I went into depression for a good 10 years after my daughter left. Just now starting to climb my way back up and out. Your videos are a godsend. Thank you.❤
I am experiencing similar. Life hasn't been the same. I threw my whole heart and soul into caring for her on my own while working full-time just the two of us and the house. Yes it's suddenly very quiet. I have a lot of tough days, but I have some good ones too.
You are spot on my dear My husband and I raised 3 children,while having very demanding careers, my husband as an Oncology Nurse and myself as an Emergency Trauma Nurse, our oldest chose College and Graduate School, pursued her Masters Degree in Bio Medical Science, she is a Research Scientist and a College Professor, our 2nd child went straight into the work force, he was our only son, he works for a large construction firm, and his live of All things mechanical paid off, our youngest child joined the United States Air Force, right out of High School, she retired as a Staff Sargeant with 8 years of service, All of our kids left home at 18 to pursue their lives and dreams, but it was always hard and sad to see them go, but we were still working,and by the time they were leaving, our parents started needing more of our help, due to health concerns, my husband and I turned 62 this year, we are only discovering our lives again, We have one grand child and another one on the way, so the circle of life will keep us going, but we do not want being grand parents to be our whole lives, hope that doesn't sound bad.
Oh yes! I'm 66... My daughter married an Aussie and fell in love with Australia...I so get it! They now live in Tasmania "Tassie"..I live in Illinois. I have a grandson there too...awesome life down in the magical kingdom! Love that they have a great life. I love your work...I cry all the time when I think of them. But I embrace my emotions, all of them and I'm good at having lots to do! I am into meditation, yoga, exercise and an optimal diet.i love online class workout videos..they pump me up! You're a gem! Thank you!
I’m Australian and my adult children now live in Portugal and the UK, so the opposite side of the planet. I’m asleep while they’re at work and vice versa. So it’s really hard. I so understand your emotions. It’s almost like grief.
As a daughter of a mother who didn’t share her feelings, I hope you tell them how you feel. My mom didn’t want to burden me with her pain, I’m guessing, but I’d much rather have known about it and tried to comfort her. I only found out about her depression after she died. We talked every day and saw each other often, but she never told me how depressed she was. She always seemed upbeat. I hope your children call you often and include you in their lives. It’s so important to share all our feelings, even if they’re hard to hear.
So true!! My husband and I became empty nester 2 years ago, and like you said sometimes the house is really quite and stale. As we get older "change" is a little harder. Logically, i understand it is part of life and I wouldn't like it any other way. It's good for the kids to have the experience of moving out of the house and study, follow their passion. Nostalgy hits from time to time, and we need to be prepared for that. I think having a good relationship and great communication helps a bunch. Good luck to all that are in the process, it gets better!! 😘✨️
One of the things I love about this channel, and there are many, is that it helps me realize I am not alone in these middle age struggles. No one likes to talk about it. There is endless conversation and commiseration between the new mothers. They don’t know what they are in for much later on lol.
So true. Endless conversations and endless books and forums dedicated to new mothers and we are kind of left on our own to figure it out. Not many people talk about it so I'm thankful for this space they don't know what they're in for so true lol
I used to work as a Life Coach, and one of the things that would always come up, both for Mothers and Fathers, - the empty nest. Many parents, as you say, do not prepare for it. When it happens it is like a death in the family it is essentially. The life you worked for, worked at, is now over - Changed, done. Now what!? Really nice topic to discuss and great ideas! you are so inspiring!
Thank you so much for this video today Gail. I look forward to reading your book and to listening to your podcast. I am 56 and appreciate your wisdom & thoughts on the empty nest & this 2nd half of life. I'm having a very hard time dealing with my empty nest - your video has lifted my spirits & inspired me. I don't have a sister but I feel a sisterhood with you and the channel. Thank you Gail
I work full time so its different, but i agree its a big loss and a transition which takes time to get used to. I found a whole new sense of life and wonder🎉
I wasnt prepared emotionally. When our only son moved out it was really hard to realize he was moving on to a new phase of his life. However, since he moved in with his now wife and they are only ten minutes away, we cant complain. We see them often and are so blessed. And now that we are both retired, my husband and I are having a blast! The new phase of our life and the new phase of their lives have both been wonderful.
Yes, there is a saying that the entire job of a parent is to make yourself obsolete...it's hard but the very fact your son is so independent and confident out in the world shows that you did a good job...
Your video really resonated with me. Our adult son and twin girls are grown and doing well but wow was it tough when they all left the nest. I encourage those who haven’t experienced that yet to listen to this video. Thank you for sharing.
This is a wonderful video. Thank you from a 56 year old mama who is in the process of helping her youngest baby figure out her next step in life. I've had the privilege of raising 5 wonderful kids all doing well, and now I'm helping my last one. It's bittersweet, but also, like you said, a celebration. I'm looking forward to finding me again. ❤ Much love to you and thank you. 😊
Also, for those of us, who unfortunately, never had a "full nest". I think this is why I love nature and animals so much! My nest is filled a little with ageing parents...finding a balance between helping but not taking away ANY of their independence. They're fiercely independent and not easy to help them. We're doing the decluttering, have to as my folks need to downsize. It's very liberating, but Dad has kept hold of everything! It was all very neat and tidy, if you can declutter slowly, start now! My essentials in life are nature walks, yoga, kettlebells, delicious food, good friends. I've started running Mindful, Creative Writing workshops...absolutely love running them! Thank you Gail for your aurhentic and inspiring videos... Transitions...yes please to more videos! xx💚xx
Great advice as no one ever really talks about this & acknowledging that this will eventually happen is preparation in itself. I have been there & come out of the other side now.
This is spot on. You really are correct about having something to replace that occupation from them to a new diversion. The hard thing is teying to remember who you were before children. I know it won't be the same, but it can guide you.
Great video - absolutely nailed it for the empty nesters - I need to take my grief and channel it into making myself and my family feel pride - which will ultimately be so much healthier for my family and myself . Just THANKYOU 😊
Thanks for the update and informative chat, it's inspiring to see how easy it can be achieved, as a. Widow and empty nester😊, I am sure I could learn a lot of things and be able to achieve a lot with my time left to do. Namaste thank you. 🙏🏽🎶♥️
“Mid-life edit” that is EXACTLY what I need in my life, I relate to everything you are talking about. I am loving your wisdom, Thank you for sharing, I’m listening, I’m starting to think 🤔 over what you are saying. 😊❤
Thank you Gail, a lot, for your work and endurance in this online world. I am 54, I also do yoga, am not in a bad shape, work a lot, prepare for the empty nest - our elder kids, 25 and 22 study abroad -, and I cook healthy stuff, so, we are kinda okay... But you have a surplus of energy that bursts in every video, it's contageous! I admire your momentum and respect the work behind it. Hugs.
Hello from France 🇫🇷 Luv yr content ! You’re a natural on camera dogs or tripod be damned!😅 Enjoyed what you shared here without rambling on in circles..✅🥰 Professional but personal.. well done !👌😇❤️
That’s so wonderful that you were able to declutter that much.. how did you manage the decluttering of memories, I know they live in us but what about photos 🥺 Looking forward to this change in my life, about to turn 55 and no children, it’s still a transition.. hubby is retiring and I am looking at changing careers or shifting mine .. you are such an inspiration..☺️thank you so much! Looking so forward to your book and podcast!
This is what I needed to hear at this stage of my life. I'm 58, my eldest son has been out of home for a few years now but I still see him quite often and anyway at the time it happened I was thinking "Well I still got the youngest one here, so my nest is not empty yet". Now the second one will be leaving soon if everything goes as he planned, and then the blow will strike. You are right, I need to plan too and be prepared. Thanks for your words and tips, I will try to follow them ❤
our eldest is living with friends, my middle child just went to Australia for a semester and our youngest, though still at home, is a young adult and doesn't want much parental involvement. Its a big change and I am also excited to have a new journey with my spouse and our relationship. Yes, prepare. I like going back to things I haven't done in years because I have less interruption. Best 2U.
That you❤ I feel like a kid myself scared for what the future holds but excited. I feel as I also will be leaving home the world at my feet a very different time looking forward to reinventing myself. My son finishes year 12 here in Australia next year. Loving your channel and adore your look . Thanks again
Im 56 and lost my mother four years ago. I feel a bit like an empty nester since we spent every day together up until the pandemic, and I was so focused on her care for so long. I feel lost without her. I’m going to follow your advice and start moving my body, eating better and caring for my soul as well. I need to finally start the healing process. Thank you for this.
I loved basketball as a child,and also loved playing with my sons. I turned 61 this year and my husband got me a basketball hoop and I've been loving it!
I always worked full time raising my son and I still do. This makes a huge difference concerning free time. Jump roping and healthy food is always a good idea. Thank you for your content.
I really love watching your channel. You inspire me so much and give me faith and optimism for the future ! I’ve just lost my daughter and son all in one weekend and feeling very proud that there off to new adventures and that they are independent young people but also very sad at the same time. The world can be a very cruel place and you want to make sure that they are always protected and it’s hard to let go!! I am now 52 and searching for what path I’m going to do now but I’m so confused which one to take !! Xx
This is very interesting. Im actually 27 and have 3 young children, but I already think about this period of life when they will leave home and what that will be like. They uproot your life and turn it upside down, but then when they leave it must turn your world upside down again! Whilst being an empty nester is a while off for me yet, it's interesting to hear it is actually something you should prepare for. 👍
...I think this is absolutely right what you say....since May I have changed my thinking about health as well....lost 12 kg - & also thinking about "live" too.....follow you since around this time too & think you are a amazing women. Looking forward to see your podcast.... Have a great day too Cheers from 🇨🇭 Caroline
This video and comments make me just cry. I try not to think about my only baby being so far away, but it means I did it correctly. Baby bird grew up and flew away. I get to visit in 3 weeks and love on my grandbaby for a week!❤❤
My comment is live life! Whether a mom, friend, wife, daughter, employee etc. There is no one or no thing that can fill me and help me through the opportunities and challenges of life like the wisdom and love I get from Jesus ✝️. When I was younger, I placed my hope and my effort on my marriage. We are still married but it’s not thriving. His lust issues were more important than his marriage. I wasted a lot of time. Some women sink their hope and time into their children. And that doesn’t “pay off” either. The more time we spend getting spiritually, mentally and physically healthy, the more we are able to endure the pains and appreciate the joys. The relationships I have with my Christian friends is deep and filled with joy, love and satisfaction. They have become my support system on earth and a place I spend my time nourishing. Blessings to all and I hope your book helps and inspires many!
Great video, needed this ❤ I am 50 and with an 11 year old son who I spend time homeschooling and spend tons of time with … I will appreciate every loud moment 😅
Thank you for sharing with us what you have gone through after your son moved out. I am struggling to find my way now at 56. My daughter is 21, lives at home, but is seldomly here due to work and university classes she takes. Gone are the days of her needing me daily to get her places like dance, softball, homework help, etc… I don’t know who I am without the main title of mother. I feel lost and lonely and have very little self confidence anymore. I’m also going through menopause and it has changed so many things about me. I do eat healthy and exercise daily. But outside of that I don’t know what to do with myself…I feel empty and I am so scared of living like this the rest of my life. I am married to a wonderful man, but he has a very busy career and he travels from time to time. We spend time together whenever we can, but once we’re apart I feel empty and uncertain about life again. I have a couple of friends and very little family left. I’m afraid to try anything new or make commitments because I sometimes don’t follow through and I don’t want to disappoint anybody or myself. You have been a light in some of my dark days… you give me hope and you are helping me to realize that I can still feel good about myself and how I look regardless of my age..aging has been a tough one for me… the physical changes in my face from years of sun tanning make me feel old and unattractive. I listened to your first podcast episode today and I found it helpful. I mediate 4 days a week, but now I would like to try to commit to doing it everyday. Much love and appreciation to you for all you do! ❤☮️
My daughter and I ended up back living together and I still struggled with the sense of not being needed anymore. It took a while to get over it, but I'm OVER IT now! Great advice!
My only child is 10 years old but I’m already dreading when she leaves the nest. So this was so helpful. I certainly neglect my self in being a mother so I’m inspired by the thought of taking better care of myself and enjoying my husband more. 🙏❤️
I worked full time so when all the boys went off to higher education, and then separate lives I had plenty to fill my life. They come back from time to time, retiring after working from 17 has been more difficult and you may think you can prepare, but good luck! And I’m relatively busy and obviously fit, but then I always was, don’t leave staying healthy until you’re older and it’s difficult. I’d agree with the kettlebell, one of the boys teaches fitness and he gave me the kettlebell tip too.
This couldn’t have been better timed! My last child moved out this weekend at the age of 23. She is due her own baby in October, I can’t help feeling sad but I’m also bursting with pride too. I am tired and know it’s great that I’ll have more time for me, but I also feel like just curling up in bed and hiding under the duvet. Well done to all you brave mums out there because I wouldn’t want to cope with them away full time in another country!
Hello Gail, For many reasons didn't have the t ime to get prepared And it is very very hard... I used to ne interested in different things, but that 's not the case anymore. Have a nice evening and a nice Sunday. 💗 from France.
Similar for me. I never had so many interest in hobbies as when my daughter was little. She was my muse and I was inspired and always to get fit, to eat well, to be creative, to travel an adventure. Now that she is gone, and I am of a certain age with a some mobility issues... I don't love going places alone, but I guess I will start with some smaller trips. The house is quiet and that's hard for me. All the friends all are coming and going suddenly halts when they leave. Still adjusting. I have my faith and that really helps get me through.
Thank you for this. I'm preparing currently and I'm not excited at the thought. 18 is so young to be out there, I'm sure you were probably not expecting it so soon, which must have been hard as there was no time to prepare yourself? My 19 year old is thinking of future plans but I think we have a good few years before he's ready to give up mums cooking on a daily basis 😅, my youngest however is 14 almost 15 and he's raring to go and cant wait to get out there, so I worry he will do as I did and run before he can walk, as I too moved out at 18. I'm thinking of ways I can prepare myself now, as 5 or 6 years tops seems like a long time, until you look back at the 19 years you've been a parent and you realise how very very quickly those years will fly by. Glad to know your son is happy and doing well. I hope you get to see him often xxx
Great timing. Your book and podcast sound so promising. I'd been thinking about a point you also raised that one's children will be happier if we're busy and content. I know that's shouldn't be the sole motivator but that's a big one for me since it sort of follows along the same path of making choices based on what's good for them. But whatever works to start the ball rolling, I suppose. Thank you.
Im an only child. My mom ran me off when she was going through the change and was so angry all the time. Then she complained of empty nest. Both our lives would have gone better if she hadnt done that. She didnt mind me coming back to pay bills when she got down in health though
That makes me so sad. My daughter is an only child. When I dropped her off at college, I cried the entire 2.5 hours home. She's got a long road of schooling, so we told her she's always welcome to stay. I cannot imagine pushing her out, especially at such a young age. Our goal, as parents, is to ensure she's got the best footing before she moves out completely.
Sounds like she longs for what should have been a better relationship with her mother so all of it would've been easier in general. I hear it I can relate.
I would really love to know why and how (including the getting rid of things) you made the move to Portugal. I'd love to do that but don't know where to start. For instance, did you already know the region you wanted to move to?
Hello lady, I'm 35 and think you're a model woman really. Still in the game. RESPECT. I think the reason it lands well is that you seem to be doing it for yourself and men do respect grit and determination (it is attractive). Good for you.
Just found your channel. I divorced when my nest became empty. Now 70 and remarried. I became plant based 8 years ago and feel so much more alive. I started painting again. I love makeup and skin care. I look at least 10 years younger but that's not my aim, i want to be the best me i can be always.
Not quite "empty nester", but almost; our fourth of 5 has just moved out, it is heartbreaking every time. At 63, and grandmother of 4, I still haven't gotten used to it. I am once again in a depression.I know it will pass, but it is a terrible feeling. My mother didn't prepare me for this, or at least tell me about it. I want to do it differently. "Empty nester" ; I am very grateful for this English term that cannot be translated into German. Now my feelings finally have a name😊.Now all that’s missing is a logo ( from🇨🇭)
As always I love all things Gail! My question is, do you have ageing parents? If so, how do you go ahead and move away and do what you want with your life when you have ageing parents to tend to? I would not be able to handle the guilt
It's the reason we should enjoy our lives instead of putting so much effort into raising kids.. As an 18 year old, I feel I wouldn't wanna go through empty nest thingy and waste my whole life (i have only one life) raising childrenm... That sounds like a huge waste of time to me.
@@joannastasiaExactly. I wasn't brainwashed however I wanted a child and a family and like everything else in life, there is a plus side and a minus and we have to be prepared to adopt and adjust accordingly living life on life terms.❤❤❤ when I was 18 I didn't want children either but somewhere in my 30s that changed. My daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me and my life... difficult to deal with the emptiness thing on my own, but I do it, one day at a time.
I saw your comment on the video GoatisReviews made about you. He is currently a fugitive criminal because he paid a guy to throw acid on his ex-girlfriend and then paid the same guy to kill her and her son in a house fire. This happened in the Netherlands and the attacker's name is Ilyas. Last week, he was sentenced to 12 years in prison and Goatis was officially declared a criminal. You should copyright strike the video to help to get his channel deleted.
Neil, you share a lifestyle retirement starting from 55 years (very young) abroad for only rich people thatvcan afford. Do you realize WE are mostly completly screwed with low salaries, divorce and children ? Thanks for sharing.
Wish I could talk so naturally, powerfully and fluently tintje camera as you do. Preparing for empty nest on my own here. My daughter is 16. Learning new skills as well. Working on my own online business. Just started a new job as well. But at 56 I feel that’s not what I want. Thank you for your video’s. You feel like a girlfriend 😊. Also, once sound! What’s your mic?
I went into depression for a good 10 years after my daughter left. Just now starting to climb my way back up and out. Your videos are a godsend. Thank you.❤
I am experiencing similar. Life hasn't been the same. I threw my whole heart and soul into caring for her on my own while working full-time just the two of us and the house. Yes it's suddenly very quiet. I have a lot of tough days, but I have some good ones too.
You touch my heart, soul, and mind in so many ways. Thank you for this. just as a woman of 58 and trying to find my way again ❤
You are spot on my dear My husband and I raised 3 children,while having very demanding careers, my husband as an Oncology Nurse and myself as an Emergency Trauma Nurse, our oldest chose College and Graduate School, pursued her Masters Degree in Bio Medical Science, she is a Research Scientist and a College Professor, our 2nd child went straight into the work force, he was our only son, he works for a large construction firm, and his live of All things mechanical paid off, our youngest child joined the United States Air Force, right out of High School, she retired as a Staff Sargeant with 8 years of service, All of our kids left home at 18 to pursue their lives and dreams, but it was always hard and sad to see them go, but we were still working,and by the time they were leaving, our parents started needing more of our help, due to health concerns, my husband and I turned 62 this year, we are only discovering our lives again, We have one grand child and another one on the way, so the circle of life will keep us going, but we do not want being grand parents to be our whole lives, hope that doesn't sound bad.
Oh yes! I'm 66... My daughter married an Aussie and fell in love with Australia...I so get it! They now live in Tasmania "Tassie"..I live in Illinois. I have a grandson there too...awesome life down in the magical kingdom! Love that they have a great life. I love your work...I cry all the time when I think of them. But I embrace my emotions, all of them and I'm good at having lots to do! I am into meditation, yoga, exercise and an optimal diet.i love online class workout videos..they pump me up! You're a gem! Thank you!
I’m Australian and my adult children now live in Portugal and the UK, so the opposite side of the planet. I’m asleep while they’re at work and vice versa. So it’s really hard. I so understand your emotions. It’s almost like grief.
As a daughter of a mother who didn’t share her feelings, I hope you tell them how you feel. My mom didn’t want to burden me with her pain, I’m guessing, but I’d much rather have known about it and tried to comfort her. I only found out about her depression after she died. We talked every day and saw each other often, but she never told me how depressed she was. She always seemed upbeat. I hope your children call you often and include you in their lives. It’s so important to share all our feelings, even if they’re hard to hear.
So true!! My husband and I became empty nester 2 years ago, and like you said sometimes the house is really quite and stale. As we get older "change" is a little harder. Logically, i understand it is part of life and I wouldn't like it any other way. It's good for the kids to have the experience of moving out of the house and study, follow their passion. Nostalgy hits from time to time, and we need to be prepared for that. I think having a good relationship and great communication helps a bunch. Good luck to all that are in the process, it gets better!! 😘✨️
One of the things I love about this channel, and there are many, is that it helps me realize I am not alone in these middle age struggles. No one likes to talk about it. There is endless conversation and commiseration between the new mothers. They don’t know what they are in for much later on lol.
So true. Endless conversations and endless books and forums dedicated to new mothers and we are kind of left on our own to figure it out. Not many people talk about it so I'm thankful for this space they don't know what they're in for so true lol
Love all your videos, thank you so much for your, 😊inspiration,.😊
I used to work as a Life Coach, and one of the things that would always come up, both for Mothers and Fathers, - the empty nest. Many parents, as you say, do not prepare for it. When it happens it is like a death in the family it is essentially. The life you worked for, worked at, is now over - Changed, done. Now what!? Really nice topic to discuss and great ideas! you are so inspiring!
I wish someone would have told me this before my son moved out on his own! I really struggled. This wisdom would have helped me so much!
🙏thank you for sharing this reflection.🌻
Thank you so much for this video today Gail. I look forward to reading your book and to listening to your podcast. I am 56 and appreciate your wisdom & thoughts on the empty nest & this 2nd half of life. I'm having a very hard time dealing with my empty nest - your video has lifted my spirits & inspired me. I don't have a sister but I feel a sisterhood with you and the channel.
Thank you Gail
I work full time so its different, but i agree its a big loss and a transition which takes time to get used to. I found a whole new sense of life and wonder🎉
The ABSOLUTE SILENCE was the hardest part. Where’s the giggling singing chatting? I couldn’t get over the silence. Nothing like it in my entire life.
I wasnt prepared emotionally. When our only son moved out it was really hard to realize he was moving on to a new phase of his life. However, since he moved in with his now wife and they are only ten minutes away, we cant complain. We see them often and are so blessed. And now that we are both retired, my husband and I are having a blast! The new phase of our life and the new phase of their lives have both been wonderful.
Yes, there is a saying that the entire job of a parent is to make yourself obsolete...it's hard but the very fact your son is so independent and confident out in the world shows that you did a good job...
Your video really resonated with me. Our adult son and twin girls are grown and doing well but wow was it tough when they all left the nest. I encourage those who haven’t experienced that yet to listen to this video. Thank you for sharing.
This is a wonderful video. Thank you from a 56 year old mama who is in the process of helping her youngest baby figure out her next step in life. I've had the privilege of raising 5 wonderful kids all doing well, and now I'm helping my last one. It's bittersweet, but also, like you said, a celebration. I'm looking forward to finding me again. ❤ Much love to you and thank you. 😊
Great video in a beautiful setting. Thank you 😊
Thank You, A great video réally a lot of information for those of us who are at the levels you are speaking of. Many Blessings Gail.
Also, for those of us, who unfortunately, never had a "full nest". I think this is why I love nature and animals so much! My nest is filled a little with ageing parents...finding a balance between helping but not taking away ANY of their independence. They're fiercely independent and not easy to help them. We're doing the decluttering, have to as my
folks need to downsize. It's very liberating, but Dad has kept hold of everything! It was all very neat and tidy, if you can declutter slowly, start now!
My essentials in life are nature walks, yoga, kettlebells, delicious food, good friends. I've started running Mindful, Creative Writing workshops...absolutely love running them!
Thank you Gail for your aurhentic and inspiring videos...
Transitions...yes please to more videos!
xx💚xx
Great advice as no one ever really talks about this & acknowledging that this will eventually happen is preparation in itself.
I have been there & come out of the other side now.
This is spot on. You really are correct about having something to replace that occupation from them to a new diversion.
The hard thing is teying to remember who you were before children. I know it won't be the same, but it can guide you.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and advice. 🙏🌹🌻
Great video - absolutely nailed it for the empty nesters - I need to take my grief and channel it into making myself and my family feel pride - which will ultimately be so much healthier for my family and myself . Just THANKYOU 😊
Fully agree with you....time for us now but it takes time to put ourselves first
Thanks for the update and informative chat, it's inspiring to see how easy it can be achieved, as a. Widow and empty nester😊, I am sure I could learn a lot of things and be able to achieve a lot with my time left to do. Namaste thank you. 🙏🏽🎶♥️
“Mid-life edit” that is EXACTLY what I need in my life, I relate to everything you are talking about. I am loving your wisdom, Thank you for sharing, I’m listening, I’m starting to think 🤔 over what you are saying. 😊❤
Looking forward to your podcast 💞 thanks!
Thank you Gail, a lot, for your work and endurance in this online world. I am 54, I also do yoga, am not in a bad shape, work a lot, prepare for the empty nest - our elder kids, 25 and 22 study abroad -, and I cook healthy stuff, so, we are kinda okay... But you have a surplus of energy that bursts in every video, it's contageous! I admire your momentum and respect the work behind it. Hugs.
Thank you so much for your lovely words 🤗
Hello from France 🇫🇷
Luv yr content !
You’re a natural on camera dogs or tripod be damned!😅 Enjoyed what you shared here without rambling on in circles..✅🥰
Professional but personal.. well done !👌😇❤️
That’s so wonderful that you were able to declutter that much.. how did you manage the decluttering of memories, I know they live in us but what about photos 🥺
Looking forward to this change in my life, about to turn 55 and no children, it’s still a transition.. hubby is retiring and I am looking at changing careers or shifting mine ..
you are such an inspiration..☺️thank you so much!
Looking so forward to your book and podcast!
This is what I needed to hear at this stage of my life. I'm 58, my eldest son has been out of home for a few years now but I still see him quite often and anyway at the time it happened I was thinking "Well I still got the youngest one here, so my nest is not empty yet". Now the second one will be leaving soon if everything goes as he planned, and then the blow will strike. You are right, I need to plan too and be prepared. Thanks for your words and tips, I will try to follow them ❤
What an uplifting video Gail🌼 Looking forward to your podcast!
our eldest is living with friends, my middle child just went to Australia for a semester and our youngest, though still at home, is a young adult and doesn't want much parental involvement. Its a big change and I am also excited to have a new journey with my spouse and our relationship. Yes, prepare. I like going back to things I haven't done in years because I have less interruption. Best 2U.
That you❤ I feel like a kid myself scared for what the future holds but excited. I feel as I also will be leaving home the world at my feet a very different time looking forward to reinventing myself. My son finishes year 12 here in Australia next year. Loving your channel and adore your look . Thanks again
Im 56 and lost my mother four years ago. I feel a bit like an empty nester since we spent every day together up until the pandemic, and I was so focused on her care for so long. I feel lost without her. I’m going to follow your advice and start moving my body, eating better and caring for my soul as well. I need to finally start the healing process. Thank you for this.
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Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful insights and excellent advice. You are delightful and so wise. ❤
I loved basketball as a child,and also loved playing with my sons. I turned 61 this year and my husband got me a basketball hoop and I've been loving it!
Just pre-ordered on Audible! Thank you for sharing your journey.
Thank you for the video 👍 That was interesting!
Hello from Russia!
Wish you all the best!
I’m so glad you’re back! I was worried that you posted no videos for the last 3 months. I’m glad you are well and looking forward to more content🩵
Thank you for your good advice
I always worked full time raising my son and I still do.
This makes a huge difference concerning free time.
Jump roping and healthy food is always a good idea.
Thank you for your content.
Thank you!
Empty best feels like a taboo - so glad you’ve spoken about this x
Thank you for your all ideas❤
I really love watching your channel. You inspire me so much and give me faith and optimism for the future !
I’ve just lost my daughter and son all in one weekend and feeling very proud that there off to new adventures and that they are independent young people but also very sad at the same time. The world can be a very cruel place and you want to make sure that they are always protected and it’s hard to let go!! I am now 52 and searching for what path I’m going to do now but I’m so confused which one to take !! Xx
This is very interesting. Im actually 27 and have 3 young children, but I already think about this period of life when they will leave home and what that will be like. They uproot your life and turn it upside down, but then when they leave it must turn your world upside down again! Whilst being an empty nester is a while off for me yet, it's interesting to hear it is actually something you should prepare for. 👍
You are my inspiration! Thank you so much! 🌻
...I think this is absolutely right what you say....since May I have changed my thinking about health as well....lost 12 kg - & also thinking about "live" too.....follow you since around this time too & think you are a amazing women.
Looking forward to see your podcast....
Have a great day too
Cheers from 🇨🇭
Caroline
You will never lose your value, as a Mother, nor as a human. Just keep on being You ❤. 1 new 57 year old subscriber. 😊
This video and comments make me just cry. I try not to think about my only baby being so far away, but it means I did it correctly. Baby bird grew up and flew away. I get to visit in 3 weeks and love on my grandbaby for a week!❤❤
My comment is live life! Whether a mom, friend, wife, daughter, employee etc. There is no one or no thing that can fill me and help me through the opportunities and challenges of life like the wisdom and love I get from Jesus ✝️. When I was younger, I placed my hope and my effort on my marriage. We are still married but it’s not thriving. His lust issues were more important than his marriage. I wasted a lot of time. Some women sink their hope and time into their children. And that doesn’t “pay off” either. The more time we spend getting spiritually, mentally and physically healthy, the more we are able to endure the pains and appreciate the joys. The relationships I have with my Christian friends is deep and filled with joy, love and satisfaction. They have become my support system on earth and a place I spend my time nourishing. Blessings to all and I hope your book helps and inspires many!
Great video, needed this ❤
I am 50 and with an 11 year old son who I spend time homeschooling and spend tons of time with … I will appreciate every loud moment 😅
Thank you for sharing with us what you have gone through after your son moved out. I am struggling to find my way now at 56. My daughter is 21, lives at home, but is seldomly here due to work and university classes she takes. Gone are the days of her needing me daily to get her places like dance, softball, homework help, etc… I don’t know who I am without the main title of mother. I feel lost and lonely and have very little self confidence anymore. I’m also going through menopause and it has changed so many things about me. I do eat healthy and exercise daily. But outside of that I don’t know what to do with myself…I feel empty and I am so scared of living like this the rest of my life. I am married to a wonderful man, but he has a very busy career and he travels from time to time. We spend time together whenever we can, but once we’re apart I feel empty and uncertain about life again. I have a couple of friends and very little family left. I’m afraid to try anything new or make commitments because I sometimes don’t follow through and I don’t want to disappoint anybody or myself. You have been a light in some of my dark days… you give me hope and you are helping me to realize that I can still feel good about myself and how I look regardless of my age..aging has been a tough one for me… the physical changes in my face from years of sun tanning make me feel old and unattractive. I listened to your first podcast episode today and I found it helpful. I mediate 4 days a week, but now I would like to try to commit to doing it everyday. Much love and appreciation to you for all you do! ❤☮️
Thanks for sharing this. I miss my grown up little one. ❤
Thank you for your advice ❤
My daughter and I ended up back living together and I still struggled with the sense of not being needed anymore. It took a while to get over it, but I'm OVER IT now! Great advice!
This is so good to hear. I feel so alone in this!
Aaawww your gorgeous Vizsla 😍 🐕🧡 I miss mine so much 🤗
Love it❤!!!!
Thank you!!! Yes, an empty nester. I know he is doing great but sometimes I feel my heart went with him =(
I was prepared. It's great!
My only child is 10 years old but I’m already dreading when she leaves the nest. So this was so helpful. I certainly neglect my self in being a mother so I’m inspired by the thought of taking better care of myself and enjoying my husband more. 🙏❤️
I worked full time so when all the boys went off to higher education, and then separate lives I had plenty to fill my life. They come back from time to time, retiring after working from 17 has been more difficult and you may think you can prepare, but good luck! And I’m relatively busy and obviously fit, but then I always was, don’t leave staying healthy until you’re older and it’s difficult. I’d agree with the kettlebell, one of the boys teaches fitness and he gave me the kettlebell tip too.
Gail, I Just saw you reached 200K subscribers! Congratulations !
My kids stayed home for many years and then married and stayed in the area and now we have grandkids whom we see often! I know I am lucky
This couldn’t have been better timed! My last child moved out this weekend at the age of 23. She is due her own baby in October, I can’t help feeling sad but I’m also bursting with pride too. I am tired and know it’s great that I’ll have more time for me, but I also feel like just curling up in bed and hiding under the duvet. Well done to all you brave mums out there because I wouldn’t want to cope with them away full time in another country!
That is great advice!!
Hello Gail,
For many reasons didn't have the t ime to get prepared
And it is very very hard...
I used to ne interested in different things, but that 's not the case anymore.
Have a nice evening and a nice Sunday.
💗 from France.
Similar for me. I never had so many interest in hobbies as when my daughter was little. She was my muse and I was inspired and always to get fit, to eat well, to be creative, to travel an adventure. Now that she is gone, and I am of a certain age with a some mobility issues... I don't love going places alone, but I guess I will start with some smaller trips. The house is quiet and that's hard for me. All the friends all are coming and going suddenly halts when they leave. Still adjusting. I have my faith and that really helps get me through.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are a very inspiring person, I adore your insta page. Thank you and best wishes.
Yes! It’s so strange!
Thank you for this. I'm preparing currently and I'm not excited at the thought. 18 is so young to be out there, I'm sure you were probably not expecting it so soon, which must have been hard as there was no time to prepare yourself? My 19 year old is thinking of future plans but I think we have a good few years before he's ready to give up mums cooking on a daily basis 😅, my youngest however is 14 almost 15 and he's raring to go and cant wait to get out there, so I worry he will do as I did and run before he can walk, as I too moved out at 18. I'm thinking of ways I can prepare myself now, as 5 or 6 years tops seems like a long time, until you look back at the 19 years you've been a parent and you realise how very very quickly those years will fly by. Glad to know your son is happy and doing well. I hope you get to see him often xxx
Thank you for this video!
Great timing. Your book and podcast sound so promising. I'd been thinking about a point you also raised that one's children will be happier if we're busy and content. I know that's shouldn't be the sole motivator but that's a big one for me since it sort of follows along the same path of making choices based on what's good for them. But whatever works to start the ball rolling, I suppose. Thank you.
Thank you Gail❤ looking forward to your book and your podcast ~ enjoyed your video today; thought provoking and insightful!
Im an only child. My mom ran me off when she was going through the change and was so angry all the time. Then she complained of empty nest. Both our lives would have gone better if she hadnt done that. She didnt mind me coming back to pay bills when she got down in health though
🤗🤗 Just Pay The Bill If You Can ( Easier Said Than Done, But Just Do It).
What did you wanna do.. stay with your mum forever (sounds nice to me) .. you're not clear at all..
@@scienceislove2014 Maybe till Id gone to college. She was alone too
That makes me so sad. My daughter is an only child. When I dropped her off at college, I cried the entire 2.5 hours home. She's got a long road of schooling, so we told her she's always welcome to stay. I cannot imagine pushing her out, especially at such a young age. Our goal, as parents, is to ensure she's got the best footing before she moves out completely.
Sounds like she longs for what should have been a better relationship with her mother so all of it would've been easier in general. I hear it I can relate.
Gonna get your book on Audible!
THank you for the Swedish Death Cleaning. Looking into it now xx
There’s a download available on my website fiftysister.com
Great post. I’m new to this too.
I have about 6 years til I have an empty nest. I'm planning to have my Ph.D. in Education by the time he leaves.
I would really love to know why and how (including the getting rid of things) you made the move to Portugal. I'd love to do that but don't know where to start. For instance, did you already know the region you wanted to move to?
We always miss them … 😢
Hello lady,
I'm 35 and think you're a model woman really. Still in the game. RESPECT.
I think the reason it lands well is that you seem to be doing it for yourself and men do respect grit and determination (it is attractive). Good for you.
Just found your channel. I divorced when my nest became empty. Now 70 and remarried. I became plant based 8 years ago and feel so much more alive. I started painting again. I love makeup and skin care. I look at least 10 years younger but that's not my aim, i want to be the best me i can be always.
Thanks Gail.... just been working on myself and coping with the empty nest.
Where do we find your podcast?
It will be broadcast live on here. Check my website for information fiftysister.com 😊
Not quite "empty nester", but almost; our fourth of 5 has just moved out, it is heartbreaking every time. At 63, and grandmother of 4, I still haven't gotten used to it. I am once again in a depression.I know it will pass, but it is a terrible feeling. My mother didn't prepare me for this, or at least tell me about it. I want to do it differently. "Empty nester" ; I am very grateful for this English term that cannot be translated into German. Now my feelings finally have a name😊.Now all that’s missing is a logo ( from🇨🇭)
This was a great video. What is the name of your podcast and where can we find it?
True Peace in a pod and it will be broadcast live on here on 25th September
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As always I love all things Gail!
My question is, do you have ageing parents? If so, how do you go ahead and move away and do what you want with your life when you have ageing parents to tend to?
I would not be able to handle the guilt
Neil, you share a lifestyle retirement startingbfrom 55 yars old abroad for only rich people Can afford.
Do you réalité ?
Thanks for sharing.
It's the reason we should enjoy our lives instead of putting so much effort into raising kids..
As an 18 year old, I feel I wouldn't wanna go through empty nest thingy and waste my whole life (i have only one life) raising childrenm... That sounds like a huge waste of time to me.
A lot of the younger generation feel this way. Our generation (I’m 58) were brainwashed into believing you get married and have children.
@@joannastasiaExactly. I wasn't brainwashed however I wanted a child and a family and like everything else in life, there is a plus side and a minus and we have to be prepared to adopt and adjust accordingly living life on life terms.❤❤❤ when I was 18 I didn't want children either but somewhere in my 30s that changed. My daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me and my life... difficult to deal with the emptiness thing on my own, but I do it, one day at a time.
I saw your comment on the video GoatisReviews made about you. He is currently a fugitive criminal because he paid a guy to throw acid on his ex-girlfriend and then paid the same guy to kill her and her son in a house fire. This happened in the Netherlands and the attacker's name is Ilyas. Last week, he was sentenced to 12 years in prison and Goatis was officially declared a criminal.
You should copyright strike the video to help to get his channel deleted.
Gail I can’t find the podcast. Is it on Apple Podcasts?
It will be broadcast live on this channel on the 25th September.
@@FiftySister thank you! Looking forward to it 🥰
Neil, you share a lifestyle retirement starting from 55 years (very young) abroad for only rich people thatvcan afford.
Do you realize WE are mostly completly screwed with low salaries, divorce and children ?
Thanks for sharing.
I totally agree.
Wish I could talk so naturally, powerfully and fluently tintje camera as you do. Preparing for empty nest on my own here. My daughter is 16. Learning new skills as well. Working on my own online business. Just started a new job as well. But at 56 I feel that’s not what I want. Thank you for your video’s. You feel like a girlfriend 😊. Also, once sound! What’s your mic?
I love your videos but can you please do something about the volume. I turn the volume up to maximum at my end but still have trouble hearing you.
What is your choice of jump ropes? I’m only 5’ 2”
Can I just say how much I love your attitude?
I live in a culture where everyone stays at home until they get married ..none are married yet so my nest is still full😂😂😂
Or maybe, just maybe you have to work ….Even as an empty nester ??? 😂