“Nice Girls” Finish Last! - How To Stop People Pleasing & Start Being “Selfish”

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  • @ayanime_edem
    @ayanime_edem  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I’m sorry I’m being a burden, becomes thank you for being supportive
    I’m sorry I can’t help you, becomes thank you for understanding I can’t help right now
    You can add yours and “thank you” for watching 🤍

  • @baisinbu98
    @baisinbu98 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I needed the reminders raised in this video. I am still working on this and sometimes when caught unawares, I still fail myself which annoys me. But work in progress… Thanks Ayanime!!

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You got this! 🤍

  • @merrymatthews5696
    @merrymatthews5696 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    The most helpful advice was replacing Sorry with Thank you game changer.

  • @starlightltd
    @starlightltd 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    For me it was over commiting to friends, family and others until I was burnt. Well, I noticed this and start learning how to say No to people. I am glad that I am fully committed to prioritizing myself now, it wasn't easy but I worked on it intentionally. Thank you❤

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m glad you were intentional about it 🤍

  • @Alyanasworld
    @Alyanasworld 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    We must strive not to people please, but please God alone!

  • @YvetteKayee
    @YvetteKayee 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Your videos are very insightful! My focus for 2024 has been reinventing myself and elevating my mindset. As the eldest daughters of an African household i’ve been functioning wayyyy in my masculine energy and it has not work in my advantage further in life. So now i’m finding ways to be more feminine. I’m glad i’ve found your page you share very useful information ❤️

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Wonderful! I’m glad to have you here beautiful 🤍

    • @YvetteKayee
      @YvetteKayee 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ProlificLuluthanks love❤

    • @Xo_Jeanette
      @Xo_Jeanette 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here sis
      I’m glad I found this channel❤

    • @Xo_Jeanette
      @Xo_Jeanette 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for this insightful video ❤

  • @AnimsoniaKah-se6vr
    @AnimsoniaKah-se6vr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    For me, it was over apologizing..

  • @ijay_achinike
    @ijay_achinike 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Wow, so much value!!!...I love when you said, "it is not your responsibility to manage people's emotions"!!!

  • @onwuegbuijeoma7998
    @onwuegbuijeoma7998 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Over committing to others and replacing sorry with thank you. These two are unique for me

  • @KeitumetseMakhetha
    @KeitumetseMakhetha 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    For me, it's over committing... it's my weakness. As if I don't have enough on my plate. That actually becomes a recipe for failure because I want to do multiple things at once and end up not doing any of them to the best of my ability.

  • @NonyeNwandu
    @NonyeNwandu 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This ‘I’m sorry’ is one I’m currently battling with cause I always said it as a way of being polite or showing concern/ empathy to others in challenging situations…. But I’ve come to see that it’s not the right usage for it when I started meeting more people from other races

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Now that you’ve set the intention to stop, different situations will come up to help you do that, so watch out for those situations and use them for practice. If you make a mistake, forgive yourself quickly and look out for the next time 🤍

  • @OffTheCuff.Original
    @OffTheCuff.Original 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm so glad i stumbled on your page.
    I was a people pleaser until very recently,
    I'm gradually moving out of that zone
    A lot of people don't like it
    And I've stepped on several toes in the process
    But, I've been happier

    • @Alyanasworld
      @Alyanasworld 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Proud of you🩷, we don’t need to be people pleasers!!

  • @RukkyCole
    @RukkyCole 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    U are the best thing that has happened to me thank u so much ma ,
    U have help me in so much ways like a big sis I never had 😢 spiritually physically thank you so much more

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm so glad! I’m right here cheering you on one video at a time 🤍

  • @HelenSunday-xu9vi
    @HelenSunday-xu9vi หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ayanime thank you!
    I noticed some friends feel entitled and expect me to do certain things for them even when I'm not comfortable.
    When I say, no, it becomes a problem.
    Please throw more light on this.
    I think the statement, a friend in need is a friend indeed doesn't mean you should kill yourself to help someone

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  หลายเดือนก่อน

      All that has been covered in the video. If you’re not comfortable then don’t do it. People need to get used to hearing no from you

  • @shalomakaelu
    @shalomakaelu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Hi Ayanime. You changed the name of your channel. Love it!😊

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes I did… I made a post about it. I’m guessing you didn’t see it. I love it too 🤍

  • @larrynlee
    @larrynlee 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Substituting "im sorry" for "thank you" is BRILLIANT!!

  • @NeauxLasLittleCrescents
    @NeauxLasLittleCrescents หลายเดือนก่อน

    Over-apologizing has been a big part of my communication skills, and I have gradually improved. I am so proud of myself and so happy I found your channel. I shared your video today with a friend who could also learn from your work. 😊 Thank you ☺️

  • @Samayuki827
    @Samayuki827 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is a very nice video but I have a question for the last point. I live in a big family and I’m the oldest. Most of the time, I don’t have time for myself in the house because I need to do stuff like getting my siblings off from school when my mom isn’t available, giving my siblings food and monitoring them, I also need to help my mom with online procedures such as renewing an insurance policy or checking import emails and if that wasn’t even enough, I also need to help my step-dad apply for jobs, check his emails and respond to some of them. I’m also at uni so with the tiny amount of time I have, I use it to submit work. Thus the only time I can actually study and do something is when I’m at Uni. I don’t know what to do, I really need advice. I was thinking of getting an accommodation however ik that if I do that the stress is going to be too much for my parents to handle…

  • @LynAllure
    @LynAllure 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Everything about this was so spot on! New sub or 🙋🏾‍♀️💕

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yay! I’m glad to have you here 🤍

  • @RahmaSaleh-o6n
    @RahmaSaleh-o6n 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I love this content i see one habit i have and it's others opinion before i act.I want change that.

  • @ifeomaaaaaaaa
    @ifeomaaaaaaaa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    "The Intentional woman" love the new name ma'am.....#theintentionalgang#

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh yes! I love it too 🤍

  • @splendydom
    @splendydom 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ayenime has shot me right left and center.😂 all point is me and I'm really trying hard to stop all this. Thank you.

  • @Joan1able
    @Joan1able 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I got boundaries down to a science😅🎉

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Good for you! Love that...

  • @AnitaAdukpo
    @AnitaAdukpo 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are the best🥰🥰

  • @ScottSamuel-i3e
    @ScottSamuel-i3e 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much l really needed to watch this and l really admire the way you speak 😊

  • @FavourDaleon
    @FavourDaleon 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    😅😅
    I have been watching your videos for a while now, but I am a stubborn person who finds it difficult to subscribe and like posts, but my God, this video deserves to be subscribed to and liked.e.
    I recently made the decision to start saying no, and I can assure you that it is not funny. I am still working on getting my sister to forgive me for turning her down when she asked for my assistance with something because i wasn't fit..
    😊😊😊
    Thanks so much ma...

  • @marylusenie3970
    @marylusenie3970 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    For me saying “NO”. But working on it bit by bit

  • @Grace2Grace3
    @Grace2Grace3 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just came across your channel andI must say, I admire your videos

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for waiting for me.
    I really like this this tip thanks sis.

  • @mimiipaul
    @mimiipaul 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just Learnt to say No yay! So help me God!😢❤😂

  • @GraceMakungo
    @GraceMakungo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are such an amazing lady 💕 I'm looking forward to learn more from you.

  • @gracetojourney5674
    @gracetojourney5674 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ayanime I love youuuuu❤❤❤

  • @bellasperfumediaries
    @bellasperfumediaries 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Loved this video so much. Thank you❤

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad you enjoyed it! 🤍

  • @BrittneyK2
    @BrittneyK2 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this video! I appreciate you for creating it 🫶🏾

  • @ShiyghanNyuysiysi
    @ShiyghanNyuysiysi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just clink on a link on someone statues and here IAM.
    It's was like your talking to me I almost shouted" prophesy"
    I fall in all categories
    I really need to fix this
    If you can then I will
    God help me as I work on it

  • @merrymatthews5696
    @merrymatthews5696 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yesssssssssss thank you!

  • @lydiasparky
    @lydiasparky 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I will start mine now 😮

  • @ahhhfroserttt
    @ahhhfroserttt 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm so glad I found this channel! Thank you for your advice! 🙏🏾

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And I’m glad to have you here! 🤍

  • @wanjawanjuguna
    @wanjawanjuguna 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    🎉love love

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm glad you do...

  • @millicentamoahgyan8681
    @millicentamoahgyan8681 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wish l met you earlier ❤

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Better late than never

  • @lavieestbelle6068
    @lavieestbelle6068 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do I find the right wig for my face?

    • @ayanime_edem
      @ayanime_edem  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sure you can find resources online especially Pinterest

  • @solabuks9849
    @solabuks9849 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤