WHY THE NARCISSIST IS JEALOUS OF YOU
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ธ.ค. 2024
- The narcissist is a jealous person. They believe they are entitled to anything they want. They believe they are better than everyone and are jealous individuals. The narcissist doesn’t want you to do well or have things they don’t have themselves. For contact information on speaking engagements or inquiries please email me here …narcdailyvideos@gmail.com. #newsupply #narcissistnewsupply #empowerment #growth #narcissism #narcissist #healing #health #education #eggshells #traumabond #silenttreatment #stonewalling #selfworth #newsupply #gaslighting #triggers #awareness #journey #objectconstancy
Looking at the outer, material things to compare. Happiness comes from the inside, it does not have much to do with what is possessed on the outside. I comes down to having a sense that you have all you need....you have enough, you do not need to strive and work for more. Years ago, I tried to enjoy a sunset, and I could not settle my mind enough. I realized that if I could not enjoy a simple sunset, even if I had the whole world, I would not be able to be happy.
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Jealousy hides behind hatred.
Ever noticed that narcissts also never have either creativity and emotional intelligence - they are empty vessels. Their humor can only be at someone’s expense - massive insight
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So true! 🥺
So true! They want your light, your purity, your being open to the world.
They want to copy you.
They want what your having. Like a 5 year old child.
When Harry Met Sally 😂
The stupiest thing is, that they even hate you, if you have nothing.
The narcissists told me that I would "get old, fat and ugly" verbally beating me down, destroying my self-esteem. I have never considered myself to possess outward beauty, but I have an inner spiritual beauty, but I don't go around flaunting it. I know all my flaws, and yes, I have gotten old, gained a lot of weight, and have also lost some weight, I have lines and a few wrinkles, but, because of his alcohol addiction, prescription drugs addiction, and probably back on crack, I am pretty sure he wishes he were me today. 😊
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They are light dimmers, they take , they destroy, they manipulate, they actually hate those they claim to love .
They are jealous of everyone not just the supply. Weirdo demon.
I have the same impression. Pure demons, jealous of everything they see. And I also think they are checking other people all the time (addicted to their phones and all the possible apps).
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Yes, nothing good in anyone but themselves
Remember the narcissist is a bottomless pit for WHATEVER light or love you may have!!! That's why one supply source is never enough...
Psychic vampires, sucubus 🐉
Direct quote from narcissist: "it's not that I want it, I don't. I just don't want you to have it"
That's Xcelent
Wow 😮 that’s an evil mindset!
This one right here for the win !!
My sister once asked me, "what did the narc want from you?" My intuitive response was "my light." My answer surprised me as much as it did my sister. Thanks for the conformation. Spot on!
Welcome 🙏💯🙌☀️
Yup, they just want to shine like a new penny, but they can't pull it from within themselves, because it all darkness inside them, so they have to steal it from you....Light love & happiness.
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Yep
Absolute true... thank you♥️♥️♥️
Narcs are jealous because we shine 🤩
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A narcissist would rather create roadblocks for their partners progress rather than supporting them. They are often jealous of the your growth even if they are enjoying the fruits off of it.
There's nothing to be jealous about. I'm just trying to live my best life.
Beautiful message 💯🙌🙏☀️
That's just the nature of the beast. They are jealous of everyone who has a life..
That’s what I said 🤷🏽♀️
Jealous of our light
Exactly. Fortunately, we are compassionate people who care about others and want to do something good with our lives. Anyone who resents that doesn't deserve our time nor attention.
They dont have the strength, stability and endurance we have that's why they hunt for Empaths.
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I could care less about their stinking jealousy.
I always felt I wasn't his priority, he just used me.
Hi Andrew. My elder sister used me as an emotional punch bag from when I was very young and I am now 68 years old. I stopped all contact with her three years ago and it was something I should have done decades ago. I now realise that she was jealous of who I was/am. The toughest thing was why?? After receiving therapy and studying Narcissism I realise that the 'problem' was always her, not me. Stay strong victims, and disconnect if necessary. You won't regret it.
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Not Victims WE ARE SURVIORS
Same here but people think I'm mean. I don't feel like I need to explain my story to the
I have the exact scenario. I’m 71. I’ve tried and tried and both of our parents died decades ago which I thought would end the jealousy and competition. It never ended and now I’ve stopped all contact permanently. It’s disturbing and after 50+ years with a covert narc now ex husband, I can’t be in a relationship with her too.
Blocking its the best you can do, just because she's a family member doesn't mean you have to allow the manipulative behavior. That happens to me too with my sisters and now I'm now talking to any of them I don't need them. I love myself enough to even hear their nonsense.
Your success is their failure 🙏 remember that one 👍
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They can only dream of being as strong as we are
So true, they are weak pathetic monsters..
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That is what I am thinking Pamela, especially after all the stuff we have been thru. What else compares?❤🙌👍🌹
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They can't that's why they attack our spirits
I now say to people, often, “Don’t let anyone EVER steal your light 🕯!” Thankfully, mine shines bright again.
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I agree 5000%.
My older Covert Narcissist sister reeked of jealousy, just dripping off of her, but she made out like she was so reserved and nice
She had it down to an art how she could compliment me on my accomplishments, yet insult me st the same time.
I wrote a nice long email outing her 2 years ago, sent the letter to 11 other family members, then walked away forever. From all of them. That was the day my life started for real, it is now AWESOME!
Brave and a survivalist, good for you.
Awesome! Well done!! 👍👏✨
Andrew, I just saw a tee shirt that said:
“Keep on talking, I’m diagnosing you”
I had to laugh, thinking about applying that towards meeting someone new and sizing them up to see if they’re a potential narcissist, lol!
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I noticed when I’m new somewhere the people that smile and go about their business are the normal ones, the ones that keep smiling and looking at you are the snakes
I have to tell you a funny story, my ex narcissist talked to my boss and told him terrible lies about me (which I didn't know until lately) anyway I lost my job and found another job that paid me almost double my other salary. My ex narcissist was so mad that I got a job making so much more, I didn't know why he was so upset until I discovered he was a narcissist. He actually helped me . Lol
Thanks for all your great videos!!!
Thank you for sharing this message .. I appreciate your insight.. Roll Tide💯💯🙌💪
I had a narcissist coworker tell a bunch of lies about me to my employer. I was eventually let go because of her. Now I make money on my own time rather than working a traditional job and I no longer have to have coworkers! My life is total freedom!
Roll Tide keep up the great work ..
Brilliant absolutely delighted for you.
First off.....ROLL TIDE....LOOKING FORWARD TOO ANOTHER NATIONAL CHAMPIONSHIP SEASON... Thing's that our ex Narc's do is so unpredictable then Back Fires on them... that's awesome.Stay Strong....
There are so many Narcissists in my family. I was shamed by my mother for being attractive and popular. I was on track to be a professional singer, but no one in my family was supportive. Later in life, my half-sister, another Narcissist, was jealous of my daughter because her father was wealthy and our father wasn't. She had no interest in hearing about my daughter's vacations nor anything else she was doing because she was jealous that she didn't have the same opportunities. Ugh. So glad these people are out of my life!
Thank you for sharing this Music..💯🙏🙌
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you for listening!!
My mother was jealous of successful her three daughters! You are not alone...sad..
@@alexisgreene8952 So sorry to hear that, Alexis. Hope you are free of that, now! We are not alone, that's for sure.❤🙏
My mom was molested by her dad, twenty years after devorce from a narcissist, found out her dad molested her.
As a child I was shame based by verbal abuse from mom. Ex was doing same to the kids.
Then you hear about joan bobitt.
You need to think only of your self, narcissistic indeviduals are nuts.
After years of healing growing all uou could do for them , is pray for them demented evil🙀
I think you're dead right Andrew the narcissist is jealous of even the most inexpensive things you might have, like the fact you still have your first teddy bear that's always sat on your bed, the fact you have a 17 year old cat you treasure who wanders around your house that you have a special bond with, and your mementos from life scattered around. They are jealous of the connection and bond you have with those things that they dont have. I'm an artist and my ex narc seemed jealous of my skill to draw and paint and create because he knew he didn't have that skill. They are jealous of anything that gives us contentment and happiness because they know they can never have that for themselves. They constantly compare what you have with what they dont. It's pretty sad really ...
Spot on Amanda, my Narc attacked me with the smallest things. Everything I had or did (such as making a nice dinner or going to the shops), would drive him in a mad fit & rage. I could never understand why, I would feel down & unloved by him. I could never please him, feeling that I wasn’t good enough. They are monsters from hell or as I would like to call them - Wolves in sheep’s clothing. They start out fooling people pretending to be gentle sheep. Jealous aggressive creatures once the sheep’s clothes come off.
Funny you mention the cat- my ex narc was jealous of my dog. He constantly brought it up- always jealous and insecure talking about how I give my dog more attention. I think back at it now and I’m embarrassed for him. Who the hell is jealous of a dog that does nothing but provide unconditional love. These people are demonic and disgusting and disrespectful and disordered. Narc free for Almost 4 months now 🙌
I appreciate this .. thank you for sharing Amanda 😯🙌🙏
Narcissists are the worst kind of people. They hurt so many people and can’t see how bad their negative impact really is on people. I’m glad I met one though because now I am aware such dark people exist. I know the signs now of the ultimate toxic person and have learned how to protect myself.
@@swsw4902 hi, I believe you. My Narc too said he knows everything about Medical pills, people’s healths, etc saying his mother and brother worked in hospitals 40 years. He will tell me off about my medications, yell about my health claiming that he knows more and better than me and that I don’t listen to him. That’s right, he will even say out to me “I know everything” How can someone else know my health better than myself. I know what I have and what I need, I don’t need someone else trying to belittle me and putting himself on a pedestal to be higher in everything, trying to make me look like I know nothing. Typical Narcs!
Whenever I would watch a Cinderella movie, I always wondered, "Why don't they treat Cinderella nice?" It was obvious that she was prettier and so kind that she would have helped the stepsisters once she married the prince. Unfortunately, they were so JEALOUS that they sabotaged their own chance for happiness. I've heard that narcissists are pathologically envious but WOW!
Beautiful message 💯💯☀️🙏
The Narcissist will never be happy or at peace. How can one be content without a soul?.
It's evil spirits from the devil
Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯💯💪
The further I get from the tie...the more I see that I was literally a prisoner in some sort of torture chamber. 😳 The sooner you realize that it had nothing to do with you, the saner you will stay and recover. 🤗💌💝
Yes 🙌
So true, forget them, plain evil.
They are bonkers, jeyll and Hyde 🤔
So true, my friend. 💜
Yep staying in recovery mode. Just love all these older comments that I never explored all yet.
So much wisdom and nurturing from both teacher and survivors. WoW. Invaluable. As soon as I watch the new I go and watch 2 previous ones. I connect the missing dots better that way. Just my way of learning. However while still working out my departure these messages have been Anchors for my soul and spirit. Also some good Godly channels have helped my healing significantly. Plus music.
This was really a eye-opener,so I thank you for this reading.i now am abused for 50 years!!finally free!!
Ippie I did it .and I am really proud of myself. Namaste
Namaste 🙏🙌☀️
Well done. Sending love.
I had a small collection of pretty rocks and agates I collected when I went for a hike along a nearby river. I put them in a small bucket by the back porch. The narc threw them away saying they were in the way, cluttering things up... No, they were thrown away because a narc is jealous of my ability to appreciate simple pleasures and noticed they were meaningful to me. Something a narc is incapable of. I played like a grey stone because I know the narc did this to get under my skin. They want you to react, they want you to lose your mind, they are craving for attention altho it may be negative. Don't take the bait. There will always be more pretty rocks and agates to find.
Beautiful ❤️
You are so right...Thank u for your wonderful Guidance 🕊
Andrew, I think jealousy is like a cancer that just eats away at a person. I’ve been a victim of jealous behavior directed toward me the majority of my life and have often wondered why(?) I think being an empath and having that beautiful light that radiates from a pure heart makes us empaths a target. Thank you for sharing your life with everyone here and for your loving words of wisdom that are so helpful to all.
Welcome always 🙏😊💯
💯👏🏽 you are soo right . Ive dealt with jealous ppl my whole life smh .
Nicely said but now you see❤
I always wondered why their were times when I felt he was in competition with me... Ridiculous as it sounds... Why would a lover be jealous or competitive with their partner?.... That's a red flag of toxicity right there... Great video again Andrew👌
Thank you Fiona 💯🙌🙏
I’ve hear my narc say this about her mom her ex random people everyone however I was disgusted this girl had the audacity to say I was jealous of her and she felt I was in competition with her regarding fixing up my spot keep in mind currently she doesn’t have the money to fix up her place although she has furniture xyz she wants a new set cool I’ve had my income for over 2 mnths gave her money for her place she lied and said it was used for her car either way I gave it toward her spot anyway I’ve mentioned to her my kids my friends and her taxes ima fix my spot I let her get into her spot a new car xyz in my name okay anyway the day I ask her to accompany me to get a shelf for my living room all hell broke loose mind you I didn’t tell her I got furniture xyz however she goes thru my phone so maybe she sent it I always texting my sister and friends and stuff things I wanted to get xyz she told me TOLD ME IM MOTIVATED SO FIX UP MY SPOT BECAUSE I KNEW THATS WHAT SHE e WANTED TO DO ND SHE FEELS IN IN COMPETITION WITH HER wtf is she crazy how long I’m suppose to wait to fix up my spot I waited long enough I gave her money first did nothing for me or my kid I got her out the way I made her resume I brought her sec lic like I’m the reason she working in making a pt why accuse me of that I’ve never been jelly of no one and especially not my partner it’s absurd and she says it about everyone and her ex that was the drawing line I’m good no contact prior to that I put a car in my name for her to drive Lyft I broke up with her and threw the car note on me I never wanted another car note I just paid off my car last year she smeared me saying I took the car when she gave it back went to her ex and got another car she could have waited I should have told her to wait and find what she wanted that way from jump it could have went in her name however me not having boundaries I got tried and she lying telling people I fucked her over fuck the chemistry and the connection the line I drawn. I’m good it will not be a repeat we are over for good
Because they want center stage and all praise
They are very egotistical and selfish
When I met my ex at work we shared everything. And when I took long maternity leave I fed him ideas; one of which received an Emmy nomination. He hung his award wo a thank you. And when I was going back to work he said, "You've been out awhile...they'll expect you to start w getting coffee" I was an AD on the top network! He remarried his therapist.
This is so pervasive like how on earth can I be jealous of my two daughters?but I did see some of that jealousy very subtle from my husband to me..I squashed it right away ,bad money decisions that affected us all.and warned him about.
Thank you Andrew. He mistook kindness for weakness wrong thing to do. Yes, I can see because I was an empath he could never be what I was a loving, caring, giving person with a true heart of gold so I have been told. This is why I was targeted. Something he was incapable of ever being.
My narc did the same mistake.
Same here..they took the children to punish me. Caused kids to suffer also. They are oppressers.
Beautiful comment thank you Pamela 💯😊🙏🙌💪
Agree to that...I feel u
All my life, I never understood or had feelings of jealousy toward others, yet at every turn I was the target of jealousy. It was like running through a field while trying to dodge bombs falling from the sky.
Once I identified what all these people were motivated by, it always baffled me. I had such low self esteem, that it didn't make any sense why anyone would be jealous of me. It didn't really matter what you have...not even how significant it insignificant it is...jealousy and the npd will desire to take it ALL from you until you're left with nothing, and then they'll set out to completely obliterate you from the planet. If you're an empath, they start with the things that mean the most to you, then they move on to destroying or possessing whatever remains. Make no mistake... they will take it all from you... even your very soul.
After 67 years of living this and being destroyed by these people, Npd parents and grandmother, three npd siblings, nearly 40yrs of marriage to a Covert, and discovering my only daughter to be npd, with six years of being on this path to empathic enlightenment, you've revealed the answer to another mystery. Which proves that no matter one's age, we can all continue to learn and grow.
My empathy is what defines who I am, and while I struggled all my life to understand myself, amd tried to change that about myself with no success because was told it was a flaw or a mental disorder, I now realize that's the one thing they can't take that away from me. I am now much more guarded about who I allow into my life, frankly, I've become a hermit, facilitated by covid, of course. Masks and lockdowns, were a gift to empaths like me. What a great excuse to isolate.
I'm not sure why it's taken so long to find your channel, but I'm hooked, and grateful. Thank you for sharing your insight with those of us blinded by the darkness.
Welcome always 🙏🙌💯☀️
Beautiful and well Said
I’ve been 15 years and 3 children with this covert narc. And I’m making my exit plan now!! When God says it’s time to go, IT IS TIME TO GO!!!! ❤❤️prayers to you ChaCha!!! 😊
You were calling it play-by-play. Ur absolutely right. Narcs try to top everyone else at the expense of others.
Yes RJ.. 💯🙌🙏💪
Yes Andrew they are people collectors… they want anything that gives them something they need available in their harem garage for things like money, work, sex, food, an internet connection, laundry facilities or anything that makes them look good to others to be used and available as needed.
I appreciate your insight and sharing 💯🙌🙏
@Mary Carroll yes there are so many into religion claiming to be Christians that way they can look good to others. But behind closed it’s a different story… and totally they want little slaves to wait on them hand & foot they are so entitled it’s ridiculous!
@@southernsierra9404 you just described my FIL to a T. Always in church. Sucking up to the pastor of that church. Always "fixing" and managing and volunteering for the church. But at home, behind closed doors, he's the most self aggrandizing, selfish guy I've met in a long time, save for my ex fiance....who trained me to recognize narcs very well.
He sponges off of my MIL's goodness in order to make himself look holy and devout, but in reality, he's influenced her to do many sinful and unethical things, against her moral upbringing and better judgement.
He's the least Christlike guy I know.
Hi Andrew. Thank you for putting out these videos. He was always jealous of me. I have a light, people Gravitated toward me. I had friends he had none.
Welcome Iron arm..❤️💯🙌💪
Same
Narcissist seem to be socially inept and they need you to make them look normal. But they are also envious of that.
Thank you! Where can I continue reading on that jealousy part anyone?
He. Tried. To. Kill. Me. From. The. Beginning....dropping. a. Wrench. Down in the. Gear shift. Area. Of. My. Car....
You’re so right on everything you mentioned. They are bullies and miserable people inside and so they hate to see people happy and smarter than themselves because obviously they believe they are the smartest when they are totally the opposite. They are the most destructive people ever to the point they destroy themselves. This behavior is definitely a generational curse.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌😉☀️
Thank you yes he was stalking me and living playing mind games.
True, they are jealous, actually of everything good and beautiful and of the feeling we feel. Actually, on everything that we are authentic, honest and so on. Thank you for your work and the great video.
Thank you Sabine 🙏🙌💯
Why though? It's so hard to understand. Is it due to their upbringing? Their main caretakers? Or where do their problems stem from? Are there real mental illness presenting itself like that, or are their brains, their amygdala, the neurological responses just (emotionally) damaged..? Too sad these behaviors.
@@InspirationalDays2024 It's their upbringing. My dad is a narc and he grew up in an extremely abusive household, had crazy traumatic experiences and was spoiled rotten by his mom because he was the "favorite" His brother was the black sheep and took all the blame/beatings from their father
@@TheGhjgjgjgjgjg Oh my Lord. Thank you deeply for this answer 😱🙏🏼❤️ That is so sad to hear. Thank you again 🙏🏼❤️ Love to you and those you love
They resent you because of their failures. They’re jealous of your personality, looks, successes because their resentment feeds off of your everything. I never really thought these people viewed your social class with envy. If you came from nothing and become very successful they resent you and want to remind you of where you started off. They always try to invalidate you. If you come from a notable family, they still resent you as if everything was handed to you and your working is erased in their mind. You can never win with these people. It took me years to realize a former “friend” of mine was insanely jealous of me and would make snide passive aggressive comments about me. He’d make comments about how he’d never pay 💰 for clothes knowing I dressed well and that I had a great relationship with my late father which he didn’t. I came to realize he was a very angry, sad person. I heard he passed of a heart attack in his sleep almost three years ago.
Thank you for sharing this insight.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty 💯🙏🙌💪
Amen
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Thank you Andrew. You are “spot on”. I was told very early on in my marriage, that my husband was jealous of me. At the time, it didn’t make sense to me. My thoughts were…” how could a husband be jealous of his wife “. Later after years of receiving narc abuse, I woke up. I now understand the evil that the malignant narcissist is . It’s because of beautiful, wise people like you that are educating the public. Thanks again.
This so vividly reminds me of the time I phoned my mother (who is now long gone), to excitedly share that I had been nominated amongst my peers to an all expenses paid conference to Toronto in the first year of joining the company. There was no congratulations or happy wishes, the first comment from my mom was "you remember I went to the Andamans all on my own and I stayed for a month". I had heard the story many times before, but I was still taken aback that she would immediately bring it up then....i think THAT was when I realised how fragile her ego was....it was a quietly shattering moment of realisation.
Thank you for sharing this insight Achhantei..💯🙏🙌🙏
Andrew, you nailed it. Good attributes that comes naturally for a healthy individual is missing with the narcissist.
The keyword here is "natural". To a narcissist, all these good traits of kindness, gentleness, love, is just abhorrently missing in them.
Instead of working to become a better person, narcissists instead, insult, denigrate and devalue you, pull you down to their level.
For so long I wondered, the more I tried to be better, the worst my relationship became. how ironic.
thanks.
Welcome pan fried 💯🙏🙌😊
The more weight I lost the meaner he became...makes no sense!
Hello Andrew, you are so on point. I never understood why someone I was together with would be jealous of me. You want your partner to shine because that makes you look good and it's supposed to make you feel good and proud as well. But we know know that a narcissist is a whole different breed and we are not born to think as they do. Thank you for all your videos and teachings.
Any parent out there that is a victim of a narc will understand what parental alienation means. She was always jealous of how much OUR kids loved me. Even after the divorce she excluded me from all of the kids activities and honestly did not want me to be a part of their lives.Along with narc abuse also come parental aliennation. This is another ball game. I do not even know how I kept my sanity or perspective. But I have come out the other side now. Can anyone else relate to the parental alienation?
Yes I can. I look at it from a childs perspective, having a mother who is a Narcissist. My parents got divorced when I was 2 years old and I now believe, that my mother wanted to destroy the relationship between me and my father - that was one reason for the discard. The only reason, why she allowed him to see me from time to time was the alimony - because she benefited from it financially.
Children do love both their parents and one day they will recognize the truth.
@@awanuur7267 Thank you so much for the reply Awa. I know that there are many of us that have not only experienced the pain and betrayal of a narc partner, but also parental alienation that follows. Mostly with men and the kids they so dearly love and are separated from, but also women and there is no difference, the pain is still the same. I so appreciate you and glad I am not alone.😎❤😉
Welcome Maricella..💯🙏💪
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Yes I think the parent alienation is also about other very common narc tactics like Triangulation, Scapegoating and Smear campaigning. Even before a marriage may break up, the narc parents used the children and spouse as pawns in their narc games, and triangulation is one of their favourites. Always pitting two people against each other, or against the other parent, usually with out right lies which are told, and scenarios set up to make the other parent look bad. So the other parent or child is nominated by the narc as the scapegoat and made to look like they are to blame for anything that goes wrong, along with that goes Smear Campaigning, behind your back the narc is telling the kids and others a pack of lies, and gaslighting statements, of course they say dont say anything to dad. They are creating a false narrative about you ahead of the breakup or discard, so they know the kids and others allegiance will be with them. Often you dont find out about the smear campaign until some years later, that they'd poisoned other against you, made up lies about you, and you were totally unaware, but it explains why you felt ppl were being off with you at the time. Its like a chess game they are many steps ahead, smearing you, trangulating others against you, orchestrating ppls perception that you are a terrible person.
For the first time in my life I have an answer to the question I asked most " why do they hate me ? , I have nothing" My entire life has been filled with Narc types from my mom to neighbor's , so called friends and 3 relationships I've had . I still find it hard to accept that a mom or somebody who claims to love you , would see you as competition and set you up for failure in so many ways it's enough to make your head spin. This whole Narc business is new to me , I tended to always see something good in a person and if they seemed badly behaved I wanted to get to the bottom of it and hear their sad stories and traumas to make it logical as to why they behave the way they do . Big mistake knowing their past is just another tool they use to manipulate .
Thank you so much for the wonderful information . I am indeed grateful .
Welcome always 🙏🙌💯💯
I used to try to fix the narc (daughter) problems, only to realise they where manipulating me.
Now I have confronted her, the vile words from her mouth left me in shock!
Thank you for a response, I too see the good in everyone. Narc is also new to me, I find this type of behaviour quite extraordinary.
Thanks to these videos, I am able to detect narcissistic traits in anyone I meet.
So, now am somewhat guarded when meeting anyone new.
Nonetheless, feel so relived not on speaking terms with narc (daughter) I can finally breath again! I'm free, I'm free to be me ;)
Unfortunately, Empaths ATTRACT NARCS🙄
They want to be you they want to control you they can't force you to accept them then all hell breaks loose
🕊GOD BLESS YOU AND EVERYONE ✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️
This is so true!! I was so shocked to find that the very person who wanted my energy and kindness also strived to destroy me. I could not comprehend but now I know it's a sickness of the mind. I feel disgusted for such entities such people who don't work on their own inner growth and purity. If that evil person would EVER try and get in touch with me again I would make sure he goes to jail one way NO RETURN. I now live in a new country, new email, blocked home address total NO CONTACT!!
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙏
“Your flow”… the narcissist’s roommate said to me: “You two have very different energy flows.” I knew exactly what she meant… especially along the brain’s neural pathways.
Yes.. thank you Lorraine 💯💯🙌🙌
Andrew, you just describe my Mother, sisters, brother, and some friends. Leaving them was the best decision I ever made for my life and my well-being. Thank you❤️
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Absolutely.....it's amazing how they are resentful and jealous they are. They will do anything to destroy.
And they get spiteful! You have just described my younger sister, the jealous one and me the empathic one. Thank you.
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Just described my oldest sister.
@@deniseelsworth7816 Mine to.
My sister is 9 years older, and she was my first bully. She had jealousy and resentment toward for not only being born, but because I was skinny. From as long as my memory goes back, I remember being made fun of and being called a "skinny/scrawny bitch". Even at 4 or 5 years old. Around the same time, I was hurt from her relentless taunting and bitter remarks, so I called her a "fatty fatso", or some childish term for a fat person. Of course, I then became an evil brat, justifying the treatment that comes with being the family scapegoat.
To this day, even though we haven't spoken or had contact in years, beyond at the hospital when my dad was dying, and she tried to halfass apologize for everything she did to me (I tried my hardest not to laugh in her face, and just said "It's ok.".), she STILL bad mouths me and brings me up for no reason. My brother's wife accused her of stealing a pair of pants, and I was brought up. I haven't even been in contact with my brother or his wife since then either. It just made absolutely no sense, but that's how her mind works.
My ex was obviously jealous over my strength and Faith and the desire to do what I did in reaching my goals in buying myself a home and never have to worry about being stuck with a narc or being homeless....
Never satisfied,ever!!! Always talk about what they don't have and never what they have! Yes I m comfortable in my own skin,thanks again Andrew.
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He had a hard time complimenting me. He would say he needed to keep me in my toes. I never thought about him being jealous of me but you could be absolutely right , in my case. Thank you Andrew 🌟💖
Welcome always.. you are beautiful and amazing 💯🙌🙏😊💪❤️
Heard that quote over and over, keep me on my toes to stop me from getting a big head. From childhood to Adult.smh:. Everyday, I just keep hearing stuff from people I don't even know, saying and thinking and feeling how I see things inside of me but had no idea these things were things to not only be talked about but addressed. Because it is Serious Serious stuff here. The magnitude can't even measure on the rector scale.
Back to Speechless!!! Too much to process in a day. I know now why my mother called me the ugly names she did daily, why she did what she did. Its OK now. She's gone, her words still haunt though, especially when I try to elevate myself in whatever I put my hands to. Yeah, words are Truly powerful. You MUST find Someone to talk to. If alone, talk to yourself on paper, 3 months of paper is mine letters to the young me then the Adult me. I now have a big box. Oh and First talk it out with GOD.
My ex used to do the same thing.. smh
Wow
When you said keep you on your toes I chucked. I wasn’t laughing at you but at how someone (your narc) being this petty and childish this is sad
My ex-narc of 13 years COULD NOT GIVE ME A COMPLIMENT!
The number one thing he was jealous of was the fact I grew up with 2 parents that cared for me he came from a broken home and he was left to fend for himself, his evil narc mother didn't give a damn about him, he would walk to school on his own, at age 5 he was knocked over by a car crossing the rd, he has many issues, and he took out his resentments on me.
Had the exact same. He couldn’t understand my close bond with my children because he’d never had that as he’s parents were narcs too. They are evil and as fake as him so I would be the punching bag for he’s hatred towards he’s mother especially.
So true His mother was like the other woman in my marriage to him she still enables his bad behavior
Thank you for sharing this. This helped me to see a friend was jealous because I had a good relationship with my parents . My parents helped me financially and she didn't have that support. She discarded me when she found new supply.
I appreciate your insight Christine 💯🙌💪
Mine had a psycho mother who blamed his head with a hammer.
My mother was jealous of me, so she tried to tear me apart. But I am out of her clutches now. I am loving myself. It is EASIER to feel happy after four and a half months of low-to-no-contact with my family. It makes me happy knowing I did what was right for myself. Really enjoying spending time with myself and leaving the narcissists guessing.
My eyes sees so many things much clearer than what I have ever seen
It’s a pity I wasn’t educated about narcissism 25 years ago
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And I say, "What Boundaries?" I never had boundaries until last year when I watched and listened to your videos.
She knocked at my door, I answered the door, but she only got half a foot across my threshold.
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My therapist told me that my sister was jealous of me. When I first heard this ,
I was disappointed, thinking she was SO off. Why would my sister be jealous?
I hate myself, feel so broken. And I was always trying to get her attention. Running after any attention she gave me
So so horribly programed.
It took another 15 , 20yrs . Of her hate,
to finally realize and accept she is jealous and hates me.
Real
Along time to process
Sending prayers and positive energy to you 💯🙌🙏💯
I use to say, if it ain't constructive criticism, it's either jealousy (sore loser) or/and projection (hypocrisy).
Wow thank you for sharing this 💯💯😉
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Sure;) Narcissists seem to think they are "losers" but pretend to be "winners".
Your calming nature and wisdom has given me the power to realise that I deserve more than being manipulated and devalued and gaslighting and abused for things I never done. I’m a good caring person that never cheated but he has . Put up with double standards and constant put downs nothing was ever good enough. Thank you for the strength to get out of this 8yr mess and save myself. You are a blessing 🙏🏻
Thank you Danyelle..🙏💯🙌
His calmness helps me also very clear explanations. I’m just having a hard time understanding this whole thing it’s truly weird..
Truth! U represent EVERYTHING THEY ARE NOT! 👍💯
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The description in this video sounds like a spot-on description of my narcissistic mother. But I don’t understand why she was jealous of me. She had everything a person could possibly have, probably more than I will ever have. She had parents who provided for her, she married my father who saw to it that she never wanted for anything. She had the best of the best - decent houses and cars, she went on vacations and could afford luxuries. She had a loving family and bunches of friends. Yet she was resentful, angry and jealous when it looked like I had just a little bit of something. I don’t understand how someone who literally had the world would be angry at her own daughter for having a little piece of something. Here is a person who could literally go into a store and buy whatever she wanted, she had family and friends she could call on whenever she needed something, yet, if a friend invited me out or it looked like I may find success in an activity or life in general, she would throw a tantrum like a baby. She had way more than me, yet she was jealous of me for potentially having anything that she didn’t have, even if i was getting something minor or substandard in quality. I don’t get it.
Hi Sagitta.. thank you for sharing this insight.. the narcissist is always searching for something new.. always 💯🙌
Have a mother like this as well Insanely jealous of my beauty , height and my professional life I am an empathic person and like helping needy people as much as I can She hates this She particularly like telling me people say we look alike! This is not true We do not look alike Neither are we of the same nature!!
As far as I understand it, the narcissist can't feel any joy in "possessing" things. He sees other people enjoying it and thinks if he gets it he must have joy also. But then feels nothing. Instead of thinking "maybe I need to listen into myself to find my own joy" he has some kind of "cognitive dissonance", looking for more things that make other people feel joy. In time this circle manifests inside the narcissist brain, being constantly on hunt to feel the joy others have instead of listening to himself what it is what makes him feeling joy. But he will never cause it isn't his own joy he is looking for.
I think envy is more accurate than jealousy. You can learn everything you need to know about personality disorders including narcissism in all the age old fairy tales….. little red riding hood , Snow White , wizard of oz are allegory referencing the narcissistic mother. The old movie blade runner and Truman show helped me understand my plight as well. Thanks for your videos. 🌎
Welcome Tigress.. thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙏🙌
There is an old film on YT called Gaslight. It's a good example of some of the ways they gaslight you and are envious. Everything they do is faked and fraudulent
Its jealousy...they dont want you to shine...
exactly envy is the real term, yeah my mother was envy, she did destroy my live. But today I am still alive and 61 years old and still strong. God bless.
Wizard of Oz is actually about Fractional Reserve banking and how the bankers have impoverished and enslaved the world and stolen everyone's estates
I'm new to your channel, Andrew, but I can't thank you enough for making this video about the narcissist. I had a friend, at least I thought she was my friend, for a few years. I truly enjoyed spending time at her house until she started insulting me with hurtful comments about me. I finally stopped spending time with her and now she thinks I can't forgive her. But I have forgiven her for all the hurt .....I'm just not stupid enough to ever trust her again. Thank you, Andrew, for such a wonderful eye-opening video. Please keep them coming. God bless you immensely !! 😊
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Now it makes perfect sense. Andrew, thank you so much for clarifying all this. I was always under the impression that a narcissist hates you because they couldn't get you under their control by forcing you into compliance and making you do their bidding all the time. However, it makes perfect sense that each time you express your good feelings about a certain attribute you possess, they always find a way to make you feel bad about it by criticizing you for having those attributes and making you feel like something is wrong with you for possessing them.
He always said, 'I am the Best and I can have whatever I want.' Never gave a compliment but, always looked for one. Once I figured that load of poop 💩 I never said anything nice to it again. The look on the dork's face was priceless. NEVER! ITS WORTH LOOS8NG EVERYTHING!
"You're beautiful just the way you are." I needed to hear that... Thank you Andrew. I stumbled onto your channel last night and have been binging. Love your content.
Sending peace and love ❤️
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100%. I had an on/off narcissist friend. One time he even admitted that he was a very jealous person inside, and he didn't know why. Jealousy, is a very easy emotion to detect because it's the opposite of encouragement or support. A narcissist can never say: "That's awesome. I'm so happy for you." It's basic lack of conscientious in most social situations. I also think jealousy is easy to detect in someone's eyes. There's a rapid flash of near anger with that beady look. It's very distinct. The eyes really do tell. Sadly, jealousy boils down to lack of self-worth. I think that's why self-validating narcissists seek out the empathetic types... only to destroy what they can't have. Good post here.
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Perfectly stated - absolute truth! 💯
Yes....and the beedy eyes
That look
You're spot on with that. Anytime I did something for myself, whether it was buying clothes or a new car. She had something negative to say. That I'm living above my means. The classic line, if it wasn't for me, you couldn't afford those things. Yet when I was spending abundantly on her, I didn't hear a peep about my finances.
The incredible word salad conversations! I am learning all the words that describe the narcissist behavior! This one cleared a cloud in my mind! Thank you Andrew! Wow ❤
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So true! My ex narcissist was always competing with one if his childhood friends and this friend grew up with money while the narcissist did not. Thus he chose me as his then supply for the financial gain since I was more established than he was. Then when this childhood friend got engaged to be married, he got jealous of that too and tried to get me to marry him which I did not and that’s when he started devaluing me and found a new supply who would marry him. Once he solidified the new supply he discarded me. My ex narcissist uses people to compete with others around him bc of jealousy. It’s so sad that these narcissists have to live their lives based on vanity, jealousy and envy. Great video! 👍🏻
I appreciate your kindness and honesty Kristine.. thank you for sharing 💯🙏🙌😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I really appreciate you and your channel, too, Andrew. You do great work helping all of us get educated and feel supported in our recovery. Thank you so much for caring!
You have always clear my mind, and that is part of my healing. I am getting healed, after divorced for many years. You have no idea how confused I was in that marriage with the narcissist, because everything is exactly the same as your description in your every video. Thanks for your healing from your channel.
Welcome always 🙏🙌☀️
Wow, you described my older sister. Mean spirited ,jealous. She did a complete character assassination of me. She dulled my spark. With your help and the internet I have been able to see it was all her. I’m healing slowly. No one in my family has had any contact with her in over thirty years and we intend to keep it that way. People like her can take a long walk off a short pier.
Your so right , as we know better we do better
I remember that conment so well, "Im not jealous' of anyone oe anything❤thanks again Andrew
So glad that people like you are on YT to support us who has been gaslighted, abused etc. ❤️
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My biggest mistake as a child was believing I was born into the perfect family. Took 50 years but thank God I've seen the light...the truth will set you free...from SA
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I learnt that my ex was insanely jealous of anyone who had more than himself. One of the things that he began doing was adopting my achievements as his own and I heard him on a number of occasions boasting to others about this. When I asked him why, his response was to try and convince me that we as soul mates were one and anything I did was also his achievement. Understandably I never bought into that explanation and instead began to view him for the loser that he is. I can laugh at this now but, at the time being around him was mentally draining. Stay blessed and thank you.
Thank you for sharing this insight Jean..🙏🙌💪💯
Draining isn't a strong enough word
One of the BEST explanations of narcissist jealous people I have ever seen, 100 percent logical and accurate.
Thank you 🙏
They want your light out and even better if they can steal it for themselves
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they want your soul because they dont have their own
What’s unfortunate is they spend time consumed over you to scheme ways against you. I was never a jealous type but one female I cut about six months ago told me what I had I didn’t earn and deserve and attacked me as being “entitled”. Yet, she has gone from one man to another and got a considerable amount of money in a divorce from a very professional man that went to Ivy League school. She didn’t work for it because she never worked, they had no children and obviously she felt “entitled” to his money because she’s the “eternal victim” and the courts favor the woman 99% of the time. She’s now with another man for several years and is nothing but a leech. She was just a “friend” and I made the mistake of picking up the phone after no contact for years. I felt she was buttering me up as her next home in case the current bf threw her out. A total user!
My hope is you are healing and improving.. sending prayers and positive energy to you 💪🙏💯☀️
Wow, I have a cousin who is just like this. She’s been married three times, three times divorced. Probably got lots of money from the divorces. I was a caretaker to my boyfriend with leukemia and when he passed, I got a used car and trailer home, which I sold last year. She told everyone in my family that I didn’t deserve it. Her words. My mom, who is a narcissist herself, even stood up for me and told my cousin, yes, I did deserve it. Would have loved to have been there to see her face. My cousin would only be happy if I were homeless.
You used the perfect example of my situation. My soon to be ex narcissist bought me a new cell phone for Christmas and then a hour later he told me that he had to run an errand real quick. So he cones back in the house and about 20 mins later, he pulled out a new cell phone that he went and purchased for himself. I was like why did you do and get another cell phone when you're phone wasn't messed up, outdated or anything. He just couldn't stand to let the day go by, knowing that I was the one with a new cell phone.
I understand completely 😉🙌💯
Thanks for your insights. The narc has reappeared in my life, and wants what I have, again. Time to grey stone, again. My boundaries are becoming stronger.
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I'm trying to understand how &/or why anyone would want to take my light /or energy. It's almost unbelievable! But so many people do try & they suffocate me in the process. I'm kinda shaking my head in disbelief yet at the same time I know it's true. This leaves me a sickening feeling in the pit of stomach. It's very sad to want to hurt another living being.
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My narcissist lost everything when I broke up with her. No job, no place to live no money.
I hope my ex narc is still watching me. She would find out I recently retired at 56, no thanks to her. I never realized this was what narcissism really looked like until after I got out of the relationship. It's pure evil.
Congratulations Karen..🙏💪💪
The narc was definitely jealous and insecure, and even said to me "I finally caught up with you" and I'm like I didn't know it was a competition. He would hate when others complimented me. He copied things in his home that I had in my home. He hated when I earned almost 30k more than him. I lost my job, home, mind, etc. while dealing with this dude. But I know God is going to restore me fully.
@@patrick-ip4yf God will
Thank you Andrew. I did not want to believe this for years. I thought it would was the epitome of being an egotist to believe that the narc was so jealous but I knew it from the first meeting but refused to believe. Now I do and I thank you. Enjoy your well deserved light.
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You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!! They are VERY envious!!!
Thank you from the bottom of my broken heart for your insight. It's helping me to heal and realize life is good. Take care out there and be kind to one another. 🕊🌎🕊
Welcome Misty..🙏💯🙌
Sending love and I really hope things are improving for you.
Getting my daily pep talk just before I head off to Bootbarn. I shared your channel last night with my best friend that helped get me away from my ex for good 7 yrs ago. I shared your topic on "How the Narcissist survives". She loved it! Thanks for all you do for us!
Boot barn...😂 I went there other day. I have been sharing with some of my friends andrews videos also..👍😊
@@dizzyd3670 Hello, Yeah been working at Boot Barn for 5 years in Medford Oregon. Come visit and we can chat about narcissist and give them the BOOT!!! lol🤣
@@julieshelton5923 😂. I would love to come visit ya' ll,but I am way down here in conroe, texas.I will stop by next time I am in your town! Thank you😎
Welcome Julie 🙏💯🙌😊
@@dizzyd3670 Awesome! 😃
For so many years I prayed for answers longing for clarity, it finally came, I am set free from the horror! Truth is where healing begins! Thank you for your devotion to truth and this channel you are a divine blessing!
Welcome Maria..💯🙏🙌
I realized I'm a magnet for Narcissists. I trust no one. I actually got back into a relationship, twice, with a narcissist because of the first flush of the relationship. After 8 months I got used again. I'm not the same. I trust no one. Especially myself. I used to believe everybody truly cared like I do. They dont.
This explains a lot....so sad.
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I’m new at this, and have started to grey rock people who are nasty and cruel not only to me but to others in general. I’m in week three of my healing process. Thank you for another great video.
Welcome Tim.. continue to become educated and awakened..🙏💯🙌
Keep going you will get yourself back😉