How To Approach People Without Being Creepy

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  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

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  • @lucasheinecke732
    @lucasheinecke732 6 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    This is REAL social dynamics. More of this pls

  • @scuzyprod.1611
    @scuzyprod.1611 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So I shouldn't care what others think, but at the same time I should, because otherwise they'll think I'm creepy or selfish. Makes perfect sense! I love social intelligence!

  • @오히려좋아-l4w
    @오히려좋아-l4w 6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Damnnnnn this is literally game-changing. He is not just a pickup artist but an expertise about pratical social dynamics. I haven't heard of anything like this before. His analysis about social dynamics is above everything on earth. I just felt that learning English is one of the greater things I've ever done

    • @djtanikgotbeatz
      @djtanikgotbeatz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You sound well rounded your self lol

    • @debless9
      @debless9 ปีที่แล้ว

      He's not a pick up artist. He coaches people with social anxiety and there are women in the audience too. This topic specifically is probably more geared to men.

  • @Malitubee
    @Malitubee 6 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    Honestly this used to be a fear of mine “ Fear of being creepy” , but when you think about it this comes from an beta male mentality. You hide what you want , what you feel, and what you really want to say out of fear of disapproval and the person usually a chick can pick up on it ! It kind of makes them uncomfortable so to beat this, literally all you have to do is Just unapologetically BE YOURSELF ! When you do that , you could care less about what others think, because you get your self worth and approval from within !

    • @alexrodriguez9520
      @alexrodriguez9520 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      malik gilmore yassssss

    • @SuperLotus
      @SuperLotus 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It also comes from a gynocentric mindset where women are the prize and men are worthless if they don't meet certain standards.

    • @djdiablo93
      @djdiablo93 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Malik bro you're on point. LIke I grew up in a female dominated household, and image was everything so if I didnt comply with the image my mom wanted me to have she'd literally shun me in front of the family. That kind of parenting really represses authenticity, especially when you can't even say the truth for fear of ostracization. It really is a beta/submissive mentality, and no way for a man to live. Thanks for your insight man.

    • @centanhotbox84
      @centanhotbox84 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yeah i got that fear right now. fact is u are creepy. approaching though? nah thats manly. hard to be congruent with approaching though when ure literally the only one doing it in the city

  • @vinit33pratap
    @vinit33pratap 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This is pure gold for an socially awkward person, we need more social intelligence video from you Julien. Your simple still analytical way of explaining makes it convenient.

    • @vinit33pratap
      @vinit33pratap 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Still good even if it's a paid product on the topic.

  • @RSDMaximilian
    @RSDMaximilian 6 ปีที่แล้ว +164

    Oh man, about time. So many guys are taking this whole "just be yourself" either completely wrong OR they take it way too far and come across as incredibly weird lol
    GG father Jay

    • @Koryogden
      @Koryogden 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      stfu I am a level 90 paladin you wanna fite me? I will smite thee. /sarcasm /former-5-year-WoW-veteran

    • @denmarknb2
      @denmarknb2 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fuck yeH

    • @gk_knight
      @gk_knight 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      James Orman yeah noticed that also

    • @humblewonder3260
      @humblewonder3260 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shut the fuck up you dumb shit stain

  • @thecarparty639
    @thecarparty639 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I can vouch for this. What RSD teaches about social intelligence changed my life. I've gone from looking at throwing my life down a toilet to having oppertunities all over the fucking place. Using everything from Meetup, to Instagram and PlayStation. He is 100% ON POINT with this.

  • @vinit33pratap
    @vinit33pratap 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I just realised all that : I am mostly low on energy, asking questions, putting pressure into myslef and others, get frustrated when most people ignore my mesages.

  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp 6 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Ahahahahah great you did this one -Tyler

    • @Koryogden
      @Koryogden 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hey everyone - Julien shared his secret to befriending Tyler, EVERYONE STALK HIM AND REVERSE LEECH HIS ASS!! Then after we befriend you, its gonna be time to order coffee in front of you and be like "oh fuck no wallet, my homeboy got the bill tho" then GHOST - never seen again. #GOTTEM.

    • @jermaine2712
      @jermaine2712 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Kory Ogden what the fuck are you on about

    • @Koryogden
      @Koryogden 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Jack Skellington just fucking around , is it not obvious?

  • @a7mad9999999
    @a7mad9999999 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Thanks man, really amazing video, made realize im too stuck in my world, letting my anxiety take control of everything. Trying to improve myself, going on dates, is helping me alot. I believe the more I interact with people the more i find more about myself. Thank you once again for the advices. Will be looking forward to applying them in the real world:)

  • @Tsourfetis
    @Tsourfetis 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    never compromise who you are in order to please someone else.

  • @gk_knight
    @gk_knight 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I find when I’m out approaching I don’t analyse at all. I’m totally present in the moment in a state of flow. I avoid going up into my head and intellectualising at all. But the day after I do massive analysis on the evening before. Squeeze all the learnings from every interaction. Like Batman retreating to his bat cave. Works for me.

  • @csgecko
    @csgecko 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Pure value as always Julien, thanks man. You've changed my life.

  • @jaspergabriels8933
    @jaspergabriels8933 ปีที่แล้ว

    i love julien talk about social skills

  • @AllisonMagicElite
    @AllisonMagicElite 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    RSD is so underrated. You guys are absolutely brilliant.

  • @jackwilliam8167
    @jackwilliam8167 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I remember watching 26 year old julien vids and it’s pretty cool to see how he’s evolved👍🏼

  • @mwloos1
    @mwloos1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love how Julien got fucked over by the feminists and immediately pivoted to being a spiritual / self-improvement guru. Great show of overcoming adversity.

  • @arete7884
    @arete7884 6 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    Thank you for your homeless wisdom, mighty bum Oracle.

    • @arete7884
      @arete7884 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Thats only because your mother has been slackin' on the streets. 100%

    • @DreamBodyBlueprint
      @DreamBodyBlueprint 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I dont wanna like ur comment cuz 69 ayy lmao

    • @aaronthomas2598
      @aaronthomas2598 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Nice push pull

    • @Plutomaniaa
      @Plutomaniaa ปีที่แล้ว

      pressure on pressure off

    • @Fat2FitFootball
      @Fat2FitFootball 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂

  • @darrenchandlercoaching
    @darrenchandlercoaching 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wonderful seminar, thank you so much Julien for visiting us in Berlin!!

  • @pevi722
    @pevi722 6 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    OMG he is wearing the clothes from instagram

    • @obrah30
      @obrah30 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      RED so what he's being himself dumbass

  • @Gregg_Nguyen
    @Gregg_Nguyen 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is the power of Branding these days... DOPE INTRO JULIEN BLANC!!!!

  • @chiefcaptn1922
    @chiefcaptn1922 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    If you put it on mute in the beginning he's in a 90s rap video lmao

  • @xSpiiXeL
    @xSpiiXeL 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The best thumbnail Ive ever seen

    • @davecirlclux
      @davecirlclux 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why? Because he is black?

  • @jackwilliam8167
    @jackwilliam8167 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Julien is the king of laymen’s terms and that’s kind of why he’s the man

  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

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  • @STREY34
    @STREY34 ปีที่แล้ว

    Im hooked on this dude. RIP Kevin Samuels this is my new guy

  • @okayjosem
    @okayjosem 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of the best RSD videos out there.

  • @Se7enLuckyslevin
    @Se7enLuckyslevin 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    17:44 the KEY IS FINDING THE balance between being yourself __and__ being relatable

  • @subliminaltester7000
    @subliminaltester7000 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Isn’t this contradictory to what you always preach “stop trying to be cool”, let shit go. Over analyzing yourself and how people react to you creates anxiety, and makes you a robot for validation I feel.

  • @karmaindustrie
    @karmaindustrie 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    my pressure depends rather on how i hit the nerves of people. i don't really care. i just go with the "flow" what i want to say, no matter how much pressure they feel. or terror (maybe untrue but i feel like this is true right now)

  • @verbalriotshow
    @verbalriotshow 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love how Julien went from a PUA to a Level 80 Mage!... (kidding, good stuff man)

  • @johnmohr7750
    @johnmohr7750 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of the best videos you've made recently, I'm only 30 seconds in.

  • @Kha7i
    @Kha7i 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    miss rsd man taught me everything i know today about getting girls , always liked julien and max , favoursite rsd members pureley because i resonate with yous 2 most and i feel like before you started all this what your life was like was pretty much my life so appreciate all the help brother #riprsd

  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

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  • @ivanycativa6110
    @ivanycativa6110 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Bro you've been flexing só hard with the Gucci and Shit

  • @bigpurdy2078
    @bigpurdy2078 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you again father J!! May I also add what kind of jean jacket you have?

  • @kasto9060
    @kasto9060 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thats a great help, thank you

  • @MDimov-jm4pi
    @MDimov-jm4pi 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yeah the moodboosting intro niice

  • @albert6006
    @albert6006 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of the best videos I’ve seen in awhile, great job Julien!

  • @uttamcc93
    @uttamcc93 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Jackpot video. Thank you.

  • @moved9095
    @moved9095 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    great content julien!

  • @Repeataarrr
    @Repeataarrr 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    didn't know you are in my hometown right now. Welcome, enjoy your stay!

  • @hendrik9988
    @hendrik9988 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This Video is gold 🔥

  • @tornikebiganishvili4616
    @tornikebiganishvili4616 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👏👏👏
    Thank you

  • @salembeats1875
    @salembeats1875 6 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I thought the guy in the thumbnail was madison

  • @danothebananovitch9678
    @danothebananovitch9678 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The problem is that the 'relatability circle' and my 'congruent circle' are miles apart from each other....😅
    Anyway, thank you so much for this video.🙏This knowledge is really vital to me and it finaly made me realise why socializing have drained me so much: being too much in the head and not engaged enough in the social interactions themselves and how other people interpret what I say. Time to practice!!😀

    • @petriano1
      @petriano1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's how I feel like too .... All the time. And this puts so much pressure on myself

  • @syrupgoblin4920
    @syrupgoblin4920 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    That intro was sick!

  • @lukasvolcik5109
    @lukasvolcik5109 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Super awsome speach!

  • @ISLAMguidanceful
    @ISLAMguidanceful 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    did you play alot of warcraft?

  • @NonWorldlyAl3X
    @NonWorldlyAl3X 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love the videos when will you come to San Antonio Tx.

  • @Chuning2012
    @Chuning2012 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you very much for the subtitles it helps the foreigners a lot :)

  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

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    • @mordernmozart
      @mordernmozart 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your vid on "How to be the life of any party" helped a lot. I've had severe social anxiety issues before(I couldn't even fuckin make eye contact with people before) I was at a wedding recently and I was totally care-free, Loud and Made eye contact with everyone I met (to a point of being creepy:-D, maybe I took it to beast mode but it helped a lot tho) I also met a couple of relatives, one of them said my behaviour was so manly. (hell, I don't know what they meant but it felt like shit was working) Thanks for the advice.

  • @badassproductions4734
    @badassproductions4734 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Definitely my weakest point, Sounds like a fun way to do it as well. I also grew up in the age of the phones with the snake game

  • @mariamk7828
    @mariamk7828 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Julien the social star✔

  • @tomscade
    @tomscade ปีที่แล้ว

    What is the music of the intro, its so cool ?
    Thank you !

  • @williamatkinson4520
    @williamatkinson4520 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you 21 enjoying my day

  • @PedroSilva-rl2vm
    @PedroSilva-rl2vm 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Best thumbnail ever!😂😂😂

  • @AuziFox
    @AuziFox 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great stuff !! How does this relate to the workplace ? Namely waiter/ server at a restaurant

  • @doesntexistanymore4292
    @doesntexistanymore4292 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Jules

  • @Diathon1
    @Diathon1 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    0:52 Tyler!?! I KNEW IT! THEY ARE THE SAME ENTITY!

  • @georgimihalkov9678
    @georgimihalkov9678 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    SICK intro, J

  • @tahmidislamtasen1602
    @tahmidislamtasen1602 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Most of the time i get nothing common between that congruence and relatability

  • @sthoughtsarchive2791
    @sthoughtsarchive2791 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Calibration 101

  • @MesutKhedira
    @MesutKhedira 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are fucking intelligent

  • @jafmixing
    @jafmixing 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hearing you speaking german is the best thing i've ever seen in my life xD

  • @georgimihalkov9678
    @georgimihalkov9678 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sick intro, J

  • @colinbeirouty4798
    @colinbeirouty4798 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Like Tai always says, be a mad scientist.

  • @lucas62030
    @lucas62030 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Obrigado Julien por esse conhecimento fantástico que muda varias vidas dos terráqueos. GRATIDÃO!

    • @iagopadua2914
      @iagopadua2914 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mano, uma pergunta, seu apelido é caveira ?

  • @juiceonthebeat
    @juiceonthebeat 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What do you guys say to someone who questions why you have your shades on indoors?

  • @igieswainebragt
    @igieswainebragt 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Crazy how he went from a dark triad person to how he is now

  • @vinigava4891
    @vinigava4891 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    G O L D

  • @codythep
    @codythep 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I couldn’t NOT click on that

  • @lime_68
    @lime_68 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Julien looks like custom made GTA character in this video, lol. But seriously, great info

  • @dzllz
    @dzllz 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome concepts, very useful 🔥

  • @andyyhimself
    @andyyhimself 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    YEET!

  • @alansantiago
    @alansantiago 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wooooooow
    Ótimo vídeo!! haha

  • @themanydrippedgod7355
    @themanydrippedgod7355 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Damn the guidance counsellor didn’t teach me any of this shit

  • @mathws1
    @mathws1 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Fucking Rockstar. Like the bold headline.

  • @1999seif
    @1999seif 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    okay julien so documenting the reaction is dope but how do i know that my intrepretation about that reaction is true , cause some people will smile if u do the uncalbriated thing and others would show siigns

  • @stratoszafeiriou7147
    @stratoszafeiriou7147 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You have to clean the camera sensor....just sayng...!! ;)

  • @michaborski7383
    @michaborski7383 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love it

  • @banogi2325
    @banogi2325 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Someone knows the song at the beggining of video?

  • @emanuel_soundtrack
    @emanuel_soundtrack 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    notice the social intelligence of his glasses

  • @S3CV1B3
    @S3CV1B3 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Working in a bar a as a bartender is a easy way to be forced fastly to learn all this imo;). And you get paid too. It’s a harsh world though, be prepared.

  • @haywoodjablomi2526
    @haywoodjablomi2526 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bookmark 7:14

  • @danothebananovitch9678
    @danothebananovitch9678 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ha Julien! Have you seen the anonymous cubes on Alexanderplatz this weekend? 😀

  • @emanuel_soundtrack
    @emanuel_soundtrack 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    to reach out personally to someone you liked but ghosted you is already creepy and criminal for milenials

  • @MRSLAV
    @MRSLAV 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Julien looks more and more like milo yiannopoulos.

  • @danieldonascimentoaraujo3221
    @danieldonascimentoaraujo3221 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    It was fucking amazing!

  • @Prince-vi9ri
    @Prince-vi9ri 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    is that gary yorofsky in the first row?

  • @gamerrocks4917
    @gamerrocks4917 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    10:00

  • @Trazynn
    @Trazynn 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Julien! Julien! Can you describe your perfect sunday?

  • @immanuelkant7895
    @immanuelkant7895 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Park am Gleisdreieck?

  • @john_dren
    @john_dren 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh lol je ne savais pas que tu étais Suisse. Well, congruence is 100% for me. However, relatiblity is totally impossible unless I play a role simply because I am a high potential and I think way too inconventionally so yeah.. I'd rather stay isolated than pretending.
    Because I'm radically honest and too authentic for "the standards" girls tned to perceive me and interprete than I'm creepy.

    • @Nalojuntu
      @Nalojuntu 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      John Mind - if so, why not looking at it differently. Why not thinking about letting yourself have fun.
      And about sharing these positive emotions with the girls.
      Giving up on going deep, I think that's what we could start to do.
      And thriving on sincerity, autoderision, social daring.
      I like how Max and Tyler put it about warming up before talking to THE girls. About interacting with any person on the way you go to the animated streets.
      Talking to grandmas, to barmens, to bouncers, even just about the weather or how the evening's going.

    • @john_dren
      @john_dren 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Commentaires thanks for your reply.
      That’s the thing, I always go deep with everyone I talk to lol or I just get bored and don’t talk 😂 it’s not about fear really but difference of values. I guess about the fact that if I had more practice I would probably take it less seriously.

  • @00great226
    @00great226 ปีที่แล้ว

    Where is the chat box ? 😅

  • @UkraineYamaha
    @UkraineYamaha 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing video, that is what the world needs. Thanks, Father! :)
    Just in context to that, a question:
    Concerning interacting with women:
    How do I know when to stop talking to her (as you said: the 2 circles never cross, not meant to be ...)? Because what about proceeding to talk in order to pass shittests?
    That is what makes me curious :)
    GG

    • @wolverineg89
      @wolverineg89 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      You start to feel like whatever you say is not impacting the person, you make a joke they dont laugh or theyre just polite but they really want you to go away. Mostly you'll feel it in your body , that there is something off and no matter what youre not going to connect. This is when you say have a good night and leave- Julien talked about this when he spoke about personal boundaries in tengame. Love you Julien.

  • @eyecolourchangejourney8752
    @eyecolourchangejourney8752 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sick fucking pants dude! Where did you get them from?

  • @Anderson-yg5vw
    @Anderson-yg5vw 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Truth :)

  • @gamerrocks4917
    @gamerrocks4917 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    18:16