Your a wonderful granddaughter for taking care of your granny. She loves you very much. Its the illness that causes her to think this way. God bless you and your granny
My mum is 99 yrs old and home with me. Now, i know whats happening. This video is beautiful and very helpful. Sending love, hugs, prayers and support from Northern Canada
Aww Jess, I've looked after the elderly with dementia for years pleaae don't take it to heart what your nan says, she doesn't know what she's saying, if she didn't have dementia she wouldnt be talking to you like that. Give my love to your nan x
Jessica your so beautiful inside and out your grandma is beautiful and your strength is incredible i used to work with the elderly with dementia and Alzheimers your doing an amazing job xxxx
My mother is 95 and has vascular dementia. I am still learning from you how to deal with her. I often come away thinking I should have handled the visit better but all we can do is our best. No training , little help, so we do what we can.❤️
I'm an elder healthcare nurse. Sad to say, she keeps switching through different people who isn't Jessica. She's in a fight and flight inside her mind. Her heart is golden. But her mind wonders off. I've taken care of elderly people for 36 years. I'm retired now. I used to take so much abuse from very old people who have lost their minds. They have hit me, slapped me, spit on me. And verbally attacked me. I would always respond in love. Never in anger.
Thankyou for sharing your journey with your nan. I live with my dad who has vascular dementia/alzheimers also and he has gone from the most placid caring man to a rather verbally aggressive agro man which cuts me to the core to see. The most aggression comes out towards my mum they are forever arguing due to frustration with each other and before the dementia the never argued a day in their life. Its terribly sad to see.
It's a horrendous disease. I was sole carer for my Mum with Alzheimers for five years. I had to leave my job to care for her. During the Sundowner's, when they get worse, she threw her plate of dinner across the room, had diarrhea and was walking around so it was everywhere. I just broke down and cried on that occasion. The sufferer doesn't realise anything, they are oblivious, but the carers are the ones who get my total respect. It's tough, really tough. I wouldn't wish dementia on anyone, it's horrific.
Hi Jessica, new sub here from Australia. Your nan is so lucky to have such a loving granddaughter and family around her. Years ago I worked in aged care (housekeeping) and there were many residents who never received any visitors. You’re so kind and gentle with your Nan. Don’t let any negative comments get to you. Everyone has their own way of dealing with dementia, some may not agree but I’m sure you and your family know what’s best for your Nan. ☀️🙂
Jessica, you are doing a wonderful job! I saw the hurt on your face in a brief moment-- but your tone of voice and mannerisms set the correct path. Hang in there. Your Nan can't help it. She is still precious.
My mum often used to talk about people being locked up for life, we thought perhaps she'd dreamt it, it was a common theme so very interested to see your nan talking about similar things xx
It’s hard losing them bit by bit. Bless everyone who chooses the pain involved in walking their loved ones home those last thorny few miles. Keep loving them.
I just want to tell you that you are a wonderful caring grandmother so understanding! I wanna let you no how important it is sharing you're journey, you are a kind loving, understanding soul and I love you and your nanna and I want to tell you that your helping others going through this and we need this. And anyone one else going through this I love you and wish you the best xxxxx
I used to be a district nurse and a carer before that. There was one beautiful lady who had dementia, who one day would give me a black eye and the next day would be my best friend or I would even be her daughter from years past. It's one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs I ever had. Some days heart breaking but other days very rewarding. She was such a beautiful lady with many stories of her earlier years. I miss her so. You are right, a lot of the time they just want to be heard, even if it makes no sense at the time. Stay calm in your reactions and if aggression happens leave the room, making sure they are safe first. It is hard when any aggression happens, but it's part of their condition and you must never take it personal, as hard as that is sometimes. When it's a family member it is a lot harder, never knowing what that day held or where it would go, especially when you knew what type of person they used to be like before their condition. Love your insights Jess and the love you have for your nan. She is another beautiful soul. The love you share with your nan will always be there.
You're so lovely, I know how hard it is, I finished a masters degree and instead of working I became my Dad's carer, he's getting worse every day and can get aggressive but I would never change my decision regardless of what multiple people have told me about getting professional carers so I can move out and live my life but my father is my life ❤
Also same situation - gave up Psych career to nurse my late dad for 2 years. It is now the most precious memories I will ever possess and I am so glad I had that time with him and could do that for him. The best paid carer on earth can still not be as comfortingly familiar as a loving child can - great decision. ❤
At a point in time, you may need to decide if they'd have a better quality of life in a care home. So if you ever make that decision to put them in a care home, don't feel bad. At a point, I realized my father would have a much better quality of life in a care home as they are better equipped and more qualified to help them
Same here as well for my mom. Medical Lab Tech. My mom was sick for years. The last 8 months home hospice. My 40 year old nephew came back home up North to help me. Couldn't have done it without him.
Oh Jess 😢 what a tough day for you dear girl. You are doing a stellar job of walking this road with your lovely Nan. Sometimes this disease really throws us doesnt it. I recall a day like this with my Dad when he was palliative with Vascular Dementia where he suddenly went from being really kind and sweet (something I'd never known from him growing up) to suddenly being very verbally aggressive with me too and it was awful, like suddenly we were back to how he used to be at his most difficult. I'd gotten used to the way in which his dementia had stripped away the "Meanness" and it made it easier for me to help care for him, so when this happened it really threw me. At least with your Nan you know it's simply the disease and not who she ever was as she seems so loving and sweet with you. Sending you lots of strength for the days ahead and hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for you and Nan ❤
You do such a good job. Even though you know not to take it to heart, some of it leaks in. You want so much to be comforting and helpful, when the disease twists into distress ots hard. But you don't't argue and patently try to divert - you are doing such a good job. People with advanced dementia leave in the moment (whenever that may be) and to try to make the next moment as peaceful and pleasant as can be is the very best you can do. You do it so well. God bless you and Nan.
Same with my friends mum she was the loveliest kindest lady who turned very aggressive.. So bad that 1 care home refused to have her there any longer. Dementia is very hard to understand.
I work in dementia care as a activties cordinator its very hard job which many care staff Don't understand and yes I have a lot of aggressive residents.
I’m currently dealing with this and trust me it’s not easy taken care of someone with dementia that’s nasty. Plus work and live with them 24/7 It effects your health more than theirs
I was recommended this channel just now and figured I'd have a peek. I am so very happy I found your channel. This brought tears to my eyes and I felt every word she said--- in my heart, as I saw you did a bit also by the look on your face. I cared for my mom at home whom passed 6 months ago from cancer and we too had these 'moments'. They were VERY difficult at the time and it still hurts my heart to this day. We have to remember that they do not mean the things they are saying- these cruel words. They are confused and it is the sickness, not them. I adore you for being there for her. She is a sweetheart I can tell. Be Blessed, you and your nan and thank you for all you do!
Thank you so very much for sharing with us your precious Nana, that you love so much! And that you really care about. We need more caring and beautiful young ladies in this world, just like you ♥️
I just thought I’d let you know you are doing amazing! It must be so difficult to go through having a family member go through such an awful disease like dementia! Just thought I’d let you know that both of you have my love and support!
i have been through a similar situation with my mother in law and its absolutely hearbreaking. These videos have brought it all back to me. so much as it is. I send you all my love and support in your difficult and heartbreaking journey ahead xxx
My Mother had Dementia she has since passed away & now my Sister has it she has been in a care home for 2 years & does not talk anymore ,would love that she could be like your Nanna & speak to me , she sometimes cries when she see's me , if I can make her smile then that is making my day ..... Please do not listen to people who are being so mean to you , if they had to deal with it they would know how difficult it is , would not wish it on anyone including the troll on here today . I love to watch you & your Nan & thank you for sharing Nans journal ❤
My precious mam ( my best friend) was in her final days with pancreatic cancer, and she had terminal agitation and didn't know my dad and I and said we were trying to hurt her. She ripped out her line ( syringe driver), that was feeding her medication and hit my dad with it. To say we were devastated is an understatement. She was so weak yet managed to get out of bed ( we were caring for her at home). My mam was the kindest lady that ever walked this earth and , like your nan, would be mortified . Also, she couldn't verbalise that she wanted a wee ( she had pads on for her own safety), and she was laying there screaming. It was horrific. I hope and pray that one day that those memories will fade. Jess, you are an outstanding young lady, and you're an absolute angel 😇 Sending love and strength to anyone affected by anything like this. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ You are enough. You are doing your best! Xxxxxxx
Don't feel too bad about nan asking you to leave. My mom @ 98 in the nursing home had her mostly good days, and then there were the dark days where she would fixate on one certain thing the entire visit. She's told my sister to leave before. Sometimes days she wouldn't eat because she was fixated on one thing. Sometimes if you wake up a dementia patient up in the afternoon, this is what happens. A little disoriented. It will be a different day tomorrow. Hold in there!
Hi jess thank you for sharing your video's with your beautiful nan.i work in a home solely for people with dementia and it was physical and mentally challenging.in saying that it had its moments of satisfaction when you would see glimpses of that person personality if only for a short time.its lovely to see you tae so much time to visit and make your nan feel loved as i have often seen people in the home who did not have any visitors so in hindsiight we were there family x
I look after people like your gorgeous Nan. You do amazing. Being intune with their environment is key. Listening and recognising a possible trigger is key. Your Nan accepting her drink is positive. It's so hard for families. Thank you for sharing your journey it helps us who are nursing and caring for those with all types of dementia x
Bless ur heart jess. U are so good with her. I know how this must hurt so much. But nans memory is so far back in the past sometimes, u haven't been born yet. What she does see ,when she's stuck in the past, is a beautiful ,kind ,sweet young woman. ❤❤
Awwwwwww Jess, don't forget your knickers 🤣🤣 You deserve 2 years for breaking out of Prison last time Jess lol. Seriously though it was sad to see her like that but i absolutely love how you held it together and still showed her all the love you have for her as obviously none of it was meant. I have so much respect for you Jess, you are just a beautiful and caring young woman. Sending you big hugs and keep smiling, you're amazing x
You handled this with such grace. I know you love your Nan more than anything. I will keep you both in my prayers. Dementia is such a horrible disease that takes our loved ones away way before they’ve passed. It is cruel for their person suffering and everyone around them that loves them. You are doing the best thing by being there, being kind, and loving her through it. This is not your Nan saying those things to you. My great grandfather had dementia and my mom said he couldn’t get out any of his words because he was so unclear. But when he’d get angry-he was crystal clear. He got out every frustration and every curse word. Absolutely crazy how the disease affects people.
Your videos remind me so much of my mum, you’re so good with her- patient and just agreeing ( even when they’re talking nonsense) it’s really hard seeing someone you love like this. She is so lucky to have you. I saw my mum every day and my heart used to break every time, but also for all those other elderly people in her home that had no one and no visitors. Keep up your loving work with your nan❤❤
You're obviously a very good person, little Jess. I just hope that doesn't affect you to a point if affects your happyness in your life. I hope you know when and how to turn off the switch sometimes...
I’m 59 and was diagnosed with SVD (small vessel disease) when I was 50… I know I’m going to get dementia, it’s a sad fact. My memory was so bad that I would forget quite frequently what I was saying in a conversation. Forgetting what I had said or others had said an hour earlier. So now I take vitamins B1 and B12 which have improved my memory. I hope I go home before my daughter has to see me go through painful dementia like you Jessica. You are amazing with your grandmother. A truly beautiful soul. ♥️
You have handled the situation and conversation so well Jess! It must be so difficult, but I love the way you play along, ease the situation and always find a way to make her feel safe and loved! I watch all your videos, it is so comforting and interesting. Bless you and your nan! You're such a wonderful person! Much love to you and your family
Aww jess bless you both🙏 its so hard at times like that for you but always remember sweetheart she loves you so much your doing a fantastic job your amazing ❤
My mum got a bad UTI once and she became really aggressive till her urine was checked. I remember these rare times of mum's aggression was a guessing game but luckily rare . Jess , you are doing great 🎉🎉🎉 . Love to you and nan xx
Oh Jess i truly feel for you, it’s so difficult. You handle the situation with love and patience ❤. Your nan is so polite, no aggression only confusion. ❤
For the last few months before my Gran died she got really violent and was lashing out physically and mentally. It's so sad to see and hear 😢 Stay blessed ❤
❤ ur so good with ur nan, I had a really close friendship with my nan I lost her 6 months ago she had a bleed on the brain and i took care of her as a carer before she went to hospital 😢
Jess you are so wonderfully caring. Your grandmother was extremely lucky to have a granddaughter like you. Every time I see you two together it brings back the times I shared with my Mum who also had vascular dementia and was so very like your grandmother in looks and ways. Sometimes I find it very hard to watch you both because it reminds me of my time spent in the nursing home visiting my Mum who was such a sweetheart. I miss her so much.
Oh wow. Thank you so much for this lovely comment, it means a LOT! I can imagine it’s pretty difficult watching this after being through something similar, I hope you know that you’re never alone on this journey. Always here!
I understand what it is like for you and some days will be more difficult than others. Your doing your best I admire you alot for what you do. Such a genuine good human being. The world needs more people like yourself within it. You are amazing 🔥❤🔥🔥
You are so patient with your gran. It's wonderful to see. My mum had vascular dementia and would sometimes have bad days like this. One time the doctor found she was very low on potassium which caused her to have all kinds of strange thoughts.
We have days like this with my mum thankfully not all the time but they are the most difficult emotionally bless you and your Gran Jess your are amazing with your gran ❤️ 🏴
My wife and I live with my mum who has altimers dementia and mental health we have days like this every day really hard work but when she first was diagnosed we had a heard to heart and she said she was scared about the future and I promised her I would look after her at home and not put her in an old folks home but I don't know how much more we can care for her it's really hard
I’m just so glad you relize the difference even though it hurts my husband is going through the same thing now along with dying with CLL CANCER AND BYE DOESNT IT HURT , I wish you lots of luck take care and God bless you all ❤❤❤❤
Oh my love I remember these days with my Nan like it was yesterday. She doesn’t mean it, I promise you this. You are doing so well by joining her in whatever her reality is, with a soothing and chirpy voice and personality. You are doing everything right, and this journey doesn’t come with a handbook. The bad days are dreadful and emotionally exhausting, but you will still have plenty of times where Nan is happier even if it’s in her version of reality. You may even get peeps of recognition from her. She is a wonderful woman. After caring for my Nan for 5 years through this, on her deathbed she recognized me, just for a moment, touched my hair and asked me to sing to her some more. She was very deaf but she heard so clearly in those hours before she went into her coma and then to sleep forever. You will never ever regret what you are doing, you will only regret things you should have done but didn’t. More importantly, you are looking after yourself, I wish I had done that. I made myself ill to the point I had nothing for myself, let along anything to give others of me. Never feel ashamed of having a moment to yourself. My Nan never went to a care home, we moved near to her and between us we managed. I’d lie awake at night thinking, wondering if I should go back in and check on her, but I needed half an hour to just listen to music. I knew she was safe while I gathered my thoughts. Well done lovely lovely granddaughter.
I'm a caregiver for my father(in law) I've been with him for 4 years and in those 4 years there has been quite a bit of change in him. By me being his pretty much FT caregiver I've seen and dealt with a lot. It's so hard seeing a person that was so smart and talented in so many things just decline a little each and every day. We have a good days and bad days and now I believe dad is in the final stage of this disease that takes so many of our loved ones away from us. I pray everyday that God will give me the strength, knowledge,and ability to care for him until the end so we don't have to send him to nursing home. I've worked in the medical field most of my adult life I've seen my share of individuals with this disease but I've not worked with any family member that has had Alzheimers/Dementia. Watching your videos is showing me things I didn't know so I wanna say thank you for that. Praying for God's blessings to go with you both. What you're doing with Nan is so special you are a true gem dear.
Hi jess my mam had alzimas she was exactly like your nan so loving and so aggressive but we just go with the flow my darling and your doing brilliant love you to bits ❤️ 😢😢😊😊xxxxx
I worked in care from age 16 to 26 and have witnessed this many times,the jail comment or the aggression,I know how much it hurts you,but know it's normal and she doesn't mean it,you probably know that but just wanted to check in and tell you we all think the world of you and your nan is so blessed to have you,such a gentle beautiful woman you are xo
This is so beautiful, I used to care for dementia patients, there is so much you CAN DO together as long as you are flexible and work with the patient. Just like you do 😊xx
So sad, I always worried about my mom and dad I don't think I can handle it them not knowing who I was . You are so good with your Nan . My mom and dad passed a few years ago they passed within months of each other I miss them so much. Till next time Susan in Ohio USA😊❤
I’m a nurse who has seen a lot of dementia and I really really feel, that even today she wasn’t distressed. It is of course different for you. Thoughts are with you.
My mom lived with me she had Alzheimer’s and I was her caregiver. She did get aggressive and it was very difficult to deal with but I did. You’re doing a beautiful job with your Nan you’ve got a very good understanding of the disease. It’s so hard because you remember them as they were and then to see them slowly fade away. Please take care of yourself too 💜💜💜
Jess, and Nan, I really understand where you are coming from. I lost my mother to Dementia earlier this year. It was heartbreaking 😢 and still is. Melbourne Australia Take care Jess and Nan. Lucy Gemmill ❤
Jess, I am so sorry for you and your Nan. I went through the same thing with my Mama. She would get aggressive especially in the early evening, sometimes I needed help and had to call EMS out to help me. She then went on in early December 2023 to demanding I call the police, she wanted to go to jail, she accused me of taking things of hers, of not loving her. Mom and I and her doggy of 15 years were a team, she was a miracle to me and my 3 year old Son when we got back from North Carolina in June 2000 I was a single Dad and was struggling to raise my Son, she gave me and Caleb 24 years of her life, unconditional love 💕 in helping us both right up to that terrible day she suddenly left me in my Arms at home. I hear your Nan and see so much of Mama in her and me in you through your and her interactions. It is painful, but what I found was Mama would usually slip into a short nap then wake up and was back to her sweet self again, but there was times she was stuck in the aggressive behavior. It hurts, we have to remember, they are not themselves we remember anymore, and know in our Hearts 💕 they would never say those things to us. Mama didn’t have real Dementia, she had was wrongly given Haldol and Seroquel in hospital by two resident DO Doctors about 25 years old. Those drugs are contraindicated in elderly people and especially in hospital. She was not combative, she had RSV and UTI and Pneumonia, but they kept her in bed for five days, never got her up, she kindly asked to get up and just sit in her chair and they then began the powerful Psychiatric drugs. Mama was never the same after that. When she came home from hospital she was scared, didn’t understand where she was, quit playing with her dog, began to hallucinate about water coming through the walls, was afraid of the front door being open thinking she was going to somehow fly out the window or door, she thought her chair she slept in was moving, or the floor moving, she would talk to people in the room that were not there. Those drugs ruined her mind, put her light out. Then right after New Year 2024 on the 4th she woke up, I gave her breakfast and her morning medicine and during the night I was sleeping on the couch and heard her praying, saying “Lord please help me I am so afraid, please help me” that morning she said to me “Your gonna miss me when I am gone” and then “Will you do me a favor? Take care of my little “Itty” for me?” I asked her not to think that way, the retired Nurse we knew and liked well came about 11AM and told me to take a break for a few hours. I got back, living just 4 doors down from Mama about 2:00 She was so pretty, had had a shower, had her lipstick on dressed so pretty, and was sleeping quietly in her chair. That was the last picture I took of her. 30 minutes later I helped her up to go to the bathroom on her chair potty in the living room, and when she got back up and was walking on her walker back to the chair she said softly “Thank You” and as I helped her sit down and reached for the remote to lower her chair something catastrophic began to happen to her, I called 911 and Paramedics and the Police arrived and they had to transport Mama 40 miles to Waco Texas Trauma Center where they worked on her for nearly an hour. I was called back alone to the family room where the Doctor came in and gently told me they did everything they could to save Mama, listed all they did, but they could not save her. That was the hardest day of my life. We were a team, Mom, Me, Caleb and Archie her 15 year old Chihuahua, and she was gone so suddenly. A week later Archie died too, I was faced with Mamas funeral, so they were both cremated and put together in her families plot in Abilene Texas March 4th Still trying to get her a gravestone they are expensive, but I will find a way. You stay positive, and keep doing what you are doing, for me, all I have left are the many videos and pictures and memories of my sweet Mama. Sending you and Nan prayers and hugs from Meridian Texas USA 🙏🏻 🫂 🦋❤️🩹🌹
Really breaks my heart my nanna was the same but passed before it got to bad god bless her its a sad time your a good grandaughter jess my heart is with you 😢😢😢😢😢❤
Your a wonderful granddaughter for taking care of your granny. She loves you very much. Its the illness that causes her to think this way. God bless you and your granny
My mum is 99 yrs old and home with me. Now, i know whats happening. This video is beautiful and very helpful. Sending love, hugs, prayers and support from Northern Canada
Aww Jess, I've looked after the elderly with dementia for years pleaae don't take it to heart what your nan says, she doesn't know what she's saying, if she didn't have dementia she wouldnt be talking to you like that.
Give my love to your nan x
Jessica your so beautiful inside and out your grandma is beautiful and your strength is incredible i used to work with the elderly with dementia and Alzheimers your doing an amazing job xxxx
My mother is 95 and has vascular dementia. I am still learning from you how to deal with her. I often come away thinking I should have handled the visit better but all we can do is our best. No training , little help, so we do what we can.❤️
Its not easy,your doing your best,its all anyone can do,Be kind to yourself too
Can't your nan walk now or is it to advanced
I'm an elder healthcare nurse. Sad to say, she keeps switching through different people who isn't Jessica. She's in a fight and flight inside her mind. Her heart is golden. But her mind wonders off. I've taken care of elderly people for 36 years. I'm retired now. I used to take so much abuse from very old people who have lost their minds. They have hit me, slapped me, spit on me. And verbally attacked me. I would always respond in love. Never in anger.
❤❤That's so kind❤❤
That was nice of you
Bless you 🙏🏻🥰
Me too it’s bad when they get like that. It’s so so sad. I feel for Jessica.
You’re right honey bless your heart. I’m here if you need to talk.
You are such a patient person Jess and I admire your diligence. Cannot be easy
Thankyou for sharing your journey with your nan. I live with my dad who has vascular dementia/alzheimers also and he has gone from the most placid caring man to a rather verbally aggressive agro man which cuts me to the core to see. The most aggression comes out towards my mum they are forever arguing due to frustration with each other and before the dementia the never argued a day in their life. Its terribly sad to see.
Looks delicious!1st time viewer from USA. So sorry about Nan’s condition.
It's a horrendous disease. I was sole carer for my Mum with Alzheimers for five years. I had to leave my job to care for her. During the Sundowner's, when they get worse, she threw her plate of dinner across the room, had diarrhea and was walking around so it was everywhere. I just broke down and cried on that occasion. The sufferer doesn't realise anything, they are oblivious, but the carers are the ones who get my total respect. It's tough, really tough. I wouldn't wish dementia on anyone, it's horrific.
Hi Jessica, new sub here from Australia. Your nan is so lucky to have such a loving granddaughter and family around her. Years ago I worked in aged care (housekeeping) and there were many residents who never received any visitors. You’re so kind and gentle with your Nan. Don’t let any negative comments get to you. Everyone has their own way of dealing with dementia, some may not agree but I’m sure you and your family know what’s best for your Nan. ☀️🙂
Jessica, you are doing a wonderful job! I saw the hurt on your face in a brief moment-- but your tone of voice and mannerisms set the correct path. Hang in there. Your Nan can't help it. She is still precious.
I wish I’d had your strength and courage to be there for my Mom as you have done for your Gran
You are so sweet Jess and so loving and understanding. Your Nan is truly blessed to have you!
Awww bless ,you are so good kind and caring , it's so plain to see you both love each other dearly xxxx
My mum often used to talk about people being locked up for life, we thought perhaps she'd dreamt it, it was a common theme so very interested to see your nan talking about similar things xx
It’s hard losing them bit by bit. Bless everyone who chooses the pain involved in walking their loved ones home those last thorny few miles. Keep loving them.
I just want to tell you that you are a wonderful caring grandmother so understanding! I wanna let you no how important it is sharing you're journey, you are a kind loving, understanding soul and I love you and your nanna and I want to tell you that your helping others going through this and we need this. And anyone one else going through this I love you and wish you the best xxxxx
I used to be a district nurse and a carer before that. There was one beautiful lady who had dementia, who one day would give me a black eye and the next day would be my best friend or I would even be her daughter from years past. It's one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs I ever had. Some days heart breaking but other days very rewarding. She was such a beautiful lady with many stories of her earlier years. I miss her so. You are right, a lot of the time they just want to be heard, even if it makes no sense at the time. Stay calm in your reactions and if aggression happens leave the room, making sure they are safe first. It is hard when any aggression happens, but it's part of their condition and you must never take it personal, as hard as that is sometimes. When it's a family member it is a lot harder, never knowing what that day held or where it would go, especially when you knew what type of person they used to be like before their condition. Love your insights Jess and the love you have for your nan. She is another beautiful soul. The love you share with your nan will always be there.
You're so lovely, I know how hard it is, I finished a masters degree and instead of working I became my Dad's carer, he's getting worse every day and can get aggressive but I would never change my decision regardless of what multiple people have told me about getting professional carers so I can move out and live my life but my father is my life ❤
Also same situation - gave up Psych career to nurse my late dad for 2 years. It is now the most precious memories I will ever possess and I am so glad I had that time with him and could do that for him.
The best paid carer on earth can still not be as comfortingly
familiar as a loving child can -
great decision. ❤
At a point in time, you may need to decide if they'd have a better quality of life in a care home. So if you ever make that decision to put them in a care home, don't feel bad. At a point, I realized my father would have a much better quality of life in a care home as they are better equipped and more qualified to help them
Same here as well for my mom. Medical Lab Tech. My mom was sick for years. The last 8 months home hospice. My 40 year old nephew came back home up North to help me. Couldn't have done it without him.
Oh Jess 😢 what a tough day for you dear girl. You are doing a stellar job of walking this road with your lovely Nan. Sometimes this disease really throws us doesnt it. I recall a day like this with my Dad when he was palliative with Vascular Dementia where he suddenly went from being really kind and sweet (something I'd never known from him growing up) to suddenly being very verbally aggressive with me too and it was awful, like suddenly we were back to how he used to be at his most difficult. I'd gotten used to the way in which his dementia had stripped away the "Meanness" and it made it easier for me to help care for him, so when this happened it really threw me. At least with your Nan you know it's simply the disease and not who she ever was as she seems so loving and sweet with you. Sending you lots of strength for the days ahead and hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for you and Nan ❤
You do such a good job. Even though you know not to take it to heart, some of it leaks in. You want so much to be comforting and helpful, when the disease twists into distress ots hard. But you don't't argue and patently try to divert - you are doing such a good job. People with advanced dementia leave in the moment (whenever that may be) and to try to make the next moment as peaceful and pleasant as can be is the very best you can do. You do it so well. God bless you and Nan.
I'm a Grandmother, I'd love a grand daughter like you.
Bless your heart. ❤🎉
Jess, you are an absolute angel. I understand how hard days like these can be. You are such a wonderful person. Take care of yourself x
The love you have for Nan just shines through. I can imagine that she was the best Nan ever before her illness. Hang on to your happy memories. ❤
Before my mum had dementia she never swore ,but afterwards she came out with a few good one's. Your nan doesn't mean what she's saying. 😊 xx
Same with my Nan, she was such a lady then dementia took hold and buy she swore a lot but never ment anything by it
Same with my friends mum she was the loveliest kindest lady who turned very aggressive.. So bad that 1 care home refused to have her there any longer. Dementia is very hard to understand.
I work in dementia care as a activties cordinator its very hard job which many care staff Don't understand and yes I have a lot of aggressive residents.
I’m currently dealing with this and trust me it’s not easy taken care of someone with dementia that’s nasty. Plus work and live with them 24/7
It effects your health more than theirs
@debbiederosier1591 I know where your coming from, it's not an easy task. Take care xx
I was recommended this channel just now and figured I'd have a peek. I am so very happy I found your channel. This brought tears to my eyes and I felt every word she said--- in my heart, as I saw you did a bit also by the look on your face. I cared for my mom at home whom passed 6 months ago from cancer and we too had these 'moments'. They were VERY difficult at the time and it still hurts my heart to this day. We have to remember that they do not mean the things they are saying- these cruel words. They are confused and it is the sickness, not them. I adore you for being there for her. She is a sweetheart I can tell. Be Blessed, you and your nan and thank you for all you do!
Thank you so very much for sharing with us your precious Nana, that you love so much! And that you really care about.
We need more caring and beautiful young ladies in this world, just like you ♥️
What a lovely young lady ♥️ I lost my Nana 20 years ago 😢 keep your head up sweetheart
I just thought I’d let you know you are doing amazing! It must be so difficult to go through having a family member go through such an awful disease like dementia! Just thought I’d let you know that both of you have my love and support!
Your nan is so sweet...sure wish all nans could be like that or for that matter...all people❤
You're a little sweetheart darling. I love your care for your Nan... well done my lovely
i have been through a similar situation with my mother in law and its absolutely hearbreaking. These videos have brought it all back to me. so much as it is. I send you all my love and support in your difficult and heartbreaking journey ahead xxx
Just the illness talking Jess, don't take it to heart.. you're an amazing Granddaughter
My Mother had Dementia she has since passed away & now my Sister has it she has been in a care home for 2 years & does not talk anymore ,would love that she could be like your Nanna & speak to me , she sometimes cries when she see's me , if I can make her smile then that is making my day ..... Please do not listen to people who are being so mean to you , if they had to deal with it they would know how difficult it is , would not wish it on anyone including the troll on here today .
I love to watch you & your Nan & thank you for sharing Nans journal ❤
My precious mam ( my best friend) was in her final days with pancreatic cancer, and she had terminal agitation and didn't know my dad and I and said we were trying to hurt her. She ripped out her line ( syringe driver), that was feeding her medication and hit my dad with it. To say we were devastated is an understatement. She was so weak yet managed to get out of bed ( we were caring for her at home). My mam was the kindest lady that ever walked this earth and , like your nan, would be mortified . Also, she couldn't verbalise that she wanted a wee ( she had pads on for her own safety), and she was laying there screaming. It was horrific. I hope and pray that one day that those memories will fade.
Jess, you are an outstanding young lady, and you're an absolute angel 😇
Sending love and strength to anyone affected by anything like this. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are enough. You are doing your best! Xxxxxxx
Don't feel too bad about nan asking you to leave. My mom @ 98 in the nursing home had her mostly good days, and then there were the dark days where she would fixate on one certain thing the entire visit. She's told my sister to leave before. Sometimes days she wouldn't eat because she was fixated on one thing. Sometimes if you wake up a dementia patient up in the afternoon, this is what happens. A little disoriented. It will be a different day tomorrow. Hold in there!
Hi jess thank you for sharing your video's with your beautiful nan.i work in a home solely for people with dementia and it was physical and mentally challenging.in saying that it had its moments of satisfaction when you would see glimpses of that person personality if only for a short time.its lovely to see you tae so much time to visit and make your nan feel loved as i have often seen people in the home who did not have any visitors so in hindsiight we were there family x
I look after people like your gorgeous Nan. You do amazing. Being intune with their environment is key. Listening and recognising a possible trigger is key. Your Nan accepting her drink is positive. It's so hard for families. Thank you for sharing your journey it helps us who are nursing and caring for those with all types of dementia x
Jess, you are so kind with her. God bless both of u❤
Bless ur heart jess. U are so good with her. I know how this must hurt so much. But nans memory is so far back in the past sometimes, u haven't been born yet. What she does see ,when she's stuck in the past, is a beautiful ,kind ,sweet young woman. ❤❤
You're such a wonderful granddaughter, Jess and Nan is a treasure. Sending love to you both ❤❤
jessica you are a wonderful grand daughter your grandma is so lovely god bless you both
Your Amazing with her and your going to be a awesome mummy one day I can see how u really so love and care for ur nan.
Awwwwwww Jess, don't forget your knickers 🤣🤣 You deserve 2 years for breaking out of Prison last time Jess lol. Seriously though it was sad to see her like that but i absolutely love how you held it together and still showed her all the love you have for her as obviously none of it was meant. I have so much respect for you Jess, you are just a beautiful and caring young woman. Sending you big hugs and keep smiling, you're amazing x
You handled this with such grace. I know you love your Nan more than anything. I will keep you both in my prayers. Dementia is such a horrible disease that takes our loved ones away way before they’ve passed. It is cruel for their person suffering and everyone around them that loves them. You are doing the best thing by being there, being kind, and loving her through it. This is not your Nan saying those things to you.
My great grandfather had dementia and my mom said he couldn’t get out any of his words because he was so unclear. But when he’d get angry-he was crystal clear. He got out every frustration and every curse word. Absolutely crazy how the disease affects people.
When you leave nan, instead of saying goodbye, tell her your going shopping. Nan will settle quickly after the visit. She is adorable.
its heartbreaking but your doing a good thing for your nan, i used to work in a dementia unit and i loved it
Your videos remind me so much of my mum, you’re so good with her- patient and just agreeing ( even when they’re talking nonsense) it’s really hard seeing someone you love like this. She is so lucky to have you. I saw my mum every day and my heart used to break every time, but also for all those other elderly people in her home that had no one and no visitors. Keep up your loving work with your nan❤❤
Bless you Jess - you are amazing ❤
❤ you are wonderful with your Nan. Prayers for you both.
You're obviously a very good person, little Jess. I just hope that doesn't affect you to a point if affects your happyness in your life. I hope you know when and how to turn off the switch sometimes...
Never take the worst words to the heart due to dementia. You are so good at it. Love it ❤
The way she says i love you😂❤
You are so gorgeous with your Nan!
Thank you honestly so much!
Oh Jess, that’s so heartbreaking to witness. You’re incredible, looking after your nan so consistently.
Aĺways one stupid sh t head jealous are we at least she had the brains to share her journey with so many people in the same position you miserable git
Your a beautiful soul Jess
You're a lovely granddaughter this reminds me so much of my mum
I’m 59 and was diagnosed with SVD (small vessel disease) when I was 50… I know I’m going to get dementia, it’s a sad fact. My memory was so bad that I would forget quite frequently what I was saying in a conversation. Forgetting what I had said or others had said an hour earlier. So now I take vitamins B1 and B12 which have improved my memory. I hope I go home before my daughter has to see me go through painful dementia like you Jessica. You are amazing with your grandmother. A truly beautiful soul. ♥️
You have handled the situation and conversation so well Jess! It must be so difficult, but I love the way you play along, ease the situation and always find a way to make her feel safe and loved! I watch all your videos, it is so comforting and interesting. Bless you and your nan! You're such a wonderful person! Much love to you and your family
Aww jess bless you both🙏 its so hard at times like that for you but always remember sweetheart she loves you so much your doing a fantastic job your amazing ❤
The new camera seems great Jess! Also love your Coke Zero song 😂 keep doing you Jess you’re doing amazing! ❤❤
Might add the Coke Zero song to each video… 😭😂 thank you so much!
@@Little_Jessx please do!! 😂
Congratulations ❤❤❤❤ you are fantastic God bless you.! Tony from Brazil.
My mum got a bad UTI once and she became really aggressive till her urine was checked. I remember these rare times of mum's aggression was a guessing game but luckily rare .
Jess , you are doing great 🎉🎉🎉 . Love to you and nan xx
I understand. When my Mom got U.T.I.s it was ten times worse.
Oh Jess i truly feel for you, it’s so difficult. You handle the situation with love and patience ❤. Your nan is so polite, no aggression only confusion. ❤
What a wonderful granddaughter you are and how precious your Nan is ❤
😢 the angels will see you through this you are such a sweet granddaughter bless you sweet pea❤
For the last few months before my Gran died she got really violent and was lashing out physically and mentally. It's so sad to see and hear 😢 Stay blessed ❤
That’s truly heartbreaking. I’m so sorry that happened to you 💔
What causes that behaviours
What a Sweet young Lady you are 🫶 Grandparents are so important 💓
❤ ur so good with ur nan, I had a really close friendship with my nan I lost her 6 months ago she had a bleed on the brain and i took care of her as a carer before she went to hospital 😢
Jess you are so wonderfully caring. Your grandmother was extremely lucky to have a granddaughter like you. Every time I see you two together it brings back the times I shared with my Mum who also had vascular dementia and was so very like your grandmother in looks and ways. Sometimes I find it very hard to watch you both because it reminds me of my time spent in the nursing home visiting my Mum who was such a sweetheart. I miss her so much.
Oh wow. Thank you so much for this lovely comment, it means a LOT!
I can imagine it’s pretty difficult watching this after being through something similar, I hope you know that you’re never alone on this journey. Always here!
I understand what it is like for you and some days will be more difficult than others. Your doing your best I admire you alot for what you do. Such a genuine good human being. The world needs more people like yourself within it. You are amazing 🔥❤🔥🔥
You are so patient with your gran. It's wonderful to see. My mum had vascular dementia and would sometimes have bad days like this. One time the doctor found she was very low on potassium which caused her to have all kinds of strange thoughts.
We have days like this with my mum thankfully not all the time but they are the most difficult emotionally bless you and your Gran Jess your are amazing with your gran ❤️ 🏴
You are AMAZING and WONDERFUL. I am so glad to subscribe to your channel. ❤️
Keeping the television set on pleasant calm stuff helps to not trigger things. No news channels.
Jessica is a natural, a very good carer.
My wife and I live with my mum who has altimers dementia and mental health we have days like this every day really hard work but when she first was diagnosed we had a heard to heart and she said she was scared about the future and I promised her I would look after her at home and not put her in an old folks home but I don't know how much more we can care for her it's really hard
I’m just so glad you relize the difference even though it hurts my husband is going through the same thing now along with dying with CLL CANCER AND BYE DOESNT IT HURT , I wish you lots of luck take care and God bless you all ❤❤❤❤
Oh my love I remember these days with my Nan like it was yesterday. She doesn’t mean it, I promise you this. You are doing so well by joining her in whatever her reality is, with a soothing and chirpy voice and personality. You are doing everything right, and this journey doesn’t come with a handbook. The bad days are dreadful and emotionally exhausting, but you will still have plenty of times where Nan is happier even if it’s in her version of reality. You may even get peeps of recognition from her. She is a wonderful woman.
After caring for my Nan for 5 years through this, on her deathbed she recognized me, just for a moment, touched my hair and asked me to sing to her some more. She was very deaf but she heard so clearly in those hours before she went into her coma and then to sleep forever. You will never ever regret what you are doing, you will only regret things you should have done but didn’t. More importantly, you are looking after yourself, I wish I had done that. I made myself ill to the point I had nothing for myself, let along anything to give others of me. Never feel ashamed of having a moment to yourself. My Nan never went to a care home, we moved near to her and between us we managed. I’d lie awake at night thinking, wondering if I should go back in and check on her, but I needed half an hour to just listen to music. I knew she was safe while I gathered my thoughts. Well done lovely lovely granddaughter.
I love it that Jean remembers her manners! Bless her❤
I'm a caregiver for my father(in law) I've been with him for 4 years and in those 4 years there has been quite a bit of change in him. By me being his pretty much FT caregiver I've seen and dealt with a lot. It's so hard seeing a person that was so smart and talented in so many things just decline a little each and every day. We have a good days and bad days and now I believe dad is in the final stage of this disease that takes so many of our loved ones away from us. I pray everyday that God will give me the strength, knowledge,and ability to care for him until the end so we don't have to send him to nursing home. I've worked in the medical field most of my adult life I've seen my share of individuals with this disease but I've not worked with any family member that has had Alzheimers/Dementia. Watching your videos is showing me things I didn't know so I wanna say thank you for that. Praying for God's blessings to go with you both. What you're doing with Nan is so special you are a true gem dear.
😢as you are as well.
Hi jess my mam had alzimas she was exactly like your nan so loving and so aggressive but we just go with the flow my darling and your doing brilliant love you to bits ❤️ 😢😢😊😊xxxxx
I worked in care from age 16 to 26 and have witnessed this many times,the jail comment or the aggression,I know how much it hurts you,but know it's normal and she doesn't mean it,you probably know that but just wanted to check in and tell you we all think the world of you and your nan is so blessed to have you,such a gentle beautiful woman you are xo
This is so beautiful, I used to care for dementia patients, there is so much you CAN DO together as long as you are flexible and work with the patient. Just like you do 😊xx
So sad, I always worried about my mom and dad I don't think I can handle it them not knowing who I was . You are so good with your Nan . My mom and dad passed a few years ago they passed within months of each other I miss them so much. Till next time Susan in Ohio USA😊❤
Hugs to Nan and Jessica!!
thank you grandma is lovely
I’m a nurse who has seen a lot of dementia and I really really feel, that even today she wasn’t distressed. It is of course different for you. Thoughts are with you.
My mom lived with me she had Alzheimer’s and I was her caregiver. She did get aggressive and it was very difficult to deal with but
I did. You’re doing a beautiful job with your Nan you’ve got a very good understanding of the disease. It’s so hard because you remember
them as they were and then to see them slowly fade away. Please take care of yourself too 💜💜💜
Nan is such a sweetheart bless her she's beautiful ❤❤❤❤
Your doing brilliant with your nan keep it up
Jess, and Nan, I really understand where you are coming from. I lost my mother to Dementia earlier this year. It was heartbreaking 😢 and still is. Melbourne Australia Take care Jess and Nan. Lucy Gemmill ❤
Sending love 💕 I lost my mum two years ago she too had dementia. It’s a horrible illness 😢
Jess, I am so sorry for you and your Nan. I went through the same thing with my Mama. She would get aggressive especially in the early evening, sometimes I needed help and had to call EMS out to help me. She then went on in early December 2023 to demanding I call the police, she wanted to go to jail, she accused me of taking things of hers, of not loving her. Mom and I and her doggy of 15 years were a team, she was a miracle to me and my 3 year old Son when we got back from North Carolina in June 2000 I was a single Dad and was struggling to raise my Son, she gave me and Caleb 24 years of her life, unconditional love 💕 in helping us both right up to that terrible day she suddenly left me in my Arms at home. I hear your Nan and see so much of Mama in her and me in you through your and her interactions. It is painful, but what I found was Mama would usually slip into a short nap then wake up and was back to her sweet self again, but there was times she was stuck in the aggressive behavior. It hurts, we have to remember, they are not themselves we remember anymore, and know in our Hearts 💕 they would never say those things to us. Mama didn’t have real Dementia, she had was wrongly given Haldol and Seroquel in hospital by two resident DO Doctors about 25 years old. Those drugs are contraindicated in elderly people and especially in hospital. She was not combative, she had RSV and UTI and Pneumonia, but they kept her in bed for five days, never got her up, she kindly asked to get up and just sit in her chair and they then began the powerful Psychiatric drugs. Mama was never the same after that. When she came home from hospital she was scared, didn’t understand where she was, quit playing with her dog, began to hallucinate about water coming through the walls, was afraid of the front door being open thinking she was going to somehow fly out the window or door, she thought her chair she slept in was moving, or the floor moving, she would talk to people in the room that were not there. Those drugs ruined her mind, put her light out. Then right after New Year 2024 on the 4th she woke up, I gave her breakfast and her morning medicine and during the night I was sleeping on the couch and heard her praying, saying “Lord please help me I am so afraid, please help me” that morning she said to me “Your gonna miss me when I am gone” and then “Will you do me a favor? Take care of my little “Itty” for me?” I asked her not to think that way, the retired Nurse we knew and liked well came about 11AM and told me to take a break for a few hours. I got back, living just 4 doors down from Mama about 2:00 She was so pretty, had had a shower, had her lipstick on dressed so pretty, and was sleeping quietly in her chair. That was the last picture I took of her. 30 minutes later I helped her up to go to the bathroom on her chair potty in the living room, and when she got back up and was walking on her walker back to the chair she said softly “Thank You” and as I helped her sit down and reached for the remote to lower her chair something catastrophic began to happen to her, I called 911 and Paramedics and the Police arrived and they had to transport Mama 40 miles to Waco Texas Trauma Center where they worked on her for nearly an hour. I was called back alone to the family room where the Doctor came in and gently told me they did everything they could to save Mama, listed all they did, but they could not save her. That was the hardest day of my life. We were a team, Mom, Me, Caleb and Archie her 15 year old Chihuahua, and she was gone so suddenly. A week later Archie died too, I was faced with Mamas funeral, so they were both cremated and put together in her families plot in Abilene Texas March 4th Still trying to get her a gravestone they are expensive, but I will find a way. You stay positive, and keep doing what you are doing, for me, all I have left are the many videos and pictures and memories of my sweet Mama. Sending you and Nan prayers and hugs from Meridian Texas USA 🙏🏻 🫂 🦋❤️🩹🌹
Prayers for you and your family
Jess&Nan. You are the beautys of life❤ we all love you, Gana from Zealand
Imagine how hard this would be for her Nan if she was in an old folks home. Im glad her granddaughter is doing the loving thing for her Grandmother
Oh Jess,please don’t take anything personally,she is confused,she doesn’t mean it,❤❤
Hi Jess, a tough day. You did really well. ❤
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Stay strong Jess. Xxx
Poor Nan ,Jessica I think you know Nana doesn't mean it, confused I think, it still hurts I know, love and hugs to you both ❤️ 🙏
You and your gran have a good bond . I’m sure she never meant to be like that. Best wishes to you both take care. Thank you for sharing .
Really breaks my heart my nanna was the same but passed before it got to bad god bless her its a sad time your a good grandaughter jess my heart is with you 😢😢😢😢😢❤