In the recording, Russ said he thought: she was forging checks to cover up her financial problems, she had killed her first husband, she was cheating on him, and that she had given him sleeping pills on multiple occasions.
Guys usually fiercely protect that area when they sleep. My ex slept in a fetal position with his hands held down in the groin area. Not because of anything I ever did…he always slept with one or both hands on that body part. Even if he was stretched out on his back …one arm would be over his head and the other arm or hand would be holding onto it. My point is, it’s natural instinct for a man to protect his jewels and she’s full of crap with that explanation.
“…really any type of sexual desires would result in eternal exposure to unreasonably high temperatures.” 🤣🤣🤣 Dr. Grande, your humor is just perfection. This is a very interesting case, thank you for reviewing it.❤
@@scottdavidson526what do they say? It isn't nonsense political shit calling him far right or something is it? Reddit is a fortress for zoomer neo-liberals 👎 booo. Grande seems to be a common sense centrist.
I attended Durham High School a few years before Russ's murder. He taught me how to drive. He was very handsome. All the girls had a mad crush on Coach Stager.
The first husband, when the detectives were saying " Oh, well, guess he dropped the gun and it went off", I can imagine Barbara's amazement. She was probably thinking 'Wow! You guys are stupid.'
I remember when this happened. Both husbands die the same way 10 years apart…and she was a deceitful spendaholic. I thought she was guilty then and still believe she’s guilty. She wasn’t very smart….was she? I saw a video of her trying to reenact the event. The detective lied down on the bed and pretended to be the husband. She couldn’t reenact it as she told it. She was pathetic.
Jacquelyn Smith played this female in a movie about this . She acted just as goofy demonstrating how the gun went off the same way Diane Downs did with her ridiculous reconstruction of the shooting of her children . They love attention from men. So many women piss away a great man that loves and provides for them while many can't find just one to cherish. Life is odd.
I’m just glad I found my awesome husband, good, sincere men have been very hard to find since, well, about the 1970’s. I think that idiotic “sexual revolution” messed so many people up, both men and women, including this woman (Barbara Stager) in this video! (Her individual character is also to blame as well, of course!)
@@culturalobserver8721Yeah.. it’s been difficult to find good women as well.. especially over the last 10-20 years. The sexual revolution was one of the worst things to ever happen to this country. So many women have been misled and lied to about being “strong, independent women that don’t need no man”.. and led to believe that being a homemaker is demeaning. There is a strong correlation tied to the decline of this country and western civilization in general starting in the 50’s.. and women entering the workforce enmass. Other things have contributed as well of course.. but we have lost our way as a people and so many of us are suffering for it.
Ephesians 5 5 Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; 17 Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. 18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; 19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; 20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
I'd love a dr Grande take on Serial Rapist and Scientologist in good standing Danny "that 70's show" Masterson. His sentencing is scheduled to september 7th I believe. Also, the grand jury hearing that's set to follow due to Scientology's meddling with the jury, intimidation of witnesses, and shenanigans and goings on with the handling of evidence between the Masterson defense team and Scientology.
Oh! I didn’t know about all of the churches doings! They are insane. Yes Dr. G! Please do an episode on Mastersons case and the churches underhanded dealings!
Dear Dr. Grande, can you please analyze the case of Angela Hammond? She was featured on Unsolved Mysteries years ago and her story has stayed with me over the years. Angela was abducted by a "filthy breaded man" while talking to her boyfriend on a pay phone just a few blocks from his house. The boyfriend says, he heard her speaking to someone in the background. He then claims he heard a scream and a man say, "I didnt need to use the phone anyway". The boyfriend goes on to state, he ran out of the house, jumped in his car and gave chase. He claims to have caught up with the veichle, which was a pick up truck with a fish jumping out of the water decal in the back window but all of sudden, his car engine blew and the suspect and his girlfriend disappeared into the night. Now, I've always believed the boyfriend had something to do with it, but I don't think he was ever charged. It would be so nice to know YOUR theories on this case. You'll probably never see this request as I'm sure you have many but in case you come across this comment, please add Angela Hammond's disapperance to your list. Thank you.
Too bad the police didn’t investigate Larry Fords death. Russ would still be alive. Great analysis as usual. I always perk up when I see your latest video pop up on TH-cam
If I remember correctly, in the book I read about her, Russ even mentioned to a coworker that if anything happened to him, it was Barbara. I wonder why he didn’t leave?
Russ's ex-wife/friend said it was because of Barbara's two sons that he legally adopted. He loved those boys, the ex said. Still, he should have left that house, or at least not slept there. He should have made her sleep somewhere else in the house while he slept in their bedroom with the door locked and a piece of heavy furniture pushed in front of it.
About 40 yrs ago, I worked with a gal who's mother had been married 3 times by the age of 25. I was surprised, of course. The mum had been widowed twice, one husband died in an industrial accident and the second died of cancer. Her third marriage was long term by the time of my working with the co-worker. However, I did ask the gal (in jest) if men were afraid to get near her mum.
My sister's been married four times. The first husband died in a motorcycle accident, the second one she divorced, the third one committed suicide, and she's been married over 20 years to the fourth husband.
Dr. Grande - I remember this case, and the disgusting woman! Glad to hear your excellent analysis and opinion, as I recall feeling so sorry for Russ who was portrayed to be a great friend and all-around good guy. 👍💜🌵
Yea this murder was also done by a woman I worked with. The police investigated but said it was a “hunting accident “. She was never charged but stole money while she was working in a synagogue, she was fired. She drugged up her husband to the point he couldn’t function. When police went to investigate her on the embezzlement, she escaped back to her home state. She was finally charged because she was finally caught stealing from seniors. Finally served prison time.
This is the second Dr. Grande video that teaches us that a woman can easily get away with blatantly killing one husband in their bedroom, but not two. That's one too many. The first one is free. How many women get away with only one husband murder and thus aren't featured in crime shows or TH-cam videos?
Wonder what happened to her two sons, Brian and Jason?? I assume they were teenagers when she killed her second husband. When I hear stories of criminals who happened to be parents, I always wonder what happens to the children. Do the grandparents become their guardians? Were they assigned to live in a foster family? How did they deal with having a parent with a criminal mind?! Were they haunted by their evil parent’s past?
Barbara Stager: Spendthrift and Murderer - Forensic Files Now As for what happened to Barbara Stager's sons after her imprisonment, the younger one went to live with an uncle and the other was old enough to get by on his own. Russ Stager's first wife, Jo Lynn Snow, married again, to a kitchen remodeler whom she helps run his business, according to the News & Observer.Sep 13, 2019
I just learned of the most heinous murder which took place two days ago in Whittier CA. Andrea Vasquez, raped, abducted, and killed by Gabriel Esparza -- the son of an L.A. County fire captain. A random attack, with confession, yet he's pleading not guilty. He attacked her while she was in a car with her BF at a park. The boyfriend ran away apparently, to get help? I'm perplexed! Dr. Grande, can you help shed light on this crazy story?
I honestly watched too many crime videos. if someone has too many people around dying of unnatural causes, I automatically assume that person is killing them.
Good morning 🌞🌄, Dr. Grande!🙋🤗🍀🪴🌵 I hope you enjoy your day ! I read this book! I feel so bad for the Men she Murdered, their Families, and her Children!💔💔🥀🥀🙏🙏🕊️🕊️ She's Wicked. Thank You!
How did the police decide that accidental was the most logical thing. I mean didnt they test HER hands for gun residue after they found none on his? It seems illogical to me given how often the spouse IS the killer that they would not check this.
My dad was in the same graduating class as Barbara Stager. It's scary to think what could have happened if he had married her instead of my mom. I mean obviously the greatest tragedy would be that I would never have been born.
I've seen this case on ID many times. She was an interesting person. I especially liked her story about her getting a huge advance for supposedly writing a book. LOL A book about what?
Dr Grande, please comment on the psychological profile of Tilikum, the Orca (killer whale) who killed and assaulted a number of his trainers. Thank you 👍🏻
This case was featured on New Detectives. Its very sad that the two men realized everything that was going on and still chose to stay with her and lose their lives.
Poor russ. Thats one of those situations ya know? You ask your girlfriend "so youve been married before, what happened? Yall get divorced?" "No he accidentally shot himself" No red flags there....im not a conspiracy theorist. I believe everything i hear.
Hey Dr. Grande🥰 Thank you for the new video! I can already tell that this case is going to hit me hard bc my husband passed away exactly 2yrs to the day after 1 of our daughters did. I'm pretty sure I've never heard of this case & there's no better way to learn about cases through you! Thank you always & happy Friday!
@amadeagottlieb ~Thank you so very much for your kind words🙏 I'm very sorry for your loss as well. I'm 33yrs old & I we with him from the time we were in 6th grade, until the day he passed away on top of my in a recliner. It was far beyond traumatic. I'm trying SO SO HARD, but it's been hard to get traction in my life bc then a few years ago, I was robbed at gunpoint & shot in the chest. It was one traumatic event after the next. My hubby & I had our 1st child when I was only 17. Fast forward to 33yrs old & I've got 8kiddos. I do believe in God & in heaven. Your & my beliefs align when it comes to that❤️ Please take care of yourself & stay safe. Sending you all the love, hugs & healing vibes in the world🙏❤️
This case was notorious, resulting in a TV movie based on it with Jaclyn Smith (against type) portraying Barbara Stager. It was memorable because, Dr. Grande, it is a companion to your analysis, IMHO. It was also a well remembered segment of a *_Deadly Women_* episode. While I usually just applaud your well crafted puns, your analysis is spot on. She is guilty beyond any reasonable doubt.
Heard about this case before. She's definitely guilty. The fact that the cops so casually swallowed the accidental discharge BS is disturbing. Genuine accidental discharges are very rare, and are usually done by clueless kids.
I knew the Stagers back in the 80s. I determined pretty quickly that Russ was a cool guy and that Barbara didn't have much personality. That's all I know.
So because there was no gunshot residue on his hands, the ONLY plausible explanation is that the gun shot him itself 😳 and here I was thinking the police aren't your friends😂
The more I hear of these cases involving couples makes me happy I am long term single as you never know what can happen pariculary for those that are desperate to find love, at least my ex wife never tried to kill me
Thank you for your well thought out and insightful analysis of these delicate topics Dr Grande. I always enjoy your balanced viewpoint compared to social media dramatisation of events. Can you please look at the recent furore over the Spanish football Chiefs kissing of a player. He says her body language meant she consented to the kiss. Given that she absolutely denies any consent was involved...I would love your opinion on this and whether his resignation would be an appropriate action. Thank you again.
What makes people stay with destructive partners? Looking from the outside, it's easy to have an outsider's perspective. But I wonder what sort of emotional and rational thought processes blind people to the danger.
The most dangerous time with a destructive partner is when your getting ready to leave. Especially, where kids are involved. That said, a lot of these people are consummate actors and very manipulative. There’s also a cycle that takes place. The honeymoon where everything is wine and roses. The build up, where “stress” will build up until there’s the explosion of violence, followed by the “apology stage”, where “it won’t happen again” and then you end back up at the honeymoon stage. The cycle continues like this until there’s no more honeymoon and no more apologies. You don’t necessarily see that cycle at first because it’s few and far between. Because of that its difficult to tell your in the frying pan while IN the pan until the flames are constantly at high temperatures. The one looking into the frying pan has the advantage of watching the flame get turned on and grow higher. While looking in, your not caught up in the emotions of hoping “things will get better” because he’s not like all the time. I never dreamed I would be in the frying pan. I spent two years trying to figure out HOW to get out alive when his whole personality turned into someone I didn’t recognize and he became increasing violent. They also spend a lot of time conditioning you to “accept” their behavior. I was also in a “no fault” divorce state and due to our unique circumstances, was told by my lawyer HE was going to get the house, the kids, the cars and child support and alimony and it didn’t matter if he was abusive and threatening to kill us all if I left him. I almost didn’t get out. I lost everything. But I’m alive and so are my children. Not just alive, but thriving. He on the other hand, not so much. When your in frying pan, you just don’t know HOW to get out of it. The terror takes over and clouds your judgement. A restraining order isn’t worth the paper it’s written on and our justice system cares more if you assault a complete stranger than it does if you assault your spouse. Despite having a mandatory 2 year sentence for domestic violence perpetrators (in our state) it was rarely enforced. Society shakes their head but then blames for the victims for being victims. They don’t understand the extent of emotional and psychological abuse and conditioning that takes place in these relationships along with the actual violence. In my case, I had no where to go. It’s even worse when the kids are manipulated to take the abusers side against the victim despite being victimized themselves. I hope this helps explain why “just leaving” isn’t as easy when your in frying pan. Dangerous people are deadly when you try to escape. Overcoming the emotional manipulation is a cliff too high for many too climb…until it’s too late. Unfortunately, without a lot of counseling, a lot of victims will just go on to find another controlling abuser. My mother believed she could “reform” her abusers and spent most of her life looking for one loser after another. It’s the definition of insanity.
@@little1942 Thanks for your detailed explanation. I'm glad you are doing well. I didn't mean to imply that leaving is easy - not at all. These videos often focus on the perpetrators of crimes and their psychological backgrounds. That in itself is helpful to learn what to look for in avoiding certain types of people - if it were that easy. But I also wonder what psychological traits might lead to becoming a victim Some insight would be helpful for self-reflection.
@@ajnasreddin I’m not sure it’s a “psychological” trait but a vulnerability one. Which can happen anytime you bond yourself to another human being. But if your already in a more vulnerable position (suffering loss, just lonely, or have kids with the person- or just a sexual relationship) your guard is down and you may not be able to see the possible indicators of abusive personalities. And as I said, a lot of these people are consummate actors. Sadly, abuse happens across all societal strata. It’s not a poor or ill educated problem. It’s too bad they don’t wear signs! Edit: one more thing I should mention. Substance abuse. Quite often, substance abuse takes place LATER in the relationship and turns a loving person into a monster. That’s what happened in my case. I just didn’t know that was the problem until after I left. There’s no indicators for that. Which is another reason why I say it can happen to anyone.
Thank you, Dr. Grande! I always enjoy your videos. I recently read that men commit violent crimes more than three times as often as women (U.S. Department of Justice). Assuming that’s true, why do you profile so many more women than men?
Men doing these things isn't out of the ordinary for true crime fans. When a woman does it, it becomes a sensation, and videos like this one get more views.
I saw'Fatal Vows', a show about this. Jo Lynn, the first wife said that they made much better friends than spouses and she didn't elaborate too much about what made their marriage fall apart. Russ wanted to get back with her. Jo Lynn really went to bat for him and was really instrumental in Barbara's conviction--along with the cassette tape. Jo Lynn was a really lovely lady, very classy--his best friend.
All Beretta .25 caliber pistols have an "inertial firing pin safety" which is not absolutely "drop safe" but the details of how it could fire when dropped rule out the first death being an accident. The Beretta pistol will only fire if dropped muzzle DOWN onto an extremely rigid surface like a bare concrete floor. It just cannot fire from being dropped onto bedsprings.
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The fact that Russ recorded a cassette tape predicting Barbara would shoot him in his sleep sealed her fate for all of eternity.
He did not record a cassette tape predicting she would shoot him. He worried about some strange facets and actions of his wife; rightfully so.
In the recording, Russ said he thought: she was forging checks to cover up her financial problems, she had killed her first husband, she was cheating on him, and that she had given him sleeping pills on multiple occasions.
That is terrifying. Why didn't he get out I wonder.
How do people stay with someone they think will kill them in there sleep.?😮
He wanted to go out with a bang?!
Ahh the old, "I don't want to sleep next to you just in case I accidentally hit your balls".
Guys usually fiercely protect that area when they sleep. My ex slept in a fetal position with his hands held down in the groin area. Not because of anything I ever did…he always slept with one or both hands on that body part. Even if he was stretched out on his back …one arm would be over his head and the other arm or hand would be holding onto it. My point is, it’s natural instinct for a man to protect his jewels and she’s full of crap with that explanation.
That's why bros don't usually share a bed. It's the number one concern
@@coloradohikertrash9958cupping the wrong man's junk? Some people pay good money for that 😂
@@laurenurban3942what but don't they cuddle up with u, they aren't protecting it then
“…really any type of sexual desires would result in eternal exposure to unreasonably high temperatures.” 🤣🤣🤣
Dr. Grande, your humor is just perfection.
This is a very interesting case, thank you for reviewing it.❤
I have no idea how I randomly came across Dr. Grande's channel but I'm so glad I did. Keep up the great work Doc
Donna mentioned Dr Grande in her video and I went searching.
Google did it
@@mnmmnm8321 The one good thing Google ever did.
I really like his Channel as well in spite of what a few haters say about him on Reddit.
@@scottdavidson526what do they say? It isn't nonsense political shit calling him far right or something is it? Reddit is a fortress for zoomer neo-liberals 👎 booo. Grande seems to be a common sense centrist.
I attended Durham High School a few years before Russ's murder. He taught me how to drive. He was very handsome. All the girls had a mad crush on Coach Stager.
Finding an audio diary of a person detailing their inner thoughts revealing a conspiracy is like something out of Bioshock.
That's says it's a pretty legit fear, esp back then without our current devices.
To whom it may intrigue, I highly suggest Dr. Grande’s book, Harm Reduction. It is a very good read.
Thanks
The first husband, when the detectives were saying " Oh, well, guess he dropped the gun and it went off", I can imagine Barbara's amazement. She was probably thinking 'Wow! You guys are stupid.'
It's so easy to lose husbands. I've lost 20 of them due to oopses with guns.
What about a mother-in-law or two?
Lol. Heaven waits for your next husband my dear. I laughed and laughed and thought, damn, what if she's a serial killer? Nah!
Sounds like it’s easy to get husbands too! You must also be the “machine” in bed type.
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So . . . You’re saying you’re single. ❤️
I have severe anxiety and your calming voice always helps me when I don’t feel great. Thank you.
I read about this case years ago. This woman was evil. Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande!
Yep me too. Narcissistic psychopath. Maybe grandiose 😢😢😢
I remember when this happened. Both husbands die the same way 10 years apart…and she was a deceitful spendaholic. I thought she was guilty then and still believe she’s guilty. She wasn’t very smart….was she? I saw a video of her trying to reenact the event. The detective lied down on the bed and pretended to be the husband. She couldn’t reenact it as she told it. She was pathetic.
Jacquelyn Smith played this female in a movie about this .
She acted just as goofy demonstrating how the gun went off the same way Diane Downs did with her ridiculous reconstruction of the shooting of her children .
They love attention from men.
So many women piss away a great man that loves and provides for them while many can't find just one to cherish.
Life is odd.
That movie is "Before He Wakes: A True Story of Money, Marriage, Sex and Murder."
I’m just glad I found my awesome husband, good, sincere men have been very hard to find since, well, about the 1970’s. I think that idiotic “sexual revolution” messed so many people up, both men and women, including this woman (Barbara Stager) in this video! (Her individual character is also to blame as well, of course!)
Humans have always had, would crazy, "illicit" sex, long before the so-called sexual revolution.
@@culturalobserver8721Yeah.. it’s been difficult to find good women as well.. especially over the last 10-20 years. The sexual revolution was one of the worst things to ever happen to this country. So many women have been misled and lied to about being “strong, independent women that don’t need no man”.. and led to believe that being a homemaker is demeaning. There is a strong correlation tied to the decline of this country and western civilization in general starting in the 50’s.. and women entering the workforce enmass. Other things have contributed as well of course.. but we have lost our way as a people and so many of us are suffering for it.
Ephesians 5
5 Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;
17 Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.
18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;
19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;
20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
I have seen this case on 48 hours and/or Dateline. The video of the reenactment is a joy to behold.
It was on forensic files
The phase " quit while you are ahead" comes to mind!
"Before He Wakes" is a good movie about this case. RIP Larry & Russ.
Great story and coverage, that woman was batshit crazy. Please do Jared Fogle.
I think he may have already done a video on Jared.
@@JustAnAverageWoman69 I checked and he hasn’t which is why I mentioned it.
@@DMalltheway Okay. I must have watched that on a different channel then! 👍
It is always a good day when Dr. Grande indulges us 😊❤
I'd love a dr Grande take on Serial Rapist and Scientologist in good standing Danny "that 70's show" Masterson. His sentencing is scheduled to september 7th I believe. Also, the grand jury hearing that's set to follow due to Scientology's meddling with the jury, intimidation of witnesses, and shenanigans and goings on with the handling of evidence between the Masterson defense team and Scientology.
Oh! I didn’t know about all of the churches doings! They are insane. Yes Dr. G! Please do an episode on Mastersons case and the churches underhanded dealings!
That would be cool
Oh me too, I heard it from one ASMR gal and would love to hear his take, Danny the psycho:/
Next time I want to insult someone, I'll just yell "oh yea, well you can just go to an excessively warm climate!!!"
Dear Dr. Grande, can you please analyze the case of Angela Hammond? She was featured on Unsolved Mysteries years ago and her story has stayed with me over the years.
Angela was abducted by a "filthy breaded man" while talking to her boyfriend on a pay phone just a few blocks from his house. The boyfriend says, he heard her speaking to someone in the background. He then claims he heard a scream and a man say, "I didnt need to use the phone anyway". The boyfriend goes on to state, he ran out of the house, jumped in his car and gave chase. He claims to have caught up with the veichle, which was a pick up truck with a fish jumping out of the water decal in the back window but all of sudden, his car engine blew and the suspect and his girlfriend disappeared into the night.
Now, I've always believed the boyfriend had something to do with it, but I don't think he was ever charged. It would be so nice to know YOUR theories on this case.
You'll probably never see this request as I'm sure you have many but in case you come across this comment, please add Angela Hammond's disapperance to your list.
Thank you.
Too bad the police didn’t investigate Larry Fords death. Russ would still be alive. Great analysis as usual. I always perk up when I see your latest video pop up on TH-cam
Barbara Stager was a classic succubus.
Those little Beretta's are double action and near impossible to accidentally discharge
If I remember correctly, in the book I read about her, Russ even mentioned to a coworker that if anything happened to him, it was Barbara. I wonder why he didn’t leave?
She was impossible to satisfy.
She doesn't look like a nymphomaniac.
She looks like the type who wouldn't be interested in sex.
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Russ's ex-wife/friend said it was because of Barbara's two sons that he legally adopted. He loved those boys, the ex said. Still, he should have left that house, or at least not slept there. He should have made her sleep somewhere else in the house while he slept in their bedroom with the door locked and a piece of heavy furniture pushed in front of it.
@@TheBOG3Well, he's not much help to the sons if he's dead 🤷♀️. That was a lame excuse on his part.
Somebody has been binge watching 'Deadly Women' on ID.
This sounds like a life insurance murder some take years to solve
About 40 yrs ago, I worked with a gal who's mother had been married 3 times by the age of 25. I was surprised, of course. The mum had been widowed twice, one husband died in an industrial accident and the second died of cancer. Her third marriage was long term by the time of my working with the co-worker. However, I did ask the gal (in jest) if men were afraid to get near her mum.
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My sister's been married four times. The first husband died in a motorcycle accident, the second one she divorced, the third one committed suicide, and she's been married over 20 years to the fourth husband.
Wow! I'm just glad I got it right the second time around. 😅
Dr. Grande - I remember this case, and the disgusting woman! Glad to hear your excellent analysis and opinion, as I recall feeling so sorry for Russ who was portrayed to be a great friend and all-around good guy. 👍💜🌵
Beretta 25 ACP pistols have ad added safety feature on the grip. Accidental discharge is impossible
Yea this murder was also done by a woman I worked with. The police investigated but said it was a “hunting accident “. She was never charged but stole money while she was working in a synagogue, she was fired. She drugged up her husband to the point he couldn’t function. When police went to investigate her on the embezzlement, she escaped back to her home state. She was finally charged because she was finally caught stealing from seniors. Finally served prison time.
This case has fascinated me for years
Evil women always give me a nasty chills. Especially when they have a overactive sex drive who find hard things in the bedding
Hard things in the bedding? 😮
It turns me on, honestly.
@@sarahjaye4117😂
I feel the same way about women with high sex drive it's not natural
I saw this case on Forensic Files. 💯
This is the second Dr. Grande video that teaches us that a woman can easily get away with blatantly killing one husband in their bedroom, but not two. That's one too many. The first one is free. How many women get away with only one husband murder and thus aren't featured in crime shows or TH-cam videos?
Wonder what happened to her two sons, Brian and Jason?? I assume they were teenagers when she killed her second husband. When I hear stories of criminals who happened to be parents, I always wonder what happens to the children. Do the grandparents become their guardians? Were they assigned to live in a foster family? How did they deal with having a parent with a criminal mind?! Were they haunted by their evil parent’s past?
I'm always asking myself the same questions. It would be great if Dr. Grande ends his videos with some info about close relatives or children.
I always google the kids after........ Unfortunately most believe the lying parent.
Barbara Stager: Spendthrift and Murderer - Forensic Files Now
As for what happened to Barbara Stager's sons after her imprisonment, the younger one went to live with an uncle and the other was old enough to get by on his own. Russ Stager's first wife, Jo Lynn Snow, married again, to a kitchen remodeler whom she helps run his business, according to the News & Observer.Sep 13, 2019
@@lf9341 Thanks for the update.
I remember this story.
Thank you for filling in the whole story.
I did not know about tape.
Always interesting
Thank you
Peace ❤
Killing 1 husband is an Oops, but 2 husbands?!!?
Good afternoon Dr Grande, excellent analysis. As always I learn something new from your videos.
Have a great weekend.
Dr. Grande, your sense of humor is the Best! And I love your shirt! You wear such good ones!
I just learned of the most heinous murder which took place two days ago in Whittier CA. Andrea Vasquez, raped, abducted, and killed by Gabriel Esparza -- the son of an L.A. County fire captain. A random attack, with confession, yet he's pleading not guilty. He attacked her while she was in a car with her BF at a park. The boyfriend ran away apparently, to get help? I'm perplexed! Dr. Grande, can you help shed light on this crazy story?
Yes, I'm hoping he covers this one too
Terrible! How old was the victim? I now live in the Midwest but I grew up in Whittier, California; it used to be a very decent city decades ago. 😢🙏
@@culturalobserver8721 she was just 19 yrs young. One correction. He also kidnapped her with intent to rape. Just feels so random and that’s scary.
Sounds like the BF didn't carry.
I honestly watched too many crime videos. if someone has too many people around dying of unnatural causes, I automatically assume that person is killing them.
Same
I had to quit watching the crime channel. Too much is too much.
Good morning 🌞🌄, Dr. Grande!🙋🤗🍀🪴🌵 I hope you enjoy your day ! I read this book! I feel so bad for the Men she Murdered, their Families, and her Children!💔💔🥀🥀🙏🙏🕊️🕊️ She's Wicked. Thank You!
When people tell me I look like a cartoon character, I've always seen it as a compliment...
lol. I guess it depends on the cartoon character.
How did the police decide that accidental was the most logical thing. I mean didnt they test HER hands for gun residue after they found none on his? It seems illogical to me given how often the spouse IS the killer that they would not check this.
My dad was in the same graduating class as Barbara Stager. It's scary to think what could have happened if he had married her instead of my mom. I mean obviously the greatest tragedy would be that I would never have been born.
"Fool me once ..." (Thanks, as always, Dr. Grande!)
I've seen this case on ID many times. She was an interesting person. I especially liked her story about her getting a huge advance for supposedly writing a book. LOL A book about what?
Dr Grande, please comment on the psychological profile of Tilikum, the Orca (killer whale) who killed and assaulted a number of his trainers. Thank you 👍🏻
Obviously something fishy was going on.
I am triggered by how the woman in the thumbnails turkey neck looks like my turkey neck 😂😢
Dr. Grande time..
Russ in the thumbnail picture looks like how Matthew McConaughey looked in the film 'Dazed and Confused.' Barbara looks like a pelican.
As usual love you sense of humor!
Thank you Dr G and Forensics Files ❤
This case was featured on New Detectives. Its very sad that the two men realized everything that was going on and still chose to stay with her and lose their lives.
"Soporific groin strike”😂 thanks Dr. Grande
Actually I think those men conflated sex with love. A deadly mistake.
Poor russ. Thats one of those situations ya know? You ask your girlfriend "so youve been married before, what happened? Yall get divorced?"
"No he accidentally shot himself"
No red flags there....im not a conspiracy theorist. I believe everything i hear.
“Killer in bed” 🤣 Careful what you wish for! 😬
Hey Dr. Grande🥰 Thank you for the new video! I can already tell that this case is going to hit me hard bc my husband passed away exactly 2yrs to the day after 1 of our daughters did. I'm pretty sure I've never heard of this case & there's no better way to learn about cases through you! Thank you always & happy Friday!
@amadeagottlieb ~Thank you so very much for your kind words🙏 I'm very sorry for your loss as well. I'm 33yrs old & I we with him from the time we were in 6th grade, until the day he passed away on top of my in a recliner. It was far beyond traumatic. I'm trying SO SO HARD, but it's been hard to get traction in my life bc then a few years ago, I was robbed at gunpoint & shot in the chest. It was one traumatic event after the next. My hubby & I had our 1st child when I was only 17. Fast forward to 33yrs old & I've got 8kiddos. I do believe in God & in heaven. Your & my beliefs align when it comes to that❤️ Please take care of yourself & stay safe. Sending you all the love, hugs & healing vibes in the world🙏❤️
This case was notorious, resulting in a TV movie based on it with Jaclyn Smith (against type) portraying Barbara Stager. It was memorable because, Dr. Grande, it is a companion to your analysis, IMHO. It was also a well remembered segment of a *_Deadly Women_* episode.
While I usually just applaud your well crafted puns, your analysis is spot on. She is guilty beyond any reasonable doubt.
Hey sweet, a new Grande vid! I'm gonna pop some popcorn and grab a beer before I start watching!
I don't understand going from a Death Sentence, to a chance for Parole! She's a Double Murderer!
Law in NC was changed to life without parole afterwards.
I think Barbara's surname is best pronounced "stager" - as in someone who stages "stuff" to "happen"...
The quips and deadpan delivery… 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It doesn't sound like Larry's Case was Investigated too well. 💔💔🥀🥀🙏🙏🕊️🕊️ Russ sounds like a Good Man.🥀🥀🙏🙏💔💔🕊️🕊️ They both should be alive!
Heard about this case before. She's definitely guilty. The fact that the cops so casually swallowed the accidental discharge BS is disturbing. Genuine accidental discharges are very rare, and are usually done by clueless kids.
Thanks!
Thank you dr so interesting as usual
I knew the Stagers back in the 80s. I determined pretty quickly that Russ was a cool guy and that Barbara didn't have much personality. That's all I know.
So because there was no gunshot residue on his hands, the ONLY plausible explanation is that the gun shot him itself 😳 and here I was thinking the police aren't your friends😂
Yeah it’s hard to dump a psycho when the sex is really good
My first wife was a freak
@@troy3456789And she didn't kill you! Not so bad.
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Dr Grande, I enjoy your sense of humour even more so now that any type of humour is pretty much banned in the UK.
Women who are crazy in the bedroom are crazy outside it
This is a popular episode of City Confidential.
The more I hear of these cases involving couples makes me happy I am long term single as you never know what can happen pariculary for those that are desperate to find love, at least my ex wife never tried to kill me
Thank you for your well thought out and insightful analysis of these delicate topics Dr Grande. I always enjoy your balanced viewpoint compared to social media dramatisation of events.
Can you please look at the recent furore over the Spanish football Chiefs kissing of a player. He says her body language meant she consented to the kiss. Given that she absolutely denies any consent was involved...I would love your opinion on this and whether his resignation would be an appropriate action.
Thank you again.
"Unreasonably high temperatures!" 😆😆🤣😆🤣😆👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯
According to the net - She's still in prison
What makes people stay with destructive partners? Looking from the outside, it's easy to have an outsider's perspective. But I wonder what sort of emotional and rational thought processes blind people to the danger.
The most dangerous time with a destructive partner is when your getting ready to leave. Especially, where kids are involved. That said, a lot of these people are consummate actors and very manipulative. There’s also a cycle that takes place. The honeymoon where everything is wine and roses. The build up, where “stress” will build up until there’s the explosion of violence, followed by the “apology stage”, where “it won’t happen again” and then you end back up at the honeymoon stage. The cycle continues like this until there’s no more honeymoon and no more apologies. You don’t necessarily see that cycle at first because it’s few and far between. Because of that its difficult to tell your in the frying pan while IN the pan until the flames are constantly at high temperatures. The one looking into the frying pan has the advantage of watching the flame get turned on and grow higher. While looking in, your not caught up in the emotions of hoping “things will get better” because he’s not like all the time.
I never dreamed I would be in the frying pan. I spent two years trying to figure out HOW to get out alive when his whole personality turned into someone I didn’t recognize and he became increasing violent. They also spend a lot of time conditioning you to “accept” their behavior. I was also in a “no fault” divorce state and due to our unique circumstances, was told by my lawyer HE was going to get the house, the kids, the cars and child support and alimony and it didn’t matter if he was abusive and threatening to kill us all if I left him. I almost didn’t get out. I lost everything. But I’m alive and so are my children. Not just alive, but thriving. He on the other hand, not so much.
When your in frying pan, you just don’t know HOW to get out of it. The terror takes over and clouds your judgement. A restraining order isn’t worth the paper it’s written on and our justice system cares more if you assault a complete stranger than it does if you assault your spouse. Despite having a mandatory 2 year sentence for domestic violence perpetrators (in our state) it was rarely enforced. Society shakes their head but then blames for the victims for being victims. They don’t understand the extent of emotional and psychological abuse and conditioning that takes place in these relationships along with the actual violence. In my case, I had no where to go. It’s even worse when the kids are manipulated to take the abusers side against the victim despite being victimized themselves.
I hope this helps explain why “just leaving” isn’t as easy when your in frying pan. Dangerous people are deadly when you try to escape. Overcoming the emotional manipulation is a cliff too high for many too climb…until it’s too late. Unfortunately, without a lot of counseling, a lot of victims will just go on to find another controlling abuser. My mother believed she could “reform” her abusers and spent most of her life looking for one loser after another. It’s the definition of insanity.
@@little1942 Thanks for your detailed explanation. I'm glad you are doing well. I didn't mean to imply that leaving is easy - not at all.
These videos often focus on the perpetrators of crimes and their psychological backgrounds. That in itself is helpful to learn what to look for in avoiding certain types of people - if it were that easy.
But I also wonder what psychological traits might lead to becoming a victim Some insight would be helpful for self-reflection.
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I’m not sure it’s a “psychological” trait but a vulnerability one. Which can happen anytime you bond yourself to another human being. But if your already in a more vulnerable position (suffering loss, just lonely, or have kids with the person- or just a sexual relationship) your guard is down and you may not be able to see the possible indicators of abusive personalities. And as I said, a lot of these people are consummate actors. Sadly, abuse happens across all societal strata. It’s not a poor or ill educated problem. It’s too bad they don’t wear signs!
Edit: one more thing I should mention. Substance abuse. Quite often, substance abuse takes place LATER in the relationship and turns a loving person into a monster. That’s what happened in my case. I just didn’t know that was the problem until after I left. There’s no indicators for that. Which is another reason why I say it can happen to anyone.
How do you not laugh saying all the funny things you say. I can't stop laughing.
Thanks though, well dobe vedio. I actually love all your work.
Thank you, Dr. Grande! I always enjoy your videos. I recently read that men commit violent crimes more than three times as often as women (U.S. Department of Justice). Assuming that’s true, why do you profile so many more women than men?
Maybe it's less interesting when it happens all the time? Good question though!
Men doing these things isn't out of the ordinary for true crime fans. When a woman does it, it becomes a sensation, and videos like this one get more views.
Mantis, Black widow, Jumping Spider, Green Anaconda, Scorpion, and Octopus....and Barbera.
Small yellow cactus separated from others, close to the edge
I wish poor Russ had returned to his first wife.
I saw'Fatal Vows', a show about this. Jo Lynn, the first wife said that they made much better friends than spouses and she didn't elaborate too much about what made their marriage fall apart. Russ wanted to get back with her. Jo Lynn really went to bat for him and was really instrumental in Barbara's conviction--along with the cassette tape. Jo Lynn was a really lovely lady, very classy--his best friend.
Those first cops must have been total idiots!! They must have really wanted to go for donuts 🍩!
The coincidence that my band is called Soporific Groin Strike is uncanny 🤯!!
.. Barbara's a spitting image of my pet monitor lizard. 👉6:40🦎
Hilarious
I think she had a very long neck
Looks like my bearded dragon, except that my bearded dragon is really cute !!!😊
So sad all that “church going “but she did not learn of the One she needed in her life so as not become the evil woman she was.
I read the book in two days. Interested to hear your perspective.
All Beretta .25 caliber pistols have an "inertial firing pin safety" which is not absolutely "drop safe" but the details of how it could fire when dropped rule out the first death being an accident.
The Beretta pistol will only fire if dropped muzzle DOWN onto an extremely rigid surface like a bare concrete floor. It just cannot fire from being dropped onto bedsprings.
"...with her desire to avoid excessevely warm climats." 😂😂😂😂😂
Turns out racist bigoted white men really did cause climate change. Are you finally ready to elect a communist dictator yet?
Gee, why did I never think of this?!
Oh gross! She probably had everything but the cure! Ugh. 🤢😖
I'd never heard this one. Thank you Dr Grande. 👍🌹
This is so strange
Yess king go off
This is an episode of forensic files!
“Crazy in the head, crazy in bed.”
Can you talk about FouseyTube and his recent airport situation to his self-swatting arrest?
I just went over to Fouseytube to see what's up,,based upon your comment. The NPD is strong in this one
I'm going to name my crust punk band "magical discharge" thanks Dr Grande!