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How To Make The Most Of Painful Events
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ส.ค. 2024
- When something painful happens, do you know how to grow from it in a way that makes you happier and prevents this type of event from repeating?
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Noah Elkrief: I'm GRATEFUL FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART that YOU RUN this channel on TH-cam.
Amazing. I realized I always watch youtube videos on 1.5x speed (including yours). I’ve just realized that I’ve been impatient all day long. It’s like I can’t rest and slow down. From now on I’m not watching videos on a faster speed and I’m gonna look to see why I do this. Thank you for the inspiration Noah
1.25 is a better option. Especially for this kind of video.
Noah! Your words always come at the perfect time. There is so much pain for so many people right now, and it is so comforting to consider these events are learning and growing opportunities. Thank you so much for your wisdom and love. Wishing you happiness and peace, and sending out so much love to this beautiful community.
It's very painful when your pain causes you to hurt people you love, it brings so much confusion like "I'm not being myself, I'm acting in a way I'd never allow people to do to me". It also brings guilt, heavy guilt and hopelessness when you see your personality leading you to a person you don't wanna be and that you actually sort of hate. I've been so defensive, when I know I don't need to, It seams like I just can't help it, even being painfully conscious of it all. God have mercy of my good, heavy, hurt and guilty soul.
I wanna change this path, and I wanna it desperately.
You interestingly said that we'd probably deny or have trouble when facing this particular event our mind will project to us. True.
The last 2-3 days I've had so many realizations about my last relationship. It all came like a big wave for me: his manipulation, lies, blame, gaslighting, red flags... Facing this is so scary. All the flashbacks, where I thought I'm paranoid but my intuition told me so many things are not right... but of course, he appeared "perfect" so I was crazy, right?
Perfect timing, Noah.
Your videos are helping me get through life.
This is such a breakthrough.. trauma from the past.. ty Noah!
Very encouraging video. It makes me feel like I am able to figure out my pain, if I just spend time and listen to what my body has to say
Noah Elkrief: this is SOO IMPORTANT for me!
Get Well Soon Noah.
I love you Noah! Your so funny and you make me feel so much better when I hear you💓🌷 God bless you🌈
Thank you Noah. Glad your ok. Again your video's are much appreciated.
So glad he is ok also!
Noah, that part where you talked about how your trauma attracts situations to you... it makes so much sense. I think you should make a whole video on it because it's so important. People are out here repeating their traumas over and over, blaming everyone else and never looking inside, doomed to continue to repeat the same story. Thanks for this video.
@Hello World, 🤔 yes, let's talk about trauma, say, WW2 ?
@@ll5584 I'm not sure what you mean to tell me by bringing up WW2, but here's a personal anecdote for what Noah's talking about. As a child I grew up around people who constantly dismissed what I said, always having my opinion written off because I was seen as nothing but a dumb child, and I took that energy as a statement of my worth. As an adult now I always felt hesitant to state my opinion in a group situation in fear of being dismissed for being some crazy nut again. Any scenario that reminded me of this feeling of being dismissed triggered that deep pain in me. Looking back in my life, I see how I kept running into people who would treat me that way, and I feel this is one example of many of how trauma will keep attracting people who will trigger it in you, or situations like Noah's, to point it out to you until it's addressed.
@@coomartist I was being sarcastic. I am sorry for everything you have been through.
@@ll5584 Not at all, everyone's been through tough times. I'm sure you've been through a lot too
I’m glad you’re okay noah, thank you for sharing more wisdom. I feel that I have a completely different perspective now on painful events and feel more comfortable about dealing with fears in the future. Sending you peace and happiness. Stay safe.
Spot on! Something very similar happened to me last week. I almost got in a situation where i would've met a person who caused my anxiety a while ago.
For some moments i felt like i was living the past all over again but i sat with that fear. Next thing i know my anxiety and ocd almost vanished completely. I felt so much lighter, peaceful and safe.
Glad to know that you are alright dear, get well soon ❤
I felt something like that 2017 when I slipped from stairs and almost broke my lower spine. Luckily I was able to walk the Same day but spent about a month on bed during recovery. Since lockdown had to spend time in homè and not going out and having free time for over thinking , I get doubtful and worrying thoughts about my health and body.
Hope that I can get the confidence back
Thank you for this Noah! Hope you have a blessed day
I was just wondering when a new upload from you would be available, and I started thinking that maybe you weren’t ok, and then BAM.... this video gets posted.
Thank you for this insight. It brought up some unresolved painful moments I have experienced that I definitely need to work through.
Glad you weren’t terribly hurt surfing.
A Teal Swan process! Love how you put everything together Noah, been following you for years. Thank you for helping my life.
Thank you very much for your explanation about repeating the events and how it works in our system
When I broke my wrist in two places Noah that was a painful event in my life, but I still have full use of my right wrist.
Another painful event in my life was when my grandpa Harry died of Liver Cancer in 1993 but I know he’s in a better place now.
This event showed me to watch my footing when I walk.
Happy to see you back Noah. Will you be doing daily uploads again? If you still have plans for the relationship series, could you do one on feeling jealousy/defensive/territorial over our partner?
Great idea!
thank you sir.this is very usefull to me
Thank you. God bless you.
Love this video. So useful. Namaste 🙏 💞💎🌹🌈🌿🌸🌠😘🌱🏞️🌻
Great video!
After you encounter and recognize these emotions within you, you keep saying you release them. How do you go about releasing them?
Thank you so much for this content.
Very helpful insights
I do recognize this. I see a pattern with girls. Everytime I meet a new girl and she showed me her interest and flirting with me something happens so I don't see her ever again. This hurts me. But i don't know what to do.
How have you changed your perspectives on death & grief? I can’t find any life event that approaches the pain of losing my husband of 44+ years - we had been together since 14 & 16. I agree with how we tell the story that you gave before your new growth, but how to avoid confusing the concept of thinking that someone’s death happens so we can learn something vs the reality of a loved one died & we have to figure out how to go forward & live the best we can which involves learning from necessity of the situation.
Hi Linda, I'm sorry to hear about your husband. My perspective has definitely shifted since I made that video. I can't imagine how painful it must be to lose someone you've loved and been with for so long. For me, the process involves allowing myself to feel the sharp pain in my heart of losing them from my life. Secondly, exploring on the soul level, why would I want to experience something so painful in this life. Thirdly, I would connect to the soul of my partner in order to feel/know/experience that while their form is no longer here, he still exists and we can still be connected. I hope that helps.
@@NoahElkrief It was exceedingly kind of you to reply - thank you. First thing in the morning, I journal and read thoughts from others about grief. Grieving my husband even six months+ out, I believe the first and most important thing I do every day is give my sadness and grief space to be. I agree with as a family member said they are apparently observing me do - confronting the pain of my loss - I have to incorporate it into myself as well as adapting to not having my husband with me any more. When we were in our early dating years, my husband told me once that he believed we'd known each other in another life; we just immediately connected as if we'd been friends forever. A few days before my husband died, I was kidding him about that - that he was interested in something else - he said profusely, no, he really believed that. Interesting question on my soul level - why would I want to experience this pain - my Dad asked me a couple of days before he died - was it worth it - meaning was love worth the pain we were feeling knowing that Dad was leaving the earth. It was totally worth it - what is life without love? We cannot live without love as human beings and that has been proven many times over. We cannot live without love, but we can live with grief. If we couldn't live with grief, then our species would never have made it this far. I would always choose love and welcome the pain as a statement of fully participating in life and loving others. I am hoping that eventually I will feel connected to my husband in this new situation, but I am still so flat and lacking in much emotion, that I am struggling to feel anything other than random intense sadness. I particularly love your second question on the soul and why. Thank you so much.
Danke Noah! 💙💚
I'm in a lot of pain right now... Crying out loud, why am I not good enough... About to lose my only friends, they are all online acquaintances... I've hit rock bottom like this so so many times and I do everything I can to figure out how not to lose the next ones I "run into"... It hurts like absolute hell but I have no clue how to mend, fix or just be better next time... I'm in my 30s and just... I just feel so useless.
I really relate to feeling useless too. I base my healing off this idea that all I ever need is to feel loved and worthy of love; if I feel useless, the question to ask isn't "why am I so useless", but why do I feel like being useless is a bad thing? Why does it hurt so *personally*? The answer seems obvious at first, but chances are there's some deep personal memory/emotional wound that needs tending to.
@@coomartist You are absolutely right, and thank you for such a kind and well thought out answer
Thank you!
I feel like my ex-girlfriend Tracci doesn’t cate how I feel and doesn’t want to have a relationship with me so I’m going to move on without her.
The drama feels always the same panic and fear.
Hi Noah :)) ..... oh yes , it could be really fun ☺ You felt like you " had " to make a video about it right ? It's a very good one 🍃🍃 Thanks, take care :)
What? So you mean if we have a fear inside of us beacuse of earlier experiance. We are going to attract the experiance again so that we ”learn” and dont have the fear again? That sounds like law of attraction
Lol 😆 I was thinking the same thing but it more like the situation happens again because you haven’t learnt to deal with it for e.g I’ve alway get challenging ppl at my work that I don’t get along with they are very negative depressed manipulative ppl that have nothing to lose and they take out there anger on me because I won’t do anything and if I did I would be the one losing my job I would look like the bad guy these ppl come and go but when they finally all gone there another one taking it place. I can’t win dude it must be a test. I have fear of losing my job, fear of giving in to asshole who only want to see you fail. If only they would leave me alone resilience is the key but that at times it get weak just need to stay strong 💪
I’m not a surfer Noah because I think it’s unsafe.
I have the past which I don't even how to let go straggling
please help how to let go I was wrongly false accused and that pain inside it has damage my body it's like I have poison in me
I don’t get this.
I would have gone to urgent care immediately.
Wow 🙏
I knew something happened what an idiot 😂 but it's good to see you back on the waves 😂 What level are you, 2 ? ( i'm comp. L4) Oh wow i would have made a 3D video of you if I was there! so you can remember that forever, cool ! And here you go with the laugh again 😂 mate, serious, you could've died that's no fun at all 👍🏻👍🏻
What does releasing look like?
Like torture 😢... ...☺
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