Thanks for watching! If you KNOW adoption is the right next step for your family, apply to work with me to adopt successfully without losing time, money, or hope in the process and be the best adoptive parent you can be --> lucrecebundy.com/apply
Do the government give you a monthly Medicaid card and food stamps for the child AFTER you adopt a child? I'm interested in adopting ONE child via foster to adoption program as a single person in the Midwest.
I want to adopt because I do want to be a parent and yes I'm in it for the long hole i want to be a mom I also understand that that child will want to now about their biological family my husband was adopted as a child we both are ready to adopt
Hey Jessica! It's great to hear that you are ready to adopt. Where are you in the adoption process? Researching, don't know where to start, or have hired an adoption professional?
Really enjoy your content and the enthusiasm you bring to the subject. I do have a question about an opening statement you made on this episode. "Adoption causes trauma". Later I think you clarified this by framing the issue as "adoption comes with trauma." From the point of view of "proximal cause" or root cause I don't think this trauma can be assigned to adoption per se. The trauma stems from the initial separation from the biological parents-mother. After being involved with several hundred adoptions we state the matter this way, "All adoptions start in a dark place." Meaning that anytime a child needs a home other than their biological [first family] home, something has gone very wrong. But it isn't the adoption that causes this. I don't mean to be "nit-picky" but we are already experiencing resistance to adoption, fostering and foster-adoption, so implying that adoption causes trauma adds another level of unintentional barriers. Encouraging adoption parents to be trauma informed is essential. Adoption does come with trauma, but I don't think it's the root cause. Thank you for such good work.
You raise a good point. It's the separation from the mother, specifically, that brings on the trauma. I was placed for adoption when I was just 10 days old and my biological mother didn't look bad. I did find her later on, but it was never a mother/daughter relationship. She was my birthing person. Never angry with her, or that I was adopted, but questions never left. "Who are my parents?" "Do I have other siblings?" "Where are they?" "Will I ever know?" "Will I ever find them?" "Will they be receptive?" Questions never go away.
Thank you for this. I love the part where it is mentioned “we are just 1 part of that child’s story.” There’s a lot of ego and “savior complex” that goes into fostercare so thank you for this realistic view on foster care and adoption.
This has to be done with caution. Adoption isn't a bad thing but adopting into a family where there are already biological children can add to the hurt for the adopted child. Hearing things like, "That's my mother" was hurtful. Adoptees should be able to know their biological families; closed adoptions should be illegal. The child doesn't ask for this.
Thanks for watching! If you KNOW adoption is the right next step for your family, apply to work with me to adopt successfully without losing time, money, or hope in the process and be the best adoptive parent you can be --> lucrecebundy.com/apply
Do the government give you a monthly Medicaid card and food stamps for the child AFTER you adopt a child? I'm interested in adopting ONE child via foster to adoption program as a single person in the Midwest.
I want to adopt because I do want to be a parent and yes I'm in it for the long hole i want to be a mom I also understand that that child will want to now about their biological family my husband was adopted as a child we both are ready to adopt
😢 please adopt me
Hey Jessica! It's great to hear that you are ready to adopt. Where are you in the adoption process? Researching, don't know where to start, or have hired an adoption professional?
you are amazing. Thank you for this
Really great video. I am watching this, even though I am way too young for adoption
Thanks for the wonderful information ❤
I believe that being a good parenting is easy for everyone.
But, buying and selling infants is bad thing
Really enjoy your content and the enthusiasm you bring to the subject. I do have a question about an opening statement you made on this episode. "Adoption causes trauma". Later I think you clarified this by framing the issue as "adoption comes with trauma." From the point of view of "proximal cause" or root cause I don't think this trauma can be assigned to adoption per se. The trauma stems from the initial separation from the biological parents-mother. After being involved with several hundred adoptions we state the matter this way, "All adoptions start in a dark place." Meaning that anytime a child needs a home other than their biological [first family] home, something has gone very wrong. But it isn't the adoption that causes this. I don't mean to be "nit-picky" but we are already experiencing resistance to adoption, fostering and foster-adoption, so implying that adoption causes trauma adds another level of unintentional barriers. Encouraging adoption parents to be trauma informed is essential. Adoption does come with trauma, but I don't think it's the root cause. Thank you for such good work.
You raise a good point. It's the separation from the mother, specifically, that brings on the trauma. I was placed for adoption when I was just 10 days old and my biological mother didn't look bad. I did find her later on, but it was never a mother/daughter relationship. She was my birthing person. Never angry with her, or that I was adopted, but questions never left. "Who are my parents?" "Do I have other siblings?" "Where are they?" "Will I ever know?" "Will I ever find them?" "Will they be receptive?" Questions never go away.
Thank you for this. I love the part where it is mentioned “we are just 1 part of that child’s story.” There’s a lot of ego and “savior complex” that goes into fostercare so thank you for this realistic view on foster care and adoption.
What about adopting for your child so that your child can have a sibling.
This has to be done with caution. Adoption isn't a bad thing but adopting into a family where there are already biological children can add to the hurt for the adopted child. Hearing things like, "That's my mother" was hurtful. Adoptees should be able to know their biological families; closed adoptions should be illegal. The child doesn't ask for this.
I just want my mean apt to let me have (adopt) more than one kitty... :,(
None of us can do parenting without a belief in God?!! What a thoughtless statement.
She actually explained that praying is not enough, so she explained that even though faith helps but the person need science 😉