DIVORCED BESTIES CHAT: Life lessons | Religious Trauma | Relationship Red Flags
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‘Women initiate more divorces than men’….homies don’t set up dentist appts. They definitely aren’t filing legal documents.
Omg yes. So much yes.
lmfao valid
You are so right🎉👏🏾
🤣🤣🤣 this is so reallll
😂😂😂 bruh!!
It's refreshing to come across people who are like minded! I'm not divorced ( married with 2 kids) but can relate with your stories in my life. I wish I had friends like you guys but I'm a hard core homebody. I have a best friend who lives in a different state. She is in a horrible marrage with a daughter. I only wish she could see there is better. Iv'e told her so many times I can drop everything to come drag her ass out of there. Haha. I can not relate to her on so many levels, but we have so much history it's hard for me to want to break contact. You guys are good people. Mander I hope you get to 100,000 subscribers this year, you deserve it. If you're reading this and can't relate to their conversation, don't be mean.
I got married at 24. My wedding felt like an out of body experience that I watched happen to me...I wasn't mentally there. I wasn't ready, I wasn't stable, I didn't know myself, I wasn't with the right person and I knew it.....but I was so worried about disappointing everyone I just kind of let things move forward. On top of it, my mom was actively dying and I think I subconsciously wanted to make sure she saw me get married before she died....sad to realize but true at the time.
I'm 38 now. I am not married, I have a stable and loving long-term relationship with my partner of almost 11 years. I know who I am now and what I want. I don't regret my past because it taught me things but I wish I could have learned those things less traumatically and painfully than I did.
Thank you for this!
Omg that's such a good way to explain it too.. mine felt like an out of body experienced as well!!!
@@SimplyMander What's odd is my parents weren't pressuring me...far from it. If anything, my mom would have bought be a one way ticket to another country if I said I needed to get out of this. It was my own fear of disappointing other people and the fear of judgement that stopped me from listening to my gut. Years later it seems so obvious and silly but at the time that fear was crippling.
I loved this sit down chat style video. You two ladies are amazing! Also, I'm glad I am not the only one who hates leaving my house. I feel guilty about how much of a homebody I am sometimes, but I just love the comfort of being home.
This is a long awaited vlog from you 🙏🏽 Thank you for putting this video out there and discussing this very important topic. It’s a tough one to discuss and be vulnerable about. You hit all the points here and as a person who was raised in a home with deep strong religious “beliefs” it’s so hard to feel like a good person when you have feelings of wanting a divorce or doing things that go against the grain in your family. Thank you 🙏🏽
Also we need more sit down videos like this with guests
Yes!!!!
Thank you for sharing and being so open about this! Very helpful to hear! Thanks!
I absolutely loved and appreciated both of you being so open and honest. I totally wish both myself and any of my ex relationships could have been this open and honest. I guess "hindsight really does see 20/20." All we can do is do better moving forward though😇❤
This was great. Thought I was going to get some Monday food prep got so much more 😅
I'm 37 and only NOW would I be like, "maybe I would consider marriage." MAYBE. You do NOT know who you are in your 20s...sometimes it can work out, but it usually doesn't because you simply haven't had a ton of life experience yet (despite thinking you have).
I got married at 21 because I was pregnant “out of wedlock”. My ex in laws literally said “you don’t want to have a bastard child”. That has stuck with me forever. My oldest kid is going to be 11. I still often remember that moment. I got divorced at 26. With 3 kids. One of them was 6 months old at the time. It was worth it. We were completely miserable and incompatible. Now, 7 years later, I’m remarried to my best friend. We have a 2 year old and majority custody of my older kids and we’re super happy and thriving. There’s no reason to stay and be miserable. And religious trauma ugh don’t even get me started. I’m an atheist now and glad lol
Same!! I was so upset when I got left bc how embarrassing to stick with people and they do that to you.
I absolutely loved this!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤
Loved listening to y’all talk:)
Good morning Manders!! Happy Monday ❤
The sleeping in separate rooms.. my ex told me he was losing sleep because our kids kept waking him up 😊 we have two kids.. not once did he ever had to warm up a bottle. As we go through the process of our divorce..he speaks to his 8 and 5 yr old once a month via FaceTime 🎉
Haha please make a podcast and just talk you’re so funny we have the same sense of humor. It’s prob the trauma 😂😂😂
Looove this!! 😍😍
Divorce was a great decision for me. Idk who let me get married at 24 before my frontal lobe was formed, but I should’ve been stopped!!
Love love love this ❤
Manders, introduce your friend. I don’t know who she is 🤷♀️
I did in the beginning haha
You in fact didn’t introduce her! And the sound is bad!
Yes this! lol who is she
Agree who is she, and the audio is very echoey
@@SimplyMander just fyi, I re-watched and she was never introduced. No worries! I just have no idea who she is 😊
More please!
This is super vulnerable appreciate you sharing ❤
The audio on this video was so bad 😭
I know I fixed it on the next ;)
The Evangelicals are really on one - yesss 😂
Wow all women are not gay. Keep trying to convince yourself
Religion is not the same thing as belief. So yes I think religious people are ruining everything that is true to belief and faith
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EVEEEEE
Dude you’ve lost me.
Why?
@@laurenh1928 follow her for fitness inspiration and not this. Irrelevant to me
Okay so don't watch it :)
As a follower from the last 5 years I think this may be my favorite Monday with Manders yet! 🫶
OOOHHHH thank you!!!!
I totally agree on women pull the trigger and get judged. I was married for 6 years, and it was the most stressful thing. Being with someone who gas lights you constantly and has no initiative to help or change their faults. I started to doubt or think I was the issue. However, after therapy and self reflection, I said screw it, no amount of money will stop me from being happy 🥰🥰🥰. Best decision I EVER made!!!
Right...Guys will stay in these situations because it benefits them. They have no intention of changing. All the best to you.
Ohhh i needed to see this today. Thank you guys for sharing
I absolutely loved this - but a little feedback, I am not sure if there is anything you can do about the echo, but i think at times where you were both talking, it was hard for me to catch - or the echo is just a lot.
I know! I noticed that too honestly and I need to get a different mic. I'll make sure it's fixed next sit down!
Manders I get it! Why go out when you can stay in with a good book and cuddle with your dog(s)! 😆
Delulu!!!! I love that word and am going to use it. I’ve been married twice and use both as life lessons that made me who I am today. I’m so glad I found this channel!! Health, fitness and girl talk are what I’ve been missing!!
Oh no! What happened!? 😢 ((haven’t watched video yet))
Thanks for this!! I am 42, recently divorced. I fell in love with my training partner while still married. The relationship made me think about my marriage and the things I wanted for myself and didn’t have. Spending the rest of my life alone in a dead relationship wasn’t it. Now I am out of it, with an amazing caring man and so much happier! I am so glad I left for my own sake. I can see now from the outside just how bad it was. I am so much freer and supported now. Thank you again for sharing!
No. We never had contact until it was over.
Love this ❤
The people want more of this Manders
YESSS QUEENS
I feel like everyone was so invested about her love story, it’s crazy just like a movie moving across the country and all of that for nothing. I blame feminism lol
Yeah how else was I supposed to know he was a slob, had horrible hygiene and that his mom did everything for him unless I moved there? i blame the PATRIARCHY.