AITA For Charging My Husband Rent (React Court)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ค. 2021
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"When your girl-boss-wife-landlord demands your birthday money you got from your parents:"
Best joke
Oh man that “Call off the dogs!” Almost immediately followed by the second property bought by the parents was incredible
I'm waiting for the ultimate AITA "Hey guys I'm having a wedding with no alcohol, no kids, and it's Willy Wonka themed." Am I the bad guy for wanting to have clean sober fun, with no kids present, and wear purple suites and top hats?
that sounds like a blast actually
I hope NL knows that Solomon didn't actually cut the baby in half, he just said that to reveal who the true mother was
the two women were mother- and daughter-in-law, both of whom had borne sons and whose husbands had died. The lying daughter-in-law was obliged by the laws to marry her brother-in-law(this baby) unless released from the law by Solomon. she was required to marry him when he came of age, or wait the same amount of time to be released and remarry. When Solomon suggested splitting the infant in half, the lying woman, wishing to escape the constraints of the law, agreed. But Solomon knew that one of these was the bride to be, and could've, by law, vacated the original marriage arrangement, it was a common thing that happened in the time. So instead of just saying "listen I'm king, I'll obsolve the original arrangement" he was like, fuck it let's have some fun with these people's emotions, and then put one in jail. Basically Sol is DEFINITELY an asshole.
@@DarkRaen666 Dude where the hell did you get all of that? I just read the story and basically nothing that you just said was included in it. 1 Kings 3:26-27, niv
"Now two prostitutes came to the king and stood before him. 17 One of them said, “Pardon me, my lord. This woman and I live in the same house, and I had a baby while she was there with me. 18 The third day after my child was born, this woman also had a baby. We were alone; there was no one in the house but the two of us.
19 “During the night this woman’s son died because she lay on him. 20 So she got up in the middle of the night and took my son from my side while I your servant was asleep. She put him by her breast and put her dead son by my breast. 21 The next morning, I got up to nurse my son-and he was dead! But when I looked at him closely in the morning light, I saw that it wasn’t the son I had borne.”
22 The other woman said, “No! The living one is my son; the dead one is yours.”
But the first one insisted, “No! The dead one is yours; the living one is mine.” And so they argued before the king.
23 The king said, “This one says, ‘My son is alive and your son is dead,’ while that one says, ‘No! Your son is dead and mine is alive.’”
24 Then the king said, “Bring me a sword.” So they brought a sword for the king. 25 He then gave an order: “Cut the living child in two and give half to one and half to the other.”
26 The woman whose son was alive was deeply moved out of love for her son and said to the king, “Please, my lord, give her the living baby! Don’t kill him!”
But the other said, “Neither I nor you shall have him. Cut him in two!”
27 Then the king gave his ruling: “Give the living baby to the first woman. Do not kill him; she is his mother.” Normally I wouldn't be this nitpicky about stuff like this but I just have no idea where you got that, unless there's another account of it or something
@@GigaChadMob so it comes from the midrash which is a commentary on the Torah. It’s not confirmed text though so he can’t say it’s the proper canon.
So two women both claimed to be the mother of this baby. No one knew who was right, it was real early in the morning and I was kind of hung over from the night before. And honestly, as a king ruling over hundres of thousands of people I had more important issues to attend to than to deal with a single baby. So I just went, cut the baby in half and let's move on. My advisors got really mad at me, but it turned out okay anyway since only one of the women objected to my ruling hence she was clearly the rightful mother. AITA?
@@doggo9388 Oh, well I guess that explains why I've never heard any of that.
Girlboss landlord wife asking for the birthday money made my day
What???? Use MY BIRTHDAY MONEY to pay for LIVING EXPENSES????? god Redditors suck so much LMAO
the psychoanalysis of corvette guy was beautiful
The kind of person who wouldn't come to my wedding unless there's booze is exactly the sort of person I wouldn't want at my wedding to begin with.
Based.
Wedding, fair. Reception, based.
I think you misspelled the phrase "would want" incorrectly
idk, weddings are awkward for non-family members, aside from their +1, they may only know like 2 or 3 ppl, who could have other duties (like being part of the wedding party)... sitting there for potentially 3 or 4 hours with no one to talk to, the options are stare at your phone or have a few drinks; not going due to no open bar is perfectly reasonable
@@thatguy088 It kinda sounds like you're describing exactly the kind of guest that shouldn't be at the wedding.
About the property taxes one, some years ago a friend of mine told me he didn't think a relationship with too much financial disparity was likely to work and at the time I thought he was overstating it but man did I underestimate rich peoples awfulness at the time. This lady is filthy rich and is scraping off this guy's(who she believes she wants to share her life with) last pennies for what's pocket change to her. This is absolute insanity, I can usually laugh off AITA but this infuriates me to a very high degree
landlord mindset
"Why are you booing me, I'm right!" -Ryan 2021 (colorized)
Man every time a merican says it’s like tacky to go to a wedding and pay for drinks, the uk response is always it’s mad tacky to go to celebrate a couple’s union and make them pay for your drinks lol
The issue here across the board is that when someone has their wedding and then says there won't be an open bar or limit the amount of booze there will be people get up in arms. The day's not about them so they have zero right to complain, s when the people getting married say that's fine don't come then there should only be two responses from there on out. 1. Don't go and risk pissing off the couple and looking like an idiot or 2. Suck it up and go. I don't know why people feel so entitled to something that has nothing to do with them at all.
Most American weddings I’ve been to, the parents of the bride and groom pay for the whole thing. I went to a covid wedding in January and we were only allowed 30 people. They bride’s parents hosted the wedding and paid $12,000 for an open bar. It was completely drank out. I totally see where that guy is coming from and I would be hesitant to have alcohol at my own wedding with my family.
My favorite thing was that everyone's response basically boiled down to it's either his right to decide how the wedding is held, or the fiancée's choice, and immediately afterwards, when the married couple agrees on a no-child wedding, their choice is irrelevant
@@MegaRemington13 those are two very different situations. Alcohol is less of an extreme than no children at a destination wedding.
@@jpryan90 It's regional/familial. In some circles it is indeed considered humiliating and rude to have a cash bar.
Never heard a more bunk take than "does your desire not to drink supersede her right to serve alcohol?" Since when is serving alcohol a right? I must've missed that clause of the californian constitution
The not so subtle framing of "not serving alcohol" being a desire, and "serving alcohol" being a right really got to me, not gonna lie.
so not
BASED
tbh American weddings are really weird in that they end really early. I don't think ive been at a wedding that ended before 7 in the morning. And if you're going to party from 11 to 8 then you kinda need alcohol, so if the people in the weddings come from Germany or similar countries then they probably have a different idea of how a wedding goes.
But honestly if his family didnt have a special relationship and just didn't enjoy alcohol then there'd be no reason not to serve it, just save only the people that like alcohol drink. Free world.
and I don't know what alcohol costs in California but in Germany you could get like 2 18 year olds to serve drinks for 150€ each for the night and then go with the 3€ wine, 70c per 1/2l beer, and 12 € per 0.75l hard liquor. Or even cut out the 18 servers and you just end up paying like max 15€ per alcohol drinker, so if its 100 people then it's 1500€
worst part is that guy got voted asshole, so he's gonna feel like he has to serve alcohol now, as if his idea was wrong or unreasonable. especially with comments like that at the top.
jokaire
The line "after closing on the property and moving in" pretty much absolves the husband of being the asshole. If she wanted him to contribute, that should have been made clear ahead of time
OP really didn't need to mention he has a Corvette, unnecessary flex.
It's actually an integral part of the story for a reason NL nor apparently chat didn't pick up on: if you want to take the Corvette out, where are you moving the truck in your driveway to do that when there's _someone else's_ car in front of your lawn? What happens if you work in your garage sometimes and want to take the Corvette out to protect it?
It’s also a blue corvette and everything he sees around him is blue for hisself and everybody around him cuz he ain’t got nobody to listen to
@@Providence83 you put the truck in front of a different lawn?
You can absolutely have a child free wedding, just don't get upset when people don't attend. Or get upset, but maybe don't be surprised.
I’m planning a wedding. We are having a child free reception. If that means people can’t come that’s the way it is
Yeah though having a child free wedding which excludes 6 of your siblings seems wild to me.
AITA for calling out my cooworker in front of the boss for using his per diem to buy shirts with patterns that are SO complicated?
SHUT THE FUCK UP, DOUG, YOU FUCKING SKUNK!
@@benh5541 I hope my mom's wig tasted good.
NTA, Dan Flashes shirts aren't even that complicated
@@ipokefan4 there’s one shirt in Dan flashes that costs a thousand dollars
@@lagspike7763 I want that one soooo bad.
From the perspective of someone living in greater London, the idea of complaining about looking out your window and seeing a car parked in front of your house seems completely insane.
The only exception to this is if on street parking is the only parking available, and you are blocking them from getting to their house. Like imagine a new mother having to carry her infant 2 blocks after a long ass day just to go home. And why? Because you wanted to park 2 blocks closer to the church.
The only one I can think of is that our neighbor has loads of cars and parks in front of our house all the time, but they always park a big truckor a nice care there, taking up just enough space that they're just over the edge of our driveway and we have to be super careful backing out since we keep 3 cars in our driveway.
But we don't complain to their face, just complain about them amongst ourselves every time it happens, lmao.
Unless you have a driveway with no drop curb then I can sort of understand it since you could be constantly being blocked from getting your car out, so just parking your car on the road instead to block other people trapping you in makes perfect sense.
What if they block your driveway?
@@legion999 most houses don't have driveways because the land is too valuable, but blocking driveways is illegal.
The birthday money bit actually killed me lol
The wedding one is absurd. Alcohol is an *absolute necessity?!* People worship alcohol to a ridiculous degree and aren't willing to admit it.
Yeah, I like to drink at events, parties and such. Would I be bummed out if I found out there‘s no booze at the wedding? Sure, but straight up saying „If there‘s no alcohol I am not going“ is just insanity.
Where I live people waited hours to go to the liquor store during the pandemic because they thought it would be closed for a few days...
I'm a teetotaler and it makes my more introverted than I believe I otherwise would be because of how little I enjoy recreational drinking. I'd rather just get stoned.
tbh American weddings are really weird in that they end really early. I don't think ive been at a wedding that ended before 7 in the morning. And if you're going to party from 11 to 8 then you kinda need alcohol, so if the people in the weddings come from Germany or similar countries then they probably have a different idea of how a wedding goes.
But honestly if his family didnt have a special relationship and just didn't enjoy alcohol then there'd be no reason not to serve it, just save only the people that like alcohol drink. Free world.
It's upsetting to see how that thread called him the asshole. It's also that stereotypical bullshit where the bride gets everything she wants and the groom is an asshole for wanting something his way.
How rich are landlord-wife’s parents?? They bought her 2 homes? And she expects her disabled veteran husband to pay for the home daddy bought her? Lol
You dont have to be rich to purchase 2 rental homes. She is definitely an asshole though.
@@nickalaskreynolds If you can purchase 2 rental homes you are rich lmao
@@nickalaskreynolds Purchasing two homes FOR SOMEONE ELSE is absolutely rich people money
Bro, on the wedding alcohol thing. Why on earth should a man have to pay $4000 for an open bar. That’s a lot of freaking money. My whole wedding cost $6000. That’s why we went dry. Why should I pay 1/3-2/3 of the total price of my whole ass wedding for people to get sloshed? I’m sorry but OP is NTA
I can see it, i don't even drink myself, so having to pay for other people to get drunk is nonsensical.
@@Doomroar exactly. I do drink. I like to drink as much as the next guy. Maybe the next 2 guys. But like if my dude said “Yeah it’s a dry wedding because alcohol is expensive.” Then like I just wouldn’t drink???? Or if you absolutely have to have your hooch, that’s why they make flasks my dude.
@@robertdean7778 I am from a culture where wedding always involves alcohol, and while logically I agree with your point, in my country, if I wanted dry wedding my partner would probably freak out that the guests would be disappointed, and she'd probably want everybody invited to have a good time. Idk, I'd imagine it depends on the country. Getting smashed on wedding is kinda THE thing here, weather I agree with it or not
Edit - on the other hand, guy was young and not from money. Cash bar would have been reasonable in my opinion
I'm thinking most of that came before the edit where he mentioned his total budget and the price of catering, because in what world is not wanting to spend 40% of the budget on alcohol make him cheap?
You could just make the reception BYOB and/or a paid bar
How in any real world is the wedding guy the asshole for not having alcohol at the reception?
This is exactly my belief too, its not my job to make sure you drink at my wedding Especially if i don't have the available funds.
Because Reddit lords would be mad if they went to a wedding with no drinks
@@NeoBoneGirl despite them all also being only 14
I wouldn't say asshole but definitely weird in my book. I've been to maybe a dozen weddings and I've never seen one without alcohol. I mean it's kinda like part of the usual package for a celebration... Food, drinks and music. People are like "oh what a redditor thing to say" but drinking at celebrations has been a part of human culture since alcohol was invented. For reference I'm European, so I have no idea if a dry wedding is actual common in the US.
alcohol culture is psychotic. it's not that I never drink alcohol, but the way people insist on it as a necessity of social situations is a bit twisted for me, and I can only imagine how hostile it makes social situations for recovering alcoholics.
Reddit, AITA for ruining a family’s night while playing Pokémon Unite?
Update: Thanks for all those saying NTA, but Livestream Fails seems to believe I’m the asshole.
+2
@@K8lynMay based profile pic
NTA, non-Pokémon Unite players don't deserve rights.
"right" to serve alcohol vs "desire" to not drink LOL yeah forgot that's in the bill of rights
Everyone triggered by the wording of one response.
No one:
Reddit comment section: I AM A SOVERN CITIZEN, I HAVE THE RIGHT TO DRINK FOR FREE AT WEDDINGS
Just yanks being yanks
We should recognize that the odds of each of these stories are 100% factual is not the greatest. The type of people who want their stories heard and judged by the masses is more likely going to embellish things to make themselves look better, at the very least.
Absolutely agree Brian.
That makes sense. Its hard to want to share these stories if you expect them to make you look bad
Some are more than embellished a lot of them are straight up fabrications and the more upvotes something has the more likely it is a complete story.
As a person with completely unrepentant alcoholics in the family, I can totally relate with not wanting alcohol at a wedding. My family completely drank out a $12,000 open bar in January. It was during covid so we were limited to only 30 people at the wedding. That’s $400 worth of alcohol per person. No kids were allowed at the wedding, but most people only had 1 drink with dinner, so the majority of the alcohol was consumed by my dad and his friends, my brother and his wife, the groomsmen and my uncles and aunts. I was the best man, so I tried to keep up and do shots with my brother and the groomsmen. I felt like I was going to die after my dinner drink and the first 8 rounds of shots. I stopped at that point, was sick all night and had the worst hangover ever the next day. I think some people made it through about 20+ rounds of shots. Keep in mind this is on top of their drinks they were sipping all night throughout the reception. I’m just saying a dry wedding sounds pretty good with the company I keep. And if people only come for the alcohol that makes me sad.
I'm sorry my man. That's brutal.
Holy hell, 12 grand for an open bar at a 30 person event? Was this place super high class or did you get extremely ripped off?
I hate this idea that weddings have to be this big and amazing thing for the guests when in reality it's just about two people. I can't imagine myself going to a wedding and thinking "wow, they don't have X here? These people are cheap"
Just be grateful they wanted you there for this special moment 🤦🏽♂️
And those guests who called them cheap are probably not generous with the wedding gift. Probably don't even give enough money for their meal they ate let alone the alcohol the guzzled down.
@@MC--- If you make me buy a special outfit, tickets to fly in, etc. I might be kinda mad if you have a wedding that isn't fun. Doesn't have to be expensive, just fun.
@@K0sm1cKid alcohol isn’t needed for that
01:25 I love when NL makes fun of these brain-teaser-style openings
Good lord, I think Condo Guy married a Ferengi
the willy wonka wedding bit is the most relatable thing u ever said ryan
Reddit when you don't want any kids on your wedding: omg so true!
Reddit when someone wants a wedding without drugs: not everyone is an alcoholic...
Well that's disingenuous. in the kids case both bride and groom wanted no kids. In the Alcohol case the disagreement was between the bride and the groom. I agree with the idea you were going for I think but this are not really comparable examples.
I think the “…” really hit it home
reddit ruined weed
@@pickledownrickonomics good
And apparently both are assholes when clearly the alcohol one is NTA.
AITA for asking to park one of my triples of the Nova (triples are best) in front of my neighbors' house?
How is the no alcohol guy the a hole? Iv never disagreed more with Reddit. And i tend to disagree with that website alot
Also the fact op has alcoholic in his family makes him even less the a hole
If you read through AITA you'll start to notice patterns. That fits with some observed biases on that subreddit
Cuz it's reddit and he's disagreeing with a woman
Reddit can be pretty depraved at the best of times but the AITA subreddit is especially petty sometimes.
I have a very small family, an aunt and uncle are both alcoholic. But they never, never, ever let that be a factor in whether we can drink at family events, even when they host. I would respect their decision if they felt that way, but recovering/functioning alcoholics need to be able to cope with physically being near alcohol, or else avoid social events altogether.
Husband got blasted by reddit because I think his original post pre-edits came across as uncompromising and, in the US, having alcohol at a wedding is the default behavior, not the other way around. So people would view the wife as bending over backward for the husband in not having alcohol at the wedding. Which is at least somewhat fair...guests do think it's weird/cheap in most cases if the wedding is dry.
guests come over
'wow that wall art is exquisite! who painted it?'
"oh some broad I had an argument with, totally cost me a mutual friendship and was very stressful. think about it every time i look at the wall, which I fought tooth and nail to keep for some reason'
Oh what's her @?
Yeah lemme message you on Instagram. Totally great painter, would recommend
Yeah lol i feel like the dispute they had ruins the feeling the art brings them anyway. The argument ends itself
As someone who's never been to a wedding, the wedding stories are the most facinating to me
Employed people stuff lmao
They kind of sound like they suck
Ive been to 3 and theyve all been fine, not the most fun things ever but not massive disasters like what happens here
Weddings are just a long ceremony. Big dog and pony show. You don't need an expensive wedding.
@@cartoonhanks1708 Cheap weddings are the best. I have a big extended family so I've been to a few and it's basically like a fancy bbq party lol way more fun than stressing over big ass arrangements and enduring stuffy tradition.
I think you hit the nail on the head on that last one; If the artist isn't happy for their work to be out there for free, then their only recourse is to demand that it gets painted over IMO, not to demand compensation.
The artist one is interesting.
I used to be a tattoo apprentice a few years back. I did a lot of free tattoos to learn. If someone had come to me and said "Yo, I'm going to get this part covered up, so you can practice for free, do what you like" and then I did a tattoo and they decided "Hey I love it, I'm going to keep it!" - I wouldn't be mad at all I'd be stoked. Whenever you offer to do work for free, if someone decides to keep it, that's a bonus. Asking for compensation AFTER you're the one getting free practice, I think it's wrong. You got what you wanted in the practice. If you didn't want it to be free, you shouldn't have done it for free.
It's really cool to hear the perspective of an actual artist who has had a similar experience to weigh in on that last story. I think thats a pretty fair opinion you have therr
Agreed. Who wouldn't be flattered by that reaction? Her first response was "Fuck you, pay me." Do new artists just do it for the money or something?
@@CycFlame she probably spent like 20+ hours on a mural that she could have used doing online commissions or something. kinda messed up tho that the guy was like "oh yeah ill keep the art even though it wasnt agreed upon and the girl got mad over it" like imagine being the sort of person who can wake up to the artwork of someone you screwed over and lost a mutual friend over and think nothing but "that's some neat art" lmao
@@DragoonBoom She was planning on spending that time practicing either way, as evidenced by the fact that she was searching for a place to practice. Only difference is anywhere else she would have paid for the privilege. Imagine being the type of person to threaten litigation to someone who liked your art after they gave you a space to practice in for free.
I completely agree with you. I'm just confused about one thing. How does someone cover up a tattoo? With another tattoo?
Northerlion: "no good deeds go unpunished"
Also Northernlion: "just do a good deed that could get you in legal trouble duh"
I think the point of not inviting kids isn't so much not wanting the kids around drinking, as it is not having to worry about watching the kids while you cut loose.
"Are you crazy?! What I meant was that you each got 50% custody!" - King Solomon
As an artist... the artist is in the wrong there on the wall painting.
She willingly went into the space to practice her art on the walls and was given that space for free to do so.
She gets her portfolio piece, free practice space, and he said he was going to recommend her work to others to bring her paying jobs.
It would be another thing if it was a business of some kind and the art brought attention and more business to the venue space, but this is the person's private bedroom. They gain nothing except enjoying looking at it.
I make custom little hats for people, and on occasion, I'll ask a customer if I can try something kind of wild/ambitious for their piece, just to see if I can pull it off/manage to make it work- one such piece was a fully functional tiny ferris wheel for a carnival themed hat. I DO NOT CHARGE FOR THE EXTRA WORK because it's MY IDEA and I want to attempt the crazy idea... if it works out, I've learned how to do something new, the customer gets something a little cooler than they initially were expecting, and I get something to add to my portfolio of past work that others can order in the future if they so desire.
She got her practice space for free. She didn't have to spend money to rent a place or buy sheetrock or drywall or whatever. The work is in a private space and does not contribute to bringing customers or income as if it were in a business or entertainment venue.
OP was impressed with it and was willing to recommend her to people so she could get customers. Fair trade, imo, since it was never going to be paid for in the first place.
It's like me tossing out an old painting because I don't want it anymore, someone else saying "Hey, I could use a canvas to paint on, can I come pick it up?" "Sure, take it." They see the painting, they actually like it and decide to keep it instead.
I was getting rid of it anyway. Do whatever you want with it. I didn't paint it FOR anyone except myself and I decided to get rid of it. So long as they don't profit off of it somehow, whatever.
That sounds like an incredible hat
@@mitchellhoward3209 it was pretty cool! I need to make another one, lol. That's the only problem with my ambitious ideas is that sometimes I end up wishing I hadn't sold it! It even had teeny tiny little seats that actually rotated along with the wheel!
This is so right, I'm an artist and have had friends ask if they could have some of my old personal projects. I was never planning on profiting off them, and they would cherish them, why would I refuse? Maybe out of courtesy the OP could offer a small sum but considering he is contracted to pay the painter, as the artist I would let it go.
Besides, she's already creating a bad rep for herself and losing potential exposure... I know the whole "working for exposure" stuff isn't encouraged but in this specific circumstance I think it's not a big deal and she could have gotten some clients through this if she kept a good relationship with OP :/
Gotta pick your battles sometimes...
The issue with the 6-car AITA, it would be a little different if those people were using their garage to park their cars. But they're NOT, said in the post they packed the garage with stuff. So you have to park all your cars everywhere because you can't use the garage as intended???
The garage was packed because two cars in it, 2 more in the driveway, and 2 more on the street
@@TonTon-gb1hv I also heard it as they couldn't use the garage because it was full of stuff.
@@TonTon-gb1hv "Apparently, the new people have the garage packed so they park 2 cars in the driveway and 4 on the street."
Another issue with that post is that the OP has at a minimum 3 cars 4 max himself. A corvette, old F-150 wife's car and assuming he has a daily driver too.
@@TotesX why are you assuming he has 2 extra cars that were never mentioned?
If someone refuses to go to a wedding if there's no alcohol, they might have a drinking problem. Besides, do you really want to waste a spot on someone who is solely there to get drunk?
I’d go to the wedding, I’d just expect it not be fun
@@etc2913 sounds like you need to expand your definition of ‘fun.’
@@charliebrewster2809 snark aside, if you want to be a good host, with a party your guests will really enjoy, realize booze is expected
@@etc2913 Or maybe that just tells you that most of these events are actually boring as shayt and just a excuse to drink?
@@TheArhive imo it’s social lubricant, I’m not saying get drunk, just one beer is enough to loosen people up and facilitate a good time. And ofc you can still have fun sober
I'll never understand it, but I've known several people with upper middle class parents who had their college paid for and received money for property and present themselves as hard workers using freedom from debt and property ownership as evidence. I'm willing to put money on it, that they'd 100% be renting an apartment and have tons of loan debt just like most of us if that weren't the case.
I agree with your sentiment if people claim they are self-made and show 0 gratitude to their family's help. But having help from family and then making good decisions with that help is the dream! That's what I want to give to my children one day. When giving advice it's important to have perspective.
The issue with debt: most Americans have irresponsible debt. No matter how well off or how broke you are there is some debt that is always a bad idea. If you have a car loan, that's a bad decision. If you have student loan debt and didn't finish school, that's irresponsible debt. If you have student loan debt for a degree that won't provide adequete compensation to make up for the debt, that's irresponsible debt. If you put 0 down on an adjustable rate mortgage, that's a terrible decision.
@@K0sm1cKid I agree with most with what you said, but how is having a car loan a bad decision?
@@SilentMott the return on investment on a car is terrible.
I live in DC tho, so metro, bus, etc... all available.
@@exlordinthedude8080 even if it's not available just get a shitbox beater until you can afford better, no harm.
Weddings:
Me and my wife had a very nice wedding in the UK for nothing like $10k. The church componants amounted to around £500 and the reception venue was £1000-£2000. BBQ catering was done by the venue at about £20 per head and the DJ was £300. £650 for the photographer. We did only have 40 guests, because we have the socialising abilities of gamers, but also put £200 tab for the bar. Everyone had a lovely time and still bring up fond memories. If you are worried about having to pay tens of thousands of pounds for a wedding, you can have a very nice one if you shop around.
But BRO! The "god-tier prices" of Socal are insane!
Welcome to not living in the most predatory consumer market in the history of mankind that actively sits around all day devising new ways to manipulate your loved one's emotions against you at the most tender moments of your collective lives.
My god,the guy that has to pay the rent to her wife...i would start saving up for a divorce lawyer if I would him
imagine the outcry if a guy made his wife pay for rent, no matter what circumstance lmao
Holy crap if my neighbor didn't post the first case its a huge coincidence.
If you live in Orlando it’s probably him. Went scrolling through his page and that’s where he is.
Buy a bigger house, Logan, 6 cars is way too much
Why do you have so many cars Logan?
Nothing wrong with charging rent, the issue is when you unilaterally decide where your partner is going to live and how much he has to pay for it.
Re: the street parking incident: this gets me right in the zone because I used to have a neighbor who would park in front of our house all the time, despite the fact that they had a perfectly usable garage and empty driveway. This was low density suburban stuff, nowhere near the city, so it's not like parking was hard to find. One time we wrote a simple note saying "hey could you please park in front of your own house, thank you." The next day, we got a note on our door saying "The street's public, why do you care where I park? Never leave a note on my car again." We left it alone after that because that is obviously an unhinged response and it wasn't worth getting yelled at by a psycho lmao
I mean, at the same time...why do you care if someone parks in front of your house? I genuinely do not understand the number of people who are annoyed by this.
@@logangantner3863 There are plenty of situations where it's fine by me! If parking is scarce, you have to take what you can get. If someone's hosting a lot of people at their house, obviously the guests have to park somewhere. If for some reason you can't park in front of your own house, you just have to get as close as possible.
But if you have the option not to park in front of someone else's house, you also have to consider what that means for everyone else. In a town with curbside garbage collection, they have to put their bins around your car in a way that doesn't block their own driveway as well, which can be difficult if street space is limited. If they have to park on the street for some reason, they will have to park in front of someone else's house. In our case, we had lawn care workers coming once a week (pretty common in that neighborhood). If they can't park in front of our house, they have to either park on our driveway and block our cars in (we park in our garage) or in front of someone else's house, which means they have to move their equipment much farther to do their job. If we have even just one guest who arrives by car, now they have to park in front of someone else's house, which moves the problem to someone else. If your car breaks down, now your junker is in front of someone else's window. If it has to be towed, that'll block someone else's driveway and become their problem. If the other person has kids who want to play in the street, you can bet your own car is going to get scratched and dented eventually.
Basically you're asking other people to take on a bunch of small inconveniences because you feel like being a little weird. Totally fine if they don't mind, but if they actually ask you not to (and you have a reasonable alternative) that's when you should stop.
Aside from all that, if you have the option to park at your own place... why not do that? Why inconvenience yourself and risk annoying your neighbors at the same time? Sure, if it's not an option you do whatever you can, but our neighbor had room in her garage, on her driveway, and in front of her own house. She just decided to park in front of someone else's house instead, and be a jerk about it when we asked her not to.
@@SabertoothSeal I don't know, I feel like you are wayyyy overthinking this. Having grown up in a residential area that was just around the corner from shopping, parking has never been something that we took for granted, much less parking directly in front of our property. Even so, leaving garbage bins out has never even been something that I would factor as so much as an "inconvenience". The "someone else now has to park in front of another person's house, moving the problem" line really only works if we concede that it's really a problem to begin with.
I don't know, maybe I'm biased against people in the suburbs. It feels like 100% of interactions I've had with people who live on culs de sac are them being angry about something stupid and petty that has minimal impact on their lives. And that was exactly the impression that I got from OP in AITA, who went out of his way to reduce street parking availability for his neighbors.
Edit: I do commiserate with being annoyed at someone who is a jerk for the sake of it. But I also make a point of never trusting a person's narrative of someone who they describe as a "jerk". About half the time it ends up being them who started things on a bad foot and escalated the situation needlessly.
@@logangantner3863 You asked for my reasons, I gave them. Seems like you are indeed biased against people living in the suburbs, to use your own words. I said why it was weird in my situation, and gave plenty of room on how it wouldn't be weird in other situations. I don't see the point in arguing.
@@SabertoothSeal AITA makes me argumentative dammit!
In what universe is having a paid bar "tacky?" I've been to so many weddings with paid bars in the US.
I'm with you, but it absolutely is worse than tacky regionally and in some circles/families. It's not even really the social lubricant aspect. It's about looking poor.
@@tobyvision i wouldve never considered that. That its about looking poor.
What's more tacky, looking poor or judging people who look poor? People need to care less about people who are supposed to be loved ones if those loved ones are judging you.
@@thomasandrewclifford based
Middle-low classes feeling entitled I guess
In regards to the alcohol at the wedding, since when is not serving alcohol a "desire" while serving it is a "right"? Who the hell thinks that serving alcohol is a right? 20-year-olds in the U.S. who when they hear the word foam at the mouth for a taste because their parents are stuck in the 1920s and wouldn't allow the least bit of safe experimentation in their own home?
So do Europeans not drink alcohol at weddings...?
I've been to a handful of weddings in different parts of the US (MN, WI, and PA), and there was a pretty even mix of open bar, cash bar, and in between (open for first 2 hrs then paid, etc.). All options have always felt socially acceptable, and that an open bar is overly generous.
The one with the destination wedding- I think the poster was trying to suggest kids would come along with their families on the "vacation," but just not be invited to the actual wedding activities. So most likely it would be a several day trip, and the kids would have to occupy themselves (or parents would have to find help, etc.) for 1 evening, presumably on a resort or something with other family members they know.
Man I have to say it. Whenever I hear "it's always been our dream to have a .......wedding" I feel like 1. It's a lie most of the time 2. The partner doesnt care and just doesnt want to go against their partner and 3. That person just isnt the sort of person you want to go to the wedding of in the first place.
The sandwich in the garbage analogy is nonsensical. A sandwich is consumed, but and artwork is owned
the landlord-wife thing is maybe the worst marriage dynamic I've ever seen
The first one is even funnier when you realize that the op has an even higher car to people ratio than the neighbors. He apprently has 4 cars, maybe more, for him and his wife while they have 6 cars for 6 people.
That wedding thread was insane. I think AT MOST the weddings I've been to that have been open bar are are like half.
I think this might be my favourite thing you do, I just love hearing your takes on things
58:00 that’s a 101 on how to fail as an artist. Unless there was an agreement made beforehand that she would get paid for her work she just have to take the L and move on. If she apologised to the guy for being so rude and trying to scam him she’d be lucky if he still would recommend her to others.
No gourd can contain this much pog
I once went to a wedding that did have alcohol… but did not have food. The entire thing was around 5 hours and it was 2 hours away. I had no idea there would be no food. Everyone was starving and since no one was eating, almost everyone there was extremely drunk. AITA for thinking there has to be food at a wedding reception?
A reasonable person would expect there to be some sort of food available at a wedding, especially when the ceremony goes on for hours.
NTA
Nah food is a must.
That's really funny though
I love this series so much.
"What, do you have six cars? Get over it."
"So these people moved in and have six cars"
As a huge AITA reader, this react court era makes me so incredibly happy
bro the "wife/landlord" post is psychotic. im amazed NL just flat out didn't call them dysfunctional.
That property issue was bonkers. Why do people even get married if they're going to have a relationship like that? It's like they're planning on splitting up in the future.
I think story about the rent is written by a kindergardener and all "property" in the story is cardboard boxes irl, birthday money detail is just too much
that husband paying property tax one sounded like a classic law of trusts/equity case lol
For the first one, I like to have guests over at my house, so I feel like having the parking space out front is pretty important to me
Bro I see a house with 4 cars in front and think they’re excessive as shit
I love this series so much
The artist one is kinda touchy, since specifically the original agreement was it gets covered up, I guess, maybe it should be between he pays them OR it gets covered up, yeah. If not for that facet, they'd have no right to ask for money after the fact, but yeah not the original agreement.
The person I consider my closest friend invited me to his wedding, and it was a cash bar in the PNW. It makes sense to have people pay for their own drinks. You invited them to enjoy the event, and some food. And usually in those situations it gives you free soda or water if you want because it's dirt cheap. Alcohol on the other hand is expensive as shit, and if you're already paying to feed around 40 people.. you wind up with an interesting bill. It was nice to be able to buy him and his wife a drink though at the party.
“whaddya got like 6 cars?!”
people in post proceed to actually have 6 cars 😂
The wedding drinking story when they said canada and new zealand made me think the guy in socal was dan and he was inviting over chib and NL.
Honestly if I were the guy in the painter situation, I would get the walls painted from the contract painter because now the art has bad vibes and the painter is already paid for.
In regards to the parking one, it’s highly possible he wanted to park the truck on the street so he wouldn’t have to move a car every time he wants to drive his Corvette, while still being able to keep it in his garage.
Oh god the number of times I’ve had notes through my door asking me not to park in front of my own house when I don’t even own a car.
Parking: doesn't the OP have the possibility of inviting friends or workers, and therefore a need for at least one more available spot than they have vehicles? They specifically mention that the car wasn't moved for 3 days, which creates a possibility that the same problem could emerge when it *does* actually affect them.
But he doesn't own the street nor the side walk, so people who live in the same neighborhood should consider the possibility of him having people over twice a month and thus inconvenience themselves by parking somewhere else? Imo op is kind of a dick, he and his wife have 3 cars (statistically 0.5 more per person than the other house) and apparently he could just park in his driveway anyway? Seems he's just parking on 5he street because he has some twisted sense of ownership, even though he literally doesn't even own the spot in front of his house .
My neighbour pull this parking shit. I can't see in any direction while leaving wuth my car. It's annoying and will likely cause a crash in the future. Called the police on them last time and the got a ticket.
@@RurouniFlojo parking is based on cars per street, not cars per person, and so although a 3-car 2-person household is decidedly excessive (they should almost certainly sell one, or perhaps they've got an adolescent who's coming of age and will use it), a 6-car household causes far more problems for its immediate neighbors.
“What, do you have like 6 cars? Get over it!”
“They have 6 people with each their own car”
NL's psychoanalytic self-introspective roleplaying near the ten minute mark fucking rocks my soul.
React court bringing all the content I want.
Dude got tenant-zoned
I certainly don't go to a lot of weddings, but I've never heard the expectation in the US of having an open bar. I haven't heard a single complaint at weddings where there was a paid bar
My wife and I were married by her brother in her backgarden, planned to go to some fancy restaurant for dinner, but had to go to benihana instead cause there were tornado warnings in the town where the restaurant was. Practicly the only wedding costs were dinner and a bottle of whisky, plus like 3 Mike's Hard Lemonades
59:30 I'm pretty sure this joke is the reason NL refers to all "equal-but-absurd" splits as King Solomon situations (as opposed to only situations where the split is used to sus out true ownership)
"When two libertarians get married."
I'm dying over here. Never change Ryab!
NL saying 1 car per person is maybe too many is hilarious. “Maybe you should sell your only car so you don’t inconvenience other people”
The open bar thing is interesting to see how much people spend. My wife and I had an open bar at our wedding with a bartender. Thunk we spent around $1.5k on booze and like $100 on the bartender and said they could put up a tip jar. We wound up with several bottles of liquor left over and thats with around 120 guests.
first OP has every kind of classic car. even doubles of some of them. and he has a wife
She's very sick, though. Tell your daughter that, otherwise the other stuff isn't true.
Its like they heard about the idea of a childfree wedding on instagram and never considered the definition of the word
To be fair he denied his own families children too. It would have been one thing if he was being a hypocrite but he wasn't in this case. I do agree with Ryan though that such a clause is actually stupid if you want to have a big wedding.
Or just have a bar where people can buy drinks?
Like obviously charge like 1-1 or just less than bar prices.
Then just return what you don't sell
The wedding alcohol thing, and NL saying: "you don't want to pay for 15 shots of vodka for someone you've never met before" reminded me of this:
I went to the wedding of one of my best friends a few years ago. They had open bar, but it was like beer, wine, and cocktails, but no shots.
So at some point, my friend is dancing with her new husband, and she's like, I need a shot! So I go over to the bar, and say, hey, I know there's no shots, but the bride wants a shot, could you please just pour one? The bartender gives me a look like I'm trying to scam one for myself and tells me to f off. So I bring the bride over and I'm like, hey, she's right here, she wants a shot. Please? Bartender won't be swayed.
So then, I have what my already tipsy mind thinks is a brilliant idea. I say, ok, no shots, but could you pour her a whiskey, neat? Bartender goes sure, neat pours are fine, and gives her a friggin shot of whiskey.
So now I'm pushing my luck, and I'm like, are neat pours just ok for the bride? And the bartender gives me a shrug and says: eh, as long as you don't call it a shot. Blew my friggin gourd dood.
I've worked for a catering company that did this. The mindset is built from several factors:
-They can bill for consumption or per drink, but people who want to do shots are almost certain to do *shots* (plural) while people who prefer neat pours may actually want to savor the drink over time,
-State regulations around over-serving impose liability on the purveyor and so they want to keep people's consumption-per-hour in a reasonable range,
-Sloppy drunks are generally only fun to be around if you're one of them.
38:20 holy shite, the people in that story are about as committed to each other as a college student to their high-school job.
Small weddings are pretty case specific imo, at least where I'm from, if you don't invite someone its seen as a slight, like there were several family members that I hadn't seen in 5-10 years because my grandma or dad of whomever would have gotten upset if they weren't invited
The neighbors in the first post had triples of the nova and the barracuda
The Reddit wedding alcohol take is god-tier stupid, what if a family member was a recovering alcoholic or half of the family was Muslim or teetotaler? Oh, might as well cancel the wedding in that case.
AITA for texting my co-worker about Brian’s stupid hat after engaging in insider trading and then having it brought up at court?
And then talking about the dice he has in his pocket?
AITA for housing one of my former student's burgers?