!!
No.... We can NEVER be friends.
Bruh she was tripping at the bowling alley, that man’s game was insane. The “how would you know? you don’t believe in love at first sight” line was something else.
Damn, I'm late, but that "I think I love you," kind of killed me inside.
4:43, was so underrated, it was too good, it just made the scene perfect. It wasn't extra at all. The scene just needed that. Like to make the sound that they just scored like in the game of love they were playing
100% agree. Notice how they were all gutter balls during there entire dialogue. As if he wasn't getting anywhere and/or not saying the right things. Then he finally makes an impact, and she gives a genuine smile for the first time, or a sign of interest. It's amazing.
JESUS IT BECAME A HORROR FILM😂
This comment is very underrated.
A beautiful examination of a man dealing with his emotions. We need more stories that let men have complicated feelings and come to terms with them. It's never easy to move on, but it's important to learn and grow from our experiences, both good and bad.
Moral of the story : Stay single, stay happy.
I don’t think I’m happy single though....
@@petra370 Hmm..."Petra"...Female....Wanna get together?
Bruh
Chicken
@@petra370 then you'll never be happy in a relationship, it'll just mask your unhappiness.
Great film 👍. I've been married 3 times and can honestly say that i dont think I've ever been truly in love....
I'm now 69 yrs old, I've basically been alone for the better part of 20yrs and being alone is honestly the most happy and content I've ever been. Maybe it's meant for some of us to walk thru life alone...😊
being married three times-I'd say you deserve calm, peace and simplicity in your life. Romantic relationships are always a compromise and complicated. Being alone can bring the stillness and quiet our heart and soul needs. You are the one you've been waiting for.
Excuse me but where the hell is the groom while his bride is slow dancing with the love of her life???!
Let them have the moment
He is there , and understanding that she needs that time to say goodbye to their old way of loving.
It’s a movie
The groom is also slow dancing..... With his ex-gf, also the love of his life.
Probably the whole dancing is just playing in his mind as he watches her dance with the groom.
Just married and cheating off the bat. How charming!
This short reminds me a little of 500 days of Summer. He even looks a little like Joseph Gordon Levitt.
I agreee
Totally agree!
Beautiful.. Everytime i close my eyes i see my ex looking at me n smiling.. That smile was full of love.. But sadly one day he brought a girl n said she's s gf n broke up.. He easily replaced me. It hurt. Years of love.. Both our families knew.. Whole college knew us for couple goals.. N he replaced with smile
I'm sorry. Some men can be real jerks-- and I speak from experience, being one.
This was painfully and sublimely beautiful. Thank you for this.
13:29 the name of the song is "The Dream Song" By Nathan Reich. If you are wondering.
Have a great day.
My worst fear is finding out the man I'm still in love with is getting married to someone else. This hurt me in all the right ways.
The strikes/gutter balls visual analogy in the background of their first conversation was brilliant.
Such love can be "just friends" only in 2 scenarios. Either you are the one deciding you need to split(in which case the other person will struggle), or you find someone else and you are truly happy with that person. Others "just friends" are imo lies and someone has to be masochist to push himself on the wedding of beloved person ;)
The person who decides to split has it rough too.... it might have been the biggest mistake in there life and you cant even go back. Ik this for a fact, trust me.
Joseph Gordon Levitt's career has really taken a nosedive.
who?
no it hasn't! lol i agree, he sure does look like gordon levit, but the was a pretty gopd short film in my opinion.
What does she ask him at 6:06??
Another absolute gem on Omeleto! I used to imagine being at my soulmate’s wedding to the man she was already with when I met her. Imagined her looking at me just before saying the words, and me responding with that only just visible nod of confirmation and a bittersweet smile, like ‘Yes, go ahead. I know you love him.’ Anti-hero altruism. Today, I am actually glad it never came that far. She stopped contacting me. Probably because she could not handle loving two men.
"Have you ever been to South of the World?"
The last part doesn't make sense. It must be something else.
She says "Top of the world" @@ellenjarrard7920
@@ellenjarrard7920 Why not?
I just wanted the Perfect Ending to this story because they were so spectacularly Beautiful.
Elizabeth Ri is anything ever perfect
Very well done. Beautiful cinematography, lovely actors. Very emotive film.
I love the original bits in this - the seatbelt transition for example. Great short.
1:50 "he knows sign language"
Lmao I'm dead
This was like a skud missile to the heart.
This brings up a cocktail of love and hurt, of sweet poison. Well done, you made me feel painfully alive
I know the feeling, I never married the love of my life. Never take the second best, it always end up as a failure!
I think it's very rare that people marry the love of their lives. I know I didn't and I know others who did not as well.
Woah that was deep 😰
Not did I...
But I still found him- he’s mine now
I didn't...know exactly what you mean.
That's why I did not make any regrets to the one I married bc I dont want to think about the possibility of what if in the future while I'm with another person. In life do not expect to recieve the same weight as you provide to another, do not expect the kindness in return bc you believe the singularity as equal treatment to be the same, do not expect the other to live by how you believe a life should be lived or spent, do not expect to give something and have something in return to be more grand later in the future, do not expect your love for someone to have the same weight bc you believe true love can be measurable which it is not true it's something you cannot measure, do not expect the expected from one another its life and you cannot calculate what the other will accurately do to make your life easier or fulfill your respective task. Love comes in many shapes and forms you have to accept the changing form of love bc it comes with hardship, heart aches, head aches, stress, happy, unparalleled hole that never seems to get filled, spontaneous surprises, feeling of of endless satisfaction, etc. Many people will encounter all these issues but if you both walk on the same road knowing all these possibilities you're life will become much easier and you can tolerate each others difference then turning it into something beautiful. That is why you dont expect the expected just live your life as a support beam and hopefully that person that you without realizing it is the other half of your support bc without them you'll fall and without you so will they. Hope this enlightened anyone that came across this message.
The mystery of the heart. It seems to be so common to fall deeply in love; have unconditional love to someone that is not destined to be with you. Me and my ex were and still love each other deeply yet we are not together. Life choices separated us because being together was more of a settle down from my part and his. It is hard when you have to make the choice to walk away. It is hard when that choice is not because you don't love them anymore but because you love yourself more.
You settling means you love yourself more? Why?
The relationship took a toll on them. They decided to leave because self-care was more important. They didn’t want to lose themself while trying to hold on to their lover.
one of the most beautifully crafted short I've ever seen.
Such a beautiful bittersweet film, sometimes being stuck is achingly sad.
The opposite facing of them in the car was brilliant
I love these short films. They are great. Very talented people.
That was so heartbreakingly beautiful! Well done
The only Omeleto to make me cry, immediately from the switch at 4:50 from his perspective to hers.
I have always been a romantic, there was one girl that I regret ever letting go, I regret whatever made her leave, I understood that feeling of seeing her before she got married looking just as beautiful the last time I saw her.
She even told me that she wished I had told her I loved her before she was married, then she would have changed her mind. She died last year of leukemia, I took her to every single one of her chemotherapy appointments because no one else would make the time for her.
I still love her so much. maybe more than the day we left.
I have never been in a relationship. Still this made me cry. Man it hurts...😣😣🥺😓
i can assure you some things are simpler. Everything else is just delusions of the brain and the ego (like the example of wanting things you dont have and when you have them you want something else,or when u lose it you want it back)
Deep painful and at the end of the day you still have to get over it.
When you do get over it new life starts !
yep
An ex (I broke up with him for cheating with my dad's accountant. She was 50. He was 28. I just turned 23). About 2-3 years go by and he calls me up to say he thinks he's getting married. (To someone esle, who he cheated on and she cheated on him..meant to be..right.) I said, "You think or you know." I then asked him he he was calling so I could sing at his wedding. I then joked it would be akward. I also joked if he wanted the choir to sing at his wedding, but told him they wouldn't because he was not in good graces with them. (We were in the Church Choir together for four years). He said he was calling to let me know? I then asked why. It then dawned on me and I said..oh..don't marry her...I still...". He said "what?" I then started to laugh. I said, " well if you are getting married through the Church don't screw it up." I said I had to go and congratulations. The hold thing was less than five mintues. I was already dating an amazing man who happened to be my best friend. He is now my husband. I am beyond blessed. As for the ex turns out he did get married about a week or two later. What a jerk. I haven't herd or seen him since. At the end I do wish them the best and hope he does not hurt his wife.
Story of my Life.
Well done...its a pleasure for the soul, seeing such talented actors and a great story!
At this point he was basically asking for trouble wasn't he
I've had a relationship like this. The nightmares of being duct tapped silent at his wedding leave me paralyzed. He's now married with a baby and I have nothing.
Hilarious when the first couple said look at our baby... instant zombie land, and everyone else joins in...night of the living dead....🤣🤣🤣 It was clear the did not want the same things in life like children....