You gain weight “why are you so big now” You lose weight “You looked better when you were thicker” You will never win, until you decide to appreciate yourself
I love how comfortable and free Foyin was and how both of you engaged so beautifully in this conversation. This is such a sensitive topic, we need to have the “body image” chats more & more especially in the African community. For the longest time, as young girls we’re taught that having a certain body type means you fit in society’s standard of beauty. Teaching young girls these conversations from a young age is so empowering. Loved this.🤍
I'm still very insecure about my body but I believe in the concept of radical self acceptance because I may not think my body is beautiful but it is valid and I don't think any further emphasis should be put on our bodies in order for us to feel worth it.
I remember a family member asking me; who is going to marry me when I look like a Bus? This was at least 5 years ago, and I can still hear her voice, saying that word for word.🥲
When this video dropped, I hated my body so much. 2 years later and there's nothing you can tell me about my body that will make me hate my body. You will forever be famous for this ❤️❤️❤️
First time commenting on a youtube video. Only because I feel so heard and understood. I relate so much ladies. I'm a fat black girl and this video is so affirming and validating. Thank you Ngenge
this could not have been uploaded at any other time. earlier this week i came across a picture of myself that i took in january 2019 and when i came across of a picture i took at the end of the same year, i realised how much weight i had gained (close to double my january weight) and the most painful thing that came with the weight gain was how my family used to body shame me but i honestly loved myself more at that time. now with my mental health being a contributing factor to my fluctuating weight i find myself not liking my body when my body weight decreases and my mom and aunt always have something to say about my body when i gain, usually ending up in me losing the comfort and confidence i recently developed, then i have to go back to teaching myself how to gain that confidence and comfort all over again. loving my body has been the most difficult thing ever because of the amount of body shaming i received throughout highschool but it is a journey that i will never give up on. it has its ups and downs but they are all worth it.
Genetics play a huge role in our body structures. I used to fuss over having a small waist and a big bottom and maaaaan no one in my family is built like that.
You Guys are changing the whole culture!!! Breaking generational curses of women hating their own bodies. That was a great start to the women's month😭😭😭
I got hit quite hectically by "first year spread" but I was so 2 ways about it - I loved my new curvier body but also hated it when I looked at my HS pictures, and realising that actually I wasn't THAT big to begin with, Then in final year I gained more weight, then realised that my first year body wasn't even that bad :'). KUBI!! Now, I'm just trying to be. But most of my negative thoughts/perceptions about my body are fuelled by comments f rom family. The thing of layering/trying hard to cover your body sometimes causes more stares because now, people might be looking at you on some "now why is she wearing a turtleneck and jeans to the beach?". So just LIVE! Those who have anything negative to say must just shut up and stop projecting
I’ve literally hated my body my whole life and then I had a child.. which has introduced me to a whole new body and girl Im no longer in the industry of hating myself... I’m now literally 10000 steps away from my goal body but this is what it is, I’ve accepted every flaw
I cried while watching this video because I am trying to lose weight because of self hate and people constantly commenting about how much I’ve gained weight. 💔💔💔💔
Wow!!!!!! My mind's soooo blown right now. And I totally agree with Foyin, you might never love it, but you learn to live with it and in it. I feel like I'm still on this long journey of really just living in it, but I'm grateful that the journey started. Wow, thanks guys!!!! Lots of love from Uganda 💕💕💕💕
This message truly needs to be broadcasted from the roofs 🔥 absolutely loved this video and your inputs especially about body positivity and body neutrality 👏🏾
I honestly wish someone was there to tell me that growing into your body is a process. They should be teaching girls in school the honest truth. They only talk about the beginning and end, they don’t talk about what goes on in the middle of it. I’m 15 next month and it’s a daily struggle with my body. There are parts of it I love and parts of it I hate. I forget that I’m still growing into it and I’m never going to feel perfect. And the majority of it is just based on genetics. But of course this doesn’t stop people from picking apart each other’s bodies. It’s turned into a normal behavior and thinking about it just makes me so angry with society.
Love this video so much🥺❤️ body dysmorphia is really is something else hey. During my teens I was very petite and the way I hated my arms. I always felt like I need to wear some thing with long sleeves because I hated the way they were so thin😭 Funny enough when I started to gaining weight I hated my stomach😶. But I am glad I am slowly outgrowing the self hate thingy, I am falling in love more with myself and my body🙂🙂. Honestly self hate is a waste of time!!
Literally couldn't breathe while watching this video because it felt like Gugu and Foyin read my life 🙌 Thank you for this ladies. What a relevant and relatable video❤
YOH this videeeooo thoooouuuuugh 🤯 yeses! I needed to hear this. Acceptance breeds contentment. We really need to get a grip and live man. I actually CANNOT believe that I have fixated on changing what I can never change about my body for 14 years?! an entire Long-term self-hatred commitment bawo wam? Ngaze ngacommita umbhedo ngimncane 🙄
Everything y’all said?🎯🎯 Also, another thing that makes me feel a way about my body for the most part is this viewpoint that people have of Southern African girls having a certain body shape and I’m just here on flat flat😂 and like Khensani Mohlatlole said, “wait a month or a few centuries and you’ll be the hottest thing in town!”
how u look at urself is different to how people see u. e.g when u look at ur body u dont love/like ur body but someone might be wishing to look like u .Guys let's accept and love our bodies .
Also honourable mention of what your hormones will do to your body in your mid to late 20s (similar to adolescence all over again). You will change again 😂🤞🏽 I used to be a B cup size for the longest time, now I'm almost a DD cup 🤦🏽♀️.
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i wish mainstream body positivity focused less on “every body looks good” and more on “your body does not exist for the purpose of being looked at”
wheeeew !! speak on it !!
Very well articulated 👌
Yes! Yes! Yes! Right! Thank you!
That part!!!!
Body neutrality , yes yes
I’m 16 and not to put any pressure on you but you are raising me ( mentally and emotionally)😂🥺🥺I swear, thank you God for you ❤️
I totally agree hey, the amount of knowledge and advise this channel carries alone is insane. I apply so much what I learn here to my daily life
girl same , im 16 & she's teaching me stuff my mom failed to teach me
Dude ! Tell me about it
You gain weight “why are you so big now”
You lose weight “You looked better when you were thicker”
You will never win, until you decide to appreciate yourself
Ngyakchazela
thank you so much for having me 🥺
I love how comfortable and free Foyin was and how both of you engaged so beautifully in this conversation. This is such a sensitive topic, we need to have the “body image” chats more & more especially in the African community.
For the longest time, as young girls we’re taught that having a certain body type means you fit in society’s standard of beauty. Teaching young girls these conversations from a young age is so empowering. Loved this.🤍
Learning how to love my body has been a looong journey
I'm still very insecure about my body but I believe in the concept of radical self acceptance because I may not think my body is beautiful but it is valid and I don't think any further emphasis should be put on our bodies in order for us to feel worth it.
I remember a family member asking me; who is going to marry me when I look like a Bus?
This was at least 5 years ago, and I can still hear her voice, saying that word for word.🥲
When this video dropped, I hated my body so much. 2 years later and there's nothing you can tell me about my body that will make me hate my body. You will forever be famous for this ❤️❤️❤️
I think you should start a podcast and it should be exactly like the videos cause some of us can't always watch the videos.
Just a suggestion
She did say that she’s starting a podcast soon, she even said she’s got some equipment now 🤍
First time commenting on a youtube video. Only because I feel so heard and understood. I relate so much ladies. I'm a fat black girl and this video is so affirming and validating. Thank you Ngenge
this could not have been uploaded at any other time. earlier this week i came across a picture of myself that i took in january 2019 and when i came across of a picture i took at the end of the same year, i realised how much weight i had gained (close to double my january weight) and the most painful thing that came with the weight gain was how my family used to body shame me but i honestly loved myself more at that time. now with my mental health being a contributing factor to my fluctuating weight i find myself not liking my body when my body weight decreases and my mom and aunt always have something to say about my body when i gain, usually ending up in me losing the comfort and confidence i recently developed, then i have to go back to teaching myself how to gain that confidence and comfort all over again.
loving my body has been the most difficult thing ever because of the amount of body shaming i received throughout highschool but it is a journey that i will never give up on. it has its ups and downs but they are all worth it.
I really enjoyed this video - Foyin has such insightful views, i love it. I wish this video was longer.
thank you!!
Genetics play a huge role in our body structures. I used to fuss over having a small waist and a big bottom and maaaaan no one in my family is built like that.
the scream i just let out! my two favs yasss😭🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾
You Guys are changing the whole culture!!! Breaking generational curses of women hating their own bodies. That was a great start to the women's month😭😭😭
NOT FEELING BLACK ENOUGH IN YOUR OWN BODY!!! lawwwwd how i have struggled, thank you for touching on this!
I got hit quite hectically by "first year spread" but I was so 2 ways about it - I loved my new curvier body but also hated it when I looked at my HS pictures, and realising that actually I wasn't THAT big to begin with, Then in final year I gained more weight, then realised that my first year body wasn't even that bad :'). KUBI!! Now, I'm just trying to be. But most of my negative thoughts/perceptions about my body are fuelled by comments f rom family.
The thing of layering/trying hard to cover your body sometimes causes more stares because now, people might be looking at you on some "now why is she wearing a turtleneck and jeans to the beach?". So just LIVE! Those who have anything negative to say must just shut up and stop projecting
I’ve literally hated my body my whole life and then I had a child.. which has introduced me to a whole new body and girl Im no longer in the industry of hating myself... I’m now literally 10000 steps away from my goal body but this is what it is, I’ve accepted every flaw
I really love how uSis G.U is so relatable 😭❤️❤️
I cried while watching this video because I am trying to lose weight because of self hate and people constantly commenting about how much I’ve gained weight. 💔💔💔💔
YOHHH The early 2000's was crazy. I would have not survived if I was a teen or adult in the early 2000's
Why can we not like more than once? TH-cam, please!!!😭❤️❤️❤️
"There's nothing wrong with what you look like" 🥺👏🏾❤
Wow!!!!!! My mind's soooo blown right now. And I totally agree with Foyin, you might never love it, but you learn to live with it and in it. I feel like I'm still on this long journey of really just living in it, but I'm grateful that the journey started. Wow, thanks guys!!!! Lots of love from Uganda 💕💕💕💕
" I don't want to start my TH-cam channel because i don't want people to meet me like this" 😪😪😪This has been my excuse for over a year now
This message truly needs to be broadcasted from the roofs 🔥 absolutely loved this video and your inputs especially about body positivity and body neutrality 👏🏾
This conversation? Gold!!💛
30 seconds into the video and can I just say, both of y'all are stunning🤲🏾✨
Notification gang 😍
Such relatable content 👌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I honestly wish someone was there to tell me that growing into your body is a process. They should be teaching girls in school the honest truth. They only talk about the beginning and end, they don’t talk about what goes on in the middle of it. I’m 15 next month and it’s a daily struggle with my body. There are parts of it I love and parts of it I hate. I forget that I’m still growing into it and I’m never going to feel perfect. And the majority of it is just based on genetics. But of course this doesn’t stop people from picking apart each other’s bodies. It’s turned into a normal behavior and thinking about it just makes me so angry with society.
Powerful chats !!
This conversation is beautiful ❤️
2:18 is speaking to my soul!! 🥺🥺🥺 I bought an outfit 10 months ago that I've never even worn because I don't think I look good in it
It's like you read minds😭😭your timing?🤝🏾🤝🏾
True, if you’re not doing it for the right reason, the goal post will always shift and you’ll never feel “enough”
Notification gang is already in the building ✨😭
Love this video so much🥺❤️ body dysmorphia is really is something else hey. During my teens I was very petite and the way I hated my arms. I always felt like I need to wear some thing with long sleeves because I hated the way they were so thin😭 Funny enough when I started to gaining weight I hated my stomach😶. But I am glad I am slowly outgrowing the self hate thingy, I am falling in love more with myself and my body🙂🙂. Honestly self hate is a waste of time!!
this entire video is relatable!
More people need to have this conversation and normalizing all body shapes being accepted. Loveeeeed this!!!🥺💐💞💞
NOTIFICATION GANG
I can’t express how grateful I am for this video🥺😍...I learnt so much🥂💃🏽😍
i love this video so much. i watch it atleast once a week
Foyin, please start a podcast!!!!!!
😅😅😅
I second this😍😍
its the great timing for me, i was literally stuck in my own thoughts about my weight and this video helped me a lot
thank you
This conversation was very much needed ❤❤
I'm currently 19 and I have hectic insecurities my worst fear is looking back and realizing I was actually perfectly fine
The person who does your hair though 😍😍like everytime
this convo came right on time for summer ☺️☺️☺️☺️
Thank you for this it goes deeper than you realise
Literally couldn't breathe while watching this video because it felt like Gugu and Foyin read my life 🙌 Thank you for this ladies. What a relevant and relatable video❤
YOH this videeeooo thoooouuuuugh 🤯 yeses! I needed to hear this. Acceptance breeds contentment. We really need to get a grip and live man. I actually CANNOT believe that I have fixated on changing what I can never change about my body for 14 years?! an entire Long-term self-hatred commitment bawo wam? Ngaze ngacommita umbhedo ngimncane 🙄
Thank you so much for this much needed topic 💝
Everything y’all said?🎯🎯 Also, another thing that makes me feel a way about my body for the most part is this viewpoint that people have of Southern African girls having a certain body shape and I’m just here on flat flat😂 and like Khensani Mohlatlole said, “wait a month or a few centuries and you’ll be the hottest thing in town!”
Really needed this. Yall are really uplifting the youth. Thank you so much!
love this! especially because its coming from women who look like me! thank you!
What’s a Sunday without a notification from my fave ? Sis GU ! 🤩
What an important conversation, thank you ladies for sharing and for your honesty❤️
SPEAK THE TRUTH LADIES🙌🙌🙌🙌
Absolutely loved the honesty on this episode😍
I- 🥲🥺🤧..Thank you for being relatable and for seeing us..❤❤❤
Y’all are preaching 😤
Talk about perfect timing 🤌🏿
I love you girls period! Y'all are my friends now😂💞
how u look at urself is different to how people see u. e.g when u look at ur body u dont love/like ur body but someone might be wishing to look like u .Guys let's accept and love our bodies .
THIS IS CONTENT!!!!!!!!!!!
THE GWOOOORLS
Sho Genge!! We love it here at Sis GU's house😇😇😇❤️❤️❤️❤️
really enjoying this conversation my goodness!
Omw, I loved this
This video is saving me❤️❤️🤞🏾Thank you so much
It’s like y’all knew that I needed this video❤️
Thank you🕊🙏🏾
this video is so wholesome, you guys are precious
Defiantly the sign i needed. Thanks guys.
This one !!! I’m also in denial but loved this video !!👏🏽👏🏽
This video was speaking to me and wow 🥺❤️!
We got the sign thank you ❤❤
Enjoyed this so much! Learning to love my body in its entirety!
Thank you guys for talking about this.
Thee message is everything😢😢❤
Thank y'all sm😭
this video deserves to be on tv coz wow!!! thank you so much for this uncomfortable conversation...
Thank you so much for this,,, I feel like you guys said it at the right time. So thanks for bringing back my self love .... I love you
"giving Wendy Williams" I died. nice vid. it helped.
Looking beautiful as always sis G.U ❤️😭😭
The conversation is flowing my 2 favorite people 🥰🥰🥰foyin , gugu love girls
🤎
" I don't want to be my 20 year old self, she looks creepy " 🤣🤣😅
Loved this ❤️The ghels be tallkkkinnnn. This conversation is so important man. This duo is so it for me❤️
"Where do you guys want us?"😭😂😂
Same sis
Yesssssss!!! 🎯
This was definitely the sign I needed!
This video 😩🙌
Thank you Gugu and Foyin ❤️
Also honourable mention of what your hormones will do to your body in your mid to late 20s (similar to adolescence all over again). You will change again 😂🤞🏽 I used to be a B cup size for the longest time, now I'm almost a DD cup 🤦🏽♀️.
also... you're sooo close to hitting 60k!! :)
this was such a beautiful video ❤️
i absolutely love this
I love this video so much❤️❤️
I absolutely love you guys😍😍😍
Factssssssss i didnt recogniseeeee 😕❤worrdddddd right there
This was a beautiful video.