My main two problems for findings friends are: 1. I am shy. I once was at a furmeet with my family as a birthday gift, and I talked to almost noone because they already talked to each other. 2. It is kinda hard to find furries around me because I live in a pretty small village where most people are mean. qwq Thank you for making the video! I hope it'll help. Thanks a lot!
As someone relatively new to the furry community (since 2021) I felt the exact same way. I knew literally nobody and had to go outside of my comfort zone to talk to others and 99% of the time they received me well. Now I'm really good friends with several furries!
I was at an anime convention about 2 months ago, and I remember trailing some furs that at the convention and i just literally like, could not move nor speak... I ended up just being told to leave and I messaged them on telegram later. You'd actually know the group, they're in this video xD
I'm an introvert and i find it hard to make friends.. But when I'm attending a fur con, I feel more open, but there's that feeling of being scared to talk to fursuiters. Especially if that fursuiter is someone I watch and follow online. Live this video. Awesome job keep it up.
We're all people just like you. If I ever get recognised for my videos or animations, I never feel like I'm superior in any way, and that's how inclusive it should be for all of us :3
I absolutely love these tips! I have social anxiety, and a few other mental disorders that cause me to super struggle, so I'm like really shy and nervous, even if it's someone I've know for a while I still am. Then of course my mental state and disorders don't help. So I definitely struggle when it comes to being social and not be shy. But I'm glad to know I'm not alone, and honestly makes me wanna try more with confidence to be social.
You're very welcome! I think it may be the most common issue in the fandom, fursuit heads make it a fraction easier because the face is covered and you can express emotes rather than talk, but it definitely isn't everything, more effort needs to be made in order to get to that next level of comfort and I 100% get why that's rough for most 💜
I recently met my furry friends irl. That helped me go through my second fur con. I felt happy and like my true self. Ive met so many people and now im in alot of groups! Its been amazing!
I've been a furry for around two to three years but I've never actually entered the fandom. Beyond my extreme lack of social skills and introvertedness my country has a virtually microscopic furry community (literally we only have one con in the entire country) plus real life stuff like exams and mandatory conscription coming up. I just joined a discord chat with a bunch of other furries but I feel very disconnected because I'm pretty much nonexistent on social media and especially when the more popular people group together and I dont feel significant enough to enter the conversation
i remember my first few years in the fandom. thos that now 15 years ago and im a greymuzzle by mannnny accounts but the easiest way i can say to talk to furries is the same why you would in person. doing every day tasks out in public. most people arent "shy" its more a fear to speak first and fail at getting the response you want to hear. those if you never try youve already failed and if you failed you have nothing to lose by trying again. failure only begins when you stop trying.
Love the fursona and a very good video to boot. All you have said was very true. It took me time to get out of my shell. Went to my first con last month was my mates first one too and I helped here with here's at it and she did great ❤ It def takes time but at the end worth it ^-^
Thanks for helping me out, I felt pretty hopeless trying to initiate a conversation. I wanted furry friends more than anything but I felt really embarrassed for what I can only tell is anxiety, but I hope I can try at least initiate a conversation but everyone I see are always in groups and it's really scary :(
I'm in quite a few Telegram groups for furries, including several local groups that regularly have meets and events. Still haven't worked up the courage to go to any, but by participating in the Telegram chats I at least feel like I'd have a chance at knowing some of the other people. Just do what works for you!
Very good advice and tips. I'll try to keep these in mind as i move forward with trying not to be so shy around other furries or other people in general
It’s not just that I’m shy, I live in a small town and don’t have any real friends IRL, much less any furry friends. I’ve been checking out the fandom for a few years but it wasn’t until last year that I created my own fursona, as I knew I needed characters to call my own. I hope to one day befriend someone in the fandom and to get a hug from a fursuit.
Went to my first furry convention last year and felt really shy to ask for a photo. It wasn't till thirty minutes in, I decided to break the ice and ask for a photo. Hopefully this year, I'll feel more comfortable.
they do... i wanna cuddle with one and have them pet me and i pet them and give smooches and stuff i just wanna have a nice wholesome time but the problem is my fursona sucks and im never even getting a suit and im never even gonna meet someone like me in real life
Thanks for making this video! I found it helpful! 😊 I get really shy when there's loads of furries around me, but if it's like one or two I can have a good conversation.
And sometimes you just completely flub it and you just gotta move on. Yesterday a random person on Reddit asked if I was up for a chat. But bc their first question was are you an adult and their second question was are you in a relationship I freaked out and started grilling them to see if they were a NSFW bot. Completely dropped the ball, but hey, they're just one of the billions of people on the planet I can still be friends with. Sometimes you fail and stuff doesn't work out. But learn from your mistakes and move on.
I can agree with this video because I am quite a shy drago even if I have been in the fandom for a long time this video is a good stepping stone for help also vrchat can be good but can also be toxic if you run into the wrong peoples.
Very true, I've had not so great people come up to me in vr chat but that's the risk (albeit small especially if in furry channels) but yeah the online world is quite free flowing so a safe comfortable group is key
aa I’ve wondered similar, ty for this video I have a furmeet nearby but I’m nervous about going, how do you become a part of the meet? how do you make friends there when they are friends with everyone else? do you just need to show up randomly at a meet and go with the flow? how do you engage with the other furries there?
What about a video on people obsessed with Furries, like that guy chasing that furry in the park with all the deers, "FENTON, FENTON, OH JESUS CHRIST, FEENNNTOONNN!!!" so wild
Yeh never been to a con never want to, it’s full of popular furs usually and I don’t wanna get in their way. I’ve tried going to small meet ups but just end up drinking alone for a bit and leave don’t like the idea of getting attention from them yk? idk how to fix this lmao
My advice is stay away from the ones with too much ego, we're all people and we all deserve the same care and respect in this fandom or any subculture for that matter. I've met some amazing popular furries that were amazing to meet, but equally some of them are very freaking rude and I have zero time for them because of a silly number, that by the way means nothing in this fandom because we've seen furries both big and small do bad things to others. Stick to the good ones. ;3
Okay here's my story, I'm not a furry but my childhood friend is a furry for a few years and he invited me to go to a Furcon 2025 in Australia. So I decided to go cosplaying not as a Fursuit (TOO Expensive Down Under here) so I gonna be more of cosplaying like the anime cosplayers My outfit is gonna be like a shark with a tail, paws while deciding whether I should full cosplay by designing my overall outfit too. My base reference design is Tiger Shark from Changed and a VR Chat model called Sabrean Shark by Sqib. Another thing IDK why I kept thinking about back and forth is getting a GF at Furcon, like (sigh) IDK, I kept seeing Furries having BFs/GFs and I really trying to find love one day, just to make my family proud :)
I wouldn't say that I'm really shy around them honestly was glad I did fwa because I met a lot of like minds and people I could potentially be friends with. My problem is just never really being in a safe place where I feel like I can be myself for a change in very antifur areas and antifur and homophobic parents.
I usually look around for anyone with bigger ears that normal, it doesn't always help but sometimes it works! Nah jokes aside some locations don't have a furmeet set up yet and are dependant on a fur to make that change, otherwise its a little road trip to the next closest one, GL 💜
alright, now add huge identity issues that makes you doubt if your fursona is really you or if you're even a real member of the community BEHIND the anxiety ... that's what i experience
@@SkaiTheWolf i feel like this for everything so there has to be someone else who is like me that also happens to be in (or.. "around") the furry community
Hi furry friends don't feel a own cause your not my beens if try and talk who kowns what will happen I am furry dog pup from nz and now I do TikTok live stream I was shy but not now what I am saying just try your best furry friends that's all you can do woff I am diggerjake pup
Being shy is such a curse but it means alot to me when I have people come up to me at meets to talk to me even if its just a passing compliment ^^
Definitely yeah I get that 😊
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I'm not usually shy but for some reason if I meet other furries I completely shut down
me too, for some reason i lose my ability to socialize, and then i get shy
Same here 😅
Absolutely quite common at first. Initial first steps is key (regardless how small) to feel more open to the chance of things going well for us. 💜
My main two problems for findings friends are:
1. I am shy. I once was at a furmeet with my family as a birthday gift, and I talked to almost noone because they already talked to each other.
2. It is kinda hard to find furries around me because I live in a pretty small village where most people are mean. qwq
Thank you for making the video! I hope it'll help. Thanks a lot!
:0 it's nice that your parents are supportive tho ♥
@@degg6069 That's true, I am really thankful for that! :3
My family is awesome.
@@DoxxTheMathGeek nah I wasn't as lucky, but my family don't know so that's alright ig
@@degg6069 Aw, sorry to hear that... I hope you can be fully yourself soon! Good luck!
As someone relatively new to the furry community (since 2021) I felt the exact same way. I knew literally nobody and had to go outside of my comfort zone to talk to others and 99% of the time they received me well. Now I'm really good friends with several furries!
The first time i met a furry irl i was shaking so much 😭
Excitement in the fandom gets a bit crazy sometimes 😄❤️
I barely have no friends in this fandom.. I feel really lonely..
The first and only furry convention I went to, I didn't make any friends there
@@ninbendoyt3203 I think I will heavily relate, but idk yet
its not hard to make friends
@@lucy_dergspoken like an extrovert
0:22 "Toys aside"
premium kek :3
It took me a couple replays to hear that, thanks to subtitles but still, it shouldn’t cause pain at all😂😂
I was at an anime convention about 2 months ago, and I remember trailing some furs that at the convention and i just literally like, could not move nor speak... I ended up just being told to leave and I messaged them on telegram later.
You'd actually know the group, they're in this video xD
Oh really wow haha bless ya! 😄
I'm an introvert and i find it hard to make friends.. But when I'm attending a fur con, I feel more open, but there's that feeling of being scared to talk to fursuiters. Especially if that fursuiter is someone I watch and follow online. Live this video. Awesome job keep it up.
We're all people just like you. If I ever get recognised for my videos or animations, I never feel like I'm superior in any way, and that's how inclusive it should be for all of us :3
@@SkaiTheWolf True.
I'm kinda shy too
Shyness =/= social anxiety
Great tips in general. One I go to (Norfolk Furs) they seem really keen on making sure folks feel comfortable and that's great.
I absolutely love these tips!
I have social anxiety, and a few other mental disorders that cause me to super struggle, so I'm like really shy and nervous, even if it's someone I've know for a while I still am. Then of course my mental state and disorders don't help. So I definitely struggle when it comes to being social and not be shy. But I'm glad to know I'm not alone, and honestly makes me wanna try more with confidence to be social.
You're very welcome! I think it may be the most common issue in the fandom, fursuit heads make it a fraction easier because the face is covered and you can express emotes rather than talk, but it definitely isn't everything, more effort needs to be made in order to get to that next level of comfort and I 100% get why that's rough for most 💜
I feel so lonely in this fandom. I barely have anyone here anymore
I recently met my furry friends irl. That helped me go through my second fur con. I felt happy and like my true self. Ive met so many people and now im in alot of groups! Its been amazing!
I've been a furry for around two to three years but I've never actually entered the fandom. Beyond my extreme lack of social skills and introvertedness my country has a virtually microscopic furry community (literally we only have one con in the entire country) plus real life stuff like exams and mandatory conscription coming up.
I just joined a discord chat with a bunch of other furries but I feel very disconnected because I'm pretty much nonexistent on social media and especially when the more popular people group together and I dont feel significant enough to enter the conversation
I have social anxiety than can get pretty bad
i remember my first few years in the fandom. thos that now 15 years ago and im a greymuzzle by mannnny accounts but the easiest way i can say to talk to furries is the same why you would in person. doing every day tasks out in public. most people arent "shy" its more a fear to speak first and fail at getting the response you want to hear. those if you never try youve already failed and if you failed you have nothing to lose by trying again. failure only begins when you stop trying.
Love the fursona and a very good video to boot. All you have said was very true. It took me time to get out of my shell. Went to my first con last month was my mates first one too and I helped here with here's at it and she did great ❤ It def takes time but at the end worth it ^-^
Thanks for helping me out, I felt pretty hopeless trying to initiate a conversation. I wanted furry friends more than anything but I felt really embarrassed for what I can only tell is anxiety, but I hope I can try at least initiate a conversation but everyone I see are always in groups and it's really scary :(
yes , kinda shy here!
with vrchat I think it's the ability to just nope right out with the push of a button if you have an issue, it's a nice parachute to get out of there
I'm in quite a few Telegram groups for furries, including several local groups that regularly have meets and events. Still haven't worked up the courage to go to any, but by participating in the Telegram chats I at least feel like I'd have a chance at knowing some of the other people.
Just do what works for you!
Very good advice and tips. I'll try to keep these in mind as i move forward with trying not to be so shy around other furries or other people in general
I have some type of social anxiety but I don’t get lonely so I’m chillin’
Such a real video. Being approached is the best thing in the world, though. I want more people to come talk to me at conventions!
It’s not just that I’m shy, I live in a small town and don’t have any real friends IRL, much less any furry friends.
I’ve been checking out the fandom for a few years but it wasn’t until last year that I created my own fursona, as I knew I needed characters to call my own.
I hope to one day befriend someone in the fandom and to get a hug from a fursuit.
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There should be a social app for shy people... But it would probably have zero users so I see why it hasn't been created yet
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Went to my first furry convention last year and felt really shy to ask for a photo. It wasn't till thirty minutes in, I decided to break the ice and ask for a photo. Hopefully this year, I'll feel more comfortable.
I wish i was friends with fursuiters, fursuiters are really cute and look snuggly 😊
Any? :
Meeee!!! >:D
@@SkaiTheWolf aw thanks
they do... i wanna cuddle with one and have them pet me and i pet them and give smooches and stuff i just wanna have a nice wholesome time but the problem is my fursona sucks and im never even getting a suit and im never even gonna meet someone like me in real life
Thanks for making this video! I found it helpful! 😊 I get really shy when there's loads of furries around me, but if it's like one or two I can have a good conversation.
You can do it!
@@SkaiTheWolf thamks u fren 🫂🥰
And sometimes you just completely flub it and you just gotta move on.
Yesterday a random person on Reddit asked if I was up for a chat. But bc their first question was are you an adult and their second question was are you in a relationship I freaked out and started grilling them to see if they were a NSFW bot.
Completely dropped the ball, but hey, they're just one of the billions of people on the planet I can still be friends with. Sometimes you fail and stuff doesn't work out. But learn from your mistakes and move on.
I need more friends. I'm kind of lonely and shy sometimes. I have high-functioning Autism.
I can agree with this video because I am quite a shy drago even if I have been in the fandom for a long time this video is a good stepping stone for help also vrchat can be good but can also be toxic if you run into the wrong peoples.
Very true, I've had not so great people come up to me in vr chat but that's the risk (albeit small especially if in furry channels) but yeah the online world is quite free flowing so a safe comfortable group is key
Yeah , kinda shy there
Another solution would be talking with AI. It worked for me.
I'm too shy and feel embarrassed about what I like so, I almost never talk about furry stuff even to my fellow furry friends 🙈
Love it bud keep shining
Thank you! :3 ✨️
aa I’ve wondered similar, ty for this video
I have a furmeet nearby but I’m nervous about going, how do you become a part of the meet? how do you make friends there when they are friends with everyone else? do you just need to show up randomly at a meet and go with the flow? how do you engage with the other furries there?
Just go with the fur ;3
@@SkaiTheWolf thank you :D
What about a video on people obsessed with Furries, like that guy chasing that furry in the park with all the deers, "FENTON, FENTON, OH JESUS CHRIST, FEENNNTOONNN!!!" so wild
Yeh never been to a con never want to, it’s full of popular furs usually and I don’t wanna get in their way. I’ve tried going to small meet ups but just end up drinking alone for a bit and leave don’t like the idea of getting attention from them yk? idk how to fix this lmao
My advice is stay away from the ones with too much ego, we're all people and we all deserve the same care and respect in this fandom or any subculture for that matter. I've met some amazing popular furries that were amazing to meet, but equally some of them are very freaking rude and I have zero time for them because of a silly number, that by the way means nothing in this fandom because we've seen furries both big and small do bad things to others. Stick to the good ones. ;3
Thx
We all your friend 👍
Im shy when i meet normal people 😂
Okay here's my story, I'm not a furry but my childhood friend is a furry for a few years and he invited me to go to a Furcon 2025 in Australia. So I decided to go cosplaying not as a Fursuit (TOO Expensive Down Under here) so I gonna be more of cosplaying like the anime cosplayers
My outfit is gonna be like a shark with a tail, paws while deciding whether I should full cosplay by designing my overall outfit too. My base reference design is Tiger Shark from Changed and a VR Chat model called Sabrean Shark by Sqib.
Another thing IDK why I kept thinking about back and forth is getting a GF at Furcon, like (sigh) IDK, I kept seeing Furries having BFs/GFs and I really trying to find love one day, just to make my family proud :)
Love that x3 ❤️
fre points? at least i didn’t have to buy them-
I wouldn't say that I'm really shy around them honestly was glad I did fwa because I met a lot of like minds and people I could potentially be friends with. My problem is just never really being in a safe place where I feel like I can be myself for a change in very antifur areas and antifur and homophobic parents.
If you go to events and the security is lackluster, then another event or meet may be an option. You should feel safe 💜
I got a question how do you find furmeets i really wanna do them its hard espically when you in the uk well to me QwQ
I usually look around for anyone with bigger ears that normal, it doesn't always help but sometimes it works! Nah jokes aside some locations don't have a furmeet set up yet and are dependant on a fur to make that change, otherwise its a little road trip to the next closest one, GL 💜
My problem is that there are NO furries in my town
sigh...
I bet there is but no local / online group created to show for it yet ^^
Your voice sounds very similar to Jay Foreman
Type shii type shii....
I'm not that shy around furries, I just can't be bothered to meet new people right now lel
That's fair x3
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Im less shy around furries, and more generaly uncomfortable.
Furries make me uncomfortable.
skai wolf, more like shai wolf
alright, now add huge identity issues that makes you doubt if your fursona is really you or if you're even a real member of the community BEHIND the anxiety ... that's what i experience
I wonder if quite a few furs feel that actually, maybe like an outsider in their own subculture, hmmm.
@@SkaiTheWolf i feel like this for everything so there has to be someone else who is like me that also happens to be in (or.. "around") the furry community
Hi furry friends don't feel a own cause your not my beens if try and talk who kowns what will happen I am furry dog pup from nz and now I do TikTok live stream I was shy but not now what I am saying just try your best furry friends that's all you can do woff I am diggerjake pup
Thanks Skai! I'm always like this when it comes to new people I'm shy to approach. I will try to wave at ConFuzzled 2025! ^w^