That’s my goal this year is to start making REAL friends, so tired of worrying about a man & a relationship, so so tired been seeking male validation since 13 now 32 im tired of my own crap 😓. & your so beautiful by the way ❤
I'm 43 but I'm sit here listening to you like you're my big sis. You have a very wise and comforting vibe. Love the channel. Everything if the best to you sis ❤
yo.....you are really good omg😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 the mcdonalds hamburger analogy spot on!!! lmfao. making friends and building community yes yes yes!!!! "sometimes youre not craving male validation youre craving kindness!" I say this all the time omg!!!! get a hobby ldkmkfmkfdmfk omg!!!! i made the worst decisions when i was bored (and depressed.) It's hard to get to this place but the key is not giving up and being imaginative. Your inner child/teenager will thank you!!! Thank you once again for this video and how much thought and care you put into this💞💞💞💞
haha!! yes girl, I lived it and know it. So, I am only giving yall the truth. Hopefully, it will click with more people. Also, I know your friends love you because you give them this wisdom too!!
I can tell you for real that action builds self-confidence. I am still a shy person as I was in high school but in my last 2 years of high school I said that's not what I am going to continue to do (such as not talk to the boys that I like as an example). And I started ACTING the way I wanted. I did that again when I was doing my PhD and had a resident advisor position and had to do a lot more social events. And basically I just did the damn thing. Now when I tell people I AM A SHY PERSON they don't believe. I am still shy but I don't let that stop me and I have developed a lot more self confidence in social situations over the last 20 years.
I’ve been following your IG for the longest and had no idea what you look like. You’re sooo pretty!!! I comment quite a bit on your posts about decentering men. And now that I have done this, I find men very annoying. Lol so at this point, it’s definitely not hard for me to stop seeking their validation because they don’t interest me like they used to.
So glad I found this channel ❤ I practice validation daily by creating daily voice memo diary recordings. Sometimes the act of saying your feelings out loud has a profound effect on you. Even if you don’t listen to them later, it still feels good to get it out safely without judgement 😊
So happy we are building this community! I love doing this! it's so therapeutic and when I listen to it I realize how what I want or need is purely humanity
I definitely needed this video. Part 1 as well. I've done some very "pick me" things lately that I'm not proud of. I did start journaling and painting as a hobby. I will get there eventually!
Thank you for this video! I have a question though. What would you say to a person who has not gotton friends yet or who finds it hard to attach themselves to other girls (and boys😅) and therefore feels lonely most of the time?
Apologies for the late response, I did not see this comment. I would say that you will have to start building the skill of self-reliance until friends gravitate towards you. When I moved to a new city, I would make everything an adventure and eventually I developed so many connections by just being out. Hope that helps!
I have hobbies but am unable to continue these hobbies as they take up too much time and money and I don’t have a car and I can’t make friends..I’m 45..I’m tired..no woman wants to “make friends” at this age..
I'll tell my daughter some day that validation from a man is like a McDonald's burger: cheap, unhealthy and available everywhere. Genius!
That’s my goal this year is to start making REAL friends, so tired of worrying about a man & a relationship, so so tired been seeking male validation since 13 now 32 im tired of my own crap 😓. & your so beautiful by the way ❤
Yes, it makes life so much happier, and thank you!
Our mother is mothering ❤
As always!
Very important for all women but especially young women to hear this. Smh 20yr old me needed this talk.
Totally agree!
I'm 43 but I'm sit here listening to you like you're my big sis. You have a very wise and comforting vibe. Love the channel. Everything if the best to you sis ❤
Wow, thank you
yo.....you are really good omg😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 the mcdonalds hamburger analogy spot on!!! lmfao. making friends and building community yes yes yes!!!! "sometimes youre not craving male validation youre craving kindness!" I say this all the time omg!!!! get a hobby ldkmkfmkfdmfk omg!!!! i made the worst decisions when i was bored (and depressed.) It's hard to get to this place but the key is not giving up and being imaginative. Your inner child/teenager will thank you!!! Thank you once again for this video and how much thought and care you put into this💞💞💞💞
haha!! yes girl, I lived it and know it. So, I am only giving yall the truth. Hopefully, it will click with more people. Also, I know your friends love you because you give them this wisdom too!!
Cold turkey brought me to your video! I am tied! 😂 thank you Queen for this video ❤.
I can tell you for real that action builds self-confidence. I am still a shy person as I was in high school but in my last 2 years of high school I said that's not what I am going to continue to do (such as not talk to the boys that I like as an example). And I started ACTING the way I wanted. I did that again when I was doing my PhD and had a resident advisor position and had to do a lot more social events. And basically I just did the damn thing. Now when I tell people I AM A SHY PERSON they don't believe. I am still shy but I don't let that stop me and I have developed a lot more self confidence in social situations over the last 20 years.
I’ve been following your IG for the longest and had no idea what you look like. You’re sooo pretty!!!
I comment quite a bit on your posts about decentering men. And now that I have done this, I find men very annoying. Lol so at this point, it’s definitely not hard for me to stop seeking their validation because they don’t interest me like they used to.
thank you and welcome!!
Hi, how did you do it? Can you help me too? I’m really drained at this point from seeking attention.
I love your content.. it’s so calm and very much needed today for us women
Thank you, truly!
So glad I found this channel ❤ I practice validation daily by creating daily voice memo diary recordings. Sometimes the act of saying your feelings out loud has a profound effect on you. Even if you don’t listen to them later, it still feels good to get it out safely without judgement 😊
So happy we are building this community! I love doing this! it's so therapeutic and when I listen to it I realize how what I want or need is purely humanity
I definitely needed this video. Part 1 as well. I've done some very "pick me" things lately that I'm not proud of. I did start journaling and painting as a hobby. I will get there eventually!
You got this!
Some women feel validated when a man makes them feel better than other women.
They shouldn't!
👏👏👏 yes friends, community, passions.
You're hands down one of the wisest women I've ever listened to! So spot on... that level of introspection is rare. Thank you.
Wow, thank you!
You are god sent 😢 you truly are. Thank you so much!
I wish you a life of happiness, peace, wealth and everything your heart desires.
I appreciate this a lot!
This is the first video that actually helped me
I'm not going to lie, this makes me extremely happy! Keep going!
You are so bomb! I’ve just been binge watching your content & it’s so helpful
I hope it helps! Be on the look out for more content.
Queen you are absolutely phenomenal! Thank you for sharing this! I’m looking forward to watching your other videos. Continued blessings to you!
Thank you, sister! sending you all the love and I am excited to debut more content.
@@charliestoolbox Thank you for being you!
I loved this video. Men will never be able to tear me down again.
I love this for you!
I love your energy. You give motherly/older sister energy. I would feel so safe around you. 🎀💓
💕💕💕
life saving affirmative information for where so many women find themselves, myself included in this present moment. thank you 🙏🏻
I am happy to hear that!
It's 2024 and this video found me ❤. Thank you for helping me navigate through my life and decentering men
Welcome! There are so many resources here, and I can't wait for you to explore them.
Damn this is good
I cried💗
Thank you so much! I’m happy that for some of them I was already doing them but seeing some new suggestions helps too 💕✨
ayyy!! you are already on it and I love it!
This had to be the best video on this topic! Very well presented, great and valid points, plus a calming atmosphere. Can you be my therapist?? Lol
haha thank you so much! If I was certified, yes! lol
Thank you for this video! I have a question though. What would you say to a person who has not gotton friends yet or who finds it hard to attach themselves to other girls (and boys😅) and therefore feels lonely most of the time?
Apologies for the late response, I did not see this comment. I would say that you will have to start building the skill of self-reliance until friends gravitate towards you. When I moved to a new city, I would make everything an adventure and eventually I developed so many connections by just being out. Hope that helps!
Thank you
No problem
I have hobbies but am unable to continue these hobbies as they take up too much time and money and I don’t have a car and I can’t make friends..I’m 45..I’m tired..no woman wants to “make friends” at this age..
so...would you like me to confirm your world? because I can and you can stay in that place.