I hate how so many parents of autistic kids have this "I'm such a good person for literally taking care of my child" mentality, like I'm sure it's hard to raise a kid, neurotypical or not, but you are not a hero for taking care of your child, that's what parents should do.
I don't think my parents had that mentality, but mistakes were made. My dad was hard on me at times and my mother seemed to believe that I couldn't do anything a so-called normal person could do. Both of them were guided in the wrong direction by the medical profession when it came to my well-being. I was put on Tegretol as a child and on Mellerill, Zyprexa, Solian and Risperdal in my 20s and 30s. I weaned myself off those medications in my 40s not long after my brother and sister-in-law were injured in a car accident, but my parents didn't wake up to the dangers of medical treatment until they were both diagnosed with cancer. Mum doesn't like me calling cancer a blessing in disguise, but to my mind it was. She and Dad woke up to the secrets and lies doctors tell patients. Too bad it happened forty years too late in my book. I have a long memory for slights and wrongs and I refuse to let certain neurotypicals forget them.
Yeah!!! My parents were/are rather abusive and they try to guilt me into apologising for my meltdowns that I can’t always help! According to them, because I’m “not that autistic”- no such thing ur either autistic or not- I should be grateful that they put up with me! Like noooo
About the "autism mum" thing, it makes so much sense what she's saying because you wouldn't call yourself a "disabled parent" if you have a disabled kid, only if you were disabled, and you wouldn't call yourself a "gay parent" if you had a gay kid, only if you yourself were gay.
Yeah like there's nothing wrong with parents of kids in these groups having a common denominator or finding community/support but said parents are not part of those communities period and shouldn't be using labels (or inserting themselves into spaces for those groups) unless they are explicitly welcomed into them, and that would be as allies and loved ones. Seems like is a big problem with autism spaces and communities especially for sure. It's really hard to find (local and not online) spaces which parents aren't either managing or expected to be in... obviously that's a lot to do with the whole problem of access to diagnosis/adults being undiagnosed/the weird belief that only male children have autism/etc but it's still really bizzaro. If I saw a group for trans folks I was interested in attending and parents were invited to every meeting I'd be very unlikely to attend.
The shirts designed for kids are literally just for moms who are embarrassed and want to yell out, “don’t blame me for the fact that my child is in a stressful and/or overwhelming situation that I put them in and is now having a meltdown!!” I know some people probably do have good INTENTIONS and think they’re “teaching others not to judge” or whatever, but no. You just don’t want people to think you’re a bad parent or whatever. Get over your shit 🤦🏻♀️
for me, i would have bought them... since people always told me exactly this cr.... Like "no, i don't harm my child because you don't want to educate yourself" also I never understood why they had a problem in the first place, my son always was a sweet child ... people even got to us when we were simply playing games while waiting for the bus ... it was just (i don't know if this is the right word for it) ... annoying
so egotistical. Beth, first people DO need to be educated or they will KILL autistics. Do you get it? you go to the store and have a meltdown and you want to keep it a secret as to why or how to help? education is going to save asd people. So many are killed bc they can't respond because they "look" normal
One thing that I noticed that all of those shirts had in common (besides the vaccine one) is an abundance of puzzle pieces. I was diagnosed earlier this year and was looking for something to buy and was getting distressed by how much of the merch was puzzle piece and/or light it up blue. I did manage to find a hoodie that said acceptance is the cure with a rainbow infinity sign and #redinstead written on it.
@@baddaybaking I got it on teechip, just looked up the one that I got and it said 'This campaign was taken down for content reasons' instead of where the item was. Don't know what is going on there, sorry I can't help.
For the longest time, I thought “autism mum” meant an Autistic person who is a mum. It was a disappointing time when I realised what it really meant. Honestly, I want to hear more from Autistic mothers in case I ever decide to be a mother myself. That’s not something I’m necessarily planning. I mean, I’m terrified of the idea because I can barely function to keep on top of things just for myself. I’m scared of how sensory issues would affect pregnancy and how I act (will it negatively affect the child?). There’s so many things. So hearing from Autistic mums would bring comfort. I know everyone is different, no 2 experiences are the same....but we will be able to relate to each other on some level, with some things, where Neurotypical people wouldn’t relate.
Mindful Divergence is autistic and has autistic children. She has videos on her channel about her experiences being autistic and raising autistic children as well as her life on general. I believe she's written a book too. You might have to go a ways back on her channel to find the videos though. She kinda took her channel in a different direction, so she doesn't always do the same types of videos anymore, but I'm sure you can find them if you take the time to look. 🙃
Wipe out autism? That would be a near impossible eugenics program, humans on this planet are too closely related to each other. I agree several of those shirts are a new version of the kick me sign. I love your Channel Chloe, I appreciate all I learn from you.
I recently bought a shirt with a matching pin on Redbubble that says “I’m not your (neuro)typical girl.” I can’t wait for them to arrive! 😆 I love your videos! You’re so sweet and inspiring!❤️🌼
@@-alfulk1245 no, I'm not interested, I was just describing an example of a good shirt vs a bad one, sorry to disappoint. Edit: comment got glitched/scrambled so I had to fix it
Oh man as a Christian also, that first one is enraging to me. The whole “society says I’m X, God says I’m Y” is like pretty exclusively used to refer to something shallow or sinful (for example ‘society says I’m ugly, God says I’m perfect’ or ‘society says I’m messed up , God says I’m saved’) which in itself is whatever, but when you put ‘autistic’ in that X spot, it’s heavily implying that autism is just some worldly made up label that we don’t need, or worse, that it’s a sin. Ughghhhh.
your positivity is so infectious. watching your videos make me feel so much more comfortable with being autistic. just seeing you embrace it is so inspirational :,,)
14:00 oof. a woman ranted to me in a grocery store that vaccines stole her son and ruined her life. she would definitely force him to wear this if she ever saw it online 🤢
You know what really ruins the life of an autistic? Antipsychotics that cause health problems and wreck your fertility. But maybe that's what these drug-pushing doctors want. They want to kill autistics, by any means possible. They want us out of the way.
She doesn't deserve to be a mother, whether a child is autistic or not. If she can't handle an autistic child, then she doesn't deserve a so-called normal one.
why do people hate it so much??? I don't understandddd! I was also told by someone recently that comic sans was created for dyslexic people,, and if that's true, it makes me think of how society and people don't like things that are different, and if people dislike comic sans because it's different and it's different for the purpose of dyslexic people, then it's only like one degree of separation, which seems really ableist to me. I am perplexed at why people hate it so much. I personally like it a lot!
If anyone is wondering, Yes, "they're a brat" or "they need a spanking" actually is what many people are thinking. I can tell from people's faces when they look at my disabled brother (who many people think is autistic) that they loathe him and us and think my mom must be a bad parent when he has a meltdown. P.S. Is it bad that I am autistic and want that vaccine shirt? X'D X'D X'D X'D X'D I have the most twisted sense of humor, sorry ^^
Maybe your sense of humor is twisted, but I'm right there with you XD It's like that line from Everything's Gonna Be Ok "I have autism. My dad biggest regret is vaccinating me. That's a joke."
I have written and published books before and things like that and have had my mom tell me it's so inspirational and it's so amazing because I am autistic, because I wasn't supposed to be able to talk, but because my mom worked with me I was able to accomplish that. Like can't you be proud of the amazing things I do regardless of whether or not I "Defied" expectations of what Autism looks like?
New to the channel and as someone who is not Neuro typical I appreciate that she isn't looking at the camera. It makes he seem more comfortable and like I'm watching one of my friends rant about something they care about. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love your outfit in this video. I thought the shirt was just a butterfly shirt at first which butterflies is one of my special interest. Dinosaurs is another one for me. Like Everything in this outfit is a thing I love. It’s awesome and I love your content.
Thank you for this. When you mentioned the one shirt that says this is what Autism looks like and kick me sign, I DID actually have a kick me sign on my back when I was in 4th grade. It definitely happens. It's not fun. I've seen a lot of these shirts and roll my eyes.
My son is almost 5 and I don't think I'd consider t-shirts at all at this age... maybe when he's older he can choose for himself :) I likely have ADHD (not diagnosed but pretty darn sure lol) and have been made to feel like something is wrong with me. I don't want that to happen to him *as much as possible* (can't control what the rest of the world does)
I am watching this video wondering why my fixated topic of dinosaurs from when I was 8 suddenly entered my brain, and then I noticed the ear rings. I love them, they are gorgeous.
I appreciate you calling out the first shirt. I'm going through an experience of people making fun of my disabilities and patronizing me while simultaneously love bombing me. It feels a lot like that shirt,. Overwhelming, like I should be grateful but I'm instead really uncomfortable and emotionally fatigued.
My mother had me diagnosed or had me tested even though there was obvious signs of it. She liked to make sure the whole family made me wear the t-shirt; but made me out to be batshit crazy!! I am 50 and only now going for an autistic test.
When I have children and they get starred at for anything 'embarrassing' I start to flap and wave my arms with the bear shirt on yelling: nothing is happening over there, watch me, I'm autistic and I'm here.
Yes! Hardly any autistic creators have talked about this. However, I don't think Chloe has/had selective mutism so she might not be best placed to talk about it.
Wrt to the “you need a spanking” comment….as a person from the Deep South, you’d be surprised 😬 I worked at a pool for the past few summers and I had multiple (usually older) people tell me, as they watched the kids there acting crazy, that they needed a spanking (or sometimes “a good whuppin’”). And yes, I agree that they need therapy 🙄
Oop did i just loose a chunk of my followers for saying that.... honestly hun, if you lost followers for that you don’t want those kind of people as followers anyway 😘😘🥰🥰 You’re so awesome
I am with you on almost all these shirts. Depending on where in the spectrum of autism one's child is, at times in your life that is all you are an Autism Mom. I have at times in my life without the "autism " in front been only a "MoM" what ever falls under the Umbrella of a MOTHER/MOM for 24 hours, 7 days a week and ever single day of the month and years because I have to be the main/only caregiver for my children. I know that when children are diagnosed early in life parents get help. I have never gotten any. The more I learn about Austim, I think that I am an Autism Mom like, I have Autism.
Maaaaan...😐 idek what to say. I see that puzzle piece and it takes me right back to when I was in school and they put me in with kids that were truly handicapped; having me recite basic patterns n such. It was like I was in preschool again. Its definitely triggering. It disturbs me that autism is so misunderstood.
It disturbs me that in 2023, no effort is being made on the part of neurotypicals, particularly those who hold positions of authority (I'm looking at you, teachers, because I haven't forgotten how I was made to feel stupid by the likes of you). Fellow students who bully autistics don't always know better, but teachers should know better. Still, I've found my own way of dealing with them, by not attending school reunions and cutting off all contact with anyone from those days. I had to do that for the sake of my own peace of mind. If any more invites do come, I will simply ask that my name be removed from their invite list.
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Those shirts were awful, but really 90% of all message shirts are cringy, embarrassing and lame, regardless of the topic, from KISS ME, I'M POLISH to LEXICOGRAPHERS HAVE BIG DICTIONARIES. They all seem to bear the message: LOOK AT ME, I'M A JERK IN AN UGLY T-SHIRT THAT FAILS MISERABLY AT BEING CLEVER. I'd like to see a video where you show shirts with actually valid messages about autism... I mean there's got to be a few.
One of the few times I wear a messaged shirt in public, it's the one that says, "I came, I saw. I had anxiety, so I left." Because, jfc, I have never found a shirt more relatable!
Goodness, gracious me! What a cringefest, mate! If I were autistic (which I suspect I am), I'd rather wear the shirt of my favourite band instead (yup, I'm a metalhead), and I'll make sure my future children (who might probably inherit my alleged autism) would dress like the neurotypical kids. It's not masking; it's just using common sense. I appreciate what you do, Chloé. You gained another subscriber. :)
I second that. I wish I'd had the confidence to do what you're doing at your age, Chloé. Unfortunately I grew up at a time when girls were taught to "be polite and not make a scene." "Respect your elders and betters" was one gem Dad passed on to me. I agree with that, up to a point, because I have witnessed so-called "elders and betters" not behaving as they should. I'm sure I'm not the only autistic to see how fake and hypocritical neurotypicals can be.
Totally feel that! I (autistic as well) would like to have a cool League of Legends T-Shirt, but till now all those I’ve found are a tiny bit cringe and I wouldn’t dare to wear them in public xD
I have so many issues about parents who act like thier child's diagnosis is something for them to disclose on the internet/on a t-shirt. Each of us deserves as much autonomy as possible.
Even the world is raging with you. Natural support at it's finest :D I know there is a seriousness to this video, but heck was I in stitches watching this. The t-shirts were BEYOND bad, they were so bad they're satire. The Trump line had me falling out of my seat. Thank you for making such a fun video out of a dark topic, and for providing amazing education without making it feel overwhelming.
design-wise, the "wipe out" shirt doesn't make sense. Maybe more like "wave away", but I guess that doesn't sound "drastic" enough... Those shirts and stuff all are aweful! I totally agree with you and your points!
Im so tempted to like steal a I love someone with autism shirt (cause don’t support autism speaks) I saw at the store once and fabric marker myself under it think I’d be funny
The "I am not a brat or spoiled and I don't need a spanking, I have autism" shirt makes me cringe big time. For one thing, being bratty/spoiled and being autistic are unrelated traits, with the former (bratty/spoiled) being a trait related to parenting, and the kid in said shirt may possibly be legitimately bratty (since parents bad enough to select that shirt would raise the kid poorly) and the false association between the two traits will ruin the reputation of other autistic people along with the wearer since the shirt blames autism for bratty and spoiled behavior, and for another thing, spanking is a bad parenting method regardless of what the kid is like. TL/DR, crappy shirt, selected by crappy parents, associates two unrelated traits and makes autistic kids look bad, while also suggesting a crappy parenting method.
I'm one of those who read at an advanced level before I got to school. If I'd been diagnosed back in the day, and those shirts existed I can absolutely see wearing one of the horrible shirts and knowing what it says and feeling it's horrible... But, as an appeasing masking little bunny I would have suffered and felt stupid and felt I was overreacting. Soooooo... Guess folks are just kind of latching onto the physical world sensitivity issues--- but somehow, we're not sensitive to patronizing, dehumanizing condescending crud like this?!? I don't know where it crept into NT brains that we are oblivious.
Decades ago, it was believed that autistic children were Not People - they were empty vessels that had to be _made into people._ Hence ABA… and this mentality. It's disgusting and wrong.
I know all too well what ableism is about. I've heard all the offensive words under the sun, having been a child of the 70s. Years ago I found them hurtful. Now I've gotten to an age where I'm done with believing that the prejudices of ableists is my problem, because it's not. It never was. I wasn't as savvy then as I am now. But who ever is?
I pick up on these things too in things some people say (like on the disney shirt/ after finding i was autistic (age)44 ) i thought autistic people couldnt get this so started to doubt i was caused confusion - must be another MYTH- So glad you are honest and yourself TY
I am a 41 year old Nuerodivergent and probably autistic mom (diagnosed adhd at 16 but trying to find an autism diagnosis as I have only recently understood females on the spectrum)……anyway I love your videos and I apologize I am not a big commenter……but I had to comment because 1. I wish I was able to be diagnosed at your age…..but really because I AM OBSESSED with your earrings and am far more jealous of them.…I also agree so much with you and am so proud of all the wonderfully creative and brave young girls creating content that is so helpful….even for people old enough to be your mom. You are an inspiration for anyone who faces any kind of difficulty, which all humans will at some time for some reason, and demonstrate how to be successful because of and despite of that which could be a roadblock. I hope that made some kind of sense….I really want dinosaur earrings and I am far too old….but maybe not at home!
You made some really awesome points about the designs you pointed out! And you were pretty spot on with what you said. As for the font..... It's a bit of a typography thing. And takes into account the way our eyes look at things and in what order, though it's not been done very well here. And I think, to mimic meams. But you're totally right! There's no need for so many different fonts, and it's not aesthetically pleasing.... Never mind the erm... Messages???! I think some of the messages probably relate more to NT parents experiences and struggles with other people's behaviour and actions, and I get the frustration, but it's really not cool to make your kid a walking billboard for your frustrations.
When I discovered my Neurodiversity, I finally felt validated. I got a hoodie that says Neurodiverse, and a t-shirt that says 'we can't all be neurotypical Karen' did I buy my own kick me sign? I was going to get an infinity tattoo, but have now decided to wait. My intention to point at in times of need, but now concerned outing myself may be dangerous. I am not ashamed of being neurodivergent, but in a closed minded society, there's a good reason I've masked for decades, not knowing I was neurodivergent. 😪
From a graphic design standpoint, I think that these shirts are designed by the parents themselves and printed at local print shops. There is no graphic designer that would design this garbage. Most of these fonts are actively derided in online graphic design communities, the designs themselves are atrocious and follow no rules of graphic design.
Just clicked for me while watching this video how condescending puzzle pieces are in "autism awareness" clothing. And tbf, I wouldn't want to wear articles of clothing with puzzle piece designs on it, because it keeps reminding me of children's play rooms in medical places and wigs me out. As in, my brain draws the parallel of how designers of these clothes seem to view anyone with autism as children, and refuse to acknowledge how shitty that looks.
Hey Chloe, may I ask what your opinion on the Infinity Rainbow is like? I agree with you 1000% on the puzzle piece. I went to check your store to see if you had any shirts with the IR symbol, but didn't see any.
I dunno, the “proof vaccines cause autism” shirt seems like it would be very funny to wear. (Said as an autistic adult, considering one for me cause seems ridiculous … though hate text on shirts so probably not)
That first one just reminds me of what must have happened when the Gods made me! Lol Odin: I will give this man a righteous and noble soul. He was strive to do what’s right and live in devotion to the Aesir and Our law. Hoenir: I will give this man a creative and inquisitive mind. He will have an ear for music, a love of story telling, and desire to know the deepest truths of the cosmos. Lodurr: *stumbles in drunk* Imma give him a shit ton of hair! Like…take a monkey n just put it on him! Robin Williams ain’t got shit on this guy! Hoenir: Uh…brother, I think you’re forgetting his brain. Lodurr: Oh, fuck! You’re right! Let’s see here…*rummages around in pockets* Here we go! Little brainy box! Boop! Odin: Uh…Lodurr? What is that? Lodurr: Issa brain! Odin: It doesn’t have olfactory bulbs. And the cerebellums kinda messed up. And it doesn’t processes serotonin correctly. And it’s held together with paper clips and string. Lodurr: Yep, sound good to me! *sends my soul up to Midgard* Odin: Well, this is going to be interesting. Lodurr…I think it’s time for an intervention!
Oh my goodness that shirt with the dabbing bears is hilarious in it's failure to be cool. I totally get what you're saying about how it's something that would be bought with good intentions but is still a fail. As an autistic person myself I can't even imagine my own mom wearing it - the mental image had me cringe-laughing, but I can imagine how a kid would probably not be impressed and more than likely be embarrassed to be seen around their mom while she's wearing that. Also it's a graphic design catastrophe 🤣
As an adult, I would totally wear the “ask my mom” shirt ironically. I’m 23, you’re not actually gonna ask my mom. But for a kid to wear it in a serious context is pretty sketchy.
I know we struggle with second degree, but I think some of the tee-shirts are jokey! For some of them I'm not sure. Also, I think one of the reason to put tee-shirts on children are a way to avoid bad reactions from people around who don't know about autism, or would juge the child or parent(s). It might be socially accepted to act mean to a child who's being noisy or not compliant, so maybe parents hope that people will be kinder if they know the child is not annoying but just disabled.
I hate how so many parents of autistic kids have this "I'm such a good person for literally taking care of my child" mentality, like I'm sure it's hard to raise a kid, neurotypical or not, but you are not a hero for taking care of your child, that's what parents should do.
I don't think my parents had that mentality, but mistakes were made. My dad was hard on me at times and my mother seemed to believe that I couldn't do anything a so-called normal person could do. Both of them were guided in the wrong direction by the medical profession when it came to my well-being. I was put on Tegretol as a child and on Mellerill, Zyprexa, Solian and Risperdal in my 20s and 30s. I weaned myself off those medications in my 40s not long after my brother and sister-in-law were injured in a car accident, but my parents didn't wake up to the dangers of medical treatment until they were both diagnosed with cancer. Mum doesn't like me calling cancer a blessing in disguise, but to my mind it was. She and Dad woke up to the secrets and lies doctors tell patients. Too bad it happened forty years too late in my book. I have a long memory for slights and wrongs and I refuse to let certain neurotypicals forget them.
Yeah!!! My parents were/are rather abusive and they try to guilt me into apologising for my meltdowns that I can’t always help! According to them, because I’m “not that autistic”- no such thing ur either autistic or not- I should be grateful that they put up with me!
Like noooo
About the "autism mum" thing, it makes so much sense what she's saying because you wouldn't call yourself a "disabled parent" if you have a disabled kid, only if you were disabled, and you wouldn't call yourself a "gay parent" if you had a gay kid, only if you yourself were gay.
Yeah like there's nothing wrong with parents of kids in these groups having a common denominator or finding community/support but said parents are not part of those communities period and shouldn't be using labels (or inserting themselves into spaces for those groups) unless they are explicitly welcomed into them, and that would be as allies and loved ones.
Seems like is a big problem with autism spaces and communities especially for sure. It's really hard to find (local and not online) spaces which parents aren't either managing or expected to be in... obviously that's a lot to do with the whole problem of access to diagnosis/adults being undiagnosed/the weird belief that only male children have autism/etc but it's still really bizzaro. If I saw a group for trans folks I was interested in attending and parents were invited to every meeting I'd be very unlikely to attend.
The shirts designed for kids are literally just for moms who are embarrassed and want to yell out, “don’t blame me for the fact that my child is in a stressful and/or overwhelming situation that I put them in and is now having a meltdown!!” I know some people probably do have good INTENTIONS and think they’re “teaching others not to judge” or whatever, but no. You just don’t want people to think you’re a bad parent or whatever. Get over your shit 🤦🏻♀️
Sounds like my stepmom. She loved to advertise my diagnosis and get attention and sympathy from strangers
for me, i would have bought them... since people always told me exactly this cr.... Like "no, i don't harm my child because you don't want to educate yourself" also I never understood why they had a problem in the first place, my son always was a sweet child ... people even got to us when we were simply playing games while waiting for the bus ... it was just (i don't know if this is the right word for it) ... annoying
so egotistical. Beth, first people DO need to be educated or they will KILL autistics. Do you get it? you go to the store and have a meltdown and you want to keep it a secret as to why or how to help? education is going to save asd people. So many are killed bc they can't respond because they "look" normal
One t-shirt I saw on a child said: "I have autism. What's your excuse?"
@@sharonjensen3016 I’M sorry, excuse me while I vomit
"there should be a trigger warning for how bad these are" -Chloe 2021
Yay I got a heart on my comment! Thanks Chloe!
@@itsmads. I am glad you a heart
@@nicholasclaus9695 Aw thanks!
One thing that I noticed that all of those shirts had in common (besides the vaccine one) is an abundance of puzzle pieces. I was diagnosed earlier this year and was looking for something to buy and was getting distressed by how much of the merch was puzzle piece and/or light it up blue. I did manage to find a hoodie that said acceptance is the cure with a rainbow infinity sign and #redinstead written on it.
Actually I like puzzles, but I agree that using a puzzle pictograph is a bit condescending.
You could also get Chloe’s merch (u saw she mentioned it at the beginning) i like her “beauty in neurodiversity” even though im neurotypical
@@elisei.c.4079 Yep just purchased her hoodie, the t-shirts are only in kids at the moment. First TH-camr/influencer that I have bought their merch
link plz
@@baddaybaking I got it on teechip, just looked up the one that I got and it said 'This campaign was taken down for content reasons' instead of where the item was. Don't know what is going on there, sorry I can't help.
I have Cerebral Palsy and I'm in the process of designing my own disability shirts. What the hell is this ableist crap??
What are the shirts going to look like? If you're ready to share, of course.
For the longest time, I thought “autism mum” meant an Autistic person who is a mum. It was a disappointing time when I realised what it really meant.
Honestly, I want to hear more from Autistic mothers in case I ever decide to be a mother myself. That’s not something I’m necessarily planning. I mean, I’m terrified of the idea because I can barely function to keep on top of things just for myself. I’m scared of how sensory issues would affect pregnancy and how I act (will it negatively affect the child?).
There’s so many things.
So hearing from Autistic mums would bring comfort. I know everyone is different, no 2 experiences are the same....but we will be able to relate to each other on some level, with some things, where Neurotypical people wouldn’t relate.
Yo Samdy Sam has some videos on being an autistic mom
Mom on the spectrum is another channel you might wanna check out
Mindful Divergence is autistic and has autistic children. She has videos on her channel about her experiences being autistic and raising autistic children as well as her life on general. I believe she's written a book too.
You might have to go a ways back on her channel to find the videos though. She kinda took her channel in a different direction, so she doesn't always do the same types of videos anymore, but I'm sure you can find them if you take the time to look. 🙃
@@---nobody--- Mindful Divergence made a new channel for autism-related content specifically. It's called Autistic Alien
@@shadowfox933 Oh, cool thank you!
Wipe out autism? That would be a near impossible eugenics program, humans on this planet are too closely related to each other.
I agree several of those shirts are a new version of the kick me sign.
I love your Channel Chloe, I appreciate all I learn from you.
Maybe this slogan should be on a t-shirt: "Your ableism? Not. My. Problem."
I recently bought a shirt with a matching pin on Redbubble that says “I’m not your (neuro)typical girl.” I can’t wait for them to arrive! 😆 I love your videos! You’re so sweet and inspiring!❤️🌼
If you want an autism shirt what you want to be like ?
@@-alfulk1245 like the shirt she bought
@@aquabluerose7734 I can made it for you if you want ☺️ and you can get it from Amazon
@@-alfulk1245 no, I'm not interested, I was just describing an example of a good shirt vs a bad one, sorry to disappoint.
Edit: comment got glitched/scrambled so I had to fix it
Ok my comment still looks bugged, idk what's going on with TH-cam
Oh man as a Christian also, that first one is enraging to me. The whole “society says I’m X, God says I’m Y” is like pretty exclusively used to refer to something shallow or sinful (for example ‘society says I’m ugly, God says I’m perfect’ or ‘society says I’m messed up , God says I’m saved’) which in itself is whatever, but when you put ‘autistic’ in that X spot, it’s heavily implying that autism is just some worldly made up label that we don’t need, or worse, that it’s a sin. Ughghhhh.
I know 😭 i can't stand when people do this
I misread that as society says I'm God. Either way, the society says _ and God says _ is dumb.
@@moxiemouse24 its been proven, autistic people are gods. /j
@@emd4390 my world now >:D
You completly missed Chloe’s point about this .
your positivity is so infectious. watching your videos make me feel so much more comfortable with being autistic. just seeing you embrace it is so inspirational :,,)
me too😍
14:00 oof. a woman ranted to me in a grocery store that vaccines stole her son and ruined her life. she would definitely force him to wear this if she ever saw it online 🤢
That's one awful Mom. 😠 Sorry you had to go through that.
You know what really ruins the life of an autistic? Antipsychotics that cause health problems and wreck your fertility. But maybe that's what these drug-pushing doctors want. They want to kill autistics, by any means possible. They want us out of the way.
That mom is terrible!!😠
She doesn't deserve to be a mother, whether a child is autistic or not. If she can't handle an autistic child, then she doesn't deserve a so-called normal one.
I have a t-shirt that says "My brain has too many tabs open"
Chloé going after comic sans is everything👏👌
why do people hate it so much??? I don't understandddd! I was also told by someone recently that comic sans was created for dyslexic people,, and if that's true, it makes me think of how society and people don't like things that are different, and if people dislike comic sans because it's different and it's different for the purpose of dyslexic people, then it's only like one degree of separation, which seems really ableist to me. I am perplexed at why people hate it so much. I personally like it a lot!
If anyone is wondering, Yes, "they're a brat" or "they need a spanking" actually is what many people are thinking. I can tell from people's faces when they look at my disabled brother (who many people think is autistic) that they loathe him and us and think my mom must be a bad parent when he has a meltdown. P.S. Is it bad that I am autistic and want that vaccine shirt? X'D X'D X'D X'D X'D I have the most twisted sense of humor, sorry ^^
Maybe your sense of humor is twisted, but I'm right there with you XD
It's like that line from Everything's Gonna Be Ok "I have autism. My dad biggest regret is vaccinating me. That's a joke."
Hey I laughed too.
Hey Chloé, I'm autistic and I have a t-shirt with a bird on it that says 'i get flappy when I'm happy'. What do you think?
It was really nice meeting you the other day and I'm asking my mom to get me a beauty in neurodiversity shirt for Christmas!
Someone should make a shirt that says
“Autism Speaks? More Like Ableism Shut Up Amirite?”
PLEASE MAKE THIS REAL
How about: "Autism Speaks? More like Autism Sneaks."
Its pretty ironic how belittled this type of "awareness" can make us feel. It just reads like a confirmation of our inferiority... get it right...
The "this is what autism looks like" t-shirt is pretty fun to wear if you're over 50
The dinosaur earrings are cute as heck!
Totally off the topic and might sound weird but I like how we can see the laundry hanging outside your window, it gives me the cozy homey feel haha
I have written and published books before and things like that and have had my mom tell me it's so inspirational and it's so amazing because I am autistic, because I wasn't supposed to be able to talk, but because my mom worked with me I was able to accomplish that. Like can't you be proud of the amazing things I do regardless of whether or not I "Defied" expectations of what Autism looks like?
New to the channel and as someone who is not Neuro typical I appreciate that she isn't looking at the camera. It makes he seem more comfortable and like I'm watching one of my friends rant about something they care about. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love your outfit in this video. I thought the shirt was just a butterfly shirt at first which butterflies is one of my special interest. Dinosaurs is another one for me. Like Everything in this outfit is a thing I love. It’s awesome and I love your content.
I LOVE YOUR DINOSAUR EARRINGS!
Thank you for this. When you mentioned the one shirt that says this is what Autism looks like and kick me sign, I DID actually have a kick me sign on my back when I was in 4th grade. It definitely happens. It's not fun. I've seen a lot of these shirts and roll my eyes.
That make autism go away thing just made me think of eugenics, maby its just my historian brain going into overdrive but yeah!
duh
My son is almost 5 and I don't think I'd consider t-shirts at all at this age... maybe when he's older he can choose for himself :) I likely have ADHD (not diagnosed but pretty darn sure lol) and have been made to feel like something is wrong with me. I don't want that to happen to him *as much as possible* (can't control what the rest of the world does)
@ferret yeah who knows 😆. I do want to get evaluated at some point
The fact that there are puzzle pieces on many of these sure explains their ableist messages... Ugh.
I am watching this video wondering why my fixated topic of dinosaurs from when I was 8 suddenly entered my brain, and then I noticed the ear rings. I love them, they are gorgeous.
I appreciate you calling out the first shirt. I'm going through an experience of people making fun of my disabilities and patronizing me while simultaneously love bombing me. It feels a lot like that shirt,. Overwhelming, like I should be grateful but I'm instead really uncomfortable and emotionally fatigued.
Totally off topic but i love your hair in this video super cute
My mother had me diagnosed or had me tested even though there was obvious signs of it. She liked to make sure the whole family made me wear the t-shirt; but made me out to be batshit crazy!! I am 50 and only now going for an autistic test.
When I have children and they get starred at for anything 'embarrassing' I start to flap and wave my arms with the bear shirt on yelling: nothing is happening over there, watch me, I'm autistic and I'm here.
DINO EARRINGS??? I LOVD THOSE
Dinos 4 evar.
THE DABBING BEAR SHIRT MADE ME SCREECH
You should make a video about selective mutism
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@@FemboyBlake I’m confused
Yes! Hardly any autistic creators have talked about this. However, I don't think Chloe has/had selective mutism so she might not be best placed to talk about it.
Wrt to the “you need a spanking” comment….as a person from the Deep South, you’d be surprised 😬 I worked at a pool for the past few summers and I had multiple (usually older) people tell me, as they watched the kids there acting crazy, that they needed a spanking (or sometimes “a good whuppin’”). And yes, I agree that they need therapy 🙄
Oop did i just loose a chunk of my followers for saying that.... honestly hun, if you lost followers for that you don’t want those kind of people as followers anyway 😘😘🥰🥰 You’re so awesome
Exactly. Politics doesn't have to run people's lives. Even if it goes the other way, it's still good riddance
Autism has its advantages, such as knowing who your real friends and supporters are.
No puzzles 🧩 please
NOT ME GETTING AN AD UNDER THE VIDEO FOR ABA THERAPY
I am with you on almost all these shirts. Depending on where in the spectrum of autism one's child is, at times in your life that is all you are an Autism Mom. I have at times in my life without the "autism " in front been only a "MoM" what ever falls under the Umbrella of a MOTHER/MOM for 24 hours, 7 days a week and ever single day of the month and years because I have to be the main/only caregiver for my children. I know that when children are diagnosed early in life parents get help. I have never gotten any.
The more I learn about Austim, I think that I am an Autism Mom like, I have Autism.
Maaaaan...😐 idek what to say. I see that puzzle piece and it takes me right back to when I was in school and they put me in with kids that were truly handicapped; having me recite basic patterns n such. It was like I was in preschool again. Its definitely triggering. It disturbs me that autism is so misunderstood.
It disturbs me that in 2023, no effort is being made on the part of neurotypicals, particularly those who hold positions of authority (I'm looking at you, teachers, because I haven't forgotten how I was made to feel stupid by the likes of you). Fellow students who bully autistics don't always know better, but teachers should know better. Still, I've found my own way of dealing with them, by not attending school reunions
and cutting off all contact with anyone from those days. I had to do that for the sake of my own peace of mind. If any more invites do come, I will simply ask that my name be removed from their invite list.
I'd wear a red ballcap saying "I'm autistic, I will not go away."
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Those shirts were awful, but really 90% of all message shirts are cringy, embarrassing and lame, regardless of the topic, from KISS ME, I'M POLISH to LEXICOGRAPHERS HAVE BIG DICTIONARIES. They all seem to bear the message: LOOK AT ME, I'M A JERK IN AN UGLY T-SHIRT THAT FAILS MISERABLY AT BEING CLEVER. I'd like to see a video where you show shirts with actually valid messages about autism... I mean there's got to be a few.
One of the few times I wear a messaged shirt in public, it's the one that says, "I came, I saw. I had anxiety, so I left."
Because, jfc, I have never found a shirt more relatable!
Goodness, gracious me! What a cringefest, mate!
If I were autistic (which I suspect I am), I'd rather wear the shirt of my favourite band instead (yup, I'm a metalhead), and I'll make sure my future children (who might probably inherit my alleged autism) would dress like the neurotypical kids.
It's not masking; it's just using common sense.
I appreciate what you do, Chloé. You gained another subscriber. :)
I second that. I wish I'd had the confidence to do what you're doing at your age, Chloé. Unfortunately I grew up at a time when girls were taught to "be polite and not make a scene." "Respect your elders and betters" was one gem Dad passed on to me. I agree with that, up to a point, because I have witnessed so-called "elders and betters" not behaving as they should. I'm sure I'm not the only autistic to see how fake and hypocritical neurotypicals can be.
Totally feel that! I (autistic as well) would like to have a cool League of Legends T-Shirt, but till now all those I’ve found are a tiny bit cringe and I wouldn’t dare to wear them in public xD
Sweet Jesus these are things that exist! Just,.... WOW
I have so many issues about parents who act like thier child's diagnosis is something for them to disclose on the internet/on a t-shirt. Each of us deserves as much autonomy as possible.
Even the world is raging with you. Natural support at it's finest :D
I know there is a seriousness to this video, but heck was I in stitches watching this. The t-shirts were BEYOND bad, they were so bad they're satire. The Trump line had me falling out of my seat. Thank you for making such a fun video out of a dark topic, and for providing amazing education without making it feel overwhelming.
design-wise, the "wipe out" shirt doesn't make sense. Maybe more like "wave away", but I guess that doesn't sound "drastic" enough...
Those shirts and stuff all are aweful! I totally agree with you and your points!
A "wipe out" in surfing is when somebody falls off the board, failing like the person who made the design.
Im so tempted to like steal a I love someone with autism shirt (cause don’t support autism speaks) I saw at the store once and fabric marker myself under it think I’d be funny
The "I am not a brat or spoiled and I don't need a spanking, I have autism" shirt makes me cringe big time. For one thing, being bratty/spoiled and being autistic are unrelated traits, with the former (bratty/spoiled) being a trait related to parenting, and the kid in said shirt may possibly be legitimately bratty (since parents bad enough to select that shirt would raise the kid poorly) and the false association between the two traits will ruin the reputation of other autistic people along with the wearer since the shirt blames autism for bratty and spoiled behavior, and for another thing, spanking is a bad parenting method regardless of what the kid is like.
TL/DR, crappy shirt, selected by crappy parents, associates two unrelated traits and makes autistic kids look bad, while also suggesting a crappy parenting method.
My neuronormal mums most common line "there's definitely something wrong with you, you definitely have some mental disorder"
I'm one of those who read at an advanced level before I got to school. If I'd been diagnosed back in the day, and those shirts existed I can absolutely see wearing one of the horrible shirts and knowing what it says and feeling it's horrible... But, as an appeasing masking little bunny I would have suffered and felt stupid and felt I was overreacting.
Soooooo... Guess folks are just kind of latching onto the physical world sensitivity issues--- but somehow, we're not sensitive to patronizing, dehumanizing condescending crud like this?!?
I don't know where it crept into NT brains that we are oblivious.
Decades ago, it was believed that autistic children were Not People - they were empty vessels that had to be _made into people._ Hence ABA… and this mentality. It's disgusting and wrong.
I know all too well what ableism is about. I've heard all the offensive words under the sun, having been a child of the 70s. Years ago I found them hurtful. Now I've gotten to an age where I'm done with believing that the prejudices of ableists is my problem, because it's not. It never was. I wasn't as savvy then as I am now. But who ever is?
The amount of infantilization that comes from these shirts and “autism moms” shocks me every time even when I think I’ve prepared myself.
You have the cutest personality! I just finished heartbreak high and I loved it. You’ve just gained a new neurodivergent fan!
The irony of it being a cat in the last one is palpable.
I like how you say butterflies in the intro. In Alaskan native culture if you are not a member of a clan or an outsider you are called a butterfly.
I pick up on these things too in things some people say (like on the disney shirt/ after finding i was autistic (age)44 ) i thought autistic people couldnt get this so started to doubt i was caused confusion - must be another MYTH- So glad you are honest and yourself TY
Thank you for meeting me the other day I really enjoyed our chat I still need to get your merch it’s so cute !
I am a 41 year old Nuerodivergent and probably autistic mom (diagnosed adhd at 16 but trying to find an autism diagnosis as I have only recently understood females on the spectrum)……anyway I love your videos and I apologize I am not a big commenter……but I had to comment because 1. I wish I was able to be diagnosed at your age…..but really because I AM OBSESSED with your earrings and am far more jealous of them.…I also agree so much with you and am so proud of all the wonderfully creative and brave young girls creating content that is so helpful….even for people old enough to be your mom. You are an inspiration for anyone who faces any kind of difficulty, which all humans will at some time for some reason, and demonstrate how to be successful because of and despite of that which could be a roadblock. I hope that made some kind of sense….I really want dinosaur earrings and I am far too old….but maybe not at home!
Your Dinosaur earrings are super cool, and very cute
It’s the fact that the people who made these t-shirts didn’t even try to hide their ableism for me
I have the Dab one, i refuse to use, i want to throw on the trash but my brother gave to me
I saw one that said "be patient with me i have owotism" when trying to find some merch with furry stuff on it 😭😂
... Whoever made that, I hope their bacon turns to charcoal. And if they don't eat pork, may their salads catch on fire.
The fact that all the puzzle piece t-shirts are in primary colours is so infantilizing too, somehow
You made some really awesome points about the designs you pointed out! And you were pretty spot on with what you said.
As for the font..... It's a bit of a typography thing. And takes into account the way our eyes look at things and in what order, though it's not been done very well here. And I think, to mimic meams. But you're totally right! There's no need for so many different fonts, and it's not aesthetically pleasing.... Never mind the erm... Messages???!
I think some of the messages probably relate more to NT parents experiences and struggles with other people's behaviour and actions, and I get the frustration, but it's really not cool to make your kid a walking billboard for your frustrations.
When I discovered my Neurodiversity, I finally felt validated. I got a hoodie that says Neurodiverse, and a t-shirt that says 'we can't all be neurotypical Karen' did I buy my own kick me sign?
I was going to get an infinity tattoo, but have now decided to wait. My intention to point at in times of need, but now concerned outing myself may be dangerous. I am not ashamed of being neurodivergent, but in a closed minded society, there's a good reason I've masked for decades, not knowing I was neurodivergent. 😪
I kinda want that bears dabbing t-shirt. Ironically of course. It's so funny
From a graphic design standpoint, I think that these shirts are designed by the parents themselves and printed at local print shops. There is no graphic designer that would design this garbage. Most of these fonts are actively derided in online graphic design communities, the designs themselves are atrocious and follow no rules of graphic design.
I really appreciate you covering this, cheers for the share!
I just wanna say I love the outfit you are wearing!!!!
Can we also talk about the presence of the puzzle piece on many of these t-shirts?
woops just watched more of the video and realized it was mentioned. Sorry.
@@aaausername It's ok!
Just clicked for me while watching this video how condescending puzzle pieces are in "autism awareness" clothing. And tbf, I wouldn't want to wear articles of clothing with puzzle piece designs on it, because it keeps reminding me of children's play rooms in medical places and wigs me out. As in, my brain draws the parallel of how designers of these clothes seem to view anyone with autism as children, and refuse to acknowledge how shitty that looks.
Yay I got the first comment! Love you Chloe! You are such a good role model!
uhm if one of my parents would ever have worn one of these shirts or put me into anything like that i think i would‘ve put myself up for adoption
Hey Chloe, may I ask what your opinion on the Infinity Rainbow is like?
I agree with you 1000% on the puzzle piece. I went to check your store to see if you had any shirts with the IR symbol, but didn't see any.
God had fun making us autistic
i love the fact that i found a Christian autistic TH-camr, THANK YOU for talking
Kinda random but your outfit was super cute in this video!
I dunno, the “proof vaccines cause autism” shirt seems like it would be very funny to wear. (Said as an autistic adult, considering one for me cause seems ridiculous … though hate text on shirts so probably not)
I was looking for this comment because SAME
11:39 "I've seen you in the wild before" 🤣
These shirts get a Big Yikes from me. I love your dino earrings, Chloe! Your shirt is lovely, too.
I'm an Autism mom because my son and I were both diagnosed and I still wouldn't wear that dabbing bears shirt 😂🤦♀️
“Ooop did I just loose a chunk of my followers for saying that?…
Anyway movie on!”
😂😂😂
I love your earrings so much 🦕🦕
i absolutely love your laugh , its so infectious! i love ittt
Good day fellow autistic Chloe! Except my name is spelt Chloë and yours is Chloé!! I love that.
One of my older cousin's names is Chloe! Chloe, Chloë and Chloé!!
That first one just reminds me of what must have happened when the Gods made me! Lol
Odin: I will give this man a righteous and noble soul. He was strive to do what’s right and live in devotion to the Aesir and Our law.
Hoenir: I will give this man a creative and inquisitive mind. He will have an ear for music, a love of story telling, and desire to know the deepest truths of the cosmos.
Lodurr: *stumbles in drunk* Imma give him a shit ton of hair! Like…take a monkey n just put it on him! Robin Williams ain’t got shit on this guy!
Hoenir: Uh…brother, I think you’re forgetting his brain.
Lodurr: Oh, fuck! You’re right! Let’s see here…*rummages around in pockets* Here we go! Little brainy box! Boop!
Odin: Uh…Lodurr? What is that?
Lodurr: Issa brain!
Odin: It doesn’t have olfactory bulbs. And the cerebellums kinda messed up. And it doesn’t processes serotonin correctly. And it’s held together with paper clips and string.
Lodurr: Yep, sound good to me! *sends my soul up to Midgard*
Odin: Well, this is going to be interesting. Lodurr…I think it’s time for an intervention!
anyone else just wanting to fetch that washing in out of the rain ?
I still say my parents should write a book, for the great job they did raising my Autistic ass.
That one in the thumbnail already 🙄 these are gonna be fun to see you tear into at the very least
Was going to comment this but you already did :D
Loving the earrings
Oh my goodness that shirt with the dabbing bears is hilarious in it's failure to be cool. I totally get what you're saying about how it's something that would be bought with good intentions but is still a fail. As an autistic person myself I can't even imagine my own mom wearing it - the mental image had me cringe-laughing, but I can imagine how a kid would probably not be impressed and more than likely be embarrassed to be seen around their mom while she's wearing that. Also it's a graphic design catastrophe 🤣
As an adult, I would totally wear the “ask my mom” shirt ironically. I’m 23, you’re not actually gonna ask my mom. But for a kid to wear it in a serious context is pretty sketchy.
I know we struggle with second degree, but I think some of the tee-shirts are jokey! For some of them I'm not sure.
Also, I think one of the reason to put tee-shirts on children are a way to avoid bad reactions from people around who don't know about autism, or would juge the child or parent(s). It might be socially accepted to act mean to a child who's being noisy or not compliant, so maybe parents hope that people will be kinder if they know the child is not annoying but just disabled.
That red hat actually pisses me off severely 😠 wtf?! these people making these shirts need to get a clue.
Yes, me too. Like, don't wipe US out, we deserve to exist. We haven't done anything. Wipe that hat out!
as an autistic adult with physical disabilities , who uses mobility aids, I can tell when your kids haven't been taught about difference
you had stuff hanging out to dry in the rain lol
Good video. Continue on your road on getting the silver play button along with interviewing with Chris ULMER of SBSK