I really, really, really love We Broke Up | Storytime because it's a reminder of me and my husband dating struggles in high school. We broke up and fate brought us back together. We eventually got married too. Simply, cuteness overload your hair and make-up.
Whitney White I don't know why but I was thinking about Love and Basketball but with Love and Track lol Love you Whitney, it was so sweet of you to share this moment in your life cause we know you are a private person lol so yea I love you and Felipe together! Everytime I see you guys I just be like Awwwww! buy yea love you Whit! 😁😍😍
Is this the same lady that made a video about getting a divorce and being a cosmetologist? That video came across my page last night it looks like her but it's another channel I cant remember the name now
Idk why this popped up on my recommendations. After watching this and now they’re divorced, further justifies why I don’t give dudes a 2nd chances…. He never changed. However, Whitney is continuously elevating and I’m so happy for her success!😭🤗
I just found out yesterday that they're divorced and today U-Tube recommends this video from 5 years ago to me. You're too wrong for this u-tube, very shady.
@@ladyt4062 yea, I thinks so. There isn't a video on it that I know of. I had just finished watching her latest video (at the time I made my comment) and it was just her and the children and a new apt, and TH-cam had this video after. It was curious, and I was curious.
Wow! 3 years later... I guess the saying is true. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time"~Maya Angelou. You deserve the best mama. Stay true to you💯😇🙏
She said he knew she was always there for him... When a guy knows that you'll always be around, no matter what, he isn't going to respect you. She was his friend, but personally I wouldn't be friends with a guy that treated me rudely to begin with.
I let my 13 yr old watch this so she can see that if it's meant to be it is meant to be. You don't have to compromise your morals to keep someone. Great message!
It's a shame he couldn't stick to his own advice...but glad Whit did. It's sad people are willing to sacrifice something so special for something incomparable. Praying for full healing for Whit and her babies ❤️
Whitney! You have me in tears. I ended my two year relationship three months ago because I love him so much and he wasn't loving me. I ended it. I'm thinking about him everyday and wondering how he is doing yet I know he is not doing the same. I'm glad you shared this story because I felt confused and guilty like I shouldn't feel this way when I broke up with him. It's great that you shared this because most people think the one who breaks up is the one who doesn't love. Most people never hear this perspective and you gave me an example to share and let more people close to me know how hard it has been for me even though I ended the relationship. I know I did the right thing. Thank you!
Infinite Star I'm going through the same thing. I finally parted ways with this guy that I loved and still love but I love myself more. I refused to be a person that he thought of as an option. People always think that the person who broke up first is the one that doesn't care but honestly I think it's quite the opposite. It's harder when you do the right thing. But what I can say is helping me is refusing to cry because most likely the guy isn't losing sleep or crying over me. I encourage myself and remind myself that I'm worth it and you my dear are worth loving and having a person who will love you as much as God does.
girl, get busy. You have so much to offer, there's a perfect man out there for you, but you've got to get up, dust off your shoulders and get busy. Sky dive? Girl, get on it? Martial arts? Giiirll.... you know it? Heck, you want to travel... get on it now! Trust me, I had the opportunity to mope around, but I decided that I wasn't going to wait and get better... I knew I wasn't get better until I filled my mind with other interests. So I got on it. Now thinking about my ex I'm like.... (gurl bye) I'm SO much more now than I was then. Wiser, smarter, healthier.. richer. ayyee.
It's ok the same thing happened to me I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy who treated me very well at 1st but slowly began to treat me like second fiddle. He didn't care about my feeling and emotions and he took everything I did for him for granted! I mean I was there for him more than his own family he owned a business and I practically ran it for him (pretty dumb huh?). He made me feel ugly, second best, basically like nothing in the end my self esteem was shot! Slowly I started to come to my senses I didn't know who was I was anymore but I wasn't this girl!!!! So I left!!!!! Shortly after I met a guy a great guy who treated me the way I deserved, and guess who ass popped up? You guessed it ol' dude! I didn't want him backed he begged, still didn't budge, guess what ladies here he come with the rock in hand doing what I dreamed he would proposing but it was too late I fell for the other guy and I'm now married to the man of my dreams who has always treated me like a queen
Listening to your update story of your divorce and watching this video now...Whitney you are so right with taking your videos down because this was cringe to listen to. He showed you who he was in the beginning. I noticed in the video you kept saying that he was so full of himself. But everything happens for a reason.
Beautiful Video!!!♥ Me and my ex broke up recently because he was moving on from me. I felt like he was not cherishing me (seeing my worth) and it made me feel sad because I cared for him so much; additionally, I felt like I was putting in more effort with upholding my values and morals. He started seeking advice and listening to his friends about what we should be doing in our relationship, and it made us grow further apart. This video was a prayer answered, just seeing a strong woman I really look up to on TH-cam, who doesn't even know me, Speak Truth. If you read this Whitney I am still moving on from him, it still stings. But I am just staying focused on God and my classes. So thank you Whitney, and I definitely think you two should do more Story Time Videos!
I’m sorry Whitney. You are an amazing women who has helped me since I was in middle school. You probably won’t see this but We love you and everything will be okay ❤️
First time seeing this. It's funny how youtube is only showing me this now that persons are talking about Whitney. But when it came out in 2017 I never saw it. smh. This algorithm yes.
I don't usually comment, but beautiful story and beautiful lesson. I've been a lurker for years, Whitney. The more that you open up to your viewers, the more great life/relationship lessons have been taught. Keep it up!
I LOVE everything about this story time. You didn't bash him, you didn't talk bad about him. You have such great advice to young girls and even girls your age that you don't need to compromise your morals to keep or get your guy ! Such a dope message. Your terms your way but it worked. And it was respectful and it shows the growth that you both went through. That's why I love you guys. You can see the love and growth you guys went through and now even more growth since you started TH-cam. So proud of you for sticking up for your morals.
Whit I love you girl! I relate to you so much, I feel like I'm your mini-me lol. I'm currently a senior. Wish I had a "Felipe" lol it's hard out here for an old school girl with standards! High school boys and relationships these days are really dumb/crazy.
Pay attention to what she said, when she got to college she was like, "Hello :)" because she met and dated others that he was no longer her focus. Things now as a high school senior may seem strenuous, but when you get to college, you will meet all kinds of fine men that you're gonna look at the guys in high school like, "who are you?"LOL
You look beautiful!! I love you and Felipe and This story had such an important message! I love that at 16 you had the presence of mind to realize your worth. 💕 great video!!
I appreciate your openness. I have shared your video with my 19 and 15 year old because I love that you did not compromise your morals for a relationship. When you are true to yourself, what belongs to you, comes to you in my opinion.
We need more strong women like you. “Look out for yourself “. I feel like our generation hasn’t grown out of that phase of “what are they gonna think?” and into the phase of “what is going to make ME happy?” At the end of the day, we gotta live our lives and no one can fix anything outside of ourselves.
thanks for sharing☺ i dated a guy my freshmen year in college. Even though he was nice, we were complete opposites and he was pressuring me to have sex. As a 18/19year old it wasnt gonna happen. i knew my self worth so, i broke up with him and so glad i did... a year later i started dating my then boyfriend. we dated for a yr then he broke up with me cause he wasnt ready for a full committment. it tore me up but i knew i wasnt gonna chase him down. Then one day he calls me, asked to meet, we talked, he apologized, etc asked if we could get back together. we did, got engaged a few mths later and got married at the end of that year. that was over 15 years ago and we are still together☺...a good man will come to his senses and get his lady a boy keeps playing games.
@Licinda Stevens I totally agree with you, but statistically, more relationships break down after marriage then with two people who decide to stay together in a long term relationship (with no rings)
3 years after this video was uploaded, it still resonates with me, especially as a young woman in her early 20s. I just got out of a 3 1/2 year relationship with someone who is incredibly toxic and while it was a hard and confusing step to take, I’m so proud of myself for doing it. Like you said in the video, I 👏🏾 loved 👏🏾 my 👏🏾 self 👏🏾 more
Wow I never seen this before. Didnt even know this channel existed. Interesting to watch this video now. Thanks youtube for showing it in the recommend section but weird though to pop up.
I love your comment about working on our self-esteem. How we perceive ourselves is very important. I have a woman ask me how did I get my man. As if I was lucky to have him. I immediately said to her, "you mean how did he get me?" We need to think more highly of ourselves. Women are the good thing, not the opposite.
Woooooww it’s interesting how parallel this is to what happened recently. It made me think about my old high school to early 20s relationship and how similar this is to what I experienced. It’s still hard for me to shake it even now in my mid 20s but this made me realize even more now that I have to.
That's great that you recognized the relationship wasn't what you wanted ESPECIALLY AT 16! I tell the teen girls I use to work with that all the time. Stand your ground and know you are so valuable❤❤
You two were my first TH-cam couple. I used to say that I wanted a funny caring husband like him when I grow up lol. Here I am now- grown - got married - divorced and dealing with the hand that life deals us sometimes when we think we know a person . I’m so, so, so proud of what you’ve become and what you’ve accomplished, Whit. You made something out of this TH-cam shit..I see you in Ulta for Christ sake. Lol. Ex hubb dropped the ball when he didn’t realize and cherish the strong and capable woman that you are. Men are notoriously stupid so it was expected lol I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s not still stalking and sniffing around in one way or another
Whitney your amazing and very wise, your parents instill in you what lots of young ladies don't have today. You knew your worth and values long before you left your parents home. GOD bless your parents for such a wise woman that you are. Oya is such a bless child she will know her worth long before she leave home. Thanks for sharing.
Why this popped up on recommended page, idk but I have been recently thinking that they must have split. If that's true, saddened to hear that but hope whatever happened you and your kids and him are happy. 💙
@@JennyClaire789 it's been reported she filed for divorce. Is that a lie going around now? UPDATE: I just watched her IG story, from her on words, they are not together.
@@celesterae2154 At the time of reading the post I assumed others mistook the video of breaking up in marriage instead of what the video said as bf/gf. That why I responded the way I did. I usually don't feed into social media spreading things if it was for trends. I just now found out with very few valid resources that clarified they are no longer together which I did not know. So now I know they are no longer together. That's what I get for not being in social networks as much lol
@@JennyClaire789 I didn't know either so that's why I asked my initial question to you and then thought to myself, "Ummm, research for yourself". I was also surprised as I'm not into people's lives like that either. It is a sad thing to learn, but hope everyone is adjusting well. It's not an easy decision to make.
awesome. ..I grew up around my hubby also , we were friends before we seen each other as someone to spend the rest of our life with....thanks for your story being friends 1st helps alot
Miss Raquel I know right. All these commentators talking about how scared they were based off the title. 1. It says story time duh. 2. I have no doubt that these two will fight to the death for their marriage.
I love that Flippe popped in and confirmed everything you said. And his advice for men is perfect. They should be mindful before they mistreat women that they could become fathers of daughters and treat women the way they would men to treat their daughters.
Whitney, you have always been strong. I am TWENTY-EIGHT years old and your words of " I didn't want to be with someone who wasn't putting the same effort as me" (and you were a teenager) hit me SO hard. Personally going through it. Thank you
I hate how everyone makes generalizations about relationships from one scenario. All these hurt women talking about men don't change, interracial relationships don't work. Chile please. Just because you see some examples that fit your narrative doesn't mean it has to be YOUR story. For a relationship to work, BOTH PEOPLE have to want it to work and put in the work. It seems like Felipe didn't want to do the work and maybe they grew apart. He was hella wrong for cheating but don't get bitter towards all men because you are focusing on the examples of relationships that didn't work. You'll block your blessing. Anyway, I pray Whitney heals.
She worked while he got his degree. Then he went and did whatever he did. She held the whole family to let him achieve his goals. If he wanted to be done he had no reason to stay.
Thanks for posting this story, Whitney. I broke up with a guy I've been dating for 4 months a few days ago. I wanted to be with him so much, but deep down inside I knew it wasn't right and I deserve better. I wanted more and he couldn't or wouldn't give that to me.
w leonard Thanks love. I fell for the companionship and the conversation. My favorite part about that person was talking with them and spending time with them. They weren't in the position to give me what I wanted.
TH-cam is being messy boots I see... I commented on this vid 5 yrs ago saying how startling the title was (I think this was around the time where there was HUGE TH-cam drama going on). Watching this back now hits really different, knowing everything Whitney went through. I'm glad she is on the path of success and self-fulfillment and has cut off the toxic part of her. She should be so very very proud. And to all the new commentors laughing that the video and 5 yr old comments "aged poorly", yes, we get it, we couldn't see into the future. Maybe come up with a more original joke.
It took me until now to realize the blog channel hasn't been updated and this fool isn't on her Instagram. I'm glad she's healing but damn this is an eye opener. Like I bet she looks back on this and is like ooofff.
I'm always concerned when people have been together since high school and have never broken up. I don't think many realize how much is in store for them after they graduate high school. It's great that the two of you broke up and eventually got back together. During that break up, you were able to experience life, date some and learn who you are. You both grew and evolved. You were able to rejoin one another with more maturity and have a much stronger union as a matrimonial team. That is wonderful.
It took like 10 or more years of marriage for them to materialize (for the flags to be true), so I'm not sure what that says. It doesn't seem like she ignored any issues in their marriage, she tried to communicate with him and he wouldn't say anything to her. He refused to make things work so Whitney moved on. I'm proud of her but it's so unfortunate seeing Black women go through this constantly.
@@nonalolagirl thank you 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 perfectly said. People need to stop victim blaming Black women for being emotionally abused in relationships. She tried her best to communicate and he wanted to be trash to her and abuse her loyalty.
He was young so naturally you'd think teenagers grow out of this behavior. He even admitted his wrongdoing showing growth. But he unfortunately did not outgrow this which I'm sure blindsided Whitney
Damn this was only 3 years ago and said all that with sincerity and just had another child too! NARC at his finest smh karma train is coning for you boy. Whitney is BLESSED MUTHA QUEEN 👑
Thank you for this story, it's important for young girls to understand that it's ok not follow what everyone is doing. My daughter watched with me and it opened up a conversation on the subject, she's only 9 but Im guessing now is a good time to start those types of talks❤you have a beautiful family you two!
Thank you Whitney, truly, thank you! Getting back on track to finding myself! I'm 26 & proudly holding on to my virginity, always been that "goody too shoes" that holds my morals & beliefs high & I don't regret a moment of it! All you young ladies & men, hold yourself high & understand your worth 🙏🏽
I had a dream in 2008 and in the dream a lady said to me, “Ladies be careful who you pick as a boyfriend be careful who you choose as a mate.” This dream from the Lord was a sharp warning to me...so keep on holding on to your MORALS and you will see the benefits and rewards of waiting.
Im glad i watched this video. Im a sophomore in high school right now and is constantly questioning myself because of everything that's happening around me. This video really gave me the answers that i needed ❤️ great video!
You had me at that "okay" around 8 minutes in 🤣. Too real. Thanks for sharing. It's very interesting to see the similarities between your high school experience and my life right now. Putting yourself first is a must!
You are awesome! This is going to help so many people no matter what age and stage one is in their relationship. I have been following you for a long time and yes this is definitely a proud past moment! Love this and so agree! Know your worth!
I love this Whitney! It's so important that us as women stand firm in our feelings and boundaries. I feel like society expects women to always compromise, but it's important that we don't compromise our self worth
This is THE video. Great message, hopefully many boys and girls, men and women get to see this video. Can I just send this directly to a specific person??😂
Hard to watch cos just like many other people commented, in hindsight, a bunch of red flags were missed. Unfortunately many women make the mistake of going back to their exes for one reason or the other. If you break up, just walk away, don’t be their friend, don’t be the confidant, or therapist, don’t be there for them. Moooove on!!! It never ends well. Hopefully many people learn from her mistakes. Fine she broke up with him and is proud of that in this video but unfortunately she still hung around hoping he’ll “grow up” or come back to his senses. He realized she’d be there no matter what so he came back to her. Don’t ever allow yourself be the second or third choice. Thing’s probably didn’t work out at the time with some other person so he realized he still had her. Sad to hear his hypocrisy. I wish her the best and hopefully she never goes back to him for any reason. Most of all, make God the center of your marriage and don’t marry for looks. It never lasts if you do. God bless.
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!!!!!! More girls need to hear this please! Ladies please know your worth, know your value. You are NOT meant to be a hormonal high school boys 'experiment or college or whatever'. Your HS romance is NOT the end of the world. The world is so much bigger and there is just so much more out there to enrich your life, to build you up unlike the HS romance that might be tearing you down or that has you in tears and emotional pain. It aint that deep chile, let it go, you are worth much more than that ok.
I love your story I just sent it to my two daughters ..who also are keeping thier selves for marriage. . ones 22 yrs and the other 19 .I think it's good testimony for young girls. just to let you know you are the first person I ever respond to . I'm not really in social media don't even have a Facebook or anything but snapchat. lol .. That how much I love your story .well God Bless you.
It was so great hearing Filipe basically reiterate everything you said throughout the video. You can tell that he did a lot of growing and reflecting after losing you the first time and it's made him a better partner. But it also shows how right your advice is, for both men and women who are dating. Knowing your self-worth is so important when it comes to all relationships, from dating to friends to coworkers. Also loved the end when Filipe talked about Olivia finding a person, and not necessarily a boy! You both are such supportive and great parents. I'm happy Olivia has two people she can always depend on.
This video coming up now confirms that this guy just isn’t a good person overall. Ladies, never ever think you can change a young boy into a young man.
Why'd you capitalize lady? Are you emphasizing her gender to further your point that she deserves a level of respect? You don't have to be a lady to deserve respect. Matter of fact you don't even have to be human. ALL living things deserve respect. And plus, she was complimenting her. It may not have been in a way you deem acceptable, but that's just how some people talk. Leave her be
what is in the water?.... I was like how come we are braking up? My husband of 14 yrs wanted to leave, however, because we kept talking, hope has returned for me. I (even thou married) Had to demand respect and other things. I withheld my body, emotion, and care from him. had to get his attention. everyone was making feel like I was in the wrong. I was at my wits end. I had tried talking, I even wrote him a letter, pouring my heart out. it was very rough, I was so numb. I felt traped in a loveless marriage. He really did not want to depart and he is really trying, he is beginning to really hear my cry, out to him, we're trying. I'm feeling hopefull. "Time will tell if this love will last forever " Thanks Patty LaBelle. Nap...Thank you for share the storm you have gone through. So glad your title is pasted tense and not present.
So why did I think this was her talking about why they got a divorce😂🤣😂TH-cam plays too much🤦🏾♀️I was like well dang time goes fast they separated 3 yrs ago🙄
Excellent Whitney and Phillipe! Great job sticking to your morals Whit and for teaching young men and ladies how they should conduct themselves. Livvy is a blessed little girl with parents like you both.
This takes me back to middle school and early high school. I use to rate my day by how much attention I got from boys or who spoke to me that day. I use to start my day so happy hoping one of the guys I liked would talk to me and if they didn't I was depressed and in my mind, it was a bad day. It was hard watching other girls get attention and feeling like the unwanted disgusting girl. I remember the highlight of my day was the time I spent waiting for the bus at the bus stop or the walk home from the bus stop after school because of the guys at my bus stop. I had such a hard time as a fat girl, it was so ruff for me. I hated my life then. But in high school, I leveled up and realized these boys ain't all that. I wish I knew more about self-love and value.
My husband and I dated in college, where we met. We broke up, still undergrads. Years later, we "rediscovered" each other. Never of us thought we'd ever be together again. We fell back in love. We've been married for 21 years now.
I love this story. You're a good example for these women who do not have self respect or self worth. Never dull down your morals for some guy. If he really cares about you, he will respect you and if he doesn't someone else will appreciate you.
There is a famous quote that says: If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s yours; if it doesn’t, it wasn’t. If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were. I am so glad you both are together. Here is to growing old together. Thanks for sharing your story.
Whitney, I truly appreciate you sharing this video with us as so many young girls/women need to hear this. We don't realize how many women have low self-esteem and feel that they need to be around men who degrade them, make them feel bad, etc. So this is truly appreciated. Letting women know that they are "worth" so much is so important, and they need to hear it all the time.
Yeah, so.. "We Broke Up" 💯 Full storytime here on my 3rd channel, WhitneyWhiteOfficial Xo! ❤️
Every young woman should see this ! Very good advice.
absolutely LOVE the message in this video! I truly adore you, Whitney. you are goals.
Someone probably already asked, but what lipstick are you wearing? 🙏
I really, really, really love We Broke Up | Storytime because it's a reminder of me and my husband dating struggles in high school. We broke up and fate brought us back together. We eventually got married too. Simply, cuteness overload your hair and make-up.
Whitney White I don't know why but I was thinking about Love and Basketball but with Love and Track lol Love you Whitney, it was so sweet of you to share this moment in your life cause we know you are a private person lol so yea I love you and Felipe together! Everytime I see you guys I just be like Awwwww! buy yea love you Whit! 😁😍😍
TH-cam it's been 5 years why are you bringing this up on my feed
Exactly TH-cam is so messy 😂
Cause it knew their divorce was coming!!
@@PhillAccio The algorithm is a gossip.
My thoughts exactly
Is this the same lady that made a video about getting a divorce and being a cosmetologist? That video came across my page last night it looks like her but it's another channel I cant remember the name now
Idk why this popped up on my recommendations. After watching this and now they’re divorced, further justifies why I don’t give dudes a 2nd chances…. He never changed. However, Whitney is continuously elevating and I’m so happy for her success!😭🤗
RIGHT! It just popped up in my feed. Lol
Me, too! Now, I'm mad all over again. So glad she's free!! Go, Whitney, goooo!!
So we all had this randomly pop up but yes I totally agree couldn’t put this into better words myself.
@@Sheisdifferent Yes! It's weird lol
Right? I dunno if youtube is petty or informative. I’m excited to see Whitney take off with her growing successes.
In 2023.... He's still stupid. Glad that she's happy & in a different space.
Exactly
TH-cam is trifling for suggesting this.
lol right
Ikr…😮😢😡
I just found out yesterday that they're divorced and today U-Tube recommends this video from 5 years ago to me. You're too wrong for this u-tube, very shady.
TH-cam is so messy for recommending this...
Why what happened im clueless?
@@kaytee789 apparently they got divorced. I saw the latest video and didnt know. Then I saw this video on the side...
@@joannajohn7298 I thought they divorced, but I haven’t seen the video.
@@ladyt4062 yea, I thinks so. There isn't a video on it that I know of. I had just finished watching her latest video (at the time I made my comment) and it was just her and the children and a new apt, and TH-cam had this video after. It was curious, and I was curious.
Right after all this time😂😂😂
Wow! 3 years later... I guess the saying is true. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time"~Maya Angelou. You deserve the best mama. Stay true to you💯😇🙏
Back then, you had to watch him date other people. Now, he has to watch you all up on the tv, building an empire. Queen moves 👑
Yas
This!
Oop👀
This video hits different now, I’m wishing happiness for her.
I know right. That 20/20 hindsight...
"I loved him but I loved myself more" this is a really great advice to give to young girls 👌🏽thank you !!
"...but I just loved myself more, I suppose..." - Preach Whitney!!! The it's supposed to be!
*The way it's supposed to be!
She said he knew she was always there for him... When a guy knows that you'll always be around, no matter what, he isn't going to respect you. She was his friend, but personally I wouldn't be friends with a guy that treated me rudely to begin with.
Sooooooooooooooooooooooo truuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuue. You should have more likes dude
Yep. Red flags all in that story but hindsight is 20/20. I pray she continues to rise beautifully 💕
*TH-cam* is wicked! Never knew you had this channel and for them to put in my *recommendations* after your *divorce* is so awkward 🤦🏽♀️
Right. Same here 🙄
Ditto! & I've been tryna figure out what happened between them and then this pops up from 4 years ago. smh
Yep, it just popped up for me today.
Same here!
Exactly like what the hell
I let my 13 yr old watch this so she can see that if it's meant to be it is meant to be. You don't have to compromise your morals to keep someone. Great message!
"You have to look out for yourself." I say this to single women all the time. Great video Whitney!
w leonard Calm down. Just because she says that to single women doesn't mean it doesn't apply to all women
It's a shame he couldn't stick to his own advice...but glad Whit did. It's sad people are willing to sacrifice something so special for something incomparable. Praying for full healing for Whit and her babies ❤️
Whitney! You have me in tears. I ended my two year relationship three months ago because I love him so much and he wasn't loving me. I ended it. I'm thinking about him everyday and wondering how he is doing yet I know he is not doing the same. I'm glad you shared this story because I felt confused and guilty like I shouldn't feel this way when I broke up with him. It's great that you shared this because most people think the one who breaks up is the one who doesn't love. Most people never hear this perspective and you gave me an example to share and let more people close to me know how hard it has been for me even though I ended the relationship. I know I did the right thing. Thank you!
Infinite Star stay strong
Infinite Star
Infinite Star I'm going through the same thing. I finally parted ways with this guy that I loved and still love but I love myself more. I refused to be a person that he thought of as an option. People always think that the person who broke up first is the one that doesn't care but honestly I think it's quite the opposite. It's harder when you do the right thing. But what I can say is helping me is refusing to cry because most likely the guy isn't losing sleep or crying over me. I encourage myself and remind myself that I'm worth it and you my dear are worth loving and having a person who will love you as much as God does.
girl, get busy. You have so much to offer, there's a perfect man out there for you, but you've got to get up, dust off your shoulders and get busy. Sky dive? Girl, get on it? Martial arts? Giiirll.... you know it? Heck, you want to travel... get on it now! Trust me, I had the opportunity to mope around, but I decided that I wasn't going to wait and get better... I knew I wasn't get better until I filled my mind with other interests. So I got on it. Now thinking about my ex I'm like.... (gurl bye) I'm SO much more now than I was then. Wiser, smarter, healthier.. richer. ayyee.
It's ok the same thing happened to me I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy who treated me very well at 1st but slowly began to treat me like second fiddle. He didn't care about my feeling and emotions and he took everything I did for him for granted! I mean I was there for him more than his own family he owned a business and I practically ran it for him (pretty dumb huh?). He made me feel ugly, second best, basically like nothing in the end my self esteem was shot! Slowly I started to come to my senses I didn't know who was I was anymore but I wasn't this girl!!!! So I left!!!!! Shortly after I met a guy a great guy who treated me the way I deserved, and guess who ass popped up? You guessed it ol' dude! I didn't want him backed he begged, still didn't budge, guess what ladies here he come with the rock in hand doing what I dreamed he would proposing but it was too late I fell for the other guy and I'm now married to the man of my dreams who has always treated me like a queen
"Not everyone has to be bad."
THANK YOU for saying that.
Love this post! Little young girls (heck grown women) take notes! Do YOU first!
Listening to your update story of your divorce and watching this video now...Whitney you are so right with taking your videos down because this was cringe to listen to. He showed you who he was in the beginning. I noticed in the video you kept saying that he was so full of himself. But everything happens for a reason.
I noticed that as well. Sadly, seems a lot of red flags were missed. But she got some beautiful babies out of it and I’m glad she’s happy now.
Beautiful Video!!!♥
Me and my ex broke up recently because he was moving on from me. I felt like he was not cherishing me (seeing my worth) and it made me feel sad because I cared for him so much; additionally, I felt like I was putting in more effort with upholding my values and morals. He started seeking advice and listening to his friends about what we should be doing in our relationship, and it made us grow further apart. This video was a prayer answered, just seeing a strong woman I really look up to on TH-cam, who doesn't even know me, Speak Truth.
If you read this Whitney I am still moving on from him, it still stings. But I am just staying focused on God and my classes. So thank you Whitney, and I definitely think you two should do more Story Time Videos!
Joy Thompson Awww don't worry you'll find someone better
"I just wanna know" --Black woman proverb
baby andromedan 😄
I’m sorry Whitney. You are an amazing women who has helped me since I was in middle school. You probably won’t see this but We love you and everything will be okay ❤️
First time seeing this. It's funny how youtube is only showing me this now that persons are talking about Whitney. But when it came out in 2017 I never saw it. smh. This algorithm yes.
I don't usually comment, but beautiful story and beautiful lesson. I've been a lurker for years, Whitney. The more that you open up to your viewers, the more great life/relationship lessons have been taught. Keep it up!
I LOVE everything about this story time. You didn't bash him, you didn't talk bad about him. You have such great advice to young girls and even girls your age that you don't need to compromise your morals to keep or get your guy ! Such a dope message. Your terms your way but it worked. And it was respectful and it shows the growth that you both went through. That's why I love you guys. You can see the love and growth you guys went through and now even more growth since you started TH-cam. So proud of you for sticking up for your morals.
Whit I love you girl! I relate to you so much, I feel like I'm your mini-me lol. I'm currently a senior. Wish I had a "Felipe" lol it's hard out here for an old school girl with standards! High school boys and relationships these days are really dumb/crazy.
xogulxo2 Having standards means you have self-respect. Keep it up gurl ✌💕
Pay attention to what she said, when she got to college she was like, "Hello :)" because she met and dated others that he was no longer her focus. Things now as a high school senior may seem strenuous, but when you get to college, you will meet all kinds of fine men that you're gonna look at the guys in high school like, "who are you?"LOL
Jeannette Marie Girl, I saw your reply to another comment, i needed your wise advices to get my life together. Thank you
xogulxo2 I'M SAYIN!
You're not missing out on anything but STDs, teenage pregnancy and drama lol. Wait for your husband.
You look beautiful!! I love you and Felipe and
This story had such an important message! I love that at 16 you had the presence of mind to realize your worth. 💕 great video!!
I guess now he’s is going to be the player he always wanted to be.
"When he needed me I was there for him" story of every females life!
Oh, so Whitney was the original "bye Filipe" 😂
That was a great story with awesome advice for young girls and boys. ❤️
I appreciate your openness. I have shared your video with my 19 and 15 year old because I love that you did not compromise your morals for a relationship. When you are true to yourself, what belongs to you, comes to you in my opinion.
Past behavior is an indicator (not a guarantee) of future behavior. Move accordingly,
I want to see high school pics now lol
sib what's her insta, I hafta see
Dayla Renee' 9
Dayla Renee' right give it up we wanna see!
they have pics in an old video
Chiamaka , thanks for the link info. your right.
I just finished watching her latest post..Why TH-cam be doing that?? 🥴🥴
...he seems 💁🏽♂️
My blood pressure did NOT appreciate this title!! With all the drama channels popping up on my timeline, I just got really really scared😓
pajamagirl123 😂😂😂she raised all our blood pressure
pajamagirl123 Can you imagine Whitney being like "omgosh guys like I literally HATE drama but this what happened" 😂😂😭😭
pajamagirl123 girl mine did not to lool
Me too!
Well now they're divorce, he cheated.
We need more strong women like you. “Look out for yourself “. I feel like our generation hasn’t grown out of that phase of “what are they gonna think?” and into the phase of “what is going to make ME happy?” At the end of the day, we gotta live our lives and no one can fix anything outside of ourselves.
Had to run to the comments before even watching....glad to know I had a heart attack for nothing 😂😂😂
Girl..... y'all better stop playin. Had me in the Chic firing up my hoopty! Bean town bound, to slap some sense into the both of you. LOL!
lmao
Taylor For real... I was chanting 'no way, no way, no way' as I scrolled down to comments. 😂😂😂
Taylor 🤣🤣
Taylor okay !!!! 😂😂😂
thanks for sharing☺ i dated a guy my freshmen year in college. Even though he was nice, we were complete opposites and he was pressuring me to have sex. As a 18/19year old it wasnt gonna happen. i knew my self worth so, i broke up with him and so glad i did... a year later i started dating my then boyfriend. we dated for a yr then he broke up with me cause he wasnt ready for a full committment. it tore me up but i knew i wasnt gonna chase him down. Then one day he calls me, asked to meet, we talked, he apologized, etc asked if we could get back together. we did, got engaged a few mths later and got married at the end of that year. that was over 15 years ago and we are still together☺...a good man will come to his senses and get his lady a boy keeps playing games.
Wow I love your story.
Wow. Men do not change.
@Buddy Darius She never men were horrible. She said men dont change
Nope, they sure don’t. That’s why I don’t ever buy when ppl try to say marriage will change you for the better.
@@rtoriq & thats why I no longer believe in monogamy lol
@Licinda Stevens I totally agree with you, but statistically, more relationships break down after marriage then with two people who decide to stay together in a long term relationship (with no rings)
For better or worse nobody talks about the worse
3 years after this video was uploaded, it still resonates with me, especially as a young woman in her early 20s. I just got out of a 3 1/2 year relationship with someone who is incredibly toxic and while it was a hard and confusing step to take, I’m so proud of myself for doing it. Like you said in the video, I 👏🏾 loved 👏🏾 my 👏🏾 self 👏🏾 more
Wow I never seen this before. Didnt even know this channel existed. Interesting to watch this video now. Thanks youtube for showing it in the recommend section but weird though to pop up.
Excellent!!! You are so right we as women need to know our worth...regardless of age. Thank you Whitney and Felipe. Much Love and Blessings!
It’s crazy how men can get on TH-cam talk all this bullshit and still embarrass you by cheating.
Where’s the proof
Em ykw I don’t know but it’s been a thing that naptural85 and him divorced because he cheated
@17:36 hit so different now.... He sold himself out on that advice phewwwwww. BE FREE WHITNEY!
I love your comment about working on our self-esteem. How we perceive ourselves is very important. I have a woman ask me how did I get my man. As if I was lucky to have him. I immediately said to her, "you mean how did he get me?" We need to think more highly of ourselves. Women are the good thing, not the opposite.
Woooooww it’s interesting how parallel this is to what happened recently. It made me think about my old high school to early 20s relationship and how similar this is to what I experienced. It’s still hard for me to shake it even now in my mid 20s but this made me realize even more now that I have to.
That's great that you recognized the relationship wasn't what you wanted ESPECIALLY AT 16! I tell the teen girls I use to work with that all the time. Stand your ground and know you are so valuable❤❤
You two were my first TH-cam couple. I used to say that I wanted a funny caring husband like him when I grow up lol. Here I am now- grown - got married - divorced and dealing with the hand that life deals us sometimes when we think we know a person . I’m so, so, so proud of what you’ve become and what you’ve accomplished, Whit. You made something out of this TH-cam shit..I see you in Ulta for Christ sake. Lol. Ex hubb dropped the ball when he didn’t realize and cherish the strong and capable woman that you are. Men are notoriously stupid so it was expected lol I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s not still stalking and sniffing around in one way or another
Girl I remember AOL messenger, lol, we are not old. That neck roll though, that's so me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Love this video, very positive message.
Yes! Same here. lol
Kat Natural I remember that and I'm 19 😂
Whitney your amazing and very wise, your parents instill in you what lots of young ladies don't have today. You knew your worth and values long before you left your parents home. GOD bless your parents for such a wise woman that you are. Oya is such a bless child she will know her worth long before she leave home. Thanks for sharing.
Why this popped up on recommended page, idk but I have been recently thinking that they must have split. If that's true, saddened to hear that but hope whatever happened you and your kids and him are happy. 💙
I don’t usually keep up with peoples business, but I honestly thought the same because the vlogs stopped. Only hair footage. I wish them the best 💜
Yes she confirmed it on Instagram
The puff, the makeup, everything is so gorgeous I almost couldn't focus, but thx 4 sharing ur story!
I'm here in 2020. Sorry to hear about your divorce. God bless you and your children.
They broke up when they were boyfriend and girlfriend. They are not divorced lol
@@JennyClaire789 it's been reported she filed for divorce. Is that a lie going around now? UPDATE: I just watched her IG story, from her on words, they are not together.
@@celesterae2154 At the time of reading the post I assumed others mistook the video of breaking up in marriage instead of what the video said as bf/gf. That why I responded the way I did. I usually don't feed into social media spreading things if it was for trends. I just now found out with very few valid resources that clarified they are no longer together which I did not know. So now I know they are no longer together. That's what I get for not being in social networks as much lol
@@JennyClaire789 I didn't know either so that's why I asked my initial question to you and then thought to myself, "Ummm, research for yourself". I was also surprised as I'm not into people's lives like that either. It is a sad thing to learn, but hope everyone is adjusting well. It's not an easy decision to make.
What??? Am here in 2021 I did not know they are divorce. I have been following Witt for so long
awesome. ..I grew up around my hubby also , we were friends before we seen each other as someone to spend the rest of our life with....thanks for your story being friends 1st helps alot
I love that I didn't even remotely question the title of this story because your marriage is SOLID ;-D
Miss Raquel I know right. All these commentators talking about how scared they were based off the title. 1. It says story time duh. 2. I have no doubt that these two will fight to the death for their marriage.
Miss Raquel yes!! same
Right ! I knew this had to be a story time !
That's exactly what I said. I'm like if this isn't no click bait I don't know what is. Lol
I'm like Whitney and Felipe? Please lol
Miss Raquel same lol
"LOVE AND TRACK" 😂😂😂
vpires do i get it ☺
vpires do My thoughts exactly..
lol I was thinking of that movie
I love that Flippe popped in and confirmed everything you said. And his advice for men is perfect. They should be mindful before they mistreat women that they could become fathers of daughters and treat women the way they would men to treat their daughters.
Whitney, you have always been strong. I am TWENTY-EIGHT years old and your words of " I didn't want to be with someone who wasn't putting the same effort as me" (and you were a teenager) hit me SO hard. Personally going through it. Thank you
I hate how everyone makes generalizations about relationships from one scenario. All these hurt women talking about men don't change, interracial relationships don't work. Chile please. Just because you see some examples that fit your narrative doesn't mean it has to be YOUR story.
For a relationship to work, BOTH PEOPLE have to want it to work and put in the work. It seems like Felipe didn't want to do the work and maybe they grew apart. He was hella wrong for cheating but don't get bitter towards all men because you are focusing on the examples of relationships that didn't work. You'll block your blessing.
Anyway, I pray Whitney heals.
Prayers for healing on those babies too. Shucks this sucks.
She worked while he got his degree. Then he went and did whatever he did. She held the whole family to let him achieve his goals. If he wanted to be done he had no reason to stay.
Well stated.
I appreciate this comment.
Thanks for posting this story, Whitney. I broke up with a guy I've been dating for 4 months a few days ago. I wanted to be with him so much, but deep down inside I knew it wasn't right and I deserve better. I wanted more and he couldn't or wouldn't give that to me.
w leonard Thanks love. I fell for the companionship and the conversation. My favorite part about that person was talking with them and spending time with them. They weren't in the position to give me what I wanted.
TH-cam is being messy boots I see...
I commented on this vid 5 yrs ago saying how startling the title was (I think this was around the time where there was HUGE TH-cam drama going on). Watching this back now hits really different, knowing everything Whitney went through. I'm glad she is on the path of success and self-fulfillment and has cut off the toxic part of her. She should be so very very proud. And to all the new commentors laughing that the video and 5 yr old comments "aged poorly", yes, we get it, we couldn't see into the future. Maybe come up with a more original joke.
It took me until now to realize the blog channel hasn't been updated and this fool isn't on her Instagram.
I'm glad she's healing but damn this is an eye opener. Like I bet she looks back on this and is like ooofff.
Right!
Exactly
Came fishing for something like this after seeing you cut your hair. Proud that you were that girl! Many women today still need to hear this message
I'm always concerned when people have been together since high school and have never broken up. I don't think many realize how much is in store for them after they graduate high school. It's great that the two of you broke up and eventually got back together. During that break up, you were able to experience life, date some and learn who you are. You both grew and evolved. You were able to rejoin one another with more maturity and have a much stronger union as a matrimonial team. That is wonderful.
So there were red flags from the beginning... Now I'm not surprised with what he's done lately. That's why you don't ignore red flags. 🚩
It took like 10 or more years of marriage for them to materialize (for the flags to be true), so I'm not sure what that says. It doesn't seem like she ignored any issues in their marriage, she tried to communicate with him and he wouldn't say anything to her. He refused to make things work so Whitney moved on. I'm proud of her but it's so unfortunate seeing Black women go through this constantly.
@@nonalolagirl thank you 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 perfectly said. People need to stop victim blaming Black women for being emotionally abused in relationships. She tried her best to communicate and he wanted to be trash to her and abuse her loyalty.
He was young so naturally you'd think teenagers grow out of this behavior. He even admitted his wrongdoing showing growth. But he unfortunately did not outgrow this which I'm sure blindsided Whitney
Damn this was only 3 years ago and said all that with sincerity and just had another child too! NARC at his finest smh karma train is coning for you boy. Whitney is BLESSED MUTHA QUEEN 👑
Thank you for this story, it's important for young girls to understand that it's ok not follow what everyone is doing. My daughter watched with me and it opened up a conversation on the subject, she's only 9 but Im guessing now is a good time to start those types of talks❤you have a beautiful family you two!
Your make-up is ON POINT!!!
Yasssss and skin looks so smooth and flawless!
Thank you Whitney, truly, thank you! Getting back on track to finding myself! I'm 26 & proudly holding on to my virginity, always been that "goody too shoes" that holds my morals & beliefs high & I don't regret a moment of it! All you young ladies & men, hold yourself high & understand your worth 🙏🏽
I had a dream in 2008 and in the dream a lady said to me, “Ladies be careful who you pick as a boyfriend be careful who you choose as a mate.” This dream from the Lord was a sharp warning to me...so keep on holding on to your MORALS and you will see the benefits and rewards of waiting.
@@Failureisnotanoptionever 🙏🏾🙏🏾 thank you!! Just turned 28 & still holding steadfast❤
Im glad i watched this video. Im a sophomore in high school right now and is constantly questioning myself because of everything that's happening around me. This video really gave me the answers that i needed ❤️ great video!
TH-cam is so messy for recommending this. I was wondering if you guys had broken up but of course I wasn’t going to ask that question
Hes not cute enough to be acting like THAT .. smh cheater
So being attractive mean you can be a horrible person... oh okay gotcha!!!
MsZoomification 😆
He’s actually very cute. Apparently a lot of women do
Glad she ended it and didn’t stay.
Wish back that she dated more and had other options
You had me at that "okay" around 8 minutes in 🤣. Too real. Thanks for sharing. It's very interesting to see the similarities between your high school experience and my life right now. Putting yourself first is a must!
You are awesome! This is going to help so many people no matter what age and stage one is in their relationship. I have been following you for a long time and yes this is definitely a proud past moment! Love this and so agree! Know your worth!
i don't know how to do that friend thing. I'm all or nothing 😕
Yeah, I disappear and don't talk to any of my exes
I love this Whitney! It's so important that us as women stand firm in our feelings and boundaries. I feel like society expects women to always compromise, but it's important that we don't compromise our self worth
This is THE video. Great message, hopefully many boys and girls, men and women get to see this video. Can I just send this directly to a specific person??😂
Hard to watch cos just like many other people commented, in hindsight, a bunch of red flags were missed. Unfortunately many women make the mistake of going back to their exes for one reason or the other. If you break up, just walk away, don’t be their friend, don’t be the confidant, or therapist, don’t be there for them. Moooove on!!! It never ends well. Hopefully many people learn from her mistakes. Fine she broke up with him and is proud of that in this video but unfortunately she still hung around hoping he’ll “grow up” or come back to his senses. He realized she’d be there no matter what so he came back to her. Don’t ever allow yourself be the second or third choice. Thing’s probably didn’t work out at the time with some other person so he realized he still had her. Sad to hear his hypocrisy. I wish her the best and hopefully she never goes back to him for any reason. Most of all, make God the center of your marriage and don’t marry for looks. It never lasts if you do. God bless.
Don't even know how much I needed to hear this today. ☺️
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!!!!!! More girls need to hear this please! Ladies please know your worth, know your value. You are NOT meant to be a hormonal high school boys 'experiment or college or whatever'. Your HS romance is NOT the end of the world. The world is so much bigger and there is just so much more out there to enrich your life, to build you up unlike the HS romance that might be tearing you down or that has you in tears and emotional pain. It aint that deep chile, let it go, you are worth much more than that ok.
I love your story I just sent it to my two daughters ..who also are keeping thier selves for marriage. . ones 22 yrs and the other 19 .I think it's good testimony for young girls. just to let you know you are the first person I ever respond to . I'm not really in social media don't even have a Facebook or anything but snapchat. lol .. That how much I love your story .well God Bless you.
It was so great hearing Filipe basically reiterate everything you said throughout the video. You can tell that he did a lot of growing and reflecting after losing you the first time and it's made him a better partner. But it also shows how right your advice is, for both men and women who are dating. Knowing your self-worth is so important when it comes to all relationships, from dating to friends to coworkers.
Also loved the end when Filipe talked about Olivia finding a person, and not necessarily a boy! You both are such supportive and great parents. I'm happy Olivia has two people she can always depend on.
This video coming up now confirms that this guy just isn’t a good person overall. Ladies, never ever think you can change a young boy into a young man.
Loved this! I honestly prefer these kind of storytimes over the extremely dramatic ones 🤷🏽♀️❤️
I f*cking LOVE your makeup!!!
Why'd you capitalize lady? Are you emphasizing her gender to further your point that she deserves a level of respect? You don't have to be a lady to deserve respect. Matter of fact you don't even have to be human. ALL living things deserve respect. And plus, she was complimenting her. It may not have been in a way you deem acceptable, but that's just how some people talk. Leave her be
Josh George you're being SO extra with this comment. There was nothing negative about what w Leonard said 🙄🙄🙄😒
your curls are always on point girl! Love seeing more of your life and personality on this channel. thanks for sharing with us (:
Filipe fucked up big time!!
what is in the water?.... I was like how come we are braking up? My husband of 14 yrs wanted to leave, however, because we kept talking, hope has returned for me. I (even thou married) Had to demand respect and other things. I withheld my body, emotion, and care from him. had to get his attention. everyone was making feel like I was in the wrong. I was at my wits end. I had tried talking, I even wrote him a letter, pouring my heart out. it was very rough, I was so numb. I felt traped in a loveless marriage. He really did not want to depart and he is really trying, he is beginning to really hear my cry, out to him, we're trying. I'm feeling hopefull. "Time will tell if this love will last forever " Thanks Patty LaBelle.
Nap...Thank you for share the storm you have gone through. So glad your title is pasted tense and not present.
This is such a VALUABLE STORYTIME that even your children will cherish..Love it!
Great message for young girls, and older women alike! You rock.
So why did I think this was her talking about why they got a divorce😂🤣😂TH-cam plays too much🤦🏾♀️I was like well dang time goes fast they separated 3 yrs ago🙄
Excellent Whitney and Phillipe! Great job sticking to your morals Whit and for teaching young men and ladies how they should conduct themselves. Livvy is a blessed little girl with parents like you both.
This takes me back to middle school and early high school. I use to rate my day by how much attention I got from boys or who spoke to me that day. I use to start my day so happy hoping one of the guys I liked would talk to me and if they didn't I was depressed and in my mind, it was a bad day. It was hard watching other girls get attention and feeling like the unwanted disgusting girl. I remember the highlight of my day was the time I spent waiting for the bus at the bus stop or the walk home from the bus stop after school because of the guys at my bus stop. I had such a hard time as a fat girl, it was so ruff for me. I hated my life then. But in high school, I leveled up and realized these boys ain't all that. I wish I knew more about self-love and value.
My husband and I dated in college, where we met. We broke up, still undergrads. Years later, we "rediscovered" each other. Never of us thought we'd ever be together again. We fell back in love. We've been married for 21 years now.
He cheated again. Sorry you had to go through all this hurt. Too many red flags. But you are beautiful, and deserve better.
I love this story. You're a good example for these women who do not have self respect or self worth. Never dull down your morals for some guy. If he really cares about you, he will respect you and if he doesn't someone else will appreciate you.
There is a famous quote that says:
If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s yours; if it doesn’t, it wasn’t.
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.
I am so glad you both are together. Here is to growing old together. Thanks for sharing your story.
God i hate that quote
This certainly didn’t age well 🤣
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I believe they’re divorced now! 😔
If they come back it's because they found out the grass wasn't greener on the other side. Never go back to a person who broke you
Whitney, I truly appreciate you sharing this video with us as so many young girls/women need to hear this. We don't realize how many women have low self-esteem and feel that they need to be around men who degrade them, make them feel bad, etc. So this is truly appreciated. Letting women know that they are "worth" so much is so important, and they need to hear it all the time.
I'm so glad you are free, and it looks like you are thriving now🤗
You are amazing Whitney!