This podcast is teaching me as a woman so much about different men's experiences walking through the world, and its so humbling, and like Liz says, makes me feel grateful I get to be here and witness this.. Thank you thank you thank you Jason Wilson, and to Jamie, Justin and Liz for sharing your hearts with us every week. I am a better person for listening
110% took the words out of my brain! So thankful for this conversation and I will definitely be reflecting. So many wounds we (men&woman) have in common, related to our fathers and otherwise, and so many we don’t. It’s an honour to hear you guys speak so honestly. Thank you!
Same here. This podcast has helped me grow so much in the last year. If I’m battling and I need something to help me get through, I’ll go to previous episodes and it just helps me process things.
oh cannot express in words how much listening to it impacted me, thank sooo much for this sir i cried my heart out, finally felt so revealed i was always pressured to loose my virginity,i knew inside i am just not made for casualls but when i did to fit in i still remember the first time i did as jason said it left a part of me, i would never forget that day, the trauma of that i carried for years this podcast gives me strenght to be the man i want to be and stand up for the things i believe in
You can tell Justin was raw and receptive coming into this. Sometimes we're so on the edge of needing to let go and don't even realize we're there. Way to start the show off on a deeply authentic note.
@@WeAreManEnough Fully. The longer he went, the deeper it got for me: the "father wound", not feeling enough, emulating what others did as a mask for survival in a hostile environment. I could go on and on. This one def requires multiple listens. ❤
Whew! This is so beautiful. When Justin asked, "what would you ask 10 year old Jason" and his eyes were closed, I knew that touched a spot. This is amazing he has learned to process his emotions and openly share them. I hoping and praying for this in all our men. This is what we need to save our men, to save our families, to save our communities.
Great Humility calls for deep hearted care with understanding of the struggles of other people. Please do not let your daughter nor son think that he or she needs to search for encouragement, love nor tender affection from someone else, someplace else.
Thanks to all of you for this podcast. I appreciate being introduced to Jason. I have lived without a father (who died of polio when I was five) for 70 years and still cry about it. Would my life have been better if he had been there? I understand now that it is a trauma in my life that I never acknowledged. I love the podcast and all the guests. I am currently reading Justin's book and Liz's is next. Now I am adding Jason's books to the list.
Thank you for sharing. That's a hard journey and hopefully it will be eased a bit by the work you're doing. We're glad you've found our community and the safe space to explore these traumas together.
@@WeAreManEnough so many. The vulnerability of the men in this episode gives me hope. Thank you all for sharing and for opening more doors to our humanity.
As a wife, with grown sons, I just want to say a very big THANK YOU to all of you. These podcasts, and your book (Justin) have been very important tools in our family! (Liz, yours is on my list. I promise!) THANK YOU all. And Thank you @JasonWIlson, for doing the work , and paying it forward!!
This became my favorite episode of this podcast. I can't thank you enough for the diverse range of beautiful humans you bring onto this show. I cried watching this several times. Happy, self-compassionate tears. Thank you for providing positive examples week after week for me, a young man with no father or mentors, to guide my life and relationship to masculinity. This podcast has been paramount to my healing journey, and my engagement with men's work. I would like to build a career and profession in men's work and a similar type of academy and mentorship organization that Jason has. My dream would be to show up on this podcast and learn with you all while sharing my story. Much love!
I just got done listening to this episode on Google Podcasts, and o felt the need to come over here and comment. What Jason said about knowing when to share your emotions, and the way he modeled consent in sharing his hard stuff with his wife, was fantastic. I'm going to share this with my 12yo grandson so we can talk about that and so that we can talk about how it feels to speak about emotions and feelings. Also, as a former figure skating coach I really appreciated the way that Jason talked about using martial arts and physical exercise to open up space to discuss feelings and hard stuff. I found that coaching opened up so many different kinds of teaching opportunities, whether it was helping a student prepare for a Spanish exam by doing a whole hour lesson in Spanish through to helping students learn about how they can regulate their emotions in safe ways. That place where a student is really frustrated with their lack of progress on a skill or just how hard something is in the moment is SUCH a fabulous space to engage with them about feelings and how to work with feelings in healthy, positive ways. Once again, another wonderful conversation, y'all! Thank you.
Thank you so much for coming here to join the conversation. Your feedback is extremely valuable, and sharing this with your grandson is even more valuable! If we can change the way our boys think, feel and relate early, it's our best hope of truly healing humanity.
Wow… I’ve been following Jason Williams for a little over a year now, but I stumbled across this beautiful podcast because he actually posted a a snippet of the interview and so I found myself here. I just have to say… I truly appreciate what you are all doing for us men. I literally shed a tear when I found this channel.
I just wanted to leave a thank you in a place where you would maybe see it. I’ve binged many of y’all’s episodes and have been blown away by your guys’ and gals’ honesty, vulnerability, pushing, demanding, by the struggles and openness and willingness to hear and see your fellow men and women. I’ll probably have to rewatch/relisten a lot of things because your conversations are so dense and packed with thought provoking opinions, facts and experiences that as focussed as I try to be, I will not be able to fully take it all in at the moment. It also shows me that I still have a long way to go in my compassion for myself and the People in my life. In reflecting and confronting my truths and traumas. So thank you for that. But apart from that I quickly wanted to thank you because you inspired me to write a short but honest message of appreciation to the father of my daughter. I’m a single mom, and through a lot of work and letting go of our egos - first when it came to our co-parenting situation and our mantra of “she comes first, our hurt feelings and egos have no business being anywhere near the parenting steering wheel and secondly after a while when we were able to go from lovers, to exes, to parents, to friends - we are at a very good place of being friends on top of parents. After one of your shows I just wanted to let him know how appreciative I am of him, of him as a father, a friend, a person I’ve seen struggle and grow, as a person who wants to be seen and heard, who can say thank you and sorry….not all of it perfectly, but that doesn’t matter! Nobody’s perfect, I’m not, I don’t pretend to be. But I appreciate his willingness to grow and be a better father and man than what he’s had as a dad. So thank you for helping me in expressing that great-fullness.
Thank you so much for diving into our series so fully and for sharing your personal experience. It means a lot to hear that it has affected you personally and that you're growing with the father of your daughter. No one is perfect at all, and that's not the goal. Much more ahead!
From the moment this Podcast started til the end, this Podcast touched my heart. I wish I knew my father. There are so many things I want to know that my mother never told me. Thank you Jason Wilson and the Man Enough Podcast crew. I feel like I'm learning so much every time I watch this. I appreciate what you do on this Podcast 💜😊👍🏾🦄
This was such a good conversation! I feel like I get a little bit more hopeful every week when I listen to these. Thank you for letting us into these deep conversations!
OMG ! what a treasurable moment , i m from Haiti and i wish and also request if there can be a caption in French because i can only share with my friends who understand english. Thank you Jason Wilson for teaching me sooooo much and thanks to the three mousqueteers Jamey , Justin and Liz for creating space in the show so that we can be touched and felt. ❤❤❤
Merci for being here! Haha I don't think anyone has ever called our hosts Mousekateers before. That's great. You can certainly watch in French - just click on the little gear icon at the bottom of the screen, select "Subtitles", select "Auto-translate", and then choose French.
Another unbelievably amazing episode, guys. I cried my eyes out so many times listening to all of you and I learnt beautiful things. As a non-binary person, born as a female, you got me so so deeply. If we want to heal, we have to heal all together. Love you guys. ❤️
My favorite episode, so far. Thank you all, so much, for speaking your truth and for the willingness to be vulnerable. Thank you for all you do, every one of you, to spread love and promote peace.
Guys you are doing such a great job! I am overwhelmed and crying to see men like you exist. I just discovered your channel and I wonder if Will Smith was invited 🤗♥️🌹🙏🏼
Infinitely grateful on multiple levels to witness this conversation. One, I am a woman on the same path to live fully with my emotions and to "promote" (normalize) emotional access, healthy emotional expression and the ability to be present (safe) with that, and I am buoyed to see MEN who are doing this work and sharing it publicly with the world. Two, I am struggling right now to access my body and emotions, I've hit a wall of armor. So being able to watch/listen to such deeply real and vulnerable conversations is a salve that is supporting my work in this moment. Three, though you address the patriarchy as it relates to men, it reminds me that this is another structural issue and that my struggle with armor is a result of that and my trauma as well, just as for men. Your work is relevant for women as well. Though women are thought to generally have easier access to their emotions and are "expected" to be "emotional" in our society, that is not without a cost in a patriarchal society. Our expression of "feminized" (in the archetype not gendered sense as you point out) emotions is OK but relegates to an undervalued "weak" box, and our expression of "masculinized" emotions leads to punishment and even banishment. I just discovered your channel and was planning on sharing some videos, but THIS IS THE ONE. You all are amazing and Jason Wilson is amazing. THANK YOU!
Wow, thank you for sharing the personal impacts and understanding that this has provided you. We are honored to help create space for these reflections and expand the capacity for what is possible, and excited for all that you have in store! Thank for sticking with us.
wow! Jason Wilson you are such a diamond. Thank you so much for the effort you have made and are making with yourself, with your emotions. And thank you so so much for the great work you are doing in your work as mentor and teacher to boys and fathers and other male adults. i live in the Netherlands and was born in a white Dutch family there and grew up there. ifeel so grateful that there are people like you, who do this important work by working on themselves and areb also able and willing to create safe spaces for young people where they are loved and learn to balance their inner power and not be afraid to show their vulnerability. i had to be strong and have difficulty in showing ny vulnerability. when i feel vulnerable i tend to withdraw from human contact, even though i am a woman. i can therefore relate to the tears the men in this video cried. Thank you people that created this podcast. This is a great channel.
Thank you for this beautiful conversation with beautiful souls❤. I have learnt so much about fathers, men, boys in this conversation. Meaningful conversations are awesome and we have it in all your podcasts, thank you❤🔥🙏. So humble and sweet Jason. Will be great to meet your guests in person. .Maybe someday, somewhere. We are all one big family❤. The earth is but one country and mankind it's citizens-Baha'i Faith
Wow you guys never seize to amaze. You are doing great job to humanity. I love this conversation. I love seing men being vulnerable and authentic around each other. Jason got a new follower. Im grateful for this space. I love you both
Woooooooooow 👏👏👏 This podcast is indescribable; the knowledge, the insight, the wisdom of each guest.....simply amazing. Justin, Jamey and Liz, you have no idea what you're doing and the impact of this podcast 🔥🔥 I loved Jason's definition of a thug. Also, that we can't heal children by retraumatizing them 🔥🔥
I’ve been listening to this podcast since day one and I gotta say this has been my favorite episode yet. I found it to be so impactful and was moved to tears multiple times. Loved Jason’s vulnerability, willingness to share his experiences and creating that safe space to share emotions honestly. Was also great to see his explanation of allowing ourselves to feel our emotions and vent but being aware of when and how we should do it. Knowing the responsibility that comes with managing our emotions and not allowing them to control us. Best explanation I’ve heard on this topic. Justin, Jamey and Liz, thanks for the work you are doing with this podcast! I learn something new every week.
I love this podcast and honestly this had me ugly crying in the car and my grandmother was in the car with me and we got to address so much things while crying lol, I seriously thank all three of you for helping really redefine what masculinity and what being man enough means
This is the 4th or 5th episode I listen from your amazing podcast, and I finally take the time to thank you all for bringing to us such deep, soul-stirring, authentic, real, coherent and lively content and human beings, and in such a natural, friendly, genuine and welcoming way. This episode made me cry, really old tears that were stuck in these old wounded parts of my being as a woman, who has - like so many others - experienced interactions/relationships with men who have not had a chance (or the courage) to do this essential work you are advocating and exemplifying. It's very healing, soothing, to hear and see men not only cry, but daring to do the real "shadow-work", while also pointing and looking at the Light. I loved the quotes that were shared from 'Abdu'l-Baha, thank you for these beautiful sources of inspiration! Your new fan from Switzerland, Yasmin
Thank you so much for sharing. It means a lot to know that we're reaching people so deeply (and in Switzerland!). Every episode is quite different and we'd love to hear what you think as you work your way through.
@@WeAreManEnough Thank you for taking the time to respond, it makes this really human :-) Yes, I will gladly share my thoughts about the other episodes :-) Am also thinking on how to connect you with a brilliant podcast by a young French journalist, who addresses the same questions (in French) in a different way but very similar spirit and intention...
I already just gave a like the moment Jamey said, "I don't like what you're wearing, I like what she's wearing." 🤣🤣🤣 Ready to watch now! Had to comment already...! 😆
Words: the power of language and the language of power. 'Control', vs. management, negotiation. Control is 'dominance over', the root of the entire issue of trauma. Do I 'control' my kids, my emotions, or do I acknowledge them (validation of being), then manage them through negotiation and contextualisation? "Yes, I hear/see/feel you, and we will help you out at the appropriate time, just not now." And then, keep true to that negotiation and truly take that nap, or sit down and revisit the emotion, ask about its intensity and necessity. This is not merely a semantic shift. This is a concept shift, into kindness, compassion with guidance. Words are labels and when labels don't suit, we can change the label to help us create a rejuvenated way of thinking. That in mind, "vulnerable" who the heck wants to be vulnerable? unprotected? Unsafe? Are we being asked to use a counter productive term? Analogy: after a rain storm a rabbit comes out of its burrow, sees the sun, and green, freshness in an open space. Sitting at the sill of the tunnel, sniffs and feels safe, hops out to then run, eat and be joyful after the cramped burrow. Openness to the world,receptive and curious because it's safe, . Then a shadow flies overhead, openness suddenly shifts to vulnerability because a predator is around. So, in work, I ask people to help us create a safe space, and then do what we naturally do in a safe space, be open, curious (the prime inner victim to trauma is curiosity). When a session draws to an close, i invite the person to now protect that openness, embrace it carefully so that they are not vulnerable as they commute homewards. In short, isn't vulnerable just openness in an unsafe place?
Thank you for this thoughtful response. Really interesting way to redefine vulnerability. Sometimes we do need to be open/vulnerable in unsafe places too, though. We need safe places to practice, to build up our strength and confidence, but at some point we need to take those skills out into the rest of the world, as that's where we live and that's where real change happens. It's like lifting weights - it often doesn't feel great and even hurts when we're pushing ourselves, but responsible lifters have a spotter and do so in a safe environment. As we get stronger, then we are able to lift on our own and lift in new/less safe environments. This reminds us of some of the conversations in other episodes, especially around having the fortitude to stand up against sexism when we see it in the world - Eugenio Derbez, Andy Grammer, Lil Rel Howery and others talked about the challenges, yet importance, of confronting statements and actions within groups of men to raise awareness and change behaviors/speech. Thank you so much for your feedback and provocative suggestion.
@@WeAreManEnough Thank you for the openness of this exchange. (Venus is known as both the morning and evening star; our labels are never sufficient nor definitive) This description of skilling up in safe spaces to allow one to go into dangerous places with one's vulnerability was food for thought and reflection. I went to bed musing how that sounds like 'Courage' and maturity ( it takes courage to allow oneself to mature). I woke up still thinking. Our human frailty fired within by a will to live still requires courage to be and stay alive; I believe curiosity and passion sustain that will and allow courage to wax. Taking our frailty into unsafe places, yes, requires skills which render ourselves to be less vulnerable more competent. An open mind in a frail body understands there are degrees of vulnerability, which we take into degrees of unsafety. It was a bit disarming that rude male conversation was used as an example of unsafe territory or does it become unsafe only when a man challenges sexism?(even dangerous?) The caring skills of wise fortitude to meet these interrelational challenges are critical thinking skills, body language, and the verbal skills of NVL (non violent language or Clean Language). Welcome to women's realm of concerns, worries and skill sets. #EthicsofCare
@@kikiperry8176 Appreciate your openness as well. We hear you on the "rude male conversation" example. Unfortunately, just because we believe something shouldn't be unsafe doesn't mean it is. We fully acknowledge that this language and behavior is a lot more unsafe for women than men, but unfortunately the current situation does make it unsafe for a lot of men to stand up to other men in these situations. When we recognize it as such, we can approach this, and many situations like it, with more empathy and compassion, together defining ways to challenge the abusive and oppressive behaviors, to start affecting change. It is a journey, indeed, and we all want it to evolve faster. Sending love and gratitude to you.
It is a quote from the Bahá'í writings, from the central figure named ʻAbdu'l-Bahá, one of the central figures. It says, "The more difficulties one sees the world, the more perfect one becomes. The more you plow and dig the ground, the more fertile it becomes. The more you cut the branches of a tree, the higher and stronger it grows. The more you put the gold in the fire, the purer it becomes. The more you sharpen the steel by grinding, the better it cuts. Therefore, the more sorrows one sees, the more perfect one becomes. That is why in all times, the prophets of God have had tribulations and difficulties to withstand. The more often the captain of a ship is in the tempest and difficult sailing, the greater his knowledge becomes. Therefore, I am happy that you have had great tribulations and difficulties. For this I'm very happy that you have had many sorrows. Strange it is that I love you and still, I am happy that you have had sorrows."
Is it possible that you will recall the interview of Richard V Reeves he wrote a book entitled Of Boys and Men because his message is do not become indifferent to the struggles of Boys and Men. Please Recall Richard V Reeves words of wisdom and humanity. Thank you.
This episode kinda ruined me. I haven’t let myself cry about having an absent father, ever. Today was the day I cried watching 3 beautiful men doing a wonderful job being great dads. And I cried my eyes out for everything I never had. Didn’t have one male role model in my life I could turn to for guidance, I don’t know anyone who has. And that’s about the saddest thing I’ve ever had to acknowledge. How do you begin to heal from this??
Thank you for sharing Stephanie, our thoughts are with you in this very vulnerable experience. We are not medical professionals, but seeking support can help this process-- whether that be a group of peers that have had similar experiences or counsel by a trained professional. Just by acknowledging your truth and listening in to these conversations, you're already on the journey of healing. Wishing you all the best!
Appreciate Jason Wilsons work, and testimony 🙏 why taint his message with the patriarchal feminist woke narrative? it's counter to the issue being solved
So many thought but just like where does this idea of what is masculine and feminine come from truly. Cause a mama bear is one of the most bold strong terrifying things on land same with most other mammals. Male seahorses carry their young prebirth and cares for them as they grow.
We agree! Some anti-feminists/pro-traditional masculinity advocates argue that nature is nature. To your point, nature is incredibly diverse in biology, fluidity of sex in some species, and behaviors. Let's focus on what creates the greatest freedom, empowerment and compassion for each other as humans.
I wish I could thumbs up this video a million times. It's something I will definitely apply to myself, love ones and younger people coming up under me. Great lessons to learn from thank you all for coming together to have this conversation.
This podcast is teaching me as a woman so much about different men's experiences walking through the world, and its so humbling, and like Liz says, makes me feel grateful I get to be here and witness this.. Thank you thank you thank you Jason Wilson, and to Jamie, Justin and Liz for sharing your hearts with us every week. I am a better person for listening
Concur entirely. Thank you guys 💜
110% took the words out of my brain! So thankful for this conversation and I will definitely be reflecting. So many wounds we (men&woman) have in common, related to our fathers and otherwise, and so many we don’t. It’s an honour to hear you guys speak so honestly. Thank you!
Me too
Same here. This podcast has helped me grow so much in the last year. If I’m battling and I need something to help me get through, I’ll go to previous episodes and it just helps me process things.
My head started nodding and throat started humming when Jason said "the boys don't need more discipline, they need more LOVE" .....
I’m a public school teacher and your podcast is making a better teacher. Thank you so so much for sharing this episode with the world!
Wow, that's so wonderful to hear. Thank you.
Thank you.
oh cannot express in words how much listening to it impacted me, thank sooo much for this sir i cried my heart out, finally felt so revealed
i was always pressured to loose my virginity,i knew inside i am just not made for casualls but when i did to fit in i still remember the first time i did as jason said it left a part of me, i would never forget that day, the trauma of that i carried for years
this podcast gives me strenght to be the man i want to be and stand up for the things i believe in
Thank you so much for sharing. We're glad you're here and that we can provide a safe space for you to learn and grow along with us.
Thank you for sharing x
This episode was profoundly deep.
You can tell Justin was raw and receptive coming into this. Sometimes we're so on the edge of needing to let go and don't even realize we're there. Way to start the show off on a deeply authentic note.
And then 15 seconds later, Jason puts more articulately than I could've! I'm stealing that "dams" analogy!
Jason is really amazing, isn't he?
@@WeAreManEnough Fully. The longer he went, the deeper it got for me: the "father wound", not feeling enough, emulating what others did as a mask for survival in a hostile environment. I could go on and on. This one def requires multiple listens. ❤
@@ronsparkman4913 We completely agree! Thanks for being here week after week, Ron.
Whew! This is so beautiful. When Justin asked, "what would you ask 10 year old Jason" and his eyes were closed, I knew that touched a spot. This is amazing he has learned to process his emotions and openly share them. I hoping and praying for this in all our men. This is what we need to save our men, to save our families, to save our communities.
This man speaks with such eloquence and grace yet powerful depth!
We agree!
Great Humility calls for deep hearted care
with understanding of the struggles of other people.
Please do not let your daughter nor son think that he or she needs to search for encouragement, love nor tender affection from someone else, someplace else.
Thanks to all of you for this podcast. I appreciate being introduced to Jason. I have lived without a father (who died of polio when I was five) for 70 years and still cry about it. Would my life have been better if he had been there? I understand now that it is a trauma in my life that I never acknowledged. I love the podcast and all the guests. I am currently reading Justin's book and Liz's is next. Now I am adding Jason's books to the list.
Thank you for sharing. That's a hard journey and hopefully it will be eased a bit by the work you're doing. We're glad you've found our community and the safe space to explore these traumas together.
"It was heavy on my heart to make sure that no man is left behind. " I had to rewind for that. Beautiful stuff.
There are a lot of those moments in this episode, aren't there?
@@WeAreManEnough so many. The vulnerability of the men in this episode gives me hope. Thank you all for sharing and for opening more doors to our humanity.
As a wife, with grown sons, I just want to say a very big THANK YOU to all of you. These podcasts, and your book (Justin) have been very important tools in our family! (Liz, yours is on my list. I promise!) THANK YOU all. And Thank you @JasonWIlson, for doing the work , and paying it forward!!
Thank you for sharing and being here. Definitely read Liz's book!
Beautiful interview, beautiful brother! This is a message all men need to hear!
This became my favorite episode of this podcast. I can't thank you enough for the diverse range of beautiful humans you bring onto this show. I cried watching this several times. Happy, self-compassionate tears. Thank you for providing positive examples week after week for me, a young man with no father or mentors, to guide my life and relationship to masculinity.
This podcast has been paramount to my healing journey, and my engagement with men's work. I would like to build a career and profession in men's work and a similar type of academy and mentorship organization that Jason has.
My dream would be to show up on this podcast and learn with you all while sharing my story.
Much love!
Thank you for sharing, John. We're so happy you're here on this journey with us.
I would love to hear you on this podcast, John!
What an amazing show. So many gems and lessons in this one.
I just got done listening to this episode on Google Podcasts, and o felt the need to come over here and comment. What Jason said about knowing when to share your emotions, and the way he modeled consent in sharing his hard stuff with his wife, was fantastic. I'm going to share this with my 12yo grandson so we can talk about that and so that we can talk about how it feels to speak about emotions and feelings.
Also, as a former figure skating coach I really appreciated the way that Jason talked about using martial arts and physical exercise to open up space to discuss feelings and hard stuff. I found that coaching opened up so many different kinds of teaching opportunities, whether it was helping a student prepare for a Spanish exam by doing a whole hour lesson in Spanish through to helping students learn about how they can regulate their emotions in safe ways. That place where a student is really frustrated with their lack of progress on a skill or just how hard something is in the moment is SUCH a fabulous space to engage with them about feelings and how to work with feelings in healthy, positive ways.
Once again, another wonderful conversation, y'all! Thank you.
Thank you so much for coming here to join the conversation. Your feedback is extremely valuable, and sharing this with your grandson is even more valuable! If we can change the way our boys think, feel and relate early, it's our best hope of truly healing humanity.
What a powerful conversation WOW! Thank you!
Wow… I’ve been following Jason Williams for a little over a year now, but I stumbled across this beautiful podcast because he actually posted a a snippet of the interview and so I found myself here.
I just have to say… I truly appreciate what you are all doing for us men. I literally shed a tear when I found this channel.
I just wanted to leave a thank you in a place where you would maybe see it. I’ve binged many of y’all’s episodes and have been blown away by your guys’ and gals’ honesty, vulnerability, pushing, demanding, by the struggles and openness and willingness to hear and see your fellow men and women. I’ll probably have to rewatch/relisten a lot of things because your conversations are so dense and packed with thought provoking opinions, facts and experiences that as focussed as I try to be, I will not be able to fully take it all in at the moment. It also shows me that I still have a long way to go in my compassion for myself and the People in my life. In reflecting and confronting my truths and traumas. So thank you for that.
But apart from that I quickly wanted to thank you because you inspired me to write a short but honest message of appreciation to the father of my daughter. I’m a single mom, and through a lot of work and letting go of our egos - first when it came to our co-parenting situation and our mantra of “she comes first, our hurt feelings and egos have no business being anywhere near the parenting steering wheel and secondly after a while when we were able to go from lovers, to exes, to parents, to friends - we are at a very good place of being friends on top of parents. After one of your shows I just wanted to let him know how appreciative I am of him, of him as a father, a friend, a person I’ve seen struggle and grow, as a person who wants to be seen and heard, who can say thank you and sorry….not all of it perfectly, but that doesn’t matter! Nobody’s perfect, I’m not, I don’t pretend to be. But I appreciate his willingness to grow and be a better father and man than what he’s had as a dad. So thank you for helping me in expressing that great-fullness.
Thank you so much for diving into our series so fully and for sharing your personal experience. It means a lot to hear that it has affected you personally and that you're growing with the father of your daughter. No one is perfect at all, and that's not the goal. Much more ahead!
From the moment this Podcast started til the end, this Podcast touched my heart. I wish I knew my father. There are so many things I want to know that my mother never told me. Thank you Jason Wilson and the Man Enough Podcast crew. I feel like I'm learning so much every time I watch this. I appreciate what you do on this Podcast 💜😊👍🏾🦄
Thank you so much. We appreciate so much that you're going through each episode and letting us know how they are affecting you.
This was such a good conversation! I feel like I get a little bit more hopeful every week when I listen to these. Thank you for letting us into these deep conversations!
Thank you for being here! Even when these conversations are hard, it creates hope that we can create safe spaces to dig in together.
@@WeAreManEnough ❤️
OMG ! what a treasurable moment , i m from Haiti and i wish and also request if there can be a caption in French because i can only share with my friends who understand english. Thank you Jason Wilson for teaching me sooooo much and thanks to the three mousqueteers Jamey , Justin and Liz for creating space in the show so that we can be touched and felt. ❤❤❤
Merci for being here! Haha I don't think anyone has ever called our hosts Mousekateers before. That's great.
You can certainly watch in French - just click on the little gear icon at the bottom of the screen, select "Subtitles", select "Auto-translate", and then choose French.
Greetings from Poland to all of you. You are all doing amazing work. This is so touching right spots in me.
Thank you! So happy to know we reached you in Poland.
Another unbelievably amazing episode, guys. I cried my eyes out so many times listening to all of you and I learnt beautiful things. As a non-binary person, born as a female, you got me so so deeply. If we want to heal, we have to heal all together. Love you guys. ❤️
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing. We appreciate you and we're sending you love as well.
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My dad, son and I really need this and I’m glad to have stumbled upon this. I will read the books and look for more on this topic.
My favorite episode, so far. Thank you all, so much, for speaking your truth and for the willingness to be vulnerable. Thank you for all you do, every one of you, to spread love and promote peace.
Thank you so much! We're so happy you're here with us.
this is one of the greatest and deepest conversations. thank you!
Thank you! We agree.
I love Jason so much and the work he does. Thank you for having him on. This was powerful!
He's really incredible, isn't he? We were very fortunate to have him on.
Guys you are doing such a great job! I am overwhelmed and crying to see men like you exist. I just discovered your channel and I wonder if Will Smith was invited 🤗♥️🌹🙏🏼
Thank you! We're so glad you're here with us. Much more coming in season 2!
Whoa! Y’all, this just keeps getting better and better! I’ll be revisiting this conversation more than once to digest and reflect.
Thank you. Yeah, there's a lot in this one.
Infinitely grateful on multiple levels to witness this conversation.
One, I am a woman on the same path to live fully with my emotions and to "promote" (normalize) emotional access, healthy emotional expression and the ability to be present (safe) with that, and I am buoyed to see MEN who are doing this work and sharing it publicly with the world.
Two, I am struggling right now to access my body and emotions, I've hit a wall of armor. So being able to watch/listen to such deeply real and vulnerable conversations is a salve that is supporting my work in this moment.
Three, though you address the patriarchy as it relates to men, it reminds me that this is another structural issue and that my struggle with armor is a result of that and my trauma as well, just as for men. Your work is relevant for women as well. Though women are thought to generally have easier access to their emotions and are "expected" to be "emotional" in our society, that is not without a cost in a patriarchal society. Our expression of "feminized" (in the archetype not gendered sense as you point out) emotions is OK but relegates to an undervalued "weak" box, and our expression of "masculinized" emotions leads to punishment and even banishment.
I just discovered your channel and was planning on sharing some videos, but THIS IS THE ONE.
You all are amazing and Jason Wilson is amazing. THANK YOU!
Wow, thank you for sharing the personal impacts and understanding that this has provided you. We are honored to help create space for these reflections and expand the capacity for what is possible, and excited for all that you have in store! Thank for sticking with us.
wow! Jason Wilson you are such a diamond. Thank you so much for the effort you have made and are making with yourself, with your emotions. And thank you so so much for the great work you are doing in your work as mentor and teacher to boys and fathers and other male adults.
i live in the Netherlands and was born in a white Dutch family there and grew up there.
ifeel so grateful that there are people like you, who do this important work by working on themselves and areb also able and willing to create safe spaces for young people where they are loved and learn to balance their inner power and not be afraid to show their vulnerability.
i had to be strong and have difficulty in showing ny vulnerability. when i feel vulnerable i tend to withdraw from human contact, even though i am a woman. i can therefore relate to the tears the men in this video cried. Thank you people that created this podcast. This is a great channel.
Thank you for this beautiful conversation with beautiful souls❤. I have learnt so much about fathers, men, boys in this conversation. Meaningful conversations are awesome and we have it in all your podcasts, thank you❤🔥🙏. So humble and sweet Jason. Will be great to meet your guests in person. .Maybe someday, somewhere. We are all one big family❤. The earth is but one country and mankind it's citizens-Baha'i Faith
Thank you, we are indeed all one big family.
allright... thank you you all for this amazing conversation!
thank you!
Danke!
Gràcies!
Thank you for being here!
Beautiful podcast and conversation 👏🏾👏🏾 Mr. Jason has been one of my favorites. You guys are my favorites as well!
Thank you! So glad it connected with you.
@@WeAreManEnough It’s one my bucket list goals to one day be a guest on this podcast for sure! 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this episode. The story of Jason losing his virginity made me cry so much. So much harmful messaging has been taught to boys.
So true. We're ALL oppressed by the patriarchy and traditional masculinity.
Wow you guys never seize to amaze. You are doing great job to humanity. I love this conversation. I love seing men being vulnerable and authentic around each other. Jason got a new follower.
Im grateful for this space. I love you both
Thank you! We're so glad you're following Jason. You won't be disappointed.
Sobbing in the fist 8 minutes. Woof!!!! Couldn’t hit subscribe soon enough!
What a remarkable and refreshing conversation. Bless your souls for doing this.
Thank you! We're so glad you're here with us.
This discussion is powerful! I will pass this along to every man I know…
Another Soul touching podcastt!Sending some love to all of you!
Thank you! Love to you too.
Wow Jason, what a beautiful soul. Loved this conversation.
Thank you. He's really incredible.
Woooooooooow 👏👏👏
This podcast is indescribable; the knowledge, the insight, the wisdom of each guest.....simply amazing.
Justin, Jamey and Liz, you have no idea what you're doing and the impact of this podcast 🔥🔥
I loved Jason's definition of a thug. Also, that we can't heal children by retraumatizing them 🔥🔥
Thank you! We're so glad you're here with us.
I’ve been listening to this podcast since day one and I gotta say this has been my favorite episode yet. I found it to be so impactful and was moved to tears multiple times. Loved Jason’s vulnerability, willingness to share his experiences and creating that safe space to share emotions honestly. Was also great to see his explanation of allowing ourselves to feel our emotions and vent but being aware of when and how we should do it. Knowing the responsibility that comes with managing our emotions and not allowing them to control us. Best explanation I’ve heard on this topic. Justin, Jamey and Liz, thanks for the work you are doing with this podcast! I learn something new every week.
Thank you! We're so glad this resonated with you and completely agree. Jason is an incredible human.
Thought provoking - thank you.
I love this podcast and honestly this had me ugly crying in the car and my grandmother was in the car with me and we got to address so much things while crying lol, I seriously thank all three of you for helping really redefine what masculinity and what being man enough means
Thank YOU for sharing. Crying isn't ugly...suppressing it is a lot uglier in the long run.
@@WeAreManEnough you are right! No ugly crying! Definitely more of a beautiful needed release 💪🏾
This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your stories. Much respect for everyone on this podcast.
Greetings from Germany keep it up!
Thank you so much. Excited to hear we're reaching you in Germany.
Precious precious interview, thank you
We agree! Thank you for being here.
So many insights and teachings here, thank you 🙏🏼 Inspirational, powerful 💖
Thank you!
This is the 4th or 5th episode I listen from your amazing podcast, and I finally take the time to thank you all for bringing to us such deep, soul-stirring, authentic, real, coherent and lively content and human beings, and in such a natural, friendly, genuine and welcoming way. This episode made me cry, really old tears that were stuck in these old wounded parts of my being as a woman, who has - like so many others - experienced interactions/relationships with men who have not had a chance (or the courage) to do this essential work you are advocating and exemplifying. It's very healing, soothing, to hear and see men not only cry, but daring to do the real "shadow-work", while also pointing and looking at the Light. I loved the quotes that were shared from 'Abdu'l-Baha, thank you for these beautiful sources of inspiration! Your new fan from Switzerland, Yasmin
Thank you so much for sharing. It means a lot to know that we're reaching people so deeply (and in Switzerland!). Every episode is quite different and we'd love to hear what you think as you work your way through.
@@WeAreManEnough Thank you for taking the time to respond, it makes this really human :-) Yes, I will gladly share my thoughts about the other episodes :-) Am also thinking on how to connect you with a brilliant podcast by a young French journalist, who addresses the same questions (in French) in a different way but very similar spirit and intention...
@@yasminfarhoumand4675 We are really human! :) Feel free to suggest potential guests and partners here or email us at info@manenough.com
I already just gave a like the moment Jamey said, "I don't like what you're wearing, I like what she's wearing." 🤣🤣🤣 Ready to watch now! Had to comment already...! 😆
Love it! Thanks for being here.
So emotional, So needed to see & hear! I'm FOREVER grateful for what I experienced & learned today.💯
That's wonderful to hear. We're grateful for you!
Life changing episode !
Thank you! We agree.
Words: the power of language and the language of power. 'Control', vs. management, negotiation. Control is 'dominance over', the root of the entire issue of trauma. Do I 'control' my kids, my emotions, or do I acknowledge them (validation of being), then manage them through negotiation and contextualisation? "Yes, I hear/see/feel you, and we will help you out at the appropriate time, just not now." And then, keep true to that negotiation and truly take that nap, or sit down and revisit the emotion, ask about its intensity and necessity. This is not merely a semantic shift. This is a concept shift, into kindness, compassion with guidance. Words are labels and when labels don't suit, we can change the label to help us create a rejuvenated way of thinking.
That in mind, "vulnerable" who the heck wants to be vulnerable? unprotected? Unsafe? Are we being asked to use a counter productive term? Analogy: after a rain storm a rabbit comes out of its burrow, sees the sun, and green, freshness in an open space. Sitting at the sill of the tunnel, sniffs and feels safe, hops out to then run, eat and be joyful after the cramped burrow. Openness to the world,receptive and curious because it's safe, . Then a shadow flies overhead, openness suddenly shifts to vulnerability because a predator is around. So, in work, I ask people to help us create a safe space, and then do what we naturally do in a safe space, be open, curious (the prime inner victim to trauma is curiosity). When a session draws to an close, i invite the person to now protect that openness, embrace it carefully so that they are not vulnerable as they commute homewards. In short, isn't vulnerable just openness in an unsafe place?
Thank you for this thoughtful response. Really interesting way to redefine vulnerability. Sometimes we do need to be open/vulnerable in unsafe places too, though. We need safe places to practice, to build up our strength and confidence, but at some point we need to take those skills out into the rest of the world, as that's where we live and that's where real change happens. It's like lifting weights - it often doesn't feel great and even hurts when we're pushing ourselves, but responsible lifters have a spotter and do so in a safe environment. As we get stronger, then we are able to lift on our own and lift in new/less safe environments. This reminds us of some of the conversations in other episodes, especially around having the fortitude to stand up against sexism when we see it in the world - Eugenio Derbez, Andy Grammer, Lil Rel Howery and others talked about the challenges, yet importance, of confronting statements and actions within groups of men to raise awareness and change behaviors/speech. Thank you so much for your feedback and provocative suggestion.
@@WeAreManEnough Thank you for the openness of this exchange. (Venus is known as both the morning and evening star; our labels are never sufficient nor definitive) This description of skilling up in safe spaces to allow one to go into dangerous places with one's vulnerability was food for thought and reflection. I went to bed musing how that sounds like 'Courage' and maturity ( it takes courage to allow oneself to mature). I woke up still thinking. Our human frailty fired within by a will to live still requires courage to be and stay alive; I believe curiosity and passion sustain that will and allow courage to wax. Taking our frailty into unsafe places, yes, requires skills which render ourselves to be less vulnerable more competent. An open mind in a frail body understands there are degrees of vulnerability, which we take into degrees of unsafety. It was a bit disarming that rude male conversation was used as an example of unsafe territory or does it become unsafe only when a man challenges sexism?(even dangerous?) The caring skills of wise fortitude to meet these interrelational challenges are critical thinking skills, body language, and the verbal skills of NVL (non violent language or Clean Language). Welcome to women's realm of concerns, worries and skill sets. #EthicsofCare
@@kikiperry8176 Appreciate your openness as well. We hear you on the "rude male conversation" example. Unfortunately, just because we believe something shouldn't be unsafe doesn't mean it is. We fully acknowledge that this language and behavior is a lot more unsafe for women than men, but unfortunately the current situation does make it unsafe for a lot of men to stand up to other men in these situations. When we recognize it as such, we can approach this, and many situations like it, with more empathy and compassion, together defining ways to challenge the abusive and oppressive behaviors, to start affecting change. It is a journey, indeed, and we all want it to evolve faster. Sending love and gratitude to you.
Wow. No words.
What a beautiful episode! Thank you for what you do 🤍
Thank you for being here!
@@WeAreManEnough every.single. Monday. 😅
This is so special, thank u for the beautiful inspiration to all 4 of you 🌻☀️🏵✨
Thanks for listening in! We appreciate you being here
This woman cries at Field of Dreams, after multiple viewings! Both as someone who loves their dad and from empathy.
What was the statement /quote/poem that Jamie read out? It's so beautiful and I'd love to have it in my room.
It is a quote from the Bahá'í writings, from the central figure named ʻAbdu'l-Bahá, one of the central figures.
It says, "The more difficulties one sees the world, the more perfect one becomes. The more you plow and dig the ground, the more fertile it becomes. The more you cut the branches of a tree, the higher and stronger it grows. The more you put the gold in the fire, the purer it becomes. The more you sharpen the steel by grinding, the better it cuts. Therefore, the more sorrows one sees, the more perfect one becomes. That is why in all times, the prophets of God have had tribulations and difficulties to withstand. The more often the captain of a ship is in the tempest and difficult sailing, the greater his knowledge becomes. Therefore, I am happy that you have had great tribulations and difficulties. For this I'm very happy that you have had many sorrows. Strange it is that I love you and still, I am happy that you have had sorrows."
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Is it possible that you will recall the interview of Richard V Reeves he wrote a book entitled Of Boys and Men because his message is do not become indifferent to the struggles of Boys and Men.
Please Recall Richard V Reeves words of wisdom and humanity.
Thank you.
This episode kinda ruined me. I haven’t let myself cry about having an absent father, ever. Today was the day I cried watching 3 beautiful men doing a wonderful job being great dads. And I cried my eyes out for everything I never had. Didn’t have one male role model in my life I could turn to for guidance, I don’t know anyone who has. And that’s about the saddest thing I’ve ever had to acknowledge. How do you begin to heal from this??
Thank you for sharing Stephanie, our thoughts are with you in this very vulnerable experience. We are not medical professionals, but seeking support can help this process-- whether that be a group of peers that have had similar experiences or counsel by a trained professional. Just by acknowledging your truth and listening in to these conversations, you're already on the journey of healing. Wishing you all the best!
Read "The Will To Change". RIP Bell Hooks.
RIP indeed. Such an important thinker, activist and guide for us.
T.H.U.G ... 💖
Tears also contain tranquilising hormones which tears of rage, laughter and irritation don't. Cry dudes.
Yes!
Liz, I'm all about the leggings so don't worry! Love the dress!
Appreciate Jason Wilsons work, and testimony 🙏 why taint his message with the patriarchal feminist woke narrative? it's counter to the issue being solved
Please, Invite Sophia Bush, she's brilliant
On our list, for sure.
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I think that American society expect black children in general to raise themselves then are outraged when they do not do a good job of it.
Thank you for sharing
So many thought but just like where does this idea of what is masculine and feminine come from truly. Cause a mama bear is one of the most bold strong terrifying things on land same with most other mammals. Male seahorses carry their young prebirth and cares for them as they grow.
We agree! Some anti-feminists/pro-traditional masculinity advocates argue that nature is nature. To your point, nature is incredibly diverse in biology, fluidity of sex in some species, and behaviors. Let's focus on what creates the greatest freedom, empowerment and compassion for each other as humans.
I wish I could thumbs up this video a million times. It's something I will definitely apply to myself, love ones and younger people coming up under me. Great lessons to learn from thank you all for coming together to have this conversation.
Thank you for the kind words. We couldn't agree more. Jason is so incredible.