exes | couple things with shawn and andrew
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.พ. 2020
- Today in episode 9 of Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew, we sit down to talk about the exes in our life and how they’ve shaped us into the people we are today. This was a tricky one, we aren’t gonna lie. Sitting down and talking about previous failed relationships is never easy, but as you’ll hear, we both think it’s important to revisit these moments instead of erasing them. And in the end, we’re incredibly thankful for the lessons we learned prior to meeting each other. We encourage you to listen closely on this one. Let us know what you think.
And of course, a huge thanks to Lauren for submitting the topic!
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I knew my now-husband was the one after a few months of dating when, after a toxic ex had tried to contact me, my now-husband had called him at my request. Instead of doing the macho “leave my girlfriend alone or else” routine, he said, “I understand why you like her. I understand why you want to contact her. She is such a great person . . . but she doesn’t want to continue with your relationship and you need to respect her wishes.” It was then that I knew he was the one for me. His respect for me as a woman and as an individual made me fall in love with him. This podcast reminds me of that moment.
when Shawn goes "I married you" while whispering is the best thing ever- EXACTLY the same thing I would do haha! you two are the cutest and have a great relationship!
17:25
When she called him out for him being concerned about her height, I expected him to be like “ya know what you’re right I’m sorry” but the face that all he said was ”but you are *reallyyyyyy* short” was hysterical! 😂😂😂
Love you guys!!
Please please show both faces. Sometimes when Andrew was speaking I SO wished I could see Shawn's expression and vice versa.
I would love to hear a podcast of the list of things you think couples should talk about before marriage: kids, religion, chores, etc.
yes
I love Nash coming in. You can tell he loves his people.
I ended a year long relationship on Monday- and I really needed this podcast. Everyone around me kept saying there were red flags that I missed- but no one except my mom wanted to talk about the things I learned from this relationship and how I’ve grown to know what’s important to me In relationships now. To hear you two discuss growing from your relationships was so helpful in reminding myself that my love and this relationship wasn’t a waste- I’ve learned and grown, and can put these life lessons into play for finding the right one when I’m ready to start dating again. Thanks for an amazing podcast! It’s so refreshing to see a married couple talk about uncomfortable topics and how open you two are!
The dynamic between you two feels so incredibly healthy. I love that you have created such a comfortable space for each other to speak freely and openly without either of you having that slight hesitation in speaking that comes up with couples who judge each other. The respect you both show up with when talking together is such a great and refreshing model of what healthy is in a relationship. You guys are killing it!!
This was SO SPOT ON! I have been divorced 3 times and have 3 kids from 2 different Dads. I now have 6 grandchildren and my kids are awesome! Looking back, much of my problems were that I was trying to meld myself into what I thought they wanted me to be, thus never happy or secure in who I was. So glad my kids learned from my mistakes. I hope this Podcast goes out to every young couple! Love ya.
I have had toxic relationships. I always figure the best way to find out if you're in a toxic relationship is to set your reasonable boundaries and see how they react. If they become offended, argue, or put you down for asking things like, "Hey, can you not rub this in my face please? That hurts" then that is not cool at all. I learned the difference because my best friend of 6 years (who is a guy) never does this. We may have a few ups and downs, and even a few big fights and disagreements over the years. But he never puts me down when I speak up, and he actually likes it.
I just wish that Shawn would let Andrew speak and not interrupt him as he is trying. This is a hard podcast which I admire you both doing.🤗🤗 to you both.
Exes, never had an issue, even though we both had exes who wanted us back throughout our 23 yrs of marriage. No jealousy because we knew we were solid. Now, one reason I don't think I'll ever be with anyone again, is widowed is different. I'll always want him back, will keep his memory alive in our home and in our family (we have 5 kids). He's not an ex, but my husband who died and will always be part of me, our family and my life. Always honored and loved. I don't think many would get (or want) that.
Betsy/BA BF I think when you find the right man, he will love you for all that you are and ever will be... there someone out there with a big heart to be able to love unconditionally and able to love all that you are... don’t ever allow anyone not to know how important he is to you, but, also make that person know your future is an open invitation to someone who is able or man enough to understand the meaningful relationship you had with your children’s father before he was taken to soon... god bless
I don’t have personal experience with this, but when I have thought about this situation or heard people talk about it, I always envision new person will be someone with a really open heart who can understand and accept that you will always be loving two people at the same time. I would imagine it takes a special person to love someone who lost a love to death, however when you find a person capable of that you will be lucky to have someone with a heart big enough to love you and your former love as well.
Andrew and Shawn, you are so sweet. I love how you switch from lovingly picking on each other to begin so supportive in a serious way. Andrew's voice is very soothing.
As an English/French teacher, I will make use of these new Andrew East vocabulary "dramaful, & a combo of "tragedy and travesty" aweinfiring. You are both adorablele.
Might be the funniest thing I’ve ever read
Wow Shawn Andrew is a keeper! He had me at "philosophical discussion" and "I like to read" lol. I think what you guys are doing is actually important -I enjoy the honesty it's refreshing!! Honesty is so RARE and yet it is in the foundation of any good relationship- 2 whole people growing and providing support for each other not "needing" the other to be "ok." Keep keepin' it real and thank you!!
Ok, I just got to 25:15 and had to stop to comment...something I HAVE NEVER done...Shawn has hit in a topic very important to me: eating disorders. I have dealt with this disorder most of my life and feel passionate about the lack of attention given. I pray that more people with strong platforms of communication will create a way for this disorder to receive more attention, funding for research and support. I can tell you that of all disorders, mental disorder is the quietest and least discussed because of the ‘taboo’ associated with it. Thank you for speaking freely about your experience! God Bless
Would be interesting to hear what things “hit them like a freight train” after having Drew... Don’t really understand what they mean and it would be interesting for them to expand on that.
I really love the way you two communicate and how open and honest you are with each other
this is a super good topic. i was just thinking about this last night, if it’s not meant to be and you know it when you’re in the relationship, once it ends and you heal and forgive etc. you always have what that relationship gave you, you can revisit the feeling of that love and the general vibe of the time you spent w that person. going off of what Shawn said at the beginning, it’s never gonna be like it didn’t happen, it was a gift for what it was. you can take it and learn.
Yes, yes, yes to the Live Taping Podcast Tour!
I really enjoyed this episode. I agree with Shawn about not erasing your "ex" from your past. They were a part of what made you who you are today, for good, bad, ugly, whatever and you should acknowledge that part of yourself. ❤ you guys!
I think the texting one is for sure a relationship specific one. As someone in a long distance relationship for over two years, texting is how we communicate because we don't get to see each other everyday and sometimes talking on the phone isn't an option. Neither of us expect a response immediately and of course we have our own lives but texting is important for us to remain connected as two people who live farther away from each other.
Hannah Goad My husband and I text all day while at work. It’s not deep conversations but it’s just keeping each other informed on little details,questions, or funny gifs. I actually look forward to when he says Good Morning Boo Boo (nickname) 🥰 IMO it’s is marriage/relationship specific. I think do what works for you and your SO 🤷🏻♀️
Hannah Goad This!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Love this podcast!!! So many truths packed in it!!
You both are so sweet, excellent conversationalists but so pure and truthful, so many people can learn from you both. Love all your pod casts
I live how you guys communicate with each other and the back and forth teasing. My husband and I are like this!we have been together for 18 years this year and married for 13 years. Love watching you guys
Great episode and great advice! Topic suggestion for another: Top 5 (or whatever) things you love about being married.
I definitely love when it’s just you two doing the podcast!!! Haven’t watched the others yet because I only really care to hear your opinions on the issues you talk about lol
100% agree on the texting back and forth all day. Makes me crazy and I feel like that’s what 12 year olds do, not adults. Thanks for sharing. Love your podcasts.
This is a great topic Shawn and Andrew. I like how you explained how every relationship shapes who you are. 😊
This one is so good!! Just love you guys! PLEASE do a live tour!! And come to Chicago!
The moral obligation point is absolutely accurate in my opinion. You guys always make me smile.
Thanks for the words of wisdom! Please come to Boston and squeeze in a quick victory lap around the marathon route before the live show!
Thanks for considering my topic! Loved the episode!! P.S. you guys put this episode together super fast!!
As much as I absolutely love Andrew and agree with a lot of what he says I just adore the hell out of Shawns spunk. I love that she’s not afraid to say what’s on her mind or worried about Andrews reaction. What a great representation of our gender. Love her!
I agree with most of what you say but she does put him down a lot, too.
Not a good representation from that perspective.
Yes to Andrew - alone time is important! I would not be a good girlfriend/wife if I did not have my alone time! I need space to love that person more and have quality time becaus quality > quantity
Yes! Take the podcast on a tour and stop in Chicago! Love you guys & the content! ❤️
I’d love to see an episode of y’all talking about the one!!
For many reasons, I really enjoyed this episode.
This podcast was truly helpful! Please come to NYC!
Thanks for being so candid, appreciate it.
Greetings from Poland
Amazing episode !! Lots of love from Austria😍
You guys are so awesome! Loved this episode!! Definitely do a live tour and come to Pittsburgh😆
Thank you for starting to include background details about your podcast guests. Ultimately, though, I like the podcasts that are just you two best. 😍
Yes!! Gender Roles podcast please.. I couldn't agree more with Shawn when she says that there might be different feelings or thoughts about the SO once you become married or parents..
Sex is also something that is better be discussed when you start a relationship. (How much? Do you want to do it with other people too? Do you have insecurities around it? etc...)
Things that asexual people know ;)
When quarantine is over and if it is safe to go on the road with the show, I would def love to attend a live taping in Boston!
I’ve been looking forward to this episode ever since y’all started this channel!!!🙃💚
let us know what you think :)
The East Fam Talks Hold up, the person who introduced us?! Are you talking about Guy?👀 Shawn’s last ex? 🤔
I love you all so much!!!! I would be so excited to see you both live!!!!! Please come to OKC!
Shawn I was just reading about your breastfeeding struggles and wanted to say YOU ARE A ROCK STAR!! You have done ZERO harm to your sweet girl!! You are doing AMAZING!! I have nursed 7 children but had struggles with my first. I was working nights as a Nurses Aide and pumping was really hard on that crazy schedule. I was nursing her one morning after work and actually fell asleep. Even though she was 3 months she someone rolled off the edge of the bed. I literally woke and caught her mid air. I decided at that point to wean her. My little girl is 14 now and she is thriving. She is taller then me, creative and kind. God bless,
I love both of you and I love your guests as well 👍🏼
I Love couple things you guys are awesome! I’ve been married to my hubby for 33 years. You need to at some point have a couple on that’s been together “like” forever and mb reflect on your parents relationships or possibly have your parents on.
Keep up the good work you have a great thing here!
Yes please tour and I’m in Conroe Tx but HOUSTON isn’t to far!!!! I love y’all! ❤️❤️
I find Andrew's hang up with texting so funny. Definitely agree with Shawn that it is different for everyone. My husband and I love touching base throughout the day through messages. It makes us feel connected throughout the day.
Same!
Yes please I want a podcast about “the one”!!
I totally agree about exes shaping us and not erasing those memories. They were part of our lives and there is no sense in pretending like they weren't.
& yes to Shawn - you don’t have to marry the first person you love... preach!
I’m on the treadmill at the gym laughing so hard at trajesty 😂😂😂
Love you guys! Your awesome people and parents! Love how open and honest you both are! Drew is a lucky girl! Drew and I share the same birthday, it’s the best day to be born! I feel like I know you guys! Keep it up!
Omg I would love to see you guys live! Come to Portland OR!!
Thank you for speaking about your eating disorder, my daughter had an eating disorder. It’s a horrible illness, my daughter survived and has recovered. There is so much stigma around eating disorders, I think the more it’s talked about the less scary it becomes. February is Eating Disorder awareness month, thanks again.
I love the back and forth. Andrew is like, “I’m in trouble.” Makes me laugh. Also reminds me of my husband and I.
We have been together since we were 16. We are working on 16 years together and we still do this 😂🤣😂🤣
aww this is awesome. thank you for sharing
Lisa B pppa
Really enjoyed this episode! Y'all should stop in Kansas City this summer! :)
Yes, yes,yes!! But only if you come to Indy!! Come on Andrew, bring to the home town!! Love you guys and all of your content!
Philly!! You two are great!
I've never had a "good" breakup before but time eventually heals and I find it's better to forgive and move forward.
Lindsay Satmary meee
Hope you find your true love and have an amazingly, fulfilling marriage.
Would TOTALLY come to a live taping if you make it to the Phoenix area!
Loved this episode! & yes, would love a live show! Stop by Austin Texas if you can 😊
Yes, Vancouver!!!! It would be amazing to go to a show where everyone from the crowd can ask questions and get raw real opinions and advice back from you guys! Even if you don't come to Vancouver, I hope the tour gets recorded :)
yes please tour in Chicago! I would love if you took this podcast on tour!
Hi Shawn and Andrew! I admire your honesty on your podcast - it is scary enough to be vulnerable with each other let alone with thousands of strangers as well! I know you get TONs of suggestions, but I'd like to offer one as well! I'm wondering what your take is on being transparent with one another: are there things you shouldn't tell your spouse? Is it possible to be too transparent? I know lying is never a good idea, so I'm not exactly wondering about honesty, but more about transparency. Like, sometimes it's not super fun to be honest because it could turn into a difficult discussion (aka a fight), but you know it is for the best. But on the other hand, what about the infamous "how do I look?" question? What if I don't look particularly good that day? Should my husband still tell me I do? Is total transparency always better? This is not a great example, but maybe you know what I mean. I hope this makes sense!
That morphing is so real. I definitely was too young when I got with my husband. I completely lost myself in our relationship and he, being 8 years older, didn't. I am not realizing how unhealthy that was/is and I am working on fixing it and bringing myself back.
i changed myself so much in my first relationship, kudos to you guys for being strong enough to end things that might have been perfect on paper. it’s the hardest thing, a leap of faith. ok i’m done commenting now
love y’all ❤️
LOVE YOU STEPHANIE
Yessss I think I’d be awesome to sit in a live pod cast with y’all!!
Yes to the live tapings! Come to San Antonio, Texas. My husband and I have a very unique, cross cultural relationship story if you’re looking for people to interview too.
I love following you guys and listening to your podcasts when I work out!! I was wondering on which social media platform do you make the most profit so I know which is it better, to like your TH-cam podcasts or just listen in the podcast app?
Hay East FAM I do enjoy your x topic was very enlighing and good to talk about and make for healthier relationship moving foward and make a better you
Yes! Come to Birmingham, Al!
I was in long relationship before marrying my ex... I have to say this helped me to keep positive and literally helped keep my sanity... I took the good and bad in my marriage and it helped me to be the person I am today... I met my wife and I feel she had been hidden from me to find my drive and reason to believe in love again. She is our rock and the strength we draw from... god has his path and our goal is to live life in faith and to believe in him. He will lead us to the people that will help us be the better person we are today... God Bless
Great talk and advice
I think you two a wonderful couple. It makes me luagh when people nitpick your podcast, because they just want to argue or don't get the content. You two are very well spoken and thanks for sharing your opinions on what works for your relationship. I understand that you respect other relationships and how they are different from your own. I would love it if you had a live podcast tour. Please come to Seattle. God bless you and your family.
-Trisha
I prefer when it’s just y’all!
Yes! Come to Michigan!
Come visit Vermont! I’d love to meet you guys and listen live! Love the podcast!
please do a live tour!! come to Maryland ❤️🙏🏼
I love just you two!
I am a big fan of the podcast and would totally see a live recording of the show! You guys should do a tour stop in Ohio!
Great Podcast...Love you guys!!! YES, how about coming to Taylorsville, NC, lol ok, I would settle for a city close to me, how about Hickory 🙏😀💕
I would LOVE to see y’all live in St. Louis, MO!!!!
Yes come to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina or Charleston, South Carolina
I love you guys!!!!
🌴🥂🌴🩱🌴⛳🌴🌊🌴⛱🌴
Yes! Denver, Colorado!
I would love to see y’all on tour!!! You should come to Austin ;))
Please do the live taping! I would definitely be game!
Come to Atlanta! Drew would love the Georgia Aquarium ❤️
I love your podcasts, they make me laugh because they challenge my thinking as do your dynamics! I disagree with telling about exes who you could have had a relationship with still (in theory) because those relationships are best left in the past, but I agree that if the relationship shaped you, then you should share that part. If you do not feel the relationship could have gone further, then I do not see harm in sharing exes. However each couple needs to do what works for them. Your views were really interesting and it was great seeing something I don't completely agree with work for someone else. "Dramatized" is pronounced dra-ma-tized, but is a real word ;-). I think the more sensitive of the partners are more susceptible to feelings of jealousy as Mrs. East demonstrated ;-). It is a sensitive issue and can bring insecurities into relationships that could have been avoided by not talking about exes. "Making sacrifices" is not the way I look at it. I think what Mrs. East is talking about is making adjustments in order to support the other person's vision as Mrs. East pointed out in a previous podcast. Thank you for the pod cast.
Live podcast tour would be great! Come to Austin
Andrew, you are right on!
Please do a podcast on gender roles/ your experience with premarital counseling👍🏼 y’all are awesome thank you for opening up
Would so love to come to a live viewing of Couple Things. Come to Salt Lake or Park City area!
You guys are my most favorite couple Shawn and Andrew; let me also say hi to baby Drew and Nash. I would love if you guys did a podcast in Gresham, Oregon or any neighboring city so I may have the honor of attending!
Love u 2..I am 65 yrs old and my husband and I have been together almost 30 yrs...keep on don't let haters get to u..they r not happy so they pick on u where they can...love u guys ...Lake City Florida