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@@mehdicharife5814 you have to build momentum. Start small and don't put so much pressure on yourself. Tell yourself today you will study for 10 minutes. And then do 10 minutes and stop. Slowly and gradually add more time each day but start out setting small and reasonable goals that don't create such overwhelming pressure. It is also important to give yourself credit for each and every achievement, no matter how small. If you can study for 10 minutes be proud of yourself. It will give you the inspiration and motivation to do more. Hope this helps.
The truth is that we became the victim of our own progress, while democracy is the least of all bad things in the world....how can anybody NOT be anxious! I can't get away from the news and the injustice in the world. I have a trans-son and this year alone 22 transwomen were murdered, or died upon violence act! Yet I have support and friends, about all the anxious people that are in good faith with themselves and others....we are all innocent. I keep praying...
That's tough cause the answer can technically be yes and also be true. Yes or No questions probably aren't the best, more so an open ended wonder about what other stuff you could be doing.
@@omniscientomnipresent5500 It's easy to think of a circumstance that can disprove ideas like this, but much more personally fulfilling to consider how they might be applicable.
I am not saying action has to come without thoughts. I am only saying when we judge ourselves based on our thoughts, we appear perfect and great. In reality , however, we are worse than that because we should jusge ourselves through our actions .
We are all alone... but the feeling starts fading after some years, at least thats whats happening to me. Don't take drugs too often btw, makes things worse after a while.
Those 2 sentences pretty much described my life. I'm trying to socializing as much as I can and honestly it feels so exhausted. People just doesn't wants to accept me.
I'm 36 and the feeling of loneliness and being abandoned hasn't become less. Though it isn't always there. But when it is, like now, I feel as desperate as when I was a child who felt that there was no safe place in the world for her.
I suggest to you all that you join any kind of club. for example a soccer club. maybe you will get friends but for sure you will get a team. and that helped a lot of people to overcome the feeling of lonlyness
Dear people who suffered emotional neglect in childhood and also everyone else, You in no way were responsible for the fallacies of your parents. When we are abused as children we tend to think we don't deserve love and kindness from people around us and end up sabotaging their efforts. Remember that you are unique, you are beautiful, you are lovable. Love yourself unconditionally, shower yourself with love for being you. See you will make mistakes but if you love yourself you will find the strength to say "It's okay, its human nature to be like this". The assurance from yourself will give you joy even when things go very wrong. You will be your own lover, friend and parent, glowing with inner warmth, helping people discover their own glow and helping them love themselves. This will give you the zeal to live, and even in darkest times, you will be grateful for your existence. Love yourself the way you want people to love you and never once will you feel that life is not worth living. Keep glowing, Love, Human, Earth, 2019 PS: Unrelated to the video but will help people who are lost, suffer from anxiety and have low confidence like I once did.
@Abhilasha Jha A theoretical counterargument: Have you considered there are people that shouldn't love themselves, simply because they're bad people (e.g. dictators)? If there's any such group of people, how can you be sure you're not in any similar group that shouldn't love themselves? This seed of doubt prevails and logically, since you cannot reach an objective conclusion yourself, you must not love yourself to avoid spreading negativity in case you were among the evil ones. Not loving yourself is the logical fallback option.
Not sure if just a joke, or a sarcastic poke at what doesn't make sense. No, then you would go on to determine why you might believe that - what underlying beliefs you might have that cause that feeling. Next, you would take logic to those in an attempt they might break, such beliefs are often illogical in nature. You may want to go back through the memory of your life and think about how and when those beliefs were formed. Come to a complete understanding of the situation and forgive those at fault, especially yourself. If done truly, this should help symptoms. Aside from that, begin to work on your behavior, ( eg if anxiety is making me do x when I should be doing y, endeavor to do y anyway ) in the largest steps manageable, without judgment as to what size that may actually be.
Meditation helps a lot with anxiety! It's easier to let it go if we discover it's just a mental construction and the moment we stop thinking about it, it vanishes in thin air.
@@yogeshrajoriya3092 it does, listening to calm music or sounds of nature while telling yourself positive things do help. Dont tell me u never felt relaxed when listening to the sounds of the waves or the sound of rain.
I’ve found out that my anxiety is often there due to something I’m procrastinating on. So when I’m going against my conscious and not doing what I know I’m supposed to be doing, I get terrible anxiety which takes me down the path to substance abuse.
Always have a "go-to" when dealing with anxiety, whatever it is. It could be a TV show, a video game, a food, a drink, a workout, a place to go, or even a particular smell. Always come back to it reminding yourself that you had this exact same experience at a time in your life when you were feeling *GREAT.* Whether you want it to or not, the anxiety will slowly give way to those happy memories...
@@TheEveana89 don't think of it as a distraction. Think of it as time you're giving yourself to love yourself. Don't put the anxious thoughts on a pedestal. Think of them as unneccessary. It does not serve you any purpose. It only brings pain and only puts you in a vicious cycle. Whenever you get to be happy, you get to stay in the now, in the present where all these anxious thoughts are non existent. They vanish because all that there is is just the now. Every time you do that, you are loving yourself by not sabotaging yourself with painful, unreasonable thoughts. You set yourself free. Like in the video, if you're not having these anxious thoughts or if you're not in this dark place, where could you be? out here where it is bright.
whenever I go back to these thoughts, I take comfort in knowing that it will pass. I know it will always pass because I have known how it truly feels to be happy because I have learned how to let go (with great difficulty) of these anxious thoughts whenever they come and and I have learned how to face my own issues and then enjoy the current moment for what it is. This has been my motivation to get back up whenever I stumble - to get back to this authentic feeling of happiness. So whenever Im in a dark place, I know that the dawn will always come. Sometimes it comes quicker if I do things that make me happy. It is vital that I show up for myself despite being very miserable. The key is that we really have to learn how to truly love ourselves.
I feel anxious when talking to people, I'll have watering eyes in social situations and always embarrassed because they might be mistook for crying,I try to control it but can't and finally gave up on it. The real cause of my anxiety is in attachment to people and fear that bad opinions on me may ruin their relation with me Sometimes we all have to give up and let go everything as if nothing really matters to be Happy That's what anxiety made me learn.
sode sumanth most people would feel compassion for your watering eyes. Everybody has their own particular issue, you’re not alone. Please don’t give up, the world needs sensitive souls like you 🥰
I feel you man.I feel a lot of performance pressure in social situations and I don't want to come off as strange or incompetant.Good luck to you my friend
So... don't be anxious about small things, be anxious about "more important" things? Maybe I'm missing something because I'd like to not be anxious at all.
Most things you are anxious about do nothing but stop you from growing but only you know what those things are. Requiring Anxiety to not exist is unreasonable as that is impossible. However, if you focus on more important things (all of us know on a deep level what those more important things are as relates to our lives) life will improve and your anxiety will drastically lower, not disappear. But drastically lower is better than very high.
As far as I understand it, this video is more about how to find out, what your anxiety actually is about. It often shows in smaller stuff, but there is actually a wider issue behind it. Once we understand what that is we can concentrate on the actual problem and decide if we can do something about it. So the question in the video is a way of getting closer to the core of your problem.
But I am already anxious about the big things? Small things are just extras on top. I can't see any solution or help here. Not for someone who already knows all the reasons why they feel bad already.
When I notice my anxiety I first ask myself "Why am I feeling this way?" Then I go through a list of things that might be causing it. When I am able to recognize a particular fear I then ask myself "What is this fear based on? A real and true situation or is it based on my own faulty thinking or something I'm simply imagining?" Then usually I am able to either work through it or have a plan in place in case I panic or something goes awry.
Something about the representation of anxiety as an actual creature that exists separate from ourselves is sort of comforting. It makes me remember that I am not my anxiety, I HAVE anxiety, which is different. It feels like it has less power over me when I look at it as a separate force that isn't actually part of ME, y'know?
For me it works if I wonder "if tomorrow never comes, what I will do today?" this drives me to want to expose myself from little to more confrontations with my greatest fears and makes me learn about how to let them pass and learn about myself in order to find the root cause of them. When I cry out of nowhere then the healing is close. :)
I really admire your courage to go out to confront your fears. That's something that has been so hard for me mainly because I don't know where to start from. If you don't mind asking, what steps are you taking to expose yourself to scary situations?
@@Millerwright123 Now you ask me this, I realize that I do have a sort of steps, but I didn't realize it till now. First I make some notices about what makes me to have more resistance over several bad experiences from past. More resistance means that it will keep happening to me again and again because I didn't learn anything from it. And then I choose the experience that I felt the worst. There is a lot of fear hidden inside of a failed experience. In order to find out what is the fear related to that failure, I try to see myself in similar situations but with a different result, like it was a different me without my past but with a clean past, some stranger with a clean record of failures, and that tells me more about what legacy (past experiences) brings me there. We humans, have a lot of triggers, "some words" or "some context" which triggers in us the bad behavior which brings at the end of an experience the failure. Those triggers are based on our biggest fears.Those fears are build so many years in the past and is hard to release them but is easy if we realize that is hard, then we can focus on small steps and we can have little expectations on ourselves, then expose us to those fears and see the result and change our legacy (history of experiences) in order to let that fear to go to a lower level and then go to another fear. This tricky method maybe is the best motivation of all: "We can't, for sure, fix ourselves for good, but we can, for sure, improve ourselves", this give me hope to try on and on again and again as I see myself from now and compare it with myself from the recent past, If I see just a small evolution then the show go on, if not then it's also ok because I'm eventually a human not a robot so I'm free to make mistakes as much as I can, until I rich the success :) Another simple way can be, from my perspective, if you don't find any fear but you know that is there, you can work on how to manage those 3 words and their related feelings: 1.Thank you; -> with this words you can welcome in your life all that you already have and increase the level of your gratitude, this also increase the level of trust in other humans; 2.I'm sorry; -> with this words you can start to accept that we are humans and we make mistakes, this is how it is. If you learn from mistakes you will reduce the level of guilt. 3.I love you. -> with this words you can bring in your life more acceptance and you will decrease the level of judgement of other no matter of context; You will learn that the context is important. If you bring those feelings between the important people from your life and try to give good vibe without any condition then you will win 100% of the cases - but don't waste it on wrong people. If you can improve the use of those feelings in your life then you will also decrease the level of your fears or bad feelings. So use more those words and don't waste it on wrong people or on wrong context. You can use it correctly if you are honest with yourself, listen to yourself and act accordingly. I really need to bring also a clear example of one of my fears. The fear of rejection. This causes me to avoid going into the public squares and/or do public speaking. I realize this when people laugh on me almost every time I speak to a crowd more than 20 people. I figured out that this feeling was made in my childhood by my parents, maybe without bad intentions, when I perform something in front of them, a lot of time I was receiving a modest feedback or bad feedback so I stop performing in order to confirm their feedback. After I realize this I start to wonder if they are right or not. When I do this I was away from them (in college) and I put in question my past and figuring out how to expose myself to this fear and I involve myself in a course (let's make it clear - I do the course - I was the teacher) and practice day by day the communication capacity until I discover that was a lie, I was good on public speaking, not great but good enough to help other people to learn something new that I was good on it. My fear level goes so low that I can focus on the subject and on teaching methods rather than on how to behave in order to not laugh on me and not to fail :)
something i like to do, (which has helped me drastically and i rarely feel anxious anymore) is just picture my thoughts as clouds passing by. i don’t believe everything my mind tells me. i also am really present in whatever i do. if i am folding laundry, i am completely focused on my clothes. if i am washing my hands, i’m present watching the water flow and the soap sud. if you are worrying about the future that is anxiety, if you are constantly guilty/ sad about the past, that is depression. the peace is in the present. try to be more mindful, take 5 minutes in your day, close your eyes, and just focus on breathing. discipline is freedom. don’t let your mind trick you. you are perfect the way you are and live is working out the way it’s supposed to. what is meant for you will always find you. now go live your life, we aren’t here forever so make it count ❤️
My anxiety is that I should be doing more and thinking / feeling less. People say just do it with a lack of valuation for my feelings and thoughts. Makes me feel rejected as a person and demotivates me to do things since I need time to sort my own feelings / thoughts out then. Healthy coping is accepting life is hard but having the faith that you are competent enough to get back up after being knocked down. 😊
to ask ourselves that question is a way to take ourselves into awareness, and I think that's the key for anxiety: to become aware we are anxious, doing so...it's the end of anxiety. I loved the animations of this video, good job!!
My anxiety when i had it was almost entirely irrational. I was consumed with hypochondriac fear of illnesses I could never realistically suffer from or contract and the only way it went away was by realizing that it was just.. nothing. It was nothing at all I was just scared of being sick, for no good reason. Underlying causes of anxiety don’t always apply.
@@rebel1281 awww, good luck I’m wishing you well with it, if you’re in college you can sometimes access a free therapy through that which will help a LOT
I know there are so many causes of anxiety but for me my gut plays such an important role. Making changes to my diet and lifestyle has been one of the most important things I've done to alleviate my anxiety.
I had mad anxiety during my finals because they kept placing me at the front of the room. I ended up failing 3 subjects and passing 5. I knew that its because of the anxiety that I failed 3 because I couldn't think in the finals. My brain was just fizzed out and I just wanted to finish the paper fast and get out .
I like to ask myself, "What do I need?" or "What is wrong?". I like to view anxiety as white noise of one or many unmet needs coming from the subconscious. You don't know what it's about, it's debilitating, but if you ask your mind, it can often answer =)
Someone who REALLY understands anxiety/panic created the look and movements of that anxiety creature... a nearly perfect representation of how anxiety feels...
Thank you this helped me a lot 🙏 I realized i tend to fret rather than confronting the reality masked behind the anxiety, which i should be paying more attention to and see as it is.
Anxiety coupled with panic attacks is like being caged in a town square while everyone ridicules you. The reality is so skewed that you think you are going mad. *Memento Mori - This too shall pass.*
yes absolutely! we should think what can be done and deal with the problem rather than simply panicking. what is under our control? what isn't? what are we willing to do and not willing to? what can we compromise and sacrifice for our priorities??
Pretty funny that I came to this 12 years of diagnosed anxiety, yet one day before this comes out. Still, knowledge becomes wisdom when you can finally relate that knowledge to your behaviour. My anxiety is protecting me from the pain of shame, loneliness and disappointment. Tired of running, learning to sit with it.
I watched this video the day it came out but I can't stop thinking about it so I came back. I couldn't relate to this. I scrolled down to the comments when I first watched it expecting other people to be confused as well but was surprised to see so many people relating to it. Even though I think The School of Life is eloquent and relatable. I was too surprised and confused to make a comment about it then. I have an anxiety disorder. When I feel anxiety, even about something simple like being late for something, the root of the anxiety is an obvious, intrinsic part of the feeling of anxiety. I'm never really anxious about being late. I'm anxious about feeling incompetent or unworthy because I couldn't manage being on time. For me, that's what anxiety IS. It's not a separate feeling from the deeper fears, it's made of them. I feel them all at once. Do other people not experience anxiety that way?
on a bit of a different track, a question that has often helped me when in the middle of it is "what lies am I believing right now?" for a broad example, believing the lie your brain is telling you that everything won't be ok. worth a try
I dont know what I feel, i can describe the emotion I have rn, it's a mix of everything, and I hate that I cant put it to words or logic. Its the thing I think about all the time There is so much I don't understand, I panic about it, why don't I know it, I should know it. And I don't know how to stop these thoughts
I convinced myself im scared of change, but really im scared of the reaction ill get from others for not being who i say i am. I want to dress a certain way and say certain things but ive created a character for myself and i believe that if i differ from that people will be taken aback or will judge me. And im trying to convince myself if i start off a certain way in a new setting, maybe the people who havent known me wont judge me bc that is how theyve always known me, but i think ive tried this multiple times and failed bc i go back to ppl pleasing.
People with ASD have anxiety walking with them. I have anxiety all the time; however, I've grown into it because I understand it is neurological & I have learnt to not take life seriously at all. Instead, I work towards what comforts me even in tough situations like the surgery I am experiencing, I knock it on the head with something I can do.
Watched this before making a phonecall I was feeling anxious about. Turns out I am anxious that even after I make this long phone call, nothing will get fixed and will stay the same.... Gonna go make that call now. Wish me luck!!! And thank you for your content
Not helpful. Already aware of the deeper issues and thoughts behind my anxiety. Tbh doesn't make it any easier, maybe because I've long had this self-awareness. Feeling stuck.
Loli Lolol v with ya on that one, also my anxiety has been around so long it's not the standard 'butterfly's and feeling nervous', it's extreme tightness in my head and chest, extreme irritability, restlessness, heart beating really weird, sometimes heavy, sometimes really slow that all I can do is be obsessed with the fact I think I'm going into cardiac arrest, tension headaches, ringing ears..... Ughhhh it sucks but some days are better than others, lifting weights helps.
Try to meditate, I know it's hard at the beginning but you'll get used to it and feel more relaxed. Download calm or headspace in your phone to help you meditate. I hope this helps!
This clip of SoL is so genius.... I wonder about the creative mind of the illustrator! Beautiful, so we can tap into our creative soul, are conscious self.... to create something new every day every moment! This morning early I decided to rise right before dawn and observe and contemplate the sky.... I witnessed the magic of life, of the miraculous transformation of light..... I witnessed all the hues and nuances of the colors breaking through the darkness..... it was like meditating..... But then I had to share this non anxious experience with my terminal the iPhone! Which, to my opinion is a double blade... it cuts anxiety...... but construct others.... Anyway.... to ease my anxiety I go into nature and take action every day to protect it- thank you SoL
I'm absolutely useless and lonely as hell when I'm single. When I'm single, my mind questions everything, my mind goes on panic mode, my mind makes me worry about the what if. Being Anxious sucks and it's worse when you're alone in life.
Sounds like you aren't comfortable with yourself for whatever reason, which is normal. Being emotionally/spiritually dependent on someone isnt a good thing in the long run. It will actually only get worse, especially if your partner knows and uses it against you. Being alone doesn't mean being lonely, its just the way your mind is processing it.
Never attach your happiness to another person or you will never encounter a real relationship. Happiness comes from within and is the base for stable love. If you dont learn to love yourself you will never truly love another human being. Love to everyone!
What I've noted to give me anxiety is when I disappoint or think I did something wrong. Instead of overanalyzing the possibility of doing so, I think about reaching out to the person I may have miscommunicated with or did something that was not favorable so I can decide how to resolve from there. For me, it's okay to be wrong or to be different. And once I allow myself to be wrong in a moment, it gives the opportunity to ask other questions to move from the situation that caused me anxiety.
if you have your basic necessities with you and if possible, seek out thinggs that make you happy. you know you have certain things that worry you but trust me, it works. you simply cannot think your way out of an emotional state. Do things that give you some seretonin boost, then you'll see your inner chatter has calmed down. then you can think of how to deal with the problems. be solution oriented, and see what your priorities are and what you need to sacrifice to get back to stability. planning and journalling might help.
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My anxiety is a set of physical symptoms. After years of trying to solve what I was anxious about or finding some deeper root cause, I've (along with my health care providers) come to the conclusion that my anxiety is just a thing my body does without outside stimuli. Sure outside stimuli can make me feel worse but there is no switch to turn it on, and no switch to turn it off. I recognize what it is, don't let it stop my daily life, and let the anxiety run out of gas. Questions like these don't help for my type of anxiety. Anyone else feel that way?
Some roots to anxiety are admittedly incurable and unaddressable; we have to let some of our anxiety take its course. Even if we act upon the matter, it still stays as it is, only validating our anxieties all along. But yes, before stepping in to the damage, we have to ask ourselves if it’s worth it. This brings about the importance of resilience and right coping mechanisms while anxiety in itself takes its course. “The least we can do is insure that we’re suffering for the right reason.”
I recently gained some weight due to waiting hood. I’m so anxious, I lack energy to take back my life! How is one unemployed and not anxious? When u have been studying for the longest time, thought of yourself a very good student and still you struggle to find a job there’s this doubt that just blinds you and shatters you.. I’m not confident of my body anymore and I hate it and I’m anxious!
Wow. I woke up this morning and my mind started ranting about something. Somehow, I managed to pause and ask myself what I was really worried about. Stopped my rant in its track. Then I got out of bed and started my day. One cup of tea in to that day and this is the first clip I watch. Fortunate.
I am an extrovert with social anxiety. I enjoy public speaking, but my body horribly disagrees. I enjoy meeting strangers, but my body disagrees. I enjoy intimacy, but my body disagrees. I will rock, spend hours in a cage my mind has built for me. The panic attacks make me throw up. I don’t worry about anything in particular. I have high self esteem, workout, meditate. I don’t get embarrassed easily. My mind in certain situations just flicks a switch and boom: purgatory One of the more sinister parts is that my anxiety isn’t reliable. Take a situation like public speaking and I will perform fantastically one day, throw up the next. My career and relationships, intimate or not, have all been profoundly effected by my anxiety. Yet I continue on. While I remain hopeful that one day I can live without suffering, I firmly believe that even the life I have now is worth it all. The small moments of happiness and the occasional moment of awesome spontaneity are worth it. While the effects of anxiety are profoundly negative for my life, it is worth it to carry on.
I did this technique through a guided meditation called "exploring the difficult" it is on Spotify. I found the source of my anxiety and then, with my mind cleared the solution to it just came to me in a flash... That anxious episode that incapacitated me for a month slowly faded over the next week. Powerful stuff.
I believe its because you have a rooted belief that your thoughts are your current state of being when in fact you are not your thoughts so there is no reason to judge them.Consider your thoughts subjectively rather than personally and remember to breathe.I hoped this helped a little bit at least.
I suffered from anxiety for 10 years only to realize after a resilience skills class that the primary cause of my anxiety was the "catastrophizing" thinking trap--ruminating on the worst possible outcomes, which are often irrational. Real-time resilience: 1. Think of evidence to prove to ourselves the thought isn't true by saying, "this isn't true because..." 2. Reframe the situation by saying “a more helpful way to see this is…” 3. Make a contingency plan by saying “if x happens, I will…” 4. Practice mindfulness. Observe your surroundings and identify things around that you could see, hear, and feel. (the sky is blue, the green leaves are rustling in the wind, I feel the sun on my skin and it's warm, etc) 4. Practice self-compassion and optimism. It really helps. As a side note, fantastic art and animation in this one!
Great video as usual. But I'm just wondering, what if my anxieties are already related to major existential questions rather than minor day to day things? Where do I go from there?
I get anxiety about my longing for a life companion if not my fear of sharing life with him wouldn't interfere. To love and not being loved in return. Being abandoned as it already happened. We re working on it. Trust is coming back slooooowly but relentlessly. 😊
jay Okoruwa well I still have to mate but I’m thinking about going to speed dating to sort of combat all them barriers I may have. Try this as well it may open you up to feeling at ease the more u do it.
@@amritpalhh9836 Great idea. That's something I may consider later But I think I should work on my interactions with people in general first before I go the dating route. Just wondering... Have you tried public speaking?
liked very much the visuals in the video. So otherwordly it was yet how true in so being as far as what Jung explains on unconsciousness and shadows ...
When anxiety strucks, I fill a water pail and water plants... even at 11.30pm... hope this helps. What I do after that...depends. I would just begin to fill up another giant bottles with water 😂so I can water them again ... soon when I got up. It helps to have lot of plants (mind you!)...and live without garden tap with hose😅😅 I carry these all by myself, so it strenghten my upper muscles as well. I think, the MAIN POINT is you have to distract yourself.. and if you think exercising is boring, you just need to combine two things in one, a bit like killing 2 birds with a stone...so it 'cleaverly' tricking your mind
Hmm, seem this video is just a rhetorical statement. Most folks who have anxiety usually know the cause. Finding a solution or method is what brings them out of that state. Just asking yourself a question about why is actually not that helpful ... again, most folks know they are unhappy, anxious, or scared.
I just worry too much about things and then think of ways a situation could happen but sometimes it doesn't make any logical sense and then I get really anxious x
That is what I normally do when I have anxiety attack. I try to stop focusing on the things that make me feel anxious and rather focus on other things. It helps.
i remember when my dog disappeared i was filled with dread everyday. i thought if we found him, life would be great and amazing. we did find him a few weeks later and I was filled with joy. After a few more months it was like he was never gone. things went on same as always. arrgh i had a point but i lost it somewhere!
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The thought of another 4 years of Donald Trump makes me Anxious!!! 😬
I just hope he gets Impeached or replaced by then!!! 😉
J K hahaha! He’s gonna be there as long as he wants. 12 more years!!! 😎😎😎😎 He’s a fantastic president, probably the best ever. Donald J Trump, emperor for life! 😎 I hope I triggered your stupid ass 😂😂😂
Thinking of something good to look forward to or something humerous.
Here we go, turning a usually pleasant comment section into a competitive trollfest for no reason. 🙄
I get anxious at work, and walking briskly around the building during my breaks helps get some pent-up energy out. Can't run or scream though
I think so many people struggle with anxiety today due to the changing world. Many of us are just lonely and lost.
Amen
Baumann's liquid modernity is all about this. You would like to read It, it is a really good book
Or abused as child
True that
So true👌
I stopped, thought and realised "I should be studying right now".
D V yes
Shit, this is really true
YES YES AND YES! SAME, FINALS ARE COMING!
what if I feel anxious even when studying, I can't concentrate well enough in the sujects I study due to the nervousness I have in those moments
@@mehdicharife5814 you have to build momentum. Start small and don't put so much pressure on yourself. Tell yourself today you will study for 10 minutes. And then do 10 minutes and stop. Slowly and gradually add more time each day but start out setting small and reasonable goals that don't create such overwhelming pressure. It is also important to give yourself credit for each and every achievement, no matter how small. If you can study for 10 minutes be proud of yourself. It will give you the inspiration and motivation to do more. Hope this helps.
“ if we need to suffer -and often we will- the least we can do is to insure that we’re suffering for the right reasons”
The truth is that we became the victim of our own progress, while democracy is the least of all bad things in the world....how can anybody NOT be anxious! I can't get away from the news and the injustice in the world. I have a trans-son and this year alone 22 transwomen were murdered, or died upon violence act! Yet I have support and friends, about all the anxious people that are in good faith with themselves and others....we are all innocent. I keep praying...
I suffer, yet I don't bleed. I bleed internally, but no flesh wounds. I yell and scream for help but no one will hear me. What am I?
@@JackyMan22 I think I've heard a riddle like this. Is the answer Pride?
By taking out insurance?
I prefer to ask myself “However this turns out, will it matter a year from now?”
Or should it matter?
Yes it will matter for me :( .
What if it matters ?
What if the answer was yes?
That's tough cause the answer can technically be yes and also be true. Yes or No questions probably aren't the best, more so an open ended wonder about what other stuff you could be doing.
“It isn’t the events themselves that disturb people, but only their judgements about them.”
- Epictetus
Pretty sure my croissants were disturbed when I ate half of them
@@omniscientomnipresent5500 It's easy to think of a circumstance that can disprove ideas like this, but much more personally fulfilling to consider how they might be applicable.
But the people that judged those massacres to be necessary didn’t feel disturbed
@@omniscientomnipresent5500 That in no way disproves the point. There are daily small anxieties that harm us all individually, including you.
Remi Lalaque Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl may be a good read for you
"When you realize you're not your thoughts, that is when you begin to awaken spiritually."
- Eckhart Tolle
Thanks for this :)
And you realise you are your actions, which is evem worse. Because in your thoughts you were still a little acceptable.
@@kalpanaruhela action without thought become weightless
Anxiety comes from Satan it's a spirit. Rebuke it in Jesus name Amen
I am not saying action has to come without thoughts. I am only saying when we judge ourselves based on our thoughts, we appear perfect and great. In reality , however, we are worse than that because we should jusge ourselves through our actions .
"I don't have friends" "I don't want to be alone." That one hurts
Are you ok Casey? Not being funny, I am genuinely asking you.
We are all alone... but the feeling starts fading after some years, at least thats whats happening to me. Don't take drugs too often btw, makes things worse after a while.
Those 2 sentences pretty much described my life. I'm trying to socializing as much as I can and honestly it feels so exhausted. People just doesn't wants to accept me.
I'm 36 and the feeling of loneliness and being abandoned hasn't become less.
Though it isn't always there. But when it is, like now, I feel as desperate as when I was a child who felt that there was no safe place in the world for her.
I suggest to you all that you join any kind of club. for example a soccer club. maybe you will get friends but for sure you will get a team. and that helped a lot of people to overcome the feeling of lonlyness
When we think about what we need to improve it tends to bring us anxiety - when we think about what we have improved it brings gratitude
100% agree
That was really helpful!
2023 and this ❤
One of our many evolutionary flaws: unreasonable anxiety
Jeremy Palaad evelotution lol
That’s because evolution is false. We bring anxiety on ourselves through fear.
This has nothing to do with evolution lol
Could you please elaborate on your evolution is false theory?
l h Don’t need to. Go ask a professor or scholar, not people on TH-cam.
Dear people who suffered emotional neglect in childhood and also everyone else,
You in no way were responsible for the fallacies of your parents. When we are abused as children we tend to think we don't deserve love and kindness from people around us and end up sabotaging their efforts. Remember that you are unique, you are beautiful, you are lovable. Love yourself unconditionally, shower yourself with love for being you. See you will make mistakes but if you love yourself you will find the strength to say "It's okay, its human nature to be like this". The assurance from yourself will give you joy even when things go very wrong. You will be your own lover, friend and parent, glowing with inner warmth, helping people discover their own glow and helping them love themselves. This will give you the zeal to live, and even in darkest times, you will be grateful for your existence.
Love yourself the way you want people to love you and never once will you feel that life is not worth living.
Keep glowing,
Love,
Human,
Earth,
2019
PS: Unrelated to the video but will help people who are lost, suffer from anxiety and have low confidence like I once did.
Very well explained abhilasha.. thanks a lot
Wow very well written.
@Abhilasha Jha A theoretical counterargument: Have you considered there are people that shouldn't love themselves, simply because they're bad people (e.g. dictators)? If there's any such group of people, how can you be sure you're not in any similar group that shouldn't love themselves? This seed of doubt prevails and logically, since you cannot reach an objective conclusion yourself, you must not love yourself to avoid spreading negativity in case you were among the evil ones. Not loving yourself is the logical fallback option.
Abhilasha Jha love this thank you!
The problem is....how to do that???? I have to tools or idea how to do that!!!!!
"What if I miss the flight?...Oh wait, no, actually, what if no one loves me?? That's it. I feel so much better now."
Yeah, totally not getting a panic attack now!
Not sure if just a joke, or a sarcastic poke at what doesn't make sense.
No, then you would go on to determine why you might believe that - what underlying beliefs you might have that cause that feeling. Next, you would take logic to those in an attempt they might break, such beliefs are often illogical in nature. You may want to go back through the memory of your life and think about how and when those beliefs were formed. Come to a complete understanding of the situation and forgive those at fault, especially yourself. If done truly, this should help symptoms. Aside from that, begin to work on your behavior, ( eg if anxiety is making me do x when I should be doing y, endeavor to do y anyway ) in the largest steps manageable, without judgment as to what size that may actually be.
You are not made to quickfix your emotions. look inside if you want change
i felt anxious after tbis video now i feel like crying
Jesus loves all of you. Anxiety is a spirit from Satan. Rebuke it in Jesus name Amen.
The question is, “If your mind wasn’t currently filled with these particular anxious thoughts, what might you have to think about right now?”
Underrated comment.
Spoiler warning
oh i needed this
Yea that was profound
Other anxious thoughts. I seem to have an endless supply.
Meditation helps a lot with anxiety! It's easier to let it go if we discover it's just a mental construction and the moment we stop thinking about it, it vanishes in thin air.
Inerize how do I go about this. I'm 17 and I'm going to college soon. I can't afford to let anxiety screw me over like it did in highschool.
Calm, headspace, and more apps really make the difference!
No it doesn't, you might be experiencing placebo effect
@@yogeshrajoriya3092 it does, listening to calm music or sounds of nature while telling yourself positive things do help. Dont tell me u never felt relaxed when listening to the sounds of the waves or the sound of rain.
Inerize too bad meditation won’t help my rent to pay itself and my debts to disappear
Me: having a mental breakdown again
School of Life: ✨🧠✨
Ikr?
HAAHA
I’ve found out that my anxiety is often there due to something I’m procrastinating on. So when I’m going against my conscious and not doing what I know I’m supposed to be doing, I get terrible anxiety which takes me down the path to substance abuse.
You have to examine the root cause of your procrastination.
Always have a "go-to" when dealing with anxiety, whatever it is. It could be a TV show, a video game, a food, a drink, a workout, a place to go, or even a particular smell. Always come back to it reminding yourself that you had this exact same experience at a time in your life when you were feeling *GREAT.* Whether you want it to or not, the anxiety will slowly give way to those happy memories...
You see, I do that, but it's works as a distraction for me. It all comes back when I go to bed and there is only silence and my thoughts.
@@TheEveana89 don't think of it as a distraction. Think of it as time you're giving yourself to love yourself. Don't put the anxious thoughts on a pedestal. Think of them as unneccessary. It does not serve you any purpose. It only brings pain and only puts you in a vicious cycle. Whenever you get to be happy, you get to stay in the now, in the present where all these anxious thoughts are non existent. They vanish because all that there is is just the now. Every time you do that, you are loving yourself by not sabotaging yourself with painful, unreasonable thoughts. You set yourself free. Like in the video, if you're not having these anxious thoughts or if you're not in this dark place, where could you be? out here where it is bright.
whenever I go back to these thoughts, I take comfort in knowing that it will pass. I know it will always pass because I have known how it truly feels to be happy because I have learned how to let go (with great difficulty) of these anxious thoughts whenever they come and and I have learned how to face my own issues and then enjoy the current moment for what it is. This has been my motivation to get back up whenever I stumble - to get back to this authentic feeling of happiness. So whenever Im in a dark place, I know that the dawn will always come. Sometimes it comes quicker if I do things that make me happy. It is vital that I show up for myself despite being very miserable. The key is that we really have to learn how to truly love ourselves.
What if situations that you can’t presently escape from cause you anxiety though?
@@foggypebble5159 then you ignore the commented question because you dont actually have a problem with anxiety
That came right on time.
I feel anxious when talking to people, I'll have watering eyes in social situations and always embarrassed because they might be mistook for crying,I try to control it but can't and finally gave up on it.
The real cause of my anxiety is in attachment to people and fear that bad opinions on me may ruin their relation with me
Sometimes we all have to give up and let go everything as if nothing really matters to be Happy
That's what anxiety made me learn.
sode sumanth most people would feel compassion for your watering eyes. Everybody has their own particular issue, you’re not alone. Please don’t give up, the world needs sensitive souls like you 🥰
I feel you man.I feel a lot of performance pressure in social situations and I don't want to come off as strange or incompetant.Good luck to you my friend
@@stumpedsuper2014 thanks man
We are twins you put it exactly like I feel...
@@larendijacosmica happy to find one😂
So... don't be anxious about small things, be anxious about "more important" things? Maybe I'm missing something because I'd like to not be anxious at all.
Most things you are anxious about do nothing but stop you from growing but only you know what those things are. Requiring Anxiety to not exist is unreasonable as that is impossible. However, if you focus on more important things (all of us know on a deep level what those more important things are as relates to our lives) life will improve and your anxiety will drastically lower, not disappear. But drastically lower is better than very high.
@Floyd Williams so I was missing something. Thank you I genuinely appreciate this explanation
As far as I understand it, this video is more about how to find out, what your anxiety actually is about. It often shows in smaller stuff, but there is actually a wider issue behind it. Once we understand what that is we can concentrate on the actual problem and decide if we can do something about it.
So the question in the video is a way of getting closer to the core of your problem.
But I am already anxious about the big things? Small things are just extras on top. I can't see any solution or help here. Not for someone who already knows all the reasons why they feel bad already.
😂
Anxiety is a cover of real issues/ other emotions we dont want to face
When I notice my anxiety I first ask myself "Why am I feeling this way?" Then I go through a list of things that might be causing it. When I am able to recognize a particular fear I then ask myself "What is this fear based on? A real and true situation or is it based on my own faulty thinking or something I'm simply imagining?"
Then usually I am able to either work through it or have a plan in place in case I panic or something goes awry.
Time is what causing anxiety. The past, the present and the future. We think about time a lot.
that's such an over rationalised answer
Just live in the present moment as much as possible and you will calm down over time
Something about the representation of anxiety as an actual creature that exists separate from ourselves is sort of comforting. It makes me remember that I am not my anxiety, I HAVE anxiety, which is different. It feels like it has less power over me when I look at it as a separate force that isn't actually part of ME, y'know?
For me it works if I wonder "if tomorrow never comes, what I will do today?" this drives me to want to expose myself from little to more confrontations with my greatest fears and makes me learn about how to let them pass and learn about myself in order to find the root cause of them. When I cry out of nowhere then the healing is close. :)
I really admire your courage to go out to confront your fears. That's something that has been so hard for me mainly because I don't know where to start from. If you don't mind asking, what steps are you taking to expose yourself to scary situations?
@@Millerwright123 Now you ask me this, I realize that I do have a sort of steps, but I didn't realize it till now.
First I make some notices about what makes me to have more resistance over several bad experiences from past. More resistance means that it will keep happening to me again and again because I didn't learn anything from it. And then I choose the experience that I felt the worst. There is a lot of fear hidden inside of a failed experience. In order to find out what is the fear related to that failure, I try to see myself in similar situations but with a different result, like it was a different me without my past but with a clean past, some stranger with a clean record of failures, and that tells me more about what legacy (past experiences) brings me there.
We humans, have a lot of triggers, "some words" or "some context" which triggers in us the bad behavior which brings at the end of an experience the failure. Those triggers are based on our biggest fears.Those fears are build so many years in the past and is hard to release them but is easy if we realize that is hard, then we can focus on small steps and we can have little expectations on ourselves, then expose us to those fears and see the result and change our legacy (history of experiences) in order to let that fear to go to a lower level and then go to another fear. This tricky method maybe is the best motivation of all: "We can't, for sure, fix ourselves for good, but we can, for sure, improve ourselves", this give me hope to try on and on again and again as I see myself from now and compare it with myself from the recent past, If I see just a small evolution then the show go on, if not then it's also ok because I'm eventually a human not a robot so I'm free to make mistakes as much as I can, until I rich the success :)
Another simple way can be, from my perspective, if you don't find any fear but you know that is there, you can work on how to manage those 3 words and their related feelings:
1.Thank you; -> with this words you can welcome in your life all that you already have and increase the level of your gratitude, this also increase the level of trust in other humans;
2.I'm sorry; -> with this words you can start to accept that we are humans and we make mistakes, this is how it is. If you learn from mistakes you will reduce the level of guilt.
3.I love you. -> with this words you can bring in your life more acceptance and you will decrease the level of judgement of other no matter of context; You will learn that the context is important. If you bring those feelings between the important people from your life and try to give good vibe without any condition then you will win 100% of the cases - but don't waste it on wrong people.
If you can improve the use of those feelings in your life then you will also decrease the level of your fears or bad feelings. So use more those words and don't waste it on wrong people or on wrong context. You can use it correctly if you are honest with yourself, listen to yourself and act accordingly.
I really need to bring also a clear example of one of my fears. The fear of rejection. This causes me to avoid going into the public squares and/or do public speaking. I realize this when people laugh on me almost every time I speak to a crowd more than 20 people. I figured out that this feeling was made in my childhood by my parents, maybe without bad intentions, when I perform something in front of them, a lot of time I was receiving a modest feedback or bad feedback so I stop performing in order to confirm their feedback. After I realize this I start to wonder if they are right or not. When I do this I was away from them (in college) and I put in question my past and figuring out how to expose myself to this fear and I involve myself in a course (let's make it clear - I do the course - I was the teacher) and practice day by day the communication capacity until I discover that was a lie, I was good on public speaking, not great but good enough to help other people to learn something new that I was good on it. My fear level goes so low that I can focus on the subject and on teaching methods rather than on how to behave in order to not laugh on me and not to fail :)
Just don’t expose yourself near a school 🤪
@@lelandgaunt9985 :)
olarmariusalex Thank you!🙏🏾
Damn, that question was profound. When i asked myself what i would be thinking about if not for anxious thoughts i immediately felt more grounded.
something i like to do, (which has helped me drastically and i rarely feel anxious anymore) is just picture my thoughts as clouds passing by. i don’t believe everything my mind tells me. i also am really present in whatever i do. if i am folding laundry, i am completely focused on my clothes. if i am washing my hands, i’m present watching the water flow and the soap sud. if you are worrying about the future that is anxiety, if you are constantly guilty/ sad about the past, that is depression. the peace is in the present. try to be more mindful, take 5 minutes in your day, close your eyes, and just focus on breathing. discipline is freedom. don’t let your mind trick you. you are perfect the way you are and live is working out the way it’s supposed to. what is meant for you will always find you. now go live your life, we aren’t here forever so make it count ❤️
To cut off both ego and anxiety...
I say the line...
'You are not your body and you are not your mind.'
It fills me with liberation
Same💜
Can you expound?
My anxiety is that I should be doing more and thinking / feeling less. People say just do it with a lack of valuation for my feelings and thoughts. Makes me feel rejected as a person and demotivates me to do things since I need time to sort my own feelings / thoughts out then.
Healthy coping is accepting life is hard but having the faith that you are competent enough to get back up after being knocked down. 😊
to ask ourselves that question is a way to take ourselves into awareness, and I think that's the key for anxiety: to become aware we are anxious, doing so...it's the end of anxiety. I loved the animations of this video, good job!!
My anxiety when i had it was almost entirely irrational. I was consumed with hypochondriac fear of illnesses I could never realistically suffer from or contract and the only way it went away was by realizing that it was just.. nothing. It was nothing at all I was just scared of being sick, for no good reason. Underlying causes of anxiety don’t always apply.
Finally someone who understands! I have. A hard time coming across fellow hypochondriacs. It sucks, especially with school starting very soon for me..
@@rebel1281 awww, good luck I’m wishing you well with it, if you’re in college you can sometimes access a free therapy through that which will help a LOT
I know there are so many causes of anxiety but for me my gut plays such an important role. Making changes to my diet and lifestyle has been one of the most important things I've done to alleviate my anxiety.
this makes a lot of sense. I will get a thought that would overwhelm me and make me anxious and even cry. Thank you for posting. it is so helpful!
The animation for this video is outstanding. Perfectly connected to the subject matter. Emotive and beautifully done.
I had mad anxiety during my finals because they kept placing me at the front of the room. I ended up failing 3 subjects and passing 5. I knew that its because of the anxiety that I failed 3 because I couldn't think in the finals. My brain was just fizzed out and I just wanted to finish the paper fast and get out .
"We suffer more in imagination than in reality."
-Seneca
I like to ask myself, "What do I need?" or "What is wrong?". I like to view anxiety as white noise of one or many unmet needs coming from the subconscious. You don't know what it's about, it's debilitating, but if you ask your mind, it can often answer =)
Same
Someone who REALLY understands anxiety/panic created the look and movements of that anxiety creature... a nearly perfect representation of how anxiety feels...
Thank you this helped me a lot 🙏 I realized i tend to fret rather than confronting the reality masked behind the anxiety, which i should be paying more attention to and see as it is.
Anxiety coupled with panic attacks is like being caged in a town square while everyone ridicules you.
The reality is so skewed that you think you are going mad. *Memento Mori - This too shall pass.*
Memento Mori means remember you will die
Not sure if anyone will get this reference but: Memento Mori, Unus Annus
If I wasn’t anxious about my current thoughts, what would I be thinking about?
Nothing, absolutely nothing
yes absolutely! we should think what can be done and deal with the problem rather than simply panicking. what is under our control? what isn't? what are we willing to do and not willing to? what can we compromise and sacrifice for our priorities??
Pretty funny that I came to this 12 years of diagnosed anxiety, yet one day before this comes out. Still, knowledge becomes wisdom when you can finally relate that knowledge to your behaviour. My anxiety is protecting me from the pain of shame, loneliness and disappointment. Tired of running, learning to sit with it.
I watched this video the day it came out but I can't stop thinking about it so I came back.
I couldn't relate to this. I scrolled down to the comments when I first watched it expecting other people to be confused as well but was surprised to see so many people relating to it. Even though I think The School of Life is eloquent and relatable. I was too surprised and confused to make a comment about it then.
I have an anxiety disorder. When I feel anxiety, even about something simple like being late for something, the root of the anxiety is an obvious, intrinsic part of the feeling of anxiety. I'm never really anxious about being late. I'm anxious about feeling incompetent or unworthy because I couldn't manage being on time. For me, that's what anxiety IS. It's not a separate feeling from the deeper fears, it's made of them. I feel them all at once. Do other people not experience anxiety that way?
on a bit of a different track, a question that has often helped me when in the middle of it is "what lies am I believing right now?" for a broad example, believing the lie your brain is telling you that everything won't be ok. worth a try
Anxiety will slowly stop the more and more you get out of your comfort zone. Get comfortable being uncomfortable 💯
I dont know what I feel, i can describe the emotion I have rn, it's a mix of everything, and I hate that I cant put it to words or logic. Its the thing I think about all the time
There is so much I don't understand, I panic about it, why don't I know it, I should know it. And I don't know how to stop these thoughts
This is huge, it is such a profound and jarring question to ask - I love it.
*Whenever I comment on TH-cam videos* I feel anxious cuz I know it's only a matter of time before someone says something disrespectful💪😂
Vibe check
Fuck you, you stupid piece of human garbage! xoxo magnus
@@TVDaJa Jeeze, Gazorpazorpfield, you know... that's pretty mean.
Or some grammar-sister is worried about your sentence structure.
Robert Cudmore I think that comment was ironic, because I was going to comment the same thing haha
This video changed a lot how I deal with my thoughts. I’ve been going through less anxiety every time this questions comes to my mind.
I convinced myself im scared of change, but really im scared of the reaction ill get from others for not being who i say i am. I want to dress a certain way and say certain things but ive created a character for myself and i believe that if i differ from that people will be taken aback or will judge me. And im trying to convince myself if i start off a certain way in a new setting, maybe the people who havent known me wont judge me bc that is how theyve always known me, but i think ive tried this multiple times and failed bc i go back to ppl pleasing.
People with ASD have anxiety walking with them. I have anxiety all the time; however, I've grown into it because I understand it is neurological & I have learnt to not take life seriously at all. Instead, I work towards what comforts me even in tough situations like the surgery I am experiencing, I knock it on the head with something I can do.
Mindful, loving acceptance can be a very powerful way to move through symptoms of anxiety.
Watched this before making a phonecall I was feeling anxious about. Turns out I am anxious that even after I make this long phone call, nothing will get fixed and will stay the same.... Gonna go make that call now. Wish me luck!!! And thank you for your content
Not helpful. Already aware of the deeper issues and thoughts behind my anxiety. Tbh doesn't make it any easier, maybe because I've long had this self-awareness. Feeling stuck.
Have you looked into the work of Peter Levine, particularly "Healing Trauma"?
Loli Lolol v with ya on that one, also my anxiety has been around so long it's not the standard 'butterfly's and feeling nervous', it's extreme tightness in my head and chest, extreme irritability, restlessness, heart beating really weird, sometimes heavy, sometimes really slow that all I can do is be obsessed with the fact I think I'm going into cardiac arrest, tension headaches, ringing ears..... Ughhhh it sucks but some days are better than others, lifting weights helps.
@@michaelharrison5564 i get the same way. Mix in a feeling of having to piss but not peeing when i go to the bathroom and that's me.
Try to meditate, I know it's hard at the beginning but you'll get used to it and feel more relaxed. Download calm or headspace in your phone to help you meditate. I hope this helps!
me too :(
Whenever I had a confusion about something in my life, this channel provided me the right answer quickly on time. Full satisfaction and peace of mind.
One must live the now and not the future only.
Oh Bloody Exquisite Visuals! The Beastification of Anxiety - and those movements... Your work is astonishing - and extremely helpful. Thank you.
I am grateful
This clip of SoL is so genius.... I wonder about the creative mind of the illustrator! Beautiful, so we can tap into our creative soul, are conscious self.... to create something new every day every moment! This morning early I decided to rise right before dawn and observe and contemplate the sky.... I witnessed the magic of life, of the miraculous transformation of light..... I witnessed all the hues and nuances of the colors breaking through the darkness.....
it was like meditating.....
But then I had to share this non anxious experience with my terminal the iPhone! Which, to my opinion is a double blade... it cuts anxiety...... but construct others....
Anyway.... to ease my anxiety I go into nature and take action every day to protect it- thank you SoL
I'm absolutely useless and lonely as hell when I'm single. When I'm single, my mind questions everything, my mind goes on panic mode, my mind makes me worry about the what if. Being Anxious sucks and it's worse when you're alone in life.
Sounds like you aren't comfortable with yourself for whatever reason, which is normal. Being emotionally/spiritually dependent on someone isnt a good thing in the long run. It will actually only get worse, especially if your partner knows and uses it against you. Being alone doesn't mean being lonely, its just the way your mind is processing it.
Never attach your happiness to another person or you will never encounter a real relationship. Happiness comes from within and is the base for stable love. If you dont learn to love yourself you will never truly love another human being. Love to everyone!
What I've noted to give me anxiety is when I disappoint or think I did something wrong. Instead of overanalyzing the possibility of doing so, I think about reaching out to the person I may have miscommunicated with or did something that was not favorable so I can decide how to resolve from there.
For me, it's okay to be wrong or to be different. And once I allow myself to be wrong in a moment, it gives the opportunity to ask other questions to move from the situation that caused me anxiety.
Answer to the question:
If my mind wasn't currently filled with this anxious thought , it will find another one to occupy it :(
To paraphrase the Joker "You say don't focus on anxious thoughts. All I have is anxious thoughts."
if you have your basic necessities with you and if possible, seek out thinggs that make you happy. you know you have certain things that worry you but trust me, it works. you simply cannot think your way out of an emotional state. Do things that give you some seretonin boost, then you'll see your inner chatter has calmed down. then you can think of how to deal with the problems. be solution oriented, and see what your priorities are and what you need to sacrifice to get back to stability. planning and journalling might help.
get yourself a ring and engrave this phrase on it: "This time shall pass".
"This too shall pass"
I recently just found your channel out and y’all might’ve just took the number one spot. I feel this channel teaches us topics we don’t normally think about or have any knowledge over, stuff that should’ve been taught to us at a younger age. Keep up the good work guys! Love it
My anxiety is a set of physical symptoms. After years of trying to solve what I was anxious about or finding some deeper root cause, I've (along with my health care providers) come to the conclusion that my anxiety is just a thing my body does without outside stimuli. Sure outside stimuli can make me feel worse but there is no switch to turn it on, and no switch to turn it off. I recognize what it is, don't let it stop my daily life, and let the anxiety run out of gas. Questions like these don't help for my type of anxiety. Anyone else feel that way?
Some roots to anxiety are admittedly incurable and unaddressable; we have to let some of our anxiety take its course. Even if we act upon the matter, it still stays as it is, only validating our anxieties all along. But yes, before stepping in to the damage, we have to ask ourselves if it’s worth it.
This brings about the importance of resilience and right coping mechanisms while anxiety in itself takes its course.
“The least we can do is insure that we’re suffering for the right reason.”
I recently gained some weight due to waiting hood. I’m so anxious, I lack energy to take back my life! How is one unemployed and not anxious? When u have been studying for the longest time, thought of yourself a very good student and still you struggle to find a job there’s this doubt that just blinds you and shatters you.. I’m not confident of my body anymore and I hate it and I’m anxious!
You need to make peace with yourself first and accept who you are. Happiness comes from within!
The animation for this episode is awesome!
Congrats! You have been visited by the rare four leaf clover. You will have good luck forever :) have a nice day!
Wow. I woke up this morning and my mind started ranting about something. Somehow, I managed to pause and ask myself what I was really worried about. Stopped my rant in its track. Then I got out of bed and started my day. One cup of tea in to that day and this is the first clip I watch. Fortunate.
I am an extrovert with social anxiety. I enjoy public speaking, but my body horribly disagrees. I enjoy meeting strangers, but my body disagrees. I enjoy intimacy, but my body disagrees.
I will rock, spend hours in a cage my mind has built for me. The panic attacks make me throw up. I don’t worry about anything in particular. I have high self esteem, workout, meditate. I don’t get embarrassed easily. My mind in certain situations just flicks a switch and boom: purgatory
One of the more sinister parts is that my anxiety isn’t reliable. Take a situation like public speaking and I will perform fantastically one day, throw up the next.
My career and relationships, intimate or not, have all been profoundly effected by my anxiety. Yet I continue on. While I remain hopeful that one day I can live without suffering, I firmly believe that even the life I have now is worth it all. The small moments of happiness and the occasional moment of awesome spontaneity are worth it.
While the effects of anxiety are profoundly negative for my life, it is worth it to carry on.
I feel the same way :(
I did this technique through a guided meditation called "exploring the difficult" it is on Spotify. I found the source of my anxiety and then, with my mind cleared the solution to it just came to me in a flash... That anxious episode that incapacitated me for a month slowly faded over the next week. Powerful stuff.
Thanks for the tip! I tried the meditation and really liked the voice and approach et.c. and I will try it again.
Why do I keep judging my thoughts?
Now you are judging the judging of your thoughts
Magnus why are you judging his comment judging the judging of his thoughts
J 9 P. Schubert And Why are you judging him for judging that guy who is judging his thoughts about judging ?
Insert continuation of judgement gags here.
I believe its because you have a rooted belief that your thoughts are your current state of being when in fact you are not your thoughts so there is no reason to judge them.Consider your thoughts subjectively rather than personally and remember to breathe.I hoped this helped a little bit at least.
I suffered from anxiety for 10 years only to realize after a resilience skills class that the primary cause of my anxiety was the "catastrophizing" thinking trap--ruminating on the worst possible outcomes, which are often irrational.
Real-time resilience:
1. Think of evidence to prove to ourselves the thought isn't true by saying, "this isn't true because..."
2. Reframe the situation by saying “a more helpful way to see this is…”
3. Make a contingency plan by saying “if x happens, I will…”
4. Practice mindfulness. Observe your surroundings and identify things around that you could see, hear, and feel. (the sky is blue, the green leaves are rustling in the wind, I feel the sun on my skin and it's warm, etc)
4. Practice self-compassion and optimism. It really helps.
As a side note, fantastic art and animation in this one!
When I feel nervous or anxious about doing something I ask myself what’s the worst that could happen
Love this video. Just listening to the narrator and his questions makes me feel much calmer. There’s something to what he is saying here!
This was the first STOL video where I felt like the ending wasn't as spot on as usual. Anyone else feel the same?
This calmed me during an anxiety attack. Thank you. 🙏
Great video as usual. But I'm just wondering, what if my anxieties are already related to major existential questions rather than minor day to day things? Where do I go from there?
I get anxiety about my longing for a life companion if not my fear of sharing life with him wouldn't interfere. To love and not being loved in return. Being abandoned as it already happened. We re working on it. Trust is coming back slooooowly but relentlessly. 😊
I get anxiety when I see a pretty girl. Working on that slowly one step at a time :)
If you don't me asking. What steps are you taking to work on it. Im also struggling with the same thing so I'd appreciate some advice.
jay Okoruwa well I still have to mate but I’m thinking about going to speed dating to sort of combat all them barriers I may have. Try this as well it may open you up to feeling at ease the more u do it.
@@amritpalhh9836 Great idea. That's something I may consider later
But I think I should work on my interactions with people in general first before I go the dating route. Just wondering... Have you tried public speaking?
jay Okoruwa Yh to some degree but any form of communicating will help. Maybe even volunteering? Ive done that it helped I think.
Pretty girls are just normal people with a nice paintjob.
liked very much the visuals in the video. So otherwordly it was yet how true in so being as far as what Jung explains on unconsciousness and shadows ...
it's impossible to think of that question when your mind is in the grip of anxiety.
When anxiety strucks, I fill a water pail and water plants... even at 11.30pm... hope this helps. What I do after that...depends. I would just begin to fill up another giant bottles with water 😂so I can water them again ... soon when I got up. It helps to have lot of plants (mind you!)...and live without garden tap with hose😅😅 I carry these all by myself, so it strenghten my upper muscles as well. I think, the MAIN POINT is you have to distract yourself.. and if you think exercising is boring, you just need to combine two things in one, a bit like killing 2 birds with a stone...so it 'cleaverly' tricking your mind
Hmm, seem this video is just a rhetorical statement. Most folks who have anxiety usually know the cause. Finding a solution or method is what brings them out of that state. Just asking yourself a question about why is actually not that helpful ... again, most folks know they are unhappy, anxious, or scared.
The voiceover is very calming 💙
Meditation didnt exactly work for me, so I do pushups for every single thought and feel the burn.
Exercise helps so much!
Throw some sit-ups in there too!
Whenever I'm feeling anxious I just think of Alain's calming voice...
Loved the message and the animation. The snake reminds me of Aku.
@Thanos Interesting! 'he did 'mess with our brains; the snake in the video and Aku from Samurai Jack both :D
I just worry too much about things and then think of ways a situation could happen but sometimes it doesn't make any logical sense and then I get really anxious x
*the visuals gave me the “Look what you made me do” - Taylor Swift lyrics video vibes*
Learning videos like this help. I realize that something productive could be done rather than being in a moment of anxiety. Breathing deeply helps.
i might realise how sad and lonely i am, dayyyuummm
That is what I normally do when I have anxiety attack. I try to stop focusing on the things that make me feel anxious and rather focus on other things. It helps.
1:15 I thought someone had hung themselves for a second there.
BEAUTIFUL DESIGN!
I don’t agree. When you have no money to feed yourself nothing else matters
Gatekeeping anxiety... great work..
i remember when my dog disappeared i was filled with dread everyday. i thought if we found him, life would be great and amazing. we did find him a few weeks later and I was filled with joy. After a few more months it was like he was never gone. things went on same as always. arrgh i had a point but i lost it somewhere!