Tami Roman Reveals She Suffers from Body Dysmorphic Disorder: ‘My Self-Image Was Annihilated’
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- In an emotional reveal, guest co-host Tami Roman opens up about her 13-year diagnosis with body dysmorphia. Plus, she shares when the disease started and what effect hearing “you’re too skinny” ACTUALLY has on her mind.
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Tami's testimony is the epitome why people should not be judgemental because you never know what insecurities a person may be facing.
Thank you!
Yup and it can lead people into getting mental disorders because they're so mentally damaged from all those judgements. No one will ever understand unless they have dealt with it.
Yes. You don't have to be attracted. But to attack. And yes I believe that is an attack on a persons look. That's when it is wrong. It took me 31 years to accept myself and love myself. Words do hurt and it doesnt mean you're weak it just means that we are human and we have feelings. Love this comment.
Right
Yes.
I just gained a whole new level of respect for Tami
Calm down, grandma.
She is weak.
@@carlitosway1330 idk what that comment is supposed to mean pls elaborate
Same!
@@tuesdayabdullahi1278
She's all, "Oh, boo hoo, someone called me fat 20 years ago. I'm a victim!"
Miss me with that.
@@carlitosway1330 this is why people don’t open up because of bums like you
One of the most powerful 10 minute conversations on television EVER!!! This lives up to REAL talk! Thank you Tami! Thank God for the courage to be transparent. I wish Tami the very BEST!
Why isn’t Adrian not getting pregnant?
@@2jcward Hollywood womb probably. She may have to buy one like the others.
AMEN
@@2jcward why is that your concerns or business. Leave that alone.
I remember going to the doctor as a preteen and the nurse tried to take my blood pressure. She had to use an adult tool to take my blood pressure and I heard her laughing with another nurse about my arms being to big for my age and my weight afterwards. People can be so cruel, not knowing the the consequences of their actions or words. Words hurt too!!
Words are triggering. It was always shaming me for "you're too skinny" when I was younger. When I put on 15 pounds after a sickness, I wasn't used to it and stopped eating for several months. Now all it takes is some asshole on the internet to randomly call me fat and I am back to that.
I always wonder why adults choose to Target preteens cuz they used to Target me and call me big and snakums when I was a preteen and it was mainly from adults sometimes the kids but it was the adult females that did majority of the bullying!!!
My God! I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. People really does not understand the weight of their words. God made you beautiful, period.
To be 35 years old and never had an adult bP cuff… I know your struggles! I’ve just never was able to gain weight and because of all the name calling, ( olive oil, skinny Minnie, etc) and the fact that the women in my family are natural “stacked” both boobs and butt everybody still tells me I have an eating disorder. I had to convince several doctors all my life starting as a child that I’m not anorexic balemic or any type of eating disorders! Everyday part of my prayer is to gain just enough wait so people won’t say I’m sick or I don’t feel like I have to over eat when people are watching! I’ve had nurses and doctors laugh at my face and tell me to just eat more!
@@jumokabward7450 People are so negative and could care less how it affects us. The upside about this (if there is one) is that sometimes karma does hit those people where it hurts. I witnessed it happen a time or two with some people who really had it coming to them. I just wish that I could see it come back on everybody who has done me dirty. I think my depression would completely go away if that were to happen.
Ladies, you don't know how much you are helping other young women out there. Thank you for being so transparent and honest.
I'm 58 been dealing with my weight since I was 8 yrs of age.
@@glchild251 You're beautiful ❤️ Hope you are better
@@vudulove9345 thank you, we are beautiful and getting healthy ❤
Thank u Tammy, i thank my grandbaby is going thru this sickness from looking at small girls and other girl comments about her breast size and but and she only 14, and its a focus off her hurt feelings from the lost of both parents.
@@debrajones6317 I will keep her lifted up.
This woman should be a real cohost, she is telling her truth raw and we need this type of realness
Exchange her for Jeannie
@@jonnydavis6066 I concur.
@@jonnydavis6066 hell no
Made me tear a bit☹️
She is good as a guest host. Permanent is a no..
God, this made me cry. So many women go through this. Look at the BBL situation. So many women hate what they see in the mirror and it's so sad. I promise I've been here MANY times. Just be kind to people, man. Chill with the jokes and comments about peoples body. It's so hard out here to love yourself in this shallow world we live in. 🖤
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Right!!! Reminds me of the time my "friend" laughed and pointed out my knock knees while I was wearing a short skirt and she was walking behind me. Also, there were 3 of us walking so she could care less of how humiliating that was. Then when I came back on her by telling her to look at her own knees that were not only knocked, but skinny as hell, she got mad at me. Then she said "But I know how to stand so that it doesn't look like it." I told her something back and it was over, but I never forgot that. She also said some other mean things that I had to check her on but that was the most memorable. Her ego was so big that she really felt like she could just tear me down but was not supposed to get checked for doing so. Also, she did this to others as well. I stayed "friends" with her just to be able to witness her karma because I knew she had it coming. And I was right!!! Over the years, she has gotten dogged out by numerous guys, was publicly dumped by one, left by her babies' daddy, had numerous fallouts with female friends and fell out with her 2 sisters who were the ones who always had her back when she was in a jam and was talked negatively about by her boss at her new job after having just moved from Minnesota to South Carolina for it. The funny part to me is that she tells me about every downfall in her life. She has no idea that the only reason I decided to stay "friends" with her is because I knew she would get thrown off of her high horse and I didn't want to wonder if she ever got hers. I wanted to witness it.
Wow me and my coworker just talked about this bbl situation this morning.
My Black Gods the true and living Black Gods which are my parents, my grandparents, my great grandparents & all my ancestors had me to have no sympathy for Tami Roman's body dymorphic due to her being so constantly disrespectful towards others throughout the years of her life.
Amen
I starting noticing the drastic weight loss with Tami about a year ago, I follow Tami on social media. I never said anything because you never know what someone is going through, I never wanted to put my foot in my mouth or cross boundaries that I had no business crossing, so I never commented my personal thoughts on the issue. I am so thrilled that she is okay, Tami is a very beautiful woman indeed, and hopefully, she will one day realize just how beautiful she really is.
But on the show she said it’s because she was sick, so she lied.
I follow her too and my mom and grandma are diabetic when I talked to them they said your weight can drop dramatically and now that I seen she has body dysmorphia on top of that she a strong and brave woman and hope she can find peace within
She looks 😍 just fine female!!
@@2jcward I'm going to let you slide with this comment.
She looks so sick..I hope she gets better
They got me crying over here. Tammy is really strong for bringing this up and explaining it. She explained it spot on.
It definitely made me cry as well because I was concerned when I seen her then to hear why she is so thin it broke my heart this is exactly why we can't judge people 😢
Wow ladies this was deep. I don't have the level of her situation but I suffer every day with not over eating. I understand her and hope we can reach a healthy at least medium.
She clearly and passionately shared an inside look at her condition. This wasn’t easy. She’s to be applauded.
HELLO !!!!
Tami’s been through A LOT. From aborting her twins on the first national reality show The Real World, to her ex husband’s infidelity, to being domestically abused, to struggling to conceive by her boyfriend due to age related infertility on Basketball Wives, to this illness. Give your heart to Christ, he will fix it.
Ever person praying for you does not have good intentions.
She's rejecting their intentions and there's nothing wrong with that. Even the old school church mothers tell you not to let any and every person pray over you for that reason.
@@roseamberzine5846 she said some thing that is so Facts , all Prayers aren't good ...
At 50 there’s not a lot of hope for natural fertility. But everything else you said yes, she has been through a lot.
AMEN
I wish Adrienne didn’t interrupt Tammy when she was about to reveal more about her condition to help others. Interviewing is a skill. Please learn to let your guest finish there vulnerable thoughts before trying to ask a question or relate on such important topics. This segment could have been more amazing without that interruption. Sure it wasn’t on purpose, just be more aware in the future.
Adrienne was annoying with her interruptions. She's always trying to be relatable, but that wasn't warranted here. Tami needed to share her personal story at that moment. Tami is highly intelligent and well-spoken. Loni was trying to encourage her to seek therapy right now even though she has had therapy in the past. Let's just continue to pray for Tami as I hope she seeks the professional help and support she needs.
I know right! I wanted to know what she was going to say.
I agree. I hope that she saw her mistake and learned from it.
I felt the same way - I was like why did she interrupt
Adrienne's always been a talker.
I truly admire Tammies and Loni transparency and honesty. This is truly powerful
🙏🏼
It's sad.
They need to grow up.
"Oh, boo...someone called me fat 20 years ago."
First world problems.
@@carlitosway1330 lol I used to be like this. Telling people to get over stuff bla-bla-bla. It’s insensitive. It’s her story and her life. She can take her time to deal with it.
@@ornellabasua5752
😂🤣😂🤣😊
Outstanding conversation 🙂
This woman is a hero for speaking on this so honestly and courageously
She will always be a victim.
@@carlitosway1330 right was a whole bully but want someone to feel sorry for her
@@titlepending1302 , I thought I was the only one who remembered Tammi.
@@titlepending1302 You people are sick
@@shanequaaustin8908 aren’t we all sick 🤷🏾♀️
This is literally as real as it gets. Much respect!
Here comes the Karen's being negative I'm so happy she shared her story because I was Geniuwenly Concerned about her
Agreed 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯😢
@@shanequaaustin8908 As a 42 years old Black man who is extremely pro-Black Tami Roman does not get my sympathy despite her suffering from body dysmorphic since she was 11 years old due to her total disrespect of others throughout the years.
Yessssssss
This is one of the realest moments this show has had. Have a new respect for Tami.
This is the “Real” transparency. Whoever told Tami at age 13 years those remarks broke her - annihilated her thoughts 💭 Adults can really really really be a blessing or a curse towards developing children. Stop it Mean, Insensitive Adults. Look the hurt you cause. Hopefully Tami will work pass this disorder🛐🛐🛐🛐🛐🛐🛐👑💕
Facts 💯 would love to see how the lady looks now ... she probably a old hot mess 😳 Tammy probably looks 10xs BETTET THAN HER NOW. FACTS 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯
It’s probably more than than one person that’s said negative things about her looks and weight? This person was just the catalyst for her justification that she’s not worthy. When I was in HS a doctor told me I weighed too much (I only weighed 135 lbs)...I was ashamed of my thick athletic legs because people made remarks about them. The skinny girls didn’t get the negativity i got, it seemed. I became anorexic. I still thought I looked bad even though people were saying that I look like I’m on crack!
Yup damage on top of damage
I was bullied a lot growing up, mostly by peers, but I remember an adult or two, saying something negative to me. Over the years, I would act like it wasn't a big deal and try to forget, just to be able to live. But it seems that since covid hit and I've been home a lot, having time to really just sit with my thoughts, I can't stop thinking of those negative things. It's like I'm having some sort of delayed anger issue. I regret not standing up for myself more than anything. I think of all the things I could've said and how those things would never fly with me now, if they were said to me. I even stopped talking to 2 friends this year for things they said over 10 years ago that I didn't check them on back then. It's like I'm doing a review of my life and realizing who I should've cut out of it years ago. So since I didn't do it back then, I'm doing it now. I'm sure they are confused as to why it's been a year and I don't return their calls but I don't care anymore. It's like I'm getting revenge and thinking about me for a change. Suppressed anger/humiliation is a hard pill to swallow and really does follow you for life it seems. I guess for Tami it manifested itself in the form of body issues. For me, it's am ongoing, "functional" depression that has been with me for decades.
@@OldskolFan I can relate but I was told negative things across the board because I was an introverted person in school. It's like once they labeled me as something, that's all I was in their eyes. If I did something out of the perimeters of that label, they'd make a big deal about it. So I stayed in that box just so I wouldn't be called out if I did something that was extroverted. I think about those times and my hate for those people is deeper now than back then. People really can do damage to you in ways they don't even realize. I've suffered with depression since I was 11 and just learned to live with it. All I can hope for is that karma has paid them multiple visits over the years.
"Even concern can hurt peoples feelings" you should consider that! Very real statement Adrienne 💜
Grow up.
You're absolutely right.
I understand feelings are very important but i think after a certain age, everyone should get to a point in their life when they don’t allow they’re feelings to take a front seat in their lives! Like come on, if someone’s concerned about you and speaks on it, although your feelings may be hurt, you need to also consider the entire situation and know they care for you hence why they’re approaching you with their concern. I think the worse situation is when someone notices something wrong and ignores it (doesn’t approach you about it) just to spare your feelings? That’s terrible. Obviously wisdom needs to guide their method of approach, there are bad/disrespectful ways to confront a situation but if someone’s saying they’ve noticed that you’ve gotten skinny and asking if everything’s okay or saying they’ll pray for you, I personally don’t think that’s means to be mad or annoyed at the person. Because in the end were their concerns even wrong?? No. It may not be cancer of the body that she has but she does have cancer of the mind because any type of mental disorder is draining, exhausting, and hard !
@@MsSugarlips21 Absolutely right, you can’t get angry at people who care being concerned. And people aren’t wrong for being concerned so that’s an unreal expectation.
@@MsSugarlips21 Exactly! Then if you don't show concern and something happens to that person ...then what?
You stay silent to spear their feelings , that's ridiculous .If you genuinely care for someone and you see them struggling or looking a bit off you address it period. Now that's Love! Fake people will avoid telling the truth and just pacify you , but it's the real ones who will address the elephant in the room.
I remember watching the episodes on the real world when Tami got her mouth wired shut. I was very young... under 10 years old. I remember that moment now at 35. After being anorexic, bulimic, and abusing laxatives myself, I can honestly identify with her pain. Thank you Tami for being open and transparent. Thank you to The Real Daytime for giving a platform for discussion surrounding body image!!!!!
I remember this too. Lord.
I thought of that too. I kept asking why someone would do that
As a women who want s to loose I'd rather have my mouth wired shut than the other surgeries. I am going to look into it ASAP
I’m bawling my eyes out !!! We rooting for you tami !
That’s exactly why y’all need stop speaking on this woman’s weight. I’m beyond proud of her for coming forth about her self. ❤️❤️
They did the same thing with Chadwick speaking on peoples bodies and weight but don’t know what they going through behind Close doors ….just like they keep asking Michelle why she don’t have kids 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ don’t like people
@@blossom7464 it’s just beyond sad and ridiculous.
This is beautiful Tami, I wish Adrian would’ve let her complete her thought process when she was digging deeper coz she was about to reveal even more of her mental and emotional journey and silence was necessary for her to see it through.
She talks too much
Same! I wish she would let her finish
Omg! I thought the same thing. Adrienne always does this! Cuts guests or other hosts off when they’re about to reveal something deep. Love her but it’s so annoying! 🙄
Same! Interrupts way too much.
Right I also felt like she compared random insecurities to an actual health issue. Sometimes it is best to not try to relate but just to listen.
This reminds me of Chadwick Boseman. (Rest in power forever) Tami is so brave to speak on this. People are so cruel to leave such comments about someone. You never know what a person is going through. It costs you absolutely nothing to be kind!
Agreed 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯 :(((
This just shook me to my core. You never know what a person is dealing with INTERNALLY. Their own thoughts , their battles. I’m literally taken aback but also so amazed by her strength to share something like this and hopefully it’s a lesson for us all in refraining from commenting on other people’s bodies.
Yup. This is why we have to be kind
You're so right!
Jacoby yall need to be reminded all thee drama ,traumatics she caused others..it's bad how a person can talk about the motes in someone eye, but a logs of motes in their own eyes, wolf in sheep clothing
Respect!
Amen
She's not "ok" or "fine" she's dealing with a personal struggle probably the best way she knows how but she definitely needs help, therapy or someone outside her inner circle to speak to. ❤️ She's beautiful even if she doesn't see it nor does she need to hear it but I hope one day she feels it and in a genuine, healthy, positive way.
did she not say that she has help outside her cirlce?
@@boujee_bridget no she said in the past she was in therapy that's how she was diagnosed but the way she's dealing with it right now is by talking to her family, friends and those closest to her she said at the end no she's not in any professional help but struggling and kept repeatedly saying "I'm ok, I'm fine."
Definitely. It’s just as serious as anorexia
And her fans are the problem telling her how she looks amazing and that she looks 20 years old when I’m reality you can see that she is not well.
@@longbranch11207 her fans can tell her she looks sick but she’ll warp that into a positive. There’s no winning.
Loni made me cry with her genuineness.
Me too! We all need to see her feel so we can learn to feel again and be empathetic towards others. The world has lost that trait. I’m always called sensitive and I’m going to stay that way instead of losing it.
It’s sad how she tries to be her honest self and people criticize her for anything. You can tell she has such caring and honest energy and people just tear her apart.
Yessss cause I was Loni, I respected Tami too much to be negative and say anything , but I was so scared like are we watching her disappear . Managing herself without therapy , o nooo
Me too
🙋🏽♀️😪❤
I once saw Tami in the airport a couple of years ago, I said “Hey Tami” and she said hello and gave me the warmest smile and hello back. She is really beautiful. Nice spirit.
I’m glad tami is getting the support, she needs from family and friends. I hope she keeps doing what’s best for her…😍😍😍
What's best for her is to accept professional counseling!!! Thought her childhood she had been abused sexually. Because of the extent of the abuse she need professional help. Obviously she couldn't do it on her own. I have a problem with her failing to seek professional help. Can't she see that she's not capable of doing it herself. She really isn't trying to help herself. She wasn't that frail when she and Shaunie O'neal were acting together. She was a healthy size .Just lately since she married Reggie she's start getting skinny. She wasn't that skinny. actually looked real healthy. Tami you have to make it make since. Only since she been with Reggie has she begun losing weight!!! She may be going thru a mid-life crisis. Something is going on with her but definitely not body dismorphia. She married this younger man and now wants to be a Twiggy. She know damn well that looking that frail ain't attractive. Tami make it make sense. Does she feel that she needs to make Reggie feel that she's sickly he'll stay with her since she is older than he. If she believes he truly loves her than let that be so!!! She didn't feel insecure about her appearance until she got with him. It just don't add up!!! It sounds more like a mental thing where she is going thru a mid-life crisis episode. Maybe she doesn't want to really be with him anymore. She appears to be wanting attention??? Everything she says isn't adding up. ...... That's my opinion.
@@bettystephenson5948 “She knows damn well that looking that frail ain’t attractive.” “She didn’t feel insecure about her appearance until she got with him.” Wow, did you even attempt to listen to what she had to say?
What a long Episcile/opinion...hope it matters to her.
@@gaila.9852 🤣😂
I’m so proud of Tami. I have suffered from this for my entire life.
Sorry to hear about your suffering. Wishing you well and you too Tami!
Sending you love and encouragement! It’s a journey, not a destination, so take it moment by moment and applaud yourself every step of the way for wanting to be your best self💜
Yes me too. I have struggled with an eating disorder my whole life.
Same
Tami is speaking to my soul man… This is why I love this show, I can learn at least ONE thing and apply it to my life when they talk about serious topics like this one. I relate to Tami’s struggle because being on the other side of the spectrum, I look at myself in the mirror and it’s hard not to criticize everything I see. Literally every little detail. Then it’s a slippery slope and you think that since *you* don’t like yourself who’s gonna like you? and why should they? We gotta be extra careful not to let the hurt child make the adult decisions - and by that I mean, we gotta start and at least try to look at the positive every once in a while.
WOW- this hit my entire soul. POWERFUL. WE need more of this. This is truly REAL.
🥺🙏🏻
I’m so glad she found the strength to say it out loud ❤️ real strength
This was probably the realest conversation on the real.
For sure
Facts!
Yes!
We live in a cruel world. I've been bullied about my appearance too as a child and now as a adult. It really hurts. It hurts real bad.
Hearing all three of them share their spectrum of struggles on this was insanely powerful. My god! I’m a teacher and it really shows some of the underlying damage adults can do unknowingly. I am still processing this and I’m just at a loss for words. Just wow!
Totally appreciate Tami’s transparency. Wish this convo was had with Garcelle and Jeannie tho
It always puzzles me when certain co hosts aren't on the stage because I would liked to have them all there for this conversation.
@@ImJustaWill I know, but it looks like they're both absent and she's co-hosting.
@@olamiduno.3571 I just read that after I typed my reply lol
I think they don't want to crowd the stage and have everyone talking at the guest all at once. So it's easier to bring two host out get a more intimate interview.
@@ImJustaWill I think that maybe Jeannie and Garcelle are out on vacation or sick/medical appointment or whatever, so they needed a co-host. They probably don’t have all the hosts plus the guests on stage at the same time as a COVID precaution. It’s better to have less people on stage and lower the chances of spreading COVID.
The way she said those comments sounded to her was so eye opening
Wow, I forgot how sweet and genuine Loni was. So Tami really does need professional help not just family. She needs a doctor and a psychiatrist. Hollywood is brutal, I think it messes up your mind.
Wow this is so deep .. a conversation I didn’t even know I needed to hear ❤️
I love Tami's transparency here. So many women suffer in silence and no one knows.
POINT IS: DO NOT comment on people's physical appearance! You look like you've lost weight or have you gained weight? We dont want none of that! But what's unfortunate is that IG makes it possible for people to do exactly that! Wow Tami was literally the best person to speak about this subject. I'm sure her story will help people out there and open a lot of eyes.
EXACTLY.
So true
Or are you pregnant
Not commenting on a person's physical appearance in a positive way is something that I have to unlearn. I have been wired myself to compliment people on their physical appearance not understanding how it may hurt them.
But I get it, it's just best to speak on other things. So proud of Tami.
💯
I absolutely love Tammi’s transparency, I now have even more respect for her, nowadays it’s so easy to lie to make someone look good or bad and so many people believe whatever is thrown out there, this was actually refreshing to hear …. I’m totally glad to hear that Tammi is Ok and she is and has always been beautiful. This is another reason why adult bullying should be brought to light, remember when Evelyn made fun of how Tammi looked and at that time nothing was even wrong with Tammi’s appearance but of course the bully found something and Shaunie fed into it and laughed and chuckled with Evelyn.
This was the REALEST Real I’ve ever seen! I commend Tammy for being so transparent! I don’t think I would’ve been able to do that being that she has the entire world judging her. Then to hear the very comments made about her weight cause more harm is heartbreaking.
This is the BEST conversation this show has EVER EVER had! Period! It's real in my life and I just don't have all of the words for how beneficial this is for me personally.
THIS !!!
Loni wrapped it up, but she’s going to get her friend some help. I felt like she didn’t want Tami to say much more of anything. There may be really personal reasons why she is trying to deal with it on her own. Love Loni lately. Her compassion is unmatched. Tami thank you for being so bold and transparent. You are saving lives.
I caught that too… 💛
Seemed more like she just didn’t want her to speak about the industry…..
This hit me so hard. I've been struggling with body dysmorphia since I was 13 too. One kid said my stomach was big and that was it. Even if I gain muscle mass I start to feel terrible about myself. This is such a powerful episode.
Maybe this is why her attitude has been so turbulent over the years. I applaud her for finally opening up about this. I almost cried when they both broke down.
You have a point. I was bullied a lot growing up because I was/still am an introvert. Plus, I've dealt with negativity from others as an adult. I always wondered what was going on with them mentally to be so mean for no reason.......at least on the surface there seemed to be no reason. I never felt the need to bully or be negative to someone just to do it. But some people seem to get pleasure out of it which always made me think they had to have underlying issues. Now, thinking back, Tami had a very dominant/bullying type of personality on Basketball Wives. So maybe that's how these people end up like this. They go through things that they feel like they can't control and then unleash on innocent people to feel like they are superior or have control. Hence, bullying is born.
As a sufferer of this, I have NEVER heard someone speak so openly and rawly about this in public. I am so glad someone finally did. This is a silent disorder that no one talks about. It's also genetic. I was born with it.
Sorry you are going through this. 🙏 I feel for her. And you.
How can u be born with it?
My sister is big..loves herself..loves being a big girl..me ?nooooo, we are the same size most of our lifes..we are 5 years apart..She wears stuff that if i had on i would pick myself apart
@@michellecox8538 You can be born with it we need to do everything in our power to do research and at least try to be understanding you are so cold hearted
@@shanequaaustin8908
How am i cold?i said NOT on rude or mean thing..so, im very confused..can u read 👌?
@@shanequaaustin8908
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This motivates me to to master being kind to myself. We all need to work on finding an inner peace that no hate filled human can penetrate. The model scout could have just told her no. She wanted to cause harm.
I had body dysmorphia but I don’t believe I do anymore. I use to look at pictures of myself and literally see myself fat. Looking at the same pictures now I was boney skinny. It’s crazy how your mind could stop working right.
I hope mental health care becomes more accessible and common.
Wow. :((( 😢
Well said, especially "We all need to work on finding an inner peace that no hate filled human can penetrate." I'm going through this right now. I've been thinking about all of the degrading, inconsiderate, humiliating things people have said or done to me from childhood to adulthood. Going forward, I vowed to never let anyone else ever get away with just saying what they want without me checking them. That feeling of not sticking up for myself for most of my life is now haunting me. So since I can't do anything about the past, the only thing I can do is catch the negative people in the moment from now on. So far, I've done just that. I still get pissed and depressed when thinking of how low I felt about myself to just let people walk all over me. I didn't realize just how low my self esteem was. So all I can do is try not to let it happen moving forward and accept the past, no matter how pathetic it was for me.
That's why daily personal development is needed for everyone!! Learning to love yourself FULLY!! Anything can be cured if you believe in healing!! Sending strength, love, clarity and prayers to Tammy!!! 💫💪🏾🖤👑
Daily Personal Development...for some reason that stuck! Thank you for saying it this way.
Omg. She has me in tears; especially when her voice started to quiver.
This is one of the best episodes EVER. There's no talk show like the real out there.
Get a life.
Fuxx u Big Time@Carlitos Way😬!!!….
Tammi you’re a BEAUTIFUL soul my dear! I can’t begin to say how you being so transparent, vulnerable & just genuinely opening up about your personal struggles is going to touch so many people for the better❤️
You’re there co hosting to shed light on soooo much that’s needing to be spoken about. GOD placed you there for a purpose 🙏🏻
I wish you nothing but longevity, happiness & prosperity ❤️
Thank you Tami for being vulnerable & sharing your life & experience about body imagine! Too many of us deal with this on both sides of the spectrum rather it’s being skinny & wanting to be bigger or bigger & wanting to be skinny. & for teens I can only imagine how heighten this is. I hope many people tuned into this episode!
Imagine living in a world where our physical appearance was never discussed...
It’s called Heaven 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Can we just love our own self. I really don’t understand needing approval from others. What happened to our own self confidence.
Oh Tami! While she’s saying the comments “don’t hurt her”, she’s actually saying they are hurting her. Prayers and please get help!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm glad I wasn't the only one who read between what she was saying. I'm sending prayers and love to her as well. 💜
I also caught that. This is why I don’t compliment her like that. She is a very beautiful woman, yes. But I will never say to her she’s thin enough or anything like that. It can be taken too literal especially with this disease. 😕
Exactly....She knows the comments hurt her she's human. She's never been my favorite person but I respect her honesty. And also I hope she continues with professional help not just her family
It's killing her. I pray she gets what she needs. Sometimes when we are our own counsel we actually are hurting yourself. She is hurting even though she is telling herself different. Tam I live you but you are not ok
Please get her some help Loni.
This conversation was very helpful to me. Thank you for having it, Ladies! ❤
I am relieved to learn that Tami is okay! Thank you
She's so brave and fierce for sharing her personal struggles. Much respect.
It amazes me how some of the most attractive people find so many flaws within themselves. I always thought Tami was absolutely gorgeous! I wish that she could see what a lot of us have always seen in her. I hope she seeks professional help and not continue to try to solve her issues on her own. We’re rooting for you, Tami! 🤍
Yea but it’s not so strange when you realizes people aren’t “born attractive”. A lot of insecure people turn to “getting attractive (make up, diets, lifting weights etc)” and think once they get attractive, at least to societies standard, they’ll be happy. It’s kinda like “money doesn’t buy happiness” but in this case “attractiveness doesn’t buy happiness”
Because people are constantly scrutinizing their looks. It's as if people see no other value in them beyond their looks, so they begin to obsess over the way they look to try to avoid being criticized.
This makes me think of lil Kim. She was already naturally beautiful.
It is so crazy that today afternoon; b4 I saw that everybody is concerned, like me,i thought about Tam because I saw a picture of her last month and it ate me up i was so saddened by it because i tend to be hurt by peoples problems sometimes so I thought somebody needs to tell Tam that she is the ish and has always been the ish
She's always been pretty and a trailblazer
Thank you Tami for sharing ❤ because as a fan I was worried, but this is a blessing for you to come out and let everyone know what's really going on with you, I'm at work in tears. And I am truly concerned, as a Christian a child of God, I feel led to keep you in my prayers, you are my sister in Christ. Much love.
Thank you for defending that little girl inside all of us, and putting a name to what many of us experience mentally to some degree. You showed such strength and leadership. Now, for me: I know when I've opened myself up, and let my walls down about something personal, I'm more vulnerable. It feels good to check-in with a Dr, reset, and hear that everything is copacetic.
The things I’ve noticed is that the people that decide who fits the image are not attractive themselves. How do you get to decide what’s beautiful? It’s sad that one negative experience can change your entire viewpoint of yourself.
It's definitely possible
When someone’s whole career is about their looks it is hard not to pick yourself apart. I knew she was dysmophic back when the real world was on. She seemed crazy...didn’t make sense at all. She was well spoken on this topic.
Thank you for speaking out about this because there is a lot of people going through this. God bless you and your family.
I appreciate you Tami Roman for sharing your struggles with the world 🌎 Most of all saving others who may need to hear this and can seek help. Thank you Beautiful Queen 👑
I wish Adrienne wouldn’t have cut her off, I wanted to hear the TMI! Lol
But seriously I am a MAN and I deal with comparing myself to dudes on social media. I am handsome enough, are my teeth straight enough, am I buff enough, are my clothes/car fly enough am, I successful enough! This ish is real!
Tammi was about to say something big and Adrian had to cut her off and talk then ask a random question and then Tammi never went back to saying what she was going to say. They need to learn when to just 🤫 and be quiet and let the guest talk. Loni is such a great friend, I’d love to have her as mine 🥰❣️
Bad interviewer for REAL.
Exactly! I was so mad that Adrienne did that. Like let her speak.
yeah,I noticed that too 😫
I’m glad I watched this now I understand Tammy’s situation on her weight loss and I’m glad she explained it
Thank you Tami for keeping it real. I was in tears especially listening to Lonnie ask Tami are you ok and both ladies are dealing with a weight issue. Many Blessings to you both.
Addrienne, we all have body image issue but at least admit that Tammies case is an extreme case.
Comments like this DONT HELP.
Adrienne please allow your guests to complete their thoughts when they're being vulnerable & transparent. It's a part of healing & helping others. You can't get those moments back. Try to wait & hold on to your thoughts, also don't lessen the seriousness of a person's disease by saying you can relate because having insecurities is not the same as what she's going through on any level. I'm saying this in love. God bless ❤
Agreed.
Yes!!
I was just about to write that when I saw your comment. She’s so annoying
Thank you!
Thank you! I really wanted Tami to finish her thought. Hopefully they stop interrupting others during their vulnerable moments.
😭😭😭😭 thank you Tammy for sharing such an important information . dealing with our insecurities has been such a hard part in every woman's life
Wow, I love this Tami. I wish we could see this vulnerable side more from her. Thank You for sharing @Tamiroman
Adrienne is SO RIGHT being transparent about these issues is so healing! Tami is doing so much good for herself and others by sharing. I love her honesty. It is so real. Hang in there everyone! You're beautiful just as you are. Just as you are, right now. You are enough ❤️
Tami is beautiful in and out, her vulnerability isn't only going to bring her the support and help she needs but also help others struggling with BDD. God bless her.
This is one of the best talks I've ever seen about this issue on t.v. Bravo guys.
Having this conversation with Tami was hands down one of my favorite conversations to listen to. Powerful statements
A personality disorder is one of the hardest mental illnesses to deal with, even with medication & therapy.
It’s like you have to retrain your brain to totally think differently then how you see and feel yourself.
My daughter had a personality disorder with also being diagnosed with bipolar, & it’s so hard seeing someone you
Love suffering & feel helpless at the same time.
I wish you the best♥️
I understand where you're coming from and my heart goes out to you and your daughter, but Tammi doesnt have a personality disorder. She has a disorder is where she think shes fat and needs to keep losing weight no matter the amount of weight lost she still feels the need to lose more and more and more. She sees herself differently than what she really looks like. Sort of like being out of touch with reality.
@@quashonahardesty6538 she doesn't have a personality disorder now you're God 😂😂😂
@@shanequaaustin8908 No, I actually watched the segment when she discussed her actual diagnosis with Loni and Adrianne Bailon on the Real and her diagnosis is Body Dysmorphia Disorder NOT personality disorder. Apparently you didnt watch it or you would know what's wrong with her, now stfu!!!
I’m glad she has come forward with the strength to acknowledge that there is an issue I’ve never seen you that small before and that is real
So well spoken and I'm so proud of her for sharing her truth. I hope this helps many other ppl. 🌹
Thank you so much (Tami Roman) for making me understand this disorder. It truly was an educational learning moment for me.
I have borderline body dysmorphic tendencies, and the problem is you just never look good enough to yourself. Even when I lost close to 25kg, at my absolute thinnest, I remember looking in the mirror and feeling fat. I now look back at those photographs and hate I didn’t appreciate the health and body I had. I’m trying so hard to get back to the weight that I once complained about
Wish you well. 🕊
@@enjoythemoment6596 Thanks and likewise ❤️
My bff had to see a therapist after having bariatric surgery. She lost 100 lbs in 4 months. She suffered from the same disorder. Anytime she gained a couple lbs she was scared she would become obese again. She’s doing much better now and having a baby :)
😂
@@carlitosway1330 what is so funny ?
@@Rosesjournal.
First World Problems are hilarious. Imagine how blessed we are to have eating disorders. Nobody in the Sudan worries about getting fat.
I too see a therapist for this
@@carlitosway1330 You are a sick, and cruel person to mock anyone's pain, seek help smh
I so appreciate her for sharing this and being vulnerable enough to help others out here.
Omg. I never heard of this disorder but I swear I relate to this so much. Wow! I'm so glad she shared. I get compliments all the time and I never understood why compliments irritate me because I rarely agree. Wow. I'm grateful for her.
First of all I just wanna say Jeannie Beans is OFFICIALLY on maternity leave so she’ll be out til MARCH !!! Garcelle just finished filming her trip to for RHOBH so she’ll be back TOMORROW ! Til then Tami will be guest hosting all this week ♥️🙏🏾
Thank you Myronn ❤🙏🏾
Thanks for the update boo ❤🤗
Thanks I was wondering!
Hey thanks for the update 👍👍
Thanks for the heads up. I was wondering.
Our society really needs to modify how we discuss other people's bodies. Even a comment made out of concern can push people further into illness. Be very, very careful about what you say.
Amen
I wished I can heart this ❤❤
Wow what’s crazy is I feel like I have this disorder and had to explain it to family . I wasn’t diagnosed but I know I look in the mirror and see 600lb life some days and I’m literally 140lbs . Body image and how you feel about yourself is important and us women need too love ourselves more and STOP looking at the vessel you’re only in this lifetime and love within .
Thank you for sharing your story Tamie I have the utmost respect for your genuineness.
People always think that these issues don't affect black women but they do. Thanks for sharing!
I remembered when her mouth was wired in the early nineties. Now I'm aware of Tammy's condition. I wish her well!
This
This was such a powerful segment and I am so glad that Tami came on to talk about a real disorder. I would have loved for her to talk more about it, without interruption. Because it seems like she had a lot to say. Tami if you’re reading this, you being honest and transparent more than likely saved many lives today. Because men and women struggle with this silently and the fact that you were brave enough to start the discussion… That’s commendable💙💙 Loni what you said too is relatable because; most who are struggling with weight are also dealing with something mentally. It’s never about the food, it’s life and how we manage things. THANK YOU LADIES!!
@Melvenia Gray- I totally agree with you. Also, your comment was on point and so eloquently stated.
Absolutely love Tami and for her to open up about this is so brave and is so helpful to others dealing with this! ❤️
This video needs at least a million views! Body Dysmorphic Disorder is something that should be taught in middle school so that teens can learn the signs early & avoid a lifetime of struggles. Much respect to Tami for sharing - she’s helping a lot of people with her vulnerability.
Loni’s heart is gold 💛. I hope the world cherishes her because she’s a jem.
I agree.
I was Tammy's biggest cheerleader since day one seeing her on MTV Real World. I followed her all over TV and social media hoping for the best for her including Bonnet Chronicles. However this was hard for me to absorb her struggle and seeing her like this was shocking which really broke my heart and extreme concerned for her well-being. I wish her good health and strength to push through her mental journey with this body dysmorphia. Happiness for you always Tammy ❤️
This such an informative topic...Tami thank you for being so transparent and sharing your experiences dealing with this disorder..
In tears but thanks tami for being transparent … always been a fan of you because of that…you’re beautiful inside and out!💕
I’m sitting here crying, I too suffer from this disorder, & have struggled with my bulimia since the age of twelve, have fluctuated with weight my whole life, it’s hard. We need to start having these conversations, so we can help one another, thank you Tami for sharing love you!
Tammie doesn’t know how much she’s helping people opening up about her mental health, we’re seeing other side of her… The real is the new talk show of the century