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Surprising Myths & Misdiagnoses Debunked: The Truth about Adult ADHD
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ส.ค. 2020
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Personality disorder, anxiety, depression, or adult ADHD? The symptoms of each of these disorders can look very similar. Many behaviors overlap.
This makes it difficult for supporters, patients, and healthcare providers to know the differences and reach the right diagnosis.
In this MedCircle LIVE, Dr. Judy breaks down the true differences and how to spot them so that you or someone you care for can find the right treatment.
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Thanks for your efferot in all the channel and with the Dctor. I have question what you think about the BDSM people how goes and participate, beside the mental illness.
Can you give videos on sczophernia?
Hi, I’m looking for the link to more on the pomadora method mentioned in the video, it was said the link would be “below “ but I can’t find it... could you put it here, please? 💚💗💚💗🙏🏼
Hi MedCircle / Dr Judy, do you know of someone in South Africa who would have the same expertise AND rigorous methods regarding proper diagnoses? I.e. someone who would actually find the process of delving important and who wouldn't just diagnose me within 60 minutes. Note: I have been back and forth between mental health professionals and at this time I have had 4 different diagnoses, and I don't know anymore...
Can some of the Americans talk a bit slower for us brits please, too hard to absob easily that's all thx
Smartphones are terrible for ADHD. Right now I'm watching /half listening to the podcast, typing this, and thinking of 3 other websites I HAVE TO VISIT NOW.
ever since the smartphone boom everything just got even worse.. as if the issues slowly became magnified with intensity over the years with the way modern market manipulation is currently going.
Evrything is so interesting, right??
Relatable
If you don't visit right meow you'll forget then be mad and can't remember even what you absolutely needed to know lol do itttt
@@motobox1232 RIGT MEOW XD
Stimulants are the gold standard for a reason. I understand pills don't build skills, but to learn or build skills, I needed dopamine. When I have a fever I take Tylenol. I've been in therapy my entire adult life and still had depression and anxiety. I lost too many jobs, too many friends and family members because they did't want to be around me.I was called lazy, disrespectful when I was always late for appointments, weddings, you name it
I have limbik dysregulation inattentive add and not included in the DSssM but should be. Wellbutrin changed my life a stimulant antidepressant
I feel your pain so much!
I feel like there's constant stigma. As much as people pretend they aren't stigmatising, I don't see why stimulants can't be the first line of treatment. Particularly when someone is struggling, which they usually are when they first get diagnosed. I know I'm going straight on them as soon as I can. I may come off later, but I've got a life to get back on track and I haven't got time to waste fucking around pouring thousands of pounds into a counselor to help me build skills.
Yeah, behaviorism is still a bigger focus than I think it should be in mental health -- the notion that mental health issues are just about how you think about things. Yes, that can be a factor, but there are biological aspects to many conditions, even experientially-occurring ones. Maybe you can learn coping strategies, or maybe correct things via neuroplasticity, but it seems to be very hard for people to understand that something can be nigh on impossible for you to do (or not do), owing to your particular neurotype -- then suddenly no problem at all with the right med. My own experience with meds for depression and anxiety have given me an appreciation for the fact that they have downsides, but I don't think I'd be able to manage without.
I'll give away how old I am with the following metaphor: let's say you're learning to drive a car way back when they had manual chokes. You keep trying to start the car, and it keeps stalling. Your instructor gets frustrated because you are obviously not using the choke and the gas pedal correctly. Finally, he says, "move over, I'll show you" -- and discovers the car stalls for him too. He puts a bottle of dry gas in the tank, and then it starts easily -- for BOTH of you. It was not bad technique, it was water in the gas tank...a physical problem that had to be corrected. IMO, behaviorism vs. meds can be like that, not always, but definitely sometimes.
You are so right
Diagnosed today!! I am 44 years old! I have definitely spent my life this far “chasing the wrong tail”. It’s sad and relieving at the same time.
I feel and am exactly the same way, I'm 41
I was diagnosed at 26.
It was traumatizing to finaly find out I was not a idiot like I had been told up until that diagnosis
At 44 can really change your life.
At 58 the chalange is to help other non ADHD people understand the differance in our brains from theirs.
Stay positive, you can overcome most things with sheer willpower and persistance.
The chalange is to know when to stop, when following a dead end path.
Finishing is always difficult for there is always another way to do something. So for us some things never seem finished especially simple things.
Wordy but I hope this helps
Congratulations! I got diagnosed at 41 and a half sister has been diagnosed at 51. I felt really relieved to understand what was going on.
@Shell C. why do you need to be that way? This is not a “big pharm” forum
I'm also 44 and I have appointment in 2 months in neighboring country since adhd is not even a thing in my country. I feel about the same, I'm sad and mad at those "professionals" I was meeting for years and I'm also relieved for knowing what bothers me at the same time.
When something is new and exciting, I get hyper focused. That's why I'm so anxious at work. In the beginning I get a lot of praise... as it's a new thing, I'm 100% present and focused. But as it begins to become a routine, my brain goes to autopilot and the screwing up starts happening. This has happened in every job I worked ... then I get the inevitable call to the boss office and they ask if I'm doing alright, something is off at home, because I clearly know how to do good work, but I seem to progress backwards...
Right now I'm 1 month in my new job and I'm so anxious that I will inevitably screw up... but the anxiety is clearly a consequence of me knowing how the cycle goes for me.
Im so sorry that this is happening to you ❤️ my boyfriend has adhd and has had so many jobs I lost count and it’s very difficult and frustrating 🙏🏻🙏🏻 but I’m going to tell you what I tell him your are not a failure, your not lazy, you are not too sensitive, you are not crazy, you are not loser, you are living with a disorder and fight every single day ❤️✨ I am proud of you
You're aware of it, so that's a blessing. You literally have to think ahead of yourself & plan accordingly. Gamify things that you don't like.
@@karenannaly6285 I needed to see this. Thank you!
you expressed my work experience to a tee. I get praised for being a good worker where ever I go, but deep down in my heart I know I will eventually fizzle out and the true me will come out, like forgetting things, absentmindedeness and start become somewhat acrimonious with others. I despise that part of me. and I have a terrible track record of lost employment. I have yet to be diagnosed...
That’s literally what every single work experience has been ever since I started working full time. I had so many jobs in the last decade. It always starts the same, I get excited about a new job, hyper focus during training and then burn out in a few months, quit and repeat.
Also now that I’m older it’s gotten harder to even get a hired! I suck at interviews. I think as a younger person I was able to get away with acting childish and employers didn’t care too much if I struggled to articulate.
But now in my 30’s I no longer have that freshly out of school charm but I still act and speak the same.
Not everyone with ADD is hyperactive. That's such a common misconception that needs to be recognized and publically acknowledged. I wasn't diagnosed as a child because I wasn't hyperactive. Parents and teachers didn't even think ADD was a possibility. I was basically diagnosed as "lazy" and asked to try harder. So I became a talented actor. Pretending to focus while my mind was in a million different places. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't retain information the same way my peers could and it affected my grades. I had to read over tests and assignment instructions four or five times for each question to sink in. I lied about the severity of my situation due to shame and embarrassment. I didn't want to be considered lazy again. To this day, I have yet to finish reading an entire novel (thank god for audible and the internet). Had I been properly treated as a child there's no limit on what I could have achieved. I loved learning, I just needed help absorbing and retaining information. Not being able to perform to the best of your ability throughout your youth impacts the rest of your life.
Me too
The HYPER part shows up as IMPULSE CONTROL in Adults
With you
I can relate to that. Good grades in school all the way to high school graduation. Never paid attention in class though. I was always reading a book (hyper focus) or staring out the window. I would listen to the things I liked and ignore everything else. This often left me lost if the teacher called on me. I went to college and that is where everything caught up to me. I didn’t have structure and no one but myself to hold me accountable. I dropped out and never went back. Now, I am on my second career and find myself struggling because I impulsively left my job of 19 years almost two years ago and had to start all over. I was diagnosed November 2020 at age 40. Now I have finally started medication, and I feel calmer, able to switch tasks back and forth better than before, and my mind is not wondering. I can tell when the medicine wears off because I get really loopy and my thoughts are scattered. I describe my ADHD feels like my brain is constantly spinning and I have to grab the thought I need and it can be hit or miss. The medicine helps slow the spin. I have combined type hyper/inattentive.
@@mphsguy26 Thanks for sharing your story. I've changed careers quite a bit as well. I get bored easily and I'm constantly chasing waves of inspiration. Unfortunately, where I'm from getting an ADD/ADHD diagnosis as an adult isn't easy. Doctor's around here don't like prescribing drugs like Adderall thanks to those who misuse them. The prescription drug epidemic has made getting access to these drugs extremely difficult for those who actually need it. I really want a brain scan, but apparently those aren't easy to come by either. I'm glad you're feeling better.
Late diagnosed, misdiagnosed, ADHD and misfit, Black sheep, scapegoat Family mobbing, toxic family abuse..these things go hand-in-hand.
Results: ADHD + cPTSD.
omg this comment - MY WHOLE LIFE & totally have PTSD - which is like a punch in the face every single day of my life - my ADHD has caused so much ? the word? TERROR ? to my life - lost dozens & dozens of jobs which brought me way to close to homelessness too many times - addiction & recovery- but no recovery for my husband who DIED from his addiction. My home has been complete disarray & I don’t have a lot of friends - but I have been told I am popular - I just can’t close to people cuz My family hated me growing up - probably because of undiagnosed AdHd growing up.
❤️❤️❤️so true
Yup!!
you are not alone, good luck with your journey!
TruE
It finally hit me -- all those adults and even my parents never bothered to figure out why I was different! 58 years of struggling mentally and emotionally!! Thankfully my wife cared enough to find out.
Oh, that is precious. Cherish her.
That is so sweet 😊💖
Your a lucky man to have a wife like her. Cherish her
My diagnosis happened last year at the age of 70!! My creative nature is blooming. Now I can start a project, finish it & share with friends & family. Life is so much better!😊
My heart goes out to everyone in these comments who have gone through so much unnecessary pain and loss.
My meds give me the missing part in my brain. It slows down the random thoughts and allows me to focus. The exercises you suggest do not help all the way, they improve certain things slightly. Meds are the answer since I've been taking my meds my work and home life have improved. I am 41 years old and tried everything to help myself and have failed miserably, surprisingly the meds have turned on the light in my darkness.
Great and so happy for you, this is why there is medications for this disorder. It's when people abuse the health system and the known entitlement they have that then it ruins the people that use them and all those around them even more.
Please, do you have the name of your meds? I’m in the process of seeking help. I’m so hesitant to try meds,but nothing helps. I think meds are the solution.
I have ADHD &wasnt diagnosed until 2007. I was 50 yrs old & have had the same therapist for 13yrs. After being medicated the world opened up to me & I could comprehend what I was reading. What a blessing.
People like her are why it was so hard for me to get the help and treatment I needed. In my community, any sort of disorder carries a stigma. Therefore, I had to wait until I was 18 years old only to get turned away from multiple clinicians that “believed” that it wasn’t ADHD. Meanwhile, my college GPA tanked and I was barely holding on to any form of employment. Years later, once the damage to my college career was tarnished, I was able to receive the treatment I needed and finally began to realize my potential. This could have happened much much earlier.
I agree there should be much more efforts to diagnosed adhd earlier on, its very frustrating
Thanks for sharing and glad you are reaching your goals now! Congrats!! May I know what's your treatment?
I'm a bit confused, are you referring to the doctor?
@@andresgutierrez3126 you completely missed the point of the point of the comment and dismissed the person's struggle due to clinicians, like the one in this video, and family that still believe ADHD will "go away" as you get older. It doesn't, we learn to cope, sometimes, mask, more often, and the hyperactivity may decline due to age or the oppressive weight of the ensuing anxiety and/or depression. That is NOT the same as it going away. Every time an expert says that, thousands of kids are denied a chance at diagnosis or worse. As a person who lost 40 yrs. of their life to undiagnosed or mis-diagnosed ADHD, PLEASE STOP SAYING IT WILL GO AWAY!
@@Anxiou5Panda
Yes she is saying you won't be diagnosed until you're 18 which means your college career will suffer anyway and your employment prospects will follow. All this could be eliminated if there was no stigma to go with diagnosing teens for example and treating them before they enter college! Clinicians would tell you it's not ADHD and parents may tell you it'll go away.
At the age of 34 I discovered I have adhd. It really broke my heart. I live in Bangladesh and the most sad part is noboby is believing me that a adult can have adhd.
Hi Hasan, sorry to hear you are in a situation that isn't supportive. Make sure you join an online supportive ADHD community. It really helps!
Try Living Beyond ADHD with Dr. Barbara Cohen and her Facebook community. I just started using her resources, so I am hopeful to improve by learning and applying effective executive function skills.
If you can check yourself with a pure heart and know that you have these symptoms and they are hurting you , then you need not concern yourself with what others think or believe.
When I was diagnosed at 17 I convinced myself that I was fine and didn’t need treatment. I’m 39 now, my life eventually fell apart and I finally looked into treatment.
I couldn’t believe how obviously I was wrong for so many years.
My behaviour hurt a lot of people and ultimately myself.
I feel like I’ve been given a second chance in life because left untreated I would have ki11ed myself I’m sure of it.
What is the treatment?
@@cristymrtnz CBT, Adderall, and venlafaxine.
@@cristymrtnz I’m still dealing with ruminating suicide but it’s easy to deal with and not totally debilitating.
I'm 22 about to turn 23 and going through screening, I suspected it for the longest time but my doctor and therapist talked me out of it because they "couldn't see it" and "everyone struggles with boring work", and making it sound like it's a world of hurt and waste of time going through diagnosis...
I recently dug up an old cognitive and psychological assessment I'd undergone at 6 yrs and suspected ADHD was listed at the end...
I found another therapist that is taking it seriously and am currently going through it. I feel like of I'd known since then it would've saved me so much pain and self hatred over the years...
Well, yeah. I can understand this frustration. Just simple acknowledgement can mean so much, but treatment would have meant so much more. Yet, what is found now, is knowledge and your knowledge is really power to you.
It is a heavy burden to carry on with ADHD in adult life. It caused me a lot of relationship issues, interfered with work productivity, and even co-occurring with other mental health issues like substance abuse, anxiety, and depression, adult ADHD is pervasive-especially when it goes undiagnosed until 2006. But I was not given CTB or stimulants. I still battle with ADHD in the inattentive mode, and in my executive functions.
It is difficult to deal with and stressful at times.Life at 77 is no picnic having constantly lost phone,keys,credit cards,for years.I can be careless and miss some things no matter how hard i try,I was a nurse for fifty years but i had to contantly work around it and i tried to hide it as much as i could.Now i remember as a child i had difficulty learning to read,i still have problems with organizing,planning.I have to try and fail again which affect my self esteem and depression,anxiety and memory.I cannot rely on my own brain to work as it should.
I think the main difference between depression and ADHD is that in the first case it's a cause, in the other one it's a consequence.
For years I thought I wasn't able to do things because I was depressed. When I found out I had ADHD, I realised it was the other way around. I was depressd because I had difficulties doing things. I was frustrated because I knew I had the capacity to do things but not being actually able to do those things was causing stress, anger, questioning, over thinking and eventually depression. It's a vicious circle.
yes! And our lack of concentration is not caused by anxiety, but it can be the other way around; lack of concentration & executive dysfunction can cause one to feel anxious.
Exactly. Even psych professionals get that wrong. I was misdiagnosed for decades. Anti-depressants, especially a stimulating anti-depressant such as Prozac, would help for a while, but then the undiagnosed root causes would send me back into the downward vortex. It didn't help that I had undiagnosed sleep apnea as well for many years. Didn't figure out the AADHA until we started investigating my grandson's behavior when I was 71! After a string of failures and behavior that was seen as passive aggressive, I was lucky that most family and friends and some employers tolerated me as much as they did. Some did not. When I listen to symptom descriptions on this channel, it sounds like my profile and life story.
@@billrobinson9704 I get you. I was diagnosed with depression at first and was treated with Fluoxetine (same as Prozac). I decided to stop it after 1 year and a half because I didn't like the side effects it had on me. Yes, I had less mood swings but it didn't help with the constant flow of thoughts and ideas and my brain was like OFF, I couldn't make any decision. It was a weird time.
@@peachdreams Yeah it’s tricky to figure out whether it’s adhd or depression. I feel like depression and anxiety a lot of times are symptoms of other issues which makes them tricky to treat because you don’t know whether or not it has a root cause.
@ Ginie Mery . Brilliant ! Clean and simple distinction.
Hi. I'm 53 and only yesterday I've discovered that I'm an ADHD. Yes. It's really emotional to me and at the same time, I'm finally so relieved that I will know where to deal with my symptoms.
Not sure if it was talked about and I missed it, but on the off topic of meds, I found that while stimulants help my adult adhd it's a bit of a trade-off because it increases my anxiety. For some reason my tolerance of Adderall actually decreased greatly as I got older so now I take a much smaller dose. Mindfulness has been a superpower that I've worked on over the years! Helps so much.
3:00 She talked about it there
I use coffee as my stimulant and CBD oil to stop that aspect but with prescription drugs that last way longer I think you can't take CBD oil with it. I don't know since I'm not a doc.
However if your doc gives you the go ahead see if CBD oil helps.........if you want
@@ralfwashington1502 I use coffee too and it works for me no side effects
@@Dancestar1981 dang right! I still noticed if I take too much I get easily agitated and loose my filter a bit but in the right amount it helps. Just remember to take breaks so you don't get hooked
@@ralfwashington1502 when I really need to focus I’ll use an energy drink and that lasts from 6 to 8 hours I find my performance level skyrockets then
I loved watching this. I have ADHD inattentive type as an adult, and honestly it's so helpful to hear other people's questions and challenges. Helps me to remember that I'm not alone in my challenges, even though some of them may be unique to me.
Welcome to the tribe diagnosed just this year age 40 ADHD Inattentive
@@Dancestar1981 same. it's difficult, most ADD resources are for kids.
@@dearjuan same for all of mine have to start again at 41
@@dearjuan Jessica’s How to ADHD on TH-cam and Rick Greene are two great presenters
Me too, my whole entire adult life, I've been told, I'm fine, you dont have anything.but I've never really sat down with anyone and actually told them my struggles mentally. Or no ones taken the time to listen. Finally I've gone to a dr recently, and told them, my mind is constantly on the go go go, I cant seem to shut it off, so many thoughts going on, like at 100 mph...I cant focus on tests, exams, (I've always kinda just told everyone I get test anxiety). I am a naturally hyper person as well..back 20 years ago, I've never passed to get my high school diploma, I'm now trying to get my ged. And then entering into nursing school, are my goals now after 20 years from high school 😪🥰
Praying for you, Yaya. Make sure you eating well, getting plenty of sleep and exercise. This will help you even if you’re not being medicated. I know my ADHD is 10x worse when I’m tired, haven’t been eating right and even when I haven’t been active. Don’t overwhelm yourself with too many expectations/goals at once. Focus on the GED, then the rest will follow! This also helps me to get things done, because nothing is worse for ADHDer’s motivation than setting the bar too high. In my own personal experience, of course. Lol!
But yeah! Go, Go, Go! Get it done!
Skill sets are easier to learn when you have meds, but knowing the meds are not the 'fix' is important.
Gosh, I wish it wasn’t so HARD to plan structure and execute that planned structure wiring a single parent with no support system. Even through both my child’s and my own therapy I am begging for help in getting structure but to create it myself is blowing up in my face. It’s like trying to move something much too heavy for one person.... all my energy and dedication trying is far too big a task for someone who struggles with organizing structure.
I struggle the same 🥰
Could you do a video on the best ways to interact with a romantic partner/loved one with ADHD? Constructive tips, things we need to understand, how to best communicate/help/be the best partner you can be?
+1000
At 29 years old, I still haven't been formally diagnosed, even though my father and both of my male siblings have been. I've known that I also have ADHD for a few years now, and coming to the realization really helped me be easier on myself, start working on accommodating my brain, and love myself much more. Thanks for getting this information out there for people like me who don't have easy access to an assessment. It's genuinely life changing.
I didn’t know I had ADHD for 40 years, and talking about a treatment strategy vs meds, I have to say that I have known something is wrong with me for so long and without knowing what it was I identified those problems and through the years I implemented strategies, many of them, changed them, I did all the hard work myself until I couldn’t do it anymore because I just got exhausted of working so hard to function, I became so emotionally drained and exhausted overall to the point I gave up, I didn’t want to fight it anymore, I became clinical depressed and the meds I was prescribed didn’t work, just like the don’t with ppl with ADHD. Strategy doesn’t come without lots of work, lots of “masquing”, its just not sustainable by itself.. I can’t say medication is the way to go because I have never talked them, what I know is that years of strategies and all that extra work by yourself can destroy you through the years can destroy you, at one point, you break. On the other hand, therapy sessions are expensive, and it goes back to proposing many of the strategies you already have implemented. At this point lack of motivation is not a matter of dopamine, is as well the result of many years of struggle
If more people understood how are brains work they would know it is better to allow us to use our streangths instead of pesicuting us for what we do not do well.
Drive on keep the faith that things will get better. It is the best way to cope without getting angry or depressed.
Yoga has worked well for me.
With a lack of outside distraction an the focus on ones own breathing makes a huge positive differeance in our brains.
Time stands still. Our reality if not a plague
I am 37, and maybe three or so years ago considered that I might have ADHD. I always felt like my brain didn't work properly and that I don't have full access to it. I've started looking into ADHD this week and find that I identify with a lot of what other people are saying about their experiences. I feel similarly to how you do, feeling like I've struggled for so many years and now feel exhausted. My brain feels burnt out. I'm looking forward to booking an assessment and actually hope they diagnose me with ADHD, because if they don't, then I don't know what's wrong with me. I just want to know what it is so that I can work on improving it.
diagnosed in January 2022! I am 48 and suffered my whole life and when I took the lowest dose at first I could not believe the feeling of relaxation I felt literally from my head down my shoulders, then my entire body. I felt my muscles release and I didn't know I was that tense...again my whole life. I need to be taught to prioritize and organize. Thank you so much for this educational video and looking forward to many more or your videos.
Not me being diagnosed today and having a hard time even keeping my attention on this video 😭 love for those with BPD and ADHD. Keep fighting the good fight!
OMG thank goodness you guys are discussing this bc so many I know, including myself, have been misdiagnosed (and put on meds which made us worse, even sending us to the ER)... this channel and other videos & articles about mental health esp on the molecular similarities between ASD/NPD/Bipolar have opened up so many more possibilities and treatments...I advocate for medical cannabis/microdosing psilocybin (not for everyone!) which helped me more than the medications ever did💜
Yeah! 5HTP for Bipolar, coffee and CBD oil for ADHD (as needed) and excercise and D3 to help keep my mood up so I don't need to take the 5htp as often. I think most Americans are deficient in vitamins causing the rest of the diagnosis However that's my guess only. If I eat healthy and excercise everything is improved SOME what
When you're overwhelmed by nearly every aspect of life beyond the scope of formidable discipline, it maybe time to test against the possibility of ADHD
@J Rose unless its ADHD
I was sure I had ADHD. I was tested by a psychologist using various psychological tests. I tested negative .
This is exactly how I feel
@J Rose nah ppl w adhd just have to work harder at certain things just like obese ppl have to work harder at being fit..
Fat guys gotta take accountability for his weight even though his body has a higher likeliness to get unhealthy. In a sense he needs to take more accountability.
Just like someone w adhd has to take extra accountability in sticking to a disciplined routine, strict organization, and strengthening his/her attention..attention is like a muscle...
An adhd persons brain has little room for slacking off when it comes to exercising his/her attention and avoiding mental junk food..otherwise the “attention muscle” so to speak, can get out of shape quickly and it’s only downhill from there.
Compare it to the obesity analogy.
It’s not an excuse but it makes life increasingly more difficult in some aspects.
@@hulkhogan4947 but obesity generally isn’t because of chemical imbalances whereas ADHD can be? This is like saying depressed people just need to hold their emotions accountable. Silly comparison.
I’m so lucky to have a therapist that really listens to me. We have been having very open conversations about ADD and what has happened recently in my life. She did a screening and encouraged me to set up an appointment with my doctor to try medication. The appointment is still to come but I hope this is something that could help me out in my recent life struggles with ADD.
I wish they would have touched on RSD and focused more on executive dysfunction. There’s so much focus on inattentiveness and ADHD is so much bigger than that
That’s just a diagnosis type but yes your right those are huge issues
CFS also.. Chronic fatigue syndrome. It sucks when you will fall asleep when you really shouldn't. My doctor thought I might have narcolepsy! I get Adderall prescribed & it never gives me energy. It keeps me from falling asleep when I need to pay attention or I am home with my 3 year old. I got lucky with doctors who diagnosed me simply by listening. I never once asked about ADHD. I was told I have it. I see many people having problems being treated but I also understand that in many cases it's not actually ADD but something else. Severe fatigue is a common byproduct of inattentive ADHD that a lot of doctors seem to conveniently forget. This thread makes me realize how fortunate I have been to have great doctors who seem to care about my quality of life. It probably helps that I have never had a "meth-like" effect from stimulants. Drinking too much caffeine makes me more jittery than Adderall.
@@aurorajade5286 I’m always tired and fatigued and have had every test under the sun I bet it’s due to my ADHD Inattentive
8 months late to the party here, but I think the reason we don't see a lot of anyone talking about RSD is because there really isn't anything pointing to it being it's own unique thing or anything different from the rejection sensitivity and emotional regulation problems seen in other conditions or disorders. The only people I see talking about it or "hyping it up" as being rejection sensitivity 2.0 are people with ADHD who are only describing from their own perspective, with no comparison to any other reference that would point to it being a distinctly ADHD symptom.
I'm not saying there's no rejection sensitivity and that it doesn't suck. It's just as far as I can tell, from my own experience having ADHD and reading what others say about their experiences, "RSD" is a propensity to fixate on negative situstions or emotions, compounded by impulsively catastophisizng negative things and suffering a sort of "trauma" from repeated rejecting, failure, difficulty and disappointment. Basically, something bad happens and we don't take the time to think it through or try to control our reaction to it, we allow it to fester in our minds longer than other people, and by virtue of being the way we are, we experience negative events more often and repeatedly over the same things as we attempt to persevere in what we've failed at, that eventually when we experience a negative event again, our brains go into "oh fuck not this again" mode. Failure and rejections in regard to people and relationships usually inherently carry an emotional or intimidate component, and thereby makes negative events more painful, and it's easier to get to the "trauma point" with people.
That's my speculation. It just seems to be the common pattern. "But if it's ADHD behaviors and their consequences that build up over time to that reaction, then why not consider it a component unique to ADHD?" I don't know who I'm quoting, but it felt right to format it that way. Anyway, I can't see a functional difference between how a person with ADHD reacts to repeated rejection and how anyone else with a condition that makes them "other" or prone to experiencing negative events would react or build up a learned behavior or trauma in response. It seems like a learned behavior in response to a series of circumstances. ADHD is one of those circumstances, but any number of other things could aid in leading to the same effect.
Happy birthday Dr Judy 🥂
At 51 I've just recently been diagnosed with ADHD, both inattentive & hyperactivity/impulsiveness. Great to hear more, thanks
I was just diagnosed with adhd a few days ago and I’m 49. I e been in and out of therapy since I was 14 and have been misdiagnosed the entire time. I had one therapist for over 13 years and how he didn’t see it is beyond me now that I know I have it. Its very disappointing because I still doubt myself actually having it since I really liked my therapist. I liked him like a friend though and it was hard to quit him but I really felt something was off and he was missing something. Also my son seen him a couple times and really dislike him and thought he was just a hustler. I just stared adderall and I hope it continues to help me. I’ve been on lexapro and Wellbutrin for over 13 years. I still have issues a lot of issues. When I learned about what adhd really is it was like being born again in a way because I figured out my entire life in a 10 minute TH-cam video lol
There are too many hustlers in this field. Your son sees what you can't.
I have ADHD, and it's been a wonderful life!! It's led me where it has, and it's been dope ❤️
How??
You had my attention until you said stimulants are like Tylenol. Really? It's more like insulin. The ADHDer DOESN'T produce enough neurotransmitters, and you say all they need to do is "stretch" more?? Give ve a break!
I understand the doctor's desire to avoid the negative symptoms of medication. But I agree with you, CBT seems like it is best when done in conjunction with an Rx. Should be carefully monitored but not avoided
Word.. Especially when inattentive ADHD is often accompanied by CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) & you're always feeling exhausted. No matter how much you sleep or how much Red Bull you guzzle, you still need a nap in the afternoon. When you would literally forget your own head were it not attached to your body. You could have Post-it notes all over the walls reminding you not to forget something, walk out the door & have no idea what you needed to do. It's already forgotten! You can't get through classes without being confused.. Yeah.. Coffee & mindfulness will never ever help with chronic fatigue & forgetting your own head. I am so with you on that one!
I have ADHD and exploring with therapists about CPTSD (pretty sure I have it). I had an emotional break where I couldn't stop crying. I was fine, but couldn't regulate crying and I cried for three days straight. The psychiatrist I saw at the crisis center was SUCH AN ASS. He told me I couldn't have ADHD because I wasn't diagnosed as a child and kept implying I was med chasing. He made me feel like an addict just trying to ask for the meds I know helped me. Professionals who don't have the ability to listen and think they know everything by speaking for two minutes with someone who is in a crisis state is absolutely ridiculous.
Jnana Shakti I want to mention that there's nothing wrong with crying for three days straight, especially in relation to traumatic experiences! In fact, it's natural and tears are for healing, after all.
It's the BEST thing I ever learnt to do and the world would be a MUCH better place if more people, especially men, were able to grieve their losses etc.
I was taken to a horrendous psychiatric ward many years ago where my crying was viewed as a sign of mental illness, yet I was grieving about an extremely traumatic loss, which was perfectly NORMAL, FFS!!! 🤬
I didn’t hear autism mentioned, as it is frequently comorbid with ADHD. Autism and/or ADHD can be misdiagnosed as borderline personality disorder, particularly in women.
I have both Aspergers diagnosed at 23 and ADHD Inattentive this year at 40 I was treated for Anxiety and Depression multiple times over the years. On SSRIs Lexapro for over 20 years
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@@Dancestar1981 what symptoms do struggle with the most?
I have had ADHD all my life and now ptsd foe the last 2 years from a narc and they just diagnosed me. My dr. Said that it was a disservice to people my age as a child because it was looked over then.
Life is very frustrating as a 58 year old with ADD.
I work as a systems engineer in a leading infrared semiconductor manufacturing business.
I directly work with 4 to 5 PHD scientists every day.
Because of my disability I am mostly recognized for what I do wrong, (unatentive, disorganized or forgetful.)
Yet all I here is how they can not do without my abilities.
I am low paid help with hi level abilities. No formal education.
The pay level is reflective of what I can not do well, not what have done exceptionally well. Project acheivment others have failed at for over 30 years in the industry. I have created and managed the mechanicle end.
With new supervisors that only hear the bad stuff from the past and all judgment of new supervisors is based on previous supervisors words.
Very frustrating way to live and stay positive.
We with ADD never get a break, We with ADD work twice as hard just to make others accept us.
But we are constantly the scapegoat.
We get ripped off and others take credit for our brilance.
Thanks for your help and support and recognition of this.
It dose not go away we ADHD people live to work around the systems in place that put our round peg thoughts into a square peg box. The focus has been on young not old
I just recently described part of the ADHD experience as "never recognised for what we are, just for what we're not." Same concept as one bad apple spoils the bunch, basically. And usually we're not allowed to do what we know we need to in order to mitigate our negative behaviors either because our methods are "weird" and so not accepted or often enough there just isn't room to allow us that space without disrupting the whole process that we're a part of. People also become hesitant to implement or continue what would be good practices for them because of comments from the "peanut gallery" so to speak. Even if you're never told not to, if you keep getting negative or discouraging remarks about the way you organize your desk because it doesn't look "right" to other people, you might well just go on and emulate how other people organize their spaces and then proceed to lose and forget everything because your environment doesn't mesh with your brain.
I love the streamer-esque equipment she's got going here
For real everyone should do it like that!
Watching this makes me have hope and depths of despair at the same time
I have ADHD and have been preoccupied with Dr. Ho's makeup for the majority of this video. I just cannot stop looking at it.
Lol me, too.
I wish I would of taken care of this a long time ago! I just kept pushing it off and had an idea there was something going on with me. Now 40 I look back on all the damage I’ve done to my own life and my kids! I feel like a failure as a parent, partner and employee. 😞
Dr. Judy, 28 years ago, medication was seen as the last resort for treatment of symptoms associated with ADHD. Now, with so much more known about the nature of executive functioning challenges associated with ADHD, and the medications have improved so substantially, that medication is now widely accepted as the cornerstone to effective treatment and executive functioning challenges related to ADHD. Medication, in addition to pragmatic cognitive-behavioral therapy, good, nutrition, and regular exercise is understood as the gold standard for treatment of symptoms associated with ADHD.
“Oops I have to go get eggs” laughed so hard because that’s me!
Just a reminder - as I listen to answers to questions from partners and friends who want to “teach” their loved ones how to be less irritating to them - especially if the person is an adult: DO NOT INFANTILIZE US AND TRY TO CHANGE OUR BEHAVIOUR JUST BECAUSE YOU DON’T LIKE IT. If you want us at our quirky, spontaneous and fascinating - you’re going to have to learn how to live with us at our hyper focused…even when we’re not hyper focused on you. We don’t always need to be the ones to change or compromise.
You can't apply Pomodoro in a classroom setting. Also, I struggle to pay attention any more than a few seconds. No matter how hard I try my brain is off in some distant place thinking about some other thing, and I've missed important foundation information that leaves me lost for the rest of the class. No Pomodoro can help with that
Getting an ADHD diagnosis and treatment was life changing for me!
I was misdiagnosed as dyslexic, attention deficit was viewed as a symptom at the time, and was abused in the school system. I was given Ritalin for about a year and they were puzzled by the fact that it had no effect on me whatsoever. I.Q. 195 + and traumatic brain injury with neuromuscular damage and petit mal seizures because a doctor killed me as a kid by mistake and I was dead more than 5 minutes. I'm still paying for his mistakes! Since we are talking about conditions that show up as abnormalities in the brain, using tapping or hypnosis is tantamount to claiming that it is a behavioral disorder like they said in the 1950's.
I’m 81 & have given up trying to deal w/my ADHD. Drs & Ins put up so many barriers that I gave up fighting with them. I’m depressed & hopping for the end to come.
Diagnosed yesterday. Today was the first day as a diagnosed ADHD woman. I’m 43. So relieved, so emotional, it’s destroyed my life! Not fun! 😢
I' m glad someone brought- up a genetic component. All of my kids were diagnosed with ADHD at some point, and now my granddaughter. I also had an adult diagnoses at one point but its hard to say if it was correct ( for various reasons) I had heard about and did some reading on the MTHFR gene. They say it can also be connected to many other conditions like depression, anxiety, and a number of others; we seem to have our share of conditions in the family. When we were seeking a diagnosis and treatment for my granddaughter I broached the topic of MTHFR testing but it didn' t seem to spark any provider interest. Are there any Med Circle videos addressing the topic?
This is a great topic suggestion - we'll plan to host another live Q&A with our psychiatrist, Dr. Dom Sportelli. If you become a free MedCircle subscriber at medcircle.com you can stay up-to-date on when we schedule that MedCircle LIVE. Thanks!
My daughter, two of my siblings, and all of their direct genetic children have ADHD. My symptoms are much closer to Inattentive ADHD, but I haven't been officially diagnosed.
How can you get thru this whole video? I had to come back , like, 5 times.
That's because, like me you have ADHD ! 🤪
Increasing the speed works for me sometimes :)
I keep reading through the comments instead of listening 😅
@@sarahb3937 me too 😂
I speed up EVERYTHING
I understand how it is to be very overwhelmed and being misdiagnosed! I knew something different was wrong with me, and I just found out, not too long ago, that I have ADHD and I'm 56, so I really wish I found out about this a LONG time ago! But I'm so glad I found out, it was very emotional for me also.
I'm really bothered about how she talked about medication masking symptoms. Yeah, tylenol won't heal your hurting arm, but it will give you enough relief to be able to work on it and make it heal. Medication doesn't fix or cure mental health problems, but it gives you the possibility to do what you need to get better.
I'm 48yrs old, just diagnosed with ADHD. I don't trust a word that comes out of anyone(Psychologist/Psychiatrist included) unless they have also lived with ADHD undiagnosed until adulthood. Stimulants are not a panacea, but to say behavioral strategies without stimulants should be tried first? This is akin to Dr's shaming people who are obese into believing that movement alone will fix them. 48yrs and all I needed was to learn to organize better? Fight addictive behavior better? Not feel bad when you have trouble overcoming your physiological deficits and exhibit selfish tendencies? It's like telling a person who was unknowingly injected over and over again heroin while they slept... that all you need to do is change your thinking and all will work itself out.
I was on Wellbutrin originally when I was diagnosed and it didn't mix well with the concerta. I felt really overwhelmed and anxious. After watching this video I feel like I have a better idea of what I need to ask when receiving new med recommendations. I'm also going to get a referral to a psychiatrist to help me. Thank you so much! This made me feel a lot better about my journey so far.
Nobody told me as a child emotional disturbance when my dopamine is off. Depression. Suocidial. Emotional outbursts
I dumped her for canceled and changing up date nights. I thought she was cheating. Now i know...we are working things out.😞
The couple who prays together, stays together. You can work it out! Just remember, it’s a constant struggle and cycle of letting people down without intending to. She’s hurting as much or more than you are. Be patient; if she is working on herself, things will get better.
@@andreaharris7557 Thanks. I saw a therapist who gave me better understanding of her behavior. I asked to date again. But she broke things off for dumping her. Now im 32 days of no contact. Trying to move on from the confusion and hurt.
Recommend most people dont try meds? They are effective for 80% of people. They are meant to be used WITH CBT and therapy. But dont say put off the meds. We cant build these fucking skills if we cant focus! The meds gave me and my adhd friends the boosts we needed to start running. To get the therapy. To remember appointments. To let us function so we arent left broke and almost homeless.
You and your friends are the actually people these meds are for, but sadly these meds are sometimes prescribed on demand-especially to a certain gender and race-white male. Then it's just an issue of being high and empowered and not caring how your behavior affects others, but hey, they don't exactly need stimulants to be and act this way. Yet,the stimulants multiply the hell by 10. 🙏
I'm 28 and undiagnosed, but I'm desperate to get hold of the meds because whilst I am doing a lot of the right strategies, my energy levels are beyond awful. I currently have no choice but to have a ton of caffeine just to get through the working day - something I'm more than aware is not good for me. In the UK a diagnosis wait list is roughly 3 years, but private is unaffordable. It's currently 10x worse than my normal low energy due to the heatwave. I'm so lost for what to do...
Dr Judy has a great face. It photographs well on video. (what does that have to do with the topic, not much, but it illustrates a facet of my ADHD, paying attention to that instead of what she's saying)
How do I start looking for a doctor in my city and how do i find out whether the doc is the right one? I feel so overwhelmed and self-diagnosed to have Adult ADHD. When someone is speaking to me directly I never remember a single word of what they said. I can never narrate the discussion i had or something i read or watched unless it absolutely interests me. It is very difficult to live with this as people think i am absent-minded, stupid or just disinterested. Little do they know that every word they speak to me is like it hits a brick wall and disappears. I am so tired of living this way. I just cannot take it anymore especially since i am married to someone very intelligent and obviously has intelligent friends. I absolutely feel stupid in front of them though i try my best to be attentive. I know i'm not stupid.
@@ralfwashington1502 CBD oil? Interesting... Where can I pick that up?
@@naomipatrao if you want to buy it local most health vitamin places should have it but you will pay a premium. I buy it usually online from the brand I gets website it is as much as 20 dollars cheaper online.
You need to look up good brands though there are snake oil BS out there with no CBD. Don't trust the bottle look up the name. Since I'm not sponsored I won't bother saying what I use since there are many good brands out there between the fake stuff. Just do a quick google search and find a brand that says its independently 3rd party tested for purity if you can. If you really want to know my brand it is Mediterra or something like that but there are many good brands
@@ralfwashington1502 Oh, sorry, I thought you meant 'CBT' (as in 'cognitive behavioural therapy'). So, I thought you were talking about 'CBT oil', which would've been hilarious! I thought you were being ironic and tongue-in-cheek. 😁😁
@@naomipatrao oh lol no. That would be funny though.🤣
@@ralfwashington1502 I know, right??! God!!! 'CBT Oil'? Oh, my Lawd!
I veered off multiple times while watching this video. From clicking off to another video to dancing and so going while it plays to reading messages. Someone, send help
Send them over here when they’re done with you! :)
same - I started taking by vyvance at 54 lol - so adhd has kicked the skit out of me for 50 years first lol
Is that an ADHD thing or for non ADHD people too?
Does medcircle ever talk about ASD I'm adults? Late diagnosis?
I was diagnosed last year at the age of 35 and have been treated for General depression disorder and major anxiety disorder since I was 24 years old.
Hey from 🇬🇧 I’ve recently had my ‘diagnosis’ of ADHD at 43. I certainly have mixed emotions but an overwhelming sense of relief realising that my belief that I was ‘different’ has a route cause
Hi, I'm also in the UK and was wondering how do u go about getting a diagnosis. I can just about get a doc app!
@@sandeepkalsi8340 hi. Unfortunately you do have to go through your GP and have an assessment with a specialist. It didn’t actually take that long to be honest with you
@@DoubleOught-p6n Thx Mark. I will book with my GP. How do I start the convo as I only have 10min. Should I just state it how I see it? I did an online test which overwhelmingly showed I have ADHD, Bi polar and depression!!
I had a proper diagnosis and a proper help after more than 20 years of serious struggle. I've got it only because I escaped from poo-land to the netherlands and I still cannot stop shaking every time I recall this relief I've felt and the deep understanding I am receiving on and on. I've been diagnosed with adhd first and then with asd and cptsd. I've been MISdiagnosed with bipolar and borderline while still living in poo-land. Because I am afab trans person. The socializing and bias does so much harm and poo-land is sooo behind that I want to cry. Btw medications are awesome, because those meds are just being unnecessarily demonized. It's like having to use glasses in order to function. Yeah, there are side effects but they do not work the same way on us as on neurotypicals, that is important to remember
I've been diagnosed with adhd. MDD and anxiety disorders. Hop job to job. Practically homeless I feel like peter pan sometimes. So many ppl think I'm a bum and lazy so I just stay to myself. God bless all ❤
If a person's brain scan has been found to look different, comparing a normal mind and an adhd mind, then why don't you just make everyone have a brain scan to get scientific proof of a brain difference? Wouldn't that be more accurate and efficient? Would love to see a video explaining this.
Problem is it is not that easy to get a brain scan. Therapy itself is already so expensive, let alone a brain scan.
Right? There are some that get there MRIs that are supposed to see what is going on in the brain and then others that never get this elevated type of diagnosis and so are misdiagnosed based on bias.
yes. its 100 percent much reliable to see actual differences in the brain than anecdotal. inductive reasoning is very freaking and unreliable to determine cause than deducing.
i have been questioning the same, anyone please link an answer, if they have thank you.
At this time, there is no clinical trial or research backed evidence for using any form of body or brain scans to accurately diagnose ADHD. some ppl with ADHD actually live successful and productive lives. It is those of us that have it and struggle that might get diagnosed and treated. But, I agree, it would be nice if everyone got at least 4 brain scans in their life and a concurrent psychological profile exam to generate a database we might be able to develop some form of diagnostic criteria from for any number of conditions.
In one of Russell Barkley's videos I heard that (among other things) the frontal lobe is 10-15% smaller in those with adhd. But that is on average and not a huge difference. You therefore cannot tell if an individual has adhd based on the size of frontal lobe, because there is natural variation in people that is comparable to those ten percent. You can only tell that statistically, about a group of many people.
In am 59 y/o and ADHD speaks to my whole life. When I realized 😳 this was me. I stayed in bed for 2 days.
Me too! I watched Judys video on ADHD on MedCircle and I started crying because I have been told I have sth else for the most of my life. And I am also "almost studying Psychology" because of the MeCircle videos!
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. I am not sure if it and I am not medicated anymore. when it came time to choose an antidepressant, I went with Welbutrin because it works on dopamine. I was on an SSRI and I was happy but I felt unmotivated. Wellbutrin has helped!
That’s interesting I’ve been on Lexapro over 20 years motivation can be a bit hit and miss especially on really boring house chores
I wonder if Wellbutrin could work for me?
@@Dancestar1981 It may work for you, but how well and for how long is unpredictable. I am trying it now for last few months as an augmentation medication, but not noticing any benefits yet.
So thankful for the comment section with these videos. I’d never make it through.
Good interview overall. Gotta say that many adults have addiction in their immediate families and perhaps most do in extended families. Just because someone in your family is addicted to something does not mean you going to be that susceptible. Get on the right meds and you're less likely to self-medicate.
It's hard enough when family to not support you , they don't have to believe me , just do their our research, but they do not, I was actually told its fake. Between to found a doctor who actually know about ADHD & have a love one not supported. I am so alone. Definitely need to work on therapy & tips & tricks to make life easier but did she say that medication just mask symptoms, making medication sound awful. If you are taking your ADHD seriously & it is severely effecting your life, I think if you work with a great doctor who will only give you what is good for you & do not abuse the medication, along with therapy, I think medication does not have to be a bad thing. Sometimes its so bad that it is so hard to even do what therapy is providing to you, that is when medication comes in, its like use it like one of the tools to get throw daily life.
If you feel like you are speeding on it , then you are over medicating or the doctor gave you to high Milligram.
just Annoys me when a doctor thinks they know all but would they tell someone for an example that has bi-polar they shouldn't take their medication because it doesn't cure their bi- polar?? I am guessing No.
Why are people with ADD or ADHD treated differently??
This just my experience & not all doctors are like this, but it can become depressing if you come across this often.
I’m so glad I stumbled upon your comment. For a year I’ve been researching and taking note of possibly having adhd. Still unsure if it may be combined or add since i also maladaptive daydream. I recently went to a doctor and they referred me to a psychiatrist they basically gaslit me saying that if you showed your symptoms to any doctor they’d conclude it was stress, i get this feeling my family don’t believe me either. I think the reason why they don’t take it seriously is bc of the misconceptions that ppl with sdhd are just lazy, need to try harder, do other recommended techniques that “will help”. From the outside ppl aren’t able to comprehend what it’s like living with it, I’m not blaming them but due to media influence and a lot of misunderstandings of many disorders and also not enough research into many mental disorders it can be a pain. Btw what is the effect of adhd medication, the doctor I went to said medication alone will only have little effect and won’t cure your symptoms which I was already aware of beforehand.
I've been on every SSRI, which I reported to my doctors they were making my symptoms worse for over a decade. Any symptoms I had and told my doctors "were fake, they don't exist". Now after over a decade finally being treated for a couple months I'm honestly not sure if I can work again. Some days I think "oh, definitely I can work like 12 hours a day!" Then many days I realize I have worn myself down worse than I've ever imagined. I could never make progress as a person without stimulant medication. I read many books and went to therapy for many years with zero improvement. Really sucks
My god, having ADHD and taking stimulants is nothing like taking Tylenol... I can't believe how irresponsible and inappropriate it is for a clinician to say that taking stimulants for ADHD is just masking symptoms of lacking the necessary organizational strategies, as if adults with ADHD just didn't learn how to effectively pomodoro or regulate their behavior as kids. Take it from someone who burnt out and got seriously ill from years of the stress and strain of trying to keep up with all the tasks and requirements of life after going undiagnosed with ADHD for decades: knowing how to use an agenda and manage time efficiently did not clear up the sheer physiological & psychological difficulty and exhaustion of having to function with ADHD in a society like this. It's neurotypical clinicians saying ignorant and off-base things like this that have made it insanely challenging for me to get an accurate diagnosis, let alone adequate treatment.
The words you said Kyle the last 2 minutes of the video are just amazing!!!!
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 10 and the doctor was extremely thorough, but I believe I actually have ASD or a combination of the two. It was right before the DSM-4 was released with significant changes to diagnostic criteria for ASD.
Thrice I’ve tried to watch this video but couldn’t concentrate on it
Try watching at 1.25 or 1.5 speed with captions
With ADHD the earlier the better. Early diagnosis is key. Essential.
I suspect I may have ADD. My teenage son was diagnosed at 7. And my adult daughter is diagnosed at 19. Looking at her diagnosis and reasoning makes me see what has been happening for me all this time.
After a narc relationship I really dissolved into depression. A big complaint he had with me was that I always forgot things.
My friend just ripped me into today for forgetting to go for a bush walk with her. She feels irrelevant and unimportant.
I feel like shit. I can’t help it.
that's typical. I just got diagnosed and told my friends AHDH causes this and that i love them an that they are important, but i just forget. I ask them to send me reminders or set INMEDIATELY a reminder on my phone after scheduling anything.. RIGHT AT THE MOMENT and it works. Calendars (physical mostly, not on the computer, seem to work well)
Setting alarms on your smartphone for everything helps. Even alarms to remind you of important tasks like refill son's medication, etc.
Pausing at 9:00
I never thought about the brain injury thing. I fainted from heat stroke when I was like 16. I hit the front of my face, huge black eye, permanent scar tissue on my eye. I never got checked out, the mall didn't call an ambulance or anything. So now I wonder.....
Problem is if you have adhd you are more likely to have traumatic accidents than the normal population.
I love Dr Judy Ho, what great attitude and persona!!! so smart...its amazing. She talks faster than my mind is trying to work!!! though. i really think i am ADD positive!! im 53, never been diagnosed, when i was a kid, teachers said i was a slow learner, short school bus and all. and all this time.....omg, never knew....ty
I am a parent. I do not have adhd, but I read and see about all issues. I am interested in brain issues
How does a neuro-developmental condition "go away"? Is the Dr. misusing the words to mean, adults that learn coping strategies and masking to compesate/hide their symptoms? My concern is, adults will use this information to prevent their children from getting diagnosed and the correct treatment by saying, "even IF you have ADHD, which I don't think you do, you'll just grow out of it . Now just try harder." Too many kids fear asking for help because the adults they are dependent to can't or won't get them the help they need due to the stigma they, as a parent, might experience. Very concerned you are doing more harm than good here and putting ppl at unnecessary risk of compounded trauma.
@ Ken Mc . Excellent point !
15:57 lol thankfully I'm hyperfocusing on something useful this time. I've been binge-watching videos on ADHD and learning as much as I can about it. Think this is my favorite video so far! :) I'm learning a ton!
Thank you so much! This conversation is so helpful for someone trying to better understand ADHD and ways to address it
I’m a yoga, mediation instructor working and navigating in an industry that is very anti-medication.... I’ve had the planners I’ve had the lists I’ve had the bullet point boards at my house.. I was resistant to stimulants because of the stigma however it’s because of the low grade stimulant that I’m on that has helped me with the use of tools to succeed.. and I wish “younger me” wasn’t so resistant to giving them a try because of the social stigma that people put on ADHD and being medicated.
Here's something I feel terrible about: Someone will tell me that a family member or friend died.
A few months later I will ask the person how that family member is. I'd have totally forgot they died.
Try explaining that away to a good friend who told you personally that someone they love died and here you are asking how that person is doing!!! Makes me feel like an awful human being. But I'm just trying to learn to accept it.
Unless it's someone I know personally or am close to, I could forget they were seriously ill or died. I don't do it on purpose, but I struggle to remember that. I may even remember that someone died, but can't be sure who. I sometimes think I'm an alien or something; Other people seem to remember this stuff easily but not me
who else paused the video to look up the Pomodoro Technique 🤣🤷🏻♀️ ADHD makes life much more stressful at work because im either procrastinating or lack focus!
I saved in my notes😂 I ain’t got shit to lose.
We’re smarter then we know and better at the big picture. Leaders don’t stay in bed go do what stimulates and create the world full of joy
Some of the compulsive symptoms that manifest in ADHD, skin picking, scratching, tics, are mostly due to anxiety. Many adults who struggle with ADHD also struggle with anxiety and are easily likely to experience depression due to the difficulties in every day life and the length of living with the untreated condition. The compulsion to get words out in the moment (in my case) is mostly because we have memory impairment specially short term and we can very quickly forget what we needed/wanted to say or do. People under the right stimulating supportive environment can thrive but when it's not the case the symptoms can get worse as anxiety kicks in when the person is under a lot of stress.
she's very right about the stimulants and interactions with other substances, there's much to know about stimulant medication which can be quite dangerous when not managed appropriately or under specialise supervision, particularly for adults and when we have stressful lives.
I tried no meds just behavioral strategies for most of my life, it was a disaster. Mindfulness and note taking are fantastic skills, The issue is without help I could not access that knowledge, as soon as I started meds it just started dropping into place, I could remember those strategies and when to use them. I believe ADHD is a huge spectrum and for those of us that have an extreme case, some type of meds will make things actually possible. But so many people decide to accept an ADHD diagnosis when they find out they get stimulants and never seek a true diagnosis. A good tip to know, if stimulants make you feel superpowered, you don't need them and are playing with fire.
I found days without my phone to be the most productive!
I’ve wondered if I have adhd or add. None of the meds I take work. I have issues with memory. Trouble staying on task, trouble keeping attention during conversation. I just keep getting more and more depressed.
Thank you so much this is helping a ton
Having been diagnosed at 50 the brain can learn by books on Audable. Moving keeps me actively listening. Acting was my love but short term is the hardest part . Sharp minds need stimulation from taking courses from scientist and study the brain as a organ not a defect as people said most of my life.