Box breathing to regain calmer state. Genius. Self compassion for our inner child 😢 we just need to love ourselves and give ourselves compassion 💛 Gratitude always helps me focus on the good things (other than food). My biggest discomfort is usually feeling pressed for time and overwhelmed. Changing my thought from I’m out of time to I have all the time I need! Set small goals like 1-2 lbs rather than 10-20 lbs. with this I’ve been practicing visualization of myself at that few pounds lighter. Look for the growth and the thing to learn.
Love this Carla, your videos are so insightful, I have found myself going through the last few months of videos to help prepare myself for the next round of BS (my 2nd one in September) I too am coming from a 'lack mindset' and I can see that its holding me back. Also from one of your latest videos it really resonated with me that I am going head on each day with a 'perfection mindset' and if I fail or the day hasn't gone as I had planned I just throw it out the window altogether because of the feeling of guilt for having not had a perfect day of calories/movement etc. These are so helpful, going to lay out some small goals and not the mammoth goal I have that feels so unattainable 😊
Carla, you are such a delicate, self-aware, loving influencer here on yt. I absolutely enjoy your vídeos, I learn and benefit so much from the experiences you share. Thank you for your work!
For anyone having trouble with box breathing, the EMT that taught it to me shifted from the visualizing a box to having me tap. Kind of one finger down for each count to make 4, then back up as I went through the next step. And down for the next. It sort of mixed the feeling your body with the counting and the box breathing all at the same time. And to some degree had me focusing on something else so I came out of the fight or flight section of the brain a little bit each cycle. I've used that idea every time I've had a panic attack since then.
And if you are trying to visualize what I'm doing, I've been told it looks like I am playing piano on my arm because I'm tapping my fingertips of my right hand on my left arm.... sometimes I'm fairly flat lingered, but the tapping sensation is greater if my fingers are curved like my hands are on the keys.
Great advice as always Carla! One of the things I've learned doing Intermittent Fasting for over a year now is that I may go to bed hungry...and that's uncomfortable. But I remind myself it is my choice not like millions of people who have no choice in the matter. I would love a part 3 with a Q & A! Have a great week! ❤❤❤
💜💜💜 thank you so much for this, Carla ... it's through watching your content over the last 2 years that I have learnt to overcome so much .. especially emotional eating .... it wasnt until 2 days ago when I had a very unexpected gut wrenching emotional event after which I didnt reach for food (or since) that I realised all the work I have put in has worked ... and I cant tell you how amazing that feels .... thank you so much for everything 🎉🎉❤
❤❤❤ I always remember something that you said in a previous video that hunger is just a feeling, and you won’t die from it, it has really stuck with me and help me a lot. I am going to try the breathing exercise that you suggested. Thank you so much 🥰
Along with breathing techniques, try also EFT. Also called Tapping . It sounds stupid but... It WORKS! Helps refocus your mind 🙂 there's You Tubes , book etc.
I love EFT too. Just used it twice today to help me work through hunger when I’d normally have panicked and stopped in McDonald’s on the way home rather than just get home and cook!
I've taught box breathing to many of my clients but the variations of finding a square or rectangle in your line of site, and doing all the breathing through the nose I think will help. All these suggestions are great! Thank you. ❤❤❤ 🫂
Love your motivational videos & helpful advice Carla. Going out for meals tends to be an awkward situation when you have changed your lifestyle. Especially when menus tend to be carbohydrate dense & beige! I love to have just a main meal of quality protein with plenty of vegetables or salad. I will always have a coffee or peppermint tea instead of dessert when out with friends. I find it helps to have something to do with my hands & I feel more satisfied with a warm beverage than eating empty calories with no nutritional value. My mindset is definitely set to what nutrients will this meal provide to keep my body healthy 🤗 💖
I made a behavioral health appointment for my eating habits and I feel silly because I forgot about how helpful your channel is. Oh well, it will help too. It's definitely my teenage self, and fears that chime in when I eat. And then the guilt spiral yes!
How many people out there have learned about Lipedema? Not lymphedema, but the body fat and connective tissue disorder. I just found out I have it and it explains some of my body shape and part of my body that doesn’t lose weight due to this.
I've heard of it, but from what I can tell I don't think I have it. Thankfully. I have another connective tissue disorder called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, and goodness knows I don't need more than 1!
I think this is my main problem with losing weight. I don't want to 'give up' all the things I enjoy, chocolate, wine! Also being post menopausal now and on HRT I've gained 19lbs in the past year 😢. I eat one or two meals a day and do TRE 16/8
What is the difference between shame and accountability? Sometimes I feel I’m holding myself accountable but it’s really just shame in disguise and it ends up causing more harm than good. How can you tell the difference and how can you keep shame out of accountability?
I would see the difference as the intention behind it. Shame is coming from a negative place - "ugh why am I like this?"Accountability is more about kindness and compassion - "I'm having a bad time right now, I understand that food is my coping mechanism, but that's not what I really need" Do you see the differece?
That's a really interesting question. I think we all experience a combination of burdens in life, some of which are not our fault, and some of which are our responsibility to heal. When a feeling comes up, it might be useful to ask, is this speaking to a burden that I am responsible for healing, or is this something that has been projected upon me by someone who refused to deal with it... and therefore, would I be best served in releasing it? Using an example from my own life, I have a mother who was heavily influenced by 80s/90s diet culture and has a disordered relationship with food. She thinks thin bodies are inherently "good" and fat bodies are inherently "bad," andhas been encouraging me to diet and lose weight since I was a pre-teen. For me, I will no longer internalize my mother's shame with regard to her body or mine. However, I will take on the responsibility of being honest with myself about my desires for a healthy lifestyle, a strong body, and more conscious approach to consuming food. These are all things that are in my control and help me to feel empowered. Just one perspective of many, but I hope that helps! ❤
I do see the difference. Thank you for clarifying that, Carla. It makes great sense that coming from a place of compassion, self regulation would be more likely to elicit a compassionate response from yourself.
I've just discovered your channel and I'd just like to say how amazing you look, it has given me hope.. I struggle with my weight, I can't lose it, since menopause I've put on 4 stones I am not an overeater, if anything I'm an undereater My gp is of no help, and suggests I am insulin resistant. I am disgusted with my body and no longer socialise, I feel my life is over, I'm 57 and have no life. Can you or anyone give me any advice? I have fibromyalgia and tendonitis all over. I used to be so fit and sporty now my life is finished.
Hi Kaz, I know of many women who’ve been in a similar situation and have found BodySlims works well for them, I am a brand ambassador but it’s a programme I really believe in. bit.ly/hocbsyt xx
For me the hardest moment recently was realising the food didnt hit that spot...and i had to deal with the feelings on my own. Weird isnt it! Quick question, when you would eat under budget would you eat more to make it up? ❤❤
👏🏽👏🏽 Loved the breathing exercise! I teach meditation - Breathing into your divine self- on my TH-cam channel! It’s an easy but powerful technique derived from eastern practices. 🌟💫🧘🏻♀️
Box breathing to regain calmer state. Genius.
Self compassion for our inner child 😢 we just need to love ourselves and give ourselves compassion 💛
Gratitude always helps me focus on the good things (other than food). My biggest discomfort is usually feeling pressed for time and overwhelmed. Changing my thought from I’m out of time to I have all the time I need!
Set small goals like 1-2 lbs rather than 10-20 lbs. with this I’ve been practicing visualization of myself at that few pounds lighter.
Look for the growth and the thing to learn.
I love the idea of focusing on the friends sitting with you rather than the food/dessert you could eat! I try to do this when fasting too!
your empathy with yourself is very inspiring
Love this Carla, your videos are so insightful, I have found myself going through the last few months of videos to help prepare myself for the next round of BS (my 2nd one in September) I too am coming from a 'lack mindset' and I can see that its holding me back. Also from one of your latest videos it really resonated with me that I am going head on each day with a 'perfection mindset' and if I fail or the day hasn't gone as I had planned I just throw it out the window altogether because of the feeling of guilt for having not had a perfect day of calories/movement etc. These are so helpful, going to lay out some small goals and not the mammoth goal I have that feels so unattainable 😊
Carla, you are such a delicate, self-aware, loving influencer here on yt. I absolutely enjoy your vídeos, I learn and benefit so much from the experiences you share. Thank you for your work!
Awe thank you so much xx
For anyone having trouble with box breathing, the EMT that taught it to me shifted from the visualizing a box to having me tap. Kind of one finger down for each count to make 4, then back up as I went through the next step. And down for the next. It sort of mixed the feeling your body with the counting and the box breathing all at the same time. And to some degree had me focusing on something else so I came out of the fight or flight section of the brain a little bit each cycle. I've used that idea every time I've had a panic attack since then.
And if you are trying to visualize what I'm doing, I've been told it looks like I am playing piano on my arm because I'm tapping my fingertips of my right hand on my left arm.... sometimes I'm fairly flat lingered, but the tapping sensation is greater if my fingers are curved like my hands are on the keys.
Great advice as always Carla! One of the things I've learned doing Intermittent Fasting for over a year now is that I may go to bed hungry...and that's uncomfortable. But I remind myself it is my choice not like millions of people who have no choice in the matter. I would love a part 3 with a Q & A! Have a great week! ❤❤❤
Amazing!!! I will definitely do one xx
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💜💜💜 thank you so much for this, Carla ... it's through watching your content over the last 2 years that I have learnt to overcome so much .. especially emotional eating .... it wasnt until 2 days ago when I had a very unexpected gut wrenching emotional event after which I didnt reach for food (or since) that I realised all the work I have put in has worked ... and I cant tell you how amazing that feels .... thank you so much for everything 🎉🎉❤
I am so delighted for you Brenda, that is amazing growth xx
❤❤❤ I always remember something that you said in a previous video that hunger is just a feeling, and you won’t die from it, it has really stuck with me and help me a lot. I am going to try the breathing exercise that you suggested. Thank you so much 🥰
Along with breathing techniques, try also EFT. Also called Tapping . It sounds stupid but... It WORKS! Helps refocus your mind 🙂 there's You Tubes , book etc.
I love EFT too. Just used it twice today to help me work through hunger when I’d normally have panicked and stopped in McDonald’s on the way home rather than just get home and cook!
I love this conversation so, so much. The points you make are so helpful and so practical. Thank you for putting this out here.
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Super helpful thank you Carla ❤ Joanne
Excellent content! 🎉
Just signed up for Body Slims 💪🏼🎉🎉🎉 I’ll be joining you guys from a tiny town in Tennessee, US ❤️❤️ keep inspiring Carla, it’s working 😘
Love, love, love Carla❤😊
Thank you lovely xx
Great advice as always Carla ❤❤❤
Thanks so much Lynda xx
I've taught box breathing to many of my clients but the variations of finding a square or rectangle in your line of site, and doing all the breathing through the nose I think will help. All these suggestions are great! Thank you. ❤❤❤ 🫂
Great, as always and very useful for me today. Getting up and moving around my house can help me shift my discomfort towards joy.
Thanks
Wow! I really appreciate those self love techniques that you demonstrated.
💚🥰Love these inspiring talks!
This video came at just the right time for me... Thank you, Carla!!! 💖💖💖💄💄💄🤗
Great video Carla 🖤🖤🖤
Thank you Marian xx
Love your motivational videos & helpful advice Carla. Going out for meals tends to be an awkward situation when you have changed your lifestyle. Especially when menus tend to be carbohydrate dense & beige! I love to have just a main meal of quality protein with plenty of vegetables or salad. I will always have a coffee or peppermint tea instead of dessert when out with friends. I find it helps to have something to do with my hands & I feel more satisfied with a warm beverage than eating empty calories with no nutritional value. My mindset is definitely set to what nutrients will this meal provide to keep my body healthy 🤗 💖
I love this video! You always share the best, most quotable little nuggets of wisdom! 🙌🏼🫶🏼
I made a behavioral health appointment for my eating habits and I feel silly because I forgot about how helpful your channel is. Oh well, it will help too. It's definitely my teenage self, and fears that chime in when I eat. And then the guilt spiral yes!
Great video!! 🤗❤️❤️❤️
How many people out there have learned about Lipedema? Not lymphedema, but the body fat and connective tissue disorder. I just found out I have it and it explains some of my body shape and part of my body that doesn’t lose weight due to this.
I've heard of it, but from what I can tell I don't think I have it. Thankfully. I have another connective tissue disorder called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, and goodness knows I don't need more than 1!
I think this is my main problem with losing weight. I don't want to 'give up' all the things I enjoy, chocolate, wine!
Also being post menopausal now and on HRT I've gained 19lbs in the past year 😢. I eat one or two meals a day and do TRE 16/8
It’s not forever♥️BodySlims run in spaced out ten week cycles. Your conundrum sounded similar to mine but! I promise it’s temporary😁
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What is the difference between shame and accountability? Sometimes I feel I’m holding myself accountable but it’s really just shame in disguise and it ends up causing more harm than good. How can you tell the difference and how can you keep shame out of accountability?
I would see the difference as the intention behind it. Shame is coming from a negative place - "ugh why am I like this?"Accountability is more about kindness and compassion - "I'm having a bad time right now, I understand that food is my coping mechanism, but that's not what I really need" Do you see the differece?
That's a really interesting question. I think we all experience a combination of burdens in life, some of which are not our fault, and some of which are our responsibility to heal.
When a feeling comes up, it might be useful to ask, is this speaking to a burden that I am responsible for healing, or is this something that has been projected upon me by someone who refused to deal with it... and therefore, would I be best served in releasing it?
Using an example from my own life, I have a mother who was heavily influenced by 80s/90s diet culture and has a disordered relationship with food. She thinks thin bodies are inherently "good" and fat bodies are inherently "bad," andhas been encouraging me to diet and lose weight since I was a pre-teen.
For me, I will no longer internalize my mother's shame with regard to her body or mine. However, I will take on the responsibility of being honest with myself about my desires for a healthy lifestyle, a strong body, and more conscious approach to consuming food. These are all things that are in my control and help me to feel empowered.
Just one perspective of many, but I hope that helps! ❤
I do see the difference. Thank you for clarifying that, Carla. It makes great sense that coming from a place of compassion, self regulation would be more likely to elicit a compassionate response from yourself.
This is so fantastic. Thank you for such an insightful response!
I've just discovered your channel and I'd just like to say how amazing you look, it has given me hope.. I struggle with my weight, I can't lose it, since menopause I've put on 4 stones I am not an overeater, if anything I'm an undereater My gp is of no help, and suggests I am insulin resistant. I am disgusted with my body and no longer socialise, I feel my life is over, I'm 57 and have no life. Can you or anyone give me any advice? I have fibromyalgia and tendonitis all over. I used to be so fit and sporty now my life is finished.
Hi Kaz, I know of many women who’ve been in a similar situation and have found BodySlims works well for them, I am a brand ambassador but it’s a programme I really believe in. bit.ly/hocbsyt xx
@@HalfofCarla thank you so much for your reply, unfortunately it's not affordable for me right now.
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For me the hardest moment recently was realising the food didnt hit that spot...and i had to deal with the feelings on my own. Weird isnt it! Quick question, when you would eat under budget would you eat more to make it up? ❤❤
❤ did you ever hit a plateau? You seem like you went off and did incredibly from the get go and didnt stop till you hit your goal
I did hit plateaus but I just kept going through xx
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👏🏽👏🏽 Loved the breathing exercise! I teach meditation - Breathing into your divine self- on my TH-cam channel! It’s an easy but powerful technique derived from eastern practices. 🌟💫🧘🏻♀️
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