My daughters only loves her dad.No one's on my side in my family[Hello Counselor ENG,THA/2018.09.10]

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  • @8ri1
    @8ri1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5579

    The fact that she knew to start clinging to him for her safety at 3 means that his violent streaks and their arguments must be terrible. Way worse than what they are saying. Poor kid...

    • @jazzyjezzy3016
      @jazzyjezzy3016 5 ปีที่แล้ว +118

      Yeah... she grew up too fast...

    • @maymayy1208
      @maymayy1208 5 ปีที่แล้ว +129

      Exactly.thats what made me cry, cause she's sideing with him causes she's terrified of him. She rather be with him than against

    • @anushka1223
      @anushka1223 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      ikr toxic male toxic masculinity is never good ik there r men who hv this male ego but i hope they dont use it in a bad way to dominate themselves on the weaker ones . ( n ofc this doesnt go for all men )

    • @kathybear5818
      @kathybear5818 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I find it odd though how she wouldn’t want him to leave why? She should be happy that the person she fears most is out of sight.

    • @KaotikBOOO
      @KaotikBOOO 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@kathybear5818 she fears him when he's angry so she tries to do thing that won't make him angry, that makes sense
      She's not "terrified" or anything like this, that's just the comments over reading things that haven't been said like usual
      Parents fight, they yell, the kid is scared of both but chose to side with the strongest because he's scarier

  • @betinaaksoz6246
    @betinaaksoz6246 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6669

    I cried when it is revealed that the girl is actually scared of her dad.

    • @bekahrogers4831
      @bekahrogers4831 6 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      Berna Aksoz me too! Bawled my eyes out.

    • @127inch
      @127inch 6 ปีที่แล้ว +88

      Same, this hit me hard

    • @fadilahmohdnor3188
      @fadilahmohdnor3188 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Me tooo... 😭😭😭😭

    • @Jakikikan
      @Jakikikan 6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Who cuts the onion?!

    • @BirdsofParis
      @BirdsofParis 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I think it's just to emphasize​ how much they're crying involuntarily

  • @yannicutie
    @yannicutie 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4546

    The way the little girl reacted to her dad is the same way most women that are in abusive relationships act. They do what ever they can to please their man and make him happy so that he wont get angry and hurt them. It's sad that she had to learn to adapt like that at a young age. No little girl or women should ever fell this way. I hope hey really fix their relationship or get a divorce.

    • @Matagu1
      @Matagu1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      You forgot Abused man. Many many man are abused, bullied, manipulated and raped by their girlfriend or wife.

    • @abigails.9841
      @abigails.9841 6 ปีที่แล้ว +203

      GhiraLink Men are biologically stronger than women and culturally the 'head of the household' because of it; far more women end up being the ones heavily abused in the relationship when it goes wrong. There are cases where men are abused by their wives/girlfriends, but they are not 'many many'. It's much less common, but it isn't any less depressing.
      Abusive relationships like these rarely get better; the best way is to walk out when you get the chance. Children are a strong reason to be tied down, find yourself trapped. I hope this one finds its way. The children here are my greatest concern, as they are likely to struggle from this experience. The toll of being raised from broken homes takes on children is never a good one.

    • @abigails.9841
      @abigails.9841 6 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Peachypink짜니 I'm sorry you had to go through that. You and your mother must've gone through hell because of it. I had a good father, he never abused me in any way, shape or form. I feel very lucky because it. Having a loving relationship with your parents throughout childhood and adulthood is such an important bond, it saddens me seeing the people in the comment section, like you, talking about their own experiences with abuse in their own homes. Best wishes to you and your family.

    • @twiceboo5601
      @twiceboo5601 6 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Peachypink짜니 I can lowkey relate to that ;( just about a month ago I was in a very bad mood so I went outside my house and I just wanted a walk so my parents especially my dad, he pulled me in took me upstairs my mother came running in I tried to espcape but they were pulled me my mother pulled me by my hair and she was trying to choke me, I screamed for help so my family helped me get out and also my dad broke the door when I tried to keep it shut. After all that happen my family blamed everything on me, they said I was possessed by the devil and they kept insulting me. The next day I was forced to hug my parents when I really didn’t want to. they called me weird because I wouldn’t hug my parents, if only they understood how people who’ve gone through this felt. I’m really sorry for what happened to you I really hope your relationship with your dad he’s better.

    • @rayychill1306
      @rayychill1306 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      chaeyoung myoui I’m so sorry for you to go through this..

  • @AmethystKaianna
    @AmethystKaianna 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4235

    Probably one of the most heartbreaking concerns I've watched in a while. Imagine she was doing that out of fear. It colours the whole concern differently.

    • @murendenin4697
      @murendenin4697 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      What I like about this comment is how you spelled colour because I haven't seen anyone else spell it that way so thank you

    • @AmethystKaianna
      @AmethystKaianna 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      :D You're welcome! I refuse to spell it any other way

    • @miri4963
      @miri4963 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@murendenin4697 I'm on your side😂

    • @illegalhunter7
      @illegalhunter7 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      wait, Doesn't everyone outside of the US spell it as colour? I learnt to spell it as colour and not color...

    • @AmethystKaianna
      @AmethystKaianna 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      illegalhunter7 I thought it was just the UK

  • @baakojernigan7095
    @baakojernigan7095 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5251

    That twist was heartbreaking :(

    • @yoojihoon97
      @yoojihoon97 6 ปีที่แล้ว +257

      Baako Jernigan yeah I cried the moment she say she act cute so that her dad won’t get angry

    • @BriChuhime-sama
      @BriChuhime-sama 6 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      I know, I almost bawled like I got hit

    • @DedexxxArthur
      @DedexxxArthur 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      i cried

    • @armym.c3031
      @armym.c3031 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Baako Jernigan ikr! That was painful to hear! Never cried so hard.

    • @music.chatte2573
      @music.chatte2573 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@yoojihoon97 Same!!! I really felt that because it reminded me of my past :((

  • @margarita2go
    @margarita2go 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3647

    The husband has a dark side that the children see thats why theyre nicer to him so he wouldnt turn on them

    • @APerson-ui5zq
      @APerson-ui5zq 6 ปีที่แล้ว +109

      or simply they assume that the mum deserves to be treated like this and thus they are not nice to her like the father
      they follow his example, if he was nice to his wife the children would follow too

    • @MarokoJin
      @MarokoJin 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Every single person on this planet has a dark side.
      The kids suffered because he wasn't aware of it, he doesn't seem to do it on purpose.

    • @rachelnepumoceno5953
      @rachelnepumoceno5953 6 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      @@APerson-ui5zq they did not assume that mom deserves to be treated like this it is just that they are scared that the dad might turn on them that is why they show their love to their father.......wait......did you even finish the video? or atleast get to 22:00 ?

    • @ghxsty_
      @ghxsty_ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      A Person did you not watch the video? The little girl confirmed she was afraid of her dad

    • @maymayy1208
      @maymayy1208 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@APerson-ui5zq bruh. Watch the whole thing 😑

  • @Nik-pr7ox
    @Nik-pr7ox 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3502

    i thought it was "interesting" when they figured out she was actually scared of her dad and that's why she acts like this. i wouldn't have guessed tbh and i think it's a huge concern, i hope everything works out for their family

    • @KnotApps
      @KnotApps 6 ปีที่แล้ว +87

      I'm not really sure about this though. She is just a small six year old and those particular questions in that order were probably leading her on tbh. Kids generally try to hide from people they are scared off not wait up all night for them so I'm still a little skeptical about this.

    • @Nik-pr7ox
      @Nik-pr7ox 6 ปีที่แล้ว +168

      @@KnotApps I was really scared of my mother when i was about her age and would do anything to keep her "my friend". Even if that meant staying up late to greet her, since i was scared something would happen if i ignored her. I get your opinion though, I'm just less skeptical about it since I've had something similar happen to me

    • @KnotApps
      @KnotApps 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@Nik-pr7ox ah no I don't mean in all cases. I'm sorry it happened to you, but looking at this kid and the way she throws really loud tantrums when her father leaves for work, that's not what you'd do if you were scared of someone right, especially since that could get them mad.

    • @Nik-pr7ox
      @Nik-pr7ox 6 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      @@KnotApps True, and im not saying I completely believe everything that was going on but i think the kid knows that her dad likes it when she shows she "cares" (even if that means throwing tantrums apparently) because he didn't think it was a problem, which could be a reason why she's doing it. It's just that from my experience I know you kinda learn what that person likes and dislikes, even though you're very young

    • @KnotApps
      @KnotApps 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@Nik-pr7ox could be, yeah that makes sense. I Hope they sort it out too.

  • @sshdontdisturb
    @sshdontdisturb 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1276

    Their daughter saying that she does all those things because she was scared of her own dad.... I died. I literally cried so much my mom stared at me. That would be really heartbreaking for both the mom and dad. I hope they can work things out. Its never okay to fight in front of the kids, that could really be traumatic depending on how they fight. That’ll leave a scar on their kids heart. :(

  • @sea20906
    @sea20906 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4108

    Me: marriage is a blessing
    Hello counselor: Aha so is divorce
    😂😂😂😂

    • @sea20906
      @sea20906 6 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      @Ri'AikaCröw most of the time on this show, these kid&adult marriges are hopeless 😂

    • @iskotayo1
      @iskotayo1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +108

      when there is too much stress, and couple fights alot especially in front of their kids. Divorce indeed a blessing...

    • @tacha363
      @tacha363 6 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      I have literally never heard them suggest a divorce even when they really really need to.

    • @jaywalker6728
      @jaywalker6728 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      1001th like!

    • @adventuresociety588
      @adventuresociety588 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      omfg

  • @ncha1414
    @ncha1414 6 ปีที่แล้ว +768

    When there's an issue with a child, I never blame them. I believe no one should. People are the way they are because of their environment. Kids mostly learn from what they see rather than what they are told, so I'm not surprised the mom is getting disrespected since their dad doesn't show her respect. I hope they learned from this and provide a healthier environment for their children to grow up in.

  • @michellep3374
    @michellep3374 6 ปีที่แล้ว +876

    HOLY SHIT.
    I read the comments before watching the video, so I knew what the true concern was but WOW....
    I still burst into tears and my heart broke from the way they phrased it - that her daughter chose the "strongest to survive" my goddddd...

    • @rapmongodofdestruction6089
      @rapmongodofdestruction6089 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      michelle p same here and it hits to close to home my parents just got a divorce from a abusive relationship

    • @ellenphilpotts-troy2098
      @ellenphilpotts-troy2098 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I dont understand that part where you say she choose the strongest to survive.

    • @sierramobley8962
      @sierramobley8962 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@ellenphilpotts-troy2098 the daughter chose to be close to her dad because he's the strong, scary one. If she's on his good side, she doesn't have to be scared. That's what that means

    • @madyhurd7215
      @madyhurd7215 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      So you're saying this little girl does not love her mom?

    • @mxeyachae
      @mxeyachae 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@madyhurd7215 michlle p doesn't mean the girl doesn't love her mother.She said,she always see her parents fight. And her father abusive to her mother so she chose her father because she afraid she will be hit or yelled by her father.

  • @shjns_
    @shjns_ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +673

    Am I the only one who literally cried when they revealed the reason why she’s so attached to his dad?

  • @katielam6722
    @katielam6722 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2201

    Wtf just happened?! The biggest plot twist in history

    • @captainlevi7188
      @captainlevi7188 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      after k.will mv

    • @anushasan9452
      @anushasan9452 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@captainlevi7188 Yes. That will always be on the 1st position 😂

    • @bottlegod4995
      @bottlegod4995 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I honestly thought this one was just an act

    • @k-lovers8400
      @k-lovers8400 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      When children see parents fighting they some time chose strong to survive with .. this is the thing which even I do cause my parents don't live together..

    • @harunakdczy7376
      @harunakdczy7376 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's just a kid .she don't know what is she sayin

  • @lunyx8147
    @lunyx8147 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3213

    ....i am never getting married.

    • @unikitty2199
      @unikitty2199 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You're the first to comment!

    • @lunyx8147
      @lunyx8147 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ho yay? :D

    • @dreamerlady1633
      @dreamerlady1633 6 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      l u n y x ,if you are not ready to commit and sacrifice better not get married like me too😂😂

    • @lunyx8147
      @lunyx8147 6 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      @@dreamerlady1633 i'll probably never be ready. :/

    • @madrinsx8770
      @madrinsx8770 6 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Thinking the same too😂😉😂

  • @patv8028
    @patv8028 6 ปีที่แล้ว +429

    I remember when i was a kid i always talk nonsense to my father to avoid him getting into fight with my mom and when i can sense that there argument will lead in that way i will do stupid things. I prefer to get disciplined by my father instead of seeing them fight.

    • @exoticme4760
      @exoticme4760 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I used to do that too...
      But this one time I caused such a big chaos that they talk nicely infront of me but there on extremely bad terms... it makes me so sad that our family is nowhere near happy :'(

  • @karuamai
    @karuamai 6 ปีที่แล้ว +167

    The plot twist is just too heartbreaking... He pushed his pregnant wife in the stomach, I don't think anyone can ever forget that. Hope she get treated better after this.

  • @xXxNeonPrincessxXx
    @xXxNeonPrincessxXx 6 ปีที่แล้ว +702

    I was the same as I child because when you witness violence from your parent early on especially as a toddler you tend to split them into two different people the good one and the bad one as you grow you'll realize they're the same person but you also learn what to do and how to act to not let that bad person emerge. I grew up with my first words being "dada" I was called a daddies girl I got spoiled everyone in surface know my dad loves me but my first memories were of my dads violence towards my mother and him being drunk. At first I was such a good child but then when the violence did not stop I became violent as well as a coping mechanism. At 16 I was diagnosed with Clinical depression and PTSD I was in treatment when the strongest of drugs used to treat adults because I also had really bad sleeping problems such as night terrors and insomnia and at 18 was diagnosed with Boderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar 2. Children soak up experiences and childhood trauma like a sponge and it's those that shape them as a person but they'd end up blaming themselves anyways.

    • @itzroseswifeu3421
      @itzroseswifeu3421 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Sometimes I feel so scared when my parents fought in front of me, and Everytime they fight I just don't know what to do so I just put on my earphones and pretend to look at my phone reading while I'm tearing up. I really want to say stop to them but I'm scared

    • @sunillarahmudin8108
      @sunillarahmudin8108 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Kim jennie nah...u can step up and stop them...its not bad...I used to do the same thing as u...and now I regret and blame myself for not stepping up as a member of family and let my dad abuse my mom...therefore do what u can do now, so u don't regret later on.

    • @sunillarahmudin8108
      @sunillarahmudin8108 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@itzroseswifeu3421 ...just try and make them talk and listen to both..so they can tell what they want...talking and listening is the only way to solve the problem

    • @belstar4455
      @belstar4455 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      kim jennie don't worry everything gets better trust me I went through it and I want to say one thing try to talk to them and tell them how you feel about what's happening because that may help them see the damage that is making on you I wish I would of done that when I was younger but I can't change the past and now I just move on one day at a time

    • @AyAReI00
      @AyAReI00 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Guys sometimes are so scary, why on Earth they think they are better than woman that treat them like shit.... Why marry if you hate woman, you only want a free maid

  • @paulele8220
    @paulele8220 5 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    I’m 22 now, and I still remember my parents fighting a lot when I was a kid. My dad was really verbally abusive, and when he was angry, he yelled and screamed at my mom. My dad was the nicest guy until you pissed him off. My mom tried so hard to hide that from us as kids, but there are a few instances when we would see stuff. I have younger sisters and a brother, and there were occasions where I would take care of them and send them to play outside or on the other side of the house because of the arguments. I was only 10 or 11, but I was seriously protective of them, to the point where my mom started to get worried about me.
    When I was 15, she told my dad to fix himself or never come back home.
    And I swear, he did a complete 180. I have never seen him argue with my mom since then, and he spends every day trying to make up for all the stuff he did before. I also feel bad that he feels like he needs to spend every day repenting, but it’s just how he feels he needs to be. I’ve never seen my parents happier than they are now.
    It takes confrontation and realizing that there are consequences to your actions, but change is possible for this dad. He realized it early on, at least.

    • @ninii711
      @ninii711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      i have the same story as you but my dad hasn't changed yet :(

  • @bekahbabie
    @bekahbabie 6 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    Ah, this made me cry like a baby. As someone who comes from a household with an abusive father, this absolutely broke my heart. The little girl really was just trying to survive, even though children should never have to “survive” anything. Nothing like this should ever happen to anybody and the fact that it does, all the time in fact, hurts me so fucking much. I hope the mother and her children are able to get away from that clearly abusive man and that they are able to heal. The effects abuse has on a person, especially a child, will never truly go away, but I pray with everything in me that it at least gets a little bit better for them. God bless them.

  • @LOVEELY28VERO
    @LOVEELY28VERO 6 ปีที่แล้ว +378

    the problem with hello conselor is that alot of couples come here with really bad problems and then they get the just communicate and everything will be fine when a lot of these couples should go to counseling and some should leave their partner. I think when people write letters they forget that none of these people are liscensed therapist and really cant' help you mend a bad relationship.
    This is so sad. Who knows what the hell happens in that house and what kind of stress the child has to live under.

    • @sasuneuzumaki2186
      @sasuneuzumaki2186 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      You can't judge a shoot that lasts for six hours that is cut short to an hour . I know a person who has been there as audience . Apparently they have professionals behind the scenes and the often send them there and they only air the interesting part of the whole thing . So it's kinda not nice to judge what you see here .

    • @letswinwin9950
      @letswinwin9950 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      sadly mental health is sort of a taboo in korea :((

    • @divikaramie5176
      @divikaramie5176 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@sasuneuzumaki2186 seriously? :o and wow i did not know that the show was this longer :o

    • @tingle2323
      @tingle2323 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well just bcoz u r looking it as bad relationship.. How can u say if it isnt going to be managed or not.. Many ppl dont realize their mistakes but when they do.. There r chances to change it or try to manage relationship.. I know as a modern.. we only see divorce or break up as options.. But relationship dont manage like that.. If mother really wanted to end relation.. she would have already. But she wanted to manage it.. So there's nothing wrong to try.. And this show is good.. At least their wrong side comes.. So they cant take wrong steps and try to be good.. As many already saw them o show

    • @florentinag1712
      @florentinag1712 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@letswinwin9950 really? 🥺

  • @bluebubblecosplay50
    @bluebubblecosplay50 6 ปีที่แล้ว +255

    Man I started to cry when she told her true feelings on why she’s scared of her dad, it breaks my heart because I can relate to her problem. No parent should ever hear their child say this 💔

    • @Ahonya666
      @Ahonya666 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Me too...I can relate but I ended hating my father because of his behaviour to my mother, my brother and me

  • @blackwidow4376
    @blackwidow4376 6 ปีที่แล้ว +867

    I would rather be lonely than be miserable...

    • @jiminsgotjams5891
      @jiminsgotjams5891 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Black Widow i think this too

    • @mybtsarmyculture9623
      @mybtsarmyculture9623 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same thoughts here

    • @Matagu1
      @Matagu1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      MGTOW exist not for no reason.

    • @teresc3181
      @teresc3181 6 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Rather than lonely, I think "alone" is a better word to use for your statement. Afterall, one could be "alone but not lonely" ;)
      Eitherway, I hope that you're neither lonely nor miserable :D

    • @lilypad6092
      @lilypad6092 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Unfortunately it’s not that easy when u r a kid

  • @ummmhyeahhh3090
    @ummmhyeahhh3090 6 ปีที่แล้ว +359

    Hello counsellor has changed my views about so many things lmao

    • @soulsearcher7077
      @soulsearcher7077 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Like what? Just curious

    • @melissaivy8860
      @melissaivy8860 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@soulsearcher7077 Yeah no shit. Lol. I wanna too.

  • @MelBell-kw1uv
    @MelBell-kw1uv 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    15:03 can we just appreciate how this audience member was already pushing the button, even though it wasn’t time yet?

  • @Lyn-rv3vl
    @Lyn-rv3vl 6 ปีที่แล้ว +447

    She love him...because she's afraid of him :o No I'm not cryiiiing ToT

    • @Matagu1
      @Matagu1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yeah. Seeing his broken face and hiding the tears was very heartbroken. There he realised, he messed up.
      Aaaaah, why it is so hard, seeing a crying man? T___T

    • @hsnrb9959
      @hsnrb9959 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Matagu1 It took him being on camera from him to realise. He lacks common sense. How did he find a wife.

  • @TheSimbulanss
    @TheSimbulanss 6 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I remember being young and my parents always fighting. I remember putting my money in my moms purse and saying dad gave it to her so she’d be happy with him. Kids shouldn’t have to witness their parents fighting all the time. It really changes you.

  • @kathybear5818
    @kathybear5818 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    When it was revealed how the little girl truly felt that was the punch in the face he needed to hear. He thought it was all fun and games till he won his dumb prize. We don’t need to do anything y’all this moment will forever haunt him till the day he dies. The fact she even admitted that next to her dad meant she knew in that environment (the set not at home) she wouldn’t be yelled at is really sad because she knows when to say certain things.

  • @ShinNeulAh
    @ShinNeulAh 6 ปีที่แล้ว +139

    I hope they'll change so that all will be loved equally..
    She scared to get on her father bad side so she act cute, spoilt just because to ease the tension & his nerve & let him have her attention...
    Its just plain heart breaking to see kid medled with parents relationship..

  • @denali2412
    @denali2412 6 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    I don’t understand why they want the wife to be the one to say “Good job” first instead of him. I’m glad she asked when should she say it first and not him.

    • @gemini1225
      @gemini1225 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      why couldn't she? I mean yes, the husband is a the wrong here but communication is what they need. They need to communicate. No matter who start it first.

  • @triciamercadejas7184
    @triciamercadejas7184 6 ปีที่แล้ว +304

    I feel sorry for the kid. I grew up seeing my parents fighting in front of me and my siblings and it is not good. I had a trauma and I'm scared of people fighting in front of me. I used to keep our knives in our house bc i thought if i will not keep that thing my mom or my dad will kill each other.
    P. S *the dad should really respect her wife and be a good example to his kids.*

    • @Fabiejin
      @Fabiejin 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I am sorry you had to go through that and that it left a trauma:( No child should witness their parents fighting to such an extend.. I really hope you are doing well now!

    • @triciamercadejas7184
      @triciamercadejas7184 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@Fabiejin Thank you so much. I am fine now tho I am still scared of people fighting but I always pretend that I am not because people around me would tease me. And now I am not keeping our knives anymore bc i feel embarrassed whenever our knife get lost and they would ask me and tease me. Thank you so much

    • @triciamercadejas7184
      @triciamercadejas7184 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Fabiejin yes. i agree!! parents should be a good example to their children.

    • @natbebe
      @natbebe 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      This happened to me too, I had depression (I think I still have, but anyways) because of that. Even tho my parents were divorced, my mom would always fight with her boyfriends, and try to hurt them. Bi the thing is that she would scream even if no one was touching her, so I would panic and get myself inside the fight, because I fought her boyfriend was beating her. My mom has psychological problems, since her mother always hated her, so she never really had a person who she could rely on, only my grandpa. She never listened to me when I suggested to her to see a psychologist, since our family have people that had schizophrenia(it can be genetic) and she has exactly the same characteristics. She said "No, I'm not going, you're the crazy here, not me.". So we would fight, and she would try to beat me, but my dad would enter in my front and get aggressive. Until this day I can't see man screaming, I just can't. Women either, it freaks me out. I start to cry, and I can't breath properly, I feel like dying. I know how you feel, I hope you are okay. All the love ❤

    • @triciamercadejas7184
      @triciamercadejas7184 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@natbebe ohmygosh that was so sad. i hope you're fine now, keep on fighting! all the looooove!!! 💚

  • @thegreatt.o.p6857
    @thegreatt.o.p6857 6 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    ... Tbh something about the dad still throws me way off... I hope I'm wrong

    • @leialim3437
      @leialim3437 6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Tee Jay exactly he seems strange

    • @GINGERBREADWHY
      @GINGERBREADWHY 6 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      I definitely feel there's some sexual abuse going on...

    • @fuki_slam
      @fuki_slam 6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Kandgoods Yeah, the whole naked part didn't help

    • @saori5808
      @saori5808 5 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      When he said all those things to the wife about not being able to take care of children in front of everyone and he didn't even think it was wrong , that's when I knew he was more fucked up than he seemed

    • @jellybean8622
      @jellybean8622 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Omg I thought it was just me
      He's just really strange. And I agree, the fact that the kid ran up to him naked...
      Idk he just has a bad aura

  • @amidreaming333
    @amidreaming333 6 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Shin Dongyeob always knows just the right questions to ask...
    That plot twist was so devastating!

    • @whitemusk7411
      @whitemusk7411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shin Dongyeob very clever

  • @strawberrymilk2440
    @strawberrymilk2440 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    As soon as he said “if she doesn’t mess with me first...” I literally wanted to scream. Even if she does stress him out, he shouldn’t be intimidating her or the kids because the kids will be scared of him for the rest of their life.

  • @takeoutthetrash6235
    @takeoutthetrash6235 6 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    My dad cheated on my mom had kids on the side and I always defended him which broke my mom heart to this day she still talks about how I defended him and in the end he choose his other family over us and I haven't spoken to him or seen him in 3 years , I will always regret defending him! This just made me think about how sick some dad's are.

    • @leialim3437
      @leialim3437 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I Am The Boss my Gosh why did you defend him in the first place :/

    • @taehyungsreflections4804
      @taehyungsreflections4804 6 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      I hope you're not blaming yourself, because it's not always easy to know who's in your corner and even if it is, sometimes you just grab onto something in fear of losing it. We all do things we regret, but in order to move on we need to forgive ourselves and remember that you aren't the one who should feel bad, your "dad" should. This probably didn't do much for you, but regardless of that I still wish you the best of luck in the future♡

    • @sunnydays6144
      @sunnydays6144 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      No offence, but if he literally cheated on her you should have known it was wrong? Cheating is wrong? Why would you defend him for cheating?

    • @saori5808
      @saori5808 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Watch superman grief. It's a rally sweet episode with really sweet dad. It'll make u feel better after watching this

    • @saori5808
      @saori5808 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@leialim3437 why did the girl in the video defend the dad in the first place? She did it for a reason

  • @anniesumacot2365
    @anniesumacot2365 6 ปีที่แล้ว +232

    You're a strong woman, but kinda don't like the way your husband acts as a partner to you. It should be like - both of you vs whatever problems you have not like somehow seeing you as a rival.

  • @krimtopkuku1241
    @krimtopkuku1241 6 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    From what I saw in korean shows, drama, etc. The parents always asking their child in a young age to pick who's the best "mom" or "dad" maybe that's why a lot of Koreans kids prefer one of the parents that loving both.

    • @madyhurd7215
      @madyhurd7215 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I watch that a lot in Superman Shows and i always wondered why these parents are asking that of a child. I thought it was a cute thing they would do just to see.

    • @CK-dz8vt
      @CK-dz8vt 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Whenever my mom see me become even closer to her, she tried her best to make me spend more time with my dad and communicate more with him... That is why i really hate the question that makes me choose between them... I love them both and thats the truth...

    • @EloiseInParis
      @EloiseInParis 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My parents never did that (probably partially because it was no question I was a huge momma's girl, lol), but my aunts used to do it all the time. They would ask me who I liked best, and I would panic and cry.

    • @CK-dz8vt
      @CK-dz8vt 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Instead of asking children to choose between mom or dad... I think it is better for them to ask 'Do you love us???' because parents complete each other in order to raise us and care for us....

  • @annejia5382
    @annejia5382 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I always love when there are adult mom guests on the show sitting next to the guest since they understand and voice out their opinions naturally for the guests 💕💕💕

  • @GeethaNaido
    @GeethaNaido 6 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    brave girl..i hope she never changes...be this brave forever..the father seems genuinely shocked...i hope he will learn from this and not take revenge...

  • @kimlee3062
    @kimlee3062 6 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    The fact that she's doing good towards her dad bcs of fear hurts the most. She must be traumatized

  • @MHello_
    @MHello_ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    That twist actually shocked me. Poor baby! But at the end it seems like things will turn around. Because Dad loves his daughter a lot and he sees (hopefully) the error of his ways, I think they will work towards being more communicative towards each other. Also, Jo Ahye is literally the best name ever, so pretty.

  • @colaincancoke8529
    @colaincancoke8529 6 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    i want to have my family...but in reality I'm scared...
    coming from a broken family and a society when violence is somehow a norm it really is scary having a family...

    • @ayshas288
      @ayshas288 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Marriage is really a gamble, and it's unfortunate that it is that way.

    • @sassyNot4u
      @sassyNot4u 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Date longer than 6 months; these people were not very smart there. I think two years is a good time frame to shoot for. Have ACTUAL long conversations about the tough things, like finances, how to handle disagreements, and how to raise kids. You'll do fine, as long as you find someone equally dedicated and willing to work at it. Marriage is not easy. I tell my daughter be willing to walk away before or during an engagement period if you find someone is not compatible with your beliefs. Even if you think you love them. There are others you can find that you'll love that will be a better match for marriage and raising children. To be honest, I think the more respect you have for other people; the better marriage material you are, and the same is true in your potential spouse.

    • @tijanamarkovic2495
      @tijanamarkovic2495 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same i'm scared that when i get married that my husband will get abusive and if we would get divorced my family would hate me bc it's a no go for them

  • @bhuntulii16
    @bhuntulii16 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    “The most precious inheritance that parents can give their children is their own happiness. Our parents may be able to leave us money, houses, and land, but they may not be happy people. If we have happy parents, we have received the richest inheritance of all.”
    Couldn’t be more true.

  • @AyAReI00
    @AyAReI00 6 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Divorce is also an option IF A GUY PUSH YOU WHILE PREGNANT un sure he hits her or throw things at her in "fights" ... Plus abusive guys ARE NICE TO EVERYONE ELSE so that when woman look for help people dont believe them

  • @AA-fd4qf
    @AA-fd4qf 6 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    I thought that this would be a regular concern, but it sure took a hard turn. The husband is obviously more than verbally abusive.....

  • @anonofDeath
    @anonofDeath 5 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Dongyoeb is practically the same as a certified psychologist. He literally pinpointed the family's whole problem with all that vague information that he only heard about in that small 20 minutes. He may be funny and a pervert, but you can't deny he's a great guy with a great sense of wisdom.

    • @sasuneuzumaki2186
      @sasuneuzumaki2186 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Umm the shoot is like 6 hours . Each concern is at least 2 .5 hours . They just air the interesting parts. So I'm sure he figured out later on. But he still great.

  • @pygmipuff_
    @pygmipuff_ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    From this episode i realize that my father is the best father

  • @Putri-ani
    @Putri-ani 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    That's true. Parents's fight will never be forgotten

  • @rachelkwon9518
    @rachelkwon9518 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Am I the only one who wishes there was a show like Hello Counselor in America? Something where you can resolve some issues with the family all while not having it be as heavy as Dr. Phil, so that way people don't feel as pressured?

    • @Dingo7423
      @Dingo7423 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      "Jerry Springer" LOL

  • @belstar4455
    @belstar4455 6 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Poor kid I know how that feels I also grew up seeing my parents fighing I would cry every time they fought, I became a really shy person that had hard time in making friends and one thing I wish I would of done was talk to my parents about how I felt maybe they would of saw the damage they made on me and my siblings I will not lie it affected us a lot

  • @Izumi70V3Naruto
    @Izumi70V3Naruto 6 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    21:03 Im so shockedd and got goosebumpssss 😱😱😱

  • @kyuu2
    @kyuu2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "...it makes me happier seeing my parents love each other, rather than being good to me." Wow, I felt that.

  • @pravalikaannimalla5057
    @pravalikaannimalla5057 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    27:42 what a great man👏🏻
    Throughout the vedio he was just very wise.... i see no one appreciating him. He knew that they shouldn't let the kid think that her parents aren't good parents or uncool so he appreciated both the parents infront of her so that she could see them as equal👍🏻

  • @noelleloomis590
    @noelleloomis590 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This episode is so important. I believe it is something every parent must see so that they can truly understand their children and how severely their actions actually affect them. It is so important for a child to have a positive environment to grow in.

  • @ZombehPanda
    @ZombehPanda 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    The mom's face when she realizes her daughter's bias was a form of self protection is really heartbreaking.

  • @rikarosalina1990
    @rikarosalina1990 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I could not help crying when she talked about her husband who hit her stomach when she was pregnant, and when her child said she preferred her father because she was afraid ... like someone pressing my chest felt very tight to hear it ..

  • @sarasvensson6026
    @sarasvensson6026 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Chaewon is so brave for being so honest even though she is sitting next to her dad. If me and my dad had been put in the same situation when I was Chaewon's age I don't know if I would have been able to be so brave.

  • @nurulshaqina6677
    @nurulshaqina6677 6 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Wow, if I’m the wife, I might cry every day in my sleep huhu

  • @gabbmalabor4919
    @gabbmalabor4919 6 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Im never marrying a man like him.

  • @user-uw6xh6dw2g
    @user-uw6xh6dw2g 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm crying since Chaewon said she was scared of her dad. I wish they're doing ok now and they're happy, especially the daughters

  • @wanishuk6489
    @wanishuk6489 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    At first I thought this is a simple concern,but then..... it's more complicated than I thought it would be.
    The kid is really smart,she knows that she need to take advantage on her father to protect herself.

  • @GeorgiaCantDance
    @GeorgiaCantDance 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This made me cry so hard. I could slightly relate to the little girl since I grew up seeing my grandparents argue in front of me. It's because of my grandad that I'm terrified of people, especially men, when they start yelling. No child should have to see any adults regularly arguing, it can be very traumatic.

  • @annadaagrawal2005
    @annadaagrawal2005 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That little girl is so smart, she knew what she had to do to stay safe
    It broke my heart

  • @HarunaMaurer
    @HarunaMaurer 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i'm glad all saw it as a concern. i've seen worse cases in the past that they just dodged and said it wasn't a concern and they only needed to talk

  • @itsryumin
    @itsryumin 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    My father and my mother. They fought alot. One day, we went to SEOUL to participate a bts fansigh event
    When my mother and father fought at public, i will always go somewhere far away and left them be.
    I cried the most so i chose my father to survive
    When they divorce, i had to live with my mother, we move to malaysia, and i was crying in my room.
    My mother will compared my brother and sister to me
    I will cry
    Im my relatives eyes, they look at my mother as an angel
    Im my eyes, i look at my mother as a devil

    • @kookiesandcream1925
      @kookiesandcream1925 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I feel sorry for you

    • @aetherdemigod
      @aetherdemigod 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jimin's mochi cheeks and cute eyes Sweetheart, plz don't feel down. God will give u blessings if u persevere thru this. I pray that u can get away from ur mother and that u can live a peaceful life. Stay nice and cool oki? Have a great day sweetie.

    • @rubalasuresh04
      @rubalasuresh04 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have been through a lot too. It causes so much pain. I wish you get peace. Do what makes you happy. And one day you will be out of their problems. Dont hold a grudge on anyone.

  • @dania7124
    @dania7124 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I don't think these types of stories should be aired. This video will follow the mother and the child for the rest of their life, and they don't deserve that. It's also dangerous for the mother in situations like these, as with the secret out, his abuse might escalate.

    • @Cyhcg5uhgb
      @Cyhcg5uhgb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I understand what you mean, but I also think that it is important that more stories like this are shown especially in Korea where abuse isnt really talked about that much.

  • @honneylenevangelista7072
    @honneylenevangelista7072 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “Like the whole universe!”
    I loved that

  • @rhistine.3092
    @rhistine.3092 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    She loves her dad because she is scared of him. 아, it breaks my heart. 진짜 it’s sad seeing their child suffers because of her parents are always fighting. 😭☹️

  • @tanayai6884
    @tanayai6884 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i love kang hyungwook. that man is just so straight with literally anyone.

  • @mirelasemanjaku
    @mirelasemanjaku 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Can i just say my respect for the panel. They fragmented the situation very well and in a considerate manner. The real issue was elsewhere and would never think of it if not the hosts had pointed it out! I hope this episode opens some other's eyes that may be facing the same situation but didn't know it yet.

  • @reginadilangee7968
    @reginadilangee7968 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Out of all episodes, these were one of the most heart-breaking episode I’ve watched.

  • @laa_dyy_0620
    @laa_dyy_0620 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I had never related so much to an episode of HC like this. I'm glad they were open to talk about this but the parents and the little girl need therapy asap, things can cool down for a moment but they aren't aiming the actual issues, misscomunication, intrafamiliar violence, anger management and other possible issues that were not spoken here.

  • @lisaa4876
    @lisaa4876 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    They need to comunicate more, talk heart to heart with cold headed manner.. it’s sad to know that the daughter takes his dad side bcs she’s scared of him

    • @ellenphilpotts-troy2098
      @ellenphilpotts-troy2098 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think that is hard to talk for her, cuz husband is hot temper.

  • @jiminsgotjams5891
    @jiminsgotjams5891 6 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    I usually watch my Mom and dad having an argument. they always fight each other since I'm 6 years old and know I'm 15 years can yalls imagine that? my siblings we are not close so I'm often alone at my room by myself. I also have a problem with my sch which is I'm being a victim of bully. One day I want to commit suicide but I still think abt my dream. I found bts and bts just save me from my worst life. they giving me hope they like a light in my life. and now even my parents still fight and often didn't see my siblings also still getting bully. I choose to stay I will fight them. this is my life and I'm used to protect myself. no one can handle me

    • @wucin9631
      @wucin9631 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      지샤전 You choosing to fight and keep going because of your dream... also gives me some strength... I’m glad I saw your comment and if you keep trying hard, I think I can too...

    • @jiminsgotjams5891
      @jiminsgotjams5891 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Cindy Windy there's nothing impossible let's fight for our life. thiis our life no one can handle it just ourselves

    • @alimatormusa7435
      @alimatormusa7435 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      👏👏👏💖💖

    • @alimatormusa7435
      @alimatormusa7435 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope one day you'll meet them and get to tell them your story

    • @jiminsgotjams5891
      @jiminsgotjams5891 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Alima Tormusa who is.them? bts or hello counselor hahaha

  • @minominmina5672
    @minominmina5672 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    It is nice to see her daughter smiled when dad gave message to her mom.

  • @zalp3357
    @zalp3357 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    after reading the comments I really don't want to watch this episode because I know It's going to put me in a bad mood but.... here we go :/

  • @heiwaitsumo1450
    @heiwaitsumo1450 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    That little angel is simply amazing 😭💖 God bless their family XX

  • @jinggalee6378
    @jinggalee6378 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Note : married people must say nice words to each other..

    • @whitemusk7411
      @whitemusk7411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yup n respect each other

  • @ezraloraine4993
    @ezraloraine4993 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm bawling my eyes, I hope they live happily now.

  • @lifeislong2154
    @lifeislong2154 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is other thing entirely.. but kahi is still so beautiful

  • @alyssanovilla630
    @alyssanovilla630 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello counselor never fails to make me cry😭

  • @brooke4729
    @brooke4729 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m literally trying not to cry I relate to that 6 year old so much. She said she was closer to her dad because he was scary, have I been doing that also omg. My dad is the same way and he is so mean but yet I still gravitate towards him I’m so shook rn

  • @blackprince7585
    @blackprince7585 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am crying when I got to know that the kid got closer to her dad not because she loves him but cause she didn't want to get hurt. ☹😢

  • @anonymous-zf1qm
    @anonymous-zf1qm 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I regretted going on comment section. It's full of spoilers huhu

    • @tacocrunch4512
      @tacocrunch4512 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know right >:[

    • @ellie7646
      @ellie7646 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what else is the comments going to be? irrelevant topics?

  • @parkgimmy4225
    @parkgimmy4225 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really cried when they revealed that they fight in front of their kids and that she's scared of her father.
    I can understand what that kid feels because I myself went through similar situations... many times I even thought about taking my life just to make them regret ...
    It's just sad to see that a small kid is doing all that because she wants to stay on her father's good side

  • @jescalimbu8526
    @jescalimbu8526 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is just so heartbreaking to watch 💔was I the only one who break my eyes out😭

  • @amealja9074
    @amealja9074 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this show every episode feels like a whole drama series...

  • @Bubblyluvee
    @Bubblyluvee 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Wow if I married a man like this I would totally hate myself ugh

  • @MissesWitch
    @MissesWitch 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love the reenactment they do at the start, And sometimes kids have a favourite parent and switch from one to the other. It's just something you have to get used to.

  • @anonymous-zf1qm
    @anonymous-zf1qm 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I feel bad for the mother. When you gets older, i want you to imagine how your mother did everything for you, she did take care of you inside of her womb with 9 months.

  • @jkim7571
    @jkim7571 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think this episode was actually helpful to their family

  • @kiki.k5684
    @kiki.k5684 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Am I the only one who think he looks like Yang Hyun Seok especially when he’s smiling ? 😂

  • @tadikata
    @tadikata 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    heartbreaking. this is one and only episode have a twist result. its important how parents love each other effect their children grow. happy family forever.

  • @annavaradise4355
    @annavaradise4355 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This is so heartbreaking😭😭 I am never getting married..

  • @maymayy1208
    @maymayy1208 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This episode made me cry more than any other ones

  • @renataneta8210
    @renataneta8210 6 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    why the dad looks like yang hyun suk for me okay what is wrong with my eyes🙃

    • @renalyn6007
      @renalyn6007 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I also think so

  • @sreesree-zy2nn
    @sreesree-zy2nn 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    By watching this I understand so many people with out knowing what's love, responsibility parent hood getting married.

  • @hodanmahamed3774
    @hodanmahamed3774 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    All problem is that husband is not home all day so when he came he only play with her but her mom did all work and take care her child so didn't get time to rest or plays her kids so she must to let her daughter and husband alone at least week ,I believe daughter will hate him forever because he is idiot

  • @cheetah.dances
    @cheetah.dances 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    It broke my heart to see a small child admit being closer to dad so as she doesn't have to experience his wrath. Poor child... Moments like this make me appreciate my supportive family

  • @tinymarshy3710
    @tinymarshy3710 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My mom gets the belt out when I talk back anc to my dad too, but she still makes me happy

    • @Brit15102
      @Brit15102 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mine does but it's just a regular whopping

    • @hsnrb9959
      @hsnrb9959 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's different with mom I guess. She doesn't have testosterone so can't get as violent and scary. My mom would beat me but she knew the limits.

  • @liliyaah
    @liliyaah 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    nah but the hurt in his face when Chaewon said she did it because she was scared of him 😭