1. Express that you believe in him 2. Don't compete with the people & things that he loves 3. Give random affection 4. Don't allow him to go unappreciated 5. Respect his voice, opinion, advice in areas he is equipped to lead
Thank you for addressing that mens needs in relationships are not just "cook, clean, screw". Each man has individual emotional, physical, spiritual, mental needs.
Men can cook and clean for themselves, but women do it, it makes the relationship easier, because women need to do something if they want the relationship to succeed. Otherwise if only the man puts in all the effort, there's no reason for a relationship. Emotional stuff comes way later, because emotions are sacred to men, he will not open up to you until he is ready. But yeah, he has other needs, and believe me men have more emotional appetite than women do, he will exhaust you with his emotional needs.
@@masterdevoe2519 could you explain further the ‘men have more emotional appetite than women do’ ? I’m curious cause what I hear a lot is the stereotypical thing of women being more emotional creatures than men etc
@@N3dita By emotional appetite I mean that men like to enjoy the emotions a woman displays, emotions are a feminine trait, men have them too, but women are on another level. You can look at the Yin-Yang symbol for a better explaination. And why did I say that men will exhaust women with their emotional appetite? Because when someone enjoys something, they'll become addicted to it, here men are consumers, hence the appetite. And women want to be more emotional, they want to share that part of themselves with their men, eventually the women feel exhausted, but men don't. Of course I am oversimpliying this dance, I don't know how else I can explain it.
@@N3dita If that's the case, you should look up Carl Jung's male and female archetypes. He talks about the collective subconscious mind, the deeper part of subconscious mind which everyone in the world shares because it's written in our DNA.
Allow your Man/PARTNER to CHOOSE you daily. Don't force anything. Love on your Man!!! Stroke his head, rub his arm, kiss his cheek and tell him you love him regularly.
“Security is the currency of love”. Great quote Kev. That is so true. Knowing that men want security too is real. Not dating a man you don’t believe in is not dating intentionally. Dating for dating’s sake is not helping you find the qualities you need in a man or he needs to find in you. Appreciation makes for good relations for both! Remember to appreciate. Good advice.
I'm single and pray that I meet the person for me some day so I listen to most of your videos cause it's educational for me..thank you and God's blessings
I had this conversation last night within my new relationship and I handled it completely wrong. Unlearning bad behavior is hard but I refuse to let it ruin my new relationship. I have a really good guy and I’m not willing to run him off
*Kev let me start by saying thank you! This is one of the best videos I have ever seen on this subject. I have a best male friend that I would debate with all the time on certain relationship issues. He always said "Women are dumb because they just don't listen." Of course I argued him down until he said "Who can tell you what a man is thinking better than another man?" Years later, I would've saved myself alot of heartache, pain and lost time if I would've listened to the men that cared about me. Lesson learned.*
If only I truly understood these concepts when I got married many years ago. It would have saved my marriage. Watching this kind of stings because I see so clearly how I went wrong with a good man.
That’s real. Mostly, I hear divorcees give toxic advice out of bitterness… I was raised like that, and went into relationships as a very young woman with inherited blindness. Based on my observation and experience, relationships are hard work! It’s like having a full-time job, but the benefits are amazing. I’m grateful for these conversations talking about practical ways to reinforce the foundation, cuz I never got that
I completely agree with all that you've discussed here. I would like to add that having a relationship means that you are both going to grow and evolve throughout time. A man will benefit from the support given by a woman as he changes and becomes a version of himself that wasn't necessarily there when you first met. This will require updating certain habits and behaviors to support these changes because you shouldn't stay stagnant and learn to grow along with your man. When a man shares an idea with you, listen to his ideas and avoid negating what he has shared. Let him know that you are there to support him if he is very passionate about his new direction. Give honest feedback but not with criticism. Remember that you are supposed to be your man's safe place and his peace.
Exaclty what I was trying to say below. This also involves the man being able to express himself to you. The average man has a huge fear of expressing vulnerability to women because the average woman can’t handle or understand when a man acts in a way that she doesn’t expect him to act aka: the man box, which both men and women put men into.
Im watching this and i also just received a text from him, he says im the reason for all his confidence and motivation, and happiness in his life. He sends this considerable times, but from watching this vid, its actually the first time today i see how much value that holds, and how much i gotta embrace it and keep up the consistency, because with consistency may as well come a forever. I loove your videos so much, make me gain maturity everytime i watch one. Thank youuu😍😍😍❤❤
Hello Lucy, I am thrilled about the message you shared. I wish I could connect with you; I'd like to know more from you on a more sublime manner. Would you mind. If not, I'd share my email addy
This is how I was raised! I'm 43 and very old school, I grew up on a ranch and worked the cattle and land so everything in this video is how you treat and man when your a woman. Girls need to step up and lean a few thing from this video , I'm going to share and hope some one or anyone will watch so they can understand men and woman thank you for this video
You are a genius. You just put into words why our marriage works so well 👍 From outside perspective jealous people tend to think: Why is he with her? He is nice, financially well off, looks good while I am not from the same background. I always try to explain that what we give is equal. Just not the same. The things a "traditional" wife gives are less visible but equally important 👍 What matters is not just thinking "what do I deserve?" but "What can I offer? Am I what my partner deserves?" Selfishness destroyed the construct of relationships. It's not easy to find someone with the same values in times where it is only promoted to look at what someone can give to you or else is considered a waste of time. That's not empowering. That's just becoming the toxic part of the relationship yourself.
Balance is key. Awesome video. We as women must make sure we are secure within ourselves. Pray for wisdom and discernment. Working on self single and while in the relationship is awesome. Men love compliments and touched on shoulders. ❤️
Thank you for this video Kev! I often believe that a man wants to feel safe with a woman (whether emotionally/spiritually) in a relationship/marriage too. People would always say I was crazy thinking that. I am so glad you confirmed it! If I want to be valued, respected and appreciated, I've always believe the people surrounding me want those things too. Thank you kev!
Boy am I glad you decided to start a TH-cam channel. My favorite channel and all any woman will ever need if she is serious about understanding her partner. You forget that as you get comfortable in a relationship, you can change as a woman. And you aren’t acting the way you did in the beginning either. It’s about accountability if you want an amazing relationship that will last a lifetime. This channel is always the reminder I need to put things back in to perspective!! Thanks Kev!!!
I love that you always specify that these are for emotionally mature or better men. It wasn't until I went on a long and difficult healing journey that I discovered that I actually naturally have most of these great qualities and always have given them to my partners. But I always wondered why it never mattered because always got my heart broken or cheated on no matter how many great qualities I had or how good of a woman I was, it's sad that just recently figured out it wasn't me as I originally thought. It was the quality of men that I had relationships with. If they are low quality as humans and boyfriends in general it really doesn't matter you could be an Earth Angel and they still are going to hurt and traumatize you.
All I know is your videos are soooo much needed in todays world! Learning from your videos has helped me have the best relationship of my life. When I apply what you teach I see the joy and pride in my man. I see his love grow for me more each day. I’m so thankful for your page I never had some one teach me how to be a good woman towards a man. I took over 3 years alone to learn these very important qualities for a happy loving successful and lasting relationship. He says I’m the best woman he’s ever seen or known and no one can compare to me he doesn’t just tell me in words but I can feel and see he really does. I’m so grateful for your page and your videos.
Uncle Kev- what would we do without you. This video hits on some points which one would think were supposed to be common sense but soooo much has been lost in translation. How are we out here at war with each other when all we really want is each OTHER?! I appreciate your wisdom so much 🙏🏾💚
Thank you for this. Working on issues with men and healing toxic masculinity wounds means that I need to heal my relationship with my own masculine and the masculine energy in my life. This video put in perspective some things I felt but couldn't say, much like reading Bell Hooks has done. Thank you for continuing to bring the wisdom. 💚 big bro.
Yay finally getting alerts 😀. Yo da best Kev, thank you thank you for all you do.. For years I have tried to speak to my mom on this. Makes me sad she just didn't have the answers. And my dad died 3 years after coming back into my life. Been struggling, struggling. This helps a brother i never had. ☺️
What I appreciate is that you tend to B VERY clear about what reciprocity is to B noted and/or what kind of man you want to extend these gracious givings to... cuz back in the day, I have been known to offer too much with too little return... I've grown much -give thanx. But my past does allow me to know how important it is for us to take your wisdom into account, while also taking our man, or intended man into account as well! Cuz you say it... clearly. It's a repetitive theme... thank you. I am so grateful for better eyes that see, ears that hear, and a mind capable of seeing beyond my wounds unto healing! You rock brother Kev. Thanx.
Yes 🙏🏽 more please about how to love a man well 🙏🏽 Kev, can you talk about... the dynamic about being a "challenge" in a way that's healthful to the relationship needs of a man? And how this balances with showing the appropriate amount of love and tenderness? 🙏🏽
What else is there ro say...again. Rev Kev has laid it all out...i couldn't wait to text my quality man, didnt call or see him becuz we just a lengthy conversation the night before. When I think I've heard it all in one of your vids, you continue to amaze me in another one! Thank you Rev Kev!!!
This video was a bit hard to listen to only because everything you said was 100% true! Thank you for this video please feel free to do a part 2 very insightful.... I want my relationship with my man to be solid laying a firm foundation, this video was a definite building block!!!!
omg i love the look on your face! Do you know how much it helps?! Simply that look in your eyes and face! On-top of the depth of the analysis - it's all just priceless - calms the nerves, ya kno?
I also realize that I've always been his backbone the support system for him and one day he told me that I'm not encouraging him anymore the way I used to and I realized that it's because we've been together for 2 years and I didn't receive that back I needed that as well.
I love having the education from a man's perspective. I want, and need to learn before I even attempt to like anyone. Thank you for your honesty , I need to hear the truth!
I would add to, that if you feel like Kev is telling you, “ Don’t talk about your fears; just keep them to yourself, and let your man do what he will.”: He’s not. Tell the guy you like WHY you are saying things like you “don’t like him staying out with those guys, or I don’t like that you play some much, do so much whatever”….Men need to know the why, without feeling like it is OUR fault that you are feeling the way you feel. Now, a man being an asshole is different, of course. I’m just saying that being vulnerable and expressing your fears without making it your man’s problem to fix is very attractive. It is to me anyway. I try to embody emotionally the quote, “Love in such a way that the other person feels free.” I try to not make MY feelings my partners fault, because they are not. So, I tell her how I feel, my fears, etc- it’s wonderful being loved for the things you are unsure of about yourself, or in spite of them. The best thing is, I get to live in a world where I am not trapped in my own head, dealing with all my unsaid fears. Doing so, being vulnerable, gives me a chance to change, and grow, and love more deeply as well- because at that point, I now have a choice, because it’s out in the open ( my fear that is). Speaking it out loud, keeps it from ruling me. Don’t let your fear brow beat you into trying to hold onto security by force of will- romance involves risk, and risk requires vulnerability. You express yourself honestly and clearly because you want your man to choose you freely everyday, just as he wants you to be choosing him freely everyday.
Wow I need to get my mind set right because my man really loves me n show it I need to be able to show it back the way he needs this really about to save me n our relationship 😩 had no where else to go to understand but here has brought me so much joy n confi now❤I love you Dijon
😊Happy New Year Kev!🖤 Looking 4ward to your great and vast knowledge, understanding and wisdom on building and sustaining a relationship! 🙏🏿I appreciate your generosity!👊🏿
Im at the time stamp 5:51 AND I CANNOT AGREE MORE Im a 32 year old lady and the one thing I learned from watching your videos and how I relate it to my life... 👉Is that you treat people how you want to be treated. No matter who it is. A lover, a friend, a family member, a relative or some stranger. Just be self aware enough to notice if youre being fucked over so you can take care of yourself. Its that simple for me if I apply it to my life. Thanks Kev for being you. Youre awesome! Keep breaking stigmas and barriers
I totally agree with the sentiments of other listeners/viewers who said this is one of your best vids yet. I also liked your opening preface, encouraging people to keep comments positive and encouraging.
Your videos are great - very helpful indeed. Being a happily married insightful man - will you be giving advice to men as to how to cherish, respect and treat women to bring out and experience the best in them? A lot of men need this advice - for themselves and the ladies in their lives. Thank you so much :-)
Loved the video kev. Although I have my fears about this same energy not being given back to me what would motivate to give this to my man is because I know what’s it’s like to not have any support , for someone to not have your back and people not believing in you and in some men’s cases they all they have had and got so I am in the same boat have been my entire life …. Never had support love or anyone to believe in me or have my back and I’m all I got Al thought this has never stopped me but just has pushed me to grind harder none the less it still hurts and I would never wish that on anyone not even my worse enemy so for my man to feel the emotional support I get it . I feel that is what is unique about me as a woman… I have so much love and care to genuinely and sincerely give and pour out yet I have never really experienced it ever in my entire life not even childhood yet I know what it is and what it looks like. I’m not perfect but I get it .
I hear ya. So there may be an issue there. I'm not gonna talk about the possible issue...cause I don't really know you like that. It could stem from childhood, but idk. All I can say is, you gotta choose better men. These tips are only for the good men that deserve your love and affection and stuff. Not them losers and f boys. Just make sure you get a good man who's attracted to you fully...and is in that dating with a purpose phase. Then you can show him all of these things...if thats what you're looking for at the time.
Thank you Kev, I really enjoyed this one! I’d say I’m pretty good at 4 of these points, except for giving my partner time and space for other things that he loves, I’m aware that I’ve been competitive in this department in the past and definitely need to work in this ✨🙏🏻✨ Also, Happy New Year to you and the community! I wish an amazing year for us all ✨🥳🥂🍾🌹🙏🏻✨
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1. Express that you believe in him
2. Don't compete with the people & things that he loves
3. Give random affection
4. Don't allow him to go unappreciated
5. Respect his voice, opinion, advice in areas he is equipped to lead
Thank you ❤
Thank you!
Thank you!!
Thank you lol
Thank you!
Thank you for addressing that mens needs in relationships are not just "cook, clean, screw". Each man has individual emotional, physical, spiritual, mental needs.
Men can cook and clean for themselves, but women do it, it makes the relationship easier, because women need to do something if they want the relationship to succeed. Otherwise if only the man puts in all the effort, there's no reason for a relationship.
Emotional stuff comes way later, because emotions are sacred to men, he will not open up to you until he is ready.
But yeah, he has other needs, and believe me men have more emotional appetite than women do, he will exhaust you with his emotional needs.
@@masterdevoe2519 could you explain further the ‘men have more emotional appetite than women do’ ?
I’m curious cause what I hear a lot is the stereotypical thing of women being more emotional creatures than men etc
@@N3dita By emotional appetite I mean that men like to enjoy the emotions a woman displays, emotions are a feminine trait, men have them too, but women are on another level. You can look at the Yin-Yang symbol for a better explaination.
And why did I say that men will exhaust women with their emotional appetite? Because when someone enjoys something, they'll become addicted to it, here men are consumers, hence the appetite. And women want to be more emotional, they want to share that part of themselves with their men, eventually the women feel exhausted, but men don't. Of course I am oversimpliying this dance, I don't know how else I can explain it.
@@masterdevoe2519 ohh I see, I think I’ve understood. Thanks so much for explaining. As a woman I love learning about these things 😇🙏🏼
@@N3dita If that's the case, you should look up Carl Jung's male and female archetypes. He talks about the collective subconscious mind, the deeper part of subconscious mind which everyone in the world shares because it's written in our DNA.
Allow your Man/PARTNER to CHOOSE you daily. Don't force anything.
Love on your Man!!! Stroke his head, rub his arm, kiss his cheek and tell him you love him regularly.
I love the calmness that comes with your videos. All calm, satisfying and intelligently made. Amazing
I agree. Very refreshing. Rare.
If you didn't just beautifully sum up this man's video style!! 🙌🏾❤💯
Yes!
Me too.
Yes with humor as well 💯
“Security is the currency of love”. Great quote Kev. That is so true. Knowing that men want security too is real. Not dating a man you don’t believe in is not dating intentionally. Dating for dating’s sake is not helping you find the qualities you need in a man or he needs to find in you. Appreciation makes for good relations for both! Remember to appreciate. Good advice.
This video was soooo insightful!
I'm single and pray that I meet the person for me some day so I listen to most of your videos cause it's educational for me..thank you and God's blessings
Kev tired of y’all complaining in his comments 🤣
😂messin with his money
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😩😭😂😂😂😂😂
The way I hollered when he went on that rant 😂😂😂😂
And this is what makes a healthy relationship especially when two people belong together. Respect/honoring eachother. Awesome!!!👏🏾
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True!
As a mature lady over 40..........
Let me say BRAVO 👏
Great insight Kevin!!
Keep up the great work 💯
“Just go away! “ my god! I laugh so loud !
Omg, you are so real and awesome 👏
I love love and love when people find true love… good luck everyone on your journey and love on your man when he walks in his King power
Thank you! Good luck to you as well.
I had this conversation last night within my new relationship and I handled it completely wrong. Unlearning bad behavior is hard but I refuse to let it ruin my new relationship. I have a really good guy and I’m not willing to run him off
How’s it going? 😊
How is he great if he so easily runs off
It is not right if a conversation turns wrong quickly
*Kev let me start by saying thank you! This is one of the best videos I have ever seen on this subject. I have a best male friend that I would debate with all the time on certain relationship issues. He always said "Women are dumb because they just don't listen." Of course I argued him down until he said "Who can tell you what a man is thinking better than another man?"
Years later, I would've saved myself alot of heartache, pain and lost time if I would've listened to the men that cared about me. Lesson learned.*
This was great advise!
If only I truly understood these concepts when I got married many years ago. It would have saved my marriage. Watching this kind of stings because I see so clearly how I went wrong with a good man.
I have been there before as well🙏🏽🙏🏽
That’s real. Mostly, I hear divorcees give toxic advice out of bitterness… I was raised like that, and went into relationships as a very young woman with inherited blindness. Based on my observation and experience, relationships are hard work! It’s like having a full-time job, but the benefits are amazing. I’m grateful for these conversations talking about practical ways to reinforce the foundation, cuz I never got that
IF he's a good man to you, these are valuable gems!! Wish I knew this info in my 20's, thanks Kev.
I completely agree with all that you've discussed here. I would like to add that having a relationship means that you are both going to grow and evolve throughout time. A man will benefit from the support given by a woman as he changes and becomes a version of himself that wasn't necessarily there when you first met. This will require updating certain habits and behaviors to support these changes because you shouldn't stay stagnant and learn to grow along with your man. When a man shares an idea with you, listen to his ideas and avoid negating what he has shared. Let him know that you are there to support him if he is very passionate about his new direction. Give honest feedback but not with criticism. Remember that you are supposed to be your man's safe place and his peace.
Exaclty what I was trying to say below. This also involves the man being able to express himself to you. The average man has a huge fear of expressing vulnerability to women because the average woman can’t handle or understand when a man acts in a way that she doesn’t expect him to act aka: the man box, which both men and women put men into.
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This was great thanks..I'm late but greatful
Your videos have taught me so much that my life is happier and I know I will be in a loving relationship. Thank you.
You are so welcome
Im watching this and i also just received a text from him, he says im the reason for all his confidence and motivation, and happiness in his life. He sends this considerable times, but from watching this vid, its actually the first time today i see how much value that holds, and how much i gotta embrace it and keep up the consistency, because with consistency may as well come a forever.
I loove your videos so much, make me gain maturity everytime i watch one. Thank youuu😍😍😍❤❤
Hello Lucy, I am thrilled about the message you shared. I wish I could connect with you; I'd like to know more from you on a more sublime manner. Would you mind. If not, I'd share my email addy
This is how I was raised! I'm 43 and very old school, I grew up on a ranch and worked the cattle and land so everything in this video is how you treat and man when your a woman. Girls need to step up and lean a few thing from this video , I'm going to share and hope some one or anyone will watch so they can understand men and woman thank you for this video
You are a genius. You just put into words why our marriage works so well 👍 From outside perspective jealous people tend to think: Why is he with her? He is nice, financially well off, looks good while I am not from the same background. I always try to explain that what we give is equal. Just not the same. The things a "traditional" wife gives are less visible but equally important 👍 What matters is not just thinking "what do I deserve?" but "What can I offer? Am I what my partner deserves?"
Selfishness destroyed the construct of relationships. It's not easy to find someone with the same values in times where it is only promoted to look at what someone can give to you or else is considered a waste of time. That's not empowering. That's just becoming the toxic part of the relationship yourself.
Balance is key. Awesome video. We as women must make sure we are secure within ourselves. Pray for wisdom and discernment. Working on self single and while in the relationship is awesome. Men love compliments and touched on shoulders. ❤️
Thank you for this video Kev! I often believe that a man wants to feel safe with a woman (whether emotionally/spiritually) in a relationship/marriage too. People would always say I was crazy thinking that. I am so glad you confirmed it! If I want to be valued, respected and appreciated, I've always believe the people surrounding me want those things too.
Thank you kev!
I freaking love this!! Really appreciate the way you broke down what it looks like in real life to care for a man really well
Boy am I glad you decided to start a TH-cam channel. My favorite channel and all any woman will ever need if she is serious about understanding her partner. You forget that as you get comfortable in a relationship, you can change as a woman. And you aren’t acting the way you did in the beginning either. It’s about accountability if you want an amazing relationship that will last a lifetime. This channel is always the reminder I need to put things back in to perspective!! Thanks Kev!!!
"Security is the currency of Love" My God, this man is spitting jewels! Really appreciate your channel and introspection it's been very helpful 🙏🏾💯☝🏾
I love that you always specify that these are for emotionally mature or better men. It wasn't until I went on a long and difficult healing journey that I discovered that I actually naturally have most of these great qualities and always have given them to my partners. But I always wondered why it never mattered because always got my heart broken or cheated on no matter how many great qualities I had or how good of a woman I was, it's sad that just recently figured out it wasn't me as I originally thought. It was the quality of men that I had relationships with. If they are low quality as humans and boyfriends in general it really doesn't matter you could be an Earth Angel and they still are going to hurt and traumatize you.
Watching your videos has changed my life for the greater good. Thanks Kev!
All I know is your videos are soooo much needed in todays world! Learning from your videos has helped me have the best relationship of my life. When I apply what you teach I see the joy and pride in my man. I see his love grow for me more each day. I’m so thankful for your page I never had some one teach me how to be a good woman towards a man. I took over 3 years alone to learn these very important qualities for a happy loving successful and lasting relationship. He says I’m the best woman he’s ever seen or known and no one can compare to me he doesn’t just tell me in words but I can feel and see he really does. I’m so grateful for your page and your videos.
Uncle Kev- what would we do without you. This video hits on some points which one would think were supposed to be common sense but soooo much has been lost in translation. How are we out here at war with each other when all we really want is each OTHER?! I appreciate your wisdom so much 🙏🏾💚
Agreed!
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Thank you for this. Working on issues with men and healing toxic masculinity wounds means that I need to heal my relationship with my own masculine and the masculine energy in my life.
This video put in perspective some things I felt but couldn't say, much like reading Bell Hooks has done.
Thank you for continuing to bring the wisdom. 💚 big bro.
“Just go away.”
I literally laughed out loud.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
LMAO! Same 😂🤣🤣
Yay finally getting alerts 😀. Yo da best Kev, thank you thank you for all you do..
For years I have tried to speak to my mom on this. Makes me sad she just didn't have the answers. And my dad died 3 years after coming back into my life. Been struggling, struggling. This helps a brother i never had. ☺️
WOW!!!
I appreciate that you delete trolls and haters. The comment section, like your videos, is encouraging because of this. Thank you
👌Thank you for being true and authentic when sharing your thoughts, and especially in this video.
What I appreciate is that you tend to B VERY clear about what reciprocity is to B noted and/or what kind of man you want to extend these gracious givings to... cuz back in the day, I have been known to offer too much with too little return... I've grown much -give thanx.
But my past does allow me to know how important it is for us to take your wisdom into account, while also taking our man, or intended man into account as well!
Cuz you say it... clearly.
It's a repetitive theme... thank you.
I am so grateful for better eyes that see, ears that hear, and a mind capable of seeing beyond my wounds unto healing!
You rock brother Kev. Thanx.
This is one of the toughest, straight talk videos that I have ever watched from you. Very insightful. Thank you.
The disclaimer 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes 🙏🏽 more please about how to love a man well 🙏🏽 Kev, can you talk about... the dynamic about being a "challenge" in a way that's healthful to the relationship needs of a man? And how this balances with showing the appropriate amount of love and tenderness?
🙏🏽
What else is there ro say...again. Rev Kev has laid it all out...i couldn't wait to text my quality man, didnt call or see him becuz we just a lengthy conversation the night before. When I think I've heard it all in one of your vids, you continue to amaze me in another one! Thank you Rev Kev!!!
"Go awayyyy"😂😂😂😂😂 that part tho
This video was a bit hard to listen to only because everything you said was 100% true! Thank you for this video please feel free to do a part 2 very insightful.... I want my relationship with my man to be solid laying a firm foundation, this video was a definite building block!!!!
Hey❤❤❤ Congratulations on your home Kev!
Ive been off the circuit for awhile 🙏🏽
Yaaay! ! Its so great to see you inside! 💋
I am sooooo happy I found your channel. You are an amazing person for sharing such wisdom with the masses (YT)!
Great I did a rerun!!!🤗🤗
omg i love the look on your face! Do you know how much it helps?! Simply that look in your eyes and face! On-top of the depth of the analysis - it's all just priceless - calms the nerves, ya kno?
THANKS KEV FOR YOUR WORDS OF WISDOM AND ENCOURAGMENT 🙌
I think this advice could he translated into family and friends as well! Amazing advice to maintain a healthy relationship. 👌🏻
Yes! What spring said!! Love your calm attitude my friend. And yes! Encouraging words on here, not bashing the vids!! Pls !! Go AWAY!!
I agree with all your points! So important!
I also realize that I've always been his backbone the support system for him and one day he told me that I'm not encouraging him anymore the way I used to and I realized that it's because we've been together for 2 years and I didn't receive that back I needed that as well.
SO HAPPY THIS IS MY NATURAL INSTINCT & BEHAVIOR❣
so illustrative and well explained, the tone of your voice is soothing...I appreciate your generosity. Thank you.
I love having the education from a man's perspective. I want, and need to learn before I even attempt to like anyone. Thank you for your honesty , I need to hear the truth!
Very insightful. Appreciate the example to explain each point presented.
The disclaimer❗😂👌🏾
I would add to, that if you feel like Kev is telling you, “ Don’t talk about your fears; just keep them to yourself, and let your man do what he will.”: He’s not. Tell the guy you like WHY you are saying things like you “don’t like him staying out with those guys, or I don’t like that you play some much, do so much whatever”….Men need to know the why, without feeling like it is OUR fault that you are feeling the way you feel. Now, a man being an asshole is different, of course. I’m just saying that being vulnerable and expressing your fears without making it your man’s problem to fix is very attractive. It is to me anyway. I try to embody emotionally the quote, “Love in such a way that the other person feels free.” I try to not make MY feelings my partners fault, because they are not. So, I tell her how I feel, my fears, etc- it’s wonderful being loved for the things you are unsure of about yourself, or in spite of them. The best thing is, I get to live in a world where I am not trapped in my own head, dealing with all my unsaid fears. Doing so, being vulnerable, gives me a chance to change, and grow, and love more deeply as well- because at that point, I now have a choice, because it’s out in the open ( my fear that is). Speaking it out loud, keeps it from ruling me. Don’t let your fear brow beat you into trying to hold onto security by force of will- romance involves risk, and risk requires vulnerability. You express yourself honestly and clearly because you want your man to choose you freely everyday, just as he wants you to be choosing him freely everyday.
You recommended a book in another video but I can't remember either. What was the book?
Why is he the only person on this website that actually gives good advice
You are a very wise man. Thank you for this ☺️
BRILLIANT advice! Cheers for that! 👌
Love how you opened this one
Thanks brother!! Your wisdom is so valuable to the world✝️🙌🏽
"Just go away 😀" 😂🙌🏽!
Wow I need to get my mind set right because my man really loves me n show it I need to be able to show it back the way he needs this really about to save me n our relationship 😩 had no where else to go to understand but here has brought me so much joy n confi now❤I love you Dijon
😊Happy New Year Kev!🖤
Looking 4ward to your great and vast knowledge, understanding and wisdom on building and sustaining a relationship!
🙏🏿I appreciate your generosity!👊🏿
Im at the time stamp 5:51 AND I CANNOT AGREE MORE
Im a 32 year old lady and the one thing I learned from watching your videos and how I relate it to my life...
👉Is that you treat people how you want to be treated. No matter who it is. A lover, a friend, a family member, a relative or some stranger.
Just be self aware enough to notice if youre being fucked over so you can take care of yourself.
Its that simple for me if I apply it to my life.
Thanks Kev for being you. Youre awesome! Keep breaking stigmas and barriers
YOU ARE THE BOMB KEV!! THANK YOU KINDLY FOR SHARING YOUR HEART & WISDOM!! Stay well!!
I totally agree with the sentiments of other listeners/viewers who said this is one of your best vids yet. I also liked your opening preface, encouraging people to keep comments positive and encouraging.
This is the most useful video ever. I will never forget this advice
Your videos are great - very helpful indeed. Being a happily married insightful man - will you be giving advice to men as to how to cherish, respect and treat women to bring out and experience the best in them? A lot of men need this advice - for themselves and the ladies in their lives. Thank you so much :-)
He has some older videos. He has a playlist called, "binge watch all my videos." You can check it out😁
Thank you so much for this video Kev. You have done a lot for women. I really appreciate what you did here for men in this video. Thank you again.
Kevin thank you for this… very informative and beautiful. Definitely learned something today!
Love your advice. I appreciate hearing the man's perspective. New sub. Age 61. Thank you!
I like your way of thinking.
Kev
Thanks Kevin
Definitely like the t - shirt 👕 did not see in the store. Like to Purchase it really enjoy your video’s on relationships.
Please make a part 2!
I couldn't agree more he is absolutely a pleasure I Will treasure his advice
Loved the video kev. Although I have my fears about this same energy not being given back to me what would motivate to give this to my man is because I know what’s it’s like to not have any support , for someone to not have your back and people not believing in you and in some men’s cases they all they have had and got so I am in the same boat have been my entire life …. Never had support love or anyone to believe in me or have my back and I’m all I got Al thought this has never stopped me but just has pushed me to grind harder none the less it still hurts and I would never wish that on anyone not even my worse enemy so for my man to feel the emotional support I get it . I feel that is what is unique about me as a woman… I have so much love and care to genuinely and sincerely give and pour out yet I have never really experienced it ever in my entire life not even childhood yet I know what it is and what it looks like. I’m not perfect but I get it .
I hear ya. So there may be an issue there.
I'm not gonna talk about the possible issue...cause I don't really know you like that. It could stem from childhood, but idk.
All I can say is, you gotta choose better men. These tips are only for the good men that deserve your love and affection and stuff. Not them losers and f boys.
Just make sure you get a good man who's attracted to you fully...and is in that dating with a purpose phase. Then you can show him all of these things...if thats what you're looking for at the time.
@@jayc5756 💯
Lovveeee your disclaimer in the beginning!!! Yessss! ♥️🙌🏽
Very wise words Kev and sometimes we all just need to be reminded
Thank you Kev, I really enjoyed this one! I’d say I’m pretty good at 4 of these points, except for giving my partner time and space for other things that he loves, I’m aware that I’ve been competitive in this department in the past and definitely need to work in this ✨🙏🏻✨ Also, Happy New Year to you and the community! I wish an amazing year for us all ✨🥳🥂🍾🌹🙏🏻✨
I’m making note of this one as well.
I agree...this was very helpful on so many levels. Thank you and God bless.
👏👏 Well said. Very insightful video.
You are very wise beyond your years….I truly appreciate this information 💕
I understand all of this, thanks
I hope you’ll drop part 2.
This video is gold!! Thank you so much Kevin.
This is 💯 Facts🔥 Keep Dropping Knowledge Kev💪🏾
You have a great spirit Kev! I look forward to exploring your channel.
I agree 👍 just like a woman wants compliments so does the opposite sex, Kev really give the best advice on relationships, and while he keeps it 💯 he is humorous along with his message
Thank you for your wisdom Kev, this video is so powerful!
Excellent advice! Thank you for your positivity.
Very educative,but I'm always scared to do all this to the wrong man
This is good info. Seriously. Im saving this one.
Thanks for the great advices....yes I believe these will help us grow in our relationship💕
Very enlightening. I'm definitely going to incorporate this into how to approach my next relationship. For me have😭room for improvement.
Me goodness. You touched it all.
You are a gold mine thanks for this wonderful advice its just what i was looking for thank you