I am so proud of him opening up. Saying that leaving this place is a present to the world is exactly how I felt last year. I lost my mind, my job, family, and childhood home and I felt like ending. I'm 27 and inspired to open up about my story thanks to him and I hope others can remember to just hold on a little longer like he said. Much love to the world and when it gets overbearing, just hold on a little longer.
I agree, incredibly brave and a definite inspiration to speak about his issues. On the outside we see a good looking guy with a career on the raise, a wife and child, but the reality living with something completely different. We must also always keep in mind there are toxic people from both genders within our society too!
Never forget it does get better. Speaking from experience if someone is reading this in that very dark place, I promise you it gets better just hang on that little bit more. You will see a dawn worth living for or something else that you think is worth living for.
He brother, I don't know you, but I have nothing but love for you. I'm not here to give you advice, but remember those feelings and negative emotions aren't permanent. Things will get better or they might get worse, but you permanently leaving this planet won't help anyone. Stay strong brother.
So clearly how I felt so many years ago. He says it so much better than I could ever explain how I felt those years ago. I am glad for him and his truth. Life is hard but living is so much better once you push through the shit that is dragging you down. Like SPOCK said "Live long and Prosper!" Love you Bro! About to enjoy Reacher S2!
Glad you made it. Are you ok these days? Consider nutrition/health too. When you eat better and workout, you will feel better. The gut is known as the 2nd brain. If you have good gut bacteria (eat Kimchi daily and avoid bad things), you are happier. It has to do with Serotonin. Even start running. I use to be fat and out of shape. I got a brain injury and pretty down- not hard when you go from being a provider on a Monday to not being able to tie your shoes on Tuesday or make any money (coud not work.) Today I am much better. Nutrition was a big part of my healing.
Alan is one of the best episode guests. He’s got such a talent for articulating these heavy topics that the whole episode just flies by. He’s the real deal.
Reacher is the first show/movie where I've seen this guy in and it's interesting to see how he plays a character that is the definition of stoic and "men don't cry" attitude but then I see him here being comfortable expressing his mental illness and internal dilemmas and it's so good to see him talk about how he wants to bring to the spotlight the silent issues people go through
True stoics can actually admit their issues with others. They just don't allow themselves to be driven by their feelings. It takes a lot of strength and courage to be open about your internal problems.
I've always liked this guy. Noticed him ever since Smallville. Some movies or tv series that he was a part of are mostly supporting roles which was fine. But I felt he hasn't gotten a role that really fits him. But currently, he has reached the most prominent role of a lifetime right now and i'm very happy for him. As Robert Downey Jr was Tony Stark, Hugh Jackman was Wolverine, Ryan Reynolds is Deadpool and I can safely say Alan Ritchson IS Reacher! He was amazing in Season 1, can't wait for Season 2! :)
I've had depression, many people have, it'd debilitating to say the least, but Alan is very up front and honest about it, and his words might help someone, he's a very courageous guy for sharing all his demons with us, I have new found respect for the guy who plays Reacher
Wow. What an inspirational, and well-spoken human being. I loved his interpretation of Jack Reacher - my wife and I just finished watching the first season. Absolutely spot on. The casting, as a whole, was perfect. But this man’s personal story is impressive. I applaud his message and what he is trying to achieve with his platform. For me, depression was always like a dark room, where you couldn’t recognize the windows or doors to escape or let light in. But as soon as you are able to remind yourself that this feeling is temporary, the doors and windows begin to crack open. And that little bit of light has a momentum that can pull you out of any darkness. Keep up the great work!
I'm glad that he experienced this and pulled back from it. Many have not been able to. I was in almost the same place (mine was a 300 foot drop off of a bridge to the rocks below) and pulling away from that and just saying "Well! That's enough of that!!" cleaned all that out of my system. That was over 30 years ago and I'm doing great now.
I couldn't do the jump thing. I would rather hang myself and lose consciousness nice and slowly. Good thing you didn't jump because the world needs more people like you.
I’ve always liked Alan Ritchson. I first saw him in Blue Mountain State but even then I knew he was gonna be the biggest star coming out of that show. He’s such a badass on Reacher. Can’t wait for season 2!
I'm so glad this show exists. I think it gets celebrities a chance to open up about things they may not normally get to talk about in the Hollywood machine and it also shows us that everyone has these issues and it's OK to talk about them and you really don't know what's going on with someone and it never hurts to ask.
It’s so important that people speak up about these things. Knowing that even someone who is fit, good looking, has a family and successful goes through these thoughts.
Well, if you're the bread winner in the family and you have a female "business partner" who's trying to publicly destroy your entire life out of spite just because you won't sleep with her and knowing the era we as men are living in being ALL looked at as villains towards females would cause this mind state.
I've experienced the same depression as Alan, and it's difficult to climb out of, that's why we should all try and be a little nicer to each other as everyone has their own issues to deal with, I have mad respect for Alan it takes alot to confront your own fears.
You know, I believe that women do not have the same mental health issues as a man because women create these delusions for yourselves and are able to receive help from all directions while being labeled as a "victim". Men do not have this luxury to spill his emotions and not to be labeled an weak individual. Men go throughout life with a lot of pressure being a family man, a business man, and a product of society while females get to do whatever they pleases and not be looked at differently or else you will be shamed.
@@spankbuda7466 I'm a post op transsexual and transitioned at 23, I'm 55 Now, so I have life experience on both sides of things and both men and women go through their own issues, one person's problems are very individual to themselves be they male or female making sweeping statements that you can't possibly prove is not helpful to any one.
@@nicolajohnson1887 Listen, you haven't experience what women go through because you were not born as a biological woman. You have not gone through menstrual cycles, producing milk, or conceiving a child. Women are mentally and physically wired different than men. You transform yourself through countless surgeries to LOOK like a woman so that others could perceive you as such. But what can we say about the mental state of these men who decides to get these post op surgeries?
You are brave for sharing Nicola. How are you now? Have you ever considered nutrition/exercise as a way to better mental health? Trust me- it works wonders.
Thank you Alan, for sharing your story and experiences on mental health. It’s so important to have these discussions because they’re more common than we think. Sorry you went through all that. You are HERE for a PURPOSE! My husband and I really enjoy Reacher. Can’t wait to see more of your work. 🙌🏽🙌🏽💛💛
Mad to respect to this man for speaking the truth about his feelings. Most men don’t talk about stuff like this but should. It gives other people hope.
I wrote down so many of these points here. I didn’t realize at a time in my life as well how stressed I was due to my confusion of my role in life because I was serving to many masters at once as well. Thank you for sharing! 🙏
Alan, thank you for all that you do. I also struggle from depression and I super appreciate your journey. It's very real and a lot of people don't understand, and I was one of them until the one day I finally realized what was going on. Thank you.
I dont know how else to say this. This guy is so fucking humble and kind. You truly should be thankful he opens up the way he does on your show. This shit is really private stuff and he deserves so much love for talking about this
Well first of all, I think he's a very cool and open guy and I absolutely love him as Reacher. I really hope he can find the happiness and peace that he deserves for his wife and kids. Alan, seriously, keep true to yourself and your family. You are a good person! Don't let the industry change that .
So happy people talk about this more openly. I've been there. I had a lot going for me and did everything "like I'm supposed to" to get none of the rewards from all the hard work and dedication I was putting in. Eventually that led to things being bad at home, my wife felt it, my kid was feeling it and finally when I "had enough" I made the change. Quit my job, found something that was worth my time and was paying me my worth, eventually to leading to a great paying job that I currently am still in. Life is so much better once you identify what the issues are and make the change to better yourself for yourself and your family.
This brought me tears. I'm sitting in this tired, ambivalent not motivated place. I just want to stay in bed because I don't feel like doing anything. I'm hiding, but I don't know from what. My NDE was 15 months ago. At first, I was happy and grateful to be here, I don't know how I've gotten to this place of avoiding life. Thank you for telling me it does get better. I know it will, I hope it will.
I’ve been there, and I never tried to take my life but I got so worried that I would lose control of myself and that I would it almost drove me crazy I had such a high amount of anxiety I couldn’t even do anything. Got bless you for opening up and letting people know they just have to tough it out. And eventually it will get better
I have respect for those open about their issues, suicidal thoughts or even attempts, not for attention but to educate, enlighten and help people. You can tell who’s genuine and not. Seeing a successful and attractive man discuss his own mental health issues and suicide attempts really works against the stigma surrounding it and shows that you’re not crazy for feeling a certain way, you just need help. It inspires me to keep going
I wish I could say this directly to Alan. Sir, you are on the right track. I have been there too. Finding your Purpose driven life is the key to true happiness and gaining an understanding of why we exist at all. I personally feel that my purpose is to do everything I can for all of my family members for as long as I can stay alive, without ever asking or expecting anything in return. We are all historically significant, we just have to figure out what our roll in the world is about. Your's is in teaching those who haven't figured it out yet. I confess, I came here to listen to Jack Reacher an I found so much more! It is true the world is full of pain and lost souls but we can change some that by being open with our own pain so others can learn. That in itself is a noble Purpose and can be enough to sustain us. The world will be a better place with you in it. I appreciate this channel for giving us a real look at a this man. He is so much more than his acting! I will now subscribe here and If I can find a channel for Mr. Ritchson, I will follow him from now on!
I applaud your bravery to talk about this. It will help other men struggling with the stigma. My son is 28 and I hear you speak about things he has spoken about to me. He now helps other people, mostly men who work for him, but he shares his story and they open up, some go into therapy, get help they need. My son is starting a group with those men who are paying it forward to mentor those struggling with bipolar, mental illness, depression in the work place. I could have lost my son, he felt like dying would be so less painful. I'm so grateful I still have him. I'm so proud of you men that share your story. Thank you! :💚
Alan Ritchson is amazing, I am so grateful he is willing to share his experiences both bad and good. My loved one has expressed similar thoughts about suicide and been in that same dark place and I think it is so incredibly important to speak out to others. It isn't always ok, things are not always perfect but it will get better. This world is a better place with you in it Alan, thank you for holding on. Never forget how strong you are and what you have overcome everyday!!!
I loved the first season of Reacher and already loving what I've watched in season two. What a great portrayal of a character beloved by many. But I'm even more impressed by his very open, candid, and humble report of his personal struggles with identity, purpose, meaning, and mental health. Now I'm not only a fan of Reacher, and will check out his other work, but a grateful fan of him as a person.
I’m glad he’s still here with us and doing great things at that!! Been a huge fan since aquaman and recently Hawk from Titans! Sometimes actors just have this thing about them when they are able to just be themselves within a role and he’s got that energy about him!!
so glad I found this interview. really feel this seeing the openness. and just knowing how this feels and the very hard recovery after the facts. everyday is still a fight to stay mentally healthy
It heart breaking he went through the darkness like he did. He came out the other side into the light. Now of only we could get our Veterans taken care of and able to see the light and let go of their hardest experiences in combat and allow survivors guilt take a flying leap. Every one person should be able to get the help they must have to make it through the darkness into the light. With Deep Love a Gold star Mom.
I remembered loving his work in Smallville as Aquaman. I’m going to have to check out his work on Reacher. It’s great to see him shine the spotlight on things like depression and near death experience.
this gives me a little more energy, I'm in that moment like many others where I just want to sleep, thanks for this episode, it gives me hope that I can get out of depression, thanks.
This guy's face is almost like the older man my best friends could have right now if he didn't kill himself back in 2009. and the fact that Alan is talking about how he felt those days of depression and all those thoughts he had, makes me understand a little bit more or something at least of why he did what he it. 😥 miss you buddy... until we meet again.
It's so amazing that I have felt the exact same thing about life, I know im not a hollywood star or known, but I've realized that every single living human has or will go through this in their own journey. We are truly blessed to be able to experience this thing called life and be grateful for all the moments because we chose to be here to learn lessons we're sometimes blinded to.
I am so glad he talked about his struggle, his fight. He almost lost. But, he didn’t. He didn’t. And the bravery to talk about it after the fact! A popular Hollywood actor, talking about his own suicidal experience!! I salute you, sir.
When people open up about their depression and even suicidal thoughts, it destigmatises the whole mental health thing that it's something we don't talk about. We do, we should and we must talk about this and quodos to Alan for opening up about this. Much respect to you. I think it's hightime we stopped seeing "hollywood" as this glitz and glamour show and see it for what it is. A shit show that really puts people through the ringer.
I completely agree. We’ve come a long way from the times where mental health was so stigmatized but we still have quite a ways to go. And unfortunately there are many places around the world that still don’t acknowledge mental health problems
@@chiputiman just because this has happened to you doesn't make it a lie. Just means the people you confided in saw it as a weakness, didn't know how to process it and couldn't help. Perhaps searching for some qualified, professional help will get you better results. I only talked about it to those who had suffered with depression, this meant I was met with compassion and empathy rather than scorn and dismissal. Chose wisely my friend. There are people who will listen, understand and help.
He's not wrong. When your depression gets that deep - suicide can seem something close to a last & therefore almost logic step to take. You just need to find a reason to hang on.
@@Caine33 Humor kills all darkness. It brings down even totalitarian states. Two things can save you from suicide - thinking less of yourself & accepting just doing things without ego - then giving up life seems so lazy, or embracing your ego, being to full of yourself to leave chance to see new things in the world - simply adding reasons to selfishly live on your own terms saying fk it all. Acceptance or egoist anger. But humor would be the third - the best distraction, the best distance from oneself giver. Whatever fits you take it.
I wish Allen success. I struggled with depression for many years. Doing things that bring me joy distracted me from my self loathing. Not bi-polar but joy can be cathartic.
God bless you, Alan for sharing this intimacy about yourself. In our fake, social media driven society where we only see one side of people, your integrity, honesty, and openness is refreshingly unbelievable. You have just helped thousands who struggle with depression. Again, God bless you and your family.
I'm really freaking out in a good way! I did the same thing for the same reason 25 years ago. I didn't have kids or a husband at the time. I am trying to figure out how to share my story to help others as well. Alan, you have inspired me! Thank you for sharing! I love you in Reacher! You popped up in my Google news feed with your beautiful sermons. One of my goals is to become an ordained minister. I feel full of strength seeing how you speak your truth and seeing beyond what some people and organizations are doing by boxing us into a corner of no choices, no insights or critical thinking for what is happening. Keep going brother! You inspire! 💖
My grandfather killed himself when I was 12 years old. And I've seen the way it affected my mom and my uncle ever since. Killing one's self is one of the most selfish things you can do.
Thank you for your honesty. I wish more people on your position would be more open and transparent as you were here. Actors like, Robin Williams, Philip Seymour and your co-star from smallville, Lee Thompson Young who played cyborg. My cousin took his life the way you described you tried to. It's been over 15yrs and it still hurts to think that that was the way he wanted us to remember him and how he thought that is was best for us. Thank you Alan for being brave and speaking about your struggle. It'll help a lot of people who get to hear this.
He’s very quickly become one of my favourite actors. I remember as a kid watching him in Smallville, now he’s Reacher and they couldn’t have casted anyone better.
Watched him in an interview with Tobuscus and then in Blue Mountain State. He played Thad to perfection. He didn't overdo it. Once I knew this man understood satire I knew he would go on to bigger and greater things. He's incredible.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I came to a very dark place a few years ago, divorce, lost home, business, gained weight from the stress. I thought I would be better off also, if I was not here. After so many years of building a relationship and a home, to loss it all over night. The sadness and depression were real and powerful feelings. However, the moment I thought of ending it, my year-old puppy jumped on to my lap, and that was it. I said to her "Okay, okay, forgive me for thinking that" she saved my life no doubt. And tomorrow is another day, and in that thought of tomorrows possibilities, anything can happen. Thanks again. W.
Love the new Reacher show. Mr. Ritchson, thank you for sharing your darkest moments. Extremely insightful, useful and inspirational. Bless your openness and contribution. Happy New Year to you and your family.
I love that you and Alan are so open about this. It makes me feel like I'm not alone and, not to sound over the top, you probably don't realize that you helping to save lives by sharing. Thank you.
@@spookmineer To be honest, it's a constant struggle. I have my good days and my bad days. I have very intense anxiety and I just do my best to try not to let it affect my family too much.
The most important thing for me to remember is that even in the times when I'm not OK, the pain, anxiety, and depression are only temporary. I just focus on knowing that it will pass and I CAN BE OK, even if I'm not in that moment. It's a struggle, but I do my best to remain strong for my son. No matter how crippling my anxiety can feel, he doesn't deserve to grow up without a dad.
@@MikeCarpenter222 Absolutely! And hopefully you can talk with a family member or a friend about this? It most likely won't solve things right at that moment, but being understood might make a difference, or even just being heard.
After my fiancee killed herself i was in a very bad spot. Fler just like this guy that I was suck a burden to the world and my family . I blamed myself so so hard. Secluded myself from the world I ended up lieing down on the railroad tracks alot just waiting for the train getting up just moments before it came. One night i passed out on a road from intoxication . I woke up to headlights in my face rolling over just to feel the tires grab my jacket . I sat up and just decided to take a step forward just bear it dig deep there s gotta be something worth dealing wirh all this pain for. Took many years but i can now say Im out of the rough and it was so worth it sticking around in the end
Alan, I am so glad you are a Christian and not afraid to open up on social media. Not many stars are brave enough to speak about this. Thank you, I love your character Reacher also. He is a real good guy!
This is a very important topic and I have nothing but pure respect for him for opening up and discussing it, and doing it so clearly and eloquently. I've been through this and it's a terrible state to be in: not because you necessarily feel "bad", but because at some point you don't feel *anything* while otherwise being completely lucid. And you cannot explain it to yourself on any logical level either. The feelings are just gone - fear, love, everything. It's just this void. And at the same time it might make you feel guilty - because in my case I had and have nothing to objectively feel bad about. I'm rather good at what I do - and I am well-compensated. What led me to this state was a lot of work stress over long period of time when bad things were happening to good people and I could not fix it - no matter how hard I tried (60+ hour work weeks for almost 2 years). I am otherwise healthy, good-looking and fit. I have a beautiful wife who shows nothing but support and has my best interests in mind. And having this paradox in your head launches a spiral where one thing continuously feeds the other - and it gets dark. It gets really, really dark. But, to compliment what Mr. Ritchson said: there are ways out of it. There absolutely are ways out to get yourself back together - and even emerge a stronger and better person. Reach out, don't hold it inside you, try not to stay alone - you CAN fight it and you absolutely CAN prevail, you CAN claim your life back and be happy again.
I have a job where I work 6 days a week right now. Sometimes I log 70-80 hour weeks.. I get to work - it’s dark. I leave work - it’s dark. I have no partner, I have no pets. It won’t be long now before I retire. I just have to get there.
@@jeffreyeaton940 I logged 70-80-100 hour weeks too in that time period I was writing about. Not to brag, obviously - or not (because it's not something to brag about - it's something to avoid - if you can). I can't "advise" you to get a partner either, because I was lucky - in the purest sense - that Good Lady Destiny crossed my path with the one of my now-wife. She kinda saved me... But! What I can do is - I can advise you about a pet. I truly believe I can. If you are near retirement - get yous a rat. They are the smartest and kindest animals and partners one could ever hope to find. And, as morbid as it may sound, they also don't have that long of a life - so... if you are truly close to retirement, a rat might give you the energy and love to go through those years left before you retire - and also, dare I say, teach you how to approach the life that awaits you after. And: my honest and true best wishes to you.
Rick Fry head pastor at the Rock Church in Danville, Caifornia said "He knows and let him deal with it". Your a good man. Always be strong and help others. That's how we make it through stormy weather. God bless you my friend.
Wow 😮 what a testimony love the openness and honesty. It’s nice with the success of Reacher that he can use his new popularity and platform in a positive way for others.
I am so proud of him opening up. Saying that leaving this place is a present to the world is exactly how I felt last year. I lost my mind, my job, family, and childhood home and I felt like ending. I'm 27 and inspired to open up about my story thanks to him and I hope others can remember to just hold on a little longer like he said. Much love to the world and when it gets overbearing, just hold on a little longer.
I’m glad you stayed to share your story Mathias. I hope you have a great week ahead and a fantastic year filled with joy and love.
I agree, incredibly brave and a definite inspiration to speak about his issues. On the outside we see a good looking guy with a career on the raise, a wife and child, but the reality living with something completely different. We must also always keep in mind there are toxic people from both genders within our society too!
Never forget it does get better. Speaking from experience if someone is reading this in that very dark place, I promise you it gets better just hang on that little bit more. You will see a dawn worth living for or something else that you think is worth living for.
Mathias... I am sooo impressed by your comment and opening of your soul.
He brother, I don't know you, but I have nothing but love for you. I'm not here to give you advice, but remember those feelings and negative emotions aren't permanent. Things will get better or they might get worse, but you permanently leaving this planet won't help anyone. Stay strong brother.
As a suicide survivor myself, I can only feel more respect for this man. Alan, you have become one of my most respected actors
Same
So clearly how I felt so many years ago. He says it so much better than I could ever explain how I felt those years ago. I am glad for him and his truth. Life is hard but living is so much better once you push through the shit that is dragging you down. Like SPOCK said "Live long and Prosper!" Love you Bro! About to enjoy Reacher S2!
Don't call yourself a suicide survivor...
@ShadasHur Same!
Glad you made it. Are you ok these days? Consider nutrition/health too. When you eat better and workout, you will feel better. The gut is known as the 2nd brain. If you have good gut bacteria (eat Kimchi daily and avoid bad things), you are happier. It has to do with Serotonin. Even start running. I use to be fat and out of shape. I got a brain injury and pretty down- not hard when you go from being a provider on a Monday to not being able to tie your shoes on Tuesday or make any money (coud not work.) Today I am much better. Nutrition was a big part of my healing.
Alan is one of the best episode guests. He’s got such a talent for articulating these heavy topics that the whole episode just flies by. He’s the real deal.
Reacher is the first show/movie where I've seen this guy in and it's interesting to see how he plays a character that is the definition of stoic and "men don't cry" attitude but then I see him here being comfortable expressing his mental illness and internal dilemmas and it's so good to see him talk about how he wants to bring to the spotlight the silent issues people go through
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modern day Conan 💪🏽
Watch him on blue mountain state 😂 lmao
There’s always a time when a man can cry tears of joy and sadness it’s just not when he gets punched in the face lol
True stoics can actually admit their issues with others. They just don't allow themselves to be driven by their feelings. It takes a lot of strength and courage to be open about your internal problems.
Hearing another man share his suffering and being able to relate to it is medicine itself.
I've always liked this guy. Noticed him ever since Smallville. Some movies or tv series that he was a part of are mostly supporting roles which was fine. But I felt he hasn't gotten a role that really fits him. But currently, he has reached the most prominent role of a lifetime right now and i'm very happy for him. As Robert Downey Jr was Tony Stark, Hugh Jackman was Wolverine, Ryan Reynolds is Deadpool and I can safely say Alan Ritchson IS Reacher! He was amazing in Season 1, can't wait for Season 2! :)
Agreed, felt the right vibe with him in reacher, made me love the books and the character more
Check out Blue Mountain State if you’re into silly dude comedy. He was hilarious in it, especially in the first season.
@@boomersoonerct oh wow cool, i'll check that out soon! Thanks man! :)
I liked his role in titans.
I thought you were talking about Michael Rosenbaum instead of Alan 😂
I've had depression, many people have, it'd debilitating to say the least, but Alan is very up front and honest about it, and his words might help someone, he's a very courageous guy for sharing all his demons with us, I have new found respect for the guy who plays Reacher
Look to nutrition and exercise to help. Don't dismiss this tip.
Wow. What an inspirational, and well-spoken human being. I loved his interpretation of Jack Reacher - my wife and I just finished watching the first season. Absolutely spot on. The casting, as a whole, was perfect.
But this man’s personal story is impressive. I applaud his message and what he is trying to achieve with his platform. For me, depression was always like a dark room, where you couldn’t recognize the windows or doors to escape or let light in. But as soon as you are able to remind yourself that this feeling is temporary, the doors and windows begin to crack open. And that little bit of light has a momentum that can pull you out of any darkness. Keep up the great work!
I'm glad that he experienced this and pulled back from it. Many have not been able to. I was in almost the same place (mine was a 300 foot drop off of a bridge to the rocks below) and pulling away from that and just saying "Well! That's enough of that!!" cleaned all that out of my system. That was over 30 years ago and I'm doing great now.
Bless You Man🙏🏽
Happy to hear it man. Best of luck to u
God bless you, brother.
I couldn't do the jump thing. I would rather hang myself and lose consciousness nice and slowly. Good thing you didn't jump because the world needs more people like you.
Epic katarsis... a shock therapy. What if we tell people in this state to take a really cold shower first focusing on breathing alone? Would it work?
Big respect. Grown man speaking about his mental health and well-being.
It actually means a great deal that he can speak with such clarity on topics like this. It really resonates if you've ever hit that low point.
I’ve always liked Alan Ritchson. I first saw him in Blue Mountain State but even then I knew he was gonna be the biggest star coming out of that show. He’s such a badass on Reacher. Can’t wait for season 2!
Besides him, Mary Jo is the only one to get in better stuff after BMS
He was so funny in BMS.
He did good in titans also.
I'm so glad this show exists. I think it gets celebrities a chance to open up about things they may not normally get to talk about in the Hollywood machine and it also shows us that everyone has these issues and it's OK to talk about them and you really don't know what's going on with someone and it never hurts to ask.
It’s so important that people speak up about these things. Knowing that even someone who is fit, good looking, has a family and successful goes through these thoughts.
It helps destroy the stigma ;💚
Well, if you're the bread winner in the family and you have a female "business partner" who's trying to publicly destroy your entire life out of spite just because you won't sleep with her and knowing the era we as men are living in being ALL looked at as villains towards females would cause this mind state.
@@spankbuda7466I wonder who it was.
I appreciate how he opened up about this as someone who struggles with anxiety, stress and depression. Just hold on.
Glad that Alan Ritchson is being honest about his struggles. I hope it helps a lot of people so they can come out of their own struggles.
I've experienced the same depression as Alan, and it's difficult to climb out of, that's why we should all try and be a little nicer to each other as everyone has their own issues to deal with, I have mad respect for Alan it takes alot to confront your own fears.
You know, I believe that women do not have the same mental health issues as a man because women create these delusions for yourselves and are able to receive help from all directions while being labeled as a "victim". Men do not have this luxury to spill his emotions and not to be labeled an weak individual. Men go throughout life with a lot of pressure being a family man, a business man, and a product of society while females get to do whatever they pleases and not be looked at differently or else you will be shamed.
@@spankbuda7466 I'm a post op transsexual and transitioned at 23, I'm 55 Now, so I have life experience on both sides of things and both men and women go through their own issues, one person's problems are very individual to themselves be they male or female making sweeping statements that you can't possibly prove is not helpful to any one.
@@nicolajohnson1887 Listen, you haven't experience what women go through because you were not born as a biological woman. You have not gone through menstrual cycles, producing milk, or conceiving a child. Women are mentally and physically wired different than men. You transform yourself through countless surgeries to LOOK like a woman so that others could perceive you as such. But what can we say about the mental state of these men who decides to get these post op surgeries?
You are brave for sharing Nicola. How are you now? Have you ever considered nutrition/exercise as a way to better mental health? Trust me- it works wonders.
@@MOAB-UT I exercise every day, I'm ok did lose my husband last year but trying rebuild but you never forget those you love.
Wow. That's a HUGE thing to open up about but I'm willing to bet hearing this will help a LOT of people. God bless and stay strong!
Damn, this man. Very inspiring. Glad he made it out to tell the story, become a bigger man, and share his wisdom. So much respect.
Thank you Alan, for sharing your story and experiences on mental health. It’s so important to have these discussions because they’re more common than we think. Sorry you went through all that. You are HERE for a PURPOSE! My husband and I really enjoy Reacher. Can’t wait to see more of your work. 🙌🏽🙌🏽💛💛
Mad to respect to this man for speaking the truth about his feelings. Most men don’t talk about stuff like this but should. It gives other people hope.
I wrote down so many of these points here. I didn’t realize at a time in my life as well how stressed I was due to my confusion of my role in life because I was serving to many masters at once as well. Thank you for sharing! 🙏
Alan, thank you for all that you do. I also struggle from depression and I super appreciate your journey. It's very real and a lot of people don't understand, and I was one of them until the one day I finally realized what was going on. Thank you.
I dont know how else to say this. This guy is so fucking humble and kind. You truly should be thankful he opens up the way he does on your show. This shit is really private stuff and he deserves so much love for talking about this
Well first of all, I think he's a very cool and open guy and I absolutely love him as Reacher. I really hope he can find the happiness and peace that he deserves for his wife and kids. Alan, seriously, keep true to yourself and your family. You are a good person! Don't let the industry change that .
So happy people talk about this more openly. I've been there. I had a lot going for me and did everything "like I'm supposed to" to get none of the rewards from all the hard work and dedication I was putting in. Eventually that led to things being bad at home, my wife felt it, my kid was feeling it and finally when I "had enough" I made the change. Quit my job, found something that was worth my time and was paying me my worth, eventually to leading to a great paying job that I currently am still in. Life is so much better once you identify what the issues are and make the change to better yourself for yourself and your family.
This brought me tears. I'm sitting in this tired, ambivalent not motivated place. I just want to stay in bed because I don't feel like doing anything. I'm hiding, but I don't know from what. My NDE was 15 months ago. At first, I was happy and grateful to be here, I don't know how I've gotten to this place of avoiding life. Thank you for telling me it does get better. I know it will, I hope it will.
5:13 And this ladies and gentlmen is why we need to question every accusation .....
I’ve been there, and I never tried to take my life but I got so worried that I would lose control of myself and that I would it almost drove me crazy I had such a high amount of anxiety I couldn’t even do anything.
Got bless you for opening up and letting people know they just have to tough it out. And eventually it will get better
I have respect for those open about their issues, suicidal thoughts or even attempts, not for attention but to educate, enlighten and help people. You can tell who’s genuine and not. Seeing a successful and attractive man discuss his own mental health issues and suicide attempts really works against the stigma surrounding it and shows that you’re not crazy for feeling a certain way, you just need help. It inspires me to keep going
I wish I could say this directly to Alan. Sir, you are on the right track. I have been there too. Finding your Purpose driven life is the key to true happiness and gaining an understanding of why we exist at all. I personally feel that my purpose is to do everything I can for all of my family members for as long as I can stay alive, without ever asking or expecting anything in return. We are all historically significant, we just have to figure out what our roll in the world is about. Your's is in teaching those who haven't figured it out yet. I confess, I came here to listen to Jack Reacher an I found so much more! It is true the world is full of pain and lost souls but we can change some that by being open with our own pain so others can learn. That in itself is a noble Purpose and can be enough to sustain us. The world will be a better place with you in it.
I appreciate this channel for giving us a real look at a this man. He is so much more than his acting! I will now subscribe here and If I can find a channel for Mr. Ritchson, I will follow him from now on!
This guy has been my favorite since blue mountain state and he is a gift to the world. Please keep being you! Don’t try to change.
What totally cool dude......i have so much respect for this man .....he is un apologetically open about his faith .....Reacher!
Thank you Alan for your honesty and for allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open up about such a difficult struggle.
I applaud your bravery to talk about this. It will help other men struggling with the stigma. My son is 28 and I hear you speak about things he has spoken about to me. He now helps other people, mostly men who work for him, but he shares his story and they open up, some go into therapy, get help they need. My son is starting a group with those men who are paying it forward to mentor those struggling with bipolar, mental illness, depression in the work place. I could have lost my son, he felt like dying would be so less painful. I'm so grateful I still have him. I'm so proud of you men that share your story.
Thank you!
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Alan Ritchson is amazing, I am so grateful he is willing to share his experiences both bad and good. My loved one has expressed similar thoughts about suicide and been in that same dark place and I think it is so incredibly important to speak out to others. It isn't always ok, things are not always perfect but it will get better. This world is a better place with you in it Alan, thank you for holding on. Never forget how strong you are and what you have overcome everyday!!!
The way people (famous people!) open up to you and share their humanity - that's a reflection on you and what you've cultivated here. Kudos, Michael!
I loved the first season of Reacher and already loving what I've watched in season two. What a great portrayal of a character beloved by many. But I'm even more impressed by his very open, candid, and humble report of his personal struggles with identity, purpose, meaning, and mental health. Now I'm not only a fan of Reacher, and will check out his other work, but a grateful fan of him as a person.
I’m glad he’s still here with us and doing great things at that!! Been a huge fan since aquaman and recently Hawk from Titans! Sometimes actors just have this thing about them when they are able to just be themselves within a role and he’s got that energy about him!!
so glad I found this interview. really feel this seeing the openness. and just knowing how this feels and the very hard recovery after the facts. everyday is still a fight to stay mentally healthy
Honesty, courage and wisdom.
You will help many, many people with these qualities.
Huge respect!
It heart breaking he went through the darkness like he did. He came out the other side into the light. Now of only we could get our Veterans taken care of and able to see the light and let go of their hardest experiences in combat and allow survivors guilt take a flying leap. Every one person should be able to get the help they must have to make it through the darkness into the light.
With Deep Love a Gold star Mom.
May God's Comfort Strength Peace be with you & lift you up🙏🕊️
Much love and respect to Alan for opening up like this
I remembered loving his work in Smallville as Aquaman. I’m going to have to check out his work on Reacher. It’s great to see him shine the spotlight on things like depression and near death experience.
It's actually a fun show, and he's great as Reacher 😊
He was in Titans as well. He is very good in it.
this gives me a little more energy, I'm in that moment like many others where I just want to sleep, thanks for this episode, it gives me hope that I can get out of depression, thanks.
This guy's face is almost like the older man my best friends could have right now if he didn't kill himself back in 2009. and the fact that Alan is talking about how he felt those days of depression and all those thoughts he had, makes me understand a little bit more or something at least of why he did what he it. 😥 miss you buddy... until we meet again.
Searing honesty from this guy ,inspirational stuff.this needs to be shared big time
hearing all this and seeing reacher, so proud and happy for him.
Alan is the real deal! Hollywood needs more people like him.
It's so amazing that I have felt the exact same thing about life, I know im not a hollywood star or known, but I've realized that every single living human has or will go through this in their own journey. We are truly blessed to be able to experience this thing called life and be grateful for all the moments because we chose to be here to learn lessons we're sometimes blinded to.
It's nice seeing someone who looks bulletproof come out and speak on his depression.
Big respect to you Alan. This has really helped me in the moment. Continue being true to yourself and you'll go far!
Honesty and vulnerability is so refreshing.
I did not expect this from him. Much respect, sir. Thank you for being so open and so brave, it does not fall on deaf ears.
Drink a shot everytime he says "you know".
REACHER is awesome.
The strength behind your vulnerability & honesty dwarfs Reacher stature and urban legend. Bravo!
He did a great job on Reacher, hope there's a season 2 later on.
Season 2 already confirmed
@@Treebsquire oh nice!
It’s backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk and awesome 🤩 😎
I am so glad he talked about his struggle, his fight. He almost lost. But, he didn’t. He didn’t. And the bravery to talk about it after the fact! A popular Hollywood actor, talking about his own suicidal experience!! I salute you, sir.
Alan you are worthwhile my guy. Glad youre still here with us.❤️ Thank you for pulling yourself out of that and getting it together
When people open up about their depression and even suicidal thoughts, it destigmatises the whole mental health thing that it's something we don't talk about. We do, we should and we must talk about this and quodos to Alan for opening up about this. Much respect to you.
I think it's hightime we stopped seeing "hollywood" as this glitz and glamour show and see it for what it is. A shit show that really puts people through the ringer.
I completely agree. We’ve come a long way from the times where mental health was so stigmatized but we still have quite a ways to go. And unfortunately there are many places around the world that still don’t acknowledge mental health problems
@@chiputiman just because this has happened to you doesn't make it a lie.
Just means the people you confided in saw it as a weakness, didn't know how to process it and couldn't help. Perhaps searching for some qualified, professional help will get you better results.
I only talked about it to those who had suffered with depression, this meant I was met with compassion and empathy rather than scorn and dismissal.
Chose wisely my friend. There are people who will listen, understand and help.
He's not wrong.
When your depression gets that deep - suicide can seem something close to a last & therefore almost logic step to take.
You just need to find a reason to hang on.
A reason to hang on seems like such a poor choice of words here. 😁
@@Caine33 really?😁
@@Caine33 hahahahahahahaha
@@Caine33 Humor kills all darkness. It brings down even totalitarian states. Two things can save you from suicide - thinking less of yourself & accepting just doing things without ego - then giving up life seems so lazy, or embracing your ego, being to full of yourself to leave chance to see new things in the world - simply adding reasons to selfishly live on your own terms saying fk it all. Acceptance or egoist anger.
But humor would be the third - the best distraction, the best distance from oneself giver.
Whatever fits you take it.
@@szymonbaranowski8184 but... you take humor so seriously that you missed my joke,. 😐
I wish Allen success. I struggled with depression for many years. Doing things that bring me joy distracted me from my self loathing. Not bi-polar but joy can be cathartic.
It's sad that the most beautiful and talented people in this world have to deal with depression... I wish him all the best in his future life
God bless you, Alan for sharing this intimacy about yourself. In our fake, social media driven society where we only see one side of people, your integrity, honesty, and openness is refreshingly unbelievable. You have just helped thousands who struggle with depression. Again, God bless you and your family.
Wow! So eye opening, so honest.Everything’s not roses! Bless this Man for his honesty and transparency.
This was one of the most honest interviews i have ever listened to. Ritchson should be lauded for being so forthright about his "fame" experiences..
Crazy how I remember seeing him on American idol and all of a sudden smallville, titans, and now reacher he’s a bigger actor now
Love you Alan! Deeply appreciate this vulnerability and being relatable. Thanks for the podcast Michael!
I'm really freaking out in a good way! I did the same thing for the same reason 25 years ago. I didn't have kids or a husband at the time. I am trying to figure out how to share my story to help others as well. Alan, you have inspired me! Thank you for sharing! I love you in Reacher! You popped up in my Google news feed with your beautiful sermons. One of my goals is to become an ordained minister. I feel full of strength seeing how you speak your truth and seeing beyond what some people and organizations are doing by boxing us into a corner of no choices, no insights or critical thinking for what is happening. Keep going brother! You inspire! 💖
My grandfather killed himself when I was 12 years old. And I've seen the way it affected my mom and my
uncle ever since. Killing one's self is one of the most selfish things you can do.
Just shared this to my fb. More people need to open up about MH. Love the way Alan is so open about this topic.
Honestly so many people are pure trash with no sympathy towards others they hurt. You’re a blessing Alan Ritchson🙏🏻
Wow....such courage. Glad he is alive to speak on it. This dude should be the spokesperson for mental health.
I'm so thankful for Alan Ritchson's honesty.
Wow... Just wow. Love this.
Thank you for your honesty. I wish more people on your position would be more open and transparent as you were here. Actors like, Robin Williams, Philip Seymour and your co-star from smallville, Lee Thompson Young who played cyborg.
My cousin took his life the way you described you tried to. It's been over 15yrs and it still hurts to think that that was the way he wanted us to remember him and how he thought that is was best for us.
Thank you Alan for being brave and speaking about your struggle. It'll help a lot of people who get to hear this.
2:35 wrote his goals out at the beginning of the year and was checking the boxes and seeing it come to fruition
Heartbreaking. I am glad your kids have a dad and I am glad you can be so open. Be well.
He’s very quickly become one of my favourite actors. I remember as a kid watching him in Smallville, now he’s Reacher and they couldn’t have casted anyone better.
i love how relatable Alan is, the more i hear him talk the more i love him and wish him the best
Thank you for being so open Alan. Congratulations on Reacher!
Thanks Alan for being so true...rare human quality these days...hopefully second season of Reacher in the works....
Watched him in an interview with Tobuscus and then in Blue Mountain State. He played Thad to perfection. He didn't overdo it. Once I knew this man understood satire I knew he would go on to bigger and greater things. He's incredible.
very self aware.
a rare quality in actors
Thank you so much for sharing this. I came to a very dark place a few years ago, divorce, lost home, business, gained weight from the stress. I thought I would be better off also, if I was not here. After so many years of building a relationship and a home, to loss it all over night. The sadness and depression were real and powerful feelings. However, the moment I thought of ending it, my year-old puppy jumped on to my lap, and that was it. I said to her "Okay, okay, forgive me for thinking that" she saved my life no doubt. And tomorrow is another day, and in that thought of tomorrows possibilities, anything can happen. Thanks again. W.
Love the new Reacher show. Mr. Ritchson, thank you for sharing your darkest moments. Extremely insightful, useful and inspirational. Bless your openness and contribution. Happy New Year to you and your family.
This. Just this. The courage to just be honest with yourself, never mind on a very public platform. Big respect.
I have absolutely been there more than once where I felt like I was such as disaster that my family would be better off without me.
I hope you take his advice to heart, and that you are in a better place now.
I love that you and Alan are so open about this. It makes me feel like I'm not alone and, not to sound over the top, you probably don't realize that you helping to save lives by sharing. Thank you.
@@spookmineer To be honest, it's a constant struggle. I have my good days and my bad days. I have very intense anxiety and I just do my best to try not to let it affect my family too much.
The most important thing for me to remember is that even in the times when I'm not OK, the pain, anxiety, and depression are only temporary. I just focus on knowing that it will pass and I CAN BE OK, even if I'm not in that moment. It's a struggle, but I do my best to remain strong for my son. No matter how crippling my anxiety can feel, he doesn't deserve to grow up without a dad.
@@MikeCarpenter222 Absolutely! And hopefully you can talk with a family member or a friend about this? It most likely won't solve things right at that moment, but being understood might make a difference, or even just being heard.
Thank you for sharing. This will help others and it helps you too. Life ain't a picnic but you have made it better
After my fiancee killed herself i was in a very bad spot. Fler just like this guy that I was suck a burden to the world and my family . I blamed myself so so hard. Secluded myself from the world I ended up lieing down on the railroad tracks alot just waiting for the train getting up just moments before it came. One night i passed out on a road from intoxication . I woke up to headlights in my face rolling over just to feel the tires grab my jacket . I sat up and just decided to take a step forward just bear it dig deep there s gotta be something worth dealing wirh all this pain for. Took many years but i can now say Im out of the rough and it was so worth it sticking around in the end
Glad your still around, I hope life continues to improve.
Woah I really needed to watch this clip.
Bless his courage and the courage of everyone that turned away from the edge.
Alan, I am so glad you are a Christian and not afraid to open up on social media. Not many stars are brave enough to speak about this. Thank you, I love your character Reacher also. He is a real good guy!
This is a very important topic and I have nothing but pure respect for him for opening up and discussing it, and doing it so clearly and eloquently.
I've been through this and it's a terrible state to be in: not because you necessarily feel "bad", but because at some point you don't feel *anything* while otherwise being completely lucid. And you cannot explain it to yourself on any logical level either. The feelings are just gone - fear, love, everything. It's just this void.
And at the same time it might make you feel guilty - because in my case I had and have nothing to objectively feel bad about. I'm rather good at what I do - and I am well-compensated. What led me to this state was a lot of work stress over long period of time when bad things were happening to good people and I could not fix it - no matter how hard I tried (60+ hour work weeks for almost 2 years). I am otherwise healthy, good-looking and fit. I have a beautiful wife who shows nothing but support and has my best interests in mind. And having this paradox in your head launches a spiral where one thing continuously feeds the other - and it gets dark. It gets really, really dark.
But, to compliment what Mr. Ritchson said: there are ways out of it. There absolutely are ways out to get yourself back together - and even emerge a stronger and better person.
Reach out, don't hold it inside you, try not to stay alone - you CAN fight it and you absolutely CAN prevail, you CAN claim your life back and be happy again.
I have a job where I work 6 days a week right now. Sometimes I log 70-80 hour weeks.. I get to work - it’s dark. I leave work - it’s dark. I have no partner, I have no pets. It won’t be long now before I retire. I just have to get there.
@@jeffreyeaton940 I logged 70-80-100 hour weeks too in that time period I was writing about. Not to brag, obviously - or not (because it's not something to brag about - it's something to avoid - if you can).
I can't "advise" you to get a partner either, because I was lucky - in the purest sense - that Good Lady Destiny crossed my path with the one of my now-wife. She kinda saved me...
But! What I can do is - I can advise you about a pet. I truly believe I can. If you are near retirement - get yous a rat.
They are the smartest and kindest animals and partners one could ever hope to find.
And, as morbid as it may sound, they also don't have that long of a life - so... if you are truly close to retirement, a rat might give you the energy and love to go through those years left before you retire - and also, dare I say, teach you how to approach the life that awaits you after.
And: my honest and true best wishes to you.
Wow never knew this about Alan. Much respect to this man for sharing his story.
Wow this honesty for someone so famous is amazing. Especially in his tough guy role of Reacher
Rick Fry head pastor at the Rock Church in Danville, Caifornia said "He knows and let him deal with it". Your a good man. Always be strong and help others. That's how we make it through stormy weather. God bless you my friend.
Wow 😮 what a testimony love the openness and honesty. It’s nice with the success of Reacher that he can use his new popularity and platform in a positive way for others.
Thanks for sharing this man. I find myself in that "I don't want to get up" stage and not being able to enjoy things I once did. God, help us all.
Bro, I’ve been in that mind set. Thank you for sharing, it means a lot to a lot of people like myself. Stay strong.
Loved him as Aquaman and Hawk glad to see he's back