Absent Fathers, Weaponising Kids and Unstable Families - Na'ima B Robert - MH PODCAST (p1)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ย. 2024
- Episode #11 of the MH podcast
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Assalamualaykum I want to arrange a debate with you and a brother are you interested? The topic will be on democracy and voting ?
Got it! Going to read it soon.
@@brinstar Not every woman that defends her sisters and empower them is a feminist. Feminism is originally a Western political and social movement(s). It has nothing to do with us, nor our way of advocating for women, the best who did that is actually the prophet himself pbuh. So what's you're problem? I think a lot of people that be commenting like this are not Muslims, but sent here by some organizations. I am really starting to think like this. Maybe you just don't know anything. Allah knows best!
@@teamislam7016 voting is Haram boy. In political Islam we've something called bay'ah;the oath of allegiance & done by everyone in public, not hiding it in a ballot box. That's Dajjal's dirty work from the West's Democracy. But the choosing of a leader is not for everyone, it's done by well-known & respected members in the society or a nation. Hope that answers ur whole debate😂✌️
Asalam alaikum. MashAllah regarding the discussion. InshaAllah in future videos I feel honing on the issues discussed in this video will highlight this dialogue further. For example, a brother or sister displaying narcissistic traits in their character has root causes from childhood, so it will be helpful if social media personalities in the muslim community raised more awareness in addressing our childhood traumas and the results of healing these traumas. Often we tend to hover over the issues once it arises, what we must do as a community is educate ourselves on the matters of childhood trauma and breakdown how we must heal and grow from this. As a guide, search these topics being covered by non muslims.
There were so many important things said in this podcast. I honestly wish every Muslim would be able to listen to, understand, and process the things that were said. Sister Na'ima was incredibly articulate, sensible, and balanced. Br. Hijab did a great job as usual. JazaakumAllah khair.
Exacellent Topic My father is still alive alhamdullilah but due to him being absent most of the time during my childhood, due to him committing himself to the deen(he's a moulana/Hafiz/alim) going away for weeks and weeks, we missed an opportunity to bond with each other. Now I'm in my 30s and my mother passed away I crave for unconditional love. This crave is not a void but it's an abyss - a deep dark pit. Without my father being present in my life I grew up self hating, turned to debauchery and all kinds of evil. I was unknowingly trying to fill a hole in my life. This hole which I recently discovered is "unconditional love". Every child needs a father in his life or a father figure, to guide him to mentor him. Without this, he will fall into every trap and end up living a broken reckless life. Brother thank you for shedding light on this. Much love
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My father divorced my mother and abandoned me altogether after my birth. Say alhamdulillah for what you have
@@umerjavednisar He should be greateful for what he has because it's better than what a lot of others have, but it's still not good just because it's better. A father should not be absent from a child's life period.
Why would a father leave his child? That is not what a father should do. Once a man has a child he is to be a parent which means being there day to day. Certainly there are times when people leave for work but this should be limited.
@The Alpha I'm a brother ...
Pray for me to be istiqamah. Alhamdulillah i have converted to Islam. Islam is a blessing❤️
Salaam sister we are praying for you may Allah keep you steadfast in your Deen
aameen sister. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hello Lady convert. I bet they did not tell you about the breast suckling verses in the Islamic books before you converted, ha ha haaa. Islam IS an information control CULT and you sold your last two brain cells to it - - - If you are honest and do a deep dive into quran and hadiths, no honest person can follow it, it is so disgusting and so unbelievibly filthy...... I leave it to you to check it out. Apostate prophet on you tube gives a very good and balanced view of Islam and Christianity, and compares the two if them..... Alfadi and Jay Smith also give a very respactible and technical annalysis also.. Happy watching..
@@kevinunderwood9980 😂😂😂😂
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Brothers and sisters never forget our oppressed brothers and sisters in your dua and raise awareness for them specially the uyghur brothers and sisters. Our brothers in kashmir are also in great pain. Remember dua is the biggest strength of a believer.
Our beloved prophet(sm) said ,'‘Whoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; if he is unable to, then with his tongue; if he is unable, then with his heart - and that is the weakest of faith.’' Narrated by Muslim in his saheeh
Islamophobe rants are welcome
I’m so tired of muslims highlighting the oppression only when non muslims are the oppressors. What about highlighting oppression of muslims committed by other Muslims??
Oh shh about oppression of Muslims. We are victims of ourselves. If Muslims stopped being victims for one second, maybe we'd take back our lands and be strong again. Playing the loser victim card is weak and pathetic.
@6:09: "If we could get our marriages on point so many things will change..." Excellent point. The best way to change society for the better is to focus on strong and healthy families. That starts with a proper relationship between men, women and God.
she's on point about that it is difficult to tell religiosity just based on looks, especially in this era.
my ex husband was a muhajir but was drinking and sleeping around like he never left the states.
@@shabzahmedshabzahmed1046 Subhanallah
@@shabzahmedshabzahmed1046 what do you gain from writing what your previous spouse did
@@jaysale6626 what do you gain on commenting on my comment??!!! exactly now sssssshhhhh!!
@kiko yunchow What you said about the Masjid is true and affected my heart
Extremely enlightening podcast Nai'ma Robert is a gem mashaAllah
The world needs the MH podcast.
The world needs Muslims with Iman
@@homtanks7259 this is a much better statement
Brother are u indian by race cause I knew a person named mathern long ago
@@thethinker8883 no bro
hes is absolut without any respect, im confused why muslims like that? Maybe he act like mohamed?
I'm glad this was mentioned brothers been given a pass by other men in the community.I agree with brother hijab absent fathers and abusers need to be called out in our comminities.There is enabling of brothers in our community.
@It doesn't Matters women are put to account way more then men in our community ,if a sister became a absent mother and left her kids.What would the reaction be from the community?
@@cultivatingspecialpeople9224 absolutely. Me being a man I completely agree.
I think women are also being inculcated by the new society also. By default they have too much expectation and they never take responsibility for their actions. So much is wrong with society now and it's poised us which in turn makes our relationships toxic.
May Allah reward brother Hijab and give him good health Ameen.
Always pray for everyone as well as individual
Ameen Ya Rabbi Ameen
Brother Muhammad please allow your guest to speak without interruptions .
Assalamu alaikum.
I feel like there were a lot of interruptions being made while sister Naima was talking and cutting her off.
Just food for thought.
In sha allah that can be improved upon.
Jazakumullahu khairan
YES. My thoughts exactly!
You didn’t feel that you observed hat the man can’t shut up specially when what she says doesn’t go exactly along with him
Very interesting and true what she said in the beginning about the "imprisonment of the mind". Sad that I didn't even know about her. I am going to search about the 25 books that she wrote. Thank you brother Mohammed for this podcast!
She’s also going on secular podcasts as well. She went on Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews yesterday!
@@KrimzunFlare link?
@@GokuBlack-sn5dr you can just go to his channel, she’s in the thumbnail.
They are all rants about being academically dissatisfied with Islam especially the salafi type
The reality is the whole second wife thing third or fourth, this is permissible for MEN WHO HAVE THE ABILITY, lets be honest, how many of us men have the ability? Not just economically but spiritually, mentally and physically. Those men of the past ie Prophet alayhi salaam and sahaba, they were men who had these characteristics and abilities to have more than wife. We have to be realistic. People need to understand themselves and know what they are capable of. Both men and women have to learn each others rights from Islamic point of view and fear Allah that they dont be unjust to their spouse. If they dont, they will wrong each other and find solutions from the wrong understandings whether feminism, red pill etc. May Allah bless and protect all of you. Amee
I paused the video half-way; just wanted to say, I agree with bro hijab on exposing absent fathers and weaponising mothers! 💯
I have heard that the last people Dajal will come for is women. I have also heard that most women will follow Dajal. Allah knows best!
@@ctrldelete1763 Yeah, this video is from dajjal
@@botbeamer Never claimed it was! You're understanding and my statement are two different things. The king of kings Allah (swt) knows best!
Ma sha Allah TabarakAllah, a wonderful role model for our daughters and sisters. May Allah bless her and those like her who are serving the deen. Ameen
Men take care of women which means they need to be leaders. They need to handle the pressure of being a leader in many ways. Them being manly and leading is not arrogant.
the greatest thing about this whole conversation is her niqab. We, in the West, are so used to see the faces of the women talking, and, either by conditioning due to society, or by our own poor judgment, form an opinion on the validity of the point a woman is making by the way she looks (I know many who fall victim to this mentality), with the veil such a thing is impossible, and, since we aren't allowed to form an opinion based on her looks, all we are left is her mind and her dialectic. Which in turn helps her a lot in delivering the message in the most unadulterated form possible.
I don't know I find it quite off putting to be honest with you. Maybe because I'm not use to it but your point is quite valid.
@Anisah why what
Honestly, you sound like an incel. Touch grass, the west is full of diversity.
@@jesuswesleyramirez4165 how exactly any of that makes me an "incel" of all things? And when does "diversity" come into play in my comment? It doesn't.
You probably did not get the point, that is all
a wisdom of mu ham mad or a donkey?
Anas ibn Malik reported that a man cursed fleas in the presence of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Do not curse them. A flea woke up one of the Prophets for the prayer."
who needs alarm clock when you have fleas, my friend?
from The Best Local Pest Control
You mention 'father being out' in my situation my ex-wife isn't allowing my children to speak to me. She even went to the extent of making false allegations against me and my family. It isn't always the case the men walk away etc.
We were careful to present both sides of this, my brother. May Allah make it easy and establish the justice.
May Allah help you with your situation.🤲🏽
Ameen. It's not easy. I wouldn't put my enemy through this let alone another Muslim. The court system is gynocentric to the extent that even though I have a court order and all my Ex's allegations were thrown out, and £90,000 down from legal fees there's not much I can do. Not complaining as everything is from Allah is good InshaAllah.
That’s a different situation brother. Na’ima is talking about the fathers who get divorced from the mother and cut all ties with their children because of the divorce. In that case it’s a choice.
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Very intellectual and balanced from both sister and brother in today's modern context. Alhamdulillah, should be an eye-opener to community.
I can already relate to what sister naima is pointing out. That mostly happens in the desi set up. If a divorce happens, even the kids are divorced. If the kids go with the mother, the father cuts off totally from them.
The mother usually makes it too difficult for the father to them . Especially once he remarries
No. You haven't mentioned the mother using the child as a weapon.
@@coldtruth6354 Exactly. Interesting how this women didn't mention that.
@@user-nr1ls7sx9v Nah. Most of the time it's the horrible mother using the child as a weapon.
The part at 33:00 is soooooo important! It’s 100% possible for “weaker” parties to be able to dominate “stronger” ones. Because of the history of oppression, when the stronger party gets dominated, no one listens.
It's like considering rich people immune to pain, grief and normal human feelings by the working class. Or in case of good looking people, people see the attention they get, but no sees that they are the ones also getting the most negative attention such as lust, jealousy, and unwanted advances.
"One of the most irregular Podcast in History!" 🤦🏻♂️
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History of podcast😂
@@Ebn_hawwa yap😃🙈
Masha'Allah this was such a balanced discussion, good to hear from the sister's perspective.
OMG!!! The VERY first sentence she says made me fall in love with her already!! May allah open all doors that are beneficial for your work and Akhira! Lol I’m gonna have to rewind and listen again because i was too excited to hear a female these days that not only i couldn’t bare listening to, but i actually LOVE listening to. Even when i disagreed, i still can feel she’s simply unaware just as anyone else could be, and i was fully convinced she’s the type that would declare her changing her mind (a true open minded person).
Im a brother and I had to stand up for severe injustice against my wife. Allah explicitly said. in the quran if your parents family members, etc tell you to participate in oppression we have Allah's permission to disobey and not listen. If i had given into this particular situation I know everyone would've accepted me and said yes men are supposed to "control" their wife. I'd be hit with "good job brother". Or "proud of you son." For letting people opress my wife. Of course I stood up against the oppression and was shunned by not only close family members but the community. It makes me sad but who am i when the prophet Muhammad saws was shunned by his people and has to migrate and his character was destroyed and is still getting destroyed today by hypocrites. Allah is the most just.
The MH Podcast is back. Alhamdulilah!!!!
I am divorced recently and can relate to these issues from childhood. I have contact with my children a son 11 and daughter 9 everyday. I jave them 3 nights and alhumdulillah spend time with them in a productive manner. The way i see it is I bought them into this world so it's my responsibility placed upon me by allah of my children. Religion is used as a veil to hide behind to justify bad, irresponsible behaviour! I'm Muslim and try to instill iman health wealth, three core values into my children. Their time is organised according to these values when they're with me. Alhumdulillah I try to fulfill my role as best as I can. I can say that the community does not support people like me who have emotionally needed help after the breakup from a narcissistic relationship and that's because they are not educated enough! Some very interesting points bought up in this cast. I believe there are much deeper issues that need to be addressed. It was nice to hear a productive dialogue from Muslims. Jaizakallah khairan brother/sister for bringing this to light.
Jazaakumullah kheeyr, but this is very needed topic, and I believe as Naima said, Men needs to be educated and reminded that they should separate between the Xaqqs, فاعط كل ذي حق حقهas well as what marriage means as many of them don't understand what marriage means, The Masuuliyah(responsibility) as many men thing marriage is only getting everything they desired and that they will live the best life full stop🙄there many women who are after the father asking them to share the responsibility for children as that has nothing to do with the divorce between them but most of the times what happens is once woman is divorced kids are also divorced, Subxaanallah. I wish I had the chance to speak about this!!
نسأل الله التوفيق
Maasha Allaah. Si fiican baad u dhigtay.
This kind of conversation opens up discourse for toxic productivity. The idea you arent allowed to be a normal Muslim. You have to be gigachad dawah person /entrepreneur or you failed. Being normal is ok, being below and above normal is also ok.
Very good points Hijab towards the end.
Thank you brother Hijab for having Sister Naima on first podcast 🌻
25 books? Mashallah
Such an interesting talk.. Every man I have known has walked out on their children after divorce. Never gave a damn. And this leads to a huge problem in the community like the subcontinent where the brother now has the to take the burden of his sister. And in most cases she has been harmed again by her own family. Rarely do even
the family of the girls stands up for her. It's the cultural concept if the daughter enters home of her husband in a carriage after marriage she leaves only in a coffin. I guess that's the reason we are among those countries who have a horrible sex ratio.
Second because Allah is first
Allah is more then first 😁
Zaka ALLAH is more than first as well as ALLAH is more than more😂. ALLAH is perfect.
Salam aleikum, I loved sister Naimas take on things. May Allah bless her and bless Mohamed Hijab.
Only issue is when you Mohamed Hijab constant keep interrupting her. It is quite impolite. We as listeners also want for her to finish her points. Specially since she is your senior as well, it is not good for you to cut her off so many times.
InshAllah maybe this can be improved.
Being a leader is not being arrogant. If you don't lead you follow. If you follow you can't decides the path as easy.
Would love for you to have such a discussion regarding parents & children - especially the children from broken homes. Both the parents and subsequent step-parents damage the children and refuse to acknowledge any harm done but expect stellar behavior from them. That's destroying the community even more. We have no more homes to go to, no families that love and support us!
Yeah MH podcast, one of the most irregular podcasts in history😅.
Quality over quantity
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hahahaha
a wisdom of mu ham mad or a donkey?
Anas ibn Malik reported that a man cursed fleas in the presence of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Do not curse them. A flea woke up one of the Prophets for the prayer."
who needs alarm clock when you have fleas, my friend?
from The Best Local Pest Control
@@seeki3315 Liar busted! No wonder you hid the reference its a weak hadith
، فَقَالَ: لاَ تَلْعَنْهُ، فَإِنَّهُ أَيْقَظَ نَبِيًّا مِنَ الأنْبِيَاءِ لِلصَّلاةِ.
Grade: Da'if (Al-Albani) weak.
Even if it was sahih it doesnt say have a flea as a alarm clock it just says dont curse since the insect did something good indirectly or directly. So jog on with your nonsense.
Wonderful podcast. I just bought sister Naima's book. About leadership, she makes a strong point that I think brother Mohammad should revisit. We have a leadership catastrophe in our communities because men are falling back and they falsely think that Islamically, it is pious to avoid such a role but they forget that's on a political high level. My fellow Muslim brothers need to assume responsibilities and lead forward with righteousness and yes you will make mistakes but you'll do well by experience inshaAllah. Read more of what the scholars say about this matter to understand how important it is to put things in their proper perspective. Dr. Peterson, though a nonMuslim, advocates strongly and rightfully for pushing good men to be good leaders. To borrow his words: Grow the hell up! You have so much potential bro, just leave arrogance behind you.
Dude I agree, but in this video misogynistic comments are getting 10x the likes. What in tarnation is this religion supposed instill.
Which scholars and books should we read on Leadership.
@@MuhammadAli-wy6ku Leadership is learned through experience bro and from rile models. The Prophet peace be upon him and other messengers of God in the Quran have exemplified this perfectly in different ways. Just read a lot about their leadership skills through their lives. Become best friends with them and the Sahaba through by learning their lives while focusing on leadership. Just stick to Muhammad peace be upon him leadership skills through his decision making. There is a reason why he was chosen above many in human history to be the Most Influential Leader in the world.
Masha Allah. Good to hear from a sister offering practical advice earned from years of hard work at the coal face.
LOVED THIS… I have to mention though to the men wanting more than 1 wife just know that it is extremely traumatic on the children especially within the world we live in
It causes so many problems and that’s from my personal experience
@Luqmaan Rashid it’s not brother. The siblings don’t have the same intensity of jealousy that co-wives have
@Luqmaan Rashid what? Your comparing having many siblings to multiple wives?
Probably should mention by experience I mean I’m the son of the first wive.
For context I’m in England so things like schools etc are very complicated trying to be normal in a westernised country is very complicated and has caused many problems
@@blaze56701 its men's nature to have multiple woman, thats why allah allowed it & even in heaven along with 2 atleast earthy wives men will have many virgin hoor al ayn. so discouraging or stopping man to practice his god given natural right is extremely traumatic & unislamic, inhuman act
So you are commenting against the wisdom of Allah? He allowed Multiple marriages, if it was bad he wouldn't have allowed it.
Also, most of the toxicity about Men wanting more wives rises from women's denial to accept this Islamic law. If those said women had stronger women put their whims and desires away and submitted to what Allah has allowed then a lot of those toxicity wouldn't exist..
Muslims these days don't even think while blabbering against what Allah The Almighty has made permissible, what a shame
I agree with the sister on manning-up their sons! 💯
Embarrassing when Hijab start talking sex, without sensing the sister dont want to go on that subject.
I respect hijab but I like the way she told him "we're not going there" when he unintentionally stepped the mark.
OMGGGGGGG YEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSS I WASSSS PRAYYIIINNGGG THISSS WOOUUULLLLDDDD HAAAPPPPEEENNNN!!!!! you dont understand how excited I am for this. Mohommed hijab next you got to get Lowkey on and talk some politics.
Wisdom, patience and a calm heart is what we ALL need to cope with family issues. Not easy. Not easy at all but... this is where close ties with the wisest of our relatives are important to maintain. Let's face it. There is hardly a family out there with NO problems at all... So we're pretty much ALL in the same boat one way or another.
So ...acquiring wisdom & patience is vital to navigate what's going on in your life. A calm heart can only come from acknowledging that only Allah Subhanuhu wa'ta'ala can show us the way. Maybe in baby steps... but hey, that's better than standing still and doing nothing.
Sometimes we are the ones in need of help, sometimes we are the ones (and maybe the only ones) who can really help someone else. l acknowledge myself that it's SO hard to hear even the kindest well intentioned reprimand from a wise brother or sister, Uncle or Aunt, Father or Mother etc... but often that's what we NEED to hear, not necessarily what we WANT to hear.
Families are the first "teams" in the world.... and many many many families are suffering because they don't have the right proportion of "players" and substandard "equipment"... It takes courage to show up for your family, it also takes wisdom, patience and.... a calm heart.
I agree with the sister many of these fathers are cowards who leave abandon their kids . These types of men give Islam a bad name
Thanks so much for A BALANCED CONVERSATION
Much better than that 'Honest Tea Talk' channel wherein those 3 sisters discuss similar issues but almost always take a turn to being biased.
Excellent podcast, may Allah bless you both. Especially for someone is taking my search serious for marriage now. This is a very important podcast.
Don't forget deen over everything. Also do everything the halal way (don't date, talk alone on the phone or be alone in general). Don't be fooled by appearances, ask questions and get to know her soul, her personality, her character and VALUES. This is my personal opinion but I think you should avoid at all cost materialistic sisters, sisters who expose themselves online and sisters who are "liberal" (meaning they don't actually take the deen seriously, they conpromise a lot, to adhere to this modern liberal lifestyle). May Allah make it easy for you.
We're planning something very special for brothers and sisters in your position, insha Allah. Make du'a for us!
@@NaimaBRobertTV jazakallah khayran Sister Na'ima, I can't wait!.
Walahi, i can't believe I'm listening to this, as a former widow and now divorcee I can relate to sister Na'eema .... weaponising children and intimacy, judging a potential partner by the way they look, I should be a case study!
Brilliant conversation. This sister is a gem ^^
The name of sister's TH-cam channel is: Na'ima B. Robert
Thank you! Jazaka Allahu khairan
@@user-zu3ot5lo8w wa iyyak
Prenup is a must in today’s day and age. No one should be stealing what is not rightfully theirs.
Someone 👏 please 👏 shows this 👏 to brothers who preach stuff like "Male privilege is a myth". The beginning of this conversation shows that it is 100% a reality (and again its degree depends on cultures).
In eastern cultures unfortunately, even in cultures that are Muslim today, male privilege has been rooted since pre-Islamic times, waaay before Red Pillers took over (the Red Pill movement is western btw).. And today YES western feminism is developing in Muslim countries and many sisters are unfortunately following it blindly as a reaction to their rights being robbed etc.. Then again the Red Pill movement comes as a reactionary movement among Muslim brothers... It's a huge dilemma and it's very important to talk about the root of the problem like you two did, unlike so many preachers trying to brush it under the carpet.
Thank you sister and brother for speaking about it جزاكما الله خيرا 🤲
اقسم بالله العظيم انه النسويه خصوصاً الي عند العرب هي قاعد تفكك اساس المجتمعات و الاسر... يا اخي جزاك الله الف مليون خير على نشر الخير الي قاعد تنشره تستاهل كل خير في طريقك
This is why MAHR should be negotiated wisely before marriage. This is something from my own experience. Alhamdulillah. It's a blessing from Allah. You get time before making any decision foolishly. May Allah guide all the unmarried Muslims to choose the right spouse before marriage and bless us with patience after marriage.
Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, in the famous hadeeth:
“Women may be married for four things: their wealth, their lineage, their beauty and their religious commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5090), Muslim (1466)
My ex husband i couldn't connect. I knew he went to prostitutes. Thirteen years later when he was fully exposed he divorced me.
Good
He didn't see the kids for a year.
Now he wants to see them.
No chance never in life will he see them again.
Should have cared while we were a family.
He took all my money and never showed how much he had because he wanted freedom to have sex with whoever he wants. His right hr claimed.
My kids don't need a sinful father.
He was a covert narcissist
Sorry for whoever marries him.
Im really sorry you experienced this. But if they yearn for his presence perhaps once in while let them see him. That would be better for them. And don't put your traumas from him unto your children.
Loved Sr. Naima’s balanced approach, applying the Islamic lens instead of a feminist, or western ideal lens, Masha’Allah. She’s based, and I’m sure she’s been exposed to the manosphere. MH laughing at some of weaker males in the Muslim community who were held hostage by sex was funny. He couldn’t comprehend how a male could accept that position of weakness because of how strong he is, Masha’Allah. But then he discounted the idea of beta vs alpha. He needs to understand that there are several people of knowledge that are betas. They maybe high in the eyes of Allah ﷻ but they won’t be attractive/appealing to most women.
#exposed LOL
Men really need to quit that alpha and beta thing, it doesn’t exists not in wolfs not in lions not in humans its crazy why is this a thing? The whole wolf pack thing was debunked a long time ago
Masha’Allah sister very smart.
Masha'Allah insightful discussion, but I do take issue with stigmatising people for having mental health issues. You wouldn't present a diabetic hijabi as being contradictory so what's wrong with a hijabi with bipolar? It isn't a reflection of one's spirituality- just an illness like any other. Comparing an ill brother with thobe with a brother who sells drugs is an insult. There's nothing unislamic about having an illness in your brain. And let's not forget that a lot of illnesses not related to the brain can also come about from stress, resultant thoughts and in turn resultant impact on physiology so why do we treat mental health conditions any differently?
agreed, and on the day of judgement their actions will be adjusted accordingly. It is far easier to control your emotions if you are neurotypical, compared to say bipolar, so it stands that someone with bipolar will be judged more leniently on certain things. We too should be easier on them
The old religion X mental health doesn’t usually go well…
@@heyhorinshi Now that atheism is more prevalent delusions are secular in nature, relating to technology. Secular schizophrenics and religious ones experience the same symptoms. I don't know what your religious beliefs are, but in Islam the "insane" person is not held to account for their actions. Islam is a religion of mercy and demonising mentally ill people for being ill is contradictory to our religion's teachings.
Thank You for doing this Mohammad Hijab
Very point by balancing the scene and not allowing the narrative to be shaped from one angle.
Mohammed “the learned one” Hijab 😂😂
Subhanallah ❤️🤍❤️
Beautiful discussion
masyallah, Sr Nai'ma, best advice, refer to the sirah... have faith and talk. compromise. love each other. The best of men are the best men to your wives.
Irregular things are the most interesting.
Jazakum Allah khayrn brother Hijab but could you please not cut into her talk. Ma shaa Allah she provides such a calming and wise insight.
The mansplaining, word policing and interrupting is annoying. Naima is an educator and not a debater. So we should all sit down and listen to her insights and experience.
@@oumibnaan26sh87 What is mansplaining?
@@alib7489 "what you're trying to say is" "I think what you mean is" "so basically what you're saying is" subtitling her words
@@oumibnaan26sh87 mansplaining- the explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing. The word has negative connotation and implies an engrained sexism in a conversation, not the right word in this context.
Bro MH. Please make this the most regular podcast in history! Jazakallah :D
Some of the things she said were true and some were clearly not, for example the assumption that only women are receiving orders and commandments whereas the brothers aren't, that's completely not the case especially in my society, men are usually adviced more than anyone else . And let me tell you that as long as you're gonna blame one party and victimize the other, you won't succeed in reforming the family and bringing it to unity again.
@Alien Reject
Sunhanallah, some of them expect only men to be advised and if they received anything they consider it disrespectful and they tell you are harassing the sister, okay fine, this arrogance is what's ruining your marriages and then come cry for child support.
@@AbdelbarrMalki Child support is something that must be paid whether the woman is annoying or not, it is for the children's benefit not hers....
Perhaps in your society men are more advised then the women, in others vice versa in the west there certainly is a focus on Muslims advising women and not men, that is what is being referenced, and why the women have become more sensitive to advice as they feel that it feels more like an attack when they are specifically targeted for 'advise' maybe you feel the same if the same is true for men in your society, but then you should know what it feels like and not complain when that is a woman's reality ...
What community is this?curious to know
Well thats your society then doesnt mean she is wrong it just means its different from what she experienxe
@The Alpha well said brother.
Such an intellectual approach and very informative podcast!! 💯💯
💪 Mohammed is on top
this was so fire needs 1 million views
Naima B Roberts Masha Allah ❤❤❤
وفقكم الله لما يحبه ويرضاه
I love this discussion. I want to point out one tiny thing that is different from previous generations and maybe not so much generations but differences in family structure in the West and East. The nuclear family structure is anathema to our history. Most of human history people lived in extended family structures and tight communities. A lot of our stress is because we live in isolated structures and our communities are digital. Our mental health is obviously effected by our isolation and our need for community is obvious because we are searching for it online. Obviously online is not working as much as facebook and Silicon Valley would have us believe. What do you think Meta is now, they want to take it to the next level and create community virtually. They are digital babies were women wearing a VR set can take care of their digital baby.
JazakAllah Kher excellent
Part 2 pls
She's right brothers should speak the truth and enjoin what is right. And forbid what is wrong.
Very good to know women empowerment, she is very right self control and mental barriers, you should always think positive always try to succeed instead of failing and relax your mind by healing from divorce and depression. Thats very well explained, alhumdulilah.
Qur'an
(2:256) There is no compulsion in religion.
( 18:29) Whoever wills-let him believe. And whoever wills-let him disbelieve”
2:256) There is no compulsion in religion........"
You Are Ignorant .
This Verse Is Context Specific . You Can't Use it In Any Condition.
This verse is for non muslims
@@umar_javaid :-
Nope .Read The Tafsir.
@Sumit Mishra :-
Right . They Don't Know Their Religion & Its Reality.
Here comes the no life Indians lol
honestly, i'm for the sledge hammer approach.
Wow this was so insightful thank you please do more of these with sister Naima
Brother Mohammed i love you and respect you and your effort ma shaa Allah. But please think of how much you joke in conversating with the sister. Some of the topics were possibly inappropriate. BarakAllahu feekum though, nice conversation.
Agree word for word with what you said.
Rewatching this: I was with the Shaykha until 51:20. How is growing up/telling men to man up equate to: "deen, getting mental health issues out of the way, physically getting healthy, finding ways to maximize their income and the impact they have in the community"?
I agree that brothers should grow up, stop playing video games and get jobs and take care of their families. But that is different from "maximizing your income" I'd imagine living a modest life and concentrating more on teaching their kids and giving da'wah would be closer to the sunnah. "Maximizing income" can easily take you in the opposite direction which you can easily see everywhere in the States yet marriages continue to either fall apart or the women are having affairs.
Agreed. Very important point.
Mash Allah was very good conversation Jazak Allah khier for both of you my brother and sister may Allah reward you both Ameen
Involuntary celebates is a new term by as scientists to describe frustrated men. Such wonderful terms the English language brings forth
Great discussion but Brother Hijab interrupts too much
bro you need to stop interrupting your guests
Good going brother. Masha Allah
This is a really thought provoking podcast. Thanks for this
Salaam, a friend of mine is going through a messy divorce. The children are denied access to him and ridiculous conditions are placed that make it near impossible for him to see them. If an agreement is reached, she changes her mind or outright rejects it. Money is always an issue. Father's are only worthy if they offer more money, otherwise they aren't parents. Co-parenting is a dream men never attain in reality. Its a hellhole of a situation and it's unfair, not just to him but the children.
What makes me feel better is that she'll be accountable for keeping them away from him and his family. I pray she gets what she deserves.
Asalam alaikum Br.Mohammad. please try to arrange a podcast with Mastin Kipp to discuss the relevance of healing unmet emotional needs (trauma) to reach the full potential to being a better human (muslim).
"Where are the men who know how to be men?" - Ya Rabbi ... favor us to be daughters, wives and mothers of men who follow and act upon Your Quran and seek Your Guidance and Pleasure ♡ Amin
I enjoyed this video , very important discussions . Brother Mohamed sometimes you like the sound of your voice too much though ! Let the sister talk lol
Brother Hijab I understand where you are coming from but I think you are too quickly putting labels...Like you said that Women who don`t allow their husbands to see their children are narcissistic, that might be true in some cases but it`s not the general rule, For example my sister is divorced and she doesn`t let her husband see his child *BECAUSE* he used to spend little to no money on the child, and used to shout at my sister, user to overwork her even when she was pregnant, one time she even became unconscious, so she doesn`t let him see the child because she doesn`t trust him to be a caring father, also about the story you told about the man who killed his 2 daughters and committed suicide, DO you really think that someone like that is sane? Could it be the case that the woman didm`t want him to see the daughters SPECIFICALLY because she was afraid of something like this happening?
Both of you are doing a great job. May Allah bless you 🙏
Why have I only just found this subhanallah
I'd like to share a poem I wrote if that's ok with you. It's called "My Dear Father"
My dear father,
Your love is what I was always after.
You dedicated your life to God
Whilst you left me to carve out my own path.
I've spent my whole life in the dark,
I needed your spiritual light in my heart;
But we ended up drifting further apart.
Wish I could express how I feel inside -
Been six years since my mum passed (away)
And I've barely cried.
My heart has turned to stone.
I know that for all of us you try to be strong.
I wish I could turn to you when I'm feeling alone.
I envy the father and son bond.
You spend your days reading the Quran,
And nights asking the Lord for forgivness.
Without your love I feel so damn helpless.
My dear father,
I know you don't understand me.
I remain distant from the family.
And I don't understand myself.
Losing my sanity,
I've drifted away deep into darkness.
All the cold days and lonely nights I've spent
It has made me become selfish and heartless.
I remember 5 years old when you came to hug me,
I ran the opposite way. This memory has
Forever stuck with me.
And I know it pains you,
That I'm not in your life.
I struggle from day to day just trying to survive.
My dear father,
I know you pray for me daily.
But I need you to come and save me;
In this life and In the hereafter,
From the fire that burns eternally
My dear father,
Will you forgive me?
Because I can't forgive myself,
I dont blame you, I blame myself.
Know that I love you,
But it's the hand that we have both been dealt.
Since he's alive alhamdulilah, is it possible to meet him on a regular basis?
@@MohammadQasim Since the death of my mother 7+ years he's moved to Pakistan. On his last visit back few years ago I was on holiday. Been years since we've seen each other. Been holding back an ocean worth of tears, the pain I've caused him throughout my life whenever I was younger and the pain i continue to cause him is burning my insides. I self sabotage self destruct and consume myself in the guilt and pain rather than doing something about it because I've convinced myself that I must suffer and live in this hellish existence for the hurt I've and pain I've caused to my father as well as rest of the family.
@@lost_poet_ Reach out to him o think he'll be more than pleased to talk on the phone. Then eventually save up and go visit him. Keep that bond. Dont be hard on urself. You still have time to keep that connection.
@@MohammadQasim you're right brother, thanks for the much needed encouragement
@@lost_poet_ think this way when he was learning islamic knowledge and the distance etc inshaa Allah youll be rewarded for the sacrifice you made of not demanding much. Inshaa Allah youll be rewarded for ur patience and inshaa Allah he'll intercede for you on judgement day due to him being hafiz etc
That was a weird cut off point. I think some of the footage was lost
Part 2 is up
If we had more Muslim leaders we would have less problems. Hierarchy in the dunya can help the oppressed.