What Trauma Taught Me About Resilience | Charles Hunt | TEDxCharlotte

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  • That resilience is one of the most important traits to have, is critical to their happiness and success, & can be learned.
    Adept at leveraging transparency to inspire and get results, this former College Recruiting, Talent Management, Diversity, and Supply Chain leader left the corporate world to fulfill his vision of building unbreakable spirits and cultivating resiliency for those who, like him, have The Audacity to Succeed. He helps students & young professionals build resilience, believe in bigger and greater for themselves, and create the educational, financial, and professional plans to get there.
    As the founder of The Audacity Firm, LLC, his firm provides professional & personal development programs, coaching, and events to equip clients with financial literacy/education, workforce readiness, professional development, and career planning tips, tools, and strategies to LIVE, DO, and BE BETTER.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • @ang_ro
    @ang_ro 4 ปีที่แล้ว +712

    Both of my parents were addicts, then I grew up in foster care from age 5 until 18. I also used to visit my mom in jail. By the time I "aged out" of foster care, both my parents were dead. I had no one. Statistically I should have ended up in jail, addicted, homeless, or dead. I am none of those things. I have a Bachelor's Degree in English & am now working on my second college degree to pursue my dream of being a Veterinary Technician. I'm married and have a beautiful home. I'm healthy and work hard every day to become the person nobody thought I'd ever be. Much love to you and all you've overcome. Resilience is definitely one of the keys. Awesome talk. ✌

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Hey Ang...thanks for watching, and inspiring me with your story. LOVE to see people overcome situations that easily could have destroyed them. Keep thriving, and continued resilience to you as you do!

    • @youheard03
      @youheard03 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Love this 👏🏾👏🏾 more success to you 🙏🏾

    • @milliemogudala9982
      @milliemogudala9982 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You are a BADASS congrats on your strides and being unapologetically you

    • @jacquelinewalmsley9010
      @jacquelinewalmsley9010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You are brilliant x

    • @Steven-ze2zk
      @Steven-ze2zk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ang Ro Actually you were not destined for the streets or the other things due to your childhood. Yes, it was rough and I feel for you, but the addiction and homelessness you speak of is the result of your brain and body reacting to hands on abuse, not because you were placed in care.

  • @levikohler1961
    @levikohler1961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +565

    This guy is my neighbor! He’s an amazing guy off camera too.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      My man!! Much appreciated. (Daps)

    • @kadengomez1755
      @kadengomez1755 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@charleshunt9961 hey dude!

    • @xw6475
      @xw6475 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I believe that! On and off the camera 💪

    • @xw6475
      @xw6475 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@charleshunt9961 Your speech is amazing, I have also childhood trauma which left me broken. Finally I have gathered my strength to see a trauma therapist this week.
      Your story is powerful! You made me believe I can heal my childhood trauma and I can overcome this too. Thank you so much Charles!!

    • @765LT_
      @765LT_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wowie that's cool :D

  • @christinaroseli6143
    @christinaroseli6143 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    "Don't sacrifice your future for todays pain" - AMAZING perspective

  • @mdogg9169
    @mdogg9169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I’m 29. I just discovered what mental illness is last night. The connection I had to it. I went on a scizo binge that lead to homelessness about 6 months ago. Little did I know I was subconsciously chasing my own healing. I was willing to loose everything to just sit and meditate and learn to love myself. All the ways mental health is connected to abuse and know one helped me. Im shocked at the ignorance and unsupport of my family. I’ve asked for help so many times in my life and after 29 years I’m the only one helping me. I learned to love myself more than anyone. I want to live, and to love, and feel unshaken and inspire others. I’m proud of you all who are fighting this on your own. Keep doing that. Hurt people hurt people. But healed people heal people. Peace is closer than we think, we are all worthy of purpose

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Mdogg, How are you now ? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Doing public speaking courses will build your confidence. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

    • @jmaurice72
      @jmaurice72 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This really helped me man not to give up thank you

  • @ninger4199
    @ninger4199 7 ปีที่แล้ว +567

    I am at my lowest and I came across this unexpectedly amazing talk. If you could bounce back and rise from the horrible situation you were in, I see no reason why I can't. Thank you for sharing your story, Charles, thank you...

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      You're very welcome...I shared mine for people just like you who are currently going through. There is ABSOLUTELY NO REASON why you can't thrive, and not just in spite of, but precisely BECAUSE of what you've experienced. Blessings and support to you as you keep pressing forward! You CAN and WILL!

    • @Chasiraw
      @Chasiraw 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Ning Er Hi. How are you doing now???

    • @harenrussel
      @harenrussel 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Be strong coz u are 💕❤️💖

    • @Bennybass3
      @Bennybass3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      your at your lowest ok

    • @Xavier-up6op
      @Xavier-up6op 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I hope you're doing well now!

  • @perniciousagenda
    @perniciousagenda 5 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    "... without sacrificing the future, for today's pain." Well said my friend. Well said.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      My man...big thanks (daps). 'Preciate you watching!

    • @Neo-wv1om
      @Neo-wv1om 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thats soberity in a nutshell

    • @vincentm5919
      @vincentm5919 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well said!

    • @Ana-rb7ws
      @Ana-rb7ws 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤️

  • @HIVgirl1
    @HIVgirl1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    "The worst of life couldn't take out the best of me" - you are one amazing human being, Charles Hunt!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm humbled...thanks a bunch!!

    • @HIVgirl1
      @HIVgirl1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@charleshunt9961 "Life doesn't adhere to any delivery windows" - so true. I believe the dictionary has the wrong definition of resilience.. it talks about snapping back to where you were before. It seems that it takes you to new heights and doesn't take you back. I'm posting your talk wherever I can. thank you!

    • @dreams-bv7tr
      @dreams-bv7tr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@charleshunt9961 Much love to you, Sir.❤️

  • @conscious_shift
    @conscious_shift 5 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    "Sometimes we need to tell ourselves what to think when our mind starts telling us things that we don't need to hear: that you can and will overcome and succeed, and not just in spite of, but precisely because of. That with the proper perspective and a positive attitude, we have POWER."
    🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thx...glad you found a nugget or two!

    • @annam4660
      @annam4660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I saw this right as he said it lol

  • @myachabely9965
    @myachabely9965 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    “Life doesn’t adhere to any delivery windows, change comes when it comes.”

  • @beanman1068
    @beanman1068 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    They played this to us at a mental hospital, this stuck with me.

  • @gianag8824
    @gianag8824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    i just got diagnosed with ACEs recently and scored a 10, and because of my childhood I have depression, anxiety, and PTSD. This video reminds me during my saddest depressive episodes that i’m strong AF, i’ve accomplished a lot despite what i’ve experienced in life, and to keep going cause there’s so much more of life to see. thank you❤️❤️

    • @seanchris7509
      @seanchris7509 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just discovered what ACE was yesterday and have a 10..

    • @holotrout
      @holotrout ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Godbless you. Never forget that it takes one second to inspire many people, and you have inspired me. Keep it up and don't give up

  • @lechatnoir157
    @lechatnoir157 7 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    That guy OWNED the stage.

  • @beccaglyn
    @beccaglyn ปีที่แล้ว +11

    "when I open my eyes... the worst of life couldn't take out the best of me, cuz I'm still standing in front of you" I made some bad decisions a long time ago and will be paying for them - monetarily, physically, emotionally, etc - for a long time. When I was incarcerated I saw people at their worst and did everything I could to try to make them smile. I would sing to them, listen when they needed someone to just hear them, and offer whatever words of wisdom I could. This year I made the decision, after searching for a job for over 4 years and not being able to pass a background check, to make a change. I took a course to become a Certified Recovery Peer Advocate and am taking classes to become a Credentialed Alcohol and Substance Abuse Counselor. Hearing your story and seeing what you had to overcome tells me that I made the right choice in this career and will keep what you said in your talk with me to teach people that they can, and will, overcome. Thank you so much!

  • @le_th_
    @le_th_ 7 ปีที่แล้ว +262

    WOW...
    I've listened to a lot of TEDx Talks, and this one is one of the most real, most valuable monologues I've heard. This man doesn't just share, he teaches. He encourages is a realistic way. He tells it like it is, and doesn't make excuses. He empowers others to learn how to overcome by sharing how he overcame, and he forewarns that it will not be easy, that it may be excrutiatingly painful, and that it is ultimately up to us to use positive self-talk even when we don't believe it ourselves. He reminds us that it is ok to reach out and ask for help.
    This is not the happily-ever-after that so many TEDx Talks speakers churn out. This is neither narcissistic, nor "poor me". This is not the extreme bipolar thinking that life's answers are cut and dried, black and white, good and bad. This is about the reality of the shades of gray that lie between the polar extremes. This is real. This is inspiration while remaining grounded in reality. This is encouragement while preparing people to keep in mind that it will not come easy or instantaneously or when you need it to happen.
    We should all be so lucky to have a friend, family member, trusted colleague, mentor or advisor who teaches what it means to be resilient, and that you have to believe regardless of how difficult that might be.
    This is the opposite the instant-gratification advice that so many people seem to believe and be seeking out.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I'm absolutely humbled at your insightful, thoughtful, and detailed response. Thanks for filling my bucket today and reminding me that my trauma continues to have a purpose in helping others live, do, & be better! Continued blessings to you.

    • @le_th_
      @le_th_ 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Awww...kind of you to respond. I'm so glad that my comments helped to fill your bucket today, as your words certainly fill mine each time I re-watch this video. Many continued blessings to you, as well~

    • @Scarshadow666
      @Scarshadow666 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      le th Definitely agree! 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

    • @coralscrafts7258
      @coralscrafts7258 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@charleshunt9961 You are a phenomenal man, take your place with Maya Angelou and walk that walk. I was so moved by your wonderful inspirational speech. Write that book please, for all of us who are out here. As a man you have so much to say to others who are still struggling to raise their heads after a day a week a life of being down and not having the strength to get up. For all those of us who work in this field this video is one to watch daily.

    • @le_th_
      @le_th_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @L C Thank you for your kind words. I'm not a writer. I was very fortunate to be born with a brain that is rather intelligent, learns information easily, and can articulate thoughts and ideas fairly clearly. In addition, I was born with excellent hearing and 20/10 vision in both eyes, so it helped my brain develop better than most.
      I feel very fortunate in this regard.

  • @emilygowor
    @emilygowor 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Agree - resilience is essential in life. it's not what happens to us, it's how we respond.

  • @AngelDenya
    @AngelDenya ปีที่แล้ว +60

    This was nothing but a college psychology assignment link that I almost thought about not watching until I decided to watch it and this is one of the best sources of motivation that I needed to receive especially currently me being 22 years old. Im not going to dive into any of my childhood trauma but the trauma is definitely there and this mans testimony has been the encouragement I needed to hopefully get through the rest of my last year in college as it has been a struggle for me mentally and emotionally. Thank you so much Mister for this video.

    • @skulllyy
      @skulllyy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      damn this vids in college assignments? I have to watch this vid for my class and I'm in grade 12.

  • @Gamecockinnc1
    @Gamecockinnc1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    I was sitting here alone on the anniversary of a major trauma looking for a distraction while my children were at school and I was watching something completely different and this came up in my suggested. Thank god it did. You have a story. You have a voice. You are resilience. Congratulations. And thank you for giving back.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      It's ridiculously gratifying to see God move through something I created. I'm honored that you not only watched and enjoyed it but that it came at the right time. Sending you prayers and best wishes as you recover from your trauma, and thrive BECAUSE of it! Thank you for blessing me with your comment and light.

    • @holotrout
      @holotrout ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hope all is well, 5 years later

  • @uncleblaezr
    @uncleblaezr 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    ppl say not to compare traumas & all but i hear stuff like this; they’re right we don’t have to compare traumas, but we don’t have to determine ours be the worst of them all n just completely stop from growing. love resilience, love discussing it, love hearing examples of it. we’re stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

  • @sunandsoul24
    @sunandsoul24 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    "The worst of life couldn't take out the best of me."

  • @divinecommerce6760
    @divinecommerce6760 7 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Amazing. 2 incarcerated parents and now you're on a TED stage... Thank you for living your purpose!!! 🙏💚

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you very much...life is much more about how we respond than what happens to us. I appreciate your encouragement.

  • @sashanamaste6692
    @sashanamaste6692 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    RESILIENCE made me the woman I am today! unreal how far we can go!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Indeed! Continued success and resilience to you.

  • @anitamarton6543
    @anitamarton6543 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I'm in the depths of trauma, exhausted, completely broken. I listen to this talk and I open my eyes, feel purpose and hope in my heart. Thank You

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hey Anita...you're very welcome! Your trauma has a purpose, and while hope is what keeps your eyes focused on a better future it's resilience that keeps you on the path towards it. Keep going! Sending you blessings and continued resilience on your path.

  • @elgibson4954
    @elgibson4954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Powerful! ‘’Sometimes we need to tell ourselves what to think when our minds tell us things we don’t need to hear.’’

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thx a bunch...glad you enjoyed it!

    • @lemostjoyousrenegade
      @lemostjoyousrenegade 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      How interesting! ...just as I laid my eyes on your comment, the video was at the timeline of Charles pausing to speak this very line.
      I see THAT as powerful!, too. Powerful synchronicity.
      Happy New Year to you, El!
      May you enjoy a beautiful life, being very resilient during the challenging times, remembering your light and beauty and what you must tell yourself no matter the darkness you encounter on your path - be it real or imagined/feared/anticipated darkness that comes from the sometimes overwhelmed and very weary mind.

    • @lemostjoyousrenegade
      @lemostjoyousrenegade 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@charleshunt9961 It was excellent and very inspiring, Charles!
      Happy New Year and may you experience many wonderful, meaningful, soul-fulfilling blessings in Life. You have been and are such a blessing to humanity!
      Cheers!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lemostjoyousrenegade Thank you very much! Sending you nothing but the best for this year and beyond, and the resilience to make the best out of whatever life delivers.

    • @talkingthoughts7595
      @talkingthoughts7595 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@charleshunt9961 thanks Charles. You're a great example for all who have faced ceaseless adversity - neglect, abuse, codependency, personal failures, disabilities in two kids, among others. I am 46 and successful but things unraveled for me over the past 5 years. Broke down mentally, lost my marriage plus all that come with that. Siblings seized opportunity to disrespect and abuse me emotionally. I look back and realize that I am stronger than I ever thought of myself. I am strong, I am brave, I am lovable and capable of loving.
      It may have taken over 40 years to be able to assert myself, but I now know the remainder of my journey through life would be better than my past.
      Your talk reaffirms this Charles, thank you.

  • @talkingthoughts7595
    @talkingthoughts7595 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You're a great example for all who have faced ceaseless adversity - neglect, abuse, codependency, personal failures, disabilities in two kids, among others. I am 46 and successful but things unraveled for me over the past 5 years. Broke down mentally, lost my marriage plus all that come with that. Siblings seized opportunity to disrespect and abuse me emotionally. I look back and realize that I am stronger than I ever thought of myself. I am strong, I am brave, I am lovable and capable of loving.
    It may have taken over 40 years to be able to assert myself, but I now know the remainder of my journey through life would be better than my past. Thanks Charles. Your presentation reaffirms my resolve. God bless you.
    Ps. I love your description of God as a comedian. 🤣🤣❤❤

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm humbled and honored my trauma could be helpful for you in your journey. Love your self-affirmations too! Continued blessings and resilience on your path.

  • @TrevWILL79
    @TrevWILL79 7 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Charles Hunt, As a behavior specialist, I've been studying trauma based care for a few months now, but this is the first time within the framework that someone has said use the trauma/experience as a stepping stone. One of my favorite scriptures speaks to what you shared: "For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory,"
    II Corinthians 4:17. T
    Thanks for sharing this in real time and very tangible talk.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hey Trev...You're very welcome! Hope you found it helpful and thanks for the affirmation!

    • @sharlajared8936
      @sharlajared8936 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Trev WIlliams 💜love this scripture!!!!! Thank you for the reminder of His Words bc this soooooooooo applies to my present! May God continue to bless you!

    • @mmommo-hx4dx
      @mmommo-hx4dx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen Trev

  • @dawnanderson611
    @dawnanderson611 6 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    I come from the same type of life as you. I scored a 10 on the ACES test and i work with high risk youth in a group home and i think ill show this to them tonight. Nice work brother no one knows how hard it really is to come back.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      And I thought my 7 of 10 ACE's was bad! My heart goes out to you for your experiences as a child, but it also praises you for your resilience and continued hope for a better future! I'm in awe of and happy for you, and even more impressed by your willingness to help others in group homes experiencing childhood trauma. I recognizing you giving your trauma a purpose too. Thanks for sharing my talk with them and lmk how I may be able to assist. Blessings to you!

    • @dawnanderson611
      @dawnanderson611 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      and i jusr got a scholarship to become a welness coach....well partial scholarship. ill beg, steal and borrow the rest!!!!

  • @cosmicundergrad538
    @cosmicundergrad538 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This needs to be taught to every college student! College is hard, but they can overcome the hardships and crush it.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's especially difficult for low income, first generation students but you're absolutely correct that we can overcome the challenges. Thanks a bunch for watching/sharing!

  • @diatonicjon
    @diatonicjon 7 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Not in spite of, but because of. Perspective sometimes requires partnership. Sometimes all the strength you need is the strength to ask others for help. Thank you, keep standing in the light of your truth. Ashe.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm honored that you found something of substance to take away...seriously. Thank you for giving my trauma a purpose!

  • @jenniferlindsey9013
    @jenniferlindsey9013 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow. No words. My therapist recommended this & honestly, I’m so glad she did.

  • @unbreakable4650
    @unbreakable4650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Darn right. Sooo many unfavorable paths we could've taken but we pushed on despite others opinions and fears. We overcome to show others how to as well‼️🙏✨

  • @shaolinf4
    @shaolinf4 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Love this perspective. Strength through adversity. Empowerment over victimization.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thanks a bunch, and you're spot on!

  • @Hiroshouse
    @Hiroshouse ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Was suffering physical anxiety today and this video has helped me to ease up a bit. Damn I wish I could comfort that little boy and take him away from those pains. I was lucky in that I had a ‘safe’ childhood. It’s the adulting that came to smack me in the face. I pray we all find some strength inside and some healing 🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @larenadarrow8425
    @larenadarrow8425 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Not gonna lie I'm crying my eyes out. I thank you for giving me affirmation that I can do this. That my trauma will someday help someone else's Truman. Exactly why I'm getting my degree in psychology. Thank you a million times over. Your voice told me everything my head's has been telling me.

  • @Acornzmob
    @Acornzmob 7 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    My Trauma has A Purpose!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Appreciate the love...WxSxO!

    • @Acornzmob
      @Acornzmob 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Very powerful I must say I'm inspired! Keep it lit FAM!! #Salute

    • @dellawarren6239
      @dellawarren6239 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Every word had me until. God was blamed. I stopped watching the talk

    • @rosebud0391
      @rosebud0391 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      No, you give your trauma purpose. Trauma does not happen for a reason but we have the power to utilize that trauma to push us towards our goals. A small but crucial difference. I could have been great if not better without my trauma but given that it has happened I choose to use it as a springboard rather than a weight.

  • @erinbyrd5377
    @erinbyrd5377 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Indomitable this guy, I wish I could be like him

  • @kathleenencarnacion3383
    @kathleenencarnacion3383 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I am at a loss for words. Your ted talk has really made me think and put my own life into perspective. This last year has been the roughest I have ever had to face, however hearing your story I’m realizing each day how strong I am from being where I was, where I am in this present moment and in my future. Thank you for sharing your story and showing that not matter what obstacles or hardships you may come across you’re still standing. Truly commendable!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Kat...I am honored and humbled that my path has helped you affirm your own strength! That is so dope, and truly makes me smile! Thanks for encouraging me, and I'm sending you nothing but love and courage as you continue to be stronger than what life throws at you! All the best.

  • @caroltouchton4924
    @caroltouchton4924 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Great voice & powerful message! I also suffered great loss as a teenager, losing both my parents by age 15. Yet, here I am working at a high school helping at risk youth. Once they tell me their stories and I mention how resilient their are, their whole demeanor changes. They become empowered! My faith saved me, as well as reading Wayne Dyer and others who helped me realize, that while I don't control what happens to me I do control my reactions. Our thoughts are powerful!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thanks a bunch for watching, and for helping our youth tap into their resilience. Do let me know if I may be of assistance!

    • @yvettedean92
      @yvettedean92 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Is that a book that you recommend? What’s it called?

  • @stuart1001
    @stuart1001 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This guys speach found a way through to me.
    "Tomorrow will be better, as long as it doesn't mess up your future"
    I always kill my pain by a messy night which blocks the struggle the next day but it messes up my future.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sending you nothing but the best as you employ your resilience!

  • @barbaralittle3376
    @barbaralittle3376 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hi Charles, I have shown your amazing video to my freshman nursing students in their "Trauma Informed Care" class as part of their "Healthy Lifestyles" course over the past few years at Temple University. No matter how many times I watch this video, I am still amazed at all you have conquered in your life and I shed a tear. I hope you are doing well and know that others are appreciative of sharing your story! I am positive you have helped so many people with your struggles in this journey called "Life" . Well done!

    • @TwilaGraceNkombo
      @TwilaGraceNkombo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I too hope he is doing well.

  • @calmchaos658
    @calmchaos658 7 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Amazing. I'm still working through my trauma but I hope I reach a level of accepting and thriving.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Thank you...keep pressing forward. The faster we're able to come to terms with what has hurt us the less power we give it. It's not easy, but it's necessary. Sending you love and support as you move from surviving to thriving!

    • @Chasiraw
      @Chasiraw 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      lesismore You will...!!

    • @Klissaura
      @Klissaura 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You will ❤️

    • @estelleliebe1994
      @estelleliebe1994 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Klissaura Rodriguez xx x zZz

  • @MjF809
    @MjF809 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sir, you are amazing! Thank you for healing this world.

  • @hollyhigginswilcher9149
    @hollyhigginswilcher9149 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Charles, you are a remarkable and resilient human being! You articulate the trauma that happened to you with such understanding and pain, and yet such healing. And your healing from it is a gift to us so we can learn from you. Thank you for sharing your message with all of us. You plant seeds under trees you may never sit. I hope that you will continue to speak to what protective factors in your life supported your resilience and how important they were and are in your life and in the lives of our children who face significant adversity. And I hope you continue to talk about how your protective factors help ameliorate and mitigate the risk you faced. Your are such a gift to us. Your message is one of the most important we can teach the world.

  • @shaylagoogle3097
    @shaylagoogle3097 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Its nice to see how people become stronger of things you go through and try not to see yourself as a victim. We all go through things, its good when you can share your story to help others. To all trauma victims your not alone. Keep going even when it gets tough!!!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wise words...thanks for watching!

    • @shaylagoogle3097
      @shaylagoogle3097 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@charleshunt9961 Thank you, for sharing your story. We all have a story and when you get through the rough parts, it heals and makes you stronger!

  • @RagingMonkee
    @RagingMonkee ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great talk. So many people out there with very similar stories. Screw what everyone tells you. You are greatness, it is inside each and everyone of us. Get off the path of living up to everyone else's standards. Have some compassion for yourself and know that a better today IS in your control!

  • @elizsantos2000
    @elizsantos2000 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Mr. Hunt you just found another calling!! Becoming a Motivational Speaker!! Minority young men need to hear from someone just like you!! Amazing!! ring!ring!ring! My grandson is 10 and going through a similar situation, that you went thru...but he’s got me!! 💯Grandma!! I’ve got he’s back!! Imma pull him through!! AMEN 🌈

    • @charleshunt6963
      @charleshunt6963 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Elizabeth Santos thank you very much, and you’re a blessing to your grandson (as my grandmother was) for stepping in when necessary. Continued blessings and resilience to you and your family.

  • @lizcuero5781
    @lizcuero5781 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am so grateful for Key and Peele comedy skits. I think they are life saving. They bring so much healing, laughter and joy.

  • @lenoraxoxo1820
    @lenoraxoxo1820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    It’s so amazing how he could have such a handle on his trauma. That’s powerful and something that everyone should admire. Anything is possible.....

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for watching and glad you enjoyed it!

  • @katgermain5673
    @katgermain5673 7 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Keep on fighting the good fight, Charles. Hope people continue to hear your message.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I appreciate the encouragement, and thank you for sharing!

  • @leahwarrior1734
    @leahwarrior1734 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Coming from a traumatic childhood myself and I made my own life too and I love 💕 to hear of those who persevere and find the blessings in the lessons! And it teaches you a lot about life and it can either make you or break you. The choice is always in our hands even with the cards we’ve been dealt with!! What an amazing example to the world! Blessings to him!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💜😇😇

  • @sylvie5894
    @sylvie5894 6 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Impressive... down to earth and real, yet classy!

  • @dalibofurnell
    @dalibofurnell ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This dude needs his book out

  • @RashonLane
    @RashonLane 7 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Thank you for giving voice to how we are resilient despite the trauma we live in and through!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You're very welcome; thank YOU for the affirmation! All the best!

  • @jaydalenblossom
    @jaydalenblossom 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    “But man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated” - The Old Man and the Sea

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    People have to learn to cope with and work through very challenging life experiences. Resilience is SO important.

  • @robertsfamily7026
    @robertsfamily7026 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    One of the best Ted talks.

  • @nancyblair9862
    @nancyblair9862 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You indeed prove what I have always told therapists who claim childhood adversity is the cause of my physical problems. You are FANTASTIC!! I send much love and thanx to you for your inspiring story! Keep talking!❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am humbled, thanks Nancy! I'm blessed to be a blessing, and so very happy that you found inspiration in the message. We are more than what happens to us! Thanks for encouraging me!

  • @caitlinbaker422
    @caitlinbaker422 7 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    That was one of, if not the best conversations I have heard on resilience!! Thanks for sharing your story and being so authentic in your delivery.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Wow...very high praise and I'm humbled! Thanks a bunch for watching and I'm exceedingly appreciative of your gratitude! All the best...

  • @CherryBerryFashion
    @CherryBerryFashion 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I really felt it

  • @nywalker1
    @nywalker1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Thank you Charles...I am recommending your talk to my college students.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You're very welcome! Lmk if I may be of further assistance, and thanks for the recommendation. All the best!

    • @anaiyasmommy1
      @anaiyasmommy1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m showing this to my students as well. I’ve watched this three times today.

  • @alexishunt4336
    @alexishunt4336 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sometimes we need to tell our mind what we will do instead of listening to what our minds tells us to do. Thank you for that piece of knowledge and life lesson.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're very welcome sista...glad you found a nugget or two. And dope last name!

  • @markgreen4732
    @markgreen4732 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Resilience and Transition is my life and work and Charles hits the truth of it from the heart.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks a bunch for watching! Continued success and resiliency to you.

  • @lizortiz9300
    @lizortiz9300 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing what occurred in your immediate family. I went through a lot of trauma thank you for helping me. God Bless you and protect you always❤

  • @laurend8948
    @laurend8948 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for your TedTalk. I loved the part about saying you were a victim as opposed to saying you are a victim. You're completely right about how important that distinction is. As someone who helps DV victims and who was one herself, I'll always remember that difference.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey Lauren...that difference changes everything. We can't do anything about the past but what we tell ourselves about who we are NOW is empowering, so that distinction is critical. Continued resilience to you and thanks for not only your affirmations but your service to others!

  • @timmytam8286
    @timmytam8286 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This talk is soo underrated as a seventeen year old who has PTSD from having a psychopath father and being an asylum seeker the only thing that helped was resilience, My heart goes out to you!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you very much for the encouragement, and thanks for watching! Continued strength and courage to you as you thrive not just in spite of, but because of!

  • @tparker4458
    @tparker4458 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am crying. I haven't experienced half the pain and struggle you went through. God bless you young man and congratulations on your success. Thank you for sharing your story!!!! 💜💜💜💜💜

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm humbled, thank you very much for the kind/warm words, and receive those blessings! Wishing you all the best.

  • @bushrod99
    @bushrod99 7 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Proud to call Charles my friend!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks Bruh!

    • @mallorymanning834
      @mallorymanning834 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Charles Hunt I wish you could talk at my school. I teach kiddos who’ve been through so much trauma

  • @N2147B
    @N2147B 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One TEDx speaker to another. Incredible! Your bravery and vulnerability are inspiring.

    • @charleshunt6963
      @charleshunt6963 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nichole Mullen many thanks, I appreciate the affirmations! Continued resilience to you.

  • @Oogiappa
    @Oogiappa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just got tired. Just got weak. Yesterday. Today I refuse to be a victim. Never given the opportunity to be nourished and loved, so all I want to do is nourish and love others. Thank you for your words.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      LOVE your perseverance, positivity, and willingness to pour into others. Thank YOU for inspiring others and allowing my words to inspire you. All the best!

  • @dianakeplinger4800
    @dianakeplinger4800 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Straight up honest with the reflection and awareness from the past, and acknowledging the present with life's constant change. Real talk about real life. Thank you.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks a bunch Diana...I appreciate the affirmation and glad you enjoyed it! You're very welcome.

  • @rakiyabyrd889
    @rakiyabyrd889 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This was absolutely phenomenal sir. You rose to the top and remembered how resilient you were despite how you grew up! Sent this video to my employees! Absolutely amazing! May you continue to inspire students and young professionals all over the world! "I was a victim, but REFUSED to own BEING A VICTIM" Powerful message!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm humbled Rakiya! Thanks a bunch for your affirmations and sharing. Continued resilience to you and your team. Don't hesitate to reach out if I may be of service.

    • @rakiyabyrd889
      @rakiyabyrd889 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@charleshunt9961 thank you very much Mr. Hunt!

  • @samairagarciaa
    @samairagarciaa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    After watching this video after a few years, on my hardest days I sometimes think about this video. Resilience is one of the key factors to life. Re-watching this made me think how much of others stories can stick to a person even after years so thank you.

  • @chrissybyrne2930
    @chrissybyrne2930 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Absolutely loved this!!!! From one person who has come through life's traumas and made it through with resilience... I have so much respect for you thank you for sharing your story 👏👏👏👏👏✨

  • @mybigboiphilip6997
    @mybigboiphilip6997 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    just got a job after being unemployed for several months. was in one heck of a rutt what with my own truck load of trauma just crashing through my front door... wish i had seen this sooner, but im thankful i saw it now. that last line was a beautiful. to anyone who needs a pick me up, a hug, or just a "u got this", this is the video for you.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Big congrats on the new job, and many thanks for the affirmations! Sending you all the best and continued resilience...you've got this!

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
    @melliecrann-gaoth4789 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mr Charles Hunt. Thank you so much 🙏 for making this talk.
    I’m so humbled and inspired and heartened and connected. The trunk keeps arriving…. Yes!
    I see your talk is now 5 years old. A very tough 5 year period in the USA and indeed in the world with Covid and now this terrible war.
    Respect to all 🙏.

  • @pakouher9686
    @pakouher9686 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I needed to hear this today to encourage and uplift and give me more clarity about the best future I can see for myself by working on my thoughts about myself today. Thank You Charles Hunt for sharing your story with the world. May God bless all of us who are seeking truth, light, clarity, goodness, and true joy in our lives.

    • @charleshunt6963
      @charleshunt6963 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am humbled my words helped light your path! Thanks for your warm, encouraging words. Sending you continued blessings and resilience on your path.

  • @ramzee8207
    @ramzee8207 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    A little late but amazing talk. I’ve always been a strong believer that “everything happens for a reason” but it is extremely tough to pull yourself out of a dark place and it is only up to you to do so

  • @dawndid5972
    @dawndid5972 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Charles Hunt is brilliant 👏 eloquent 💥 and breaks down the fierce truth on change. Powerful words, sir!

  • @itubeutubealltube
    @itubeutubealltube 7 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    You have wonderful stage presence and strength of character. You represent hope and possibility for the foster children I care for. Thank you.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thank you very much for the affirmations and the work you do for an extremely vulnerable population! If I may be of service please don't hesitate to reach out (info@audacityfirm.com).

  • @samanthamarusiak4692
    @samanthamarusiak4692 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You owned it man! Seriously, you're speaking the truth, and if everybody would listen to this talk, then I think each person could improve his or her life. The lesson behind this talk improved my trauma. Thanks a lot.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm humbled and grateful for your words! Many thanks for blessing me...continued resilience to you!

    • @samanthamarusiak4692
      @samanthamarusiak4692 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@charleshunt9961 No problem! And thanks!

  • @Nappylelene
    @Nappylelene 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    love love this so much. so inspiring

  • @ncatsu95
    @ncatsu95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This touched me! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have encountered some traumas recently. Thank you for the reminder that I am UNBREAKABLE.

  • @saraschultingkranz.
    @saraschultingkranz. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    A lifetime of trauma + 14:21 that sparked hope in resiliency for thousands, and will continue to do so. Your words are gold. But the real gift is you. Thank you for spreading the message that our traumas don't need to hold us as victims.

  • @alansih1
    @alansih1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So much inspiring and educational story. Many thanks Charles for sharing your epical resilience that led you from trauma to triumph. God bless you..

  • @Chanesmyname
    @Chanesmyname ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this.

  • @shellieshimmel9148
    @shellieshimmel9148 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A great example of the power of positive thinking. The mind and our beliefs are powerful things. My students in juvenile hall are gonna love this dude.

  • @genericwoman3713
    @genericwoman3713 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I've literally just started listening but OH my God his voice 😍

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      lol...many, many thanks for watching (said in the voice you like)! All the best to you.

  • @luzaguirre2830
    @luzaguirre2830 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You cannot truly know the human experience if you don't ever come to know its ugliness.. the sooner the better, that way you have that much more time to make it Beautiful ❤
    Like this man I am fortunate..
    Would not have it any other way.

  • @ritasys7129
    @ritasys7129 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can relate to every word. Listening to the speech lifted me up even in today's huge problem. Charles, your traumas DO HAVE a REAL LIFE purpose

  • @naturallyzahra1407
    @naturallyzahra1407 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Just shared this video for a Family Stress & Crisis class that I had this semester. You covered so much in such a simple and powerful way. Thank you so much for sharing your story, it is very moving and motivational!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm humbled you found it worthy of sharing. Hope it helped you and your class. Thanks a bunch for the affirmations...I appreciate it!

  • @chuckbechard3259
    @chuckbechard3259 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Charles for sharing. I teach at a Juv. Detention Ctr. and my kids were moved and inspired my your TedxTalk. You are an inspiration and a motivator. Well done sir!

  • @iampreciousz7081
    @iampreciousz7081 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Watched this in my cosmetology class today and I just want to say thank you. Definitely a MESSAGE.

  • @arlinegeorge6967
    @arlinegeorge6967 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hats off to you young man.Bless you and your living reality be come inspiration motivation and courageous hope to all who are enduring trauma. Bless you and all your dreams come true.

  • @SallySmith-up3dp
    @SallySmith-up3dp 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for this talk! Well done!

  • @michelledebellis6918
    @michelledebellis6918 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    what an amazing use of words to express intangible ideas and emotions and ultimately a belief system. This is so helpful Charles and a blessing. Thank You.

  • @nidaislam1625
    @nidaislam1625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The worst of life couldn't take out the best of me...
    And I'm still standing here in front of u.
    These lines really empowered me, made me realize how powerful I actually am. Everytime I'm at my worst,I somehow pick myself back and prepare myself for next adversity and that's pretty amazing thing about all of us.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Nida...thanks for the affirmations! Resilience isn't a binary, on/off thing. It's more of a continuum where, depending on the circumstances, we can be more or less resilient. And I agree that's an amazing thing for us all to tap into.

  • @user-ee7vr9nn8f
    @user-ee7vr9nn8f 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Charles, I agree with you positivity and a deeper understanding of Trauma builds you up to be a better person and in coping with life.

  • @mobob4146
    @mobob4146 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are spot on. I am so glad that you accomplished things that meant something to you. I too have experienced trauma and unfortunately I did ask for help and even though the help I asked for was from professionally trained people who were paid for giving that help it was turned against me in order for these professionals to gain a boost to their own positions. And the initial trauma and continued trauma came from family and friends who somehow felt that I was not valuable enough to be treated as human. But inside I knew they were the victims of their own ignorance and as mad as many people wished I would be I continued on as the best person I wanted to be. And I am happy with myself and I leave them behind to be what they are. I did not allow them to crush me which they tried so hard to do. Life gives out no Noble prizes for your resilience but everyday I give one to myself because I know what I have had to endure.

  • @suzannegittins7943
    @suzannegittins7943 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Charles Hunt for sharing your pain. You are an amazing hero.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm humbled! Thanks a bunch for watching and the dope affirmations...all the best to you!

  • @rachelromain
    @rachelromain 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is powerful stuff. Thank you! I'm working through some past stuff at the moment and it's a step by step process of integrating "having been a victim" with recognising the ways in which I am already powerful and capable. It's refreshing to hear resilience framed in this way, rather than as a strawman blown down whenever a bad day comes along - as if you're not really resilient if you're not always succeeding. Again, thank you!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Rachel...thank you so much for the warm and insightful words. One of my aims was to move away from theoretical frameworks of resilience into more practical ways we all can apply it in our own lives. Thanks a bunch for watching and wishing you all the best; you are strong, powerful, and capable of changing your life!

  • @elenaemory1741
    @elenaemory1741 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Charles Hunt, I am a high school English teacher in Andover, Massachusetts, and on Thursday, September 13, 2018, our town and two other surrounding towns (North Andover and Lawrence) experienced a horrific gas explosion through the gas lines, homes lost, people injured, and the loss of a young man. We are heartbroken, devastated, but thankful for the kindness, selflessness, caring that was shown by so many, and this continues, as our recovery will take weeks before we return to a sense of normalcy. I am thrilled that we return to school tomorrow, and we are able to be together as a school community. I just want to be with my students, and I am going to show them your TedTalk, you hit the nail on the head, and not only offer your story, but steps to apply resilience to one's life and take the power back -- thank you, you totally rock!!!! If you ever head up to our area, I would love to invite you to speak to our school community, you are a gift, thank you. Also, I took a look at your Audacity Firm page and if you are indeed in North Carolina, I send will keep you and yours in my thoughts and prayers, as you are experiencing floodings and winds from Florence. Be well! Elena Emory :)

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello Elena...I just learned of the tragedy in MA last night. My heart goes out to you and your students/community. I truly can't imagine the horror and trauma. I'm honored that my words may be of some level of comfort or inspiration as your students put their lives back together. Sending you all love, strength, and encouragement...you can and will overcome and succeed, not just in spite of, but precisely because of!
      Charles
      (info@audacityfirm.com)