I was that child that witnessed all the abuse and I swore I will make sure I will never be in that situation so I didn’t have kids and I don’t trust any men.. I’m trying to get some therapy now .. the scenes where she feels trapped and everything is muffled as a kid I felt that too
I was that child too. But my parents didn’t part till I was 23. It was my whole childhood. It’s taking years to make sense of decades of what I thought was just normal and acceptable.
What really upsets me is that my mom does not own up to what they put me and my brother through. Moreover she pretends it wasn’t that bad and I imagine some of those horrible things. My brother was able to build a healthy relationship in spite of the childhood trauma. I did not realize I was traumatized until I got married and could not really handle any conflict.
Generational trauma is so sad to see. I’m pregnant now and I will break the pattern. The relationships my mom had as a child helped mold the abusive relationships I had. I thought it was normal. I genuinely thought that was how love was supposed to be and I tried so hard to be loved. Three years I stayed, but I got out, I survived. This will never be my child’s story. They will know what healthy love is and know their worth. October is domestic violence awareness month. Never again.
This was such a beautiful and poignant and heartbreaking story. I related to it so much....it brought up things that I had buried... it opened my eyes to just how much abuse I endured.... until it got physical... but the rest of it... it's just as damaging! I was triggered... honestly... for the first time in my life... but I allowed it because I'm strong and I have to face this... not sweep it under the rug. That's the only way you heal... face it... see it for what it is/was.... And know that it's not your fault.... Whether it's a romantic relationship, a friendship, a familial relationship... abuse is abuse! I've suffered this in every form. On top of that I'm Bipolar...so I also resonated with the mom and how things were so many years ago before my diagnosis and treatment. My bipolar is constantly put in check by my doctors. I've been lucky. I an so grateful for this show. It actually came at a time when I'm trying to do some serious internal, deep, work on myself. This really plunged me into it head first. I started shaking... and I didn't know why. Then tears were falling.... then I was in hot and cold sweats.... because I recognized EVERYTHING.... and really saw the extent of the abuse in my life. Especially with what I just went through in my last relationship. I am not the same woman anymore. I changed... I will never be abused again.
Thank you for making this I relate to her a lot... unfortunately I did not listen to the advice of “before they bite they bark.” ... So now I can’t walk ladies and men out there... I have bipolar so I get the mood swings so I smash things near me not near my partner not ever sometimes yes I lose my cool but never towards ANYONE I am romantically or otherwise involved with... spot the difference.. You know why I think I ignored the barking... because my dad barked at my mum my whole childhood and according to her never touched her, I was used to banging things throwing and a bunch of other stuff... so I figured “why be dramatic?..” Be dramatic. I reiterate I can’t walk my life is ruined there’s a lot more you can lose in a domestic than your life.. you can lose your health too.
I'm so sorry about what you've been through. You're not alone, and you don't have to go through any of this alone. You might want to consider getting help from a professional. I'm so glad you commented there. We can always talk here. I dont know you but i love u 💘
But when you go to the abuse network and tell them you are being emotional abused and you don't "meet their criteria " I only wish their was a shelter like in this movie near me.
There are many grown women who remember exactly where there hiding spot was. Mom sometimes needed to be the rock in thier lives because the masculine part if thier world was at times terrifying.
Its triggering me. I thoughg it would not change me and I just was the same and I was still the same person, the only thing I had to do was leaving him. But it changed me, I am not the same person anymore, it is following me even he is not around me any longer. His voice is still in my head and even I am safe here in my place the horror kicks in. I have nothing to fear but still I shake when the doorbell is ringjng or when I just do nothing: all of a sudden my panic grows. I survived but I am not the same person anymore.
From the clips and shorts I've seen this is probably a brilliant show and might help me, but honestly I'm not ready to watch it yet because I think it'd be too triggering
Some wouldn't classify it as abuse. I think the best term is toxic dependency. Nate gave her everything and he kept insisting he didn't want anything back if I recall correctly. However it was clear his intentions were that if he kept doing things for her , she'd eventually have to be with him to repay all his support. Nate liked Alex and we as the audience hoped it was genuine and as a friend. However he exploited the support that was supposed to be innocent in order to corner Alex into being with him. Maybe Alex and Nate did have chemistry. I was rooting for them at some point. However now, I am proud of Alex. She recognized her values and priorities. She wanted to be independent on her terms and settle for her vision of what she wants for her and Maddy without constantly depending on others. She did this with Sean too. Where Sean was main financial support that Alex depended on. And we saw the consequences of it when she had to escape him. She didn't want to create the same narrative with another person who only saw her as a damsel in distress.
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When Maddy was hiding in the cupboard I can’t imagine how upset Alex was
fr its sad maddy had to go through what alex did
This story was so beautifully told.
I was that child that witnessed all the abuse and I swore I will make sure I will never be in that situation so I didn’t have kids and I don’t trust any men.. I’m trying to get some therapy now .. the scenes where she feels trapped and everything is muffled as a kid I felt that too
I was that child too. But my parents didn’t part till I was 23. It was my whole childhood. It’s taking years to make sense of decades of what I thought was just normal and acceptable.
What really upsets me is that my mom does not own up to what they put me and my brother through. Moreover she pretends it wasn’t that bad and I imagine some of those horrible things. My brother was able to build a healthy relationship in spite of the childhood trauma. I did not realize I was traumatized until I got married and could not really handle any conflict.
Generational trauma is so sad to see. I’m pregnant now and I will break the pattern. The relationships my mom had as a child helped mold the abusive relationships I had. I thought it was normal. I genuinely thought that was how love was supposed to be and I tried so hard to be loved. Three years I stayed, but I got out, I survived. This will never be my child’s story. They will know what healthy love is and know their worth. October is domestic violence awareness month. Never again.
You can do it! sending you lots of love and strength ❤
It gives me power to say NO for anyone who abuse me directly or indirectly by making me believe that I am not enough or not capable to handle my life
This was such a beautiful and poignant and heartbreaking story. I related to it so much....it brought up things that I had buried... it opened my eyes to just how much abuse I endured.... until it got physical... but the rest of it... it's just as damaging! I was triggered... honestly... for the first time in my life... but I allowed it because I'm strong and I have to face this... not sweep it under the rug. That's the only way you heal... face it... see it for what it is/was....
And know that it's not your fault....
Whether it's a romantic relationship, a friendship, a familial relationship... abuse is abuse! I've suffered this in every form. On top of that I'm Bipolar...so I also resonated with the mom and how things were so many years ago before my diagnosis and treatment. My bipolar is constantly put in check by my doctors. I've been lucky.
I an so grateful for this show. It actually came at a time when I'm trying to do some serious internal, deep, work on myself. This really plunged me into it head first.
I started shaking... and I didn't know why. Then tears were falling.... then I was in hot and cold sweats.... because I recognized EVERYTHING.... and really saw the extent of the abuse in my life. Especially with what I just went through in my last relationship.
I am not the same woman anymore.
I changed...
I will never be abused again.
I feel so sad seeing this because it brought me back to the memories when my dad hits my mom .
ı'm so sorry for you been through. ı hope u & ur mum is okay now loveu
I can't remember how many times I've shed a tear watching this series. So raw it hurts.
I can’t believe her father did not help her.
Also I don’t support her mother careless attitude.
Why it happens all the time.
I’ve been waiting for edit of this show thank you so much
Such a powerful video. As a child and survivor of abuse, thank you. ❤
Thank you for making this I relate to her a lot... unfortunately I did not listen to the advice of “before they bite they bark.” ...
So now I can’t walk ladies and men out there... I have bipolar so I get the mood swings so I smash things near me not near my partner not ever sometimes yes I lose my cool but never towards ANYONE I am romantically or otherwise involved with... spot the difference..
You know why I think I ignored the barking... because my dad barked at my mum my whole childhood and according to her never touched her, I was used to banging things throwing and a bunch of other stuff... so I figured “why be dramatic?..”
Be dramatic.
I reiterate I can’t walk my life is ruined there’s a lot more you can lose in a domestic than your life.. you can lose your health too.
I'm so sorry about what you've been through. You're not alone, and you don't have to go through any of this alone. You might want to consider getting help from a professional. I'm so glad you commented there. We can always talk here. I dont know you but i love u 💘
Amazing video that truly represents Alex's story.
Beautiful edit. Well done. Captured the show perfectly.
But when you go to the abuse network and tell them you are being emotional abused and you don't "meet their criteria " I only wish their was a shelter like in this movie near me.
Right it makes getting out near impossible. Sending you love
There are many grown women who remember exactly where there hiding spot was. Mom sometimes needed to be the rock in thier lives because the masculine part if thier world was at times terrifying.
Amazing show and perfect edit!
So glad Alex trying to break generational curse
❣️ you are love. Strength. Worthy.. Gods child..
The cycles always repeat themselves unless you find healing and mental health support professionals who can help you establish boundaries.
Really good edit!
Having kids is a burden, think carefully before choosing to have any kids. A man isn’t a plan
I like this show. Interesting
Its triggering me. I thoughg it would not change me and I just was the same and I was still the same person, the only thing I had to do was leaving him.
But it changed me, I am not the same person anymore, it is following me even he is not around me any longer.
His voice is still in my head and even I am safe here in my place the horror kicks in.
I have nothing to fear but still I shake when the doorbell is ringjng or when I just do nothing: all of a sudden my panic grows.
I survived but I am not the same person anymore.
How many of them still under this abuse....pls came out....
This is literally my life
And it doesn’t have to be that way, remember you are NEVER alone even if you think you are. I hope you are or have been able to get out of it
You need to get out, what he does is wrong and it’s not your fault
From the clips and shorts I've seen this is probably a brilliant show and might help me, but honestly I'm not ready to watch it yet because I think it'd be too triggering
Do you know where I can see all the episodes? I don't have Netflix
What happened to Nate?
Don’t care, he was abusive too.
@@annaletts6182how was he abusive ?? Explain
Some wouldn't classify it as abuse. I think the best term is toxic dependency. Nate gave her everything and he kept insisting he didn't want anything back if I recall correctly.
However it was clear his intentions were that if he kept doing things for her , she'd eventually have to be with him to repay all his support.
Nate liked Alex and we as the audience hoped it was genuine and as a friend. However he exploited the support that was supposed to be innocent in order to corner Alex into being with him.
Maybe Alex and Nate did have chemistry. I was rooting for them at some point. However now, I am proud of Alex. She recognized her values and priorities. She wanted to be independent on her terms and settle for her vision of what she wants for her and Maddy without constantly depending on others.
She did this with Sean too. Where Sean was main financial support that Alex depended on. And we saw the consequences of it when she had to escape him.
She didn't want to create the same narrative with another person who only saw her as a damsel in distress.
It Happens to men too