Insomnia insight
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- You can’t train yourself to sleep... or actually you kinda can. When you train your brain that it has nothing to fear from sleeplessness - amazing sleep happens.
Do you have trouble sleeping? Can’t sleep? Have questions about insomnia or sleep? Please leave a comment or send me an email at daniel@insomniainsight.co and I will be happy to share my thoughts as a video or audio reply.
If you want to connect elsewhere I’m on Twitter @ErichsenDaniel, Instagram @Erichsen.Daniel, Facebook as Daniel Erichsen. I have a blog at bedtyme.co.
Here are some playlists that I hope you’ll find helpful.
Core curriculum - a collection of the most important insights, a great place to start.
• Playlist
Success stories - if you need hope and inspiration, this is for you.
• Success stories
Insomnia insight - a list of every single episode.
• Playlist
Talking insomnia - guests with insomnia or experts share their stories / tips.
• Talking insomnia
Hypnic jerks, sudden awareness of falling asleep and other common issues.
• Hypnic jerks and more.
Fatal insomnia - for those concerned about ffi and sfi.
• Familial and sporadic ...
Best!
This content does not constitute medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment, and should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or other qualified healthcare providers.
It was really helpful for you to keep stressing the word “behavior”. Helped it to sink in that what we physically do matters, even beyond our thoughts. Thanks for all the examples!
Anytime Lauren! And you know, anything you learn that takes you to a more peaceful place, this is the way 🙂 and now not to confuse you.. but just to add to this, I think what we do matters because it’s a reflection of what goes on in the mind.
Our thoughts produce our feelings and our feelings procure our actions.
If we decide to go to a party even if it’s late, something we’ve avoided for long because we were afraid of losing sleep…that can really help! Now, it can on the surface seem like the behavior of going to the party was what helped. But, it’s not exactly like that.
Because the same behavior, if the idea was “I have to go to this party so I can sleep” is a sleep effort. And probably will lead to more struggle.
Whereas if the idea behind the behavior is “it’s ok if I sleep less, I can enjoy this party and I can see that I can do things I enjoy” then it’s just a nice thing we do. This leads to more freedom and peace.
Now this can easily lead to “ok so how do we change the thoughts?” - to me, education comes first, then it’s about letting go and allowing the thoughts to change by themselves.
Lauren, hope this made sense and that you’ll have nice weekend!
I have been binge watching these videos. So thankful for the care and effort put into these videos. Thank you thank you!!
You are the living example of never give up.
Proud of you man ...
You never stop making video instead of less views
Comments like this is the gasoline that keeps the tank full always 🤗 Together we will make a real dent in the insomnia universe!
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 keep it up bro . great work . People doesn't give attention to insomnia No campaigns for awareness .. But trust me it's worse than many types of cancer .. how much worse is insomnia ? No one knows better than the person who is going through insomnia .
Medical science should work more effectively on insomnia
Hamza Butt 100%!!
Holy shit man, you're SO GOOD. Wow.
This made me smile so much 😊🙏
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 I'm glad it did :) I had a question.. I guess. So as you probably know, I've had a pretty terrible bout of Hypnic jerks on going since the last 2 months. However, this week has been pretty good to me, I had 2 nights where I didn't get a single jerk! But last night was different and I'm trying not to let it get to me. I've had a BUNCH of jerks and when I finally fell asleep and woke up in the morning, trying to fall back asleep was terrible, had hypnic jerks all morning so I just decided to leave bed. Are morning jerks anything to worry about at all? I thought I was getting better but this has my anxiety going again...
Hi again,
So glad things were getting easier and, it sounds to me like you’re experiencing what we call a speed bump. We have a whole playlist on speed bumps, and although most of that is related to Insomnia in general, all of it with the applies to experiences like jerks. So yes, check that speed bump playlist out I think it can really help!
I will try this approach now...sounds like a good idea
Goran Knezović I think it’s a really good one! Do check out episode 303, Alina had real success with the “fearless method”!
Please stay in touch and let us know how things go 👍🤗
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you very much for the recommendation. Your videos have been really helpful to me.
To all of Daniels viewers, I have used your approach and generally have slept better. A "bad night" before not caring and taking meds was 3-4 hours. Now is it 5 hours, with a rare 4 hour. Thus, I agree not caring is helping, but not perfect. But what is perfect? I can tell my sleep habits have changed, maybe because I am in my 30s and not in my 20s now? Who knows, but I certainly cant tell you why. Does this in the end have health effects? I dont know. Does this suck at times being low on energy, yes! But that is life. Would I like more sleep, who wouldnt!
Likely your response is stop checking your time. I really dont, when I wake up, I roll over and see the time. I lay there not worried, sometimes I fall back a sleep, or sometimes I am up at 4am. When this happens, I go work in my office.
Highfill Invest Thanks for sharing this! It’s always a variation of “not caring so much” that leads to good sleep. Super helpful to have someone like yourself share this to give others guidance and hope!
I took meds for sleeping for a half year and I started to reduce it (now its 0). Few days ago i couldnt fall asleep so i took one but didnt help.That night i realized that pills dont help anymore, its only my brain which can make me sleep! Since i tell myself its okay to not to sleep until 2 if i cant or its okay to wake up at night. Your perspective changed my whole point of view of sleeping. Thank you for your work! I am from Hungary and most of the doctors here gave me pills and suggested relaxation training. I did everything! And nothing really worked until i found your channel. ❤
Brigitta, wow this made me so glad to read just now 😊 I’m so glad that this moment, which sometimes leads to self criticism, instead became a real eye opening insight! Thanks much for sharing and for the support, it means the more world 🙏
How you doing now?
Hi Daniel, I would like to see an episode on what is normal for sleep. For instance, lets say 6.5 hours a night is great for me. For a "bad night" is 5 hours of sleep, but I have 2 or 3 a week. Is that normal? Or is it normal to have 1 bad night a week. I think this information would help people with insomnia coming from the perspective of a sleep MD. I think this would help with anxiety fears.
Highfill Invest Hi Chad - This is really great, whenever people suggest the topics, those tend to be the best videos. I’ll either include this in a live video or make a separate episode about this. Thanks!
Recovery is behind your biggest fear. We must have courage.
#thisistheway
Thanks for this video ❤ I have a question. I consider myself as someone who is on the recovery journey. There are times when the “fear” goes away and I don’t think about sleep at all and sleep much better, even if I get “normal” nights with not great sleep. So the acceptance and belief is in the right place in me… However, for last few months I struggle again with hyper arousal around sleep. And there are times when the brain pattern of the fear of not being able to sleep is so strong that I find so difficult work about the feeling of unsafe and it keeps me anxious and awake. It’s like loosing the belief that everything is fine and there is no danger. I know that it is learned nervous system behaviour. But I find difficult to change that pattern at times, when the thoughts of danger comes back… I hope I’m clear enough 😁 Thank you 🙏🏻
Anytime Basia, and you know, check the Speed bump playlist, I think that can help so much when you’re on this back and forth stage
Daniel, you've replied to me before which is great. I love your approach and I constantly try to put it into practice but the fear never seems to go away because I still (quite often) have very bad nights with only a couple of hours sleep. On these occasions I feel so bad the following day, in particular emotionally unstable, angry, unmotivated, depressed, headaches etc, that it is impossible not to 'fear' the likely consequences of not sleeping - nothing to do with long term health risks, literally the fact that I will go to pieces the following day. I just don't see how I can ever not care and not be fearful of this and not seek to avoid it, even if actually being awake during the night is not in itself dangerous. So for me, it is a big paradox, being awake at night is not dangerous or a threat but the consequences of that are very threatening to me and are real. Thanks a lot
@jamesb4861 hi James, hang in there. There’s a very recent video on the fear of the next day…. I hope this can become the changing teaching for you.. rooting for you
Hi I am new to your channel . I am taking amitriptyline for sleep problems and trying to taper down - have been told I cannot just stop taking this medication . On current dose of 15 mg a day I am not sleeping great . I am now trying to educate myself by following your channel (all great advice ) ready for when I come off this medication. Although I have slept on previous dose age of 25 and 20 mg - I now struggle on 15 mg . If I approach my GP over this they simply say - up the dose to sleep again as you was sleeping on 20 mg a day . Any advise would be greatly appreciated thanks ps - I have had sleep problems since June 22,
Welcome Nicola!
All the answers really are here in the content, you’ll find them as you browse. Rooting for you
IYO…can we just turn a light on and read in bed if we can’t sleep, or should we be leaving the room?
I think my insomnia comes from a deeper psychological level, I don't know I think I had this immense creativity and talents I always think at some point I was scared to lose it without knowing that I was, and I knew getting enough sleep would make me get the work done, but if I had known back then at first it was because of that I would have dealt with it but right now I'm a bit stuck. And I maybe think that I used to be very motivated and I wanted to do all kinds of stuff so I like started believing I didn't need sleep, so I wouldn't. Plus I have chest pain whenever I sleep less and I'm not overweight or anything
Could u please also recommend me a book or one of ur videos concerning my case? I've watched some and I REALLY related to them thankk u ur videos are very helpful.
Hi Tina, I think Set it & Forget it is great to start with and then Tales of Courage is great because it has stories of people who would relate to you.
But even before buying any books, I would say look at the playlist that is called this is Natto and the success stories playlists, those can help so much!
Helloo I just wanted to ask, I have had SEVERE insomnia for the last six months and I'm only 16, I didn't have anxiety and stress when I first had it but it made me stressful, and I get it I have to be brave and stuff but concerning the memory is there anything I can do? Like I've been sleeping for 2-4 hours each night and I've tried everything to keep my brain sane but it's one step forward two steps backwards, like read I watch educational videos I exercise sometimes, and I used to be a straight A student but now with the memory loss and lack of concentration it's not going well but the thing is, even if I wanted to do stuff that I enjoyed or smth I would have zero motivation to do and I used to be very motivated... I know it's but out of context but do you have any idea it's a bit like a loop.
Plus whenever I recover a night a bit the next day it's tenth time worse, it's like I have a fear to recover, or maybe believing my recovery won't last and I'll go back to it eventually so as if not to disappoint myself in a sense? Or it's like at some point, I think "I'm the one who's doing it" like it's my fault
Hi Tina, we have a name for this - success regress. You can browse the channel and you’ll find educational material on this
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 alll rightt thankk uu loadsss
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 this may be out of context but do u think memory loss from extreme insomnia can be reversed? And if u do may u please suggest some ways?
Oh yes and it’s a common question. Basically imagine someone having a panic attack and asking them how to boil and egg… they probably won’t answer, because the brain is not prioritizing this when it thinks we are in danger. When we feel safe… then we remember easily
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 seems fairr enough thankk u for all ur goood workk :)
And I've seen also many cases that have lasted for years and stuff and I REALLLY don't want it to bexause I don't think my brain can handle it, I forget like literally anything and I used to have an excellent memory, but I think maybe because I know I used to have excellent memory and now I don't it's like I made it as a fact and believed it which made me want to sleep more, which made me sleep less and which made my brain worse. Makes sense? I hope I get a response from u soon💕
Hi Tina,
I think those horror stories really are either from someone who never found helpful education or someone who isn’t actually wanting to get better and just wants to be in a community of people who are in the same place. And yes, I think your points is very true that when we think something and we compare that to now we can get confused. For example, we can start to think that we always fell asleep right away, and that we always slept through the night or things like that but when we honestly look back, that wasn’t the case. And when we aren’t comparing the now with some imagined past, things get easier.
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 that's so true thankk u for responding 💕
Anytime 🙂
I have a fear of sleeplessness nights forever and the fear of struggle. Feeling tired, drained and the hallucinations.
How do I be brave here?
Remember that being brave is not the absence of fear, but not trying to escape when we are afraid but doing what we’d like to do
Hello Daniel,
I am trying to be brave but I also suffer from health anxiety and worry that me only sleeping 2-4 hours a night for the past few weeks is really not good for my health. It doesn’t help that I have seen other videos explaining how insomnia causes things like heart attacks. I’m only 22 but my fear of this is still there. I have a prescription for trazadone but I’m not sure if I should start it. I feel desperate and scared. I am confused on whether or not this little sleep I’m getting is a threat or not? There is so much conflicting information. Thank you
Hi Stephanie,
Thank you for sharing the above and it is a very common thing that causes insomnia, worrying about your health that is. And exactly like you say, there’s so much scary information out there that doesn’t help!
I think it is important to know that insomnia has never been shown to cause any health problems. In fact there was a very large study including millions of people that was published in early 2019 that show that those with insomnia and those without insomnia have the exact same life expectancy! pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30529432/
I actually wrote the book called why we don’t sleep the covers in more depth why there is so much and helpful information out there.
I hope this was helpful and feel free to send any question to the form here below and we will reply in open class!
www.thesleepcoachschool.com/have-questions