Great video topic! "The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe."
"There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self." - Colin Firth, from the movie "Kingsman." I've always loved that quote.
Being a gentleman is about striving to develop ones character with all its different aspects but most importantly mastering humility. One can never be a gentleman if he lacks humility and if displays any signs of arrogance. We have to constantly work on refining the different aspects of our character. It's a life long process and one worth embracing! Thanks TGV for this video.
Excellent point, I guess a video on behaviour might be needed and I will be sure to mention your point. Nice one indeed and so true. Thank you, Best regards, TGV
A gentleman means different things to different people. My friend who wears cloths bought from second hand cloths shops and a Casio is the truist gentleman I've ever know. Love the essay TGV. Absolute Shower!
I like the definition from the movie Blast from the Past. "good manners are just a way of showing other people we have respect for them." and " a lady or a gentleman is, someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible." And yes, by learning other cultures and travelling, you understand people from all walks of life and can be able to be a gentleman to them.
Dear Sir, I have started to follow your channel a few months ago and you have first impressed me with your class, taste and your ardent curiosity and enthusiasm when it comes to appreciating every single object, primarily watches in this channel, despite their monetary values. Not until yesterday did I discover your first few videos on the notion - how to be a gentleman. Seeing how you vividly discussed such a vague topic is almost an euphoric experience and I am genuinely amused by the fact that although we don't share the same cultures by default (I'm a Hongkonger), we have more similarities than differences at the conceptual level. And this is what's so great about you - your words and more importantly, the way how get your messages across, appear to bring people closer to one another, and you inject not only energy but wisdom in many of us. Sir, you are truly a living inspiration. Thank you so much! Best regards, Jeff
Heartened to read a comment from a Hongkonger! I had the pleasure of experiencing Chong King Mansion this past year. Your city is a brilliant place. The old Hong Kong, before the influx of Mainland sponsored gentrification, it must have been even more brilliant. Morose at the thought of Hong Kong being overrun by outsiders, I asked a local shopkeeper about what would become of Hong Kong; and he gave me a heartening answer; as long as he and other Hong Kongers are around, Hong Kong will be Hong Kong. Thank you for your brilliant city, it’s brilliant people, and it’s brilliant culture. Greetings from New York!
Great video, your first point about refinement reminded me of the Muhammad Ali quote, "A man who views the world the same at 50 as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.”
THIS is what I think your channel should be. I love horology too, but so many other topics have moved to the periphery (or vanished altogether) that I think would really improve us all. I would love to see art and culture make a large comeback on your channel. All the best.
If you don’t have a second ROLEX you won’t have a watch when one goes in for recommended maintenance. Do you want to risk wearing a Swatch on the most important day of your life???
It does sound funny. And it might show that TGV was out of touch with the "commen" people and how expensive life is. But I think he want's to point out that objects might have there value and that it's not bad to have multiple of these objects. But that an object should not be compared to what an experience can bring to you how big or small that the experience is. Yes, you can buy a watch for a lot of money or have multiple watches. But, perhaps it is better to not buy an new watch an go out and experience what the world is. Maybe a 10 week continental trip is way above your financial capebilities. But a 1 or 2 day trip to the coast or a museum might give you a simular feeling.
I went looking for a watch review, found it on your channel (which was excellent), and as an accidental bonus, found this fantastic commentary as well. I can't believe that I spent 35 minutes of my life viewing something I wasn't intending on viewing, so bravo sir! Renaissance Man. That is what they used to call us... My wife and I discuss common decency, simple manners, and how both of these acts have such a simple but profound impact on daily life with those surrounding us practically every day because they are so lacking. It was a breath of fresh air to hear your perspective! Your commentary on being a decent human being, as simple as it was, really lies at the heart of it, and what "gentlemanly conduct", as well as basic human conduct really is about. And your commentary about travel, and particularly the arts I found particularly poignant. I couldn't agree more! Art transcends all and connects all! Well done, sir! This should be mandatory viewing for most millennials and a good chunk of society!
This is my favorite video you've posted. Just incredible to hear this sincere and profoundly human view to put things into perspective. Yours is a very special channel Tristan, thanks for all your hard work.
i like how you distinguish etiquette from manners. Or manners as having the good moral intention (respect) vs. etiquette as practices for fitting into class system
Dear TVG, I'm a philosophy professor of fifty-one years. I think your philosophy of life and being a gentleman is "spot on." Although I thought I knew about men's style, you have educated and inspired me about watches. I just ordered an Omega Seamaster 300. Also I love the joy of life that you and your Little Rascal exhibit. It's difficult, but try to ignore those who are jealous of your happiness and success. Some people are miserable and want to drag down anyone they see as happy. "Crack on, mate!"
35.15 minutes of truth! Now I know,why I enjoy your channel so much! I tried to follow the rules of Bushido my whole life and also found Polonius' Advice to Laertes very useful to become a better person! It is always work in progress to become a real gentleman,in my opinion! Thank you,TGV!
Quite a few material examples listed. For me a gentleman has integrity, respect for others, he is trustworthy, and loyal. He is also strong yet not afraid to be gentle.
TGV from all the videos I've seen from you (and I think I've seen a lot of them now) I think this is in the top! I really share so many of your point of views....it takes a lot to be a gentry! Fantastic! Keep up the good work!! Sincerely !
The era of both the lady and the gentlemen are a dying breed and that is why I feel very strongly about encouraging and maintaining the mentality. It's a bit appalling how few people know how to carry themselves properly or have an honourable or respectable mentality. I agree with you on what makes a gentleman. It is pointless in carrying an Hermes bag or sporting a Patek when one's mentality and behaviour is filth. I feel we should all be ambassadors of "quality" not just in our tastes but how we portray ourselves, our outlooks and preferences should all be something honourable and to be proud of. We set examples for the generations before us and if people stop trying to reach a high standard in our overall personal development, society is screwed and we will keep regressing!I mean just look at how people get famous today and the example most of these celebrities set, it's bloody ridiculous and reflects how our society has regressed in that way. Great topic and great points!
Old video, but I just recently really started to watch your channel and found this now. An extremely important topic to discuss, lots of good points in this video. You seem like a very well rounded, good hearted and wise man with a deep understanding of our world rarely found in our times. You could say a true aristocrat of the soul. Keep going, you just got a new subscriber 👍
Some really Great Points, TGV! Especially like your comments on keeping an open mind and constantly learning new things. Ever since the Me Generation of the 70's, and including today's gotta-have-it-now generation, there's been a huge lack of basic patience and consideration for others which is made even worse by a seemingly societal celebration of egotism (and it's often my friends who are ten years younger than me who point this out!) Being a gentleman is an art in itself ... Being genuinely thoughtful and caring, a good listener, having a balanced sense of charisma and being bold and assertive especially in helping others, exercising good judgement and discretion - these qualities, ways of being, if you will, truly become part of a gentleman's character when they are attained through conscious effort and experience in gaining knowledge, real understanding and wisdom - and it's all how you apply that wisdom! Thanks again for a great segment.
Beautifully stated. I really appreciate you and the fact that you are going back to your roots of sharing what it's all about to be a gentleman. Watches are truly a small part of it but if someone watches your channel because of a watch review and ends up becoming a better person in society by taking your advise I think that is an amazing concept! Congratulations to you for giving back! P.S. you were truly missed while you were in the hospital and I sent up a few prayers for your speedy recovery and well being. Cheers TGV!
Ask a linguist, I just have to say that I totally agree with what you've said about the perspective you gain from speaking other languages. The metaphor I like, which I picked up from a book somewhere, is that another language is a new 'lens' through which you can process and express your perceptions of the world. Thanks for this sincere, thoughtful and informative episode!
The most important video you have put out yet. Being a decent, educated and kind person brings a value to life, a dolce vita, that is so undervalued today.....well, it as you say, "it explores things beyond words." Spot on.
Hey TGV, you've taken quite a brave step making such a bold video. While your way of presenting us with your 5 tips was very polite, the 5 points were also very bold! No wonder you've gotten more dislikes as you have compared to your other videos! But I'm very glad for the channel that you make these kinds of videos, they may be less popular and some people might even (unfortunately so) get offended by some of it. But this is your opinion based on the life you've lived so far. I might be a coincidence that I completely agree with this video, but even if I didn't agree, I respect your integrity and honesty for making such a video. Keep it up man, great stuff.
I've always found it rather disappointing how the word "gentlemen" has been used by female acquaintances of mine, often on first dates by people who barely knew me, simply because I began dressing formally in the last year or so. The term was rarely used when I preferred wearing T-shirts and hoodies. In an often excessively materialistic world, it's always nice to receive a reminder of what is important. Thanks for the video, TGV.
This has to be one of your best videos. Absolutely brilliant. So very true. Art really does add meaning to all aspects of life. I also agree that respect, honor, and nobility of spirit are the essence of what it means to be a gentleman. In my most humble opinion. Very powerful, absolutely.
One more gem of yours, TGV. This channel transcends the horology and provides a great service to all Internet users. We must be everything we seem to be. Thank you for the inspiration on true values!
What a nice video. About taste, it's also important to have your own, not a copy of somebody else's. Taste comes from your personality and life experiences. Having your own taste means that people around you know if you would like something or not. Some of the younger members of this community copy your style, and that's fine, that's what we do when we are young and that's how we learn. But the thing to copy from you is the attitude. The appreciation and respect. Noticing the good things that are around us all the time and being open to learn more about all kinds of stuff.
When you mentioned travel enriching your life I immediately thought of the grand tour undertaken by many famous people in the 18th, 19th and early 20th centuries. All the great artists, architects and philosophers knew the secret of experiencing other cultures. It is not something you can get watching travel shows or you tube videos. That is vicarious living. You must experience it for yourself. I once sat in a roof top restaurant in the middle of Cairo eating supper with my wife. We will never forget it, it was perfect. But we had to live it for ourselves. Excellent points TGV, well done.
Outstanding! I understand where you are coming from. I've personally seen my life become richer from recently being able to travel and learn another language. Now I've seen myself fall in love with horology because of your passion and enthusiasm and the much deeper meaning behind the hobby. Well done.
- a very enlightening segment, my brother. I would like to add one more aspect that would probably fall under the heading of manners, which is developing the skill of being truly a good listener. Being able to empathize and relate to the feelings of others, going deeper than the mere words of the speaker. Thank you for sharing your valuable insight. Coincidently, I am devoting time to learning to speak Japanese, as a trip there is on my bucket list.
My friend - you are so correct. All of the images are about style - not substance. Money and wealth do not define gentlemanly conduct. I live in Qatar where the locals have wealth beyond the dreams of avirice and let me tell you and all your readers, gentlemanly conduct can be counted on the fingers of one hand. Here, the cost of everything is known but the value is lost. Money or no money - proper conduct is defined by ethereal criteria - proper parenting; exposure and appreciation of the finer things in life; the ability to handle the stresses and pressures of daily life and to discharge your duties in an appropriate manner; the art of engaging knowledgably in a wide range of conversation with an eclectic mix of people; the lost art of engaging appropriately with the fair sex; honesty, integrity and humility in your relationships whether personal or professional; having confidence in your own ability and position in life. It is the ability to play a winning hand with whatever cards you are dealt - in my opinion these go some way to starting to define a true gentleman.
Great video TGV. I must agree that, much like yourself travel has had more of an impact on my development than anything else. It really does broaden the mind.
Very glad to see you clearly feeling like yourself and in good spirits. Long may your health and passion for life continue my friend. Many thanks as always for the perspective and wisdom.
Tristano, you my friend are beyond what any words can describe, i as a 14 year old young man have learned so much from you. I am on my journey to becoming a gentlman and i am in the learning stages as my role models ar my grandfather who was a true man of etiquite and you who is the same and does something that is very important, and that is shares knoledge with me and everyone else that views the chanel. someone once told me that experince is a very expensive teacher and i thank you for sharing you knoledge and experiences with me and evryone else that views the chanel as you help us tremendously. Sokrat .B
Well, that is why we are good friends JC, you are a rare one in these days and times. Thank you for being who you are! Your family must be very proud. Best regards, TGV
I love this video, thank you TGV. It's been too long since anyone has spoken up about the veil of insecurity that is "the modern gentleman". Social media is all about selfies and showing off bling. Seeing some celebrity's watch collections makes me want to puke. Imo, the clothes do not make the man. Respect (where warranted) and being a good person is what makes the man.
+The Urban Gentry Absolutely, I'm northern Italian and my upbringing allows me to understand your videos about the nuances of respect and manners. I'm binging the videos on your channel and am about to start on my watch collection journey. Thanks for all your work and stay healthy!
This is my favorite video. You pointed out a lot of things I didn’t think about. These go beyond a lot of the books on manners that I have bought. I appreciate your work.
Well said. Something about appearance being skin deep, yes? It truly is about the person, not the outfit and trimmings. Forget the garnish; what’s the entree? Anyway, it’s about the ability, not only to see past the surface, but also to think past the surface - and that goes for the ladies as well. Oh, and art & culture are an absolute must for a well-rounded individual. I absolutely agree that our finest artworks are our greatest achievements.
I’m really glad you pointed this. I agree with so much of what you pointed out about being a gentleman. The only disagreement I might have with you is with depth. I would love to go even a bit deeper. The subjects you deal with speak to concepts such as integrity, intellectual curiosity, passion, respect, honor, equity, and faith. Of course, each of these is a subject in and of itself. All of these are expressed through, art appreciation, style, manners and taste. Again, thanks for this posting and keep inspiring us to be better men.
TGV, thank you for another inspiring video! There is something that worries me the most in modern times and that is the fact that so many people have stopped reading books and started communicating by using quotes and memes without even checking their context in the first place. 🤷🏻♂️
You inspire and encourage me to be a better all around person, your a true roll model! Thank you for the video, I can't wait for the next one like this! Ciao, Nathan
I feel the need to join this discussion, even if I'm coming in late. I know this isn't the theme of this channel, and might alienate some, but I believe spirituality has its place here. Inner refinement is actually what practicing a religion is meant to achieve. You develop an awareness of your own vainglory, impoliteness, injustice, lack of compassion....and then try to do something about it. Spiritual sensitivity is the backbone of understanding art, because all good art is a medium for fruits of the human spirit. Spiritual sensitivity is the prime language to be acquired, religious discipline and practice is the best formative journey. Developing a moral code, practicing restraint, understanding how the physical expresses the spiritual....if this isn't the path of a noble person, than what is? I would also point out that WITHOUT the inner development, what we're left with is the shallow, crass image of a gentleman which goes no further than nice suits and fake swagger. Educating one's self about culture will come naturally, once the spirit leads the way. And it will all be accomplished with true grace and humility.
For me, one key to being a gentleman is living with empathy. Never make an opinion without at least trying too understand what someone else is going through or feeling. We tend to react too quickly without understanding.
Hi TGV - A video well delivered. I felt the passion you were conveying about the Gentlemanly life style and how the learning experience is perpetual. You make us examine our own lives and those who influenced us. I thought of all the men in my family and then it hit me that much credit is due to the women as well. My dear Mother taught her children about manners more than anyone. To this day I still call my parents friends Mr. and Mrs. I feel fortunate to have grown up in a family where those values were of the highest importance and a duty to pass on to our children. I also agree about traveling to experience the sights, sounds and food, but more importantly the people you meet and the stories shared. I wouldn't trade those experiences for anything. Thank you for this great video! Cheers!
Gentleman. Its a state of mind. Its being polite, showing respect. You dont need to "earn" my respect. You already have it. You can only LOSE my respect. Its about not kissing and telling. Its not about wearing expensive clothes, watches, and flashy suits. You dont need a Ferrari either. Right now, Im wearing gym shorts and a worn out t shirt because I worked 12 hours today, and I just wanna be comfy. Does that intrinsically make me NOT a gentleman? No. Style is a part of being a gentleman. I admittedly like to "bum out" from time to time, but it's typically to run to the gas station or just sit around the house. When I say "style" I dont mean "expense". I mean "dont wear your tennis shoes with your tuxedo you clown". I mean "dont wear a brown belt and black shoes". Cut your darn hair. Shave or keep it trimmed. Education is a tough one for me. I am highly educated and skilled, but I dont think there is an intrinsic relationship towards education with being a gentleman. I think the best way to go is : If you are ignorant, dont prove them right. If you aren't ignorant, dont feel obligated to flex your mental muscle just to put someone down. Restraint and knowledge goes a long way. Is a "gentleman" a full time job? No. Not in my opinion anyway. I think any one that is a "gentleman" 24/7 is either bred from royalty and thats just his innate behavior; or more likely, is putting on a show. It would be too stressful. I think knowing when and where is the key to being a gentleman... without being a pompous ass.
What a great comment, so much of it we agree complicity, good for you. Glad to have viewers like you, makes it all worth it. Carry on old chap! Thank you, Best regards, TGV
I have to disagree with your palate being part of being a gentleman. If you "refine" your physical taste to a point, that removes your sense of adventure. Why try something new when your palate is "refined"? You know you will enjoy that cannelloni ai carciofi, so why would you even bother to try a medium-rare Wagyu steak? There is a point where "refinement" becomes blurred with ostentatious. Being "too good" for something is reasonable, in the sense of "wanting something you earned". Being "too good" for something in the sense of demeaning others is just absolutely unacceptable to me. This is not relegated to physical objects either. How one speaks says a lot about them. I can speak with elevated english, but there's rarely a reason to indulge in that kind of behavior. I can be a walking thesaurus if I need to be. In normal conversation, its rarely justifiable.
Brian Minto I feel you should have watched it more, because he does kind of go over that in more detail. I feel like he was ranting for a bit, then kinda "came to his senses" as it were. A gentleman should appreciate art. But which "art" is surely up for speculation. Music is music. Art is art. No you dont need season tickets to ye' olde opry house to be a gent either.
Brian Minto The phrase is typical said to "be a gentleman and a scholar". I firmly believe you cant have one with out the other. If you're merely a scholar, then you're typically arrogant and obnoxious. If you're just a "Gentleman", you live your life the way someone tells you have to; by some predicated "code of existence" that you don't really think about (he goes over that with the "manners and etiquette" discussion.) Its almost soul-less Being well informed and passionate about an art form (again, not saying WHICH, thats purely subjective) goes miles to giving you charisma and charm that is incumbent of a gentleman. Do you need to read Nietzsche, or be able to dissect Mozart's fifth concerto to be interested in "art and philosphy"? No. Absolutely not. I think the bottom line is we can all easily agree on what ISNT a gentleman, but I think its tougher to decide what IS.
Great video. We need to get back to taking pride in being a gentleman. For me, the core of being a gentleman is about honouring and respecting yourself and who you are, without putting down others' choices on the way they want to be. Also it's about practising on handling adversity and hardship well; dealing with it with as much maturity as possible. To reference your list I would place Manners as No. 1. Art and Culture as No. 2.
There is a lot truth to everything you are saying, there are some many aspects of being a well rounded individual or Gentleman that many miss intrpret. Including myself for a short period. But I do think life is what you want to make of it, you had mentioned that appreciating all this is what life is all about but that may be a good life for you, so people want to create the kind of art that many like you get to appreciate or some want to change the world or influence it by inventing or preaching of being a person of great quality. Such great video, I think your appreciation itself is a form of art not many have
Wonderful video. My suggestion is a bit of a combination of two of your points (learn a language and appreciate art) and that is to learn an instrument. Even something as simple as a recorder can give you an appreciation for the simultaneous complexity and simplicity of music and teach you the universal language it possesses. Not to mention the countless studies showing the cognitive benefits of playing an instrument, i.e. holding off Alzheimer’s, etc. Thanks for all the great content, TGV!
Respect, Loyalty, Integrity, Trustworthy, Hard-Working, Style, For me make a Gentleman, not how much is in your Bank Balance, or that your house has 8 Bedrooms Etc.. It's how you treat people day to day, and to spend sincere time with others, to be a decent overall person. I really do feel though that some it comes naturally too & others, not so much!! BMJ ENGLAND.
I am a watch lover.. Just bought my first skx because of you. Also I am half italian and half british. But these amazing 35mins made me understand we share much more than those even if i am just 25. I really wish i could meet you once. From an italian Londoner
Thank you for sharing your views on understanding other news-views and other languages. I lived in numerous countries growing up and my education / work. It is true that the more you learn about others, the more you learn about yourself too. I was surprised how in North America, news is mostly local. It is vital to feed the soul. Cheers
This is the best video in a while! I originally subscribed because of the culture in the videos and comment section. I would love to see more videos on how to become more cultured and a better gentleman (must read books, must watch films and so on). Slowly I have found myself more and more interested in horology because of this channel and the Facebook page. Thank you everyone for a new expensive hobby.
Thank you so much Andy. It has been a long time coming and I am glad you found it useful. Its support form people like you that keep me and the channel going. Best regards, TGV
Good afternoom sir!congratulations for your wonderfull and inspiring channel. I think that being a gentleman means knowing how to behave in the world. A gentleman is one who dominates his own acts, one who knows the value of the word. Chivalry is not a matter of culture, but of education, it respects itself and others.At least that's how I was raised by my father, although from humble origins he left us a great legacy. Thank you for your videos. Greetings from the Canary Islands, Spain.
To me being a Gentleman is being respectful and open minded to other people at all times, it's being confident and not arrogant, it's knowing the difference between having style and just being in fashion and it's also about being understated, remember less is more. A Gentleman always apologizes first, even if he knows he is right, and a Gentleman also never tells, no-one likes a gossip. He has impeccable manners, hold that door, give up that seat or carry that bag for someone, you'll feel good doing it and it just might make their day. A Gentleman is never late, it's better to be early and wait for others than have them wait for you, he is hardworking, likes the finer things in life but knows the true value of money and possessions, anything that comes free is not worth having in the first place! He is truthful and honest at all times, never lies, especially to a woman unless she asks his opinion on her fashion, even if she knows the dress makes her look fat, and she knows he knows the dress makes her look fat, he gives her a compliment and moves on. He knows when he can lighten up and let the crown slip a little but while still maintaining a standard of decorum as after all one is a Gentleman, women love a naughty boy, not a b*stard, even rogues are loveable but a Gentleman rogue is irresistible. He means what he says and says what he means, has impeccable standards and lives vehemently by those standards, he never judges a book by it's cover and most of all he considers anyone who doesn't conduct themselves in the same manner as he does as an Absolute Shower!
I joined writers circle, a year ago, writing from a a stream of consciousness is great, from feedback from my new friends, also stand up comedy forces me to perceive things from a different set of maps, a different window, thx for sharing Governor
Wow what a piece! The most important video you ever made in my humble opinion. It is so important that ypung lads are told these things. Fantastic , very heartfelt words. Well dobe Tristano.
I love Hugo! Wonderful to see a grownup gentleman having toys with names :) I have a toy fox myself that I got when I came home from the hospital after an operation. Always good to have a reminder on the desk that someone is thinking of you during your hard times.
i very much enjoy how you developed the thesis of this topic, Tristano! some of the qualities of a true gentleman can´t be learned or given with spectacular education. money can´t buy them either. these must grow from the very deep within.
I haven’t found any other channels that hit the lifestyle topics that I want to hear discussed the way these few videos of yours have. In the past you have mentioned a desire to return to this kind of content. Now, the original channel is certainly the best source for horology fans on TH-cam so it may not be appropriate to tinker with the formula people clearly enjoy so well. However it may be the right time to begin a second Gentry Life channel. That way there’s a source for both interests and maintains the good momentum you have going with the original too. Of course, that’s all time permitting which is a whole different matter. Anyway I hope you see this and consider it. O&U, LRC
Thanks for insight Tristan. I am growing daily with no end goal as such but regarding manners I once read that manners should be one's willingness and ability to make the next person feel comfortable. The pretentious stuff as far different as you have so well explained here. Scott.
My absolute favorite video so far. This is something I strive for and I had hoped my experiences and kindness to others made me a gentleman. I have champagne taste and a ginger ale pocketbook. God Bless my friend.
I so much agree with all your observations. I too was fortunate to experience more in life because of travel and hence different perspectives. And in the end most life changing was coming to know Jehovah by studying the Scriptures with Jehovah's Witnesses and eventually dedicating my life to Him. It cleared all the confusion and conflicting ideas. Like you said you need to experience the other perspectives to find the truth and this is not beyond grasp and this certainly is helping me put on a new personality to reflect the ultimate personage in the universe who is loving, generous, polite and truthful, with no end to his wonderful qualification. We are the only creatures on Earth that appreciate art because we were made in His image. His artistic abilities and awesomeness is evident in the things he made that we can enjoy with all our senses. I very much appreciate your watch videos which I watch and this one was a bonus! Due to your watch videos I purchased Seiko SARX033 and love it, now finally I have again a watch with a tick-tack :) - just something soothing about it. So Thank You!
I've gotta say TGV you couldn't have said it better in this video. I've had this same feelings on the matter of what really makes a Gentleman for a pretty good while now.
Funny how you touched on the topic of ones palate at 12:10 and immediately the image of a skull with a cigarette in it's mouth popped up behind you in the background on your computer! Don't know whether you planned that or not but it struck me as odd and witty. Great video sir. Very enlightening. Thank you.
I think life is all about being a good human being, of course being a gentleman is also important, but being honest loyal, standing for your friends is what really matters in this journey called "life". At the end of the day warms will eat all of us!! Just be nice!!
Great video topic!
"The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe."
"There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self." - Colin Firth, from the movie "Kingsman." I've always loved that quote.
I have to see this! Great quote. Thank you.
Best regards,
TGV
That quote is attributed to Hemingway. I highly recommend reading his books.
Manners maketh man.
Being a gentleman is about striving to develop ones character with all its different aspects but most importantly mastering humility. One can never be a gentleman if he lacks humility and if displays any signs of arrogance. We have to constantly work on refining the different aspects of our character. It's a life long process and one worth embracing! Thanks TGV for this video.
Excellent point, I guess a video on behaviour might be needed and I will be sure to mention your point.
Nice one indeed and so true.
Thank you,
Best regards,
TGV
WONDERFUL! WONDERFUL!
THANK YOU !
you and your wife should do an episode together.
A gentlemen is generous, kind, considerate and humble, his wealth is in his humanity before his material wealth.
Could not agree more. Well said old chap.
Best regards,
TGV
A gentleman means different things to different people. My friend who wears cloths bought from second hand cloths shops and a Casio is the truist gentleman I've ever know. Love the essay TGV. Absolute Shower!
I like the definition from the movie Blast from the Past. "good manners are just a way of showing other people we have respect for them." and " a lady or a gentleman is, someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible." And yes, by learning other cultures and travelling, you understand people from all walks of life and can be able to be a gentleman to them.
Dear Sir,
I have started to follow your channel a few months ago and you have first impressed me with your class, taste and your ardent curiosity and enthusiasm when it comes to appreciating every single object, primarily watches in this channel, despite their monetary values. Not until yesterday did I discover your first few videos on the notion - how to be a gentleman. Seeing how you vividly discussed such a vague topic is almost an euphoric experience and I am genuinely amused by the fact that although we don't share the same cultures by default (I'm a Hongkonger), we have more similarities than differences at the conceptual level. And this is what's so great about you - your words and more importantly, the way how get your messages across, appear to bring people closer to one another, and you inject not only energy but wisdom in many of us. Sir, you are truly a living inspiration. Thank you so much!
Best regards,
Jeff
Heartened to read a comment from a Hongkonger! I had the pleasure of experiencing Chong King Mansion this past year. Your city is a brilliant place. The old Hong Kong, before the influx of Mainland sponsored gentrification, it must have been even more brilliant. Morose at the thought of Hong Kong being overrun by outsiders, I asked a local shopkeeper about what would become of Hong Kong; and he gave me a heartening answer; as long as he and other Hong Kongers are around, Hong Kong will be Hong Kong. Thank you for your brilliant city, it’s brilliant people, and it’s brilliant culture. Greetings from New York!
Great video, your first point about refinement reminded me of the Muhammad Ali quote, "A man who views the world the same at 50 as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.”
Your Hugo impersonation is on point!!!
THIS is what I think your channel should be. I love horology too, but so many other topics have moved to the periphery (or vanished altogether) that I think would really improve us all. I would love to see art and culture make a large comeback on your channel. All the best.
Thank you so much, I will try to always include more vids like this on a fortnightly basis.
Best regards,
TGV
"Art, this is what life is worth living for... it's what life is about" Powerful.
Thank you,
Best regards,
TGV
You dont have to be rich, just "sell your second rolex". ;-)
If you don’t have a second ROLEX you won’t have a watch when one goes in for recommended maintenance. Do you want to risk wearing a Swatch on the most important day of your life???
Savage
It does sound funny. And it might show that TGV was out of touch with the "commen" people and how expensive life is.
But I think he want's to point out that objects might have there value and that it's not bad to have multiple of these objects. But that an object should not be compared to what an experience can bring to you how big or small that the experience is.
Yes, you can buy a watch for a lot of money or have multiple watches. But, perhaps it is better to not buy an new watch an go out and experience what the world is. Maybe a 10 week continental trip is way above your financial capebilities. But a 1 or 2 day trip to the coast or a museum might give you a simular feeling.
One word for you: INSPIRING!
PS.: Speaking another language allows me to watch The Urban Gentry, so I got to agree with you!!
Me too haha
Yes mate!
I went looking for a watch review, found it on your channel (which was excellent), and as an accidental bonus, found this fantastic commentary as well. I can't believe that I spent 35 minutes of my life viewing something I wasn't intending on viewing, so bravo sir! Renaissance Man. That is what they used to call us... My wife and I discuss common decency, simple manners, and how both of these acts have such a simple but profound impact on daily life with those surrounding us practically every day because they are so lacking. It was a breath of fresh air to hear your perspective! Your commentary on being a decent human being, as simple as it was, really lies at the heart of it, and what "gentlemanly conduct", as well as basic human conduct really is about. And your commentary about travel, and particularly the arts I found particularly poignant. I couldn't agree more! Art transcends all and connects all! Well done, sir! This should be mandatory viewing for most millennials and a good chunk of society!
This is my favorite video you've posted. Just incredible to hear this sincere and profoundly human view to put things into perspective. Yours is a very special channel Tristan, thanks for all your hard work.
i like how you distinguish etiquette from manners. Or manners as having the good moral intention (respect) vs. etiquette as practices for fitting into class system
Dear TVG,
I'm a philosophy professor of fifty-one years. I think your philosophy of life and being a gentleman is "spot on." Although I thought I knew about men's style, you have educated and inspired me about watches. I just ordered an Omega Seamaster 300. Also I love the joy of life that you and your Little Rascal exhibit. It's difficult, but try to ignore those who are jealous of your happiness and success. Some people are miserable and want to drag down anyone they see as happy. "Crack on, mate!"
35.15 minutes of truth! Now I know,why I enjoy your channel so much! I tried to follow the rules of Bushido my whole life and also found Polonius' Advice to Laertes very useful to become a better person! It is always work in progress to become a real gentleman,in my opinion! Thank you,TGV!
Quite a few material examples listed. For me a gentleman has integrity, respect for others, he is trustworthy, and loyal. He is also strong yet not afraid to be gentle.
TGV from all the videos I've seen from you (and I think I've seen a lot of them now) I think this is in the top! I really share so many of your point of views....it takes a lot to be a gentry! Fantastic! Keep up the good work!! Sincerely !
The era of both the lady and the gentlemen are a dying breed and that is why I feel very strongly about encouraging and maintaining the mentality. It's a bit appalling how few people know how to carry themselves properly or have an honourable or respectable mentality. I agree with you on what makes a gentleman. It is pointless in carrying an Hermes bag or sporting a Patek when one's mentality and behaviour is filth. I feel we should all be ambassadors of "quality" not just in our tastes but how we portray ourselves, our outlooks and preferences should all be something honourable and to be proud of. We set examples for the generations before us and if people stop trying to reach a high standard in our overall personal development, society is screwed and we will keep regressing!I mean just look at how people get famous today and the example most of these celebrities set, it's bloody ridiculous and reflects how our society has regressed in that way. Great topic and great points!
Thank you, always love to hear your thoughts, I could not agree more.
Best regards,
TGV
I screen shorted this comment and am going to abbreviate it in my upcoming sermon for church!
Old video, but I just recently really started to watch your channel and found this now. An extremely important topic to discuss, lots of good points in this video. You seem like a very well rounded, good hearted and wise man with a deep understanding of our world rarely found in our times. You could say a true aristocrat of the soul. Keep going, you just got a new subscriber 👍
Some really Great Points, TGV! Especially like your comments on keeping an open mind and constantly learning new things. Ever since the Me Generation of the 70's, and including today's gotta-have-it-now generation, there's been a huge lack of basic patience and consideration for others which is made even worse by a seemingly societal celebration of egotism (and it's often my friends who are ten years younger than me who point this out!) Being a gentleman is an art in itself ... Being genuinely thoughtful and caring, a good listener, having a balanced sense of charisma and being bold and assertive especially in helping others, exercising good judgement and discretion - these qualities, ways of being, if you will, truly become part of a gentleman's character when they are attained through conscious effort and experience in gaining knowledge, real understanding and wisdom - and it's all how you apply that wisdom! Thanks again for a great segment.
Beautifully stated. I really appreciate you and the fact that you are going back to your roots of sharing what it's all about to be a gentleman. Watches are truly a small part of it but if someone watches your channel because of a watch review and ends up becoming a better person in society by taking your advise I think that is an amazing concept! Congratulations to you for giving back! P.S. you were truly missed while you were in the hospital and I sent up a few prayers for your speedy recovery and well being. Cheers TGV!
Thank you so much Ben, very kind of you to say.
Best regards,
TGV
Ask a linguist, I just have to say that I totally agree with what you've said about the perspective you gain from speaking other languages. The metaphor I like, which I picked up from a book somewhere, is that another language is a new 'lens' through which you can process and express your perceptions of the world.
Thanks for this sincere, thoughtful and informative episode!
The most important video you have put out yet. Being a decent, educated and kind person brings a value to life, a dolce vita, that is so undervalued today.....well, it as you say, "it explores things beyond words." Spot on.
TGV my guilty pleasure is coming back to these old episodes
Great video. Here's a couple adjectives that describe a gentleman. Honor, integrity, kindness, and dignity.
Hey TGV, you've taken quite a brave step making such a bold video. While your way of presenting us with your 5 tips was very polite, the 5 points were also very bold! No wonder you've gotten more dislikes as you have compared to your other videos! But I'm very glad for the channel that you make these kinds of videos, they may be less popular and some people might even (unfortunately so) get offended by some of it. But this is your opinion based on the life you've lived so far. I might be a coincidence that I completely agree with this video, but even if I didn't agree, I respect your integrity and honesty for making such a video.
Keep it up man, great stuff.
Glad to see your recovering. Many thanks, really appreciate the time and effort but into creating the video.
Thank you so much Noor,
Best regards,
TGV
I've always found it rather disappointing how the word "gentlemen" has been used by female acquaintances of mine, often on first dates by people who barely knew me, simply because I began dressing formally in the last year or so. The term was rarely used when I preferred wearing T-shirts and hoodies. In an often excessively materialistic world, it's always nice to receive a reminder of what is important. Thanks for the video, TGV.
Thank you Fahim, you are most welcome and you are totally right.
Best regards,
TGV
This has to be one of your best videos. Absolutely brilliant. So very true. Art really does add meaning to all aspects of life. I also agree that respect, honor, and nobility of spirit are the essence of what it means to be a gentleman. In my most humble opinion. Very powerful, absolutely.
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One more gem of yours, TGV. This channel transcends the horology and provides a great service to all Internet users. We must be everything we seem to be. Thank you for the inspiration on true values!
What a nice video. About taste, it's also important to have your own, not a copy of somebody else's. Taste comes from your personality and life experiences. Having your own taste means that people around you know if you would like something or not. Some of the younger members of this community copy your style, and that's fine, that's what we do when we are young and that's how we learn. But the thing to copy from you is the attitude. The appreciation and respect. Noticing the good things that are around us all the time and being open to learn more about all kinds of stuff.
Excellent point, spot on and such a good addition to the discussion.
Thank you,
Best regards,
TGV
When you mentioned travel enriching your life I immediately thought of the grand tour undertaken by many famous people in the 18th, 19th and early 20th centuries. All the great artists, architects and philosophers knew the secret of experiencing other cultures. It is not something you can get watching travel shows or you tube videos. That is vicarious living. You must experience it for yourself. I once sat in a roof top restaurant in the middle of Cairo eating supper with my wife. We will never forget it, it was perfect. But we had to live it for ourselves.
Excellent points TGV, well done.
Outstanding! I understand where you are coming from. I've personally seen my life become richer from recently being able to travel and learn another language. Now I've seen myself fall in love with horology because of your passion and enthusiasm and the much deeper meaning behind the hobby. Well done.
Thank you Gary, always appreciated.
Best regards,
TGV
I've taken so much from this video. it's truly helpful and inspiring. Thank you!
Extremely pleased to hear that, thank you Matthew, in turn your comment inspires me!
Thank you,
Best regards,
TGV
- a very enlightening segment, my brother. I would like to add one more aspect that would probably fall under the heading of manners, which is developing the skill of being truly a good listener. Being able to empathize and relate to the feelings of others, going deeper than the mere words of the speaker. Thank you for sharing your valuable insight. Coincidently, I am devoting time to learning to speak Japanese, as a trip there is on my bucket list.
WOW!!!
My friend - you are so correct. All of the images are about style - not substance. Money and wealth do not define gentlemanly conduct. I live in Qatar where the locals have wealth beyond the dreams of avirice and let me tell you and all your readers, gentlemanly conduct can be counted on the fingers of one hand. Here, the cost of everything is known but the value is lost. Money or no money - proper conduct is defined by ethereal criteria - proper parenting; exposure and appreciation of the finer things in life; the ability to handle the stresses and pressures of daily life and to discharge your duties in an appropriate manner; the art of engaging knowledgably in a wide range of conversation with an eclectic mix of people; the lost art of engaging appropriately with the fair sex; honesty, integrity and humility in your relationships whether personal or professional; having confidence in your own ability and position in life. It is the ability to play a winning hand with whatever cards you are dealt - in my opinion these go some way to starting to define a true gentleman.
Always treat people with respect as an equal to you, whoever they are, when you first meet them. That is a first step to being a gentleman.
Great video TGV. I must agree that, much like yourself travel has had more of an impact on my development than anything else. It really does broaden the mind.
Thank you Simon, glad to hear.
Best regards,
TGV
Very glad to see you clearly feeling like yourself and in good spirits. Long may your health and passion for life continue my friend. Many thanks as always for the perspective and wisdom.
Thank you so much my friend, very kind of you to say.
Best regards,
TGV
Tristano, you my friend are beyond what any words can describe, i as a 14 year old young man have learned so much from you. I am on my journey to becoming a gentlman and i am in the learning stages as my role models ar my grandfather who was a true man of etiquite and you who is the same and does something that is very important, and that is shares knoledge with me and everyone else that views the chanel. someone once told me that experince is a very expensive teacher and i thank you for sharing you knoledge and experiences with me and evryone else that views the chanel as you help us tremendously.
Sokrat .B
Interesting video! For me it's respect, honor, loyalty, morals and integrity. Also being humble is very important.
Well, that is why we are good friends JC, you are a rare one in these days and times.
Thank you for being who you are! Your family must be very proud.
Best regards,
TGV
The Urban Gentry thank you!
I love this video, thank you TGV. It's been too long since anyone has spoken up about the veil of insecurity that is "the modern gentleman". Social media is all about selfies and showing off bling. Seeing some celebrity's watch collections makes me want to puke. Imo, the clothes do not make the man. Respect (where warranted) and being a good person is what makes the man.
Thank you Jan, well said, especially about when respect is warranted, so true.
Best regards,
TGV
+The Urban Gentry Absolutely, I'm northern Italian and my upbringing allows me to understand your videos about the nuances of respect and manners. I'm binging the videos on your channel and am about to start on my watch collection journey. Thanks for all your work and stay healthy!
This is my favorite video. You pointed out a lot of things I didn’t think about. These go beyond a lot of the books on manners that I have bought. I appreciate your work.
May I make notice the fact.. 5 year old video not 1 dislike. I respect and enjoy all of this true gentleman's content.
Nice one TGV, an excellent treatise on authenticity. What makes a gentleman lies in the heart, thoughts and deeds, not solely in the cloth.
Well said. Something about appearance being skin deep, yes? It truly is about the person, not the outfit and trimmings. Forget the garnish; what’s the entree? Anyway, it’s about the ability, not only to see past the surface, but also to think past the surface - and that goes for the ladies as well. Oh, and art & culture are an absolute must for a well-rounded individual. I absolutely agree that our finest artworks are our greatest achievements.
I’m really glad you pointed this. I agree with so much of what you pointed out about being a gentleman. The only disagreement I might have with you is with depth. I would love to go even a bit deeper. The subjects you deal with speak to concepts such as integrity, intellectual curiosity, passion, respect, honor, equity, and faith. Of course, each of these is a subject in and of itself. All of these are expressed through, art appreciation, style, manners and taste. Again, thanks for this posting and keep inspiring us to be better men.
19:39 So very true. Many people believe thinking in 'black and white' is a sign of decisiveness and strength. Perspective and empathy be damned.
TGV, thank you for another inspiring video! There is something that worries me the most in modern times and that is the fact that so many people have stopped reading books and started communicating by using quotes and memes without even checking their context in the first place. 🤷🏻♂️
You inspire and encourage me to be a better all around person, your a true roll model! Thank you for the video, I can't wait for the next one like this!
Ciao, Nathan
Thank you so much Nathan, very flattered sir.
Best regards,
TGV
Sempre ottimi spunti di riflessione e qualche perla di saggezza, continua così!! Ciao
I feel the need to join this discussion, even if I'm coming in late. I know this isn't the theme of this channel, and might alienate some, but I believe spirituality has its place here. Inner refinement is actually what practicing a religion is meant to achieve. You develop an awareness of your own vainglory, impoliteness, injustice, lack of compassion....and then try to do something about it. Spiritual sensitivity is the backbone of understanding art, because all good art is a medium for fruits of the human spirit. Spiritual sensitivity is the prime language to be acquired, religious discipline and practice is the best formative journey. Developing a moral code, practicing restraint, understanding how the physical expresses the spiritual....if this isn't the path of a noble person, than what is? I would also point out that WITHOUT the inner development, what we're left with is the shallow, crass image of a gentleman which goes no further than nice suits and fake swagger. Educating one's self about culture will come naturally, once the spirit leads the way. And it will all be accomplished with true grace and humility.
For me, one key to being a gentleman is living with empathy. Never make an opinion without at least trying too understand what someone else is going through or feeling. We tend to react too quickly without understanding.
Excellent point my friend, thank you Ricardo.
Best regards,
TGV
Hi TGV - A video well delivered. I felt the passion you were conveying about the Gentlemanly life style and how the learning experience is perpetual. You make us examine our own lives and those who influenced us. I thought of all the men in my family and then it hit me that much credit is due to the women as well. My dear Mother taught her children about manners more than anyone. To this day I still call my parents friends Mr. and Mrs. I feel fortunate to have grown up in a family where those values were of the highest importance and a duty to pass on to our children. I also agree about traveling to experience the sights, sounds and food, but more importantly the people you meet and the stories shared. I wouldn't trade those experiences for anything. Thank you for this great video! Cheers!
Thank you John, so glad you liked it. What an excellent comment, you are very lucky to have a family like that.
Best regards,
TGV
Excellent video! I appreciate these pieces on culture and learning as a key component of a well-rounded life. Cheers!
Thank you, very glad you enjoy them.
Best regards,
TGV
Gentleman.
Its a state of mind. Its being polite, showing respect. You dont need to "earn" my respect. You already have it. You can only LOSE my respect. Its about not kissing and telling. Its not about wearing expensive clothes, watches, and flashy suits. You dont need a Ferrari either.
Right now, Im wearing gym shorts and a worn out t shirt because I worked 12 hours today, and I just wanna be comfy. Does that intrinsically make me NOT a gentleman? No.
Style is a part of being a gentleman. I admittedly like to "bum out" from time to time, but it's typically to run to the gas station or just sit around the house. When I say "style" I dont mean "expense". I mean "dont wear your tennis shoes with your tuxedo you clown". I mean "dont wear a brown belt and black shoes". Cut your darn hair. Shave or keep it trimmed.
Education is a tough one for me. I am highly educated and skilled, but I dont think there is an intrinsic relationship towards education with being a gentleman. I think the best way to go is : If you are ignorant, dont prove them right. If you aren't ignorant, dont feel obligated to flex your mental muscle just to put someone down. Restraint and knowledge goes a long way.
Is a "gentleman" a full time job? No. Not in my opinion anyway. I think any one that is a "gentleman" 24/7 is either bred from royalty and thats just his innate behavior; or more likely, is putting on a show. It would be too stressful. I think knowing when and where is the key to being a gentleman... without being a pompous ass.
What a great comment, so much of it we agree complicity, good for you.
Glad to have viewers like you, makes it all worth it.
Carry on old chap!
Thank you,
Best regards,
TGV
I have to disagree with your palate being part of being a gentleman. If you "refine" your physical taste to a point, that removes your sense of adventure. Why try something new when your palate is "refined"? You know you will enjoy that cannelloni ai carciofi, so why would you even bother to try a medium-rare Wagyu steak?
There is a point where "refinement" becomes blurred with ostentatious. Being "too good" for something is reasonable, in the sense of "wanting something you earned". Being "too good" for something in the sense of demeaning others is just absolutely unacceptable to me.
This is not relegated to physical objects either. How one speaks says a lot about them. I can speak with elevated english, but there's rarely a reason to indulge in that kind of behavior. I can be a walking thesaurus if I need to be. In normal conversation, its rarely justifiable.
The Urban Gentry
And thanks for your reply sir :)
Brian Minto
I feel you should have watched it more, because he does kind of go over that in more detail.
I feel like he was ranting for a bit, then kinda "came to his senses" as it were.
A gentleman should appreciate art. But which "art" is surely up for speculation. Music is music. Art is art. No you dont need season tickets to ye' olde opry house to be a gent either.
Brian Minto
The phrase is typical said to "be a gentleman and a scholar".
I firmly believe you cant have one with out the other. If you're merely a scholar, then you're typically arrogant and obnoxious. If you're just a "Gentleman", you live your life the way someone tells you have to; by some predicated "code of existence" that you don't really think about (he goes over that with the "manners and etiquette" discussion.) Its almost soul-less
Being well informed and passionate about an art form (again, not saying WHICH, thats purely subjective) goes miles to giving you charisma and charm that is incumbent of a gentleman. Do you need to read Nietzsche, or be able to dissect Mozart's fifth concerto to be interested in "art and philosphy"? No. Absolutely not.
I think the bottom line is we can all easily agree on what ISNT a gentleman, but I think its tougher to decide what IS.
Great video. We need to get back to taking pride in being a gentleman. For me, the core of being a gentleman is about honouring and respecting yourself and who you are, without putting down others' choices on the way they want to be. Also it's about practising on handling adversity and hardship well; dealing with it with as much maturity as possible.
To reference your list I would place Manners as No. 1. Art and Culture as No. 2.
amazing content TGV I could agree more linguistics has changed my life. I speak 4 languages although not all fluently it has enriched my life .
Thank you Albert, wow 4! That is so cool.
Best regards,
TGV
Great advice about knowing a second language - and delving deeply into it. That should be a requirement for everybody.
For me has always been "Try to Elevate Yourself".
Fantastic job anyway in ALL of your videos, I love your channel.
The truth is in the middle.... So true Tgv thank you amazing video
There is a lot truth to everything you are saying, there are some many aspects of being a well rounded individual or Gentleman that many miss intrpret. Including myself for a short period. But I do think life is what you want to make of it, you had mentioned that appreciating all this is what life is all about but that may be a good life for you, so people want to create the kind of art that many like you get to appreciate or some want to change the world or influence it by inventing or preaching of being a person of great quality. Such great video, I think your appreciation itself is a form of art not many have
Wonderful video. My suggestion is a bit of a combination of two of your points (learn a language and appreciate art) and that is to learn an instrument. Even something as simple as a recorder can give you an appreciation for the simultaneous complexity and simplicity of music and teach you the universal language it possesses. Not to mention the countless studies showing the cognitive benefits of playing an instrument, i.e. holding off Alzheimer’s, etc. Thanks for all the great content, TGV!
Respect, Loyalty, Integrity, Trustworthy, Hard-Working, Style, For me make a Gentleman, not how much is in your Bank Balance, or that your house has 8 Bedrooms Etc.. It's how you treat people day to day, and to spend sincere time with others, to be a decent overall person. I really do feel though that some it comes naturally too & others, not so much!! BMJ ENGLAND.
I believe that to an extent there is no "wrong" or "right" in taste, but what is more important to have taste and know what you like.
YES!!! You are soon right, very well put.
Thank you,
Best regards,
TGV
Thank you for being a gentleman
I am a watch lover.. Just bought my first skx because of you. Also I am half italian and half british. But these amazing 35mins made me understand we share much more than those even if i am just 25. I really wish i could meet you once.
From an italian Londoner
Thank you for sharing your views on understanding other news-views and other languages. I lived in numerous countries growing up and my education / work. It is true that the more you learn about others, the more you learn about yourself too. I was surprised how in North America, news is mostly local. It is vital to feed the soul. Cheers
This is the best video in a while! I originally subscribed because of the culture in the videos and comment section. I would love to see more videos on how to become more cultured and a better gentleman (must read books, must watch films and so on).
Slowly I have found myself more and more interested in horology because of this channel and the Facebook page. Thank you everyone for a new expensive hobby.
Thank you so much Andy. It has been a long time coming and I am glad you found it useful. Its support form people like you that keep me and the channel going.
Best regards,
TGV
Good afternoom sir!congratulations for your wonderfull and inspiring channel.
I think that being a gentleman means knowing how to behave in the world. A gentleman is one who dominates his own acts, one who knows the value of the word. Chivalry is not a matter of culture, but of education, it respects itself and others.At least that's how I was raised by my father, although from humble origins he left us a great legacy. Thank you for your videos.
Greetings from the Canary Islands, Spain.
To me being a Gentleman is being respectful and open minded to other people at all times, it's being confident and not arrogant,
it's knowing the difference between having style and just being in fashion and it's also about being understated, remember less is more.
A Gentleman always apologizes first, even if he knows he is right, and a Gentleman also never tells, no-one likes a gossip.
He has impeccable manners, hold that door, give up that seat or carry that bag for someone, you'll feel good doing it and it just might make their day.
A Gentleman is never late, it's better to be early and wait for others than have them wait for you,
he is hardworking, likes the finer things in life but knows the true value of money and possessions, anything that comes free is not worth having in the first place!
He is truthful and honest at all times, never lies, especially to a woman unless she asks his opinion on her fashion, even if she knows the dress makes her look fat, and she knows he knows the dress makes her look fat, he gives her a compliment and moves on.
He knows when he can lighten up and let the crown slip a little but while still maintaining a standard of decorum as after all one is a Gentleman, women love a naughty boy, not a b*stard, even rogues are loveable but a Gentleman rogue is irresistible.
He means what he says and says what he means, has impeccable standards and lives vehemently by those standards, he never judges a book by it's cover and most of all he considers anyone who doesn't conduct themselves in the same manner as he does as an Absolute Shower!
Love your stuff man. Please keep it coming.
When I travel, I realize it costs money but what I learn when I travel, is worth that money.
I live by the thought of,Treat others as you would like them to treat you,I have found over the years this has been a great help
Your Italian is just perfect!
Except when he says “Vachetta” leather.....
I joined writers circle, a year ago, writing from a a stream of consciousness is great, from feedback from my new friends, also stand up comedy forces me to perceive things from a different set of maps, a different window, thx for sharing Governor
I feel like I have become more of a gentleman just by watching this video. Keep it up mate.
Wow what a piece! The most important video you ever made in my humble opinion. It is so important that ypung lads are told these things. Fantastic , very heartfelt words. Well dobe Tristano.
I love Hugo! Wonderful to see a grownup gentleman having toys with names :)
I have a toy fox myself that I got when I came home from the hospital after an operation. Always good to have a reminder on the desk that someone is thinking of you during your hard times.
Haha, thank you my friend.
Hugo always brings a smile to my face, I am sure your fox does too.
Best regards,
TGV
i very much enjoy how you developed the thesis of this topic, Tristano! some of the qualities of a true gentleman can´t be learned or given with spectacular education. money can´t buy them either. these must grow from the very deep within.
Thank you so much :D
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TGV
I haven’t found any other channels that hit the lifestyle topics that I want to hear discussed the way these few videos of yours have. In the past you have mentioned a desire to return to this kind of content. Now, the original channel is certainly the best source for horology fans on TH-cam so it may not be appropriate to tinker with the formula people clearly enjoy so well. However it may be the right time to begin a second Gentry Life channel. That way there’s a source for both interests and maintains the good momentum you have going with the original too. Of course, that’s all time permitting which is a whole different matter. Anyway I hope you see this and consider it. O&U, LRC
Thanks for insight Tristan.
I am growing daily with no end goal as such but regarding manners I once read that manners should be one's willingness and ability to make the next person feel comfortable. The pretentious stuff as far different as you have so well explained here.
Scott.
My absolute favorite video so far. This is something I strive for and I had hoped my experiences and kindness to others made me a gentleman. I have champagne taste and a ginger ale pocketbook. God Bless my friend.
Simply wonderful. Maybe next you can talk about the top ways to improve manners.
I'd say the latin Curiositas sums up a few points! Thank you once again for this lovely video.
Regards from Sicily
I so much agree with all your observations. I too was fortunate to experience more in life because of travel and hence different perspectives. And in the end most life changing was coming to know Jehovah by studying the Scriptures with Jehovah's Witnesses and eventually dedicating my life to Him. It cleared all the confusion and conflicting ideas. Like you said you need to experience the other perspectives to find the truth and this is not beyond grasp and this certainly is helping me put on a new personality to reflect the ultimate personage in the universe who is loving, generous, polite and truthful, with no end to his wonderful qualification. We are the only creatures on Earth that appreciate art because we were made in His image. His artistic abilities and awesomeness is evident in the things he made that we can enjoy with all our senses.
I very much appreciate your watch videos which I watch and this one was a bonus!
Due to your watch videos I purchased Seiko SARX033 and love it, now finally I have again a watch with a tick-tack :) - just something soothing about it. So Thank You!
This is your best and most insightful video.
I've gotta say TGV you couldn't have said it better in this video. I've had this same feelings on the matter of what really makes a Gentleman for a pretty good while now.
My grail watch is a flightmaster . Ever since I saw the beautiful piece of history and mechanical masterpiece. Thank you again sir
This was frightfully informative !!
Salutations TGV :)
Funny how you touched on the topic of ones palate at 12:10 and immediately the image of a skull with a cigarette in it's mouth popped up behind you in the background on your computer! Don't know whether you planned that or not but it struck me as odd and witty. Great video sir. Very enlightening. Thank you.
Cool videos you have thanks for sharing, I’m a new vintage watch collector, like the idea of being a real gentleman !
Great video! I recommend Edmund Burke’s “On Taste” it’s a short essay on aesthetics from the 18th Century.
I think life is all about being a good human being, of course being a gentleman is also important, but being honest loyal, standing for your friends is what really matters in this journey called "life". At the end of the day warms will eat all of us!! Just be nice!!
I agree with your perspective
I love your channel! You seem like a person of great character.
Dear Tristano, great video, enjoyed it very very much ❤