My Asperger’s And OCD (The Harsh Reality)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ก.ย. 2024
- Here is my reality of living with Asperger’s and OCD. It has some major impacts.
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Learning how to deal with my conditions is my goal for my life and this channel, but sometimes that isn’t always achievable.
Lately I have found that the Asperger’s and OCD issues I have, are starting to take control of some aspects of my life.
It is important I share this story and experience with you so we can grow and learn together how to deal with Asperger’s and OCD.
Sharing problems or worries is hailing them in a way that is healthy and progressive. I encourage you to share your worries and issues with someone close to you for help to.
Please let me know if you can add any tips or hacks to this discussion in the comments below that may help someone with OCD.
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Do you have OCD?
Dan, same comorbid diagnoses as you. Google Scholar "vortioxetine, 5-HT7, marble burying, OCD, autism" ...may change your life. My Aspergers was tied to 5-HT7. I believe Joe at SelfHacked too. Any med that preferentially targets 5-HT7 as an antagonist with a binding affinity of K(i) 50 or below will likely quash *many* of the negative effects of Aspergers
www.researchgate.net/publication/6537650_The_5-HT7_receptor_influences_stereotypic_behavior_in_a_model_of_obsessive-compulsive_disorder
Yes
Yes
No. But I do like to wear the same things most days and eat the same foods.
yes plus autism and ADHD.
My friends and family joke about me being “OCD,” but nobody realizes how hard it is sometimes for me to actually have OCD. I also have the thoughts that say something bad will happen if I don’t do things a certain way. Thank you for sharing this video! I hope to gain the courage someday to talk about it too!
Agreed 😊
Sounds like you were talking about my son! He’s 14 aspergers dyspraxia and ocd and it’s awful. His nighttime routine takes ages and he gets exhausted ... his thoughts about family getting hurt haunt him daily, I worry so much for him, did you know it’s one of the top ten most debilitating anxiety disorders ☹️ awful
Aw no, that’s very tough indeed. I did a few training webinar that I think you’ll really like you can watch it here: th-cam.com/video/rxUCl6th8IU/w-d-xo.html lots of tips for you :). Thank you so much for the comment!
Sounds exactly like me
Lisa, how is your son doing now? Is he on any drugs? My 15 yo son is close to diagnosis (autism and ocd). He is talking suicide these days. The doctor just subscribed a second drug!
@@LaraMalbranwhat Are you takling about
How is he doing
At one point, my OCD was severe enough it made me vomit when I have an OCD attack. I can't read at the peak of my OCD because my brain will keep forcing me to reread each line many times, so much so that I cannot effectively read on many occasions for some time (many years). Now, I am in remission for OCD, and I feel glad that I can read effectively again.
Omg omgomgomg. Hi, I know this was a year ago but I really need answers because I'm a little exhausted of my brain. That happens to me A LOT. I have to reread lines and paragraphs many times until it feels right, I have to rewatch sentences in shows and so on. I used to love reading and this keeps me from reading a loooot because I just can't move on from some pages or it takes ages. I don't know if I have OCD but I've been thinking I might for some time. The thing is I had never seen anyone with this symptom, I would love your imput on this. I've got a question about it, do you have that specific fear when you need to reread lines? Like if you don't something will happen, because that doesn't happen to me, it's just that my brain won't let me move on until it feels right and not having that specific fear has me thinking it might not be OCD but i don't know. I'm sorry for such a long comment but I'm just so curious rn to know how's your experience with this bc I had never seen someone feeling the same I do and I've really been looking for it. If you get to answer to my message, thanks in advance!!! :)
I hate tags. I've always hated tags and labels. I remove them from everything immediately. Fortunately I sew, so I always open towel seams, pull out tags then reinforce seams so my towels Iast forever. I'm now 71 and just discovered I'm an Aspie girl thanks to your videos!!! It certainly has explained many things I've experienced for years and set me FREE!!! THANK you Dan for your commitment to helping people. And U always do things in threes. 😍😍😍
I have issues with seeing things disappear into the trash. I feel like something bad is going to happen when I know that I can't retrieve that item ever again. I also have to say certain words to myself when I'm drinking something. I also need there to be three of things, like food on my plate..I also used to tap my forehead and cross myself when I was a kid.
Oh that’s sounds very much like some of mine!! Thank you so much for the comment!
Very clear explanation of the difference between OCD and Autism need for routines. I have Autism, and I didn't think I had OCD, but now I KNOW I don't.
Thank you, I tried to make it as clear as possible :). Thank you so much for the comment!
You are amazing, don’t ever be embarrased . Everything you show in your videos is so helpful for our family.
I also have Aspergers Syndrome and I got my diagnosis in December 2019. I was interested and searched youtube for Autism/Aspergers Syndrome and that's how I found your videos! I love you!
Oh amazing dude, glad to have you here!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@@TheAspieWorld I'm already subscribed! :) I'm 13 rn and I was 12 when I got my diagnosis.
My oldest is aspergers and adhd. My youngest is a typical ASD and ADHD. I’ve never noticed ocd in them, but a friend of mine has it. Everything is neatly organized. Even the fridge.
Yes. When I'm stressed everything has to be symetrical. Everything on the table set just so, I measure the distance between my furniture n I have to make certain appts at the same time n day each month. I wrote you on twitter empathizing with your stressors these days. You were pretty blunt back. We're all in this struggling boat.
I can relate to this video so much - I have OCD and I am always late for everything too - i hate being late and I am ALWAYS late!
My daughter is 5 (2023). She's autistic and she has some OCD behaviors and that's huge if you see it every day in terms of how it affects daily life. Now I do better understand the reasons behind those behaviors and it is nice that you put it in words because you as an adult, you can express your feelings but a child can't and parents not always understand the child's feelings so thank you!
Oh man. I've been struggling with bad OCD since I was a teenager. I've done therapy, taken all the meds, group therapy, etc. etc. I've come to realize it will never go away, but I've learned to make it manageable, so I can hold down a job, go to friend's houses etc. There was a time a decade ago when I got laid off and just didn't leave the house for a year and had to sanitize everything that had been outside.
There's lots of other behavioral things I do though that I've never been able to fit within the OCD framework, which has been a constant source of frustration and stress for my whole life. Last week, I finally realized I match every diagnosis criteria for autism. I'm 42 years old and no one has ever noticed. I'm sort of mad at the failure of the system, but it's also a huge relief, like everything makes sense now. I'm finally starting to understand myself as a person.
I've not been diagnosed yet, but from a friend, it sounds like it's a 2 to 3 year waiting list, or you go private and spend thousands.
Thank you for this...🖤
Hey you are welcome!!
I have ADHD, autism, OCD, I’m an addict and alcoholic, and I have PTSD from losing my 4 year old daughter. Out of all my diagnoses besides the PTSD, OCD has got the worst which is saying a lot because being autistic while having ADHD at the same time made my life a living hell and addiction has been straight up ruining my life since before I even had a chance to grow up. But OCD is always there. I read this quote the other day that said OCD isn’t weird quirks that some people have, it’s the monster on your shoulder that never leaves and that’s the perfect description. I don’t have the cleaning OCD. I’ve been getting these horrible thoughts around the age of 8 but didn’t get diagnosed until I was 12 before I even knew it was a thing(I had just thought I was crazy). The thoughts could be able alot of things-it was right after 9-11 and I lived about 30 miles from NYC on Long Island and my dad worked in the city. Anyway after that happened, I started getting these horrible thoughts that if I didn’t walk across the room and touch some random object, there would be another terror attack. But the thoughts didn’t just focus on that. I would think what if one of my parents die or I die, if I don’t do this stupid pointless thing? I also have religious OCD because I was raised Catholic and I’d be afraid if I didn’t do the “rituals” as their called, somebody I love would go to hell. Im not psychotic btw, I don’t actually believe any of these horrible thoughts but if you try to ignore them, you literally can’t. It starts with the obsession not being able to leave your head at all, then makes you feel like you’re about to have a panic attack, until the point where it literally physically hurts and you just have to do it to get your brain to shut up…..only to get the same urge a couple minutes later. I’ve wasted entire without sleep, doing my stupid OCD compulsion crap. It’s saddening to think how many years of my life I wasted because of pointless OCD stuff. I also have the opposite of cleaning OCD. A lot of people don’t know that but hoarding falls under the umbrella of OCD and I’ve always been a massive hoarder which is embarrassing because I can’t have people over.
I thought I was the only person that does things in threes. Volume needs to be set to a number divisible by 3 is just one aspect. I’m grateful that I’ve recently been identified as on the spectrum. I feel like it only took me 46 years to understand who I finally am.
Love your honesty and vulnerability!
The moment I realized I was ocd was when I noticed my dad was always straightening up shelves at the supermarket.
And I was doing the same thing.
We don’t work at the supermarket.
It sounds awful Dan.....but, and this is a big but...you are very much not alone in this and having that knowledge is an important part of confronting it. This isn’t your fault that your mind works this way. You do need to open up to your therapist at your own pace and he/she will help you with some strategies to address the causes and symptoms. Shame and guilt are very pervasive emotions and only add to the stress this causes you. I speak with complete understanding from my own experiences with it. The first step is the hardest but you’re on the right road now so keep going with it. Hugely courageous of you 👍🎸👏💪
Thank you so much for this! I have both conditions and I just talked with my cognitive behavioral therapist the other day via video calling and how one affects the other, especially under stress and anxiety.
You are so adorable. So real!!! Thank you.... we need more people like you in this world. My son is so much like you. And he has vans. 💜
Hey you are more than welcome!! Aw thank you so much for the support! I have a free autism webclass that would be super usful. You can watch it here: www.theaspieworld.com/freeautismwebclass/
I have this weird habit, I’m a singer but for some reason at day time I don’t like singing that much.
But after the sun goes down and it gets dark I get this passionate urge to sing, it not only makes me happy but it helps me fall asleep.
In fact I’m currently singing as I’m writing this comment and it’s almost 1am at night in my home country.
Great to see you make things a bit more personal instead of general info. I’m 34 and last week I got diagnosed with OCD, agoraphobia, dysthymia and reoccurring major depressive disorder (although this last one isn’t currently active). I was also pre-diagnosed by the same two psychiatrists with a very likely presence of ASD. Just need to get the ‘official’ assessment interview in person which is currently a bit more difficult because of COVID-19 and could take another couple of weeks.
Hey I’m glad you are envying the videos :). Oh interesting sounds like you have your work cut out for you there!! Did you see my free trading webinar video? Loads of things that may help you there you can see it here: th-cam.com/video/rxUCl6th8IU/w-d-xo.html Thank you so much for the comment!
Hi Dan, I have only just discovered this video, which was very interesting to me. I'm an OCD therapist and I have OCD myself, as well as a number of autistic traits. I wanted to mention that the gold standard treatment for OCD is Exposure and Response Prevention therapy. I can recommend watching two professionals on You Tube called Katie d'Ath and Nathan Peterson, who talk about all aspects of OCD, including ERP. Please also consider reaching out to the UK charity OCD Action for info and support.
I finally got a neuropsych evaluation done because I wanted to confirm my autism (though my referring doc specified it only for ADHD, which was frustrating). Even though I scored super high on the ASD scale, the doc said I don't have ASD (or ADHD) but that I have OCD.
I've never had anything fit as well as ASD, symptom-wise, and I don't relate to OCD symptoms at all, so it's really frustrating.
Anyway, I've since been looking up the differences between ASD and OCD, to make sure, and even though your video talked more about OCD, it was still really helpful for me, so thank you. Like all of the articles I've read, your patterns or rituals of OCD seem to be more rooted in fear and worry, as opposed to those of autism that are more rooted in comfort and pleasure. Another thing that I've read and you talked about is that OCD rituals tend to be a point of embarrassment or shame for the person, whereas autism-related rituals aren't, they're just things we do and that's that.
Anyway, thank you again. Surprisingly, I liked how *unrelatable* this video is lol
I am coming into the realization that ASD, ADHD, and OCD can interact with each other to derail oneself. These issues can lead to anxiety/fear, depression/apathy, and physical/mental fatigue. More advanced interactions can lead to disordered thinking/distorted perception. Identifying where the issue is most present usually identifies the neurological root. It makes it easier to find triggers/stressors, and can be approached with therapy focusing on individual issues. Neurotypicals like to put things in nice boxes, but neurodivergent individuals can experience the overlap. Hope this helps. Cheers 🍻
Hey Dan. What a great conversation to have! Good on you for being able to open up about it.
I don't have OCD myself, but my father had it and I started to develop bad anxiety and the beginnings of OCD-like behaviors a number of years back. Being that the subject of psychological health and diet is one of my top intense interests, I was able to help my father and turn around my own issues also. I was also able to reverse my mother's schizophrenia with diet.
Diet is kind of a touchy topic with people when it's so often mixed with ethics and unsubstantiated "science", so I'm wary of discussing it here, but if you actually are open to different ideas, I'm curious if your OCD started intensifying once you went plant-based.
You explained me perfectly. I've got OCD which can get pretty annoying and I'm pretty sure I could have Asperger's.
I just discovered your videos today! I actually have learned about autism in school and these are really interesting to watch!
Oh hey that’s amazing. Welcome!! Super happy to have you here!! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
I've dealt with OCD strongly since I was a kid (21 now). Because of that, I feel like I can cope with a lot of my compulsions a lot more now (I still have some which are currently taking complete control over my life and have been for a few months, it's one of the most devastating feelings in the world). When I was younger, I believed my family would die if I didn't complete my compulsions, gradually I realised how illogical that was and so if I was to do a compulsion, it wouldn't be because of the negative thought (for me, if I don't do a compulsion it makes the back of my head feel weird). If your compulsions are controlling you because you are afraid someone you love will die or whatever, just logic it out. Realise it makes no sense and just stop, even if it causes you so much anxiety and stress. It's hard to do, but just remember that it makes no sense and you do not have that much power over the world and anyone in it
I find that it is related to my ASD and ADHD because I don't actually need to do it if someone else does it for me. I don't have to like do it a certain amount of times I just have to do it until it feels right. I think with people who have OCD they need to check it themselves automatic time because of irrational thoughts and I think that mine is because I'm forgetful but I still have my autism which is the routines based part of me needing to check certain stuff.
Thank you for doing all these videos. I’m going through the same with hand washing in this time. Not to mention I playing guitar, working with my hand and have Eczema. I Literally went to the drugstore this morning to ask the pharmacist what I should do and he recommended Hydro Cortizone cream. I get really bad cracks in my finger nail beds along side the nails and underneath the front side of the nails and they were really starting to hurt. I put the I put hydrocortisone cream on twice already and it’s starting to help ease the dryness. So if that something you’re dealing with he might want to try something like that or ask the pharmacist where you get your meds. Also like you I’ve only super resent have started to openly talk about my ocd habits and patterns. It started to Alleviate some of the worst ones and I’m starting to not do them as frequently so I truly think talking about them and having other people happy with some say like your partner is a great way to help kind alleviate a lot of them. Hope you have an amazing day today 💜
My understanding, from talking to therapists and reading up on OCD, is that OCD behaviours are all about dealing with anxiety.
Obviously, dealing with it in this way interferes with our lives, so it's not a *good* way of dealing!
I've encountered a bunch of different therapeutic approaches, but at the core of lessening OCD seems to be learning how to notice, recognise and deal with emotions. This is definitely work that should be done with a professional. However, as a starting point, I reckon a variation on Jessica's STOP would be a good place to start. Basically, stop what you're doing. Let what you are feeling in a bit, so you become aware of it (as well as the thoughts that are reinforcing this emotion). As your awareness skills improve, start to try and recognise what the emotions are. Then dig deeper, to the underlying emotions (eg: anger is nearly always covering up something else, harder to handle). Finally, learn techniques to process those emotions. The usual phrases I've heard are "sit with it" and "give it space", as well as "accept it" (ie: accept that you are feeling this way and you are allowed to do so -- note: this doesn't mean you can act any way you like as a result). All of this is intended to put you in touch with the real, core issue, then regain control of your consequent behaviour.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
That sounds so rough! It's interesting how such a little change with those towels made that one habit fizzle away though. I wonder if doing things to block your other habits would have the same effect, or cause anxiety.
You have not done any videos on OCD for a while, it seems. How have you been going with it? Maybe you could do another video on OCD hacks? I'm sure you have evolved even further in your management of it.
Appreciate your contributions!
51 and as a young child I'm told I would spend ages just lining toy cars up making sure they were perfectly parallel to each other and equally distanced. Ever since have had a need for symatry, perfection and things must be even numbered no odds. I move pence around between accounts in online banking so balances are rounded I.e to 100s, have to have food together and labels forward and lined in cupboards, samw with cups and handles all, glasses. All hangers the same and hooked over same way......I could go on all day. Caused no end of issues and always been a joke for others that I'm a perfectionist / odd and ocd as I get so anxious and stressed if not done. I beleive that having always been undiagnosed autistic it has been a support mechanism as its something that I can control in my life and something I can also use as an escape / to take control? Living with someone is hard and I have had to try to mask it / appear more relaxed and think that to some degree cohabiting has helped or forced me to relax a bit but find myself having to reorganise cupboards etc after she's put shopping away or unloaded the dishwasher.
Thank you so much for making this video most people in my life except for my very close family don’t even know that I am autistic. They actually usually think a lot of my hobbies are obsessions because I was diagnosed with OCD at a really young age. It’s been really hard describing the difference between the two this video is perfect. Thank you for making it!
I also wanted to add that if you are planning on taking any more medication’s the way to do it is to add one in very slowly. I have a lot of similar issues and I am on a lot of different medication’s as well as medication’s for some health issues I deal with. I actually have a connective tissue disorder, so it makes it very hard with medication because I tend to have very elaborate reactions to some thing if I’m allergic to it.
I actually am on a medication specifically for my OCD and intrusive thoughts as well as my anger issues and it’s incredibly helpful. It has literally saved my life. Me and my fiancé are not even sure if it was just OCD but basically I was going through very very severe psychosis after I gave birth to my daughter, and For two years, I was unreachable.
Medication is not for everybody but it definitely helped me and they wanted to throw me on a lot of different ones at the same time too. We have already done that multiple times and it didn’t work but my doctor in myself noticed that if I start one at a time I tend to Trust the process a little more if that makes sense.
Basically, if you start multiple medication’s at once, you don’t know which one is going to react and which ones causing that reaction. I had already been taking my medication for ADHD for several years at that point when they started me on an atypical antipsychotic that I had already had a good experience on previously.
I waited another month and then started taking another medication that my doctor really thinks will help me. I’ve only been on it for a few days so I can’t really say much but if you ever are thinking about medication, that is the best way to do it.
The only reason I say this is because medication definitely helped me but again, it might not be for every person. Some people don’t react well because everybody’s body is different. It took me a really long time to find the right antipsychotic for myself. I have been through many other ones before, and it was hard to try to remember which one was the one that seem to work well (the reason why I stopped taking it was because I was put on four or five different medication’s in that one time and I thought they all were bad)
And I definitely feel like you should feel OK with talking to your girlfriend about it. I’m sure she wouldn’t mind at all. I’m sure she would be happy. You came to her with those thoughts and if that’s not the case, I understand as well. Just wanted to give you some reassurance. I’m a female and yes I’m on the spectrum but as a female, I would want to know what my significant other is going through. And it would be purely because I want to help them. I don’t want them to suffer.
I love your videos, so I’m not sure if this is helpful but I hope that it is because you are really cool and have helped me a lot over the past year, thank you!
Thank you for talking about this, I am also impacted by OCD in similar ways. I couldn't really understand the difference between my autistic routines and my ocd/anxiety compulsions. Some of the compulsions just feel like really don't make sense! One of mine is worrying about head lice. It's embarrassing and confusing. Good for you in deciding to talk to your therapist! I think CBT is helpful for OCD which wouldn't necessarily require medication.
Also don't be hard on yourself eh. Covid has made my OCD so much worse, I think that's understandable. Best of luck!
Thank you so much. That’s some amazing feed back :). I hope you are staying safe!!
If you can do CBT (specifically the exposure therapy part), I salute you. My psychiatrist tried doing it to me, but my OCD was too overwhelming for me to even do CBT properly, and it failed.
Thank you so much for this. I’m currently going through the diagnosis of autism. My therapist automatically diagnosed me with ocd but is hesitant with an autism diagnosis even though I really fit into both. Your video gets it perfect.
And seriously thank you for another ocd video. Your previous video helped me.
im late for everything because of everything i have to do. its more about compulsive checking over and over again. one thing that i have learned to do which saves time (and headaches) is taking photos of the things i am checking so that if my mind tries to convince myself that i am wrong and need to check again i can refer back to the photo! this only works for checking rituals though unfortunately
I know a lot of people with OCD, and my doctor thought I did, and sent me to CBT, but it wasn't right. I have ADHD and/or ASD which are similar in girls, but after talking to people with OCD, that's not me. I guess the compulsions that come with ADHD are similar, but I can usually reason things out. I know a couple people who had a miss a year of school since their OCD was so bad that they had a hard time leaving the house. Thankfully they found medications that work, and are doing well at what they do. I'm not on medication for my ADHD, but I have to be careful with my food and sleep or else things get worse.
Dan.... Try writing down the OCD urges cuz that could ease off the stress... Write down exactly what it is you have to do and how many times.... This is what I've been told by my therapists, let me know if it helps you too. Also I am on the road to an autism diagnosis... I'm a 16 year old girl and me social workers and therapists have only just noticed it so they're getting me diagnosed.
Thank you for the video. I do think you should do more videos on OCD. Would help you and others out alot I think.
I don't notice the routines as much since got out of high school but she does have to have control of things and she puts currency in perfect order in her wallet. and the clothes changing thing too.
One of the most relatable videos on TH-cam unfortunately..
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I was diagnosed with autism last year (in 8th grade), and OCD in 5th grade. I also have anxiety. My mom and dad don’t know most of my worries I have now. It’s very embarrassing for me. My best friend, and therapist are the only people I share all of them with. My best friend also has OCD, so she understands.
Well then be grateful. You are extremely lucky 😊
I had undiagnosed OCD for 21 years and no support after. 47 years undiagnosed Autism and little support (but grateful for the support that I have).
I know the struggles, and empathize with them❤
I wasn't diagnosed with anything but a whole lot of things you said in that video sound incredibly similar to what I used to do a year or two ago and to some extent even now. Down to even thinking that if I don't do those things something horrible will happen.
Right there with you bro. Mine can be a little different in some ways but I have same diagnosis. Said that before. But with the ocd ADHD aspergers together it gets pretty nuts. I do the best I can but more I'm at home the worse it seems. Recently I tried fluroxitine for depression/ocd. Its suppose to help with both. It does help keep me calmer and not hell or as bad meltdowns. I'm still trying to get things right but it can be tough for sure with kids etc. I totally get it man.
I suffer from both, thank you for making this video, I can relate to it a lot.
I have ADHD but I suspect I'm slightly ocd and maybe some Asperger's. Even I notice I'm weird and just act different than other people. Probably why most people only want to know me on a very shallow level. I don't even remember what it's like to have a close friends any more
You shouldn't be embarrassed. The people close to you will love you though anything. My son is 21 now and he's on the spectrum with OCD as well. His dad and I are shoulder to shoulder with him in this. Medication helps some, but talking seems to help more. Knowing you can say anything without judgement is very comforting. I encourage you to talk to those around you. You will probably be surprised at how they understand. ☺️
I found dealing with my anxiety helps enormously. But I had to wean myself off of my set rituals in steps and find ways to circumvent them kind of like your girlfriend did cutting off the tags, by finding less compelling alternatives and a whole lot of rationalising self talk.... Not going to lie though. It took years and I was told that I had OCD tendencies which is less severe than having to live with OCD itself.
GREAT More PLEASE!!
I managed to keep my OCD, regarding washing my hands etc. too much, in check for 16 years. Then, boom pandemic, and that's been pretty triggering to my bacteria/virus phobia. But hey, at least I have no shame in openly washing my hands a lot and often now! 😂
Hi! Considering you posted this 4 years ago, your request for help may be outdated as you may have found it. But I don't see any comments suggesting for you to look into ERP (aka "exposure") therapy for your OCD symptoms, so I thought I'd bring it up!
this helps so much thank you for sharing. and i hope sharing helps you too!
THIS! Like, for as long as I can remember I did things in multiples of twos (like I chewed things, and had to finish on an even number divisible by 2; I finished drinks in an even number of gulps divisible by two; if I drank from a cup, I only put my mouth on it an even number of times divisible by two; I bought candies in twos; I counted the number of pieces of said candy (if possible), and I could only feel good if it had an even number of candies, and would throw out a piece if it were an odd number at the end or if I dropped one; I rip off sheets of paper towels in twos; and I would even chew things on both sides of my mouth in alternating patters, and would count how many times I chewed it to make sure it was an even number divisible by two).
I sometimes obsessively clean things because the perfectionist in me can't let it be done half-assed or else I won't be able to focus on anything else for the rest of the day.
I sometimes tell people these things, but only if I think I can trust the person/feel safe to do so because I don't want people to think I'm weird(er than they probably already think I am).
I love this video and I also have autism and OCD so I can relate to this video 🙂👍
Thank you 😃
I have both. Testosterone helped me remove the anxiety.
I can relate to this. I’ve been diagnosed with Asperger’s but I think I’m being re referred and I think I have OCD.
One of the things I'm still not able to control AT ALL, is making decisions when I'm stressed or not prepared. It usually happens when I have to pick something to eat in an café. I have NO IDEA what I want. It feels completely empty in my head. I really try to consciously search for emotions/feeligs but I always get super stressed and end up having a neclear meltdown. Does someone recognise this?
Oh yeah I totally have that!! I have a free autism webclass that would be super usful. You can watch it here: www.theaspieworld.com/freeautismwebclass/
The link to the ebook isnt working. Is it in a new place now? Would love to read it. Thank you for your beautiful shares!
you video on life hacks was helpful heaphones-music and sunglasses(pervert protecters) very helpful going around people
My husband has OCD, it is a horrendous affliction...
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I can relate just having OCD. I hide it because I feel embarrass. It's so much more then regular worrying. My first symptom I noticed was when pumping gas I have to stop at a five or 0 with the cents. That's just small thing, I have to check things, multiple times check doors locked, I am a cleaner type to and that flares with any stress. I went though 6 months of having to vaccum ceiling where I felt it was dirt
I never knew that my thoughts and feelings was OCD too till diagnosed. People think OCD and think it's just people that like to have spotless house and things organized perfectly. Ummmm no, I obcess over thoughts. I cant get my mind to let me do certain things, like I cant get on interstate at our ramp here in town I just cant, so I take backroads to where I feel its better. Even though our ramp isnt that dangerous I just cant. Now if I'm not driving, people can go where they want doesnt bother me but I have routine routes to get to places and I HAVE to do it my way only when I'm driving. If I dont follow my thoughts I get then tension in my body like a inside pressure and my muscles feel like they tense relax tense relax. It's so hard to tell someone about the physical feelings I get when I dont think they would understand at all.
I see things that I don't want to see. Like my girlfriend having sexual relations with another guy or her being raped. A lot of my thoughts revolve around her being sexualized in some way that I end up getting upset and depressed and she always has to reassure me that she only wants or loves me and that they are just in my head. I also begin to think things that aren't true like "She is so ugly" or "I don't love her anymore" and other awful things like that and I absolutely hate it because I know that I don't really believe that. It's nearly driven me to the point of suicide. I've researched it and all I really found was "Intrusive Thoughts" but I researched more to find out that I don't really show a lot of symptoms, just a few like doing something like touching a door multiple times before I can continue on my way, swerving my car or wanting to crash it., stuff like that but not too bad. I always thought these were my tics and stims but started thinking that they could be more than just that. But I'm not going to assume that's the problem until I'm professionally diagnosed.
I'm working as a QA on a project that teaches driverless cars -- we are required to create 3D boxes to capture objects the car's sensors are seeing.
Other QAs in the team I'm in work on tasks so fast while it takes me a lot longer than them because I can't help making things as accurate as possible.
It annoys me when I look at their work because they don't care about small details -- they just want to be done with their tasks a.s.a.p.
I just downloaded the ebook and tips guide I love it
Oh yeah I’m on Prozac but it should woke with any SSRI, it does help with OCD but it doesn’t cure it completely. It like 40% to 60% helps
My name is Desi.Dan your amazing. I have autism sensory processing disorder ADHD ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION IM 29 years old and I live completely independent.
Damn bro im almost in the same situation, i have got GAD, OCD, asperger and a few adhd symptoms
Yes, it’s a Wonderful Gift, and a not so wonderful curse, but very much worth having
As I was listening to your story about how some of your OCD habits are getting worse, I thought maybe it's because you are inside with more time on your hands. Then I remembered that you started taking new meds recently and I wonder if they may be the cause. What do you think?
This is Awesome dude
the praying before bed omg its me
Just say touch things 1 time, like switch the light and just walk away. I had bad ocd. But therapy helped a bit.
There is a really funny movie in Netflix called Toc Toc, it’s originally in Spanish but probably it’s as good in English too. TOC is OCD in Spanish
I struggle with the background noise/music in your video!
I have OCD and SPD, like it's more like my OCD helps my SPD since it lets me be in a world where I can function properly. Like I can't go without hand lotion and Carmex, I even have a certain lotion that I use since feeling air or stickiness on my hands bothers me... I also am not good with loud noises and smells, though when it comes to eating I love bold-tasting foods. That's the sensory seeking part of my SPD, and yeah... I unless I'm in a car I have 0 spatial awareness... It's why my girlfriend thinks I'm on the spectrum but like... I feel I'm more 2E than autistic. The best thing that has helped me with my OCD is paying attention to the now and meditation. I know it seems like another OCD behavior but a proper bath routine is amazing. I just feel so much better after. It lets you just shut off the worry part of your brain, which is needed and be in the moment. (Coffee, weed, a scented candle (different ones), WQXR, Epson salt, and a bubble bath. Though I do take a shower before and after so that you're not like sitting in your own ick. lol That knowledge and that salt kills bacteria helps me relax.) I feel sometimes breaking from life helps you deal with life easier.
I spent at least 2 hours soaking (more like 3 lol so don't do this if you have plans during the day. lol) ... So by a break from life, do that meditate, listen to classical music. @.@ Once a week should help.
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@@TheAspieWorld lol will do. I think with everything, I'm just confused. Like I know saying that I feel more 2E sounds snobby, but I do have a weird language disability. The best way to describe it is that I'm phoenix blind. I memorize everything, I don't associate sounds with letters. It's not really a common thing, it's not dyslexia it's my own odd language disability. Though things that require more abstract thought I'm great at. I can diagram a TEM from memory, but tell me to spell a word without spellcheck... -__- Why you do that to me? Brains are weird and fun in a way, you know?
I see this was posted a year ago so have you been getting CBT and DBT or ACT therapy? A behavior therapist and they say Exposure And Response Therapy which not going to lie is torture. I am not sure where you are located but a residential treatment place is the best way then continue with a behavior therapist. Which likely you have with your other diagnoses. The International OCD foundation IOCDF can help you find some places and or therapy.
I'm 17 and I think I might have ASD, my parents are skeptical but I think that might be because I'm a girl and I know that I mask some behaviors around other people. How can I go about getting tested?
Okay so I recently got diagnosed with asd after seeing my gp because I thought I had adhd. I’m thrilled we got to the route of the asd but I’m still pretty sure I have adhd too but I’m really unsure how to unpack adhd symptoms from my asd symptoms. Any advice?
how about you try to break the habit and then when you feel awful or if anxiety kicks in, you console yourself? like tell yourself to breathe or to stop being perfectionist or do mindfulness meditation at that very moment? because that's what i do when i have anxiety but when i console myself it's a trial and error for me like for example if i have anxiety on a particular situation telling myself to just breathe might not work but telling myself that "this awful feeling will pass" will probably work, or maybe that will not work but telling myself not to control my emotion will work... again it's a trial and error for me. honestly that's what i do when i have anxiety. and i know that it works because my anxiety feeling just disappears. anyway i'm not autistic and i don't think i have ocd. i do have the habit of applying alcohol on my hands even before this covid pandemic but i don't apply it because i'm seriously scared that if i don't apply alcohol something bad happen to my health. i have the habit of applying alcohol because i'm a very sickly person. i easily get sick with respiratory related illness. basically i'm just like what the general public all over the world is doing right now trying to prevent getting sick... anyway yeah you should definitely talk to your therapist about it because well, he is the expert he can give you effective advises. good luck and God bless!
My OCD has been off the fucking roof. Whenever I see a festival or a fair getting postponed/cancelled, I obsess on age and wasted time very constantly.
awww we have the same diagnosis minus your dyslexia, i just got ptsd 💀
What do you do if a certain brand of food you like stops being made? I liked a specific brand of pretzels, and bought them every week at the supermarket. One day they weren't there. I scoured the internet, intending to buy in bulk. Nothing. My world ends. And traveling means my routines are interrupted, so I dislike traveling/going on holidays. Unless I can take something to alleviate the symptoms, such as the soap I like, which lets me feel clean.
I have ocd, it's a pain.
What about intrusive thoughts, Dan? Do you suffer from those or "only" from compulsive behavior? I wish you don't.
intrusive thoughts are the f*cking worst.
wdyd if you if are alone and having these thoughts to kill someone?? i try to cope with my psychosis and ocd and hopefully i can still control myself!
What about OCD and fybromyalgia there is a connection Dr schubiner tms
do you think these are ocd: putting my candle in the middle of my computer right on the computer sign then i also fill my cats food bull intell 1 chip falls out and call that full same with water bull cover stains with random objects like candles and books feeling like im being shubbed and crowded when my bed is a mess i also would be like oh i better touch myn bed 3 times and i would be safe but also saying the number 123 outloud are i also have autism and i dont know for sure
Hi Dan how do i talk to my boyfriend that he may have Aspergers. At first i thought he was just a rude and mean person. I observed him and googled his behaviour i came up to Aspie articles. Amd also ended up watching you videos. Very exhausting for me to try to understand him all the time. BTW he is dyslexic.
What type of work / job do you have. How were you in school?
My autism diagnosis was cancelled after months of waiting
I'm not sure if germophobia gives me OCD or the other way around.
I watch you because you're one or the very few TH-camrs who talk about adult with autism or other channels only talk about kids with autism even doctors talk about autistic kids like these kids never grow up, why can't they understand that there are adults with autism
i totally not just repeate the begining of thhe vid on reapeat, lol, you guys heard the noise too right
Ibahve no idea how to get oevr my apaie esque OCD as such. It's just going to happen and I to s just always gogin to be which is a pain but seems to eb only way of doign itor dwlakgn with it.
what a good girlfriend
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