How do you heal from a breakup?
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OMG! Truth bomb.
I think that the break ups that have been hardest to heal from are the ones that are out of your control. But equally I think I've probably learnt the most from those experiences in the long run, and they've taught me what I want (and DON'T want) from relationships. It's so difficult when someone doesn't want or love you when you feel so strongly for them, but ultimately you want to be with someone who wants...no, NEEDS to be with you. Those are the ones that truly work out, rather than trying to force someone to see your value.
Thanks Kati!
Me: wow I actually don't need this! *two weeks later: gets dumped* ayyy
I really liked that you talked about everyone, not only the people who got dumped, but also people who initiated the breakup or cheated or whatever. I'm dealing with a difficult relationship at the moment, 8 years together and I want to end it but I'm scared to death about hurting him and leaving him. Much too often when people talk about breakups and how to deal with them, they talk from the perspective of the "victim", who was hurt, cheated on, betrayed etc. But it's not always so black and white. Your video made me realise that even if you initiate the breakup or did something wrong, it's okay to grieve and to get better in time. Thank you
One thing I made a point of when my ex and I broke up was continuing to listen to the songs I associated with our relationship. I loved those songs before and I wasn't going to lose them in the break up. If I didn't keep listening to them while I actively thought about other things, when I inevitably heard them again later on I would more than likely have been a mess. And make sure you keep doing things you love even if you used to do them with your ex.
I think it would be interesting and really helpful if you could talk about friend breakups? Most people just talk about romantic ones... But friends can hurt just as bad?
I second this.
I really needed this, its been about 9 months since my breakup, a small 5 month relationship, but my first ever and I still have moments where I tear up a bit. It did shed light on myself thankfully. I'm trying to work harder to be a more successful person so I can be more proud of myself and hopefully be more attractive to others and so I'll try new things. Thank you for the video Kati, I do talk about it but it still hurts a lot.
+Kati Morton (Mental Health Vlogger) Thank you for such a quick reply! I'm new to your channel. I hope to learn quite a bit from you. :)
You wimpy privk.wot the hell is wrong with ya.Fuckn no who.So now u r here listening to another fuckn 'bitch.Listern to me.Wimping out ain't gunna get ur girl back and you're wasting time bumming on it.Your ex was never good enough for u.OK,I no u miss fuckn her, all guys do.You are the man,so u have already won.Wud u want to be her.Fuck off.you're man,a fuckn mans man.Show em all how its done.Your ex will freak. Dumb bitch made a mistake dumpn ur arse
Get out there. A couple of fucks n ur as good as new. Dig.Don't thank me or send me money, I'm just helpn one man to another. Don't cum back to these pussy arsed female social workers. They don't no how fuckn great it is to have a cock and be a man.Now pick ur arse off the couch n go get some new pussy.You are welcome
@@November5400 how are you doing now, did you get through it?
Hey how do you start
I never felt entitled to burden my friends or family about my break-ups or any other problems. As a kid I felt so bad when my parents cried to me about their divorce that it would be unacceptable for me to make anyone feel the same.
My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and the thing that has helped me the most to get through this tough week is spending time with my friends and speaking to them about him and reminiscing on all the good and positive times me and him had together and just getting it all off my chest to my friends, it has been so beneficial and even though it still hurts, I feel a lot better now :)
I had a broken heart when I was 18, my first girlfriend left me after a year. I walked over 20 miles that night, it's true what they say " time heals all wounds "
I never loved that hard again. I love very well, but I swear I'll never get hurt like that again.
Everyone is telling me I should be over my heartbreak by now, it happened months ago, but I'm not. It does get better every day but I wake up thinking about it sometimes. He left me for another woman and married her. I wish I could just forget I ever met him.
It's tough!
+AugustAdvice Believe it or not, it will get better. I went through the SAME exact situation. Broke up with someone, they got married, have a baby on the way, etc, etc, etc. It hurts so bad to sit back and see the ones we still love hung up on someone else. Do you still have contact with this person?
Pink Rain Productions No, he contacted me 3 months ago asking me to have a threesome with him and his wife. After that, I blocked his number. It was really cruel, because he knew I still wanted him back. After I cussed him out, he went on to say that they "do that a lot with her friends." I was so upset and disgusted.
Wow, thats pretty awful. I'm sorry. You did the best thing you could do by blocking him. That takes strength. Good for you!
Pink Rain Productions Thank you. I just wish my heart would catch up to my brain.
How do I get over someone I never dated?
The worst thing I did after a break up was to have someone fill in the void in my heart. I thought it helped me get over but I was wrong.
how did things work out moving forward? the person you got with after, were you able to finally build something with? I might be going through a similar situation
@@sihlezwane1 i have no definite answer for that.
@@sihlezwane1 just went back to doing stuff like pursuing my dreams. Not that it stopped because of what happened. I just found my way out, I guess.
Going on six years...Some say you never get over a first love.
Were you able to get over it now?
This came exactly when I needed it 😅 and I really need more of it!
Breakups suck especially when it's your first love, you've been with the for a long time but eventually screwed up due to mental illnesses in both parties and other malfunction causing factors and yet you still love each other and remain "friends" but you know you're gonna end up together again sooner or later but it's just all really confusing 😂
how are things now, cause this feels like my situation now and i fell really stuck
My boyfriend of 4 years went to work one day last week and just never came home. there was no conversation, there was no fight he just left. He was very affectionate with me that morning wanting sex so badly that he made himself late for work. Which in hindsight looking back I’m very upset about this, but after four years together, I can’t even get over like that. I found out that he quit his job that day and moved. He won’t tell me what state he’s in or if he’s still in Florida. It’s all gaslighting every time I text him. I’m just completely blindsided and devastated. I wish so badly he could have atleast given me the respect of being honest. I feel sick over this and can’t get out of this horrible feeling of emptiness. Plus, he left me with this apartment that we just signed a lease on and I cannot afford by myself. I just feel so sick over this. I wish there was a book to guide me through it.
I had a very difficult break up a few years ago after seeing someone for ten years! I was convinced I would hurt forever, but I did get through it. I still will get a pang of sadness on very rare occasions, but the sadness is more hurting for the person I was back then if that makes any sense. I wasn't treated very well. To be honest it took me just a little over a year to feel like myself again. I spent that time single. For me it took time, I cried often just to get those feelings out so I could approach the next day, I did watch a lot of Grey's Anatomy to turn my mind off. But then when I was ready I started treating myself with a lot of self care--getting my nails done, a bit of shopping, time at the beach... I made dates with myself lol. That part helped me the most I think. I met a new lad 6 months ago and so far he's a much better fit and a lot kinder to me. Now heartache is a little less scary because I know now I really won't feel that way forever if/when it happens again. :)
Congratulations!!!! And thanks for your sharing, you’re restoring my faith in the future.
There you are being amazing again!!
you're literally the sweetest person. i love that you recommended grace's video. bless you
I just hate being alone and it sucks. :( Like it's so hard when you've surrounded yourself around the person you love 24/7 & then All of a sudden, they're not there anymore. :/ It's so hard but I'm still trying. ;-;
But thank you for this! This is so needed, thanks. ♡
And also, how is one supposed to be friends with their ex after the breakup? It's so hard to get over him when he's still in your life and that you still love him... idek. :(
maybe tell him that you need some space before you can continue your relationship as friends? He should understand.
How is it going now?
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This video helped me a lot. Motivated me to get out more often and talk to more people. Thank you Kati!
Thanks so much for another great video, Kati. Always looking forward to them! You're the best.
Your hair looks so nice in all of your videos, it looks really healthy and soft! I'm jealous!
Very helpful. This information (especially the intrusive thought stuff) can be used for a lot of other things too
You are awesome! And your videos have helped me so much! Much love from Mississippi!
Thank you for answering my question about break ups in the live stream and thank you for doing this video. Love you
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this is perfect timing as I just went through a break up. thanks for the insight Kati!
Thank you so much, Kati. I needed this. Just had a break up 2 weeks ago (just shy of our 3-year anniversary). I love your videos! They're my go-to when I feel my BPD's kicking in.
Things that help, for me: Talking, distractions, A LOT of time, and, possibly even more music.
The best timing..thank you!
Thank you for your advice. I needed this. I had mother who was involved with a girl she liked instead of me. So she did all she could to keep her control over him & his business.
The pressure to get over it within a few days is absolute insanity.
To put that pressure on your friend is a sign that they THEMSELVES need lots of help.
I sotra call it "little t trauma"
Mix of symptoms mixxed in
1. Intrusive thoughts
2. Sleep disturbance
3. Shaking in the presence of
4. Dissociation when try and "think about it (ADD spectrum)
All don't need professional help but it sure dam helps...
perfect timing thank you!
You're literally the coolest person ever 😊
What I struggle with after breakups is seeing the bigger picture. I always focus on our memories and their personality, along with the reasons I fell in love in the first place. I struggle seeing things mind over matter. How do you move on when your ex was a wonderful guy who never hurt you, and he's in a relationship and knowing that hurts you all over again?
Mariah Williams I’m in the same boat , he was a good guy he ended it after a year so it’s hard and it hurts ...I keep struggling to move on in always in my head ugh
My boyfriend of 4 years went to work one day last week and just never came home. there was no conversation, there was no fight he just left. He was very affectionate with me that morning wanting sex so badly that he made himself late for work. Which in hindsight looking back I’m very upset about this, but after four years together, I can’t even get over like that. I found out that he quit his job that day and moved. He won’t tell me what state he’s in or if he’s still in Florida. It’s all gaslighting every time I text him. I’m just completely blindsided and devastated. I wish so badly he could have atleast given me the respect of being honest. I feel sick over this and can’t get out of this horrible feeling of emptiness. Plus, he left me with this apartment that we just signed a lease on and I cannot afford by myself. I just feel so sick over this. I wish there was a book to guide me through it. How long is this pain going to last? 😭
Your such a beautiful inspiration Katie
You are amazing Kati.
OMG this video was at the right time!!! Thank you Kati
Omg thank you!! I didn't know I have a choice over my thoughts.
was happily married for 8 years out of the blue one day my wife walked in handed me papers she was filing for divorce she said she wasn't happy anymore I had no warning I had no idea this was coming I have two beautiful daughters and it tore their hearts out I think it's even harder to get over a relationship like that when you realize there aren't any problems
Are you doing better now?
That’s me now. Boyfriend broke up long distance after a year and a half. Told me he wants kids in the future knowing I don’t. Never saw this coming, nothing I can change. He even brought up old arguments which I thought had been resolved. All the waiting for end of covid seems now in vain.
@@audreylove3140 yes am doing better, live moves on thankfully
@@RachelPun hang in there it does get better, I know those words aren’t helpful now but in time you’ll look back and realize you have out grown the people in your life that don’t take having your heart seriously
Very helpful video. Although my breakup was a little different. My break-up came after 8 yrs & I was pregnant. Come to find out he was cheating on me while I was pregnant, he left when my son was 3 months old, he then married her & now she is my sons stepmom! Unfortunately there was never any closer. I just had to move on! Just have to make the best of it for my son.
I had a horrible breakup in October. I told the person that I loved them and wanted to make it work and their response was "well what if I don't love you?" and it was just a disaster afterwards. This really helped me start to really process what happened. Thank you again.
Great video, as always! Does Kati have a video about making decisions btw? 💖
Thank you thank you for this video. It helped so much 💕
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1. I think you need time to heal from a break up.
2. A "scar "is left from that break up.
3. One stays with the "feeling of something's missing or lost."
Thanks for this video, I'm going through a break up and it is really difficult to do things after seven years, but I'll try what you say to get on my feet again. Great channel.
How are you doing now?
I was with him for 15 years and we have two kids together this is tough 😣
giacchettitt yes girl it’s so painful, specially been with someone that long
But time heals everything day by day
Me and my ex broke up 9 months ago and I’m still healing
just broke up yesterday... can't imagine how heartbroken you are. we are all getting better anyway.
msmoplk, Yea it’s been really hard and he’s still staying with me until he saves enough to move out and we’re trying to get along but it hurts more to see him. He keeps telling me he wants to fix it but the trust is gone and I love him but I don’t like him anymore. 💔
@@giacchettitt it's a good thing if he still wants to fix it, you could probably try again together. I would grasp any chance if my ex still wanted to fix it.
Posted after shannon and cammie announced their break up. Coincidence? I think not.
Great video! I wish this video existed when I went through my break up few years ago.
What if I'm in denial about the relationship and my heart won't heal because of that?
He was perfect and he was everything until I realized he was actually manipulative and a narcissist. The day I broke up with him is the day he physically abused me.
He was my whole world my best friend everything I've ever wanted in a partner. But I just can't let him get away with being physical.
I'm so broken.
The same thing happened to me I ended up with a narcissist. How is it going for you now?
Needed this!!!
I just found this video and I just wanna say thank you😢😭 I really need to heal but mainly grieve this through since I notice I just been suppressing my feelings😥
My relashionship with my ex ended a few months ago and I remember having so much anger in me, what helped was I started to exercise more. At the time I was at a school break so I had nothing to do all day, and I found myself grieving and thinking about it way too much, so everyday I felt different about the situation...Everyday a new thought would come up, and mood swings would come with them. But exercising, and finding my way back into my school routine, hanging out with my friends...Even dating a little bit (even if nothing serious) would help and still does, because I've slowly gone back to realizing that that person is not the only one that has ever had an interest in me, and that I'm worthy of so much more. To this day, sometimes, memories make me upset and make me rethink the whole situation, but I feel stronger than I ever did, and way more in control of my emotions, so I know it will only get better and better. I've learned so much and if you're still in that initial phase, know that you will too.
When I was going through my last break up, I watched a spoken word video called The Type by Sarah Kaye like 5000 times. Now I recommend it to everyone! It helped me learn that you can be at home within yourself, you don't need that other person. And you CAN forgive yourself!
Friendship broke up hurt badly. I haven't seen her for 3 years and wrote me a few months ago to just let me know that she still thinks about me sometimes. That hurts me cause does she know that I still think about her everyday and how much she was the most important friend to me.
I'm literally drinking coffee while watching this lol, I love coffee so much! Also, I went through a bad breakup in my last year of uni and it was awful, I thought it was the end of the world but I got over it and I'm a lot happier now. I've been single for over a year now and I actually don't mind it, I like being independent, building my confidence and working on myself :)
Hey how did you get out of that
What helps me is journaling every thought every feeling any emotions about that relationship and brakeup and then i throw it away in the trash and it helps relives me from that pain or anything that hurting and anything. But most of all i PRAY about it.
Thanks for this video, helped me just sucks breaking up with someone u thought was the one.
love you katie
today is actually my birthday, and i am turning 19 how ironic, 2 weeks ago I actually went through my first breakup and I've been healing currently, because it was honestly my first relationship but this video hit the spot right now. I've been talking about it with friends and family and the thoughts have been my problem but I usually try to close them out.. it hurts but I just loved this video, it just felt right. thank you!
i seriously died laughing when you kept saying "this lady". i really love this, very beneficial information. if your coffee and chats are going to continue being like this, they're really great! thanks Kati!
+Kati Morton (Mental Health Vlogger) it's really nice to have that. ive watched close to almost all of your videos. i see a few moments of you being silly and it makes me smile and laugh a ton. i hope others feel the same way. keep it up! you do so much good!!
I love your shirt too!!!
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"This lady..."
hahaha. those were my favorite parts. i was laughing really hard!
Thanks Katie
Kati you are amazing! I love watching your videos and they have really helped me so much!! is there any way I would be able to message you with a personal question or anything? Keep doing videos! Your an amazing person
As soon as I saw you had your coffee, I had to pause the video to go get mine! Love these videos!
There's always next relationship I am not ready for another until am done fixing myself
Wow perfect timing. Thank you. I really need this video right now in my life as I just went through a break up and I am still trying to heal from it. I don't have a current therapist, but have been think of talking to one, but don't know how to start. Is this something you go to your family doctor first for?
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thx for this awesomely ha bisky vid and i am glad that you talked about this i know other youtubers have talked about how they dealt with their break ups
john green had one that was so bad that put him on antidepressants
Could youu please do a video on how to cope with breakups when you have BPD?
3 months to grieve a year relationship... I am grieving over a 6 year relationship :(
Taylor Lee no ones know exact time, everybody is diferente and heals different
But just remember it will get better day by day, it’s going to be a roller coaster for a while but it’s normal, stay strong. Love 💕 and healing sending your way ✨✨✨
How are you doing now? I hope a bit better
We don't always know why they leave, either...but it isn't because of us necessarily! In recovery of C-PTSD, I confronted an old beau on a boundary issue 30 years ago just to get myself free of it and move on. (He had ended it suddenly after 3 years, without reason.) Out of the blue, he opened up about an abuse that he had suppressed then, and explained that is why he ran off and didn't say why. He had also no memory of what I confronted him about, but believed me and took full responsibility for the wrong. I'm not suggesting others do this. Nor am I saying it's reason to probe others on this stuff - I didn't; he volunteered it. But I share this because I spent 30 years believing the lie I told myself then, that there must just be something wrong with me that leads others to abandon and abuse me...that I wasn't worth it. I know that's wrong now, and talk back to that thought if it arises. But this unexpected evidence just blew me away - I truly was not the problem 30 years ago. Actually, I had been perceived as a key source of loving support, just like I thought I had been.
My boyfriend of 4 years went to work one day last week and just never came home. there was no conversation, there was no fight he just left. He was very affectionate with me that morning wanting sex so badly that he made himself late for work. Which in hindsight looking back I’m very upset about this, but after four years together, I can’t even get over like that. I found out that he quit his job that day and moved. He won’t tell me what state he’s in or if he’s still in Florida. It’s all gaslighting every time I text him. I’m just completely blindsided and devastated. I wish so badly he could have atleast given me the respect of being honest. I feel sick over this and can’t get out of this horrible feeling of emptiness. Plus, he left me with this apartment that we just signed a lease on and I cannot afford by myself. I just feel so sick over this. I wish there was a book to guide me through it.
I would love to see if you could make a video how both people can heal from a bad break up
I'm still loving your videos, Kati! Will you be at VloggerFair this summer!?
It'd be cool if you could talk about this, about how to get over a breakup, when you have bpd and your significant other was your "favorite person". Having bpd myself, it feels like it's so much worse than it is for people who aren't dependent on their significant other... It's terrible and, personally, it always causes me a depressive episode which can last for 6+ months or even a whole year..
thank you :)
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My past relationship lasted 7 years and then all of a sudden he ended it blaming my chronic pain illness primarily. He cited the fact that often times I would cancel on seeing him because I was dealing with a flareup ( but "oddly", he added"you always seemed to be ok to go fishing." This was an activity that he introduced me to that I turned out to LOVE doing but couldn't do on my own because of a physical disability I was born with that was separate from my chronic pain illness. This indicated to me that he thought I might be lying and cancelling for some other reason. Prior to this day everything in our relationship seemed fine to me except for maybe a slowdown in our intimate times again due to my frequent pain which was something I really had no control over,but something we never really talked about (both of our faults). Prior to this relationship I had an 8 year relationship which although in hindsight had MANY issues, ultimately was ended by my S.O. for much the same reason. It seemed to him that I had "lost my spirit" and was no longer able to easily take the many frequent motorcycle trips we had taken joyously in years past, even though I continued to do my best to perservere it was true it was way more difficult for me. In my mind I thought I should get credit for that. Obviously he didn't feel the same and ended up meeting someone else and ultimately leaving me for her. In both accounts I felt blindsided and not given any say in the matter. Long story trying to be made shorter after the second break up and learning that statistically it's very hard for someone with a chronic pain illness to maintain a long term relationship. I decided I did not want to risk any further heartache and so decided to just put all my effort into shutting down that part of me that was interested in love,sex, and/or any further relationships. Yet I must admit I miss it from time to time and "those feelings" continue to surface. I keep telling myself, I am 54, physically disabled with a chronic pain illness so my time for "that stuff" is over. My question is how do I reconcile the 2 conflicting feelings?
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any time i saw or heard or thought about something that reminded me of my ex (like a song or an object or a quote) I would literally do a The Reassociation Dance which was just me jumping around and being weird but I would use it to make me re associate that thing or song with what i was doing and who i was with in that moment and not with my ex. eg, that song by daft punk no long reminds me of my ex it reminds me of driving in my car with my friend :D the more i did it the easier it was to go out in public and ingage with the world while i was overoming the breakup and it also helped me figure out how to move on without so many triggers!
I know I felt with an Alicia Keys vibe too, but I just get over it, focus on the future, read a book, draw, and whatever! I've been this type of situation of loneliness and single from the past. But NOW, I don't care about love or stuff. I've watched on TV (especially on TH-cam) about divorces, love triangles, EVERYTHING of romance around everybody, but most people don't have the feeling too. I look and see everybody who's been heartbroken, or dumped too... I just saw and react to the people who has been in a break-up while they been trying to commit suicide! I was shocked in a distraughted way. I couldn't bear it to see themselves killed in a way. So I decided to not love someone, but only god, my family and friends who's got my back!
Hey Kati, I have a question about socializing; I grew up as being the quiet one and shy, I did not talk much because my family doesn't really talk openly with their feelings, so I always keep my thoughts to myself. Now I always have this "fear" to talk openly, even with friends or family members, but when I do bring myself to talk freely, I mostly mumble and shy away... I don't know what to do, Should I just talk to them or ignore this? 🤔 Thanks, sincerely Me.
I have just had my heart majorly broken a few months ago. I still feel really upset and hurt about it. I think talking about it is good but I feel like people may get sick of me talking about it or bringing it up. And everyone seems to just say things like.. Just move on or they just say something bad about my ex as if to help me feel better. Which isn't helpful. It's also extremely hard because only a small amount of people know I was even in a relationship because I'm not out at the moment. I'm 21 but I just haven't told my family. So I feel really lonely with this. My family doesn't know I have depression and actually neither did my ex. Thanks for the video. It's very well timed to how I feel at the moment
Hey Kati! thanks for the awesome videos, they helped me threw alot. I had a question. Is it bad not telling your therapist about your self harm? My therapist is aware that I used to self harm but I recently started again and I didn't tell her. Should you tell your therapist every time you self harmed?
I've been watching loads of your video's. My GF who I was with for a few years dumped me (on valentines day of all days) about 9 years ago and about 3 months later she was to someone else, engaged and they are now married. It was because I had mood swings that I was trying to hide but have since been diagnosed with cyclothymia which I can imagine was part of the problem as sometimes I just wasn't interested in anything.
It's kinda hard though as I try to keep busy and the meds I took (carbamazepine) didn't help as they made me too tired to work as I'm a nightclub DJ so I just have to stay a bit drunk all the time. It's not ideal but things are not healing but I guess we all have our coping mechanisms. Keep up the good work though;)
Can you do a video about the bad advice online on dating and rules it really messed me up
Hi Kati! I love you and your wonderful advice. I do have a question though..About 3 years back I had a really tumultuous 'breakup' with someone (we weren't actually together..long story haha) and I wasn't able to get over it until my current girlfriend entered my life. Not that it matters much now, but it is unhealthy to only be able to get over a breakup because of a new potential partner?
How do you, as a therapist, switch off emotions and not bring it home?
My problem is that right now I know the guy I'm seeing is about to end things. But we've only been together a month. And I feel like I shouldn't be as heart broken as I am because it was only a month and it wasn't really love yet. But it hurts so so so bad. Because for the first time ever I could see myself actually falling in love with this guy and I could see us having a future together. Because when I fall, I fall hard. So it may have just been a month, but I'm still so upset.
It's been 4 years, are you feeling better now?
I just broke up with my first boyfriend of over 3 years and I’ve honestly never felt more miserable. I know things will get better with time, but I just wish things would be ok now. I’ve been with him for so long I don’t think I remember how to be on my own anymore and I’m not looking forward to relearning it. Although I know things had to end, it still really hurts to know I’ll never have him as my partner again
Are you over it now? I hope you are okay.
I ended a 6 years relationship 💔 I've been in denial, we kept on talking to each other and after less than 2 months he's talking about the possibility of meeting new people, only now it hit me, that it's really over.
Hi Kati, as an adoptee will I always have attachment issues, feelings of guilt, anger etc? Thanks for everything you do!
the fact that I just broke up with my girlfriend this morning... perfect timing Kati ): thanks!
Yhis is my first breakup, and I was thinking what if I made a mistake, maybe I should get back my relationship... Then my psychologist said, "you deserve better, sometimes being lonely is good. " Also this video helps me that I know now that breakups happens and will be. Thank you❤
Hey Kati I love your videos.....I was wondering in the future could you do a video about Father's Day when you've lost your dad. I lost my dad a few years ago and that day has always been the elephant in the room for me. I recently left therapy but in our last session my therapist suggested that maybe I do something special or go and visit him. Although I've had many Father's Day without him this will be the first Father's Day that I've acknowledged his absents and I'm really nervous. I just wanted to know your thoughts.
Yay you love coffee too!
Hey Kati, great video thanks!
I broke up with my ex-wife 2.5 years ago when I came out as transgender. Dealing with mental health issues from denial and internalized transphobia, slow acceptance of my gender identity, transition and trying to get on with life was hard. I came close to attempting to commit suicide, but I chose to live.
I'm still single and smelling the roses. I don't need a partner to fulfill me, but it would feel nice. My ex is perhaps one of my best friends, but I do miss what I had with her. But living authentically as me is the only thing I could do.
Hey Kati, I love your videos they really really do help! I was wondering if you could do a video explains art therapy and what happens-just curious. Also, any advice on exams? My finals are starting a week tomorrow and I've been having panic attacks/anxiety, I haven't been sleeping, I've been triggered to self harm again, I've upped my exercise to 300 sit-ups a day which my friends say is bad and my eating has been very up and down. I either eat nothing or I just eat a small amount of junk food. Any help is much appreciated! Hope you have a good day!Xx
Also, 'this lady' actually made me laugh and the fur baby 😂😂
Do you have a vid about how to help a heartbroken friend?
Oh dear, 4 months of grieving for 1 year ? My relationship of 9 years is
slowling coming to an end, we have grown apart over the past year but I
know that when we decide to end it for real it will hurt as hell. Break
ups are tough, even when you know that it's the right thing to do.