Bailey you should do a Dark History on gynecology because girl, it is DARK. The origins are messed up as heck and today we’re still not given painkillers for painful gynecological procedures even though men are offered painkillers for similar (but different) procedures
Be careful though girl, painkillers are definitely the humane way to go, but just remember they are addictive, especially when u have a real chronic pain issue with ur pelvic problems. I got them prescribed at 15 for what ended up being endometriosis and never got off them. I'm 37 now, just sayin be careful what u wish for. I almost wish they'd never given me any, but I do get what ur saying totally. It's the principle.
I remember when I started my job in 2006 and each floor in each building had a closet with everything you needed for your period. And it was free. This company was owned by a woman.
Such a great idea! We don’t do this, but I noticed something like this was missing, so I started keeping a stash of period products in my office and always notify female employees that they can take what they need.
I’m a gamer, and most of my online friends are men. We spend so much time together and talk about everything going on in our lives. I openly talk about my period, and while at first they were hesitant about it, they eventually became very comfortable with it. Whenever someone new would join the group, that person would ask me to stop or exhibit discomfort, but my friends would stand up for me and ask why they were so afraid of the topic. Eventually, I feel like I really changed the minds of a lot of men, and it’s something small that I’m proud of.
Just wanna share my experience. I come from a religious muslim family. My parents actually celebrated my first period, because it's a sign that you are grown and mature enough to pray. Also, nobody ever shamed me for eating during Ramadan. It really depends, everybody's experiences are different.
I hid my first period. I felt ashamed and embarrassed. I got period products from school and hid them in my room. My mom eventually found the evidence. She still didn't make me feel like I shouldn't be ashamed.
Yeah tbh no one cares if I eat during Ramadan, they know and they won't ask questions. The only ones who ask are little kids who are just starting to learn about Ramadan and don't know what periods are LOL
Honestly we should talk about periods as much as possible, I’m so tired of making myself more digestible for dudes who don’t wipe but think periods are gross.
So funny story. My husband caught onto my period patterns when we were first dating. He realized there was a weak where I was more quiet and grouchy (I never was mean but I had less patience for his shenanigans). So he would start giving me chocolate on our dates or show up to bring me a care package. After months, I told him how he always had lucky timing because I always crave chocolate on my period. He told me that he actually calculated my cycle and made sure I had chocolate. We are now married and we openly talk about my period so that he knows how to talk to any potential daughter we’ll have.
My husband keeps better track of my periods than I do. He marks them in his calendar so I don’t have to and does everything he can to take care of me during my horrible periods and understand my mood changes at this time. Men are totally capable of making space and time to understand what we go through, most just choose not to.
I'd be okay with paying the period tax if it went toward giving free products to those who can't afford them. As well as medical research for female medical issues. Like PCOS.
That would make sense if there weren't billionaires who could LITERALLY (there is studies that prove it) end world hunger with less than 5% of their net worth. THEY should pay for public health, including period care!
@@MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts those people who can’t afford it would be benefited by that because some of the money would go to providing products for them
Honestly. Until I found out I had severe endometriosis I didn’t realize there’s barely any cures (other than hysterectomy) or research on it. And 1 IN 10 WOMEN HAVE IT TO SOME DEGREE! 😡 and yet when I literally can’t walk and have to go to ER I still have to work because “I’m just on my period”
I was in 5th grade and bled through my cheerleading uniform. A boy I had a crush on "sharpened his pencil" and whispered in my ear, "you have something on your hind end" then gave me his hoodie to put around my waist until I could get up to the nurse's office. To this day, I'm grateful it was him and not the mean girls.
@@Woosaidthat i think she was saying that he walked across the class room and pretended his pencil needed to be sharpened so that he could give her the info
I used to work at an *unnamed* sandwich shop and I told my boss that we needed a box of tampons in the back in case any of the female employees needed them. He told me that we should have our own tampons when we needed them. I gave him a bit of education and we had tampons from that point on.
When I got my first menstruations, my dad bought me a huge bag of candies and told me "Congrats on being a woman" and I was so touched and happy 🥺 I love that my dad isnt embarrassed to talk about periods (he better not be, we're 5 women and my dad is the only guy in the house 😂)
I was 11 when I got mine and every time someone said “aww you’re a woman now” I just wanted to curl up and die. Lol I still wanted to just be a kid didnt see it as a happy thing but I’m glad you were able to.
My 17 year old son offered to go get my "Aunt flo" supplies one day when I was miserable.. I looked at him like 😳 "that would embarrass you!" He said "why? I don't care what people think"
Thats amazing. I remembered being uncomfortable with a friend holding a big ole thing of pads at Walmart n trying to talk to me as a teenager. So I find ur son is awesome. U did an amazing job mom
THANK YOU! I had a woman ask me why when I said that. 🤦♀️ Every woman in their life is going to bleed. How about we treat it like any other scientific subject and explain it.
When I was a prefect at secondary school I was on duty in the first year block. I sent all the girls outside for their break when I heard crying coming from behind a coat. First year girls were between 11 and 12. I pulled back the coat to see a girl crouching on the bench with her face in her hands. She looked up and said " I'm dying I'm dying help me." I knew what was wrong but I had to take it slowly. She was having her first period but she thought she was bleeding to death. Her mum had told her nothing. I didn't know why her mum hadn't said anything but I had to help. I explained the basics cause I knew in the next couple of weeks she would be told about periods. I got her to have a shower, got her some pads and clothes out of the lost property box. What I haven't mentioned is when I first found her and was talking to her, my head of year had come up to the first block and started shouting at me that all first year had to be out in the playground. I looked him in the eyes and said " you explain why she is bleeding in her pants ". He avoided any eye contact with me for weeks. The following day the girl gave me a thank you card and a big hug and that same night she had had a talk with her mum. The reason that she hadn't had the talk with her mum was because she felt that it would be at least another year. Please make sure all your children, boys and girls are able to talk and understand about periods before it happens to their child. Thanks Bailey.
this reminds me of an essay my sister wrote a few weeks ago about periods and how society is uncomfortable by them. her male teacher proceeded to prove her point by criticizing her topic heavily and trying to make her feel weird about it. like sir, you’re part of why she felt the need to write about it.
I hope she took it to someone else at the school to prove her point. My school had major issues with it, not even mentioning that periods were a thing when I was there, until maybe grade 11 biology. I did know the secret pad stash in a closet with the printer paper, and later on, they added more options for pads, a couple spare uniforms (they were unisex, so sometimes the guys used them if they got full of mud outside), and then eventually had a cardboard stand in the girls change room that had free samples of Tampax products. I had graduated by the time that was put up, but friends mentioned how great it was. I've even seen some university washrooms have free pads in a basket by the sink, and I keep wondering... Why doesn't every public washroom have free stuff? At least every school should.
@@jlbeeen yeah my school would actually make girls feel bad if they were carrying their period bags (not even the padds!) Out in the open, and if you needed pads you had to pay the nurse 25¢ for em
My church supported it, but I got SO much “advice” when we had a church group to sew washable pads for women/girls in an orphanage in Africa. They call it the “week of shame” and can not go to school free bleeding, but do not any means to control said bleeding. We made 1100 washable pads and got amazing emails from the founder…but yeah LOTS of men/women thought it was inappropriate to advertise our group. 🙄 doing it every year now for the past 9 years and it finally stoped.
Someone has to spend the time to make them and pay for the materials then costs of distribution. I wouldnt want to make people work for free alot of companies that make products do donate some though
Growing up I never heard about the taboo around periods until I learned about it on the internet. I feel blessed to be Ojibway and wish everyone had these teachings growing up
@@marybritt4412 yet isn’t type two diabetes largely preventable by a lifestyle change? As I agree insulin should be free, I also recognize that many people need insulin because of poor lifestyle choices/knowledge. Now I know this doesn’t apply to everyone that needs insulin. However women are not born with an option to have or not have a period.
@@DivineIntent888 My son was a type 1 diabetic. He didn’t chose to have type 1 diabetes and it isn’t about lifestyle choices. I know only around 5% or less of all diabetes is type 1 but insulin in the states is not even slightly affordable! He was diagnosed at 24 and didn’t have insurance which led him to live with a glucose level in the 400’s! My son suffered a great deal of physical destruction from type 1 not being managed. You would think charities would help but they don’t. The amount of insulin he needed daily would cost 4k a month! I know he didn’t have that kind of money and neither did I so what was he supposed to do? That boy changed jobs several times trying to get the health insurance that would cover what he needed. In the long run my son died at 30! Yes he died from the lack of medical care and medication he needed to survive! He did get the insurance and was finally able to get into control over his glucose levels but it was way too late! Yes insulin should be free or at the very least affordable for everyone! Walmart had their $25 bottle of insulin but it doesn’t work like it should but better than not having any it just took years for us to discover it! Type 1 diabetics should have affordable products so they can actually survive! They didn’t chose to have type 1 diabetes! No one cares unless it is in your own front yard!
I have always tried to teach my daughters its natural, normal and nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. My ex-husband asked me to include him in a talk with our daughters about getting their periods so he would be prepared if it happened to them when they were at his house the first time for them. He wanted them to feel comfortable talking to him and he had us all go to the store together to get pads and anything I felt they should have to have at his house. I was actually shocked he came up with all this all on his own. We need to more open about it and not feel shame or embarrassment about it!
My husband has no problem getting my tampons/pads as long as I send him a picture of the package he's looking for. He'll even ask someone for help if he can't find the ones I want, no shame at all
me and my siblings (4 girls, 1 boy) and parents never had any issue talking about periods and stuff, we grew up knowing everything so it was an open topic in our household same with period products, body hair, and everything with puberty i always found it weird when girls were embarrassed to talk about periods and stuff
I just had a hysterectomy at 24 and couldn’t be more excited for the halting of my monthly blood river. I’ve never felt shameful about it but my mom has shushed me from talking about it “in a man’s presence” before. 🙄
I had an emergency hysterectomy after my second miracle baby girl at 31 and it's forever changed me. But I sure don't miss my painful monthly sometimes long months of bleeding and pain. But it does bother me knowing I can never try to even have more babies and also has kept me single for almost 7 years. I'm about to be 38 but at least I have my 2 miracles.
I had one at 49 due to heavy heavy bleeding - I would bleed so much several pads couldn't contain the blood - even at work- so yep- and I already had my kids- now 65 and 26 years of no periods and NOT MISSED at all
Ugh till this day I’m still embarrassed talking about my period. My mom never talked to me about it, and I remember being scared and alone when I got it. I’m trying to break that cycle, and I started by asking my brother to buy me tampons. Felt weird but liberating.
My little sister did the exact same thing. She needed some pads, and she couldn't afford them. My brother went to the store and bought her some. He's not the type of man that is uncomfortable with things like that. He's got loads of sisters, so he's used to it. lol But it still takes courage for a teenage girl to talk to her brother or any male about things like that. I wish I could give you a hug. I'm proud of you. Those are huge steps you're taking. I can tell you from experience that being able to talk about your menstration and the more you can embrace it, that will awaken a confidence within you like nothing else. Plus it eases stress to no that you don't have to be uncomfortable about it anymore.
Story time. When I was in my earlier twenties I had a ectopic pregnancy start to blow a fallopian tube at work, I didn’t even know I was pregnant! I suddenly started bleeding everywhere and was in excruciating pain. Instead of letting me go to get medical attention my male manager decided to scream at me in front of everyone because I didn’t know how to “control my period.” Thank goodness the owner had 4 daughters and knew this was not a period. I went the hospital. The boss reprimanded the manager and we had some sensitivity training, but it blows my mind that men have no idea what a period is actually like. Did he really think every month I leave a trail of blood behind me and black out due to pain? Smh
When I started my period, 16/17 years ago, I told my mom by sliding her a note. She responded with “oh great” in a sarcastic tone. Now, a few weeks ago, she was whispering about the marvelous thing I did for my own daughter, trying to get me to explain it to her younger friend. I said, don’t whisper, I’ll talk about it loud and proud. I got my daughter a “first period fun kit” goodies, diaries, pads, books, candies, fuzzy socks, etc etc. I have my daughter ready, informed, and kinda excited about when she is going to start. Changing the stigma one child at a time makes for a better future.
Absolutely love this! My daughter is only one but I will definitely be doing this for her💕 Your daughter is lucky to have a mama like you, and her (possible) future daughters will also thank you!
Been married for 13 years and my husband still doesn't want to hear about it. I tell him you need to know this if anything ever happens to me and I can't be around to get our daughter what she needs.
My high school fashion design teacher would have a small container filled with different kinds of pads and tampons. Regardless if you were a fashion student or not, you were more than welcome to get what you needed. Me, at the time being a 16-18 year old boy, SAW NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. I THOUGHT IT WAS AMAZING AND THE FEMININE PRODUCTS NEVER BOTHERED ME OR HARMED MY GRADES. I don’t get it, A lot of men want to date/marry a woman but then choose to ignore and belittle the real struggles women go thru. I want a world better for my sisters, my mother, my cousins and aunts. Let’s change it for them please.
That is/was a very mature way of dealing with what can be hard for some young men. I hope that more men adopt this mindset. I am lucky that my husband is like you, and will even go to the store for me if I needed it. We have an almost 3 yr old daughter, and if she is like the women in my family, it will be 4th-5th grade when she gets her first period. My husband had asked to be part of the conversation and has asked me to explain to him how the sizing/types of products work so he knows for the future. Thank you for being mature and forward thinking!
I remember the day I got my period, mum was at work and I couldn't reach the shelf she kept the tampons and pads. I was too embarrassed to ask my dad, one of my brother's though could see I was upset and took me to one side and asked me what was wrong, so I told him. He got me the pads, some painkillers and a hot water bottle. I'm fortunate in having a family that has always been quite open about things.
When I got my first period I was away on a day trip with my Dad. I was too embarrassed to tell him I had started bleeding so I kept a lot of toilet paper in my underwear. When I got home I told my mother and she shouted at me because I had blood on my underwear, then she gave me a pad and a sanitary belt to wear.
@@calilnalan isn’t that interesting?? I’ve heard of similar family dynamics before. Dad was the understanding one and mom was just like HOW DARREE YOUUU BLEEEED!!!
In islam when we practice our prayers or other practices like fasting we should be clean in every possible way, and this is applied for both men and women, and that's why we do ablution before praying. While women are menstruating, the non stop bleeding makes it difficult for her to keep here body clean of blood, that's why she doesn't pray nor fast in these days, acctually this is not the only reason why, it's also because, the female body goes through a lot at this time, kind of similar to what the body goes through in case of illness, with all that tiredness and lack of energy and pain,that's why she need to rest, even from the most holy thing that we are obligated to do 5 times aday (prayers).
@Sarafina Summers hello a Muslim woman here ✌🏻 the answer depends on which scholar you ask. But in general we can’t touch the Quran while menstruating but we can recite anything that we’ve memorised (the r certain chapters or verses from the Quran that we recite daily regardless of our periods). Plus, if the woman intends to memorise the whole Quran she is allowed to touch it since memorising the entire Quran is part of her goal. Hope this helps
@Sarafina Summers yeah praying is very important and while people do put emphasis on Quran recitation it is not an obligation to do everyday ... and as far as it goes about touching, many scholars have different views like u can touch indirectly (glove or anything) or just recite from your memory... what matters in the end are your intentions honestly
Thank you!! I got butthurt when she said “impure” without clarifying what that meant. Islam is already heavily criticized and we don’t need more negative feelings about it
My friends and other family members always thought it was so weird that me and my sister always talked very openly about our periods to our dad or brothers. Like if we needed tampons or pads, one of them would go bring it for us with no shame. I think it was because my mom has always been pretty open about anything and everything and talked to all of us (my brothers included) about female reproductive system.
I suffer from endometriosis and PCOS! Had no idea what either one really was until I was diagnosed. If we had more education I probably would have been diagnosed more than 10 years ago!
This reminds me of the time a young girl got caught stealing at a Target. Security stopped her and opened the bag she had put the items in. Security dumped it right on the spot and pads, toothbrush, toothpaste, and deodorant etc fell out. She looked embarrassed. I felt bad because she was clearly stealing things she needed. She wasn’t stealing makeup, or things you don’t need. She was stealing hygienic items. 😞😔
This is so sad that women and men have this real struggle for needed hygiene items. I mean they can always go to a place where they are donated but...they may not have a place available to them. They should ALL have access to these items because it starts the vicious cycle of prices go up...SMH ✌️🌹
Bailey, I LOVE your vulnerability in telling an embarrassing story. These are things that happen ... whenever I make any kind of mistake, instead of beating myself up the way I once did, I tell myself, "other people have done this before too." It really helps. YOU are a real one👏👏
Shout out to Bailey for shouting out my peoples culture and history and including us in your little lesson. And shout out to my people for not being so misogynistic(my tribe the Ojibwe or anishinabe if you will, specifically the turtle mounting chippewa band)
A few years ago I worked at two different Starbucks. The one managed by a man barely had bandaids in the back, much less pads and tampons. The one managed by a woman had a whole locker dedicated to bandaids, ibuprofen, pads, tampons, hair ties, everything. Revolutionary. Edit: spelling🤪
I had toxic shock syndrome in 1981 and it was miserable. I ended up in the hospital for 5 days and received IV antibiotics. I never thought I would have children but in 1993 at the age of 35 I gave birth to a healthy beautiful baby girl.
I’m glad your were ok. I lost a friend about 15 yrs ago to toxic shock. She was in her 20’s but happened to get the flu and was on her period, unfortunately her body was not strong enough to fight. She fell asleep in the sofa because she was not feeling well and her husband had a big job interview coming up, he found her in the morning she had passed away during the night l.
Hey Bailey I’m a big fan of ur channel and I was fortunate enough to discover your channel in 2019. I wanted to comment on this video because there is a misconception to why women don’t pray and fast while having their periods in Islam. It’s not because we are considered not pure actually it’s because most of us women during our period we need to rest drink worm beverages and eat and the reason we make up for the days we didn’t fast in it after Ramadan is because it’s a one holly month in the year on the other hand we don’t make up for the prayers.
EXACTLY when I heard what she said I was extremely upset bcuz this just adds on to the islamaphobia that Islam and Muslims get on the daily. The sad thing is she also made a “joke” about Ramadan. I’m not sure where she even got that info but it’s so wrong. Ex Muslims on Reddit r cheering her on and bashing Muslims and Islam wow
I'm 45 now. When I got my period, I remember my grandma who was born in 1911, telling me how it was for her and her sister growing up. Their mom cut up squares from quilts to put in their bloomers. She said whenever they got new dresses, they would cut up their old dresses too, so "rags". They walked or rode horses to country school. She said the winter was the worst, because on the way home it would leak and freeze down their legs. Their legs were always chapped and sore. Poor Grandma.
My great grandmother used to have to stay home from school when she was on her period before high school. They wouldn't allow young girls to come to school on their period before 9th grade. Crazy right?! She was born in 1913, so they had rags as well. I remember my grandmother (born in 1936) telling me about the belts for pads and my mother (born in 1962) telling me when they finally came out with pads like today(sticky back) and tampons were easily available, when she was a teenager in the mid to late 70s. I'm 33 and I feel so lucky for the leaps and bounds that have been made jn period care. We still need more to be done, especially research for those of us who have issues like ENDO and cysts. I can't believe it is 2022 and I'm still told to tske Tylenol and lie down. Ugh.
I'm from Scotland and in school we have baskets filled with free pads and tampons in the toilets. Also before the first covid lockdown, the girls got a huge box of free pads, tampons, and even moon cups ! We also can sign up for free products being delivered to our house, or at least where I am.☺️
That is awesome. At my daughters school i help out and was informed only the nurse can do anything at all, and she is only allowed to hand out those very thick hospital pads and give a pair of old pants if needed.. i threw a fit and said you should immediately call the parent if thats the little help you offer
At Nottingham university in England where I am there are free pads and tampons in the bathrooms for people . They were put in about a year ago, such a nice idea for people who need them.
The night of the day I got my period, I went over to my best friend’s house, and she wouldn’t let me sleep on any bed or couch because she said it was gross… so I had to sleep on the floor. I was like… girl you’re only about year away from this yourself…
I'm surprised she didn't go into more detail about why tampons were seen as unchaste because of the insertion. They were/are also linked to the idea of losing one's virginity. I have friends whose mothers never let them use tampons because they were considered licentious.
I went to the bathroom at school the other day and I noticed someone put a basket on the sink containing pads and tampons with a sign that read “take what you need, donate what you can”. I thought that was pretty cool considering my school had never done anything like that before. Thank you, Bailey, for bringing awareness. You’re super awesome
If I had enough money I would do that too... Pads are expensive in my country and they're even taxed (the tax was 22% but fortunately they lowered it to 10% but they're still pretty expensive).
I have endometriosis and it took YEARS to get a diagnosis. Mainly male doctors told me I was fine and the pain was normal, woman’s health really needs to be talked about and researched more.
Many years and seven different doctors and none of them believed me. Said it was all in my head. By the time they got in there, it was A complete disaster!! I’ll spare everyone the gross details.
I'm still trying to find a reason why I have so much pain. Every doctor I go to is like "that's not normal" but can't give me a reason why because "everything is normal"...and pain meds have stopped working now.
@@akiko7298 same. 😕 I've had every endometriosis symptom since I was 11 but since I'm on birth control I can skip periods so my doctors don't really care about figuring out what's wrong. 🥴😅
I was on my death bed at the age of 15 due to TSS. The doctors actually told my mother I was not expected to survive the night. This was in 1999 and I was in a coma for approximately 2 weeks.
I love that in this series she really uses her platform to shine a light on injustice and all the things that could easily be fixed if we all rised together
I found myself homeless with a 1 year old daughter and a new born baby boy. It was hard to get them help with pampers cause I was not mentally there. Then my period came down. I was debating on stealing them. I stood there but I couldn't. Then the woman at the store chased me outside. I did take the pampers so I ran. Turns out she bought the pampers I took and extra plus some pads and pull up. Idk who she was but I would want to let her know, cause of that day I turned my life around. I'm an adjuster and both my kids are healthy. Thank you ma'am
OR if each box of pads/ tampons came with a prize like cereal boxes used to. Popping open some liners and finding a Chick fil a gift card and a candy bar would definitely change my mood!
@Terri Coleson this is the cutest description of a product ever they need to use that in theyre marketing plan 😭🤣 and if they don’t I will gladly hire you for cute phrases also xD cuz u sound like u have an adorable outlook 😭😭lol
Bailey, I just posted this on reddit. I'm so ashamed I haven't seen this sooner. You are so informative and not prejudiced towards "the fragile men" in anyway. I hope it takes off
Menstruating as well as breastfeeding women are exempt from fasting in Ramadan as a form of mercy, not because they are seen as impure. It's generally seen as courteous to avoid eating/drinking in front of fasters to avoid being a source of temptation. That being said, it's true that women are often shamed into hiding the fact that they are not fasting, but that's more to do with culture than religion.
My daughter's high school has recently installed dispensers in the bathrooms that provide free pads or tampons to help with period poverty. I think that's an awesome thing, and something that should have been done a long time ago.
I'm a steel worker (that does outdoor manual labor) and I CONSTANTLY tell the men that I work with when I'm bleeding and that I should not be able to be out working them while I'm "shedding".. and I truly think that because of my honesty they really do think about it and act accordingly
As Muslima I have to say you made some mistakes but I don't think you did it on purpose. One of the reasons is because its unhealthy to fast while being on period and because blood should never have something to do with prayer and the thing with being a shamed is a thing which depends on culture not religion. If Man do shame women , they are doing a sin
So sad she didn’t talk to a Muslim whose culture is not negatively affecting their religious beliefs. I don’t think she did this on purpose either but she has a team who works with her so I feel they did a sloppy job as a whole 😕 culture is often mixed up with religion.
@@asiyab7009 you’re so right but I’m still quite disappointed ngl might unsubscribe because this misinformation is what leads to Islam being seen as a bad religion by many
@@asmrtpop2676if it's a Wound which you can clean and treat you should do that first, if it is a chronik disorder ofcourse you are allowed to pray with it
I’m a reptile owner and reptiles have a “shed cycle”, so intern, I consider mine ‘lizard week ‘😂 I recently noticed that me and my young ball python are on the same “cycle” and is a running joke between me and my fiancé 😂
@@marissakaye6206 🤣🤣🤣 me & my homegirls (co workers) were talking about shark week in winter how we need watch shows, get rest, eat hella food, some ish & one of our guy friend chimed in like idk what this shark week is all about but I need to get on it.. we just started crackin up he was like what!? End convo let’s get back to work. He was so confused we eventually told him no you don’t want to be synced with us. “Auntie flo is visiting & she not welcome.” 🦈
I say "I'm closed for maintenance" LOL No lie, I would actually like the menstral seclusion like the Ojibwe - like spiritual, peace, bonding between generations. That would be so awesome! ♥
Soooo… I cried today because I’m on my period. I’m moody and I’m in pain. I felt so bad today that I decided to just stay at home in bed. So seeing this now is the perfect timing lol my boyfriend hugged me for a long time and almost went late to work because he tried to comfort me. Bless him
I watched a 30-something year old man have a meltdown over the fact I (a manager) put tampons and pads in the first aid box at work. Out of 20 employees, only 4 were men and had absolutely no problem with it.
Tampons and pads are actually asked for by men in the army as they are great for bullet wounds and bleeding injuries as they plug holes and absorb a load of blood
Im Ojibway and did my berry fast when I started my time. It really was a time of self reflection and learning how to say no and taught me about so many things about myself. Im extremely grateful for the experience. Thank you for being so respectful and for kind words about it ❤️❤️
This is so great! My grandma was Ojibway from Quebec, unfortunately she didn't pass down any traditions to her children. She became Catholic and left her home when she married (at 16) to a white man. It's really a shame that such a big part of our heritage was kept from my mother and by proxy, myself. I didn't even know of this tradition until today. It makes me happy that folks still practice this wonderful tradition. Thank you for sharing x
It was and is handled in a far better way than it is by many other parts of the world, even if in those areas its not for cultural or religious reasons. Its often just men saying "ew"
I started talking to my son about periods when he was 3. I forgot to lock the bathroom door, he barged in while I was changing my pad, and asked me what I was doing. After shooing him out so I can finish, we had a talk. We’ve had a couple more detailed talks about everything involving periods, and he is very understanding. Since age 5 (he’s 11 now) he does his best to take care of me during that time. He refills my downstairs stash if he notices they’re getting low, and doesn’t ask me for much.
I remembered when I first got my period (I was 10 years old), I cried because how uncomfortable pads were (and tampons were not in my mom's dictionary) and my dad scolded at me to stop crying and complaining and "it's your fault you go through this because you were born a girl!". More than 10 years past, and that sentence still haunts me.
I’m indigenous from Canada and Montana, when we do beadwork which is traditional jewelry and items; we’re not supposed to do it while we’re on our period or in a bad mood because then the pain and energy goes into the beads rather then keeping it to ourselves. It’s looked at as a time to eat and rest :)
Hello Bailey, I love your Dark History podcast. I came from Tunisia and where Islam is the religion of the majority of people. When discussing Islam, there is two distinct things, social norms and religious instructions. Women on their period, pregnant, old people or people with chronic diseases are not allowed to fast in Ramadhan, because it is simply not healthy. So here women are allowed to eat but in their intimate spaces. This is mainly due to social norms where it is embarassing to let other people, especially men know that you're on your period. Nowadays, these ideas are being debated and addressed by feminists. Things are slowly changing.
yes! and it's not like only women that are on thier period and not fasting aren't allowed to eat infront of other fasting people, anyone who's not fasting isn't allowed to eat infront of a fasting person! and yes the social stigma of a mensturating woman is definitely real but it doesn't have any religious basis, nor does them being considered impure!! thank you i was just looking for this comment!
Ladies was anyone else today years old when you learned you've been a wizard for a long time? Also Raspberry leaf tea and shatavari herbs helps with bad cramps. Thanks for the vid 💜💜💜
I remember telling my niece I had my first accident in high school made her feel better when she had her first accident in middle school. It was actual proof that this can happen to anyone and it's perfectly okay! She felt so much less embarrassed knowing that someone she looked up to had to get picked up from school with a change of clothes.
I didn’t know period poverty was a thing. But socks, washcloths, toilet paper, paper towels, even old shirts have had to tide me over so I’m glad to hear there’s a whole movement!
Same! Cutting clothes, socks, etc and taping to grocery sacks so it wasn't get everywhere. So glad I'm past that. I feel so bad for anyone has do this.
Oh my goodness yes! I didn't realize it was a world wide thing. I just always felt shame in those situations when I've had to use "substitute means" to get by.
As a young teenager (12-14), my parents, nor my grandmother who had "custody" of me (I was actually homeless and pretty much completely on my own) would buy me menstrual products. I was told by my grandmother to use an old cleaning rag or a sock. Socks were precious for me as I had very few, so I used old rags or huge wads of stolen tp for a couple years.
It's a thing! I held my own period drive and we donated 288 packs of pads and 24 menstrual cups to women In a low income neighborhood we also held a small talk on how to properly use the cup and sterilize it.
When my daughters got their first periods I celebrated it with flowers a card and snacks. It's a milestone. There's times we talk about it at dinner. It's as natural as using the bathroom. Why shame it?
I remember I was so excited when I started my period. And then two days later, my aunt found out (I was staying with them for the weekend) and she congratulated me and I’m like “Why are you saying that?! You should be saying I’m sorry!!” It’s a lot of work. But not as much work as a baby. But I’ve also had cramps that were worse than when I was in labor (without pain relief).
@@sfspurri Two kids here but also polycystic and there is nothing more painful then those cyst cramps right before the period starts and cyst bursts. They far out do labor cramps.
When I was married we had 9 kids in the house. 5 boys and 4 girls. One stepdaughter was in HS and I don't know about her but the other 3 were 12yo and younger. And wouldn't you know it? Each girl popped as they grew up and I was the only parent in the house when they "blossomed", I ran up to Walgreens and bought both pads and tampons. My stepdaughters just had to figure it out. When my wife would come home she would get the news , and she would help them with a How To. Every time she would throw the tampons away. Indiana females are pad girls. Not even giving her daughters the option. We divorced and within a year , the two oldest got pregnant. And the youngest sweetheart Mary packed up and moved out. That family is Mormon, coocoo.....
I don't know about other religions, but in islam, a woman isn't considered impure, while on her period, on the contrary, she is suposed to be treated with more respect , as she is more sensitive, it's true that shaming does exist but it's more of a social thing than it's religious, it doesn't have any thing to do with islam, anyway, i really like your channel, i watch every episode of dark history, and M M and M, i really appreciate the efforts you make, thank you
I have a younger brother and made it a point to talk about my period around him and with him so he would be prepared for being with someone who menstruates. I love how guys would think they were the gross ones when some of them can't hear about tampons without blushing 🙄
@@Gingermermaid90 I did the same thing and now I swear he is the most supportive to his friends/coworkers. Idk why it’s so taboo to talk about it we should be able to talk about it freely.
maybe you could do one of these about the history of abortions and the criminalization of them! i think it would be insanely informative and interesting
Being on my period right now this was so interesting to watch and learn. I’ve menstruated for 16 years and still hate every month of it and never get used to this awful cycle 😂😂😂
Bailey: she had this guy bugging her, and he just kept on bugging, and bugging...and you know what she did??? Me: Whispers "Aquatafana" Bailey: she threw her menstrual cloth at him... Me&bailey: well that works.... 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
In witch covens, it was known that when bleeding, the women would sneak out of the homes in the middle of the night and go to those said huts, share stories, meditate and grow together as women. Truly inspiring 🙌
@@ariadneravenwillow9322 ok ok… let’s not get silly. I work in a female dominated job and left to their own devices, they go at each other. And that makes me sad. Cause they are all strong women, but it’s always a competition to see who’s alpha and who’s in who’s clique. I really respect those women at work that don’t play those games.
@@gustercc i literally said when left to our OWN devices. The men seperate us and leave us in that area of jealousy. It can be femaledominated but once u add men to the mix were all in competition. It doesn’t typically happen unless there are outside sources causing that friction, and to be the cause of the drama.
I remember going to middle school and I lived with only my dad. He didn’t quite understand nor did I tell him it when it would start. So I would go to the nurses office all time. Pads where 25 cents and tampons were $1. I would find spare change around the house just so I wouldn’t have to tell anyone 🥺
Have you ever looked into having an uterine/endometrial ablation? I know you've mention several times about your severe cramping and how you have no desire to have children. This could help in both departments 🤷♀️. I had one last year and I'm LOVING not having to deal with a period. ❣️
When my nieces, and later my daughter's, got their period I let them skip school the day of or after took them out to lunch at the place if their choice, answered any and all questions, gave them tips ect. and then we went shopping for a special gift of something they had been wanting. One girl we went to a spa and got pampered all day. It should be celebrated and made special like the passage it is and thereafter treated as normal and never shameful.
Right on! My best friend does a similar ritual with her daughters too, she has 3, but only 2 have reached the age of puberty. She put together a small kit for them to keep in the backpacks at all times just in case it happens somewhere other than at home. Then she takes them shopping for any snacks they want, let them take a day off school, and let’s them ask any questions or concerns they may have. I really admired the way she handled it. If I have kids I’d like to do the same thing:)
In Greece (in my neighborhood at least) they make a dessert and give it out to all the neighbors. We're all like family. Of course I got mine when I was visiting my grandmother without my mom there. I didn't want ALL the older ladies knowing! My grandma didn't do that lol she was more private
@@Megadextrious I'm going to have to remember the little kit for my grandbabies when they hit that age. I didn't really do it for my girls, and it's a great idea to have that stuff just in case
if men had the period they would be seen as "heroes" .. like "look how strong he is, he is going to work with all the cramps while bleeding! WOW" for sureeee
If you really think about it though, if men were the ones menstruating, they’d be the ones having children, therefore women would have always done the typically “masculine” things and be considered the “tough” ones.
I already loved you, but I love you even more. Thank you for using your platform to bring awareness to a very real problem. I hope your male audience didn’t “nope” out & actually was open minded enough to stay & learn something.
In early 2007 I was a nurse in an Internal Medicine clinic. A 35 year old patient came in for "abdominal pain". Long story short we had to do a pap smear. The provider found not 1, not 2 but 3 old tampons inside. The smell was bad even the patient started gagging. He was able to remove them & she was given a referral to a GYN for further follow up. That room was so putrid we had to close it off & have the cleaning team scour the room.
I almost said she should have been a teacher. But THEN they wouldn't let her teach ANYTHING!! THIS CHANNEL SHOULD BE REQUIRED FOR STUDENTS 7th GRADE & UP!
This joke is so stale, like no TH-cam didn’t teach you how to read, write, do basic math. She hasn’t taught anyone more then school has she’s just touched on topics school isn’t required to..
Had a total hysterectomy at age 27... my older sister was 21. Female cancer is huge in my family... why I had mine. But when our daughter started her period we celebrated it as her coming into womanhood. Our whole family went out for dinner at her favorite restaurant, grandparents, aunt, cousins and brother was there to celebrate with us. Her brother, who is 3 yrs older, he had his own party age 13... when I caught him checking out nekkked lady pics. Talk to your kids about their bodies and how much worth they are!!!
What could be lied about with “choice” does occur even if its how to tire one with lies about getting purposely mess’d up. Were you atomized, quantized? Cancer fiction leave a poor taste in ones mind upon reveal.
The Egyptian honey and cannabis trick for cramps might be pretty valid! The best luck I've personally had relieving period pain was from a suppository made from cannabis oil, cocoa butter and herbs. Would be worth trying!
Things I've learned about my own periods that may help others: - ask for anesthesia if you are going to get an IUD inserted. -ask for pain management when getting said IUD taken out as well. -refuse to give birth lying down. -gynecology today is still dangerous for many many menstruating people for a whole lot of different reasons. -you have the right to ask for any and all accommodations during your visit (lowered lights if possible, a female doctor, clear narration of what the doctor is doing, a nurse in the room with you and the doctor, etc).
@@sheiladurk7299 recent studies have shown that giving birth laying down can increase pain and labor duration overall, given that the whole lying down while giving birth thing was only made popular because King Louis the XIV of France started it bc of a weird fetish he had for watching it happen. Other ways of giving birth include squatting, on all fours, or even in a shallow pool to help ease some of the birthing pain according to traditional and indigenous birthing practices. While giving birth is something everyone should discuss with their doctor to figure out the best way for them, I would strongly suggest considering other birthing positions instead of laying down, as well as getting a doula or midwife to help the person through the process.
It’s interesting that in the US period products are considering medical items, here in the UK they were taxed as luxury items (until the tax was scrapped) whereas Men’s razors are taxed as necessity items. Cos ya know, shaving is super important but periods are for fun 🙄🙄
I work at a convenience store and women don't seem to be embarrassed AT ALL. Whenever I sell tampons or pads, I always offer to put it in a paper bag. I've worked there for two years and not once has any woman needed a bag. Not embarrassed at all. ✌🏻💜😇
It's not for everybody, but I'm so grateful for the company June Cup running their promotion for a $6 menstrual cup. Never would have tried one otherwise, since they are usually kind of expensive. Haven't had to buy any period products for about 3 years now.
Make her a “go bag”. You can buy a little makeup bag for $4 and add some pads/tampons and some underwear. Never, ever, be grossed out visibly if she comes to you to ask you to buy supplies. My husband will buy supplies every time he goes shopping “just in case”. I now have 8+ months worth of supplies stored in the closet but he has no problem telling our sons what they are, and why mom needs them. It’s normal in our house if I say “can you do xzy? I’m cramping and need to rest.” Your daughter may be physically unable to function for a day or two due to pain. My doc prescribed oxy because it’s SO bad. Some women never have pain, some it’s so bad it hurts to move. Whatever she says, believe her. We are all different and if she says she’s in pain, even if mom/siblings never were…it’s real. 🥰 the fact that you watched this shows you’re doing amazing things already.
My best friend has been living in Japan for years. Once she asked her manager if she could go home because she had menstrual cramps. She was called to HR for speaking about menstrual cramps in the office because "it makes your male coworkers uncomfortable" 😑
When Bailey talked about middle school about 36:40 I was thinking how I have educated my sisters girls and my son to not be ashamed or thinking it’s something ”tabu”. Maybe bc i didn’t have that safety anyone to rely ”things you dont want to talk about” and now my nieces are brilliant and brave women and my son understand girls with their periods 🤦♂️
My dad was a medic in the Army and I was actually more comfortable talking to him than my mother about my period. My mom taught me about pad sizes and that stuff but my dad explained how the period happens and never had a problem buying pads for me because he always said it was a natural biological action and nothing to be ashamed of or disgusted by.
I’m Muslim and when I get my period, I see it as taking a break from my religious obligations while I’m going through it. Yes, I do need to make up for the days of fasting I missed due to my period, but so do men and other women who miss days of fasting during Ramadan for any other reason such as being sick or traveling etc. Culture tells us periods are taboo but in Islam it’s a given break from religious obligations such as praying, fasting and reading the Quran. Regardless, this was such an interesting episode! 😊
Lillian Gilbreth was the mother of the original Cheaper by the Dozen family. Her story is super interesting. Her husband was an engineer and he shared everything about his work with her. When he died she was able to take over his job in order to support their 12 kids. She was an inventor as well. (yeah I know it's not the Steve Martin movie. Watch the original from 1950)
Bailey you should do a Dark History on gynecology because girl, it is DARK. The origins are messed up as heck and today we’re still not given painkillers for painful gynecological procedures even though men are offered painkillers for similar (but different) procedures
Yes, this has some Dark history for sure!!
I sooo would love this but gynaecology has ALOT of dark history
Yep those biopsies they require before different procedures are brutal! No pain killers 😑
yeah, Bailey, let's go! chop, chop! 😅
Be careful though girl, painkillers are definitely the humane way to go, but just remember they are addictive, especially when u have a real chronic pain issue with ur pelvic problems. I got them prescribed at 15 for what ended up being endometriosis and never got off them. I'm 37 now, just sayin be careful what u wish for. I almost wish they'd never given me any, but I do get what ur saying totally. It's the principle.
I remember when I started my job in 2006 and each floor in each building had a closet with everything you needed for your period. And it was free. This company was owned by a woman.
Such a great idea! We don’t do this, but I noticed something like this was missing, so I started keeping a stash of period products in my office and always notify female employees that they can take what they need.
I've seen the same thing in a restaurant's bathroom, also woman owned 😏
I worked at cvs and the few stores I worked in had pads and tampons in the bathroom I thought it was awesome! Everywhere should be like that.
goals
@Jessica Hubbard yes GOALS
most male bosses were so embarrassed when I spoke of periods.
They said yes just to shut me up.
I’m a gamer, and most of my online friends are men. We spend so much time together and talk about everything going on in our lives. I openly talk about my period, and while at first they were hesitant about it, they eventually became very comfortable with it. Whenever someone new would join the group, that person would ask me to stop or exhibit discomfort, but my friends would stand up for me and ask why they were so afraid of the topic. Eventually, I feel like I really changed the minds of a lot of men, and it’s something small that I’m proud of.
I'm very proud of you too! You sound like a very special person.
That's impressive.. gaming communities are notoriously known as cesspits of toxic masculinity.
This is Amazing!
That’s definitely not small. Kudos to you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I AM A WOMAN and I dont even want to hear about your period.
Just wanna share my experience. I come from a religious muslim family. My parents actually celebrated my first period, because it's a sign that you are grown and mature enough to pray. Also, nobody ever shamed me for eating during Ramadan. It really depends, everybody's experiences are different.
I agree
I hid my first period. I felt ashamed and embarrassed. I got period products from school and hid them in my room. My mom eventually found the evidence. She still didn't make me feel like I shouldn't be ashamed.
Yeah tbh no one cares if I eat during Ramadan, they know and they won't ask questions. The only ones who ask are little kids who are just starting to learn about Ramadan and don't know what periods are LOL
During our periods in ramadan or other months we are fed more .
Your family sounds wonderful. I think that is beautiful. ❤
Honestly we should talk about periods as much as possible, I’m so tired of making myself more digestible for dudes who don’t wipe but think periods are gross.
Or wash their hands 🤢
Amen to that
Or shower in generap
This!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌
👏👏👏👏 Amen!!
So funny story. My husband caught onto my period patterns when we were first dating. He realized there was a weak where I was more quiet and grouchy (I never was mean but I had less patience for his shenanigans). So he would start giving me chocolate on our dates or show up to bring me a care package. After months, I told him how he always had lucky timing because I always crave chocolate on my period. He told me that he actually calculated my cycle and made sure I had chocolate. We are now married and we openly talk about my period so that he knows how to talk to any potential daughter we’ll have.
I wish all men were like your husband. Give him an extra hug for us. Chocolate and everything?! He must have a wonderful mother.
Sounds like he'll make a great daddy
I praise your husband
How my hubs is also ❤️❤️❤️. He kept better track than I did lol
And teach your potential son as well
My husband keeps better track of my periods than I do. He marks them in his calendar so I don’t have to and does everything he can to take care of me during my horrible periods and understand my mood changes at this time. Men are totally capable of making space and time to understand what we go through, most just choose not to.
can we officially called our period time “burning the toad”? so much better than “on the rag”
I love it 😂😂😂
I call it shark week
Lol,southerners have the expression "aunt flo is visiting"
My grandma calls it on my tree😂
@@mariahpenwell6913 we use this in canada too loool 🙈
I'd be okay with paying the period tax if it went toward giving free products to those who can't afford them. As well as medical research for female medical issues. Like PCOS.
That would make sense if there weren't billionaires who could LITERALLY (there is studies that prove it) end world hunger with less than 5% of their net worth. THEY should pay for public health, including period care!
A tax? What about poor people & homeless people?!
Idt I can watch this, it’s bringing back memories of dry cotton ripping tampons 😭😭😭
@@MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts those people who can’t afford it would be benefited by that because some of the money would go to providing products for them
Honestly. Until I found out I had severe endometriosis I didn’t realize there’s barely any cures (other than hysterectomy) or research on it. And 1 IN 10 WOMEN HAVE IT TO SOME DEGREE! 😡 and yet when I literally can’t walk and have to go to ER I still have to work because “I’m just on my period”
@@heresakissmuah Telling other people how to spend their money isn't a solution, it's an excuse. Are you for or against a Period Tax?
I was in 5th grade and bled through my cheerleading uniform. A boy I had a crush on "sharpened his pencil" and whispered in my ear, "you have something on your hind end" then gave me his hoodie to put around my waist until I could get up to the nurse's office. To this day, I'm grateful it was him and not the mean girls.
sounds believable
Why’s sharpened his pencil in quotes? Is that something?
@@Woosaidthat i think she was saying that he walked across the class room and pretended his pencil needed to be sharpened so that he could give her the info
That was so sweet of him
I’m raising my son to be this way. I hope it sticks with him
I used to work at an *unnamed* sandwich shop and I told my boss that we needed a box of tampons in the back in case any of the female employees needed them. He told me that we should have our own tampons when we needed them. I gave him a bit of education and we had tampons from that point on.
When I got my first menstruations, my dad bought me a huge bag of candies and told me "Congrats on being a woman" and I was so touched and happy 🥺 I love that my dad isnt embarrassed to talk about periods (he better not be, we're 5 women and my dad is the only guy in the house 😂)
I was 11 when I got mine and every time someone said “aww you’re a woman now” I just wanted to curl up and die. Lol I still wanted to just be a kid didnt see it as a happy thing but I’m glad you were able to.
My 17 year old son offered to go get my "Aunt flo" supplies one day when I was miserable.. I looked at him like 😳 "that would embarrass you!"
He said "why? I don't care what people think"
You raised a great young man!!!!! Bravo!!!!
Thats amazing. I remembered being uncomfortable with a friend holding a big ole thing of pads at Walmart n trying to talk to me as a teenager. So I find ur son is awesome. U did an amazing job mom
**ding ding** you win. He wins. Winning family of awesomeness!!! ❤️
Not all heroes wear capes. I don't even think he realizes how big of a deal that is for him to do that.
How sweet! My boyfriend was doing that for me until it finally stopped when I was about 46!
Educate your daughters on periods, but don’t neglect to educate your sons as well.
THANK YOU!
I had a woman ask me why when I said that. 🤦♀️
Every woman in their life is going to bleed. How about we treat it like any other scientific subject and explain it.
It’s taught in Health Education now in schools too.
@@dietlindvonhohenwald448 lol not really 😂
@@camilledvorak7151 Trans women are women. Your statement is not only incorrect but harmful.
All genders can and do have periods, including men.
When I was a prefect at secondary school I was on duty in the first year block. I sent all the girls outside for their break when I heard crying coming from behind a coat. First year girls were between 11 and 12. I pulled back the coat to see a girl crouching on the bench with her face in her hands. She looked up and said " I'm dying I'm dying help me." I knew what was wrong but I had to take it slowly. She was having her first period but she thought she was bleeding to death. Her mum had told her nothing. I didn't know why her mum hadn't said anything but I had to help. I explained the basics cause I knew in the next couple of weeks she would be told about periods. I got her to have a shower, got her some pads and clothes out of the lost property box. What I haven't mentioned is when I first found her and was talking to her, my head of year had come up to the first block and started shouting at me that all first year had to be out in the playground. I looked him in the eyes and said " you explain why she is bleeding in her pants ". He avoided any eye contact with me for weeks. The following day the girl gave me a thank you card and a big hug and that same night she had had a talk with her mum. The reason that she hadn't had the talk with her mum was because she felt that it would be at least another year. Please make sure all your children, boys and girls are able to talk and understand about periods before it happens to their child. Thanks Bailey.
Fortunately, in Ohio, they have passed the no-tax law for period products, which really does help a lot.
that’s amazing
It should be, because it’s a necessity. I hope they did the same for toilet paper.
this reminds me of an essay my sister wrote a few weeks ago about periods and how society is uncomfortable by them. her male teacher proceeded to prove her point by criticizing her topic heavily and trying to make her feel weird about it. like sir, you’re part of why she felt the need to write about it.
Bruh
I hope she took it to someone else at the school to prove her point. My school had major issues with it, not even mentioning that periods were a thing when I was there, until maybe grade 11 biology. I did know the secret pad stash in a closet with the printer paper, and later on, they added more options for pads, a couple spare uniforms (they were unisex, so sometimes the guys used them if they got full of mud outside), and then eventually had a cardboard stand in the girls change room that had free samples of Tampax products. I had graduated by the time that was put up, but friends mentioned how great it was. I've even seen some university washrooms have free pads in a basket by the sink, and I keep wondering... Why doesn't every public washroom have free stuff? At least every school should.
I really hope the teacher got the irony of his complaints
@@jlbeeen yeah my school would actually make girls feel bad if they were carrying their period bags (not even the padds!) Out in the open, and if you needed pads you had to pay the nurse 25¢ for em
My church supported it, but I got SO much “advice” when we had a church group to sew washable pads for women/girls in an orphanage in Africa. They call it the “week of shame” and can not go to school free bleeding, but do not any means to control said bleeding. We made 1100 washable pads and got amazing emails from the founder…but yeah LOTS of men/women thought it was inappropriate to advertise our group. 🙄 doing it every year now for the past 9 years and it finally stoped.
If condoms can be given out for free all over then why can we not get female products for free! Love that Bailey talks about topics like these!
Finally happening in the military.
Someone has to spend the time to make them and pay for the materials then costs of distribution. I wouldnt want to make people work for free alot of companies that make products do donate some though
This right here 👏🏻
@@shilohamandakoreen5964so condoms don’t require materials or work production ? They just grow on trees so we can pluck them out ???
@@shilohamandakoreen5964people and machines makes condoms too…
Proud of Scotland 🏴 We get free sanitary products in public restrooms. Thanks for mentioning it Bailey, I hope other countries follow!
Growing up I never heard about the taboo around periods until I learned about it on the internet. I feel blessed to be Ojibway and wish everyone had these teachings growing up
"Menstrual products should be free."
Some people: "well then so should insulin and chemotherapy"
Most of us: 👁️👄👁️ Uhhhh yeah?
This is about every female in the world that goes through this. The number of people that need insulin does not compare.
@@marybritt4412 But its also something needed for survival an general wellbeing so its just as relevant
@@marybritt4412 yet isn’t type two diabetes largely preventable by a lifestyle change? As I agree insulin should be free, I also recognize that many people need insulin because of poor lifestyle choices/knowledge. Now I know this doesn’t apply to everyone that needs insulin. However women are not born with an option to have or not have a period.
...and BEER!
@@DivineIntent888 My son was a type 1 diabetic. He didn’t chose to have type 1 diabetes and it isn’t about lifestyle choices. I know only around 5% or less of all diabetes is type 1 but insulin in the states is not even slightly affordable! He was diagnosed at 24 and didn’t have insurance which led him to live with a glucose level in the 400’s! My son suffered a great deal of physical destruction from type 1 not being managed. You would think charities would help but they don’t. The amount of insulin he needed daily would cost 4k a month! I know he didn’t have that kind of money and neither did I so what was he supposed to do? That boy changed jobs several times trying to get the health insurance that would cover what he needed. In the long run my son died at 30! Yes he died from the lack of medical care and medication he needed to survive! He did get the insurance and was finally able to get into control over his glucose levels but it was way too late! Yes insulin should be free or at the very least affordable for everyone! Walmart had their $25 bottle of insulin but it doesn’t work like it should but better than not having any it just took years for us to discover it! Type 1 diabetics should have affordable products so they can actually survive! They didn’t chose to have type 1 diabetes! No one cares unless it is in your own front yard!
I have always tried to teach my daughters its natural, normal and nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. My ex-husband asked me to include him in a talk with our daughters about getting their periods so he would be prepared if it happened to them when they were at his house the first time for them. He wanted them to feel comfortable talking to him and he had us all go to the store together to get pads and anything I felt they should have to have at his house. I was actually shocked he came up with all this all on his own. We need to more open about it and not feel shame or embarrassment about it!
You and your ex are amazing 👏🏽
This is awesome my dad used to go to the store and get my pads for me he was never embarrassed 🙌🏻
My husband has no problem getting my tampons/pads as long as I send him a picture of the package he's looking for. He'll even ask someone for help if he can't find the ones I want, no shame at all
me and my siblings (4 girls, 1 boy) and parents never had any issue talking about periods and stuff, we grew up knowing everything so it was an open topic in our household
same with period products, body hair, and everything with puberty
i always found it weird when girls were embarrassed to talk about periods and stuff
What a fantastic father my dad had me for my first and he went and bought 1 of everything
I just had a hysterectomy at 24 and couldn’t be more excited for the halting of my monthly blood river. I’ve never felt shameful about it but my mom has shushed me from talking about it “in a man’s presence” before. 🙄
I had an emergency hysterectomy after my second miracle baby girl at 31 and it's forever changed me. But I sure don't miss my painful monthly sometimes long months of bleeding and pain. But it does bother me knowing I can never try to even have more babies and also has kept me single for almost 7 years. I'm about to be 38 but at least I have my 2 miracles.
that is so lame of her.
It annoyed me Bailey said "its human".
Lots of other creatures on the planet do it
I had one at 49 due to heavy heavy bleeding - I would bleed so much several pads couldn't contain the blood - even at work- so yep- and I already had my kids- now 65 and 26 years of no periods and NOT MISSED at all
Ugh till this day I’m still embarrassed talking about my period. My mom never talked to me about it, and I remember being scared and alone when I got it. I’m trying to break that cycle, and I started by asking my brother to buy me tampons. Felt weird but liberating.
My little sister did the exact same thing. She needed some pads, and she couldn't afford them. My brother went to the store and bought her some. He's not the type of man that is uncomfortable with things like that. He's got loads of sisters, so he's used to it. lol But it still takes courage for a teenage girl to talk to her brother or any male about things like that.
I wish I could give you a hug. I'm proud of you. Those are huge steps you're taking. I can tell you from experience that being able to talk about your menstration and the more you can embrace it, that will awaken a confidence within you like nothing else. Plus it eases stress to no that you don't have to be uncomfortable about it anymore.
This makes me want to give you a hug! Being a woman is definitely difficult and you shouldn’t have had to go through it alone
I felt the same way. You are not alone. We just have to break the cycle.
@@sabrinazarogoza8686 you are so right!!!!thank you
Story time. When I was in my earlier twenties I had a ectopic pregnancy start to blow a fallopian tube at work, I didn’t even know I was pregnant! I suddenly started bleeding everywhere and was in excruciating pain. Instead of letting me go to get medical attention my male manager decided to scream at me in front of everyone because I didn’t know how to “control my period.” Thank goodness the owner had 4 daughters and knew this was not a period. I went the hospital. The boss reprimanded the manager and we had some sensitivity training, but it blows my mind that men have no idea what a period is actually like. Did he really think every month I leave a trail of blood behind me and black out due to pain? Smh
Whoa. That is insane.
He should've been sacked.
Glad he got reprimanded and yraining was given
He should have been fired!!
That’s insane ! Wow 😯 I cannot fathom
Yes honey. They are not the smartest bunch. I am so sorry that happened to you? How are you now after this awful sad passing?
When I started my period, 16/17 years ago, I told my mom by sliding her a note. She responded with “oh great” in a sarcastic tone.
Now, a few weeks ago, she was whispering about the marvelous thing I did for my own daughter, trying to get me to explain it to her younger friend. I said, don’t whisper, I’ll talk about it loud and proud. I got my daughter a “first period fun kit” goodies, diaries, pads, books, candies, fuzzy socks, etc etc. I have my daughter ready, informed, and kinda excited about when she is going to start. Changing the stigma one child at a time makes for a better future.
Absolutely love this! My daughter is only one but I will definitely be doing this for her💕 Your daughter is lucky to have a mama like you, and her (possible) future daughters will also thank you!
@@kylabella05 Thats really nice, I feel we all need a 'fun kit' monthly!
@@aye70aye I agree…I may have to create one.
That is so sweet. Don't forget the Advil.
Would be awesome for a monthly period kid with pads,tampons, candies, maybe fuzzy socks and a candle, coupon for pads n tampons
Been married for 13 years and my husband still doesn't want to hear about it. I tell him you need to know this if anything ever happens to me and I can't be around to get our daughter what she needs.
Can we do a history on the lack of male hygiene?
💀💀
My high school fashion design teacher would have a small container filled with different kinds of pads and tampons. Regardless if you were a fashion student or not, you were more than welcome to get what you needed.
Me, at the time being a 16-18 year old boy, SAW NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. I THOUGHT IT WAS AMAZING AND THE FEMININE PRODUCTS NEVER BOTHERED ME OR HARMED MY GRADES. I don’t get it, A lot of men want to date/marry a woman but then choose to ignore and belittle the real struggles women go thru. I want a world better for my sisters, my mother, my cousins and aunts. Let’s change it for them please.
All men need to adopt this mindset. I don't understand how it's so gross unless it's a fear of blood? Lol 😆
That is/was a very mature way of dealing with what can be hard for some young men. I hope that more men adopt this mindset. I am lucky that my husband is like you, and will even go to the store for me if I needed it. We have an almost 3 yr old daughter, and if she is like the women in my family, it will be 4th-5th grade when she gets her first period. My husband had asked to be part of the conversation and has asked me to explain to him how the sizing/types of products work so he knows for the future. Thank you for being mature and forward thinking!
I’ve personally never met a man who was grossed out by periods.
Beautiful
You give me hope. 🙌
I remember the day I got my period, mum was at work and I couldn't reach the shelf she kept the tampons and pads. I was too embarrassed to ask my dad, one of my brother's though could see I was upset and took me to one side and asked me what was wrong, so I told him. He got me the pads, some painkillers and a hot water bottle. I'm fortunate in having a family that has always been quite open about things.
When I got my first period I was away on a day trip with my Dad. I was too embarrassed to tell him I had started bleeding so I kept a lot of toilet paper in my underwear. When I got home I told my mother and she shouted at me because I had blood on my underwear, then she gave me a pad and a sanitary belt to wear.
He will be a great husband one day!
In my family my mam was the one who was grossed out and ashamed by periods but my dad didn't care and was always very helpful and understanding
@@calilnalan isn’t that interesting?? I’ve heard of similar family dynamics before. Dad was the understanding one and mom was just like HOW DARREE YOUUU BLEEEED!!!
@@SarahlabyrinthLHC oh no🥺
I’m sorry you got in trouble
In islam when we practice our prayers or other practices like fasting we should be clean in every possible way, and this is applied for both men and women, and that's why we do ablution before praying. While women are menstruating, the non stop bleeding makes it difficult for her to keep here body clean of blood, that's why she doesn't pray nor fast in these days, acctually this is not the only reason why, it's also because, the female body goes through a lot at this time, kind of similar to what the body goes through in case of illness, with all that tiredness and lack of energy and pain,that's why she need to rest, even from the most holy thing that we are obligated to do 5 times aday (prayers).
@Sarafina Summers hello a Muslim woman here ✌🏻 the answer depends on which scholar you ask. But in general we can’t touch the Quran while menstruating but we can recite anything that we’ve memorised (the r certain chapters or verses from the Quran that we recite daily regardless of our periods). Plus, if the woman intends to memorise the whole Quran she is allowed to touch it since memorising the entire Quran is part of her goal. Hope this helps
@Sarafina Summers yeah praying is very important and while people do put emphasis on Quran recitation it is not an obligation to do everyday ... and as far as it goes about touching, many scholars have different views like u can touch indirectly (glove or anything) or just recite from your memory... what matters in the end are your intentions honestly
Okay
@@imahallucination4532the reason why you cannot touch Quran is also because touching Quran requires ablution
Thank you!! I got butthurt when she said “impure” without clarifying what that meant. Islam is already heavily criticized and we don’t need more negative feelings about it
My friends and other family members always thought it was so weird that me and my sister always talked very openly about our periods to our dad or brothers. Like if we needed tampons or pads, one of them would go bring it for us with no shame. I think it was because my mom has always been pretty open about anything and everything and talked to all of us (my brothers included) about female reproductive system.
I suffer from endometriosis, and there really needs to be more education on women's health! And it needs to stop being a taboo! Excited for this 🙌🏼
I suffer from endometriosis and PCOS! Had no idea what either one really was until I was diagnosed. If we had more education I probably would have been diagnosed more than 10 years ago!
I agree!💜
Endo and pcos here, too. Had I known sooner, I wouldn't have lost so many babies. Sad how under diagnosed and treated we are as a whole.
AMEN 🙏!!
Same girl!! Had to have a total hysterectomy at age 31 due to endometriosis this year it'll be 11 years this needs to be talked more and more!!
This reminds me of the time a young girl got caught stealing at a Target. Security stopped her and opened the bag she had put the items in. Security dumped it right on the spot and pads, toothbrush, toothpaste, and deodorant etc fell out. She looked embarrassed. I felt bad because she was clearly stealing things she needed. She wasn’t stealing makeup, or things you don’t need. She was stealing hygienic items. 😞😔
that says a whole lot about the prices of hygienic items.
That is so sad!
Shoot. I would have paid for them on the spot and given her a ride home
Been there. When I was homeless I remember I was RELIEVED when I got skinny enough that my period stopped. Pretty sad.
This is so sad that women and men have this real struggle for needed hygiene items. I mean they can always go to a place where they are donated but...they may not have a place available to them. They should ALL have access to these items because it starts the vicious cycle of prices go up...SMH ✌️🌹
Bailey, I LOVE your vulnerability in telling an embarrassing story. These are things that happen ... whenever I make any kind of mistake, instead of beating myself up the way I once did, I tell myself, "other people have done this before too." It really helps. YOU are a real one👏👏
Shout out to Bailey for shouting out my peoples culture and history and including us in your little lesson. And shout out to my people for not being so misogynistic(my tribe the Ojibwe or anishinabe if you will, specifically the turtle mounting chippewa band)
A few years ago I worked at two different Starbucks. The one managed by a man barely had bandaids in the back, much less pads and tampons. The one managed by a woman had a whole locker dedicated to bandaids, ibuprofen, pads, tampons, hair ties, everything. Revolutionary.
Edit: spelling🤪
I work at a dominos managed by a man and we don’t even have a full first aid kit in the office, just bandaids.
Our first aid kit doesn’t even have bandaids - just a pair of scissors and one bandage - of course this department is run by a man
I had toxic shock syndrome in 1981 and it was miserable. I ended up in the hospital for 5 days and received IV antibiotics. I never thought I would have children but in 1993 at the age of 35 I gave birth to a healthy beautiful baby girl.
What exactly caused it? I’m curious because I myself use tampons
@@-alyssa-marie- They made them different then. The key is to change them often.
I’m glad your were ok. I lost a friend about 15 yrs ago to toxic shock. She was in her 20’s but happened to get the flu and was on her period, unfortunately her body was not strong enough to fight. She fell asleep in the sofa because she was not feeling well and her husband had a big job interview coming up, he found her in the morning she had passed away during the night l.
Binge watching Bailey re-runs gets me through the day -- Also.... CAN WE PLEASE HAVE ROBES OR SOMETHING THAT SAY "BRING ON THE TOADS" PLEASE?!
Make the robe !! I will buy one. Checking to see if you have them.
Hey Bailey I’m a big fan of ur channel and I was fortunate enough to discover your channel in 2019. I wanted to comment on this video because there is a misconception to why women don’t pray and fast while having their periods in Islam. It’s not because we are considered not pure actually it’s because most of us women during our period we need to rest drink worm beverages and eat and the reason we make up for the days we didn’t fast in it after Ramadan is because it’s a one holly month in the year on the other hand we don’t make up for the prayers.
EXACTLY when I heard what she said I was extremely upset bcuz this just adds on to the islamaphobia that Islam and Muslims get on the daily. The sad thing is she also made a “joke” about Ramadan. I’m not sure where she even got that info but it’s so wrong. Ex Muslims on Reddit r cheering her on and bashing Muslims and Islam wow
@@Lana-ws4qg same here sis ☹
Literally! this was so wrong and made me uncomfortable, unfortunately.
@@a7ngel It made me uncomfortable too, and couldn't watch the rest of the video
I'm 45 now. When I got my period, I remember my grandma who was born in 1911, telling me how it was for her and her sister growing up. Their mom cut up squares from quilts to put in their bloomers. She said whenever they got new dresses, they would cut up their old dresses too, so "rags". They walked or rode horses to country school. She said the winter was the worst, because on the way home it would leak and freeze down their legs. Their legs were always chapped and sore. Poor Grandma.
I'd never considered how much worse free bleeding / leaking would be in the freezing winter 👀
My grandmother told me similar stories as well when she got her period growing up.
My great grandmother used to have to stay home from school when she was on her period before high school. They wouldn't allow young girls to come to school on their period before 9th grade. Crazy right?! She was born in 1913, so they had rags as well. I remember my grandmother (born in 1936) telling me about the belts for pads and my mother (born in 1962) telling me when they finally came out with pads like today(sticky back) and tampons were easily available, when she was a teenager in the mid to late 70s. I'm 33 and I feel so lucky for the leaps and bounds that have been made jn period care. We still need more to be done, especially research for those of us who have issues like ENDO and cysts. I can't believe it is 2022 and I'm still told to tske Tylenol and lie down. Ugh.
I'm from Scotland and in school we have baskets filled with free pads and tampons in the toilets. Also before the first covid lockdown, the girls got a huge box of free pads, tampons, and even moon cups ! We also can sign up for free products being delivered to our house, or at least where I am.☺️
That is awesome. At my daughters school i help out and was informed only the nurse can do anything at all, and she is only allowed to hand out those very thick hospital pads and give a pair of old pants if needed.. i threw a fit and said you should immediately call the parent if thats the little help you offer
Lucky
I admire Scotland for this. The USA needs to provide this for women here.
At Nottingham university in England where I am there are free pads and tampons in the bathrooms for people . They were put in about a year ago, such a nice idea for people who need them.
That’s amazing!
The night of the day I got my period, I went over to my best friend’s house, and she wouldn’t let me sleep on any bed or couch because she said it was gross… so I had to sleep on the floor. I was like… girl you’re only about year away from this yourself…
I am so sorry
That would have been the last time that I hung out with her smh but I guess that’s more on her mother
Yeah, I wouldn’t continue to be this girl’s friend anymore unless she had a serious reeducation
I'm surprised she didn't go into more detail about why tampons were seen as unchaste because of the insertion. They were/are also linked to the idea of losing one's virginity. I have friends whose mothers never let them use tampons because they were considered licentious.
I went to the bathroom at school the other day and I noticed someone put a basket on the sink containing pads and tampons with a sign that read “take what you need, donate what you can”. I thought that was pretty cool considering my school had never done anything like that before. Thank you, Bailey, for bringing awareness. You’re super awesome
My daughter and her friends have been doing these baskets at school too. I think it is great.
Why did this make me tear up 🥹🥰🥰🥰
If I had enough money I would do that too... Pads are expensive in my country and they're even taxed (the tax was 22% but fortunately they lowered it to 10% but they're still pretty expensive).
I have endometriosis and it took YEARS to get a diagnosis. Mainly male doctors told me I was fine and the pain was normal, woman’s health really needs to be talked about and researched more.
Many years and seven different doctors and none of them believed me. Said it was all in my head. By the time they got in there, it was A complete disaster!! I’ll spare everyone the gross details.
I'm still trying to find a reason why I have so much pain. Every doctor I go to is like "that's not normal" but can't give me a reason why because "everything is normal"...and pain meds have stopped working now.
I had the same experience I was passing out from pain and being told I was fine
Eve was more likely PMSing when she ate the apple 🍎 * ThankYou for being "Humorous" Not "Silly" ⚘
@@akiko7298 same. 😕 I've had every endometriosis symptom since I was 11 but since I'm on birth control I can skip periods so my doctors don't really care about figuring out what's wrong. 🥴😅
I was on my death bed at the age of 15 due to TSS. The doctors actually told my mother I was not expected to survive the night. This was in 1999 and I was in a coma for approximately 2 weeks.
I love that in this series she really uses her platform to shine a light on injustice and all the things that could easily be fixed if we all rised together
I found myself homeless with a 1 year old daughter and a new born baby boy. It was hard to get them help with pampers cause I was not mentally there. Then my period came down. I was debating on stealing them. I stood there but I couldn't. Then the woman at the store chased me outside. I did take the pampers so I ran. Turns out she bought the pampers I took and extra plus some pads and pull up. Idk who she was but I would want to let her know, cause of that day I turned my life around. I'm an adjuster and both my kids are healthy. Thank you ma'am
Awe that's so nice of her. But I'm so sorry to ask and u don't have to answer but what about the children's father? Didn't he help in any way?
OR if each box of pads/ tampons came with a prize like cereal boxes used to. Popping open some liners and finding a Chick fil a gift card and a candy bar would definitely change my mood!
@Terri Coleson this is the cutest description of a product ever they need to use that in theyre marketing plan 😭🤣 and if they don’t I will gladly hire you for cute phrases also xD cuz u sound like u have an adorable outlook 😭😭lol
now that is a genius idea! I second that
I actually have seen some really cute period subscription boxes and they have period items plus candy and chocolate.
😊😊😎😎. 💯💯
@@ariadneravenwillow9322 Righttt!!
Bailey, I just posted this on reddit. I'm so ashamed I haven't seen this sooner. You are so informative and not prejudiced towards "the fragile men" in anyway. I hope it takes off
Menstruating as well as breastfeeding women are exempt from fasting in Ramadan as a form of mercy, not because they are seen as impure. It's generally seen as courteous to avoid eating/drinking in front of fasters to avoid being a source of temptation.
That being said, it's true that women are often shamed into hiding the fact that they are not fasting, but that's more to do with culture than religion.
EXACTLY thank you
“It’s uncomfortable to talk about sometimes. So, yeah, we’re gonna talk about it.”
And that’s why we live you, babe. ❤️💕
Yess!!
My daughter's high school has recently installed dispensers in the bathrooms that provide free pads or tampons to help with period poverty. I think that's an awesome thing, and something that should have been done a long time ago.
I remember every type of those dispensers would cost money, plus they'd all be empty lol
My school has free dispensers, but they're always empty
I'm a steel worker (that does outdoor manual labor) and I CONSTANTLY tell the men that I work with when I'm bleeding and that I should not be able to be out working them while I'm "shedding".. and I truly think that because of my honesty they really do think about it and act accordingly
As Muslima I have to say you made some mistakes but I don't think you did it on purpose. One of the reasons is because its unhealthy to fast while being on period and because blood should never have something to do with prayer and the thing with being a shamed is a thing which depends on culture not religion. If Man do shame women , they are doing a sin
So sad she didn’t talk to a Muslim whose culture is not negatively affecting their religious beliefs. I don’t think she did this on purpose either but she has a team who works with her so I feel they did a sloppy job as a whole 😕 culture is often mixed up with religion.
@@asiyab7009 you’re so right but I’m still quite disappointed ngl might unsubscribe because this misinformation is what leads to Islam being seen as a bad religion by many
Just curious but what about actual blood clotting or bruising related disorders?
@@asmrtpop2676if it's a Wound which you can clean and treat you should do that first, if it is a chronik disorder ofcourse you are allowed to pray with it
I’m a reptile owner and reptiles have a “shed cycle”, so intern, I consider mine ‘lizard week ‘😂 I recently noticed that me and my young ball python are on the same “cycle” and is a running joke between me and my fiancé 😂
Not a snake person, but that's adorable
Okay, your "lizard week" is cooler than my "shark week". I applaud you.
@@marissakaye6206 🤣🤣🤣 me & my homegirls (co workers) were talking about shark week in winter how we need watch shows, get rest, eat hella food, some ish & one of our guy friend chimed in like idk what this shark week is all about but I need to get on it.. we just started crackin up he was like what!? End convo let’s get back to work. He was so confused we eventually told him no you don’t want to be synced with us. “Auntie flo is visiting & she not welcome.” 🦈
I’m also a snake owner, and this is amazing.
Brilliant 🤣🤣
I say "I'm closed for maintenance" LOL No lie, I would actually like the menstral seclusion like the Ojibwe - like spiritual, peace, bonding between generations. That would be so awesome! ♥
Right!!
U sound like black people
I say I'm getting my thingies :D
That’s wat I call it too lol…or “I’m under construction”
@@aoifeandginny5569thingies? more then one?
Soooo… I cried today because I’m on my period. I’m moody and I’m in pain. I felt so bad today that I decided to just stay at home in bed. So seeing this now is the perfect timing lol my boyfriend hugged me for a long time and almost went late to work because he tried to comfort me. Bless him
Bailey: I would like for men to one day…
Me: SHUT THE F*CK UP ABOUT IT.
Bailey: … to experience bad cramps.
Me: oh, yeah that too. 😂
I watched a 30-something year old man have a meltdown over the fact I (a manager) put tampons and pads in the first aid box at work. Out of 20 employees, only 4 were men and had absolutely no problem with it.
Bruh what exactly was his criticism 😂
dude scared of cotton
His masculinity is so weak he gets meltdowns over women helping other women
It’s ridiculous that it bothered the man so much lol.
Tampons and pads are actually asked for by men in the army as they are great for bullet wounds and bleeding injuries as they plug holes and absorb a load of blood
Im Ojibway and did my berry fast when I started my time. It really was a time of self reflection and learning how to say no and taught me about so many things about myself. Im extremely grateful for the experience. Thank you for being so respectful and for kind words about it ❤️❤️
This is so great! My grandma was Ojibway from Quebec, unfortunately she didn't pass down any traditions to her children. She became Catholic and left her home when she married (at 16) to a white man. It's really a shame that such a big part of our heritage was kept from my mother and by proxy, myself. I didn't even know of this tradition until today. It makes me happy that folks still practice this wonderful tradition. Thank you for sharing x
I love this 😀 btw I want to be born into Ojibway tribe in my next life... as a female ofcourse 😌
I'm glad I got to learn a little bit about this custom and culture. It's incredible!
Siksika here. I’m proud of how our ancestors handled knowledge and teachings around periods !
It was and is handled in a far better way than it is by many other parts of the world, even if in those areas its not for cultural or religious reasons. Its often just men saying "ew"
I started talking to my son about periods when he was 3. I forgot to lock the bathroom door, he barged in while I was changing my pad, and asked me what I was doing. After shooing him out so I can finish, we had a talk. We’ve had a couple more detailed talks about everything involving periods, and he is very understanding. Since age 5 (he’s 11 now) he does his best to take care of me during that time. He refills my downstairs stash if he notices they’re getting low, and doesn’t ask me for much.
I remembered when I first got my period (I was 10 years old), I cried because how uncomfortable pads were (and tampons were not in my mom's dictionary) and my dad scolded at me to stop crying and complaining and "it's your fault you go through this because you were born a girl!". More than 10 years past, and that sentence still haunts me.
I’m indigenous from Canada and Montana, when we do beadwork which is traditional jewelry and items; we’re not supposed to do it while we’re on our period or in a bad mood because then the pain and energy goes into the beads rather then keeping it to ourselves. It’s looked at as a time to eat and rest :)
I love this
Genius!!
❤️❤️ that is awesome
Makes a lot of sense
Hello Bailey, I love your Dark History podcast. I came from Tunisia and where Islam is the religion of the majority of people. When discussing Islam, there is two distinct things, social norms and religious instructions. Women on their period, pregnant, old people or people with chronic diseases are not allowed to fast in Ramadhan, because it is simply not healthy. So here women are allowed to eat but in their intimate spaces. This is mainly due to social norms where it is embarassing to let other people, especially men know that you're on your period. Nowadays, these ideas are being debated and addressed by feminists. Things are slowly changing.
Did you mean to say “not allowed to fast” ? Because you typed “not allowed to eat” during Ramadan.
@@dietlindvonhohenwald448 yeah, exacly 😅
Honestly in ramad I just eat and if someone walked on me I still don't care lol
yes! and it's not like only women that are on thier period and not fasting aren't allowed to eat infront of other fasting people, anyone who's not fasting isn't allowed to eat infront of a fasting person! and yes the social stigma of a mensturating woman is definitely real but it doesn't have any religious basis, nor does them being considered impure!!
thank you i was just looking for this comment!
I would also argue that it’s rude to eat in front of people who can’t (because they’re hungry I’d assume) to a certain extent
Ladies was anyone else today years old when you learned you've been a wizard for a long time? Also Raspberry leaf tea and shatavari herbs helps with bad cramps. Thanks for the vid 💜💜💜
I remember telling my niece I had my first accident in high school made her feel better when she had her first accident in middle school. It was actual proof that this can happen to anyone and it's perfectly okay! She felt so much less embarrassed knowing that someone she looked up to had to get picked up from school with a change of clothes.
I didn’t know period poverty was a thing. But socks, washcloths, toilet paper, paper towels, even old shirts have had to tide me over so I’m glad to hear there’s a whole movement!
Same! Cutting clothes, socks, etc and taping to grocery sacks so it wasn't get everywhere. So glad I'm past that. I feel so bad for anyone has do this.
Oh my goodness yes! I didn't realize it was a world wide thing. I just always felt shame in those situations when I've had to use "substitute means" to get by.
As a young teenager (12-14), my parents, nor my grandmother who had "custody" of me (I was actually homeless and pretty much completely on my own) would buy me menstrual products. I was told by my grandmother to use an old cleaning rag or a sock. Socks were precious for me as I had very few, so I used old rags or huge wads of stolen tp for a couple years.
It's a thing! I held my own period drive and we donated 288 packs of pads and 24 menstrual cups to women In a low income neighborhood we also held a small talk on how to properly use the cup and sterilize it.
Honestly I've used a bunch of toilet paper in a bind. Hopefully nothing too toxic in them.
When my daughters got their first periods I celebrated it with flowers a card and snacks. It's a milestone. There's times we talk about it at dinner. It's as natural as using the bathroom. Why shame it?
There were kids at my high school who’s parent’s got them a red velvet cake to celebrate. 😂
I remember I was so excited when I started my period. And then two days later, my aunt found out (I was staying with them for the weekend) and she congratulated me and I’m like “Why are you saying that?! You should be saying I’m sorry!!” It’s a lot of work. But not as much work as a baby. But I’ve also had cramps that were worse than when I was in labor (without pain relief).
@@sfspurri Two kids here but also polycystic and there is nothing more painful then those cyst cramps right before the period starts and cyst bursts. They far out do labor cramps.
When I was married we had 9 kids in the house. 5 boys and 4 girls. One stepdaughter was in HS and I don't know about her but the other 3 were 12yo and younger. And wouldn't you know it? Each girl popped as they grew up and I was the only parent in the house when they "blossomed", I ran up to Walgreens and bought both pads and tampons. My stepdaughters just had to figure it out. When my wife would come home she would get the news , and she would help them with a How To.
Every time she would throw the tampons away. Indiana females are pad girls. Not even giving her daughters the option. We divorced and within a year , the two oldest got pregnant. And the youngest sweetheart Mary packed up and moved out. That family is Mormon, coocoo.....
@@sfspurri my mom has always told me periods were worse than her two totally natural, epidural free labor.
I don't know about other religions, but in islam, a woman isn't considered impure, while on her period, on the contrary, she is suposed to be treated with more respect , as she is more sensitive, it's true that shaming does exist but it's more of a social thing than it's religious, it doesn't have any thing to do with islam, anyway, i really like your channel, i watch every episode of dark history, and M M and M, i really appreciate the efforts you make, thank you
Thank you! I was so sad when she spread false info bcuz this just adds on to the hate we Muslims get.
You really should read the book The Red Tent, really interesting. Best thing for me has been the cup! Reduced my cramping also.
Men should be taught more about it. There are too many, even amongst the educated, that think we have control over it like peeing.
I have a younger brother and made it a point to talk about my period around him and with him so he would be prepared for being with someone who menstruates.
I love how guys would think they were the gross ones when some of them can't hear about tampons without blushing 🙄
@@Gingermermaid90 I did the same thing and now I swear he is the most supportive to his friends/coworkers. Idk why it’s so taboo to talk about it we should be able to talk about it freely.
Or have no idea that a pad is attached to the underwear
Parents are responsible for teaching this to their sons. If the parents don't do their jobs, or are teaching boys wrong, this problem will persist.
I’m currently menstruating and this was a great way to get through the cramps ❤️thank you
How cool your name is Eve ❤ lol
Lol same
Same
Same here ..hang in there sis!
Same 😫😅
maybe you could do one of these about the history of abortions and the criminalization of them! i think it would be insanely informative and interesting
Being on my period right now this was so interesting to watch and learn. I’ve menstruated for 16 years and still hate every month of it and never get used to this awful cycle 😂😂😂
Bailey: she had this guy bugging her, and he just kept on bugging, and bugging...and you know what she did???
Me: Whispers "Aquatafana"
Bailey: she threw her menstrual cloth at him...
Me&bailey: well that works....
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😅😂🤣 ditto
I laughed so hard when she said this 🤣
That's one way, instead of threatening sticking a sock in their mouth to shut them up why not a kotex.
In witch covens, it was known that when bleeding, the women would sneak out of the homes in the middle of the night and go to those said huts, share stories, meditate and grow together as women. Truly inspiring 🙌
go us
Women are so powerful when left to our devices and without the men to seperate us with the jealousy that is rampant nowadays
They could have done that anytime, really. Lol
@@ariadneravenwillow9322 ok ok… let’s not get silly. I work in a female dominated job and left to their own devices, they go at each other. And that makes me sad. Cause they are all strong women, but it’s always a competition to see who’s alpha and who’s in who’s clique. I really respect those women at work that don’t play those games.
@@gustercc i literally said when left to our OWN devices. The men seperate us and leave us in that area of jealousy. It can be femaledominated but once u add men to the mix were all in competition. It doesn’t typically happen unless there are outside sources causing that friction, and to be the cause of the drama.
I remember going to middle school and I lived with only my dad. He didn’t quite understand nor did I tell him it when it would start. So I would go to the nurses office all time. Pads where 25 cents and tampons were $1. I would find spare change around the house just so I wouldn’t have to tell anyone 🥺
Have you ever looked into having an uterine/endometrial ablation? I know you've mention several times about your severe cramping and how you have no desire to have children. This could help in both departments 🤷♀️. I had one last year and I'm LOVING not having to deal with a period. ❣️
When my nieces, and later my daughter's, got their period I let them skip school the day of or after took them out to lunch at the place if their choice, answered any and all questions, gave them tips ect. and then we went shopping for a special gift of something they had been wanting. One girl we went to a spa and got pampered all day. It should be celebrated and made special like the passage it is and thereafter treated as normal and never shameful.
Totally! Spa day and free tampons for all women!
Right on! My best friend does a similar ritual with her daughters too, she has 3, but only 2 have reached the age of puberty. She put together a small kit for them to keep in the backpacks at all times just in case it happens somewhere other than at home. Then she takes them shopping for any snacks they want, let them take a day off school, and let’s them ask any questions or concerns they may have. I really admired the way she handled it. If I have kids I’d like to do the same thing:)
In Greece (in my neighborhood at least) they make a dessert and give it out to all the neighbors. We're all like family. Of course I got mine when I was visiting my grandmother without my mom there. I didn't want ALL the older ladies knowing! My grandma didn't do that lol she was more private
@@Megadextrious I'm going to have to remember the little kit for my grandbabies when they hit that age. I didn't really do it for my girls, and it's a great idea to have that stuff just in case
This is a awesome idea my daughter's 8 an when it's her time I'm going 2 do this . Thanks for the idea 😀👍🏻💜
if men had the period they would be seen as "heroes" .. like "look how strong he is, he is going to work with all the cramps while bleeding! WOW" for sureeee
Truth!!!
If you really think about it though, if men were the ones menstruating, they’d be the ones having children, therefore women would have always done the typically “masculine” things and be considered the “tough” ones.
@@taylg3122 i guess so cause the roles would be reversed .
@@taylg3122 But.....we *ARE* the tough ones....to put up with this stuff
@Rasmine's Message from Spirit Yeah imagine losing your arms working on a factory like a MAN
I already loved you, but I love you even more. Thank you for using your platform to bring awareness to a very real problem. I hope your male audience didn’t “nope” out & actually was open minded enough to stay & learn something.
In early 2007 I was a nurse in an Internal Medicine clinic. A 35 year old patient came in for "abdominal pain". Long story short we had to do a pap smear. The provider found not 1, not 2 but 3 old tampons inside. The smell was bad even the patient started gagging. He was able to remove them & she was given a referral to a GYN for further follow up. That room was so putrid we had to close it off & have the cleaning team scour the room.
"We'll just bleed everywhere." Yes I'm down for this.
FREE BLEED!! Lol 🩸✊🏽
Let’s do it
Could you imagine all the men 🤣🤣🤣
I’ve seen it with completely negative reviews from media!
4chan started the “free bleed” thing. You’ve been trolled.
I've probably learned more now from watching Bailey Sarian then all the years I spent in school.
IKR!!
I almost said she should have been a teacher. But THEN they wouldn't let her teach ANYTHING!! THIS CHANNEL SHOULD BE REQUIRED FOR STUDENTS 7th GRADE & UP!
Totaly
All the years?!
This joke is so stale, like no TH-cam didn’t teach you how to read, write, do basic math. She hasn’t taught anyone more then school has she’s just touched on topics school isn’t required to..
Had a total hysterectomy at age 27... my older sister was 21. Female cancer is huge in my family... why I had mine. But when our daughter started her period we celebrated it as her coming into womanhood. Our whole family went out for dinner at her favorite restaurant, grandparents, aunt, cousins and brother was there to celebrate with us. Her brother, who is 3 yrs older, he had his own party age 13... when I caught him checking out nekkked lady pics. Talk to your kids about their bodies and how much worth they are!!!
What could be lied about with “choice” does occur even if its how to tire one with lies about getting purposely mess’d up.
Were you atomized, quantized? Cancer fiction leave a poor taste in ones mind upon reveal.
The Egyptian honey and cannabis trick for cramps might be pretty valid! The best luck I've personally had relieving period pain was from a suppository made from cannabis oil, cocoa butter and herbs. Would be worth trying!
Things I've learned about my own periods that may help others:
- ask for anesthesia if you are going to get an IUD inserted.
-ask for pain management when getting said IUD taken out as well.
-refuse to give birth lying down.
-gynecology today is still dangerous for many many menstruating people for a whole lot of different reasons.
-you have the right to ask for any and all accommodations during your visit (lowered lights if possible, a female doctor, clear narration of what the doctor is doing, a nurse in the room with you and the doctor, etc).
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Refuse to give birth lying down?
@@sheiladurk7299 recent studies have shown that giving birth laying down can increase pain and labor duration overall, given that the whole lying down while giving birth thing was only made popular because King Louis the XIV of France started it bc of a weird fetish he had for watching it happen. Other ways of giving birth include squatting, on all fours, or even in a shallow pool to help ease some of the birthing pain according to traditional and indigenous birthing practices. While giving birth is something everyone should discuss with their doctor to figure out the best way for them, I would strongly suggest considering other birthing positions instead of laying down, as well as getting a doula or midwife to help the person through the process.
thank you ♥️
@@angelicajimenez5499 fr it’s sickening…
It’s interesting that in the US period products are considering medical items, here in the UK they were taxed as luxury items (until the tax was scrapped) whereas Men’s razors are taxed as necessity items. Cos ya know, shaving is super important but periods are for fun 🙄🙄
Periods Are fun!
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Effed up
its both here, its a luxury medical item.
You using that story to generate [profit]? How about the story of non-delete add-ons to things such as transactions that no human can want?
I work at a convenience store and women don't seem to be embarrassed AT ALL.
Whenever I sell tampons or pads, I always offer to put it in a paper bag.
I've worked there for two years and not once has any woman needed a bag.
Not embarrassed at all.
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It's not for everybody, but I'm so grateful for the company June Cup running their promotion for a $6 menstrual cup. Never would have tried one otherwise, since they are usually kind of expensive. Haven't had to buy any period products for about 3 years now.
I like the honeypot cups. Those were lifesavers for me when I was having a non stop period for a couple of months.
I'm here because I have a daughter and I want to learn as much as I can to help her as much as I can when it's her time.
Thank you for being one of a few men willing to change the stereotype and actually caring about the women in their lives. HIGH FIVE!
Make her a “go bag”. You can buy a little makeup bag for $4 and add some pads/tampons and some underwear. Never, ever, be grossed out visibly if she comes to you to ask you to buy supplies. My husband will buy supplies every time he goes shopping “just in case”. I now have 8+ months worth of supplies stored in the closet but he has no problem telling our sons what they are, and why mom needs them. It’s normal in our house if I say “can you do xzy? I’m cramping and need to rest.” Your daughter may be physically unable to function for a day or two due to pain. My doc prescribed oxy because it’s SO bad. Some women never have pain, some it’s so bad it hurts to move. Whatever she says, believe her. We are all different and if she says she’s in pain, even if mom/siblings never were…it’s real. 🥰 the fact that you watched this shows you’re doing amazing things already.
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I love this so much!! 👨👧
My best friend has been living in Japan for years. Once she asked her manager if she could go home because she had menstrual cramps. She was called to HR for speaking about menstrual cramps in the office because "it makes your male coworkers uncomfortable" 😑
I’m sure those male coworkers talk about stuff that makes females uncomfortable.
@@lisapinkham8432 of course the men were making the women Uncomfortable.
I'm a female and I dont even want to hear about that. We gonna start discussing our poops next? geeze.
@@0MissElizabeth0 . you better be joking
@@0MissElizabeth0 it's natural its how our bodies work.
When Bailey talked about middle school about 36:40 I was thinking how I have educated my sisters girls and my son to not be ashamed or thinking it’s something ”tabu”.
Maybe bc i didn’t have that safety anyone to rely ”things you dont want to talk about” and now my nieces are brilliant and brave women and my son understand girls with their periods 🤦♂️
My dad was a medic in the Army and I was actually more comfortable talking to him than my mother about my period. My mom taught me about pad sizes and that stuff but my dad explained how the period happens and never had a problem buying pads for me because he always said it was a natural biological action and nothing to be ashamed of or disgusted by.
Something I wish would be addressed is that girls in school NEED more time between classes to handle their lady business! It always stressed me out.
I’m Muslim and when I get my period, I see it as taking a break from my religious obligations while I’m going through it. Yes, I do need to make up for the days of fasting I missed due to my period, but so do men and other women who miss days of fasting during Ramadan for any other reason such as being sick or traveling etc. Culture tells us periods are taboo but in Islam it’s a given break from religious obligations such as praying, fasting and reading the Quran. Regardless, this was such an interesting episode! 😊
It's taken break from praying and fasting only , you can read quran and duaa and astgfar
Second this, Islamic practice is not the same as cultural practice.
Yess!! We are given the break because our bodies are already exhausted and in pain ❤️
Yes it’s a break for us, it’s more of the culture and not the religion. Islam is a beautiful religion ❤️
YES YES YES
I have never laughed so much during a period talk in my life, Bailey you are hilarious! Bring the toads for us wizards!
Lillian Gilbreth was the mother of the original Cheaper by the Dozen family. Her story is super interesting. Her husband was an engineer and he shared everything about his work with her. When he died she was able to take over his job in order to support their 12 kids. She was an inventor as well. (yeah I know it's not the Steve Martin movie. Watch the original from 1950)