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Oh yes pray and meditate ….. pray for your security and safety. My mother is the narcissist. I pray for guidance and help to know what to do, guidance in discernment and pray for healing. Blessings to all ❤❤❤
19 years of marriage to a minister that lies through his teeth without any remorse. I'm now in the process of a divorce. He blame shifts everything, uses my grievances against me and gaslights on autopilot.. It's absolutely devastating. You feel an empty gaping hole in your heart for the person you loved as your soul mate to feel some remorse for all the trauma they caused, and all you hear is crickets. It's sickening.
Weekends tend to be hard for me because it’s so quiet and I get in my head. However my friend the peace is a BLESSING. we need to see THE TRUTH and be true to ourselves!!!!! These toxic people will reep what they sow. We need to move on ❤️🙏🏽
When the narc came over to my place to return my key (I know, bad move on my part) she hit me with her parting shot (snarky comment) designed to provoke a strong reaction. I looked across the street without any expression on my face and turned around, went inside, and quietly and calmly closed the door. I was completely unfazed. The End.
Still dumping on me years after I was discarded. He was moving away with his new supply and left some items in my garage so I could discard them for him. He showed up with a young stranger and said “he is like a son to me” when his son was verbally abused from childhood. I did not know at the time this was typical narc behavior. Of course I was hurt as usual, no more! The fog is gone. This chapter is over and done and dead! Andrew’s ability to verbalize words of wisdom and hope to me. It’s no coincidence!
The absence of DRAMA is the most delicious thing about being freed from a narcissistically abusive relationship. You don’t realize just HOW MUCH you were suppressing and carrying until you are RID of it. The most fantastic feeling in the universe🌹
Now reflecting on my twenty year marriage i am sure that i got more lies from him than the truth. He sounded so believable every time. A great actor. Have a beautiful afternoon and evening coach 🤗💜❤
They are good actors...use to get so upset with myself on why I didn't see it...but they are also have mastering lies.... manipulation and ways to make one feel guilty about what they do to you.. I use to ask...have you ever been to doctor for the mind or mental health and they would say no in a quickness..maybe they haven't ever been but hopefully they will go now.. # one at peace here once I left the narc..🎉🎉🎉
Thanks again Andrew..cannot blow how much you nail this topic everytime.. It is so good to be able to do what's I want when I want ... And not having to worry .. explain why or feel guilty. You are amazing....💯😇😊💪🏆🎉 Namaste
I WENT through the same lies, controlling, blame shifting, projecting,manipulating and double standard selfish self-absorbed actions as well, and also future faking, stringing me along just to fake me out they were sincere about doing something in future so they could have me around to use and extract from me more and more. I'm a sensitive, empathetic caring human that just could not take any more of her self-centered lying garbage. God bless Marie...(Just be positive and think about what good you can have and do for the future,, the REAL future.).🙏💪💪🙏
There was a time when I wanted answers from the narcissist, but not anymore. Gray Rock and block My x used to walk 10 paces ahead and I would have to ask him to slow down so we could walk together... this was the norm.
My kiddos and I currently live in this space.💔😩 It's sooooo hard to exist like they don't have another parent, who is completely MIA, except for holidays (to put on a show, of course). I can deal, but seeing my kids hurt BREAKS me down. Thanks for these videos that reinforce that I'm doing the right thing, even when it hurts. Blessings to all as you heal!!❤😢
Well that's a toxic. Environment ,they gonna normalize that behavior later on in life, better get out now and explain to them the abnormalities of your relationship with their dad,and how it's affecting them,DO you want them to end up with that abnormality in their future relationships. Or do you want them to decipher the red flags?children live what they see...
@MattyNelson-rs3ik Sorry you got the wrong impression. I left that toxic situation in 2020. My kids have healed but there are times (Father/Daughter dance, recitals, school programs) stuff like that, he NEEDS or should I say, THEY NEED him to participate in. Sometimes he shows, sometimes he doesn't. Thankfully my family, PawPaw and the uncles, do an AMAZING job as punch hitters. 💯💪So yes I saw the writing on the wall in 2016. Hell I didn't know Narcissim was a thing. But I knew we were NOT being loved well, so I left. 💔💪
Yes and when I went in for a hug, I got loose arms. His "love" was cold. He never opened his arm when I lay on his chest. He would shout "I love you" when I was asking him to leave my home. Weird.
Discernment is key. Sometimes the best thing to do is do nothing. Trusting your instincts, it’s Gods way of telling you that doing nothing is wiser than doing something wrong. We must respect ourselves and trust ourselves and if anyone is forcing anything it’s a huge red flag. Abuse is forcing others to do things which serve the abusers. We have free will and freedom given to us by God. God doesn’t force anything and so no human should either.
Yes Andrew, I now walk to the beat of my own drum and I will not let anyone sidetrack me...... I am not afraid anymore. Great video Andrew..... so full of wisdom......Thank You Always.
This is so true, sometimes we simply need to take a step back and let the situation unfold. The path becomes clearer. Often taking the mental step back is enough to get things moving. I am learning.... Thx Andrew, have a beautiful evening!🍃❤🍃
Andrew today I went bowling today and I was bullied by two people this one person who used to be my friend gave me a sob story and he said I'm sorry that I haven't been calling you lately which I don't really care but I remember what you said in your video not to expose the narcissist I didn't want to stoop down to their level my girlfriend was there and I introduced her to my mom and my mom loved her but at the end of the day I had a good day of the bowling alley and I'm so glad that I didn't say anything to those two bullies
Andrew, I want to wish you a happy St. Patrick’s Day! And I want to thank you for your videos, you are literally saving my life, helping me keep my sanity while going through the break up from a covert narcissist. God bless you, truly you are a godsend! ❤
I’ve been married 41 years to a narc. He fooled me so well for years. He has gaslighted me and always walks ahead of me and never held my hand. I always had to hold his hand. I nearly got a divorce last year, but had to back out because of hurting my sons ( 2 out of 3 got married last year). I want to divorce, but I wouldn’t know how to live on my own. You’ve helped me Andrew. I feel like I have more choices and feel better about myself. I go out with friends. Art, music ( I’m a drummer ) makes me happy. Also being kind and helpful. Things are changing for the better, thanks to you Andrew.😊❤
Andrew gave you some tools to work with beaut. It’s you that have done the work ! Give yourself a huge well done ! I’ve had the 40 years thing also. I’m 2 years in my apartment alone. It gets better. As Alanis morrisette says in her song, “ you live, you learn “. Best wishes to you and this community. 🖖💕🏴
Three months into no contact with family and workplace Narcs now: life couldn’t be better although it was tough at times pushing through. This is profound wisdom: many thanks.
Soooo Happy these Halfling narcs are being EXPOSED Andrew. Thank You for your Compassion & Dedication to teaching the Truth , especially the CYCLE of NARCISSISTIC ABUSE , which I feel is the KEY of EXPOSURE of Narcissist's.....which is their screaming nightmare😊
1.love Bomb 2. Devalue 3.Discard 4. Hoover....try ti get you back into relationshit again with them. As Andrew puts it, wash, rinse, repeat. Over & Over again. UNTIL YOU GET IT. THE CYCLE OF THEIR ABUSE.!!! THE Mental FOG lifts and you 👀see the truth of R Reality. The playbook is the SAME with narcissist's ( its the same cycle!!!!) Hmmmm.🤔
Ty: I been with a narcissist woman she has been gone 2 years and I’ve been feeling down and don’t have no friends like feel black magic on me but I stay strong and keep going forward no matter what happens and no I’m not afraid I believe in Jesus Christ and praying every day and not looking back. Now I know everything about her and not playing her games. But putting it all to GOD. And praying 🙏
It’s ugly but I will stand my ground with this. I’ve blocked everything from this person but I feel like there are flying monkeys around me watching I can tell they’re out there and not staring trouble with them just letting it go
That’s right! Once you get the wisdom, you begin to take steps to remove yourself from the relationship. Falling for the narc’s mask/ facade was NOT YOUR FAULT! You didn’t know the narcissist IS/WAS a narcissist. Once you learn they _are_ you take the steps necessary to distance yourself from them and you learn from the experience. That’s why you had to go through it in the first place… to learn that particular lesson. EXCELLENT video, Andrew! Thank you!!! Enjoy the rest of your St. Patrick’s day 🍀🍀🍀 FUN FACT: I’m part Irish (and also part French) 🇮🇪 🇫🇷💚🤍🧡❤️💜❤️💜
Yeah just calming yourself down post the discard, not running back to the narc, or even after time just leaving the situation be as there is nothing a not knowing mind could do, leave it so as to empty the baggage that u carry everyday with u by processing it and giving yourself the closure and finally becoming an educated empath with strict boundaries.
Definately true,,,i now take my time and i put my priorities first,,,i please myself ,,and im enjoying living in the present moment and i have clarity and head space to Discern and Observe❤❤❤❤😊
I can’t begin to describe how much these videos have helped get me to a place where I’m both empowered and educated. Yes, they’re slightly repetitive with nuance but they’re necessary and as a result, I’ve avoided the Hoover and educated the first degree contacts that affect me (mutual friends).
The best response is no response. Silence is your power. Responding rips the scab off your healing wound and putting infection into it. Then you have to start all over again trying to heal. Love yourself and dont respond. Stay silent ❤
Soooo true !!! Disappearing to the local shop, disappearing to the toilet for half an hour. When we weren't together as we lived separately, he wasn't available because he left his phone at work many times, or he was taking a work colleague home because they missed their bus.....and so the lying and deceit goes on and on as he was inbedding( literally )the new supply....he deserved an Oscar. The flags were coming at me thick and fast and when I tried to challenge he sidelined me, silent treatment, said I made him uncomfortable and often I got the 'look'....at that point retrospectively I should have exited. Iv acquired the knowledge, I'm learning and growing....thank you Andrew 💜
I don't watch TV at all, but I certainly felt like I was living in an intense Netflix series or Lifetime movie when I was in a relationship with a narcissist
This guy used to run 20 feet in front of me! I would say where are you going to a fire? Constantly devaluing me! Adios amigos! I’m so happy to be free from that psychopath!
It's the conditioned training that is so hard for me to break...iam trying to untrain myself, but sometimes I fall bback into the old patterns of thinking and behaviors that I'd been taught
I just got discarded for the umpteenth time and this time I actually agreed with her that we should definitely separate. She threw an absolute fit. We can't even agree with these people. Thank you Andrew and Community Members for helping me to see the truth.. much love.
It’s so fricking hard . Everyone’s got a different story . But when you watch these videos you can see where your narc fits . It’s hard to still love someone they are not . Every relationship is a different length. But it is severe trauma . That’s what they aim for . I still can’t imagine her doing it . But I have to see it for what she is . :( 😢
Shopping is clearly therapeutic eh? What a change in demeanor when normally they only complain about going out into the rat race of the aisles of merchandise 😂
that’s what I’m doing, healing, slowing down and doing what I want to when I want to. I don’t need NarcHusband’s approval or criticism. If I don’t feel like going to get the mail or to do certain things on certain days as I used to I don’t do it. If I feel like I’ve done enough for the day I tell myself I quit for the day. It’s a new and great feeling.
I rolled the dice many times out of desperation, addiction, and love which only resulted in me hating myself, which then led me to hurting myself. Rinse and repeat. It’s been a year now. No more. I’m in the clear
I hate the fact that i let that coward disrespect me so much. after discard now i understand and amazed how dare i put myself in that situation. begged someone to stay in my life who doesnt even know whats love is. He just moved on like nothing happened. He never let me find someone else who deserves me, yet he moved on easily when his expiration date of mine came.
You are right Andrew thinking back, when I met my Husband (Narc) I didn’t really like him. I should of listened to my gut instinct. I now live by my gut instinct and don’t second guess it. I stay clear of a lot of people these days especially those who are judgmental, stay in other people’s business and those who create drama. I don’t want any part of that in my life. I not only listen but I “hear” what people say and watch what they do before deciding whether or not to let them into my life.
Spot on! You confirmed what I have done. I looked it up and we (empaths) make up about 2% (or less) of the population. You are a blessing to us all. ❤️
Thanks Andrew....had a blast playing in my garden today and now enjoying a cup ☕ listening to you. A very nice day........with the narcs no longer. Blessings 🌈 🎀😘
Andrew, this was on-the-spot, best-help-day for me! As I started this comment, I wanted another name for narc. I came up with who he really is…Blue Beard! None of the wiser sisters wanted him. Naive me accepted his proposal and married him. He took me far from my loving family and kept me in his cold palace. He warned me that although I was allowed to go anywhere in the place, I was never to open a certain small red door….do you know what he kept in the room behind that door 🚪 ? Nasty stuff happened…awful life-threatening horrors! Her brothers found out and came to save her. We are rescuing one another. Brothers and sisters pulling one another from the grasp of the Blue Beards! Ain’t we great?!!! ❤️❤️❤️ to all.
Your topic was the theme of my day .....In healing stage and I decided I would just chill today ...... There's a project that I must take on because it's time-sensitive, but I still have time. Anyway, watching youtube videos, reading, etc .... BECAUSE I want to! Peace and Love Andrew and all here ❤
My last narcissistic relationship has definitely taken its toll. Throughout the friendship, he would emotionally explode when he did not like topics that questioned his decision making or behavior. He would then figuratively rip out my jugular, ghost me, cool off, & then refuse to discuss the explosion. That's right. I was ordered not to inquire but to accept all explosions. At 12 months, after finally recognizing his pattern, I blocked most communication with him. At 18 months, I did so permanently. He only uses people for as much as he can take from them. He then explodes, then demeans, & then changes the narrative to frame U as the problem & him as the victim. I write this hoping it helps someone EXPECTED to excuse bad behavior. Head for the Hills! It will bring U much more peace than will a loser like this. Edit: This narcissist is today deceased after a run in with the law. Though not happy about it, he will not be missed.
It's hard and tough , I had a really close friend discard me too , but I called him out of his lies and manipulation, very familiar to me , he texted this month of some songs no I did not respond the past is the past that door is closed, if he wants to remain friends I'm not having the same nonsense in my life ever again, I forgive him and myself and know that I'm human but yes a person doesn't have to put up with that , almost got prego, then the discard happened terrible, I ask the Lord for more decernment and he has been helping me of it , almost three months and got sent a text , knowing when I would reply in the past it would be the same thing over and over , but no not like how are you doing nothing but a song link , I pray about it and I just left it alone kinda was like a test to see if I would respond, and he has not called since then a three hour conversation, I'm thankful I don't have to be like or in that kind of relationship informal ever again, it can be formal but I will not be having no matters like that ever again, yes a lesson for sure.its not odd to me that the lies and manipulation leds to what they want and when they show yoy who they are believe it , only they can change you cant make them change but you can change thats for sure the healthier way , thank God.
❤❤❤❤ Thanks Andrew. I use to live in North Carolina and South Carolina at different points in my life. They are really beautiful states. I love the backdrop of your videos being out in nature. You are so good at telling our stories with so much insight and hope for a better future leaving the trauma and toxic individuals behind as we work on healing and being better people. I always feel the warmth of the sun and love when i hear your wisdom. Thank you. Namaste
Got so tired of him saying he was so good looking and so tall and don’t you just love my mustache and beard. He was so in love with himself, and he was so old, it was funny! Look in the mirror and try to see the real you! Never happened😂
💚 I'm so glad you did this video ( I'm happy for every video each day ) but this hit my heart I needed to hear this . I'm always feeling sorry or guilty😮 I'm not sure which I feel ..if I don't answer people .. But this video gave me clarity about my answer thanks Andrew 🎉❤💚
Spot-on. Was recently discarded by a narcissistic person I thought I was building a good and stable bond with and growing with, only to realize this person was not at all who I thought they were on the day of the discard. I see things much more clearly now and am healing and processing things completely on my own with a therapist. These demonic spirits have been trying to attach themselves to me and destroy me my entire life, narcissism is a generational curse I am actively figuring out how to permanently break. I hope I can do it so I can help others do it and make this world a better place. - Love all your content!
What saddens a narcissist? Tlike this question because I think it highlights one of the most misunderstood parts about how NPD works: saying something "saddens" a narcissist implies that they can feel genuine happiness... I don't find that to be true.The narc believes they're entitled to unlimited power, love, respect, and compliance without having to do any of the work required to achieve those things (assuming anybody in the world is entitled to all of that in the first place).Long story short - they live in a constant state of disappointment and anguish because their idea of satisfaction and happiness is a bottomless pit of entitlement. You literally can never win with them. (I found this on Quora)
Post narcissistic relationship I've found that the best solution is to be indifferent and adamant. Never care about the reaction from the narcissist and be adamant in your decisions. Do what you find is best for you and do not care about the consequences for the narcissist. If they go ballistic, remain calm. Go grey rock. Never care. Hold your lines. You and yours is the most important thing. What the narcissist wants is irrelevant. Stay strong.
Thanks Andrew for sharing this. The past couple of days I have been feeling I want to get revenge on the narcissist. I won't but sometimes I feel so mad I just want to destroy something of theirs. I will do nothing instead as they are not worth the energy. I'm on the healing road..I have a long way to go but bit by bit I wil get there....I hope all of you who have been abused by a narcissist will get there too.
Everything you’re speaking to is true. So glad I left in the drama crescendo. No. Period. Done. I left . I could respond to each point you make. I refused to play by his rules. In or out of the relationship. No contact. I will do backgrounds in the future. He had so many names and social medias. Phones multiples. He asked me once for my definition of narcissistic sociopath. Healing by becoming a hermit. Slowed myself down. Every day is my best day.
Absolutely, I needed to back away from being on constant panic mode from the narc. I needed time to allow the lessons learned to really sink into my inner self and enjoining loving myself again in the third person or my newer and improved self.
One thing that strikes me with lightning, is how easily they lie to a accepting ear. Now what strikes me is how obvious it is out of the fog. A totol transformation of recognizing interpersonal exploitation. Keep your emotions out of the way of the truth. Takes you back to autonomy. This doesnt have much to do with giving them nothing then but it would now. 🤜 🤛 ! !
Another great week of beautiful flowers, words of wisdom and wonderful videos. Thank you for all you do. Enjoy the rest of your evening. We all love you too, Andrew. ❤️🤗
Hello Andrew. I found you after I figured him out (my now ex-husband). However, it's only been a short while and I watch your channel as a way of confirming to myself that what I saw and felt was real. Your videos are always so spot on. What you say hits home every time. Thank you for all of your videos, energy, and time spent helping the community. You will get your good karma in spades!🙏
Thank you Having that Trauma in your life is so bizarre You question yourself again and again Finding yourself again has to be slowing down Doing nothing is calming 🙏🙏🌻🌻🌈🌈
Great video Andrew!! When it comes to narcissists doing nothing for them is actually doing a lot of things all at once, for yourself. Wishing everyone clarity and peace..... ❤
You opened my eyes and pointed the way of getting out of the narcissistic fog with my ex. I really wished i knew this sooner. I still have so many things to learn about NPD. Thanks, Andrew. I really owe you one. 😊 🙏 ❤ Namaste 💯
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Great video and great advise; thank you Andrew....your the best❤
Welcome..💜🙏😌
I agree, they are very nasty, mean, abusive non humans. They are deeply disturbed.
Amen..for sure!!
Aliens
More like walk in Demons!
Vicious insane immoral. I could go on forever.
Malignant Entitys!
Turn doing nothing into deep prayer and meditation, then your really doing something good !
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Oh yes pray and meditate ….. pray for your security and safety. My mother is the narcissist. I pray for guidance and help to know what to do, guidance in discernment and pray for healing. Blessings to all ❤❤❤
Andrew , you look like a Native American Chief, dropping that ancient wisdom on the masses. I really dig your channel ! Bless You Sir
Thank you..💜🌲❤️🌊😌
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He’s our Chief. When Chief speaks, we listen
Kicking Bird 🐦
Agreed !!
I am so protective towards myself! ❤❤❤ No one gets to direct my life!
So am I. I don't tolerate abuse.
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Drama free, and so, so grateful 😊
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19 years of marriage to a minister that lies through his teeth without any remorse. I'm now in the process of a divorce. He blame shifts everything, uses my grievances against me and gaslights on autopilot.. It's absolutely devastating. You feel an empty gaping hole in your heart for the person you loved as your soul mate to feel some remorse for all the trauma they caused, and all you hear is crickets. It's sickening.
Literally 🖤
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You got this!
Weekends tend to be hard for me because it’s so quiet and I get in my head. However my friend the peace is a BLESSING. we need to see THE TRUTH and be true to ourselves!!!!! These toxic people will reep what they sow. We need to move on ❤️🙏🏽
When the narc came over to my place to return my key (I know, bad move on my part) she hit me with her parting shot (snarky comment) designed to provoke a strong reaction. I looked across the street without any expression on my face and turned around, went inside, and quietly and calmly closed the door. I was completely unfazed. The End.
FRANKLY,YOU DON'T GIVE A DAMN...
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik that's right!
Still dumping on me years after I was discarded. He was moving away with his new supply and left some items in my garage so I could discard them for him. He showed up with a young stranger and said “he is like a son to me” when his son was verbally abused from childhood. I did not know at the time this was typical narc behavior. Of course I was hurt as usual, no more! The fog is gone. This chapter is over and done and dead! Andrew’s ability to verbalize words of wisdom and hope to me. It’s no coincidence!
The absence of DRAMA is the most delicious thing about being freed from a narcissistically abusive relationship. You don’t realize just HOW MUCH you were suppressing and carrying until you are RID of it. The most fantastic feeling in the universe🌹
My best enjoyment now is that the time is mine❤. No more orders, calls, textings, insults etc.
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Agree 💯❤️
persistent drama is certainly the WORD to look out for.
Now reflecting on my twenty year marriage i am sure that i got more lies from him than the truth. He sounded so believable every time. A great actor. Have a beautiful afternoon and evening coach 🤗💜❤
Thank you for sharing..💜💯🙏😊
They are good actors...use to get so upset with myself on why I didn't see it...but they are also have mastering lies.... manipulation and ways to make one feel guilty about what they do to you..
I use to ask...have you ever been to doctor for the mind or mental health and they would say no in a quickness..maybe they haven't ever been but hopefully they will go now..
# one at peace here once I left the narc..🎉🎉🎉
Thanks again Andrew..cannot blow how much you nail this topic everytime..
It is so good to be able to do what's I want when I want ...
And not having to worry .. explain why or feel guilty.
You are amazing....💯😇😊💪🏆🎉
Namaste
@@LysaChampione good for you, you are now free to live your life. I am happy for you. Blessings to you 🙌🙏
I WENT through the same lies, controlling, blame shifting, projecting,manipulating and double standard selfish self-absorbed actions as well, and also future faking, stringing me along just to fake me out they were sincere about doing something in future so they could have me around to use and extract from me more and more. I'm a sensitive, empathetic caring human that just could not take any more of her self-centered lying garbage. God bless Marie...(Just be positive and think about what good you can have and do for the future,, the REAL future.).🙏💪💪🙏
Coming here and listening to you instead of messaging the narcissist is like an alcoholic going to an AA meeting instead of taking a drink!
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There was a time when I wanted answers from the narcissist, but not anymore. Gray Rock and block
My x used to walk 10 paces ahead and I would have to ask him to slow down so we could walk together... this was the norm.
I had the same experience.
@tinachristy3212 not a good place to be
Same here. Very hurtful.
Me too
Totally!!!! I have pix of him walking ahead of me!
My kiddos and I currently live in this space.💔😩 It's sooooo hard to exist like they don't have another parent, who is completely MIA, except for holidays (to put on a show, of course). I can deal, but seeing my kids hurt BREAKS me down. Thanks for these videos that reinforce that I'm doing the right thing, even when it hurts. Blessings to all as you heal!!❤😢
Welcome..💜🙏😌💯
Well that's a toxic. Environment
,they gonna normalize that behavior later on in life, better get out now and explain to them the abnormalities of your relationship with their dad,and how it's affecting them,DO you want them to end up with that abnormality in their future relationships. Or do you want them to decipher the red flags?children live what they see...
@MattyNelson-rs3ik Sorry you got the wrong impression. I left that toxic situation in 2020. My kids have healed but there are times (Father/Daughter dance, recitals, school programs) stuff like that, he NEEDS or should I say, THEY NEED him to participate in. Sometimes he shows, sometimes he doesn't. Thankfully my family, PawPaw and the uncles, do an AMAZING job as punch hitters. 💯💪So yes I saw the writing on the wall in 2016. Hell I didn't know Narcissim was a thing. But I knew we were NOT being loved well, so I left. 💔💪
There is nothing there to start with and anything you do will make no difference!😮
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Love it!
Knowledge is power. Thank you for sharing yours. ☘️😊
Welcome..💯💜😌
Misery loves company! They don’t want closure! They want you in their misery 🙄🙈😞🐑
I used to always grab his hand first. I always felt a sense of resistance.
Yes!!!!!!!
Loveless!!
Yes and when I went in for a hug, I got loose arms. His "love" was cold. He never opened his arm when I lay on his chest. He would shout "I love you" when I was asking him to leave my home. Weird.
Discernment is key. Sometimes the best thing to do is do nothing. Trusting your instincts, it’s Gods way of telling you that doing nothing is wiser than doing something wrong. We must respect ourselves and trust ourselves and if anyone is forcing anything it’s a huge red flag. Abuse is forcing others to do things which serve the abusers. We have free will and freedom given to us by God. God doesn’t force anything and so no human should either.
Yes I agree decernment
Chasing a person who doesn't want to be with you. Exactly.
Thank God I am not in that "relationsht". Stay strong everyone.❣️
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Yes Andrew, I now walk to the beat of my own drum and I will not let anyone sidetrack me......
I am not afraid anymore.
Great video Andrew..... so full of wisdom......Thank You Always.
Welcome..💜💯😌
This is so true, sometimes we simply need to take a step back and let the situation unfold. The path becomes clearer. Often taking the mental step back is enough to get things moving.
I am learning....
Thx Andrew, have a beautiful evening!🍃❤🍃
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Andrew today I went bowling today and I was bullied by two people this one person who used to be my friend gave me a sob story and he said I'm sorry that I haven't been calling you lately which I don't really care but I remember what you said in your video not to expose the narcissist I didn't want to stoop down to their level my girlfriend was there and I introduced her to my mom and my mom loved her but at the end of the day I had a good day of the bowling alley and I'm so glad that I didn't say anything to those two bullies
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Bingo! Your emotional control is in the Strike zone and not headed for a gutter ball! 🎳👍
Andrew, I want to wish you a happy St. Patrick’s Day! And I want to thank you for your videos, you are literally saving my life, helping me keep my sanity while going through the break up from a covert narcissist. God bless you, truly you are a godsend! ❤
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Bad company corrupts good morals, I feel a shell of myself but I’m healing, just out of it a week
Brother Brother Brother!!! Wow youve just spoken wisdom into my life. Forever grateful
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I’ve been married 41 years to a narc. He fooled me so well for years. He has gaslighted me and always walks ahead of me and never held my hand. I always had to hold his hand. I nearly got a divorce last year, but had to back out because of hurting my sons ( 2 out of 3 got married last year). I want to divorce, but I wouldn’t know how to live on my own. You’ve helped me Andrew. I feel like I have more choices and feel better about myself. I go out with friends. Art, music ( I’m a drummer ) makes me happy. Also being kind and helpful. Things are changing for the better, thanks to you Andrew.😊❤
Andrew gave you some tools to work with beaut. It’s you that have done the work ! Give yourself a huge well done ! I’ve had the 40 years thing also. I’m 2 years in my apartment alone. It gets better. As Alanis morrisette says in her song, “ you live, you learn “. Best wishes to you and this community. 🖖💕🏴
Three months into no contact with family and workplace Narcs now: life couldn’t be better although it was tough at times pushing through. This is profound wisdom: many thanks.
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Soooo Happy these Halfling narcs are being EXPOSED Andrew. Thank You for your Compassion & Dedication to teaching the Truth , especially the CYCLE of NARCISSISTIC ABUSE , which I feel is the KEY of EXPOSURE of Narcissist's.....which is their screaming nightmare😊
1.love Bomb
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4. Hoover....try ti get you back into relationshit again with them.
As Andrew puts it, wash, rinse, repeat. Over & Over again.
UNTIL YOU GET IT. THE CYCLE OF THEIR ABUSE.!!!
THE Mental FOG lifts and you 👀see the truth of R Reality. The playbook is the SAME with narcissist's ( its the same cycle!!!!) Hmmmm.🤔
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Ty: I been with a narcissist woman she has been gone 2 years and I’ve been feeling down and don’t have no friends like feel black magic on me but I stay strong and keep going forward no matter what happens and no I’m not afraid I believe in Jesus Christ and praying every day and not looking back. Now I know everything about her and not playing her games. But putting it all to GOD. And praying 🙏
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It’s ugly but I will stand my ground with this. I’ve blocked everything from this person but I feel like there are flying monkeys around me watching I can tell they’re out there and not staring trouble with them just letting it go
Hang tough willie you are doing a good job
Stay strong, you were too good for her.
What helped me is joining volunteer groups ....book club, gardening club, tending forest trails and streams; church.
Sundays are always the worst day for me. Thank you, Andrew, for lifting me out of my sucky mood. 🙏
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i did nothing today and that is a good feeling having a lazy sunday wink wink andrew haha 😄 good video as always 😄
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There is no closure..it just is. We've learned to trust our intuition always, and just keep flowing. 🌊💜✨️
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That’s right! Once you get the wisdom, you begin to take steps to remove yourself from the relationship. Falling for the narc’s mask/ facade was NOT YOUR FAULT! You didn’t know the narcissist IS/WAS a narcissist. Once you learn they _are_ you take the steps necessary to distance yourself from them and you learn from the experience. That’s why you had to go through it in the first place… to learn that particular lesson.
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It's hard and tough , but one thing for sure yes a lesson to not return to the vomit , and be mindful of lies and mulnipulation as well
Yeah just calming yourself down post the discard, not running back to the narc, or even after time just leaving the situation be as there is nothing a not knowing mind could do, leave it so as to empty the baggage that u carry everyday with u by processing it and giving yourself the closure and finally becoming an educated empath with strict boundaries.
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I can’t begin to describe how much these videos have helped get me to a place where I’m both empowered and educated. Yes, they’re slightly repetitive with nuance but they’re necessary and as a result, I’ve avoided the Hoover and educated the first degree contacts that affect me (mutual friends).
The best response is no response. Silence is your power. Responding rips the scab off your healing wound and putting infection into it. Then you have to start all over again trying to heal. Love yourself and dont respond. Stay silent ❤
Soooo true !!! Disappearing to the local shop, disappearing to the toilet for half an hour. When we weren't together as we lived separately, he wasn't available because he left his phone at work many times, or he was taking a work colleague home because they missed their bus.....and so the lying and deceit goes on and on as he was inbedding( literally )the new supply....he deserved an Oscar. The flags were coming at me thick and fast and when I tried to challenge he sidelined me, silent treatment, said I made him uncomfortable and often I got the 'look'....at that point retrospectively I should have exited. Iv acquired the knowledge, I'm learning and growing....thank you Andrew 💜
I don't watch TV at all, but I certainly felt like I was living in an intense Netflix series or Lifetime movie when I was in a relationship with a narcissist
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I love your speech skills mate thank you for helping masses and don’t you ever stop I’m a victim and a huge target every place I go 😢
This guy used to run 20 feet in front of me! I would say where are you going to a fire? Constantly devaluing me! Adios amigos! I’m so happy to be free from that psychopath!
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The person that I was with was constantly walking ahead of me and very fast!
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Amen! PREACH!
where i am today.
Practicing radical acceptance!
No more bending over backwards to try to believe these people.
It's the conditioned training that is so hard for me to break...iam trying to untrain myself, but sometimes I fall bback into the old patterns of thinking and behaviors that I'd been taught
I just got discarded for the umpteenth time and this time I actually agreed with her that we should definitely separate. She threw an absolute fit. We can't even agree with these people. Thank you Andrew and Community Members for helping me to see the truth.. much love.
It’s so fricking hard . Everyone’s got a different story . But when you watch these videos you can see where your narc fits .
It’s hard to still love someone they are not . Every relationship is a different length. But it is severe trauma . That’s what they aim for .
I still can’t imagine her doing it . But I have to see it for what she is . :( 😢
Trips to the store, hours pass and they come back with a handful of things that could be thrown in the basket in 5 minutes, and normally is🙄
Shopping is clearly therapeutic eh? What a change in demeanor when normally they only complain about going out into the rat race of the aisles of merchandise 😂
😅maybe I should look into the therapeutic benefits of "shopping" 🙄
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that’s what I’m doing, healing, slowing down and doing what I want to when I want to. I don’t need NarcHusband’s approval or criticism. If I don’t feel like going to get the mail or to do certain things on certain days as I used to I don’t do it. If I feel like I’ve done enough for the day I tell myself I quit for the day. It’s a new and great feeling.
I rolled the dice many times out of desperation, addiction, and love which only resulted in me hating myself, which then led me to hurting myself. Rinse and repeat. It’s been a year now. No more. I’m in the clear
Conserve my energy for myself 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you Andrew!
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I hate the fact that i let that coward disrespect me so much. after discard now i understand and amazed how dare i put myself in that situation. begged someone to stay in my life who doesnt even know whats love is. He just moved on like nothing happened. He never let me find someone else who deserves me, yet he moved on easily when his expiration date of mine came.
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I absolutely agree with this comment 👍
The only movies i ever watch, are Elvis movies, they make me happy ❤
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Awww I love Elvis... Neil Diamond, too ... ! Elvis was a hunk. 😊
Thank u for exposing those demons.
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You are right Andrew thinking back, when I met my Husband (Narc) I didn’t really like him. I should of listened to my gut instinct. I now live by my gut instinct and don’t second guess it. I stay clear of a lot of people these days especially those who are judgmental, stay in other people’s business and those who create drama. I don’t want any part of that in my life. I not only listen but I “hear” what people say and watch what they do before deciding whether or not to let them into my life.
Good topic for a video. More than likely anything you do will be wrong.
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Spot on! You confirmed what I have done. I looked it up and we (empaths) make up about 2% (or less) of the population. You are a blessing to us all. ❤️
Exactly. Don’t cast pearls before swine.
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Thanks Andrew....had a blast playing in my garden today and now enjoying a cup ☕ listening to you.
A very nice day........with the narcs no longer.
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Andrew, this was on-the-spot, best-help-day for me! As I started this comment, I wanted another name for narc. I came up with who he really is…Blue Beard! None of the wiser sisters wanted him. Naive me accepted his proposal and married him. He took me far from my loving family and kept me in his cold palace. He warned me that although I was allowed to go anywhere in the place, I was never to open a certain small red door….do you know what he kept in the room behind that door 🚪 ? Nasty stuff happened…awful life-threatening horrors! Her brothers found out and came to save her. We are rescuing one another. Brothers and sisters pulling one another from the grasp of the Blue Beards!
Ain’t we great?!!! ❤️❤️❤️ to all.
Your topic was the theme of my day .....In healing stage and I decided I would just chill today ......
There's a project that I must take on because it's time-sensitive, but I still have time. Anyway, watching youtube videos, reading, etc .... BECAUSE I want to!
Peace and Love Andrew and all here ❤
My last narcissistic relationship has definitely taken its toll.
Throughout the friendship, he would emotionally explode when he did not like topics that questioned his decision making or behavior.
He would then figuratively rip out my jugular, ghost me, cool off, & then refuse to discuss the explosion.
That's right. I was ordered not to inquire but to accept all explosions.
At 12 months, after finally recognizing his pattern, I blocked most communication with him. At 18 months, I did so permanently.
He only uses people for as much as he can take from them. He then explodes, then demeans, & then changes the narrative to frame U as the problem & him as the victim.
I write this hoping it helps someone EXPECTED to excuse bad behavior.
Head for the Hills! It will bring U much more peace than will a loser like this.
Edit: This narcissist is today deceased after a run in with the law. Though not happy about it, he will not be missed.
It's hard and tough , I had a really close friend discard me too , but I called him out of his lies and manipulation, very familiar to me , he texted this month of some songs no I did not respond the past is the past that door is closed, if he wants to remain friends I'm not having the same nonsense in my life ever again, I forgive him and myself and know that I'm human but yes a person doesn't have to put up with that , almost got prego, then the discard happened terrible, I ask the Lord for more decernment and he has been helping me of it , almost three months and got sent a text , knowing when I would reply in the past it would be the same thing over and over , but no not like how are you doing nothing but a song link , I pray about it and I just left it alone kinda was like a test to see if I would respond, and he has not called since then a three hour conversation, I'm thankful I don't have to be like or in that kind of relationship informal ever again, it can be formal but I will not be having no matters like that ever again, yes a lesson for sure.its not odd to me that the lies and manipulation leds to what they want and when they show yoy who they are believe it , only they can change you cant make them change but you can change thats for sure the healthier way , thank God.
Lucky it was only a thousand in! You were very emotionally intelligent to understand the pattern quite sono...
@paolamura3497 I get the gist. But your 2nd sentence is incomplete ...
@@PrivateGrotto no the last word should have been written "soon".....
@@paolamura3497 I really don't understand putting the word soon there ... but okay.
❤❤❤❤ Thanks Andrew. I use to live in North Carolina and South Carolina at different points in my life. They are really beautiful states. I love the backdrop of your videos being out in nature. You are so good at telling our stories with so much insight and hope for a better future leaving the trauma and toxic individuals behind as we work on healing and being better people. I always feel the warmth of the sun and love when i hear your wisdom. Thank you. Namaste
Thanks Andrew. You described my life absolutely 💯
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Got so tired of him saying he was so good looking and so tall and don’t you just love my mustache and beard. He was so in love with himself, and he was so old, it was funny! Look in the mirror and try to see the real you! Never happened😂
💚 I'm so glad you did this video ( I'm happy for every video each day ) but this hit my heart I needed to hear this . I'm always feeling sorry or guilty😮 I'm not sure which I feel ..if I don't answer people .. But this video gave me clarity about my answer thanks Andrew 🎉❤💚
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Spot-on. Was recently discarded by a narcissistic person I thought I was building a good and stable bond with and growing with, only to realize this person was not at all who I thought they were on the day of the discard. I see things much more clearly now and am healing and processing things completely on my own with a therapist. These demonic spirits have been trying to attach themselves to me and destroy me my entire life, narcissism is a generational curse I am actively figuring out how to permanently break. I hope I can do it so I can help others do it and make this world a better place.
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true growth rarely happens on a state of ease I think
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“Slow your life down”. Wow, that’s just what I have been doing, not realizing I’m on the right path. New eyes. Thank you.🙏🏻
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I CAN DO THAT I BEEN DOING THAT FOR 50 YEARS OR BETTER I HOPE I CAN DO IT FOR 50 MORE
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You inspire me and keep me focused daily on the path. I am so grateful for you 🙏🏽
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Thank You for ALWAYS providing Golden Information. 🤝🏼
I agree . Sometimes you need to get out of there though .
Happy spirits all around you tells me what a genuine man you are,thanks for caring about others and their mental emotional health😎
I did not know about Narcs until you, Andrew! I sus pected but had no real proof. Now I do!
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What saddens a narcissist?
Tlike this question because I think it highlights one of the most misunderstood parts about how NPD works: saying something "saddens" a narcissist implies that they can feel genuine happiness... I don't find that to be true.The narc believes they're entitled to unlimited power, love, respect, and compliance without having to do any of the work required to achieve those things (assuming anybody in the world is entitled to all of that in the first place).Long story short - they live in a constant state of disappointment and anguish because their idea of satisfaction and happiness is a bottomless pit of entitlement. You literally can never win with them. (I found this on Quora)
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I so needed to hear this today. Thank you so much. Have a great day.
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Post narcissistic relationship I've found that the best solution is to be indifferent and adamant. Never care about the reaction from the narcissist and be adamant in your decisions. Do what you find is best for you and do not care about the consequences for the narcissist.
If they go ballistic, remain calm. Go grey rock. Never care. Hold your lines. You and yours is the most important thing. What the narcissist wants is irrelevant. Stay strong.
Thanks Andrew for sharing this. The past couple of days I have been feeling I want to get revenge on the narcissist. I won't but sometimes I feel so mad I just want to destroy something of theirs. I will do nothing instead as they are not worth the energy. I'm on the healing road..I have a long way to go but bit by bit I wil get there....I hope all of you who have been abused by a narcissist will get there too.
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I find myself getting angry finally learning about what happened to me so many years ago.
@@MaureenBonanno don't give in, rise above
Everything you’re speaking to is true. So glad I left in the drama crescendo. No. Period. Done. I left . I could respond to each point you make. I refused to play by his rules. In or out of the relationship. No contact. I will do backgrounds in the future. He had so many names and social medias. Phones multiples. He asked me once for my definition of narcissistic sociopath. Healing by becoming a hermit. Slowed myself down. Every day is my best day.
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I have a great admiration for you. You are clear concise and extremely knowledgeable. I particularly like "you come 1st 2nd and 3rd"
Better be alone than be in bad company they say.
Absolutely, I needed to back away from being on constant panic mode from the narc. I needed time to allow the lessons learned to really sink into my inner self and enjoining loving myself again in the third person or my newer and improved self.
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One thing that strikes me with lightning, is how easily they lie to a accepting ear. Now what strikes me is how obvious it is out of the fog. A totol transformation of recognizing interpersonal exploitation. Keep your emotions out of the way of the truth. Takes you back to autonomy. This doesnt have much to do with giving them nothing then but it would now. 🤜 🤛 ! !
Another great week of beautiful flowers, words of wisdom and wonderful videos. Thank you for all you do. Enjoy the rest of your evening. We all love you too, Andrew. ❤️🤗
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Thank you Andrew for your support, understanding and advice.
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Very sad today. Ty Andrew ❤
Thank you Andrew for all your information and solution oriented advice on how to recover from narcissist if trauma.
Hello Andrew. I found you after I figured him out (my now ex-husband). However, it's only been a short while and I watch your channel as a way of confirming to myself that what I saw and felt was real. Your videos are always so spot on. What you say hits home every time. Thank you for all of your videos, energy, and time spent helping the community. You will get your good karma in spades!🙏
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Greeting her at the door hit home for me. Never knew what i would get.
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Thank you
Having that Trauma in your life is so bizarre
You question yourself again and again
Finding yourself again has to be slowing down
Doing nothing is calming
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Thanks for the daily uploads. You are helping me heal every single day. We are all in this journey of life together ❤️
Great video Andrew!!
When it comes to narcissists doing nothing for them is actually doing a lot of things all at once, for yourself.
Wishing everyone clarity and peace.....
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You opened my eyes and pointed the way of getting out of the narcissistic fog with my ex. I really wished i knew this sooner. I still have so many things to learn about NPD. Thanks, Andrew. I really owe you one. 😊 🙏 ❤ Namaste 💯
I love the thumb nail
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