Hi, I started transitioning about 2 years ago, I wrote my parents because they are 2 time zones away, I also wrote my sister. i then called my parents later and talked with them, I also talked to my sister, everyone seemed kind of ok. But things went south, My sister told me I was going to hell and that I should have picked a better way to tell my parents, Like there is a proper way to do this. My family doesn't have anything to do with me now. The Episcopal church I go to and my trans group are who my family is now, and my relationship with Jesus is a lot better than before. I find transitioning is thinking and planning each step, and when the next step is coming up it's a leap of faith and hope you hit it right. Oh, I'm 62,to finally be my genuine self is a blessing, when God showed me this is who I am and I made the decision to transition it was like a breath of fresh air,like being set free. Tiffany
Thank you for the insight! I’m planning on coming out to my family some time soon, and I’m open to advice anywhere I can get some. I’m really interested in hearing more about your story, Chloe! I am also tall (6’3”) and I think that’s one reason I never entertained being trans until 31 years old... take care, and I look forward to watching more of your videos! -Abby
It definitely is. I think they will come around eventually but that is up to them at this point. I don't spend much emotional energy hating or holding out hope these days, I'll just let life take it's course on this. Thank you for the support!
Hi Chloe,greetings from the uk!.Love your vids,this is my favourite.Simply because of your total honesty and touching genuine personal experience.All your vids have helped me tremendously.Thank you
For me I’am starting to feel and realize I’am transgender and now trying to come out to my family is the hard part . I feel easier telling friends which I know will support me it’s just telling my family and afraid of how they will react but also ready to tell them .
There’s never a perfect time to tell family, unfortunately, but I think that’s really awesome that you feel ready to do so. Feeling ready to come out to family is one of the hardest steps in my opinion. That’s also really amazing that you’re figuring out who you are and it sounds like you have some supportive people in your life 💜
The Chloe Connection Oh I do and so thankful for it my good friend from high school is transgender as well and feel me I feel transgender and still into women . I feel like maybe mentioning therapy first might be easier and not having everything come at once and go from there . One thing I learned is not to rush but I feel ready for therapy and hopefully start HRT and go from there I already started feeling comfortable with clothes and slowly grown confidence. Just at the same time it’s hard talking to other about this so I’am thankful for TH-cam for this .
I tried to come out to my Mum, she did not take it very well, since I was brought up constantly being criticized for everything that I ever done and the fact that she said "I don't wanna understand", with that I kept the secret for another 25 years and we never talked about again and I went back to my closet After she died I came out to the rest of my family the ones that I have left and they have all been supportive about it But the support that I really wanted I never got As for my stepfather well he took the piss out of me for years for everything so I never shared anything with him at all
Hi Chloe! I am an HR Manager for a small company in ND! I have a co-worker (who is also my friend) coming out as trans, at our place of employment. What can I do as HR that would help support her through this transition? Is there anything that your HR did that was helpful and/or greatly appreciated? Or that would have helped, that you can suggest for me to do? Thank you for sharing your story and helping us all navigate these waters, much appreciation and respect!
Hi Jenna! Thanks for reaching out and thanks for the kind words! I can think of a few things that might be helpful 🙂 I’m not sure what your company’s policies state in terms of gender identity protections, but one thing could be seeing what can be done to include that in protections (if it is not already). Another big thing is working with her to change her name in all of the company systems (like email and anything else). You could also help her draft a letter explaining her transition, how she identifies, name, pronouns, that being herself at work will provide for a more productive work environment for her, etc. The letter could be given to management and anyone else that might need/want it. It’s a good way to explain things without having to individually come out to every single person in the company (unless that is something that she wants to do). Speaking of management, it might be helpful to organize a meeting with management in different departments (or at least the department that she works in) to discuss how to best handle her transition at work. This was done at my former job and they immediately established a kind of no nonsense policy (I’m was coming out at work, it’s happening, everyone needs to accept that and be on board with it). I think the sentiment was really nice but I think they could have done a better job explaining my situation to the rest of the company. You could ask your friend if she wants to have more say in what is told to the company and how it’s told (maybe help with organizing a trans inclusive training if that feels necessary). Also, is she out to anyone else in the company? Might be good to have other supportive coworkers on her side before she comes out at work (again, obviously her choice if she wants to come out to anyone else ahead of time). I know that was a lot, but I hope it helps!
I am also a transgender but nobody can understand me and my feelings, you are soo lucky that your family understand you and your feelings and support you , nice to see your video , I want to a good friendship with you if you like
Hi, I started transitioning about 2 years ago, I wrote my parents because they are 2 time zones away, I also wrote my sister. i then called my parents later and talked with them, I also talked to my sister, everyone seemed kind of ok. But things went south, My sister told me I was going to hell and that I should have picked a better way to tell my parents, Like there is a proper way to do this. My family doesn't have anything to do with me now. The Episcopal church I go to and my trans group are who my family is now, and my relationship with Jesus is a lot better than before. I find transitioning is thinking and planning each step, and when the next step is coming up it's a leap of faith and hope you hit it right. Oh, I'm 62,to finally be my genuine self is a blessing, when God showed me this is who I am and I made the decision to transition it was like a breath of fresh air,like being set free. Tiffany
Thank you for the insight! I’m planning on coming out to my family some time soon, and I’m open to advice anywhere I can get some.
I’m really interested in hearing more about your story, Chloe! I am also tall (6’3”) and I think that’s one reason I never entertained being trans until 31 years old...
take care, and I look forward to watching more of your videos!
-Abby
Thank you for sharing, Chloe! That's so unfortunate about your brother & sister-in-law. They are missing out on knowing the real you.
It definitely is. I think they will come around eventually but that is up to them at this point. I don't spend much emotional energy hating or holding out hope these days, I'll just let life take it's course on this. Thank you for the support!
Hi Chloe,greetings from the uk!.Love your vids,this is my favourite.Simply because of your total honesty and touching genuine personal experience.All your vids have helped me tremendously.Thank you
Thank you so much Jessica! 💜
For me I’am starting to feel and realize I’am transgender and now trying to come out to my family is the hard part . I feel easier telling friends which I know will support me it’s just telling my family and afraid of how they will react but also ready to tell them .
There’s never a perfect time to tell family, unfortunately, but I think that’s really awesome that you feel ready to do so. Feeling ready to come out to family is one of the hardest steps in my opinion. That’s also really amazing that you’re figuring out who you are and it sounds like you have some supportive people in your life 💜
The Chloe Connection Oh I do and so thankful for it my good friend from high school is transgender as well and feel me I feel transgender and still into women . I feel like maybe mentioning therapy first might be easier and not having everything come at once and go from there . One thing I learned is not to rush but I feel ready for therapy and hopefully start HRT and go from there I already started feeling comfortable with clothes and slowly grown confidence. Just at the same time it’s hard talking to other about this so I’am thankful for TH-cam for this .
I tried to come out to my Mum, she did not take it very well, since I was brought up constantly being criticized for everything that I ever done and the fact that she said "I don't wanna understand", with that I kept the secret for another 25 years and we never talked about again and I went back to my closet
After she died I came out to the rest of my family the ones that I have left and they have all been supportive about it
But the support that I really wanted I never got
As for my stepfather well he took the piss out of me for years for everything so I never shared anything with him at all
Thanks for sharing your story, i am just starting my transition process. You are amazing!! 💙💚💛💜
That’s so exciting! And thank you so much! 😊💜
@@TheChloeConnection your very welcome ☺
thank u for sharing your story.....love the top you are wearing ...suits u a lot and i would love to find something similar for myself too
Be Brave and thanks for sharing your history n.n
Amazing video, massively relate to you and similar experience with mine.
I am a million years late but hearing about your brother's reaction is tough
Hi Chloe! I am an HR Manager for a small company in ND! I have a co-worker (who is also my friend) coming out as trans, at our place of employment. What can I do as HR that would help support her through this transition? Is there anything that your HR did that was helpful and/or greatly appreciated? Or that would have helped, that you can suggest for me to do? Thank you for sharing your story and helping us all navigate these waters, much appreciation and respect!
Hi Jenna! Thanks for reaching out and thanks for the kind words! I can think of a few things that might be helpful 🙂 I’m not sure what your company’s policies state in terms of gender identity protections, but one thing could be seeing what can be done to include that in protections (if it is not already). Another big thing is working with her to change her name in all of the company systems (like email and anything else). You could also help her draft a letter explaining her transition, how she identifies, name, pronouns, that being herself at work will provide for a more productive work environment for her, etc. The letter could be given to management and anyone else that might need/want it. It’s a good way to explain things without having to individually come out to every single person in the company (unless that is something that she wants to do). Speaking of management, it might be helpful to organize a meeting with management in different departments (or at least the department that she works in) to discuss how to best handle her transition at work. This was done at my former job and they immediately established a kind of no nonsense policy (I’m was coming out at work, it’s happening, everyone needs to accept that and be on board with it). I think the sentiment was really nice but I think they could have done a better job explaining my situation to the rest of the company. You could ask your friend if she wants to have more say in what is told to the company and how it’s told (maybe help with organizing a trans inclusive training if that feels necessary). Also, is she out to anyone else in the company? Might be good to have other supportive coworkers on her side before she comes out at work (again, obviously her choice if she wants to come out to anyone else ahead of time).
I know that was a lot, but I hope it helps!
Great suggestions!! Thank you very much 😊
I am also a transgender but nobody can understand me and my feelings, you are soo lucky that your family understand you and your feelings and support you , nice to see your video , I want to a good friendship with you if you like
Thank you for the kind words!
Welcome to youtube and how are you doing today .
Thanks James!
Your welcome and how was your weekend
i accept you, if for the sole reason is that i think i am also a transgender woman.
oh yeah, you can call me janis. like the character from quantum leap.
I know the feeling of seboling not a swpting. My sister and brother in law not a septing me as trans woman.
God bless