Dr. Gabor Maté ~ Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted: The Possible Human
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- Dr. Gabor Maté gives us clues as to who we are when we are not addicted. Filmed January 9th, 2012 in Vancouver, B.C. as part of a launch for Beyond Addiction: The Yogic Path to Recovery.
For more information about the Beyond Addiction program created by Sat Dharam Kaur N.D. and featuring Dr. Gabor Maté, see beyondaddiction.ca.
Dr. Maté also teaches an online course on his approach to therapy called Compassionate Inquiry, learn more at compassionateinquiry.com
For more information on Dr. Maté, please see drgabormate.com/
At 19:06 He quotes: 'All the difficulties you experience. All the problems you have. Exist quite simply because you don't want to grow up.........' On some level.......we don't want to take responsibility. Amazing!
Agreed. However what happens when we accept responsibilities and stop son want to grow up. love live life fully be kind show love
We are all one, love every beings, animals the planet earth we are all connected to this planet. Respect yourselves and the higher spiritual value
After numerous therapies without any impact on me, the lectures of Dr. Maté opened myself up for life. After decades of suffering and blaming myself of being weak I now can understand. I can understand myself, my parents, my fucked up life as of now. I can forgive me and I can forgive them. It is like stepping out into the sun light. I barely recognize myself. Thank you so much, Dr. Maté.
Now you are free great to hear
I’m happy for you 😀
@Kim B Namaste
God bless you
🙏🙏🙏
I have just found Gabor Mate. I'm 62 and he has literally just changed my world. What an exceptional human being. ❤️❤️❤️
When you're done with him, check out some Robert Sapolsky.
Yes he really is.. Deeply so human and scientific updated.. So great teacher being so real and honest apparently 💜
So true how the drs don't believe the answer is inside of us we wonder why addiction has gone on for years we also know when we aren't getting the help we need this is why I respect this man because he speaks from truth and compassion but how can we get help from drs when they probably have experienced some kind of trauma themselves and have not did the internal work as dr.Gabor has
It takes a lot to wake me up and then I want to go back to sleep
me to and Gabor has changed my life
Wow, powerful. "Our addictions come because we don't want to grow up."
Ah, that may explain why some addicts move beyond total abstinence to moderate use of alcohol etc. They have grown up.
Daniel Hamilton ... no... it simply means that addictions are inherent, not acquired. All beings naturally crave comfort, and will do whatever is requured to achieve it. There is nothing in existence that is not of God, the creator of ALL THINGS. That is the TRUTH. So help me, God. So...
GOD BLESS EVERYONE BLESS EVERYTHING ALWAYS AMEN
Love Humility Gratitude Confidence Prowess Love
Is the activation key... signed...
Rock, the beloved sun of man...
@@irenemax3574 i have not had an alcoholic drink since 2014. still addicted to caffeine and my phone. digital addiction is very real. there's no digital addictions centers in the area.
Blue Jay Thanks for post! I’m clean (alcohol, pain pills and recreational substances) since July 2nd 2014, still overusing caffeine and TH-cam. I keep threatening myself with cancellation of my Internet package: that kinda works sometimes...
Taking responsibility for one's own actions is all that counts. This is karma.
" Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose." Master Yoda
Beautiful ❤️🙏🏽
Take something that means something to you
n just give it away
Watch how you feel.
N not to someone who you know.
A stranger...
Try it .
I read this in the yoda accent 🤣
We all let go of all things of this world when we are dying. I witnessed this myself when my husband chose to die at home. Granted, it was a very traumatic experience for me from which I shall never recover BUT I UNDERSTAND WHY a person must let go of this world. Otherwise"crossing over" is a MUCH HARDER thing to do.
I lose what I love in all possible cases anyway.
We admitted we were addicted to Gabor and that our consciousness is becoming increasingly refined in Truth.
What happens if I'm addicted to Gabor Mate?
+Alexandria Madison That's so funny. So am I. Maybe we can start a support group.
+Alexandria Madison serious problem.
Alexandria Madison that's the problem he faces himself. I'd say he is your "attachment" from the outside, just as his ego is for him and most of us. Just as any substance, relationship, object or idea we hang on to instead of being still and present with ourselves. :)
Abandon all hope
Ginny Madison I
I just detoxed from a thirty five year addiction to heroin, methadone... My mom let me kick here in the serene beauty and safety of her townhouse on Bainbridge Island, WA., and she gave me Dr. Nate's book "In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts," it's such a great read.
Good Luck Kevin! Much love to you brother!
Congratulations on your changes.. right on
lucky you!! I was on Bainbridge for just one month....wish I could stay....not possible for foreigners apparently....what a wonderful place to be reading books, and than walking and or swimming in the pool....
That's a beautiful place, beautiful state. You got a little cabin there?
nope, do you?
I have been listening nonstop to Gabor Mate for over a week. Mind blowing insight into my addiction, codependency issues from childhood trauma carried over into 40 year marriage. I’m breaking free from this trauma!
Change the channel and quit whining
❤
That’s beautiful, I wish you all the best. If you haven’t already, see the work of Scott Kiloby for skilful ways to reveal and let go of repressed trauma ❤️
I have a low grade of education, but I find alot of he says is common sense so that I can even understand what he is saying as an ex- addict with only 6 mnths clean. thankyou
that's the beauty of deep truths. complexity is useful for expressing truths about details, but the larger picture (which is the more important view) can be expressed with simplicity
so don't underestimate your own ability 😊 you have the ability to appreciate this lecture and have 6 months clean - you're a very capable person
Don't know you, but I am very proud to just read that! Go you!!
Congrats!
He has a great way of relating to everyone, I believe. I'm Australian with a moderate amount of learning. I was also addicted to Heroin. I love the way he phrases things.
The beauty of his thinking is that it is actually so simple and clear that I mistrust my own mind and find reasons to reject it basically because it sounds so simple and my addiction to complexity keeps me from readily accepting it.
52:26 addicted to love, too nice
53:16 loss of who you are is the big loss
54:36 wont come from the head, needs to come through the body and the core of your being
55:48 don’t shut off your pain, discovery of what lies behind, and experience; “the surest way to get to hell is to avoid going to hell
57:07 interconnection arising; without one there cannot be the many and without the many there can’t be the one
My father was a new man I got to know and it was so good He gave up alcohol and cigarettes at age 70 and 10 years free and loved life for a change.So well worth it
Wow 👏🏻
I like how real he is
AA isn't
EllaParaQuien El Sol Brilla ... really? ...
A Mexican told me that once, although I must admit it look me over a decade to figure out, what exactly that meant haha, just being honest.
He is real and the best
I love u Gabor Maté
Me sober 20 year 19. Feb. 2023.
Gabor is spot on ❤🙏
Loving this for you🎉
Kudos !!
Good on you !
Reconnecting to your inner godliness, not to outside attachments.
one of the quotes of Jesus that he talks about, he only gives you the gist of... it is a quote that is far too wise and beautiful to only get the gist of, and it has gotten me through so many crises i cant count. so, i wanted to share the whole quote in its entirety exactly as it is written... i hope it touches at least some of you the way it has me.
"If you Bring Forth what is Within you, what is within you will Save you. If you do Not Bring Forth what is Within you, what is within you will Destroy you." --Jesus of Nazareth
n/a n/a 💖 thank you. Authentic Self!
n/a n/a: I love that quote and have never come across it before. I will remember it ... thank you.
Yes I have come across this quote - it means to me that we must not reject or repress what we don't like within ourselves - when I have a "bad" dream I say - welcome into the light, thank you.
I have never heard of that before.it feels so true and beautiful,where is it in the bible please? Thank you x
Thank you so much. Peace and love.
This amazing being picked me up hitch Hiking 4 years on Hornby Island in British Columbia.
really? that's very cool
Deadmau6 Polycon Hippy ... another customer ...
gigi ... who ? ...
Seriously cool
@@pereraddison932 Satan! Who else?!
Is anyone else wondering how they've missed Dr. Mate before now? As much reading, listening as I've done in my life, I did not know of his work until the past 6 weeks or so. He's a game changer.
He's like the missing puzzle for those who are seek understanding of their pain.
His so called work isn't really original. He is doing other ppl's work and calling it his own.
44:00 it's difficult to think outside the box because thinking IS the box
Who's the Michael Braun who's quoted to have said this? I can't find him!
I had that experience with the trees when I was about 10 years old, and I had never taken Ayahuasca or any mind altering drugs. But I knew from that point onwards that trees were beings that wanted to communicate and felt empathy!
For me, loving yourself is like not being in conflict with yourself, not being in constant opposition with yourself, being at peace with who and what you are. It can be quite difficult to attain this state, though.
I just realised that I have more addictions than Ive thought I had. Im addicted to feeling smart, being wise, talking about these things and Im also addicted to lots of other things(drugs too, not in any severe way though but bad enough).Gabors books have truly enlightened me and this seminar enlightened me further.
I am addicted to going to the toilet, breathing air and taking showers.
@@nalydamuttah1 Lmao😂😆😁
I see I feel that as well.
thank you
How has this realization made your life better/improved? I’d love to hear about it
Sounds dangerously like your first 3 addictions you mentioned;)
Just kidding! Sometimes humor helps alot to deal with serious topics! I have compassion and understanding for you. I hope you keep on understanding and unleashing your attachments one by one.
My names Heather and I'm an alcoholic..
Sober today and for the last 15 years
Thanks to a power greater than me..
I say this to remind me of the hell I came from..and I'm a quick forgeter.!
Joyous happy and free..day at a time
From bonds I alone could not see..
Love and blessings to all.
Great video ..thank you 💜
Congratulations Heather xx
I think he just explained to you, why you are not an alcoholic
good morning Miss Heather
What are you wearing right now?
Hello and bravo to you, Heather. Just remember you are so much more than an alcoholic.
"All addiction is about the 👉conditioned👈mind controlling you"
Addictions are escapism, when we're not addicted we're enlightened xx 😘
"The very culture that we live in denies that there's truth, makes people hungry, hurts people, leaves them isolated, therefore empty, therefore wanting satisfaction from the outside, therefore addicted, and then it creates all these products, and all these activities, and all these cultural diversions to fill the very emptiness that it creates. And then they say, "That selfishness is the nature of human beings." And there's the complete circle of the ideology." 47:25
47:25
So greatful for gabor mates studies and work so we may be free to study behind him and therefor be free to "catch onto" our real lives..every talk he has is priceless towards our advancement in being whole and finding peace within befor passing on..i treasure his works..
I feel everyone needs to take a class in high school or college called "gabor mate works and wonders"...this way we can enlighten the people of the world to rethink the world and set it in a better safer path
Yep. But humans are more than capable of getting out of that ideology. You just have to reject it. Just be.
This was brilliant wisdom
I deeply admire his humility when he says "How can I talk or give you that when I have not been there" and then he actually gives us something as deep.
i like that he was vulnerable and open about his own experience about his recent several weeks of being in a deep funk. That really makes it even more relatable and make me realise that WE ARE ALL REALLY IN THIS TOGETHER AS HUMANITY. This is a human struggle, not an isolated, individual struggle. Good talk. Thank you.
@Lisa J We are not an individual, the interconnectedness of being is who we are. Evolution is based on the extension of generosity. That is not my quote, wish I knew who said that🌈
HE ALSO HAS THAT VERY SADDEN FACE AND A LOW VOICE, who makes us want help him. TRIGGER FOR UNMET “ needs “ of our own. 🥲
If I could only watch one talk for the rest of my life, it would be this.
This is an exceptional talk, he moves through it so effortlessly and beautifully. , His quotes from Joan of Ark, Camus, Buddhism.
He speaks for All of us., And we get it, don't we? His honesty we recognise in ourselves. Sublime X
"Thank God I am out of my mind" I love it!
I did a lot of speaking and liked it. I realized it was like an addiction. I let it go, and focused in another area. In retirement, I took up making art. I gave all my work away. I let it go. Now I live in another country with a large family that will not even kill an ant, no exsggeration. My family is very beautiful and I am learning.
Another wonderful thing about Canada.... Gabor Maté :)
He's hungarian
balWC He lives in Canada.
balWC he’s Hungarian speaking Jewish born in Hungary with a Hungarian name. Very brilliant man.
@@mariamm109 He is Canadian.
Gabor Mate is a man who understands egoism and addiction intimately because he’s lived it. And he keeps his ideas beautifully simple.
He is still living it...far from healed. Idk why ppl are so impressed with this guy 😮
I'm 37yrs old and I'm so glad i found Dr Gabor Matè, your books and lectures and the way you talk and present yourself is amazing 👏🏼
You definitely deserve a Noble Peace Price! I have so much respect for this guy.❤
The idea of "being still" is the one, ultimate truth I have found in life that brings a person to the place of peace. The place of still, peaceful, oneness with everything. Your breathing slows. You do not thinks thoughts anymore...You just....ARE. Learning how to just simply sit with myself, and just BE was the most amazing thing I ever learned. It was so incredible that once I learned how to just BE, I was no longer depressed. I was no longer anxious. And not just in that moment...nearly all moments now.
I dont even have to try anymore to get to that place, I just go there. If I notice myself feeling anxious, giddy, wanting wanting wanting, needing this or that, etc, I go to that place. It centers me. It grounds me in the real world. The one that my mind covers up and lies about so often to me.
Beautifully put. I would like to know more, does one get to the place of “being still” by physically being still? and just letting go of the craving to give in to distractions, and ultimately facing yourself in that moment? Whatever’s going on in your mind. Or do you mean something akin to something like a mindfulness present moment awareness? I’m really curious, as a practitioner and follower of Buddhism, meditation such as metta and vipasanna. I’m interested in your explanation and want to figure out what you mean. Thank you.
@brandondarby5821 Well I know I did begin my journey to peace by literally sitting still. Just with myself, my thoughts, no distractions, no fidgeting.
@brandondarby5821 and the mindfulness awareness of the present came naturally from it.
I focus...and then refocus on what I can do that brings me joy, it brings me out of depression. What makes me feel good... I think about it... what I will do that makes me feel good. I imagine Simple little things like having a nice relaxing shower, tidy my room, organizing my clothes. Also I try to only keep things that I really enjoy. Good feelings, baby steps.
Kim Biro I wish you the best Kim. How are you doing today ?
Grateful for my traumas and addictions because now I know how to heal myself, others, and listed to my inner true needs.
Gabor, thank you for your book "When the Body Says No". Possibly a life-saver. Thank you
“Habit energy” dragging you off the cliff. What an incredible image of unintentional living!
I wish Gabor Mate's talks got translated so that many more people get to hear them. So few people have this combination of competence and the balls to be honest about how things are really like.
I have watched this lecture over and over since my breakdown in 2019. I always learn something more every time I listen. Thank you Dr Mate. You are a treasure for seeing the deep truth so clearly.
When you learn how to suffer you will suffer no more
how please?
@@claudiacaceres2580 The reward is high. You learn a lot, and its not going to destroy you its going to save you and heal you. Allow yourself to feel. Dont be afraid, just be thankful. Its a gift. Not learning or growing is much worse than surrendering to the information that comes your way disguised as pain. It is only perceived as pain before the information is realised. The joy of the gift is much greater than the pain of the change. Just let it take you over. And remember the most important thing. The energy of spirit. Trust spirit to know what is right and good for you. You dont know. Only spirit knows.
if only spirit knows how come you know? Just beig naughty , thank you :)
@@claudiacaceres2580 I miss my naughty girl. She followed and identified with ego, not spirit. Like most people . I have a bit of Stockholm syndrome, you know. Everyone does.
@@jan-martinulvag1953 Interesting, I have met people who love pain, some physical and others mental. I think poorly of this addiction to pain. With all respect, I ve heard that if you identify with anything you are bound to the ego, even spirit, because its a mental construct. Now I know spirit is real but its beyond description and duality so its beyond good vs bad beyond pleasure vs pain. I heard there are ways of getting out of suffering , the buddhist eightfold path, its my humble opinion . All my love spiritual brother Jean- Martin .
It is a shame there has been a large amount of disinformation spread about Dr Gabor Mate's work (such as psychology today, which coincidently is the first thing which appears when his name is googled)
I think he is spot on about the trauma but the current societal paradigm defines trauma as some big event that happened to a child however, it can be defined as anything really which leads a child to maladaptive behaviour in their adult life (such as many small events).
The entire definition of trauma needs to be clarified and broadened widely. Most people don't seem to understand what it is and it is their ignorance on the matter that brings about criticism of his theories
he's too much of a threat because he's so spot on
Absolutely agree, (You are spot on) this is why the disinformation / demonization. @@rafaelmarchanteangulo4582
the funny (sad?) thing about that Psych Today takedown is that if you watch the author in interviews, he seems miserable and almost seems like a prime candidate for someone with suppressed childhood trauma. Additionally, I looked further into the study that he mentioned in that PsychToday article, and watched interviews with the conductor of that study -- let's just say I was uninspired and unimpressed. On the other hand, my intuition about Gabor Mate is that he is hitting on some profound, tragically-unspoken truths. Honestly if I had to ascribe anyone as my "hero" it would probably be him.
I saw that article last month and was bothered by it...I was like who is this dude?! I as well took it with a grain of salt. Thank you for posting this (5 years ago..lol), I thought I was the only one who was irritated.
thanks for the reply :)
Please allow Closed Captioning for people with hearing loss.
Here at minute 20:38 I'm just overwhelmed by this man's beauty of mind-he speaks of how people being benefitted by Aids or cancer by their own admission. It goes against the grain of our whiner-type culture with an extremely gentle integrity. He claims to have an unspiritual mind, but unbeknownst to himself he is spiritual beyond most.
Compassion for self..is critical..but also for others.
It's one and the same thing
God I wish we had more teachers like him ❤️🙏🏼
This video was almost an hour and it didn’t even feel like it. It felt less than. I only recently discovered Gabor Mate and I feel seen and guided listening to him. For that, I am grateful.
I love Dr. Maté's lectures. Write these lessons on your soul. This lecture is nearly 10 years old, and the material is timeless.
I love this guy's honesty and openness.
what a beautiful and profound speaker
I traveled once , a dusty road,
Extending from my sight.....
Young and strong, full of life,
I journeyed with delight.....
The rain it came, washed away,
The path I had desired....
Searching left, spying right,
Soon finding myself mired....
With bliss at stake, decisions made,
To take another course....
Need take a chance, become not idle,
Dwell not on remorse.....
Trials arose , on my sojourn,
That kept me from my path....
Fate convened, to set me straight,
Lest I should feel its wrath....
Suns return, healing warmth,
Drying mud from feet.....
Feeling stronger, ever lighter,
Leaping from defeat.....
Lifes ups and downs, ins and outs,
Lead us not in vain....
Joy and love, not all there is,
We must embrace our pain.......
Beautiful poem.
+Darrell Garner who wrote it?
I googled; I didn't find it.....
Yes beautiful poem
Nice
dr.Gabor your vibrations reach my soul. my inner dilmas and weaknessess with a great hope to reach the state of possible human loving myself and others. Thank you.
I just found Gabor Mate these days.... and he changed my thinking, understanding and hopefully feeling. This came at the right time for me. Many blessings!
This cancer has been the best thing happened to me or the addiction. Its the necessity to love themselves or live in the alienation as we are. He's a genius. Wow. It's all awakening, it's all God's given gifts 🙏🦋👌🌺🌹😘😘😘😘
I just discovered him a month or so ago. I just love listening to him. He has such a gentle, but wise, and real persona. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights with us.
"Its difficult to think outside the box, because the thinking is the box" - genius realization.
He really has great comedic timing. Can see him being a stand up in a different life
Or a stuntman. That's cooler
I don't like this man - I just love him! What a beautiful mind inspiring gentle and with all freedom in thought thinking deeper.
Think this is one of the best lectures I’ve ever heard in my life. I’m speechless, and that’s not easy to achieve for someone as garrulous as myself!
Ahh those darn samskaras! His presentation/interpretation of ancient concepts applied to everyday life if just magical.
when said "addiction is not a person,nobody is an addict" he means the very essence of a human. in our essence we are pure human beings.but to once again become one, we must face our flaws inside us - inside our corrupted nature, which is just "a part" of a human's pure essence.
Our lives mainly resolve around making money. We cannot ever hope to realize our potential when almost all of our time is spent extrinsically motivated. First you have to become financially independent. Then you can live your life intrinsically motivated, your journey will begin, and maybe if you are lucky you can reach enlightenment. And even that is not the end stage. After this period of calmness, the storm will pick you up.
This man is enlightened. No joke,he is teaching beautiful things as it as. Thank you doctor
I love this man!!!!! It drives me crazy too all the spiritual stuff that Adyashanti and eckart tolle talk about. They look like in another planet and not resolving anything.
At 34:09 He says "In order to get over addiction you have to actually have the courage to look at how things actually are inside here.34:40 When somebody says I'm so and so and I''m an alcoholic. Something in me does not quite like that language, because the language identifies the person with the experience,and says I am that experience.Well you're not that experience! Addiction is not a person.Addiction is not who you are.When you say I'm an Addict.Nobody is an addict. That's not who you are.
By admitting-you are recognizing where the pain comes from. When you can recognize you can start the process of surrender. No, it is not you, but it is a little piece that requires recognition.
(Deletes 300 word essay on how great this is and describe it in one word) ....PERFECTION!
Thank you, Gabor Mate, your videos have proven extremely life enhancing to me at this time.
I loved this talk, so truthful and honest and articulated so well! Thankyou Gabor
Thanks for being so open, so venerable.
I wish you calm,peaceful mind and spirit.
Most excellent! So much condensed wisdom, humor, and encouragement in one segment. Seems long. But passes quickly. Much love!
Absolutely right on the mark about so many things. Incisive. Condensed wisdom.
This sharing is so good. Gabor is so honest, vulnerable, human. His voice and presence resonates deeply in me. Vibrating with this far away auditorium in Vancouver, thank you guy.
His transparency is so authentic
Time is never wasted listening to this remarkable teacher
Has tears in my eyes!! So much truth!!!
one of the best, most compassionate person the entire Earth! Namaste! you r a hero indeed!
“It’s hard to think outside the box, because thinking is the box”
Wow.. Just wow. What great wisdom and perspective that he offers us.
Thank you Dr. Mate'. Very enlightening presentation. love your wit & humor. :)
How ruthlessly honest Dr. Maté. You silenced me. ♥
Greetings from the USA. Thank you for making the lecture available on youtube.
as always amazing speech. i love Gabor's honesty and sensitivity. thank you 🙏🏼💖
I love and admire Gabor's honesty, and humour of course! :) I can listen to him for hours.
I've listened to a bunch of his talks and though this one is old I think it's my favorite.
Gabor is a gift, so raw, so real, so easy to listen to and learn from.
This man is an abtract of spiritual awakening
Lyn Kent ... and so are you...
This is so awesome 👏
I wish I could have Gabor as my inside voice, guiding my hand and giving me advice at the crucial moments.
Well...I guess I can. Lol!
I love you so much Gabor.
Reconnection to the Self, I love this. Thank you.
So knowledgeable and clever and a brilliant humour as well, what more could we want?
Gabor is really deep and funny at times, incredibly open, easy to listen and understand I think I am addicted LOL
He really makes it easy to understand my humanity
Great speech! Thank you so much! I am having spiritual experiences, it is most beautiful thing that could happen in my life! I love Eckhart, Adyashanti and other spiritual teachers but it's true that someone who doesn't experience inner self naturally will have no clue how to even practice it and the mind will trick on you again. For me it is a blessing in my life journey. This blessing will come to everyone "sooner or later".. . Wishing you all best and much love!!! :)
Thank you Dr. Gabor for talking to us, through us and with us. Didn't want to miss a single word. God bless you and all you do🙏 💕
Yes! I 100% agree! That statement has always stirred me.
I am ..NOT the experience.
Great talk! One of the few people talking about spiritual seeking as an addiction, which I can totally relate to!
It is better to assume that there is no such thing as spiritual seeking than to want to be sure that there is such a thing. I am quite enlightened. You can listen to what I have just said. I have helped you out here. I don`t need a reply.
My Fake Name ... enlightenment is the "see" of awareness in which everything exists... It is eternal... and, we are all dying to awaken to IT...
GOD BLESS EVERYONE BLESS EVERYTHING ALWAYS AMEN...
! -_- ?
The spirit lies between us
God I'm gonna have to listen to this talk again sober tomorrow
So are you sober now?
@@stefbaws I am actually. Forked up during the christmas holidays, but tomorrow (almost midnight here) will consecutive sober day nr 141.
So refreshing to hear humility and genuineness.
Thank you Gabor,,i watch you every morning and i discover bits of myself every time and i heal and i learn and i love my self More and i Love you for teaching you are precious 💙