if she has a degree in physical education, than she shoud know about emotional health, stress, healthy eating and healthy extericsing. Why is she treating her children like this?
Donkey Slayer lots of people that are professionals in a certain area sometimes can not apple what ever it is they teach/studied into their own lives. They might be able to help other people and give good advice, but can not apply that same advise into their life.
She i s not overweight i mean she is not fat and cute and society won't be like 'you are fat go away ' dont get me wrong her mothers mind is on exercise all the time i guess but it stresses the girl and makes her eat even more instead of not giving food mom should count kcals or is other ways
chelsea clrst - count me in :) but somehow my mom still is strict on eating healthy which is ok but then goodthing we have a "househelper" who spoils me with anything I want :) made me think I should be more grateful :)
Same tho but my mom dont really give TOO MUCH food. I just dont like wasting food and my siblings are picky eaters thats prob why I gained a lot of weight.
tbh I'm really impressed by what dongyeop's father said. It's really cool that he doesn't judge his son for not being like him, he sounds like a good father.
When the mom tried to excuse her ignoring the daughter at the gym it made me so mad. Even if she wanted to protect her name/brand, what kind of mother would choose that pride over the pride of her own child?
23:12 "Don't you think what you're doing to her might make it harder for her to be psychologically healthy?" Okay who is this man and where can I get one
Adi Boo agree. The food is free tho right? Just like in other countries, they serve the food on plates but it's totally diff at most schools in my country. The food isnt free. They costs like $1 for 1 container of food/one cup of drink regular sized. I mean, we sometimes go home at 12.30/2.00/3.00 in the afternoon. Thats prob why they dont give free food
H N in my school, the food isn’t free. It’s actually pretty expensive yet the food is quite stale but that’s just most cafeteria food. Recently, they hired a new catering service and improved a lot but still quite expensive 😂😂
I'm studying to be an Dietitian and I've met individuals who grew up in similar situations. These people have such a negative relationship with food that it has led to eating disorders like anorexia and binging. A parent's words can affect their children greatly.
The BRIGHTEST STAR The BRIGHTEST STAR oh yes you’re correct, it’s definitely a concern. Just saying that the way a parent approaches the situation can have a great effect. I still remember being called “flaca” when I was little. It’s a nickname meaning “skinny” in Spanish that’s quite common. I wasn’t even that skinny but my parents and family used it anyway without thinking too much about it. It doesn’t seem offensive, right? I didn’t used to think so. But I’ve learned words can stick with you for a LONG TIME. I’m 25 now and still struggling with body dysmorphia sparked from trying to conform to that nickname “flaca”. Rebuilding a good relationship with food can take a lot longer time than some people think and I just hope this mother and daughter keep that in mind and don’t give up. 💪🏼
The BRIGHTEST STAR oh not offended! Haha just wanted to share :) Maybe someone will read it and relate. You never know. I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through that. There’s definitely better people for you to surround yourself with because you’re worth it :) and I wish you all the luck in finding them. Fighting 💪🏼!
The mom wants her daughter to be confident. Yet, she doesn't want to be seen with her when they were in public. She really needs to change her way of thinking. Being smart is definitely not a useless thing
She has such great friends that never left her, even after all the things her mom says to them. Like if she started scolding me like she did to that one girl on national TV, I would've lost it.
That's actually not healthy. It's better she eats at certain times of the day and not starve. I mean eating past midnight is not healthy! If all of a sudden she has meal after not eating for a while, that food is usually stored as fat instead of digested. That mom should learn to be dietician before makes her daughter go through this,
Thank you! I was looking for someone else who got it. Starving your body only makes the weight pile on. But it's not that you shouldn't eat after midnight, but that you shouldn't eat a meal 3 hours before you go to sleep. I'm still with you on this though
It also doesn't help with weight loss either. One needs a set amount of calories in order to lose weight. ( At least 1200 calories). Eating after midnight is okay though, especially if someone works a 2nd/3rd shift job. (like me lol).
no it's actually scientifically proven and can be seen in old knowledge too - for me in Indian ayurveda - that eating so late at night is bad...and scientifically eating right before bedtime is bad because it blocks proper secretion of growth hormone at the wrong time(esp. carbs)...your body needs to repair at night and not activate another cycle focused on food digestion... and it's true also that eating very late at night *and sleeping right after* can cause your body to store it as fat...even more body type matters too and looking at her It probably is - I'm heavy too so i know i have that body type too... i'm not saying what she's doing is completely right - having only watched 7 minutes so far but what you're claiming isn't completely correct either
When Dongyeop-ssi talked about his father and how his father stood up for him, even though he can't read hanja, I'm so touched ♥️. You can see it on the girl's face, too. She must've wanted her mom to be able to understand her just like that. 💔
M_Alkaabi30 M yes it is!!! Were u not listening to how little she feeds her n how many hours she made her run?? And all those hurtful words are clearly EMOTIONAL ABUSE!! GET IT STRAIGHT!!!
@@m_alkaabi30m42 yeah it is, my mom used to be like that but I just ate whatever I wanted. I was almost 70 kg, now I'm almost 17 years old and I have lost 10 kg only by eating less, everybody is different!
"it's useless for a woman to be smart" 어이가 없네!!! I was so angry while I was watching this because that woman is just so focused on making her daughter look like her that she just says stupid things. I used to be really heavy and my parents would advice me to lose weight, but they didn't do anything that hurt me or made me eat even more. people I didn't even know would often tell me and my parents that I need to lose weight and my parents would tell them that I would lose weight naturally when I wanted to and when it was right, and I did. I mean I'm still a little chubby but I'm happy with myself now, and I go on diets every now and then so I can gradually lose more weight
you're lucky, i was fat before and my family keep telling me that i was a pig, a cow and that no one was going to like me because i was fat. i lose weight starving and throwing up and i end up in the hospital. until now they still calling me like that and saying that it's okay if i don't eat for three days because i'm fat (and i'm not).
I also felt like the mom was a little bit jealous bcuz her daughter is so smart!!!! (Maybe she didn't get such good grades in her school year)It may sound unrealistic but it can happen sometimes!!! I know a relative who always cuts her daughter's hair in a "piculear" way!!! I once asked her why she did that she(d) looked great in those long curly hair. Her mom answered she(m) was always being called "ugly" for not having "black shinny hair" so this is why she was so jealous of her daughter's hair!!!!!! I got super shocked and sad after hearing her statement!!!😮😮🙁😖😖😖 u
Minori ruba that's so fucking stupid, why would you even be jealous of your own child to the extent of cutting her hair so you can be the "same" 😑 and yeah that could be the case for this woman as well bc she literally makes no sense. "women must be skinny and pretty to be successful" like what kind of logic even is that. this is the 21st century and she's over here stuck in the olden days. I'm just so thankful to my parents because they were always supportive and gave me time to lose weight. I mean sometimes they made me go outside or wme but it wasn't that seriosu
andy vta aww I'm sorry 😞 I kind of went through a similar thing but it was only my older sister who made fun od me. but I have a very "I don't care" attitude/mindset so it didnt matter to me. tbh the most important thing is that you're happy with yourself
Korean beauty standards are something that is terrifyingly scary in this era still. Same like their view in educations. The way koreans view on appearance are always terrifying. It’s a never ending cycle.
lmao people in korea dont understand that working out is different for every person. when i was losing weight and was on a diet, i had to bump up my carbs because i wasnt losing weight when i was just eating broccoli and chicken. it worked out tremendously and the pounds started dropping.
but in her case she isnt losing weight because she is binge eating (because her mom starves her). She probably would actually be losing weight if she followed her moms diet. Since they did say say she had lost before and gained the 10kg back.
MidnightFlower13 Wow, I can't believe u actually believe that, that's simply ignorant, losing weight is NOT the same for everyone on the face of earth.
MidnightFlower13 no she's right. There are several different body types: mesomorph, endomorph, and ectomorph, as well as combinations of the above. Then there are macronutrients which are how many grams of carbohydrates, protein, and fat a person intakes in a given day, and each body type has a different requirement of each macronutrients depending on whether you're trying to lose weight or build muscle. For example I am an endomorph so my body holds on to Fat more easily than the other types and it's also harder for my body type to lose weight. My body type also functions better on a lower carb diet. So yes you're right in the fact that we all need carbohydrates in order to survive, but the amount that your body requires varies person to person. But honeysulli probably requires more carbohydrates because of her body type.
They were surprised that she was 15, but for example, in western age she would be 13 because koreans age 2 times a year, 1 on their birthday and 1 at the end of the year so she is 13 which is really young :(
Her mother should be teaching her how to have a balnced balanced diet and exercise regiment. And being comfortable in her skin. Instead she's giving her body image issues and food insecurity.
Her weight would regulate if her mum fed her properly and she wouldn't feel the need to eat so much at school. Reduce her workout to 30 mins- 1 hour and feed her properly, as not only would her weight regulate, it would be healthier overall. Her mum is only thinking about her daughter's visual looks. If she cared about the inside of her body and her digestion, she would know to feed her regular meals and not force her to do that much exercise.
The reason why the girl ate too much in school was because she's deprived of food at home. If her body aches all over because of work out, her mom wont feed her so that added on to her stress. Stress- eating at school was her way to make herself and her body feel better.
@@sun-ox3bt the reason she ate so much was because her mom always limited how much she ate, if her mom let her eat more regularly she wouldn’t need to binge as much
honestly, the mom just needs to give healthy and consistent meals if she wants to see good results and have her daughter feel full, like as a trainer i thought she would be more aware of that
If you don't accept your daughter no matter how she looks you're a bad mom. Even making her lose weight by not letting her eat and making her over work her body. THATS WHY SHE EATS SO MUXH AT SCHOOL. You don't give the nutrition her body needs. The girls only 15, she's going through puberty. Puberty makes you gain weight, especially when you start your period. Her mom tortures her this isn't a good way to treat your child. Her moms a personal trainer she should know that it's hard to lose weight if you strict your eating. In fact you gain water weight is you don't eat. I'm so madddd.
I dont eat to i sometime starve myself like i dont eat 5 days in a row and i dont drink either and bcs of that the doctor said that my stomach is shrinking and it will make me weak and now i was almost anorexic so i started eating even if im full and i weight just normal
Being a fat kid myself, I can relate to her. Even from a young age, many would tease me because of my weight. I at least have family members who don't pressure me to lose weight. She needs support emotionally. She'll end up stressed and depressed at that state. I lost weight at around her age and of course everything changed. People complimented that I'm pretty and it boosted my confidence. Then I gained it all back again and people start saying that I let myself go. Someone even told me that I looked pitiable because of my weight (at my grandmother's funeral at that). To think that he pitied me because I'm fat and not because I lost someone dear to me. I cried a lot that night and even caused a rampage. Thankfully my family was there and comforted me. During the time I gained and gained more weight, I started appreciating myself and what I have. I also thought of the people in my life and finding the ones that didn't care for my appearance. I found acceptance. Right now, I'm losing some weight again. I am determined to buy those dresses and outfits that I want for myself. And I'm doing it for myself and no one else. I did have a lot of setbacks before, especially when I was going through a lot of stress and depression. But I found that you should try and try when you want to. Now I found a diet that works for me and I can stick to. Everything falls into its own time when you're ready to accept them. (Sorry for all the rambling, it got too long)
👏👏👏👏 I don't know you yet I'm so proud of you haha. I can also relate a lot to you, but in the opposite way. I was underweight, not because I didn't eat enough, but because I don't gain weight easily yet I lose weight fast. My parents of course never said anything since I wasn't in the unhealthy side and It's our genetics but all the girls at school used to bully me while calling me a stick, a skeleton (I wasn't even THAT thin!) and some relatives would always be like "You should start eating" when I in fact eat more than them. I was at first totally fine with my body, but because of them I started to hate being thin. So I did everything to gain weight and in the end... I got a big butt and my belly isn't flat anymore. :/ So now I do regret it and I'm kinda pissed off since I restarted being underweight yet if I want to get rid of belly fat I should work out and I'm the laziest person on earth. 😂😂 Anyways, in the end, you should find how you like yourself, not how others like you. I understand that some people were worried for me, but I've seen more people trying to make me gain weight so they'll feel better about their own body. That's disgusting tbh. EDIT: Oh damn I just wrote an essay sorry! I always write too much...
Roana Javelosa everything will be easy if we willing to reduce our weight right.. Same like me.. my brother often teasing me.. Saying I'm fat.. Then I decided to done some exercise.. I do lost some weight.. That the main key.. When u willing.. you will enjoy when u do it
I understand her mom. She is just toooo extreme. I mean health is key. It's hard to just see your child "waste away". Yanno. But the mom is still not right because there are so many ways for her to go about this situation instead she is being to harsh.
Am I the only one who doesn't think that neither of the three girls are overweight? Like sure, their faces are a bit chubby but their body seems normal to me! That women is making her daughter eating out of stress.
No they are overweigth but they are young too so they should be able to go back to a healthier weight easier bij work out and eating healthy. It's a concern because if they are already on the overwieght side nog at a yough age it most time goes worse when they get older (im no good in english i hope you understand what im saing)
My mom always says this to me in the past few days "you should've lose weight. You got fat again." And "*pinch my cheeks* you're chubbyyy! Get your body thin!" "Don't eat too much!" But... "The food is on refrigerator. Eat!" "Don't starve yourself. Cook what you like and eat." "We bought pizza for you!" "You're still young to be on a diet! Go on and eat!" "*knocks on my door* hey you still didn't eat right? Come onn! I cooked you're favourite food!"
And my MoM be like Me:*started dieting MoM:sweety I have cooked all your fav dishes today...it's a feast... My MoM don't want me to skip meal...that's why I'm more like a stuffed bear 😂😂😂😂😂
it is possible if you don't have a lot of body fat, it's a lot easier for men because they don't have boobs so they automatically have less body fat to begin with.
Yeah I know it's possible, I was just laughing at how dumb it sounded! Everyone should have abdominal muscles, and revealing that six pack is only a matter of exercise. Are women these magical, non-abdominal muscle having creatures? It was funny, but I'm honestly a little disappointed that some men still think women are "lacking" something they have! 😂😂
That's not what he said, the translation's off cause he said something that would need a little bit of explaining. the subbers were too lazy and just went with this sentence instead which is way off tho
I'm German and so I make a German joke right now: What is the goal of every German man? - A six pack! - And what kind of six pack? - A six pack of beer!
mom has disordered eating too she binges and purges with overexercising and restricting so she tries to control her daughter but controlling behavior leads her daughter to completely lose control around food making everything worse. they mentioned she actually asked her mom to help her lose weight before and she could've lose weight if her mom wasnt so controlling://
"You eat just a little with fruit and vegetables, isn't that healthy?''. NO... Your body keeps all the nutrients when it doesn't get enough.. thus the fat stays because the body is worried about the lack of food in the time to come. In addition, she is really stressed out as well. Being stress causes weight gain too.. Plus she binge eat from the stress and it becomes a disorder
blueraineee also an addition to your comment you SHOULDN'T just eat fruit and vegetables... Meat,eggs, and other protein food is healthy for the body too...Rice is healthy too
"If she's about 80-90 kg, we understand that" No! A mom can't do that to her daughter! That's bad for her mental health! It's just so crazy, i can't belive it....
i'm happy that youngja mentioned the "bingeing of food" when ppl don't eat enough or eat less... my mom made me go on a very strict diet which resulted in me bingeing on whatever edible item i could find and gain more weight! the mom is such a fitness freak she should atleast have knowledge about this stuff :/ and also she should not force her daughter to be pretty only from outside, being intelligent is so much attractive than being a dumb pretty woman...
Couldn't even watch the whole segment, the MCs really piss me off with comments about the girl not being "skinny", and how the girl being controlled and manipulated and starved "could be a good thing" - i guess it's culture difference but I hate that they try to encourage weight loss and to understand the mother's reasoning instead of listening to the girl's feelings about it and sympathising with her. >:(
Joanne Since beauty is a big thing in korea they tell her to lose weight because they dont wont her being bullied for it. But i also disagree bc you shluldnt force anyone to do something that they dont want to.
@@shineeloverr yeah I'm pretty sure it is :( I hope you're not starving yourself/ over-eating to cope. I'm here if you wanna talk and know that there's people willing to listen :) Also some people may think "I dont see results" etc and that's just because they are naturally like that ! Don't beat yourself up for being you and I really hope you have a good evening ♡
@@orangejuice8881 thank you so much for your kind words and response( i really needed to hear this ) Due to your words im currently not starving but instead exercising regularly and eating a healthy yet moderate amount of food ! thank you stranger who saved my life i wish you the best of blessings
Yoongi would roast everyone there. The girl, her mother, the hosts. 😂 He doesn't know where to stop. I remember when he called JHope the ugliest member of thr group (srsly.. I still don't understand why he said that) he can be really harsh sometimes
@@TheLaylainlila yoongi won't roast someone unless he has a reason to or if he's close to that person. He's not some immature brat who just roasts everyone because he feels like it.
This made me wonder what did mom learn in college for her degree bc forcing her daughter into having a poor relationship with food isn't how you motivate anyone, let alone your kid... The MC's really did well here
She is a little bit too chubby, but if the mom didn’t shame her so much and thought of a more realistic meal plan for her maybe she could make real progress. Binge eating a lot in one sitting is even more fattening. Starving yourself causes the yoyo effect. Slow dieting yields the best results. Shaming doesn’t help either.
I agree but she's also just 15! She still has baby fat and puberty makes it extremely hard to lose weight, you even gain weight without doing anything...
Wait, is she a so shame of her daughter? How can she said that?! She is still a child, still growing up. Just because she doesn't have a body her mother want, doesn't mean her mother have the right to hurting her like that. Even if the mother have good intentions but her attitude make her like bad mom. Sorry, I don't like her expression.
no matter what, she cant skip breakfast..that is what makes our body gain weight fast..breakfast is so important..and i dont think its healthy to work out with empty stomach and then eat afterwards..i understand why she is craving for foods and it will become her habit..this is so sad..
MidnightFlower13 thats what i mean..she will ended up overeat when she hv chance..n Im sorry for u..me myself on diet too rn..but i ll never skip breakfast..
My mom always complained about my weight and lack of exercise, but she's stopped since I've confronted her about fat-shaming me and after being diagnosed with PCOS. Been chubby my entire life but recently started lose to weight because I'm finally learning how I to feed my body. Despite this, mom insists that I eat all the carb-heavy foods she's used to preparing because she thinks she knows what's best for my body even though I've been feeling healthier and great with my own methods.
If she were in America and said this on national television CPS (Child Protective Services) would quickly step in. She definitely would not have gone home with her mother. Here, what the mother is doing (starving her child), is a form of child abuse. She'd better be glad she lives in a country obsessed with looks and weight. I can't believe any loving parent would go this far to make a child who is clearly not obese lose weight. A little time on the playground and a balanced diet will do that. If she has a gland problem she'll never lose but so much anyway. smh.
"i want her to be confident. She must look beautiful to be accepted by society ." wha?...you tearing her self esteem down won't make her confident, tell her to be herself...if you want her to watch her weight because of her health then that's okay, but making her run and shit when the weather is dangerous is ridiculous and not letting her have proper portions of food is only going to make her eat more outside of your obsessive control...by acting embarrassed by her in public you're going to make yourself hated by your daughter eventually, because you've established a pattern where she is only worthy in your eyes if she looks 'beautiful'. She's a 15 year old, she's still growing, forcing her to lose weight is useless, she has to want it, not you.
20:07 😢 🥺💔🥲😤😠 21:01 Thank you so true she only cares about herself and what others think not her kid 23:58 confidence isn’t beauty, it’s being happy with yourself. doesn’t matter what you look like if you love yourself you will radiate confidence 25:12 memories 10:45 that’s so mean
a mother would love her child unconditionally. it won't matter if her child's fat/disabled/disfigured. this just shows she values being a trainer more than being a mother. why would she be embarassed with her. her daughter's smart and hardworking. I am so pissed. I could just imagine the amount of scolding the daughter would get for binge eating behind her back.
This being so normalized in Korean culture is SHOCKING. They're saying she work outs a lot but nothing happened. Isnt there plus side to losing weight and being healthy? Shes a trainer but she doesnt seem to know the more calories you burn the more your body craves. She over exercises and eats the meals of a 7 year old as a 15 year old. Let her be a teenager first before you try to force her into your perfect daughter. If she doesnt want to do it its only making her hate her mom and hate herself.
Shes not at an age to try to be attractive and skinny, she should be able to focus on her study and enjoy her carefree life. I srslycthink she has better sense than her mom like wht mom would tell her daughter to need no brain in this century. She obviously isnt feeling like she needs to look pretty and skinny at her age. She should lose weight when she wants it not forced like that. Esp with her figure rite now its absolutely normal for her age, I mean she will get taller in her twenties and females like her usually balance out alot
This is the definition of my parents I could connect so much with the girl because I’m the same age and have the same type of parent who think looks are better than smarts.
Its really sad she is treating her daughter like this at such a young age. This is why people have such unhealthy relationship with food. Because it's always forbidden or you need to earn it. You shouldn't feel guilty to eat. Of course the message of eating nd working out together is great. But your daughter is a teenager and doesn't like this... Come on! She is so sweet and kind nd happy. Why ruin that for her?
Here are 13 tips if u r lazy and u want to stay fit 1. Eat a spoonful of peanut butter everyday before u go to bed 2. Drink green tea before bed 3. Drink water before every meal so u dont eat to much 5. Use small plates and bowls 6. Eat the healthy food items first before the hunky foods 7. Dont wear loose clothes while eating 8. You dont have to work out for hours, 15 mins a day is perfect 9. Find a reason to stand up and walk even for food 10. If you think you ate hungry, ask yourself if u want an apple, if u say no, u r just bored 11. Watch scary movies (the scarier, the better) 12. With funny movies or videos. It gives your abs a boost 13. Wear workout clothes ( gets u in the mood to workout and be energized) These ate just some habits you can get into if u are lazy and u want to stay fit and healthy, Like if this worked jot for u
Chi Dear well, at my school they serve disgusting food that tastes like the one served at hospitals. They keep saying "we follow healthy menus and change the menu daily" yet healthy or not It's disgusting...
Chi Dear in school we dont have cafeterias, we are supposed to buy snacks from the school shop. Which consists of potatoe chips and other unhealthy snacks. in university they served rice for lunch everyday.
People always worry about there and everybody else's appearance.....like dang mind yo' business 1 and 2 you is what u is... everybody's words don't matter... if the doctor say ur unhealthy then that's that...but on the mean time people gonna talk and mumble and gossip and envy.... no should be brought down to that person's level because of there personally problems or insecurities.....you feel me...like I said.... u is what u is so don't be ashamed express it
I actually understand her mother, she just want her to be healthy, not to be skinny, but I think her mother is someone that not good at express something
I understand that the mom wants her daughter to be 'attractive' and healthy, but clearly her daughter isn't quite on board with what's going on and is interested in eating. I know that a lot of Asian families can have parents that try to control their kid's weight. I agree that parents should encourage their kids to eat healthy and exercise, but I disagree with the method seen above. By depriving her daughter at home, she's clearly seeking other places to eat the food she wants to eat. In fact, by being so controlling at home, when her daughter goes out with her dad, friends at school, or when she's at school, she's extremely likely to eat even more because she knows she can't have it when her mom is around.
Why are they saying “I would understand if she were 80-90kg” and “but it doesn’t look like you exercise that much” you’re missing the point. if she were bigger then it’s okay for her mother to starve her?
Oh noooo... if she doesn't eat, her body could go into starvation mode and refuse to to burn calories but instead hold onto them, causing weight gain..
Right!! That’s was the first thing that came to my mind when the girl was on the stage. But she is only eating secretly (after I watched the whole vid lol) her mom is just pushing her to the point of binge eating at school because she knows she can’t eat like that at home
makes me so mad that they keep mentioning how she isnt skinny. i was raised similarly and bcs of that i developed binge eating whenever i was free to eat i would eat as much as i can and as unhealthy as i can thinking this is my only chance to eat freely and never refusing food even when i was full..
can we change the mcs and get some serious, woke and open minded people that really know how to give people advices i'm so sick and tired of these people making everything a joke like dang we get it this is entertainment but take somethings seriously
You are too sensitive. In truth, I rather someone do that, why, I suffer from Depression and Anxiety, so when I choose to speak to someone about my problems, I start to tense up as I am tensing up, I start to close up, sometimes people I am talking too says a funny comment or ask a funny question, as I laugh I start feeling a weight is being lift off of me. Whenever they do that, I feel myself opening up again and I let everything out. The key word is Empathy, not sympathy, that is why psychiatrists and psychologists are so good at what they do, they might not drop a joke in, but they find ways to distract you for a moment the second they feel you are about to shut down on them, that's why they keep asking question after question. They rather not give you the time to think, but express.
N.A. Jean but that’s just the way you like to deal with things... this show literally deals with serious problems that should actually be told to councillors, therapists etc, and shouldn’t be just a ‘story’ to entertain others.
r o s e then if you want your serious story not to be laughed or joked about don’t come onto a tv show, primarily a form of entertainment more than anything else, that everyone knows is not fully serious and jokes will be made. I mean I get your point but seriously hello counsellor has always been this. It’s not hard to not write into the show, just don’t write into the show.
It's better getting good grades, because you'll become more successful and you can get degrees and you might be able to get accepted more easily to get jobs. I think that people shouldn't care about how they look or judge them because we are all human
@8:42 the exact same thing happened to me to, i was skinny up until i was like 12 and one summer i gained a lot of weight, but it wasn’t because i ate too much or didn’t work out because i did! my family got scared and they thought it was something serious so they took me to see a bunch of doctors and i went under tons of exams and analysis and even under a diet and even if i was anxious i worked out outside , but it didn’t work at all, only some small results, but nothing someone could actually notice. we later found out it was something related to my growing hormone, it basically stopped working at the most crucial time it was supposed to work so instead of growing taller i stayed the same height and gained weight, people would comment on it at school and boys would say “oh you were pretty before, what happened” and stuff like that, and i can honestly say that up until this day my self esteem has never been the same, i go through periods of time where my mental health gets so bad i can’t even look in the mirror without feeling like throwing up. it’s awful, and my parents are a little more understanding now than they were before because they could see that even though their intentions were right it hurt me beyond words can describe. now, the mom is a trainer, she should know that the physical state of your body does not determine whether you’re healthy or not, sometimes it’s just in your genes and you can’t control it, but what matters is that she should be healthy right? then her body shouldn’t matter!!! it’s hers!!! i wish the mom would try to be more understanding and lest strict, it could really affect her daughter, and for the long run too, it’s hard to recover from stuff like that
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if she has a degree in physical education, than she shoud know about emotional health, stress, healthy eating and healthy extericsing. Why is she treating her children like this?
just cause you have a degree in a subject and knowledge about it doesnt mean a person can actually apply the knowledge
Donkey Slayer lots of people that are professionals in a certain area sometimes can not apple what ever it is they teach/studied into their own lives. They might be able to help other people and give good advice, but can not apply that same advise into their life.
Im guessing shes been through it before and knew the impact it had on her thus telling her kid early on but taking it to an extreme
Omgg true!! 😩
Well I mean, it’s South Korea so unfortunately I’m not surprised…
"She must look beautiful in order to be accepted by the society in the future" This phrase kinda hurt me.
Well,I actually felt my heart ache a little at that point so I can relate
You dont have to be accepted into society , You have to accept yourself , No one gives two fuxks about what society thinks
Ur right but this is how we all r treated this way or that way................ I relate myself too kinda
She i s not overweight i mean she is not fat and cute and society won't be like 'you are fat go away ' dont get me wrong her mothers mind is on exercise all the time i guess but it stresses the girl and makes her eat even more instead of not giving food mom should count kcals or is other ways
Ikr... Why the hell does Society need to accept someone what does one owe to the society!?! One shud b able to accept themselves the way they are
meanwhile there is my mom that tells me to lose weight but offers me a bunch of food everyday
chelsea clrst - count me in :) but somehow my mom still is strict on eating healthy which is ok but then goodthing we have a "househelper" who spoils me with anything I want :) made me think I should be more grateful :)
Same tho but my mom dont really give TOO MUCH food. I just dont like wasting food and my siblings are picky eaters thats prob why I gained a lot of weight.
my mom too lol. 😂😂
The sameeee
Same. She's always like "you really need to lose weight now' then after a few seconds calls me to eat lmao
“Women mustn’t weight more than 50kg.”
I guess I’m a man then..
I'm a fucking pig then😂
im a RHINO then 😩
I’m a fricking elephant then😂😂😂
Dimpless Army lets be elephants together ✨ 🐘 ✨
I am two women in one
tbh I'm really impressed by what dongyeop's father said. It's really cool that he doesn't judge his son for not being like him, he sounds like a good father.
XYN S ikr?
When the mom tried to excuse her ignoring the daughter at the gym it made me so mad. Even if she wanted to protect her name/brand, what kind of mother would choose that pride over the pride of her own child?
I wish this show had real child psychologists.
You mean like Dr. Phil?
@@mrnarason hahahaha
Also marriage counselors
JERRY
After the show they talk to a professional backstage
23:12 "Don't you think what you're doing to her might make it harder for her to be psychologically healthy?"
Okay who is this man and where can I get one
That's Jihan - Do, an actor
@@sameedaqayum1958 I know I saw him somewhere before.. But I can't remember his name 😭😂He was acting in Hwarang with V from BTS 😻😂
@@palvatsuki3388 yes ^°^
@@milicawolf4109 oooo Park Banryu was his name in the drama hehehe im his no 1 fan
Ohh yeaa isn't he Ban Ryu from Hwarang??
ok but for real that school must be a heaven
Adi Boo agree. The food is free tho right? Just like in other countries, they serve the food on plates but it's totally diff at most schools in my country. The food isnt free. They costs like $1 for 1 container of food/one cup of drink regular sized. I mean, we sometimes go home at 12.30/2.00/3.00 in the afternoon. Thats prob why they dont give free food
H N in my school, the food isn’t free. It’s actually pretty expensive yet the food is quite stale but that’s just most cafeteria food. Recently, they hired a new catering service and improved a lot but still quite expensive 😂😂
H N I doubt the food is free
My school sells Ice cream and frozen cokes, With burgers and sushi. Idk why..
Jimin Has no Jams well for me we need to buy our own food using our own money 😌
I always wonder how would the victims get treated by their families after returning home from this counselling ? Just curious
Right?!
Same :(
I think they always get scolded or they’d at least hopefully comfort them or apologize
I'm studying to be an Dietitian and I've met individuals who grew up in similar situations. These people have such a negative relationship with food that it has led to eating disorders like anorexia and binging. A parent's words can affect their children greatly.
The BRIGHTEST STAR The BRIGHTEST STAR oh yes you’re correct, it’s definitely a concern. Just saying that the way a parent approaches the situation can have a great effect. I still remember being called “flaca” when I was little. It’s a nickname meaning “skinny” in Spanish that’s quite common. I wasn’t even that skinny but my parents and family used it anyway without thinking too much about it. It doesn’t seem offensive, right? I didn’t used to think so. But I’ve learned words can stick with you for a LONG TIME.
I’m 25 now and still struggling with body dysmorphia sparked from trying to conform to that nickname “flaca”. Rebuilding a good relationship with food can take a lot longer time than some people think and I just hope this mother and daughter keep that in mind and don’t give up. 💪🏼
The BRIGHTEST STAR oh not offended! Haha just wanted to share :) Maybe someone will read it and relate. You never know. I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through that. There’s definitely better people for you to surround yourself with because you’re worth it :) and I wish you all the luck in finding them. Fighting 💪🏼!
The mom wants her daughter to be confident. Yet, she doesn't want to be seen with her when they were in public. She really needs to change her way of thinking. Being smart is definitely not a useless thing
korean beauty standards are the reason why i cry at night.
izzy i fucking know right😂
Come to America haha XD You'll instantly feel better about yourself!
izzy same
izzy who cares what they think? They are not even perfect themselves.
@@瑷阿丽璦 but that Green Card is hard to get it 😂😂😂😂
Living in asia is hurd even you think i am beautiful but around of people tease you chubby...
She has such great friends that never left her, even after all the things her mom says to them. Like if she started scolding me like she did to that one girl on national TV, I would've lost it.
That's actually not healthy. It's better she eats at certain times of the day and not starve. I mean eating past midnight is not healthy! If all of a sudden she has meal after not eating for a while, that food is usually stored as fat instead of digested. That mom should learn to be dietician before makes her daughter go through this,
Thank you! I was looking for someone else who got it. Starving your body only makes the weight pile on. But it's not that you shouldn't eat after midnight, but that you shouldn't eat a meal 3 hours before you go to sleep. I'm still with you on this though
It also doesn't help with weight loss either. One needs a set amount of calories in order to lose weight. ( At least 1200 calories).
Eating after midnight is okay though, especially if someone works a 2nd/3rd shift job. (like me lol).
no it's actually scientifically proven and can be seen in old knowledge too - for me in Indian ayurveda - that eating so late at night is bad...and scientifically eating right before bedtime is bad because it blocks proper secretion of growth hormone at the wrong time(esp. carbs)...your body needs to repair at night and not activate another cycle focused on food digestion... and it's true also that eating very late at night *and sleeping right after* can cause your body to store it as fat...even more body type matters too and looking at her It probably is - I'm heavy too so i know i have that body type too...
i'm not saying what she's doing is completely right - having only watched 7 minutes so far but what you're claiming isn't completely correct either
MidnightFlower13 it also matters when you eat..
MidnightFlower13 It's does you dumbass
When Dongyeop-ssi talked about his father and how his father stood up for him, even though he can't read hanja, I'm so touched ♥️. You can see it on the girl's face, too. She must've wanted her mom to be able to understand her just like that. 💔
What's your beauty if your brain's empty?
maureen thirteen do you mean what's beauty if your brain's empty?
Neety Nayd yup, a little bit of typo, sorry 😂. I'll edit it.
savage
you can find some stupid sugar daddy *cough *cough
maureen thirteen beauty is empty - mars argo
29:47 look how happy her friends are! That was my favourite moment 😍
This is child abuse.
it really is
Not really, because shes worried about her daughters weight and if shes obese it may cause health problems for the daughter.
M_Alkaabi30 M But the daughter is still in the age of growth. She could lose weight when she is older
M_Alkaabi30 M yes it is!!! Were u not listening to how little she feeds her n how many hours she made her run?? And all those hurtful words are clearly EMOTIONAL ABUSE!! GET IT STRAIGHT!!!
@@m_alkaabi30m42 yeah it is, my mom used to be like that but I just ate whatever I wanted. I was almost 70 kg, now I'm almost 17 years old and I have lost 10 kg only by eating less, everybody is different!
“women must not weigh more than 50 kg”
im not a woman then
I guess I’m a dinosaur.
@@ShotoTodoroki-if6vy Kim Taehyung what are you doing here-
Ya iam a monster my weight is 62😶
how on earth is she supposed to be confident when her mom keeps putting her down 😡
Same
Can't the mom see that she's only eating that much as a result of pushing her so hard?
"it's useless for a woman to be smart" 어이가 없네!!! I was so angry while I was watching this because that woman is just so focused on making her daughter look like her that she just says stupid things. I used to be really heavy and my parents would advice me to lose weight, but they didn't do anything that hurt me or made me eat even more. people I didn't even know would often tell me and my parents that I need to lose weight and my parents would tell them that I would lose weight naturally when I wanted to and when it was right, and I did. I mean I'm still a little chubby but I'm happy with myself now, and I go on diets every now and then so I can gradually lose more weight
you're lucky, i was fat before and my family keep telling me that i was a pig, a cow and that no one was going to like me because i was fat. i lose weight starving and throwing up and i end up in the hospital. until now they still calling me like that and saying that it's okay if i don't eat for three days because i'm fat (and i'm not).
I also felt like the mom was a little bit jealous bcuz her daughter is so smart!!!! (Maybe she didn't get such good grades in her school year)It may sound unrealistic but it can happen sometimes!!! I know a relative who always cuts her daughter's hair in a "piculear" way!!! I once asked her why she did that she(d) looked great in those long curly hair. Her mom answered she(m) was always being called "ugly" for not having "black shinny hair" so this is why she was so jealous of her daughter's hair!!!!!! I got super shocked and sad after hearing her statement!!!😮😮🙁😖😖😖 u
Minori ruba that's so fucking stupid, why would you even be jealous of your own child to the extent of cutting her hair so you can be the "same" 😑 and yeah that could be the case for this woman as well bc she literally makes no sense. "women must be skinny and pretty to be successful" like what kind of logic even is that. this is the 21st century and she's over here stuck in the olden days. I'm just so thankful to my parents because they were always supportive and gave me time to lose weight. I mean sometimes they made me go outside or wme but it wasn't that seriosu
andy vta aww I'm sorry 😞 I kind of went through a similar thing but it was only my older sister who made fun od me. but I have a very "I don't care" attitude/mindset so it didnt matter to me. tbh the most important thing is that you're happy with yourself
Namjoonie Oppa thanks
I believe this girl right now is having a more tough life after revealed all the secret....
Her mum is freaking scary duhh
true...
I think whatever her mom said was just fake.
I hate how they turn this into a big joke... and instead of helping the girl they admire the mom
They should call Dr. Phill
@@donttellmewattodobitxh3468 the f is he gonna do. 😭 fly to south Korea
@@tiaislam645 i mean in all honesty he actually arranges for good quality help for people on his show and really sticks it to problematic parents
@@cartierkoo5974 ya know dr Phil is staged right 💀uno the cash me out side girl and all the other ones are staged right......🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀
@Diana s that is true but she’s also only 15 and she needs food to grow
Korean beauty standards are something that is terrifyingly scary in this era still. Same like their view in educations. The way koreans view on appearance are always terrifying. It’s a never ending cycle.
lmao people in korea dont understand that working out is different for every person. when i was losing weight and was on a diet, i had to bump up my carbs because i wasnt losing weight when i was just eating broccoli and chicken. it worked out tremendously and the pounds started dropping.
but in her case she isnt losing weight because she is binge eating (because her mom starves her). She probably would actually be losing weight if she followed her moms diet. Since they did say say she had lost before and gained the 10kg back.
Appearance is everything in Korea.
MidnightFlower13 Wow, I can't believe u actually believe that, that's simply ignorant, losing weight is NOT the same for everyone on the face of earth.
MidnightFlower13 Oh I remember you, the bitch
MidnightFlower13 no she's right. There are several different body types: mesomorph, endomorph, and ectomorph, as well as combinations of the above. Then there are macronutrients which are how many grams of carbohydrates, protein, and fat a person intakes in a given day, and each body type has a different requirement of each macronutrients depending on whether you're trying to lose weight or build muscle. For example I am an endomorph so my body holds on to Fat more easily than the other types and it's also harder for my body type to lose weight. My body type also functions better on a lower carb diet. So yes you're right in the fact that we all need carbohydrates in order to survive, but the amount that your body requires varies person to person. But honeysulli probably requires more carbohydrates because of her body type.
They were surprised that she was 15, but for example, in western age she would be 13 because koreans age 2 times a year, 1 on their birthday and 1 at the end of the year so she is 13 which is really young :(
Her mother should be teaching her how to have a balnced balanced diet and exercise regiment. And being comfortable in her skin. Instead she's giving her body image issues and food insecurity.
Do you eat?
@@clarissamarsfiels7961 you don't?
@@shubhangiambhore5583 No, I stoped eating 6 months ago and it works perfectly. I was just wondering
@@clarissamarsfiels7961 HOW R U EVEN ALIVE?!
@@clarissamarsfiels7961 🤣🤣🤣 you're hilarious
I loved it whenever she smiled.❤ She is so cute.
Her weight would regulate if her mum fed her properly and she wouldn't feel the need to eat so much at school. Reduce her workout to 30 mins- 1 hour and feed her properly, as not only would her weight regulate, it would be healthier overall. Her mum is only thinking about her daughter's visual looks. If she cared about the inside of her body and her digestion, she would know to feed her regular meals and not force her to do that much exercise.
So wat? She cant even control her own food intake in sch
The reason why the girl ate too much in school was because she's deprived of food at home. If her body aches all over because of work out, her mom wont feed her so that added on to her stress. Stress- eating at school was her way to make herself and her body feel better.
@@sun-ox3bt the reason she ate so much was because her mom always limited how much she ate, if her mom let her eat more regularly she wouldn’t need to binge as much
honestly, the mom just needs to give healthy and consistent meals if she wants to see good results and have her daughter feel full, like as a trainer i thought she would be more aware of that
If you don't accept your daughter no matter how she looks you're a bad mom. Even making her lose weight by not letting her eat and making her over work her body. THATS WHY SHE EATS SO MUXH AT SCHOOL. You don't give the nutrition her body needs. The girls only 15, she's going through puberty. Puberty makes you gain weight, especially when you start your period. Her mom tortures her this isn't a good way to treat your child. Her moms a personal trainer she should know that it's hard to lose weight if you strict your eating. In fact you gain water weight is you don't eat. I'm so madddd.
gk same goes for sons too. Sons and daughters are beautiful just they way they are. I dont get why parents don't accept that
Jibooty is life extremely true.
it kind of helps her self esteem tho
Her mom is ridiculously ABUSIVE!!! everything is falling on deaf ears on her..I can not stand ppl like this..they should not be parents
I dont eat to i sometime starve myself like i dont eat 5 days in a row and i dont drink either and bcs of that the doctor said that my stomach is shrinking and it will make me weak and now i was almost anorexic so i started eating even if im full and i weight just normal
im really impressed about how she can say those things in front of her mom
MY MOM IS EXACTLY LIKE THAT. OH LORD I HOPE SHE STOP AND TREAT HER DAUGHTER NICELY
Yelskies same!!!!!
I wish my mom was like that
Yelskies my mom too
Mysha Chimchim Why do you wish that?
All Day I Think Of 2PM Bc I love working out and dieting and eating healthy and my mom is the opposite
세상 이쁘고 귀여운 아이네.
지금은 먹고싶은거 먹고
영양분이 뇌와 각 기관들에 영양을 공급해 줄 때입니다
몸매는 공부 열심히 해서 대학 들어갈때 즈음 신경써도 절대 늦지 않아요
진짜 지금 몸매 그대로 성인 몸매로 이어지지 않아요~ 적절한 식습관이 중요한데 지금은 역효과 날듯
Being a fat kid myself, I can relate to her. Even from a young age, many would tease me because of my weight. I at least have family members who don't pressure me to lose weight. She needs support emotionally. She'll end up stressed and depressed at that state. I lost weight at around her age and of course everything changed. People complimented that I'm pretty and it boosted my confidence. Then I gained it all back again and people start saying that I let myself go. Someone even told me that I looked pitiable because of my weight (at my grandmother's funeral at that). To think that he pitied me because I'm fat and not because I lost someone dear to me. I cried a lot that night and even caused a rampage. Thankfully my family was there and comforted me. During the time I gained and gained more weight, I started appreciating myself and what I have. I also thought of the people in my life and finding the ones that didn't care for my appearance. I found acceptance. Right now, I'm losing some weight again. I am determined to buy those dresses and outfits that I want for myself. And I'm doing it for myself and no one else. I did have a lot of setbacks before, especially when I was going through a lot of stress and depression. But I found that you should try and try when you want to. Now I found a diet that works for me and I can stick to. Everything falls into its own time when you're ready to accept them. (Sorry for all the rambling, it got too long)
👏👏👏👏 I don't know you yet I'm so proud of you haha. I can also relate a lot to you, but in the opposite way. I was underweight, not because I didn't eat enough, but because I don't gain weight easily yet I lose weight fast. My parents of course never said anything since I wasn't in the unhealthy side and It's our genetics but all the girls at school used to bully me while calling me a stick, a skeleton (I wasn't even THAT thin!) and some relatives would always be like "You should start eating" when I in fact eat more than them. I was at first totally fine with my body, but because of them I started to hate being thin. So I did everything to gain weight and in the end... I got a big butt and my belly isn't flat anymore. :/ So now I do regret it and I'm kinda pissed off since I restarted being underweight yet if I want to get rid of belly fat I should work out and I'm the laziest person on earth. 😂😂 Anyways, in the end, you should find how you like yourself, not how others like you. I understand that some people were worried for me, but I've seen more people trying to make me gain weight so they'll feel better about their own body. That's disgusting tbh.
EDIT: Oh damn I just wrote an essay sorry! I always write too much...
Roana Javelosa I feel ya
Roana Javelosa You do yo. Love the positivity
Roana Javelosa everything will be easy if we willing to reduce our weight right..
Same like me.. my brother often teasing me..
Saying I'm fat..
Then I decided to done some exercise..
I do lost some weight..
That the main key..
When u willing.. you will enjoy when u do it
I understand her mom. She is just toooo extreme. I mean health is key. It's hard to just see your child "waste away". Yanno. But the mom is still not right because there are so many ways for her to go about this situation instead she is being to harsh.
"I thought women's abs didn't become six packs." Who said that? Really?!
lol, yes, that was funny. It is like they have never been to a gym, or have never watched athletics on TV.
Am I the only one who doesn't think that neither of the three girls are overweight? Like sure, their faces are a bit chubby but their body seems normal to me! That women is making her daughter eating out of stress.
No they are overweigth but they are young too so they should be able to go back to a healthier weight easier bij work out and eating healthy. It's a concern because if they are already on the overwieght side nog at a yough age it most time goes worse when they get older (im no good in english i hope you understand what im saing)
26:05 Gosh she is so cute especially when she smiles with her eyes T_T
My mom always says this to me in the past few days "you should've lose weight. You got fat again." And "*pinch my cheeks* you're chubbyyy! Get your body thin!" "Don't eat too much!" But...
"The food is on refrigerator. Eat!"
"Don't starve yourself. Cook what you like and eat."
"We bought pizza for you!"
"You're still young to be on a diet! Go on and eat!"
"*knocks on my door* hey you still didn't eat right? Come onn! I cooked you're favourite food!"
Ikr!!! Me too!
I wish everything gets better and you could be healthy
This is totally my mom!
this is totally my parent especially my mum. 😂
I agreeee
And my MoM be like
Me:*started dieting
MoM:sweety I have cooked all your fav dishes today...it's a feast...
My MoM don't want me to skip meal...that's why I'm more like a stuffed bear 😂😂😂😂😂
her eyes are so cute and little. she’s like a little doll! i love her bangs.
She is now 18-19 years old and I hope she is doing okay and I am really curious to know how fit she is now.... ☺
"I thought women's abs didn't become six packs" 8:10 😂😂😂😂😂
Ramen Noodles it's possible
it is possible if you don't have a lot of body fat, it's a lot easier for men because they don't have boobs so they automatically have less body fat to begin with.
Yeah I know it's possible, I was just laughing at how dumb it sounded! Everyone should have abdominal muscles, and revealing that six pack is only a matter of exercise. Are women these magical, non-abdominal muscle having creatures? It was funny, but I'm honestly a little disappointed that some men still think women are "lacking" something they have! 😂😂
That's not what he said, the translation's off cause he said something that would need a little bit of explaining. the subbers were too lazy and just went with this sentence instead which is way off tho
I'm German and so I make a German joke right now: What is the goal of every German man? - A six pack! - And what kind of six pack? - A six pack of beer!
mom has disordered eating too she binges and purges with overexercising and restricting so she tries to control her daughter but controlling behavior leads her daughter to completely lose control around food making everything worse. they mentioned she actually asked her mom to help her lose weight before and she could've lose weight if her mom wasnt so controlling://
"You eat just a little with fruit and vegetables, isn't that healthy?''. NO... Your body keeps all the nutrients when it doesn't get enough.. thus the fat stays because the body is worried about the lack of food in the time to come. In addition, she is really stressed out as well. Being stress causes weight gain too.. Plus she binge eat from the stress and it becomes a disorder
blueraineee also an addition to your comment you SHOULDN'T just eat fruit and vegetables... Meat,eggs, and other protein food is healthy for the body too...Rice is healthy too
Yeah fruits and vegetables are still carbs, especially fruits, I don't know why the mum think it's super healthy. It just looks really unbalanced.
blueraineee Starvation mode is a myth. But I agree with your other points.
@@zephyr4074 broccoli has just as much protein as steak. Meat and dairy aren't necessary
29:49 The two girls are like, lol nope we know how she truly is.
"If she's about 80-90 kg, we understand that"
No! A mom can't do that to her daughter! That's bad for her mental health! It's just so crazy, i can't belive it....
i'm happy that youngja mentioned the "bingeing of food" when ppl don't eat enough or eat less... my mom made me go on a very strict diet which resulted in me bingeing on whatever edible item i could find and gain more weight! the mom is such a fitness freak she should atleast have knowledge about this stuff :/ and also she should not force her daughter to be pretty only from outside, being intelligent is so much attractive than being a dumb pretty woman...
No,she's not fat,she looks so cute.She reminds me of Akmu Soohyun.
This counts as abuse, right? Starving your child?
**I'm only like 6 minutes into the video, don't mind me 😂**
Couldn't even watch the whole segment, the MCs really piss me off with comments about the girl not being "skinny", and how the girl being controlled and manipulated and starved "could be a good thing" - i guess it's culture difference but I hate that they try to encourage weight loss and to understand the mother's reasoning instead of listening to the girl's feelings about it and sympathising with her. >:(
Joanne Since beauty is a big thing in korea they tell her to lose weight because they dont wont her being bullied for it. But i also disagree bc you shluldnt force anyone to do something that they dont want to.
You didn't even watch the whole segment to find out that they actually told the mum to change her treatment.
I watched the whole segment, they are actually on the daughters side.
Its not good to keep Molly coddling people...
Watch the whole video before judging
I know my eating disorder and disordered self imagine has reached its peak when I thought "Omg, I need to go live with her mother ":'(
Same I also think I have atypical anorexia and I thought 'I wish my mother was like that'
@@adyashasatapathy82 i always wish i had someone restrict my food & beat me if i binged is this a sign of an eating disorder?
@@shineeloverr yeah I'm pretty sure it is :(
I hope you're not starving yourself/ over-eating to cope. I'm here if you wanna talk and know that there's people willing to listen :)
Also some people may think "I dont see results" etc and that's just because they are naturally like that ! Don't beat yourself up for being you and I really hope you have a good evening ♡
@@orangejuice8881 thank you so much for your kind words and response( i really needed to hear this ) Due to your words im currently not starving but instead exercising regularly and eating a healthy yet moderate amount of food ! thank you stranger who saved my life i wish you the best of blessings
someone tell that mom that she's doing it the wrong way !!!
POV this vid popping in my feed 6yrs later
They should have invited yoongi so that he could roast that woman
I think Yoongi would've been so annoyed instead of laughing like the other men in the panel (or whatever you call it)
Charmaine Khor why would he roast her? She wants the best for her kid, although she is doing it the wrong way
Yoongi would roast everyone there. The girl, her mother, the hosts. 😂 He doesn't know where to stop. I remember when he called JHope the ugliest member of thr group (srsly.. I still don't understand why he said that) he can be really harsh sometimes
@@TheLaylainlila yoongi won't roast someone unless he has a reason to or if he's close to that person. He's not some immature brat who just roasts everyone because he feels like it.
@@ashminley calm down. It was a joke. Of course he wouldn't 😧
A woman's self worth is how beautiful she feels and how intelligent she is, that is true beauty.
This makes me appreciate my mom and realize that not all people has such an awesome mom like the mom i have.
This made me wonder what did mom learn in college for her degree bc forcing her daughter into having a poor relationship with food isn't how you motivate anyone, let alone your kid... The MC's really did well here
She is a little bit too chubby, but if the mom didn’t shame her so much and thought of a more realistic meal plan for her maybe she could make real progress. Binge eating a lot in one sitting is even more fattening. Starving yourself causes the yoyo effect. Slow dieting yields the best results. Shaming doesn’t help either.
I agree but she's also just 15! She still has baby fat and puberty makes it extremely hard to lose weight, you even gain weight without doing anything...
Jimin's cherry-bottom is infires she 15 in korean age, in our age she is 14, so it is even worse
She’s not even chubby.
@@krista5419 it’s just that her face is round, it looks cute too
Really impressed with how the hosts handled this! I was frustrated but they said pretty much what i was thinking :)
I will never do this to my kids and I'm not even married
Wait, is she a so shame of her daughter?
How can she said that?!
She is still a child, still growing up. Just because she doesn't have a body her mother want, doesn't mean her mother have the right to hurting her like that.
Even if the mother have good intentions but her attitude make her like bad mom.
Sorry, I don't like her expression.
no matter what, she cant skip breakfast..that is what makes our body gain weight fast..breakfast is so important..and i dont think its healthy to work out with empty stomach and then eat afterwards..i understand why she is craving for foods and it will become her habit..this is so sad..
MidnightFlower13 thats what i mean..she will ended up overeat when she hv chance..n Im sorry for u..me myself on diet too rn..but i ll never skip breakfast..
I skip breakfast every single day-
Dongyup, Youngja, and Jihan really went off on this concern. Especially Youngja bringing up her struggles with binging.
My mom always complained about my weight and lack of exercise, but she's stopped since I've confronted her about fat-shaming me and after being diagnosed with PCOS. Been chubby my entire life but recently started lose to weight because I'm finally learning how I to feed my body. Despite this, mom insists that I eat all the carb-heavy foods she's used to preparing because she thinks she knows what's best for my body even though I've been feeling healthier and great with my own methods.
If she were in America and said this on national television CPS (Child Protective Services) would quickly step in. She definitely would not have gone home with her mother. Here, what the mother is doing (starving her child), is a form of child abuse. She'd better be glad she lives in a country obsessed with looks and weight. I can't believe any loving parent would go this far to make a child who is clearly not obese lose weight. A little time on the playground and a balanced diet will do that. If she has a gland problem she'll never lose but so much anyway. smh.
This honestly sounds like borderline child abuse.
딸 인상 너무좋고 착하고 성격도 너무 예쁘고 바르다..
웃는 모습이 너무나 사랑스럽다...
근데 동엽신 아버님 말씀 말씀...눈물났어요 정말
멋있습니다!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"i want her to be confident. She must look beautiful to be accepted by society ."
wha?...you tearing her self esteem down won't make her confident, tell her to be herself...if you want her to watch her weight because of her health then that's okay, but making her run and shit when the weather is dangerous is ridiculous and not letting her have proper portions of food is only going to make her eat more outside of your obsessive control...by acting embarrassed by her in public you're going to make yourself hated by your daughter eventually, because you've established a pattern where she is only worthy in your eyes if she looks 'beautiful'. She's a 15 year old, she's still growing, forcing her to lose weight is useless, she has to want it, not you.
20:07 😢 🥺💔🥲😤😠
21:01 Thank you so true she only cares about herself and what others think not her kid
23:58 confidence isn’t beauty, it’s being happy with yourself. doesn’t matter what you look like if you love yourself you will radiate confidence
25:12 memories
10:45 that’s so mean
a mother would love her child unconditionally. it won't matter if her child's fat/disabled/disfigured. this just shows she values being a trainer more than being a mother. why would she be embarassed with her. her daughter's smart and hardworking. I am so pissed. I could just imagine the amount of scolding the daughter would get for binge eating behind her back.
damn yoongi should be on this show, he'd be so good at calling out that woman
they've been called out before by other idols. and anyone with common sense would think the mother was going to far, not just idols.
This being so normalized in Korean culture is SHOCKING. They're saying she work outs a lot but nothing happened. Isnt there plus side to losing weight and being healthy?
Shes a trainer but she doesnt seem to know the more calories you burn the more your body craves. She over exercises and eats the meals of a 7 year old as a 15 year old. Let her be a teenager first before you try to force her into your perfect daughter. If she doesnt want to do it its only making her hate her mom and hate herself.
'I memorise the lunch menu' Oml this girl is me when it come to food 😂😂😂
Glad I don't have her mum though...
Shes not at an age to try to be attractive and skinny, she should be able to focus on her study and enjoy her carefree life. I srslycthink she has better sense than her mom like wht mom would tell her daughter to need no brain in this century. She obviously isnt feeling like she needs to look pretty and skinny at her age. She should lose weight when she wants it not forced like that. Esp with her figure rite now its absolutely normal for her age, I mean she will get taller in her twenties and females like her usually balance out alot
OH SHOOT IT’S THE ACTOR FOR BAN RYU IN HWARANG!!!
신동엽이 너무 착하구 다 MC들이 굉장히 좋다양~
"She must look beautiful in order to be accepted in society in the future" .....
This is the definition of my parents I could connect so much with the girl because I’m the same age and have the same type of parent who think looks are better than smarts.
Smita Rose thats bad. God help you
Its really sad she is treating her daughter like this at such a young age. This is why people have such unhealthy relationship with food. Because it's always forbidden or you need to earn it. You shouldn't feel guilty to eat. Of course the message of eating nd working out together is great. But your daughter is a teenager and doesn't like this... Come on! She is so sweet and kind nd happy. Why ruin that for her?
Here are 13 tips if u r lazy and u want to stay fit
1. Eat a spoonful of peanut butter everyday before u go to bed
2. Drink green tea before bed
3. Drink water before every meal so u dont eat to much
5. Use small plates and bowls
6. Eat the healthy food items first before the hunky foods
7. Dont wear loose clothes while eating
8. You dont have to work out for hours, 15 mins a day is perfect
9. Find a reason to stand up and walk even for food
10. If you think you ate hungry, ask yourself if u want an apple, if u say no, u r just bored
11. Watch scary movies (the scarier, the better)
12. With funny movies or videos. It gives your abs a boost
13. Wear workout clothes ( gets u in the mood to workout and be energized)
These ate just some habits you can get into if u are lazy and u want to stay fit and healthy, Like if this worked jot for u
I SAW these tips before in a vid. But I forgot who was the uploader. HAHA nice reminder tho
why peanut butter?
yujeong is seriously so pretty. she's so bright and cute
When I was in high school majority of the time they served chicken nuggets and pizza for lunch 😒😢
Chi Dear well, at my school they serve disgusting food that tastes like the one served at hospitals. They keep saying "we follow healthy menus and change the menu daily" yet healthy or not It's disgusting...
Chi Dear in school we dont have cafeterias, we are supposed to buy snacks from the school shop. Which consists of potatoe chips and other unhealthy snacks.
in university they served rice for lunch everyday.
Korea school food looks heavenly
SHE IS SO CUTE AND ALSO KIND INNOCENT LUV UUU .
People always worry about there and everybody else's appearance.....like dang mind yo' business 1 and 2 you is what u is... everybody's words don't matter... if the doctor say ur unhealthy then that's that...but on the mean time people gonna talk and mumble and gossip and envy.... no should be brought down to that person's level because of there personally problems or insecurities.....you feel me...like I said.... u is what u is so don't be ashamed express it
I wish her friends mother would adopt her lol she's such a nice caring mother
My mom is the opposite. She always tells me to eat. She thinks I’m skinny 😂😂
I actually understand her mother, she just want her to be healthy, not to be skinny, but I think her mother is someone that not good at express something
I understand that the mom wants her daughter to be 'attractive' and healthy, but clearly her daughter isn't quite on board with what's going on and is interested in eating. I know that a lot of Asian families can have parents that try to control their kid's weight. I agree that parents should encourage their kids to eat healthy and exercise, but I disagree with the method seen above. By depriving her daughter at home, she's clearly seeking other places to eat the food she wants to eat. In fact, by being so controlling at home, when her daughter goes out with her dad, friends at school, or when she's at school, she's extremely likely to eat even more because she knows she can't have it when her mom is around.
Why are they saying “I would understand if she were 80-90kg” and “but it doesn’t look like you exercise that much” you’re missing the point. if she were bigger then it’s okay for her mother to starve her?
Oh noooo... if she doesn't eat, her body could go into starvation mode and refuse to to burn calories but instead hold onto them, causing weight gain..
BRIT exactly
Right!! That’s was the first thing that came to my mind when the girl was on the stage. But she is only eating secretly (after I watched the whole vid lol) her mom is just pushing her to the point of binge eating at school because she knows she can’t eat like that at home
makes me so mad that they keep mentioning how she isnt skinny. i was raised similarly and bcs of that i developed binge eating whenever i was free to eat i would eat as much as i can and as unhealthy as i can thinking this is my only chance to eat freely and never refusing food even when i was full..
can we change the mcs and get some serious, woke and open minded people that really know how to give people advices i'm so sick and tired of these people making everything a joke like dang we get it this is entertainment but take somethings seriously
You are too sensitive. In truth, I rather someone do that, why, I suffer from Depression and Anxiety, so when I choose to speak to someone about my problems, I start to tense up as I am tensing up, I start to close up, sometimes people I am talking too says a funny comment or ask a funny question, as I laugh I start feeling a weight is being lift off of me. Whenever they do that, I feel myself opening up again and I let everything out. The key word is Empathy, not sympathy, that is why psychiatrists and psychologists are so good at what they do, they might not drop a joke in, but they find ways to distract you for a moment the second they feel you are about to shut down on them, that's why they keep asking question after question. They rather not give you the time to think, but express.
N.A. Jean but that’s just the way you like to deal with things... this show literally deals with serious problems that should actually be told to councillors, therapists etc, and shouldn’t be just a ‘story’ to entertain others.
r o s e then if you want your serious story not to be laughed or joked about don’t come onto a tv show, primarily a form of entertainment more than anything else, that everyone knows is not fully serious and jokes will be made. I mean I get your point but seriously hello counsellor has always been this. It’s not hard to not write into the show, just don’t write into the show.
Its a variety show... If you want serious situations go and watch a documentary
It's better getting good grades, because you'll become more successful and you can get degrees and you might be able to get accepted more easily to get jobs. I think that people shouldn't care about how they look or judge them because we are all human
@8:42 the exact same thing happened to me to, i was skinny up until i was like 12 and one summer i gained a lot of weight, but it wasn’t because i ate too much or didn’t work out because i did! my family got scared and they thought it was something serious so they took me to see a bunch of doctors and i went under tons of exams and analysis and even under a diet and even if i was anxious i worked out outside , but it didn’t work at all, only some small results, but nothing someone could actually notice. we later found out it was something related to my growing hormone, it basically stopped working at the most crucial time it was supposed to work so instead of growing taller i stayed the same height and gained weight, people would comment on it at school and boys would say “oh you were pretty before, what happened” and stuff like that, and i can honestly say that up until this day my self esteem has never been the same, i go through periods of time where my mental health gets so bad i can’t even look in the mirror without feeling like throwing up. it’s awful, and my parents are a little more understanding now than they were before because they could see that even though their intentions were right it hurt me beyond words can describe.
now, the mom is a trainer, she should know that the physical state of your body does not determine whether you’re healthy or not, sometimes it’s just in your genes and you can’t control it, but what matters is that she should be healthy right? then her body shouldn’t matter!!! it’s hers!!! i wish the mom would try to be more understanding and lest strict, it could really affect her daughter, and for the long run too, it’s hard to recover from stuff like that
finally someone who admits their mistakes on this program hallelujah
Her mom- tell her to do so much work out
My mom- just eat this all see your self, I am already very fat she wants me to eat more🤣
That diet is totally not meant for her body type, that mom should do little research before forcing her daughter to go through this.