Cheating in Marriage: A dealbreaker ?

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  • @indecribindecrib9832
    @indecribindecrib9832 2 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    True talk, imagine my seven year old son telling me that their teacher told them that a boy is not meant to be in the kitchen. Because of this he has been washing dishes as his core job daily. We really need to change this narrative.

    • @Letstalkwithesiri
      @Letstalkwithesiri 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I want to be sure you went to the school to have a conversation or called the teacher to order? Did you or did you not?

    • @ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439
      @ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Its even in Nigerian text books
      When they taught my son that mother's job was to do laundry, he quivkly told them thats the job of a washing machine , not his mom

    • @kiv_daniels
      @kiv_daniels 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Please I’m a woman, don’t let him suffer for the teacher’s teachings. He is seven, is there anyone he can at least take turns with? Or maybe once in a while

    • @chisomo8088
      @chisomo8088 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@kiv_daniels please rest. Boys need to learn, and what she's doing is her business. Let's stop telling parents how to parent their children. As long as they aren't harming the child, mind your business

    • @this_shade_of_gold
      @this_shade_of_gold 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You see a guy and he's telling you when I'm gaming no one distracts me not even my parents..... Like are you serious!!! A girl child can't even breathe without being interrupted or distracted....smh
      My son is definitely doing the dishes he might even learn catering among others.

  • @rubyben4337
    @rubyben4337 2 ปีที่แล้ว +186

    I want to give you a hug so bad Toke. I can imagine how much judgment you went through with the release of your book and how many uncomfortable spaces you had to sit in or friends that stepped back from you. I was one of those people who finished your book on the first day of release in one sitting in my college dorm room and thought, wow! this is the most courageous African woman I know.

    • @TokeMakinwa
      @TokeMakinwa  2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      Thank you this means a lot ❤️

    • @seraphinemoses3486
      @seraphinemoses3486 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Name of the book please

    • @Duloiam
      @Duloiam 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TokeMakinwa bless u Qing na woman u be ♥️ u much tnk u very much for being u

    • @momoduvalentina405
      @momoduvalentina405 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@TokeMakinwa I love your audacity to be all you can and more. Keep going girl❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @florenceflourish6367
      @florenceflourish6367 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@seraphinemoses3486 unbecoming.....hope got it

  • @reconnecttv1061
    @reconnecttv1061 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Shame the culture of Shame.
    This conversation is closest to my heart. I love it al!!!

  • @dolapom8735
    @dolapom8735 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I genuinely love Toke and Toolz. I honestly didn’t know you guys had issues in the past and I sensed a hint of tension and distance during your conversation. But what I love most is the fact that you talked a bit about it towards the end, and that is growth and I am here for it 👏🏾 👏🏾 . Well done ladies 😘🥰

  • @freshangel1
    @freshangel1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Toke I love how Candid and open you are. You aren’t afraid of saying what’s on everybody’s minds - nobody does it like you

    • @tutsypie
      @tutsypie 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely!! I like her openness when it comes to reality💯

  • @Dearanthonia
    @Dearanthonia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    So true! i didn't like Toke for a long time because of her book. I felt it wasn't a good idea but as i grow older and now married, i honestly don't blame her. I'm so obsessed with Toke 😍🥰

  • @ch_obi
    @ch_obi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    My darling TM, you spoke the truth, our mothers didn't try for us ladies, oddly remembering the time my friend's mum said a woman belongs to one man but a man belongs to many women, I kid you not, stared at this woman in disbelief.....well let God help us to find the right man/woman who believes in sticking to one partner.......

    • @PaultheSheik
      @PaultheSheik 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good luck finding that man. I am Ghanaian and I have to tell you that of the about 110 guys on my school year book platform, only about 8 to 12 that I believe don’t cheat. That’s about 10%. 10%. So good luck to you and all the women out there, you’re all going to be fighting to land that 10% of men who don’t cheat. 100 women each trying to land one of only 10 good men. Kpele for you 😁. Of course you can also choose to be single, your choice.

    • @adebolaadewunmi177
      @adebolaadewunmi177 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@PaultheSheik Let's assume you are right, let me also tell you there are Loads of women who cheat too, I hope you except that your wife will cheat on you also.

    • @PaultheSheik
      @PaultheSheik 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@adebolaadewunmi177 We are not "assuming" I am right. I am speaking facts. It is your choice whether to accept it or not. Whether my wife will cheat or not is immaterial to the facts I have presented. It is not my fault you don't like the facts I have presented. It is what it is.

    • @adebolaadewunmi177
      @adebolaadewunmi177 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I understand you , I am also stating facts that women also cheat, cheating isn't gender based, Men are only indulged by the society when caught. Paternity fraud has always been in existence and is still in existence. Good luck to you in not raising another man's child @@PaultheSheik

    • @PaultheSheik
      @PaultheSheik 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@adebolaadewunmi177 Paternity fraud is less than 2% meanwhile how many African men not only step out on their wives but actually have children with side chicks and second wives? I will conservatively say at least 10%. It is and remains a man's world in Africa dear. I must say I am very happy to be a man.😀 Are you perchance a woman? If so I can understand your frustration.

  • @247tonytipon
    @247tonytipon ปีที่แล้ว +6

    As for daughter and son thing it's all depends on the parents. My mom had boys before the girls. She made a point of duty to train us on how to run all the home chores! We all know how to cook, clean and wash. That experience kept us grounded! It deeply helped us as bachelor's.

  • @ibhorsfall326
    @ibhorsfall326 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Felt lots of awkward energy coming from this video. Love them both❤

    • @simiwuyi
      @simiwuyi ปีที่แล้ว

      I think it's because it is a very personal and often ignored conversation. Especially in Africa.

  • @kelechiwellington3303
    @kelechiwellington3303 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I wish Toolz talked more. Great episode.

  • @estarbablo5972
    @estarbablo5972 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Been waiting for this to drop on here 😍🥹! Yayy! Congratulations Toke!!

  • @bilikisolayiwola3136
    @bilikisolayiwola3136 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Toolz was so real . God bless her.

  • @dammieoke
    @dammieoke 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I sooo agre with Toke. Just because a man supports financially and the family doesn't lack anything is not a key to to behave anyhow

  • @jesselle28
    @jesselle28 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    TM is amazing 🤩🤩
    But being paired with toolz🔥🔥🔥🔥
    Interesting conversation you both had.
    Keep at it!❤️

    • @TokeMakinwa
      @TokeMakinwa  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Gracias❤️❤️

  • @gcbaby100
    @gcbaby100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am living to Tools Bubu... Love IT

  • @Joyof-Living
    @Joyof-Living 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    "Shame the culture of shame."
    Yes ma'am!

  • @NinthJewel
    @NinthJewel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Cheating is a choice . If one’s partner cheats - the victim should leave without being judged 👏 thanks for sharing ladies

    • @TokeMakinwa
      @TokeMakinwa  2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Absolutely. Thank you

    • @sorunke2002
      @sorunke2002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You mean should be able to leave without being judged. There's a place for forgiveness for both sides.

    • @taihannae9792
      @taihannae9792 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@sorunke2002 forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to stay, also you cant tell anyone what to and not forgive everyone has/should have a deal breaker

  • @nassambaolufunke352
    @nassambaolufunke352 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Toolz looks absolutely stunning ❤

  • @kind2423
    @kind2423 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Toke is my bestie in my head. I love her

  • @okonkwotina2172
    @okonkwotina2172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This conversation is everything deep all round that one shouldn’t miss. Thanks for sharing this with us TM

  • @tutsypie
    @tutsypie 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh myyy Toolz went to Adrao Intl!! AMAZING!! An Alunmi💯💯 whoop whoop!!

  • @TheRealVeev
    @TheRealVeev 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    21:53 and so on is a valuable lesson I learned in 2019. Marriage is like a business partnership. You don't own your spouse and you shouldn't control them. Very very key to have this in mind before tying the knot with anyone.

  • @oparamesther
    @oparamesther 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Please Toke air your program on TV..this! your show is too good to be limited to youtube only

  • @talk2solum
    @talk2solum 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Really enjoying this conversation, the honesty from Toolz....👍

  • @eniolaodugbesan866
    @eniolaodugbesan866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love this conversation very well. You ladies are really good at what you do

  • @peaceamgbapu3827
    @peaceamgbapu3827 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Amazing! We need more of such conversations around. Love you TM

  • @CommonSenseSisters
    @CommonSenseSisters 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    One of the greatest power anyone can utilize on earth 🌍 , is your ability to tell your story unapologetically. Peace ✌️comes when you listen to that still voice within you to forge ahead ❤ be courageous, sooner or later you will find your tribe & impact lives in the process

  • @marthaadebayo8035
    @marthaadebayo8035 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love listening to TM 😊 it’s educating 🥺❤️

  • @Dorastea
    @Dorastea 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This just revived my spirit. Thank you for sharing this with the world. I'm up again on my dreams.

  • @winifreddokubo
    @winifreddokubo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    After 4years of following Toke, I finally achieved this 😂😂😂😂

    • @Up_skye
      @Up_skye 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      1st to view and comment??😂

    • @TokeMakinwa
      @TokeMakinwa  2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @winifreddokubo
      @winifreddokubo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I’m literally going to faint right now, Toke liked my comment 💃💃💃

    • @Zeiny905
      @Zeiny905 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TokeMakinwa I love you sis. Thanks for connecting with us here.

  • @OmaThompson26
    @OmaThompson26 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I loved everything about this podcast, toolz was a wonderful guest❤

  • @dhunnieakanbi696
    @dhunnieakanbi696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love everything about this conversation.

  • @abigailaduwe
    @abigailaduwe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank God BBN is over she's back yayyyy!!!!

    • @TokeMakinwa
      @TokeMakinwa  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Back and better 💃🏾

    • @abigailaduwe
      @abigailaduwe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      To think this was just a genuine comment with no expectation of you replying ahhhhh you've made my day❤❤❤

  • @funkelovethowonla9402
    @funkelovethowonla9402 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I've missed you so much. Welcome back.

  • @winniepatricks2686
    @winniepatricks2686 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Toke, you have a striking resemblance with mrs folorunsho alakija.

  • @mercygolah-ebue5973
    @mercygolah-ebue5973 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Preach ladies..., light n love always. SHALLOM 🤗😘

  • @adorable_hilda6247
    @adorable_hilda6247 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love love love toke 🧚🏼‍♀️

  • @florenceflourish6367
    @florenceflourish6367 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this....Toke n Toolz.....Fire.

  • @officialfiwa5000
    @officialfiwa5000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love toolz❤

  • @azeezatsule3412
    @azeezatsule3412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Toke your doing so well, Powerful Woman🙌❤️

  • @lauraezekwe
    @lauraezekwe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Toke is such a breath of fresh air

  • @inthestyleofuzezi
    @inthestyleofuzezi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This I enjoyed conversation errthang. Host and guest and how the conversation flowed.

  • @puffcinnamoncloud
    @puffcinnamoncloud 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yay Toke has finally posted!!

  • @officialfiwa5000
    @officialfiwa5000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The thumbnail of this video is great, nice one!

  • @thehappyroom5673
    @thehappyroom5673 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really enjoyed this vlog 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

  • @favouritefay
    @favouritefay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Video is still downloading but I'm just excited knowing we have a new episode yo!! 💕💃

  • @talkwithlovetta05
    @talkwithlovetta05 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow!!!! So educative and interesting.. I mean I was glued to the end... Weldone babes💪👍

  • @VoyageFioreNetwork
    @VoyageFioreNetwork 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Don't interject when your guests are speaking, please, you cut your guest a couple of times when she tried to speak or explain something - I still love you and enjoyed this interview. Beautiful quality work my sister. 💖

    • @maraaba6734
      @maraaba6734 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I was about to type the same. I love Toke, but I think she interjects too much to talk about herself.

  • @thedeoladollars
    @thedeoladollars 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Very interesting conversation…just to chip in something where you said “like is greater than love”, like can never be greater than love what happens is on the days your partner does something you do not like you go back to love which is patient and holds no grudges. So love is in fact greater than like.

    • @queenruthy8406
      @queenruthy8406 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very true 💯

    • @williamsolawale4208
      @williamsolawale4208 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Marriage comprises of love, passion and commitment. Like and friendship is never part of it.

    • @thedeoladollars
      @thedeoladollars 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@williamsolawale4208 friendship and fondness are a fundamental part of marriage.

    • @williamsolawale4208
      @williamsolawale4208 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@thedeoladollars if you love someone won't you automatically be friends. I'm just friendships is never the basics to get married.

  • @AQUABEE19
    @AQUABEE19 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When I say toolz is my spirit animal 😊

  • @mollys360kitchen7
    @mollys360kitchen7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much!

  • @ingotluxury9344
    @ingotluxury9344 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love you Toke hopefully soonest you will interview muah and tell my success story.

  • @sandradabby4473
    @sandradabby4473 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Toke is so hardworking

  • @nimatdaud876
    @nimatdaud876 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Toke.. You and this your laugh 😂... I've always listened to your show... But this episode made me a fan..

  • @sandradabby4473
    @sandradabby4473 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Toke my best ❤️❤️❤️

  • @oginingangam6386
    @oginingangam6386 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was lovely to watch❤

  • @beea.9435
    @beea.9435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Beautiful show... Love Toke's "as a matter of fact persona" and I could listen to Toolz speak forever...such a lovely voice, mannerisms and composure.
    Toke.... Try let your guests land on their points though. I understand your passion and excitement but be cautious.

    • @maryambenson5835
      @maryambenson5835 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I agree 💯. Toke please let your guests land with their points and reduce interruptions / interjecting.

    • @maameadjoapokuaaasare9572
      @maameadjoapokuaaasare9572 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree

  • @OnyinxE
    @OnyinxE ปีที่แล้ว

    Loved watching this 🥰😍

  • @abasifrekeetuk7997
    @abasifrekeetuk7997 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Toke is such a natural

  • @beea.9435
    @beea.9435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautiful testimony and way to wrap up Toke 👏👏👏

  • @maryslens5330
    @maryslens5330 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Tokes you Know I love you. ❤

  • @augustaselorm2358
    @augustaselorm2358 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Off Air ooo I can't wait oo

  • @peejaytopbliss
    @peejaytopbliss 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Toke, please if the situation happens to you as a mother or mother in-law that u were reported to what advise will u give? Sincerely I was thinking that is the best advice a mother.

  • @Joshuaolalekan
    @Joshuaolalekan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    TM!!!!was waiting for the visuals since 😭

  • @akakandelwakandepwe6061
    @akakandelwakandepwe6061 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This my it conversation 🥺🥺❤

  • @graceweah3632
    @graceweah3632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Welcome back toke love 💕 you from Liberia

  • @AliyahAfolabi
    @AliyahAfolabi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was so interesting 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 we need more conversations like this TM !!! Thank you for being so Real Toolz God bless you and TM ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @DrBarnsnation
    @DrBarnsnation 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love You Guys‼️

  • @stacyhugues1806
    @stacyhugues1806 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    She's Kemi Adetiba's twin

  • @cenolynbenard4676
    @cenolynbenard4676 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this episode

  • @lovelynjoseph8452
    @lovelynjoseph8452 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Toke i love u ❤️❤️❤️

  • @estherjanet255
    @estherjanet255 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Toke is a 💎 ❤

  • @saratuibrahim1348
    @saratuibrahim1348 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omo toke has been a blessing to me

  • @dancinginthepurplereign4126
    @dancinginthepurplereign4126 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My favorite baby girl for life! Congratulations on your new podcast!

  • @bakareaishat529
    @bakareaishat529 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love how Toke outrightly says what everyone is thinking but cannot say.

  • @Oluwadamilola.Adeola
    @Oluwadamilola.Adeola 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Such an amazing episode

  • @ashwithlovee
    @ashwithlovee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I absolutely love how real this episode was. Thank you Toke❤

  • @tianahz
    @tianahz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 a lot of young ladies or women in general needs to watch this episode.

  • @Monalisa.3
    @Monalisa.3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is very exciting!

  • @anthoniabalogun
    @anthoniabalogun 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You don't own anyone!This is powerful.

  • @Mosiwomeka
    @Mosiwomeka 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Tokstarr ❤️❤️❤️

  • @temidayoowojori2317
    @temidayoowojori2317 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this podcast...insightful..Many key take home words☺️🤗

  • @DEJATHECREATIVE
    @DEJATHECREATIVE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love it ❤️

  • @joyjames6753
    @joyjames6753 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I Love The podcast, very insightful and I love your vibe. Keeping doing you.

  • @christinaiornongu2571
    @christinaiornongu2571 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Toke, if you invite Guest, allow them talk. We all love the sound of your voice and the sense in things your points but allow your Guest talk well well.

    • @florenceflourish6367
      @florenceflourish6367 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I think it is common to all of them....Even Toolz and Gbemi does same...... It's not formal interview though..this is like gisting with your friend and both of you needed to talk simultenously

  • @TheRealVeev
    @TheRealVeev 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That laugh at 6:41 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Ladyfaithke
    @Ladyfaithke 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video is worth every minute of one’s time!

  • @damilola732
    @damilola732 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Toks love your two piece,where is it from?

  • @chiamakaenansofor
    @chiamakaenansofor 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I learnt a lot from this

  • @bgsonsthriving.
    @bgsonsthriving. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤loving every bit of this conversation

  • @folushojoke6146
    @folushojoke6146 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this episode. I really learnt a lot from both of you ❤

  • @tutsypie
    @tutsypie 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Everyyyyy needs therapy...Wellll done TM👌👌👌

  • @anthoniabalogun
    @anthoniabalogun 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great conversation!

  • @UwaumaTSP
    @UwaumaTSP 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i enjoyed watching this video

  • @halimayahaya4114
    @halimayahaya4114 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Everybody should accept cheating has no gender. Women have endured a lot for a man's promiscuous attitude.
    Toke my darling, you are always speaking my mind. I love you and Toolz

  • @eucheriajoseph8390
    @eucheriajoseph8390 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Nice conversations and topics but I feel the guest is not open enough, Toke did most of the talking and the guest kept avoiding questions 😂 overall the show was amazing ❤

  • @theteawithjane3448
    @theteawithjane3448 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love it

  • @carolynololade4126
    @carolynololade4126 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Agba Presenters🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️

  • @theophiluschrislovely1879
    @theophiluschrislovely1879 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🎉🎉🎉Another Episode Thank You Tokstarr🎉❤

  • @themoneymo
    @themoneymo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love how Toke laughs😂🥰