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  • @PsycHeal
    @PsycHeal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28267

    Shout out to the girl who genuinely asked him how he's doing. It's hard not to judge someone in this situation and come from a place of empathizing.

    • @sneakytacos773
      @sneakytacos773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +160

      Loving kindness.

    • @apecentury228
      @apecentury228 2 ปีที่แล้ว +147

      Im sorry but I personally wouldn't care. most of her questions were relating questions (different than the other people), so Im guessing she's a psych major. She was saying things like "how are you, nice to meet you, what gets you out of the bed in the morning?" like seriously? Of all the things you could say?

    • @musselmanmedia5236
      @musselmanmedia5236 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      he said he didnt have an oppurtunity to think....ya ok🤡🤡🤡

    • @xomnipresent8913
      @xomnipresent8913 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      @@apecentury228 like what? Being nosy playing the devils advocate?

    • @apecentury228
      @apecentury228 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@xomnipresent8913 it's not nosy. You're trying to learn the truth of what happened. If you don't acknowledge that, then you're living in the dark

  • @holasoykenzie2903
    @holasoykenzie2903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16902

    tell that he’s been through a lot of self healing because he’s so calm and collective about all of the questions

    • @tamborineman4704
      @tamborineman4704 2 ปีที่แล้ว +583

      He didn't seem calm in a healthy way to me. He seems anxious and bottled up. i hope he ries therapy again.

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And? He kind of has to be...he knows he should be rotting in jail so...

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +183

      This happened at 19, he is now in his early 30's, he's had a long time to digest it. That doesn't mean he's over it, it still holds a lot of weight for him, but moving away from where it happened has helped him.

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@mrfreeman1763 Okay and? Him getting helped shouldn’t be the aim cause he ain’t the victim. He shouldn’t gotten a sentence that was a little longer and he knows it.

    • @thewendigo9263
      @thewendigo9263 2 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      @@itsnatemate7697 it’s a traumatic experience for everyone involved

  • @MsDixiNormis
    @MsDixiNormis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19326

    This dude needs to go to high schools/colleges and speak about his experience, if he doesn't already.

    • @tamzidrahman2673
      @tamzidrahman2673 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      Or jail (again)

    • @vintagesparkles4289
      @vintagesparkles4289 2 ปีที่แล้ว +441

      @@tamzidrahman2673 why?

    • @tamzidrahman2673
      @tamzidrahman2673 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@vintagesparkles4289 his friends lives matter

    • @oh-ohstinky5819
      @oh-ohstinky5819 2 ปีที่แล้ว +311

      @@tamzidrahman2673 tf??

    • @wolfpuppclips2371
      @wolfpuppclips2371 2 ปีที่แล้ว +502

      @@vintagesparkles4289 I guess they meant that in a way to motivate the prisoners/convicts there to do better and move ahead in life. Maybe to help them get better and live to be a better person after their sentence.
      Edit: at least I hope that's what they meant 🥲 but apparently they did not.

  • @SimonZ
    @SimonZ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13965

    Thank you for allowing me to share my story with more people. If there's one thing I want you to remember from my experience, it's this: In this world, our actions always lead to outcomes. It's up to each of us to recognize and understand why we take unnecessary risks or make life-altering decisions without considering the consequences sometimes. Only then do we learn from our actions and avoid succumbing to a reality we cannot even recognize.
    From my time on this earth, I've realized that life truly can be fragile if not respected. Allow yourself to find inner peace during tough times. Most of the time, we tend to hurt ourselves even more when we need help the most. If you find yourself in that dark place, reach out to someone! It allows for a time of self-reflection in order to break free from what clouds us from seeing clearly. I promise you, it can change everything... it did for me.

    • @gothicgolem2947
      @gothicgolem2947 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      what do you mean do wait till its too late to hate yourself?

    • @narutohyuga1845
      @narutohyuga1845 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      ❤️

    • @asingh1174
      @asingh1174 2 ปีที่แล้ว +170

      It takes courage to accept your mistakes. Have faith💖

    • @DualityStellar
      @DualityStellar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +124

      Respect to you, for going what you've gone through and having the courage to speak up.

    • @123Mathzak
      @123Mathzak 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Wait is this you in the video? This should get pinned, then.

  • @xSuperdogx
    @xSuperdogx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7605

    Officers letting off obviously drunk drivers is a slap in the face to everyone who is on the road driving sober.

    • @aaryalouise6391
      @aaryalouise6391 2 ปีที่แล้ว +307

      And to all (direct or indirect) victims of DUIs

    • @DA-js7xz
      @DA-js7xz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      Lol to you not understanding how cops are corrupt.

    • @essbee1641
      @essbee1641 2 ปีที่แล้ว +268

      The cop’s answer had me shook! Like seriously, you let drunk people off “at your discretion“!?

    • @kimberlyjennings618
      @kimberlyjennings618 2 ปีที่แล้ว +173

      @@DA-js7xz he’s not “corrupt” in the way people generally mean it toward cops - he’s a human who sometimes feels sympathy for people and let’s them go instead of making them suffer the full consequence of their actions. Some people would loose their career (especially military or govt employees), could lose their family, and could end up homeless from a DUI. They cost around $10,000 in legal and other fees (in California) plus other ramifications. So this isn’t some deep systemic issue with police corruption, he’s just a human doing his best. He has a tough job.

    • @WandyPaolaGalvezSolares
      @WandyPaolaGalvezSolares 2 ปีที่แล้ว +199

      @@kimberlyjennings618 someone losing their career and money is always better than someone losing a life to a drunk driver

  • @Queenb2001
    @Queenb2001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7264

    I like that he challenge the cop with their "discretion talk". The amount of times I have heard people admit to being drunk and driving and being let go by cops is actually astonishing to me, and dismisses the seriousness of the matter.

    • @channy6995
      @channy6995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +238

      Also that cops will harass and stop ppl for things like driving while black...

    • @DD-rh2sz
      @DD-rh2sz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      @@channy6995 yeah, your life is so much harder, we are giving you the pity you are seeking

    • @WeiFinder
      @WeiFinder 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@channy6995 change where you live if that's the case

    • @savannahshane2231
      @savannahshane2231 2 ปีที่แล้ว +308

      @@WeiFinder Are you really so disconnected from reality that your response to systematic racism in the US police force is, "Why don't you just move?"

    • @WeiFinder
      @WeiFinder 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      @@savannahshane2231 I am connected to reality enough to known systemic racism in the US police force is a nuanced and controversial topic, high crime areas have policy ammends which unfortunately typically affect minorities (not inherently racism), but my point remains if Channy feels that way, find a way to move somewhere with low crime rates and policies will be softer. I used to live somewhere with high crime and more heavy police presence and intervention, not anymore, literally almost no cops or crime where I live now, no higher rate of minority arrests, etc.
      Plus not only the US exists.

  • @liorahlii1714
    @liorahlii1714 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3212

    That girl that asked him about him mental health was so sweet, I hope he knows that he's loved and I pray he forgives himself.

    • @AC-mp7cx
      @AC-mp7cx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      ............................. i loved how we forgive some murderers but not others

    • @asya-35987
      @asya-35987 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      true :( so wholesome

    • @flooryan8332
      @flooryan8332 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@AC-mp7cx could you clarify?

    • @esotericdoll120
      @esotericdoll120 2 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      @@AC-mp7cx ….because some people are truly remorseful while others are not

    • @daiz.5648
      @daiz.5648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      @@AC-mp7cx well life is not really just black and white and there exists the gray line. however, with all due respect, one have the rights to choose whether they want to forgive him or not. so if you don’t, that’s completely fine.

  • @qlumi7899
    @qlumi7899 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5686

    the police officer that admitted he let one or two people off for being drunk behind the wheel. if he keeps doing that, there will be a day he's going to regret it. if there's anything an officer should be harsh on, surely duis is one of them.

    • @Glendragon
      @Glendragon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +263

      a police officer should not be the judge of who should be punished or not, he should only enforce the law.

    • @perlaperez6663
      @perlaperez6663 2 ปีที่แล้ว +129

      Yes because if they are let off easy they will keep doing it again and again I’ve seen it with my own eyes

    • @WeiFinder
      @WeiFinder 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      It is case by case though, it could be someone who it JUST over the alchool limit, but has his full wits about him well rested and hydrated driving the speed limit following all laws driving a low risk road with no previous infractions.. VS a very tired person just over the alchool limit with a dismissive attitude, driving kind of aggressive, etc

    • @punkybrewstar83
      @punkybrewstar83 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Regret because you caused harm to others, requires a conscience...

    • @punkybrewstar83
      @punkybrewstar83 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@WeiFinder And it becomes very clear who you are...

  • @SavageNextDoor
    @SavageNextDoor 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12987

    I hope people give him an actual chance. He made an awful mistake at 19, and has been deservedly punished for it. 8 years in jail + being socially excommunicated from everyone you loved except your parents.
    Completely unfortunate situation, and I hope people see this and NEVER think about drinking and driving.

    • @tamzidrahman2673
      @tamzidrahman2673 2 ปีที่แล้ว +412

      It was his choice to drink and then drive.

    • @yungmunyxo
      @yungmunyxo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      @@suspiciouspooh5988 THIS

    • @S_J_banana
      @S_J_banana 2 ปีที่แล้ว +197

      I know many people who drink and drive basically daily so it definitely wasn't a mistake seeing as he admitted to doing it prior

    • @wiseguy240Winston
      @wiseguy240Winston 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Cancel culture would never forgive him unfortunately

    • @patate5301
      @patate5301 2 ปีที่แล้ว +289

      @daisyk pretty sure the definition of a mistake is making a wrong decision or action

  • @TyLee96
    @TyLee96 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5504

    If you've driven drunk before and can't control your drunk self enough to not do it again, you don't drink in the first place. Sober you has to make that decision for drunk you.

    • @potatogaming4663
      @potatogaming4663 2 ปีที่แล้ว +250

      Exactly, he knew what he was doing, dude did it 5 times

    • @patate5301
      @patate5301 2 ปีที่แล้ว +147

      Easier said than done for someone who's an alcoholic though.

    • @potatogaming4663
      @potatogaming4663 2 ปีที่แล้ว +268

      @@patate5301 That's not an excuse, nice try

    • @caitlin5189
      @caitlin5189 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      100 percent.

    • @mokie7421
      @mokie7421 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@potatogaming4663 addiction?

  • @Akinstheapache
    @Akinstheapache 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9460

    As someone who has also taken a life in self defense it’s not a feeling you can ever get rid of

    • @heebyjeeby420
      @heebyjeeby420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +531

      @@you-vy1ik dude wtf, did you not read the rest of their post

    • @elisabethopp1
      @elisabethopp1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +630

      I’m sorry. You are so strong.

    • @thatoneguy2033
      @thatoneguy2033 2 ปีที่แล้ว +121

      @@heebyjeeby420 he read it he is just like "WHAT?!" in his mind. Shouldn't really be a surprise though stuff like this happens everyday and people deal with it differently emotionally.

    • @user-s6x17t61ff
      @user-s6x17t61ff 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      Did u go to jail or did u got away with it calling it "self defense"?

    • @thatoneguy2033
      @thatoneguy2033 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1361

      @@user-s6x17t61ff now that's messed up

  • @TheLovelyAliP
    @TheLovelyAliP 2 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    The girl who is a recovering alcoholic who's had DUIs seemed to genuinely care about his wellbeing, which is a perfect example of how you tend to care more about someone and empathize with them when you relate to their experiences.

  • @ky4864
    @ky4864 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1941

    I’ve been the family member of someone on the “victim” side of a DUI when my ex-step dad drove my sister (his daughter) into a ditch while drunk and flipped the car. It was terrible and tragic. But what I personally have learned is that anger doesn’t change the situation and that nobody should be reduced to the worst thing they’ve ever done. This guy made a mistake at 19. And he’s thought about it everyday since then. Idk. I know everyone is entitled to their own feelings about something like this, but for me, I feel like him living with the guilt is the worst punishment imaginable. I don’t see any reason why he also needs the world’s condemnation. I think he deserves to be more than this.

    • @sneakytacos773
      @sneakytacos773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +153

      Forgiveness is the key to healing. You’re a wise person.

    • @annahclaire1765
      @annahclaire1765 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      perfectly said Ky

    • @monikamalinowski
      @monikamalinowski 2 ปีที่แล้ว +115

      He reflected on his horrible mistake and changed. People who don't, don't deserve forgiveness

    • @mumbimutoko3006
      @mumbimutoko3006 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Sometimes the hardest person to forgive, is yourself

    • @makusuwerusan7390
      @makusuwerusan7390 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Your words are kind and true. I hope he sees this.

  • @oIiviarodrigo
    @oIiviarodrigo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1801

    the cop letting people off is terrifying. there’s no way to justify their actions and people should know better. knowing that there are cops who let people off the hook just because they “feel bad” makes me feel so unsafe

    • @GrGalan6464
      @GrGalan6464 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      While there isn’t a way to justify a crime, there are cases where charges aren’t necessary to prevent it from happening again. An unfortunate part of the law is that criminal records can bar you from doing things your whole life for something you may do in your twenties. The people that are let off are never murderers, or people who perpetrated the crime on purpose, so your fear of living among “criminals” is irrational.

    • @burnt.norton
      @burnt.norton 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@GrGalan6464 definitely not irrational

    • @GrGalan6464
      @GrGalan6464 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@burnt.norton I meant that what he was worrying over was an irrational fear; a fear over something ultimately harmless (like being scared of zombies, which are fictional). Being scared of having a few people being let off, as if they are going to do something horrible directly to you, is an irrational fear. I didn't mean his argument was irrational, I probably should've worded my sentence better.

    • @Haylla2008
      @Haylla2008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      ​@@GrGalan6464 It's not irrational for someone to fear that there are cops letting people off for drunk driving. There are how many cops that could be potentially letting drunk drivers go? Every police officer has discretionary power so every police officer has the power to let a drunk driver go free and every person they let go free might feel emboldened to drive with higher levels of alcohol. There are about 650,000 police officers in the U.S. If all of them let off one drunk driver a week, that's 1 drunk driver free for every 6 sq. miles of area. Take into account that people don't drive over quite a bit of area in the U.S. and that number becomes even more concentrated. About 1/3 of vehicle deaths in the U.S. involve drunk driving.

    • @Rafulefou
      @Rafulefou 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@GrGalan6464 You lost me at zombie's fear is irrational. ^^°

  • @dillongrady7659
    @dillongrady7659 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3999

    Damn. Respect to this dude for answering all their questions

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      This was a big step for him, I'm glad they had him on.

    • @vivienm2037
      @vivienm2037 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would never speak to him again.

  • @sageashley
    @sageashley 2 ปีที่แล้ว +955

    My best friend was in a terrible wreck. No alcohol involved but in a car full of 5 teens, 2 died and 2 came very close. The driver turned his head to watch a video someone in the backseat was trying to show him and veered off into a ditch and hit a tree. I think about it a lot and wonder what that guilt must be like. He was completely uninjured, meanwhile everyone else either died, lost an eye, lost a kidney, collapsed lungs etc. I remember seeing my friend once she got out of the icu and I'll never forget her reaction to being told that she was the only one to survive in the backseat, and that her BFF died next to her when a toolbox from the back of the car flew up and hit her in the head, also breaking her neck. Life is cruel.

    • @kaitlinelisha7826
      @kaitlinelisha7826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +120

      I’m so sorry that sounds absolutely terrifying for your friend and I’m wishing a quick recovery for your friend and anyone else affected (both mentally and physically).

    • @myheartwillstopinjoy8142
      @myheartwillstopinjoy8142 2 ปีที่แล้ว +118

      I feel so bad for the driver. He made the tiniest mistake and it had horrible, enormous effects... And I'm sorry for your friend's loss.

    • @saravananjeeva5258
      @saravananjeeva5258 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 feeling bad for the driver means u pity him , unlesshe reflects and is suffering from guilt from the accident he caused , I wouldnt give him my pity

    • @IndianaJonas96
      @IndianaJonas96 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      @@saravananjeeva5258 ok and literally every single human being would do that except those who have diagnosable emotional issues or other conditions. Things they cannot help.
      So

    • @connaeris8230
      @connaeris8230 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 "the tiniest mistake"? Lol, I don't even answer phone calls while I'm driving. Feeling empathy towards people shouldn't entail underplaying the severity of their actions.

  • @NanoNate
    @NanoNate 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2250

    he definitely has ptsd... so sad for both him and those affected by drunk driving. I hope he can fully recover one day and forgive himself

    • @AC-mp7cx
      @AC-mp7cx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      bro people on drunk drivers videos of being convicted literally demean, bully them, and celebrate them being locked up forever. The human habit of hypocrisy and inconsistency is wild

    • @mydogeatspuke
      @mydogeatspuke 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @Kelly M your partner experienced something so terrible that it caused PTSD and you made it about you hahahahahaha

    • @mydogeatspuke
      @mydogeatspuke 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Kelly M you're not his "fam" though, and if you want to educate yourself then maybe you should do that instead of complaining about how hard his suffering is for you. Imagine how much harder it is for him, you know, the one who's actually suffering? 🙄

    • @mydogeatspuke
      @mydogeatspuke 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Kelly M nah, it's not like that at all. If someone else struggling with a mental illness effects your life past feeling bad for them then you need to get some therapy to figure out why you're so self absorbed. Your perspective is ridiculous, I'm not sure how much clearer I can make this.

    • @eimear8589
      @eimear8589 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@mydogeatspuke you're very wrong here. There's something called secondary/ vicarious traumatisation in which close friends, family, emergency workers and therapists can suffer from when being in close emotional contact with someone suffering from ptsd. It's been found in the families of veterans, fire fighters as well as those who are close to someone with trauma. I literally just learnt about this a few weeks ago doing my psych degree. Please look it up and educate yourself and don't dismiss those who suffer from it

  • @ameliakhan5881
    @ameliakhan5881 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1423

    big shoutout to the guy cos just him being on here shows how much self development he has done and how willing he is to educate others on the situation
    also the girl who asked him how he was doing is a gem

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      It doesn’t matter. Two people are not here because of him

    • @Ceerads
      @Ceerads 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      And the woman who is an alcoholic in recovery. She was excellent.

    • @hottieschicken
      @hottieschicken 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@Ceerads i believe she was also the woman who asked him how he was doing :) she’s just all-around great!

    • @Ceerads
      @Ceerads 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@hottieschicken Yes, she is!

    • @dandantsm6560
      @dandantsm6560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ​@@itsnatemate7697 mmm... yeah the two people who probably got in also knowing he was drunk...
      anyway he got punished for what he did and learned his lesson(i hope so, seems like he did)
      and he also made part of a video to share his experience and maybe help people so they don't do the same thing he did
      He has probably even helped save some lives telling the cop it's not OK to let anyone off in that kind of situation, maybe that cop will stop letting people just go after drunk driving because of what this guy told him.

  • @cl4za
    @cl4za 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1070

    the police officer shouldn’t let them off. dui’s are so serious. the fact people can THINK about getting in the car drunk is beyond me. he shouldn’t care about the case. call a spade a spade. it’s a dui. do not let any slide no matter who it is.

    • @lisaaaarg01
      @lisaaaarg01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      Totally agree, honestly surprised he even admitted it because its a very controversial thing to say you're an active police officer and have let drunk drivers off the hook 😬

    • @jasminecota4296
      @jasminecota4296 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Lehpurdzzz "obey traffic laws more than usual" is simply untrue if you are intoxicated... what a poor justification

    • @saravananjeeva5258
      @saravananjeeva5258 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jasminecota4296 I havent drank before but I am assuming like everything theres levels to drinking , so drinking a tiny a bit and waiting for a am hour would be fine enough to make u sensible enough to drive

    • @surfinbanana6419
      @surfinbanana6419 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yeah but most times they're too intoxicated to even "think"

    • @jasminecota4296
      @jasminecota4296 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@saravananjeeva5258 yes, hence why there is a measure of intoxication that is legal when driving. I am simply debunking their statement that any amount of alcohol can actually help one focus better, which is simply untrue

  • @drewkennedy2870
    @drewkennedy2870 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1553

    I wish someone would have asked him more about his experiences in the justice system, such as if there were any rehabilitative programs while he was incarcerated or if there were any programs after he got out to provide support. Although he did mention that he basically stared at a wall for 8 years, so probably not…

    • @mercygirl317
      @mercygirl317 2 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      i wanted to know more about the friends that died, like did their families ever forgive him at all since their kids were all drinking together or did they stay angry at him cuz he sadly was the driver..its an unfortunate tragedy. i wouldve asked though.

    • @meghnakanwat7075
      @meghnakanwat7075 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      There are at some jails & at some no such thing exists.

    • @sunshine3914
      @sunshine3914 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      A lot of criminals will tell you there’s better access to drugs & alcohol while than outside prison.
      If prisons were actually designed for rehabilitation & not for profit, there wouldn’t be an revolving door.

    • @meghnakanwat7075
      @meghnakanwat7075 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@sunshine3914 Actually drugs & alcohol in prison are quite expensive compared to outside as it is only given to those paying the most for it. So, yes it’s available in prison but not that easily as you may think.

    • @punkybrewstar83
      @punkybrewstar83 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      He answered the question and so did you. Prison isn't about rehabilitation.

  • @lulutunes7496
    @lulutunes7496 2 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    I was in a car with someone who swore they were sober, he almost rolled the car and then got pulled over, but they let him go. it was terrifying. I wish they hadn't.

  • @Josh-fj9hi
    @Josh-fj9hi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +260

    The dynamic between the cop and the guy who was convicted is honestly really interesting. Because you can see how the cops reasoning is based on him not wanting to ruin someone's life when this could be a result of terrible circumstances. But with the convicted guy you can see that he's like no even though you don't want to ruin their lives with a DUI you have to. Because if you don't give them that wake up call they could go on to ruin someone else's life, and so it's required because a DUI is by far better than letting them off and having a situation like himself

    • @gray_gogy
      @gray_gogy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      You can see the guy is almost angry at the cop. He doesn't really show it but it's there. A certain intensity

  • @stephanielee1261
    @stephanielee1261 2 ปีที่แล้ว +762

    My best friend lost his life because of a drink driving accident. He was a passenger and one of my other friends was the driver. It was upsetting to see just how many people turned against my friend who was driving the car, almost as if they acted as though he meant for it to happen. Of course he didn't. I can't imagine the guilt he has to live with every day. I lost my best friend, but I also know that my other friend didn't intend for any of it to happen. Nobody wins in a situation like that.

    • @Jessica-ql5ji
      @Jessica-ql5ji 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Sorry for your loss

    • @josilynfilms
      @josilynfilms 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      i’m so sorry for your loss stephanie. this comment is so important and i appreciate you for giving us comment viewers another perspective. u are loved and important. hope ur doing okay:)

    • @DA-js7xz
      @DA-js7xz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed OP

    • @wombat4583
      @wombat4583 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Sometimes people react that way not because they thought someone meant for it to happen but because their own mind won't let them forget their involvement. Even if someone generally understands or wants to forgive you brain can supply small microaggressions as to why they shouldn't forget or let go. Sympathy should go all around and be extended to those people too.

    • @gerkinmckay1649
      @gerkinmckay1649 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sorry for your loss, all my best wishes

  • @A95-x2j
    @A95-x2j 2 ปีที่แล้ว +133

    You can see in this guy's face that he's been at war with himself over what happened for a long time. I know that expression; people mistake it for anger, but really it's disappointment and frustration.

  • @gracie3827
    @gracie3827 2 ปีที่แล้ว +758

    I'd be interested to see this but with someone who has taken a life on purpose; someone who's murdered someone

    • @monb3305
      @monb3305 2 ปีที่แล้ว +138

      Yeah... ideally someone who did it in self defense though lol

    • @Vins663
      @Vins663 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      There is plenty of interviews with serial killers on TH-cam.

    • @lijntje266
      @lijntje266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i was thinking the same thing

    • @deagle7776
      @deagle7776 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      He chose to drink and drive, so he did it on purpose

    • @carrotcake6002
      @carrotcake6002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@deagle7776 I agree, the guy even seemingly used it as an excuse to dissociate himself from the need to express any remorse to the victim's parents or friends. He kinda brushes over the sentiment with 'i understand why they wouldn't want to speak to me' as opposed to 'i understand I have potentially ruined a dozen people's lifes'.

  • @CCCookieCia
    @CCCookieCia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    The sadness in every single words he said is real. I hope he can find real people who can accept his reality

  • @geek-ko
    @geek-ko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    My uncle was a alcoholic and one time he was drunk driving and a police officer stopped him, they talked for a while and then he let my uncle go on his way... idk what the police officer told my uncle but since that day my uncle has not touch any alcohol, he felt grateful idk how to describe it but now my uncle has 2 years sober

  • @re9697
    @re9697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    I almost died in a dui crash after being drugged . I’m so grateful I survived and have the chance to learn from it and it gives me confidence seeing people in similar positions grow and learn from tragedy

    • @JoseGomez-jr8hn
      @JoseGomez-jr8hn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      But being drugged isn't your fault.

  • @Lee-xw7gf
    @Lee-xw7gf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    As someone who has been around AA my whole life through family including my dad, it was no shock that the woman who is the recovering alcoholic was the one asking “how are YOU”

  • @delaneykeller1389
    @delaneykeller1389 2 ปีที่แล้ว +462

    One heavy question I would have asked is what his relationship like with the parents of those friends or if they ever exchanged words after the event.

    • @0fficer_friendly
      @0fficer_friendly 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jorrdiiii can you delete this please.

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      He has a YT channel discussing his experiences, there is a link in the description.
      Some of the parents fought to have Simon's time reduced because they all knew each other and knew it was a mistake. They lost 2 lives to the accident and didn't want to see Simon lose his too. These weren't strangers, they were long time friends and knew each other's families. Anyone with a clear head knew this was bad enough as it was and didn't see Simon as a bad guy, they all were intoxicated and all chose to get in the car, I believe the passengers had actually pushed Simon to come because he had a ride and it was one of their birthdays.
      Simon takes full responsibility for his actions. I've know him for 2 years and can attest that he's paid more than enough for it. Learn from his mistakes and be humble.
      It's easy for a lot of people in this comment section to assume the deceased had no responsibility and try to be self-righteous for them, but hind sight is 20/20 and kicking someone when they are down is easy.

    • @BHBM888
      @BHBM888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      "Mr Freeman" is the drunk driver from the video. Notice how he has intimate knowledge of what happened and speaks in third person.

    • @delaneykeller1389
      @delaneykeller1389 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@BHBM888 ?

    • @BHBM888
      @BHBM888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@delaneykeller1389 I'm referring to the TH-cam commenter "Mr Freeman" above me. He is the drunk driver in the video

  • @crystalcovington1733
    @crystalcovington1733 2 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I want to commend Simon for being vulnerable & honest. I takes a strong person to participate in a video like this. I wish you nothing but the best.

  • @mimiapples5994
    @mimiapples5994 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    You can tell the kid in white's going through something,hope he gets through it

  • @dipfuk
    @dipfuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +232

    The officer seriously admitted to letting drunk drivers go. Smh.

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      We are all human and make mistakes. We all have our own perspectives and make decisions based on them.
      Hopefully he learned to see that a dui charge wake up call is better than a manslaughter charge.

    • @claralobato8479
      @claralobato8479 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      not trying to justify his actions but i think he’d let drunk drivers as like people that can actually have a couple of drinks and be ok, ofc i do not condone in anyway, but having a DUI and actually being a felony will turn ur life around, and its understandable but tbh if it was a first time I’d hope someone like that police office would give a second chance to whomever was stoped and that he had the judgment to call that action and let them go, if anything its on the cop that let him go too.

    • @SamSphinx
      @SamSphinx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mrfreeman1763 Cops can't afford to make mistakes.

  • @lounirs
    @lounirs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    This guy is really brave to show his face and share his story, knowing he's going to be judged

    • @alexg2140
      @alexg2140 ปีที่แล้ว

      it’s not common to know someone who’s taken a life.

  • @faysmit4799
    @faysmit4799 2 ปีที่แล้ว +818

    He is so brave for doing this. I have so much respect for that he has the courage to answer the questions

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      How are people like you complimenting him? He is no where near a victim and two individuals are gone because of him

    • @faysmit4799
      @faysmit4799 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@itsnatemate7697 some people have sympathy you should try it sometime

    • @faysmit4799
      @faysmit4799 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@itsnatemate7697 and people like you.... you dont even know me.

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      @@faysmit4799 some people have more common sense and knowledge. You should try it sometime. It’s so easy for you to say all this garbage when you’re not the person that was close to the two individuals

    • @faysmit4799
      @faysmit4799 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@itsnatemate7697 it takes courage to answer this questions. I didnt say anything about if he is a victim or not. Talking about a crime isnt easy

  • @ReddCinema
    @ReddCinema 2 ปีที่แล้ว +753

    JUBILEE NEVER DISAPPOINTS

    • @Rain87166
      @Rain87166 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      they literally dissapointed last time by getting sssniper woof on the video 😅.

    • @miynmo
      @miynmo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Rain87166 yupp

    • @jai5053
      @jai5053 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Rain87166 They didn’t do just her though they bring in a lot of big TH-camrs that react to their channels as a thank you to them.

    • @にちはHYPERSPACE
      @にちはHYPERSPACE 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      i agree, the cut never disappoints- oh wait

  • @jamesgillam6478
    @jamesgillam6478 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I've never driven drunk, but like most of you reading this, I've texted while driving. Nearly any of us could have ended up in this guys position.

  • @urmom3289
    @urmom3289 2 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    That’s actually really crazy. Can’t imagine what he saw.

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      He has a YT channel, link is in the description.
      It covers various aspects of the situation.

  • @PrincessLioness
    @PrincessLioness 2 ปีที่แล้ว +785

    Why did no one ask about how the parents/family of the his friends feel about him. I think it’s different when it’s someone you know vs a stranger.

    • @Ambi1021
      @Ambi1021 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      That's what I was wondering.

    • @mokie7421
      @mokie7421 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      It's the most important things they like to cut out.

    • @degstoll
      @degstoll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      They could've asked but it was cut out, that's why there are no repeated questions

    • @becca-et7fu
      @becca-et7fu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      at the beginning he was asked how it affected his relationship with his parents and after the relationships he had in that environment. he said his dad forgave him and is very supportive, his mom passed away before the accident. and the friends he had at college etc all cut him off.

    • @PrincessLioness
      @PrincessLioness 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@becca-et7fu Yeah, but it was pretty generalized and didn’t address how the parents felt.

  • @joanabarros7458
    @joanabarros7458 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    This really made me feel for him, but truth be told had the two passengers been someone I knew and loved I would feel differently.

    • @Liam-iv7wk
      @Liam-iv7wk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The hardest thing to do in the world ever is to forgive.

  • @tahiya450
    @tahiya450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    You can tell how emotional he was whilst answering these questions but I'm glad he did. He seems as if he's trying his best to become better especially when he answered back to the officer. He understands how sacred human life is, hope he find inner peace.

  • @jessikarabbid4720
    @jessikarabbid4720 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    As a teen I used to get into vehicles with people under the influence all the time. I knew it was wrong, I knew that there was a chance I wouldn't make it home. I understand that not everyone is that "self-aware", but I definitely was responsible for myself being there.. My point is unless you forced your friends into the car, they made that choice too. It ended so tragically and I'm sorry for everyone involved including the driver.. 🖤

  • @tranc3ify
    @tranc3ify 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    You can feel how much this person is intelligente, aware, conscious and honest about everything he said.

  • @sunshine3914
    @sunshine3914 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Just the other day I heard a youngish TH-camr say, “I finally learned that alcohol has many drawbacks, but most of all, I realize that it steals precious time that I’ll never get back, & I’m not letting it take another minute.”.

  • @tdiia
    @tdiia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You can tell he's collected but will forever see the world tinted grey. This was very informative. Happy recovery in society

  • @americatochile
    @americatochile 2 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    well, he was drinking and his friends were probably drinking aswell and decided to get in the car with him. unfortunate circumstance for all. r.i.p. to the friends.

    • @lexm17
      @lexm17 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Yet he decided to drive. Just cos they were all in the car doesn’t mean one of them had to drive, he took the decision and cost 2 lives. They’re no point in saying the others were probably drunk too when we don’t know the full story

    • @samtae6217
      @samtae6217 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      That’s not only “unfortunate” though, it was his fault. Of course, he has been punished enough and is a different person now that deserves a second chance, but he CHOSE to drive while being drunk. Don’t pretend noone’s at fault here.

    • @americatochile
      @americatochile 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@samtae6217 I never said that it wasn't his fault, but I guess I didn't explain my viewpoint- I don't think he should feel like a killer. It isn't like he premeditated what was going to happen. It just happened from bad choices.

    • @lijntje266
      @lijntje266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@americatochile i agree with you. we all have our own accountability. just as "he decided to drive" the others decided to get into the car with him. they could have not done that or fixed something else. they could have make a different choice. we dont even know if he was pushed to drive. like others tought he was fine.. so just drive kinda vibe. it is just sad for everyone.

    • @americatochile
      @americatochile 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@lijntje266 i agree ! 😔

  • @syndicateci526
    @syndicateci526 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    He sounds like he’s on the verge of tears the whole time

  • @Randy_84
    @Randy_84 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I hope the people who wrote him off see this. He genuinely shows remorse and has done his time.

    • @davidbrennan5973
      @davidbrennan5973 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If a rapist serves their time should they be forgiven? I hope your answer would be no

  • @sparkynutters690
    @sparkynutters690 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I’m sorry but I feel like these people didn’t ask the questions they would have asked if there wasn’t a camera around. How come no one asked if he ever had contact with the victims family? They held back. But props to this dude for having the courage to sit through this to spread awareness about drunk driving

    • @aasthaaaaa09
      @aasthaaaaa09 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly what I was thinking..

  • @im_just_vidu
    @im_just_vidu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I can't imagine how traumatising it is. Knowing that you were the reason that someone isn't alive anymore and having to live with it. Getting judged by society everyday and waking up everyday with those vivid memories and thoughts.

  • @_f.u.a.n1725
    @_f.u.a.n1725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    :( I want to hug him so badly. he didn't want to do it intentionally at all. my goodness.

  • @eosjdjsjsjfjchxjx1888
    @eosjdjsjsjfjchxjx1888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +690

    It’s hard to feel sorry for him for me because I almost lost my dad and brother to a drunk driver when I was 8. There are real families behind these accidents who unfortunately were not as lucky as my family was. Don’t “wish you could go back and change things.” Just don’t put yourself in a situation to where this could happen. Always have your rides home pre-arranged. It’s honestly not hard.

    • @josephagan7278
      @josephagan7278 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly. People who have sympathy for this POS obviously haven't dealt with the horror of drunk drivers or the aftermath. The fact that he selfishly ended 2 young lives that night and only got 8 years is nauseating. Dude should still be rotting in a cage.

    • @lijntje266
      @lijntje266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      they were hit i am guessing from your story? not in a car with someone who was drunk?

    • @shaaylaaaa
      @shaaylaaaa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +122

      Honestly I agree...there is absolutely no reason to drive drunk or high. Especially now with all the ride share companies in most cities.

    • @londynmurphy8818
      @londynmurphy8818 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ok.

    • @alarmedllama5910
      @alarmedllama5910 2 ปีที่แล้ว +120

      Can’t change the past. All he can do is wish he could go back, feel bad and do better

  • @elin_
    @elin_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Tbh.. I feel sorry for him. I hope he finds new friends and some kind of support. I haven't had a problem with alcohol, but I know how complete loneliness feels like because of my depression.. and I carry some guilt as well. It f*cking eats you from the inside.

  • @elaine378
    @elaine378 2 ปีที่แล้ว +107

    Loved this video. NEVER get in a car with someone who has drank- even if they say drink doesn’t impact them because they’ve a high tolerance or that they always drive after drinking or if you’re dirt broke. DO NOT GET IN. It’s better safe than sorry. Order that Uber, or walk more to get that public transport or swallow your pride and call for a lift! I know a lot of my friends think they’re living in a movie and that they’re ‘wild’ for going along with it: but it’s not cool. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, value your safety and others’ safety over the simple short term gain.

  • @gabrielakaez7330
    @gabrielakaez7330 2 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    I personally don’t think he’s an awful person and I don’t think he’s a killer he deserves to be forgiven for something that he didn’t mean to do. Everyone learns for their own mistakes and we should be able to forgive people.

    • @realrx2306
      @realrx2306 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      its really hard to feel bad for him since he literally stated that he did it 6 times before this incident happened. he was fully aware of his actions and didnt feel bad about anything until something actually occurred

    • @DA-js7xz
      @DA-js7xz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@realrx2306 you sound naive af.

    • @mydogeatspuke
      @mydogeatspuke 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@DA-js7xz staying in reality where facts exist instead of all this feelings nonsense is naive? He told us all in the video who he is. He was getting drunk and driving frequently before this happened. He was forced to stop because this terrible thing happened. It would never have happened if not for him making the choice to drink and drive. Repeatedly. Some people don't deserve to be forgiven, or sympathy, or empathy. It doesn't make someone naive to see things for what they really are. He clearly still has a bad attitude, it oozes out of him and his words. This isn't someone who's remorseful and asking for forgiveness, it's someone who's annoyed that part of their life was stolen as a consequence of their own actions.

    • @osiris4883
      @osiris4883 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@mydogeatspuke That was who he was. He's clearly not the same person anymore so why reduce someone to their worst mistakes after they've learned through consequences? He wasn't there to ask for forgiveness. He was there to answer their questions.

    • @osiris4883
      @osiris4883 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@realrx2306 Yeah and that's who he was in the past

  • @treywong5821
    @treywong5821 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    When she asked about his mental health it really struck home

  • @greatlakes4753
    @greatlakes4753 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Not sure if we've passed the point already or not but distracted driving (specifically talking, texting) was rapidly catching up with drunk driving as a factor in crashes and fatalities in my state yet the penalties weren't anywhere near comparable. How does everyone feel about this issue? It seems to me like most people at some point in the last 20 years anyway, have driven while distracted.

  • @sneakytacos773
    @sneakytacos773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Jubilee is a channel that centers true compassion.

  • @glomnsfw
    @glomnsfw 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    i got drunk last weekend and before getting intoxicated i figured i could drive the car with my friend and brother. thankfully people were around to knock sense into my head and i called my mom to pick us up when the party ended. im so glad i didn’t get behind the wheel, because i literally could’ve been this guy.

  • @NickzAndMikz
    @NickzAndMikz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    It's interesting that you can see his method of coping, which seems to be detaching himself from his past and avoiding it. He comes across as stoic and it's really interesting to watch

    • @picorrow
      @picorrow 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I hate it. It's like he hasn't taken responsibility for what he did. He just blames everything else at the time for his actions when he was 19 rather than his own stupidity and recklessness.

    • @stephenking9114
      @stephenking9114 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@picorrow did you see his answer at the end? The dude clearly blames himself. I would be surprised if he wasn't suffering from some form of depression

    • @DrKatyCook
      @DrKatyCook 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What you’re describing is exactly what happens when we experience trauma, because the events that happened are literally too painful for our brain to compute/wrap its mind around. (I’m a clinical psychologist, and have also been in a situation similar to Simon’s, and whenever I have to tell anyone about the accident, I always think how odd it is to hear myself describe something so horrific in such a detached way.)

  • @Ivy-ep1di
    @Ivy-ep1di 2 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    I would've asked a couple questions about his late friends and their families... If he has apologized to them or something... he probably did, but just curious on how it went down with their families, how he handled it and if they got their closure

    • @kelseyjay3733
      @kelseyjay3733 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes I was waiting for this

  • @FLANK_920
    @FLANK_920 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    as a teen this really put some thought inside of my head thank you simon

  • @aussiedays7344
    @aussiedays7344 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    He sounds calm but seems so sad. I feel so bad for him.

  • @owennielsen9792
    @owennielsen9792 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Wow, I feel terrible for him. You can see the sadness on his face like he’s on the verge of tears. Hopefully he finds peace

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      He doesn’t deserve ir

    • @thephoenix7090
      @thephoenix7090 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@itsnatemate7697 wdym he doesn't deserve it, he regrets it, if he is actually remorseful, you deserve forgiveness

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@thephoenix7090 So if I unalive two people I knew by doing a certain thing ACTIVELY while knowing of the possible life risks, I deserve forgiveness

  • @skyspruill
    @skyspruill 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I love the conversation he had with the cop.

  • @sneakytacos773
    @sneakytacos773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +253

    Compassion is a wisdom, and it’s a practice of holding empathy for everyone, even those who do terrible things you would never do.

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Easier to say when you’re not the one close to the two people that lost their lives because of him

    • @jakehoon69
      @jakehoon69 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@itsnatemate7697 exactly

    • @sneakytacos773
      @sneakytacos773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@itsnatemate7697 not really. Like I just said, it’s a practice. The more you practice the easier it gets. I look at suffering as a whole.

    • @sneakytacos773
      @sneakytacos773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@itsnatemate7697 also, if you’re the person who lost someone, and you DONT choose forgiveness and compassion, you’ll be broken for the rest of your life. You closed your heart & you’ll never be able to open it. Compassion is always the way.

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@itsnatemate7697 The families forgave him and fought to reduce his time, you seem to like popping off at the top about stuff you don't know anything about.
      Let's hope when the day comes where you get humbled, you get off much easier than most. Self-righteous d-bag that you are.

  • @keziarhodes4950
    @keziarhodes4950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Hey Simon, if you're reading the comments, thank you for sharing your story. I hope you know you are worthy of love, compassion and forgiveness. I hope the world extends this to you and I hope you are able to feel it yourself.

  • @dia3756
    @dia3756 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    people on these comments are comparing this to different situations as death caused by being hit by an intoxicated driver, or unawareness of the driver being intoxicated etc.
    i feel like it is important to add that his two friends were more than likely aware that he was intoxicated and still got on that car. he is to blame but his situation is still not the same as the ones prior mentioned and i personally believe his friends, although having passed away, have some blame in what happened to them. he was 19 and has to live with having taken the life of two friends for the rest of his life, of course he deserves some sympathy

  • @neverforsakelife
    @neverforsakelife 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I'm a criminal defense attorney.
    Thank you for telling your story.

  • @JVanProduction
    @JVanProduction 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I think it’s brave and vulnerable that he allowed people to ask him questions about a tragic event that happened.
    But I do find it interesting how he tried to separate himself somewhat from the questions. He wouldn’t say “I” in a lot of the answers. Instead he would say “you”. From my perspective, he was emotionally distancing himself which could be a coping mechanism.

  • @stonkmaster9122
    @stonkmaster9122 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Wow these People are just so calm.

  • @isaiah4tone
    @isaiah4tone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Honestly, the only question I would have asked him would be "could I give you a hug?". He looks like he needs someone (likely a stranger---not to leave his father out) to tell him that he's loved and that what he did is forgiven, that what he did is in the past.

  • @3cheeseup
    @3cheeseup 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    In my eyes this guy deserves his second chance. Hope he will see this as such and makes the most out it.

  • @paigemarie3646
    @paigemarie3646 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You can see the pain in his eyes

  • @KixsMyLocs
    @KixsMyLocs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    That kid that asked the killer question got nervous. I think independently he would have thought he was a killer.

    • @dyinginsidelol
      @dyinginsidelol 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      nah he was just empathetic and cared for his feelings.

    • @tamzidrahman2673
      @tamzidrahman2673 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@dyinginsidelol nah he deserves to rot in jail. His friends lives matter

    • @Noa......
      @Noa...... 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Well, he did choose to drink while driving, which led to deaths. Normally, one would have designated driver, call a cab, or not drink alone in public. But then again, he was barely an adult.

    • @sneakytacos773
      @sneakytacos773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@tamzidrahman2673 you’re def incredibly hard on yourself

    • @cameronhines4726
      @cameronhines4726 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@tamzidrahman2673 his friends were probably drunk too

  • @ー幸福
    @ー幸福 2 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    What is the point of being a Police officer that lets drunk people go. Speed tickets I get, but not this.

    • @ezra7088
      @ezra7088 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They need to get medications and treatments and there should be a way the police officer and legally mandate that that happens. The problem is the police officer only has the option of throwing them in jail or letting them go, and either option is bad. It also leads to black people getting taken in more often

    • @Liam-iv7wk
      @Liam-iv7wk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hmmm..... Legally a cop could write them up but then fail to show up to the trial thus leading to the charges being thrown out, but most people don't think that way.

  • @jayo
    @jayo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    wow this is so powerful!

  • @weedshapedcookies507
    @weedshapedcookies507 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It's so true. A lot of people are not even present in their own life. Sometimes unfortunately it does take a tradgedy to realize things for what they are and be greatful for every moment. Thanks for sharing.

  • @beautifulrecovery2337
    @beautifulrecovery2337 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love how most of them genuinely cared for him and wanted to care for him.

  • @slickman5969
    @slickman5969 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    LOL the cop just kept digging himself deeper in the hole

  • @brianamendoza6094
    @brianamendoza6094 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    This is something that is going to haunt him for life. I hope he forgives himself and continues forward in life, for himself and for his friends.

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Forgives himself....for making the choice after being notorious of being drunk, to drive a damn car? Two people are GONE because of him

    • @SeeSamm
      @SeeSamm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@itsnatemate7697 His friends also made the decision to get in the car, they were also probably drunk, from what I am hearing it was a shitshow all around

    • @switchslack
      @switchslack 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@itsnatemate7697 His friends who passed weren't completely innocent in this. They also got in the car.

    • @itsnatemate7697
      @itsnatemate7697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@SeeSamm Getting in a car drunk and deciding to be the driver while drunk are two different things

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@itsnatemate7697 They called him to come and all got intoxicated and got in the car more than once.
      I know what I'm talking about, you're full of crap and a hate champ.
      Grow up

  • @nickperfetti7976
    @nickperfetti7976 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i can't imagine how painful the weight of that sin must be. My friends drink and drive/ do drugs and drive constantly and refuse to listen when I tell them to stop. They think "Oh well I am different" even though they are not. I hope that they can learn their lesson without having to take another person's life or their own.

  • @ryand394
    @ryand394 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That black lady (sorry, I didn't catch her name) was absolutely brilliant. What a bright and compassionate soul. She really checked in on his wellbeing, and deeply meant it.
    ...
    Ignorance and trauma are not an excuse for irresponsibility. That police officer needs to dish out every single DUI possible. I kinda get the thinking but when faced with the consequences so overtly, I found it *extremely* disrespectful of him to constantly excuse the instances where he's let someone off the hook.
    Alcohol is socially acceptable but it's basically just a drug. The fact that we think drunk driving or drunk activity is 'funny' when it accounts for so much dysfunction and crime is mind-boggling. By all means, enjoy your liquor or your spirits, but if you're tipsy or you're drunk, you're accountable for it.
    Letting someone off for being in pain or unaware is like pleading innocence by reason of intoxication. We could just let everyone drunk off the hook in every instance in that case.

  • @newestkingtechomangaming895
    @newestkingtechomangaming895 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The guy at 06:00 had a beautiful statement. This whole video is touching.

  • @bklynkat23
    @bklynkat23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    They always find such unique people for these ask me anything videos. I love it

  • @livluvsu.
    @livluvsu. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I’m a very empathetic and generally a forgiving person, so I after watching some of this, I really want to give him a hug for everything that he’s been through :(

  • @Jasminelovesyouxo
    @Jasminelovesyouxo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    At my high school, they do the “every 15 minutes” presentation. He would be an amazing addition to that!

  • @Mark-wd8cj
    @Mark-wd8cj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tomorrow isn't promised, I think that's something many people forget.

  • @carmichaeltroy6528
    @carmichaeltroy6528 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    One lesson you guys should know never judge someone based off their past just cause they made a big mistake doesn’t mean you should never talk to them again or push them away, just talk to them and show love to them, we’re all the same, nobody on earth is valued more than other so just show love everyday to the people around you

  • @_lavvy_sage
    @_lavvy_sage ปีที่แล้ว

    He deserves forgiveness. His remorse is written all over his face. He seems very kind natured and truly gentle.

  • @ynot482
    @ynot482 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    The cop gotta get it together and do his job

  • @666-angelwing
    @666-angelwing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tears of a tiger, amazing book and I remember feeling so much empathy for Andy. Amazing read for any parents of young adults in need of reminders of the dangers of drinking and driving

  • @Marieq
    @Marieq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I wish someone asked him about the victim's parents, and if he's talked to them.

    • @mrfreeman1763
      @mrfreeman1763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He has a YT channel, link in the description if you are looking for more details.
      Some of the parents fought to reduce his sentence. One mother wrote him regularly when he was locked up, unfortunately she passed away before he got out.

    • @Marieq
      @Marieq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mrfreeman1763 OK great, thank you for the reply. I will check it out, have a great day

  • @domenicgardner6146
    @domenicgardner6146 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this dudes strong. obviously remorseful, recognizes the privilege he has of still having his life, and to go through the aftermath of his mistakes is something not a lot of people can even imagine. he’s still here, seems to be on a great path to healing, and im rootin for him.

  • @EmilyHirsch
    @EmilyHirsch 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    you can see on his face what he lives with every day

  • @virginiakingsford2232
    @virginiakingsford2232 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I drove Tipsy once in my life. I wasn’t drunk by any means (two drinks hours before but I was a light weight) and I drove 2 miles. I was fully aware the entire time but my mind felt slower and it scared the crap out of me. Nothing bad happened but just the feeling that I wasn’t as responsive as I normally would be scared the crap out of me. That was like 9 years ago.
    I wasn’t drunk so I do t think anything could’ve happened that would have been my fault but would my reaction be fast enough if someone else did something? I don’t know. I won’t even drive if i feel like I have had alcohol anymore. Just because I was under the legal limit doesn’t mean it was safe or ok.

  • @retiredtidepodeater3339
    @retiredtidepodeater3339 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Imagine if they punished DUI charges the same way that they do other relatively trivial charges - The complexion of prisons would literally change overnight.

  • @jodynanci
    @jodynanci 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He’s hurting so damn much it’s palpable! I hope he finds peace through self forgiveness.

  • @mcmaschio
    @mcmaschio 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Props to the guy for doing this

  • @williammahoney2863
    @williammahoney2863 ปีที่แล้ว

    The "sometimes i wish i was one of the passengers instead of the driver" I felt on a personal level.