Candy @$$ quitter. Don't lecture us about self discipline, community, habits or responsibility when you threw in the white towel ya hypocrite. Just shut your face hole when it comes to domestic issues coward.
You're the cosplaying chump. You walked away when it got tough so shut up with your indoor shades ya Bono wannabe idiot. Don't lecture us about grit ya punk quitter.
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I can't live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
It's always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
46 and I've been through so much shit in my life, lost both parents, abuse when I was young, no kids, no wife, I've been through the worst, nothing can break me now I only have things to gain.
Because the lord knew you could handle it man what's doesn't break ya will make ya stronger keep on keeping try to remain positive and optimistic and the ✨️ will align!!!!
you can hate the world all you want but it'll just move past you without even noticing you. look the world if fked up, but you only have 2 choices, stand and cry or move forward. i understand that there are time we see no reason to move forward, but complaining about the nature of the world is useless. live for yourself or live of other w/e just find a reason to move forward otherwise a reason to evacuate your gray matter will find you.
True. So I'm putting my love where it counts. My creation. People won't want to hear how I feel personally - because it's not anything good, I can assure you, but they will see my best feelings in what I wrote. My hopes for the world are completely externalized now. I have no reason to love the world, because my books will carry that forward, in ways that people will understand one day. The man that is the author is a ghost. The man telling that story, the one experiencing that as if it's real, is the one who lives. People can love that version of me, long after I'm gone. It never mattered.
2024 is the WORST year of my life. I lost all my savings, Life Insurance, got rejected from jobs, finally got my dream Job but had to quit because I wasn’t making enough money, got rejected by women, got heart broken, got snaked by family, my car broke down, got a new car and it started having issues, all travel plans got cancelled. But I NEVER quit, I am glad I built a great habit of working out. I’ve been working out everyday for past 3-4 Months !
Beautifully said, Bo. My outlook has gone from "life sucks" to "life sucks, and I'm doing something about it.". Channels like this have helped tremendously. Thank you.
I decided to ignore what society says or thinks because its nothing but peer pressure. I'm getting everything setup to escape and retire early overseas.
Yep. Concerning yourself with what others think only keeps you in the rat race. I have similar plans. Been in testing in proper assets for the reset and hoping to buy land in the sticks soon. All I need are my skills and talents and my mutts. That's the life
Job loss, homelessness, bankruptcy, mental or physical health issues, divorce and prison. All of life's man traps.....if you suffer any one or a combination of two or more. You find out who your friends are very quickly trust me. At 55 years got the scars and getting to where I want to be. From a wide social circle 3 guys stuck by me and I know there were only the 3 real friends I ever had in my life. One died 5 years ago and I miss him like he'll. I am lucky most guys have nobody in these situations. Building inner resilience is crucial for young men. I think Bo's channel is great and I wish him and his community the best of luck.
Shoot, my "boys" were just as fake as all the women I've dated. Learned that the hard way. Last gf cheated on me and cried abuse instead of owning up to what she'd done, and everyone, including some of my own family fking believed her. Guys I'd known 25+ years and thought were my brothers. All it took was one woman's lie and they completely stabbed me in the back. The few who came around and tried to mend fences after she fessed up were politely told to go fck themselves. Been living the hermit life ever since. I don't need anyone to fall back on.
What sucks is that its not even that some of them didn't believe you.... The fact is that even if they knew she was lying, they'd still try to get on their sides in their attempts to have their turn with them. Most males are more loyal to their own dicks than their own loyal brothers. And most will fight and end each other over used p as well.
Once I turned 18 and aged out of foster care, I was on my own and have always tried to plan as if no one was going save me. I never understood why others plan as if someone is going to come save them.
Good on you guys for having a plan and getting it together. I was dating a group home manager a few years ago. It was really hard on her having to watch kids age out and then end up in jail. Take care fellas 💪
Most of us aren't taught to adult. This is a failure of our parents. By the time we're 18, we should have been making adult choices since 15. Our parents didn't raise us like they were raising us into adults. They raised us as if they were raising us to be bigger children. Sparing us from the physical pain that should come when we endanger our lives. I didn't like the belt but the belt was among the only things I feared. No amount of other punishments could register in my young mind except true acute pain. We shelter our children from too much -- under the assumption that we should keep them as children for as long as possible. This doesn't serve your children, it keeps them in a state of suspended childhood. To be sure, there are age-appropriate topics and exposures... but remember, before 100 years ago, most people by the age of 15 had experienced death more than us. And war, and hardship, and the deadly consequences of carlessness. Most people worked on farms of some sort. Animals routinely killed people. Plows could take off a foot. Tetanus and rabies were incurable. A cut could turn into a vicious infection of all kinds. Starvation was a thing as well. Absent a police state, crime was way easier to cover up. Until the modern era, people trusted just about everybody around their kids. Not anymore. Now we know that anyone who wants to be around kids is suspect. We live in a time of peace and plenty -- but those times always end... usually within the span of one human lifespan. We're near the end of ours. It has already begun. Nobody is stopping it. @sunixjestr -- Your experience of the world was much like those children of 100 years ago. You never had any safety net. You had to accommodate a lot of eventualities on your own. It might not have been easy (still might not be), but you're closer to an authentic experience of the world than many others. The point of life is to experience and look for your own meaning -- or none. But experience seems to be very important to this universe. All things persist to some degree. Whoever created this world definitely wanted everything to retain information over time. Experience is a basic property of the universe. The closer you are to reality, the more authentic your experience. A safety net separates you from reality. The more you separate yourself from reality, the less your existence has a point. Imagine the indolent rich. Entirely isolated from cause and effect. Do you think they gain much out of life? They can't carry any of their comforts into whatever comes next. If anything persists into the next "level", it will be our experience. Our creature comforts remain behind for others to pick through and distribute into the world. Musk defies this. Mostly because he wasn't overly privileged and had to think his way to the top. He uses his money to experience every possible think in the universe. This is the point of life. Money is for building things which expand the experiences of those around you. That's all the internet is -- and expansion of experience. That's why we're addicted to it. But some experiences must be interactive. Writing, playing music, or art requires feedback in order to give you insight. You don't really understand the world until you can faithfully execute an idea that can be clearly communicated to others. This is why AI will seduce many into ignorance. They'll prompt their way to art -- and will gain them no insight to the world. I have known the easy ways are anathema to art. I'm a programmer, but Iloathe digital art tools that do too much to remove the artist from physical reality. A piece of paper will endure longer than the bytes on a hard drive. One large EMP (and one is coming eventually) will wipe out the entire internet -- and all that art will cease to exist... except on some shielded devices. The Mona Lisa will survive an EMP. Some artwork of all the greats will survive all manner of calamities because it's out in the world. Nothing short of a planet cracking asteroid would erase it... but a solar flare that comes every 250 years or so will dissolve all digital works of art in a single moment. Far worse will result as well. Any planes in the sky will fall out of it. Art isn't your prime worry on that day... but eventually many will lament putting so much trust in the most ephemeral of mediums -- electricity. There's no art that comes without struggle. Great art requires great struggle. Experiencing and producing art brings insight to the world. We all have struggles ahead and behind us. I like to recall what Bill Hicks said, "It's just a ride."
@@michaeldavid6832 your penetration into mystery of life is limp as a noodle. Art is the base level of transcendent experience. It's kind of an exponential scale and art is a ^3 or ^4. Unless you can get to ^6 or ^7 you have no idea what you are even talking about, you're just dreaming out loud, making up ur own anime world. You are projecting the fragility of your own viewpoint out into the world. Stop it. Look within and find some real truth, then your worldview can rest on that truth instead of randomly chosen scientific materialist beliefs.
In my experience, one of the biggest mistakes made by men is that they have no balance when it comes to relationships. The moment they have a girlfriend their social network takes a back seat and she becomes the center of their attention. In and of itself that is not healthy, but what happens when the relationship ends, as most will? You will need your bros to fall back on for support, to help you pick up and move on, and this will be difficult if you've alienated them during the course of a relationship that has now ended.
When my Dad died and then my mom had a stroke and I had to take over the family business, I definitely started drinking. I just chose beer instead of whiskey so that it was a short term habit and not a full blown addiction. Do what ya gotta do to get through in moderation. That’s my take
Stand up and get your bootstraps together. Just keep on pushing. Don't let go. Never let somebody stomp you down. Defend yourself. Ignore the nonsense stressed and pessimistic people put on you. Keep on matching. Tell the truth. Run from stingy people. Act as if they don't exist. It's OK to do the impossible, but it isn't OK to show off too soon or too late. Get yourself straight. Hide from people messing with you. Stop trusting people for putting you down.
I respect all of you men, I am sorry, from a woman that knows you are the strength of a community. Women are nothing without you because a real woman knows they cannot protect themselves. Children need you, especially boys. Find a life you want and community you want. Land and Property is key because these Gov people do not want you to have Capital and your own thoughts. Be strong, I think this will change soon. I think these crazy bitches think this way because they were not blessed with a great Dad. Good luck God Bless
I'll catch flak for this, but endorphin from workout itself can become an addiction. Mindless, unproductive labor should be replaced with mindful, productive labor. I never go to the gym, instead get in shape through productive labor - moving/rebalancing inventory among my shops (I'm in Ski rental business), renovating/decorating my shops, etc. It also doesn't have to be work related - I built a raised wooden deck with a roof in my backyard. There's always something to do, some skill to learn through doing. Body needs rest, but never rest your mind. Addiction is the laziness of the mind. I never touch coffee, much less alcohol. I've never stepped into a gym - Mindless labor is an addiction and a dependency on the resulting endorphin.
Im 63 and ive been through a lot of shit in my life. My first wife cheated on me with a close friend and my second was bipolar and treated me like shit. I was yelled at, hit and she threatened to shoot me. The only good thing, was my two sons. I got diagnosed with prostate cancer at 45 and opted for surgery, Afterwards, I had severe leakage and had a sling installed. In 2017, suffered a heart attack, 100% blockage in one artery. In 22', I had an appendex attack and needed emergency surgery. Also in 22', I lost my dad. So yeah, life has been difficult. 😬
Men may not have anything to fall back on, but you can build a foundation of things to fall back on when needed. Save money, buy a home CASH! dont rent anything, dont subscribe to anything. If i lose my job is can survive on rice and beans and work as the greeter of walmart if needed cause I dont have a mortgage, i dont have car notes, i dont have a cellphone contract, etc. my bills are maybe 300-600 a month total after electric, water, prepaid cell, internet, and basic liability insurance. My property taxes are less than 100$ a year cause i dont live in the city and im outside city limits. You can create your own fallback
I recently have been broken up with. Sad but honestly I inadvertently dodged a bullet .. there’s only so much suffering one has to do individually. Dead weight never helps and who wants to be shat’ on by the person you’re also carrying for petty shit? She probably thinks I’ll never heal or always cling to wanting her back.. truth is now each day it hurts less and less. You can only keeping trying force people to be what you envision them as for so long before they show that you’re not on the same page evidently. I will be living my life regardless of that, that’s usually how it goes but I will continue on knowing now how much I really can withstand with or without someone who doesn’t value me.
I agree, man don’t have anybody to help when they’re down! I was one of the first if not the first woman as a professional work most corporations I work for when I was younger I had been married and gone through divorce. What I saw corporate America doing to men was excruciatingly painful for me! Men could not change jobs as easily as I is a single woman could they were mistreated and abused while trying to take care of their wife and family! I stood up and fought for them whenever I could, and typically I would be fired or laid off because of it!I did see changes being made more women in the workforce and standing up, but overall men have been massively abused by corporate America and their bosses for centuries! I hope change is coming
The gym saved me from lots of heartbreak, i wouldnt have bounced back as quickly as i did otherwise. Everything just seems to be trivial once you consistently push yourself and you look at yourself and still see potential, even when the going gets tough. The best feeling ever. The only thing one has to ever do, is live up to that potential. Take the steps your logical mind KNOWS you need to take.
Helps to bear in mind that our culture is sick. Any honest person, even with an optimistic bent, should admit this. Not every culture treats or regards their men this way. This doesn’t help those of you (us) who feel this deeply and experience sorrow from it. I feel the same way as many views voiced here. Good intentions, actions and behavior from men are expected, invisible, seldom rewarded and we don’t have a fall back during hard times. I took a Goggins light approach and try to simply accept what is, in the culture I live in. It’s a crap solution, but on the bright side, as others mentioned, if you’ve been broken to your absolute bottom, with discipline and stubbornness you’re not in much of a position from there to be hurt further.
I would recommend reading Into the Wild written by Jon Krakauer. Forget the movie, the book takes you into the mind and unwavering self determination of Chris McCandless. I read this book in 1996 and it changed my life, this book forced me to reflect on my own life and the direction I wanted to move forward in the future. I discovered the joy of hiking after reading this book. Nature will heal you. Whatever your opinion of Chris McCandless is the book is an incredible illustration of his psychological state of mind after graduating from university. It is so relevant in this current situation so many young men find themselves in today. Great channel, even at 51 I am still evolving and learning. 👊
Thanks for this video. Going through the beginning of a divorce. Today didn’t feel like working out however I was listening to the video and worked out anyway. Crushed it!
Thanks for the kick in the behind. I needed it atm. Sounds like scene from a sysvester Stallone move. One that I used to live by (I swear) but have forgotten. Thanks
This is all facts Bo. Mid 2023 I was facing a false accusation putting my career on hold for year & a half, all my savings were gone & finding a job was outside of medicine was almost impossible. But I continued to work on my game everyday on the basketball court & lift no matter how bad my day was. All my mornings started at 4:30AM with rest days on Sundays From all the hard work & discipline I followed I’m now playing for 2 countries in Asia while also playing for one of the top ABA teams in the United States & my other career in medicine is back on track. Those dark times & staying on the grind when nobody is watching are what make you a man. I’m at the point in life where nothing can break me. All you gotta do is fight💪🏾💪🏾 It’s ok to ask for help, but don’t sit around & wait for it to come
Thank you for starting your Chanel, I do what I can to listen to the get latest video. You have inspired me to keep moving forward. The best revenge is living a better life.
I love the sincerity and truth in the message Bo has been consistently sharing with the community he built but there is something that is missing in it or rather SOMEONE that I love more than anything and is slowly but surely changing my life for the better. That someone is our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, everyone. All of us can count on him and I urge you to put your faith in him, abide to God's commandments as best you can and I can attest that when your strength fails, when your motivation fails, when your will fails and everything else also fails you will still be left standing because HE WILL NEVER FAIL!! 🙏🏻🕊️✨
That was absolutely great. I am 46 years old and I have all of the things that I envisioned as an 11 year old. Retired military doctor with a pension, retirement accounts and college 529s for the kids are on track. Very healthy and still run every week. Gym most of the mornings that I can. I was obsessed with these habits from age 18-30. At 32 I was tested beyond anything I ever expected. Took a decade to beat the forces that came for me. But I did, and I’m better for it. This is absolute truth and excellent advice for the men of the future.
Great speech. I am going through a divorce after 28 years and learning to be alone without any of my family and paying lawyers fees. But I am moving forward. Always praying for God to help me through.
At 26 i beat lumg cancer vis chemo but i lost my ability to have children. The life i had struggled sacrificed and persevered for through college and the corporate world was gone as I wanted a family and wanted to be able to provide for them. Due to this I went down a dark hole of alcohol, drugs and horrible women. People told me get sober for your parents or loved ones but honestly, even though now been sober for almost 4 years, i can be honest in saying that I did it so I could skate. I lost my leg strength after chemo so skateboarding wasnt the same and as that was my “therapist” my whole life, what got me through hard times, I went to substances and women. We all have something we love to do and being a fuck just because you got a bad hand stops you from being able to do it. I eat healthy now, work out almost everyday, drink water, dont drink alcohol, dont do drugs and stay away from women for the most part. Just so I can skate and its working, im better at skating today then ive ever been even at 34 years old. Find your reason to get up and push. No quotes are gonna do it. God bless you all.
my sister in law thinks that women have it way harder than men... yet she has never been a man. I wonder if the main thing that makes people think this is the fact that men deal with really rough shit and don't complain about it lol
Kids are the main thing that effect men when separating from relationship. Not her long time. Dealing and navigating around her potential bs weapononizing kids is the trick. Everything else is manageable. Extremely manageable.
What saved me is the desire to just not chase women anymore or make them the center of everything I do. The pursuit of internal peace, whilst knowing you are capable of destruction. Pretend to be a fool but be a pool of knowledge and intellect.
Sometimes I wish the "patriarchy" existed and men helped each other out of comradeship, because we really have no one else, and only men understand each other.
Same here. But the nature of many men is corrupted by evils caused mostly due to their inner betanesses of having too much scarcity. They're greedy and brought up in culture of evil without much accountability or empathy for others. Money and sex and everything else is prioritized much over brotherhoods and loyalty from what I've witnessed. We have to save ourselves.
Every time my life went to s#*t (which is very often) I always keep the good habits going and even develop a new one. I immediately backtrack into "safety mode" which basically says: 1) Don't give up on your goals this is only a setback 2) Don't lose your good habits, focus on grinding out the day as normal Eventually, it passes, you evolve, you are stronger than ever before. Rinse & Repeat.
Im 34 and around 10 real friends i know since ar least 15 years (2 women include) we are always available for each one, you need money no worries i send you that, you need to speak i call you (yesterday i spend 1:04 hours on the phone with one of them) you need a job im gonna manage to make you join mine Friendship is pressure and unconditional..but (take it easy) but we are french and we don't have the same visions of relationship (couple or friends) i noticed when i was in California or now in Australia if you have nothing to give to people in Anglo-Saxon country they are not interested to you...its like a kind of business ship..
As a male nurse, what got me into shape were my female workfriends that wanted a gym buddy... So I go to the gym, do aerobics and weight training or circuit training with them heck even crossfit. They want to get "beach bodies" and I get to do weightlifting. They go 2-3 days a week, I buddy them and end up going 5-6 days a week. I must admit its really fun when we all get to do the circuits together and theyre competitive too, we to the weekly challenges like most pushups or burpees in 5 minutes, or longest farmers walk with 40lbs on each arm, theres category every 10 lbs additions. Etc. Honestly I got 2 great guyfriends the rest are girls, theyre been with me from celebrations to heartbreaks to tips with how to handle my current relationship and me and my girl are now together for 3 years and are expecting and all would not be possible without my supporting workfriends, I would have offed myself in my worst days but they all pulled me out of that rutt! We are all separated now in different countries as we've moved on from our old hospital but we still meet whenever someone gets to visit them abroad or someone goes home.
The "routine" thing is such a joke. I was in the Army for 10 years. In that job yes we wake up early sometimes because we have a lot to do at any time of day. What i WOULD NOT recomend is tying yourself to arbitrarily waking up at some ungodly hour to torture yourself for a few hours with a cold shower and fasting or whatever. There is a reason the military has a high burn out rate and some of that has to do with improper rest and recovery. As a civilian, just get your 8 hours and hit the gym, dont eat fast food every day. Bang. David Goggins has 0 cartilage in his legs and continues to destroy his body for the sake of his "image". Taken to the extreme, this shit will cripple or kill you.
You can depend on our bros but you shouldn't ever be a burden. My rule when I speak to a friend (or listen). When we complain, it has to be to figure out solutions. I can listen to any amount of pain a friend needs to express. But if they complain about the same thing over and over, it means they aren't trying to solve a problem, they're trying to avoid it. If you have a bro you can trust, that guy can give you perspective when you start to lose yours. Your echo chamber is an enemy constantly whispering, "There's no point in trying. You're going to fail." You have to stop that echo before it resonates too loudly for you to focus. I have a mantra that seems to work on a subconscious level. It kind of uses a dualistic approach... like I'm speaking to the subconscious part of my self at the same time I'm speaking to the conscious self. When the echoes begin, I say, "This doesn't serve us." This puts my mind into a different mode. Less emotional, more practical. I'm not sure why it seems to work. It's almost like my subconscious mind can hear me speak and it reacts to my voice like it trusts me to know what serves us and what doesn't. When I speak those words, I'm literally addressing the subconscious that I have no access to. The subconscious is very reactive -- it's bound up in low-level processes that are inscruitable to the conscious mind... but perhaps you can speak to it and it listens. When you ruminate, you trigger a lot of emotional feedback loops that are unproductive and self destructive. You must discern which emotions are useful and which are not. If it isn't useful, tell yourself it isn't. I speak it like I'm talking to a less self-controlled version of myself that's getting out of hand -- like it's a soldier in a squad I command that's too psyched up. You should also frequently ask yourself, "Does this serve me?" If so, "How does this serve me?"
Nah man. I have told many of the people I know that I have their back. I'm not gonna be their emotional tampon, but a couch to sleep on, and a hot meal until you get your bearings? I'm your guy. If you don't have any men in your life that will help you, then you damn sure had better be the man who WILL help a brother out. When it comes down to it, I'll probably be abandoned....again. But I won't abandon my people. Ever. Someone has to have honor. Someone has to be the great friend we all wish for.
I noticed a trend many years ago... Women tend to be attracted to a man who has many hobies and interests.... Once dating, if those behaviors continue, the woman tends to feel "ignored" and she leaves... If the behavior stops, a large part of her initial attraction to you is now gone, and again, she leaves... You changing "you", is not an option.
One valuable thing ive learned is how to suffer, i can go without when theres nothing, i dont steal or sell off my property. My daily stuff is like breathing, they go without saying. Whats more important is retaining good character when you have plenty or when you dont get to eat for 2 days at a time. I know too many who panic and create havoc
I’m a recovering bast*rd from losing my father and my best friend all in the same year. I went down a dark road and I am only now crawling back from the depths of hell. It’s a rough road but each day looks brighter than the last.
8:20 - …and it is usually when you are so close to achieving a goal when it is toughest. I think it was Les Brown who said that the woman is at her weakest when the baby is almost out and the OB is urging her to push her hardest.
It's very interesting how the media is portraying Kamala in the lead on the polls. IT'S ALL LIES for fear mongering votes. Everyone I know including whom I work with are voting Trump.
@@crazyzombie9720 I just think it's interesting how the media portrays Kamala to be in the lead and the polls however everyone I know and work with are voting Trump 🤔
Luckily when things went badly for me about 10 years ago I didn't turn to drugs or alcohol. I turned to food which is why I was over 400 pounds. Food gave me something to focus on, the full feeling after eating way too much gave me that same feeling that a hug gives you. Looking back on those days I truley was eating to die. I didn't care about myself I didn't care about anything then.
Do this Do that move move work. IM TIRED endless strugle for what? There is not a real price just want to rest in peace forever and be far away this horrible planet
Essentially, what I've come to realize is that, analogous to a fight, if your opponent manages to get through your defenses, your recovery relies entirely on intensifying your combos. Sure, a lot of those won't land, but your adversities will be pushed back by the attrition you've created. When things go bad for you, you don't stop. The deed is the deed. It is in a higher position than the context. The context matters little to your personal values if you proposed yourself to do the deed. I'm a writer. The market is total dogshit at the moment. Nobody takes my manuscript. As a result, I'm building the first book into a series, which means the first book is now superior in quality as the series expands in detail, because I keep going back to add features to that story that is making it incredible. I'm now on the 4th book, spinoff/prequel, challenging my original conception in world building to turn this thing into a full Saga with a bunch of interwoven story arcs from several protagonists. Every month, I hit over 100 new agents with the first book, all I get is rejections - doesn't matter; Every week I organize the house and review the books to catch more opportunities for improvement; Every day I get up to handle the house, the meals, my sick father, the animals, take a walk to the woods to freshen up ideas and go home to write a few more scenes or a full chapter and do the remote job; Every moment that I find myself reminded that I'm alone in a shitty situation, battling though a career that isn't taking off, is a moment I take that opportunity to further build on this Saga, which has more things to say about Humans than the entirety of your mainstream culture of the last 40 years, combined. I don't care what happens to me. One day you'll be seeing things based on what I what wrote and it's going to show both men and women how normal people can be heroes, based on their principles. Sure, a lot of people will just care for all the spectacular and fun stuff, but there is power in my message for those looking to be inspired. I'm not making this for myself. I'm making it because this needs to be out there. I don't give up because I have nothing else BUT the deed. And if I pass away in service of that, it's still better than anything that amounts to feeling sorry for myself. I'm sure AF not surrendering to the demands of this corrupt, dumb and failing world because I'm on a greater mission than whatever the hell it's offering guys like me at the moment. That's the mindset. Think big, think of it as the deed that must be done and screw everything else, starting with your insecurities. Nobody is going to help and they better not, because it has been my experience that it only gets in the way. Everyone's advice is SHIT and it will waste your time. Figure it out.
I'm glad you had a great year.🤝🔥 I've made some good progress, learned some valuable things in life, traveled to new places, and focused on improving well-being aside from procrastinating most of the time. So, I had a pretty decent 2024 even though I felt like I've mostly wasted it. Nothing too big happened so far. And I will admit that sometimes I really wish I could get the ability to go back someday and start this year all over again to make things better. Although, things could be much better TODAY. I can't fucking wait for 2025, too! This is a make or break year for me.
@ thank you sir 🤝 sounds like you had an outstanding year as well. For me what made 2024 my best year is I finally learned a new skill that has nothing to do with machining. I’ve been complacent for far too long and I finally stepped out of my comfort zone to try something new ! It’s an awesome feeling!
@Point001Machinist Thank YOU, sir. 😊 Like I said before. 2024 was a mixed bag for me since I wasn't always consistent sometimes, but it was way better than the previous year. I had some good moments, improved physical and mental health, graduated technical college, quit my job two months ago, started to build better habits and hobbies, saw the beauty of life, and tried to adapt to today's society and spiritual war. The only issues I've had were a bad mindset, social isolation, comparison, stayed at home most of the time, lack of discipline and consistency, and spent time soul-searching, fretting about everything, and finding what my true purpose, direction, and goals to pursue in life. At least I did learn and evolve a little bit this year. Better than nothing. Also, I have never been in any trouble or any terrible events this year. So now, I'm ready to start a new chapter. I'm about to turn 24 in December. I'm currently reading the driver's manual, starting side hustles to become a millionaire, and preparing for my own winter arc while brainstorming great resolutions for a successful and fulfilling 2025. I'm willing to have the most fun/productivity in making the most out of my own youth as well. Because now, I want to romanticize the progress and expand my positive, philosophical outlook on life as time continues to pass later on. I want even more out of life and get the same feeling you had in living freely earlier this year. Let's all finish this year on a high note. No more holding back!🔥💪🎉
The good the bad the ugly, from every angle he call's it all out. Her shit, he's shit, the world's shit, bureaucratic shit, political shit! You name it he talks about what the problems are and how bad each problem can get and at least a few different ways you make your situation better.
tried at 20, 25 & 33. last one was willing but i knew she didn't have burning desire so let her go. its was the end for me at age 35. very hard to accept & get over. NEVER was 1st option but yet still asked out & given time.
As someone who has had to be independent alot in life, learn to be able to survive on your own and it will make you stronger. I do warn you though, you might end up alone in life because when you learn to be self sufficient you realize how much people in your life use you.
A lot of good words. I made it through shawshank and back. Im 69. Lost a lot on the way. Its hard to keep a morning's routine when you're homeless. Back than Some how i kept my rottweiler and a job and barely my sanity. That was my early 90s. Forward to 2000s..2010s.. 2020s. Now Just me and a main.. get shit done friend. ALMOST got creamed by a deer.. last week. We both realized how much our loss would affect a lot of people. Life and optimism will resume when real PRESIDENT TRUMP/MAGA/AMERICA first..is back in.
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Candy @$$ quitter. Don't lecture us about self discipline, community, habits or responsibility when you threw in the white towel ya hypocrite.
Just shut your face hole when it comes to domestic issues coward.
You're the cosplaying chump. You walked away when it got tough so shut up with your indoor shades ya Bono wannabe idiot. Don't lecture us about grit ya punk quitter.
Shut up. You quit under the pressure ya punk loser.
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I can't live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
It's always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
You won't regret it
46 and I've been through so much shit in my life, lost both parents, abuse when I was young, no kids, no wife, I've been through the worst, nothing can break me now
I only have things to gain.
"That which does not kill us, makes us stronger"
Same, just keep moving. The world will keep turning with or without us
Because the lord knew you could handle it man what's doesn't break ya will make ya stronger keep on keeping try to remain positive and optimistic and the ✨️ will align!!!!
Do you brother. Jesus is King.
Nietzsche@@tomkelsey3512
as a man you can only hate this world
you can hate the world all you want but it'll just move past you without even noticing you. look the world if fked up, but you only have 2 choices, stand and cry or move forward. i understand that there are time we see no reason to move forward, but complaining about the nature of the world is useless. live for yourself or live of other w/e just find a reason to move forward otherwise a reason to evacuate your gray matter will find you.
I concur
There ain’t no place like home, I wanna go back home, I hate the world we know
Apparently that's what Jesus Christ wants from us.
True. So I'm putting my love where it counts. My creation. People won't want to hear how I feel personally - because it's not anything good, I can assure you, but they will see my best feelings in what I wrote. My hopes for the world are completely externalized now. I have no reason to love the world, because my books will carry that forward, in ways that people will understand one day. The man that is the author is a ghost. The man telling that story, the one experiencing that as if it's real, is the one who lives. People can love that version of me, long after I'm gone. It never mattered.
2024 is the WORST year of my life. I lost all my savings, Life Insurance, got rejected from jobs, finally got my dream Job but had to quit because I wasn’t making enough money, got rejected by women, got heart broken, got snaked by family, my car broke down, got a new car and it started having issues, all travel plans got cancelled. But I NEVER quit, I am glad I built a great habit of working out. I’ve been working out everyday for past 3-4 Months !
Praying that blessings come your way. Keep up the good work.
@ Thank you, I appreciate it ! 🙏🏿
Lord prayed
Beautifully said, Bo. My outlook has gone from "life sucks" to "life sucks, and I'm doing something about it.". Channels like this have helped tremendously. Thank you.
SAME BRO ! FUCK THE STRUGGLE I WANNA WIN!🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆😤🧘🏾♂️
tough times don't last but tough people do.
I decided to ignore what society says or thinks because its nothing but peer pressure. I'm getting everything setup to escape and retire early overseas.
Yep. Concerning yourself with what others think only keeps you in the rat race. I have similar plans. Been in testing in proper assets for the reset and hoping to buy land in the sticks soon. All I need are my skills and talents and my mutts. That's the life
but what peer pressure? The pressure is to work so that you are maximized resource cow for the state.
Straight peer pressure
Good 👍
Facts. My habit when I get up is the foundation of my life
How do you find a foundation of life itself?
Job loss, homelessness, bankruptcy, mental or physical health issues, divorce and prison. All of life's man traps.....if you suffer any one or a combination of two or more. You find out who your friends are very quickly trust me. At 55 years got the scars and getting to where I want to be. From a wide social circle 3 guys stuck by me and I know there were only the 3 real friends I ever had in my life. One died 5 years ago and I miss him like he'll. I am lucky most guys have nobody in these situations. Building inner resilience is crucial for young men. I think Bo's channel is great and I wish him and his community the best of luck.
Yes. Two or more it is. Then you find out stuff real quick. Thanks for your comment from someone in his 30s.
Shoot, my "boys" were just as fake as all the women I've dated. Learned that the hard way. Last gf cheated on me and cried abuse instead of owning up to what she'd done, and everyone, including some of my own family fking believed her. Guys I'd known 25+ years and thought were my brothers. All it took was one woman's lie and they completely stabbed me in the back. The few who came around and tried to mend fences after she fessed up were politely told to go fck themselves. Been living the hermit life ever since. I don't need anyone to fall back on.
What sucks is that its not even that some of them didn't believe you.... The fact is that even if they knew she was lying, they'd still try to get on their sides in their attempts to have their turn with them. Most males are more loyal to their own dicks than their own loyal brothers. And most will fight and end each other over used p as well.
Same here brother., your story is definitely very similar to mine. I had a best friend betray me and now wants to be Facebook friends 😂😂😂🤡🤡🤡
Solid friends are hard to come by. Stay strong💪
Once I turned 18 and aged out of foster care, I was on my own and have always tried to plan as if no one was going save me. I never understood why others plan as if someone is going to come save them.
That's because they have no plan
Same i grew up in foster care and have been independant since 18. CAS in Canada is very good for young adults though.
Good on you guys for having a plan and getting it together. I was dating a group home manager a few years ago. It was really hard on her having to watch kids age out and then end up in jail. Take care fellas 💪
Most of us aren't taught to adult. This is a failure of our parents. By the time we're 18, we should have been making adult choices since 15.
Our parents didn't raise us like they were raising us into adults. They raised us as if they were raising us to be bigger children. Sparing us from the physical pain that should come when we endanger our lives. I didn't like the belt but the belt was among the only things I feared. No amount of other punishments could register in my young mind except true acute pain.
We shelter our children from too much -- under the assumption that we should keep them as children for as long as possible. This doesn't serve your children, it keeps them in a state of suspended childhood.
To be sure, there are age-appropriate topics and exposures... but remember, before 100 years ago, most people by the age of 15 had experienced death more than us. And war, and hardship, and the deadly consequences of carlessness. Most people worked on farms of some sort. Animals routinely killed people. Plows could take off a foot. Tetanus and rabies were incurable. A cut could turn into a vicious infection of all kinds. Starvation was a thing as well.
Absent a police state, crime was way easier to cover up. Until the modern era, people trusted just about everybody around their kids. Not anymore. Now we know that anyone who wants to be around kids is suspect.
We live in a time of peace and plenty -- but those times always end... usually within the span of one human lifespan. We're near the end of ours. It has already begun. Nobody is stopping it.
@sunixjestr -- Your experience of the world was much like those children of 100 years ago. You never had any safety net. You had to accommodate a lot of eventualities on your own. It might not have been easy (still might not be), but you're closer to an authentic experience of the world than many others.
The point of life is to experience and look for your own meaning -- or none. But experience seems to be very important to this universe. All things persist to some degree. Whoever created this world definitely wanted everything to retain information over time. Experience is a basic property of the universe. The closer you are to reality, the more authentic your experience. A safety net separates you from reality. The more you separate yourself from reality, the less your existence has a point.
Imagine the indolent rich. Entirely isolated from cause and effect. Do you think they gain much out of life? They can't carry any of their comforts into whatever comes next. If anything persists into the next "level", it will be our experience. Our creature comforts remain behind for others to pick through and distribute into the world.
Musk defies this. Mostly because he wasn't overly privileged and had to think his way to the top. He uses his money to experience every possible think in the universe. This is the point of life. Money is for building things which expand the experiences of those around you. That's all the internet is -- and expansion of experience. That's why we're addicted to it.
But some experiences must be interactive. Writing, playing music, or art requires feedback in order to give you insight. You don't really understand the world until you can faithfully execute an idea that can be clearly communicated to others.
This is why AI will seduce many into ignorance. They'll prompt their way to art -- and will gain them no insight to the world. I have known the easy ways are anathema to art. I'm a programmer, but Iloathe digital art tools that do too much to remove the artist from physical reality. A piece of paper will endure longer than the bytes on a hard drive. One large EMP (and one is coming eventually) will wipe out the entire internet -- and all that art will cease to exist... except on some shielded devices.
The Mona Lisa will survive an EMP. Some artwork of all the greats will survive all manner of calamities because it's out in the world. Nothing short of a planet cracking asteroid would erase it... but a solar flare that comes every 250 years or so will dissolve all digital works of art in a single moment. Far worse will result as well. Any planes in the sky will fall out of it. Art isn't your prime worry on that day... but eventually many will lament putting so much trust in the most ephemeral of mediums -- electricity.
There's no art that comes without struggle. Great art requires great struggle. Experiencing and producing art brings insight to the world.
We all have struggles ahead and behind us. I like to recall what Bill Hicks said, "It's just a ride."
@@michaeldavid6832 your penetration into mystery of life is limp as a noodle.
Art is the base level of transcendent experience. It's kind of an exponential scale and art is a ^3 or ^4. Unless you can get to ^6 or ^7 you have no idea what you are even talking about, you're just dreaming out loud, making up ur own anime world.
You are projecting the fragility of your own viewpoint out into the world. Stop it. Look within and find some real truth, then your worldview can rest on that truth instead of randomly chosen scientific materialist beliefs.
1:19 - perfect! Yes! Stay with the routine when they break your heart. Train like a beast!
In my experience, one of the biggest mistakes made by men is that they have no balance when it comes to relationships. The moment they have a girlfriend their social network takes a back seat and she becomes the center of their attention. In and of itself that is not healthy, but what happens when the relationship ends, as most will? You will need your bros to fall back on for support, to help you pick up and move on, and this will be difficult if you've alienated them during the course of a relationship that has now ended.
The girlfriend will try to alienate you from your friends.
Exactly. Set boundaries and establish patterns from day one. Trying to correct this later leads to perceived injustice.
When my Dad died and then my mom had a stroke and I had to take over the family business, I definitely started drinking. I just chose beer instead of whiskey so that it was a short term habit and not a full blown addiction. Do what ya gotta do to get through in moderation. That’s my take
As the saying goes - "give wine to those with heavy hearts, so that they can forget..."
Stand up and get your bootstraps together. Just keep on pushing. Don't let go. Never let somebody stomp you down. Defend yourself. Ignore the nonsense stressed and pessimistic people put on you. Keep on matching. Tell the truth. Run from stingy people. Act as if they don't exist. It's OK to do the impossible, but it isn't OK to show off too soon or too late. Get yourself straight. Hide from people messing with you. Stop trusting people for putting you down.
I respect all of you men, I am sorry, from a woman that knows you are the strength of a community. Women are nothing without you because a real woman knows they cannot protect themselves. Children need you, especially boys. Find a life you want and community you want. Land and Property is key because these Gov people do not want you to have Capital and your own thoughts. Be strong, I think this will change soon. I think these crazy bitches think this way because they were not blessed with a great Dad. Good luck God Bless
Fax! If take off more than 2 days, from workout, I physically feel bad(mentally too, of course).
I'll catch flak for this, but endorphin from workout itself can become an addiction. Mindless, unproductive labor should be replaced with mindful, productive labor. I never go to the gym, instead get in shape through productive labor - moving/rebalancing inventory among my shops (I'm in Ski rental business), renovating/decorating my shops, etc. It also doesn't have to be work related - I built a raised wooden deck with a roof in my backyard. There's always something to do, some skill to learn through doing. Body needs rest, but never rest your mind. Addiction is the laziness of the mind. I never touch coffee, much less alcohol. I've never stepped into a gym - Mindless labor is an addiction and a dependency on the resulting endorphin.
Yo! Fancy seeing you here and well said Joe.
@@8bitdragoninstall182 lol small world lol
Im 63 and ive been through a lot of shit in my life. My first wife cheated on me with a close friend and my second was bipolar and treated me like shit. I was yelled at, hit and she threatened to shoot me. The only good thing, was my two sons. I got diagnosed with prostate cancer at 45 and opted for surgery, Afterwards, I had severe leakage and had a sling installed. In 2017, suffered a heart attack, 100% blockage in one artery. In 22', I had an appendex attack and needed emergency surgery. Also in 22', I lost my dad. So yeah, life has been difficult. 😬
I was an injured homeless part time mail man before. No record, no kids. Legs made of glass but I always bounce back. I was homeless at least 4 times
You are the one who should be talking about this.
Men may not have anything to fall back on, but you can build a foundation of things to fall back on when needed. Save money, buy a home CASH! dont rent anything, dont subscribe to anything. If i lose my job is can survive on rice and beans and work as the greeter of walmart if needed cause I dont have a mortgage, i dont have car notes, i dont have a cellphone contract, etc. my bills are maybe 300-600 a month total after electric, water, prepaid cell, internet, and basic liability insurance. My property taxes are less than 100$ a year cause i dont live in the city and im outside city limits. You can create your own fallback
Totally agree, I have no debt, own my own house and this has saved me a small fortune. Its made retirement so much easier
The Bible says men have God to fall back on. Whatever you think about him, he's our only back up :-)
😂😂
Money is our God
The "good book" says a lot of contradicting things. Sounds more like human planning.
just reading the statement that is so true.
its amazing how most walk away when stuff goes wrong for you.
Thanks for this message. I really needed to hear it today.
I recently have been broken up with. Sad but honestly I inadvertently dodged a bullet .. there’s only so much suffering one has to do individually. Dead weight never helps and who wants to be shat’ on by the person you’re also carrying for petty shit?
She probably thinks I’ll never heal or always cling to wanting her back.. truth is now each day it hurts less and less. You can only keeping trying force people to be what you envision them as for so long before they show that you’re not on the same page evidently.
I will be living my life regardless of that, that’s usually how it goes but I will continue on knowing now how much I really can withstand with or without someone who doesn’t value me.
Vote trump tomorrow!🎉
VOTE KAMALA
@@disguyzful NO. Vote Peanut.
Vote for God!
@@DrewDrizzle gods not running in the election. his servant trump is.
My morning routine also saved me as well as The Son of Man.
I agree, man don’t have anybody to help when they’re down! I was one of the first if not the first woman as a professional work most corporations I work for when I was younger I had been married and gone through divorce. What I saw corporate America doing to men was excruciatingly painful for me! Men could not change jobs as easily as I is a single woman could they were mistreated and abused while trying to take care of their wife and family! I stood up and fought for them whenever I could, and typically I would be fired or laid off because of it!I did see changes being made more women in the workforce and standing up, but overall men have been massively abused by corporate America and their bosses for centuries! I hope change is coming
The gym saved me from lots of heartbreak, i wouldnt have bounced back as quickly as i did otherwise. Everything just seems to be trivial once you consistently push yourself and you look at yourself and still see potential, even when the going gets tough. The best feeling ever.
The only thing one has to ever do, is live up to that potential. Take the steps your logical mind KNOWS you need to take.
Helps to bear in mind that our culture is sick. Any honest person, even with an optimistic bent, should admit this. Not every culture treats or regards their men this way.
This doesn’t help those of you (us) who feel this deeply and experience sorrow from it.
I feel the same way as many views voiced here. Good intentions, actions and behavior from men are expected, invisible, seldom rewarded and we don’t have a fall back during hard times.
I took a Goggins light approach and try to simply accept what is, in the culture I live in. It’s a crap solution, but on the bright side, as others mentioned, if you’ve been broken to your absolute bottom, with discipline and stubbornness you’re not in much of a position from there to be hurt further.
Exactly. That's why you always strive to be the best version of yourself. Daily.
I would recommend reading Into the Wild written by Jon Krakauer. Forget the movie, the book takes you into the mind and unwavering self determination of Chris McCandless. I read this book in 1996 and it changed my life, this book forced me to reflect on my own life and the direction I wanted to move forward in the future. I discovered the joy of hiking after reading this book. Nature will heal you. Whatever your opinion of Chris McCandless is the book is an incredible illustration of his psychological state of mind after graduating from university. It is so relevant in this current situation so many young men find themselves in today. Great channel, even at 51 I am still evolving and learning. 👊
Didn't he end himself from eating poisonous berries????
@DrewDrizzle yes, but the real story goes far beyond that.
Thanks for this video. Going through the beginning of a divorce. Today didn’t feel like working out however I was listening to the video and worked out anyway.
Crushed it!
Well done. I am going through the exact same thing...keep moving forward.
Take care of your mind and be responsible with your finances!!
Always have confidence in yourself!!
I think this is the best video I’ve ever watched in my life, honestly.
Thanks for the kick in the behind. I needed it atm. Sounds like scene from a sysvester Stallone move. One that I used to live by (I swear) but have forgotten. Thanks
This is all facts Bo. Mid 2023 I was facing a false accusation putting my career on hold for year & a half, all my savings were gone & finding a job was outside of medicine was almost impossible. But I continued to work on my game everyday on the basketball court & lift no matter how bad my day was. All my mornings started at 4:30AM with rest days on Sundays
From all the hard work & discipline I followed I’m now playing for 2 countries in Asia while also playing for one of the top ABA teams in the United States & my other career in medicine is back on track. Those dark times & staying on the grind when nobody is watching are what make you a man. I’m at the point in life where nothing can break me. All you gotta do is fight💪🏾💪🏾
It’s ok to ask for help, but don’t sit around & wait for it to come
Thank you for starting your Chanel, I do what I can to listen to the get latest video. You have inspired me to keep moving forward. The best revenge is living a better life.
Damn, this is a GOOD video. Habits is everything that gets you through the dark times
I love the sincerity and truth in the message Bo has been consistently sharing with the community he built but there is something that is missing in it or rather SOMEONE that I love more than anything and is slowly but surely changing my life for the better.
That someone is our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, everyone.
All of us can count on him and I urge you to put your faith in him, abide to God's commandments as best you can and I can attest that when your strength fails, when your motivation fails, when your will fails and everything else also fails you will still be left standing because HE WILL NEVER FAIL!! 🙏🏻🕊️✨
That was absolutely great. I am 46 years old and I have all of the things that I envisioned as an 11 year old. Retired military doctor with a pension, retirement accounts and college 529s for the kids are on track. Very healthy and still run every week. Gym most of the mornings that I can. I was obsessed with these habits from age 18-30. At 32 I was tested beyond anything I ever expected. Took a decade to beat the forces that came for me. But I did, and I’m better for it. This is absolute truth and excellent advice for the men of the future.
Very good video. Stay strong brothers!
Wow, important episode. All men need to hear this if they haven't already!
Thank you Bo!
Excellent advice!
Thank you for this 🙏
There's a song called Save yourself by a Band called Stabbing Westward. Check it out.
Love it brother thank you
Great speech. I am going through a divorce after 28 years and learning to be alone without any of my family and paying lawyers fees. But I am moving forward. Always praying for God to help me through.
Everyone quick! Turn to your favorite mythical man in the sky!
Great source of information 👍👍 keep it coming
At 26 i beat lumg cancer vis chemo but i lost my ability to have children. The life i had struggled sacrificed and persevered for through college and the corporate world was gone as I wanted a family and wanted to be able
to provide for them. Due to this I went down a dark hole of alcohol, drugs and horrible women. People told me get sober for your parents or loved ones but honestly, even though now been sober for almost 4 years, i can be honest in saying that I did it so I could skate. I lost my leg strength after chemo so skateboarding wasnt the same and as that was my “therapist” my whole life, what got me through hard times, I went to substances and women. We all have something we love to do and being a fuck just because you got a bad hand stops you from being able to do it. I eat healthy now, work out almost everyday, drink water, dont drink alcohol, dont do drugs and stay away from women for the most part. Just so I can skate and its working, im better at skating today then ive ever been even at 34 years old. Find your reason to get up and push. No quotes are gonna do it. God bless you all.
Great video G
Thanks for this🙏
Nothing matters
This was a nice one
Love feeling sore every day from the strength I’m gaining.
my sister in law thinks that women have it way harder than men... yet she has never been a man. I wonder if the main thing that makes people think this is the fact that men deal with really rough shit and don't complain about it lol
Kids are the main thing that effect men when separating from relationship. Not her long time. Dealing and navigating around her potential bs weapononizing kids is the trick. Everything else is manageable. Extremely manageable.
Greet the Darkness... It is a Test of your Courage.
What saved me is the desire to just not chase women anymore or make them the center of everything I do. The pursuit of internal peace, whilst knowing you are capable of destruction.
Pretend to be a fool but be a pool of knowledge and intellect.
Survival of the fittest is the only law, no escaping it. The hard part is lone wolves starve, and this world is tearing us apart.
Stay consistent. Inch by inch yard by yard the tide will turn
Sometimes I wish the "patriarchy" existed and men helped each other out of comradeship, because we really have no one else, and only men understand each other.
Same here. But the nature of many men is corrupted by evils caused mostly due to their inner betanesses of having too much scarcity. They're greedy and brought up in culture of evil without much accountability or empathy for others. Money and sex and everything else is prioritized much over brotherhoods and loyalty from what I've witnessed. We have to save ourselves.
To me, it's work, just basic forward movement. When you have a routine that keeps you steady. You are capable of pushing through anything.
Every time my life went to s#*t (which is very often) I always keep the good habits going and even develop a new one. I immediately backtrack into "safety mode" which basically says:
1) Don't give up on your goals this is only a setback
2) Don't lose your good habits, focus on grinding out the day as normal
Eventually, it passes, you evolve, you are stronger than ever before. Rinse & Repeat.
tough times don't last but tough people do.
Should I get my flight ticket to the Philippines?
If so, where exactly do I go?
I couldn't do that. I find most Filipinas unattractive with relatively low iq. Plus the poverty, noise, heat, etc.
Facts good sir
Im 34 and around 10 real friends i know since ar least 15 years (2 women include) we are always available for each one, you need money no worries i send you that, you need to speak i call you (yesterday i spend 1:04 hours on the phone with one of them) you need a job im gonna manage to make you join mine
Friendship is pressure and unconditional..but (take it easy) but we are french and we don't have the same visions of relationship (couple or friends) i noticed when i was in California or now in Australia if you have nothing to give to people in Anglo-Saxon country they are not interested to you...its like a kind of business ship..
As a male nurse, what got me into shape were my female workfriends that wanted a gym buddy... So I go to the gym, do aerobics and weight training or circuit training with them heck even crossfit. They want to get "beach bodies" and I get to do weightlifting. They go 2-3 days a week, I buddy them and end up going 5-6 days a week. I must admit its really fun when we all get to do the circuits together and theyre competitive too, we to the weekly challenges like most pushups or burpees in 5 minutes, or longest farmers walk with 40lbs on each arm, theres category every 10 lbs additions. Etc. Honestly I got 2 great guyfriends the rest are girls, theyre been with me from celebrations to heartbreaks to tips with how to handle my current relationship and me and my girl are now together for 3 years and are expecting and all would not be possible without my supporting workfriends, I would have offed myself in my worst days but they all pulled me out of that rutt! We are all separated now in different countries as we've moved on from our old hospital but we still meet whenever someone gets to visit them abroad or someone goes home.
The only reason I get up each day is to show and prove my contempt for this absolutely jacked place
The "routine" thing is such a joke. I was in the Army for 10 years. In that job yes we wake up early sometimes because we have a lot to do at any time of day. What i WOULD NOT recomend is tying yourself to arbitrarily waking up at some ungodly hour to torture yourself for a few hours with a cold shower and fasting or whatever. There is a reason the military has a high burn out rate and some of that has to do with improper rest and recovery. As a civilian, just get your 8 hours and hit the gym, dont eat fast food every day. Bang. David Goggins has 0 cartilage in his legs and continues to destroy his body for the sake of his "image". Taken to the extreme, this shit will cripple or kill you.
You can depend on our bros but you shouldn't ever be a burden.
My rule when I speak to a friend (or listen). When we complain, it has to be to figure out solutions. I can listen to any amount of pain a friend needs to express. But if they complain about the same thing over and over, it means they aren't trying to solve a problem, they're trying to avoid it.
If you have a bro you can trust, that guy can give you perspective when you start to lose yours. Your echo chamber is an enemy constantly whispering, "There's no point in trying. You're going to fail." You have to stop that echo before it resonates too loudly for you to focus.
I have a mantra that seems to work on a subconscious level. It kind of uses a dualistic approach... like I'm speaking to the subconscious part of my self at the same time I'm speaking to the conscious self. When the echoes begin, I say, "This doesn't serve us."
This puts my mind into a different mode. Less emotional, more practical. I'm not sure why it seems to work. It's almost like my subconscious mind can hear me speak and it reacts to my voice like it trusts me to know what serves us and what doesn't. When I speak those words, I'm literally addressing the subconscious that I have no access to.
The subconscious is very reactive -- it's bound up in low-level processes that are inscruitable to the conscious mind... but perhaps you can speak to it and it listens.
When you ruminate, you trigger a lot of emotional feedback loops that are unproductive and self destructive. You must discern which emotions are useful and which are not. If it isn't useful, tell yourself it isn't. I speak it like I'm talking to a less self-controlled version of myself that's getting out of hand -- like it's a soldier in a squad I command that's too psyched up.
You should also frequently ask yourself, "Does this serve me?" If so, "How does this serve me?"
Nah man. I have told many of the people I know that I have their back. I'm not gonna be their emotional tampon, but a couch to sleep on, and a hot meal until you get your bearings? I'm your guy.
If you don't have any men in your life that will help you, then you damn sure had better be the man who WILL help a brother out.
When it comes down to it, I'll probably be abandoned....again. But I won't abandon my people. Ever. Someone has to have honor. Someone has to be the great friend we all wish for.
I noticed a trend many years ago... Women tend to be attracted to a man who has many hobies and interests.... Once dating, if those behaviors continue, the woman tends to feel "ignored" and she leaves... If the behavior stops, a large part of her initial attraction to you is now gone, and again, she leaves... You changing "you", is not an option.
Christ came to save all of us…
How?
@ living without sin and being crucified on a cross
One valuable thing ive learned is how to suffer, i can go without when theres nothing, i dont steal or sell off my property.
My daily stuff is like breathing, they go without saying.
Whats more important is retaining good character when you have plenty or when you dont get to eat for 2 days at a time.
I know too many who panic and create havoc
"If you are walking through hell, keep going."
Winston Churchill
I am currently going through it right now and I needed thie video thanks brother
I’m a recovering bast*rd from losing my father and my best friend all in the same year. I went down a dark road and I am only now crawling back from the depths of hell. It’s a rough road but each day looks brighter than the last.
8:20 - …and it is usually when you are so close to achieving a goal when it is toughest. I think it was Les Brown who said that the woman is at her weakest when the baby is almost out and the OB is urging her to push her hardest.
Trump 2024 🇨🇱
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It's very interesting how the media is portraying Kamala in the lead on the polls. IT'S ALL LIES for fear mongering votes. Everyone I know including whom I work with are voting Trump.
@@crazyzombie9720 I just think it's interesting how the media portrays Kamala to be in the lead and the polls however everyone I know and work with are voting Trump 🤔
Have a contingency plan for everything and anything.
Luckily when things went badly for me about 10 years ago I didn't turn to drugs or alcohol. I turned to food which is why I was over 400 pounds. Food gave me something to focus on, the full feeling after eating way too much gave me that same feeling that a hug gives you. Looking back on those days I truley was eating to die. I didn't care about myself I didn't care about anything then.
Getting God in ur life is huge along with all that he’s saying.
Reality
Do this Do that move move work. IM TIRED endless strugle for what? There is not a real price just want to rest in peace forever and be far away this horrible planet
Winners do what they have to do. Losers do what they what to do.
Essentially, what I've come to realize is that, analogous to a fight, if your opponent manages to get through your defenses, your recovery relies entirely on intensifying your combos. Sure, a lot of those won't land, but your adversities will be pushed back by the attrition you've created. When things go bad for you, you don't stop. The deed is the deed. It is in a higher position than the context. The context matters little to your personal values if you proposed yourself to do the deed.
I'm a writer. The market is total dogshit at the moment. Nobody takes my manuscript. As a result, I'm building the first book into a series, which means the first book is now superior in quality as the series expands in detail, because I keep going back to add features to that story that is making it incredible. I'm now on the 4th book, spinoff/prequel, challenging my original conception in world building to turn this thing into a full Saga with a bunch of interwoven story arcs from several protagonists.
Every month, I hit over 100 new agents with the first book, all I get is rejections - doesn't matter; Every week I organize the house and review the books to catch more opportunities for improvement; Every day I get up to handle the house, the meals, my sick father, the animals, take a walk to the woods to freshen up ideas and go home to write a few more scenes or a full chapter and do the remote job; Every moment that I find myself reminded that I'm alone in a shitty situation, battling though a career that isn't taking off, is a moment I take that opportunity to further build on this Saga, which has more things to say about Humans than the entirety of your mainstream culture of the last 40 years, combined. I don't care what happens to me. One day you'll be seeing things based on what I what wrote and it's going to show both men and women how normal people can be heroes, based on their principles. Sure, a lot of people will just care for all the spectacular and fun stuff, but there is power in my message for those looking to be inspired. I'm not making this for myself. I'm making it because this needs to be out there.
I don't give up because I have nothing else BUT the deed. And if I pass away in service of that, it's still better than anything that amounts to feeling sorry for myself. I'm sure AF not surrendering to the demands of this corrupt, dumb and failing world because I'm on a greater mission than whatever the hell it's offering guys like me at the moment. That's the mindset. Think big, think of it as the deed that must be done and screw everything else, starting with your insecurities. Nobody is going to help and they better not, because it has been my experience that it only gets in the way. Everyone's advice is SHIT and it will waste your time. Figure it out.
Men are basing too much of this off of making money
2024 has been the BEST year of my life so far. Can’t fuckin wait for 2025 !
I'm glad you had a great year.🤝🔥
I've made some good progress, learned some valuable things in life, traveled to new places, and focused on improving well-being aside from procrastinating most of the time. So, I had a pretty decent 2024 even though I felt like I've mostly wasted it. Nothing too big happened so far. And I will admit that sometimes I really wish I could get the ability to go back someday and start this year all over again to make things better.
Although, things could be much better TODAY. I can't fucking wait for 2025, too! This is a make or break year for me.
@ thank you sir 🤝 sounds like you had an outstanding year as well. For me what made 2024 my best year is I finally learned a new skill that has nothing to do with machining. I’ve been complacent for far too long and I finally stepped out of my comfort zone to try something new ! It’s an awesome feeling!
@ with that mind set I know more good and big things are going to come your way !
@Point001Machinist Thank YOU, sir. 😊
Like I said before. 2024 was a mixed bag for me since I wasn't always consistent sometimes, but it was way better than the previous year.
I had some good moments, improved physical and mental health, graduated technical college, quit my job two months ago, started to build better habits and hobbies, saw the beauty of life, and tried to adapt to today's society and spiritual war. The only issues I've had were a bad mindset, social isolation, comparison, stayed at home most of the time, lack of discipline and consistency, and spent time soul-searching, fretting about everything, and finding what my true purpose, direction, and goals to pursue in life. At least I did learn and evolve a little bit this year. Better than nothing. Also, I have never been in any trouble or any terrible events this year.
So now, I'm ready to start a new chapter. I'm about to turn 24 in December. I'm currently reading the driver's manual, starting side hustles to become a millionaire, and preparing for my own winter arc while brainstorming great resolutions for a successful and fulfilling 2025. I'm willing to have the most fun/productivity in making the most out of my own youth as well. Because now, I want to romanticize the progress and expand my positive, philosophical outlook on life as time continues to pass later on. I want even more out of life and get the same feeling you had in living freely earlier this year. Let's all finish this year on a high note. No more holding back!🔥💪🎉
The good the bad the ugly, from every angle he call's it all out. Her shit, he's shit, the world's shit, bureaucratic shit, political shit! You name it he talks about what the problems are and how bad each problem can get and at least a few different ways you make your situation better.
0:50 - what "girl"? lmfao. Not even possible to get a relationship in the first place.
tried at 20, 25 & 33. last one was willing but i knew she didn't have burning desire so let her go. its was the end for me at age 35. very hard to accept & get over. NEVER was 1st option but yet still asked out & given time.
Have a relationship with your health, fellas. "Just Focus on Yourself" Khabib Nurmagomedov
I'm reading these comments and all I see are fellow brethren...
As someone who has had to be independent alot in life, learn to be able to survive on your own and it will make you stronger. I do warn you though, you might end up alone in life because when you learn to be self sufficient you realize how much people in your life use you.
Realized at 30 It was op to me Struggled 7 more years. First mil at 47
19 to 36 was so hard.
A lot of good words.
I made it through shawshank and back. Im 69.
Lost a lot on the way.
Its hard to keep a morning's routine when you're homeless. Back than Some how i kept my rottweiler and a job and barely my sanity.
That was my early 90s. Forward to
2000s..2010s.. 2020s. Now Just me and a main.. get shit done friend.
ALMOST got creamed by a deer.. last week. We both realized how much our loss would affect a lot of people.
Life and optimism will resume when real PRESIDENT TRUMP/MAGA/AMERICA first..is back in.
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