This is really fascinating! In most people catamenial epistaxis (nose bleeds near menses) is due to hormonal changes, but there are rare instances of nasal endometriosis causing it as well!!
@@MamaDoctorJones worse, I had a patient who had a pneumothorax from endometriosis- four times before it was confirmed (even though I as a simple GP suggested there might be a causation after the second instance) - the third surgeon missed it despite being told because even though the lung usually collapses cranial, the endometriosis is usually directly at the diaphragm - so caudal.
The only way my OBGYN was able to diagnose me with it without having surgery is that my belly button started bleeding. I had to basically go home from school on my first day of my period every time because the pain was so debilitating and because it made me vomit. They still don’t want to do surgery on me because I am young (I am 24).
Reminds me of that one mystery diagnosis episode where this woman would get extreme bone pain in her femur to the point where it was completely debilitating, and had some other symptoms too, turns out the endo had migrated to her bone marrow and every time she had her period her bones would bleed.
They told my mom she had a tumor. They sent her to an oncologist. She went in and the dr asked her what her symptoms were. My mom said “I thought I was pregnant, but they said I’m not and it’s a tumor.” The dr did a physical exam and the baby moved. He said “I’ll say you’re pregnant.” One month or so later I was born. This was in 1976. For years my siblings nicknamed me “tumor”.
I’m a 24-year-old woman with cerebral palsy, and I just want to thank you for how kind you were in this video. I was about ready to start screaming at the TV, both for victim-blaming the mother, but also for portraying cerebral palsy as some horrible disease. Don’t get me wrong, it can be hard. I use a wheelchair and a lot of the world is inaccessible. But to any parents or kids with CP who are reading this most of the hardship comes because the world is not made for people of all abilities to thrive and people can be jerks. if we take the time to really give people the support that they need, life can be really beautiful, even if it looks different. MDJ, if you would ever be interested in interviewing someone about their experiences with a physical disability and reproductive health care, I have lots of stories that I feel could be beneficial .
As someone who has serious disabilities I'd say that so many problems come from a lack of understanding and fear- that makes people behave like jerks in reaction. Oh for an educated world sigh... And tell your stories! That'd be a great start 😊💜
YES!! As someone with Cerebral Palsy in a wheelchair myself, I was just like, WHAT?! AND THEN THE BABY DIDN'T EVEN HAVE CEREBRAL PALSY?? I was born at 30 weeks, which likely resulted in the brain damage that caused my CP. My mom had two really difficult pregnancies (a stillbirth at 8months a year before I was due), but I have NEVER heard of lack of prenatal care being related to brain damage...
I’ve started telling myself “i did the best i could with the information I had” even about things not related to pregnancy, it’s made it easier to be kinder to myself, so thank you MDJ ❤️
The "you never know" bit at the end almost has me running to get a pregnancy test... I'm a 36 year old lesbian with PCOS and I'm on the pill. I'm not pregnant. But when MDJ says it in that voice... I feel like I need to be sure 🤣
@@MamaDoctorJones Haha this has made me paranoid too!😂 When I was with my ex boyfriend one time my period seemed to come later than usual and I was having irrational thoughts about being pregnant. We NEVER had sex though!😂
Wasn't it last video I said "I wish they'd show something other than a "normal" outcome"? I TAKE IT BACK, i TAKE IT BACK!!! I have cerebral palsy (likely due to premature birth and a prolapsed cord) and seeing my disability described as parents' "worst fear", and then turned around in a "gotcha" moment where it's like "SURPRISE! SHE DOESN'T ACTUALLY HAVE CP!" makes me feel actually physically ill. My life is not a bogeyman. MDJ, good on you for pointing out the inaccuracy (for those of you who don't know, CP is caused by brain damage before or shortly after birth) and emphasizing that you can still live a very full, happy life with CP. I'm 30 years old, and while having CP can be difficult at times, especially with the lack of knowledge among the medical profession about adults with CP, it is a fundamental part of who I am. If you ever want someone on the channel to talk about CP, especially to clear up some of the misconceptions in this awful IDKIWP episode...hit me up! :)
I don't personally know anyone with CP, but even I was confused at that part - why were they acting like it was some fatal condition? As far as I know, CP generally just affects mobility and sometimes speech and many people with the condition live fairly "normal" lives. My main source of knowledge about CP is the comedian Rosie Jones, so I accept that my perception may not be 100% medically accurate. However, their reaction was definitely a bit melodramatic.
I relate as an autistic person who constantly sees autism portrayed as a curse that tears families apart. My disability is not something to be terrified of
Exactly! My father had a first cousin born with CP in the 1940s. She has had a full and productive normal life. She was a twin that had her brother’s cord wrapped around her neck at birth. He was born first and it deprived her of oxygen as the cord was pulled tighter as he was born. She married. She had 3 healthy children. I met her when I was 10. After that she was always a hero of mine.
Thank you for speaking from the pov of someone with CP specibically. It hurt me as a person blind since very young, even though I understand a parent doesn't want their child to have to deal with the struggles. My parents tell me they're response to my diagnosis was fear and anger, mostly because it was a gut reaction to something new and also because they knew it would alter my life in ways they didn't yet understand. But they never thought I was less or a burden and reactions as extreme as this portrays are a bit hard to see.
In the "you never know" vein.... We have a famous family story about my great grandmother (born in 1895). In her late 30s (so it would have been the 1930s) she made an appointment with her doctor because she was pretty certain she was pregnant. The doctor told her she's "too old to be pregnant" and it's just a tumor. She got on the bus to go home felt something odd, had a flash of insight, got off at the next stop, marched back to the doctor's office and said "The tumor just MOVED!" She was incensed. Yeah, that was my Great Uncle.
My great-grandmother had a baby at 44. It must've happened frequently enough! Weird that a doctor would say that. (Not that I'd want one now at almost 46. Jeez, I'm tired enough!)
My great great grandmother had my great grandmother at 46. Idk when exactly she realized she was pregnant, but it must've been late in the pregnancy because family story goes, when she was born, they still hadn't thought of a name so my great grandmother ended up being named Augusta, after her brother Auguste They also made another brother her godfather, as he was 25 years older than her.
I got pregnant at 34 with my third baby. My other two kids were born when I was in my 20's. My husband and I had unsafe sex ONCE, and I didn't think I was gonna get pregnant because of my age; at least not so easily. Well I was wrong. My little girl will be 2 in October❤
You trying to explain, essentially, 'don't be ableist' is exactly how hard it is to explain. Of course if you hear as a parent your child might have a disability, you're relieved when you hear they don't. But having a disability doesn't make us 'lesser' or 'broken', and with the right accommodation there are often still a ton of possibilities. (Getting those accommodations is a bit of a problem usually, but if they WERE there, there would often still be a ton of possibilities).
Exactly! Everyone needs accommodations. Some accommodations are normalized (a car/transportation to get to work, phone for communication, clothes to protect from elements, etc) and other accommodations are stigmatized by institutionalized ableism... like TTY, mobility devices, communication devices, etc. I get so angry with people who tell me "you are so high functioning, I didn't realize you were " because they have completely missed the entire point!
@@THandP_org Ohhhh do I know that feeling with the "you're so high functioning" thing. I'm so tired of hearing people comment or be surprised on the days that I do have to use my mobility aid to walk just because I'm 30yo (been using a cane for like 3 years now). I'm not "too young to be having problems." Shit happens.
@@THandP_org I’m autistic and get called “high functioning” sometimes and it pisses me off because they are only seeing a small snapshot of my life and don’t see the struggles I have or how much therapy and work it took for me to get where I am (in a neurodiversity affirming way, being comfortable with my autistic self, gaining confidence etc, NOT learning eye contact or other bullshit neurotypical expectations). I’m learning Australian sign language and my Deaf teacher taught us last week how 95% of Deaf babies are born to hearing parents and majority of doctors still push for medical interventions and advise AGAINST sign language, say the child will never get anywhere in life etc. It’s awful.
I just recalled something that a friend of my sister said once. She didn't have as long of a "I didn't know I was pregnant" moment, think she got like halfway before they noticed. But regardless, her mother was on her case about the pre-natal care she'd missed, and this still makes me laugh, but she said to her mom with a straight face "It's not my fault the little f-er didn't let me know it was in there". Her mom glared at me so hard during a bbq when I was told this story, because I was in tears, on the grass, laughing so much I got both hiccups and a cramp 😂
I'm not saying don't get prenatal care, but people act like prenatal care is an end all be all and if you miss it bad things are going to happen, which is not true. Most pregnancies will be perfectly fine, with and without prenatal care. The story is hilarious but the mother getting on her case is just awful.
@@AccidentallyOnPurpose I mean they don't even do that much. Wow you take vitamins and get checked on. I mean if you eat a varied diet and everything is going normally prenatal care is not going to change things that much.
All I did was take foliate, stop eating few foods and made sure I didn't drink not that I did very often anyway, then later take iron basically I wouldn't have change much but I knew because my child was planned
The "better than that other time of the month" made me think "wait... when WAS my last period??".... I'm 36 weeks pregnant with a PLANNED pregnancy lmfao. So 36 weeks ago. Bahahaha pregnancy brain
I'm 33 weeks and I was wondering when I last had a period too... Which was over 4 years ago as I've had babies back to back with no periods! Hope you get to meet your baby soon!
I'm decidedly *not* pregnant and it has also been about 36 weeks since my last period. My partner and I are actively trying to create life, but it will not be carried in my body, so I don't know why it keeps occuring to me that I might be finally getting pregnant. My body/brain collaborations also tend to mess with me. 😂
“You might go into labor tomorrow” thanks for stoking this fear! 😅 I was having a gallbladder attack and was like “am I in labor?!” but I had to keep reminding myself that I’m a virgin, a lesbian and on birth control 😂😂😂
Hey if you are prone to gallbladder attacks you might want to get that looked at. I had the worst pain when I used to have gallbladder attacks and one attack was so bad I actually went to the ER and was told I was 72 hours away from total liver failure due to a blocked bile duct caused by my bad gallbladder which had to be removed immediately. Gallbladder pain is the absolute worst.
@@SavaFiend You are spot on - always wise to get it checked as it is very risky if you get a blockage! I too had severe attacks when I was only 22 years old and turned out I had a large stone blocking the cystic duct from my gall bladder. It's horrid pain!
@@SavaFiend I had it removed like 3 hrs later 😂 It was the first one and I had no idea what was going on. Obviously being pregnant was the first thing I was afraid of 😂😂
THANK YOU for talking about cerebral palsey in such an empathetic and kind way. As a disabled person my stomach was already starting to drop listening to where the show was going, but you swooped in and caught me mdj! the medical field is not always kind to us or remembers our autonomy, thank you for not forgetting us! this is the education i sub for :)
2 things I want to say 1) my cousin was diagnosed with endometriosis and PCOS after her son was born, she had an ovary removed, she was told she was basically infertile and didn't use any birth control after that. Cut to several years later, even after taking the morning after pill she got pregnant again, and then again, and then again! She has 4 kids in total. 2) I had a friend in high school who had cerebral palsy, when he was born his parents were told he might never walk and the way I knew him was because we ran track and cross country together. People are pretty amazing and can overcome the odds. That's all! Love these videos!
Right. 100%. There is more than one situation where the morning after pill (I have taken it twice myself and been lucky not to take it too late) is basically useless, and if you are still ovulating on the one ovary you could easily be more than fertile. Honestly, they should only tell patients who have a uterus and ovar(ies) and no infection scarring on their tubes that they MAY have fertility problems and if they want to try to have a baby only then they will find out whether that is the case and to what degree. This reminds me that when my uncle had a heart transplant, the average life expectancy after was 7 years. He made it nearly 20 and he also had skin cancer, which never metasticized. The heart was in good condition when he died, but he had been on the anti rejection meds so long his kidneys were failing and causing the other organs to fail. Many people probably hardly had much more life expectancy in any case who had transplants because many heart problems are associated with age, sedentary lifestyles. Obviously, statistics can only have so much bearing on you as an individual. My uncle was relatively young because we have a heart condition in my family that dilates the aorta (he was in his 30s) and it was not a continuous issue that may worsen again like congestive heart failure due to some chronic problem. It won't dilate the aorta again I think because it is not his tissue although it was his heart now. Also, his donor was only 18 years old and got into an accident, that is an almost impossibly young heart. He was really sick when he got his heart, not expected to make it another day, resuscitated several times, came out of surgery in a coma, but once he got it he was good as new. He never seemed sick when I knew him, even on (I think even daily) dialysis before the end of his life, he was always very fit and jovial. I imagine knowing exactly how lucky he was to be alive helped too. Thank you for the reminder that my loss was also such a blessing. He asked everyone to wear bright colors to the celebration of his life, where everyone was obviously still crying, but black was not allowed. It was hard to see him in the hospital in pain, though.
My aunt and uncle were told that my cousin would never be able to walk or have a full life, and about 3 decades later, he walks very well and he went on to Bible college! ❤
She was infertile. Okay, so people get this definition wrong ALL the time. Infertile doesn't mean you can't have kids. It means it is difficult to have kids. I know someone who's infertile, but has gotten pregnant 12 times. She's lost all of them. She's now adopted though.
My mother has had mild cerebral palsy since her traumatic birth. She has lived an amazing fulfilling life full of love. Her complications did nothing to deter her from having the life she wanted. Shes also one of the smartest people I know ;)
A few years ago I was rushed into emergency surgery for a cyst on my ovary and was diagnosed with endo. After a few surgeries my OBGYN told me “there’s a lot of scar tissue, you might be one of those few people who have difficulty having a baby. The chances of you falling pregnant naturally is very low. Give it a try for 6 months and then we can look at other options.” Six months later I rock up at the appointment six months pregnant 🎉 Now I’m pregnant with my second boy ❤
Congratulations on your second pregnancy and I hope the endo is being treated and under control. 🍀 I have endometriosis, too, but it was a "surprise" diagnosis during infertility treatment. I had no symptoms. Endo is a strange disease...
I had the opposite of an “I didn’t know I was pregnant” experience lol. When I was 18 I had severe bloating and constipation caused by IBS, and went into the hospital because I was in unbearable pain. The lady at the front asked me how many weeks I was, and I told her I wasn’t pregnant. She told me “well, you’re in for a shock” and sent us on our way. At ER triage, 2 nurses and a doctor told me I was on the wrong side of the hospital and tried to direct me to OB. They didn’t believe me until my urine sample came back negative. I get where they were coming from, but that was a tough night.
Lol I swear medical professionals are so annoying sometimes. In my early twenties I ended up in the ER twice because of stomach issues and both times they asked if I could be pregnant. A firm "No" was my answer both times but they still waited for the pregnancy test results. I know it's procedure but come on! I had never had sex, it really was impossible for me to be pregnant!!!!!
@@calypso8436 But did you really never have sex? 😉😉 We know what all those bad kids must be saying, you can tell us that you made a dumbass decision, it's ok! But seriously, why is everything an accusation in normal medicine, and in mental health, good treatment is considered beating the patient into submission? 😒 If it weren't constantly a beat down when I came in for help, maybe I'd tell you everything as soon as I entered the room, and you wouldn't have to double check if I am lying or hiding something for my mental stability due to my dysfunctional family. What a novel fucking concept. 🙄
Thank you for sharing what you did about cerebral palsy. An unhealthy baby is still a blessing. Health is a separate blessing not everyone gets. My baby girl had cerebral palsy, most likely from not breathing during her first 5 minutes of life. Her cerebral palsy limited her ability to use ASL; her deafness with the CP made communication an issue. Other medical issues took her from us too soon. While she was here, she was a happy little girl full of joy and love.
I am so glad you were able to make a decision that was good for you, your health and your family. What a beautiful blessing. How lucky your daughter was to be so loved.
your daughter sounded like an absolute delight to have, it’s beautiful she was even able to grace your lives in the first place, and that she got to have such an amazing family around her :D
Danielle, I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I hope you are able to find comfort and peace in the beauty of her existence that you've shown here by honoring her. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I am 30 and have had a total hysterectomy, bilateral salpingectomy and unilateral oophorectomy due to ovarian cancer and I swear I've heard you say it so often now that I still want to take a pregnancy test sometimes even though my chances of being pregnant are null lol
same! i'm past 50, have had tubes tied and unilateral oophorectomy (still have my uterus, though) - and i haven't had a period in like 3 months. it didn't even cross my mind to take a test because i've been so irregular over the last couple of years. also, TUBAL LIGATION and OOPHORECTOMY! i guess i do still have an egg or two in there that could sneak across the clip, but it would be super annoying.
A friend of mine recently had to talk herself out of being afraid that her late period meant that her girlfriend had knocked her up. I’m a virgin and I’ve had “Okay, but what if” moments. It’s both funny and infuriating.
@Jennifer Harris Well, it's not exactly the same... your chances a pretty slim but I have none. Like, my vagina leads nowhere, it is literally surgically closed at the top. No connection posssible between my remaining ovary and my vagina.
A cousin of mine had polio, and was told she could never have children. She and her fiancé thought GREAT no need to wait for the wedding! She got pregnant, and the doctors told her that it would take a miracle to carry the baby to term. Pregnancy and birth went just fine, but she was told by the doctor that this was absolutely a one-off, so not to expect to get lucky again... Three more babies later, she told the doctor she was done with miracles, and to please tie her tubes.
Umm......so my mom got pregnant 8 months after her tubes got tied.... It was an ectopic pregnancy and wasn't carried to term.....she told them to just remove her tubes....13 years later, she found out that they GREW BACK and she was indeed pregnant at 34....
@@jessicavigil9144 YUP. This can happen, especially if you just snip a bit, which is what they did back in the day. Now, they yeet the whole tube out unless the patient objects.
I actually was at my Dr appt for a hysterectomy consult (she even approved it, due to non responsive to standard treatments Endometriosis) when we found out I was preggo with my first kid from the routine pee test. 😅
I don't know the lady, but I overheard a pregnant mom at the 5 years old danse class. As she was preparing her own hospital bag - she's 6 weeks away now - she got the news that her sister, who had been complaining of stomach pains recently, showed up at the hospital and gave birth. This is the closest I've ever personally been to a true story of "I didn't know I was pregnant"! Now that lady is happy and kinda mock-annoyed that her sister stole the baby spotlight from her ahaha!
I just wonder if one day a TLC I didn’t know I was pregnant mother will say “oh well you do the best you can with the information you have” because she’d have seen MDJ’s videos
Nah. Because she would have taken a pregnancy test! (Well tbh this episode she wouldn't have because she did actually have medication that would prevent pregnancy, probably. But you get the point.)
Nah because it’s horrible advise to someone who has actually been in this situation. I say this as someone who was around someone who hid her pregnancy from everyone including the boyfriend, baby’s father, doctor, athletic trainer…everyone. I regret so much and I don’t even talk to that girl anymore but it haunts me to remember spotting her for max lifting at 8 months. One slip up from me and the kid wouldn’t have made it and I pushed her to go further than she thought she could go.
@ninjagirl226 but this isn't about someone who knows and is hiding it, its about someone who doesn't know. After the fact there's nothing you can do because you didn't know when it would have helped & so you do the best you can.
@@Teajay21 I’m just saying my perspective and I didn’t know. And me being ignorant of the situation does not change how much it haunts me and saying “you do your best with what you know” is honestly insulting. Because we SHOULD have known better. We SHOULD a have put it together because in hindsight it was obvious. Our inability to realize even cost people their jobs; that may sound minor now but to lose the track coach and athletic training staff mid year. They are in a better place now but that’s also something that happened. Like I said you can say that stuff all year day but until you are in that situation just shut up you aren’t helping.
I'm sitting here whenever I have a weird symptom or a late period like, "could... could I be pregnant??" No. Nope. Haven't slept with someone with the capability of getting me pregnant in like 3 years. But that little "you never know" bit GETS ME EVERY TIME
Something really similar happened with my mom with me!! She had really bad endo and had been trying unsuccessfully for about 7 years to get pregnant so she opted for a hysterectomy. She went in for her final pre-op exam and turns out I was a little fetus in there! Luckily she was only about 4 months along so there was still time for her to prepare and get pre-natal care. She then got pregnant with my sister 4 years later and wound up being pre-eclampic and needing an emergency c-section.
I think you wanted to say something like: While it's perfectly valid to celebrate your child not having a condition, a disability isn't automatically a tragedy. People can and do live happy, full, and fulfilling lives with a wide variety of disabilities.
Apparently on Call the Midwife they use premie babies (or dolls) to make them look a more realistic size for newborns. Other programmes apparently just grab the first baby they can find. 😆
@@B.H.56 What stock footage that perfectly fits the exact scene that they're trying to portray with all the right actors in? The shots in Call the Midwife are far too complex and sometimes specific for stock footage. For example, they often show particular birth defects or complications and unusual births like being born in the amniotic sack or in an awkward position. Even if for the actual head crowning, baby being born part they somehow found relevant stock footage, they'd still need to film with a baby or doll for the post birth scenes where other actors need to interact with them.
I love when the Doc comments on how old the actor playing the newborn baby really is. When my friends and I see a "newborn" on TV we say, "That baby already has teeth!" Or "That baby's almost ready for kindergarten!" It's funny and begs to be pointed out. Yes, I know not every show has the budget for realistic remote control prop dolls like Call the Midwife.
The fact that there are enough modern day cases of cryptic pregnancy to create a dramatised TLC show absolutely blows my mind. When are we getting "Take A Pregnancy Test" MDJ merch?
@@Nevertoleave There are not 8 billion people in America, where the show takes place, and where the same pregnancy test that is used at the doctor's office is available at the dollar store. The world population is not a good analogy for a show which exclusively takes place in the US.
@@AntediluvianRomance Wow....this makes me feel so old. I remember back when TLC stood for "The Learning Channel"...They really need to change their name to TDRC(The Drama Reality Channel)
I have Cerebral Palsy, and I am often floored about the carelessness in portraying it in media. Not to mention the blatant misinformation being spread around by those who are supposed to be health care professionals
@@MamaDoctorJones Oh gosh, I certainly didn't mean you :D So sorry it came across that way! Actually, seeing you get rightfully angry during this video felt very made me feel validated and safe, so thank you
Not so fun fact, about 10 years ago my mom had endometriosis in her lung that caused her lung to collapse every time she started her period. Took months for doctors to figure out what was going on! She no longer has a uterus so no more babies but she had 4 kids without even trying. Endo by no means 100% causes infertility.
Thank you for your comment about the loving acceptance of your child's condition. A close friend of mine was pregnant at the same time I was. We were both, ironically, given a high likelihood of Down Syndrome for each of our children. I was devastated and fearful, but my amniocentisis showed chromosomal normality. I was overjoyed. She went through that with me and then a few months later, her high risk also came in. Where we were given a 1 in 15 risk, she was given a 1 in 3. Her child has Down Syndrome. The result is her phenomenal, hilarious, kid who we all love just as much as my kid. Both kids are an absolute joy and her son kicked my son's butt on a whole host of developmental milestones. Also, now 7, he will swear in French (his second language) if you tick him off. 😆😆😆 So, yes. I've learned to celebrate my own child's great health and also learned that all children bring joy.
I wish you would do a video on the misleading sizes of babies in popular media. A very good friend had called me in tears, she was coming close to her due date and she had seen a movie where the "newborn" was somewhere closer to 6-9 months. She was horrified! It took ALL the baby pictures that were taken of my children within the first few days of birth, and explaining that they were on the larger side of "normal" newborn size. I couldn't help but think of the similarities while explaining to my daughter that she doesn't have to worry about high school kids, cause the people in the shows and movies are in their late 20's to 30's (which was a conversation we had a few days prior to my friend's attack of terror).
@@Claubuza It doesn't have to be an attempt to mislead, as you said, it sometimes can't be helped. I still believe a video on the actual sizes of most babies when they're born would be a really helpful tool for anxious mothers.
thank you for mentioning the part about cerebral palsy not being like an absolutely horrible life destroying thing that it’s portrayed as (as most disabilities are portrayed in media) it just makes me smile knowing that not everyone agrees with how disabilities are seen as in media
Thank you for recognizing the internalized ableism a lot of us have about being disabled or having a child who is. I think it’s so important that you called that out while also acknowledging the validity of people’s feelings about these things. There’s a lot of nuance to having a disability or a disabled child, and empathy is so important to that end. Most diagnoses aren’t the end of the world - they just shift the reality of the future someone pictured.
My mom has endometriosis in her lungs as well as all over her abdominal cavity. She tried to have surgery to try to help, but they were unable to remove most of it because of where it was located. It took her 6 years and a lot of help to be able to conceive and after I was born, she was told her chances of conceiving again even with help was incredibly small. If she wouldn’t have needed continuous birth control to manage her symptoms, I think my parents would have thrown caution to the wind and not used protection because they wanted to have another child so on the 1 in a million chance it happened, they would have been thrilled. But, they didn’t care how they had another one so they decided adoption was what was best for our family. And it truly was. My sister is an amazing young woman and I can’t imagine our family without her.
It would be awesome if you could make a video about endometriosis, adenomyosis, endometriomas etc. I know you may not be an expert of this condition but it may still help since you're so good at explaining these kinds of issues. Thanks!
Same, I would love a video on it too. I’m about to have a hysterectomy after years of suffering with this and terrified it will have been for nothing (won’t make me feel better)
Thank you so much for advocating for cerebral palsy and disabilities like that! So many doctors still view many disabilities like autism (which isn’t diagnosed at birth though), deafness, blindness, Down’s syndrome and MANY more, as “this child will never talk, never succeed in anything in life etc” and parents hear that and believe it as it came from a doctor. It’s ableist, and then many parents don’t try to teach skills because they believe it’s pointless.
My friend went into hospital for a D&C for endometriosis as she and her husband were trying to have a baby. During the surgery they discovered she was already pregnant. They gave her several pregnancy tests beforehand, including one just hours before the surgery. She hadn’t had a period for over 12 months. After the surgery she woke up and they told her that she was pregnant, but also that the chance of the baby surviving was close to zero. The next few months were so scary while they waited anxiously to find out if their (miracle) baby would survive. She gave birth to a healthy baby boy in this January, she had no complications.
Thank you for sharing that cerebral palsy is not always as devastating as people imagine. Some people I know with it have lived almost perfectly normal lives. It’s also helpful that you express that lack of prenatal care doesn’t cause it and is not the mother’s fault in this case.
I love you adding the part about people with cerebral palsy being able to lead good lives. I agree. I think the part of them crying in joy that their kid doesn't have CP almost makes it seem like they would have been devastated and almost disappointed about their child if she'd turned out to have CP. CP will cause more challenges, and I know everyone wants health for their kids, but a medical diagnosis shouldn't be a DISAPPOINTENT. Just something to keep in mind, study up on, and navigate through parenthood with.
I love what you said about cerebral paulsy! My sister inhaled the amniotic fluid during labor and was born dead. We got extremely lucky that the hospital she was in had the only machine on the entire west coast (still in testing at the time, almost 30 years ago) that could save her life. She has severe cerebral paulsy and is 100% dependent on us for everything, but we all love her to death! She is an absolute light in our lives! My parents take phenomenal care of her, and she is the healthiest one in the family.
My aunt was born with cerebral palsy and she is a fully functional 50+ yr old woman. She needs occasional breaks, but she has full use of her legs and arms. I've seen her struggle over the years but she never lets that get to her. Thank you for sticking up for cerebral palsy babies!
Thank you for informing people about CP. As a woman with CP, I have a master's degree, worked all my life, and raised two amazing adults. My CP happened at birth due to placenta previa and a delayed C-section. There are so many misconceptions about CP. I need a new PCP and one candidate refused me a pelvic exam because I have CP. One of my children was 9 lbs so this is ridiculous. Thank you again.
I am so thankful for the thoughtful, kind education you provide in these videos. I'm heading off to nursing school in a couple of months, and I have learned so much from your videos about what it means to be a compassionate healthcare provider.
I've never even heard 'you can't get pregnant with endo.' My grandmother had severe endometriosis and get pregnant once at 19 and once at 21 (she then had to spend several years asking doctors for a hysterectomy for the pain, until she found one that didn't push her to wait and see if she wanted more children)
You can never say “you do the best you can with the information you have” enough. I love that you always say that! Dr Mama Jones always supporting families is what I’m here for!
I once forgot to mark when I had my period on my calendar, and having a terrible memory, I freaked out and thought I was pregnant. I took several tests that were all negative, went to my OBGYN for extra testing and then realized I was not only right on schedule but had just forgotten to write my last one down. That's when I scheduled to get my birth control implant. Never again, thank you very much.
Thank you for speaking up about the cerebral palsy "diagnosis" & how wrong it was. Even casual commentary in a show like this for the outrage/shock value hurts people with disabilities who are out there living incredible lives. My uncle Peter had CP & was one of the most badass people I knew (his favourite joke when people choked after making ableist jokes around him was "My sense of humour is great, it's my sense of balance that sucks"). I actually can't imagine him being the person he was *without* CP. If anyone is interested in learning more about the CP experience, please watch Maysoon Zayid's Ted Talk, "I Got 99 Problems & Palsy is Just One."
The bit at the beginning with the call out to doctors... I really really hope other doctors hear that. I was absolutely heartbroken when I got told I wouldn't be able to get pregnant. At 21 and as someone who had grown up working with kids and wanted a family when I was ready, it really shattered me. Please don't tell someone there is no chance of them getting pregnant, even if its low, saying you wont is SO SO SO much worse.
Thank you, mama Dr. Jones I have minor cerebral palsy that only effects the left side of my body; I'm pretty healthy and a soon-to-be mother. Your videos have helped me alot❤😊
I would just like to say that my cousin has cerebral palsy and my aunt did indeed get prenatal care. He is now a fulfilled and happy adult who graduated college a couple years ago. It's absolutely awful they made her think it would've been her fault!
I absolutely love this series. I very commonly use that saying of "You do the best you can with the information that you have" for all sorts of situations. Also thank you for saying everything after about cerebral palsy. I am disabled and I really appreciated hearing that you said being disabled isn't a life ending sentence.
My aunt has cerebral palsy and she's a badass. She was a CEO of an investment firm for several years, she went to college at 16, and she's raised 2 kids! Cerebral palsy is a difficult disability to live with, but people with it can still live fulfilling lives with it!
Physical therapist and board-certified pediatric clinical specialist here. I shrieked so loud when they said lack of prenatal care could cause cerebral palsy, that I’m very relieved I’m the only one in the office doing my notes right now… Completely unacceptable to give that level of faulty and guilt inducing information to a family.
and not to mention the reverse result - people thinking they can't have a child diagnosed if they got prenatal care...or that their doctor must have missed something. It's just all around shocking me. Their medical expert (who I cut out) didn't even correct it. It's just...ahhh!
I'm mad with you over that one! I'm a disabled adult with a physical disability called Spina Bifida... That is a birth defect. CP, however, is generally caused by a traumatic birth or something like a stroke in utero. I've never known/heard of anyone getting that diagnosis from a lack of prenatal care.
I'm sure a lot of us were getting angry at the ableist crap too, but I guess we should remember two things, 1) when you're in a stressful situation, you might not be hearing what the doctor is saying and may have misconstrued what they actually said or pinned your own guilt onto something else they said, and 2) some doctors are a-holes and don't deserve to practice.
@@bunhelsingslegacy3549 was there any need to insert yourself here? There wasn't. It's never fine to justify ableist crap (this isn't that) or false information given in TV shows (the case here).
@@DesAMowadeng I apologize. It wasn't intended that way and thank you for calling me out. As you said, it most likely is rampant TV bs which I generally assume is combined with ableism. It was my inappropriate attempt to share without oversharing that I've been in the room when an asshole doctor with no bedside manner was presenting their prognosis over my father after a serious cardiac event and my mom and my brother and I all understood what he said differently from each other. I'll stop justifying myself now, and thanks again for calling me out.
@@bunhelsingslegacy3549 Bedside manner is such a small part of the larger issue here. Alot of people really grossly misunderstand ableism. By definition it is an able persons idea that those with disabilities are less than as a result of how they present in the world. While this did pertain to a disability, where the experience of ableism is common and likely, that wasn't what was taking place but merely inaccurate information being presented as it relates to a disability. The reason it's so problematic is because in the case of birth defects like mine doctors highly discourage continuation of a pregnancy as a result of what might be the reality of the situation when it often isn't the case. People viewing the episode of this show now believe prenatal care will prevent CP when it won't prevent it and lack of prenatal care isn't the cause.
@@DesAMowadeng You'd think something that calls itself The Learning Channel would provide better information... especially when the average viewer can't be bothered to fact-check and just believes everything the TV says...
I was wrongly diagnosed with PCOS in 2011 (rampant fatphobia in medical communities). I was told I could never get pregnant without "ovarian drilling". I conducted my s@x life accordingly. I got pregnant 4 times. As of 2018 I have zero signs of PCOS. Turns out the extraordinary high stress of an abusive relationship can cause extreme hair loss and hormonal disruption. I am holding my newborn daughter as I write this. I had pre-eclampsia AFTER giving birth. Twice. One of the reasons my gestational hypertension was so exacerbated was because of the fatphobia of the hospital.
Dang, I don't even have ovaries but I love your content! Other than these fun react videos, your content has been helpful to understand how the body works in am attempt to be able to properly educate my daughters.
I was watching the old film "Look Who's Talking" recently and thinking how wild the opening scenes are (depicting conception, pregnancy and birth from the perspective of the sperm/foetus). I'd *LOVE* your reaction to it please (and maybe the sequel) - there's definitely some inaccuracies in it, I'm not even convinced that the baby turned for delivery! My favourite part was that after her waters apparently broke, her clothing was still bone dry 😆
As someone who lives with what most doctors would define as a relatively severe form of cerebral palsy (CP), I sincerely appreciate how you approached this episode. There are so many misconceptions related to acquiring and living with CP, and I feel you did a great job debunking those! Personally, my parents were told I would be "a complete vegetable" due to hypoxia caused by the umbilical cord becoming wrapped around my throat when they were trying to turn me around in the womb. Today, I have a Master's degree in social work and I am a manager in a children's hospital. All this is to say that people will CP 100% can lead healthy, happy, and meaningful lives (with unique challenges, of course). I think it is important for doctors to provide the scope of possibilities when sharing a diagnosis of any kind because it is crucial to being honest WHILE offering a realistic sense of hope. Anyway, thank you for addressing this in such a thoughtful way!
LMAO!!!! I absolutely LOVE how passionate you are like “STOP IT STOP IT, that is NOT how you get serable palsy”!! & serable palsy is not the worst thing ever, there are people with it that go on to live happy healthy and productive lives WITH it! Which is 💯% TRUTH!!!
Oh my gosh! The same thing happened to a coworker of mine. Luckily, she & her doctor caught that she was pregnant at 6 months. She was shocked as we all were at work!!!!
Have a cousin diagnosed with CP in late 80s early 90s. His parents were basically told he'd never do anything so his mom made sure he ate, drank, was diapered, and bathed but otherwise ignored. My grandma and I(10) both called BS and did our own research. Shortly after we had him potty trained, diagnosed as deaf, and walking! His speech still isn't great, but he's graduated college at the top of his class, loves to run, mow lawns, and swim. He's the sweetest young man and had my grandma and I not fought for him he'd likely be in a home. He won't be able to live in his own so at some point his siblings will either have to put him in a home or take him in, but what an amazing man he is!
I learned so much about endometriosis today! Thanks! Also, "Oh my, it's the tumor," although terrifying for the person involved, is comedy gold. Imagine a doctor saying that after merely feeling your stomach, dfhgjkl;cfgyhkjl;vbhnjmkl;
I started watching your reaction videos to this series about a year ago and stayed because I like learning about everything and the humor. I’ve found myself often reminding myself we do the best we can with the information we have. It helps in general. Also, I have Cerebral Palsy and do have a fulfilling happy life, I just have to do things differently, slowly, or with assistance, so thank you for what you had to say! 😊
Endo patient here! Endo was found on my appendix during my surgery to remove my left ovary due to an endometrioma. Was told chances of conceiving were low but I did get pregnant 3 months after my surgery but it ended in miscarriage. It took 3 years to get pregnant again naturally after saving money for IVF. Currently 15 weeks pregnant with our miracle baby! ❤😊
Thanks for the talk about CP. I have a friend that had a traumatic birth and her child suffered a hypoxic event during labor and delivery. She is the best kid, beating the odds every day!
Thank you for sharing! It’s true about people still getting pregnant with endometriosis. My mom was diagnosed at 27 and they said if she wants to have kids do it now. Within 6 months of trying she got pregnant with me and a year and a half later had my sister. It’s completely possible and not the end of the world if you get diagnosed with it!❤️
My aunt went through the "same" thing, she thought that she couldn't get pregnant, the doctor told her she need a hysterectomy but than she discovered she was pregnant and got another obgyn
I appreciate you, Danielle. You are totally right on the CP aspect. I have CP and know others who have varying degrees of it and we are living our lives the best we can.
Oh my gosh I feel your rage on the blaming lack of prenatal care for cerebral palsy. One of my cousins had cerebral palsy, there wasn't anything that happened during or after his birth that they could think of to cause it, his disability was severe and he wasn't expected to live past 2 years. He beat all the odds and passed away at 14. He was wheelchair bound his entire life but he could communicate, he could play with his siblings, he was an incredibly happy kid who ignored what doctors said he would be able to do. I hope he knew how much he was loved. Two of my friends have kids with CP, both were premature babies. One has mild symptoms, the other has moderate symptoms but is still keeping up with her peers.
You do the best you can with the information you have has legitimately been the mantra getting me through my pregnancy - appreciate you so much Mama Doctor Jones
A friend was told at 18 by the doctor who diagnosed her endometriosis that she was consequently sterile. She was devastated and in reaction had a period of recklessness including unprotected sex. By complete chance, she learned that she was pregnant at 5 months, and she was until then very skinny so with no way of knowing (she told me she started showing immediately after learning about the pregnangcy). It was past the legal abortion time in our country, and although she loves her son dearly, it clearly is not the circumstances (or the father) she wanted, it completely derailed her life plans. These doctors make me so angry. Although my doctor did actually tell me the right way about the fertility impact my PCOS could have, he also told me the "cure" would be to get pregnant while I never want to be lol. So glad there are more and more doctors like you out there, and you participate so much in educating both patients and practitioners.
Young women are still being told that they can't get pregnant when they diagnose them with PCOS and emdometriosis. It is wildly inappropriate and negligent.
I find your sense of humor just so hilarious! You’re definitely a little silly with it sometimes & I personally believe we should ALL have just a little bit of silly in our lives, it keeps us younger, happier, & makes life just not so darn stressful ALL OF THE TIME!
I got my “period”, but I just felt that something was unusual. I heard your voice in my head to take a pregnancy test. Sure enough it came back positive 😁
They said lack of prenatal care can cause cerebral palsy and I said “UM?!” So loudly my dog moved 😂 I started laughing at MDJ’s face when she slammed that pause button lol
A cousin has CP. She’s in her 30’s and although she sometimes has a a hard time getting around, she works a PT job and seems to be happy. I know it’s hard on her parents and I’m not sure what arrangements are in place once they pass, but Elizabeth seems to be living her life to the fullest!
My mom has PCOS and has had 3 children, no problem. My brother was even concieved on birth control because she was on antibiotics that made the birth control less effective. PCOS doesn't always mean you can never have kids, I understand some people have worse than others and do sadly battle with infertility, but my mom was told she would have fertility issues and actually had the opposite, and that's why I agree it's so important doctors don't tell people with endometriosis or PCOS that they have no chance of having a baby.
Are you sure it was the antibiotics and not just the birth control regulating her hormones? I have PCOS and I am on birth control for the PCOS my Ob/Gyn constantly reminds me that I can get pregnant on birth control, especially since it is strictly a progesterone-based birth control.
@@shadowkissed2370 Did your gynaecologist never tell you that antibiotics cause hormonal birth control to not work? I thought that was literally the first thing they tell you when they prescribe BC is that if you have to take antibiotics, use condoms as backup for at least up to two weeks after you stop taking the antibiotics because antibiotics cause birth control to be ineffective.
@@neurodivergentpixi6736it’s only certain types of antibiotics that do that, and those types are rarely prescribed anymore. MDJ has mentioned this several times in IDKIWP reactions
My lovely friend has had bad Endometriosis as long as I've known her. She sometimes gets monthly nosebleeds! It really is weird.
This is really fascinating! In most people catamenial epistaxis (nose bleeds near menses) is due to hormonal changes, but there are rare instances of nasal endometriosis causing it as well!!
@@MamaDoctorJones worse, I had a patient who had a pneumothorax from endometriosis- four times before it was confirmed (even though I as a simple GP suggested there might be a causation after the second instance) - the third surgeon missed it despite being told because even though the lung usually collapses cranial, the endometriosis is usually directly at the diaphragm - so caudal.
The only way my OBGYN was able to diagnose me with it without having surgery is that my belly button started bleeding. I had to basically go home from school on my first day of my period every time because the pain was so debilitating and because it made me vomit. They still don’t want to do surgery on me because I am young (I am 24).
Reminds me of that one mystery diagnosis episode where this woman would get extreme bone pain in her femur to the point where it was completely debilitating, and had some other symptoms too, turns out the endo had migrated to her bone marrow and every time she had her period her bones would bleed.
I also started getting nose bleeds after showing symptoms of endo… I was diagnosed btw. Weird.
They told my mom she had a tumor. They sent her to an oncologist. She went in and the dr asked her what her symptoms were. My mom said “I thought I was pregnant, but they said I’m not and it’s a tumor.” The dr did a physical exam and the baby moved. He said “I’ll say you’re pregnant.” One month or so later I was born. This was in 1976. For years my siblings nicknamed me “tumor”.
This is a good story! 😂😂 But I'm sorry you got called tumor!
I'll call you Best Tumor Ever!
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Did you hate this nickname?
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I’m a 24-year-old woman with cerebral palsy, and I just want to thank you for how kind you were in this video. I was about ready to start screaming at the TV, both for victim-blaming the mother, but also for portraying cerebral palsy as some horrible disease. Don’t get me wrong, it can be hard. I use a wheelchair and a lot of the world is inaccessible. But to any parents or kids with CP who are reading this most of the hardship comes because the world is not made for people of all abilities to thrive and people can be jerks. if we take the time to really give people the support that they need, life can be really beautiful, even if it looks different.
MDJ, if you would ever be interested in interviewing someone about their experiences with a physical disability and reproductive health care, I have lots of stories that I feel could be beneficial .
Yeah, my husband has cerebral palsy and I was getting a bit heated at TLC myself.
I hope she takes you up on this, DreamForHope7. This is a conversation I would love to see!
Ohhh I would be so interested in a video like this, I hope she takes you up on the offer!
As someone who has serious disabilities I'd say that so many problems come from a lack of understanding and fear- that makes people behave like jerks in reaction. Oh for an educated world sigh...
And tell your stories! That'd be a great start 😊💜
YES!! As someone with Cerebral Palsy in a wheelchair myself, I was just like, WHAT?! AND THEN THE BABY DIDN'T EVEN HAVE CEREBRAL PALSY?? I was born at 30 weeks, which likely resulted in the brain damage that caused my CP. My mom had two really difficult pregnancies (a stillbirth at 8months a year before I was due), but I have NEVER heard of lack of prenatal care being related to brain damage...
I’ve started telling myself “i did the best i could with the information I had” even about things not related to pregnancy, it’s made it easier to be kinder to myself, so thank you MDJ ❤️
Same! And I've quoted it so many times to others as well. It's a golden rule, honestly. ⭐
I've started saying it to clients at my vet clinic, about all sorts of things! It's really an evergreen statement 😅
It's really a great life mantra to remind us to give ourselves grace.
Yes me too! I say that all the time
I do this too even 2 days ago
The "you never know" bit at the end almost has me running to get a pregnancy test... I'm a 36 year old lesbian with PCOS and I'm on the pill. I'm not pregnant. But when MDJ says it in that voice... I feel like I need to be sure 🤣
hahaha sorry :) You're ... probably safe... 😆
I know I'm pregnant already (on purpose) and that "you never know..." still made me almost go take a test 🤦♀️
There's always alien abduction, I guess.
@@MamaDoctorJones Haha this has made me paranoid too!😂 When I was with my ex boyfriend one time my period seemed to come later than usual and I was having irrational thoughts about being pregnant. We NEVER had sex though!😂
I'm not having sex with anyone that can get me pregnant, I get regular periods and that still makes me want to test it to be sure 🤣
Wasn't it last video I said "I wish they'd show something other than a "normal" outcome"?
I TAKE IT BACK, i TAKE IT BACK!!!
I have cerebral palsy (likely due to premature birth and a prolapsed cord) and seeing my disability described as parents' "worst fear", and then turned around in a "gotcha" moment where it's like "SURPRISE! SHE DOESN'T ACTUALLY HAVE CP!" makes me feel actually physically ill. My life is not a bogeyman.
MDJ, good on you for pointing out the inaccuracy (for those of you who don't know, CP is caused by brain damage before or shortly after birth) and emphasizing that you can still live a very full, happy life with CP. I'm 30 years old, and while having CP can be difficult at times, especially with the lack of knowledge among the medical profession about adults with CP, it is a fundamental part of who I am. If you ever want someone on the channel to talk about CP, especially to clear up some of the misconceptions in this awful IDKIWP episode...hit me up! :)
So well said!
I don't personally know anyone with CP, but even I was confused at that part - why were they acting like it was some fatal condition?
As far as I know, CP generally just affects mobility and sometimes speech and many people with the condition live fairly "normal" lives.
My main source of knowledge about CP is the comedian Rosie Jones, so I accept that my perception may not be 100% medically accurate. However, their reaction was definitely a bit melodramatic.
I relate as an autistic person who constantly sees autism portrayed as a curse that tears families apart. My disability is not something to be terrified of
Exactly! My father had a first cousin born with CP in the 1940s. She has had a full and productive normal life. She was a twin that had her brother’s cord wrapped around her neck at birth. He was born first and it deprived her of oxygen as the cord was pulled tighter as he was born. She married. She had 3 healthy children. I met her when I was 10. After that she was always a hero of mine.
Thank you for speaking from the pov of someone with CP specibically. It hurt me as a person blind since very young, even though I understand a parent doesn't want their child to have to deal with the struggles. My parents tell me they're response to my diagnosis was fear and anger, mostly because it was a gut reaction to something new and also because they knew it would alter my life in ways they didn't yet understand. But they never thought I was less or a burden and reactions as extreme as this portrays are a bit hard to see.
In the "you never know" vein.... We have a famous family story about my great grandmother (born in 1895). In her late 30s (so it would have been the 1930s) she made an appointment with her doctor because she was pretty certain she was pregnant. The doctor told her she's "too old to be pregnant" and it's just a tumor. She got on the bus to go home felt something odd, had a flash of insight, got off at the next stop, marched back to the doctor's office and said "The tumor just MOVED!" She was incensed. Yeah, that was my Great Uncle.
My great-grandmother had a baby at 44. It must've happened frequently enough! Weird that a doctor would say that. (Not that I'd want one now at almost 46. Jeez, I'm tired enough!)
@@gasparinha Yeah, I had my youngest (8yo) son when I was 43. I AM tired but his snuggles and his smile bolster me.
My great great grandmother had my great grandmother at 46. Idk when exactly she realized she was pregnant, but it must've been late in the pregnancy because family story goes, when she was born, they still hadn't thought of a name so my great grandmother ended up being named Augusta, after her brother Auguste They also made another brother her godfather, as he was 25 years older than her.
I got pregnant at 34 with my third baby. My other two kids were born when I was in my 20's. My husband and I had unsafe sex ONCE, and I didn't think I was gonna get pregnant because of my age; at least not so easily. Well I was wrong. My little girl will be 2 in October❤
I think either your in your 90's or you forgot some greats in that because even my great grandmother was not born 2 centuries ago
You trying to explain, essentially, 'don't be ableist' is exactly how hard it is to explain. Of course if you hear as a parent your child might have a disability, you're relieved when you hear they don't. But having a disability doesn't make us 'lesser' or 'broken', and with the right accommodation there are often still a ton of possibilities. (Getting those accommodations is a bit of a problem usually, but if they WERE there, there would often still be a ton of possibilities).
Exactly!
Everyone needs accommodations. Some accommodations are normalized (a car/transportation to get to work, phone for communication, clothes to protect from elements, etc) and other accommodations are stigmatized by institutionalized ableism... like TTY, mobility devices, communication devices, etc.
I get so angry with people who tell me "you are so high functioning, I didn't realize you were " because they have completely missed the entire point!
@@THandP_org Ohhhh do I know that feeling with the "you're so high functioning" thing. I'm so tired of hearing people comment or be surprised on the days that I do have to use my mobility aid to walk just because I'm 30yo (been using a cane for like 3 years now). I'm not "too young to be having problems." Shit happens.
@@THandP_org I’m autistic and get called “high functioning” sometimes and it pisses me off because they are only seeing a small snapshot of my life and don’t see the struggles I have or how much therapy and work it took for me to get where I am (in a neurodiversity affirming way, being comfortable with my autistic self, gaining confidence etc, NOT learning eye contact or other bullshit neurotypical expectations). I’m learning Australian sign language and my Deaf teacher taught us last week how 95% of Deaf babies are born to hearing parents and majority of doctors still push for medical interventions and advise AGAINST sign language, say the child will never get anywhere in life etc. It’s awful.
Now I want MDJ to have ‘don’t be ableist’ merch
Agreed! I have disabilities and I definitely see that
As someone with Cerebral Palsy, I am also angry.
Edit: thank you for acknowledging that people with CP can still have very fulfilling lives. ❤️
I love that you went off about correlation not causation and that cerebral palsy is not the end of the world.
I just recalled something that a friend of my sister said once. She didn't have as long of a "I didn't know I was pregnant" moment, think she got like halfway before they noticed.
But regardless, her mother was on her case about the pre-natal care she'd missed, and this still makes me laugh, but she said to her mom with a straight face "It's not my fault the little f-er didn't let me know it was in there".
Her mom glared at me so hard during a bbq when I was told this story, because I was in tears, on the grass, laughing so much I got both hiccups and a cramp 😂
LMFAO that's great!!!
I'm not saying don't get prenatal care, but people act like prenatal care is an end all be all and if you miss it bad things are going to happen, which is not true. Most pregnancies will be perfectly fine, with and without prenatal care. The story is hilarious but the mother getting on her case is just awful.
@@AccidentallyOnPurpose I mean they don't even do that much. Wow you take vitamins and get checked on. I mean if you eat a varied diet and everything is going normally prenatal care is not going to change things that much.
All I did was take foliate, stop eating few foods and made sure I didn't drink not that I did very often anyway, then later take iron basically I wouldn't have change much but I knew because my child was planned
Her mom glaring at you just made me laugh that much harder.
My grandma was in her 40's and thought she had hit menopause. She started to develop a growth in her stomach. She thought my dad was a tumor 😂
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The "better than that other time of the month" made me think "wait... when WAS my last period??".... I'm 36 weeks pregnant with a PLANNED pregnancy lmfao. So 36 weeks ago. Bahahaha pregnancy brain
This is cracking me up 😂
Idk, maybe you should take one just to be safe. 😉😂
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I'm 33 weeks and I was wondering when I last had a period too... Which was over 4 years ago as I've had babies back to back with no periods! Hope you get to meet your baby soon!
I'm decidedly *not* pregnant and it has also been about 36 weeks since my last period. My partner and I are actively trying to create life, but it will not be carried in my body, so I don't know why it keeps occuring to me that I might be finally getting pregnant.
My body/brain collaborations also tend to mess with me. 😂
“You might go into labor tomorrow” thanks for stoking this fear! 😅
I was having a gallbladder attack and was like “am I in labor?!” but I had to keep reminding myself that I’m a virgin, a lesbian and on birth control 😂😂😂
Hey if you are prone to gallbladder attacks you might want to get that looked at. I had the worst pain when I used to have gallbladder attacks and one attack was so bad I actually went to the ER and was told I was 72 hours away from total liver failure due to a blocked bile duct caused by my bad gallbladder which had to be removed immediately. Gallbladder pain is the absolute worst.
hahaha i love this comment
@@SavaFiend You are spot on - always wise to get it checked as it is very risky if you get a blockage! I too had severe attacks when I was only 22 years old and turned out I had a large stone blocking the cystic duct from my gall bladder. It's horrid pain!
@@SavaFiend I had it removed like 3 hrs later 😂
It was the first one and I had no idea what was going on. Obviously being pregnant was the first thing I was afraid of 😂😂
This is stolen from another comment further up but: There is always alien abductions
I love being this time of the month while I'm on that other time of the month
Feels like a crossover
lol
Same
Feeling this comment right now hahaha
I think this every month, lmao.
shoutout to the womb-bearers that synced up for this video
THANK YOU for talking about cerebral palsey in such an empathetic and kind way. As a disabled person my stomach was already starting to drop listening to where the show was going, but you swooped in and caught me mdj! the medical field is not always kind to us or remembers our autonomy, thank you for not forgetting us! this is the education i sub for :)
2 things I want to say
1) my cousin was diagnosed with endometriosis and PCOS after her son was born, she had an ovary removed, she was told she was basically infertile and didn't use any birth control after that. Cut to several years later, even after taking the morning after pill she got pregnant again, and then again, and then again! She has 4 kids in total.
2) I had a friend in high school who had cerebral palsy, when he was born his parents were told he might never walk and the way I knew him was because we ran track and cross country together.
People are pretty amazing and can overcome the odds. That's all! Love these videos!
Right. 100%. There is more than one situation where the morning after pill (I have taken it twice myself and been lucky not to take it too late) is basically useless, and if you are still ovulating on the one ovary you could easily be more than fertile.
Honestly, they should only tell patients who have a uterus and ovar(ies) and no infection scarring on their tubes that they MAY have fertility problems and if they want to try to have a baby only then they will find out whether that is the case and to what degree.
This reminds me that when my uncle had a heart transplant, the average life expectancy after was 7 years. He made it nearly 20 and he also had skin cancer, which never metasticized. The heart was in good condition when he died, but he had been on the anti rejection meds so long his kidneys were failing and causing the other organs to fail.
Many people probably hardly had much more life expectancy in any case who had transplants because many heart problems are associated with age, sedentary lifestyles.
Obviously, statistics can only have so much bearing on you as an individual. My uncle was relatively young because we have a heart condition in my family that dilates the aorta (he was in his 30s) and it was not a continuous issue that may worsen again like congestive heart failure due to some chronic problem. It won't dilate the aorta again I think because it is not his tissue although it was his heart now. Also, his donor was only 18 years old and got into an accident, that is an almost impossibly young heart.
He was really sick when he got his heart, not expected to make it another day, resuscitated several times, came out of surgery in a coma, but once he got it he was good as new. He never seemed sick when I knew him, even on (I think even daily) dialysis before the end of his life, he was always very fit and jovial. I imagine knowing exactly how lucky he was to be alive helped too.
Thank you for the reminder that my loss was also such a blessing. He asked everyone to wear bright colors to the celebration of his life, where everyone was obviously still crying, but black was not allowed.
It was hard to see him in the hospital in pain, though.
I know someone with only one Fallopian tube who has 6 kids. Half were born after the salpingectomy!
@@dinarocksyou A woman I worked with lost one tube to a tubal pregnancy, went on to have two kids before the marriage dissolved.
My aunt and uncle were told that my cousin would never be able to walk or have a full life, and about 3 decades later, he walks very well and he went on to Bible college! ❤
She was infertile. Okay, so people get this definition wrong ALL the time. Infertile doesn't mean you can't have kids. It means it is difficult to have kids. I know someone who's infertile, but has gotten pregnant 12 times. She's lost all of them. She's now adopted though.
My mother has had mild cerebral palsy since her traumatic birth. She has lived an amazing fulfilling life full of love. Her complications did nothing to deter her from having the life she wanted. Shes also one of the smartest people I know ;)
A few years ago I was rushed into emergency surgery for a cyst on my ovary and was diagnosed with endo. After a few surgeries my OBGYN told me “there’s a lot of scar tissue, you might be one of those few people who have difficulty having a baby. The chances of you falling pregnant naturally is very low. Give it a try for 6 months and then we can look at other options.”
Six months later I rock up at the appointment six months pregnant 🎉
Now I’m pregnant with my second boy ❤
Congratulations!!! 🥳
Congrats! Side note, love the way your dr said it though, that it wasnt zero chance but that it might be hard. Thats the way to say it
Congratulations on your second pregnancy and I hope the endo is being treated and under control. 🍀 I have endometriosis, too, but it was a "surprise" diagnosis during infertility treatment. I had no symptoms. Endo is a strange disease...
I had the opposite of an “I didn’t know I was pregnant” experience lol. When I was 18 I had severe bloating and constipation caused by IBS, and went into the hospital because I was in unbearable pain.
The lady at the front asked me how many weeks I was, and I told her I wasn’t pregnant. She told me “well, you’re in for a shock” and sent us on our way. At ER triage, 2 nurses and a doctor told me I was on the wrong side of the hospital and tried to direct me to OB. They didn’t believe me until my urine sample came back negative.
I get where they were coming from, but that was a tough night.
Your show would be called "I knew I wasn't pregnant!" 😄
Lol I swear medical professionals are so annoying sometimes. In my early twenties I ended up in the ER twice because of stomach issues and both times they asked if I could be pregnant. A firm "No" was my answer both times but they still waited for the pregnancy test results. I know it's procedure but come on! I had never had sex, it really was impossible for me to be pregnant!!!!!
@@calypso8436 But did you really never have sex? 😉😉
We know what all those bad kids must be saying, you can tell us that you made a dumbass decision, it's ok!
But seriously, why is everything an accusation in normal medicine, and in mental health, good treatment is considered beating the patient into submission? 😒 If it weren't constantly a beat down when I came in for help, maybe I'd tell you everything as soon as I entered the room, and you wouldn't have to double check if I am lying or hiding something for my mental stability due to my dysfunctional family. What a novel fucking concept. 🙄
Ah, I love the show "They didn't believe I was just constipated"
Thank you for sharing what you did about cerebral palsy. An unhealthy baby is still a blessing. Health is a separate blessing not everyone gets.
My baby girl had cerebral palsy, most likely from not breathing during her first 5 minutes of life. Her cerebral palsy limited her ability to use ASL; her deafness with the CP made communication an issue. Other medical issues took her from us too soon. While she was here, she was a happy little girl full of joy and love.
I'm so sorry about your daughter :( may she rest in peace and continue watching over you and your loved ones. ♥
I am so glad you were able to make a decision that was good for you, your health and your family. What a beautiful blessing. How lucky your daughter was to be so loved.
your daughter sounded like an absolute delight to have, it’s beautiful she was even able to grace your lives in the first place, and that she got to have such an amazing family around her :D
I'm sorry you lost her. Thank you for sharing
Danielle, I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I hope you are able to find comfort and peace in the beauty of her existence that you've shown here by honoring her. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I am 30 and have had a total hysterectomy, bilateral salpingectomy and unilateral oophorectomy due to ovarian cancer and I swear I've heard you say it so often now that I still want to take a pregnancy test sometimes even though my chances of being pregnant are null lol
You have a fabulous sense of humor!
same! i'm past 50, have had tubes tied and unilateral oophorectomy (still have my uterus, though) - and i haven't had a period in like 3 months. it didn't even cross my mind to take a test because i've been so irregular over the last couple of years. also, TUBAL LIGATION and OOPHORECTOMY! i guess i do still have an egg or two in there that could sneak across the clip, but it would be super annoying.
A friend of mine recently had to talk herself out of being afraid that her late period meant that her girlfriend had knocked her up. I’m a virgin and I’ve had “Okay, but what if” moments. It’s both funny and infuriating.
@Jennifer Harris Well, it's not exactly the same... your chances a pretty slim but I have none. Like, my vagina leads nowhere, it is literally surgically closed at the top. No connection posssible between my remaining ovary and my vagina.
@@coraliedubois5890 oh definitely. I saw our similarities before our differences, though. ♥️
IT'S MY FAVORITE TIME OF THE MONTH!
Much better than that other time of the month
Not mine, but these times colliding sure makes it better 😁
You betcha!
A cousin of mine had polio, and was told she could never have children. She and her fiancé thought GREAT no need to wait for the wedding! She got pregnant, and the doctors told her that it would take a miracle to carry the baby to term. Pregnancy and birth went just fine, but she was told by the doctor that this was absolutely a one-off, so not to expect to get lucky again...
Three more babies later, she told the doctor she was done with miracles, and to please tie her tubes.
Love this for her lol.
Umm......so my mom got pregnant 8 months after her tubes got tied.... It was an ectopic pregnancy and wasn't carried to term.....she told them to just remove her tubes....13 years later, she found out that they GREW BACK and she was indeed pregnant at 34....
@@jessicavigil9144 YUP. This can happen, especially if you just snip a bit, which is what they did back in the day. Now, they yeet the whole tube out unless the patient objects.
At 19 I was told I couldn't have children. I too have 4. 😊
I swear sometimes I think doctors do this on purpose.
I actually was at my Dr appt for a hysterectomy consult (she even approved it, due to non responsive to standard treatments Endometriosis) when we found out I was preggo with my first kid from the routine pee test. 😅
Fun lol, love how these babies sneak up on their moms :P
How far along were you?
I don't know the lady, but I overheard a pregnant mom at the 5 years old danse class. As she was preparing her own hospital bag - she's 6 weeks away now - she got the news that her sister, who had been complaining of stomach pains recently, showed up at the hospital and gave birth. This is the closest I've ever personally been to a true story of "I didn't know I was pregnant"! Now that lady is happy and kinda mock-annoyed that her sister stole the baby spotlight from her ahaha!
Awww but just think, those little cousins, pretty much the me age! :D
I just wonder if one day a TLC I didn’t know I was pregnant mother will say “oh well you do the best you can with the information you have” because she’d have seen MDJ’s videos
Nah. Because she would have taken a pregnancy test! (Well tbh this episode she wouldn't have because she did actually have medication that would prevent pregnancy, probably. But you get the point.)
But then, she would also have taken a pregnancy test. 😂
Nah because it’s horrible advise to someone who has actually been in this situation.
I say this as someone who was around someone who hid her pregnancy from everyone including the boyfriend, baby’s father, doctor, athletic trainer…everyone. I regret so much and I don’t even talk to that girl anymore but it haunts me to remember spotting her for max lifting at 8 months. One slip up from me and the kid wouldn’t have made it and I pushed her to go further than she thought she could go.
@ninjagirl226 but this isn't about someone who knows and is hiding it, its about someone who doesn't know. After the fact there's nothing you can do because you didn't know when it would have helped & so you do the best you can.
@@Teajay21 I’m just saying my perspective and I didn’t know. And me being ignorant of the situation does not change how much it haunts me and saying “you do your best with what you know” is honestly insulting. Because we SHOULD have known better. We SHOULD a have put it together because in hindsight it was obvious.
Our inability to realize even cost people their jobs; that may sound minor now but to lose the track coach and athletic training staff mid year. They are in a better place now but that’s also something that happened.
Like I said you can say that stuff all year day but until you are in that situation just shut up you aren’t helping.
I'm sitting here whenever I have a weird symptom or a late period like, "could... could I be pregnant??"
No. Nope. Haven't slept with someone with the capability of getting me pregnant in like 3 years. But that little "you never know" bit GETS ME EVERY TIME
Same! And I'm a virgin!
Something really similar happened with my mom with me!! She had really bad endo and had been trying unsuccessfully for about 7 years to get pregnant so she opted for a hysterectomy. She went in for her final pre-op exam and turns out I was a little fetus in there! Luckily she was only about 4 months along so there was still time for her to prepare and get pre-natal care. She then got pregnant with my sister 4 years later and wound up being pre-eclampic and needing an emergency c-section.
I think you wanted to say something like: While it's perfectly valid to celebrate your child not having a condition, a disability isn't automatically a tragedy. People can and do live happy, full, and fulfilling lives with a wide variety of disabilities.
"Congratulations, Angel on the 6 month old baby you just delivered on the TLC show." 🤣🤣🤣🤣 But for real!!!
Apparently on Call the Midwife they use premie babies (or dolls) to make them look a more realistic size for newborns. Other programmes apparently just grab the first baby they can find. 😆
@@hannahk1306 Isn't there any stock footage of newborn babies they can use?
@@B.H.56 What stock footage that perfectly fits the exact scene that they're trying to portray with all the right actors in? The shots in Call the Midwife are far too complex and sometimes specific for stock footage.
For example, they often show particular birth defects or complications and unusual births like being born in the amniotic sack or in an awkward position.
Even if for the actual head crowning, baby being born part they somehow found relevant stock footage, they'd still need to film with a baby or doll for the post birth scenes where other actors need to interact with them.
@@hannahk1306 just a quick shot of a newborn in someone's hands, no need to show faces.
I love when the Doc comments on how old the actor playing the newborn baby really is. When my friends and I see a "newborn" on TV we say, "That baby already has teeth!" Or "That baby's almost ready for kindergarten!" It's funny and begs to be pointed out. Yes, I know not every show has the budget for realistic remote control prop dolls like Call the Midwife.
lol, so very true. (My nephew really was born with 1 or 2 teeth, tho, which was fun for my sister)
@@eliscanfield3913 Yikes for the nursing mum. How cool otherwise. If I may ask, did he keep those teeth as part of his childhood teeth?
@@galamander_1327 I believe so. My sister didn't nurse him long, though. She needed to begin medicine that was bad for babies.
The fact that there are enough modern day cases of cryptic pregnancy to create a dramatised TLC show absolutely blows my mind.
When are we getting "Take A Pregnancy Test" MDJ merch?
We’re at like 8,000,000,000 of us now. Stuff isn’t very rare anymore
@@Nevertoleave There are not 8 billion people in America, where the show takes place, and where the same pregnancy test that is used at the doctor's office is available at the dollar store.
The world population is not a good analogy for a show which exclusively takes place in the US.
@@neurodivergentpixi6736 you didn’t know there are versions of this show in other countries?
Moreover, it has its own spin-off show where the ladies manage to miss a pregnancy more than once. Yeah.
@@AntediluvianRomance Wow....this makes me feel so old. I remember back when TLC stood for "The Learning Channel"...They really need to change their name to TDRC(The Drama Reality Channel)
I have Cerebral Palsy, and I am often floored about the carelessness in portraying it in media. Not to mention the blatant misinformation being spread around by those who are supposed to be health care professionals
ah, I hope you don't mean me!! Let me know if I said something inaccurate!
@@MamaDoctorJones Oh gosh, I certainly didn't mean you :D So sorry it came across that way! Actually, seeing you get rightfully angry during this video felt very made me feel validated and safe, so thank you
@@MamaDoctorJones I hope all is okay?
Not so fun fact, about 10 years ago my mom had endometriosis in her lung that caused her lung to collapse every time she started her period. Took months for doctors to figure out what was going on! She no longer has a uterus so no more babies but she had 4 kids without even trying. Endo by no means 100% causes infertility.
Thank you for your comment about the loving acceptance of your child's condition. A close friend of mine was pregnant at the same time I was. We were both, ironically, given a high likelihood of Down Syndrome for each of our children. I was devastated and fearful, but my amniocentisis showed chromosomal normality. I was overjoyed. She went through that with me and then a few months later, her high risk also came in. Where we were given a 1 in 15 risk, she was given a 1 in 3. Her child has Down Syndrome. The result is her phenomenal, hilarious, kid who we all love just as much as my kid. Both kids are an absolute joy and her son kicked my son's butt on a whole host of developmental milestones. Also, now 7, he will swear in French (his second language) if you tick him off. 😆😆😆 So, yes. I've learned to celebrate my own child's great health and also learned that all children bring joy.
I wish you would do a video on the misleading sizes of babies in popular media.
A very good friend had called me in tears, she was coming close to her due date and she had seen a movie where the "newborn" was somewhere closer to 6-9 months. She was horrified! It took ALL the baby pictures that were taken of my children within the first few days of birth, and explaining that they were on the larger side of "normal" newborn size. I couldn't help but think of the similarities while explaining to my daughter that she doesn't have to worry about high school kids, cause the people in the shows and movies are in their late 20's to 30's (which was a conversation we had a few days prior to my friend's attack of terror).
They’re not trying to mislead. Younger babies are harder to work with. As for adults playing teenagers, labor laws are stricter for minors.
@@Claubuza It doesn't have to be an attempt to mislead, as you said, it sometimes can't be helped. I still believe a video on the actual sizes of most babies when they're born would be a really helpful tool for anxious mothers.
thank you for mentioning the part about cerebral palsy not being like an absolutely horrible life destroying thing that it’s portrayed as (as most disabilities are portrayed in media) it just makes me smile knowing that not everyone agrees with how disabilities are seen as in media
I will NEVER get sick of these. So funny and so educational & interesting ♡
Thank you for recognizing the internalized ableism a lot of us have about being disabled or having a child who is. I think it’s so important that you called that out while also acknowledging the validity of people’s feelings about these things. There’s a lot of nuance to having a disability or a disabled child, and empathy is so important to that end. Most diagnoses aren’t the end of the world - they just shift the reality of the future someone pictured.
My mom has endometriosis in her lungs as well as all over her abdominal cavity. She tried to have surgery to try to help, but they were unable to remove most of it because of where it was located. It took her 6 years and a lot of help to be able to conceive and after I was born, she was told her chances of conceiving again even with help was incredibly small. If she wouldn’t have needed continuous birth control to manage her symptoms, I think my parents would have thrown caution to the wind and not used protection because they wanted to have another child so on the 1 in a million chance it happened, they would have been thrilled. But, they didn’t care how they had another one so they decided adoption was what was best for our family. And it truly was. My sister is an amazing young woman and I can’t imagine our family without her.
It would be awesome if you could make a video about endometriosis, adenomyosis, endometriomas etc. I know you may not be an expert of this condition but it may still help since you're so good at explaining these kinds of issues. Thanks!
Same, I would love a video on it too. I’m about to have a hysterectomy after years of suffering with this and terrified it will have been for nothing (won’t make me feel better)
Thank you so much for advocating for cerebral palsy and disabilities like that! So many doctors still view many disabilities like autism (which isn’t diagnosed at birth though), deafness, blindness, Down’s syndrome and MANY more, as “this child will never talk, never succeed in anything in life etc” and parents hear that and believe it as it came from a doctor. It’s ableist, and then many parents don’t try to teach skills because they believe it’s pointless.
Yeah as an autistic person who is dyslexic and an ADHDer , honestly fuck them . This makes me so angry. 😠 🤬😡
My friend went into hospital for a D&C for endometriosis as she and her husband were trying to have a baby. During the surgery they discovered she was already pregnant. They gave her several pregnancy tests beforehand, including one just hours before the surgery. She hadn’t had a period for over 12 months. After the surgery she woke up and they told her that she was pregnant, but also that the chance of the baby surviving was close to zero. The next few months were so scary while they waited anxiously to find out if their (miracle) baby would survive. She gave birth to a healthy baby boy in this January, she had no complications.
Thank you for sharing that cerebral palsy is not always as devastating as people imagine. Some people I know with it have lived almost perfectly normal lives. It’s also helpful that you express that lack of prenatal care doesn’t cause it and is not the mother’s fault in this case.
I love you adding the part about people with cerebral palsy being able to lead good lives. I agree. I think the part of them crying in joy that their kid doesn't have CP almost makes it seem like they would have been devastated and almost disappointed about their child if she'd turned out to have CP. CP will cause more challenges, and I know everyone wants health for their kids, but a medical diagnosis shouldn't be a DISAPPOINTENT. Just something to keep in mind, study up on, and navigate through parenthood with.
I love what you said about cerebral paulsy! My sister inhaled the amniotic fluid during labor and was born dead. We got extremely lucky that the hospital she was in had the only machine on the entire west coast (still in testing at the time, almost 30 years ago) that could save her life. She has severe cerebral paulsy and is 100% dependent on us for everything, but we all love her to death! She is an absolute light in our lives! My parents take phenomenal care of her, and she is the healthiest one in the family.
My aunt was born with cerebral palsy and she is a fully functional 50+ yr old woman. She needs occasional breaks, but she has full use of her legs and arms. I've seen her struggle over the years but she never lets that get to her. Thank you for sticking up for cerebral palsy babies!
"Never judge people because...you might go into labour tomorrow" inspirational quotes from MDJ 🤣
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Thank you for informing people about CP. As a woman with CP, I have a master's degree, worked all my life, and raised two amazing adults. My CP happened at birth due to placenta previa and a delayed C-section. There are so many misconceptions about CP. I need a new PCP and one candidate refused me a pelvic exam because I have CP. One of my children was 9 lbs so this is ridiculous. Thank you again.
i have cerebral palsy. and my life is great!!!!! CP is a brain injury, lol, love ur videos, especially these reactions. please never stop
I am so thankful for the thoughtful, kind education you provide in these videos. I'm heading off to nursing school in a couple of months, and I have learned so much from your videos about what it means to be a compassionate healthcare provider.
Thank you for being king towards people with disabilities. The comments I see from videos of babies with genetic conditions at birth are abhorrent
Are you serious??? What soulless person would attack new parents and their baby(s)??
I've never even heard 'you can't get pregnant with endo.' My grandmother had severe endometriosis and get pregnant once at 19 and once at 21 (she then had to spend several years asking doctors for a hysterectomy for the pain, until she found one that didn't push her to wait and see if she wanted more children)
This might be one of my favorite reactions ever especially the end with her talking about watching an episode of I didn't know I was pregnant. 😂😂🥰🥰
You can never say “you do the best you can with the information you have” enough. I love that you always say that! Dr Mama Jones always supporting families is what I’m here for!
I once forgot to mark when I had my period on my calendar, and having a terrible memory, I freaked out and thought I was pregnant. I took several tests that were all negative, went to my OBGYN for extra testing and then realized I was not only right on schedule but had just forgotten to write my last one down. That's when I scheduled to get my birth control implant. Never again, thank you very much.
Thank you for speaking up about the cerebral palsy "diagnosis" & how wrong it was. Even casual commentary in a show like this for the outrage/shock value hurts people with disabilities who are out there living incredible lives. My uncle Peter had CP & was one of the most badass people I knew (his favourite joke when people choked after making ableist jokes around him was "My sense of humour is great, it's my sense of balance that sucks"). I actually can't imagine him being the person he was *without* CP.
If anyone is interested in learning more about the CP experience, please watch Maysoon Zayid's Ted Talk, "I Got 99 Problems & Palsy is Just One."
The bit at the beginning with the call out to doctors... I really really hope other doctors hear that. I was absolutely heartbroken when I got told I wouldn't be able to get pregnant. At 21 and as someone who had grown up working with kids and wanted a family when I was ready, it really shattered me. Please don't tell someone there is no chance of them getting pregnant, even if its low, saying you wont is SO SO SO much worse.
Thank you, mama Dr. Jones I have minor cerebral palsy that only effects the left side of my body; I'm pretty healthy and a soon-to-be mother. Your videos have helped me alot❤😊
I would just like to say that my cousin has cerebral palsy and my aunt did indeed get prenatal care. He is now a fulfilled and happy adult who graduated college a couple years ago. It's absolutely awful they made her think it would've been her fault!
I absolutely love this series. I very commonly use that saying of "You do the best you can with the information that you have" for all sorts of situations. Also thank you for saying everything after about cerebral palsy. I am disabled and I really appreciated hearing that you said being disabled isn't a life ending sentence.
My aunt has cerebral palsy and she's a badass. She was a CEO of an investment firm for several years, she went to college at 16, and she's raised 2 kids! Cerebral palsy is a difficult disability to live with, but people with it can still live fulfilling lives with it!
Right on! ❤😊
Momma Doctor Jones telling me I could go into labor tomorrow has just made my day. I need a t-shirt that says that😂
Physical therapist and board-certified pediatric clinical specialist here. I shrieked so loud when they said lack of prenatal care could cause cerebral palsy, that I’m very relieved I’m the only one in the office doing my notes right now… Completely unacceptable to give that level of faulty and guilt inducing information to a family.
and not to mention the reverse result - people thinking they can't have a child diagnosed if they got prenatal care...or that their doctor must have missed something. It's just all around shocking me. Their medical expert (who I cut out) didn't even correct it. It's just...ahhh!
I'm mad with you over that one! I'm a disabled adult with a physical disability called Spina Bifida... That is a birth defect. CP, however, is generally caused by a traumatic birth or something like a stroke in utero. I've never known/heard of anyone getting that diagnosis from a lack of prenatal care.
I'm sure a lot of us were getting angry at the ableist crap too, but I guess we should remember two things, 1) when you're in a stressful situation, you might not be hearing what the doctor is saying and may have misconstrued what they actually said or pinned your own guilt onto something else they said, and 2) some doctors are a-holes and don't deserve to practice.
@@bunhelsingslegacy3549 was there any need to insert yourself here? There wasn't. It's never fine to justify ableist crap (this isn't that) or false information given in TV shows (the case here).
@@DesAMowadeng I apologize. It wasn't intended that way and thank you for calling me out. As you said, it most likely is rampant TV bs which I generally assume is combined with ableism. It was my inappropriate attempt to share without oversharing that I've been in the room when an asshole doctor with no bedside manner was presenting their prognosis over my father after a serious cardiac event and my mom and my brother and I all understood what he said differently from each other. I'll stop justifying myself now, and thanks again for calling me out.
@@bunhelsingslegacy3549 Bedside manner is such a small part of the larger issue here. Alot of people really grossly misunderstand ableism. By definition it is an able persons idea that those with disabilities are less than as a result of how they present in the world. While this did pertain to a disability, where the experience of ableism is common and likely, that wasn't what was taking place but merely inaccurate information being presented as it relates to a disability. The reason it's so problematic is because in the case of birth defects like mine doctors highly discourage continuation of a pregnancy as a result of what might be the reality of the situation when it often isn't the case. People viewing the episode of this show now believe prenatal care will prevent CP when it won't prevent it and lack of prenatal care isn't the cause.
@@DesAMowadeng You'd think something that calls itself The Learning Channel would provide better information... especially when the average viewer can't be bothered to fact-check and just believes everything the TV says...
I was wrongly diagnosed with PCOS in 2011 (rampant fatphobia in medical communities).
I was told I could never get pregnant without "ovarian drilling".
I conducted my s@x life accordingly.
I got pregnant 4 times.
As of 2018 I have zero signs of PCOS.
Turns out the extraordinary high stress of an abusive relationship can cause extreme hair loss and hormonal disruption.
I am holding my newborn daughter as I write this.
I had pre-eclampsia AFTER giving birth. Twice. One of the reasons my gestational hypertension was so exacerbated was because of the fatphobia of the hospital.
I'm sorry you went through that bullshit, from one internet stranger to another
Dang, I don't even have ovaries but I love your content! Other than these fun react videos, your content has been helpful to understand how the body works in am attempt to be able to properly educate my daughters.
I was watching the old film "Look Who's Talking" recently and thinking how wild the opening scenes are (depicting conception, pregnancy and birth from the perspective of the sperm/foetus). I'd *LOVE* your reaction to it please (and maybe the sequel) - there's definitely some inaccuracies in it, I'm not even convinced that the baby turned for delivery!
My favourite part was that after her waters apparently broke, her clothing was still bone dry 😆
I have CP and I appreciate you saying what you said. I have minimal CP where I can’t really use my right arm. But I have a fulfilling life so far
As someone who lives with what most doctors would define as a relatively severe form of cerebral palsy (CP), I sincerely appreciate how you approached this episode. There are so many misconceptions related to acquiring and living with CP, and I feel you did a great job debunking those! Personally, my parents were told I would be "a complete vegetable" due to hypoxia caused by the umbilical cord becoming wrapped around my throat when they were trying to turn me around in the womb. Today, I have a Master's degree in social work and I am a manager in a children's hospital.
All this is to say that people will CP 100% can lead healthy, happy, and meaningful lives (with unique challenges, of course). I think it is important for doctors to provide the scope of possibilities when sharing a diagnosis of any kind because it is crucial to being honest WHILE offering a realistic sense of hope. Anyway, thank you for addressing this in such a thoughtful way!
I’m so glad you said what you said about Cerebral Palsy! It’s important to remind people
LMAO!!!! I absolutely LOVE how passionate you are like “STOP IT STOP IT, that is NOT how you get serable palsy”!! & serable palsy is not the worst thing ever, there are people with it that go on to live happy healthy and productive lives WITH it! Which is 💯% TRUTH!!!
Oh my gosh! The same thing happened to a coworker of mine. Luckily, she & her doctor caught that she was pregnant at 6 months. She was shocked as we all were at work!!!!
Have a cousin diagnosed with CP in late 80s early 90s. His parents were basically told he'd never do anything so his mom made sure he ate, drank, was diapered, and bathed but otherwise ignored. My grandma and I(10) both called BS and did our own research. Shortly after we had him potty trained, diagnosed as deaf, and walking! His speech still isn't great, but he's graduated college at the top of his class, loves to run, mow lawns, and swim. He's the sweetest young man and had my grandma and I not fought for him he'd likely be in a home. He won't be able to live in his own so at some point his siblings will either have to put him in a home or take him in, but what an amazing man he is!
I learned so much about endometriosis today! Thanks! Also, "Oh my, it's the tumor," although terrifying for the person involved, is comedy gold. Imagine a doctor saying that after merely feeling your stomach, dfhgjkl;cfgyhkjl;vbhnjmkl;
I started watching your reaction videos to this series about a year ago and stayed because I like learning about everything and the humor. I’ve found myself often reminding myself we do the best we can with the information we have. It helps in general. Also, I have Cerebral Palsy and do have a fulfilling happy life, I just have to do things differently, slowly, or with assistance, so thank you for what you had to say! 😊
Endo patient here! Endo was found on my appendix during my surgery to remove my left ovary due to an endometrioma. Was told chances of conceiving were low but I did get pregnant 3 months after my surgery but it ended in miscarriage. It took 3 years to get pregnant again naturally after saving money for IVF. Currently 15 weeks pregnant with our miracle baby! ❤😊
Thanks for the talk about CP. I have a friend that had a traumatic birth and her child suffered a hypoxic event during labor and delivery. She is the best kid, beating the odds every day!
This favourite time of the month arrived at exactly the same time as my other time of the month. Mixed feelings rn 😂
Same
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Thank you for sharing! It’s true about people still getting pregnant with endometriosis. My mom was diagnosed at 27 and they said if she wants to have kids do it now. Within 6 months of trying she got pregnant with me and a year and a half later had my sister. It’s completely possible and not the end of the world if you get diagnosed with it!❤️
My aunt went through the "same" thing, she thought that she couldn't get pregnant, the doctor told her she need a hysterectomy but than she discovered she was pregnant and got another obgyn
I appreciate you, Danielle. You are totally right on the CP aspect. I have CP and know others who have varying degrees of it and we are living our lives the best we can.
Oh my gosh I feel your rage on the blaming lack of prenatal care for cerebral palsy. One of my cousins had cerebral palsy, there wasn't anything that happened during or after his birth that they could think of to cause it, his disability was severe and he wasn't expected to live past 2 years. He beat all the odds and passed away at 14. He was wheelchair bound his entire life but he could communicate, he could play with his siblings, he was an incredibly happy kid who ignored what doctors said he would be able to do. I hope he knew how much he was loved.
Two of my friends have kids with CP, both were premature babies. One has mild symptoms, the other has moderate symptoms but is still keeping up with her peers.
You do the best you can with the information you have has legitimately been the mantra getting me through my pregnancy - appreciate you so much Mama Doctor Jones
I love how TH-cam says under the videos if a person is a licensed healthcare professional this will help avoid so much misinformation spreading
I'm so glad you like it! I am on the TH-cam Health board and we thought of this idea and worked hard to get this into action!!
@@MamaDoctorJones awesome 👍
A friend was told at 18 by the doctor who diagnosed her endometriosis that she was consequently sterile. She was devastated and in reaction had a period of recklessness including unprotected sex. By complete chance, she learned that she was pregnant at 5 months, and she was until then very skinny so with no way of knowing (she told me she started showing immediately after learning about the pregnangcy). It was past the legal abortion time in our country, and although she loves her son dearly, it clearly is not the circumstances (or the father) she wanted, it completely derailed her life plans.
These doctors make me so angry. Although my doctor did actually tell me the right way about the fertility impact my PCOS could have, he also told me the "cure" would be to get pregnant while I never want to be lol. So glad there are more and more doctors like you out there, and you participate so much in educating both patients and practitioners.
Young women are still being told that they can't get pregnant when they diagnose them with PCOS and emdometriosis. It is wildly inappropriate and negligent.
your comment sections are always the best and have the most interesting stories 💕
As someone named Angel born with mild cerebral palsy, this video was definitely interesting for me 😂
I find your sense of humor just so hilarious! You’re definitely a little silly with it sometimes & I personally believe we should ALL have just a little bit of silly in our lives, it keeps us younger, happier, & makes life just not so darn stressful ALL OF THE TIME!
I got my “period”, but I just felt that something was unusual.
I heard your voice in my head to take a pregnancy test. Sure enough it came back positive 😁
As a young adult with CP thank you also most people with CP could classify as neurodivergent and it can occur anytime before the age of 5
They said lack of prenatal care can cause cerebral palsy and I said “UM?!” So loudly my dog moved 😂
I started laughing at MDJ’s face when she slammed that pause button lol
A cousin has CP. She’s in her 30’s and although she sometimes has a a hard time getting around, she works a PT job and seems to be happy. I know it’s hard on her parents and I’m not sure what arrangements are in place once they pass, but Elizabeth seems to be living her life to the fullest!
My mom has PCOS and has had 3 children, no problem. My brother was even concieved on birth control because she was on antibiotics that made the birth control less effective. PCOS doesn't always mean you can never have kids, I understand some people have worse than others and do sadly battle with infertility, but my mom was told she would have fertility issues and actually had the opposite, and that's why I agree it's so important doctors don't tell people with endometriosis or PCOS that they have no chance of having a baby.
Are you sure it was the antibiotics and not just the birth control regulating her hormones? I have PCOS and I am on birth control for the PCOS my Ob/Gyn constantly reminds me that I can get pregnant on birth control, especially since it is strictly a progesterone-based birth control.
@@shadowkissed2370 Did your gynaecologist never tell you that antibiotics cause hormonal birth control to not work? I thought that was literally the first thing they tell you when they prescribe BC is that if you have to take antibiotics, use condoms as backup for at least up to two weeks after you stop taking the antibiotics because antibiotics cause birth control to be ineffective.
MDJ herself says the "antibiotics make your birth control not work" thing is a myth
@@neurodivergentpixi6736 That's a myth. MDJ says so herself.
@@neurodivergentpixi6736it’s only certain types of antibiotics that do that, and those types are rarely prescribed anymore. MDJ has mentioned this several times in IDKIWP reactions
I have CP. When they said the lack of prenatal care was the cause, both my mom and I got angry along with you.
My wife and I always rely on 2 forms of infertility as our birth control. She has prematurely old eggs and I have zero sperm.
Anyday you’ll be featured here 😅
Awww. I love your reactions in this. You are so kind to the people who depend on you. You are a credit to doctors.
It is upsetting that inaccuracies are put into this program. I assumed they had a competent, educated medical advisor but maybe not.