I’m a female infp married to a male Esfp for 12 years and have known each other for 17 years. I can share you my experience. We do get along. I was very introverted. He was very extroverted. He’s attracted to my silent authenticity. I was attracted towards his easy going, fun, care free authenticity. He put people at ease. It’s very hard to get to know me. I was not very comfortable in showing my deepest self. He did it super easily. I don’t have a boring life because of him. We connect mainly because we share similar values. He has tons of friends. Many really love him. In our marriage, he mostly goes out of the house. He’s like a warrior who goes out there. He doesn’t like to be at home for too long. If he stays home for too long, he gets bored. But when he’s at home, he likes it. He plays with our son and he relaxes. By the time he finishes, he’s ready to go out again. He flies a lot. He works in many different cities. Sometimes, he invites friends or colleagues over to our house. Sometimes, I go out with him. Most of the time, I stay home. I don’t have the same energy level as him. He’s a bit too carefree. This is by far the biggest strain in our marriage. He sometimes dabbles too much in alcohol. He can fly to the smallest city in our country using the smallest airplane. Why? I don’t know. Sometimes, it was because of a business prospect or an adventure. But with a lot of fights and negotiations, we pull through. We are fine with out life. He said he doesn’t like to be at home most of the time. But the certainty that we (myself and our son) are at home, brings strength to him. This is similar to what Nathan says about us being the anchor to the ESFP. He’s carefree but he has strong values system. He believes in responsibilities, love, fatherhood, loyalty, generosity, fun, respect, fairness, toughness, marriage, commitment, fair play, etc. This is the secret sauce that binds us together - ESFP and INFP. We know how strong we are towards our value system. We will not betray each other because we will not betray our love and we will not betray ourselves. Plus, we are true to ourselves. I’d say he’s more emotionally intelligent than most men. He can handle my outburst and negative emotions. I’d suspect he can handle it better than most thinking types. For that, I’m really grateful. He’s really funny. He has a soft and gentle side. He has a tough manly side. This combination, I like. My life becomes an exciting journey because of him. And 100% more alive. Sometimes I wonder how my life would become if I get an intuitive or an introverted spouse. I’m an Ne aux person, so sometimes my imagination runs wild. But no matter what, no matter how many scenarios of spouses I can imagine, at the end of the day, it’s back at him. Because our love is real. I don’t need an intuitive or introverted spouse. Him is enough. Because it’s real. And I grow because of his love. My son (Istj - I suspect) adores him.
As an INFP I would love to have someone who would describe me the way you lovingly described your husband. Cheers to you and him, may you have many more years together!
Crazy how I feel you just described my relationship. Been with my ESFP for 20 years. He sometimes struggles with me just doing my own thing and sometimes I really miss him when he is off on crazy adventures.
Glad I found this. I am an ESFP who is married to an INFP husband. We have been married over 44 years. He keeps me grounded and at the same time has given me freedom and flexibility to explore different career paths and opportunities to grow and have fun.
"It works really well, when both parties don't see each other that much" Spot on! I'm an INFP who actually adores ESFPs! :) Somehow I've always felt like we get each other and oddly have similar vibes, but the more time we spend together, the more the differences start becoming clearer.. I guess that's what happens with every relationship, but ESFPs really tend to put me back in my place whenever I start thinking I'm "actually pretty extroverted", lol. Still love them, they're like bright little stars and are always super nice to me.. 💕
"Somehow I've always felt like we get each other and oddly have similar vibes, but the more time we spend together, the more the differences start becoming clearer." Yep, pretty much. Don't think I'd personally care to pursue relationships with ESFPs - I prefer ESxPs at a distance - but I've had these moments of Fi connection with ESFPs where it's like, oh, we get each other! Sometimes we appreciate each other's tastes/styles/artistic sides too. But spend a little more time together, especially in a social context, and it becomes apparent that we have totally different approaches to life and largely want very different things.
This is funny because I'm also an INFP and I thought I was extroverted for the longest time. Thinking back to my relationship with an ESFP, it definitely showed me how I really am not as extroverted as i thought and I definitely am not spontaneous either!
My closest friend ((INTJ - Se inferior) has accused me of having no passions e.g sports, collecting stuff, favourite movie genre etc, because my passions are internal. My hobbies are many, but I'm not passionate about them. While I don't have passions, I EMBODY passion. When I do something I care about, It bleeds from me - INFP
Hm yeah. As an INFP, I definitely have passions, but I can see how it could look different from an INTJ's perspective since INTJs tend to go really hard on one or a few things, while INFPs tend to have very broad and varied interests and are more likely to dabble in a lot of things. And yeah, they're not necessarily particularly concrete. I'm most passionate about life as a whole, and the human experience, and the beauty and wonders of the world, which may seem super-vague but permeates everything and also fuels my writing/creativity a lot.
As an INFP I have had a couple of relationships run me ragged. I have been hurried and pushed and often complied to my own detriment. I need a lot of time to recover. I need space. Also most of my life I have been at the mercy of someone else making the call of when we should leave and go home. However with all that said I do want someone to help me out of my comfort zone, to live a little. These should just be nudges. I also feel the more I trust you the more I will do things outside of my comfort zone.
I learnt it hard way that forcing infps into my idea of adventure and fun ends badly 😅 It was hard for me to not take them into social situations. Its such a shame, cuz they are great people, I want to share with them this experience. But I learnt to respect their needs. Sometimes it leaves me with the feeling that they don't respect my needs. But Im speaking about friendships, not romantic relationships.
Everything said from gassing out in competitions to socialising on our terms makes total sense. I wish ppl had asked me in the past 'if I had enough' instead of judging me for being rude when I had to get away, feeling (literally) trapped. Also a phrase I've heard that resonates with me - 'stay in your lane'. Don't try to fix the other person or smother them with solutions when they asked for none.
That last sentence of yours hits home with me like nothing else. as an INFP, i've been dealing with people, elders especially, trying to fix me when i never asked for any of them to do so, all my goddamn life so far! sometimes i really wonder, just why the hell is it sooooo hard for some to just stay in their lane, & adopt a live & let live approach to things, instead of thinking that they have all the answers & their way of life is superior to others.
Yes! I am an ESFP with a 25 year old daughter who is an ISFP and our issues sound very similar. We used to have a lot of conflict, but we have calibrated our relationship better. She is a calming person for me and I tell her that. Also, we need to have a type of hand signal that we can give each other in social situations. Something like "Are you okay?" "No, let me be invisible right now." or "No, I want to leave."
I've been friends with an ESFP for 16 years and the video sounds pretty accurate, as usual! By the way, the "speed and intensity" part reminded me of a thing I had written years ago, way before discovering mbti, comparing the two of us, my friend and I. I was kind of shocked when I re-read it recently because it seemed like a small comparison between our types too! Roughly translated, here it is: "we're basically the same, but complete opposites at the same time. The simple fact that we're alive fills us with a great desire to love, so we're constantly looking for something (to love) that in the end doesn't actually exist, probably. The thing is, she always looks for it outside of herself, while I look for it within myself, so we end up behaving in complete opposite ways most of the time. And for some reason this whole thing (being the same at the core but going about it in opposite ways) makes us get along greatly".
YES ABOUT ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS! I am an ESFP happily married 37 years to an INTJ. People often say that we should not be compatible. I think romantic relationship have a lot to do with our motivation for a healthy relationship and desire to focus on each other's needs. Personality tests are an excellent tool to help understand each other better. We often joke that if we were not married, I live in an apartment with a bunch of free-loaders and he would live in a cabin in the middle of nowhere with no social interaction. We say it as a joke, but it reminds me of how much we need each other.
@@TheDenisedrake uh bcoz same quadra sensor intuitive relationship would be a disaster. No sexual or emotional compatibility. One of you might be a mistype.
@@SS-bu8ez No. We have done multiple Meyers Briggs tests and other personality tests that give similar results. Our long relationship has not been a disaster. On the contrary, it has been very good--we have had arguments like everyone, but overall very good. It's so very bizarre that people have the notion that your personality is completely fixed and you can not make any adjustments. Such a victim mentality! For example: If you are naturally a troll, you can learn to make civilized comments if you work on it.
I’m INFP and hired an ESFP handyman/Jack of all trades 4 years ago. We do make a good working team for the reasons you stated. He is definitely fun to have around. I don’t think I could handle a romantic relationship with this type though. Too flighty and chaotic at times. I sometimes feel I have to be like his mother. That’s not good 😂
@@tinkershell1856 your right though it is chaotic but if it wasn't for him I would probably be living a boring existence and only exploring in my mind.
I was with an ESFP for 5 years. We were about 40 yo. Her presence was sometimes consuming but her absence is far worse. I saw her as i my adored fairy. Our moments of grace were magnificent. Our inner childs expressed themseleves a lot. I was the inventor of worlds in which she was absolutely enjoying herself. We, INFP, sometimes believe we should abandon ourself for our greater good without succeeding in the process, hold back by our echoing (deep) concerns. I tasted that sweet abandonment. The most beautiful and intense feeling i've ever have.
Insightful video, Nathan, and concise as usual. The thing is, certain types NATURALLY get along easier, but ANY types could work in a relationship if they find it worth it. At that point, it's about if both types are mature enough, have the same values, and goals in life so they rather fight to overcome their personality differences to become closer together with trust and respect for one another. Although it's more rare when these relationships are successful, when they DO stick they are better than two people who don't have to work hard to improve themselves and show love to the other person.
Video is on point and broad strokes at the same time. That is very hard to do. Interestingly, introverts do get attracted to extraverted energy, it's like a creepy crawly plant will look for a strong stem. Not in the sense of weak and strong. It's like seeing someone who can complement us, role model parts of us we need to improve and exactly those parts that might annoy us as well.
It’s so funny that this video was made. I don’t have any romantic relationship with a ESFP, but my mom is an ESFP and my best friend is an ESFP, and I’m an INFP. I was just thinking today how funny it would be if someone made a video about INFP/ESFP interactions. Wasn’t looking for it and I guess TH-cam was reading my mind! 😮
my closest friend is textbook infp and i am textbook esfp. i recently watched your “dangerous mbti traits” and i totally relate to the no-filter approach. i try to project my mindset or what i feel is right to my infp friend bc i think they could use some action💀
I am an INFP who were married to an ESFP. I lost myself in the relationship. Not a good match. I tried my very best an lot my sense of self. He did not understand me and didn't even want to try. It is actually very sad. He does get along with my youngest son, who is an INFJ, but does nit have a good relationship with the eldest, an INTP. MY middle son is an ENTP and they don't get along at all
So in my time reading about the different types and even the different types of personality tests here are a few things to understand. Can knowing personality types help you in relationships - If you can recall the key characteristics of people in real time yes, but this is not only very difficult but can lead to many mishaps should you mistype a person. This on top of the fact people work in tendencies and not in 100%s then it becomes incredibly difficult to rely on it. What I would suggest is once you are in a commited relationship or relationships or whatever it is you have with someone else. Asking them to take a personality test and seeing what they get can be a very good way of improving your connection with them. It also helps in discovering what possible fallouts can occur in the future or even helps explain fallouts from the past. If you had the skill to not only know the characteristics of each and every personality type in real time but be able to type someone's personality through simple conversation or observation within a short time frame, then you'd be somewhat extremely masterful in creating and sustaining relationships with people. Something that amazing would require lifelong determination and practice which while may not help you now, may be beneficial later on.
Esfps all seem to start out fun and exhilarating... until. If they get to close it’s like they have entered into a magnetic field. Clingy needy time sucking can be over. The. Top. If they feel rejected or not included, the claws and daggers appear. Healthy boundaries from the beginning are paramount. Also, finding and complimenting their efforts for perfecting their appearances and “stuff” is their secret fairy dust.😘✌️💪🧚-50 something INFP
Hi this might be random, but I would like to ask your analysis on Princess Diana’s type, it seems like there has been a tight argument around the internet regarding whether she’s an INFP or ISFP. Maybe you can make a new series on typing noteworthy or famous figures’ personalities.
Here's some advice; Get an ESTP instead. They have an intellectual side/curiosity & will go down rabbit holes with you while pulling you out of your head/own rabbit hole.
@@sharpiesarecool814 in short, we balance each other out most of the time, but there's misunderstandings and miscommunications when we're arguing. He helps me with my social skills, reminds me to live in the moment, and helps motivate me to stay on task with reaching my goals. He's very driven with his own goals and passionate and definitely a character. We have deep conversations where i use my Ne to imagine future possibilities and he weighs that with his Ti framework of logic. I think I remind him to be sensitive and empathetic to other's feelings, and from what I gather I think he likes that I'm very adamant about my beliefs, except when I start prioritizing staying true to my beliefs over his comfort sometimes. I also do most of the planning for roadtrips and dates 😂
hey do I just not know myself good enough, or does everyone else just accept their type without digging deep enough? Like I'm researching myself and typology since 5 years now, and I still have no idea what Type I am. In tests I get INTP/INFP/ENTP/ENFP, which brings me to the conclusion I probably have Ne, working as a graphic designer, also supports the idea of me having Ne. But how tf can I be sure what Type I am? I just don't know if I have Fi / Fe, Ti / Te. It's so hard to get to a conclusion. When I was younger, I first was very sensitive and kind of shy. But that switched drasticly when I was roughly 15. I had a threesome when I was just 16 and was very brave in meeting new romances. But when I was 16/17 I had a traumatic event whoch let me stay at home and isolate and have panick attacks, since there (that's almost 10 years ago) I move alot more like a typical introvert, because of the anxieties I get when I'm outside, especialy in. places with people where I can not decide when to leave the situation. I'd really love to understand myself better, I started typing others (just for fun, for myself) aswell, which is alot easier for me, but even on others I change my idea of the types every now and than. If you hvw any tipps/tricks I'm very open to read and discuss!
Here's a method I use based on the cognitive functions. Just like any test, it only works if you look at yourself clearly without preconceptions about what you want to be or don't want to be. When you make decisions, are you more likely to carefully consider the pros and cons (thinking), or go with your gut (feeling). When you learn something new, do you do better with theory (intuition) or practical applications (sensing)? Now you know your middle two letters. The next step is to decide whether your preferred judging function is introverted or extroverted. When you make decisions, do you prefer to do it on your own or to talk through it with other people? In my case, I have intuition and introverted feeling which makes me an XNFP. Now how do I figure out whether Ne or Fi is dominant? I think the best way to do that is to figure out the fourth function. Which of your bottom two functions are you worse at or more uncomfortable with? This works if you can directly ask people these questions, but if you use these criteria to type people based only on your observations, it is more difficult. You have to spend a lot of time with them in different contexts to get an idea of how they usually react or think.
@@TheDenisedrake male/female? Oh, wait, I saw your comment below. Well, I wonder what motivation can a female extravert find in relationship with INTJ?
@@mirriyastia He keeps me from doing something that would get me in jail. You INTJs are called "The Architech". We need your personality type to come up with solutions and direction. I need him to keep me grounded and cautious of dangerous people. He needs me to help him find joy in life and other people.
@@mirriyastia It's my opinion that women (no matter what their personalty type) want to be delighted in. If you focus on getting to know a woman (especially actively interested understanding her personality) and finding the lovely things about her. Then come up with a plan on how to meet the needs of her personality type. Hope this helps you find a strong healthy relationship.
@@TheDenisedrake well, it seems you live in some dangerous circumstances, if you have such interesting needs) Nathan mentioned in one of his videos, that the key to success in modern society is connections, one who can build more connections is a winner; and as INTJs are bad in connecting with people and especially in having a number of it, it means that INTJs are less socially successful, so there's no point for ladies to choose an INTJ for relationship, it's like a wrong choice, a "hard difficulty" of life.
I'm INFP. I can attest that a relationship with an ESTP can work. :) My partner and I have tons of things in common, just happens that we don't have any cognitive functions in common. It's not a deal-breaker, and as we've grown over the years it's become a real strength in our relationship that we approach things so differently. I wouldn't advise giving up on any types. Remember, type is based on preferences, it's like having different styles. Substance is what matters. (I would advise giving up on getting ESTPs interested in MBTI if they aren't though 😂)
Ok. Reservations aside. Lets say you're dealing with healthy people... Who would you say is the best mbti type match for an INTP 5W4? Where can I find them and why INFJ? lol
😂 I did. 5 years. Horribeautiful. Seriously, our moments of grace was unmatched. I, INFP, felt scaringly complete. It was addictive, lively and mutual. The two must be : 1. Patient (which can frighten an ESFP) 2. Responsive (which drains INFP batteries) It was worth it.
When a video begins with significant disclaimers... *gets popcorn*
I’m a female infp married to a male Esfp for 12 years and have known each other for 17 years.
I can share you my experience.
We do get along. I was very introverted. He was very extroverted. He’s attracted to my silent authenticity. I was attracted towards his easy going, fun, care free authenticity. He put people at ease. It’s very hard to get to know me. I was not very comfortable in showing my deepest self. He did it super easily.
I don’t have a boring life because of him. We connect mainly because we share similar values.
He has tons of friends. Many really love him.
In our marriage, he mostly goes out of the house. He’s like a warrior who goes out there. He doesn’t like to be at home for too long. If he stays home for too long, he gets bored. But when he’s at home, he likes it. He plays with our son and he relaxes. By the time he finishes, he’s ready to go out again. He flies a lot. He works in many different cities.
Sometimes, he invites friends or colleagues over to our house. Sometimes, I go out with him. Most of the time, I stay home. I don’t have the same energy level as him.
He’s a bit too carefree. This is by far the biggest strain in our marriage. He sometimes dabbles too much in alcohol. He can fly to the smallest city in our country using the smallest airplane. Why? I don’t know. Sometimes, it was because of a business prospect or an adventure. But with a lot of fights and negotiations, we pull through.
We are fine with out life. He said he doesn’t like to be at home most of the time. But the certainty that we (myself and our son) are at home, brings strength to him. This is similar to what Nathan says about us being the anchor to the ESFP.
He’s carefree but he has strong values system. He believes in responsibilities, love, fatherhood, loyalty, generosity, fun, respect, fairness, toughness, marriage, commitment, fair play, etc. This is the secret sauce that binds us together - ESFP and INFP. We know how strong we are towards our value system. We will not betray each other because we will not betray our love and we will not betray ourselves. Plus, we are true to ourselves.
I’d say he’s more emotionally intelligent than most men. He can handle my outburst and negative emotions. I’d suspect he can handle it better than most thinking types. For that, I’m really grateful.
He’s really funny. He has a soft and gentle side. He has a tough manly side. This combination, I like.
My life becomes an exciting journey because of him. And 100% more alive.
Sometimes I wonder how my life would become if I get an intuitive or an introverted spouse. I’m an Ne aux person, so sometimes my imagination runs wild. But no matter what, no matter how many scenarios of spouses I can imagine, at the end of the day, it’s back at him. Because our love is real. I don’t need an intuitive or introverted spouse. Him is enough. Because it’s real. And I grow because of his love.
My son (Istj - I suspect) adores him.
As an INFP I would love to have someone who would describe me the way you lovingly described your husband. Cheers to you and him, may you have many more years together!
Crazy how I feel you just described my relationship. Been with my ESFP for 20 years. He sometimes struggles with me just doing my own thing and sometimes I really miss him when he is off on crazy adventures.
He is enough and our life is fine? Wow, doesn't sound like you really love him...
Glad I found this. I am an ESFP who is married to an INFP husband. We have been married over 44 years. He keeps me grounded and at the same time has given me freedom and flexibility to explore different career paths and opportunities to grow and have fun.
"It works really well, when both parties don't see each other that much"
Spot on! I'm an INFP who actually adores ESFPs! :) Somehow I've always felt like we get each other and oddly have similar vibes, but the more time we spend together, the more the differences start becoming clearer..
I guess that's what happens with every relationship, but ESFPs really tend to put me back in my place whenever I start thinking I'm "actually pretty extroverted", lol.
Still love them, they're like bright little stars and are always super nice to me.. 💕
"Somehow I've always felt like we get each other and oddly have similar vibes, but the more time we spend together, the more the differences start becoming clearer." Yep, pretty much. Don't think I'd personally care to pursue relationships with ESFPs - I prefer ESxPs at a distance - but I've had these moments of Fi connection with ESFPs where it's like, oh, we get each other! Sometimes we appreciate each other's tastes/styles/artistic sides too. But spend a little more time together, especially in a social context, and it becomes apparent that we have totally different approaches to life and largely want very different things.
This is funny because I'm also an INFP and I thought I was extroverted for the longest time. Thinking back to my relationship with an ESFP, it definitely showed me how I really am not as extroverted as i thought and I definitely am not spontaneous either!
My closest friend ((INTJ - Se inferior) has accused me of having no passions e.g sports, collecting stuff, favourite movie genre etc, because my passions are internal. My hobbies are many, but I'm not passionate about them. While I don't have passions, I EMBODY passion. When I do something I care about, It bleeds from me - INFP
Hm yeah. As an INFP, I definitely have passions, but I can see how it could look different from an INTJ's perspective since INTJs tend to go really hard on one or a few things, while INFPs tend to have very broad and varied interests and are more likely to dabble in a lot of things. And yeah, they're not necessarily particularly concrete. I'm most passionate about life as a whole, and the human experience, and the beauty and wonders of the world, which may seem super-vague but permeates everything and also fuels my writing/creativity a lot.
@@Multitudes_ that was helpful, thanks!!
As an INFP I have had a couple of relationships run me ragged. I have been hurried and pushed and often complied to my own detriment. I need a lot of time to recover. I need space. Also most of my life I have been at the mercy of someone else making the call of when we should leave and go home.
However with all that said I do want someone to help me out of my comfort zone, to live a little. These should just be nudges. I also feel the more I trust you the more I will do things outside of my comfort zone.
Freaking finally! My mum and brother are esfps and im an infp, but the relationship between these two types is not discussed very often. Thank you!!
I learnt it hard way that forcing infps into my idea of adventure and fun ends badly 😅 It was hard for me to not take them into social situations. Its such a shame, cuz they are great people, I want to share with them this experience. But I learnt to respect their needs. Sometimes it leaves me with the feeling that they don't respect my needs. But Im speaking about friendships, not romantic relationships.
Everything said from gassing out in competitions to socialising on our terms makes total sense. I wish ppl had asked me in the past 'if I had enough' instead of judging me for being rude when I had to get away, feeling (literally) trapped.
Also a phrase I've heard that resonates with me - 'stay in your lane'. Don't try to fix the other person or smother them with solutions when they asked for none.
That last sentence of yours hits home with me like nothing else. as an INFP, i've been dealing with people, elders especially, trying to fix me when i never asked for any of them to do so, all my goddamn life so far! sometimes i really wonder, just why the hell is it sooooo hard for some to just stay in their lane, & adopt a live & let live approach to things, instead of thinking that they have all the answers & their way of life is superior to others.
Hello. Just the rare male INFP coming through.
INFP here married with four kids to a ESFP. It has ups and downs, but I feel like he completes me. He gets me out of my shell and I ground him down
Yes! I am an ESFP with a 25 year old daughter who is an ISFP and our issues sound very similar. We used to have a lot of conflict, but we have calibrated our relationship better. She is a calming person for me and I tell her that. Also, we need to have a type of hand signal that we can give each other in social situations. Something like "Are you okay?" "No, let me be invisible right now." or "No, I want to leave."
I've been friends with an ESFP for 16 years and the video sounds pretty accurate, as usual!
By the way, the "speed and intensity" part reminded me of a thing I had written years ago, way before discovering mbti, comparing the two of us, my friend and I. I was kind of shocked when I re-read it recently because it seemed like a small comparison between our types too! Roughly translated, here it is: "we're basically the same, but complete opposites at the same time. The simple fact that we're alive fills us with a great desire to love, so we're constantly looking for something (to love) that in the end doesn't actually exist, probably. The thing is, she always looks for it outside of herself, while I look for it within myself, so we end up behaving in complete opposite ways most of the time. And for some reason this whole thing (being the same at the core but going about it in opposite ways) makes us get along greatly".
YES ABOUT ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS! I am an ESFP happily married 37 years to an INTJ. People often say that we should not be compatible. I think romantic relationship have a lot to do with our motivation for a healthy relationship and desire to focus on each other's needs. Personality tests are an excellent tool to help understand each other better. We often joke that if we were not married, I live in an apartment with a bunch of free-loaders and he would live in a cabin in the middle of nowhere with no social interaction. We say it as a joke, but it reminds me of how much we need each other.
You're probably with an ISTJ
@@SS-bu8ez No, why would you say that? Are you trolling?
@@TheDenisedrake uh bcoz same quadra sensor intuitive relationship would be a disaster. No sexual or emotional compatibility. One of you might be a mistype.
@@SS-bu8ez No. We have done multiple Meyers Briggs tests and other personality tests that give similar results. Our long relationship has not been a disaster. On the contrary, it has been very good--we have had arguments like everyone, but overall very good. It's so very bizarre that people have the notion that your personality is completely fixed and you can not make any adjustments. Such a victim mentality! For example: If you are naturally a troll, you can learn to make civilized comments if you work on it.
@@TheDenisedrake Hehe
I’m INFP and hired an ESFP handyman/Jack of all trades 4 years ago. We do make a good working team for the reasons you stated. He is definitely fun to have around. I don’t think I could handle a romantic relationship with this type though. Too flighty and chaotic at times. I sometimes feel I have to be like his mother. That’s not good 😂
That's how I feel about my esfp brother! 😪
Hahaha I'm a INFP with a ESFP for 20 years. Yeah that's pretty spot on but it doesn't bother me.
@@violetdusk1968 aww that’s great! Congratulations ❤️
@@tinkershell1856 your right though it is chaotic but if it wasn't for him I would probably be living a boring existence and only exploring in my mind.
I was with an ESFP for 5 years.
We were about 40 yo.
Her presence was sometimes consuming but her absence is far worse.
I saw her as i my adored fairy. Our moments of grace were magnificent. Our inner childs expressed themseleves a lot. I was the inventor of worlds in which she was absolutely enjoying herself.
We, INFP, sometimes believe we should abandon ourself for our greater good without succeeding in the process, hold back by our echoing (deep) concerns. I tasted that sweet abandonment.
The most beautiful and intense feeling i've ever have.
Insightful video, Nathan, and concise as usual.
The thing is, certain types NATURALLY get along easier, but ANY types could work in a relationship if they find it worth it. At that point, it's about if both types are mature enough, have the same values, and goals in life so they rather fight to overcome their personality differences to become closer together with trust and respect for one another.
Although it's more rare when these relationships are successful, when they DO stick they are better than two people who don't have to work hard to improve themselves and show love to the other person.
Video is on point and broad strokes at the same time. That is very hard to do.
Interestingly, introverts do get attracted to extraverted energy, it's like a creepy crawly plant will look for a strong stem. Not in the sense of weak and strong. It's like seeing someone who can complement us, role model parts of us we need to improve and exactly those parts that might annoy us as well.
It’s so funny that this video was made. I don’t have any romantic relationship with a ESFP, but my mom is an ESFP and my best friend is an ESFP, and I’m an INFP. I was just thinking today how funny it would be if someone made a video about INFP/ESFP interactions. Wasn’t looking for it and I guess TH-cam was reading my mind! 😮
SE Polr? Oh man, that ain't easy for INFP.
Yes please more relationship videos!!!!
eyy. can't lie that i have been waiting for this kind of video lol
my closest friend is textbook infp and i am textbook esfp. i recently watched your “dangerous mbti traits” and i totally relate to the no-filter approach. i try to project my mindset or what i feel is right to my infp friend bc i think they could use some action💀
never thought i'd see relationship advice on this channel lol (not in a bad way)! would definitely love to see more!
I am an INFP who were married to an ESFP. I lost myself in the relationship. Not a good match. I tried my very best an lot my sense of self. He did not understand me and didn't even want to try. It is actually very sad. He does get along with my youngest son, who is an INFJ, but does nit have a good relationship with the eldest, an INTP. MY middle son is an ENTP and they don't get along at all
Helpful, thank you, Love Who!
My two best friends are ESFP and INFP, and I’m ENFP. It’s very fun.
Cloud Strife and Zack Fair is one of my favorite ESFP/INFP friendships in fiction.
So in my time reading about the different types and even the different types of personality tests here are a few things to understand.
Can knowing personality types help you in relationships - If you can recall the key characteristics of people in real time yes, but this is not only very difficult but can lead to many mishaps should you mistype a person. This on top of the fact people work in tendencies and not in 100%s then it becomes incredibly difficult to rely on it. What I would suggest is once you are in a commited relationship or relationships or whatever it is you have with someone else. Asking them to take a personality test and seeing what they get can be a very good way of improving your connection with them.
It also helps in discovering what possible fallouts can occur in the future or even helps explain fallouts from the past.
If you had the skill to not only know the characteristics of each and every personality type in real time but be able to type someone's personality through simple conversation or observation within a short time frame, then you'd be somewhat extremely masterful in creating and sustaining relationships with people. Something that amazing would require lifelong determination and practice which while may not help you now, may be beneficial later on.
A fair view.
Esfps all seem to start out fun and exhilarating... until. If they get to close it’s like they have entered into a magnetic field. Clingy needy time sucking can be over. The. Top. If they feel rejected or not included, the claws and daggers appear. Healthy boundaries from the beginning are paramount. Also, finding and complimenting their efforts for perfecting their appearances and “stuff” is their secret fairy dust.😘✌️💪🧚-50 something INFP
No no no no no...
Yup
No
I/E is cognitive introversion/extroversion, NOT 'social' introversion/extroversion. Socializing (or lack of) has nothing to do with a person's MBTI.
that infp in the thumbnail is the brunette shakespeare girl from 10 things i hate about you.
Hi this might be random, but I would like to ask your analysis on Princess Diana’s type, it seems like there has been a tight argument around the internet regarding whether she’s an INFP or ISFP. Maybe you can make a new series on typing noteworthy or famous figures’ personalities.
for any webtoon/manhwa readers you can see the romantic dynamic in spirit fingers and swimming lessons for a mermaid between the main leads hehe
This is pretty funny Two of my main characters learn to understand each other, and their an infp & esfp.
I’m sure such a relationship can work out, providing the ESFP isn’t also a sociopath.
Nah it still can! Been with one 20 years.
@@violetdusk1968 “Buy the ticket, take the ride” (Hunter Thompson)
hello first~!!! and INFP myself :>
I didn't know there were relationship advices for two MBTI types.
Mind if I suggest an INFJ-ISFP friendship advice video?
Here's some advice; Get an ESTP instead. They have an intellectual side/curiosity & will go down rabbit holes with you while pulling you out of your head/own rabbit hole.
I would love to see and intp + infj video!! my gf and I are these types, and we get along so well, but I rarely see videos talking about this pair
Hello, I'm not sure if this comment will get through, but I wanna see an ENFP x ISFP relationship advice video 💜
Request, can you do something for INTP and ENFJ? From an INTP I’m just interested in making the ENFJ happy and general boundaries that should be set
Se users with Si users is highest chance of being the most fulfilling
ESFP’s & ENTP’s I would love to hear about
The colours used in the beginning lol
Do ENTP and INFJ next!
7:47 No I haven't, but I had a relationship with both of these types, as an INTP they were both.........
Let's talk about invading Mars 😪
can you please do INTP with ESTP please, thank you
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Infp - Enfp?
Currently having a crush with an ESFP - INFJ
If you need help with a video about the infp and estp relationship combination, I'm an expert by now 😂
Ooh I would love to know how that usually goes
@@sharpiesarecool814 in short, we balance each other out most of the time, but there's misunderstandings and miscommunications when we're arguing. He helps me with my social skills, reminds me to live in the moment, and helps motivate me to stay on task with reaching my goals. He's very driven with his own goals and passionate and definitely a character. We have deep conversations where i use my Ne to imagine future possibilities and he weighs that with his Ti framework of logic. I think I remind him to be sensitive and empathetic to other's feelings, and from what I gather I think he likes that I'm very adamant about my beliefs, except when I start prioritizing staying true to my beliefs over his comfort sometimes. I also do most of the planning for roadtrips and dates 😂
Infp and entp? 💕
Can you do an intp-entj version of this
Can you please do Infj and Enfp?
hey do I just not know myself good enough, or does everyone else just accept their type without digging deep enough?
Like I'm researching myself and typology since 5 years now, and I still have no idea what Type I am.
In tests I get INTP/INFP/ENTP/ENFP, which brings me to the conclusion I probably have Ne, working as a graphic designer, also supports the idea of me having Ne.
But how tf can I be sure what Type I am? I just don't know if I have Fi / Fe, Ti / Te. It's so hard to get to a conclusion.
When I was younger, I first was very sensitive and kind of shy. But that switched drasticly when I was roughly 15. I had a threesome when I was just 16 and was very brave in meeting new romances. But when I was 16/17 I had a traumatic event whoch let me stay at home and isolate and have panick attacks, since there (that's almost 10 years ago) I move alot more like a typical introvert, because of the anxieties I get when I'm outside, especialy in. places with people where I can not decide when to leave the situation.
I'd really love to understand myself better, I started typing others (just for fun, for myself) aswell, which is alot easier for me, but even on others I change my idea of the types every now and than.
If you hvw any tipps/tricks I'm very open to read and discuss!
Here's a method I use based on the cognitive functions. Just like any test, it only works if you look at yourself clearly without preconceptions about what you want to be or don't want to be.
When you make decisions, are you more likely to carefully consider the pros and cons (thinking), or go with your gut (feeling). When you learn something new, do you do better with theory (intuition) or practical applications (sensing)? Now you know your middle two letters.
The next step is to decide whether your preferred judging function is introverted or extroverted. When you make decisions, do you prefer to do it on your own or to talk through it with other people? In my case, I have intuition and introverted feeling which makes me an XNFP. Now how do I figure out whether Ne or Fi is dominant? I think the best way to do that is to figure out the fourth function. Which of your bottom two functions are you worse at or more uncomfortable with?
This works if you can directly ask people these questions, but if you use these criteria to type people based only on your observations, it is more difficult. You have to spend a lot of time with them in different contexts to get an idea of how they usually react or think.
Have you done, or could you do one between ENFP and ISTP?
Yeah in my opinion it didn't work well (ESFP family member, and I am INFP
Interesting, are INTJs capable of healthy long-term relationship at all?
YES! I am an ESFP happily married 37 years to an INTJ. Taking personality tests to understand each other. What difficulties are you having?
@@TheDenisedrake male/female?
Oh, wait, I saw your comment below.
Well, I wonder what motivation can a female extravert find in relationship with INTJ?
@@mirriyastia He keeps me from doing something that would get me in jail. You INTJs are called "The Architech". We need your personality type to come up with solutions and direction. I need him to keep me grounded and cautious of dangerous people. He needs me to help him find joy in life and other people.
@@mirriyastia It's my opinion that women (no matter what their personalty type) want to be delighted in. If you focus on getting to know a woman (especially actively interested understanding her personality) and finding the lovely things about her. Then come up with a plan on how to meet the needs of her personality type. Hope this helps you find a strong healthy relationship.
@@TheDenisedrake well, it seems you live in some dangerous circumstances, if you have such interesting needs)
Nathan mentioned in one of his videos, that the key to success in modern society is connections, one who can build more connections is a winner; and as INTJs are bad in connecting with people and especially in having a number of it, it means that INTJs are less socially successful, so there's no point for ladies to choose an INTJ for relationship, it's like a wrong choice, a "hard difficulty" of life.
i love you
Do an estj/estp ?? Or should i just give up on them :)))) ??
I'm INFP. I can attest that a relationship with an ESTP can work. :) My partner and I have tons of things in common, just happens that we don't have any cognitive functions in common. It's not a deal-breaker, and as we've grown over the years it's become a real strength in our relationship that we approach things so differently. I wouldn't advise giving up on any types. Remember, type is based on preferences, it's like having different styles. Substance is what matters. (I would advise giving up on getting ESTPs interested in MBTI if they aren't though 😂)
I'm INFP and my sister is ESFP
Do a INTP + ESFJ please 😊🙏
Ok. Reservations aside. Lets say you're dealing with healthy people... Who would you say is the best mbti type match for an INTP 5W4? Where can I find them and why INFJ? lol
Next: ENFP x ENTP
Can you do a ISTP-INFP relationship advice please?
YES!!
Terrible combination
Don't try it at home
😂
I did. 5 years. Horribeautiful.
Seriously, our moments of grace was unmatched. I, INFP, felt scaringly complete. It was addictive, lively and mutual.
The two must be :
1. Patient (which can frighten an ESFP)
2. Responsive (which drains INFP batteries)
It was worth it.
Cool
So more relationship stuff with ENFJs 😭
Who the hell asked for this, I want an ENTPxINFP video from you
Throw ESFP's away, I forget it's my superegp
No ESFP are awesome!